Speaker 1: Service West Up, It's lip service and you know this
Speaker 1: is like our special holiday edition and I'm really excited
Speaker 1: for this and um, we'll get more into it. But
Speaker 1: I'm Angela. Ye, I'm Laurie how and we have two
Speaker 1: special guests, Roder Blank and Asa Davis are here. Now,
Speaker 1: you guys, you women are writers for She's Got to
Speaker 1: Have It and me and Laura, y'all got into it
Speaker 1: over this show. I'm gonna tell you why. Because she
Speaker 1: was mad. I watched the whole thing without her. That
Speaker 1: was the first thing. That was the first thing. She
Speaker 1: was on episode five and I was just then putting
Speaker 1: it on. I'm like, you watched this whole thing. She
Speaker 1: was like no, because what happened was I had got
Speaker 1: the I'm like, yeah, no, it really happened was we
Speaker 1: didn't have the interview, you know, with the cast member,
Speaker 1: so I want to make sure I saw all of
Speaker 1: them and if I wait for her, which just wasn't
Speaker 1: gonna happen. But she really had an attitude. I was
Speaker 1: mad better, but I was so excited when I found
Speaker 1: out they were doing this series because I remember the
Speaker 1: movie obviously has seen it so long ago, and I
Speaker 1: remember being like kind of controversial and so different than
Speaker 1: what was out there at that time, right right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was ahead of his time. I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: black woman um apologetic about unapologetic, sorry, unapologetic about her
Speaker 1: sex life, having you know, three lovers and not you know,
Speaker 1: having any qualms about it thirty years ago. I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: you think times they're so different now, Like is it
Speaker 1: or do you think it's still kind of the same
Speaker 1: as far as how society judges you as a woman
Speaker 1: if you're sleeping with you know, more than one man
Speaker 1: but you're single. I mean I think it's you know,
Speaker 1: the changing same like we like to say, because because
Speaker 1: I think there's more recognition that women should be equal
Speaker 1: to men, there shouldn't be that double standard. And at
Speaker 1: the same time, I think that there's still so much
Speaker 1: in terms of shaming. You know, there's so much in
Speaker 1: terms of you know, people just saying like, Okay, well
Speaker 1: she had that coming to her. You know, she's a
Speaker 1: whole Like if anything goes wrong, it's like, oh, well
Speaker 1: she was with you know this, what was she wearing?
Speaker 1: What time are you coming home? And not blame and
Speaker 1: you see that it's instantaneous, you know what I mean. Um, like,
Speaker 1: you see somebody like Rihanna, and we love her, and
Speaker 1: we actually love the fact of what she represents, Like
Speaker 1: she's unapologetic about whatever she does. She makes these guys
Speaker 1: look crazy, right, and she's just like, I don't give
Speaker 1: a ship right right. She um. She's also Caribbean, and
Speaker 1: you know, women from the Caribbean and don't apologize for
Speaker 1: short nibat. But but there's always some scrutiny behind it,
Speaker 1: you know, And so we're not quite there yet. Women
Speaker 1: still make what seventies cents to the men to the
Speaker 1: men's dollar, and so I feel like across the board
Speaker 1: there's so much more, so much further we have to
Speaker 1: go as as women. But I think that in this
Speaker 1: day and time, the show still feels like it's a
Speaker 1: conversation piece. And I think that anytime we can give
Speaker 1: women permission to just do whatever the funk they want,
Speaker 1: then we need to kind of support those kind of
Speaker 1: things because people, I don't know about you, but people
Speaker 1: hit me up all the time since the show has
Speaker 1: come out, just saying, like, you know, I'm releasing my
Speaker 1: inner Nola. That's it. Summer two thousand eighteen. I'm no
Speaker 1: longer apologizing for what I want to do. I don't
Speaker 1: know if they're all going to expose themselves that she
Speaker 1: did in the end, because there's a lot of questions
Speaker 1: about how realistic that is. But just to say to
Speaker 1: me nothing, I would not if I was dating more
Speaker 1: than one guy, they are not going to meet each other,
Speaker 1: I'll be horrified. Well can I sort of thing? Okay,
Speaker 1: go ahead, But I was just gonna say, I have
Speaker 1: a friend who is who calls himself poly polyamis. I
Speaker 1: can't even say the word see polyamorous. He has several
Speaker 1: partners and they all know about each other, and I
Speaker 1: think that they had an agreement from the very beginning,
Speaker 1: because you know, when he brings each love around his friends,
Speaker 1: he doesn't want the friends to feel like we have
Speaker 1: to perform or lie. And so there are people who
Speaker 1: you know are actually making it work and that in
Speaker 1: these relationships only because he'd be like, oh, last week
Speaker 1: with Kim, and you're sitting there with Kim last week,
Speaker 1: like that's the only thing that I would feel like
Speaker 1: you get, well, not even jealousy, it's just that if
Speaker 1: the friend all right, for instance, you out with him
Speaker 1: and his friends and his friend come over to him,
Speaker 1: and say like, yeah, when when you and Kim last
Speaker 1: week and you're sitting right there, you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to just be okay with that, like if
Speaker 1: you have an agreement, but yeah, if you have an
Speaker 1: agreement and understand is that people have completely different love styles,
Speaker 1: love languages, love personality. Some people are just let me
Speaker 1: lock it down with this one person forever, you know.
Speaker 1: Some people are like, let me lock it down just
Speaker 1: for show with this one person. But I'm going to
Speaker 1: have all these d L creeping things on the side,
Speaker 1: which to me, that's really what's messed up. The thing
Speaker 1: that Nola does that is so amazing is she's totally accountable,
Speaker 1: and that's what I think. You know, people who are
Speaker 1: truly polyamorous, you do you have to say, like, this
Speaker 1: is what I'm up to, I'm with other people, and
Speaker 1: you have to be straight up about it. Not only
Speaker 1: it's like it's both psychological health is also physical health,
Speaker 1: Like you need to know things, And I think that's
Speaker 1: what's really great about you know what what Nola models.
Speaker 1: Whether or not it's hard for people to get with
Speaker 1: people to understand that you might actually be that open.
Speaker 1: That's what about them meeting each other, though I think
Speaker 1: it's one thing to be like I'm dating other people, right, Well,
Speaker 1: I'll say this. I'll say this. I had one little
Speaker 1: spell of polyamory where I was I was like coming
Speaker 1: out of college, and I was just kind of thinking
Speaker 1: to myself, I've never really tested the notion of monogamy.
Speaker 1: I just always assumed, you know, I'm just going to
Speaker 1: be with this one person at a time. And then
Speaker 1: when I came out of college, I just thought, well,
Speaker 1: what if I tried, you know, dating a few people
Speaker 1: at the same time. I've been seeing what that's like.
Speaker 1: And I did, and and the two of the people
Speaker 1: did know about the other person like met each other,
Speaker 1: and I was just, you said it up for them
Speaker 1: to meet each other. I was just I was like,
Speaker 1: why don't you guys come over my house? I liked
Speaker 1: them both. There were people that could take space, so
Speaker 1: that if I had have done it, it had been
Speaker 1: at the park. We have witnesses, so they have something
Speaker 1: ship POSSI you public space. There were a lot of
Speaker 1: people there, Okay, I thought it was just like there
Speaker 1: were a lot of people there and I can't say that,
Speaker 1: you know, like the person who I wasn't spending the
Speaker 1: night with was happy about it that night, and right,
Speaker 1: don't now Actually it was though, is that I tested
Speaker 1: it out. They knew they were it was and it
Speaker 1: was not. It was not. It was not easy to
Speaker 1: deal with that feeling that they had about the other person.
Speaker 1: And then you know, after a couple of months of that,
Speaker 1: I was like, this is tired. I can't handle this.
Speaker 1: So now I know and I'm good to go back.
Speaker 1: You did it, got it out of your system. I
Speaker 1: think the thing with um no less example, as I
Speaker 1: should say, it's like, you know, what I hear from
Speaker 1: a lot of my male friends is that they cheat
Speaker 1: or they take other lovers and keep it quiet because
Speaker 1: they don't think that the woman that they're saying will
Speaker 1: understand it. They never really ask us and give us
Speaker 1: a chance, you know exactly. Now, That's what I think.
Speaker 1: Maybe the reason they don't tell us is because we
Speaker 1: might actually be okay with it, and then they'd have
Speaker 1: to think about us entertaining like, well you're doing you so,
Speaker 1: and I feel like, give me a choice. Just put
Speaker 1: me in a situation where it's like I'm blindsided. You
Speaker 1: have to let me know if you think that for
Speaker 1: Black women and white women is different. Like I think
Speaker 1: it might be different only because black women not to
Speaker 1: get all deep, but black women in terms of like
Speaker 1: our sexuality and connection to a time when we didn't
Speaker 1: really own our bodies in this country, I do feel
Speaker 1: like there's just this added pressure often to as a
Speaker 1: black woman, to perform in the light of good you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And when we do something, I
Speaker 1: don't know that white women feel that it speaks for
Speaker 1: an entire race or an entire gender, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So I do think that might make it harder. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like we have different rules too, Like in college,
Speaker 1: you know, I feel like, because you know how they
Speaker 1: always say becky is like you know, obviously that came
Speaker 1: from white girls giving head, And I feel like I
Speaker 1: know a lot of white women because I went to
Speaker 1: a predominantly white college, but they feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: giving head is nothing. I felt like for us, it's
Speaker 1: a bigger deal in a way, like guys would always
Speaker 1: prefer that you had sex with somebody didn't get them
Speaker 1: head when I was when I was young, you gave
Speaker 1: her you was a home. Like even to change change
Speaker 1: that's it. As soon as the dick, like that would
Speaker 1: be a great song, a coming out. That's how it
Speaker 1: used to be. But we could do like a black
Speaker 1: rabbing mastead of exactly. It's hard for me to generalize
Speaker 1: like that though, because you know, like, because I feel
Speaker 1: like there are plenty I think that being promiscuous, whether
Speaker 1: you're doing it on the low or doing it up
Speaker 1: above for everyone to see. You know, that runs through
Speaker 1: every different race, every different Oh I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: believe that, no, because, like you said, it seems to
Speaker 1: be for for white women. The stereotype is that, like
Speaker 1: there aren't as many qualms, you know, like giving head, it,
Speaker 1: sucking dick or whatever. It's like it's just more of
Speaker 1: a social thing where it's with black women. We saw
Speaker 1: it on that episode Insecure with like kind of like,
Speaker 1: oh no, girl, I don't do that. We have to
Speaker 1: have a certain level of relationship for me to just
Speaker 1: give head, you know what I mean. So I do
Speaker 1: think that within our community, we have different parameters around
Speaker 1: what we consider permissing. I'm telling you every guy he asked, like,
Speaker 1: if you ask a black man, he'll be made way
Speaker 1: more mad that you gave somebody had he sat the
Speaker 1: dick then if you had I did things? Yeah, because
Speaker 1: did you sucking, especially if you something good girl not?
Speaker 1: Don'ts that if you did, she swallowed it. If you
Speaker 1: think about that, she was sucking the next nig dick
Speaker 1: remember that a chicken chicken chicken head. So it's like
Speaker 1: a playlist playlist on titled for dick sucking song. And
Speaker 1: then it's like the other playlist, which is, you know,
Speaker 1: Downtown done. Down Town is fun, you go down town.
Speaker 1: But when that song came out, it just at the
Speaker 1: time it seems so salacious, like damn town. It compares
Speaker 1: to nothing that's coming out now. It's like people talking
Speaker 1: about leaving my p that. We thought that was racy
Speaker 1: back then. You know that he said lay your head
Speaker 1: on my pillow was about him performing oral sex on her.
Speaker 1: What's it? Yeah, rail lay your head of my fellow?
Speaker 1: What called me that? Because she said Rapiela, did you
Speaker 1: call me? I said call me? Yeah, will be look
Speaker 1: at me? The the things that were like racy back then,
Speaker 1: or even when Salt and Pepper did the song Let's
Speaker 1: talk about sex, and everyone was just like blusoshing. It's
Speaker 1: like sex that's almost like a church song. Now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what when I was down, I used to
Speaker 1: be embarrassed when calling me bad, I want to sex
Speaker 1: you up and come on, in the kind eyes of
Speaker 1: my parents, I'd be like, oh my god, right right
Speaker 1: right right now, right on you talking about that, because
Speaker 1: you know anything geting song coming through? You know the beginning,
Speaker 1: like the intro of that song where he's like, I
Speaker 1: wonder if she could tell I'm hard right now? So
Speaker 1: I didn't know what they were talking about because when
Speaker 1: they came out, I was kind of young, so that
Speaker 1: I was like the little poem. I didn't know, I care,
Speaker 1: I miss you. I was young. But you know what
Speaker 1: the problem with that song was that it was a
Speaker 1: little poke. I mean, nobody had to. I wanted you
Speaker 1: should have said, I feel a little poke coming through.
Speaker 1: I'm through. She should have just walked af to the
Speaker 1: next guy. We don't go this. It's a little They
Speaker 1: look like they got a little pokes. You guys had
Speaker 1: little dick shaming, and that's not right. It's not right.
Speaker 1: Mars has a little dick that was let me tell
Speaker 1: you something because listen, so we're in we're in the
Speaker 1: writing room. We create these things, and I actually think
Speaker 1: I'm showing my asking. It might have started as a joke.
Speaker 1: I think it did. I think it started a joke.
Speaker 1: We knew that there was gonna be a painting with
Speaker 1: one figure with three heads. And then I'm not I
Speaker 1: won't take credit for it, but somebody said, and the
Speaker 1: dick should start talking, and if these dicks could talk
Speaker 1: to show burning. But you know what I'm what I
Speaker 1: like about that moment, it's like at the beacond. What
Speaker 1: I like about that moment is this real? It's like
Speaker 1: everybody as slang, you know what I mean? Um? And
Speaker 1: I guess what he lacks in dick size, Mars makes
Speaker 1: up for in personality. Personality. He makes a laugh. Good job, Mars.
Speaker 1: Where the dick? Now? Do you think that you could
Speaker 1: find everything that you would want in just one person?
Speaker 1: I don't know, from not from my experience. Um, I
Speaker 1: think I think that that's really dangerous. It comes from
Speaker 1: like a whole Victorian notion of romance, you know, like
Speaker 1: that's when things started to flip. It used to be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I got my village of people, you know, I have
Speaker 1: my ceremonial husband or wife or a partner of whatever.
Speaker 1: And then I got my whole family got my friends,
Speaker 1: you know, I got my priest, got the farmer, and
Speaker 1: you just and and you could turn into your whole
Speaker 1: community to fulfill all your needs. And then there got
Speaker 1: to be this pressure on having this one single person
Speaker 1: that satisfies everything. And I think I'm sure religion helped
Speaker 1: to create that, right, So, I mean, I think it's
Speaker 1: very possible. Um, I think that many people end up
Speaker 1: living that way, you know, where they are able to
Speaker 1: find all the things that they need in a person.
Speaker 1: But UM, I think that it's it's you shouldn't put
Speaker 1: that pressure on anyone else. I agree. I agree. And
Speaker 1: at one time, when um was in therapy, because there's
Speaker 1: no shame in doing that act. Exactly when I was
Speaker 1: in therapy, I was seeing someone and talking about my
Speaker 1: relationship fabulous, talking about my relationship in the therapy session
Speaker 1: and talking about how my partner, you know that just
Speaker 1: what my disappointments were, and I'll never forget her saying
Speaker 1: to me, like, you have to create a partner out
Speaker 1: of all of the people in your life, you know,
Speaker 1: like look to get certain comforts from your female friends,
Speaker 1: get certain comforts from your platonic male friends, and get
Speaker 1: a certain comfort from your partner, and it really did
Speaker 1: alleviate a lot of pressure that I was putting on
Speaker 1: this one person to comfort in all of these ways,
Speaker 1: you know. And so I feel like maybe for some
Speaker 1: people it would be multiple lovers um or maybe just
Speaker 1: taking the pressure off that one lover fulfilling them and
Speaker 1: looking for a guidance from their girlfriends and there, you know, coworkers,
Speaker 1: that kind of thing is it's a recipe for disaster. Really,
Speaker 1: you know, if you're just you have all those expectations,
Speaker 1: because of course another person can't make you happy, right,
Speaker 1: It's just like that's got to come from here, and
Speaker 1: then you share that with someone. Sure, but I feel
Speaker 1: like it's cool that you said, like, put some of
Speaker 1: the pressure on your friends, like your girlfriend or whatever.
Speaker 1: I'm tired of everything girl by but I do. I
Speaker 1: do feel like that's that's a nice thing to say,
Speaker 1: other than being like, all right, just run to the
Speaker 1: next person because I'm not gonna lie. I feel like
Speaker 1: with I say I'm in a relationship, I want him
Speaker 1: to be able to lean on me for certain things
Speaker 1: instead of being like, well, let me go confide in
Speaker 1: this girl that I met the other day, Like no,
Speaker 1: nigga you better tell me anything you've got a problem with.
Speaker 1: You don't care if it's your boss. If it's like
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want him to go to another woman and
Speaker 1: lean on her. But what about his friends? That's okay,
Speaker 1: So he can't have female friends. I mean, not that
Speaker 1: he's like confiding in like that, No, because then what
Speaker 1: would am I he? What if it's like a coworker
Speaker 1: and they're talking about up there works, that's different. What
Speaker 1: about a childhood friend but they've known since you know,
Speaker 1: I have childhood friends like to talk about something like
Speaker 1: work or something. But when it's seting close to the heart,
Speaker 1: like if you're talking about family or so like just
Speaker 1: stuff like that, I feel like you're not supposed to
Speaker 1: let everybody in your business like that. Like, if I'm
Speaker 1: talking about something to do with my family, it might
Speaker 1: only be one of the person or two people that know,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I'm not gonna just go
Speaker 1: confide in the person that I see at work every
Speaker 1: day that I think it's his nice look, she said,
Speaker 1: a childhood friend. No, no childhood friends. I mean if
Speaker 1: they've been friends from childhood and they ain't sucked this long.
Speaker 1: But if they did, when they were younger, but it's
Speaker 1: been twenty years. Since twenty years is a long time.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, like you see his dick again,
Speaker 1: happen here on it unless he got a new dick,
Speaker 1: if he replaced the dick that he put in her.
Speaker 1: You know what, I really what I what I realized though,
Speaker 1: because I also feel like your partner is gonna need
Speaker 1: somebody to talk about you with because they got to
Speaker 1: do that. But what I realized is if you're friends
Speaker 1: with someone who is married, their partner not knows all
Speaker 1: your business. Just so yeah, I know that except that,
Speaker 1: but that was a revelation for me, Like a couple
Speaker 1: of years ago. I was like, wait a minute, oh, girls,
Speaker 1: husband knows my business. I could tell because when that
Speaker 1: person I was talking about walked in the room, like
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what I mean, okay, right,
Speaker 1: like you need a drink, don't worry about it. There's
Speaker 1: like a difference between you know, being emotionally unfaithful and
Speaker 1: just having like really good friends, you know that where
Speaker 1: you need to work something out before you bring it
Speaker 1: back home. You know what I mean? I look for that,
Speaker 1: like I want that kind of openness in a relationhip
Speaker 1: I would want my boyfriend to have like a couple
Speaker 1: of female friends that he's cool with, because I wanted
Speaker 1: like that. I'm cool with two and I don't have
Speaker 1: a problem with that. I'm working at, like, please say
Speaker 1: something that I just felt like a couple of female
Speaker 1: friends wanted head gonna end up on his last That's
Speaker 1: not true. I think of other and all his female friends.
Speaker 1: I'm one of them. How many of them did he
Speaker 1: sucked up? Like not Angela, but other one? She was
Speaker 1: the exception. Oh my gosh. I'm sure he has other
Speaker 1: females around that he didn't suck But he has females
Speaker 1: around that he did that he calls friends. But you
Speaker 1: know that. But okay, but that's a perfect example. Like
Speaker 1: you know that he would call me and talk about
Speaker 1: like stuff and you don't have a problem with that.
Speaker 1: You will talk about me when I said stuff me.
Speaker 1: You know what? The reason I think, at least I'm
Speaker 1: saying this on paper, right, I don't know if this
Speaker 1: is real. I haven't really tried it out. But the
Speaker 1: reason I think I like the idea of my partner
Speaker 1: having a good female friend is because we are different
Speaker 1: sometimes down the gender line, you know, and I feel
Speaker 1: like I've learned a lot about men and how they
Speaker 1: walk through the world from my male friends, like checking
Speaker 1: in with them and saying, am I crazy for that's
Speaker 1: Y and Z and the like where you are? You know?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like sometimes it does come
Speaker 1: about our tribes around gender and if there's a friend
Speaker 1: of mine who can enlighten me in terms of yeah,
Speaker 1: you want to approach a person as an individual, but
Speaker 1: we are conditioned based on gender sometimes and my male
Speaker 1: friends can be like, oh, girl, I don't know, he
Speaker 1: better have a sister. I know he got a mother.
Speaker 1: You don't have guy friends if you're talking to somebody
Speaker 1: like when my last real real relationship, most of my
Speaker 1: men friends with his friends. What I'm talking about your
Speaker 1: own friends? Yeah, I have my own friends, but they
Speaker 1: wasn't guys, and like, you don't think that's a problem.
Speaker 1: And my guy friends wasn't Like I wasn't like that
Speaker 1: at all, and he knew them, like it was different,
Speaker 1: Like they have relationships too, so that would be something,
Speaker 1: but not just like a guy like y'all said a
Speaker 1: guy that I had sex with many years about that
Speaker 1: now I'm just saying a friend, Yeah, definitely I mean,
Speaker 1: you're like somebody that I knew, but he would know them.
Speaker 1: Like I need to know if I'm dating guy that
Speaker 1: he can be friends with women without wanting to sun
Speaker 1: them and have a ton of relationship. Now, yeah, I
Speaker 1: think it's a problem if men don't have women friends.
Speaker 1: That means that anybody that they interact with us the
Speaker 1: woman and somebody they that's cool, but I don't want
Speaker 1: this woman to know all of my business business. But
Speaker 1: he's confronted, He's like, what should I get her for Christmas?
Speaker 1: That's different if we're talking about gifts for me. You
Speaker 1: can talk to anybody if um, you know there's an
Speaker 1: issue within relationship, within the relationship where they're bigger and
Speaker 1: over whatever, and he brings it to the mutual female
Speaker 1: friend to get her insight on where he should go.
Speaker 1: As far as you know the situation, I see. My
Speaker 1: problem is not necessarily always the guy is mad, grimy
Speaker 1: girls out here right, and I'm just being a hunted
Speaker 1: that like that she's fucked up. You know what you
Speaker 1: need to do. You need to leave high that you
Speaker 1: get what I'm saying. And I've never had that. I've
Speaker 1: seen it done so many times to make it won't
Speaker 1: put you through be saying. You get what I'm saying now,
Speaker 1: you know I always told about my home girl most guys.
Speaker 1: Most times when I did a guy and he has
Speaker 1: women friends, I'm cool with them too, and like if
Speaker 1: they go to he'll be like, you know what I
Speaker 1: told us that she said I was wrong, So I'm calling.
Speaker 1: But some some women are cool and you can but
Speaker 1: there's a lot that's not. And that's what makes me
Speaker 1: feel like I wouldn't want him to just be confiding
Speaker 1: about our relationship when another woman like talk to me like,
Speaker 1: don't confide and be like, you know, Larry as pussy
Speaker 1: was whacked all right? Now, let me ask um, both
Speaker 1: right and from your own personal standpoint in your own life,
Speaker 1: if you had to choose from one person from She's
Speaker 1: got to have it, okay that Nola Darling was dating,
Speaker 1: is it gonna be Jamie Grier? Mars are open? Pick Mars? Okay? Right?
Speaker 1: You mean that we would want to in your real life,
Speaker 1: who would you date? Who would all of them? It
Speaker 1: would be Mars? Right, Um, Opal to me is a
Speaker 1: grown ass woman and I appreciate that about it. But
Speaker 1: for me, laughter is so important like learning how to
Speaker 1: diffuse by laughter and also Mars when that thing went
Speaker 1: down with her graffiti, like he was he's ready to
Speaker 1: pop off, but he was so proactive about helping to
Speaker 1: solve her problem. So he had the humorous sign and
Speaker 1: then he had like a really I feel like out
Speaker 1: of the three men, not so much Opal, but out
Speaker 1: of the three men, he wanted to possess her the
Speaker 1: least you know it. He was dating her friend first though, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but he did ask the friends for money. He asked
Speaker 1: the friend for money for her, So I guess you
Speaker 1: know that's over, but that's because they still come up
Speaker 1: in their friendship. Yeah, she uh, Clarinda does bring up
Speaker 1: the G code, the girl code, like you. I like
Speaker 1: that y'all did that because it seemed like the elephant
Speaker 1: in the run that nobody was gonna say anything about.
Speaker 1: But then she came out was like, well you know
Speaker 1: that was my men, Like what's up? Do you think?
Speaker 1: But here's the thing, though, do you think Clarinda really
Speaker 1: wanted to be with Mars so she was more upset
Speaker 1: friends friend to her. Yeah she's gonna okay, yeah, you
Speaker 1: got it. You gotta netflix and chill it up. They're
Speaker 1: just like the opposite to that attract, which is why
Speaker 1: you know Solrenda and Mars. I've Mars and Nolan have
Speaker 1: a little opposite of track. So Okay, she's not living
Speaker 1: with her sister in the project, not that there's a
Speaker 1: judgment on that, but um, he travels by bike. She
Speaker 1: just not, you know what I mean, Like there's an
Speaker 1: age difference. He's goofy, is fun, like he's fun, but Loki,
Speaker 1: he's really immature a little bit. I don't think I
Speaker 1: can't see him with that with the one. I'm sorry
Speaker 1: for Clarinda, So I'm gonna feels and and for our
Speaker 1: listeners who maybe didn't see she's got to have it yet,
Speaker 1: but I know you're all gonna why too now, So um,
Speaker 1: she's got to have it right. Nola Darling has four
Speaker 1: different levers, three of them a man, one of them
Speaker 1: is a woman. They all know about each other basically,
Speaker 1: and so they all have very extremely different personalities. So
Speaker 1: Mars is the one that's like fun, but he's probably
Speaker 1: the least established out of all of them. So yeah,
Speaker 1: he's the youngest, but he's fun young. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: and I felt this way in the original movie. I
Speaker 1: felt like Mars was the person I would want to
Speaker 1: kick it with. You know what, he put her panties,
Speaker 1: panties on Mars also, well, no, I mean this is
Speaker 1: the thing is that I kind of wouldn't be with
Speaker 1: any of them. I would I mean, you have to
Speaker 1: pick one, like, no, I do? I know, well, I'm
Speaker 1: kind of this is a thing where you kind of
Speaker 1: see a little bit of evolution with this character through
Speaker 1: the series, and so Greer that I mean, what I
Speaker 1: would pick really is like I just want to be
Speaker 1: a man because I'm straight. That's to do it, because
Speaker 1: she's like just dope. But um, I feel like Greer
Speaker 1: actually is he starts to shift, he starts to kind
Speaker 1: of soften and see her and and you can kind
Speaker 1: of feel that, you know, maybe the whole arrogance thing
Speaker 1: really is this act that he's been putting on all
Speaker 1: these years, and that you know, there's actually something that
Speaker 1: is really sweet and giving, you know, and where they
Speaker 1: somehow can really connect in terms of the visuals with
Speaker 1: him being a photographer a painter, and that they actually
Speaker 1: might have this real connection artists, you know what. You
Speaker 1: know what, It's funny a lot of the feedback I
Speaker 1: see online social media about Greer is people think that
Speaker 1: he's low key gay, and I was just like, really
Speaker 1: because because but he but he addresses like Prince and
Speaker 1: Prince love himself someone you know what I mean, Like
Speaker 1: you can say, okay, let's see um. It's just it's
Speaker 1: just so funny to me that in two thousand seventeen,
Speaker 1: two eighteen, like a guy folding his legs or you know,
Speaker 1: being greased down or crawling across the floor like a line.
Speaker 1: I feel like you could you set to laugh that thing?
Speaker 1: I know, I felt like you can laugh at him
Speaker 1: because as soon as he would have got a hall
Speaker 1: for all. Right. Now, that brings me to my next thing.
Speaker 1: What's the corniest thing a guy has ever done in
Speaker 1: the bedroom with you? Will start with you? That you
Speaker 1: was like because Greg actually crawled across the floor and
Speaker 1: he's like like like I got a line in my pocket.
Speaker 1: And I thought that was so corny. I was like,
Speaker 1: if a guy did that to me, it might just
Speaker 1: like complete. He's like, no, man's gonna head at how
Speaker 1: I'm about to head at right now. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Corny would probably be to just talk a whole bunch
Speaker 1: of game and not be able to back it up.
Speaker 1: I think that's corny to me, right, Yeah, should never
Speaker 1: talk a lot of ship and just guys, and guys
Speaker 1: have a problem with that, like they, you know, prior
Speaker 1: to get in with you, they tell you all these
Speaker 1: things they're gonna do to you and with you, and
Speaker 1: then crickets. Right, So you're trying to say they should, um,
Speaker 1: what is it? Under selling over delivery? That's it. They
Speaker 1: should try doing that. But then you can't also under
Speaker 1: undersell it because then you'll be like, yeah, it's gonna
Speaker 1: be okay, like Dick is a regular you gotta go,
Speaker 1: But just don't. It's fun go that hard with saying
Speaker 1: you know how great you are? Yeah, really, in our
Speaker 1: reality you ain't really all that great. I think too
Speaker 1: much conversation about the sex, like this is gonna be
Speaker 1: the best sex you've ever had. How about you just
Speaker 1: shut up, shut up and put up, because those are
Speaker 1: the corny moments to me. When someone's like talking to
Speaker 1: me while you you like it, who's this this? And
Speaker 1: it's just like you really want to know who's it's
Speaker 1: it's Jesus, Like, what do you want me to say
Speaker 1: that you hold it? You're renting this for the hour,
Speaker 1: you temporarily in this moment. So they're talking the corny talking.
Speaker 1: I could do without, man, I mean I just had
Speaker 1: a flashback. I mean, you know when you're in relationship
Speaker 1: for a while, it was like maybe the second year
Speaker 1: or something, and you're kind of looking for things to
Speaker 1: like spice it up, right, And I was laying on
Speaker 1: the bed and then how did he just like come
Speaker 1: out of the hallway and into the bedroom but naked
Speaker 1: with with like a neon bow tie? On? Man, how
Speaker 1: do you why do you have it? From his job?
Speaker 1: He thought, I don't know, somehow I gonna just make me,
Speaker 1: you know, just jump out of my panties. So what
Speaker 1: do you do? I was just like, that looks really stupid.
Speaker 1: Why are you doing this? How that Gan? I mean,
Speaker 1: I feel for him because he was trying, but no,
Speaker 1: he tried it effort. It did the opposite for me,
Speaker 1: So was that it for you? No? No, we we tried,
Speaker 1: we made we but yeah, eventually that was a sign.
Speaker 1: Maybe yeah he's like family, But I think we never
Speaker 1: really had a full kind of sexual chemistry, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? I did. It was one guy and
Speaker 1: he had uh. So the first time I went to
Speaker 1: his house. I had never been there before, and this
Speaker 1: is when I was in college, and it was like
Speaker 1: you know, um, you know, we were home for the holiday.
Speaker 1: So I went to his house and he had a
Speaker 1: water bed. Damn, I forgot about that. It was I've
Speaker 1: never seen a water bed before in my life. Listen,
Speaker 1: I don't know why he had a water bed like
Speaker 1: I've never seen when I didn't even know they existed
Speaker 1: anything ready I had. So I come into the bedroom
Speaker 1: and he I'm embarrassed. I don't want to know. You
Speaker 1: gotta finish, to finish. She had a leopard like or
Speaker 1: something underwear, and he was like laying on the water bed,
Speaker 1: feel like a movie. His body was like, by the way,
Speaker 1: why does nobody use water beds anymore? Because they stubb
Speaker 1: and it's probably mad back terry and that ship. No,
Speaker 1: I don't want it. I'm just wondering because you know
Speaker 1: where he anybody out there. He probably thought the water
Speaker 1: bed was gonna help, you know, make you feel, but
Speaker 1: then squishing around. Hold on, no, now I want to
Speaker 1: try that. I gotta find the water bed. I do
Speaker 1: want to have sex on the water I want to
Speaker 1: make love on the water beds gonna get some lettuce tonight?
Speaker 1: How was it? And you gotta just play some type
Speaker 1: of like ocean music or something. But how would like
Speaker 1: how was sucking on the water. I didn't him on
Speaker 1: the water bed. It was now because yeah, he had
Speaker 1: on the leopards. That's what really ruined it. It It wasn't
Speaker 1: just the I was first. I don't know where you
Speaker 1: even would at one from what because it has to
Speaker 1: like a vantage. I don't sleep. Here's another debate we had, Okay,
Speaker 1: g are you more the type of person who likes
Speaker 1: somebody more in the beginning and then it wears off
Speaker 1: or don't like somebody so much, but they really grow
Speaker 1: on you and then you fall in love. I think
Speaker 1: I don't like them at first, thank you, and then
Speaker 1: they grow on me and not eventually fall in love.
Speaker 1: Persistance of it comes resistance. Baby arguing about this for years,
Speaker 1: there has there has been a few that I thought like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, he's amazing, and then want, want, want,
Speaker 1: But there's been more of I guess eventually like and
Speaker 1: then he's like, bitch, get out of here. You don't
Speaker 1: like me, and what about you? Rather? I'm a libra,
Speaker 1: so I I fall in love like twenty times a day,
Speaker 1: and and then somewhere around it goes, oh, oh, you
Speaker 1: don't really like this person. This is not gonna farewell
Speaker 1: in the real world. But like yeah, like in the
Speaker 1: very beginning, like I just a laugh or something about
Speaker 1: them makes me go, oh, is this person that I
Speaker 1: need to be around them? And then you know the
Speaker 1: reality I see like an Ashley foot or skid mark
Speaker 1: or something that makes me did you did you just
Speaker 1: say a skid mark in his draws? Listen the toilet
Speaker 1: or something like the carpet. I've had that experience. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was. It was just I didn't really get a
Speaker 1: good look. I just would you being a cooler or
Speaker 1: it was just a grown man. This was years ago,
Speaker 1: and maybe he was Okay, you don't know how to
Speaker 1: wipe itself. He's still young. Real quickly, Walmart sells water
Speaker 1: beds and there's look at a place called water bed Outlet.
Speaker 1: Much with the holidays with thousand dollars. Wow, he was
Speaker 1: boiling Jesus with free shipping. I'm I'm getting your buttter bed.
Speaker 1: I'm playing. It's like the whole wooden vercludes everything. It's
Speaker 1: a whole bed whom set sparkling appreciate playing with me.
Speaker 1: I'm getting a water bed. Okay, sorry the Leppard speedo.
Speaker 1: It's probably good for your bad Can you imagine just
Speaker 1: how harderness to get to so good on the water bed?
Speaker 1: Like you go like this be girl like a drama.
Speaker 1: Men have dreams about being on the end too Titanic
Speaker 1: or slave show, slave ship like it nowadays about it,
Speaker 1: you said you're more of a like fall in love,
Speaker 1: but then like like like like a lot in the
Speaker 1: beginning and then I mean, I've had situations where I
Speaker 1: get to know that I go more so it's a
Speaker 1: big emotion in the very beginning, and then it kind
Speaker 1: of changes into something else, you know. But yeah, what
Speaker 1: about you, Issa, Yeah, I'm the same way. I just
Speaker 1: fall like that. I mean sometimes people like slowly creep
Speaker 1: up when I was like, let me check this person out.
Speaker 1: But you know, it's really only been one person that
Speaker 1: I was ever with, where at first I was kind
Speaker 1: of like you corny, and then you know, a couple
Speaker 1: of scotches later, I'm like, oh, I'm enjoyed talking good
Speaker 1: But no, I mean, yeah, I would say that I'm
Speaker 1: definitely I just I see it right away. And also
Speaker 1: because I think I see right over people's shortcomings. I
Speaker 1: don't even notice them. It's deep. It's like, I mean,
Speaker 1: I think that really that really happened, like you know,
Speaker 1: with this one person actually who I didn't really like
Speaker 1: it first. I was just kind of like, okay, now
Speaker 1: if I'm liking you, then you know, I actually am
Speaker 1: finding that I'm not even annoyed with you ever, Like
Speaker 1: I'm just kind of recognizing these certain things about you
Speaker 1: or just your personality, and it's not really something that
Speaker 1: you know, I should trip on, you know. So that's
Speaker 1: that's my problem, because obviously sometimes people just aren't right
Speaker 1: for you, and then you're not compatible. And then I
Speaker 1: think we've know. You know, they say when a relationship ends,
Speaker 1: it actually ended, like say a relationship was the was
Speaker 1: the length of two years, and it ends they say
Speaker 1: the relationship end of the year ago. But you just haven't.
Speaker 1: I think for women, we'd be out of a relationship
Speaker 1: before the man knows that we're out of it, right,
Speaker 1: I tell you, I was done with this naked girl.
Speaker 1: They don't know that we're they're messing up, and they
Speaker 1: think we're forgiving them and we're but we're really like
Speaker 1: mentally like Okay, right, that's cool. Two months later, come
Speaker 1: that in the book, but this in the book. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then and then by the time we're already kind
Speaker 1: of recuperated because we've been dealing with it and knowing
Speaker 1: it's about to happen and like going through it, so
Speaker 1: that by the time it's time to break up, you
Speaker 1: already the broke up and went through all the emotions.
Speaker 1: And then guys are just off guard, like, oh, Ship,
Speaker 1: I didn't see that coming. You know that happened with
Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend, the one that I was with for
Speaker 1: five years. Oh yeah, I knew I was and he
Speaker 1: did so much. Ship. I knew I was going to
Speaker 1: break up with him. I just wasn't ready to do
Speaker 1: it right away. But then by the time I was ready,
Speaker 1: I was. It was a clean break, no going back,
Speaker 1: and he really thought we were going to work it out.
Speaker 1: And when you when you were when you knew you
Speaker 1: wanted to break you knew the relationship was over, but
Speaker 1: didn't break up with him. What caused you to stick around?
Speaker 1: I didn't really know what I did, but I didn't
Speaker 1: like there's a lot of things that I felt like
Speaker 1: he was doing and he didn't stop doing them, and
Speaker 1: I just wasn't ready to break up with him yet,
Speaker 1: so but emotionally I was like kind of distancing myself
Speaker 1: until I was prepared, because it's like you could either
Speaker 1: break up with somebody and then like just be away
Speaker 1: from them but still be not over it. But I
Speaker 1: was like kind of getting it over it while I
Speaker 1: was still with him. That was a weird thing. No,
Speaker 1: he had no clue. Yeah, he thought Listen, he was
Speaker 1: chilling thinking that like we were going to break up,
Speaker 1: and then you know, when we did break up, he
Speaker 1: thought that I would like forgive him eventually, and I
Speaker 1: just never did. But that's because I went through it
Speaker 1: all for like months. If I think they don't you
Speaker 1: think men do that too, where they'll they'll be done
Speaker 1: with you and yeah know they'll be with another woman
Speaker 1: and then hanging in there and assholes until you break
Speaker 1: up with them because they don't really want to break
Speaker 1: up with you. They don't want to be I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: they get another woman breaking up with you. They go
Speaker 1: out and yeah, they'll get another woman. And when you
Speaker 1: break up is when you find out. When you find
Speaker 1: out about the woman, and you're so mad and you
Speaker 1: confront him and you're like, I'm gonna leave you. That's
Speaker 1: when y'all break up. But he's not gonna just talk
Speaker 1: this over here. He's not gonna be like it's not working,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be with you. He's just gonna
Speaker 1: sunk up until you break up with him. That's right.
Speaker 1: I have a question for you all, um about the
Speaker 1: concept of cheating, Like I feel like a lot of
Speaker 1: women have kind of when they go into relationships, they
Speaker 1: just have an expectation that a man is going to cheat.
Speaker 1: She does, she does. Yeah, I think a majority and
Speaker 1: men cheat like majority, I'm not gonna say a percent,
Speaker 1: but maybe like ninety eight point nine. I did the
Speaker 1: pole and when I came up with was ninety eight
Speaker 1: point nine. I don't go in with that expectation. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't want I don't go into a relationship like, yes,
Speaker 1: I want him to cheat on me. It's not like that. No,
Speaker 1: But I think when I go into a relationship, like
Speaker 1: you know, a lot of men cheat. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: and I'm not okay with it at all. So you know,
Speaker 1: I try to be on my p's and queues. You
Speaker 1: know what I mean. You have no female friends, you
Speaker 1: can't tell nobody about friends, you know what they talk
Speaker 1: majority of a friend. We had Kevin Hard on right
Speaker 1: the breakfast club, and he talked a lot about another
Speaker 1: unfaithful man. And by the way, anyway, I didn't see
Speaker 1: that coming when that happened the way that a day
Speaker 1: with Kevin Hart, only because I mean I really didn't
Speaker 1: because of his humorous persona was because he went through
Speaker 1: so much before with his ex wife. He didn't have
Speaker 1: to get married, so I thought that he had just
Speaker 1: kind of like you know, gotten over it. But anyway,
Speaker 1: after the interview, the guys Umne was saying to me,
Speaker 1: they were like, why do you women want to know
Speaker 1: why men cheat? We don't even know why we cheat.
Speaker 1: In their nature, they can't help it. But that's also
Speaker 1: like an excuse for them too. I feel it's like
Speaker 1: giving them an excuse, like it's just don't ask us why.
Speaker 1: We don't know why, and it's not even a reason.
Speaker 1: You're not even giving a reason. You just said we
Speaker 1: don't know why. I know someone who said just gi
Speaker 1: to your point. Um he was just it was almost
Speaker 1: like he was like a seventh or five percent of
Speaker 1: you know, street knowledge. He's like, man cheat because our
Speaker 1: organs is on the outside. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Your organs is on the inside, and the outside organ
Speaker 1: is always seeking the inside or you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But that he was kind of like explaining in a
Speaker 1: way by nature. But I do think men cheat because
Speaker 1: some men, of course general generalizing here belvis here, some
Speaker 1: men do cheat, I think because they are influenced by
Speaker 1: their social set and they have friends make them feel like,
Speaker 1: really gonna lock it down with that girl, just her,
Speaker 1: because they'd be having a trash girl. And then they
Speaker 1: see their men, if you backs though, like they'd be
Speaker 1: having a trash girl. And then they see their men
Speaker 1: all happy and in love with the perfect person that
Speaker 1: they wish they could be with. So now they're like, now,
Speaker 1: y'all sound like some better men because men do that,
Speaker 1: because women don't we do that too, Like aren't you
Speaker 1: influenced by your friends? Also? I never time my friends like,
Speaker 1: oh ne that you tell them, But I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: like the girls that do that when your friends are single,
Speaker 1: it's like fun, it looks like more fun sometimes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: then when you know what I'm saying, and I'm sure
Speaker 1: it's that way with men too. I mean when I listen,
Speaker 1: men are like that when their friends not even single. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because men are married are
Speaker 1: not saying and they still are singing. They're like, come on,
Speaker 1: we're going to the strip club. Like she's she's not
Speaker 1: letting you go to the strip club. She's crazy, Like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's another good Netflix. Seriously, she's married. I'm not serious.
Speaker 1: Single married man, single married man, single married man. You know,
Speaker 1: he's a single married man. I feel I feel like,
Speaker 1: I don't think this is necessarily a mature man. But
Speaker 1: I sometimes I wonder if men make choices based on
Speaker 1: what their friends think. You know what I mean, because
Speaker 1: I'm I'm just speaking from personal experience. I've always been
Speaker 1: like a thick girl and the funny girl. And that
Speaker 1: you said a dick girl, I'm about to say I've
Speaker 1: been a girl too. I've been that girl who in
Speaker 1: high school, a certain guy will like me, but because
Speaker 1: his social set expects him to date a certain type
Speaker 1: of girl, he won't. They might want to step to
Speaker 1: me in the cloak of night or what have you,
Speaker 1: because he's so influenced by the men in his life.
Speaker 1: And sometimes I wonder when I see men choose women.
Speaker 1: Are they choosing them because they really want to be
Speaker 1: with that woman or because the woman fits the image
Speaker 1: for their friends, you know what I mean? Like that's
Speaker 1: not necessarily an evolved man or, but I know a
Speaker 1: lot of men who do that. I mean, at our industry,
Speaker 1: they a lot of times. I think, you know, men
Speaker 1: pick women based on their image and all the same
Speaker 1: just saying do you feel like for both of you,
Speaker 1: do you feel like men like you because of what
Speaker 1: you do? Sometimes too, I would say, so they'd be like,
Speaker 1: are you know she didn't she AMPI and she broke Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know Spike, oh yeah, going to a game or
Speaker 1: just you know, because I also I say as well.
Speaker 1: So it's like, you know, I feel like in some
Speaker 1: ways that actually is something I have to get around
Speaker 1: because if someone has what we call a talent crush
Speaker 1: on you, talent crush, then they might not actually be
Speaker 1: down for who you are as a person. You know.
Speaker 1: That's what I really love in in at the end
Speaker 1: of she's got to have it, you know, she comes
Speaker 1: out and she's got her head wrap on, she's got
Speaker 1: on her T shirt. You know, she's not like, dude
Speaker 1: up for these men when she when she first comes out,
Speaker 1: and I just love that she's just like just taking
Speaker 1: me as I am, you know, like I don't have
Speaker 1: to be flashy for you. I don't have to put
Speaker 1: on anything for you. Like but that's part of that
Speaker 1: talent crushes that are this that should look cool too.
Speaker 1: When she's like doing in the house and she because
Speaker 1: you don't expect her to be done at that's how
Speaker 1: you're supposed to, like wander wise, it's like gorgeous drop
Speaker 1: off makeup, not nothing. And every time she smokes a
Speaker 1: joint it makes me want to smoke to triggers that desire,
Speaker 1: but you smoke every day anyway, So I don't know
Speaker 1: what a lot like. I quit and then I saw Nola.
Speaker 1: I was like no, no, you know, I gotta roll
Speaker 1: up just like a drinking like yeah, last day, no tomorrow, tomorrow,
Speaker 1: stepping out of stepping out, Thank you so much. Al
Speaker 1: right e Sa Davis, I have a proper good time. Um.
Speaker 1: I used to do stand up comedy for a number
Speaker 1: of years and I had to like girl, yes, and
Speaker 1: I had to like, you know, it's very flattering when
Speaker 1: men are like, you know, very into you and stuff
Speaker 1: and they you then you catch it, you go, oh,
Speaker 1: you just saw me perform. That's who you like, that's
Speaker 1: who you might be feeling, you know. Um. But and
Speaker 1: I remember, even when I was doing like a lot
Speaker 1: of theater and plays, all these fine as actors like yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, we should too long, we should let's go
Speaker 1: out to see and I'm like, yeah, all right, good.
Speaker 1: And then after a while, you're like in the middle
Speaker 1: of what you think is a date, You're like, oh,
Speaker 1: he thinks like I'm gonna put him in a play
Speaker 1: or get him a role and spike or whatever. Like
Speaker 1: there are those people, which is why I think I
Speaker 1: tend to not date people. And then and it's interested
Speaker 1: in the arts who aren't impressed, who can be supportive
Speaker 1: of you and what you want to do, but they're
Speaker 1: not like ask you all these questions of yeah, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. That's so annoying because but I
Speaker 1: leave it. I don't even really want to talk about
Speaker 1: what just tell you I do not feel like it.
Speaker 1: I don't feel like And then it's so awkward if
Speaker 1: you're like dating somebody and they need a favorite, like
Speaker 1: I wouldn't date somebody that needs favors, right, but you know,
Speaker 1: have a question. So, if you don't date guys in
Speaker 1: the industry and stuff like that, or you you try
Speaker 1: not to, where do you meet these guys that you
Speaker 1: do end up dating? Girl, see you single, I'm very
Speaker 1: very She's like, you know, like I recently, you know,
Speaker 1: I spend time between New York and Baltimore now. So
Speaker 1: it's that's a whole new gene that I've but it's
Speaker 1: it can be tough because a lot of times I
Speaker 1: feel like I've I don't tell people what I do
Speaker 1: because I just want them to meet me. Even when
Speaker 1: I lived in l A at one point, you know,
Speaker 1: you go to parties and people like, so what do
Speaker 1: you do? What do you do? And that's all I say,
Speaker 1: And I would just be like, I'm trying to figure
Speaker 1: things out. And if they walk away from me, then
Speaker 1: that's somebody I don't Next time, you gotta be like,
Speaker 1: I smack people to ask me what do I do.
Speaker 1: I'm joking. I'm joking, all right that ladies. Have y'all
Speaker 1: ever been in in a situation in a room where
Speaker 1: you saw more than one person you dated, you like
Speaker 1: at a party and like it I just okay, you
Speaker 1: know what I felt like it happened to me a
Speaker 1: lot more when I was younger. You'd be like four
Speaker 1: people because it'll be like I'll be in the club,
Speaker 1: right and it'll be like like saying, like when I
Speaker 1: lived in Miami, that's very small, like it's only about
Speaker 1: one club that night or whatever you see, you'll see
Speaker 1: more than one person that you're dealing with. And me,
Speaker 1: I never dealt with those situations very well. At the
Speaker 1: end of the night. It was always somebody cursing me
Speaker 1: out on my text because you have a jug yourself, Like, God,
Speaker 1: have five people in here. That's a lot. I'm probably
Speaker 1: older than you young ladies, a lot older, and I
Speaker 1: look back on those days with pride. I do ha
Speaker 1: ha ha. That was fun. Remember he was in the
Speaker 1: club and it was like four months that ship that
Speaker 1: you like you you lived, you lived, you were living,
Speaker 1: So I I have no shame about that now, Like
Speaker 1: I look back, like you'd like, now y'all gotta lie
Speaker 1: in coming my body. Yeah. See. Now I go out
Speaker 1: and I'll be lucky if I find somebody in the
Speaker 1: club that I even think it's attractive, Like I'll be saying, like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, these fucking ways, but you're not gonna
Speaker 1: really probably meet nobody in the club now, no, but
Speaker 1: back in the day, like now, back then, you know,
Speaker 1: that's some sense that where we're gonna meet these like
Speaker 1: where do you meet these guys? That's why I said that,
Speaker 1: you know, while else I think I'm single. Honestly, it
Speaker 1: is because I made this declaration that sometimes I'm like,
Speaker 1: why did you say this? It was like I don't
Speaker 1: want to deal with anybody that I don't like, if
Speaker 1: that makes any sense, Like you know, like I feel
Speaker 1: like we meet all the time, but to really like someone.
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about being in love. I'm not talking
Speaker 1: about like necessarily oh I want to suck them, but
Speaker 1: like you just like them. And I made that declaration
Speaker 1: and I don't like nobody. Gee, what are you still single? Yes?
Speaker 1: You do? You like anybody? I'm boring? Here? Your bored?
Speaker 1: See why I'm board because I'm not dating. This is
Speaker 1: this is I'm gonna tell you why. Yeah, I'll be
Speaker 1: like gig now, mind you, I only go out for
Speaker 1: like work stuff, but some days, like I might have
Speaker 1: like a day and and is out of town or
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, parents out of town, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, Gigi, let's go, you know, mingo
Speaker 1: with some fellas, and she'll be like, well, she's an
Speaker 1: old Jewish. Yeah, let's go hang out with some thotars, right,
Speaker 1: and just like, well, I just made mac and cheese.
Speaker 1: I got my onesie. I might have the part later.
Speaker 1: I don't know if people shut up me a picture
Speaker 1: with a wine glass. I don't want to my onesie.
Speaker 1: My friends are boring, like, don't you feel like I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna ask your age? But I feel like that's
Speaker 1: when you really like to me, are grown. It is
Speaker 1: when you can be home and you have your Netflix
Speaker 1: and your little drink and I can do that, but
Speaker 1: don't sit here and talk about you bored. If I'm like,
Speaker 1: come on, I don't have dream absolutely right, because you
Speaker 1: can't be like, well, I'm single, but I am not
Speaker 1: really making no effort to going out because girl, I
Speaker 1: had so much. But you don't clash of the game
Speaker 1: with the night before, I wasn't there, Oh girl. I
Speaker 1: came in. I was like five, and the more I
Speaker 1: ain't did that since I was only I came in
Speaker 1: the house and I was leaving for work. I walked
Speaker 1: in and it was just like but then she said,
Speaker 1: I'm not going out anymore. You text me that one
Speaker 1: of those. Well, she's about to get her in place,
Speaker 1: but she's been staying. I got my house, stay there.
Speaker 1: She's been Oh my god, it's not borings. No, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. It used to be so much funner
Speaker 1: because I was crazier. Fun is not a word fun.
Speaker 1: There's definitely worth if conversation is okay sex on the
Speaker 1: first day. I just was talking to somebody who I
Speaker 1: just randomly, you know whatever, our interest is talking to me,
Speaker 1: and she was telling me how she met this guy
Speaker 1: and they had sex on the first day and she
Speaker 1: still with him to this day and it's like three
Speaker 1: years later. I was like, that is amazing because you
Speaker 1: always here like were aligned. You always can have sex
Speaker 1: on the first night and still be together. Why is
Speaker 1: that so? Like? I know, but people always act like, oh,
Speaker 1: a guy is not gonna like you if that happens.
Speaker 1: And I've never believed that. I haven't. I don't either,
Speaker 1: And that's also on that premise of like women you
Speaker 1: should withhold just sex to keep him interested. What if
Speaker 1: you want to have sex? You's always about the men
Speaker 1: people trying to trick him into like, I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: Steve Harvey you said that. Come on, Steve, are you
Speaker 1: and your mustache? Comfort of us could fire? Do you
Speaker 1: remember this movie? Um? Two can play that game. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you something that movie. There's so many jewels
Speaker 1: in that And there's a moment in the film and
Speaker 1: I was thinking about it when you were talking earlier
Speaker 1: where she has she has an issue with Morris Chestnuts character.
Speaker 1: Vivica Fox has an issue with Morris Chestnuts character and
Speaker 1: her girls are like what they all come into like
Speaker 1: what girl? What? What? What? And she turns the camera
Speaker 1: and she says, don't tell your girls what's going on.
Speaker 1: Don't tell them all your business because from this moment on,
Speaker 1: they're gonna see him through that prism of like he
Speaker 1: fucked up. And I was sitting there taking those like
Speaker 1: this movie really did some gems. And in that movie
Speaker 1: they slept together on the first date. So you know,
Speaker 1: there's no I don't think there's a rule necessarily about
Speaker 1: you know when I saw that movie on nine eleven,
Speaker 1: and I won't forget that because I was I was
Speaker 1: living in Jersey City and I could see the smoke
Speaker 1: like above my apartment and there was nothing to do.
Speaker 1: You couldn't go anywhere, so I went to the movie theater.
Speaker 1: I walked over there and I stayed and I saw
Speaker 1: like three movies that day. And that was one of
Speaker 1: the movies that I said, I always when I see
Speaker 1: that movie, think about n that's me and Glitter I
Speaker 1: went to see. I went to see you went to
Speaker 1: the movies to see Glitter. That's my mom, probably like
Speaker 1: the only one person it was like us in a
Speaker 1: gay couple. Sounds right, No, I'm probably gonna believe, okay.
Speaker 1: And I appreciate you so much for coming. I had
Speaker 1: a great time. Jeez, you gotta watch. I'm gonna watch.
Speaker 1: I've been wanting to watch out. I was so excited
Speaker 1: that you guys were coming, because, um, I love the
Speaker 1: movie for one, and I've been hearing so many good
Speaker 1: things about the series. It's so good, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I mean, people have had their criticism, um,
Speaker 1: and it's very interesting because you know, I used to
Speaker 1: write for Empire, and people criticized. I was on a
Speaker 1: couple of episodes. I love Colo Rodriguez. I actually wrote
Speaker 1: um for season to the episode that Charlottagne was in,
Speaker 1: and then I did a voice of it for that
Speaker 1: one right exactly. It was like and coming to the
Speaker 1: stage exactly, I was like why, But um, the criticism
Speaker 1: of the show is so funny because the people who
Speaker 1: absolutely love the show and then the people who were
Speaker 1: just like it's trash, don't watch it. I think it's that,
Speaker 1: but you anticipate that because the show is a polarizing
Speaker 1: type of show. It's polarizing. But sometimes I wonder if
Speaker 1: like we're just much more hard. We're harder on our
Speaker 1: shows than we are on other people's childs. Yes, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's some people are like coming
Speaker 1: for us, like how could you and why would you
Speaker 1: like just support? Like what the fund is the problem?
Speaker 1: If you want more of us on the screen and
Speaker 1: on the television sets, then you gotta support. They still
Speaker 1: watch your friends. That's why you can't trust these friends. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's hard. It's harder for me to watch that show.
Speaker 1: Now there's no black people. It's not one. It's like
Speaker 1: twenty seasons later and Gabrielle, Gabrielle, I thought it was
Speaker 1: the Aisha what was her name, Aisha Tyler? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: black people in the world, that's the only thing, like
Speaker 1: you know and will support that stuff like that. I
Speaker 1: try to watch everything, like we know you watch every
Speaker 1: every black you know, you watch everything. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: don't get it. Don't get it to us that I
Speaker 1: will support, you know, other shows, but like I love
Speaker 1: Curb your Enthusiasm. That's my ship, He's my faith, that's
Speaker 1: my show. But for the most part, there's been a
Speaker 1: lot of love for the show. And you know, it's
Speaker 1: honor for me working with Spike Lee. I'm that Brooklyn kid.
Speaker 1: You know. When I found out Spike had offices on Decalp,
Speaker 1: I was stalk by it, like everything to work out to,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Um, And so to be
Speaker 1: working with him on this show about Brooklyn, it's like
Speaker 1: a big honor for me. But I'm I'm, I'm. A
Speaker 1: lot of us are moved by the reactions that people have,
Speaker 1: especially people from Brooklyn, like finally, like a Brooklyn show
Speaker 1: with Brooklyn black people in it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So we're all really really proud of the work. It
Speaker 1: just felt good. It felt good, you know, to have
Speaker 1: like shows like Insecure, and she always compared Insecure and
Speaker 1: there's like, no, I don't think it's comparable. I would
Speaker 1: they do? They always I would more so say that
Speaker 1: it gives us more like it's like progressive right now
Speaker 1: for black women. I felt in television or films or whatever.
Speaker 1: I feel like now people are starting to see like
Speaker 1: you don't have to be this typical, you know what
Speaker 1: they would think the long hair, light skinned girl like
Speaker 1: you know, and it's not because I got natural here,
Speaker 1: so I went out to that. Now I got natural
Speaker 1: here though, But you know, I just think that's dope
Speaker 1: how we can like shine, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: for a change. And then the whole point of lift service,
Speaker 1: I feel like it's to show that women can talk
Speaker 1: about sex and it don't have to be like so taboo.
Speaker 1: They act like it's such a big deal. People, Oh,
Speaker 1: I can't believe this is trash, a bunch of wholes,
Speaker 1: Like no women have sex talk. I'm sure you have
Speaker 1: sex with us nowadays. You can get nothing on your
Speaker 1: face on HBO, right right, And let's be clear, because
Speaker 1: then if I did not never understood why on Insecure
Speaker 1: she had a problem with him nothing on her face
Speaker 1: because y'all like it, yea like the problem. She should
Speaker 1: have taken it as a compliment beside it in her face.
Speaker 1: It takes me. It takes a while for my two Literally,
Speaker 1: it takes a while for my twist house to dry.
Speaker 1: So if you get a little bit of coming my hair, like,
Speaker 1: that's where the problem is because I'm out of one
Speaker 1: dangly shirt. I didn't have a problem with a problem
Speaker 1: with There's something about Mary. She was a white girl
Speaker 1: and it was funny. Make a song cool? What did
Speaker 1: you twist out? Could you please make that coming out?
Speaker 1: We got two songs because the other song from earlier,
Speaker 1: we got three songs. When the dick get the lip?
Speaker 1: Oh it also instead of wold, I can't wait until
Speaker 1: our mix tape comes out, you know, make sure y'all
Speaker 1: cop that first corn. Well, no, we really really really
Speaker 1: do appreciate you coming by, So thank you first time,
Speaker 1: and thank you for having a platform so that we
Speaker 1: could like freely talk about I see you drink that
Speaker 1: drink down? He said that Dick was too strong. You
Speaker 1: lie back, you know what. I just want to say
Speaker 1: one last thing since we brought up Insecure, the guys
Speaker 1: that my job were so mad. Thatsa ray on that
Speaker 1: show cheated on her boyfriend and like, I'm like, y'all
Speaker 1: cheat every day all the time, Why are you so mad?
Speaker 1: Like I practise you this, the guys will be like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's not a rider, die, he just had an issue
Speaker 1: and she's not gonna stand by her man. She's weak
Speaker 1: for not trying to make things work. And then she
Speaker 1: cheats on him. And mind you, I look at it
Speaker 1: like she cheated on him, but he was really messing.
Speaker 1: He was on the couch, he was supporting him, taking
Speaker 1: care of him, but he wasn't even sleeping right, and
Speaker 1: it was a little you know whatever, And it's cheating
Speaker 1: is wrong, man or woman. But I feel like if
Speaker 1: a woman cheats, people look at it so differently. With
Speaker 1: anything that goes on the relationships, it's always double standard
Speaker 1: with men. Men can go get away with this that
Speaker 1: in the third but as soon as a woman does it,
Speaker 1: then it's got three babies a boy, three baby, didn't
Speaker 1: She's trying to populate the earth with all the hip hop,
Speaker 1: beautiful talented, but nobody talk all fine, and she she
Speaker 1: has some beautiful challenge. I don't feel like she got
Speaker 1: judged though in the beginning they commented on it on
Speaker 1: the Morning where someone like Christie Brinkley, it's the same thing.
Speaker 1: A lot of people don't know that she got three kids,
Speaker 1: about three different Okay, Billy Joe, Billy Joel and two
Speaker 1: of the people I don't know. But all these all
Speaker 1: these baby mama, they wouldn't even call her a baby mama,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like it's just a different set.
Speaker 1: Didn't Shutty Low have like twenty baby moms. But the
Speaker 1: dad but he did though he was trying to a
Speaker 1: reality show back, but like no woman remember when he
Speaker 1: tried to do the reality show and then they actually
Speaker 1: hated it. Yeah, they boycotted in Imagine a woman like
Speaker 1: me and my twenty baby daddies, right, I would be
Speaker 1: all into that show. Who can we see? There's a
Speaker 1: show on TV now I haven't seen it, but it's
Speaker 1: called the Cromarty's. Oh yes, Tera Antonio Cromarty, right, who
Speaker 1: has with his wife, he has about six or seven
Speaker 1: shildre and he by the way, he got to a
Speaker 1: sect to me and still had twins after that. What see,
Speaker 1: I gotta go and you get what yes, terraka Antonio
Speaker 1: crimin I know, yeah, but he so with his wife,
Speaker 1: he has like six or seven children. You've got some
Speaker 1: hell yeah, Like he's like a kid kids, super and
Speaker 1: he got a reality show out of it, and I
Speaker 1: don't think he's being changed, so you know, double standard, ladies.
Speaker 1: This was so much fun. We need to be the
Speaker 1: first woman to have like twenty baby daddies. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I like that first one after y'all, we need listen,
Speaker 1: we need you as the first interview after number twenty,
Speaker 1: I'll be here. Thanks so much for having Thank you