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Speaker 1: life before I met him, And I think that's so

434
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: important for anybody who's dating, male or female. Stepping into

435
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:45,680
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship and shaking your past. Yeah hah, working

436
00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,159
Speaker 1: on that, you guys kind of heard a little bit

437
00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 1: about that earlier. I'm still working on this one myself,

438
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 1: and I think the easiest way to truly step into

439
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:59,159
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship is when you have someone who is

440
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 1: safe and secure to allow you to feel the things

441
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:06,200
Speaker 1: you need to feel to move through your past. Now,

442
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,399
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, there's absolutely healing and work that

443
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: needs to be done by yourself before you enter another relationship.

444
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:17,880
Speaker 1: If you've had heartbreak or been an abusive relationship or

445
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 1: emotionally traumatizing relationship, whatever it may be, there's absolutely work

446
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:24,160
Speaker 1: that needs to be done for you for yourself before

447
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 1: you enter one. But a lot of that work that

448
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 1: also needs to be done is when you enter that relationship,

449
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,719
Speaker 1: which means you have to have a partner who feels

450
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 1: safe and you feel like you can heal with that

451
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:39,240
Speaker 1: person or you're just going to keep repeating in the

452
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:44,120
Speaker 1: same patterns. And I know that now because after two

453
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 1: very rough relationships, one of those being abusive and two

454
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 1: where they were much more healing and much more healthy,

455
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 1: I was in a safer space to start healing on that.

456
00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:00,080
Speaker 1: When I was in those two rough relationships, I was

457
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: never healing, not even after the abusive into the next one.

458
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 1: There was still stuff there and there was cheating, and

459
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 1: there was things going on that I never felt my body,

460
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:13,240
Speaker 1: my nervous system, never felt safe to be in to

461
00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 1: start to heal those parts of me. And it's kind

462
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: of ironic because I was talking to a girlfriend about

463
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 1: this that I feel like now in this new relationship

464
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 1: that I'm healing so much that my body is also

465
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 1: making a lot of health problems I had come forward

466
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 1: because my body was in so much fight or flight

467
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:40,200
Speaker 1: that it never had time to truly like deal with

468
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: some of the health issues I was having, and that's crazy.

469
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 1: So talk about like healing in a relationship, but also

470
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,119
Speaker 1: I'm like trying to heal my health at the same time.

471
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 1: And it's wild and I don't know if there's absolutely

472
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 1: any science behind that. There may be, there may not be,

473
00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 1: but that's what I feel and that's what I'm experiencing.

474
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:02,879
Speaker 1: So truthfully, the only way to shake your past is

475
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 1: to allow yourself one the grace to know that it's

476
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:10,439
Speaker 1: going to be hard, and too to trust yourself that

477
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 1: you are continually growing and making better decisions. And you

478
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 1: have to trust that if you're entering a relationship that

479
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,119
Speaker 1: this is someone that you can heal with. And if

480
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 1: you can't do those two things, and it's probably not

481
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 1: the right person for you if you're someone who's dealt

482
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 1: with shitty relationships, So choose your partner wisely. I think

483
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: I got a message the other day from a dude

484
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: who had told me, gosh, I don't know how many times,

485
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 1: and he said, you know, years ago, I told you

486
00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 1: to lower your standards because you were never going to

487
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 1: find somebody, but you didn't and seem to work out

488
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,639
Speaker 1: for you. And so I want to relay the message

489
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:52,199
Speaker 1: of which I did many times on Instagram of my

490
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:55,520
Speaker 1: single days, saying that I would never lower my standards

491
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 1: after the shit I had been through. You couldn't convince

492
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 1: me otherwise. If I had to lower my standards, I

493
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 1: just wasn't going to date or I wasn't gonna get married,

494
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 1: and that was going to be fine for me. And

495
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:07,960
Speaker 1: so I'm glad I didn't, you know why, because I

496
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 1: found someone who was above and beyond my standard, which

497
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,159
Speaker 1: was very high. And I'm so proud of myself for

498
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 1: sticking to that gun. So stick to it and keep

499
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 1: your standards high, and know that you deserve a healthy

500
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 1: relationship and keep repeating that to yourself. Internal conversations are

501
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,679
Speaker 1: the most important thing you're ever going to do for

502
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 1: your own healing. That's where a lot of the work

503
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 1: is happening. Moving on to talk about miss remy girl,

504
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 1: as she's laying here like a little rug on top

505
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: of my rug. She is a therapy dog. If you

506
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 1: don't know, she's ten years old. We had her tenth

507
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,960
Speaker 1: birthday in April and that was so special. So somebody

508
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 1: wants to know my gotcha story with Remy. So way

509
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 1: back when when I lived in Wichita with my parents

510
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 1: right out of college, I started volunteering at the Kansas

511
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 1: Human Society. I wanted to walk dogs and I wanted

512
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: to help because in college we had fostered gosh. I

513
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: want to say it was like twenty two dogs and

514
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 1: cats over the course of my last year at college

515
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 1: when I was living with four other girls, and that

516
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 1: really lit a fire under me to help rescues and

517
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 1: rescue work in shelters. So when I moved to Kansas,

518
00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 1: I wanted to or when I moved from I shouldn't

519
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 1: say Kansas. When I moved from Manhattan back to Wichita,

520
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 1: I wanted to keep that fire. So I started volunteering

521
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 1: at Kansas Humane Society. And I think it was my

522
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 1: second week of walking dogs and Remy came in as

523
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 1: a stray and my parents were kind of talking about

524
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 1: getting another dog, and she was so little, and they

525
00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 1: said she was a Maltese mix and we had a

526
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 1: Maltese at the time, and I was like, oh, we should,

527
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 1: we should get her. You guys want another dog, And

528
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 1: they ended up coming out to meet her on like

529
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 1: an off day. She wasn't even up for adoption yet

530
00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: she had just come in. She was a puppy about

531
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 1: two and a half months old, hadn't been Spade, so

532
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: she wasn't even on the adoption floor yet. They came

533
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:06,960
Speaker 1: out to meet her and we were in the playyard

534
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,440
Speaker 1: and I took her out and we all kind of

535
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 1: sat down, and immediately she just ran to me and

536
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 1: my parents really, Morgan, we can take her, but she

537
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 1: wants you, like she's attached to you. And they felt

538
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 1: very strongly that she had imprinted on me in that moment,

539
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:28,000
Speaker 1: and it kind of got me thinking. But I was

540
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 1: not employed at the time. I had just gotten out

541
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,560
Speaker 1: of college. I was living with my parents. I was like,

542
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 1: this is not the time for me to be getting

543
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 1: a dog, to be like responsible, but I couldn't stop

544
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 1: thinking about her. So I think it was like a

545
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: day later. I called them and put a hold on her.

546
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 1: I put a deposit down essentially, and said I want her,

547
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:50,480
Speaker 1: and they were like, well, she needs to get Spade.

548
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: So I put a hold on her, waiting to see

549
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 1: how Spade what. I was nervous for twenty four hours.

550
00:30:55,200 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: She's a freakin' puppy at that point, and she got

551
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 1: through the spade just fine. And that next day my

552
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 1: parents were like, had put some toys in my room

553
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 1: and a little like kind of kidnel thing, and they

554
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: were like, you can adopt her if you want to,

555
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my gosh. I started freaking out,

556
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 1: also freaking out because I'm like, how the freak am

557
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 1: I going to do any of this? And I went

558
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 1: that day, I picked her up and we've been best

559
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 1: friends ever since. It was kind of crazy though, because

560
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 1: I get her. I started a new job a month later,

561
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: which was working for iHeart and Wichita, and then ten

562
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 1: months into that job is when I was moving down

563
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: to Nashville and I got a job at the Nashville

564
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:42,800
Speaker 1: iHeart radio offices, and so so much change was happening

565
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 1: in my life all the time while having a brand

566
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: new puppy and trying to train her, which we did

567
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 1: go through a lot of training when we lived in Wichita.

568
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 1: I went through I think eighteen weeks of training. We

569
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 1: did like puppy class, and then we did basic training,

570
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 1: then we did advanced training, and then at that point

571
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: we started to hear about therapy work and that's when

572
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:06,239
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, I feel like she'd be really

573
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 1: good at this. She was always a very big people person.

574
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 1: She loved people, and she was this fluffy, little teddy

575
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: bear ewok looking thing that would run up to you

576
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 1: and love you. And I felt really compelled that, like, okay,

577
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: she might be a therapy dog, but they had to

578
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:21,719
Speaker 1: be about two years old to be able to do

579
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 1: that work. So I didn't attack that right away, but

580
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 1: she had a lot of training leading up to it.

581
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 1: She was a canine good citizen. She was actually my

582
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 1: emotional support animal for a while after and kind of

583
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: during my abusive relationship. She was really the thing that

584
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 1: helped me survive and after that whole ordeal, because I

585
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 1: was kind of the first year or so when I

586
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: was living in Nashville and I went into therapy and

587
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: I did a lot of work, and I said, you know,

588
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 1: now is the time for us to get into therapy works.

589
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 1: So I found an organization called Therapy Arc and that's

590
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 1: where we trained to become a therapy animal team. She

591
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 1: passed with flying colors and we became a team together

592
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: and started volunteering, and that healed a huge piece of

593
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 1: my heart with her taking her from what was want

594
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 1: a emotional support animal from me to being a therapy

595
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: dog for other people. Was kind of a beautiful fate

596
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:18,440
Speaker 1: situation and I just love her. No, she's ten and

597
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 1: I don't even know where ten years went. And somebody

598
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 1: else followed up with getting a dog therapy certified finding

599
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 1: a place to volunteer. So, honestly, I just started googling

600
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 1: to get roomin a therapy team certified. I just went

601
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: on Google and I was searching different therapy organizations near me,

602
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 1: and that's how I stumbled upon Therapy ARC and they

603
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 1: really helped the entire process. They did a screening to

604
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:51,040
Speaker 1: see if she was even a dog that seemed like

605
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 1: she was interested in therapy, because mind, you do not

606
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 1: train a dog to be a therapy dog if you're like, oh, well,

607
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 1: they don't really necessarily like people, like they're gonna be

608
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 1: around people all the time, So do not train a

609
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,760
Speaker 1: dog to be a therapy dog if they're nervous around people.

610
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: So the screening helps some of that, so you don't

611
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: waste time or make sure that your dog kind of

612
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 1: has these inherent instincts to be a therapy dog. She

613
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 1: passed that. We did six weeks of training with them.

614
00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 1: They prepared us all for the test and then we

615
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 1: go and you take this kind of long test and

616
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 1: it's a collaboration between you two, so you both have

617
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 1: to be prepared for it. And she passed that with

618
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 1: flying colors, and we've renewed twice now we're about to

619
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 1: renew again this year. So it's definitely an undertaking if

620
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 1: it's something you're interested in. But it was so important

621
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:39,480
Speaker 1: for me to do because I love volunteering. I've always

622
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 1: been a big volunteer girl. Even in high school. I

623
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:46,839
Speaker 1: was part of an organization called kas which all we

624
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 1: did was volunteer stuff with different nonprofits, and I was

625
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 1: the Kay's area president. So volunteering has been kind of

626
00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 1: huge in my life ever since I was in middle school,

627
00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 1: especially with leadership studies and doing different leadership classes. All

628
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:04,799
Speaker 1: of that was interconnected, and then it felt like such

629
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 1: a natural fit when I got Remy. So I would

630
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 1: just Google, do some googling and find places near you,

631
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,800
Speaker 1: and that's how you get certified. Favorite state to travel

632
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 1: with Remy. I want to travel with my dog for

633
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 1: the first time. I love traveling everywhere with her. Obviously,

634
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 1: the more outdoor activities, the more you can be out

635
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,319
Speaker 1: on patios, is going to be the most enjoyable experience.

636
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 1: I loved going out west with her. I did a

637
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 1: road trip with my parents and their dog, and it

638
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 1: was Remy and I and we did a bunch of

639
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 1: national parks. Now, mind you, you can't bring dogs in

640
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 1: national parks on hikes, but they can ride in the

641
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 1: car with you, and if you get an airbnb or

642
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:42,800
Speaker 1: a cabin, some of them allow you to keep them behind.

643
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:45,960
Speaker 1: So just make sure you plan those things. And when

644
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:47,879
Speaker 1: I had taken Remy on this recent trip, I got

645
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 1: so much questions and obviously grief, and people were getting

646
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 1: mad at me for bringing around my trip. But something

647
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 1: that I really have learned with planning a vacation with

648
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 1: your dog is to just make sure that it's stuff

649
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 1: that they also want to do. I think you can

650
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 1: bring a long a dog to trips that you planned

651
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,319
Speaker 1: for you. But I have a trip coming up where

652
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 1: I'm going to Universal and Disney. I'm not bringing her.

653
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 1: That's not a trip for her. She would be miserable.

654
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 1: She'd be sitting in a hotel all day. So when

655
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 1: I do bring her, the trips that I bring her

656
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 1: on are hiking centric. They're very nature involved. I like

657
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 1: spending time on patios, finding unusual things that she might

658
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,319
Speaker 1: be able to tag along with. Like on this trip,

659
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 1: she could go to different breweries and wineries, and we

660
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 1: had options for her that were very centric around nature,

661
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:38,839
Speaker 1: which is also something I love to do anyways. I

662
00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 1: love to hike, I love to sit on patios, so

663
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 1: none of that was unusual for me. So I made

664
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: it a trip for her and for me. It's the

665
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 1: best tip I can give whenever you want to go somewhere. Also,

666
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: if you just google dog friendly cities, you'll find a

667
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,080
Speaker 1: bunch of them. I loved going to Chicago, it felt

668
00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 1: super dog friendly. Nashville's very dog friendly. I know Austin

669
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 1: is too, Dinver is as well. You have a bunch

670
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:02,360
Speaker 1: of us, Especially the mountain towns out there. You have

671
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: a lot of people that love to go on hikes

672
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 1: and stuff with their dogs. And if you can find

673
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 1: areas with a lot of state parks, those are perfect

674
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,359
Speaker 1: because state parks do allow dogs besides a few kind

675
00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: of special ones, but you can go hiking with them

676
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 1: and it gets a lot of activity. But if you're

677
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 1: going in the summer, make sure you have a dog shroller,

678
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 1: a dog pack back or something or booties. Because it

679
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 1: gets so hot on our little paws. You need to

680
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 1: protect them, which is something that I don't know if

681
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: a lot of people know. I see a lot of

682
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 1: people walking their dogs. I don't know about anywhere else,

683
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 1: but right now in Nashville it is so freaking hot

684
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: outside and during the heat of the day, I will

685
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 1: see people walking their dogs. Guys, if you can't hold

686
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 1: your hand on pavement for at least five seconds without

687
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:50,319
Speaker 1: hurting your hand, your dog's feet should not be out there.

688
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:53,319
Speaker 1: That means they are burning their feet. I know we

689
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 1: like to think that like, oh, dogs can do anything

690
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:57,840
Speaker 1: and you need to treat them like a dog. But

691
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, do you want your feet burned? If you

692
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 1: don't want to be walking barefoot on something, don't do

693
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 1: it to your dog. This is not something I feel

694
00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:09,319
Speaker 1: like a lot of people have been educated on. You

695
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:12,959
Speaker 1: have to protect their pause. They can blister, they can

696
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 1: expose skin their paws or how they cool off, and

697
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: if their paws are so hot, they're literally gonna be overheating.

698
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:23,839
Speaker 1: So take care of your pups. And that's a very

699
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: important thing to do. Anyways, travel with your animals. You should.

700
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 1: It is the coolest experience. Seeing the world through Rimy's

701
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 1: eyes is one of my favorite things to witness. She

702
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 1: loves everything. She's so excited just to see and smell

703
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 1: new things. And might I remind anybody who finds that

704
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:46,760
Speaker 1: controversial that it's their first time living too, and also

705
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 1: again putting yourself in their shoes. I don't think you

706
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:51,880
Speaker 1: just wanna live in one house your entire life and

707
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 1: see nothing but that house. So take them when you

708
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 1: can take trips without them, but also take trips for

709
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 1: them and with them. All Right, it's time we're getting

710
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 1: into the random questions. Now we're gonna do one misconception

711
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 1: of you. I think the easiest one off the top

712
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 1: of my head right nowt Even though I wrote it

713
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,839
Speaker 1: down here, I did not prepare for it. I think

714
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:16,919
Speaker 1: a lot of people think I'm happy all the time

715
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 1: and I am not, or that I'm put together all

716
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:25,279
Speaker 1: the time, or that I have it really easy, et cetera,

717
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 1: et cetera. I would love to remind people that just

718
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,799
Speaker 1: because you hear things on a show or you see

719
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 1: things on social media, does not mean you have the

720
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:39,920
Speaker 1: whole picture. I'm somebody who struggles with depression, anxiety, the

721
00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:44,360
Speaker 1: last gosh three years. Really, I've dealt with long COVID

722
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 1: and my health has been struggling. I don't feel great

723
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: in my body right now. I struggle with body image

724
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:54,479
Speaker 1: issues on the daily. I'm a vegetarian. Eating is hard

725
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: for me. I love to work out. I'm really hard

726
00:39:57,320 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 1: on myself when I don't work out, and I struggle

727
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:06,400
Speaker 1: with finding balance in my job. I don't get through

728
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:10,960
Speaker 1: my to do list every day, I'm up until meeting

729
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 1: my boyfriend, struggled with dating. I think it's really easy

730
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: for us to believe everybody else has it so good,

731
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 1: and I think it's easy to think that the people

732
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 1: you see online are just they don't have any struggles

733
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,399
Speaker 1: or they don't have any hardship, And I don't think

734
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:29,719
Speaker 1: that's true for anybody. I think more often than not,

735
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 1: your happiest people are the ones who are struggling the most. Now.

736
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: That is not the case with me. Right now, I

737
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 1: do feel very happy. I feel very loved and supported.

738
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 1: And while I'm still struggling with a lot of health stuff,

739
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 1: and while I'm really struggling with the body that I'm

740
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 1: in right now, it doesn't mean I'm not happy in

741
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:54,000
Speaker 1: other areas, of my life. But all that to say,

742
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:58,400
Speaker 1: let's stop believing everybody has it so good. Do I

743
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 1: have it as worse a sad? Some people absolutely not,

744
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 1: and I know that. But as one of my very

745
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:08,399
Speaker 1: first episodes of this podcast taught us, two things can

746
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 1: be true. So let's stop believing that everything is easy

747
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: for everybody, or just because stuff is hard for you,

748
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:18,319
Speaker 1: that it's not hard for somebody else. I think we

749
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 1: have to have more compassion and empathy for people. And

750
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 1: that's the biggest misconception that comes to my head. Do

751
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 1: the girls who bullied you in high school ever reach

752
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: out after hearing you talk about it on the show.

753
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:34,000
Speaker 1: I have never had the two main ones ever reach out.

754
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 1: One of them has looked at a bunch of my

755
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 1: stuff on social media, which I've seen, and that's been interesting.

756
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 1: I've had the husband of one of them approach me

757
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:47,720
Speaker 1: in a bar and say he doesn't understand the whole

758
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 1: situation and why any of that went down in high

759
00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: school and anybody who's kind of been associated with it,

760
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:56,359
Speaker 1: if you will, or what along with it, because you know,

761
00:41:56,400 --> 00:42:00,439
Speaker 1: we were all teen girls I've talked to and we've

762
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 1: made amends or were ammlicable and things are all good there,

763
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 1: so everything beyond that, those really main two who were

764
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: the ones who did the worst things, things are all

765
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:15,719
Speaker 1: kind of settled there. But besides those who know, I've

766
00:42:15,760 --> 00:42:17,479
Speaker 1: never heard from them. I don't know that I ever will.

767
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: Will I ever move back to Kansas. I love Kansas.

768
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 1: Kansas will always be my home. It will always be

769
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 1: where I was born and raised. And my family is

770
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 1: amazing and I love getting to see them and I

771
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 1: wish I could see them so much more often. Now,

772
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 1: all that to say, I don't know that I ever will,

773
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,799
Speaker 1: and I'm sure that'll make my parents sad to hear,

774
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:43,279
Speaker 1: But I don't know that the life I've created for

775
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:47,280
Speaker 1: myself could exist there. If my life takes a drastic

776
00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 1: turn or something happens with one of my family members,

777
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:53,319
Speaker 1: yeah I would be home or find a way to

778
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,719
Speaker 1: be part of that whole experience and what I need

779
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 1: to do. But if none of that happens and it's

780
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:03,800
Speaker 1: a to me, then no, I don't think I ever will.

781
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:05,839
Speaker 1: Not because I don't love it, and not because it's

782
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:09,720
Speaker 1: not home, but because the life I've created for myself

783
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 1: here is full of so much adventure and opportunities in

784
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 1: life that I think it would be drastically different if

785
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 1: I moved home. I think if I ever do move,

786
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 1: it'll be to a mountain town somewhere. That's my perfect

787
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:27,040
Speaker 1: place is a mountain town or somewhere like a Grammar Ray,

788
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 1: or maybe not Grammaray, because I don't think I could

789
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:32,800
Speaker 1: do that much snow in wintertime, but something that has

790
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:35,320
Speaker 1: quite a lot of adventure, a lot of different scenic stuff.

791
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:38,879
Speaker 1: I'm so big in nature. Things you do or your

792
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 1: closest friends do for you that protects quality of friendships,

793
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: something that is so important in the world of social

794
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 1: media today. Just because I see something on social media

795
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 1: a friend and I respond on social media, I won't

796
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 1: only respond that way. I'll reach out to them by

797
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:57,959
Speaker 1: text or by a phone call or some other way,

798
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 1: because I think there is a loss and quality when

799
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 1: you're only speaking on social media. I think when you

800
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:07,839
Speaker 1: communicate also on social media as well as texting and phone,

801
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 1: you're fine. But it's so important to me to check in,

802
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 1: send a text when I'm thinking of somebody, or do

803
00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 1: something for someone when I see they're going through if

804
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:19,880
Speaker 1: they've had a hard day. I'll venom on ten dollars

805
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 1: and say go get a drink on me, or I'll

806
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 1: send cookies if they're dealing with a loss, or I'll

807
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:27,879
Speaker 1: show up for them with a care basket and say

808
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 1: what do you need from me? Or Hey, I'm doing

809
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 1: this for you. That's more likely, but sometimes they don't know,

810
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 1: and I'll say I'm just here when you do need

811
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,359
Speaker 1: me or you just want to talk. Showing up is

812
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 1: so important, and I think that's truly the test of

813
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:48,400
Speaker 1: most great relationships, friendships, family, anything to that matter, is

814
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:51,920
Speaker 1: how much effort you put in. And my closest friendships

815
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,400
Speaker 1: are all about effort, even if it's showing up with

816
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 1: a text message, a phone call, or showing up to

817
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 1: my door. They're all the same as long as you're

818
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 1: showing up in the good and the bad. Because if

819
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:03,799
Speaker 1: you just show up in the bad, I'm probably gonna

820
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 1: start having questions. Maybe show up in the good to

821
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 1: celebrate exciting things that are happening, and show up when

822
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:11,839
Speaker 1: it's hard, and then in the little moments between. That's

823
00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:14,839
Speaker 1: where quality is that somebody who you know is worth

824
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 1: investing your time in in both ways. So not only

825
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 1: do I require that same level of care and effort

826
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 1: in friendships, but I make sure that I'm doing that

827
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 1: for my friends because we don't deal with one sided

828
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:32,399
Speaker 1: shit these day, and as people, Okay, we're not doing

829
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 1: this like I'm only doing the work. This is supposed

830
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 1: to be a team effort on all fronts. So I

831
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 1: think that's the most important thing when it comes to

832
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: any relationship is effort and showing up. I know it

833
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:49,600
Speaker 1: can be hard when life is busy and when there's

834
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 1: so much happening, big life moments, but you have to

835
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:57,840
Speaker 1: show up if you want quality friendships, you have to

836
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:01,239
Speaker 1: show up for each other. And I don't know that

837
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 1: any of my friendships could have sustained the craziness of

838
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: adult life if we didn't know how to show up

839
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: for each other one way or another. Well, that is

840
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,360
Speaker 1: all we have. There was more questions, but I think

841
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 1: I got to the majority of them, and I appreciate

842
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:20,399
Speaker 1: you guys hanging out with me on this podcast every

843
00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: week and listening and submitting questions and doing all this

844
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 1: fun stuff. I'm really excited because we have some fun

845
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 1: episodes coming up. We have one with Scottie Hasting. He's

846
00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 1: talking about his music career and being a veteran. I've

847
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 1: got struggle, Jenny's who has an insane life story. He's

848
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 1: also an artist. And then we've got Nate and Holly.

849
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 1: If you've heard of twenty one Pineapples, he has a

850
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:50,760
Speaker 1: disability and his mom and him post pictures and videos

851
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:52,279
Speaker 1: all the time on social media and they've kind of

852
00:46:52,320 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 1: had a rise to fame that way. So really cool

853
00:46:55,080 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 1: interviews that are coming, and I can't wait for you

854
00:46:57,280 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 1: to hear. But sometimes I feel like it's good to

855
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:02,200
Speaker 1: do some questions and just touch base with you guys

856
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 1: and have conversations about things that you want to hear.

857
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 1: So if you ever want to hear something that I'm

858
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 1: not touching on or I'm not bringing on, just shoot

859
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,919
Speaker 1: me a message on the Instagram for the podcast at

860
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:17,760
Speaker 1: take this personally and thank you. Thanks for supporting the podcast,

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Speaker 1: thanks for being here, thanks for loving me and not

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Speaker 1: trolling me all the time. Some of you guys are

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Speaker 1: incredible people who really know how to show love and

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Speaker 1: show up and I'm so appreciative of that. So thank you, guys,

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Speaker 1: and I will yap at you next week.