Speaker 1: She was living in a single room with three other individuals.
Speaker 1: One of them was a male and the other two well,
Speaker 1: the other two were females.
Speaker 2: God only knows what they were up to in there.
Speaker 1: And furthermore, Susan I wouldn't be the least bit surprised
Speaker 1: to learn that all four of them habitually smoked marijuana, cigarettes.
Speaker 3: Reefers.
Speaker 4: I spoke to joyceon night, I spoke to Joys in
Speaker 4: the afternoon. It makes me feel all right.
Speaker 3: Hey, guys, welcome back to Parental Advisory, Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 2: I'm Erica, and I'm Nila and sick halling on you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sick, so please excuse my heavy breathing and
Speaker 3: sneezing throughout the episode. I'm going to try and keep
Speaker 3: it to a minimal. Also, I'm smoking weeds, so I
Speaker 3: hope that helps.
Speaker 2: That's not gonna help.
Speaker 5: And she's getting on airplane in the morning, which won't
Speaker 5: help either, but I'm fully supporting both things.
Speaker 2: So and I'm also smoking after you, which you have
Speaker 2: a strong immune system, Erica, I don't. I don't.
Speaker 5: I don't have a strong immune system, but it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: Also, this week we're coming to you pre recorded because
Speaker 3: I got shit to do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Mela's leaving us.
Speaker 3: I'm going to NYC for Memorial Weekend, so we'll tell
Speaker 3: you next week what we did over Memorial weekend when.
Speaker 5: It's less hot on the block. I'm pretty sure your
Speaker 5: stories are gonna be way better than mine. I have
Speaker 5: no plans, Like what am I?
Speaker 2: What am I doing?
Speaker 3: Something tells me you're gonna find something to get into.
Speaker 2: What am I doing? What is it Monday? You fell
Speaker 2: gad all weekend?
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, that's right, but it's Monday though, Yes, on Monday.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, Actually, well it's my girlfriend's birthday, so I'm
Speaker 5: gonna go do that.
Speaker 2: Shout out to Ashley Ashley Runaway.
Speaker 3: Hey girl, Hey Ashley Runway Birthday hack.
Speaker 2: Her birthday is actually tomorrow, Happy birthday.
Speaker 5: But yeah, I don't Memorial Days like an afterthought for me,
Speaker 5: Like I always forget about it and then it like
Speaker 5: creeps up.
Speaker 3: I mean it used to like when you're under twenty
Speaker 3: five it matters, and now it creeps up. Honestly, the
Speaker 3: only reason I remembered is because my girlfriend takes her
Speaker 3: house parties super seriously, and she told me a month
Speaker 3: ago that I need to be in New York for
Speaker 3: her Super Pop and Memorial Day weekend party. But it's
Speaker 3: just an excuse to go because you know, I got
Speaker 3: thangs and thangs over there, and she.
Speaker 2: Had some thangs over there, some business business.
Speaker 3: Also, my grandmother lives in Philly. If anybody wanted to
Speaker 3: know that tidbit about me, Are you gonna go to Philly?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 3: You know it's only an hour and a half away,
Speaker 3: Like I don't have two hours. So both my parents
Speaker 3: are from Philadelphia, so you know, that's why I got
Speaker 3: that West coast East coast. Like if he was wondering
Speaker 3: where that little twaing come from, it's because both my
Speaker 3: parents are from Philly. So I'm kind of hood on
Speaker 3: the love. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: Okay, girl, Well I'm Valley bitch. Valley girl comes out
Speaker 5: all the.
Speaker 2: Time like love.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm definitely more Valley than I am.
Speaker 5: Anyway, although people think I'm from New York sometimes, do they?
Speaker 3: Because I don't get New York from you at all?
Speaker 3: You know, no, well maybe you're bitch resting bitch face.
Speaker 3: Heck you it's the resting bitch face because it ain't
Speaker 3: that accent. Because you say, like every five minute's like
Speaker 3: me and it ain't.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 5: But when I go to New York, I start talking
Speaker 5: like in New York or it's like Madonna when she
Speaker 5: moved to London.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be me. I feel like you're gonna
Speaker 3: automatically talk how you based on your.
Speaker 5: Like like I'd be like, yeah I do, and like
Speaker 5: we're gonna get coffee if I don't really care what
Speaker 5: we have to say, like we can go and we
Speaker 5: don't have to.
Speaker 3: Do shit when we do a New York episode, can
Speaker 3: we just see the whole episode in New York accents?
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you, Yes, thank you.
Speaker 5: I'm pleased, And all our New York followers are going
Speaker 5: to come for us, right, Like, bitch, that sucks because
Speaker 5: my New York accent is not that good, but I'm
Speaker 5: gonna work on it all weekend.
Speaker 2: Look, mine is okay. It used to be better.
Speaker 5: I did a TV show where I had to be
Speaker 5: from Brooklyn, so I really really had to like focus.
Speaker 2: On into it. But that was a long time ago.
Speaker 3: That's austrated. I think I'm gonna go to acting school
Speaker 3: just to challenge myself.
Speaker 5: But you don't have to go to acting school, just
Speaker 5: go to an everyday life and be like today in
Speaker 5: British bitch or that.
Speaker 2: Today I'm from South London. Hello, Hello, Hello, how are
Speaker 2: you doing night way?
Speaker 3: Is that Aussie?
Speaker 2: Sure the Bobby?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I canna work on.
Speaker 5: You know what's the worst accent I have is like
Speaker 5: my like like Latina accents.
Speaker 3: You're you're a Latina horrible.
Speaker 2: It's embarrassing.
Speaker 3: You're how do you speak Spanish and have a horrible
Speaker 3: Latina ex.
Speaker 5: I don't know, mummy, Okay, Mommy, I'm just like I
Speaker 5: don't know New York.
Speaker 2: That's like New York. I don't know. It's really embarrassing.
Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna do it because it was just defensive.
Speaker 2: How about your Indian accent?
Speaker 7: Wait?
Speaker 2: How about when we want to go to the We
Speaker 2: went to the comedy store the other night.
Speaker 3: Oh, I know, first of all, nobody in the front
Speaker 3: would do the Indian accent because they were I was like, God.
Speaker 2: I wish I was in the front. This comic went
Speaker 2: around asking people.
Speaker 5: There was like an Indian man in the front row,
Speaker 5: and he was just saying, like what was he talking about?
Speaker 2: He was talking about seven eleven all types of shit.
Speaker 5: And then he went around to try to get people
Speaker 5: to participate in this Indian accent thing, and I want
Speaker 5: to want to.
Speaker 3: I was the one under my breath, like, come on,
Speaker 3: very racist, we're just joking. I'm actually I'm pretty sure
Speaker 3: I'm Indian because I love the Indian store. I love
Speaker 3: wearing bandy's. I love Hannah so pretty much them.
Speaker 2: He was long these long ass braids right now?
Speaker 3: An Indian, you know. Come on the Instagram check me out.
Speaker 3: I got new hairdom new hair?
Speaker 2: Who is Mila? Got new hair, y'all? And it's really cute.
Speaker 2: I like it, real cute.
Speaker 3: You see my charms, I add I saw that you
Speaker 3: did do that yourself. Of course I went. I went
Speaker 3: to the bead store, Michael's and the hair store just to.
Speaker 2: Master the didn't I see a feather? Where to go?
Speaker 3: The feathers in here?
Speaker 2: It's gold, a gold dipped feather. Oh it's gold dipped. Okay, bitch,
Speaker 2: Oh did it fall out? No, it's in there. I
Speaker 2: just guides where it's gone. I'll tire up. Go your
Speaker 2: feathers gone. Look? Look was it here?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 3: Was it?
Speaker 2: No? That wasn't it? Are you sure? This looks like
Speaker 2: it was attached to something? This looks like it was
Speaker 2: on purpose. Oh my god, I said it earlier. So
Speaker 2: it's in my house somewhere. This is bullshit. Also public
Speaker 2: service announcement.
Speaker 3: If you find any other bitches with gold dip feathers
Speaker 3: in the hair, you know where they got it from.
Speaker 2: First. That's true. I've get to see gold dip feathers.
Speaker 2: You never see no feathers period. I've seen feathers, but
Speaker 2: never gold dipped.
Speaker 3: Let's just be lying.
Speaker 2: Oh, there it is. I told you, Oh, it's so cute.
Speaker 2: Told in the braid.
Speaker 3: I told you it was on there tight, the curred
Speaker 3: the feather you know, I used tocur the bag.
Speaker 2: I securred the feathers. It's a look, it's cute. I
Speaker 2: like it a lot.
Speaker 3: It is my favorite urban word that's coming up this year.
Speaker 2: I've never used it publicly.
Speaker 3: I used it publicly wrongly all the time.
Speaker 2: Really, Yeah, I don't know. I felt like I just
Speaker 2: I don't know. I couldn't use it. But I didn't
Speaker 2: feel like it like naturally rolled off my tongue. I
Speaker 2: don't know. I just thought I felt false using it.
Speaker 2: I felt like a fraud. Excuse us.
Speaker 3: It's a plane. I mean, you can use it anywhere.
Speaker 5: Really, there is a plane line. It's a plane flying
Speaker 5: by by my house. A little smoother, but yeah close.
Speaker 5: So you told you it doesn't roll off the tongue.
Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying, Like, I know, I know business
Speaker 5: saying it.
Speaker 3: I like based my Instagram captions around saying it's my install.
Speaker 5: Okay, Instagram. Speaking of Instagram captions, they're so hard. You've
Speaker 5: been doing really well, but I think really hard, Like
Speaker 5: even today, I've notsted a photo on my personal Instagram
Speaker 5: at watch Erica by the way, and uh, I thought
Speaker 5: really hard about it. I was like, Okay, I have
Speaker 5: blue eyeshadow. The sky is blue.
Speaker 2: Like, what what did you say? I said, I don't blue.
Speaker 2: I'm into you? Like what is that? Who knows?
Speaker 3: I thought it was brilliant. I'm like, she really puts
Speaker 3: a lot of Really that was a poem at Milan
Speaker 3: Matho really needs this, really needs to step up her game,
Speaker 3: because Erica was just wooding with the captions, not host Wait. No,
Speaker 3: my one of my favorites this week was in case.
Speaker 3: She was wondering what I'd look like drinking soap fockaesota.
Speaker 3: Oh I I wish I would have thought it something cool.
Speaker 2: Like that I thought.
Speaker 5: I thought. I was like, you know what, I like
Speaker 5: this photo, but it's like a random photo of me
Speaker 5: drinking a beverage.
Speaker 2: So what can I say? That was perfect? I guess yeah.
Speaker 2: I was kinda proud of that one.
Speaker 8: I noticed it because I thought, yeah, you know, maybe
Speaker 8: they maybe they do wonder.
Speaker 2: Maybe they wanted to know, maybe they want I wanted to.
Speaker 8: Know, you know, And here you got your answer. Pretty cute, beautiful, Oh.
Speaker 3: My goodness, so cool. Anyway, hi as hell? Which brings
Speaker 3: the story topic mom to medicate. It's a us that
Speaker 3: did it really work? See sometimes it doesn't work, but
Speaker 3: you gotta try.
Speaker 2: It's it's us. It's a good mom. It's a good mom.
Speaker 2: It's a good mom.
Speaker 3: It's a balanced mom with a good choice. It's oh
Speaker 3: my god, this is a good weed from the mystery bag.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's that's definitely your weed that you left me.
Speaker 3: We got drunk the other night, came home and while
Speaker 3: we were in my drunken stupor, somehow I stucked Erica's
Speaker 3: weed jar that was empty with some weeds.
Speaker 2: I had so much.
Speaker 3: I had a bunch, and I'm like, she's gonna be
Speaker 3: so happy when she wakes up. You're lucky.
Speaker 5: I didn't just throw that shit away because I knew
Speaker 5: it was empty, and I was like, maybe there's one
Speaker 5: last night. I was about to throw it away and
Speaker 5: I looked and I was like.
Speaker 2: Whoa, Oh my god, you're worn. I'm happy to throw
Speaker 2: it away. I was so happy. I was like, Oh,
Speaker 2: she loves me the weed Santa Glass.
Speaker 3: Ho ho ho ho, bitch, I'm hilarious.
Speaker 2: Oh you're on a roll tonight. Okay, maybe sickondness and
Speaker 2: weed to fit you. Maybe I mean been sneezed.
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Okay, So back to the topic at hand.
Speaker 3: We chose this topic not only because we're high, but
Speaker 3: often because we make We think that smoking weed really
Speaker 3: makes us better moms. That's because we're long term weed
Speaker 3: smokers and we know how to handle it and what
Speaker 3: to do under the wheat and fluence.
Speaker 5: Can you actually I want to know your weed story,
Speaker 5: Like how did you begin smoking weed? Like when was
Speaker 5: the first time? How old were you?
Speaker 3: Honestly, I, even though we're from La, I like drank
Speaker 3: really young.
Speaker 2: But I think I smoked me one time.
Speaker 3: Did you ever go to the YMCA parties? There used
Speaker 3: to be a YMCA party in junior high. It was
Speaker 3: in eighth grade and at ninety paid five dollars they
Speaker 3: would be a DJ, and it was just dark and
Speaker 3: they had like one spinning light and who knows what
Speaker 3: was going on in there, with lots of disgusting teenage
Speaker 3: fuckery dancing on walls, feet on the.
Speaker 2: I had knew club Bling Bling. I don't know about YMCA.
Speaker 2: Actually this is the this is the first thing, especially
Speaker 2: because Club blind Bling was high school. That was nice.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, we both did, but clearly we were premature.
Speaker 2: We were at the y.
Speaker 3: We called it the y.
Speaker 2: I didn't even know about.
Speaker 3: It was seven to eleven, it was five dollars. It
Speaker 3: was right here, right by North in North Hollywood.
Speaker 2: I want to hang it. Oh yeah, it was in
Speaker 2: the valley.
Speaker 3: Yeah, girl, all that everybody was going and if you
Speaker 3: couldn't go, it was a strokeage and it's a strokeage,
Speaker 3: a strokeage word now it is. We lied and said
Speaker 3: we had to buy tampons from seven to eleven next
Speaker 3: door because my friend had some pot.
Speaker 2: We went to the park, we smoked it and went back.
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure I didn't get high. I didn't really
Speaker 3: start getting high intil the college off some whack ass
Speaker 3: stress because I was in Georgia and Atlanta, like, and
Speaker 3: they call it reggie, which in La means terrible. Give
Speaker 3: me a fucking headache, that's terrible. And then now I
Speaker 3: can't fucking stop. I mean not that I can't stop,
Speaker 3: but I really like it. Really I'm enjoy I do.
Speaker 2: What about you with you?
Speaker 3: A weed story.
Speaker 5: I was twelve and I was going to I was
Speaker 5: smoked with some girls. I'm pretty sure it wasn't weed,
Speaker 5: though it was like it looked like like no, it
Speaker 5: was like it looked like strawberry weeds. They were all
Speaker 5: like big and shit, and like I didn't even know
Speaker 5: if I was high, Like I think I was pretending
Speaker 5: to be high because I didn't know what I was
Speaker 5: looking for. You know that first everybody knows the first
Speaker 5: time you smoke weed, you get high, like you really don't.
Speaker 5: I feel like you just don't know what's happening. Your
Speaker 5: body's like, wait, are you serious?
Speaker 2: What are you doing? And then you're like, I don't know,
Speaker 2: Am I am? I high? Maybe? And so I wasn't high,
Speaker 2: But then I smoked again and that was definitely weed,
Speaker 2: and I definitely got high.
Speaker 5: So I started smoking, not consistently at all twelve, but
Speaker 5: I would say more consistently in high school, so I'd.
Speaker 2: Say like fourteen heavily. Really, yeah, I was probably like
Speaker 2: eighteen nineteen.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I think growing up in the valley
Speaker 5: at that time, like going and I went to Notre
Speaker 5: Day party.
Speaker 2: In high school n D what's up? You're a nerd
Speaker 2: for that?
Speaker 5: And go nights And we were just a bunch of
Speaker 5: Valley stoners. Like everyone at my school got super high
Speaker 5: all the time, like we I would get high before.
Speaker 2: A class and go to school in the car.
Speaker 5: Yeah, in the car, especially when I could Oh my god,
Speaker 5: when I could drive, It's like finally, now I could
Speaker 5: really get hide before school a load.
Speaker 3: I never got high before high school.
Speaker 5: I don't think I got high before high school until
Speaker 5: I could drive, right, Yeah, But you went.
Speaker 3: To like a super like valley school where that's yeah,
Speaker 3: like well the Catholic schools, right, that's what.
Speaker 2: They do but acceptable.
Speaker 5: But we couldn't even like dance the dances. I need
Speaker 5: to keep like a ruler space between us. So because
Speaker 5: they made it, and that's why all of the girls
Speaker 5: were worse.
Speaker 2: Yeah, eliding me. You can discover your pussy and then
Speaker 2: I was I wasn't a whole I was just you know,
Speaker 2: being a scorpion when did on a score?
Speaker 4: That was.
Speaker 2: An interesting rema.
Speaker 5: Apparently my jokes still translate when I'm high yours are
Speaker 5: hitting my railing anyway. Yeah, and so then I smoked
Speaker 5: heavily forever until I got pregnant, like from high school
Speaker 5: until I got pregnant.
Speaker 3: So did you stop smoking weed when you got pregnant
Speaker 3: or heavily?
Speaker 5: I felt like I was supposed to, so I did,
Speaker 5: and then I was like, oh I should.
Speaker 2: I can still smoke every now and then.
Speaker 3: So then I tried what month did you decide to
Speaker 3: try again.
Speaker 2: After three months?
Speaker 5: I think I was like, I'll make it past the
Speaker 5: first three month period. Also because I think I'd mentioned
Speaker 5: this before, like I felt like I couldn't get pregnant,
Speaker 5: so I was really paranoid about my pregnanty at first.
Speaker 5: And then I would smoke, and then I didn't even
Speaker 5: want it, like strange, I didn't. I really didn't smoke
Speaker 5: drink my pregnancy. I know you like some people do,
Speaker 5: and that's totally fine. I just I just didn't want it.
Speaker 2: It was weird.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I smoked, like you said here and there,
Speaker 3: when I wanted it, or if I was you know,
Speaker 3: I wanted.
Speaker 2: To, I did.
Speaker 6: I didn't.
Speaker 3: I didn't think of it negatively, you know, like I
Speaker 3: didn't really drink wine or I felt like that was
Speaker 3: my choice. I didn't drink wine so I could smoke
Speaker 3: a little bit. I drink wine like I had like
Speaker 3: a couple of SIPs, but like at one point, I
Speaker 3: just I.
Speaker 2: Would have like a glass of wine for sure, not
Speaker 2: all the time, but like I would.
Speaker 5: And even if I think I don't know what the
Speaker 5: effects of wine are and Pregnantian is sure for getting wasted,
Speaker 5: it's probably not a good idea.
Speaker 3: My my one of my best friends, oddly enough, who's
Speaker 3: super hippie, said to being so, so, you know, my
Speaker 3: my younger brother has down syndrome. And my friend was like,
Speaker 3: you know, Mazzie, don't drink any wine. And I was like,
Speaker 3: I don't think that one thing has that has nothing
Speaker 3: that's not related. But after she said it, like I
Speaker 3: was like, you got paranoid. Yeah, And then like so
Speaker 3: I was just like, let me just stick to weed,
Speaker 3: even though I don't. I don't think there's any research
Speaker 3: back in that statement, and then it feel I didn't
Speaker 3: feel guilty about smoking. I really feel like it's of
Speaker 3: the earth. It's really natural shit. For like years up
Speaker 3: until like sixties, like not that long ago, they condone
Speaker 3: smoking cigarettes for pregnant women, and it was a totally
Speaker 3: normal thing. And there's like, you know a lot of
Speaker 3: infant deaths related to cigarette.
Speaker 2: Smoking, So that's true.
Speaker 3: So I mean, I'm let me just say, the hippie
Speaker 3: part of me totally does is not down with the
Speaker 3: health industry in America, and I'm more about like doing
Speaker 3: what's natural, So I don't trust them anyway.
Speaker 5: Weed comes from the ground, but unfortunately the weed that
Speaker 5: people are a lot of people are smoking now are
Speaker 5: sprayed with so many different things. Yeah, that it could
Speaker 5: be unhealthy, right, it could be unhealthy, you know, Like
Speaker 5: but if you're smoking.
Speaker 3: Weed that your friends that grew it, yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean even some dispensaries you can trust, but
Speaker 2: like you have to know where it's you know, trust
Speaker 2: the source.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: But I mean I think aside from just being pregnant
Speaker 5: and smoking, I think after smoking, like like just like
Speaker 5: I mentioned in other episodes that I felt this weird
Speaker 5: like responsibility to be a certain way after I had Iri,
Speaker 5: and I felt like, I think also because my baby
Speaker 5: daddy smoked weed so heavily, like all the time, like
Speaker 5: even that's like part of the bond in our relationships.
Speaker 5: And then he continued to smoke, and then I really
Speaker 5: didn't smoke anymore. And then my I just got kind
Speaker 5: of annoyed by it, by his excessive smoking when I
Speaker 5: didn't smoke, because I'm like, oh, well, you get to
Speaker 5: just keep living your life.
Speaker 2: No, and I'm over here just fucking nine months pregnant.
Speaker 5: Oh that's great that you can just smoke of fifteen
Speaker 5: blunts today, like you know.
Speaker 3: No, My thing was like if I'm pregnant, mother fuck
Speaker 3: are you pregnant too?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well that didn't hold up in my household. I
Speaker 2: mean might either.
Speaker 5: But but so then after that, like I didn't really
Speaker 5: want to smoke, and then I was just like, well
Speaker 5: it was almost like proving a point, like well, I
Speaker 5: don't smoke.
Speaker 2: I don't smoke a lot, like I'm a mom, I
Speaker 2: don't do that. And then so, but that's so stupid
Speaker 2: to think that I felt that way.
Speaker 5: I mean, I feel like I've come to I've come
Speaker 5: a long way, and whatever this strange motherhood journey like
Speaker 5: version of what I thought motherhood looked like. You know,
Speaker 5: it's also to look like, which was so weird because
Speaker 5: I was a stone or my whole life. And then
Speaker 5: suddenly I was like, I know it's wrong. I think
Speaker 5: also because my mom kept she she smoked, but she
Speaker 5: would like hide it from me.
Speaker 2: She smoked while she was pregnant.
Speaker 5: Well, my dad told me that she did, but that
Speaker 5: might have been like him being mad at her and
Speaker 5: try to like just talk shit, but I wouldn't be surprised.
Speaker 2: But no, she smoked throughout my whole childhood.
Speaker 5: I don't know, if not heavily, but she smoked, and
Speaker 5: it was like it's always a secret. And when I started,
Speaker 5: when I when I started smoking, I've gotten so much
Speaker 5: trouble even though like she's smoking. Actually recently, my brother
Speaker 5: went to his prom this weekend and he had a
Speaker 5: great time, like too much of a great time, Like,
Speaker 5: and my brother doesn't like drink really, he's kind of he's.
Speaker 2: Very low key. And so she got mad him for smoking.
Speaker 3: She did, yes, And I was like, mom, but she
Speaker 3: didn't get mad at him for drinking. No, not really,
Speaker 3: so so weird, No, you know what. I think that's
Speaker 3: the difference between like our generation and our parents and
Speaker 3: our sau We both have pretty young parents, but like
Speaker 3: same thing. They were smoking weed, but they were hiding it.
Speaker 3: And my dad told me when I was like six
Speaker 3: or eight or some shit, there was a picture of
Speaker 3: weed and I wrote on the back, I know what
Speaker 3: this is. And then he said that he would go
Speaker 3: in the garage and he would come back in the
Speaker 3: house and I'd say, what are you doing in there?
Speaker 3: He said nothing, I should just watching clothes. And I said,
Speaker 3: let me smell your hands. No, I don't know who
Speaker 3: I thought I was like scandal. I don't know, but
Speaker 3: I I remember knowing and thinking it was this really
Speaker 3: bad thing and thinking they end up doing it's bad.
Speaker 3: But I was allowed to smoke in high school, like
Speaker 3: at my best friend's house.
Speaker 2: Like your parents knew, like they did not or her.
Speaker 3: Parents, her parents knew. We went like her mom. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you know, when you're living from the LA and you
Speaker 3: live in the valley, you have a different childhood. It's
Speaker 3: not the same childhood. Like we went to Cabo when
Speaker 3: we were fifteen. We were in a bikini contest. We won.
Speaker 3: The next morning, she wrote, us each a joint. We
Speaker 3: had Eastern baskets and our money that we won from
Speaker 3: the bikini contest.
Speaker 5: And that was totally Like everyone had a friend who's
Speaker 5: who had a parent like that, Yeah, it was cool.
Speaker 2: My parent wasn't like that though, that was not my parent.
Speaker 5: Like I had a friend who, like I smoked bongs
Speaker 5: with with her actually was a guy I smoked bongs
Speaker 5: with his mom and their apartment in Thousand Oaks, Like
Speaker 5: that's strange and weird.
Speaker 3: Why why?
Speaker 2: But like she was that mom, you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: And you know, I guess I don't want to be
Speaker 5: that mom honestly me personally, I don't want to be
Speaker 5: the fun mom.
Speaker 2: Bitch. No, it's not being fun. No, I'm just no.
Speaker 5: I think more so, I don't pretty really responsible for
Speaker 5: someone else's child.
Speaker 2: Like if I do that with my child, then that's
Speaker 2: one thing.
Speaker 3: But if like I can't, yeah, I wouldn't do that
Speaker 3: unless but like with my friends I'm talking about, like
Speaker 3: we were in Mexico together, like these are my sisters, Like
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like like she knows my parents, well,
Speaker 3: so it wasn't like you're randomly going to some guy,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean that I would never be
Speaker 3: that like mom, or you're not drinking at my goddama
Speaker 3: was all these guy game kids, so I can go
Speaker 3: to jail.
Speaker 2: No, no, yeah, I don't. I didn't really know his
Speaker 2: mom at all.
Speaker 3: Now though, it's really weird how now that I'm an adult.
Speaker 3: First of all, my my aunt told me my grandmother smoked,
Speaker 3: and then I noticed the little sneaky things she said, Grandma.
Speaker 2: My grandma.
Speaker 3: And one time I started like sneaking and I'm visiting
Speaker 3: her and I was like, what are you doing. She's like,
Speaker 3: I'm going to smoke.
Speaker 2: She's married at the time.
Speaker 3: She's like, but I can't tell Jim because it gets mad.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, come sneak with you. And now honestly,
Speaker 3: we have like this really great, beautiful tequila and like
Speaker 3: marijuana relationships, and it's just she's like, we have so much.
Speaker 3: We're more so much more relatable and I can smoke
Speaker 3: with her and my dad and before it wasn't like that.
Speaker 3: And the one thing that shifted my perspective. I lived
Speaker 3: in Atlanta and I knew a family who had a
Speaker 3: shipload of kids and they were young, and one time
Speaker 3: we were in the cars before I had kids. I
Speaker 3: don't know. I think I was hitching a ride to
Speaker 3: the park to the party at the park and he
Speaker 3: had like they were growing and they had a huge,
Speaker 3: like marijuana flower and the kids were looking at it
Speaker 3: and he's like, look at the flower I picked. Oh
Speaker 3: this is I'm like, what a pretty flower. You were
Speaker 3: smelling it. And I realized at that moment the relationship
Speaker 3: that they that would that started. And you know, with
Speaker 3: the with the with the whole thing. Wasn't this big
Speaker 3: scary drug or this bad thing, this secret because that's
Speaker 3: to me, that was weird.
Speaker 5: I'm asking my dad, it comes from nature, it's beautiful,
Speaker 5: and then you can choose what you do with it.
Speaker 3: But this is the woman and daddy do or this
Speaker 3: is what you know when you're older you could do.
Speaker 3: But you know, it's not like I'm like chief all
Speaker 3: day in my career or anything. But at that moment,
Speaker 3: I realized, like, oh, that's the relationship that I'm gonna
Speaker 3: start with my kid. You know, like that's the relationship
Speaker 3: I'll surround it with because it will it could it
Speaker 3: will shift the whole narrative. So that's kind of how
Speaker 3: I go about it now. But the other day. This
Speaker 3: is so funny.
Speaker 2: We chold about this.
Speaker 3: Her sh had a doll that must have laid in
Speaker 3: the counter that had like a little bit of weed
Speaker 3: residue on it. And then I like it was on
Speaker 3: the couch and she said, Mommy, the monkey got smoke
Speaker 3: on it. I was like, dear Lord Jesus, that can't
Speaker 3: be good. I was like, oh it all off, But yeah,
Speaker 3: oh God, what about for you? For I.
Speaker 5: You know, I don't like I just recently started smoking,
Speaker 5: like with her in my area, in my space. You know.
Speaker 5: I wasn't like a secret, but it was something that
Speaker 5: I just kept away from her. I wasn't like if
Speaker 5: she ever caught me, like go away or something like that.
Speaker 5: But I mean after I got over this idea of
Speaker 5: whatever this mother thing was and I started smoking again,
Speaker 5: now I go I have like I go in waves,
Speaker 5: like sometimes I smoke more, sometimes I don't smoke a lot.
Speaker 5: Like it's like not like how I used to be,
Speaker 5: where it was like consistently heavy all the time.
Speaker 2: And I think it's just because I'm just busier.
Speaker 5: I don't know, And I think weed I just have
Speaker 5: a different relationship with it than I used to. But
Speaker 5: I think for me personally, like I don't really want
Speaker 5: to roll a joint in front of iery like her
Speaker 5: sitting here watching me do it? I want her to
Speaker 5: and not that I don't know like if maybe it's
Speaker 5: something within me that I just feel like she can
Speaker 5: have that own discovery and with me, but just not
Speaker 5: right now, you.
Speaker 2: Know, Like that's fair. Yeah, I just feel like I
Speaker 2: just don't.
Speaker 5: Feel it makes me feel uncomfortable, and if it makes
Speaker 5: me feel uncomfortable, I'm just gonna go with how I feel,
Speaker 5: of course. But it's definitely not a secret, like you know,
Speaker 5: like I smoke in front of her, but I mean,
Speaker 5: do I hope that Iri doesn't smoke in the future
Speaker 5: like I think, of.
Speaker 3: Course, no parent wants to be like, well, here's the
Speaker 3: other thing you don't know how to effects you.
Speaker 2: I don't care if she smokes in the future.
Speaker 5: I just wanted to be her choice and not influenced
Speaker 5: by her curiosity because I've made it a mystery, you know,
Speaker 5: because that's where my curiosity.
Speaker 3: Oh really, because you felt like it was a mystery.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was like, what are the secret papers with
Speaker 5: this like real Eastern man on them jags?
Speaker 2: That's like the first thing I found.
Speaker 3: I was like this.
Speaker 2: And it was white and gold. It was pretty and
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, this is cool. And I was
Speaker 2: like mommy, and I remember her. Yeah, I was liked,
Speaker 2: mind those I'm like in the box on the countert
Speaker 2: notes what is it?
Speaker 5: Or like finding like her little like pet thing. And
Speaker 5: I don't never forget. There was this one time that
Speaker 5: my mom, I don't know it was her or my stepdad,
Speaker 5: but they were They had smoked and they were high,
Speaker 5: and they left the joint on the table and then
Speaker 5: I came in and saw the joint and then my
Speaker 5: mom was like, did you.
Speaker 2: Leave that there?
Speaker 5: She shouldn't blame yeah, And I was like, I was like, no,
Speaker 5: she was high. What she was like, you left that there?
Speaker 2: You were smoking?
Speaker 5: And I was like, uh no, no, not like am
Speaker 5: I really being blamed.
Speaker 2: For your ship? So do you think she remembers it?
Speaker 5: Probably not, No, she probably has a different version of it.
Speaker 5: You know, that's like every mom and daughter, right, But yeah,
Speaker 5: I don't want it to be like that. I don't
Speaker 5: want to be like that. But I get why she
Speaker 5: felt that way, especially because now the weed, the stigma
Speaker 5: of weed is like so much different now than it
Speaker 5: was in the nineties, when like crack was around.
Speaker 3: Every drug was bad, right, you know what I mean,
Speaker 3: drugs were drugs, War on drugs, war on drugs, all
Speaker 3: of them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.
Speaker 5: So I just feel like it's also just a different time,
Speaker 5: and that's why we see groups like Facebook groups like
Speaker 5: are supporting.
Speaker 2: Mom moms who medicate.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, And I have to smoke now, like sometimes,
Speaker 5: like even today, like I was like, Okay, I need
Speaker 5: a glass of wine or I need some weed, and
Speaker 5: you know, it's been a long day and like not
Speaker 5: that I can't cope on my own.
Speaker 4: Guys.
Speaker 2: You know, people are like, oh you can't.
Speaker 3: You're yeah, you're using it as a crutch or whatever.
Speaker 2: They like, No, I deal with my shit, but sometimes
Speaker 2: you just you need to smoke a joint.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I'm a better parent, I'm a better person. Like
Speaker 3: my attitude in my opinion about something can totally Like
Speaker 3: if I could be aggravated and be like you know what,
Speaker 3: that doesn't matter. It's totally cool.
Speaker 2: It's fine.
Speaker 3: That's your opinion. Yeah you think I suck, Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm you know, I'm a nice, nicer person.
Speaker 2: It's true. No, it's definitely calm me down.
Speaker 5: The other night, my friend brought over CBD oil, like,
Speaker 5: but it was in a pen form, which I'm kind
Speaker 5: of skeptical about the whole pen smoking thing only because
Speaker 5: I've heard really bad things.
Speaker 2: Really like what that is just really unhealthy for you.
Speaker 5: You're like inhaling all these things that are on this
Speaker 5: oil or like into oil.
Speaker 2: You're in you can be in hand but tane and.
Speaker 9: Certain, right if it's not like yeah, yeah, but even Felicia,
Speaker 9: Like we had Felicia on a few two weeks ago,
Speaker 9: and she was talking about her Cebeedy oil and like
Speaker 9: how it doesn't.
Speaker 3: Like she's she's she's getting like rel like relaxed, but
Speaker 3: she's not feeling high. Yeah, So that's also an alternative
Speaker 3: for people who are afraid. And again, like we say
Speaker 3: this according to knowing yourself, Like if you don't smoke weed, don't.
Speaker 2: Just go get high.
Speaker 3: Should you listen to this and be around your kids
Speaker 3: and start like some people could freak out? There's different
Speaker 3: First of all, there's different types of weed. There's different
Speaker 3: strands to make you feel different ways. So don't don't
Speaker 3: take this as a public service announcement to just go
Speaker 3: on a whim and smoke some weed. If you don't
Speaker 3: regularly smoke weed, if you're not sure how it affects you,
Speaker 3: you need to do it with an adult friend. You
Speaker 3: need to do it when the kids are not home
Speaker 3: a few times before you practice it alone. And you
Speaker 3: need to know what type of weed you're smoking, and
Speaker 3: you need to smoke a little bit with a friend.
Speaker 3: Don't eat edible and don't and just don't eat edibles
Speaker 3: and until you're like a urine, because that's a whole
Speaker 3: different thing and if you like lick it.
Speaker 5: Adibles for me are like I can't even now though
Speaker 5: I experienced a weed smoker, they've always affected me totally different,
Speaker 5: fucked up way.
Speaker 3: No, for real, I can't. I'm like I'd had one
Speaker 3: really bad experience eating a little delicious little cupcake with sprinkles.
Speaker 5: Hell no, my friend made these little mini apple pies
Speaker 5: and I ate one of them, not thinking.
Speaker 2: They were that strong.
Speaker 5: They were so good because you know, I love my
Speaker 5: sugar and I ate the whole thing. And like I
Speaker 5: swear to god, girl, I couldn't see, like I was
Speaker 5: like yeah, like I was spinning, like yeah, it's my eyes,
Speaker 5: Like everything was shaking I was like, put the fuck
Speaker 5: and then I woke up. I like fell asleep for
Speaker 5: like six hours. I woke up and I was still shriven.
Speaker 5: I was like, never again. And then of course I
Speaker 5: did it like ten more times and the same thing
Speaker 5: happened because I don't remember my.
Speaker 3: Last Yeah, it takes ten times to learner lesson.
Speaker 2: I mean because weed in food form, I cannot be
Speaker 2: passed up by.
Speaker 3: One of my two favorite things combined me to one.
Speaker 2: I must try and you tally as a dessert form. Yes,
Speaker 2: thank you. Oh.
Speaker 3: One of the reasons I wanted to talk about this
Speaker 3: today is because one of my girlfriends DMed me asking
Speaker 3: me my experience with with smoking weed and breastfeeding, and uh, yeah,
Speaker 3: I did it. First of all, Luda still think she's breastfeeding.
Speaker 3: Like yesterday, she's still trying.
Speaker 5: To wait, can I say something. I don't know if
Speaker 5: it's because of Luna or what. But today Iri has
Speaker 5: been trying to suck my nipple.
Speaker 3: No, what, I swear to God, No, No, she did
Speaker 3: she see Luda trying? I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't if she saw soul like, oh.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, she's But the thing is they don't
Speaker 3: forget like, it's still like a but.
Speaker 5: You breastpend way longer. I've restpend for three months, okay
Speaker 5: three she was three months old.
Speaker 2: Has she remembers it's she don't remember. She's see. Do
Speaker 2: you think she remembers three months? I don't think.
Speaker 3: It's innate in us to do this?
Speaker 2: What was that? Oh my god? Yeah that happened today.
Speaker 2: She did it like three different times. I was like,
Speaker 2: what are you doing? What I was? I was just like, babe,
Speaker 2: what are you doing? And she's like, I don't know,
Speaker 2: I don't know. I was like, okay, I'm.
Speaker 3: Done because I can imagine it.
Speaker 2: She said, I tried to.
Speaker 3: All the other kids doing I remember something like I'm like,
Speaker 3: you know, okay, no, all right, all right, no, Luna's asked,
Speaker 3: and then we'll get mad. She will like turn me
Speaker 3: over so she could have a grip on my boot.
Speaker 3: I'm like, yo, I don't want to sleep on my back.
Speaker 2: Anyway. Back to the the best feeding thing. Yeah, I did.
Speaker 3: And just so you guys know, naturally, let me look
Speaker 3: at my notes. Let me prefer of my notes.
Speaker 2: I don't say the wrong information. Yeah, we got.
Speaker 10: Notes because we're classy every hat, especially today today, right, Uh,
Speaker 10: the body basically naturally has cannaboids, cannop aoids, and breast
Speaker 10: milk we produced naturally cannop annoids, so it helps the
Speaker 10: baby sleep and it helps the baby have an appetite.
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's natural. Yeah, yeah, it's natural. It's natural.
Speaker 2: That's all you need to know.
Speaker 3: Then good night, bitches. Kidding, just kidding. Oh but also
Speaker 3: on a negative note, my other I have another story
Speaker 3: of a friend who had a baby in the hospital
Speaker 3: and upon giving birth, the baby had a positive results
Speaker 3: for THHD or whatever, and they didn't take the baby,
Speaker 3: but I think they like threatened it and she had
Speaker 3: to take like a some kind of class to the same.
Speaker 3: But this is also Georgia again. I mean, yeah, but
Speaker 3: that's why gotta be That's why you have to live
Speaker 3: in California.
Speaker 2: Just just move. I just want to does you want
Speaker 2: to live that life?
Speaker 3: Relocate because you're gonna be judged anywhere else.
Speaker 5: But you know what I find when I'm high around
Speaker 5: Ira is that I'm just more like playful.
Speaker 3: I'm more playful, and I'm like way more in tune
Speaker 3: with her. Sometimes sometimes I'm like, wow, I'm worry and oh.
Speaker 5: Because I almos feel like my mind goes back to
Speaker 5: its like most original state. Yeah, childlike state. Yeah that
Speaker 5: gets jaded, you know what I mean. And so it's
Speaker 5: hard to have an imagination like a child because of
Speaker 5: the world we're living.
Speaker 3: It's stressful, and you're you have about the things when
Speaker 3: your plate. But I'm so happy you said that because
Speaker 3: you hit that ship right on the nose. I literally
Speaker 3: feel that way all the time. Even when she was
Speaker 3: really little, I was like, am I gonna regret being
Speaker 3: like under the influence quote unquote?
Speaker 2: But there were times like call me crazy.
Speaker 3: She was like talking to me in my mind, and
Speaker 3: she was looking so deeply into my soul, and I
Speaker 3: don't think I would have been as receptive and realizing
Speaker 3: how deeply connected and how like mature she was on
Speaker 3: the inside unless I was like, I feel like it's
Speaker 3: a spiritual drug and or not even a drug, a
Speaker 3: spiritual herb, and it opens your third eye and it
Speaker 3: makes you a little bit more receptive to certain things.
Speaker 2: I agree too.
Speaker 3: Side note, have you ever like dated somebody and then
Speaker 3: got high with them and suddenly don't like them anymore? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, I'm never spoking to me.
Speaker 3: I was like, I don't want you to touch me. I'm
Speaker 3: not attracted to you. What am I doing here? I
Speaker 3: had to text my friend like, has this ever happened
Speaker 3: to you? Because I don't even like this person? Suddenly
Speaker 3: I'm freaking out.
Speaker 2: Yeah No, I mean I think I think that too.
Speaker 2: I think you get.
Speaker 5: Very relaxed, and so you're more relaxed into who you
Speaker 5: might be by yourself, you know, in front of people.
Speaker 5: And also, yeah, I feel like with Iri when I
Speaker 5: when i'm when I get high and then we go
Speaker 5: play like anything hide and Seek or just any.
Speaker 2: Of her games. I'm just more in tune and I'm
Speaker 2: just more I'm just I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 2: what it is, but it's definitely something that it is different.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely believe it's a spiritual, spiritual herb and
Speaker 3: it does take you to a different mind space.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 9: So, oh my god, you want some more wine?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Sure I should. He fall out is not the word.
Speaker 2: Do you have anything else on the topic? Oh do
Speaker 2: we have?
Speaker 3: Well, we have questions?
Speaker 2: Oh well, yes, we have a question for sure we
Speaker 2: need to answer.
Speaker 5: And I would just say, you know, if you're a
Speaker 5: woman out there that or a parent out there, or
Speaker 5: just a person out there who doesn't even have children,
Speaker 5: who you know doesn't smoke.
Speaker 3: Or previously judged it or overthought about like doing it
Speaker 3: because it's always been bad all your life.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you have to go to put in perspective. It's
Speaker 5: a first of all, it's a plant. And you p
Speaker 5: hear more people die of from drinking and driving, or
Speaker 5: you hear them people fighting, wives getting beaten. You know,
Speaker 5: just dumb shit happening on so many things. You don't
Speaker 5: ever hear that shit on weed. Like the guy smoked
Speaker 5: weed and merged his wife, you know, like the guy.
Speaker 2: Smoked weed, and like the girls smoked weed, psycho. Yeah right,
Speaker 2: like never never has it.
Speaker 3: Happened, Okay, and if it did, rather things happening so
Speaker 3: other than you didn't smoke weed.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but nothing else that.
Speaker 3: Smoking.
Speaker 5: And yeah, I just hope that we can push past
Speaker 5: the stigma of of parents who smoke. I think that
Speaker 5: as long as you're responsible, you're handling your business, and
Speaker 5: you and your kid have an understanding of what that
Speaker 5: means to you, guys, and that's all that matters.
Speaker 3: You know, what this is all about, What the fuck
Speaker 3: you want to do? It makes you feel comfortable, you know,
Speaker 3: like maybe you know with.
Speaker 5: Some people's like they're there versions of whatever the fuck
Speaker 5: you want to do are crazy, so then like they
Speaker 5: need like a they need like a line.
Speaker 3: But no, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, yeah thats not whatever
Speaker 3: I mean. No, whatever you want to do you want.
Speaker 5: To say, like was like, I can do whatever.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 2: I was right, Charlie having the buck. I like these
Speaker 2: I know, I like these bitches from the beginning in
Speaker 2: my crack pipe.
Speaker 6: No, no, no, none of that saying with balance, with
Speaker 6: with ration, responsibility, that's important.
Speaker 3: You know, just be smart, don'teel. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: If you don't smoke all the time, if you don't
Speaker 3: get a paranoid, if you know, you get weird, don't
Speaker 3: do it. Yeah, we are professionally at least try we
Speaker 3: are professionally weed smoking moms.
Speaker 5: At least try it. Don't try this at home, only
Speaker 5: try it at home. Don't try the public. Don't we
Speaker 5: your first time.
Speaker 3: Ever the first three times? Oh my god, there's no
Speaker 3: advice for the show. Move to California. Don't try pot alone.
Speaker 3: If you've never tried to perform, try it in the
Speaker 3: house three times. If you don't smoke pots at least
Speaker 3: for eight months.
Speaker 2: Start slow, build up that tall ran.
Speaker 3: Puff a little. Find out what type of neat weed
Speaker 3: is for your.
Speaker 2: Needs, Satia.
Speaker 3: There's a difference, and there's a hybrid. Okay, you need
Speaker 3: to ask all.
Speaker 5: These questions, Sativa, Hybrid's my favor.
Speaker 3: Anything else. And if you've never gotten a high before
Speaker 3: or recently, definitely don't try it the first three times
Speaker 3: with your kids alone or just with your kids.
Speaker 2: No, wait, do it alone.
Speaker 3: And this is not a green light to do all drugs.
Speaker 3: We do not endoy. This only pertains to medical No,
Speaker 3: just to marijuana, to recreation in medical marijuana. Yes, we
Speaker 3: are not there his doctors. You may explain experience.
Speaker 2: We are not licensed doctors, just two moms.
Speaker 3: That in telling our personal experience. Okay, let's get to
Speaker 3: these questions. We're fucking high and we're like so exhausted
Speaker 3: and sick before this suddenly the look we didn't want.
Speaker 3: This one's from today.
Speaker 2: Did you see this?
Speaker 3: This is from at qualiinair?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I saw this.
Speaker 3: Hello. It talks about single parenting in your bio, and
Speaker 3: I wanted to hear y'all talk about how you transitioned
Speaker 3: into being single, if you were single through the pregnancy,
Speaker 3: how you dealt with the transition if there was one
Speaker 3: being sad while trying to take care.
Speaker 2: Of another human.
Speaker 3: This is a lot of questions going through the right
Speaker 3: going through that right now, and it's ripping my heart.
Speaker 3: Thanks y'all.
Speaker 2: Okay, So being.
Speaker 5: Single and what that was like, or the transition of
Speaker 5: being single? We are we single during pregnancy?
Speaker 3: How you transitioned into being single? And if we were
Speaker 3: single during pregnancy. I wasn't single doing pregnancy. No, I
Speaker 3: wasn't either, which probably could be difficult because you're super
Speaker 3: hormonal if you are single during pregnancy. But also on
Speaker 3: the contrary, being miserable during pregnancy knowing that you don't
Speaker 3: want to do with someone and sticking around because you're
Speaker 3: pregnant is not also a good healthy thing either, So
Speaker 3: sometimes you got to grow through some things. And how
Speaker 3: did you transition from being to being single?
Speaker 2: One word?
Speaker 3: Oh god, oh you're well, Oh my god, don't ask
Speaker 3: this smitch you when she's like, how did you transition
Speaker 3: into being single? It's your favorite thing of all time?
Speaker 2: Tender?
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, okay, yeah, Tender is the best tool that
Speaker 5: can ever be used. If you're spin in a relationship
Speaker 5: for a while and you find yourself single.
Speaker 2: Tender dot com.
Speaker 5: First of all, it's not an adult by the way,
Speaker 5: I just genuinely fox with tender.
Speaker 3: Honestly, eric is the number one endorset of Tender. This
Speaker 3: is according to Erica.
Speaker 2: Only, although I'm not sure. I don't know.
Speaker 3: She's had some really pleasant experiences.
Speaker 2: I was actually supposed to meet up with the tender person.
Speaker 2: What happened to that? I canceled because I had too
Speaker 2: much shits here today.
Speaker 3: I didn't have you scared because she no, because all
Speaker 3: the person's pictures are from far.
Speaker 2: Far away.
Speaker 5: But no, I didn't get scared. We were scheduled. We're
Speaker 5: going to do this on Friday. I'm going to call
Speaker 5: you what time at twelve pm a one pm. I'll
Speaker 5: call you on Friday. Okay, I don't know. I feel
Speaker 5: like I feel like I've maybe run my course, Like
Speaker 5: i feel like all my luck is run out because
Speaker 5: I'm a little nervous about about this one.
Speaker 3: Well, just to get your feet wet and just get
Speaker 3: back out there, Tender.
Speaker 5: I've never really used Tender to meet women like I've
Speaker 5: like always been open to women on Tenderly but you
Speaker 5: never like met up with the girl.
Speaker 2: I feel like it's never followed through. Like I I've
Speaker 2: talked to women, but it's never followed through. So I'm
Speaker 2: just like, Okay, we'll see, we'll see how this goes.
Speaker 2: But yeah, tender if you're single and you find yourself
Speaker 2: single and.
Speaker 3: It's a nice way to get back out there, it is.
Speaker 2: And you deserve to get your group back.
Speaker 3: I mean, ebe if it's just practice, you know.
Speaker 5: That's all it is. It doesn't have to be anything
Speaker 5: more than that. But you know, some people can't handle tender.
Speaker 5: You have to have a certain like you have to
Speaker 5: like it. I have certain friends I know wouldn't do
Speaker 5: well in tender.
Speaker 3: If you're super overly emotional one get attached to easily tender,
Speaker 3: it's not for you.
Speaker 2: It's absolutely not for you.
Speaker 3: If you have more managed tendencies like Erica and I
Speaker 3: jump in head first. Okay, back to the questions, how
Speaker 3: did you transition if there was one to being single,
Speaker 3: being sad and while trying to take care of another human.
Speaker 5: I recently went through this and it's a few times actually,
Speaker 5: while I've had a child, and you just have like
Speaker 5: I don't know, I just you have to. When I
Speaker 5: look at Irie, like, I'm like, I haven't. I have
Speaker 5: no choice but to be Okay. I feel like if
Speaker 5: I didn't have a kid, then I would be. Of
Speaker 5: course I was sad, and I've been sad, but I
Speaker 5: just feel like you have to make your child your
Speaker 5: biggest priority. When you're going through something like that, it
Speaker 5: kind of gets you through. Yeah, it'll it'll bring you
Speaker 5: so much joy and it'll push.
Speaker 2: You through because it kind of reminds me.
Speaker 5: It'll make you sad because when I looked at her
Speaker 5: and we am like, I'd be like, oh my god,
Speaker 5: I just you look like him, like seriously, Like I'm like,
Speaker 5: every day for the rest of my life, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: look at you and think of him.
Speaker 2: And also I have to talk to him every day
Speaker 2: because like he's your.
Speaker 3: Dad and shit, this is not this is normal break Yeah, it's.
Speaker 5: The most It's the fucking most like annoying breakup of
Speaker 5: all time, the one with your baby daddy.
Speaker 2: You know it is, because there's no real breaking up.
Speaker 3: It hunts you for life.
Speaker 2: They're around you forever ever ever, so make sure you
Speaker 2: make a good one, good one, good.
Speaker 3: One for real though, Like that's the biggest advice I
Speaker 3: can give to anyone who doesn't have kids. Yeah, pick
Speaker 3: them good, pick them pick them rural good, pick them
Speaker 3: mature and logical.
Speaker 5: But yeah, you know, you're just focusing on your child
Speaker 5: and focusing on what makes you feel good. Honestly, just
Speaker 5: do what makes you feel good. Even if you feel
Speaker 5: like I shouldn't do this or do that. Just try
Speaker 5: to live a little bit because it'll make you feel
Speaker 5: alive and it will.
Speaker 3: Just remind you, you know, you who you are with
Speaker 3: or without someone else, and who you are now that
Speaker 3: you're about to have a baby or have a baby. Like,
Speaker 3: stay true to yourself and your happiness. Don't do don't
Speaker 3: get sad because this is a common thing. Don't get
Speaker 3: sad about what you thought was going to be or
Speaker 3: what you thought it should be like that. Those are
Speaker 3: not good things to be sad about. Because I found
Speaker 3: myself obsessing about that a lot. Like I wanted my my,
Speaker 3: you know, my family, I wanted to be married, I
Speaker 3: wanted to have the same baby's daddy, you know, because
Speaker 3: there's that stickma like, oh my god, this baby's saddy.
Speaker 3: And then but at the end of the day, like
Speaker 3: I'm like what's important like the a stigma, what people think,
Speaker 3: or my true happiness. Can I see myself in this
Speaker 3: position forever held?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: I mean, you know a lot of times you know in.
Speaker 3: Your gut what's right for you, but your feelings kind
Speaker 3: of go against the grain and go through limbo because
Speaker 3: there's all this bullshit around what's supposed to be and
Speaker 3: how shit's supposed to look. But you will only like
Speaker 3: you only fuck yourself trying to please other people and
Speaker 3: you know, be in their opinion.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to just you have to do what
Speaker 2: you gotta do for you.
Speaker 3: Don't let it rip your apart, you know, stay close
Speaker 3: to friends and really just dive into your baby because
Speaker 3: that's the best part. And just just know that like
Speaker 3: divine timing and everything's happening for a reason. And like
Speaker 3: I said, you got to grow through some things and
Speaker 3: sometimes always painful situations make you stronger and make you
Speaker 3: a better person. You know, it's a part of life.
Speaker 5: It's just it's just I feel like you also have
Speaker 5: to analyze, like, Okay, what brought this to me too?
Speaker 5: You know what I mean, Like you just have to
Speaker 5: make it a learning experience, you know, so that you
Speaker 5: don't do it again. You don't allow someone that you
Speaker 5: thought was this and that to deceive you, because.
Speaker 3: That's what And also, don't take it personally because a
Speaker 3: lot of times it has nothing to do with you.
Speaker 3: You know, people have their own, their own shit and
Speaker 3: they project it on you. So it's not that thing
Speaker 3: to take personally. You know what you're worth, you know
Speaker 3: what you deserve, and that's what you're gonna get.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 3: Are there any other questions?
Speaker 2: That's it to speak?
Speaker 3: She just okay, Yeah, if you want to talk some more,
Speaker 3: you can always DMUs.
Speaker 2: We're here. We have one more question.
Speaker 5: I did respond to her, but we can still ask
Speaker 5: was it?
Speaker 2: It was kind of heavy. Actually, maybe we should ask.
Speaker 5: Maybe we should address it because something many people go there, Okay,
Speaker 5: where is it? I can't find it?
Speaker 3: Was it in yours? It was in your in your
Speaker 3: personal I know?
Speaker 2: Do we answer this one? Yeah, we already answered that one.
Speaker 2: That's what we answered last week.
Speaker 3: I think I said it was in your personal dance?
Speaker 2: Was it you told me that. I don't think so.
Speaker 11: Okay, oh okay, now it's we're here, okay.
Speaker 2: Okay, oh my god, we might have to Yeah, anyway,
Speaker 2: this is.
Speaker 5: I don't know if they want to stay anonymous, so
Speaker 5: I'm just gonna.
Speaker 2: Not name them. Hey, I saw your posts, so I
Speaker 2: need advice.
Speaker 5: I'm not sure you can help, and I totally get
Speaker 5: if you're not comfortable doing so. However, about a week ago,
Speaker 5: my ex boyfriend got very abusive with me. Long story short,
Speaker 5: I got a restraining order, but I'm wondering how do
Speaker 5: I move on. I feel so alone, but I am
Speaker 5: clueless on how this whole process works. I know I
Speaker 5: need therapy, but I just don't know how to deal
Speaker 5: in the meantime. Again, totally cool if you don't feel
Speaker 5: comfortable answering this, just figured i'd take a shot.
Speaker 4: Bro.
Speaker 5: Ain't nothing. I'm not on the table right nothing. This
Speaker 5: is a no judgment zone.
Speaker 2: We're all human having human experience.
Speaker 5: Yes, please, no, anyway, I was just gonna say, you know,
Speaker 5: when you go through something abusive, I mean, that's the
Speaker 5: hardest thing to take toget that's probably I don't know
Speaker 5: your story, but I'm assuming that wasn't the first time,
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, Or if it is the
Speaker 5: first time, it's not going to be the last time.
Speaker 5: So just you know, if someone can get taken to
Speaker 5: that level, then it's time to separate.
Speaker 2: And you have obviously you've taken the.
Speaker 5: Steps to get a restraining order, and so you realize
Speaker 5: how serious it is. But now it's time to just
Speaker 5: focus on yourself.
Speaker 3: I mean, you did the total white thing about getting
Speaker 3: a restraining order. I think as women, a lot of
Speaker 3: times we can have like connect you know, we're connected
Speaker 3: to people and we don't want to hurt people and
Speaker 3: were nurturing naturally, and we don't take reinforce because it's
Speaker 3: almost a norm. Like I went through it, and I
Speaker 3: almost was. I went through more than once, and I
Speaker 3: would find myself like low key making excuses or making
Speaker 3: not that big of a deal. And now that I'm
Speaker 3: out of it, I see how psycho that was and
Speaker 3: how like what a low key, like a battered woman
Speaker 3: I was, And like not taking those steps makes that
Speaker 3: person think that that's the norm and that's okay, and
Speaker 3: it's not. You know, so like anybody going through anything
Speaker 3: like that, do what you got to do and know
Speaker 3: that you and also it kind of prevents you from
Speaker 3: backstepping and convincing yourself it's okay and still like having
Speaker 3: a relationship with those but that abuser, So that's not
Speaker 3: to be take and lightly, you know, and it will
Speaker 3: fuck you up. But this shit is traumatizing.
Speaker 5: Yeah, No, I mean I think sometimes it's I mean,
Speaker 5: when you're an abusive relationship, it's so it's usually like
Speaker 5: mental physical So I think bot you wrapped around your finger.
Speaker 5: But you have to remember or try to remember, like
Speaker 5: who you were, because you were someone before that, you
Speaker 5: know what I mean.
Speaker 2: And that's why that person's drawn to you.
Speaker 5: They wanted to draw get they were drawn to you,
Speaker 5: and then they accept all of you try.
Speaker 3: It broke you down to a little pert to something
Speaker 3: smaller than what you once were. And it does take
Speaker 3: time to expand back out because you've literally allowed someone
Speaker 3: to deplete you and deplete you and deplete you and
Speaker 3: deplete you emotionally and spiritually, and you got to rebuild
Speaker 3: yourself and replenish yourself. And even I'm going through that
Speaker 3: right now, honestly, like and it's sometimes it's short. Sometimes
Speaker 3: it could take longer, but you know, you have to
Speaker 3: heal yourself and that takes time. But first you got
Speaker 3: to recognize and it seems like you recognize it.
Speaker 2: The biggest part, that's the biggest part.
Speaker 3: Like, once you have done this uphill, you know, this
Speaker 3: little steps. It's like eating good, taking care of yourself, exercising,
Speaker 3: making time to have activities, whatever the fuck makes you
Speaker 3: feel good, you know, getting back to what.
Speaker 2: Makes you happy.
Speaker 5: Yeah, coming to coming together with friends, family, if you
Speaker 5: have them, you know, Bobby, Yeah, I think that's it.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 3: That's a wrap for in the day's show.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was a little shorter than normal because we tied.
Speaker 2: It's a time.
Speaker 3: It's probably long. Sorry, we're gonna work on it.
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