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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't She cleaned and cared for her children and

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Speaker 1: the man of the house, and of course she didn't

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Speaker 1: talk back. She was both obedient and soft by nature.

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Speaker 1: She was a good woman who always made good choice.

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Speaker 2: Ship.

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Speaker 3: We're good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 4: You single mom who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all

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Speaker 4: their bad choices and.

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Speaker 3: Found out they were so bad after all.

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Speaker 4: We're experts, Overshares and your new besties.

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Speaker 3: Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Speaker 4: Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 4: I'm Mela.

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Speaker 3: Happy Wednesday?

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Speaker 2: Did she happy?

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Speaker 4: Hemp day House? Would it? Do?

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Speaker 3: I have my favorite hoe in the building?

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Speaker 4: Do you really?

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Speaker 3: First off, I am no longer that babbite. You'll always

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Speaker 3: be a hoe in my eye.

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Speaker 2: We had hovered.

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Speaker 5: Okay, So if you're listening to this podcast, you already

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Speaker 5: know who it is because you know that voice.

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Speaker 2: If you don't, let me introduce myself. Because your girl's

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Speaker 2: an author. Now I'm ann author. No, it's your girl.

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Speaker 2: May be one half of the decisions decisions formally horrible

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Speaker 2: decisions emphasis on whrror and now the author of no

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Speaker 2: Hol's bar.

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Speaker 4: Hey, well, welcome to the show. Welcome to the author club.

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Speaker 2: Baby, no ship, I'm trying to catch up to y'all. Guy, damn,

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Speaker 2: how does it feel?

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Speaker 4: Y'all?

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Speaker 2: Are what a year and a half? Two years?

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Speaker 3: Two years?

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Speaker 2: In two years? And as authors? Did it change? Like

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Speaker 2: the price of y'all's pussy?

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Speaker 5: Like I wrote a birl, this is your interview. Oh

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Speaker 5: look at ye, send your little podcasting ass now.

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Speaker 4: But yes, the price, look at me?

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Speaker 2: I go write it to interview And y'all, what the

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Speaker 2: fuck is wrong with you?

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Speaker 4: Any guy I date? Have you ever such an author?

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Speaker 4: I didn't think so.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not gonna lie even going on the breakfast club.

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Speaker 2: Holy shit, I don't even think I can fuck anyone

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Speaker 2: regular anymore? Like your girl been on the fucking breakfast club?

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Speaker 4: Okay, Like I mean, after you hit certain blacks in

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Speaker 4: your career, you're like, do you know where the fuck

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Speaker 4: I am?

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Speaker 2: Oh? That's just listen during the week, like the drop

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Speaker 2: of the book. If they get me on, like Jimmy

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Speaker 2: Kimmel or something like that, it's fucking over. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I'll become a fucking nun because I'm gonna feel like

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Speaker 2: no one is worthy of my pussy.

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Speaker 4: Have you been to the Breakfast Club? Oh you haven't?

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Speaker 2: All right, Sorry, we're not in the same We can't.

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Speaker 2: You know, we can't do this. But no, it's it's

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Speaker 2: been dope.

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Speaker 4: I understand that. Did your price go up after you

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Speaker 4: won the Breakfast Club Erica?

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Speaker 3: I was already had a.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, y'all got, y'all got?

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Speaker 4: Man? I tell her Landa all the time.

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Speaker 2: What the fuck are you talking to?

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Speaker 4: I'm an author? He tries to talk about my spelling

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Speaker 4: and should like, do you know have you read a book?

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Speaker 4: I didn't fucking think so.

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Speaker 2: Zip it? Man, he's agreeing over there, He's like yeah,

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Speaker 2: and then you.

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Speaker 4: Guess me, he says, No, I that'sked about the fuck

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Speaker 2: That's what I thought. No, it's it's it's interesting now

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Speaker 2: because like, Okay, been talking on the podcast saying all

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Speaker 2: my whole ship over the last eight years, right, but

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Speaker 2: people are just now getting into podcast us and it's

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Speaker 2: now a part of life, right, bitch. Books are forever.

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Speaker 2: People have been reading since the fucking the Bible, right,

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Speaker 2: they've been reading you know what I mean, Jesus Basically,

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Speaker 2: I'm basically a Bible Thumper, Mark, what are they?

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Speaker 4: What are the People's name is Mark, Jeremiah and them

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Speaker 4: John Them.

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Speaker 2: My story isn't a book to b.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, it was.

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Speaker 2: I think though some of the stories from the podcast

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Speaker 2: I remember and maybe we could talk about anything that

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Speaker 2: I was like, I need to be able to include

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Speaker 2: my shame and being someone who sexually liberated. She felt

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Speaker 2: like it went against the purpose of our brand, like

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Speaker 2: I was like, you.

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Speaker 4: Acknowledge this actual liberation without what you had to come

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Speaker 2: And so I was in this therapeutic journey like really

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Speaker 2: like and in the reflection, really feeling like really bad

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Speaker 2: about a lot of the decisions I've made, the men

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Speaker 2: just happy to include that because that's what you kind

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Speaker 2: much reflection you get. You get the fucking regret of

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Speaker 2: these niggas, but not like I'm literally in that book

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Speaker 2: being like, yeah, you were fucking pathetic, you were desperate,

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Speaker 2: you were actually insecure. Like I have a whole chapter

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Speaker 2: do married men really treat you better?

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Speaker 5: I wouldn't ask you about that because that, Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: They Well, so, so it's a chapter about and you.

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Speaker 3: Know how funny.

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Speaker 5: Way let's go for a second because Okay, so I've

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Speaker 5: watched you through a few different phases. I saw I

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Speaker 5: met you during your married man phase. Yes, and so

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Speaker 5: that that was like when we first came on horrible

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Speaker 4: Was that the same that all one meeting?

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Speaker 2: Oh, that first meeting.

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Speaker 4: It was great, nic that was iconic meeting.

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Speaker 2: I don't think I've met anyone and fell in love

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Speaker 4: Wait wait wait wait wait wait church windows ketemy wait wait.

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Speaker 4: The fact that they were sitting at the table behind

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Speaker 3: Like sure, no problem, we love you.

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Speaker 2: Hey, no knowing now. So it's one of those things too.

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Speaker 2: Being able to put all my like hotels and growth

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Speaker 2: in a book reminds me of how many times I

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Speaker 2: could have ended up chopped.

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Speaker 4: Up in how many holy hey, you are you supposed

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Speaker 6: Like?

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Speaker 2: Because what the fuck? I didn't come across the craigsflis killer,

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Speaker 2: but very well probably could have. Like it's crazy, but

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Speaker 2: during that time you were in that you were you

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Speaker 2: were in a different season of your life, and you

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Speaker 2: had told me that you were very and you were

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Speaker 3: You're going through, whatever it is, whatever you're in, you

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Speaker 5: Okay, I say, I mean he's standing she's standing ten

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Speaker 5: toes down, honey, Because I said, I was asking you

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Speaker 5: about married men and you were like, oh no, I

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Speaker 3: It's great, it's perfect.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy because and I do actually lean into that

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Speaker 2: was jealous of the wife, never wanted to be the wife.

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Speaker 2: I genuinely, I genuinely felt like, this is fun. There's

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Speaker 4: You're probably right. There's a husband that's cheating. He's probably

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Speaker 2: By the way, I just want to read how I

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Speaker 2: let it be known that I have been a proud

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Speaker 2: And I lead it to just yeah, I was all

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Speaker 5: And when I asked you, because I asked you in

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Speaker 2: As a whole adult, Like my first relationship was at

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Speaker 2: You guys met him, and I think that that was

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Speaker 2: He would have been in here like I finally found love,

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Speaker 2: the good fun, even sexual moments, because I hated him

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Speaker 2: I do like this. Like that relationship. Yes, was a

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Speaker 2: a narcissist. But when it felt good, it felt really good,

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Speaker 5: I will say as authors ourselves, I realized too. I

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Speaker 5: think that when you decide to go on this literary journey,

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Speaker 5: like it actually takes you like energetically, like you're not

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Speaker 3: It took us almost two years.

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Speaker 2: Two years I remember you guys would be in Costa

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Speaker 2: Well? When I met on Facebook while he was in

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so he removed the condom without my knowledge and

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Speaker 2: not the extrovert party girl I thought I was. I'm

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Speaker 2: really a recluse and like to be alone and really

439
00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:45,439
Speaker 2: don't like people like that. I thought I liked being

440
00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:47,520
Speaker 2: around a whole lot of mo the parking, No, bitch,

441
00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:48,879
Speaker 2: it's because every time you go out you have a

442
00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:52,359
Speaker 2: drink in your hand. And so learning myself through the

443
00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:55,840
Speaker 2: book process, but then also through cold turking liquor and

444
00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:58,040
Speaker 2: sex also transformative.

445
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Speaker 4: One time, I mean Orlando were having and he choked

446
00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 4: me out and I was riding him, and I had

447
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:04,359
Speaker 4: like went out to eat and I had like my

448
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:07,040
Speaker 4: tie or something, and like he choked me, and I

449
00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 4: was riding him and I was fine, and then I

450
00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:11,159
Speaker 4: must have like blacked out. I must have fainted a

451
00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,320
Speaker 4: little bit. And then I came back and I looked

452
00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:14,800
Speaker 4: at him and I had to like the first thing

453
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:16,640
Speaker 4: I thought was like, oh my god, like I drank

454
00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:18,360
Speaker 4: too much, Like I didn't remember where I was at,

455
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Speaker 4: and I just start crying. He's like, oh, you didn't

456
00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:22,480
Speaker 4: like that. I was like, no, that just took me

457
00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 4: to a place that I haven't been to in a

458
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Speaker 4: very long time.

459
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Speaker 2: Oh wow.

460
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Speaker 4: And there's been times I've been with niggas and I

461
00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:31,040
Speaker 4: blacked out drunk, and I'm like, who is what? Oh? Uh? Yeah,

462
00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:33,800
Speaker 4: you know, but like, wow, it just dragged it drugged

463
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Speaker 4: me back into a space that I had not been

464
00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:37,920
Speaker 4: in so long. And it took me a minute to

465
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Speaker 4: like to put it together, like why was I so

466
00:21:40,280 --> 00:21:42,879
Speaker 4: triggered by him? Like by that? But I was like no, no, no, no, no,

467
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 4: I don't I don't like that because my first thing

468
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 4: was like how much did I drink? Yeah, knowing that

469
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,520
Speaker 4: that is a pattern that I had been in heavily

470
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Speaker 4: in my twenties and I had come out of it

471
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 4: and been in a safe space, but that reminded me

472
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:57,680
Speaker 4: and it triggered me so deeply and remembering like, oh, bitch,

473
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Speaker 4: there's still some work that you need to do behind

474
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:01,840
Speaker 4: these acts, behind these things that you did that you

475
00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:04,400
Speaker 4: detach yourself from. And yes, you've come a long way,

476
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 4: but you don't really come a long way without digging

477
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:09,520
Speaker 4: back into what the fuck? What the fuck was I doing?

478
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Speaker 2: Right?

479
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:10,359
Speaker 3: Why?

480
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:10,960
Speaker 2: Right?

481
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm really proud of you for being able to

482
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,159
Speaker 4: be here because it has been quite a journey and

483
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:17,040
Speaker 4: such an evolution.

484
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Speaker 3: How long were you celibate for?

485
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Speaker 2: I did I think I was celibate longer than I

486
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:26,560
Speaker 2: went without loquor. I was just proud that I was

487
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:28,880
Speaker 2: able to make I made two and a half months,

488
00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:32,000
Speaker 2: almost three months without liquor celibacy. I went maybe four

489
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:34,160
Speaker 2: and a half five months.

490
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Speaker 4: Are you because you took that break? Do you feel

491
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:39,399
Speaker 4: like you're hype? I mean, obviously you're drinking, like, but

492
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:42,119
Speaker 4: like more aware of when you're going too far and

493
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Speaker 4: when you're not feeling safe.

494
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Speaker 2: I started getting like like, and I've had lovers of

495
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:48,600
Speaker 2: mine be like, Damn, you gotta drink to fuck me.

496
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Speaker 2: They've said that. They've said that to my face, and

497
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:55,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, damn, and I mean, shit, you know what

498
00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 2: I mean. And that was a hard pital swallow because damn,

499
00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:01,400
Speaker 2: you're picking up something that I know.

500
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 4: I'm ugh but I haven't I don't want to put yet.

501
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,719
Speaker 2: That I haven't unpacked yet. And so that was that

502
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,679
Speaker 2: was like the push that I needed to do that.

503
00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:15,399
Speaker 2: And yeah, so that was like I guess from October

504
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 2: August through the top of the year. I ended up

505
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:22,400
Speaker 2: fucking on New Year's on an island. But but yeah,

506
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 2: I that that work. Oh, just don't even get me

507
00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 2: into it.

508
00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:30,560
Speaker 3: But no, let's get into it. Yeah, that's all.

509
00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 2: So the crazy part about realizing that connection. And it's

510
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 2: so crazy because I have a sister who's twenty seven.

511
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,720
Speaker 2: My mom is fifty five. I'm thirty four. Without any

512
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:44,119
Speaker 2: of us crossed talking to each other. I spoke to

513
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 2: both of them separately. They're in therapy doing the same

514
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 2: thing I'm doing. Why do I not feel safe with men?

515
00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 4: Because you healing? Heals your lady, damn.

516
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 2: Like men like so I talk about my sexual assaulting year,

517
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,120
Speaker 2: and the embarrassing part is as someone who's only been

518
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:03,920
Speaker 2: with black men, who only wants to be with black men,

519
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 2: I was so mad that all my assault hers were black.

520
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 2: I literally say it in the book, like not even

521
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 2: why did he assault me? Fuck? Why was he black?

522
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 2: Why did my brother do that to me? Like? Why

523
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 2: would he? You know what I mean? I was pissed

524
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 2: at that.

525
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:22,680
Speaker 4: I was a place that's supposed to be a safe space,

526
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 4: a place that you're supposed to feel safe, a place

527
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,239
Speaker 4: for having me cry. I think you're ready to come

528
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 4: on the retreat now.

529
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 2: No, I'm trying to catch you.

530
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it's it's deep, and it's necessary and it's

531
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:38,240
Speaker 4: important that your audience, and our audience sees you vulnerable

532
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 4: and sees you talking about this because like you said,

533
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,800
Speaker 4: like it's one thing to like he he and ha

534
00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 4: ha and talk about the sex and make light of it,

535
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 4: and like you kind of have to to like to

536
00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:49,479
Speaker 4: get to that part, to get to this point, like

537
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,920
Speaker 4: we have to celebrate deeply. We have to celebrate ourselves

538
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 4: so deeply in all of our things that that we

539
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:58,400
Speaker 4: feel safe coming to the place where like I wasn't

540
00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 4: safe and this is why I acted out this way.

541
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Speaker 5: Well, I think a lot of I think to a

542
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 5: lot of sexual empowerment unfortunately that we see on the internet,

543
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:11,159
Speaker 5: and the key keying and the laughing is because the

544
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 5: women haven't got actually gone under the surface and really

545
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,600
Speaker 5: explored the darkest parts of why they feel like they

546
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 5: need to show up, why they absolutely or why people

547
00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 5: or why women are hyper sexual Like is it actual?

548
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:28,120
Speaker 5: Is this actually you? Or is this your trauma coming through?

549
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 5: But this is a form of protection because you actually

550
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 5: don't feel safe and you actually want to repel everyone

551
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 5: from you. And this is how I show up. This

552
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 5: is me be me being confident in my sexuality because

553
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:41,679
Speaker 5: this is my actually my protection from the people that

554
00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:44,480
Speaker 5: have hurt me, and even further than that, like I

555
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 5: think a lot of two like with men black men,

556
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 5: specifically black women, US protecting black men to not wanting

557
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:52,200
Speaker 5: to not wanting to.

558
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:52,960
Speaker 2: Set them go to jail.

559
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 4: Well, there's a huge community like yeah, you know, it's

560
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 4: a huge no snitch community that well.

561
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 2: It's fucking ridiculous.

562
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:05,560
Speaker 4: Like even when you hurt me, I'm still considering.

563
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 2: Like the thought is to protect the abuser, yes, and

564
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 2: yes you know like that that that it sucks. It sucks,

565
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:18,680
Speaker 2: And I think the work that has to be done

566
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 2: in order to feel empowered is what I'm realizing is

567
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:26,359
Speaker 2: is sexual liberation. It's not just having the freedom to

568
00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 2: go and fuck whoever you want to. It's also knowing

569
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,640
Speaker 2: what your desires are, what you want, what makes good,

570
00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 2: and making sure you're doing the pleasure for yourself. Like

571
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 2: I tell myself, I'm a pathetic bitch multiple times because

572
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:42,679
Speaker 2: I even talk about how wow, sex was actually the

573
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:47,159
Speaker 2: way in which I came across confident because if a

574
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:50,679
Speaker 2: man fucked me, I got the validation that I like,

575
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 2: my whole confidence was centered and if it was wet

576
00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:00,359
Speaker 2: that juicy, the men wanted it the type been I

577
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 2: got and I was like, oh wow, I'm like not

578
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 2: confident at all, and I'm seeking validation through the places

579
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 2: I'm not. I don't even feel safe technically, the niggas

580
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 2: who don't respect me outside of the bedroom, like there's

581
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 2: there's very little respect in. This is such a temporary moment.

582
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 2: This is how I feel good about myself and it

583
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 2: it that was a hard pill to swallow.

584
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:25,159
Speaker 3: Too, Like your empowerment was totally linked to sex.

585
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 2: It was it was false, like it was false, and

586
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 2: I was like, damn, did you did you like yourself?

587
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 2: And I think that that's I think that that's what

588
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:39,919
Speaker 2: this journey in therapy has done. It has gotten me

589
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 2: to like value myself so much more.

590
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 4: Bitch.

591
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 2: It's hard to fuck niggas now because I mean, like,

592
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:47,879
Speaker 2: you don't desire it is, Bitch, you don't even know. Bitch,

593
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 2: I'm I love myself. It's a little harder to fuck

594
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 2: it shit like because I know what I deserve. I

595
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:59,199
Speaker 2: have the words in vocabulary to say, this is how

596
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 2: I want to be treated. These are the things I want.

597
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 2: And as soon as a man admits the baby, a

598
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 2: man will tell you what he can't do for you

599
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:08,399
Speaker 2: and it's up to you to accept it or not.

600
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:10,159
Speaker 2: So as soon as a man lets me know he

601
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 2: can't show up, how I would like him to show up?

602
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 2: Oh baby, we ain't got nothing else to talk about.

603
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 2: It ain't gonna happen. And I think that for so

604
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 2: long I was accepting crumbs, the bare minimum, just to

605
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 2: be in the presence of a fine lit nigga with

606
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,439
Speaker 2: a big old dick, you know what I mean, Like

607
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 2: just to be able to say I did maybe right.

608
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 4: But how is this How is this like awakening that

609
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 4: you to discuss, like that your sister and your mom

610
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 4: are also experiencing right now, Like how has it shifted

611
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 4: you guys's relationship too?

612
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 2: I mean, we're The thing is we all got out

613
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 2: of relationships with undiagnosed because not many are with men

614
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 2: who we perceive to have been narcissists. And so the

615
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 2: crazy thing that we don't talk about, like we just

616
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 2: talked about sexual abuse, right, I don't think there is

617
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:05,719
Speaker 2: enough conversation around what the emotional abuse of an up

618
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 2: and down relationship looks like. A man who wants to

619
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 2: humble you, a man who doesn't celebrate you, a man

620
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 2: who you know will tie your successes to him being present,

621
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 2: a man who's competitive, a man who you know betrays

622
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 2: your boundaries and trusts the emotional psychology around also going

623
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 2: continuing to go back. That was my first relationship. We

624
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 2: broke up thirteen times, and that was, Oh, that's a that's.

625
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 3: A mood a mood.

626
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 2: Wait wait, and and you know what I know, because bitch,

627
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 2: every time we did, I brought it to the podcast,

628
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 2: so it is fucking chronologicalized on the goddamn show. And

629
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 2: he used to suck because you know, we vote record,

630
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 2: so I'll be talking about yeah, fuck nigga, y, I'm

631
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:56,479
Speaker 2: thinking now fuck that. By the time that shiit Air,

632
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 2: I was like, read the comments. There's something.

633
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 4: There's something about podcasting too that people are like, it

634
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 4: makes you fucking accountable, and not only I have to

635
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:09,800
Speaker 4: hear myself say this shit over and over again these

636
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 4: people that I don't even know it makes you be

637
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 4: accountable or like, fuck I said this seventeen motherfucking you know.

638
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 2: What's crazy too? As women going through that experience and

639
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 2: going back that many times because I was thrilled I

640
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 2: was in love with that man. Going back that many

641
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 2: times allowed me to understand more so I then got

642
00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 2: if you listen to the early days in the podcast,

643
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 2: a woman kept going back you. I thought she was

644
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:41,440
Speaker 2: a weak ass, like you're girl, how could you do that?

645
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 4: Baby?

646
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? And then when it was me,

647
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 2: I I literally I couldn't see it until I got

648
00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 2: out of it too, and I was like, oh shit.

649
00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 2: But also there's this like dumb ass logic. There's a

650
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 2: few dumb ass logics we have to like tell the

651
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 2: younger youth, you know they're not gonna listen to because

652
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 2: I'm mad that there's stuff that we listen to. His

653
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 2: women the older women used to try to tund less, bitch,

654
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 2: and you don't really learn until you go through it,

655
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 2: so like fucking a guy isn't gonna make him like

656
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 2: you more. And then the other one is you have

657
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 2: to fight for love. I used to That was why

658
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 2: I kept going back. I'm like, well, they say that

659
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 2: relationships are hard and you have to fight for them,

660
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 2: and you know you can't just when it gets bumpy.

661
00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 2: You can't just leave it the first sign. You have

662
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 2: to And I was like, yeah, nah, bitch, some relationships

663
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 2: deserve to be going after the first They definitely, man.

664
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 4: Oh you leave me so are you leave me so easily?

665
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 5: They do, But I think that because women were romantic,

666
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 5: were romantists. Romantic, yeah, romantic on our own individually. I'm

667
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 5: not gonna blame everything on the man like we do

668
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 5: this ship to ourselves delusion literally like literally when I

669
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 5: was with my ex, I remember sitting on the podcast

670
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 5: and saying, I don't get to write my love story,

671
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 5: Like I don't get to write my story if it

672
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 5: starts rocky.

673
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 3: That's just how it is, you know.

674
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 5: And I'm like thinking back now, and I'm like, bitch,

675
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 5: that was fucked up, Like that wasn't gonna work from

676
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 5: the beginning.

677
00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 3: You needed.

678
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 4: Like the back of on the Delulu. I was gonna

679
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 4: have to light that.

680
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 5: Up and and and that didn't really have anything to

681
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 5: do with him. He didn't feed me that. I fed

682
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 5: myself that because that is because that's what I because

683
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 5: because I will getting love was being loved was such

684
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 5: an addiction for me at that point. I wanted that

685
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 5: love to work so badly because I felt in such

686
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 5: a deficit of love in my life at that point,

687
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 5: so that superseded all fucking logic and anything else.

688
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 3: It had nothing to do with him and the Dick

689
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 3: was great, but.

690
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 5: It wasn't like that great, you know what I mean,

691
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 5: Like it was it wasn't even the dick. It was

692
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:44,120
Speaker 5: like my need and obsession with wanting to feel love

693
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 5: and be loved and wanting to just get that part

694
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 5: of my life going already, Like I'm tired of being single.

695
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 5: I want to start my I want to start my

696
00:32:51,280 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 5: said life already, like as if it hadn't already fucking

697
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 5: as if I hadn't already been living it.

698
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 4: You know.

699
00:32:56,600 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 2: I talk about like, uh, the Dine, the Disney Princess

700
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:05,360
Speaker 2: syndrome or whatever, like the fact that in all of

701
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 2: our childhood movies and cartoons, it's literally a woman doing

702
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 2: like this bitch arial gave up her voice for an.

703
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 4: It's literally part of the welcome package of womanhood and you.

704
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 2: Getting born as a girl, and a welcome package is

705
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:20,080
Speaker 2: like haw that a man is gonna come.

706
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 5: And I was watching Cinder Brandy's Cinderella last night with

707
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 5: my daughter.

708
00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 3: It's been like three part.

709
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,720
Speaker 7: Series, by the way, that is such a good It's

710
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 7: a great movie, yes, But as I'm watching it, I'm like,

711
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 7: so this nigga fucking dance has all these bitches waiting

712
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 7: to dance with him, and then a missing shoe and

713
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 7: he's wait, he has to fit, and all the bitches

714
00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:44,960
Speaker 7: are going crazy fighting each other over whether there's making

715
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 7: shoe fits, and this Cinderella is over.

716
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 5: Here, like I'm just Cinderella, just just a lonely milkmaid, and.

717
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, what the right like this is? This is

718
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:57,600
Speaker 3: the fucked up I'm like the product.

719
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,719
Speaker 4: It's like it's like little Girl propaganda. We're not need

720
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 4: to write it like a warning book for the for

721
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 4: the like the mothers. This is the things you don't

722
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 4: do with please do not gender roles. I'm just saying

723
00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:10,640
Speaker 4: it's a warning. Disney movie should come with a warning package,

724
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 4: like a warning label, like this ship is not fucking

725
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:14,879
Speaker 4: real and it will make you helpless and.

726
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:18,720
Speaker 2: Fu even let me see I dance. So there's the aerial,

727
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 2: there's the Pocahontas abandon her.

728
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,279
Speaker 5: But even even in Cinderella, what I noticed to and

729
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 5: obviously the stepmom was evil, but but she she was

730
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 5: the one pushing her daughters. Yes, so a lot of

731
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 5: times that's it too, is that it starts with your

732
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,799
Speaker 5: mother too, saying this is what you need to do

733
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 5: in a manner to be valuable. This is how you

734
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 5: start this, when you did when you do this, this

735
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 5: is when you start your life. When you get married,

736
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 5: This is when you start your life. Everything else doesn't

737
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 5: matter because we're leading, and this is the goal.

738
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 2: The goal is to be a wife and to be

739
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 2: a mother. But and that's where to me, not wanting

740
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 2: to be either, like I'm now like this modernized woman,

741
00:34:58,560 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 2: of course.

742
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,720
Speaker 3: But I wish that we do like what then happened afterwards,

743
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 3: I think.

744
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:04,240
Speaker 4: Where it happened.

745
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:07,439
Speaker 2: And I'm not gonna if you watch Beauty and the Beast,

746
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:11,799
Speaker 2: the Beast was a whole narcissist abuses of ass nigga like.

747
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:17,879
Speaker 4: For fuck nigga. Literally, I'm gonna sue you.

748
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 2: I'm gonna got the money base class action. This is

749
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:26,440
Speaker 2: Hi suing for emotional damage the Tasney World coucher fucking days.

750
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 5: We're coming for you and we want Okay, we're gonna

751
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 5: We're gonna put a position in this episode description.

752
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:33,800
Speaker 4: It is a high thought a class action suit against

753
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 4: motherfucking Disney because you fucking false advertised all throughout my

754
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 4: childhood had a decade of a plus of trauma because

755
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 4: of your bitch.

756
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 5: Ass Disney to respond, this is legal.

757
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:50,319
Speaker 4: We're coming for you, I mean, and honestly, that's why

758
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:52,279
Speaker 4: I feel like as mothers, I know, we got a

759
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:54,479
Speaker 4: lot of backlash coming into this space like this because

760
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 4: we talk very very vivid, like very real in this

761
00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:00,840
Speaker 4: book too, But it's like, this is why it requires

762
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 4: mothers like us, and this is why the work that

763
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:06,439
Speaker 4: we're doing is so motherfucking important that you writing this book.

764
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 4: Us all arriving here is no mistake the same of

765
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 4: your mom and your sister are now in therapy and

766
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 4: coming to terms that would have probably never happened if

767
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,359
Speaker 4: there wasn't for Mandy. What you know what I'm saying, like,

768
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 4: there's so much there's so much work in like there's

769
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 4: we said this, there's there's healing in the hoeing.

770
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 2: And I just want to say too, for the people

771
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 2: that listen and know that y'all are moms and think

772
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:33,760
Speaker 2: that y'all are these wild, crazy, you know, insane bitches,

773
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 2: y'all have two of the most well behaved kids. I

774
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 2: don't even like kids, but anytime I've been around your daughters,

775
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 2: just the most kindest, sweetest, most well behaved little girls,

776
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:49,239
Speaker 2: and so and I know moms who think that they're

777
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:53,360
Speaker 2: fucking a one. Moms and their kids are fucking bitches,

778
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Their kids are fucking dickheads.

779
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 2: And so like, just know y'all are doing right by

780
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 2: how you're raising.

781
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:01,840
Speaker 4: That's how I knew we were real friends. When you

782
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 4: let us come to your house with our kids.

783
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:06,320
Speaker 2: I was like, wow, because I like them well behaved.

784
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 2: Oh trust me, there's don't bring your kids. I have

785
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:10,879
Speaker 2: friends that I don't want to be around.

786
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 3: Our kids might have traumatized your cat, though I'm not.

787
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:14,799
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, god it was. They was whooping body ass

788
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 2: and then body traumatized. They started fighting back. Oh I know,

789
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 2: I know. It was crazy. Well that's that's my that's

790
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:26,319
Speaker 2: my nephew. Yes I do. But girl, my voices, do

791
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 2: you hear this on the brain. It's just no, no, no,

792
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 2: I'm getting secondhand smoking. It smells smells delicious.

793
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 3: So is it is?

794
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:36,240
Speaker 2: It is banana.

795
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 4: This is a nola banana Foster's backwood.

796
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:40,280
Speaker 2: Okay, because this smells delicious.

797
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:41,720
Speaker 4: It's smelling like because it tastes.

798
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 3: I'm taking a break from cannabis.

799
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 5: But I the other day I smoked a backwood like

800
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,359
Speaker 5: I smoked a backwood, like, did not take the ship,

801
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 5: take the ship out of it? No, because I was like,

802
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 5: let me just taste what it tastes like, because what

803
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:53,760
Speaker 5: on this tobacco?

804
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, this is well.

805
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 3: This is the thing.

806
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 5: What I This is what I've realized because there's a

807
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:00,959
Speaker 5: lot of flavors. But every time I kind of smoke

808
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,320
Speaker 5: when I'm like, I don't know if I'm tasting it inside,

809
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 5: it's inside.

810
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 4: Taking the.

811
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:10,560
Speaker 2: Leave a little bit, you know some of them.

812
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 5: You gotta know people, And that's why I'm there, and

813
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 5: that's why because I hate I sat a white, a

814
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 5: backwood white, backwood way right.

815
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 3: I smoked a backwood white and it was like vanilla.

816
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:23,919
Speaker 4: I was like, oh it was good.

817
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 3: It was good. And I didn't inhale like you know.

818
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 3: I smoked like a cigar like you're supposed to. Let

819
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 3: it kind of marinated.

820
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,279
Speaker 5: Break breaking news and the amount of people that went

821
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 5: in shout out to our followers on Instagram, y'all were

822
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 5: very concerned for my health and my d ms, and

823
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:38,480
Speaker 5: they were also going to drop off weed immediately.

824
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 3: They're like, where are you?

825
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 2: I will drop off.

826
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 3: You don't need to be smoking a backwards like this.

827
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 4: But breaking news. You guys backwards are for smoking. I

828
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 4: don't you know that the directions don't see anything. P

829
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 4: s A that the nigga's out there, but it says

830
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 4: nothing about taking all the picture.

831
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 2: The inside is literally poking out.

832
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're supposed to smoke that.

833
00:38:58,760 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

834
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 5: No, And so I did it, and I was my

835
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 5: remix and I was like, do I need to start

836
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 5: smoking cigars?

837
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 2: Like for real?

838
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 4: Do you like? I like you smoking cigars?

839
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't mind. I don't mind.

840
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 3: I've smoked my dad's before, but his are so intense.

841
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 2: That's what happens when you're a side chick. Married men

842
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:13,400
Speaker 2: take you to cigar lounge. Yes they do, because the

843
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 2: only men there, they're the ones who introduced me to

844
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 2: cigars all my marriage. The lounge baby, and and.

845
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 4: I have an old nigga magnet.

846
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 2: I'd be like, you give me the girl one, give

847
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:27,719
Speaker 2: me a little cute girls, the little cute one.

848
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:29,439
Speaker 4: I kind of like them fat. It makes me feel

849
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 4: like a gangster.

850
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I just feel like a gangster when

851
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 2: I wake up.

852
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:35,720
Speaker 4: I'm the same, like an extra gangster, like a music

853
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 4: video gangster. Do you have any have you been any

854
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 4: bad choices this week that you want to share with

855
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 4: our audience. So you're a bad choice of the week.

856
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 6: Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom.

857
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 3: So good.

858
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 2: First off, I've been potting my life away.

859
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 3: Every time I see you freaking talk so much.

860
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 2: I talk a whole lot. A bad decision, no, but

861
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 2: I did just okay, So it's a good decision, but

862
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:18,799
Speaker 2: it's like naughty. So shout out to Girls Gotta Eat.

863
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 2: They gave me and I'm so glad because so I

864
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:26,839
Speaker 2: moved from New York to Atlanta, have not unpacked one

865
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:30,880
Speaker 2: of my electronic boxes. This electronic box has all of

866
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 2: my sex toy chargers. So it has been six months

867
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:39,440
Speaker 2: since I've put a toy to my pussy. So Raina

868
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 2: gave me, Uh, Girls Gotta Eat gave me a sex toy,

869
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 2: and bitch were like, do you want Do you want

870
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 2: a toy for a couple or do you want a

871
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 2: toy for yourself? I said, bitch, I'm selfish, give me

872
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 2: one for myself. And I said, wait, do you have

873
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 2: something that sucks? Those are the things I like and like.

874
00:40:58,880 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 2: So it's this baby. I've been coming in like start

875
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,440
Speaker 2: a second, I'm like, bitch, normally. It take me a

876
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,959
Speaker 2: good eight nine minutes because I got a warmer up, bitch.

877
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 2: I put that little thing on it, and it was

878
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 2: it was sober to know what to do. I was like,

879
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 2: real quick, oh no, no, no, that was my my click

880
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:19,439
Speaker 2: got drunk real quick. Okay, like like if you're talking

881
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 2: about not drinking for a while. That thing went on

882
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 2: on that clinton I said, poop came. So that decision

883
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:29,400
Speaker 2: was a great decision. It was a naughty one.

884
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 4: It was a bad one.

885
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:33,760
Speaker 2: All those things. I'm back to. Getting this clip sucked, baby,

886
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 2: and that shit felt good. I'm happier back, baby. I'm

887
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 2: glad I'm back, because boy, is it fucking caveman old

888
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 2: era age should just be rubbing at the thing.

889
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 4: It's very vintag good for you to come back.

890
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 2: You gotta take breaks.

891
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 4: You can't buzze your your fucking graduate.

892
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 2: All I know is that six month break just made

893
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 2: it to where I don't even really get to enjoy

894
00:41:55,920 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 2: like the long experience of masturbation right now, bitch. It's like,

895
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 2: that's my pussy dot com.

896
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 4: So that was your bad choices a week and not

897
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,000
Speaker 4: in pocking, not unpacking that one charger.

898
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 2: Oh my like that was my bad choice this whole year. Bitch,

899
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:11,280
Speaker 2: Why the fuck have I not charged my sex toys?

900
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:14,280
Speaker 2: So I just be at home Vintage rubbing this puss.

901
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 4: Because you're to go home and pluck that ship in now.

902
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 2: Literally, it's so funny because my homegirl was like, you

903
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 2: could always stay at my house in l A. And

904
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:22,959
Speaker 2: I just had to. I said, First off, a bitch

905
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 2: likes to play with her pussy, Okay, I said, I

906
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 2: like to be in a hotel room where I can

907
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 2: just lay naked, or you be having people come over

908
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:31,879
Speaker 2: at the end of the day. Sometimes I don't want

909
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 2: to talk to people at all. So I got my

910
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 2: little hotel, got that sex toy, and boy, so you've

911
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 2: been having a week rubbing my pussing out. Let me

912
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 2: calm down, you have she kind of jumping right now.

913
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:53,240
Speaker 2: Oh she happy. She was like, God, damn, thank you guy.

914
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 5: You have a chapter in your book and that it's

915
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 5: funny that we're talking about this called how can I

916
00:42:58,440 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 5: expect you to please me?

917
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 3: If I can please myself?

918
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:04,359
Speaker 2: So it's that's the first chapter in the book and

919
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 2: it talks about back to even having sex with men.

920
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 2: It's about me not understanding my body, not knowing my body,

921
00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 2: and the only way for a long time being able

922
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:19,360
Speaker 2: to come through sex. So I needed a man to come.

923
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:22,439
Speaker 2: And so it just it goes through the journey of

924
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:25,839
Speaker 2: literally from me humping a Teddy Bear when I was young,

925
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,319
Speaker 2: to me using the shower head at home because it

926
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 2: felt good to me reading fan fiction where, bitch, why

927
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 2: the fuck was I thirteen fourteen wanting to be gangbanged

928
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:40,280
Speaker 2: by B two K bow wow and fucking Chris Brown

929
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 2: all at once. I'm literally reading this fan fiction like mmmm,

930
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:49,040
Speaker 2: So Chris Brown came over and then Jay Bug walked

931
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 2: in and where are you reading? Y'all don't know about

932
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 2: fan fiction? My god, y'all can still find it to

933
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 2: this day. We looked it up. So they were message boards,

934
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 2: so you know how red it is. And the other

935
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 2: message board that never gets airtime and gets bleeped out

936
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:04,840
Speaker 2: whenever I talk.

937
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 3: About it, so beside one.

938
00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:11,759
Speaker 2: The one that is in the back. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

939
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 2: that one I don't say. I don't say that.

940
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess we should say evil.

941
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 2: But it's like a reddit, so there's multiple message boards

942
00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 2: and there's like a category labeled fan fiction, and you

943
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:26,799
Speaker 2: go in there and it's people that are writing erotica,

944
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 2: but the people in the erotica are celebrities, So as

945
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:35,920
Speaker 2: a fan, you could literally look up who you like

946
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 2: and read all these stories. And so I was reading

947
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:42,399
Speaker 2: these stories and it was like, you know, like, I'm

948
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:45,759
Speaker 2: hanging out with the crew and literally, yeah, Jay Book

949
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:48,319
Speaker 2: came over and Little Fizz was looking through the door

950
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 2: and I said you can come join. But I was

951
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:55,800
Speaker 2: bow wow oh like and literally and literally I'm fucking thirteen,

952
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh yeah, gang bang me b two

953
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 2: k yeah wow, Why the fuck did I want that

954
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 2: so young? That's how I knew it was gonna be

955
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 2: a problem when I started fucking yeah advanced like, and

956
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 2: so I talk about sitting at the computer reading this

957
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 2: late at night and just just getting wet and not

958
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:15,880
Speaker 2: knowing what was happening. And then I talk about hunching

959
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 2: my friends because that's what we did. We played teacher

960
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 2: and hunched each other with our clothes on. And so

961
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:26,080
Speaker 2: I go through this journey of what what was happening

962
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 2: with my body? It thumping, it feeling good when I

963
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 2: would rub it on things. And then I get to

964
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:34,120
Speaker 2: where I'm in my twenties and I'm like, oh, I

965
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:36,319
Speaker 2: know how to touch it, I know how I like it. Oh,

966
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 2: this is what's happening. And I talk about like the

967
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 2: way I'm able to get pleasure now with partners and

968
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 2: with myself is heightened out of this world because I

969
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:47,360
Speaker 2: know exactly what I want and it's because I explored

970
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 2: my body and figured out what I like, what I

971
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 2: don't like, and then learn how to communicate it. So yeah,

972
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 2: it's like, ladies, y'all mad, you can't orgasm? Have you? Do?

973
00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 3: You know your Do you like it?

974
00:45:58,120 --> 00:45:58,359
Speaker 2: Slow?

975
00:45:58,400 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 3: Do you like it?

976
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,399
Speaker 2: Harden? Once you know how you like it, then tell

977
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 2: the nigga, tell the bitch.

978
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:04,240
Speaker 4: Go to fan fiction.

979
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 2: Figure read some fan fiction. I'm mind you, mind you,

980
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:12,360
Speaker 2: and those are of course I was a child, But

981
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:14,279
Speaker 2: you can go, oh, bitch, if you like white people,

982
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's some let me. I'm sure you can

983
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 2: read about all them white crackers.

984
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 4: You know what, this is such a female thing because

985
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 4: I'm like, like, you know, you can't find the porn category,

986
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 4: like the specific porn category that you want, and it

987
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 4: pisses you off. I'm like, I should just make my

988
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 4: own fan fiction fan fiction.

989
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 3: I'm going to go look up Charlie Hana fan fiction.

990
00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 2: Who someone white because I don't know, Yeah, that.

991
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:40,959
Speaker 5: Sounds friends of Anarchy. Oh his the lead of Sons

992
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:41,360
Speaker 5: of Anarchy.

993
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 3: Never saw that even so fine, Jason, that is that

994
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 3: right period of fan fiction with Charlie and Jason.

995
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:50,279
Speaker 4: You know who I want.

996
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,440
Speaker 2: I'm gonna take you. I'm gonna keep it in the

997
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 2: same region. This is I want Jason Momoa and Roman Rains. Bitch,

998
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 2: look up Roman Rains right now. I took it from

999
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:07,279
Speaker 2: acting to wrestling wrestler. I don't even like wrestling is

1000
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,800
Speaker 2: only good for Roman his whole family.

1001
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 3: God damn, he looked like Hercules.

1002
00:47:17,160 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 2: He's Hercules.

1003
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 4: That's the kind of white.

1004
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:27,240
Speaker 2: I like that. He's like tong like Philip whatever, that Filipino.

1005
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:28,360
Speaker 3: He's he used to play football.

1006
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 2: It's like he's married his wife, a wrestler. I think

1007
00:47:33,400 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 2: they all marry each other.

1008
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 4: They do.

1009
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 2: All the wrestlers like marry each other. But he fine, fine,

1010
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:44,719
Speaker 2: she fine to Actually not as fine right there, yeah,

1011
00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 2: because he's you know, like, I don't like when niggas.

1012
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:50,240
Speaker 3: He needs to have his hair down.

1013
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:51,600
Speaker 4: Hair looks like you get a ravage.

1014
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:55,359
Speaker 2: I need a ravage even I like hair like don't

1015
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:58,399
Speaker 2: shave your your hair off. I need you to look scruffy. Yeah.

1016
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:00,840
Speaker 4: I like a little scruffy too. I want you to

1017
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:01,840
Speaker 4: look a little rough around that.

1018
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 2: If you start getting grades, keep the salt and pepper.

1019
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 2: Don't color that ship. I hate that it's getting colored.

1020
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:09,760
Speaker 2: Keep it salt and pepper.

1021
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 3: You went to Georgia Tech. Just maybe maybe he's still.

1022
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 2: Maybe you come back. I just want to bump into him.

1023
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:20,240
Speaker 4: He's from Florida, and he's from Florida.

1024
00:48:20,400 --> 00:48:21,800
Speaker 2: Or you want to be so bad?

1025
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:25,400
Speaker 3: That's the color, baby Dan, Not you knowing all of

1026
00:48:25,400 --> 00:48:28,799
Speaker 3: his Oh he's Oh he's Samoan and Italian.

1027
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,840
Speaker 2: So he is okay, part spicy, way, okay, part spicy

1028
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 2: wait a lottle meat ball. All right, Yeah, I ain't

1029
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:37,080
Speaker 2: mad at that.

1030
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:39,879
Speaker 4: We went on a deep Sorry.

1031
00:48:41,160 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 3: My car later and my fan fiction.

1032
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:45,439
Speaker 2: I also lost my card.

1033
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,959
Speaker 3: Your card, Oh no, it's in your book.

1034
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:55,600
Speaker 2: Oh okay, okay, okay, can you you're not gonna read

1035
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 2: my card.

1036
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:57,360
Speaker 3: I know we're gonna read your car. But before we

1037
00:48:57,400 --> 00:49:00,840
Speaker 3: read your card, I want you ask you if.

1038
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:02,359
Speaker 8: You have a horror story that you can share with

1039
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 8: us who stories in true horror form? I know you're

1040
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 8: a reformed horror supposedly, now.

1041
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:16,040
Speaker 4: Go back into your horror files.

1042
00:49:20,440 --> 00:49:23,440
Speaker 2: I guess, I guess all because in true fashion, why not,

1043
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 2: I'll bring up a story that I had in the book.

1044
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 2: My first time pegging went terrible, and it's because the

1045
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 2: guy was so against the strap, looking like a real dick,

1046
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:43,400
Speaker 2: So he didn't want and he didn't know, but he

1047
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 2: was interested, like he definitely liked butt play, and I

1048
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 2: wanted to get in that boodhle hole.

1049
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:52,160
Speaker 5: Wait, but question before we tell the horror story. Yes,

1050
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 5: why did you want to get in the bootyhole?

1051
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: Like?

1052
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:54,919
Speaker 3: Where did that come from?

1053
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 7: Like?

1054
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,800
Speaker 3: Where was that?

1055
00:49:58,200 --> 00:49:58,480
Speaker 4: I love?

1056
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 2: Look at that. That's in the book too. First off,

1057
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 2: it was birth from in a hole momophobia. Let's be

1058
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:05,840
Speaker 2: very clear, so that the chapter that I'm talking about,

1059
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:09,040
Speaker 2: I start with how I used to think if a

1060
00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:11,120
Speaker 2: guy wanted to have anal sex with me, he was gay,

1061
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:15,360
Speaker 2: because why would you want anything but this lovely fucking

1062
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:17,560
Speaker 2: hole right here? Why would you want the back?

1063
00:50:17,640 --> 00:50:17,799
Speaker 6: Though?

1064
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:20,319
Speaker 2: That don't make no sense? And so I go through

1065
00:50:20,360 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 2: this journey of unlearning that finally having antal sex, it

1066
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 2: not being the best, but willing to keep trying, trying

1067
00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 2: all the way until I got an anal orgasm. I

1068
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:36,719
Speaker 2: started to just really like enjoy male butt two. I

1069
00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:41,720
Speaker 2: think from gay porn. So to me, men in straight

1070
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:45,760
Speaker 2: porn always looked like they just got out the girls.

1071
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 2: Weaves was bad, makeup was terrible, and I'm like, straight

1072
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 2: porn is just not sexy to me. So somehow I

1073
00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:56,320
Speaker 2: went down the rabbit hole of gay porn.

1074
00:50:57,400 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 9: They're all shaved, they're ripped, the fine, they take care

1075
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:05,719
Speaker 9: of themselves, and I'm like, oh wait, they're having mad

1076
00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:07,480
Speaker 9: antal sex and I don't see ship.

1077
00:51:07,920 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 2: I said, oh, so maybe you could have. Maybe this

1078
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:11,839
Speaker 2: is like a clean little thing you could do if

1079
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 2: you do it the right way. But I started like

1080
00:51:15,120 --> 00:51:17,680
Speaker 2: liking mail butt. I started looking at it.

1081
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:19,760
Speaker 4: I start.

1082
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 2: Over mail, but I did, like looked in jeans. How

1083
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:30,760
Speaker 2: you used to want to see a nigga being over

1084
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 2: Dinner's a thing where they make their bootlehole wink girl,

1085
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:41,960
Speaker 2: what is that category? So boot ahole week but they

1086
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 2: literally just make it say high like look at me

1087
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:46,160
Speaker 2: all like yeah, they.

1088
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:47,440
Speaker 3: Actually don't you remember that.

1089
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Speaker 4: Bootyhole?

1090
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 5: I that was like six months ago.

1091
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:56,880
Speaker 2: I like a winking boodhole.

1092
00:51:57,280 --> 00:51:59,359
Speaker 4: Yeah it was last year.

1093
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 2: You know you don't did That's what that went viral?

1094
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 2: Little fizz. I think at a week in Boodha hole

1095
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 2: that that like not.

1096
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:08,040
Speaker 3: You're okay, fantasy.

1097
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:10,120
Speaker 4: It comes.

1098
00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:14,279
Speaker 2: It's so crazy, but yeah, anyways, so I grew the

1099
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 2: obsession of seeing the beauty in that, like the same

1100
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:21,480
Speaker 2: way men like are asses. I started really liking man

1101
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 2: but got it and then I wanted to penetrate it.

1102
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:32,600
Speaker 2: I saw how beautiful it looked in gay porn. Wanted

1103
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 2: that that that.

1104
00:52:33,239 --> 00:52:35,200
Speaker 3: You wanted this, you wanted a man to submit to you?

1105
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:36,759
Speaker 2: Was it of that too?

1106
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:39,440
Speaker 3: But I was like or you just was like you

1107
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:41,560
Speaker 3: just love to please so much that you wanted to.

1108
00:52:41,640 --> 00:52:43,719
Speaker 2: I wanted to please him in every hole.

1109
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 4: I just want to tell you, if you're just listening

1110
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:48,920
Speaker 4: to this and you're not watching, for the love of God,

1111
00:52:49,239 --> 00:52:53,719
Speaker 4: tune in because the passion in her face, the pronunciation

1112
00:52:53,840 --> 00:52:57,760
Speaker 4: of mail butts, and like the joy and like, wow,

1113
00:52:57,800 --> 00:52:59,319
Speaker 4: I've never seen joy.

1114
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:02,799
Speaker 2: And then I learned science and they said the g

1115
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 2: spot was up there. I said, oh, I'm about to

1116
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:08,359
Speaker 2: please you baby, make you feel like you will never

1117
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 2: let me milk that thing, and so literally, then I

1118
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 2: learned science. Then I learned science bitch, not you can

1119
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:18,359
Speaker 2: tell you your prostate is your g spot. Let me get

1120
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 2: up in there. And so anyways, back to the story.

1121
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:24,680
Speaker 2: The first time I pegged the guy, he didn't want

1122
00:53:24,719 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 2: it to look like a dick. So I got a

1123
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:31,279
Speaker 2: prostate toy. But it was so hard and it had

1124
00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:34,279
Speaker 2: a curve, and so in order to get the prostate,

1125
00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:37,399
Speaker 2: it's towards go towards the belly button. So the lady

1126
00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 2: at the store, I'll never forget, she said, if it's

1127
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:43,680
Speaker 2: if it's curved, if he's on his back, it should

1128
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:45,840
Speaker 2: be pointed up. If he's on his knees, it should

1129
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:50,239
Speaker 2: be pointed down. And so when we fucked, it was

1130
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 2: like it was hard. It was hard, and so I

1131
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:57,360
Speaker 2: don't think it was very enjoyable for him, and it

1132
00:53:57,440 --> 00:54:01,919
Speaker 2: made me not enjoyable, like enjoying the experience because it

1133
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:05,439
Speaker 2: was I knew I wasn't. It had to hurt. Well,

1134
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:07,640
Speaker 2: I said, nigga, next time, we might need the thing

1135
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 2: with the little veins. They look like a dick, because

1136
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:12,760
Speaker 2: those at least feel like skin and are better like material.

1137
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:16,280
Speaker 2: But it's so funny. I literally do the Keith Lee

1138
00:54:17,200 --> 00:54:21,840
Speaker 2: my first time. Peggy, I'd like to rate it a

1139
00:54:20,719 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 2: five point time like it was. It was a bad, bad,

1140
00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:28,920
Speaker 2: bad first time. I'm glad that me and him got

1141
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:32,479
Speaker 2: to go a second I was. We did a redo.

1142
00:54:32,520 --> 00:54:36,600
Speaker 2: We did it multiple times with a different toy. He allowed,

1143
00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:40,440
Speaker 2: he allowed me to go and just get one that

1144
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:43,359
Speaker 2: looked like a dick, and we had to talk through

1145
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 2: his own internalized homophobia with that too, like bruh, it's

1146
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:49,879
Speaker 2: a plastic I'm a bitch, which would come like, calm down,

1147
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:52,600
Speaker 2: it's not a real dick. I just think the material

1148
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 2: would lead for it to be better. And so yeah,

1149
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:57,840
Speaker 2: like we did that, and that's when I even started

1150
00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:00,279
Speaker 2: like the anal training kids. So learn more about the

1151
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 2: butt plugs, learn more about like the things that I

1152
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:04,880
Speaker 2: could go in there to help open them up and

1153
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:07,320
Speaker 2: get them comfortable before I just started ramming them.

1154
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:09,800
Speaker 4: But yeah, you're an anal expert.

1155
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:12,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, what can't you just give us maybe three tips?

1156
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:13,759
Speaker 5: I think you kind of just did right now, But like,

1157
00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:17,840
Speaker 5: what are three real official tips? I'm successfully pegging.

1158
00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 2: Lube and a lot of it. Do not think you'll

1159
00:55:20,960 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 2: spit is good enough, bitch, get the lube and honestly

1160
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:28,640
Speaker 2: lube up the toy and lube up the whole. The

1161
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 2: more loube, the better. You cannot have too much lube

1162
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:33,839
Speaker 2: in antal sex. There's like no such thing. And then

1163
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 2: if there's a lot of it, then his ass just

1164
00:55:35,719 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 2: gets to be shiny. Okay, now you got a shiny,

1165
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:42,800
Speaker 2: nice ass that's loubed up and ready, So lube blue, blue, blue, blube.

1166
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:47,239
Speaker 2: I I'm not gonna lie. I'm not a gay male,

1167
00:55:47,400 --> 00:55:51,520
Speaker 2: so I've never doushed it. I just don't eat that day, Like,

1168
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:56,040
Speaker 2: no coffee that morning. I'm gonna be strategic around if

1169
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 2: I had a a wet shit that morning. We're not

1170
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 2: having antal sex to be hard, firm, not a lot

1171
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:03,719
Speaker 2: of mess, you know. So make sure you're aware of

1172
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:07,319
Speaker 2: your body. If you drink coffee that morning and blew

1173
00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:11,200
Speaker 2: up the fucking bathroom, that might not be the day

1174
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:14,279
Speaker 2: for you to engage in antal sex. Like make sure

1175
00:56:14,320 --> 00:56:19,120
Speaker 2: your body is in a healthy state. And then other

1176
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:22,160
Speaker 2: than that, I already said the anal training that's a

1177
00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:24,800
Speaker 2: little bit more advanced. I would also say, when you

1178
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:28,600
Speaker 2: say training, you mean like the size, yes, the butt plug.

1179
00:56:28,920 --> 00:56:30,920
Speaker 2: By the way, I have steps in the books, so

1180
00:56:31,400 --> 00:56:33,759
Speaker 2: get the book. I talk about this too. But the

1181
00:56:33,960 --> 00:56:37,000
Speaker 2: other thing that I will say going into antal sex,

1182
00:56:37,040 --> 00:56:41,360
Speaker 2: whether you are pegging or whether you are receiving, understand

1183
00:56:41,400 --> 00:56:44,840
Speaker 2: that we are humans, so there may be a mess.

1184
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:48,360
Speaker 2: Don't make it awkward, don't make a scene. Be okay

1185
00:56:48,400 --> 00:56:50,839
Speaker 2: with the fact that you could be as prepared as

1186
00:56:50,880 --> 00:56:54,240
Speaker 2: you think you are, you couldition there still be a mess.

1187
00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:59,440
Speaker 2: So just be prepared that it could happen and just

1188
00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:02,480
Speaker 2: move on. Clean the sheets, bitch, take it off, put

1189
00:57:02,480 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 2: a new set down, Use a towel if you need,

1190
00:57:05,080 --> 00:57:08,799
Speaker 2: use a doggy pad whatever. Doggy pad, yeah, they use

1191
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:11,160
Speaker 2: that for mostly squirters, but it's something they.

1192
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:14,719
Speaker 4: Can doubles at the sex party. I know. I think

1193
00:57:14,760 --> 00:57:16,440
Speaker 4: about it for anal. I just talked about it for squirting.

1194
00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 2: But if you raise an yeah, I mean that's that's

1195
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 2: what the dogs do on it, the on it.

1196
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 4: Okay, thank you, thank you so much here that Orlando.

1197
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 3: Thanks so much for that.

1198
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 2: I know you're not acting like you don't know about

1199
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 2: no boodhle plate. Bitch, Why are.

1200
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:38,160
Speaker 3: You talking to really this because she puts it in

1201
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:39,760
Speaker 3: her fight? Do you think she puts in Orlando's but

1202
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 3: not Orlando.

1203
00:57:41,080 --> 00:57:43,920
Speaker 2: I don't know what they done.

1204
00:57:44,200 --> 00:57:48,720
Speaker 4: Well, when you told me the story about all of

1205
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 4: the all of the all the batteries and not working.

1206
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 4: I was like I had I was like, that's all

1207
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 4: I thought about.

1208
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:54,680
Speaker 2: Brouh yes and.

1209
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:56,680
Speaker 4: The flashback, and I was like, she's still mad.

1210
00:57:57,160 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 2: So mad I was, But now instead of the mad

1211
00:58:00,080 --> 00:58:03,320
Speaker 2: being mad at you, I met at myself. Why well

1212
00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:05,160
Speaker 2: you didn't charge all your toys? But now I just

1213
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:07,360
Speaker 2: told you I haven't had toys charge in six months.

1214
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 4: That was the last time that was much of a disaster.

1215
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:11,840
Speaker 4: And when it was other people, depending on.

1216
00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 5: My it was spons it was very right, like you

1217
00:58:16,960 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 5: did you go home before to prepare?

1218
00:58:18,560 --> 00:58:22,720
Speaker 2: No, it was spontaneous. Yeah, it was like we all

1219
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:26,280
Speaker 2: across some price, we all go listen lumber party.

1220
00:58:26,800 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 4: Do we ever tell this story public? I feel like

1221
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:31,280
Speaker 4: I don't think. I don't think we did. I think

1222
00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:31,680
Speaker 4: it was two.

1223
00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 2: I think we talked around it. Okay, wait, are we

1224
00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:36,160
Speaker 2: able to share it? Yeah?

1225
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:40,160
Speaker 3: And if you want to hear this story, you have

1226
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Speaker 3: to run our patrios.

1227
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Speaker 2: Join the patriot.

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Speaker 5: Okay, make sure you go to good Mom's Patreon dot

1229
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Speaker 5: com backslash Good Mom's Bad Choices, Real Horrible Decision.

1230
00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 2: Yes, this is a friend. Okay, So this was going

1231
00:58:53,600 --> 00:58:54,080
Speaker 2: on Patreon.

1232
00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 6: Ye.

1233
00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:57,520
Speaker 4: Perfect, So I think you did group chattus at first.

1234
00:58:57,280 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 2: And then I was like, okay, y'all take me out

1235
00:58:58,720 --> 00:59:01,200
Speaker 2: the chat now, fine, see you next time in l

1236
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:02,800
Speaker 2: a friendship. Okay.

1237
00:59:04,400 --> 00:59:04,600
Speaker 3: Wow.

1238
00:59:05,360 --> 00:59:07,720
Speaker 2: And and by the way, you're the only person that

1239
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:09,880
Speaker 2: shares that experience with me. I have never gang banged

1240
00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:10,400
Speaker 2: another man.

1241
00:59:10,480 --> 00:59:11,680
Speaker 4: It was my idea. I was like, why not, This

1242
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:14,440
Speaker 4: is a great idea. I wish now women were.

1243
00:59:14,440 --> 00:59:16,960
Speaker 2: I wish you had better, but I wish more women

1244
00:59:17,720 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 2: enjoyed like just being like referral, let's gang bang this.

1245
00:59:22,680 --> 00:59:24,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, like can we just gang banging? Like come on,

1246
00:59:24,840 --> 00:59:25,520
Speaker 4: I love it.

1247
00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:29,520
Speaker 2: Come look at the empowerment of women, like yes, let's train.

1248
00:59:29,880 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, what are you doing tonight running a train? So me,

1249
00:59:32,440 --> 00:59:35,200
Speaker 4: Mandy Erica, Yeah, we're gonna gout to dinner. Then we're

1250
00:59:35,200 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 4: gonna run a train. And what you want to come by?

1251
00:59:36,720 --> 00:59:36,760
Speaker 6: That?

1252
00:59:36,800 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 4: Would?

1253
00:59:37,200 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 2: I think you did tell Erica that, right? Did you

1254
00:59:39,560 --> 00:59:40,840
Speaker 2: know that we were doing planned that?

1255
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:43,760
Speaker 4: We planned it? Like during an episode recording we were

1256
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:45,960
Speaker 4: like I said it, and then I was like, oh, yeah,

1257
00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:46,959
Speaker 4: guess what we made it happen.

1258
00:59:47,040 --> 00:59:49,320
Speaker 3: I would call me after let me know how it was.

1259
00:59:50,280 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 4: Because she was like, I can't go because I know

1260
00:59:51,760 --> 00:59:56,640
Speaker 4: his baby mom were like, were.

1261
00:59:56,480 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 2: That we could wear the skuy.

1262
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:03,200
Speaker 3: Ethically, I can't do this, but tell me all about it.

1263
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:07,439
Speaker 4: Wow, we've had some time.

1264
01:00:07,600 --> 01:00:11,080
Speaker 2: Wow, and I love you. And did the same glass

1265
01:00:11,120 --> 01:00:13,520
Speaker 2: and a ketemene to a train to run in the

1266
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:14,680
Speaker 2: trains on a.

1267
01:00:14,640 --> 01:00:16,840
Speaker 4: Beautiful man we know ended Keademine by the.

1268
01:00:16,840 --> 01:00:19,600
Speaker 2: Way, Yeah we didn't. He just had it. He tried,

1269
01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:22,920
Speaker 2: He tried, He really tried. White people was just like,

1270
01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 2: you want drugs, were like, well we just had pasta.

1271
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:30,000
Speaker 4: Were we just ate? We never did it, so I

1272
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:31,000
Speaker 4: don't know pasta.

1273
01:00:31,520 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know that's gonna really but you

1274
01:00:33,760 --> 01:00:35,840
Speaker 2: know what, we will show you our titties while we

1275
01:00:36,280 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 2: swing on a random swing that's in your living room.

1276
01:00:38,640 --> 01:00:40,600
Speaker 4: I remember I think I kissed them. I made them

1277
01:00:40,600 --> 01:00:42,200
Speaker 4: say you got the two guys to ki.

1278
01:00:42,440 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 2: You got So these guys were fucking roommates and they

1279
01:00:46,560 --> 01:00:47,919
Speaker 2: weren't they we don't wait.

1280
01:00:48,080 --> 01:00:50,520
Speaker 3: You remember the guy was like he was like upstairs

1281
01:00:50,680 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 3: was and.

1282
01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 4: I crossed up there. I woke him up out of.

1283
01:00:56,520 --> 01:01:01,800
Speaker 2: His sleep and then literally sleep their roommates. They're not partners,

1284
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:04,960
Speaker 2: and here goes here goes fucking Mila, I think y'all

1285
01:01:04,960 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 2: should kiss and he's They both looked confused, and somehow

1286
01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 2: they did end up kissing with you.

1287
01:01:12,400 --> 01:01:15,000
Speaker 4: I wasn't gonna figuay kissing. Toward that trip, I was

1288
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:16,800
Speaker 4: like really feeling in my prize. I was like, let

1289
01:01:16,880 --> 01:01:18,840
Speaker 4: me make see what I can make people do. And

1290
01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 4: I did it made them kiss and.

1291
01:01:21,040 --> 01:01:25,520
Speaker 2: I think we three way kissed. It was crazy. Pastass

1292
01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:29,080
Speaker 2: brought us there. It was great pasta and espresso. Martin.

1293
01:01:29,200 --> 01:01:31,480
Speaker 5: You know, this is also a testament to like, you know,

1294
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:33,680
Speaker 5: I think I thought you hated me.

1295
01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:36,479
Speaker 3: So when I was going in to record the podcast, oh.

1296
01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:38,280
Speaker 5: That day, Yeah, when we were like on defense, we

1297
01:01:38,280 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 5: were like we have to fuck her.

1298
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:41,919
Speaker 2: Up, Like, oh no, what's gonna happen because.

1299
01:01:41,760 --> 01:01:43,280
Speaker 3: Someone told me that she don't fuck with me and

1300
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:45,280
Speaker 3: I don't know why. But I don't even know this bitch.

1301
01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:48,240
Speaker 2: It never was the case. I never was the case.

1302
01:01:48,280 --> 01:01:50,040
Speaker 3: I walked in like han Hi alert, like.

1303
01:01:50,400 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 2: By and literally by the end of the episode, I'm

1304
01:01:54,160 --> 01:01:56,800
Speaker 2: obsessed with the both of you and I crashed the

1305
01:01:56,800 --> 01:01:58,680
Speaker 2: dinner y'all were having with Weezy. They're like it was

1306
01:01:58,680 --> 01:02:00,560
Speaker 2: about to be It was a right of of three,

1307
01:02:00,600 --> 01:02:02,840
Speaker 2: and I said, oh, it's going to be four, and

1308
01:02:02,880 --> 01:02:04,960
Speaker 2: Weezy was really not trying to share all his friends,

1309
01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, I'm coming, even if I

1310
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 2: have to sit at the table next to y'all, I'm going.

1311
01:02:10,040 --> 01:02:12,320
Speaker 2: I know where the going. I'm going.

1312
01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:17,920
Speaker 3: Really, she was like she was like.

1313
01:02:19,080 --> 01:02:22,200
Speaker 4: Three for three, Like I'm sure, Like it's phase one.

1314
01:02:22,520 --> 01:02:24,920
Speaker 2: She was like, it's strict, it's connected to Cello House.

1315
01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:27,160
Speaker 4: I was like, usually if there's three cheers, there's four.

1316
01:02:30,040 --> 01:02:32,880
Speaker 4: I think people be able to figure it out. And man,

1317
01:02:32,880 --> 01:02:33,480
Speaker 4: it was like yeah.

1318
01:02:36,400 --> 01:02:37,920
Speaker 3: He was like, I haven't been to dinner with this

1319
01:02:37,960 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 3: bitch in three years, but I'm.

1320
01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:41,720
Speaker 2: Going today because I love y'all.

1321
01:02:42,000 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 4: And then that the road.

1322
01:02:43,360 --> 01:02:45,760
Speaker 2: We've been friends ever since, literally like friends, like, hey

1323
01:02:45,800 --> 01:02:48,160
Speaker 2: can meet Erica and our two kids come stay at

1324
01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:49,600
Speaker 2: your house when you're out of town because they got

1325
01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:53,600
Speaker 2: to go to camp. And yeah, here you go, like, yeah,

1326
01:02:53,600 --> 01:02:56,720
Speaker 2: it's been great, it's been so good. I love you,

1327
01:02:56,840 --> 01:02:58,200
Speaker 2: I love you too, I love both three.

1328
01:02:58,280 --> 01:02:59,040
Speaker 4: I really do love you.

1329
01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:01,600
Speaker 2: It's so funny because we had so much catching up

1330
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:03,960
Speaker 2: to do when y'all were just in Atlanta and I

1331
01:03:04,040 --> 01:03:06,960
Speaker 2: even you said it an Orlando said it like, yeah, well,

1332
01:03:07,000 --> 01:03:09,840
Speaker 2: we didn't do much catching up because we were really drunk.

1333
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:12,440
Speaker 2: All we did was fucking party like and then to

1334
01:03:12,480 --> 01:03:13,920
Speaker 2: the to the point the next day, I was like,

1335
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:17,959
Speaker 2: can I just see y'all in LA because I am dead? Yeah,

1336
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 2: y'all killed me, Like y'all may be my only other

1337
01:03:21,240 --> 01:03:25,479
Speaker 2: friends that are the age y'all are that I can't

1338
01:03:25,480 --> 01:03:26,120
Speaker 2: really hang.

1339
01:03:25,960 --> 01:03:29,360
Speaker 4: Wait wait, wait, wait no, because I'm what do you

1340
01:03:29,440 --> 01:03:30,280
Speaker 4: in the age that we are?

1341
01:03:30,440 --> 01:03:32,280
Speaker 2: All of my friends are the same age. They're all

1342
01:03:32,320 --> 01:03:34,200
Speaker 2: between thirty five and forty three.

1343
01:03:34,280 --> 01:03:35,240
Speaker 4: I forget, how old are you?

1344
01:03:35,280 --> 01:03:38,560
Speaker 2: Thirty four? Okay, so they're all like, you know, a

1345
01:03:38,600 --> 01:03:42,480
Speaker 2: little older, But bitch, they're mature. They not hanging out

1346
01:03:42,520 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 2: till six o'clock in the morning. You bitches, keep going,

1347
01:03:46,120 --> 01:03:52,840
Speaker 2: you bitchspect I don't know many people over the age

1348
01:03:52,840 --> 01:03:55,800
Speaker 2: of thirty five who hang out of cars going from

1349
01:03:55,800 --> 01:03:58,680
Speaker 2: one party to the next. But Mila hanging out the car,

1350
01:03:59,280 --> 01:04:03,360
Speaker 2: hanging out like it's spring break, which it was a

1351
01:04:03,600 --> 01:04:08,240
Speaker 2: random Saturday in April. It wasn't spring break, not for us.

1352
01:04:08,240 --> 01:04:08,840
Speaker 2: We don't you know.

1353
01:04:09,080 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 3: Sounds like break to me actually, and it was spring

1354
01:04:12,080 --> 01:04:12,439
Speaker 3: I know.

1355
01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:19,280
Speaker 4: To right, You're right, but no, I love it podcast festival. Baby.

1356
01:04:19,400 --> 01:04:22,920
Speaker 4: It was we were celebrating you know, now, I've never

1357
01:04:23,000 --> 01:04:25,240
Speaker 4: rock stars of the podcast fest.

1358
01:04:25,400 --> 01:04:27,720
Speaker 2: It was so much fun. Yeah. We went from that

1359
01:04:27,920 --> 01:04:29,480
Speaker 2: night alone. I think I went to three or four

1360
01:04:29,520 --> 01:04:31,440
Speaker 2: different places because I went. I was at Holiday Bar

1361
01:04:31,520 --> 01:04:33,280
Speaker 2: before we took.

1362
01:04:33,120 --> 01:04:35,840
Speaker 3: You to the West. The West took me Hollywood Bar.

1363
01:04:35,920 --> 01:04:36,320
Speaker 3: But Atlanta.

1364
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:38,800
Speaker 2: I was about to say, you leave it so fucking

1365
01:04:39,120 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 2: Erica and Mila to find something that looks so like

1366
01:04:42,160 --> 01:04:44,880
Speaker 2: mind you, I've been in Atlanta. Atlanta is the black

1367
01:04:44,960 --> 01:04:48,560
Speaker 2: mecca of the goddamn country. They take me to the

1368
01:04:48,600 --> 01:04:51,040
Speaker 2: one spot where we're the only blacks in there outside

1369
01:04:51,080 --> 01:04:54,720
Speaker 2: of the goddamn promoters. But it was so fucking beautiful.

1370
01:04:54,720 --> 01:04:57,280
Speaker 2: I was like, you were famous there. Do yeah, I know.

1371
01:04:57,440 --> 01:04:57,800
Speaker 2: We walked.

1372
01:04:58,160 --> 01:05:00,880
Speaker 3: Do you know Mandy goes to me, she goes Erica.

1373
01:05:01,200 --> 01:05:03,919
Speaker 5: I actually kind of love it because I'm like, I'm

1374
01:05:03,960 --> 01:05:06,360
Speaker 5: really fucking tired of hearing future everywhere.

1375
01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:09,680
Speaker 3: I'm actually happy there's white people here. It was I

1376
01:05:09,720 --> 01:05:11,919
Speaker 3: might come back, Oh, I want to go back.

1377
01:05:11,960 --> 01:05:14,920
Speaker 2: But also their their menu when we walked up on

1378
01:05:14,960 --> 01:05:17,840
Speaker 2: your friends eating this looks good.

1379
01:05:17,840 --> 01:05:19,640
Speaker 5: Well that's why she in bited me. Because the food

1380
01:05:19,640 --> 01:05:21,520
Speaker 5: they were supposed to I didn't know nothing about the rooftime.

1381
01:05:21,560 --> 01:05:22,720
Speaker 5: I didn't know what they were supposed to be really

1382
01:05:22,720 --> 01:05:23,400
Speaker 5: good food.

1383
01:05:23,760 --> 01:05:27,800
Speaker 2: The whole fucking astund called everybody hollow. When I say

1384
01:05:28,600 --> 01:05:31,640
Speaker 2: it was viby, it was beautiful, it was giving literally

1385
01:05:31,680 --> 01:05:35,000
Speaker 2: Hollywood meets to Loan, it was. It was fucking cute

1386
01:05:35,160 --> 01:05:38,000
Speaker 2: in Atlanta. Refused in Atlanta, you were like, where is

1387
01:05:38,000 --> 01:05:41,240
Speaker 2: the nigga shit at? I come where all the blacks are?

1388
01:05:41,320 --> 01:05:44,280
Speaker 2: Literally literally Mila was like, didn't come to Atlanta to

1389
01:05:44,320 --> 01:05:45,280
Speaker 2: be It's the only time.

1390
01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:47,400
Speaker 4: The only way we sayd is I kept having free shots.

1391
01:05:47,520 --> 01:05:49,520
Speaker 4: It did and that's why. And then after that we

1392
01:05:49,600 --> 01:05:50,840
Speaker 4: left immediately.

1393
01:05:50,920 --> 01:05:53,080
Speaker 2: Well no, I ended up buying around too. I was like,

1394
01:05:53,280 --> 01:05:54,640
Speaker 2: can I get nine please?

1395
01:05:54,840 --> 01:05:55,640
Speaker 3: We were deep too.

1396
01:05:55,760 --> 01:05:59,960
Speaker 4: We were so fucking deep, right my friends, Hectar Libby.

1397
01:06:00,200 --> 01:06:01,080
Speaker 4: We had a lot of people.

1398
01:06:01,120 --> 01:06:04,000
Speaker 2: We have a lot of people. It was though. It's

1399
01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:04,840
Speaker 2: always a good time.

1400
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:07,080
Speaker 4: It is true. One thing about the three of us,

1401
01:06:07,120 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 4: I will say, we live up to our titles. This

1402
01:06:09,400 --> 01:06:10,960
Speaker 4: is no fake, This is not fake.

1403
01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:12,360
Speaker 2: We really live this.

1404
01:06:12,360 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 4: This is really who we are.

1405
01:06:13,960 --> 01:06:17,480
Speaker 3: Horrible and bad, very much, very much.

1406
01:06:18,080 --> 01:06:21,240
Speaker 2: Horribly bad choices and decisions we're made.

1407
01:06:22,240 --> 01:06:23,520
Speaker 4: If you hang out with that's it's going to be

1408
01:06:23,560 --> 01:06:28,480
Speaker 4: questionable everything every time, every time. Oh my goodness, did

1409
01:06:28,560 --> 01:06:30,960
Speaker 4: you share an affirmation with us today? Ooh?

1410
01:06:31,240 --> 01:06:35,520
Speaker 2: An affirmation? Can? We can? We actually go to the

1411
01:06:35,640 --> 01:06:40,360
Speaker 2: chapter where I have the affirmations, from the chapter where

1412
01:06:40,520 --> 01:06:44,680
Speaker 2: I champion being a side chick, because I felt like

1413
01:06:44,840 --> 01:06:49,200
Speaker 2: the affirmations had to come with loving yourself. See you

1414
01:06:49,200 --> 01:06:51,680
Speaker 2: know what, an affirmation I'm good, just fit it out

1415
01:06:51,800 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 2: and affirmation. This is going to be so simple, so cliche.

1416
01:07:00,160 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 2: But you are enough.

1417
01:07:02,000 --> 01:07:05,400
Speaker 4: You are enough. That's real shit.

1418
01:07:05,720 --> 01:07:06,439
Speaker 2: You are enough.

1419
01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:09,000
Speaker 5: You know, be a cliche the ones that your mom

1420
01:07:09,080 --> 01:07:11,760
Speaker 5: told you, those little nursery rhyme shit like those are

1421
01:07:11,760 --> 01:07:13,680
Speaker 5: the ones that when you get older.

1422
01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:18,120
Speaker 2: You're like, oh oh yeah. And I think that there's

1423
01:07:18,480 --> 01:07:22,760
Speaker 2: these expectations of us set on by our parents, by society.

1424
01:07:24,040 --> 01:07:27,360
Speaker 2: We're fucking victims of the fucking patriarchy. And so as

1425
01:07:27,400 --> 01:07:31,280
Speaker 2: women specifically, we always feel like we don't nurture enough,

1426
01:07:31,320 --> 01:07:32,920
Speaker 2: we don't care enough, we don't show up enough, we

1427
01:07:32,960 --> 01:07:36,240
Speaker 2: don't protect them, Like there's so much responsibility that we

1428
01:07:36,400 --> 01:07:40,200
Speaker 2: have that sometimes like what you're doing is fine, and

1429
01:07:40,280 --> 01:07:43,959
Speaker 2: you are enough in whatever you are giving. You don't

1430
01:07:44,000 --> 01:07:47,960
Speaker 2: need to over exalt yourself to show up. You are

1431
01:07:48,080 --> 01:07:50,080
Speaker 2: enough as is, as.

1432
01:07:50,000 --> 01:07:54,800
Speaker 4: Is, just as you are, just as you are. Organic, organic,

1433
01:07:54,880 --> 01:08:00,760
Speaker 4: no gmo, yeah, no added is preservatives, hero Time, it

1434
01:08:00,800 --> 01:08:02,520
Speaker 4: is terroot tyme. I was just taking a look at it.

1435
01:08:02,520 --> 01:08:04,320
Speaker 4: It's very interesting, actually, hero Time.

1436
01:08:11,320 --> 01:08:13,840
Speaker 3: Mandy and my friend who believes.

1437
01:08:13,480 --> 01:08:16,719
Speaker 4: In no astrologies or no stars no mood.

1438
01:08:18,360 --> 01:08:20,479
Speaker 5: I think I saw you on a clip recently talking

1439
01:08:20,479 --> 01:08:24,000
Speaker 5: about something about astrology, and I was like, bitch, stop.

1440
01:08:23,840 --> 01:08:28,200
Speaker 2: No way, it wasn't me. It's just another little light

1441
01:08:28,200 --> 01:08:30,720
Speaker 2: skin hope. But it wasn't me, booty hole.

1442
01:08:30,800 --> 01:08:34,599
Speaker 3: That was me, my little libra Shi.

1443
01:08:35,040 --> 01:08:36,080
Speaker 2: Nah, you won't hear me.

1444
01:08:36,280 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 3: Mandy is a libra.

1445
01:08:39,280 --> 01:08:45,920
Speaker 4: She pulled the Lover's card and the upright, it means love, harmony, relationships, values,

1446
01:08:45,960 --> 01:08:47,120
Speaker 4: alignment choices.

1447
01:08:47,400 --> 01:08:51,559
Speaker 3: Oh, very uh telling, But she doesn't believe in this.

1448
01:08:52,040 --> 01:08:55,160
Speaker 4: But she doesn't believe it. No, but I'll let y'all

1449
01:08:55,600 --> 01:08:59,040
Speaker 4: you know interpret pour into me. Okay, yes, and it's

1450
01:08:59,120 --> 01:09:02,479
Speaker 4: purest form in the Lover's card represents conscious connections and

1451
01:09:02,560 --> 01:09:05,920
Speaker 4: meaningful relationship. Ooh, this is me. The arrival of this

1452
01:09:06,000 --> 01:09:08,520
Speaker 4: card in tarill reading shows that you have a beautiful,

1453
01:09:08,640 --> 01:09:11,639
Speaker 4: soul honoring connection with the loved one. You may believe

1454
01:09:11,680 --> 01:09:14,000
Speaker 4: you have found your soulmate or life partner, and the

1455
01:09:14,040 --> 01:09:17,680
Speaker 4: sexual energy between you both goes way beyond instant gratification

1456
01:09:17,800 --> 01:09:20,360
Speaker 4: and lust to something that is very spiritual and almost

1457
01:09:20,439 --> 01:09:21,760
Speaker 4: tantric Maybe it's you with you.

1458
01:09:22,800 --> 01:09:23,560
Speaker 2: Maybe.

1459
01:09:23,960 --> 01:09:26,840
Speaker 4: While the Lover's card typically refers to a romantic tie,

1460
01:09:26,880 --> 01:09:29,720
Speaker 4: it can also represent a close friendship or family relationship

1461
01:09:29,920 --> 01:09:33,240
Speaker 4: with love, respect, and compassion flow. The Lover's card is

1462
01:09:33,320 --> 01:09:38,200
Speaker 4: open communication and raw honesty mm no holds barred period.

1463
01:09:39,240 --> 01:09:41,639
Speaker 4: Given that man and women are naked, they are both

1464
01:09:41,680 --> 01:09:44,000
Speaker 4: willing to be in their most vulnerable states and have

1465
01:09:44,080 --> 01:09:46,719
Speaker 4: learned to be open to open their hearts, to open

1466
01:09:47,000 --> 01:09:50,519
Speaker 4: to one another and share their truest feelings. They shape

1467
01:09:50,560 --> 01:09:53,920
Speaker 4: the container from which trust confidence can emerge, and this

1468
01:09:54,000 --> 01:09:57,040
Speaker 4: makes for a powerful bond between the two. In a reading,

1469
01:09:57,080 --> 01:09:59,879
Speaker 4: this card is a sign that communicating openly and honestly

1470
01:10:00,080 --> 01:10:03,160
Speaker 4: with those you care about you will create a harmonious

1471
01:10:03,200 --> 01:10:06,040
Speaker 4: and fulfilling relationship. BILL on trust and respect.

1472
01:10:06,439 --> 01:10:06,960
Speaker 2: I love it.

1473
01:10:08,800 --> 01:10:11,040
Speaker 4: It's mate On a deeper On a personal level, the

1474
01:10:11,040 --> 01:10:14,320
Speaker 4: Lover's card represents getting clear about your values and beliefs.

1475
01:10:14,640 --> 01:10:17,640
Speaker 4: You're figuring out what you stand for and your philosophy.

1476
01:10:18,000 --> 01:10:21,920
Speaker 4: Having gone through the indoctrination of their hair Afont, you

1477
01:10:21,960 --> 01:10:24,599
Speaker 4: are now ready to establish your belief system and decide

1478
01:10:24,640 --> 01:10:26,760
Speaker 4: what is and what is not essential.

1479
01:10:26,320 --> 01:10:27,480
Speaker 2: To you periods.

1480
01:10:27,880 --> 01:10:29,840
Speaker 4: It's time to go into big wide world and make

1481
01:10:29,920 --> 01:10:32,640
Speaker 4: choices for yourself, saying true to who you are and

1482
01:10:32,680 --> 01:10:35,240
Speaker 4: being authentic and genuine and all of your endeavors.

1483
01:10:35,840 --> 01:10:40,280
Speaker 2: Might need to give a little card downy baby. I

1484
01:10:40,560 --> 01:10:41,040
Speaker 2: like that.

1485
01:10:41,160 --> 01:10:43,160
Speaker 4: We can make a few calls.

1486
01:10:43,680 --> 01:10:44,519
Speaker 2: I like that.

1487
01:10:45,479 --> 01:10:50,559
Speaker 5: Well, you guys, make sure you get Mandy's latest first book.

1488
01:10:50,720 --> 01:10:53,880
Speaker 5: That's right, No Holds Barred, a dual manifestation of sexual

1489
01:10:53,920 --> 01:10:57,240
Speaker 5: exploration and power by Mandy Bee and Wheezy what the fuck?

1490
01:10:57,520 --> 01:10:59,920
Speaker 2: Yes? And the crazy part too is so it does

1491
01:11:00,240 --> 01:11:04,120
Speaker 2: released June twenty fourth, but you know pre ordering. Pre

1492
01:11:04,720 --> 01:11:08,240
Speaker 2: ordering gets tricky because who buys stuff and they don't

1493
01:11:08,240 --> 01:11:11,400
Speaker 2: get anything right. So we decided to give anyone who

1494
01:11:11,479 --> 01:11:14,720
Speaker 2: pre orders the book you have whenever you hear this

1495
01:11:14,880 --> 01:11:17,960
Speaker 2: through July first, there's a form on our Instagram page

1496
01:11:18,400 --> 01:11:21,679
Speaker 2: that is the No Holds Barred Masterclass. So we created

1497
01:11:21,680 --> 01:11:24,560
Speaker 2: a whole masterclass that includes parts about the books. So

1498
01:11:24,560 --> 01:11:28,240
Speaker 2: the book is broken up into pain, pleasure, progression, power,

1499
01:11:28,640 --> 01:11:31,679
Speaker 2: and so we do a course around it, where each

1500
01:11:31,840 --> 01:11:34,880
Speaker 2: course has two modules taught by both Weezy and I.

1501
01:11:35,439 --> 01:11:37,840
Speaker 2: And in the pain one, I actually have a BDSM chapter,

1502
01:11:38,360 --> 01:11:41,439
Speaker 2: and so I go to the dungeon that I talk

1503
01:11:41,479 --> 01:11:44,040
Speaker 2: about in the book, and like for that, it's like

1504
01:11:44,080 --> 01:11:47,559
Speaker 2: BDSM one on one, but in the dungeon, I'm showing

1505
01:11:47,600 --> 01:11:53,280
Speaker 2: you how expensive, like you know, toys can get, showing

1506
01:11:53,320 --> 01:11:55,639
Speaker 2: you the most highest quality of them, and then also

1507
01:11:55,720 --> 01:11:58,599
Speaker 2: telling you household items that you could use and safety

1508
01:11:58,600 --> 01:12:02,400
Speaker 2: tips around them. Other one about healing after a breakup.

1509
01:12:02,960 --> 01:12:06,479
Speaker 2: It comes with a breakup playlist of music. Yes, there

1510
01:12:06,600 --> 01:12:09,559
Speaker 2: is guided meditation and then there's a workbook as well

1511
01:12:09,600 --> 01:12:12,240
Speaker 2: associated with the master class. Oh that's so you do

1512
01:12:12,360 --> 01:12:15,800
Speaker 2: get that absolutely free on the form. You only have

1513
01:12:15,840 --> 01:12:19,000
Speaker 2: to upload the proof of purchase, so the receipt that

1514
01:12:19,000 --> 01:12:21,120
Speaker 2: you got in your email when you ordered it, and

1515
01:12:21,200 --> 01:12:22,200
Speaker 2: you get the master class.

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Speaker 3: So make sure you get the make sure you do

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Speaker 3: the pre make sure.

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Speaker 2: You pre order help me to become a New York

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Speaker 2: Times bestsellerst.

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Speaker 5: Yes, honey, Yes, it's important support black authors. Yes, and

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Speaker 5: we'll put everything in this episode description, Mandy, where can

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Speaker 5: our Where can I try to find you?

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you can find me anywhere on the socials,

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Speaker 2: probably cussing people out at full Court Pumps. And then

1525
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Speaker 2: you can listen to me every Monday Decisions Decisions and

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Speaker 2: every Tuesday Selective Ignorance. So and then of course if

1527
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Speaker 2: you want to go on the Patreon and hear me

1528
01:12:53,400 --> 01:12:58,320
Speaker 2: talk about mail butt, it is Horrible Decisions on Patreon.

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Speaker 5: Beautiful you know where to find us at Good Mom's

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Speaker 5: Underscore Bad Choices on Instagram. Make sure you follow our

1531
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Speaker 5: Patreon to listen to this very horrorsh tale between.

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Speaker 3: Jamila and Mandy.

1533
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Speaker 2: Very crazy, very crazy, very wild.

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Speaker 4: Very nuts.

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Speaker 5: Make sure you go follow the Good Vibe retreat. We

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Speaker 5: have some retreats coming up this summer for the ladies

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Speaker 5: if they're almost sold out, so make sure you put

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Speaker 5: your deposit down and come through to Costa Rica with

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Speaker 5: us and make sure you rate and subscribe.

1540
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Speaker 3: What does podcast are you gonna come?

1541
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Speaker 2: I think it's as long as as long as I'm

1542
01:13:34,280 --> 01:13:36,120
Speaker 2: done touring. Like the last.

1543
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Speaker 5: Quarter of the year, we have July thirty first through

1544
01:13:38,240 --> 01:13:41,720
Speaker 5: August fifth, and then we have August eighth through the thirteenth.

1545
01:13:41,400 --> 01:13:41,880
Speaker 2: The touring.

1546
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Speaker 3: God, damn it, damn damn.

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Speaker 2: I need something like And we had one of the year,

1548
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Speaker 2: we had end of the year, top of the year.

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Speaker 5: We had one spot in Bali, but it's sold out now,

1550
01:13:50,400 --> 01:13:52,160
Speaker 5: So what is Balie November?

1551
01:13:53,360 --> 01:13:56,680
Speaker 2: Bit y'all better add a spot sleeping with us?

1552
01:13:57,600 --> 01:14:00,679
Speaker 4: I mean, right the first time?

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Speaker 2: Okay, don't thriven with a good time? Okay, yeah, Well

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Speaker 2: we'll be we'll talk. I've been to Ballety, I like Bali,

1555
01:14:08,800 --> 01:14:10,880
Speaker 2: and then I'll skip over to Thailand, which I've been

1556
01:14:10,880 --> 01:14:11,519
Speaker 2: wanting to do too.

1557
01:14:11,680 --> 01:14:12,920
Speaker 3: Oh, I know, I want to get there too.

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01:14:14,160 --> 01:14:15,599
Speaker 2: You'll be You'll be a two hour flight if you're

1559
01:14:15,600 --> 01:14:19,280
Speaker 2: a volley, I think two to four hours, depending on

1560
01:14:19,640 --> 01:14:22,360
Speaker 2: if you know, it doesn't matter you're on that side

1561
01:14:22,360 --> 01:14:24,200
Speaker 2: of the world. But you'll be in Southeast Asia.

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01:14:24,280 --> 01:14:25,519
Speaker 3: I mean, it's a long flight.

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01:14:25,680 --> 01:14:28,639
Speaker 2: You may as well get as much as you can

1564
01:14:28,680 --> 01:14:29,400
Speaker 2: when you get out there.

1565
01:14:29,400 --> 01:14:30,400
Speaker 3: That's true, it's true.

1566
01:14:30,560 --> 01:14:31,840
Speaker 2: But thank you guys for having me.

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Speaker 4: This is fun.

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01:14:32,439 --> 01:14:35,599
Speaker 2: Thank you for coming. Here's to laughs as per usual.

1569
01:14:37,960 --> 01:14:39,599
Speaker 3: We love you, and we'll see you guys next week.

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01:14:39,720 --> 01:14:44,160
Speaker 2: Say, yeah, it been so good.

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Speaker 6: Can't you tell I went through a drought. That's until

1572
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Speaker 6: I find a well may might have been known, art

1573
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Speaker 6: that used to be broken tail now got the blues

1574
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Speaker 6: hands and might beyond say just sell throat shots from

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Speaker 6: the pop and this cow wearing our voices patriarch and

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Speaker 6: kept it in the box to exploit its women put

1577
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Speaker 6: the pee and powers.

1578
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Speaker 2: I was pointless. They want me to be good, so

1579
01:15:02,080 --> 01:15:03,200
Speaker 2: I make bad choice.

1580
01:15:03,479 --> 01:15:05,960
Speaker 6: Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom

1581
01:15:06,080 --> 01:15:09,160
Speaker 6: itters in on for cannabus in their bathbon walked in

1582
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Speaker 6: Boston's cap and I blewis cat boss hope dog. Now

1583
01:15:12,240 --> 01:15:15,439
Speaker 6: I'm immune to the cat called Herbie and no waisted straight.

1584
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Speaker 2: To it like a dollar sign.

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Speaker 6: Mother, rent the lover when too with it like a

1586
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Speaker 6: water simmer where you're rent the winter essential will when

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Speaker 6: the summertime. I do what doll ain't no one that

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Speaker 6: needs to run it by