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Speaker 1: Service West Up, It's lip service and you know this

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Speaker 1: is like our special holiday edition and I'm really excited

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Speaker 1: for this and um, we'll get more into it. But

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Speaker 1: I'm Angela. Ye, I'm Laurie how and we have two

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Speaker 1: special guests, Roder Blank and Asa Davis are here. Now,

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Speaker 1: you guys, you women are writers for She's Got to

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Speaker 1: Have It and me and Laura, y'all got into it

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Speaker 1: over this show. I'm gonna tell you why. Because she

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Speaker 1: was mad. I watched the whole thing without her. That

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Speaker 1: was the first thing. That was the first thing. She

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Speaker 1: was on episode five and I was just then putting

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Speaker 1: it on. I'm like, you watched this whole thing. She

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Speaker 1: was like no, because what happened was I had got

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Speaker 1: so I want to make sure I saw all of

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Speaker 1: them and if I wait for her, which just wasn't

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Speaker 1: gonna happen. But she really had an attitude. I was

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Speaker 1: mad better, but I was so excited when I found

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Speaker 1: movie obviously has seen it so long ago, and I

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Speaker 1: remember being like kind of controversial and so different than

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Speaker 1: what was out there at that time, right right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was ahead of his time. I mean, you know,

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Speaker 1: black woman um apologetic about unapologetic, sorry, unapologetic about her

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Speaker 1: sex life, having you know, three lovers and not you know,

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Speaker 1: having any qualms about it thirty years ago. I think, yeah,

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Speaker 1: as far as how society judges you as a woman

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Speaker 1: if you're sleeping with you know, more than one man

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Speaker 1: but you're single. I mean I think it's you know,

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Speaker 1: the changing same like we like to say, because because

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Speaker 1: I think there's more recognition that women should be equal

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Speaker 1: to men, there shouldn't be that double standard. And at

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Speaker 1: the same time, I think that there's still so much

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Speaker 1: in terms of shaming. You know, there's so much in

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Speaker 1: she had that coming to her. You know, she's a

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Speaker 1: whole Like if anything goes wrong, it's like, oh, well

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Speaker 1: she was with you know this, what was she wearing?

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Speaker 1: What time are you coming home? And not blame and

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Speaker 1: you see that it's instantaneous, you know what I mean. Um, like,

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Speaker 1: you see somebody like Rihanna, and we love her, and

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Speaker 1: we actually love the fact of what she represents, Like

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Speaker 1: she's unapologetic about whatever she does. She makes these guys

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Speaker 1: look crazy, right, and she's just like, I don't give

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Speaker 1: you know, women from the Caribbean and don't apologize for

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Speaker 1: short nibat. But but there's always some scrutiny behind it,

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Speaker 1: you know, And so we're not quite there yet. Women

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Speaker 1: still make what seventies cents to the men to the

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Speaker 1: go as as women. But I think that in this

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Speaker 1: women permission to just do whatever the funk they want,

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Speaker 1: then we need to kind of support those kind of

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Speaker 1: come out, just saying, like, you know, I'm releasing my

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Speaker 1: inner Nola. That's it. Summer two thousand eighteen. I'm no

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Speaker 1: longer apologizing for what I want to do. I don't

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Speaker 1: which to me, that's really what's messed up. The thing

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Speaker 1: and that's what I think. You know, people who are

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Speaker 1: it's like it's both psychological health is also physical health,

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Speaker 1: Like you need to know things, And I think that's

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Speaker 1: That's what about them meeting each other, though I think

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Speaker 1: always say becky is like you know, obviously that came

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Speaker 1: remember that a chicken chicken chicken head. So it's like

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Speaker 1: But when that song came out, it just at the

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Speaker 1: to nothing that's coming out now. It's like people talking

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Speaker 1: back then. You know that he said lay your head

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Speaker 1: What's it? Yeah, rail lay your head of my fellow?

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Speaker 1: What called me that? Because she said Rapiela, did you

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Speaker 1: is it gonna be Jamie Grier? Mars are open? Pick Mars? Okay? Right?

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00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 1: You mean that we would want to in your real life,

428
00:23:56,080 --> 00:24:00,240
Speaker 1: who would you date? Who would all of them? It

429
00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:04,199
Speaker 1: would be Mars? Right, Um, Opal to me is a

430
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 1: grown ass woman and I appreciate that about it. But

431
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:11,240
Speaker 1: for me, laughter is so important like learning how to

432
00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 1: diffuse by laughter and also Mars when that thing went

433
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 1: down with her graffiti, like he was he's ready to

434
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 1: pop off, but he was so proactive about helping to

435
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:24,879
Speaker 1: solve her problem. So he had the humorous sign and

436
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:27,160
Speaker 1: then he had like a really I feel like out

437
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 1: of the three men, not so much Opal, but out

438
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:32,639
Speaker 1: of the three men, he wanted to possess her the

439
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 1: least you know it. He was dating her friend first though, Yeah,

440
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 1: but he did ask the friends for money. He asked

441
00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 1: the friend for money for her, So I guess you

442
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,359
Speaker 1: know that's over, but that's because they still come up

443
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:49,800
Speaker 1: in their friendship. Yeah, she uh, Clarinda does bring up

444
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 1: the G code, the girl code, like you. I like

445
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: that y'all did that because it seemed like the elephant

446
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 1: in the run that nobody was gonna say anything about.

447
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:00,760
Speaker 1: But then she came out was like, well you know

448
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: that was my men, Like what's up? Do you think?

449
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 1: But here's the thing, though, do you think Clarinda really

450
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 1: wanted to be with Mars so she was more upset

451
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 1: friends friend to her. Yeah she's gonna okay, yeah, you

452
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 1: got it. You gotta netflix and chill it up. They're

453
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,640
Speaker 1: just like the opposite to that attract, which is why

454
00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 1: you know Solrenda and Mars. I've Mars and Nolan have

455
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,880
Speaker 1: a little opposite of track. So Okay, she's not living

456
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 1: with her sister in the project, not that there's a

457
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 1: judgment on that, but um, he travels by bike. She

458
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 1: just not, you know what I mean, Like there's an

459
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:44,719
Speaker 1: age difference. He's goofy, is fun, like he's fun, but Loki,

460
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: he's really immature a little bit. I don't think I

461
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 1: can't see him with that with the one. I'm sorry

462
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 1: for Clarinda, So I'm gonna feels and and for our

463
00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:58,959
Speaker 1: listeners who maybe didn't see she's got to have it yet,

464
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 1: but I know you're all gonna why too now, So um,

465
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,400
Speaker 1: she's got to have it right. Nola Darling has four

466
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,120
Speaker 1: different levers, three of them a man, one of them

467
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 1: is a woman. They all know about each other basically,

468
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 1: and so they all have very extremely different personalities. So

469
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 1: Mars is the one that's like fun, but he's probably

470
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 1: the least established out of all of them. So yeah,

471
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 1: he's the youngest, but he's fun young. Yeah, I mean,

472
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:27,040
Speaker 1: and I felt this way in the original movie. I

473
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 1: felt like Mars was the person I would want to

474
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 1: kick it with. You know what, he put her panties,

475
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 1: panties on Mars also, well, no, I mean this is

476
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:40,639
Speaker 1: the thing is that I kind of wouldn't be with

477
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,199
Speaker 1: any of them. I would I mean, you have to

478
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 1: pick one, like, no, I do? I know, well, I'm

479
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 1: kind of this is a thing where you kind of

480
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: see a little bit of evolution with this character through

481
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: the series, and so Greer that I mean, what I

482
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 1: would pick really is like I just want to be

483
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 1: a man because I'm straight. That's to do it, because

484
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 1: she's like just dope. But um, I feel like Greer

485
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,880
Speaker 1: actually is he starts to shift, he starts to kind

486
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 1: of soften and see her and and you can kind

487
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: of feel that, you know, maybe the whole arrogance thing

488
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: really is this act that he's been putting on all

489
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: these years, and that you know, there's actually something that

490
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 1: is really sweet and giving, you know, and where they

491
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 1: somehow can really connect in terms of the visuals with

492
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 1: him being a photographer a painter, and that they actually

493
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 1: might have this real connection artists, you know what. You

494
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 1: know what, It's funny a lot of the feedback I

495
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 1: see online social media about Greer is people think that

496
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 1: he's low key gay, and I was just like, really

497
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 1: because because but he but he addresses like Prince and

498
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:58,360
Speaker 1: Prince love himself someone you know what I mean, Like

499
00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:04,960
Speaker 1: you can say, okay, let's see um. It's just it's

500
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 1: just so funny to me that in two thousand seventeen,

501
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:11,439
Speaker 1: two eighteen, like a guy folding his legs or you know,

502
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 1: being greased down or crawling across the floor like a line.

503
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: I feel like you could you set to laugh that thing?

504
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 1: I know, I felt like you can laugh at him

505
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:22,719
Speaker 1: because as soon as he would have got a hall

506
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 1: for all. Right. Now, that brings me to my next thing.

507
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,199
Speaker 1: What's the corniest thing a guy has ever done in

508
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,879
Speaker 1: the bedroom with you? Will start with you? That you

509
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: was like because Greg actually crawled across the floor and

510
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:37,160
Speaker 1: he's like like like I got a line in my pocket.

511
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 1: And I thought that was so corny. I was like,

512
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: if a guy did that to me, it might just

513
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 1: like complete. He's like, no, man's gonna head at how

514
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: I'm about to head at right now. I don't know.

515
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: Corny would probably be to just talk a whole bunch

516
00:28:56,200 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 1: of game and not be able to back it up.

517
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 1: I think that's corny to me, right, Yeah, should never

518
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 1: talk a lot of ship and just guys, and guys

519
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 1: have a problem with that, like they, you know, prior

520
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: to get in with you, they tell you all these

521
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 1: things they're gonna do to you and with you, and

522
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 1: then crickets. Right, So you're trying to say they should, um,

523
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 1: what is it? Under selling over delivery? That's it. They

524
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:21,680
Speaker 1: should try doing that. But then you can't also under

525
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 1: undersell it because then you'll be like, yeah, it's gonna

526
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: be okay, like Dick is a regular you gotta go,

527
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 1: But just don't. It's fun go that hard with saying

528
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: you know how great you are? Yeah, really, in our

529
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 1: reality you ain't really all that great. I think too

530
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 1: much conversation about the sex, like this is gonna be

531
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 1: the best sex you've ever had. How about you just

532
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: shut up, shut up and put up, because those are

533
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:48,560
Speaker 1: the corny moments to me. When someone's like talking to

534
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 1: me while you you like it, who's this this? And

535
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,720
Speaker 1: it's just like you really want to know who's it's

536
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 1: it's Jesus, Like, what do you want me to say

537
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 1: that you hold it? You're renting this for the hour,

538
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 1: you temporarily in this moment. So they're talking the corny talking.

539
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 1: I could do without, man, I mean I just had

540
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 1: a flashback. I mean, you know when you're in relationship

541
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: for a while, it was like maybe the second year

542
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: or something, and you're kind of looking for things to

543
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 1: like spice it up, right, And I was laying on

544
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 1: the bed and then how did he just like come

545
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 1: out of the hallway and into the bedroom but naked

546
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 1: with with like a neon bow tie? On? Man, how

547
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 1: do you why do you have it? From his job?

548
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 1: He thought, I don't know, somehow I gonna just make me,

549
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: you know, just jump out of my panties. So what

550
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: do you do? I was just like, that looks really stupid.

551
00:30:56,600 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 1: Why are you doing this? How that Gan? I mean,

552
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 1: I feel for him because he was trying, but no,

553
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 1: he tried it effort. It did the opposite for me,

554
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 1: So was that it for you? No? No, we we tried,

555
00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: we made we but yeah, eventually that was a sign.

556
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 1: Maybe yeah he's like family, But I think we never

557
00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: really had a full kind of sexual chemistry, you know

558
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 1: what I mean? I did. It was one guy and

559
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 1: he had uh. So the first time I went to

560
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 1: his house. I had never been there before, and this

561
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 1: is when I was in college, and it was like

562
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: you know, um, you know, we were home for the holiday.

563
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 1: So I went to his house and he had a

564
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 1: water bed. Damn, I forgot about that. It was I've

565
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:49,479
Speaker 1: never seen a water bed before in my life. Listen,

566
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 1: I don't know why he had a water bed like

567
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 1: I've never seen when I didn't even know they existed

568
00:31:54,840 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 1: anything ready I had. So I come into the bedroom

569
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 1: and he I'm embarrassed. I don't want to know. You

570
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 1: gotta finish, to finish. She had a leopard like or

571
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 1: something underwear, and he was like laying on the water bed,

572
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 1: feel like a movie. His body was like, by the way,

573
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 1: why does nobody use water beds anymore? Because they stubb

574
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: and it's probably mad back terry and that ship. No,

575
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: I don't want it. I'm just wondering because you know

576
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 1: where he anybody out there. He probably thought the water

577
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 1: bed was gonna help, you know, make you feel, but

578
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 1: then squishing around. Hold on, no, now I want to

579
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 1: try that. I gotta find the water bed. I do

580
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 1: want to have sex on the water I want to

581
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: make love on the water beds gonna get some lettuce tonight?

582
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 1: How was it? And you gotta just play some type

583
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 1: of like ocean music or something. But how would like

584
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 1: how was sucking on the water. I didn't him on

585
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,200
Speaker 1: the water bed. It was now because yeah, he had

586
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: on the leopards. That's what really ruined it. It It wasn't

587
00:32:58,080 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 1: just the I was first. I don't know where you

588
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 1: even would at one from what because it has to

589
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 1: like a vantage. I don't sleep. Here's another debate we had, Okay,

590
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 1: g are you more the type of person who likes

591
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: somebody more in the beginning and then it wears off

592
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 1: or don't like somebody so much, but they really grow

593
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 1: on you and then you fall in love. I think

594
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 1: I don't like them at first, thank you, and then

595
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 1: they grow on me and not eventually fall in love.

596
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:35,959
Speaker 1: Persistance of it comes resistance. Baby arguing about this for years,

597
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:40,480
Speaker 1: there has there has been a few that I thought like,

598
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: oh my god, he's amazing, and then want, want, want,

599
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 1: But there's been more of I guess eventually like and

600
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 1: then he's like, bitch, get out of here. You don't

601
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 1: like me, and what about you? Rather? I'm a libra,

602
00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 1: so I I fall in love like twenty times a day,

603
00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:05,480
Speaker 1: and and then somewhere around it goes, oh, oh, you

604
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 1: don't really like this person. This is not gonna farewell

605
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 1: in the real world. But like yeah, like in the

606
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 1: very beginning, like I just a laugh or something about

607
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 1: them makes me go, oh, is this person that I

608
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 1: need to be around them? And then you know the

609
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:25,439
Speaker 1: reality I see like an Ashley foot or skid mark

610
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:29,359
Speaker 1: or something that makes me did you did you just

611
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 1: say a skid mark in his draws? Listen the toilet

612
00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 1: or something like the carpet. I've had that experience. Yeah,

613
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 1: it was. It was just I didn't really get a

614
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 1: good look. I just would you being a cooler or

615
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 1: it was just a grown man. This was years ago,

616
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 1: and maybe he was Okay, you don't know how to

617
00:34:57,440 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 1: wipe itself. He's still young. Real quickly, Walmart sells water

618
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 1: beds and there's look at a place called water bed Outlet.

619
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 1: Much with the holidays with thousand dollars. Wow, he was

620
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 1: boiling Jesus with free shipping. I'm I'm getting your buttter bed.

621
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 1: I'm playing. It's like the whole wooden vercludes everything. It's

622
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 1: a whole bed whom set sparkling appreciate playing with me.

623
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 1: I'm getting a water bed. Okay, sorry the Leppard speedo.

624
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 1: It's probably good for your bad Can you imagine just

625
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: how harderness to get to so good on the water bed?

626
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 1: Like you go like this be girl like a drama.

627
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 1: Men have dreams about being on the end too Titanic

628
00:35:55,920 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 1: or slave show, slave ship like it nowadays about it,

629
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,479
Speaker 1: you said you're more of a like fall in love,

630
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 1: but then like like like like a lot in the

631
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 1: beginning and then I mean, I've had situations where I

632
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:10,879
Speaker 1: get to know that I go more so it's a

633
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: big emotion in the very beginning, and then it kind

634
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:17,799
Speaker 1: of changes into something else, you know. But yeah, what

635
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,600
Speaker 1: about you, Issa, Yeah, I'm the same way. I just

636
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 1: fall like that. I mean sometimes people like slowly creep

637
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 1: up when I was like, let me check this person out.

638
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 1: But you know, it's really only been one person that

639
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 1: I was ever with, where at first I was kind

640
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 1: of like you corny, and then you know, a couple

641
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:41,720
Speaker 1: of scotches later, I'm like, oh, I'm enjoyed talking good

642
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 1: But no, I mean, yeah, I would say that I'm

643
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 1: definitely I just I see it right away. And also

644
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 1: because I think I see right over people's shortcomings. I

645
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 1: don't even notice them. It's deep. It's like, I mean,

646
00:36:56,680 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 1: I think that really that really happened, like you know,

647
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:02,560
Speaker 1: with this one person actually who I didn't really like

648
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,799
Speaker 1: it first. I was just kind of like, okay, now

649
00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 1: if I'm liking you, then you know, I actually am

650
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 1: finding that I'm not even annoyed with you ever, Like

651
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: I'm just kind of recognizing these certain things about you

652
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 1: or just your personality, and it's not really something that

653
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: you know, I should trip on, you know. So that's

654
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: that's my problem, because obviously sometimes people just aren't right

655
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 1: for you, and then you're not compatible. And then I

656
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 1: think we've know. You know, they say when a relationship ends,

657
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 1: it actually ended, like say a relationship was the was

658
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 1: the length of two years, and it ends they say

659
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:44,840
Speaker 1: the relationship end of the year ago. But you just haven't.

660
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 1: I think for women, we'd be out of a relationship

661
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: before the man knows that we're out of it, right,

662
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 1: I tell you, I was done with this naked girl.

663
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 1: They don't know that we're they're messing up, and they

664
00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 1: think we're forgiving them and we're but we're really like

665
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 1: mentally like Okay, right, that's cool. Two months later, come

666
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 1: that in the book, but this in the book. Yeah,

667
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 1: and then and then by the time we're already kind

668
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 1: of recuperated because we've been dealing with it and knowing

669
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 1: it's about to happen and like going through it, so

670
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 1: that by the time it's time to break up, you

671
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,960
Speaker 1: already the broke up and went through all the emotions.

672
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 1: And then guys are just off guard, like, oh, Ship,

673
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 1: I didn't see that coming. You know that happened with

674
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend, the one that I was with for

675
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:26,880
Speaker 1: five years. Oh yeah, I knew I was and he

676
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:28,320
Speaker 1: did so much. Ship. I knew I was going to

677
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 1: break up with him. I just wasn't ready to do

678
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,560
Speaker 1: it right away. But then by the time I was ready,

679
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 1: I was. It was a clean break, no going back,

680
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:36,359
Speaker 1: and he really thought we were going to work it out.

681
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 1: And when you when you were when you knew you

682
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: wanted to break you knew the relationship was over, but

683
00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 1: didn't break up with him. What caused you to stick around?

684
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,240
Speaker 1: I didn't really know what I did, but I didn't

685
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 1: like there's a lot of things that I felt like

686
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 1: he was doing and he didn't stop doing them, and

687
00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:54,359
Speaker 1: I just wasn't ready to break up with him yet,

688
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 1: so but emotionally I was like kind of distancing myself

689
00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:00,359
Speaker 1: until I was prepared, because it's like you could either

690
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:02,520
Speaker 1: break up with somebody and then like just be away

691
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 1: from them but still be not over it. But I

692
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 1: was like kind of getting it over it while I

693
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:09,960
Speaker 1: was still with him. That was a weird thing. No,

694
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:12,440
Speaker 1: he had no clue. Yeah, he thought Listen, he was

695
00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 1: chilling thinking that like we were going to break up,

696
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 1: and then you know, when we did break up, he

697
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 1: thought that I would like forgive him eventually, and I

698
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 1: just never did. But that's because I went through it

699
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: all for like months. If I think they don't you

700
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 1: think men do that too, where they'll they'll be done

701
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 1: with you and yeah know they'll be with another woman

702
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 1: and then hanging in there and assholes until you break

703
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 1: up with them because they don't really want to break

704
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 1: up with you. They don't want to be I'm telling you,

705
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: they get another woman breaking up with you. They go

706
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 1: out and yeah, they'll get another woman. And when you

707
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:41,760
Speaker 1: break up is when you find out. When you find

708
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: out about the woman, and you're so mad and you

709
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 1: confront him and you're like, I'm gonna leave you. That's

710
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 1: when y'all break up. But he's not gonna just talk

711
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 1: this over here. He's not gonna be like it's not working,

712
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 1: I don't want to be with you. He's just gonna

713
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: sunk up until you break up with him. That's right.

714
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 1: I have a question for you all, um about the

715
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 1: concept of cheating, Like I feel like a lot of

716
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 1: women have kind of when they go into relationships, they

717
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:09,840
Speaker 1: just have an expectation that a man is going to cheat.

718
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 1: She does, she does. Yeah, I think a majority and

719
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 1: men cheat like majority, I'm not gonna say a percent,

720
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 1: but maybe like ninety eight point nine. I did the

721
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 1: pole and when I came up with was ninety eight

722
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 1: point nine. I don't go in with that expectation. I mean,

723
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 1: I don't want I don't go into a relationship like, yes,

724
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 1: I want him to cheat on me. It's not like that. No,

725
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:38,279
Speaker 1: But I think when I go into a relationship, like

726
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 1: you know, a lot of men cheat. I'm not saying

727
00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 1: and I'm not okay with it at all. So you know,

728
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 1: I try to be on my p's and queues. You

729
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 1: know what I mean. You have no female friends, you

730
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:53,960
Speaker 1: can't tell nobody about friends, you know what they talk

731
00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 1: majority of a friend. We had Kevin Hard on right

732
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 1: the breakfast club, and he talked a lot about another

733
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 1: unfaithful man. And by the way, anyway, I didn't see

734
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: that coming when that happened the way that a day

735
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 1: with Kevin Hart, only because I mean I really didn't

736
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: because of his humorous persona was because he went through

737
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: so much before with his ex wife. He didn't have

738
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 1: to get married, so I thought that he had just

739
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 1: kind of like you know, gotten over it. But anyway,

740
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: after the interview, the guys Umne was saying to me,

741
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 1: they were like, why do you women want to know

742
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: why men cheat? We don't even know why we cheat.

743
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:29,240
Speaker 1: In their nature, they can't help it. But that's also

744
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 1: like an excuse for them too. I feel it's like

745
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 1: giving them an excuse, like it's just don't ask us why.

746
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 1: We don't know why, and it's not even a reason.

747
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 1: You're not even giving a reason. You just said we

748
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,359
Speaker 1: don't know why. I know someone who said just gi

749
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 1: to your point. Um he was just it was almost

750
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 1: like he was like a seventh or five percent of

751
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:50,440
Speaker 1: you know, street knowledge. He's like, man cheat because our

752
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 1: organs is on the outside. You know what I'm saying,

753
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:57,320
Speaker 1: Your organs is on the inside, and the outside organ

754
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 1: is always seeking the inside or you know what I mean.

755
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:06,839
Speaker 1: But that he was kind of like explaining in a

756
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 1: way by nature. But I do think men cheat because

757
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:15,520
Speaker 1: some men, of course general generalizing here belvis here, some

758
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 1: men do cheat, I think because they are influenced by

759
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:24,759
Speaker 1: their social set and they have friends make them feel like,

760
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 1: really gonna lock it down with that girl, just her,

761
00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 1: because they'd be having a trash girl. And then they

762
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 1: see their men, if you backs though, like they'd be

763
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 1: having a trash girl. And then they see their men

764
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: all happy and in love with the perfect person that

765
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: they wish they could be with. So now they're like, now,

766
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:44,839
Speaker 1: y'all sound like some better men because men do that,

767
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 1: because women don't we do that too, Like aren't you

768
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 1: influenced by your friends? Also? I never time my friends like,

769
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 1: oh ne that you tell them, But I'm just saying,

770
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: like the girls that do that when your friends are single,

771
00:42:57,239 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 1: it's like fun, it looks like more fun sometimes. Yeah,

772
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 1: then when you know what I'm saying, and I'm sure

773
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 1: it's that way with men too. I mean when I listen,

774
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 1: men are like that when their friends not even single. Yeah,

775
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:11,279
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because men are married are

776
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 1: not saying and they still are singing. They're like, come on,

777
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: we're going to the strip club. Like she's she's not

778
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:22,760
Speaker 1: letting you go to the strip club. She's crazy, Like, oh,

779
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:29,400
Speaker 1: that's another good Netflix. Seriously, she's married. I'm not serious.

780
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 1: Single married man, single married man, single married man. You know,

781
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 1: he's a single married man. I feel I feel like,

782
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 1: I don't think this is necessarily a mature man. But

783
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 1: I sometimes I wonder if men make choices based on

784
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 1: what their friends think. You know what I mean, because

785
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 1: I'm I'm just speaking from personal experience. I've always been

786
00:43:57,280 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 1: like a thick girl and the funny girl. And that

787
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 1: you said a dick girl, I'm about to say I've

788
00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:09,239
Speaker 1: been a girl too. I've been that girl who in

789
00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:13,840
Speaker 1: high school, a certain guy will like me, but because

790
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:16,760
Speaker 1: his social set expects him to date a certain type

791
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 1: of girl, he won't. They might want to step to

792
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 1: me in the cloak of night or what have you,

793
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:24,839
Speaker 1: because he's so influenced by the men in his life.

794
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: And sometimes I wonder when I see men choose women.

795
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 1: Are they choosing them because they really want to be

796
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 1: with that woman or because the woman fits the image

797
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 1: for their friends, you know what I mean? Like that's

798
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:41,040
Speaker 1: not necessarily an evolved man or, but I know a

799
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: lot of men who do that. I mean, at our industry,

800
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 1: they a lot of times. I think, you know, men

801
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:51,919
Speaker 1: pick women based on their image and all the same

802
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 1: just saying do you feel like for both of you,

803
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 1: do you feel like men like you because of what

804
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 1: you do? Sometimes too, I would say, so they'd be like,

805
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 1: are you know she didn't she AMPI and she broke Yeah,

806
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:17,400
Speaker 1: you know Spike, oh yeah, going to a game or

807
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:20,160
Speaker 1: just you know, because I also I say as well.

808
00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 1: So it's like, you know, I feel like in some

809
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 1: ways that actually is something I have to get around

810
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:28,720
Speaker 1: because if someone has what we call a talent crush

811
00:45:29,120 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 1: on you, talent crush, then they might not actually be

812
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 1: down for who you are as a person. You know.

813
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 1: That's what I really love in in at the end

814
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 1: of she's got to have it, you know, she comes

815
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,319
Speaker 1: out and she's got her head wrap on, she's got

816
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 1: on her T shirt. You know, she's not like, dude

817
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 1: up for these men when she when she first comes out,

818
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: and I just love that she's just like just taking

819
00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 1: me as I am, you know, like I don't have

820
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 1: to be flashy for you. I don't have to put

821
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 1: on anything for you. Like but that's part of that

822
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 1: talent crushes that are this that should look cool too.

823
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,479
Speaker 1: When she's like doing in the house and she because

824
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 1: you don't expect her to be done at that's how

825
00:46:06,080 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 1: you're supposed to, like wander wise, it's like gorgeous drop

826
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 1: off makeup, not nothing. And every time she smokes a

827
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:19,240
Speaker 1: joint it makes me want to smoke to triggers that desire,

828
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:21,320
Speaker 1: but you smoke every day anyway, So I don't know

829
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 1: what a lot like. I quit and then I saw Nola.

830
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 1: I was like no, no, you know, I gotta roll

831
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:33,880
Speaker 1: up just like a drinking like yeah, last day, no tomorrow, tomorrow,

832
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 1: stepping out of stepping out, Thank you so much. Al

833
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: right e Sa Davis, I have a proper good time. Um.

834
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 1: I used to do stand up comedy for a number

835
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:52,440
Speaker 1: of years and I had to like girl, yes, and

836
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: I had to like, you know, it's very flattering when

837
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 1: men are like, you know, very into you and stuff

838
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 1: and they you then you catch it, you go, oh,

839
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 1: you just saw me perform. That's who you like, that's

840
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 1: who you might be feeling, you know. Um. But and

841
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 1: I remember, even when I was doing like a lot

842
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 1: of theater and plays, all these fine as actors like yeah,

843
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:18,759
Speaker 1: you know, we should too long, we should let's go

844
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 1: out to see and I'm like, yeah, all right, good.

845
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:22,479
Speaker 1: And then after a while, you're like in the middle

846
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:25,280
Speaker 1: of what you think is a date, You're like, oh,

847
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 1: he thinks like I'm gonna put him in a play

848
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:31,399
Speaker 1: or get him a role and spike or whatever. Like

849
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 1: there are those people, which is why I think I

850
00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 1: tend to not date people. And then and it's interested

851
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:40,799
Speaker 1: in the arts who aren't impressed, who can be supportive

852
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 1: of you and what you want to do, but they're

853
00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: not like ask you all these questions of yeah, you

854
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:47,800
Speaker 1: know what I mean. That's so annoying because but I

855
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:49,319
Speaker 1: leave it. I don't even really want to talk about

856
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 1: what just tell you I do not feel like it.

857
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 1: I don't feel like And then it's so awkward if

858
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 1: you're like dating somebody and they need a favorite, like

859
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:58,960
Speaker 1: I wouldn't date somebody that needs favors, right, but you know,

860
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 1: have a question. So, if you don't date guys in

861
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 1: the industry and stuff like that, or you you try

862
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: not to, where do you meet these guys that you

863
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:11,839
Speaker 1: do end up dating? Girl, see you single, I'm very

864
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:16,320
Speaker 1: very She's like, you know, like I recently, you know,

865
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,759
Speaker 1: I spend time between New York and Baltimore now. So

866
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 1: it's that's a whole new gene that I've but it's

867
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:29,279
Speaker 1: it can be tough because a lot of times I

868
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:32,240
Speaker 1: feel like I've I don't tell people what I do

869
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 1: because I just want them to meet me. Even when

870
00:48:34,360 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 1: I lived in l A at one point, you know,

871
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 1: you go to parties and people like, so what do

872
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:40,960
Speaker 1: you do? What do you do? And that's all I say,

873
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:42,760
Speaker 1: And I would just be like, I'm trying to figure

874
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:44,960
Speaker 1: things out. And if they walk away from me, then

875
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 1: that's somebody I don't Next time, you gotta be like,

876
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 1: I smack people to ask me what do I do.

877
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:54,399
Speaker 1: I'm joking. I'm joking, all right that ladies. Have y'all

878
00:48:54,440 --> 00:48:57,719
Speaker 1: ever been in in a situation in a room where

879
00:48:57,719 --> 00:49:02,880
Speaker 1: you saw more than one person you dated, you like

880
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:11,360
Speaker 1: at a party and like it I just okay, you

881
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 1: know what I felt like it happened to me a

882
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 1: lot more when I was younger. You'd be like four

883
00:49:16,280 --> 00:49:19,920
Speaker 1: people because it'll be like I'll be in the club,

884
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: right and it'll be like like saying, like when I

885
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 1: lived in Miami, that's very small, like it's only about

886
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 1: one club that night or whatever you see, you'll see

887
00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 1: more than one person that you're dealing with. And me,

888
00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 1: I never dealt with those situations very well. At the

889
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 1: end of the night. It was always somebody cursing me

890
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 1: out on my text because you have a jug yourself, Like, God,

891
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 1: have five people in here. That's a lot. I'm probably

892
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: older than you young ladies, a lot older, and I

893
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:56,040
Speaker 1: look back on those days with pride. I do ha

894
00:49:56,239 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 1: ha ha. That was fun. Remember he was in the

895
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 1: club and it was like four months that ship that

896
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:06,960
Speaker 1: you like you you lived, you lived, you were living,

897
00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:09,840
Speaker 1: So I I have no shame about that now, Like

898
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:13,960
Speaker 1: I look back, like you'd like, now y'all gotta lie

899
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 1: in coming my body. Yeah. See. Now I go out

900
00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:26,320
Speaker 1: and I'll be lucky if I find somebody in the

901
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 1: club that I even think it's attractive, Like I'll be saying, like,

902
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:33,839
Speaker 1: oh my god, these fucking ways, but you're not gonna

903
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:37,359
Speaker 1: really probably meet nobody in the club now, no, but

904
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:41,319
Speaker 1: back in the day, like now, back then, you know,

905
00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:43,200
Speaker 1: that's some sense that where we're gonna meet these like

906
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:45,319
Speaker 1: where do you meet these guys? That's why I said that,

907
00:50:45,640 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 1: you know, while else I think I'm single. Honestly, it

908
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 1: is because I made this declaration that sometimes I'm like,

909
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:53,120
Speaker 1: why did you say this? It was like I don't

910
00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:56,359
Speaker 1: want to deal with anybody that I don't like, if

911
00:50:56,400 --> 00:50:59,319
Speaker 1: that makes any sense, Like you know, like I feel

912
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 1: like we meet all the time, but to really like someone.

913
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:04,279
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about being in love. I'm not talking

914
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 1: about like necessarily oh I want to suck them, but

915
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:11,759
Speaker 1: like you just like them. And I made that declaration

916
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:17,280
Speaker 1: and I don't like nobody. Gee, what are you still single? Yes?

917
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:24,720
Speaker 1: You do? You like anybody? I'm boring? Here? Your bored?

918
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 1: See why I'm board because I'm not dating. This is

919
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:34,360
Speaker 1: this is I'm gonna tell you why. Yeah, I'll be

920
00:51:34,400 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 1: like gig now, mind you, I only go out for

921
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:39,400
Speaker 1: like work stuff, but some days, like I might have

922
00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:43,040
Speaker 1: like a day and and is out of town or

923
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:44,880
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, parents out of town, and

924
00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:47,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, Gigi, let's go, you know, mingo

925
00:51:47,840 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 1: with some fellas, and she'll be like, well, she's an

926
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:56,799
Speaker 1: old Jewish. Yeah, let's go hang out with some thotars, right,

927
00:51:57,280 --> 00:51:59,840
Speaker 1: and just like, well, I just made mac and cheese.

928
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 1: I got my onesie. I might have the part later.

929
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:06,840
Speaker 1: I don't know if people shut up me a picture

930
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:09,320
Speaker 1: with a wine glass. I don't want to my onesie.

931
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:14,160
Speaker 1: My friends are boring, like, don't you feel like I'm

932
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:16,839
Speaker 1: not gonna ask your age? But I feel like that's

933
00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:19,640
Speaker 1: when you really like to me, are grown. It is

934
00:52:19,680 --> 00:52:22,839
Speaker 1: when you can be home and you have your Netflix

935
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 1: and your little drink and I can do that, but

936
00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:28,400
Speaker 1: don't sit here and talk about you bored. If I'm like,

937
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: come on, I don't have dream absolutely right, because you

938
00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 1: can't be like, well, I'm single, but I am not

939
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:35,360
Speaker 1: really making no effort to going out because girl, I

940
00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 1: had so much. But you don't clash of the game

941
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 1: with the night before, I wasn't there, Oh girl. I

942
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:41,719
Speaker 1: came in. I was like five, and the more I

943
00:52:41,719 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 1: ain't did that since I was only I came in

944
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:46,240
Speaker 1: the house and I was leaving for work. I walked

945
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:48,960
Speaker 1: in and it was just like but then she said,

946
00:52:49,000 --> 00:52:52,359
Speaker 1: I'm not going out anymore. You text me that one

947
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:54,840
Speaker 1: of those. Well, she's about to get her in place,

948
00:52:54,960 --> 00:52:58,080
Speaker 1: but she's been staying. I got my house, stay there.

949
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:06,839
Speaker 1: She's been Oh my god, it's not borings. No, I'm

950
00:53:06,880 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. It used to be so much funner

951
00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:11,319
Speaker 1: because I was crazier. Fun is not a word fun.

952
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:16,400
Speaker 1: There's definitely worth if conversation is okay sex on the

953
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:22,400
Speaker 1: first day. I just was talking to somebody who I

954
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:24,920
Speaker 1: just randomly, you know whatever, our interest is talking to me,

955
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 1: and she was telling me how she met this guy

956
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 1: and they had sex on the first day and she

957
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:30,440
Speaker 1: still with him to this day and it's like three

958
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:33,800
Speaker 1: years later. I was like, that is amazing because you

959
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: always here like were aligned. You always can have sex

960
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:39,640
Speaker 1: on the first night and still be together. Why is

961
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:42,200
Speaker 1: that so? Like? I know, but people always act like, oh,

962
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 1: a guy is not gonna like you if that happens.

963
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:47,160
Speaker 1: And I've never believed that. I haven't. I don't either,

964
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 1: And that's also on that premise of like women you

965
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 1: should withhold just sex to keep him interested. What if

966
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:55,960
Speaker 1: you want to have sex? You's always about the men

967
00:53:56,160 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 1: people trying to trick him into like, I'm gonna tell

968
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:01,400
Speaker 1: Steve Harvey you said that. Come on, Steve, are you

969
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:06,440
Speaker 1: and your mustache? Comfort of us could fire? Do you

970
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 1: remember this movie? Um? Two can play that game. Let

971
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 1: me tell you something that movie. There's so many jewels

972
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 1: in that And there's a moment in the film and

973
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:19,400
Speaker 1: I was thinking about it when you were talking earlier

974
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:24,240
Speaker 1: where she has she has an issue with Morris Chestnuts character.

975
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:27,520
Speaker 1: Vivica Fox has an issue with Morris Chestnuts character and

976
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:30,680
Speaker 1: her girls are like what they all come into like

977
00:54:30,719 --> 00:54:32,920
Speaker 1: what girl? What? What? What? And she turns the camera

978
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:36,200
Speaker 1: and she says, don't tell your girls what's going on.

979
00:54:37,080 --> 00:54:40,319
Speaker 1: Don't tell them all your business because from this moment on,

980
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 1: they're gonna see him through that prism of like he

981
00:54:43,440 --> 00:54:46,799
Speaker 1: fucked up. And I was sitting there taking those like

982
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 1: this movie really did some gems. And in that movie

983
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 1: they slept together on the first date. So you know,

984
00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 1: there's no I don't think there's a rule necessarily about

985
00:54:55,200 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 1: you know when I saw that movie on nine eleven,

986
00:54:58,040 --> 00:54:59,680
Speaker 1: and I won't forget that because I was I was

987
00:54:59,719 --> 00:55:02,320
Speaker 1: living in Jersey City and I could see the smoke

988
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:05,440
Speaker 1: like above my apartment and there was nothing to do.

989
00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:08,160
Speaker 1: You couldn't go anywhere, so I went to the movie theater.

990
00:55:08,440 --> 00:55:10,759
Speaker 1: I walked over there and I stayed and I saw

991
00:55:10,800 --> 00:55:12,319
Speaker 1: like three movies that day. And that was one of

992
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:14,160
Speaker 1: the movies that I said, I always when I see

993
00:55:14,160 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 1: that movie, think about n that's me and Glitter I

994
00:55:17,280 --> 00:55:19,319
Speaker 1: went to see. I went to see you went to

995
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:22,080
Speaker 1: the movies to see Glitter. That's my mom, probably like

996
00:55:22,120 --> 00:55:24,640
Speaker 1: the only one person it was like us in a

997
00:55:24,680 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 1: gay couple. Sounds right, No, I'm probably gonna believe, okay.

998
00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 1: And I appreciate you so much for coming. I had

999
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:38,160
Speaker 1: a great time. Jeez, you gotta watch. I'm gonna watch.

1000
00:55:38,200 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 1: I've been wanting to watch out. I was so excited

1001
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:43,680
Speaker 1: that you guys were coming, because, um, I love the

1002
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:46,439
Speaker 1: movie for one, and I've been hearing so many good

1003
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 1: things about the series. It's so good, you know what

1004
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:54,480
Speaker 1: I mean. I mean, people have had their criticism, um,

1005
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 1: and it's very interesting because you know, I used to

1006
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 1: write for Empire, and people criticized. I was on a

1007
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:06,240
Speaker 1: couple of episodes. I love Colo Rodriguez. I actually wrote

1008
00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 1: um for season to the episode that Charlottagne was in,

1009
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 1: and then I did a voice of it for that

1010
00:56:11,960 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 1: one right exactly. It was like and coming to the

1011
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:20,160
Speaker 1: stage exactly, I was like why, But um, the criticism

1012
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:22,799
Speaker 1: of the show is so funny because the people who

1013
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:25,399
Speaker 1: absolutely love the show and then the people who were

1014
00:56:25,480 --> 00:56:28,239
Speaker 1: just like it's trash, don't watch it. I think it's that,

1015
00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:31,279
Speaker 1: but you anticipate that because the show is a polarizing

1016
00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:33,920
Speaker 1: type of show. It's polarizing. But sometimes I wonder if

1017
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 1: like we're just much more hard. We're harder on our

1018
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:40,799
Speaker 1: shows than we are on other people's childs. Yes, you

1019
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:43,560
Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's some people are like coming

1020
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:46,040
Speaker 1: for us, like how could you and why would you

1021
00:56:46,239 --> 00:56:48,800
Speaker 1: like just support? Like what the fund is the problem?

1022
00:56:48,800 --> 00:56:51,840
Speaker 1: If you want more of us on the screen and

1023
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 1: on the television sets, then you gotta support. They still

1024
00:56:54,640 --> 00:57:00,400
Speaker 1: watch your friends. That's why you can't trust these friends. Yeah,

1025
00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:03,479
Speaker 1: it's hard. It's harder for me to watch that show.

1026
00:57:03,520 --> 00:57:07,799
Speaker 1: Now there's no black people. It's not one. It's like

1027
00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:12,160
Speaker 1: twenty seasons later and Gabrielle, Gabrielle, I thought it was

1028
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:15,879
Speaker 1: the Aisha what was her name, Aisha Tyler? Yeah, yeah,

1029
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:24,840
Speaker 1: black people in the world, that's the only thing, like

1030
00:57:24,960 --> 00:57:27,960
Speaker 1: you know and will support that stuff like that. I

1031
00:57:28,000 --> 00:57:30,680
Speaker 1: try to watch everything, like we know you watch every

1032
00:57:31,160 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 1: every black you know, you watch everything. No, no, no,

1033
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:36,920
Speaker 1: don't get it. Don't get it to us that I

1034
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:39,920
Speaker 1: will support, you know, other shows, but like I love

1035
00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:46,160
Speaker 1: Curb your Enthusiasm. That's my ship, He's my faith, that's

1036
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:48,640
Speaker 1: my show. But for the most part, there's been a

1037
00:57:48,720 --> 00:57:51,080
Speaker 1: lot of love for the show. And you know, it's

1038
00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:53,680
Speaker 1: honor for me working with Spike Lee. I'm that Brooklyn kid.

1039
00:57:55,200 --> 00:57:57,760
Speaker 1: You know. When I found out Spike had offices on Decalp,

1040
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 1: I was stalk by it, like everything to work out to,

1041
00:58:01,280 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Um, And so to be

1042
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:05,760
Speaker 1: working with him on this show about Brooklyn, it's like

1043
00:58:05,800 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 1: a big honor for me. But I'm I'm, I'm. A

1044
00:58:08,720 --> 00:58:11,120
Speaker 1: lot of us are moved by the reactions that people have,

1045
00:58:11,200 --> 00:58:15,040
Speaker 1: especially people from Brooklyn, like finally, like a Brooklyn show

1046
00:58:15,080 --> 00:58:17,439
Speaker 1: with Brooklyn black people in it, you know what I mean.

1047
00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:20,320
Speaker 1: So we're all really really proud of the work. It

1048
00:58:20,480 --> 00:58:22,640
Speaker 1: just felt good. It felt good, you know, to have

1049
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 1: like shows like Insecure, and she always compared Insecure and

1050
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:29,760
Speaker 1: there's like, no, I don't think it's comparable. I would

1051
00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 1: they do? They always I would more so say that

1052
00:58:32,840 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 1: it gives us more like it's like progressive right now

1053
00:58:36,960 --> 00:58:41,120
Speaker 1: for black women. I felt in television or films or whatever.

1054
00:58:41,200 --> 00:58:43,320
Speaker 1: I feel like now people are starting to see like

1055
00:58:43,600 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 1: you don't have to be this typical, you know what

1056
00:58:46,720 --> 00:58:50,320
Speaker 1: they would think the long hair, light skinned girl like

1057
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Speaker 1: you know, and it's not because I got natural here,

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00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:58,680
Speaker 1: so I went out to that. Now I got natural

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00:58:58,760 --> 00:59:01,600
Speaker 1: here though, But you know, I just think that's dope

1060
00:59:01,640 --> 00:59:04,480
Speaker 1: how we can like shine, you know what I mean,

1061
00:59:04,680 --> 00:59:07,360
Speaker 1: for a change. And then the whole point of lift service,

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00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:09,880
Speaker 1: I feel like it's to show that women can talk

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00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:13,680
Speaker 1: about sex and it don't have to be like so taboo.

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00:59:13,840 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 1: They act like it's such a big deal. People, Oh,

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00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:17,760
Speaker 1: I can't believe this is trash, a bunch of wholes,

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00:59:17,800 --> 00:59:20,560
Speaker 1: Like no women have sex talk. I'm sure you have

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00:59:20,640 --> 00:59:24,200
Speaker 1: sex with us nowadays. You can get nothing on your

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00:59:24,200 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 1: face on HBO, right right, And let's be clear, because

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00:59:29,800 --> 00:59:32,200
Speaker 1: then if I did not never understood why on Insecure

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00:59:32,280 --> 00:59:33,920
Speaker 1: she had a problem with him nothing on her face

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00:59:34,360 --> 00:59:37,480
Speaker 1: because y'all like it, yea like the problem. She should

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00:59:37,480 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: have taken it as a compliment beside it in her face.

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Speaker 1: It takes me. It takes a while for my two Literally,

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00:59:48,040 --> 00:59:50,120
Speaker 1: it takes a while for my twist house to dry.

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00:59:50,320 --> 00:59:53,000
Speaker 1: So if you get a little bit of coming my hair, like,

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00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:55,480
Speaker 1: that's where the problem is because I'm out of one

1077
00:59:55,560 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 1: dangly shirt. I didn't have a problem with a problem

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00:59:58,400 --> 01:00:01,040
Speaker 1: with There's something about Mary. She was a white girl

1079
01:00:01,080 --> 01:00:05,680
Speaker 1: and it was funny. Make a song cool? What did

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01:00:05,720 --> 01:00:09,760
Speaker 1: you twist out? Could you please make that coming out?

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01:00:09,760 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 1: We got two songs because the other song from earlier,

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01:00:12,680 --> 01:00:15,959
Speaker 1: we got three songs. When the dick get the lip?

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01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:22,160
Speaker 1: Oh it also instead of wold, I can't wait until

1084
01:00:22,160 --> 01:00:24,840
Speaker 1: our mix tape comes out, you know, make sure y'all

1085
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:30,160
Speaker 1: cop that first corn. Well, no, we really really really

1086
01:00:30,200 --> 01:00:32,479
Speaker 1: do appreciate you coming by, So thank you first time,

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01:00:32,520 --> 01:00:34,480
Speaker 1: and thank you for having a platform so that we

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01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:38,200
Speaker 1: could like freely talk about I see you drink that

1089
01:00:38,280 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 1: drink down? He said that Dick was too strong. You

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01:00:40,920 --> 01:00:47,880
Speaker 1: lie back, you know what. I just want to say

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01:00:47,920 --> 01:00:50,720
Speaker 1: one last thing since we brought up Insecure, the guys

1092
01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:54,040
Speaker 1: that my job were so mad. Thatsa ray on that

1093
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 1: show cheated on her boyfriend and like, I'm like, y'all

1094
01:00:58,440 --> 01:01:01,840
Speaker 1: cheat every day all the time, Why are you so mad?

1095
01:01:02,000 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 1: Like I practise you this, the guys will be like, oh,

1096
01:01:06,520 --> 01:01:08,840
Speaker 1: she's not a rider, die, he just had an issue

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01:01:08,880 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 1: and she's not gonna stand by her man. She's weak

1098
01:01:11,280 --> 01:01:13,880
Speaker 1: for not trying to make things work. And then she

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01:01:14,080 --> 01:01:16,200
Speaker 1: cheats on him. And mind you, I look at it

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01:01:16,240 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 1: like she cheated on him, but he was really messing.

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01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:19,800
Speaker 1: He was on the couch, he was supporting him, taking

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Speaker 1: care of him, but he wasn't even sleeping right, and

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01:01:23,440 --> 01:01:25,840
Speaker 1: it was a little you know whatever, And it's cheating

1104
01:01:25,880 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 1: is wrong, man or woman. But I feel like if

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01:01:27,600 --> 01:01:33,640
Speaker 1: a woman cheats, people look at it so differently. With

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01:01:33,720 --> 01:01:36,480
Speaker 1: anything that goes on the relationships, it's always double standard

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01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 1: with men. Men can go get away with this that

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01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:39,800
Speaker 1: in the third but as soon as a woman does it,

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01:01:39,880 --> 01:01:46,040
Speaker 1: then it's got three babies a boy, three baby, didn't

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Speaker 1: She's trying to populate the earth with all the hip hop,

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01:01:50,800 --> 01:01:56,040
Speaker 1: beautiful talented, but nobody talk all fine, and she she

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01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:58,480
Speaker 1: has some beautiful challenge. I don't feel like she got

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01:01:58,600 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 1: judged though in the beginning they commented on it on

1114
01:02:04,560 --> 01:02:07,520
Speaker 1: the Morning where someone like Christie Brinkley, it's the same thing.

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01:02:07,560 --> 01:02:09,320
Speaker 1: A lot of people don't know that she got three kids,

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01:02:09,320 --> 01:02:12,760
Speaker 1: about three different Okay, Billy Joe, Billy Joel and two

1117
01:02:12,760 --> 01:02:16,480
Speaker 1: of the people I don't know. But all these all

1118
01:02:16,480 --> 01:02:18,880
Speaker 1: these baby mama, they wouldn't even call her a baby mama,

1119
01:02:19,040 --> 01:02:20,880
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like it's just a different set.

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Speaker 1: Didn't Shutty Low have like twenty baby moms. But the

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Speaker 1: dad but he did though he was trying to a

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Speaker 1: reality show back, but like no woman remember when he

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Speaker 1: tried to do the reality show and then they actually

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01:02:33,080 --> 01:02:35,560
Speaker 1: hated it. Yeah, they boycotted in Imagine a woman like

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Speaker 1: me and my twenty baby daddies, right, I would be

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Speaker 1: all into that show. Who can we see? There's a

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01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:47,760
Speaker 1: show on TV now I haven't seen it, but it's

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Speaker 1: called the Cromarty's. Oh yes, Tera Antonio Cromarty, right, who

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Speaker 1: has with his wife, he has about six or seven

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Speaker 1: shildre and he by the way, he got to a

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Speaker 1: sect to me and still had twins after that. What see,

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Speaker 1: I gotta go and you get what yes, terraka Antonio

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01:03:05,720 --> 01:03:09,800
Speaker 1: crimin I know, yeah, but he so with his wife,

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Speaker 1: he has like six or seven children. You've got some

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01:03:13,280 --> 01:03:17,440
Speaker 1: hell yeah, Like he's like a kid kids, super and

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01:03:17,480 --> 01:03:19,160
Speaker 1: he got a reality show out of it, and I

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Speaker 1: don't think he's being changed, so you know, double standard, ladies.

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Speaker 1: This was so much fun. We need to be the

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Speaker 1: first woman to have like twenty baby daddies. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I like that first one after y'all, we need listen,

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01:03:40,360 --> 01:03:44,680
Speaker 1: we need you as the first interview after number twenty,

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Speaker 1: I'll be here. Thanks so much for having Thank you