WEBVTT - It Won’t Always Feel Like This

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<v Speaker 1>You found your way here to waking up with Ryan.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad that you pushed play. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>place you and I come to wake up together. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a deep breath and begin.

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<v Speaker 2>Good morning, my love.

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<v Speaker 1>When things are going really well in life, we want

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<v Speaker 1>them to last forever. Yet when things are hard, we

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<v Speaker 1>fear that they're gonna last forever. But the one constant

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<v Speaker 1>in life is change. And so when things are really great,

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<v Speaker 1>it's normal to have this kind of mind response saying, gosh, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I've arrived at this great place.

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<v Speaker 2>It feels like my problems are solved. Opportunity is here.

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<v Speaker 1>And like, I'm attaching myself to this being what it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be forever.

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<v Speaker 2>And I really hope it will be.

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<v Speaker 1>And oof, the one constant is change, meaning to the

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<v Speaker 1>degree to which you attach to things being great is

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<v Speaker 1>the degree to which you're setting yourself up For having

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<v Speaker 1>your expectations.

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<v Speaker 2>Slashed.

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<v Speaker 1>Being attached to the way life is in any given

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<v Speaker 1>moment is a problem because life changes. The same thing

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<v Speaker 1>is true in the times when things are really hard.

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<v Speaker 1>We become really attached to wanting them to change. But

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<v Speaker 1>the thing about life is that everything changes. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>one constant. The one thing that's constant in life is

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<v Speaker 1>that everything in life, what I mean is our physical experience,

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<v Speaker 1>everything that we can observe, it's always changing. Circumstances are

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<v Speaker 1>always changing. Bodies are always changing. Nature is always changing.

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<v Speaker 1>The seasons are always changing. The nature of nature changes.

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<v Speaker 1>is that we have a winter, a spring, a summer,

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<v Speaker 1>and a fall. Everything has its season. We humans are

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<v Speaker 1>a little less impacted by that because we've built technology

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<v Speaker 1>to heat the home in the winter, air condition the

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<v Speaker 1>home in the summer, to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Able to grow crops when they're out of season.

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<v Speaker 1>But it doesn't mean that we have been able to

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<v Speaker 1>separate ourselves from the nature of life, which is that

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<v Speaker 1>everything is always changing, to the degree to which we

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<v Speaker 1>attach to whatever it is in our life that is

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<v Speaker 1>or isn't happening, is the degree to which we believe

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<v Speaker 1>that we are that which depends on what is or

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<v Speaker 1>isn't happening. In the COVID times, I put out a

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<v Speaker 1>free mental health program that's still out there if you

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<v Speaker 1>want to check it out called The Sanctuary Challenge. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's thesanctuarychallenge.com. And part of launching it, it was

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<v Speaker 1>just so you know, it was just a daily practice

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<v Speaker 1>setup for accountability to do these five practices every morning

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<v Speaker 1>or every day. And a part of the launch, I

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<v Speaker 1>got to write a song with two.

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<v Speaker 2>Incredible human beings, Leanne Rimes and Milk.

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<v Speaker 1>My friend Connie is an incredible artist as well. And

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<v Speaker 1>the chorus, I'll sing it to you. The chorus was,

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<v Speaker 1>what is here is always changing, but I am, I

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<v Speaker 1>am here, I am here, I am here still.

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<v Speaker 3>I am still, I am still, I am still here. Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>my child, you have got nothing to fear.

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<v Speaker 1>Cause I am here, I am here, I am here still.

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<v Speaker 1>The lyrics, what is here is always changing, but I

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<v Speaker 1>am always here.

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<v Speaker 2>Where are you putting your focus?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you putting your focus on the external, on what

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<v Speaker 1>you observe, which is always changing and needing for it

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<v Speaker 1>to stay consistent in your life? That's setting yourself up

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<v Speaker 1>on a faulty foundation. Or are you setting your foundation

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<v Speaker 1>on what is always here? What you truly are, which

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<v Speaker 1>is always here. The subject, not the object. Because this

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<v Speaker 1>too shall pass. This too shall pass. Whether it's wonderful

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<v Speaker 1>and delicious and good, or whether it's horrid and uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>and scary, this too shall pass. But what is always here?

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<v Speaker 1>What is always here? That's The safety that we rest upon.

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<v Speaker 1>That we connect into.

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<v Speaker 2>Every morning.

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<v Speaker 1>So. Let's drop in. And take a few deep breaths

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<v Speaker 1>as we rest our eyes closed. What is here is

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<v Speaker 1>always changing. But I am always here. And so who

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<v Speaker 1>do you think you are? Are you the body that

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<v Speaker 1>is always changing? Are you the thoughts that are always changing?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you your circumstances that are always changing?

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<v Speaker 2>Or are you that which is here no matter what? Here. Always.

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<v Speaker 1>Now. Let's take a deep breath. As you exhale and

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<v Speaker 1>simply ask the question, what is always here? No need

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<v Speaker 1>for an answer. keeping your breath moving as you ask,

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<v Speaker 1>what is always here? What is always here? What is

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<v Speaker 1>always here that never changes? Only that which takes form

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<v Speaker 1>can change. And so what is always here that is formless?

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<v Speaker 1>Taking a deep breath in. And on the exhale, completely

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<v Speaker 1>letting yourself dissolve into that which is always here. Releasing

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<v Speaker 1>the fight to be a somebody. Giving yourself the freedom

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<v Speaker 1>of becoming nobody, which in truth is everything. It's only

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<v Speaker 1>the ego mind that strives and fights to maintain its

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<v Speaker 1>sense of self, thinking that that's how you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>feel like somebody in the world, when in reality who

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<v Speaker 1>you truly are.

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<v Speaker 2>Has nothing to prove. It's already everything waiting here.

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<v Speaker 1>For the idea of you to relax and surrender into it.

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<v Speaker 2>Hmm. Loving you from right here. Blinking your eyes open

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<v Speaker 2>when you're ready.

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<v Speaker 1>Hmm. It's so fascinating. The way the ego fights because

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<v Speaker 1>it really believes that's what you are and wants to

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<v Speaker 1>maintain it. It's so afraid to actually let go. But

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<v Speaker 1>what I can promise you is that it is letting

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<v Speaker 1>go into the discovery of who you really are, which

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<v Speaker 1>is the well of love that you're seeking. to rest into.

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<v Speaker 1>Loving you from right here. Hi, I hope you're feeling

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<v Speaker 1>even just a little bit more prepared to take on

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<v Speaker 1>the day. But before you go, I want to share

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