1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,360 Speaker 1: What's working this week? It's actually a life changing question 2 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: when you're in pain. 3 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 2: What's going on? Everyone? 4 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:24,920 Speaker 3: Emily Badi Here, you are listening to another episode of Hurdle. 5 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 2: A willness focus podcast. 6 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 3: Reconnect with everyone from your favorite athletes to top experts 7 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:33,839 Speaker 3: and industry CEOs about their highest highs, toughest moments, and 8 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 3: everything in between. We all go through hurdles in life, 9 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 3: and my goal through these discussions is to empower you 10 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 3: to better navigate yours and move with intention so that 11 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 3: you can stride towards your own big potential and of 12 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:47,559 Speaker 3: course have some. 13 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 2: Fun along the way. 14 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 3: For today's episode, I am chatting with Danielle Laporte. She 15 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 3: is a best selling author for new book How to 16 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 3: Be Loving is out now to that in the show notes. 17 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 3: She's also the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and 18 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:08,319 Speaker 3: the Heart Centered Leadership Program, as well as a member 19 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 3: of oprah's Super Soul one hundred and the former director 20 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 3: of a Future Studies think Take in Washington, d C. 21 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 3: These days, she now speaks about the intelligence of the heart, 22 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 3: which brings me to the topic of today's podcast. 23 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 2: Today, Danielle joins me to. 24 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:33,040 Speaker 3: Chat all about how to identify patterns that hold us back. 25 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 3: It sounds simple enough, but so many of us stuck 26 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 3: in the same cycles, and today Danielle is giving us 27 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 3: the lowdown on how to break these negative patterns. She 28 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 3: offers up a way to distinguish between the patterns in 29 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:52,480 Speaker 3: our life that serve us versus those that do not, 30 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 3: what the difference is between a heart choice and an 31 00:01:56,520 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 3: ego choice, and how to make more choices that are 32 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:04,040 Speaker 3: rooted in heart. Plus, she gives us the lowdown on 33 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 3: what shadow work in her child work. We've heard these 34 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 3: terms before, what they really mean helping us get to 35 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 3: that point where we feel as though it is possible 36 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 3: to make better decisions that. 37 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 2: Truly serve us. 38 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 3: Really loved this convo, so glad that Danielle and I 39 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 3: were able to make it happen. 40 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 2: She's a busy, busy lady. 41 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 3: Like I said at the top of this Her new 42 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 3: book is called How to Be Loving. 43 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 2: She is known by many for. 44 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 3: Another one of her titles, The Desire Map, so check 45 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 3: them out. I'll link them in the show notes. Make 46 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:42,840 Speaker 3: sure you are following along with Hurdle over on social 47 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 3: It's at Hurdle Podcast. I myself am over at Emily 48 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 3: a body. An official announcement for Los Angeles folks. I'm 49 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 3: going to be hosting another conversation on Runner safety on 50 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:59,639 Speaker 3: March fifteenth over in Venice at the Rose Room. The 51 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:03,960 Speaker 3: Red Streation link will be live soon, so stay tuned, 52 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 3: but take this as your official save the date. If 53 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:11,799 Speaker 3: you've got a listener question, remember I want to hear 54 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 3: them leave me a voice message. 55 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 2: The link to do that is in the show notes. 56 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,639 Speaker 3: That's all the housekeeping for now. With that, let's get 57 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 3: to it. Let's get to a hurdling. Today, I am 58 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 3: sitting down with Danielle Laporte. She's the author of the 59 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 3: new book The Desire Map. She's also a member of 60 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 3: Oprah's Super Soul one hundred. 61 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 2: How are you doing today, Danielle. 62 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: I'm doing great. We got our technology worked out. I'm 63 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 1: ready to like have a deep and meaningful conversation. 64 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 3: Which I'm so impressed with everything you've built. I was 65 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 3: just checking out your podcast. How are we feeling today? 66 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 1: I am feeling peaceful and happy about that, because sometimes 67 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 1: you can feel peaceful and it's like disturbing. You're like, 68 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: I got to go shake something up, I got to 69 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 1: go achieve something. I feel grateful that I have power. 70 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: I feel concerned about the state of the world. We 71 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:19,160 Speaker 1: have a practice with our team. Our morning check in 72 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 1: is we rotate our questions, but our morning check in is, 73 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 1: you know, what are your three things that you're prioritizing today. 74 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: This week's question is what trends are you seeing? What's 75 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 1: inspiring you? And then who are you sending love to today? 76 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: And my love prayer candle this morning is for all 77 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:47,279 Speaker 1: the people in Syria Turkey. So I'm grateful to be 78 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 1: in a home. Yeah, yeah, wow. 79 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 3: It's not every day that you get an answer to 80 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 3: a question like how are we feeling today that's like 81 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 3: actually thought out and not just the word good. 82 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:02,719 Speaker 2: So that was quite frushing for me and maybe everyone listening. 83 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 1: After a good start. Yeah, we have like in our house. 84 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 1: You can't. I have a son, he's like a man now. 85 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:11,039 Speaker 1: But there was no you couldn't say good and you 86 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,440 Speaker 1: couldn't say nice. We didn't have many rules. But I'd 87 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:14,919 Speaker 1: be like how are You'd be like good, I'd be like, 88 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 1: that's it's actually not a word in response to this question, 89 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:21,320 Speaker 1: so like get in there, yeah, get in there. 90 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 2: I love that. I love that. 91 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:26,440 Speaker 3: Well, again, I'm really happy that we're able to connect today. 92 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 3: You have so much really beautiful insight into gosh, I mean, 93 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 3: so many different topics, especially on the heels of your 94 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:38,120 Speaker 3: new book. Talk to us a little bit about how 95 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 3: to be loving and what's to come. 96 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: The subtitle, I think is it kind of puts the 97 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:44,039 Speaker 1: bow on it, how to be loving as your heart 98 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 1: is breaking open and the world is waking up. It 99 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:51,120 Speaker 1: is about well, the response to it is I thought 100 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: this is going to be a book about relationships, but 101 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 1: this really is a book about self acceptance, and that's 102 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 1: pretty accurate. Like when you move more into self compassion 103 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: and loving kindness, all of your relationships will shift because 104 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:07,640 Speaker 1: all of those relationships are really just reflections of what's 105 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: going on in you. So change the inside, the outside's 106 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:12,479 Speaker 1: going to come along with you. 107 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 2: Right. 108 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 3: And that feels like a reflection of that ever popular 109 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 3: saying that we're some of the people that we surround 110 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 3: ourselves with, right. 111 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, And you know what, there's a light side to 112 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 1: that theory, and there's a dark side to that theory. 113 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: So like you know, the light side is like, yeah, 114 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: you're sharing you know, similar thoughts ideologies. If you know, 115 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: I know your your space is really athletic and wellness oriented, 116 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 1: So like, of course you want to be hanging out 117 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:40,680 Speaker 1: with people like they're going to show up at the track, 118 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 1: they're going to do their thing. I have friends, for sure, 119 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:46,800 Speaker 1: I call them like when I need that extra boost. 120 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: But the shadow side of this that I see in 121 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: the wellness space is it can get really transactional. It's like, well, 122 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:58,160 Speaker 1: I want some of their inspiration or their go get it, 123 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 1: their baller energy to rub off on me. And that's 124 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: not a real relationship. That's transactional ridiculousness. So upside downside, 125 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: upside downside. 126 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 3: Before we get into talking about what we're here to 127 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:21,119 Speaker 3: talk about today, which is identifying patterns that hold us back, 128 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 3: something that I know I'm excited. 129 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 2: To hear a lot about and learn from you, I'd 130 00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 2: love it if you can give us some insight into 131 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 2: how you got into doing this very important work long journey. 132 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:34,760 Speaker 1: The highlights are I used to run a think tank 133 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 1: in Washington, d C. I was able to do that 134 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 1: without even having gone to college, So I really just 135 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: kind of talked my way into everything I learned through obsession. 136 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: I would go to all the conferences, I would take 137 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: all the calls. I would just I mean, these are 138 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 1: the days when you're like fact press releases too. You know. 139 00:07:55,720 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 1: That was part of my job as a publicist. So 140 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 1: I was running a think tank in Washington, d c. 141 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 1: Looking at how global trends might collide or collapse. Was 142 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: super trippy at first level security clearance at the Kinagon, 143 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 1: and I realized, like I actually wasn't that interested in 144 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:18,119 Speaker 1: the future. I mean, I was going home at night haveing, 145 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: you know, smoken, a couple of Marlborough's reading poetry, wanted 146 00:08:22,120 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 1: to paint. So I really had this big imposter complex 147 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 1: at that part of my life. And things shifted and 148 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 1: I left the States. I came back to Canada and 149 00:08:33,559 --> 00:08:36,079 Speaker 1: started a business that was all based around a more 150 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: kind of soulful approach to branding like yourself, and raised 151 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:44,959 Speaker 1: a bunch of money for that. I got Steve Jobbed 152 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: fired for my own company, and that was like a 153 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: real initiation. A lot of catharsists there. There's you know, 154 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:55,839 Speaker 1: I started to see some patterns of not speaking up, 155 00:08:56,559 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: a feeling like I was faking it, and then you know, 156 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:09,439 Speaker 1: the deeper interest around source energy and life force and consciousness. 157 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:13,440 Speaker 1: I just created space to write about that. Talk about 158 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:17,920 Speaker 1: that turn into teaching about that, and now I mentioned 159 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: the desire map, which kind of took on a life 160 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: of its own. So the focus now is the intelligence 161 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:29,640 Speaker 1: of the heart. And I have four hundred or so 162 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:33,959 Speaker 1: coaches and facilitators who are walking into corporations and yoga 163 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:39,560 Speaker 1: studios to give them tools, really have conversations about what 164 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:44,200 Speaker 1: resilience really is. And it's becoming clear that there's an 165 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 1: awareness now that heart intelligence really is. And you just 166 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:51,200 Speaker 1: put this in like business terms, it's the leading edge. 167 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:53,960 Speaker 1: And you know, anybody who's been on the spiritual path 168 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: for a long time, it's like, hey, you're finally getting that. 169 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 1: But that's that's where all my focus. 170 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 2: Now did you call it source energy before? 171 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 1: Yeah? 172 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 3: Can we talk a little bit about that For those 173 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:08,320 Speaker 3: that maybe unfamiliar with the term. 174 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:15,559 Speaker 1: Yeah, source God, the Divine, your Buddha, nature, spirit, the cosmos, 175 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 1: the infinite. Choose the word that you really resonate with 176 00:10:19,559 --> 00:10:21,800 Speaker 1: and just build a relationship with it. 177 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 2: For those that hear that and may not know where 178 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 2: to start with this concept, where did you begin? 179 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: Well? I was born a little strange, right, so what 180 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 1: I wanted to I was raised Catholic, I went to 181 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:42,760 Speaker 1: Catholic school. I wanted to marry Jesus. I wanted to 182 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 1: talk to angels. I thought I could talk to go 183 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: for a walk, and I could talk to animals. But 184 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: like the practical was I just started reading. I mean, 185 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: these were the days of like Louise Hay and people 186 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:58,440 Speaker 1: starting to talk about your mind affects your body and 187 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 1: so madtizing energy and like if you could catch a 188 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 1: cold because of stress, then do you have the capacity 189 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 1: to heal yourself? What else could be happening to your 190 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: body that's related to your psychology. I think we're inundated 191 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: with theories and teachers and influencers and sources and all 192 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:23,080 Speaker 1: this is so easy to come by. Really just go 193 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:27,120 Speaker 1: with the person. Not that you want to be, but 194 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:31,680 Speaker 1: like your nervous system feels relaxed when you're with this teacher, 195 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:35,200 Speaker 1: whether it is like an Instagram person saying like, you know, 196 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 1: this is how manifestation works, this is how physiology and 197 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 1: cosmic principles work. Who do you feel relaxed with? Because 198 00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 1: like there's going to be some level of your heart 199 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 1: intelligence that's knowing like, Okay, this is a person with 200 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: good information and I can trust them if you're going 201 00:11:54,679 --> 00:11:57,319 Speaker 1: if you want to quote, follow or take on information 202 00:11:57,760 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 1: from someone you want to be gets a little trickier. 203 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 1: It's like, oh, you know, they get the car and 204 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: they made their first six figures and their launch in 205 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 1: the month, and she's got the abs and all the thing. No, No, 206 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:17,679 Speaker 1: like that's like material aspirational stuff. But whose teachings make 207 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 1: you kind of melt a bit? You want to lean 208 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:22,480 Speaker 1: in and then to like start exploring, And it's all 209 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: an experiment. It's all an experiment. Whatever tools work for. 210 00:12:25,559 --> 00:12:29,120 Speaker 2: You, all an experiment. Really good advance there. 211 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:32,600 Speaker 3: So back to what I'd love for us to chat 212 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 3: about today, the concept of identifying patterns that hold us 213 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 3: back now in order to really dive into this, I 214 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:43,960 Speaker 3: feel like it's important first and foremost to home in 215 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:46,959 Speaker 3: on what a pattern really is. 216 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 2: What kind of patterns are we talking about here? 217 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:52,520 Speaker 1: Well, there's patterns and there's negative there's positive patterns and 218 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: there's negative patterns. It's just like you know, in psychological terms, 219 00:12:56,240 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 1: there's negative addiction and there's more positive addiction. So positive 220 00:13:01,640 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: is you're going to get a result that is nourishing 221 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: to your nervous system and it's moving you forward. Towards 222 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: like the vision you're holding of a good life. Right, 223 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: So there may be an addictive quality to it, but 224 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:20,199 Speaker 1: it's not harmful to you. It's not harming you ultimately. Now, 225 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:28,679 Speaker 1: positive addiction is not necessarily liberation because you're still there's 226 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,720 Speaker 1: still that kind of hooked energy, like I got to 227 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 1: do it in order to get somewhere. But it's better 228 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:36,200 Speaker 1: than all the toxic addictions, which you know everybody's aware of. 229 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:40,840 Speaker 1: So a pattern is something you do repeatedly, and you 230 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:47,280 Speaker 1: probably do it unconsciously. There are a pattern that becomes 231 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:53,960 Speaker 1: conscious is a ritual, it's a habit, it's an intention. 232 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 1: Now there is a difference between rituals and habits, you 233 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 1: know in the world. Is how we work it in 234 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 1: our our leadership community is that you really want to 235 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:07,800 Speaker 1: get clear on what it is that you want to 236 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: embody and create in your life, you bring in the 237 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:15,600 Speaker 1: ritual first and then you bring in the habit. So 238 00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:18,960 Speaker 1: the ritual is I'm going to set my intention to 239 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 1: be loving, to be kind, to be athletic, to be well, 240 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:28,000 Speaker 1: to be whole. Like it's really kind of the higher 241 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 1: vibe stuff. And the ritual for that is I have 242 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 1: my walk around the block. I have my box breathing practice, 243 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 1: I have my prayer practice. Like, you just get into 244 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 1: the heart space and it's from there that you develop 245 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:50,280 Speaker 1: your habits. So if you have habits that are disconnected 246 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 1: from your heart, they're going to be punishing, They're not 247 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:56,400 Speaker 1: going to last, you're not going to achieve. I mean, 248 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:59,240 Speaker 1: it's a difference between going to the gym because you 249 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:01,680 Speaker 1: want to be well, you want to show up and 250 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:04,480 Speaker 1: do good things in the world. This is coming from 251 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 1: a place of like you're really celebrating your body. You 252 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: want to know how powerful you are, versus I'm creating 253 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:15,160 Speaker 1: a habit to go to the gym every day because 254 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 1: I suck, because I need this approval, because I feel 255 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:23,840 Speaker 1: like I look like shit, because if I don't get this, 256 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 1: I'm not going to get the person I want. So 257 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:32,280 Speaker 1: the question that really helps you interrupt and observe patterns 258 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 1: is you look at whatever you're doing and you ask yourself, 259 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:41,120 Speaker 1: am I doing this from my wounded self, my unhealed self, 260 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: my ego self, or am I doing this from my 261 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:49,200 Speaker 1: whole self, from the part of me that's like I 262 00:15:49,240 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 1: love my being, I'm the mother of my reality. It's 263 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:56,960 Speaker 1: a big difference, and we can all look back most 264 00:15:57,000 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 1: of our decisions. Go, ah, that was an ego choice. 265 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 1: That was a hard choice. 266 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, ego choice versus heart choice really really powerful language there. 267 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 3: And you're also touching on here with this ego choice 268 00:16:13,200 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 3: verbiage a lot of what individuals may identify as negative 269 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:21,880 Speaker 3: self talk, right, and so for someone who really struggles 270 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:26,320 Speaker 3: with negative self talk, what advice do you have for them? 271 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: Some healthy fear, a little bit to be aware what's 272 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:35,400 Speaker 1: happening when you talk to yourself. There's your conscious self. 273 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: You know what you're saying, you know what you're doing, 274 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 1: you're making you know why you're making your choice. There's 275 00:16:40,280 --> 00:16:43,560 Speaker 1: your unconscious self. The most mystics and scientists will say, 276 00:16:43,600 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: like the majority of us are acting from our unconscious 277 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 1: self most of the time. So like my metaphor for 278 00:16:50,960 --> 00:16:54,080 Speaker 1: that is like we all have a basement in our 279 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:59,000 Speaker 1: psyche and it's full of thoughts and patterns and messages 280 00:16:59,200 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 1: from our family. All this social conditioning mostly crap, and 281 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:14,199 Speaker 1: that darker stuff, that shadow stuff, informs a lot of 282 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:18,440 Speaker 1: It's this kind of chatty voice that says you should 283 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 1: do this because you're not enough. You need to go 284 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:23,920 Speaker 1: prove this, that, and the other, and then you start 285 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:26,920 Speaker 1: telling yourself. You start listening to that voice, the unconscious 286 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 1: voice in the dark that isn't really aware, it hasn't 287 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 1: grown up yet, it's still wounded. You start telling yourself 288 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:38,240 Speaker 1: what it tells you. I need to do this because because, 289 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 1: Or you take on this social programming of all the 290 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:47,560 Speaker 1: ways you need to perform, and you tell yourself you 291 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:50,040 Speaker 1: need to do all that, or you tell yourself you're 292 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 1: not worthy, etc. The unconscious self is listening to everything 293 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 1: you say. So the shift the power move with talk 294 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: is speak to yourself like a five year old that 295 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:07,480 Speaker 1: you love, Like somebody just asked me at a gig 296 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:09,800 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago. I'm really struggling with like 297 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:12,360 Speaker 1: self love. I know it's the way, got a lot 298 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:15,280 Speaker 1: of self loathing going on. I do. Just treat yourself 299 00:18:15,320 --> 00:18:18,119 Speaker 1: like a five year old that you care about. You 300 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 1: speak in a gentle tone, you're encouraging. You get the 301 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:27,639 Speaker 1: right nutrition, you get good sleep, You hang up with 302 00:18:27,720 --> 00:18:31,640 Speaker 1: people you feel good around, not the people that make 303 00:18:31,680 --> 00:18:32,879 Speaker 1: you feel like you got to be more of a 304 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 1: winner or more of anything. You just feel loved, You 305 00:18:35,320 --> 00:18:43,560 Speaker 1: feel at ease. That's it, and that's like the most mystical, enlightened, powerful, 306 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:47,840 Speaker 1: all the things that you can do. But watch your tone, 307 00:18:48,200 --> 00:18:49,360 Speaker 1: gentle gentle. 308 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:51,760 Speaker 3: I giggle a little on that language of that's it 309 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 3: because you just said, like, get good rest, surround yourself 310 00:18:55,080 --> 00:18:58,359 Speaker 3: with good people, feed yourself good food, move your body 311 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 3: like you're the laundry lists can really get to be 312 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 3: really overwhelming. So what advice do you offer even to 313 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:06,679 Speaker 3: overcome that hurdle? 314 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:10,760 Speaker 1: Start gentle, like, you could start big. You know your 315 00:19:10,760 --> 00:19:13,399 Speaker 1: heart will guide you. Maybe you know where you're going 316 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,800 Speaker 1: to start on your path of loving awareness is like 317 00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:20,200 Speaker 1: you need to move cities, you need to quit the job, 318 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:24,479 Speaker 1: you need to leave the relationship, monumental stuff. You do 319 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 1: it gently. You don't tell yourself that your loser forgetting 320 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:30,439 Speaker 1: yourself into that position, or you should have moved out 321 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:33,040 Speaker 1: years ago. Whatever it is. Just I'm going to make 322 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:36,920 Speaker 1: a move. I'm going to take my time. I'm going 323 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:39,879 Speaker 1: to tell myself really loving things. You got this. Of 324 00:19:39,920 --> 00:19:42,920 Speaker 1: course you're scared, let's keep going. You are worthy. Of 325 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:47,320 Speaker 1: course you have doubts, Gentle, gentle, compassion for all the 326 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:51,160 Speaker 1: fear that comes up, And you could also start small. 327 00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:55,160 Speaker 1: You could also start simple, so I mean one, one 328 00:19:56,800 --> 00:20:00,199 Speaker 1: self created hurdle that happens a lot in this in 329 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:04,160 Speaker 1: the self help space is too much stuff, right. It's 330 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:10,440 Speaker 1: like it's the same as taking too many supplements. It's 331 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 1: too much information for the body and what the body 332 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 1: really needs can't be absorbed. It's the same thing with 333 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 1: all of the wellness self help things. So it's like, 334 00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:25,639 Speaker 1: you don't have to meditate an hour a day. You 335 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,840 Speaker 1: don't have to have five different meditations. You don't need 336 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 1: an an Eastern astrologer and a Western astrologer and a 337 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 1: shaman on zoom and two coaches. You just don't promise 338 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,960 Speaker 1: you I've done all that, I've done that. You don't 339 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:43,639 Speaker 1: need that. Just start with someone you trust, start with 340 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:50,120 Speaker 1: a morning journaling practice, and then manage your expectations. Because 341 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 1: I think when we make these changes in the direction 342 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:58,920 Speaker 1: of growing, we want everything to happen all at once, 343 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:03,000 Speaker 1: and deep things will happen. There will be shifts, but 344 00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:05,200 Speaker 1: they're going to be very subtle and it might take 345 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:08,399 Speaker 1: a while. You know the subtle shifts are. This is 346 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 1: what I think. The one of the likes the markers 347 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:16,639 Speaker 1: of growth is a you're in a bind, You're in 348 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 1: one of those arguments. You know you're disagreeing with somebody 349 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:21,880 Speaker 1: and you don't say the thing. 350 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:23,560 Speaker 2: That's it. 351 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,720 Speaker 1: How do you know you're becoming more enlightened? 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And that's like such a all aspect, right, 405 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:08,640 Speaker 3: But the awareness that requires is monumental on this journey 406 00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,040 Speaker 3: toward establishing a deep relationship with self. 407 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:13,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's monumental. 408 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:16,400 Speaker 3: How do you know that a pattern is one that's 409 00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:17,960 Speaker 3: actually holding you back? 410 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 1: Are you getting the same results that you don't want. 411 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:26,240 Speaker 1: It's that I'm here again. Are we having the same 412 00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:30,359 Speaker 1: conversation the same argument again? Do you switch jobs and 413 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,280 Speaker 1: you got the same kind of boss again? Are you 414 00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:36,399 Speaker 1: really just dating the same person in different bodies? Like 415 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:40,119 Speaker 1: you know, yeah, it just I think we're all familiar 416 00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 1: with that, that wheel spinning. Cannot believe I haven't gotten 417 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:50,040 Speaker 1: out of this threat again. And usually there's some really 418 00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: you know, sad and gross self criticism conversation around that, 419 00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,120 Speaker 1: Like you know, this is a small thing, but it's 420 00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: actually for me, it's been a big thing. My thing 421 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,840 Speaker 1: has always been about. My addiction has been around staying 422 00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:07,040 Speaker 1: up too late. And we all know, like the science 423 00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 1: is in, we need the sleep. There's certain qualities, you know, 424 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:14,400 Speaker 1: sleep hygiene. It's one of my least favorite terms, sleep hygiene. 425 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,480 Speaker 1: And the number of nights, I mean, it probably adds 426 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:21,119 Speaker 1: up to years that I have said, did it again, 427 00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:23,680 Speaker 1: stayed up too late? Just that one extra hour, just 428 00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:27,800 Speaker 1: check five extra emails. It's not good. It's a pattern, 429 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,440 Speaker 1: that's a pattern. There's a lot of self crison. Then 430 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:34,520 Speaker 1: I got to have compassion around the pattern and be 431 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:37,720 Speaker 1: gentle with it, because if you bring in criticism about 432 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 1: your criticism. It just creates more contraction, like you actually 433 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,879 Speaker 1: don't have any fuel for moving forward. You're just creating 434 00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 1: more grind instead of more flow for yourself. I just say, 435 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:53,560 Speaker 1: doesn't matter, Danielle, You're still lovely, still lovely, You're still 436 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:58,000 Speaker 1: doing things still Well, let's just try fifteen minutes earlier 437 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:02,120 Speaker 1: tomorrow and it gets better. And then you fall off 438 00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,960 Speaker 1: track for the sake of comparison, you get back on, 439 00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:07,320 Speaker 1: no judge to get back up. 440 00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:11,399 Speaker 3: I think that when we get to this place in 441 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:14,600 Speaker 3: the conversation now, it's like, Okay, I understand how to 442 00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,680 Speaker 3: identify a pattern that may not be serving me. But 443 00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:20,160 Speaker 3: for those who think, okay, I want to make a change, 444 00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:24,080 Speaker 3: you have to be in the mindset to follow through 445 00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 3: with that change, right, Because if you're not ready to 446 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,760 Speaker 3: make the change, if you're not ready to make that pivot, 447 00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:31,840 Speaker 3: then you can say all these things to yourself, like 448 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:33,520 Speaker 3: I should change this, I should change this, I should 449 00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 3: change this. But you have to be ready to change it. 450 00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,000 Speaker 1: You have to. There's two ways to look at it. 451 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,320 Speaker 1: Most people have to be in enough pain. Are you 452 00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:45,680 Speaker 1: in enough? So here's the question. Just ask everybody, now, 453 00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:50,600 Speaker 1: are you unhappy? Enough yet, Are you in enough pain yet? 454 00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:54,400 Speaker 1: Because that tends to be a big motivator for humans. 455 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:59,919 Speaker 1: And then there's another way, which is you move to 456 00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:04,320 Speaker 1: towards the vision instead of let you know, vision is 457 00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:08,800 Speaker 1: your inspiration. What you want is your inspiration, not pain 458 00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:13,439 Speaker 1: being your driver. My observation is people tend to have 459 00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:18,439 Speaker 1: a disposition and neither of them is one is not 460 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,360 Speaker 1: superior to the other. Actually, because those of us who 461 00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:24,960 Speaker 1: are more future oriented sometimes are just you know, there's 462 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:28,399 Speaker 1: the overwork we don't rest. It creates all sorts of 463 00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:31,639 Speaker 1: chronic things, chronic fatigue, all that kind of stuff. Well, 464 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,640 Speaker 1: you can ask for higher guidance to get out of it, 465 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:35,959 Speaker 1: so you can get super metaphysical about it and just 466 00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:37,560 Speaker 1: pray for help. I mean, this is one of the 467 00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:40,760 Speaker 1: first steps in the twelve step program, right. There's a 468 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:44,000 Speaker 1: reason for that. You need to be aware that there 469 00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 1: is something greater than yourself. There's an energy that's keeping 470 00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:49,560 Speaker 1: us all moving and it's really time. This is the 471 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:53,320 Speaker 1: time to tap it. And then I really believe that 472 00:28:53,400 --> 00:29:00,560 Speaker 1: community is medicine. Community really dissolves the masks, the egos. 473 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 1: It kind of it equalizes us as like, oh you 474 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:04,600 Speaker 1: were in that funk. Once upon a time, I'm in 475 00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 1: that funk too. We can help each other. So you 476 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:11,200 Speaker 1: have to turn to other people. Isolation is not going 477 00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 1: to create any kind of traction for you. So and 478 00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 1: this is why I am like a big fan of coaches. 479 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 1: And if you need the therapist and get that support 480 00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:24,200 Speaker 1: system in place, and then and this is for me, 481 00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:28,920 Speaker 1: this is really key. You've got to focus on what 482 00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:31,880 Speaker 1: you want, not on the problem. Like enough, we know 483 00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 1: the problem. Now, you've beaten yourself up about it, We've 484 00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:39,920 Speaker 1: seen the havoc. It's rot on your life, your body, whatever, whatever, 485 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 1: enough I think, And this is really one of the 486 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 1: guiding principles of how to be loving. You focus on 487 00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:50,040 Speaker 1: what's working. You focus on the light, You focus on 488 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:54,480 Speaker 1: what you want to embody, and you keep doing whatever 489 00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,520 Speaker 1: you're going to do to move towards that. And then 490 00:29:57,600 --> 00:30:00,479 Speaker 1: all the stuff that's not in alignment with that, it 491 00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 1: does start to disintegrate. You know. How I put it 492 00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:07,000 Speaker 1: is always be seeing the beauty. Focus on what's working. 493 00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,400 Speaker 1: I mean, the best therapy I've had is when you 494 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 1: I walk in, I'm just like, I'm about to pay 495 00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:15,480 Speaker 1: you all this money. Super wise psychotherapist guy and he 496 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,720 Speaker 1: just would shrug his shoulders and say, so, what's working 497 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,720 Speaker 1: this week? It's actually a life changing question when you're 498 00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:22,160 Speaker 1: in pain. 499 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:26,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that question, what's working this week? I 500 00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,200 Speaker 3: going back to the power of community and accountability rate 501 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:32,280 Speaker 3: that I had a friend who wanted to establish a 502 00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,480 Speaker 3: regular gratitude practice, and despite you know, trying all of 503 00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 3: the different tools at her disposal a one line a 504 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,400 Speaker 3: day journal, like how hard could it be to do 505 00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:43,960 Speaker 3: one line? She found that it was most useful for 506 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:48,040 Speaker 3: her when me and one other girlfriend and her in 507 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:48,840 Speaker 3: a group chat. 508 00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:49,600 Speaker 2: Every morning. 509 00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:52,440 Speaker 3: When she finally picks up her phone at like nine something, 510 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:54,760 Speaker 3: I have a text that comes through and says like 511 00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:56,920 Speaker 3: today I'm grateful for the way that the sun's coming 512 00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:58,000 Speaker 3: through the clouds. 513 00:30:58,480 --> 00:30:59,040 Speaker 1: I love it. 514 00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:02,000 Speaker 3: And that was it right, And so finding what works 515 00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:04,160 Speaker 3: for you, what works for you might look different than 516 00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:06,600 Speaker 3: what works for your neighbor, what works for your mom, 517 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:09,640 Speaker 3: what works for your sister, whoever, And that's okay, like 518 00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,160 Speaker 3: having the grace with that again, coming back to that 519 00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:15,880 Speaker 3: place of compassion and talking to yourself in that gentle 520 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 3: way that allows you and empowers you to get to 521 00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,480 Speaker 3: where you want to be, and. 522 00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:26,200 Speaker 1: What really legit works for you for a period of time, 523 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:30,840 Speaker 1: might not always serve you, and people forget that. It's like, 524 00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,120 Speaker 1: you can do a certain kind of mind training, a 525 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:36,720 Speaker 1: certain kind of physical training, and you actually get amazing results. 526 00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:40,160 Speaker 1: You know, you get fitter, mentally, fis all the things, 527 00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,160 Speaker 1: and then it's not working anymore. And it's not because 528 00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:46,600 Speaker 1: you're failing. It's actually because you're evolving and it's time 529 00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 1: to get a different supplement, a different movement, a different meditation. 530 00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:56,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, that can be really challenging, especially when you've had 531 00:31:56,800 --> 00:32:00,440 Speaker 3: results or been happy with the progress that you've made 532 00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:05,320 Speaker 3: using a specific tool previously. I've experienced this and everything 533 00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:08,600 Speaker 3: from a journaling practice to how I move my body 534 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,720 Speaker 3: and how I work out, and especially, let's say, in 535 00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,240 Speaker 3: the case of injury, when you can't move the way 536 00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:18,520 Speaker 3: that you want to because of something that's beyond your control, 537 00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 3: that whole situation can just spring up so much emotion. 538 00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,360 Speaker 2: So for someone that. 539 00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:30,880 Speaker 3: Is having a hard time putting that frustration aside, that 540 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:33,840 Speaker 3: but I want it to be this other way. I 541 00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:35,840 Speaker 3: want to do this other thing. This other thing felt 542 00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:38,240 Speaker 3: so right for me, and they can't do that thing anymore. 543 00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 3: How do they have the grace to move forward with 544 00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:41,920 Speaker 3: a new way. 545 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:48,400 Speaker 1: I think even before you focus on the moving forward, 546 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,520 Speaker 1: you just have to focus on what's happening and loving 547 00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:56,880 Speaker 1: the situation as is. So it's helpful. It's helpful to 548 00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:02,000 Speaker 1: consider play with the belief that everything is happening for 549 00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:06,840 Speaker 1: your expansion. There's a bigger plan here. And the so 550 00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:09,480 Speaker 1: called setback, I mean everybody listening right now has had 551 00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:11,280 Speaker 1: some kind of setback. You get through it and you go, 552 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,360 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm so glad that happened. I'm so 553 00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:17,400 Speaker 1: glad I didn't go through that wedding. It actually worked 554 00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:20,680 Speaker 1: that I blew out my knee because now stronger, fitter, 555 00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:24,880 Speaker 1: change sports, whatever it is, right, So just consider in 556 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:31,640 Speaker 1: that moment there's a purpose, and I think the soul 557 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:36,600 Speaker 1: is trying to train you to love as is. It's 558 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 1: like the setbacks are often gentleness boot camp. It's like, 559 00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,719 Speaker 1: you know what, you actually haven't been paying attention and 560 00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:48,000 Speaker 1: speaking kindly to yourself. You actually haven't been doing all 561 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:51,200 Speaker 1: the wellness things and communing with your heart and good 562 00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:54,760 Speaker 1: people for like months now. You've been driving from this 563 00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,920 Speaker 1: place trying to get the thing to prove to everybody 564 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,680 Speaker 1: and have your dad finally say to you what you 565 00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:02,960 Speaker 1: always wanted your dad to say to you when you 566 00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:06,640 Speaker 1: win the thing. And I've talked to so many athletes 567 00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:08,520 Speaker 1: in particular about this, because I have a lot of 568 00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:12,600 Speaker 1: conversations on goal setting, especially around the desire map. I 569 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:16,239 Speaker 1: have hundreds of story I stopped keeping count and doing 570 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:20,239 Speaker 1: case studies, especially in the athletic community. I did this. 571 00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,520 Speaker 1: I wanted to win the thing. I crossed the finish 572 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,840 Speaker 1: line and I got dinner with my dad and he 573 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,799 Speaker 1: doesn't say the thing that I wanted him to say. 574 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,600 Speaker 1: And I realized, you know, I did all that, all 575 00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:35,920 Speaker 1: those years of football, so my old man when I 576 00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:39,120 Speaker 1: got the trophy and then we'd have the picture. I mean, 577 00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:41,279 Speaker 1: you want to cry just think about it. And they 578 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:44,600 Speaker 1: realized I don't even like football, isn't even my calling. 579 00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,960 Speaker 1: And that's when life is saying you got to dig deep. 580 00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:53,319 Speaker 1: You got to dig deep and look at the fact 581 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:56,359 Speaker 1: that life has been supporting you on some level, that 582 00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:59,960 Speaker 1: you are worthy no matter what. And you got to 583 00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:01,040 Speaker 1: get it from. 584 00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:04,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you got to get it from some conversation 585 00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:08,200 Speaker 3: on identifying patterns that hold us back. As really morphed 586 00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:12,200 Speaker 3: rightfully so into a conversation of knowing your why, right, 587 00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:14,759 Speaker 3: because if you know your why, if you have an 588 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,279 Speaker 3: understanding of who you are and your values, then you'll 589 00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 3: be more keen to understand what serves you or what 590 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,000 Speaker 3: can serve you in your life. 591 00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:30,040 Speaker 1: Yes, and is your why wounded or is your why healed? 592 00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:36,160 Speaker 1: Is your why shadow or heart? Yeah? 593 00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:42,160 Speaker 3: That's really powerful. And when you say a shadow, elaborate 594 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:42,879 Speaker 3: on that a little bit. 595 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:49,000 Speaker 1: Shadow, the shadow self, shadow work is your unconscious self. 596 00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:52,239 Speaker 1: It's the ego self. It's the part of us that's 597 00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:55,759 Speaker 1: like unhealed and unaware. And I mean this is a 598 00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:58,839 Speaker 1: little bit of an oversimplification, but it's like a spiritually 599 00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:03,520 Speaker 1: immature self, and it's naturally just like a kid who's wounded, 600 00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:08,640 Speaker 1: it's going to act out. And the way the shadow 601 00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:14,879 Speaker 1: acts out is it's going to give you the injury. 602 00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:16,880 Speaker 1: It's going to give you an ailment. It's going to 603 00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:19,400 Speaker 1: give you an anxiety. It's like it speaks through anxiety, 604 00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:21,480 Speaker 1: like do I have your attention yet? Okay, here's a 605 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:23,680 Speaker 1: little more anxiety. Are you going to stop and slow 606 00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:25,680 Speaker 1: down and look at me yet? Okay, here's like a 607 00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:29,480 Speaker 1: little fender bender in life? Are you paying attention? Yet 608 00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,239 Speaker 1: to your nervous system, because I'm really trying to like 609 00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:35,279 Speaker 1: send you these signals for you to just be more 610 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:40,360 Speaker 1: loving and attentive with yourself. And this gets us into 611 00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:44,879 Speaker 1: a term that comes up a lot with shadow work 612 00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:49,359 Speaker 1: is inner child work. And the thing to be clear 613 00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:54,840 Speaker 1: about with inner child work is your inner child is 614 00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:59,279 Speaker 1: a term for your unhealed self. It's not you when 615 00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:02,520 Speaker 1: you were eight years old old. Go to therapy and 616 00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:04,840 Speaker 1: work out your eight year old stuff and the impacts 617 00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:10,080 Speaker 1: of family stuff for sure, right, But inner child is 618 00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:14,160 Speaker 1: this really powerful term to use with our growth because 619 00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,120 Speaker 1: when we think about inner child, most of us, unless 620 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:19,680 Speaker 1: we're a psychopath, most of us will kind of soften 621 00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:23,400 Speaker 1: pay attention like, oh, what's my inner child saying? And 622 00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:26,840 Speaker 1: it used to be like before I would go on 623 00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:28,719 Speaker 1: stage to do a speaking gig, I used to get 624 00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:31,160 Speaker 1: all fucking pumped up and I would do that kind 625 00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,920 Speaker 1: of motivational thing, right, you know, and like I'm great, 626 00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:38,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to crush it. I would height myself. This 627 00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:40,160 Speaker 1: is you know, this is my version of the race, 628 00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:45,680 Speaker 1: you know. And I didn't necessarily make my gig any better. 629 00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:50,000 Speaker 1: Now what I do is I actually get really gentle 630 00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:54,319 Speaker 1: and I talk to my inner child and I say, 631 00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:57,279 Speaker 1: what do you need? Because if we if we check 632 00:37:57,320 --> 00:38:00,160 Speaker 1: in with a part of us that's most vulnerable and 633 00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:03,560 Speaker 1: it's most likely to act out and have us mess 634 00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:07,200 Speaker 1: up or be anxious, then we've really got everything taken 635 00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:11,480 Speaker 1: care of. Mostly, you're in our child. This is what 636 00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:14,879 Speaker 1: everybody do, hand on belly, right hand on belly, left 637 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:16,480 Speaker 1: hand on heart before you go to bed, when you 638 00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:18,799 Speaker 1: wake up, to say how can I support you? What 639 00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:20,640 Speaker 1: do you need? You're in our child is going to 640 00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,560 Speaker 1: say stuff like go to the park, I need nature, 641 00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:27,960 Speaker 1: hang out with so and so, I need rest, take 642 00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:31,800 Speaker 1: me to work with you. It's really gentle, it's really simple. 643 00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:35,799 Speaker 1: It is the basic stuff we've been talking about. And 644 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:38,600 Speaker 1: then once you've got that taken care of, then you 645 00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:43,160 Speaker 1: go rocket. You don't your anxiety is not left at 646 00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,040 Speaker 1: home being more anxious in the back of your mind. 647 00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:50,560 Speaker 1: You're the power, you're the parent, you're the you know, 648 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:54,400 Speaker 1: the success, and you can come along. I am so evolved, 649 00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:58,560 Speaker 1: I'm so loving, I so got this. I got room 650 00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:06,560 Speaker 1: for my inner child, my victor, you know, my go getter. Yeah, 651 00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:07,080 Speaker 1: I love it. 652 00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:10,799 Speaker 3: It's like we don't leave it behind. It comes with us. Yea, 653 00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:17,640 Speaker 3: this is so powerful. Truly, all of this all stemming 654 00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:21,040 Speaker 3: from kind of where we started to circle back here 655 00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:23,440 Speaker 3: and kind of put a cherry on the Sunday, so 656 00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:29,560 Speaker 3: to speak, when it comes to stepping into patterns that 657 00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,720 Speaker 3: serve us instead of the ones that hold us back. 658 00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:38,320 Speaker 3: How would you recommend someone outside of community, which was 659 00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:45,200 Speaker 3: a really grateful suggestion to proceed and stay the course 660 00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:49,680 Speaker 3: of these positive patterns, of these new habits. 661 00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:51,320 Speaker 2: If we break it down even further. 662 00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:56,640 Speaker 1: Well, you could shift your relationship to resistance, because resistance 663 00:39:56,719 --> 00:40:00,840 Speaker 1: is going to come up. You can't maintain healthy pattern 664 00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:05,399 Speaker 1: without the old habit. The ego self sayingah blah blah blah, 665 00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:07,920 Speaker 1: but don't go to the gym. Oh you should eat this, 666 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:12,440 Speaker 1: don't do your meditation, whatever it is, so that is natural. 667 00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:17,800 Speaker 1: Let it be natural and know that resistance is actually 668 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:22,840 Speaker 1: an indicator that things are shifting. There's a reason on 669 00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:25,960 Speaker 1: day five of a new habit you start to try 670 00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:28,680 Speaker 1: and talk yourself out of doing the habit because the 671 00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:33,279 Speaker 1: cells and the psyche start to say, what, something's moving here. 672 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,320 Speaker 1: I want to go back, I want to shrink, I 673 00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:37,719 Speaker 1: want to go back to what's comfortable, and familiar, So 674 00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:40,600 Speaker 1: resistance is actually a cool sign. And then you've got 675 00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,240 Speaker 1: to decide, you know, keep your eye on the prize 676 00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:47,880 Speaker 1: really and be like, no, I have this vision. This 677 00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:50,160 Speaker 1: is the term that works for me. This is what 678 00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:52,319 Speaker 1: I tell myself when it's I don't want to do 679 00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:55,320 Speaker 1: what I know is good. I must have beautiful visions 680 00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,720 Speaker 1: of the future. I must have beautiful visions of the future. 681 00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:02,839 Speaker 1: And then, and you know, I think we're all if 682 00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:06,160 Speaker 1: you have that, the mind gets clear enough. You know 683 00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:09,320 Speaker 1: what you got to do to make good on that vision. 684 00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:11,200 Speaker 1: You got to make the phone call, you got to 685 00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:16,440 Speaker 1: do the movement, whatever that is. Keep feed the vision. 686 00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:20,279 Speaker 1: You got to feed the vision every day. So like 687 00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:23,360 Speaker 1: the downside of vision boards, I know they work, but 688 00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:26,680 Speaker 1: this is why they don't work sometimes is because you know, 689 00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:29,880 Speaker 1: we go to these workshops and we get all stoked 690 00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,280 Speaker 1: and we have the vision and we put the photo 691 00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:34,120 Speaker 1: of the body we want in the car and all 692 00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,919 Speaker 1: this stuff, and like we kind of just forget it. 693 00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:41,800 Speaker 1: You have to water those visions every day. And really, 694 00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:46,240 Speaker 1: you know, this is manifesting when I want, like feel it, 695 00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:50,240 Speaker 1: it's sensual, you see it. So tend to the vision 696 00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:52,680 Speaker 1: and then your mind will tell you the right thing 697 00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:52,960 Speaker 1: to do. 698 00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:56,040 Speaker 2: I love that tend to the vision. 699 00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:58,520 Speaker 3: I also think that a way, like a kind of 700 00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,440 Speaker 3: easy way to tend to vision regularly, A little bit 701 00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,040 Speaker 3: more in depth version of a journaling practice would be 702 00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:07,239 Speaker 3: there's so many guided options right. So literally every day 703 00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:09,760 Speaker 3: when I sit down at my desk, I revisit questions 704 00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:11,640 Speaker 3: that help me dial in on my vision, like what 705 00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:13,080 Speaker 3: can make today great? 706 00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:16,680 Speaker 2: And what are you thankful for today? And what can 707 00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:17,560 Speaker 2: you you know. 708 00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,720 Speaker 3: Walk through your week with to make it even better 709 00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:24,520 Speaker 3: than when you started. And so just breaking down, you know, 710 00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:26,520 Speaker 3: the goals that I have and staying on track, and 711 00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:29,160 Speaker 3: then also taking the time to reflect, because if we 712 00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:32,960 Speaker 3: don't reflect, you can't gauge progress for where you've been 713 00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:33,799 Speaker 3: and where you want to go. 714 00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:38,960 Speaker 1: Yes, this is you know, that reflection stage. And yoga 715 00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,520 Speaker 1: is shavasna. You know at the end of the class 716 00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:46,920 Speaker 1: that shavasna pose it's not about rest, it's actually about integrating, 717 00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:50,880 Speaker 1: absorbing all of the work you've done in the class. 718 00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,439 Speaker 1: And I think we need those shavasna, those cool down 719 00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:57,799 Speaker 1: periods in our life, and one of them is just 720 00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:01,239 Speaker 1: at the end of the day. It's like, Okay, what 721 00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:04,680 Speaker 1: actually went down today? Where did I feel like I 722 00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,920 Speaker 1: was coming from love? Where did I feel like I 723 00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:10,880 Speaker 1: was being too pushy? Just observe what actually happened. You 724 00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,879 Speaker 1: integrate it, and that's how you become wise. That's how 725 00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:15,880 Speaker 1: you put yourself in a position where you don't have 726 00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:19,560 Speaker 1: to repeat the same lesson over and over again. It's like, 727 00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:23,520 Speaker 1: wake up, look at your day. This is reflective living 728 00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:27,640 Speaker 1: and you get a new lesson. Yeah, you get to 729 00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:29,200 Speaker 1: graduate a little bit every day. 730 00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:30,440 Speaker 2: We love it. 731 00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:33,000 Speaker 3: We will have graduating well, Danielle, I'm so excited and 732 00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,840 Speaker 3: happy that we were able to catch up today. For 733 00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,279 Speaker 3: the hurdlers that don't yet follow along with you, how 734 00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:40,000 Speaker 3: can we follow you? 735 00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,040 Speaker 2: How can we keep up with you? Give us all 736 00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:43,480 Speaker 2: of your info. 737 00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:46,480 Speaker 1: All the things. Well, the best thing these days is 738 00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:49,640 Speaker 1: to head to Daniellaporte dot com and we can actually 739 00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:53,600 Speaker 1: have a relationship. Another part of my life is on Instagram, 740 00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:57,040 Speaker 1: which is great, but the algorithm is messing with all 741 00:43:57,080 --> 00:44:01,239 Speaker 1: of us. So danielleport dot com to be loving Deck 742 00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:05,200 Speaker 1: journal book audio is a great experience. It's everywhere. Yeah, 743 00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:06,239 Speaker 1: thank you, beautiful. 744 00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:09,200 Speaker 3: I'm over at Emily a body and at Hurdle Podcast, 745 00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:11,040 Speaker 3: Another hurdle conquered. 746 00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:12,560 Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.