WEBVTT - Ep. 123 — The Best Advice When You're Feeling Under-appreciated at Work 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:01.800 Happy Thursday. 0:00:03.080 --> 0:00:03.600 Thursday. 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:06.080 No, I mean I tried to put a weird accent 0:00:06.080 --> 0:00:21.360 on Tuesday, but then I just it sound like Thursday. 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:28.600 Hey hey, hey, we're black, we're black, we're. 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:29.040 Brown, and. 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:33.400 So somebody's a homeowner. 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:38.640 I'm in the club, a club. I have so many keys. 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:40.880 I don't know what to do with them. I don't 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:41.720 know what they all go to. 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:43.839 How does it feel? 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:45.920 It feels really expensive. 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:52.279 Just laid out my entire savings account for the for 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:53.280 the closing costs. 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:55.360 It feels really good. You know, we had a. 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:59.200 Really special day today. I wasn't expecting this, but I 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:01.240 don't know if I ben And when we when we 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:03.400 went to the open house, we realized that there was 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:05.800 an older couple there and they were retiring and they 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:10.440 were older African American couple had lived there for forty years. 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:14.040 And I became really like sort of obsessed with them, 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:16.720 and I really wanted I just thought it was amazing 0:01:17.080 --> 0:01:19.319 too that they would, I. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:21.760 Guess, choose us to give us the house because. 0:01:21.520 --> 0:01:23.120 They know they had a lot of different offers, and 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:25.839 I know that they're like the real estate agent really 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:28.400 liked us, and you know, being newly weeds and everything, 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:31.600 like that, and you can. And we were walking around 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:33.920 the house during like the open house and inspection and stuff, 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:35.959 and you can get little clues about people and like 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:38.760 what kind of life they have, like the fridge full 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:42.160 of all their grandkids drawings, and the room full of 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:47.160 the guy the dad's veteran medals. You know, he was 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:49.200 in the army, and you I don't know, just you 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:51.440 get this really good, like a good family lived here 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:53.480 for a long time and had a good life. But 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:56.680 I never thought we would meet them, but we we 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:59.120 you know, the closing was today. We pulled up to 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:02.480 their house and they were there and they they took 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:05.440 us through the entire house and their names are Ed 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:06.160 and Rosemary. 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:06.960 I love. 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:10.320 Yeah, they showed us how everything worked, and Ed is 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:12.079 like I mean, we were there for like a good 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:15.040 two hours and in Regay, my husband he was, you know, 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:17.880 asking Ed how to do the fireplace. And I mean 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:20.400 that they knew that house inside and out and they 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:23.120 took such good care of it. But you could, like 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:25.560 I could. I was talking to Rosemary a lot, and 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:28.320 you can just tell that she was really excited for 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:30.520 their you know, they're they're actually really young, like they 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:33.160 look amazing for being. I think they're in their mid sixties, 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:36.639 they're retired, they're moving to Delaware. They look at they're 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.800 just like gold. You know, they're they're retiring at a 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:40.480 good age. They still have a lot of years ahead 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:44.080 of them. But you could tell that she really felt 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:47.960 still emotionally attached, and it was it was really sweet 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:51.040 of them to actually say goodbye to the house and 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:53.040 to give us and kind of like pass the baton 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:53.480 in a way. 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:55.040 I love it. 0:02:55.040 --> 0:02:57.520 It was really it was really sweet, and I was 0:02:57.560 --> 0:02:59.600 just really grateful for that experience because I didn't know 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:01.040 what to expect. I thought we were just going to 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:03.480 walk through and test the door knobs and run the 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:05.800 faucets and stuff. But we ended up really having a nice, 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:08.680 a nice time with them, and they were like, so, 0:03:08.840 --> 0:03:10.240 here's that neighbor. 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:11.000 And don't worry about her. 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:14.000 She's fine, but like that neighbor's kind of noisy, and they're, 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:15.960 you know, giving us the lay of the neighborhood. 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:18.440 Yeah, I was really sweet. 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.919 I love that and the passing of the keys at 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:24.200 the because we basically had the walk through. Then we 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:27.440 went to the attorney's office to actually sign the most 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:31.080 paper I've ever seen in my entire life, just documently 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:34.760 page at a page for paget page of closing documents. 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:36.320 But they were there at the table with us, and 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:39.400 you know, Ed handed me the keys across the table 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:41.480 and it was it was cool. 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:42.800 I love that. 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:45.160 Yeah, but it was expansive. 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:51.280 Yes, ah, you know, it's so crazy. It's like when 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:54.440 you said I'm in the club. I remember when, literally 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:56.520 the day I got married, all of these married women 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:58.640 text me and they were like, welcome to the club. 0:03:59.280 --> 0:03:59.560 That's what. 0:04:01.080 --> 0:04:02.240 Misery loves company. 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:08.800 No, I know, Oh no, honestly, yeah, that's all I mean. 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:11.760 It's crazy because you know, we finally closed on our house. 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:14.280 I don't know, a few weeks ago, but I don't 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:16.080 feel like we have a house because we're not in it, 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:16.560 because you. 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:17.800 Know, we're doing renovations. 0:04:18.200 --> 0:04:21.000 Yeah right, So you know, it just feels surreal every 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.279 once in a while, like super Man, we have a house. 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:24.200 Yeah. 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:26.159 I well, we went there, we went back to the 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.240 house after the closing and I and it still felt 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:29.760 like I was in Edwin Rosemary's house. 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:32.560 Yes, it's like, let's come home. This feels weird. 0:04:32.560 --> 0:04:33.159 I don't want that. 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.880 Yeah, it hasn't hit me yet. And uh yeah, it. 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:39.920 Feel like I guess you have like your things in there, 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:42.560 and like yeah, but for us, it's gonna be a 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:46.680 while because honestly, we have probably months of of renovations 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:48.800 and stuff. When you buy our older home, I don't 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:50.520 do Do you know what year your house was built? 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:53.120 Nineteen forty seven? Do you know what they gifted us? 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:55.440 This was amazing. I forgot when we got to the closing, 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:59.320 they hand me this packet. It has the original blueprints 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.160 for our house, like the beautiful, the dark, like the 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.240 real blueprint, like they don't even make these anymore, from 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:07.200 nineteen forty seven when it was first built. And they 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.159 said that, you know, you're the only the fourth owner 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:11.720 and we wanted to give you these and it was 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:12.839 it was beautiful. 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:13.280 Yeah. 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:14.400 Did you get them framed? 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:15.560 Yeah? 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:15.839 I don't. 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:17.320 I don't know that we're going to get the originals 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:19.120 frame but I want to keep those safe. But we're 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:21.120 probably going to get I've I've did a little bit 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:25.120 of research and there's like art shops or even Staples 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.600 will do a copy of it, like a good replica, 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:29.960 and then we can get that framed and then keep 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:32.120 the other one in like a safety deposit box or something, 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:36.039 because that's that's like it's a special thing. I it 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:37.560 was very generous for them to give us that. 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:39.839 No, I love that. I said that. I was like, 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:41.400 I would love to get the blueprints for us. 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:43.039 I'm actually going to go to city Hall and see 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:44.960 if they have, like, you know, copies of the blueprints 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:45.560 because I'd. 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:49.120 Love to see, like, you know what what the I guess. 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:51.880 Original owner had in mind, because our house was built 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:57.520 in nineteen twenty wow. And so even so, you know, 0:05:57.520 --> 0:06:01.520 I was looking for a contractor and a designer and 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:03.880 a friend of mine connecting me with her two friends. 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:06.719 And the wife is a designer and the husband is 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:10.600 a contractor and project manager. And they were they've just 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:12.960 been so awesome. They're actually like our new like couple friend. 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:16.320 This is like our first joint couple friend, you know, 0:06:16.720 --> 0:06:20.200 Like I mean, I'm my best friend Drina and her 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:22.920 significant other. Like we're all cool, but we were cool 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.880 before we got married, you know, right, and so this 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:27.479 is but this is like what like a couple friend 0:06:27.480 --> 0:06:29.800 we made together, and we're like, oh my god, We're 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:34.240 so obsessed with them. It's like crazy like Superman and 0:06:34.320 --> 0:06:37.600 like so Rihanna is a woman. She I think she's 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:42.919 from Guyana and and Jermaine is the man and he actually. 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:43.080 Is by Rachel. 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:45.120 His his dad is black and his his mom is 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:47.320 white and they are like so dope and they have 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:51.040 a daughter named Olivia, and they are a amazing and 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:54.640 like like we went out to like I Hop with them, 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:57.520 and like then me and Rihanna went over to Home 0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:01.240 Sends and the guys and Supergirl and their daughter they 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:03.800 went to like bunples together. I mean we have just 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:06.240 been like obsessing with each other like we tech we 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:08.880 do we group text together, and I'm like, oh my god, these. 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:10.760 Are are like our friends. 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:16.000 I'm jealous because you know, usually it's you might be like, 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:17.760 oh I like I like the you know, you might 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:19.720 like the woman, but he might not like the guy, 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:20.840 or he might like the guy. 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:22.080 You're like, ah, she's all right. 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:24.400 So it's like the fact that like we both like, 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:27.560 you know, well one I like Jermaine, but I also 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:29.720 like Rihanna, and their daughter is super sweet and so 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:33.200 but also too they're really talented and so what we 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:36.160 asked them because they're just he Jermaine is just too 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:39.680 busy to take on like to do construction or even 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:42.280 even though he's done his own house, which is gorgeous. 0:07:42.320 --> 0:07:45.440 Their house is beautiful. He did all the work himself. 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:48.080 Basically, and they put it on the market and it's 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:50.360 sold within twenty four hour, not even they put it 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:52.560 on the market and somebody bought it sight unseen. 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:52.920 Put an offering. 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.040 Oh my god, I'm asking. 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:57.920 Because that's just how beautiful their place is. And so 0:07:58.040 --> 0:07:59.520 we asked them, well, then can you at least be 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:01.160 like our men tours in this, and that's what they're 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:05.560 kind of doing. They're basically consulting. And so because there's 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:08.200 so many things I don't know, like with the older house, 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:10.960 you really should get lead and asbestos testing, and so 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:13.120 we did, and we found out because we did see 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:14.960 a pipe and debasement that looked like it might be 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.880 wrapped with asbestos wrapping, which is which was normal for 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:20.320 reck then and it was and it's not a huge 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:22.360 deal to abate it, but obviously you have to abate it. 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:26.160 We had that there, you did, right, and a bunch 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:28.560 of pipes downstairs, yeah, fun stuffs and. 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:31.280 Bight and then and then because the house is older too, 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:33.000 and I don't know where the paint comes from, but 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:36.520 we did actually have some paint on a number of 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:38.360 like the wood, because there's a lot of wood in 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:40.160 nineteen twenties. I don't know if it's a craftsman. I 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:42.360 don't know like what the actual what it's called. But 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:45.440 there's a lot of lead, I guess in like whatever 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:47.960 layers of paint underneath. And so we have to get 0:08:47.960 --> 0:08:52.240 that abated. And so that's in itself is like just 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:55.920 a process. And so that's where we are now, like 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:59.080 hiring the abatement company, and even that's a process like 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:01.600 getting them to put bit to do the work. And 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:04.319 so Jermaine and Rihanna have just been walking us through 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:07.079 and I'm excited because she's been like I like her 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:09.200 eye for design because I love her house, and she 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:11.760 because they're looking for a house now since they quickly 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:14.960 sold there. She's been walking me through like when she 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.959 goes to open houses and stuff, she'll be like, oh, Tiffany, comes, 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:20.679 I want to show you this design detail to see 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:21.920 if you like it. So she's trying to get a 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:24.120 feel for my style. So she actually brought me to 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:26.640 this house nineteen twenty is also in Newark around the 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:29.480 corner for where our new house is, and the molding 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:32.280 was dark molding, and I never never would have thought 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:35.680 that I would like dark molding, but it was beautiful. 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:39.480 Their molding was black, which it's too dark for me, 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:42.880 but I love the dark molding, and I realized that, 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:46.080 you know, I think I'm really interested in having dark molding, 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:48.040 not black, but maybe not white. 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:51.120 And so I'm just enjoying this process, even though for us. 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:53.960 It's going to be alone, rude, but it's nice to 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:57.679 know that we have people who are going to kind 0:09:57.720 --> 0:09:59.400 of walk us through and not let us mess up 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:02.240 and help us in you contractors and electricians and all 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.920 that stuff, and they we won't be my biggest worry 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:06.600 with someone's going to get over on us. And now 0:10:06.640 --> 0:10:08.640 we're like, no, We've got our couple friends who this 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:10.520 is what they do for a living, so you're not 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:11.360 going to try us. 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:13.360 And they've been through it already. 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:14.480 Yeah, exactly. 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:16.560 And are you guys doing any like any any major 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:17.839 work or just a little minus stuff. 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:18.600 Oh oh yeah. 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:21.120 I've been chomping at the bit to get people in 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:23.200 to start looking at the house and giving us estimates 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:25.400 and putting in bids and everything, but of course no 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:27.520 one would actually come until we had the keys to 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:30.040 the house, which we got today. So last week we 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:33.480 started making appointments for tomorrow the day after closing, and 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:36.880 we have our thing is same thing. There's a couple 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:40.040 of like just structural things we need to fix first 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:41.640 so that we have people come in and look at 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:45.160 the plumbing and we're probably converting to gas. So we 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:48.480 have like three people in HVAC and plumbing, three different 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:51.320 businesses coming in the morning, and then the afternoon we 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:55.680 have three different architect design build type people. So okay, 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:59.360 before we do any structural changes, we need like the 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:01.440 architects to come in. You probably know all this, but 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:04.400 I didn't know that architects came first. I thought you'd 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:05.679 get a contractor first, but. 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:08.720 Yeah, I didn't know that either until I was like, oh, 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:11.360 and if you want, I can give you because Jermaine 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:14.760 he gave me. Whether it's your architect or I don't 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:17.440 know who's gonna take. So just this last weekend, we 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:20.200 actually took measurements of every room and then you can 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:22.480 put it into what's called a bid sheet. So I 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:24.320 don't know maybe your architect would do that, but I 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:27.360 can give you the spreadsheet that Jermaine gave me, because 0:11:27.600 --> 0:11:30.800 then that's the bid sheet. Is the spreadsheet then you 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:33.280 give to the different contractors so you can compare apples 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:36.400 to apples, so that way you can say, hey, contractor 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:39.320 in room A, we want this, this, this, and this 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:41.720 fix and here the dimensions and room B we want it. 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:43.960 So I was like, oh, he said, because if not, 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:46.400 then each contractor kind of comes in and gives a 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:49.560 guestimate based upon like what he thinks needs to be done, 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:52.439 and this one might tell you twenty thousand, this one 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:54.520 want to tell you thirty thousand. But they're not bidding 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:56.160 on the same thing. But with the bid sheet, they 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:58.800 fill it out and line item by line item, you 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:01.280 and Enrique can look and say, you know what, we 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:03.400 actually don't need this window done, but we do need 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:05.120 this done, so you can take fifty off here, but 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:08.160 add two hundred here. And I'm like, oh, it's been 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:10.400 such a learning experience, and I'm like, I've actually been 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:13.079 taking so many notes because I know we want to 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:14.880 start investing in real estate, so that way we know 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:17.600 next time we have like, okay, step one do this, 0:12:17.600 --> 0:12:19.360 step two do this. But I can certainly give you 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:21.800 that that bid sheet and ask your architect, you know, 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:25.160 like whoever, you have to still take measurements to help 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:26.200 you fill that out. 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:28.679 How are you how are you budgeting for reno? 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:31.360 Because I basically, for first of all, I feel. 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:32.280 Like I'm budgeting in the dark. 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:36.200 We have a chunk of money set aside, and like 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:39.199 I'll have some some more money coming this summer that 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:39.679 you know. 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:40.520 We'll add to the pot. 0:12:40.600 --> 0:12:46.240 But I I'm really, I'm really when you, I'm like, 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:48.760 I'm not worried, but I'm really cognizant of the fact 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:51.840 that I want to make sure that we are earmarking 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:55.559 funds for renovations and we're we're not touching emergency funds 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:58.040 so that I don't feel like like there's always going 0:12:58.080 --> 0:13:00.360 to be money in the bank. And I guess I'm 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:03.520 just nervous about about, you know, getting caught up in 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:05.720 a reno and then you're over budget. 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:06.719 But like you still want to. 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:10.200 Do some things, and I'm I'm like, I'm already trying 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:12.240 to prioritize what I want done and maybe think of 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.640 things that, Okay, if I had to wait, we can 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:17.120 wait to do this until later kind of stuff. 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:20.640 So what we did was like because same thing, honestly, 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:23.200 so I've just honestly been like saving every penny. 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:26.160 And because we have our our. 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:31.400 Emergency fund is already full, you know, so we're like, okay, 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:33.920 we've got our six months of just in case money. 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.280 But and so I've been and then we have like 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:39.040 other savings here and there. But I have been putting 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:41.000 the lion's share because I knew this was coming. You know, 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:43.719 we looked for for like over a year and a 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:46.240 half or a house, so I knew this was coming. 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:48.960 So I said, Okay, I've been really stacking away and 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:54.400 saving like crazy in our house fund. And so you know, 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.880 if we got everything done, you know, it might cost 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:01.920 us like everything including furniture and my cost us seventy 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:04.520 five to one hundred thousand dollars, but we are. But 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:06.520 I this is one thing that I like that Jermaine 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:10.240 told us. He said, let's the big sheet. We're gonna 0:14:10.280 --> 0:14:13.920 put down every little thing that you think that you 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.600 might like. He said, because then it becomes a line 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.080 item that you can take off. And he said it's 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:21.640 better to have it, even if it's just for future, 0:14:21.680 --> 0:14:24.360 like okay, this is phase two. But he's so that's 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:26.640 what we've been doing is just to put everything down, 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:30.760 price it all out, and then say, okay, I really 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:32.600 have to get the kitchen done because the kitchen is 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:35.000 a mess, and we really have to get the master 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.280 bathroom done because the master bathroom is too small for 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:39.640 Jirell because you know, he's tall. 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:42.080 Other than that, things can wait. 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:45.280 We're like, okay, we want to refinish the floor, but 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:47.680 Jirell might be able to do that himself, you know, 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:50.680 with his friends, and Jermaine might help, and okay painting. 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:52.920 Direll's twin brother is a master painter and has his 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:55.760 own painting business, so we could save there. So as 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:57.880 it is right now, we're just literally writing everything down. 0:14:57.920 --> 0:14:59.560 I don't even have I don't even know what it's 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:02.160 gonna call. I was like, I mean, it's probably going 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:06.520 to cost him a fifty thousand dollars plus range maybe, 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:09.520 but even then, you know, I don't know because I 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:11.480 want to include furniture because most of. 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:14.840 Our furniture now it's not doesn't fit where we're going. 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:18.280 So yeah, So I mean, like I said, I'm really 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:22.200 I'm excited, nervous, but not as nervous I was really 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:25.080 afraid before because I was like, I don't know how 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:26.560 to do any of these things. And I just hear 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:29.440 so many scary stories about contractors doing the wrong thing. 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:31.920 But now that we kind of have like okay, we've 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:36.440 got our our design and contract mentor you know, any 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:38.040 time I have a question, you know, I hit up 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:41.680 group chet text Like for example, I didn't know that 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:45.000 when so we got the testing for asbestos and lead 0:15:45.000 --> 0:15:46.680 and they said, yes, you have a little abestis in 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:48.960 the basement and you've got some lead inside the house. 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:50.800 And then Jamine I was like, so what do I 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:53.200 just call the people new people and say hey, fix it? 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:55.160 And he's like, no, you'll have to go back. 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:59.280 To that company and say to create an abatement plan. 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:01.600 And I was like, oh okay. 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:03.800 And so he was like, because from that plan there 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:07.360 should be specific specs. And from those specs, now you 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:10.880 can then go to two or three other abatement companies 0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:13.960 and say here's are the specific rooms in the house 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:16.640 the amount there is, so that way they can price 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:17.680 it all equally. 0:16:18.240 --> 0:16:19.320 And I was like, oh. 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:20.600 Cause I just would have went to like a company 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:23.080 and but like, hey, you know, here's my basic report. 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:26.040 And I didn't realize, like, you know, having the plan 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:29.040 is an additional cost, and I was like, oh, so 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:33.880 there's always like something and it's just nice to not 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:37.200 be kind of like puttering around in the dark because honestly, 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:40.640 it's renovations kind of scare me because I watched too 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:42.040 much of HGTV and I'm like. 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:43.200 Ah, so much. 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:45.760 I had a dream about cabinet trade the other night 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:47.600 that like we were trying to take it out. 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:50.520 It's it's a sickness. I'm not okay. I love that 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:52.160 we're in the same boat. So you just I'm gonna 0:16:52.160 --> 0:16:53.480 I'm gonna hit you. You were like a couple of 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:54.920 months ahead of me. I'm gonna hit you up. 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:56.680 Just let me know. 0:16:57.680 --> 0:16:59.720 This is all I know. 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:02.080 It's like, look at us growing up. When we first 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:03.040 started the podcast. 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:05.679 We were single ladies, all the single ladies, all the 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.960 single ladies, right and now look next thing. 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:20.440 You know, kids up next, And I think it's time to. 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:26.200 Boom store break, boots to break, boots to break. 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:28.080 Are you gotta brown break? Are you gonna brown boost? 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:28.960 I got a break? 0:17:29.600 --> 0:17:31.920 Okay, too much positivity happening right now. I gotta I 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:35.760 gotta bring it down. Do you want me to go first? 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:40.359 So I've been in a texting debate with my two besties. 0:17:41.040 --> 0:17:44.919