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Speaker 1: She was living in a single room with three other individuals.

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Speaker 1: One of them was a male and the other two well,

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Speaker 2: God only knows what they were up to in there.

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Speaker 1: And furthermore, Susan I wouldn't be the least bit surprised

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Speaker 1: to learn that all four of them habitually smoked marijuana, cigarettes.

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Speaker 3: Reefers.

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Speaker 4: I spoke to joyceon night, I spoke to Joys in

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Speaker 4: the afternoon. It makes me feel all right.

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Speaker 3: Hey, guys, welcome back to Parental Advisory, Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 2: I'm Erica, and I'm Nila and sick halling on you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sick, so please excuse my heavy breathing and

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Speaker 3: sneezing throughout the episode. I'm going to try and keep

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Speaker 3: it to a minimal. Also, I'm smoking weeds, so I

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Speaker 3: hope that helps.

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Speaker 2: That's not gonna help.

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Speaker 5: And she's getting on airplane in the morning, which won't

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Speaker 5: help either, but I'm fully supporting both things.

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Speaker 2: So and I'm also smoking after you, which you have

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Speaker 2: a strong immune system, Erica, I don't. I don't.

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Speaker 5: I don't have a strong immune system, but it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 3: Also, this week we're coming to you pre recorded because

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Speaker 3: I got shit to do.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Mela's leaving us.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to NYC for Memorial Weekend, so we'll tell

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Speaker 3: you next week what we did over Memorial weekend when.

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Speaker 5: It's less hot on the block. I'm pretty sure your

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Speaker 5: stories are gonna be way better than mine. I have

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Speaker 5: no plans, Like what am I?

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Speaker 2: What am I doing?

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Speaker 3: Something tells me you're gonna find something to get into.

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Speaker 2: What am I doing? What is it Monday? You fell

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Speaker 2: gad all weekend?

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, that's right, but it's Monday though, Yes, on Monday.

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Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, Actually, well it's my girlfriend's birthday, so I'm

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Speaker 5: gonna go do that.

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Speaker 2: Shout out to Ashley Ashley Runaway.

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Speaker 3: Hey girl, Hey Ashley Runway Birthday hack.

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Speaker 2: Her birthday is actually tomorrow, Happy birthday.

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Speaker 5: But yeah, I don't Memorial Days like an afterthought for me,

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Speaker 5: Like I always forget about it and then it like

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Speaker 3: I mean it used to like when you're under twenty

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Speaker 3: five it matters, and now it creeps up. Honestly, the

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Speaker 3: only reason I remembered is because my girlfriend takes her

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Speaker 3: ago that I need to be in New York for

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Speaker 3: her Super Pop and Memorial Day weekend party. But it's

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Speaker 3: just an excuse to go because you know, I got

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Speaker 3: thangs and thangs over there, and she.

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Speaker 2: Had some thangs over there, some business business.

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Speaker 3: Also, my grandmother lives in Philly. If anybody wanted to

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Speaker 3: know that tidbit about me, Are you gonna go to Philly?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You know it's only an hour and a half away,

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Speaker 3: Like I don't have two hours. So both my parents

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Speaker 3: that West coast East coast. Like if he was wondering

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Speaker 3: where that little twaing come from, it's because both my

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Speaker 3: the love. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 5: Okay, girl, Well I'm Valley bitch. Valley girl comes out

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Speaker 5: all the.

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Speaker 2: Time like love.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm definitely more Valley than I am.

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Speaker 5: Anyway, although people think I'm from New York sometimes, do they?

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Speaker 3: Because I don't get New York from you at all?

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Speaker 3: You know, no, well maybe you're bitch resting bitch face.

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Speaker 3: Heck you it's the resting bitch face because it ain't

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Speaker 3: that accent. Because you say, like every five minute's like

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Speaker 3: me and it ain't.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 5: But when I go to New York, I start talking

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Speaker 5: like in New York or it's like Madonna when she

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be me. I feel like you're gonna

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Speaker 5: Like like I'd be like, yeah I do, and like

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Speaker 3: Do shit when we do a New York episode, can

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Speaker 3: we just see the whole episode in New York accents?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you, Yes, thank you.

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Speaker 5: I'm pleased, And all our New York followers are going

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Speaker 5: to come for us, right, Like, bitch, that sucks because

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Speaker 5: my New York accent is not that good, but I'm

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Speaker 2: Look, mine is okay. It used to be better.

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Speaker 5: I did a TV show where I had to be

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Speaker 2: On into it. But that was a long time ago.

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Speaker 3: That's austrated. I think I'm gonna go to acting school

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Speaker 5: But you don't have to go to acting school, just

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Speaker 2: Today I'm from South London. Hello, Hello, Hello, how are

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Speaker 2: you doing night way?

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Speaker 3: Is that Aussie?

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Speaker 2: Sure the Bobby?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I canna work on.

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Speaker 5: You know what's the worst accent I have is like

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Speaker 3: You're you're a Latina horrible.

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Speaker 2: It's embarrassing.

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Speaker 3: You're how do you speak Spanish and have a horrible

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Speaker 5: I don't know, mummy, Okay, Mommy, I'm just like I

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Speaker 5: don't know New York.

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Speaker 2: That's like New York. I don't know. It's really embarrassing.

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Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna do it because it was just defensive.

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Speaker 2: How about your Indian accent?

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Speaker 2: How about when we want to go to the We

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Speaker 2: went to the comedy store the other night.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I know, first of all, nobody in the front

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Speaker 3: would do the Indian accent because they were I was like, God.

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Speaker 2: I wish I was in the front. This comic went

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Speaker 5: There was like an Indian man in the front row,

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Speaker 2: He was talking about seven eleven all types of shit.

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Speaker 5: And then he went around to try to get people

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Speaker 3: I was the one under my breath, like, come on,

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Speaker 3: very racist, we're just joking. I'm actually I'm pretty sure

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Speaker 3: I'm Indian because I love the Indian store. I love

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Speaker 2: He was long these long ass braids right now?

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Speaker 3: An Indian, you know. Come on the Instagram check me out.

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Speaker 3: I got new hairdom new hair?

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Speaker 2: Who is Mila? Got new hair, y'all? And it's really cute.

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Speaker 3: You see my charms, I add I saw that you

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Speaker 3: did do that yourself. Of course I went. I went

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Speaker 2: Master the didn't I see a feather? Where to go?

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Speaker 3: The feathers in here?

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Speaker 2: It's gold, a gold dipped feather. Oh it's gold dipped. Okay, bitch,

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Speaker 2: Oh did it fall out? No, it's in there. I

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 3: Was it?

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Speaker 2: No? That wasn't it? Are you sure? This looks like

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Speaker 2: it's in my house somewhere. This is bullshit. Also public

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Speaker 3: If you find any other bitches with gold dip feathers

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Speaker 2: First. That's true. I've get to see gold dip feathers.

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Speaker 2: You never see no feathers period. I've seen feathers, but

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Speaker 3: Let's just be lying.

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Speaker 2: Oh, there it is. I told you, Oh, it's so cute.

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Speaker 2: Told in the braid.

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Speaker 3: I told you it was on there tight, the curred

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Speaker 3: the feather you know, I used tocur the bag.

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Speaker 2: I securred the feathers. It's a look, it's cute. I

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Speaker 3: It is my favorite urban word that's coming up this year.

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Speaker 2: I've never used it publicly.

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Speaker 3: I used it publicly wrongly all the time.

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Speaker 2: Really, Yeah, I don't know. I felt like I just

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Speaker 2: I felt like a fraud. Excuse us.

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Speaker 3: It's a plane. I mean, you can use it anywhere.

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Speaker 5: Really, there is a plane line. It's a plane flying

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Speaker 5: by by my house. A little smoother, but yeah close.

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Speaker 5: So you told you it doesn't roll off the tongue.

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Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying, Like, I know, I know business

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Speaker 3: I like based my Instagram captions around saying it's my install.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Instagram. Speaking of Instagram captions, they're so hard. You've

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Speaker 5: even today, I've notsted a photo on my personal Instagram

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Speaker 2: Like, what what did you say? I said, I don't blue.

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Speaker 2: I'm into you? Like what is that? Who knows?

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Speaker 3: I thought it was brilliant. I'm like, she really puts

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Speaker 3: a lot of Really that was a poem at Milan

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Speaker 3: Matho really needs this, really needs to step up her game,

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Speaker 3: because Erica was just wooding with the captions, not host Wait. No,

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Speaker 3: my one of my favorites this week was in case.

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Speaker 3: She was wondering what I'd look like drinking soap fockaesota.

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Speaker 3: Oh I I wish I would have thought it something cool.

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Speaker 2: Like that I thought.

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Speaker 5: I thought. I was like, you know what, I like

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Speaker 5: this photo, but it's like a random photo of me

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Speaker 5: drinking a beverage.

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Speaker 2: So what can I say? That was perfect? I guess yeah.

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Speaker 2: I was kinda proud of that one.

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Speaker 8: I noticed it because I thought, yeah, you know, maybe

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Speaker 2: Maybe they wanted to know, maybe they want I wanted to.

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Speaker 8: Know, you know, And here you got your answer. Pretty cute, beautiful, Oh.

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Speaker 3: My goodness, so cool. Anyway, hi as hell? Which brings

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Speaker 3: the story topic mom to medicate. It's a us that

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Speaker 3: did it really work? See sometimes it doesn't work, but

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Speaker 3: you gotta try.

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Speaker 2: It's it's us. It's a good mom. It's a good mom.

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Speaker 2: It's a good mom.

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Speaker 3: It's a balanced mom with a good choice. It's oh

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Speaker 3: my god, this is a good weed from the mystery bag.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's that's definitely your weed that you left me.

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Speaker 3: We got drunk the other night, came home and while

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Speaker 3: we were in my drunken stupor, somehow I stucked Erica's

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Speaker 3: weed jar that was empty with some weeds.

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Speaker 2: I had so much.

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Speaker 3: I had a bunch, and I'm like, she's gonna be

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Speaker 3: so happy when she wakes up. You're lucky.

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Speaker 5: I didn't just throw that shit away because I knew

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Speaker 5: it was empty, and I was like, maybe there's one

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Speaker 2: Oh you're on a roll tonight. Okay, maybe sickondness and

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Speaker 5: Like how did you begin smoking weed? Like when was

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Speaker 2: But I think I smoked me one time.

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Speaker 3: Did you ever go to the YMCA parties? There used

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Speaker 2: I had knew club Bling Bling. I don't know about YMCA.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, we both did, but clearly we were premature.

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Speaker 3: It was seven to eleven, it was five dollars. It

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Speaker 3: Yeah, girl, all that everybody was going and if you

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Speaker 2: We went to the park, we smoked it and went back.

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Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure I didn't get high. I didn't really

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Speaker 3: they call it reggie, which in La means terrible. Give

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Speaker 2: What about you with you?

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Speaker 3: A weed story.

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Speaker 5: I was twelve and I was going to I was

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Speaker 5: though it was like it looked like like no, it

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Speaker 2: What are you doing? And then you're like, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: Say like fourteen heavily. Really, yeah, I was probably like

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I think growing up in the valley

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Speaker 2: In high school n D what's up? You're a nerd

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Speaker 2: A class and go to school in the car.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, in the car, especially when I could Oh my god,

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Speaker 3: I never got high before high school.

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Speaker 5: I don't think I got high before high school until

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Speaker 5: I could drive, right, Yeah, But you went.

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Speaker 3: To like a super like valley school where that's yeah,

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Speaker 3: like well the Catholic schools, right, that's what.

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Speaker 5: But we couldn't even like dance the dances. I need

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Speaker 2: Yeah, eliding me. You can discover your pussy and then

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Speaker 2: I was I wasn't a whole I was just you know,

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Speaker 5: Apparently my jokes still translate when I'm high yours are

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Speaker 5: hitting my railing anyway. Yeah, and so then I smoked

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Speaker 3: So did you stop smoking weed when you got pregnant

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Speaker 5: I felt like I was supposed to, so I did,

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Speaker 3: So then I tried what month did you decide to

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Speaker 5: I think I was like, I'll make it past the

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Speaker 5: And then I would smoke, and then I didn't even

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Speaker 2: It was weird.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I smoked, like you said here and there,

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Speaker 3: I didn't think of it negatively, you know, like I

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Speaker 2: Would have like a glass of wine for sure, not

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Speaker 5: And even if I think I don't know what the

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Speaker 3: My my one of my best friends, oddly enough, who's

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Speaker 3: even though I don't. I don't think there's any research

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Speaker 2: Smoking, So that's true.

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Speaker 3: So I mean, I'm let me just say, the hippie

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Speaker 5: Weed comes from the ground, but unfortunately the weed that

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Speaker 5: sprayed with so many different things. Yeah, that it could

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Speaker 3: Weed that your friends that grew it, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean even some dispensaries you can trust, but

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: But I mean I think aside from just being pregnant

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Speaker 5: and I felt like, I think also because my baby

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Speaker 5: And then he continued to smoke, and then I really

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Speaker 2: No, and I'm over here just fucking nine months pregnant.

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Speaker 5: Oh that's great that you can just smoke of fifteen

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Speaker 3: No, My thing was like if I'm pregnant, mother fuck

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Speaker 3: are you pregnant too?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Well that didn't hold up in my household. I

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Speaker 5: But but so then after that, like I didn't really

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Speaker 2: I don't smoke a lot, like I'm a mom, I

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Speaker 5: I mean, I feel like I've come to I've come

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Speaker 2: She smoked while she was pregnant.

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Speaker 5: Well, my dad told me that she did, but that

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Speaker 2: But no, she smoked throughout my whole childhood.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, if not heavily, but she smoked, and

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Speaker 5: it was like it's always a secret. And when I started,

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Speaker 2: Very low key. And so she got mad him for smoking.

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Speaker 3: She did, yes, And I was like, mom, but she

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Speaker 3: didn't get mad at him for drinking. No, not really,

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Speaker 3: or eight or some shit, there was a picture of

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00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:41,080
Speaker 3: weed and I wrote on the back, I know what

444
00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:42,960
Speaker 3: this is. And then he said that he would go

445
00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:44,520
Speaker 3: in the garage and he would come back in the

446
00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:45,920
Speaker 3: house and I'd say, what are you doing in there?

447
00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:47,920
Speaker 3: He said nothing, I should just watching clothes. And I said,

448
00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:51,920
Speaker 3: let me smell your hands. No, I don't know who

449
00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:54,879
Speaker 3: I thought I was like scandal. I don't know, but

450
00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:58,400
Speaker 3: I I remember knowing and thinking it was this really

451
00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:01,720
Speaker 3: bad thing and thinking they end up doing it's bad.

452
00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:06,720
Speaker 3: But I was allowed to smoke in high school, like

453
00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:08,280
Speaker 3: at my best friend's house.

454
00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:14,159
Speaker 2: Like your parents knew, like they did not or her.

455
00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:17,160
Speaker 3: Parents, her parents knew. We went like her mom. Yeah,

456
00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:19,920
Speaker 3: you know, when you're living from the LA and you

457
00:20:19,960 --> 00:20:21,880
Speaker 3: live in the valley, you have a different childhood. It's

458
00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,240
Speaker 3: not the same childhood. Like we went to Cabo when

459
00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:27,480
Speaker 3: we were fifteen. We were in a bikini contest. We won.

460
00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:29,879
Speaker 3: The next morning, she wrote, us each a joint. We

461
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:32,040
Speaker 3: had Eastern baskets and our money that we won from

462
00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:33,040
Speaker 3: the bikini contest.

463
00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,720
Speaker 5: And that was totally Like everyone had a friend who's

464
00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:38,640
Speaker 5: who had a parent like that, Yeah, it was cool.

465
00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:41,480
Speaker 2: My parent wasn't like that though, that was not my parent.

466
00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:44,600
Speaker 5: Like I had a friend who, like I smoked bongs

467
00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:47,800
Speaker 5: with with her actually was a guy I smoked bongs

468
00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:50,520
Speaker 5: with his mom and their apartment in Thousand Oaks, Like

469
00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:51,879
Speaker 5: that's strange and weird.

470
00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:52,960
Speaker 3: Why why?

471
00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:55,880
Speaker 2: But like she was that mom, you know what I mean?

472
00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:59,879
Speaker 5: And you know, I guess I don't want to be

473
00:20:59,880 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 5: that mom honestly me personally, I don't want to be

474
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:04,199
Speaker 5: the fun mom.

475
00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:09,359
Speaker 2: Bitch. No, it's not being fun. No, I'm just no.

476
00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:12,920
Speaker 5: I think more so, I don't pretty really responsible for

477
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:14,560
Speaker 5: someone else's child.

478
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:17,320
Speaker 2: Like if I do that with my child, then that's

479
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:17,800
Speaker 2: one thing.

480
00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:19,760
Speaker 3: But if like I can't, yeah, I wouldn't do that

481
00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:22,240
Speaker 3: unless but like with my friends I'm talking about, like

482
00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:24,200
Speaker 3: we were in Mexico together, like these are my sisters, Like

483
00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like like she knows my parents, well,

484
00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:29,680
Speaker 3: so it wasn't like you're randomly going to some guy,

485
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:31,040
Speaker 3: you know what I mean that I would never be

486
00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:32,920
Speaker 3: that like mom, or you're not drinking at my goddama

487
00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:34,199
Speaker 3: was all these guy game kids, so I can go

488
00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:34,520
Speaker 3: to jail.

489
00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:36,679
Speaker 2: No, no, yeah, I don't. I didn't really know his

490
00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 2: mom at all.

491
00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:42,720
Speaker 3: Now though, it's really weird how now that I'm an adult.

492
00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 3: First of all, my my aunt told me my grandmother smoked,

493
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:49,120
Speaker 3: and then I noticed the little sneaky things she said, Grandma.

494
00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:49,359
Speaker 2: My grandma.

495
00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:51,920
Speaker 3: And one time I started like sneaking and I'm visiting

496
00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:53,119
Speaker 3: her and I was like, what are you doing. She's like,

497
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 3: I'm going to smoke.

498
00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:56,240
Speaker 2: She's married at the time.

499
00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 3: She's like, but I can't tell Jim because it gets mad.

500
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, come sneak with you. And now honestly,

501
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:04,199
Speaker 3: we have like this really great, beautiful tequila and like

502
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:08,200
Speaker 3: marijuana relationships, and it's just she's like, we have so much.

503
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 3: We're more so much more relatable and I can smoke

504
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 3: with her and my dad and before it wasn't like that.

505
00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 3: And the one thing that shifted my perspective. I lived

506
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:17,240
Speaker 3: in Atlanta and I knew a family who had a

507
00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:19,640
Speaker 3: shipload of kids and they were young, and one time

508
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:21,399
Speaker 3: we were in the cars before I had kids. I

509
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,199
Speaker 3: don't know. I think I was hitching a ride to

510
00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 3: the park to the party at the park and he

511
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:26,960
Speaker 3: had like they were growing and they had a huge,

512
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 3: like marijuana flower and the kids were looking at it

513
00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:31,800
Speaker 3: and he's like, look at the flower I picked. Oh

514
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 3: this is I'm like, what a pretty flower. You were

515
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 3: smelling it. And I realized at that moment the relationship

516
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 3: that they that would that started. And you know, with

517
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,600
Speaker 3: the with the with the whole thing. Wasn't this big

518
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:47,960
Speaker 3: scary drug or this bad thing, this secret because that's

519
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 3: to me, that was weird.

520
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 5: I'm asking my dad, it comes from nature, it's beautiful,

521
00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:54,119
Speaker 5: and then you can choose what you do with it.

522
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:55,840
Speaker 3: But this is the woman and daddy do or this

523
00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:57,920
Speaker 3: is what you know when you're older you could do.

524
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,280
Speaker 3: But you know, it's not like I'm like chief all

525
00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:02,640
Speaker 3: day in my career or anything. But at that moment,

526
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 3: I realized, like, oh, that's the relationship that I'm gonna

527
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:06,640
Speaker 3: start with my kid. You know, like that's the relationship

528
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,639
Speaker 3: I'll surround it with because it will it could it

529
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 3: will shift the whole narrative. So that's kind of how

530
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,679
Speaker 3: I go about it now. But the other day. This

531
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:15,200
Speaker 3: is so funny.

532
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:15,919
Speaker 2: We chold about this.

533
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 3: Her sh had a doll that must have laid in

534
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:20,400
Speaker 3: the counter that had like a little bit of weed

535
00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 3: residue on it. And then I like it was on

536
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 3: the couch and she said, Mommy, the monkey got smoke

537
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 3: on it. I was like, dear Lord Jesus, that can't

538
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:39,640
Speaker 3: be good. I was like, oh it all off, But yeah,

539
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:41,640
Speaker 3: oh God, what about for you? For I.

540
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 5: You know, I don't like I just recently started smoking,

541
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 5: like with her in my area, in my space. You know.

542
00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:52,400
Speaker 5: I wasn't like a secret, but it was something that

543
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 5: I just kept away from her. I wasn't like if

544
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:57,479
Speaker 5: she ever caught me, like go away or something like that.

545
00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:03,359
Speaker 5: But I mean after I got over this idea of

546
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 5: whatever this mother thing was and I started smoking again,

547
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,359
Speaker 5: now I go I have like I go in waves,

548
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 5: like sometimes I smoke more, sometimes I don't smoke a lot.

549
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 5: Like it's like not like how I used to be,

550
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 5: where it was like consistently heavy all the time.

551
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,400
Speaker 2: And I think it's just because I'm just busier.

552
00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 5: I don't know, And I think weed I just have

553
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 5: a different relationship with it than I used to. But

554
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 5: I think for me personally, like I don't really want

555
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 5: to roll a joint in front of iery like her

556
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 5: sitting here watching me do it? I want her to

557
00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 5: and not that I don't know like if maybe it's

558
00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:39,200
Speaker 5: something within me that I just feel like she can

559
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 5: have that own discovery and with me, but just not

560
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 5: right now, you.

561
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 2: Know, Like that's fair. Yeah, I just feel like I

562
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 2: just don't.

563
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 5: Feel it makes me feel uncomfortable, and if it makes

564
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:52,440
Speaker 5: me feel uncomfortable, I'm just gonna go with how I feel,

565
00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 5: of course. But it's definitely not a secret, like you know,

566
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 5: like I smoke in front of her, but I mean,

567
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 5: do I hope that Iri doesn't smoke in the future

568
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 5: like I think, of.

569
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 3: Course, no parent wants to be like, well, here's the

570
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 3: other thing you don't know how to effects you.

571
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 2: I don't care if she smokes in the future.

572
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,119
Speaker 5: I just wanted to be her choice and not influenced

573
00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 5: by her curiosity because I've made it a mystery, you know,

574
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 5: because that's where my curiosity.

575
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:16,960
Speaker 3: Oh really, because you felt like it was a mystery.

576
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,199
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was like, what are the secret papers with

577
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 5: this like real Eastern man on them jags?

578
00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 2: That's like the first thing I found.

579
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 3: I was like this.

580
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 2: And it was white and gold. It was pretty and

581
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:31,119
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, this is cool. And I was

582
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 2: like mommy, and I remember her. Yeah, I was liked,

583
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 2: mind those I'm like in the box on the countert

584
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:38,920
Speaker 2: notes what is it?

585
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 5: Or like finding like her little like pet thing. And

586
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:45,119
Speaker 5: I don't never forget. There was this one time that

587
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 5: my mom, I don't know it was her or my stepdad,

588
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 5: but they were They had smoked and they were high,

589
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 5: and they left the joint on the table and then

590
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 5: I came in and saw the joint and then my

591
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,879
Speaker 5: mom was like, did you.

592
00:25:58,920 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 2: Leave that there?

593
00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 5: She shouldn't blame yeah, And I was like, I was like, no,

594
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:07,200
Speaker 5: she was high. What she was like, you left that there?

595
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:07,880
Speaker 2: You were smoking?

596
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 5: And I was like, uh no, no, not like am

597
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 5: I really being blamed.

598
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:18,160
Speaker 2: For your ship? So do you think she remembers it?

599
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 5: Probably not, No, she probably has a different version of it.

600
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:26,920
Speaker 5: You know, that's like every mom and daughter, right, But yeah,

601
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 5: I don't want it to be like that. I don't

602
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 5: want to be like that. But I get why she

603
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 5: felt that way, especially because now the weed, the stigma

604
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 5: of weed is like so much different now than it

605
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 5: was in the nineties, when like crack was around.

606
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,439
Speaker 3: Every drug was bad, right, you know what I mean,

607
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 3: drugs were drugs, War on drugs, war on drugs, all

608
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:44,160
Speaker 3: of them.

609
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.

610
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 5: So I just feel like it's also just a different time,

611
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 5: and that's why we see groups like Facebook groups like

612
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:51,880
Speaker 5: are supporting.

613
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 2: Mom moms who medicate.

614
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,920
Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, And I have to smoke now, like sometimes,

615
00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 5: like even today, like I was like, Okay, I need

616
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:01,639
Speaker 5: a glass of wine or I need some weed, and

617
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 5: you know, it's been a long day and like not

618
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 5: that I can't cope on my own.

619
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 4: Guys.

620
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:07,480
Speaker 2: You know, people are like, oh you can't.

621
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 3: You're yeah, you're using it as a crutch or whatever.

622
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 2: They like, No, I deal with my shit, but sometimes

623
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,160
Speaker 2: you just you need to smoke a joint.

624
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 3: Honestly, I'm a better parent, I'm a better person. Like

625
00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:21,840
Speaker 3: my attitude in my opinion about something can totally Like

626
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 3: if I could be aggravated and be like you know what,

627
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 3: that doesn't matter. It's totally cool.

628
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 2: It's fine.

629
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 3: That's your opinion. Yeah you think I suck, Okay, Yeah,

630
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:35,439
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm you know, I'm a nice, nicer person.

631
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 2: It's true. No, it's definitely calm me down.

632
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 5: The other night, my friend brought over CBD oil, like,

633
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 5: but it was in a pen form, which I'm kind

634
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 5: of skeptical about the whole pen smoking thing only because

635
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:49,879
Speaker 5: I've heard really bad things.

636
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 2: Really like what that is just really unhealthy for you.

637
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:56,119
Speaker 5: You're like inhaling all these things that are on this

638
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 5: oil or like into oil.

639
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 2: You're in you can be in hand but tane and.

640
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:06,120
Speaker 9: Certain, right if it's not like yeah, yeah, but even Felicia,

641
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 9: Like we had Felicia on a few two weeks ago,

642
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 9: and she was talking about her Cebeedy oil and like

643
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 9: how it doesn't.

644
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 3: Like she's she's she's getting like rel like relaxed, but

645
00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 3: she's not feeling high. Yeah, So that's also an alternative

646
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:22,440
Speaker 3: for people who are afraid. And again, like we say

647
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 3: this according to knowing yourself, Like if you don't smoke weed, don't.

648
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 2: Just go get high.

649
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 3: Should you listen to this and be around your kids

650
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 3: and start like some people could freak out? There's different

651
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:33,160
Speaker 3: First of all, there's different types of weed. There's different

652
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 3: strands to make you feel different ways. So don't don't

653
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 3: take this as a public service announcement to just go

654
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 3: on a whim and smoke some weed. If you don't

655
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 3: regularly smoke weed, if you're not sure how it affects you,

656
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 3: you need to do it with an adult friend. You

657
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 3: need to do it when the kids are not home

658
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 3: a few times before you practice it alone. And you

659
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 3: need to know what type of weed you're smoking, and

660
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 3: you need to smoke a little bit with a friend.

661
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 3: Don't eat edible and don't and just don't eat edibles

662
00:28:56,760 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 3: and until you're like a urine, because that's a whole

663
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:02,960
Speaker 3: different thing and if you like lick it.

664
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 5: Adibles for me are like I can't even now though

665
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 5: I experienced a weed smoker, they've always affected me totally different,

666
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:11,959
Speaker 5: fucked up way.

667
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 3: No, for real, I can't. I'm like I'd had one

668
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 3: really bad experience eating a little delicious little cupcake with sprinkles.

669
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 5: Hell no, my friend made these little mini apple pies

670
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 5: and I ate one of them, not thinking.

671
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 2: They were that strong.

672
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 5: They were so good because you know, I love my

673
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 5: sugar and I ate the whole thing. And like I

674
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 5: swear to god, girl, I couldn't see, like I was

675
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 5: like yeah, like I was spinning, like yeah, it's my eyes,

676
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 5: Like everything was shaking I was like, put the fuck

677
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 5: and then I woke up. I like fell asleep for

678
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:43,719
Speaker 5: like six hours. I woke up and I was still shriven.

679
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 5: I was like, never again. And then of course I

680
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 5: did it like ten more times and the same thing

681
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 5: happened because I don't remember my.

682
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 3: Last Yeah, it takes ten times to learner lesson.

683
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 2: I mean because weed in food form, I cannot be

684
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 2: passed up by.

685
00:29:57,920 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 3: One of my two favorite things combined me to one.

686
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 2: I must try and you tally as a dessert form. Yes,

687
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 2: thank you. Oh.

688
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 3: One of the reasons I wanted to talk about this

689
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 3: today is because one of my girlfriends DMed me asking

690
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 3: me my experience with with smoking weed and breastfeeding, and uh, yeah,

691
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 3: I did it. First of all, Luda still think she's breastfeeding.

692
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 3: Like yesterday, she's still trying.

693
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 5: To wait, can I say something. I don't know if

694
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,360
Speaker 5: it's because of Luna or what. But today Iri has

695
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 5: been trying to suck my nipple.

696
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 3: No, what, I swear to God, No, No, she did

697
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 3: she see Luda trying? I don't know.

698
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 2: I don't if she saw soul like, oh.

699
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 3: Oh my god, she's But the thing is they don't

700
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 3: forget like, it's still like a but.

701
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:46,840
Speaker 5: You breastpend way longer. I've restpend for three months, okay

702
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 5: three she was three months old.

703
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 2: Has she remembers it's she don't remember. She's see. Do

704
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 2: you think she remembers three months? I don't think.

705
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:56,760
Speaker 3: It's innate in us to do this?

706
00:30:57,120 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 2: What was that? Oh my god? Yeah that happened today.

707
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 2: She did it like three different times. I was like,

708
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 2: what are you doing? What I was? I was just like, babe,

709
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 2: what are you doing? And she's like, I don't know,

710
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 2: I don't know. I was like, okay, I'm.

711
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 3: Done because I can imagine it.

712
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 2: She said, I tried to.

713
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 3: All the other kids doing I remember something like I'm like,

714
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:32,479
Speaker 3: you know, okay, no, all right, all right, no, Luna's asked,

715
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 3: and then we'll get mad. She will like turn me

716
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 3: over so she could have a grip on my boot.

717
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, yo, I don't want to sleep on my back.

718
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 2: Anyway. Back to the the best feeding thing. Yeah, I did.

719
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 3: And just so you guys know, naturally, let me look

720
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 3: at my notes. Let me prefer of my notes.

721
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 2: I don't say the wrong information. Yeah, we got.

722
00:31:56,680 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 10: Notes because we're classy every hat, especially today today, right, Uh,

723
00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 10: the body basically naturally has cannaboids, cannop aoids, and breast

724
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 10: milk we produced naturally cannop annoids, so it helps the

725
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 10: baby sleep and it helps the baby have an appetite.

726
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's natural. Yeah, yeah, it's natural. It's natural.

727
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 2: That's all you need to know.

728
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 3: Then good night, bitches. Kidding, just kidding. Oh but also

729
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 3: on a negative note, my other I have another story

730
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:43,240
Speaker 3: of a friend who had a baby in the hospital

731
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 3: and upon giving birth, the baby had a positive results

732
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 3: for THHD or whatever, and they didn't take the baby,

733
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:52,479
Speaker 3: but I think they like threatened it and she had

734
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 3: to take like a some kind of class to the same.

735
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 3: But this is also Georgia again. I mean, yeah, but

736
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 3: that's why gotta be That's why you have to live

737
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 3: in California.

738
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 2: Just just move. I just want to does you want

739
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 2: to live that life?

740
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 3: Relocate because you're gonna be judged anywhere else.

741
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 5: But you know what I find when I'm high around

742
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 5: Ira is that I'm just more like playful.

743
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 3: I'm more playful, and I'm like way more in tune

744
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 3: with her. Sometimes sometimes I'm like, wow, I'm worry and oh.

745
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 5: Because I almos feel like my mind goes back to

746
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 5: its like most original state. Yeah, childlike state. Yeah that

747
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 5: gets jaded, you know what I mean. And so it's

748
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 5: hard to have an imagination like a child because of

749
00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 5: the world we're living.

750
00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 3: It's stressful, and you're you have about the things when

751
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 3: your plate. But I'm so happy you said that because

752
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 3: you hit that ship right on the nose. I literally

753
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 3: feel that way all the time. Even when she was

754
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 3: really little, I was like, am I gonna regret being

755
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 3: like under the influence quote unquote?

756
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 2: But there were times like call me crazy.

757
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 3: She was like talking to me in my mind, and

758
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 3: she was looking so deeply into my soul, and I

759
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 3: don't think I would have been as receptive and realizing

760
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 3: how deeply connected and how like mature she was on

761
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 3: the inside unless I was like, I feel like it's

762
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 3: a spiritual drug and or not even a drug, a

763
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 3: spiritual herb, and it opens your third eye and it

764
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 3: makes you a little bit more receptive to certain things.

765
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 2: I agree too.

766
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:16,719
Speaker 3: Side note, have you ever like dated somebody and then

767
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 3: got high with them and suddenly don't like them anymore? Yeah?

768
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, I'm never spoking to me.

769
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:22,839
Speaker 3: I was like, I don't want you to touch me. I'm

770
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 3: not attracted to you. What am I doing here? I

771
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:26,880
Speaker 3: had to text my friend like, has this ever happened

772
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 3: to you? Because I don't even like this person? Suddenly

773
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 3: I'm freaking out.

774
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:34,879
Speaker 2: Yeah No, I mean I think I think that too.

775
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 2: I think you get.

776
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 5: Very relaxed, and so you're more relaxed into who you

777
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 5: might be by yourself, you know, in front of people.

778
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 5: And also, yeah, I feel like with Iri when I

779
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 5: when i'm when I get high and then we go

780
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,760
Speaker 5: play like anything hide and Seek or just any.

781
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 2: Of her games. I'm just more in tune and I'm

782
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 2: just more I'm just I don't know. I don't know

783
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 2: what it is, but it's definitely something that it is different.

784
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely believe it's a spiritual, spiritual herb and

785
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:11,400
Speaker 3: it does take you to a different mind space.

786
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

787
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 9: So, oh my god, you want some more wine?

788
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:26,279
Speaker 3: Yeah?

789
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 2: Sure I should. He fall out is not the word.

790
00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 2: Do you have anything else on the topic? Oh do

791
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 2: we have?

792
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 3: Well, we have questions?

793
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 2: Oh well, yes, we have a question for sure we

794
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:45,400
Speaker 2: need to answer.

795
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 5: And I would just say, you know, if you're a

796
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 5: woman out there that or a parent out there, or

797
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 5: just a person out there who doesn't even have children,

798
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 5: who you know doesn't smoke.

799
00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 3: Or previously judged it or overthought about like doing it

800
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,720
Speaker 3: because it's always been bad all your life.

801
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, you have to go to put in perspective. It's

802
00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 5: a first of all, it's a plant. And you p

803
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 5: hear more people die of from drinking and driving, or

804
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 5: you hear them people fighting, wives getting beaten. You know,

805
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 5: just dumb shit happening on so many things. You don't

806
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 5: ever hear that shit on weed. Like the guy smoked

807
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 5: weed and merged his wife, you know, like the guy.

808
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 2: Smoked weed, and like the girls smoked weed, psycho. Yeah right,

809
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 2: like never never has it.

810
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 3: Happened, Okay, and if it did, rather things happening so

811
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 3: other than you didn't smoke weed.

812
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:43,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, but nothing else that.

813
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 3: Smoking.

814
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,760
Speaker 5: And yeah, I just hope that we can push past

815
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 5: the stigma of of parents who smoke. I think that

816
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 5: as long as you're responsible, you're handling your business, and

817
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 5: you and your kid have an understanding of what that

818
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 5: means to you, guys, and that's all that matters.

819
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:04,399
Speaker 3: You know, what this is all about, What the fuck

820
00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 3: you want to do? It makes you feel comfortable, you know,

821
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 3: like maybe you know with.

822
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 5: Some people's like they're there versions of whatever the fuck

823
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 5: you want to do are crazy, so then like they

824
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 5: need like a they need like a line.

825
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,760
Speaker 3: But no, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, yeah thats not whatever

826
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 3: I mean. No, whatever you want to do you want.

827
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 5: To say, like was like, I can do whatever.

828
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:27,400
Speaker 4: I know.

829
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 2: I was right, Charlie having the buck. I like these

830
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 2: I know, I like these bitches from the beginning in

831
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 2: my crack pipe.

832
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 6: No, no, no, none of that saying with balance, with

833
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 6: with ration, responsibility, that's important.

834
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 3: You know, just be smart, don'teel. That's what I'm saying.

835
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 3: If you don't smoke all the time, if you don't

836
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 3: get a paranoid, if you know, you get weird, don't

837
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:04,759
Speaker 3: do it. Yeah, we are professionally at least try we

838
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:06,399
Speaker 3: are professionally weed smoking moms.

839
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:09,600
Speaker 5: At least try it. Don't try this at home, only

840
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:12,320
Speaker 5: try it at home. Don't try the public. Don't we

841
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:13,240
Speaker 5: your first time.

842
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 3: Ever the first three times? Oh my god, there's no

843
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 3: advice for the show. Move to California. Don't try pot alone.

844
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 3: If you've never tried to perform, try it in the

845
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:30,640
Speaker 3: house three times. If you don't smoke pots at least

846
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 3: for eight months.

847
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:34,160
Speaker 2: Start slow, build up that tall ran.

848
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 3: Puff a little. Find out what type of neat weed

849
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 3: is for your.

850
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 2: Needs, Satia.

851
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 3: There's a difference, and there's a hybrid. Okay, you need

852
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 3: to ask all.

853
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 5: These questions, Sativa, Hybrid's my favor.

854
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:49,240
Speaker 3: Anything else. And if you've never gotten a high before

855
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 3: or recently, definitely don't try it the first three times

856
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 3: with your kids alone or just with your kids.

857
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 2: No, wait, do it alone.

858
00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 3: And this is not a green light to do all drugs.

859
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:04,239
Speaker 3: We do not endoy. This only pertains to medical No,

860
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 3: just to marijuana, to recreation in medical marijuana. Yes, we

861
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 3: are not there his doctors. You may explain experience.

862
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 2: We are not licensed doctors, just two moms.

863
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:20,800
Speaker 3: That in telling our personal experience. Okay, let's get to

864
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 3: these questions. We're fucking high and we're like so exhausted

865
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 3: and sick before this suddenly the look we didn't want.

866
00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:31,240
Speaker 3: This one's from today.

867
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:33,520
Speaker 2: Did you see this?

868
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:35,959
Speaker 3: This is from at qualiinair?

869
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, I saw this.

870
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 3: Hello. It talks about single parenting in your bio, and

871
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:43,719
Speaker 3: I wanted to hear y'all talk about how you transitioned

872
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,759
Speaker 3: into being single, if you were single through the pregnancy,

873
00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 3: how you dealt with the transition if there was one

874
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 3: being sad while trying to take care.

875
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:52,400
Speaker 2: Of another human.

876
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 3: This is a lot of questions going through the right

877
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 3: going through that right now, and it's ripping my heart.

878
00:39:58,680 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 3: Thanks y'all.

879
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 2: Okay, So being.

880
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 5: Single and what that was like, or the transition of

881
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 5: being single? We are we single during pregnancy?

882
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:07,799
Speaker 3: How you transitioned into being single? And if we were

883
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 3: single during pregnancy. I wasn't single doing pregnancy. No, I

884
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:14,919
Speaker 3: wasn't either, which probably could be difficult because you're super

885
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:19,920
Speaker 3: hormonal if you are single during pregnancy. But also on

886
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:23,279
Speaker 3: the contrary, being miserable during pregnancy knowing that you don't

887
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 3: want to do with someone and sticking around because you're

888
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,879
Speaker 3: pregnant is not also a good healthy thing either, So

889
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 3: sometimes you got to grow through some things. And how

890
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 3: did you transition from being to being single?

891
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:38,800
Speaker 2: One word?

892
00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 3: Oh god, oh you're well, Oh my god, don't ask

893
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 3: this smitch you when she's like, how did you transition

894
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:48,399
Speaker 3: into being single? It's your favorite thing of all time?

895
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 2: Tender?

896
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, okay, yeah, Tender is the best tool that

897
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 5: can ever be used. If you're spin in a relationship

898
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 5: for a while and you find yourself single.

899
00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:04,400
Speaker 2: Tender dot com.

900
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,439
Speaker 5: First of all, it's not an adult by the way,

901
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 5: I just genuinely fox with tender.

902
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 3: Honestly, eric is the number one endorset of Tender. This

903
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 3: is according to Erica.

904
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 2: Only, although I'm not sure. I don't know.

905
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 3: She's had some really pleasant experiences.

906
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 2: I was actually supposed to meet up with the tender person.

907
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 2: What happened to that? I canceled because I had too

908
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:25,439
Speaker 2: much shits here today.

909
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 3: I didn't have you scared because she no, because all

910
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:29,920
Speaker 3: the person's pictures are from far.

911
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:30,760
Speaker 2: Far away.

912
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 5: But no, I didn't get scared. We were scheduled. We're

913
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 5: going to do this on Friday. I'm going to call

914
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 5: you what time at twelve pm a one pm. I'll

915
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:42,360
Speaker 5: call you on Friday. Okay, I don't know. I feel

916
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 5: like I feel like I've maybe run my course, Like

917
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 5: i feel like all my luck is run out because

918
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:48,839
Speaker 5: I'm a little nervous about about this one.

919
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:52,319
Speaker 3: Well, just to get your feet wet and just get

920
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:53,080
Speaker 3: back out there, Tender.

921
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 5: I've never really used Tender to meet women like I've

922
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 5: like always been open to women on Tenderly but you

923
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:00,319
Speaker 5: never like met up with the girl.

924
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 2: I feel like it's never followed through. Like I I've

925
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 2: talked to women, but it's never followed through. So I'm

926
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 2: just like, Okay, we'll see, we'll see how this goes.

927
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 2: But yeah, tender if you're single and you find yourself

928
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 2: single and.

929
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 3: It's a nice way to get back out there, it is.

930
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:17,439
Speaker 2: And you deserve to get your group back.

931
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 3: I mean, ebe if it's just practice, you know.

932
00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 5: That's all it is. It doesn't have to be anything

933
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 5: more than that. But you know, some people can't handle tender.

934
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 5: You have to have a certain like you have to

935
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:29,840
Speaker 5: like it. I have certain friends I know wouldn't do

936
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:30,359
Speaker 5: well in tender.

937
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 3: If you're super overly emotional one get attached to easily tender,

938
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:33,759
Speaker 3: it's not for you.

939
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 2: It's absolutely not for you.

940
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 3: If you have more managed tendencies like Erica and I

941
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 3: jump in head first. Okay, back to the questions, how

942
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 3: did you transition if there was one to being single,

943
00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 3: being sad and while trying to take care of another human.

944
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:58,760
Speaker 5: I recently went through this and it's a few times actually,

945
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:02,759
Speaker 5: while I've had a child, and you just have like

946
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 5: I don't know, I just you have to. When I

947
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 5: look at Irie, like, I'm like, I haven't. I have

948
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 5: no choice but to be Okay. I feel like if

949
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 5: I didn't have a kid, then I would be. Of

950
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 5: course I was sad, and I've been sad, but I

951
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 5: just feel like you have to make your child your

952
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,440
Speaker 5: biggest priority. When you're going through something like that, it

953
00:43:20,520 --> 00:43:23,239
Speaker 5: kind of gets you through. Yeah, it'll it'll bring you

954
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:25,840
Speaker 5: so much joy and it'll push.

955
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 2: You through because it kind of reminds me.

956
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:29,120
Speaker 5: It'll make you sad because when I looked at her

957
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:30,959
Speaker 5: and we am like, I'd be like, oh my god,

958
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:34,359
Speaker 5: I just you look like him, like seriously, Like I'm like,

959
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 5: every day for the rest of my life, I'm gonna

960
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 5: look at you and think of him.

961
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 2: And also I have to talk to him every day

962
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 2: because like he's your.

963
00:43:40,960 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 3: Dad and shit, this is not this is normal break Yeah, it's.

964
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 5: The most It's the fucking most like annoying breakup of

965
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 5: all time, the one with your baby daddy.

966
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:53,759
Speaker 2: You know it is, because there's no real breaking up.

967
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:54,799
Speaker 3: It hunts you for life.

968
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 2: They're around you forever ever ever, so make sure you

969
00:43:58,600 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 2: make a good one, good one, good.

970
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,360
Speaker 3: One for real though, Like that's the biggest advice I

971
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,040
Speaker 3: can give to anyone who doesn't have kids. Yeah, pick

972
00:44:04,040 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 3: them good, pick them pick them rural good, pick them

973
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 3: mature and logical.

974
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 5: But yeah, you know, you're just focusing on your child

975
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:18,319
Speaker 5: and focusing on what makes you feel good. Honestly, just

976
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 5: do what makes you feel good. Even if you feel

977
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 5: like I shouldn't do this or do that. Just try

978
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:23,919
Speaker 5: to live a little bit because it'll make you feel

979
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 5: alive and it will.

980
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 3: Just remind you, you know, you who you are with

981
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 3: or without someone else, and who you are now that

982
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 3: you're about to have a baby or have a baby. Like,

983
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:38,359
Speaker 3: stay true to yourself and your happiness. Don't do don't

984
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 3: get sad because this is a common thing. Don't get

985
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 3: sad about what you thought was going to be or

986
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:46,359
Speaker 3: what you thought it should be like that. Those are

987
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:48,720
Speaker 3: not good things to be sad about. Because I found

988
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:51,400
Speaker 3: myself obsessing about that a lot. Like I wanted my my,

989
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:54,320
Speaker 3: you know, my family, I wanted to be married, I

990
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 3: wanted to have the same baby's daddy, you know, because

991
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,800
Speaker 3: there's that stickma like, oh my god, this baby's saddy.

992
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 3: And then but at the end of the day, like

993
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:05,200
Speaker 3: I'm like what's important like the a stigma, what people think,

994
00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:08,279
Speaker 3: or my true happiness. Can I see myself in this

995
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:11,240
Speaker 3: position forever held?

996
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 4: No?

997
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 2: I mean, you know a lot of times you know in.

998
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,359
Speaker 3: Your gut what's right for you, but your feelings kind

999
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:18,319
Speaker 3: of go against the grain and go through limbo because

1000
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 3: there's all this bullshit around what's supposed to be and

1001
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:25,200
Speaker 3: how shit's supposed to look. But you will only like

1002
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 3: you only fuck yourself trying to please other people and

1003
00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 3: you know, be in their opinion.

1004
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:36,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to just you have to do what

1005
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:37,399
Speaker 2: you gotta do for you.

1006
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:47,359
Speaker 3: Don't let it rip your apart, you know, stay close

1007
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,360
Speaker 3: to friends and really just dive into your baby because

1008
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 3: that's the best part. And just just know that like

1009
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,880
Speaker 3: divine timing and everything's happening for a reason. And like

1010
00:45:56,920 --> 00:45:58,799
Speaker 3: I said, you got to grow through some things and

1011
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 3: sometimes always painful situations make you stronger and make you

1012
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:06,799
Speaker 3: a better person. You know, it's a part of life.

1013
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 5: It's just it's just I feel like you also have

1014
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:12,359
Speaker 5: to analyze, like, Okay, what brought this to me too?

1015
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:15,839
Speaker 5: You know what I mean, Like you just have to

1016
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 5: make it a learning experience, you know, so that you

1017
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:21,239
Speaker 5: don't do it again. You don't allow someone that you

1018
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 5: thought was this and that to deceive you, because.

1019
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 3: That's what And also, don't take it personally because a

1020
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 3: lot of times it has nothing to do with you.

1021
00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 3: You know, people have their own, their own shit and

1022
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 3: they project it on you. So it's not that thing

1023
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 3: to take personally. You know what you're worth, you know

1024
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 3: what you deserve, and that's what you're gonna get.

1025
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 2: That's it.

1026
00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:42,800
Speaker 3: Are there any other questions?

1027
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:44,280
Speaker 2: That's it to speak?

1028
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 3: She just okay, Yeah, if you want to talk some more,

1029
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 3: you can always DMUs.

1030
00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 2: We're here. We have one more question.

1031
00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:59,879
Speaker 5: I did respond to her, but we can still ask

1032
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 5: was it?

1033
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,800
Speaker 2: It was kind of heavy. Actually, maybe we should ask.

1034
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 5: Maybe we should address it because something many people go there, Okay,

1035
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 5: where is it? I can't find it?

1036
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:19,359
Speaker 3: Was it in yours? It was in your in your

1037
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:22,480
Speaker 3: personal I know?

1038
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 2: Do we answer this one? Yeah, we already answered that one.

1039
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 2: That's what we answered last week.

1040
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:31,240
Speaker 3: I think I said it was in your personal dance?

1041
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:34,920
Speaker 2: Was it you told me that. I don't think so.

1042
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:57,239
Speaker 11: Okay, oh okay, now it's we're here, okay.

1043
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:52,880
Speaker 2: Okay, oh my god, we might have to Yeah, anyway,

1044
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:53,759
Speaker 2: this is.

1045
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 5: I don't know if they want to stay anonymous, so

1046
00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 5: I'm just gonna.

1047
00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 2: Not name them. Hey, I saw your posts, so I

1048
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 2: need advice.

1049
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 5: I'm not sure you can help, and I totally get

1050
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 5: if you're not comfortable doing so. However, about a week ago,

1051
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:09,439
Speaker 5: my ex boyfriend got very abusive with me. Long story short,

1052
00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 5: I got a restraining order, but I'm wondering how do

1053
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 5: I move on. I feel so alone, but I am

1054
00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 5: clueless on how this whole process works. I know I

1055
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 5: need therapy, but I just don't know how to deal

1056
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:22,439
Speaker 5: in the meantime. Again, totally cool if you don't feel

1057
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:24,640
Speaker 5: comfortable answering this, just figured i'd take a shot.

1058
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:24,799
Speaker 4: Bro.

1059
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 5: Ain't nothing. I'm not on the table right nothing. This

1060
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:32,360
Speaker 5: is a no judgment zone.

1061
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 2: We're all human having human experience.

1062
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 5: Yes, please, no, anyway, I was just gonna say, you know,

1063
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 5: when you go through something abusive, I mean, that's the

1064
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:48,719
Speaker 5: hardest thing to take toget that's probably I don't know

1065
00:48:48,800 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 5: your story, but I'm assuming that wasn't the first time,

1066
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:53,400
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, Or if it is the

1067
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 5: first time, it's not going to be the last time.

1068
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 5: So just you know, if someone can get taken to

1069
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 5: that level, then it's time to separate.

1070
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 2: And you have obviously you've taken the.

1071
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 5: Steps to get a restraining order, and so you realize

1072
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 5: how serious it is. But now it's time to just

1073
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:09,720
Speaker 5: focus on yourself.

1074
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:11,640
Speaker 3: I mean, you did the total white thing about getting

1075
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:14,960
Speaker 3: a restraining order. I think as women, a lot of

1076
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 3: times we can have like connect you know, we're connected

1077
00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 3: to people and we don't want to hurt people and

1078
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:22,000
Speaker 3: were nurturing naturally, and we don't take reinforce because it's

1079
00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 3: almost a norm. Like I went through it, and I

1080
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 3: almost was. I went through more than once, and I

1081
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 3: would find myself like low key making excuses or making

1082
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 3: not that big of a deal. And now that I'm

1083
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 3: out of it, I see how psycho that was and

1084
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 3: how like what a low key, like a battered woman

1085
00:49:37,080 --> 00:49:41,080
Speaker 3: I was, And like not taking those steps makes that

1086
00:49:41,120 --> 00:49:44,120
Speaker 3: person think that that's the norm and that's okay, and

1087
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 3: it's not. You know, so like anybody going through anything

1088
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 3: like that, do what you got to do and know

1089
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:51,440
Speaker 3: that you and also it kind of prevents you from

1090
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:54,759
Speaker 3: backstepping and convincing yourself it's okay and still like having

1091
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:59,600
Speaker 3: a relationship with those but that abuser, So that's not

1092
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 3: to be take and lightly, you know, and it will

1093
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 3: fuck you up. But this shit is traumatizing.

1094
00:50:04,800 --> 00:50:08,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, No, I mean I think sometimes it's I mean,

1095
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 5: when you're an abusive relationship, it's so it's usually like

1096
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 5: mental physical So I think bot you wrapped around your finger.

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Speaker 5: But you have to remember or try to remember, like

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Speaker 5: who you were, because you were someone before that, you

1099
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Speaker 5: know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: And that's why that person's drawn to you.

1101
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Speaker 5: They wanted to draw get they were drawn to you,

1102
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Speaker 5: and then they accept all of you try.

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Speaker 3: It broke you down to a little pert to something

1104
00:50:32,640 --> 00:50:35,680
Speaker 3: smaller than what you once were. And it does take

1105
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:38,839
Speaker 3: time to expand back out because you've literally allowed someone

1106
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Speaker 3: to deplete you and deplete you and deplete you and

1107
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Speaker 3: deplete you emotionally and spiritually, and you got to rebuild

1108
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Speaker 3: yourself and replenish yourself. And even I'm going through that

1109
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Speaker 3: right now, honestly, like and it's sometimes it's short. Sometimes

1110
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Speaker 3: it could take longer, but you know, you have to

1111
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Speaker 3: heal yourself and that takes time. But first you got

1112
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Speaker 3: to recognize and it seems like you recognize it.

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Speaker 2: The biggest part, that's the biggest part.

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Speaker 3: Like, once you have done this uphill, you know, this

1115
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Speaker 3: little steps. It's like eating good, taking care of yourself, exercising,

1116
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 3: making time to have activities, whatever the fuck makes you

1117
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Speaker 3: feel good, you know, getting back to what.

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Speaker 2: Makes you happy.

1119
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Speaker 5: Yeah, coming to coming together with friends, family, if you

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Speaker 5: have them, you know, Bobby, Yeah, I think that's it.

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Speaker 2: That's it.

1122
00:51:24,480 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 3: That's a wrap for in the day's show.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was a little shorter than normal because we tied.

1124
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Speaker 2: It's a time.

1125
00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 3: It's probably long. Sorry, we're gonna work on it.

1126
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Speaker 2: Cheers, good night, Half Memorial Day.

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Speaker 3: Don't forget to check out our instagram at oh.

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Speaker 2: It's our very exactly what stop talking right now?

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1130
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Speaker 7: m my p Po and at watcher figure it out,

1139
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Speaker 7: come bye us.

1140
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Speaker 4: Smoke two joints in the morning. I spoke to joints

1141
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Speaker 4: to night. I spoke to joints in the afternoon. It

1142
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Speaker 4: makes me feel all right. I smoked two joints please,

1143
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Speaker 4: and two wins. I spoke to joints.

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Speaker 12: I spoke to joints, and then I smoked the most.

1145
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Speaker 3: She died.

1146
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Speaker 2: Look big, some bliz and some media figers.

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Speaker 4: She.

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Speaker 11: Said.

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Speaker 4: Some year