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Speaker 2: Domestic partner? So the term domestic partner to me, my

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Speaker 1: Honestly, like you should consider obviously you want to consider

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Speaker 2: Exactly exactly. We'll find out. I'm ready to buy another

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Speaker 2: It? Sounds like how Enrique described the Rolex business. To me,

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Speaker 1: Maybe said that's what we gonna see who wins. It's

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Speaker 2: BA family are back with our second incredible question from

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Speaker 2: one of our listeners. Actually a Mandy moneymaker who wants

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Speaker 2: to remain anonymous, but slid into my email. So I

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Speaker 2: got you.

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Speaker 1: And then moneymaker. Let's call her.

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Speaker 2: Hmm, let's just you always put me on the spot.

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Speaker 2: Let's call her No, okay, because I'm like, let's her names?

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Speaker 2: So I was looking at right, No, but guess.

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Speaker 1: Too obvious girl like. Let her name is Tippy. Let's

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Speaker 1: All right, Let's call her marabel Ooh Marabelle.

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Speaker 2: Marrabelle says Mandy. Thank you for your awesome scripts that

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Speaker 2: which will definitely increase my earnings potential. Something's holding me back,

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Speaker 2: me anonymous. I got you, Mariveelle, Okay, But I was

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Speaker 2: So I feel like you've got the information that you

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Speaker 2: What is it about the stability that you're craving And

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Speaker 2: it's okay for you to pivot into something new and

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Speaker 1: It's somebody who sometimes feels very risk adverse. Let's deriskify

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Speaker 1: my fear? It's like, one, let's be real, I'm in

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Speaker 1: a profession. We're girl. I can throw a rock and

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Speaker 1: hit a hospital that's like yes, please, please please, So

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Speaker 1: let's say tell yourself that too. I would talk to

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Speaker 1: other nurses so I can get real clear on like

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Speaker 1: it's real cute out here, Like how cute? Like how

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Speaker 1: much cute? Like real cute cute? How Like how quickly

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Speaker 1: were you able to get cute about you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean? So getting a better understand of like what

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Speaker 1: does the money really look like how quickly you can

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Speaker 1: make it with people who are in your position, who

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Speaker 1: have your level of education, who have your level of experience,

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Speaker 1: like gather as much details as possible so you can

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Speaker 1: then feel more comfortable Like, Okay, Saratanya, Tiffany Mandy are

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Speaker 1: similar to me, and they're actually making more than I am.

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Speaker 1: They're going to make this connection for me to this,

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Speaker 1: like you know, agency, I can pretty start much start

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Speaker 1: right away, worst case scenario, because I'm a nurse. Let's

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Speaker 1: be real, I know I can go someplace else and

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Speaker 1: work someplace else, even though I'm what I'm saying really

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Speaker 1: is I'm comfortable here. But the truth is I'm in

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Speaker 1: a safe position just by nature of the of the

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Speaker 1: industry that I'm in. You know, and then once you

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Speaker 1: get those numbers, start dreaming about like what that additional

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Speaker 1: income can do for you, you know, like you know,

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Speaker 1: can you go on more vacations? You know, will you

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Speaker 1: be able to help your kid not have if they're

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Speaker 1: in school? You know, I don't know, because they're twenty

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Speaker 1: one now, so maybe they've graduated. Like what would that

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Speaker 1: money do? Like dreamscape a little. So that's what I

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Speaker 1: would say, de risk ify and then dreamscape. But what

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Speaker 1: that extra money can do for you?

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Speaker 2: Risk ify?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because some as I need that. I'm just like, wait,

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Speaker 1: I'm skined. I'm scared. I'm scared scined. Like I'm like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: what are you scared of? I'm scared of. My team

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Speaker 1: is gonna say, if you listen to our episode on Wednesday.

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Speaker 1: Prior to this, I'm making a transition in the Budgetista

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Speaker 1: to really become a business that creates insights for companies

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Speaker 1: that want to speak to black women, and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I'm scared. I'm scared. What are you scared about? I'm

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Speaker 1: scared that my team is gonna leave and they're gonna

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Speaker 1: be mad at me. Da da da. I was scared

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Speaker 1: about that. But then I looked at my team and

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Speaker 1: I thought to myself, everybody here is so awesome, and

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Speaker 1: I de riskified by talking myself through it, pulling them

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Speaker 1: aside individually, telling them as a group, and everybody was

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Speaker 1: like yes, girl. I'm like, oh, what else are you

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Speaker 1: scared about, Tiffany, about making a transition? What if you

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Speaker 1: make enough money? I started to talk to people in

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Speaker 1: corporate to say, would you be interested in in insights

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Speaker 1: like this. I have already gotten like two or three

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Speaker 1: people who were like tentatively put me down as a client.

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, and so I'm de risk affying

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Speaker 1: because I'm actually really risk adverse. People think that I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm out here leaping now, girl, And then as a

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Speaker 1: result of that, now I could take the leap. There's

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Speaker 1: still a leap to be taken, but I have minimized

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Speaker 1: the risk as much as possible before doing so, so

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Speaker 1: we you know, what is it. Maddie Bell, Maddie Bell, girl, girl,

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Speaker 1: ring that bell, Maddie Bell.

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Speaker 2: You're right, it's like put a name to the fear

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Speaker 2: and like actually look at the facts and let the

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Speaker 2: facts fight the fear. Like, you know, if you're exactly

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Speaker 2: like what you said, if you're worried about how much

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Speaker 2: money can I make? I don't know, find some answers,

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Speaker 2: you know, so you can put together a real plan.

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Speaker 2: But I also feel like the time freedom if you

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Speaker 2: controlled your schedule, and it reminded me immediately, like I

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Speaker 2: think the woman who helped me deliver my son, Remy,

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Speaker 2: I think she was a traveling nurse. She was retiring age,

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Speaker 2: retirement age. She was so sweet. I think her name

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Speaker 2: was Bonnie, And I just got lucky because one day

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Speaker 2: a month she showed up for that hospital. She's like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm contracted to come here one day a month. And

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Speaker 2: she basically left travel like for the flexibility, and now

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Speaker 2: they bring her back just as a contractor, you know,

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Speaker 2: which is basically a traveling nurse exactly. So think about

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Speaker 2: what if you leave, leave because they show you that

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Speaker 2: they're not you're not worth more, whether it's you get

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Speaker 2: a competing offer somewhere else to prove that you're worth more,

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Speaker 2: and you leave, you become a traveling nurse, and then

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Speaker 2: they're like, we want you back. And at this time

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Speaker 2: you feel more confident about traveling and doing freelance, so

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Speaker 2: you're like, okay, I'll come back for three days a month,

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Speaker 2: and you know you can pay me triple what you

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Speaker 2: were paying me before hourly. But Bonnie was just living

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Speaker 2: her best life. She's like, yeah, I come when I

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Speaker 2: want to.

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Speaker 1: I love it.

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Speaker 2: And then I go off to the you know, the countryside,

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Speaker 2: and and you know, me and my husband have a

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Speaker 2: great little quiet life, so yeah, I love it. What

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Speaker 2: Tip said about g risk of fying and also dreamscaping

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Speaker 2: and imagining not what you'd be losing but what you

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Speaker 2: could be gaining. Yes, by starting a new chapter, love

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Speaker 2: that for you.

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Speaker 1: If you want us to love stuff for you, go

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Speaker 1: ahead on over and ask your question. Go to the

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Speaker 1: brandambission dot com, so Brownambition dot com, brandabision podcast, I'm

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Speaker 1: sorry dot com, contact us, ask questions there, Email us

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Speaker 1: at Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com. Ask questions there,

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Speaker 1: Brown Ambition Podcast on ig slide into the d MS

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Speaker 1: two smart brown girls. You know we're not your mama

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Speaker 1: and your cousin, your financial advisor, but we are your

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Speaker 1: fabe financial brown girls. Okay, we know a little something

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Speaker 1: one or two, but always take our advice with the

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Speaker 1: small screen assault and lead into the people that you

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Speaker 1: pay for. The final say, but until next week. I

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Speaker 1: like that. I know that was a bar that I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna quickly forget.

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Speaker 2: Meanwhile, they're like, but you just answered two questions that

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Speaker 2: came to Mandy's email into your DM, So what are

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Speaker 2: you really telling us? Okay, rewarded?

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all next week. We'll see you guys next week. Bye.

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Speaker 2: By