WEBVTT - Parenting & Cheating Oh My 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:04.040 This is, he said a Yavi ho with Eric Winter 0:00:04.160 --> 0:00:05.920 and Rosalind Fantez. 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:10.719 Handaday. 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:15.160 He said it, daddy, ha another episode of madness. What 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:16.079 are we going to talk about? 0:00:16.840 --> 0:00:18.479 Well, the first thing I want to talk about is 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:23.919 I was out of town for maybe a day and 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:24.320 a half. 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:25.920 No three days? 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:28.480 No, no, no, I mean you can't travel. I saw 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:29.920 you in the morning on a Monday. I was back 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:31.200 in the afternoon on a Wednesday. 0:00:31.600 --> 0:00:32.400 Nobody was three days. 0:00:33.840 --> 0:00:38.400 I wasn't that gone that long. How the heck did 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:41.720 so much drama? I come home, everything is so smooth 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:44.760 that the kid's great. She's torn apart the room. She 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:47.600 decided to remodel this entire bedroom of Sabella. It's like, 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:49.800 in a day and a half that I'm gone, there's 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:53.640 ten boxes in the house painting walls, colors that don't 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:56.200 even make sense. I was so confused by the colors, 0:00:56.200 --> 0:01:00.360 but apparently Isabella didn't even question it. Needed every everything 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:03.320 done that day. The day I show up, there's work, 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:07.200 three four workers at the house. What why were you 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:08.160 just waiting for me to leave? 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:12.480 Ladies, that's how it's done. You left and say we 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:17.240 had a brand new bedroom with new paint and I 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:19.400 got rid of the treadmill and I got a smaller 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:24.000 treadmill and the house ran like Silk said. Kids were 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:26.600 out of the house at eight am, went to school 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:29.360 at eight o seven. The three days they kept calling 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:30.120 me a star. 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:32.760 And then the first day I'm back fighting in the house, 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:35.400 arguing it's the energy I didn't do. 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:36.160 It's what you bring. 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:38.720 I didn't do anything. I just showed up. 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:40.000 It's what you bring to the table. 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:40.720 What did I bring? 0:01:40.880 --> 0:01:43.399 Even my amazing mother in law couldn't believe it. She 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:45.720 came the third day because I had to live on 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.960 Directiv because of Sabella's new TV in your bedroom, had 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:51.120 to come and drop off the box and there was 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:53.440 a window of an hour of nobody at the house. 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:55.720 So I said, when can you come before the nanny 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:58.720 shows up in case Directiv comes, so you can receive 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:01.840 the pack kitch. And she got home and she's like, 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:03.800 I've never seen anything like this. The kids are ready 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:06.840 to go, waiting for me to change. Launches are packed, 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:09.720 it's not even eight am. All the bets are made. 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:12.280 The kitchen was spotless, and I was like, I am 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.400 so impressed. We were like this and we had high 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:15.079 five at each other. 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:18.960 I come home on a Wednesday. The next day, I'm 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:22.240 dealing with Dylan. He's he called me to his room. 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.239 I'm sleep I'm laying with him. You decided to sleep 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:27.720 in longer. You didn't Wakebella like you said. 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:29.800 You woke up early every day because I was by myself. 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:34.040 I was taking care of Dylan. I'm laying with him. 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:38.240 No she wakes up. Doesn't you wake Isabella up? 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:41.800 I did so well cho and we had. 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:45.360 All fighting and arguing with each other and even chupa 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:49.440 this movie. I'm not even you're fighting with Sabella. So 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.200 I'm not doing any chaos, you and Sabella. 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:53.680 And you know what, Sad, I didn't have one argument 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:56.040 with Sebby for three days. We were like best days, 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:59.799 like unya cantrita. 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:01.800 So her the next day. 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.200 I wasn't because she's then you come home. I didn't 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:06.160 even do but could you gets an attitude is like 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:07.600 daddy say, I'm going to act up. 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:13.480 Not even doing anything I've been reading or like on tape, 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:17.000 listening to this book how to Raise Strong Children. 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:18.320 Who told you about this book? 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:24.960 Henribella Tennis mental uh not mental, but mindset coming, He said, 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:27.359 I think it's a book you might really enjoy, and 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.200 it's how to Raise Mentally Strong Children, And I'm I'm 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:33.400 listening to it and like, we're doing so many things wrong. 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:38.280 According to this book, we are so oft. 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:40.360 Great parents. 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:43.240 We are definitely products of our parents in the way 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.120 that that we were raised for sure, which is like 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:48.760 the cycle that every generation is trying to do a 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:50.760 little different. Not my parents did a great job with me, 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:52.800 but everybody does. Every parent does what they know and 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:54.560 how they're raised right, and. 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:55.440 So what are we doing wrong? 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:59.360 Where does the list start? It's like even when you 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:00.840 just say, if long as you're going to live in 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:04.120 my house, even like that statement, but it's the truth. 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:06.920 But I know, but it's like the way to talk 0:04:06.960 --> 0:04:12.000 to these child so that they feel hard. Like I 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:15.120 used to constantly fight with Isabella, and I would argue 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:16.800 with her till I was blue in the face. And 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:18.200 the book it's kind of like, you know what, you 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:21.640 just let them know when you're ready to communicate with me, 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.039 You let me know and you just leave and you 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.920 don't even engage in the argument. And as long as 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:29.280 they understand, and I say this to you all the time, 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:32.240 take accountability for their action. Right if Sabella learns to 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:35.960 take accountability about what punishment will come, that we can 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:39.880 follow through with the punishment, then she'll make those decisions 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:41.800 or fall in her face on her own and take 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:45.520 the punishment. But we're always we always threaten the punishment 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.520 it and we never do it. But also in the 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:52.560 way that we communicate and argue. It's like saying, like 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:55.000 the other day, Sabella went back to the beer to 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.799 dragon topic because I said something that I said something 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:00.120 as a joke and then she ran with it and 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.919 and I was like, Nope, never, not a chance. And 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:05.680 then I was like everything that I just read that 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:06.520 was exactly wrong. 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:08.920 This was funny, guys, Now, this was really funny. So 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:12.279 I am so proud I give her a brand new 0:05:12.680 --> 0:05:16.520 bedroom in less than twenty four hours. Right, paint you 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:18.840 up the whole thing. Workers, It was a zoo at 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:22.720 the house. She comes from school and it's ready. So 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:25.400 that night Eric shows up from New York. He was 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:27.320 at the upfront, right, and we all this time to 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:29.440 go to bed. Delan is already sleeping. So it's me, 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:34.320 Sabby and Eric on her new bed looking at this 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:37.520 beautiful desk that now doesn't have all these trophies because 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:40.080 I got her like a boat, like a trophy case area, 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:42.760 and it looks pretty empty before he was packed with 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:46.000 all these tennis trophies. And Eric, I don't know why 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:49.120 you felt compelled to be like Sabbi, that's a perfect 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:51.880 space for a bear to dragon. And she's like, oh 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:54.120 my god, I want a beercher dragon. And I'm going 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:56.839 and you guys know we just had a podcast about 0:05:56.839 --> 0:06:00.560 lizards and reptiles and alligators, so you know you know 0:06:00.560 --> 0:06:03.080 how I feel. So I'm going, Eric, why would you 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:06.720 bring no this? This room is so pretty right now? 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:08.880 Why a bearded dragon? Of course, because she if I 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:11.440 say why, she's just gray, which is just black. Now 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:13.359 she's like, I want to bear to dragon. So this 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:16.160 regards ever, all the effort that I put in the 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:18.880 in her bedroom. Doesn't even say thank you. Now she's pissed. 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:22.480 But you're saying, gone, she listening to everything. 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:24.240 Yeah, but it's because of the energy. 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:25.159 She pissed. 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:28.919 She's pissed because now I am denying her of having 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:30.520 something that she wants. And I said, said, but you 0:06:30.520 --> 0:06:32.480 don't want anything. He just brought it up. That was 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:34.680 the least the last thing in your mind. And then 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:36.800 so I get heated and I get really really upset 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:40.080 because I feel unappreciated. I think Eric goes stop it, 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:41.400 you know, following the book. 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:44.039 But she has read the book, reading this book, that. 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.640 This is so important, that you're doing everything wrong. And 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:50.240 the last thing I want to hear at that moment, I. 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:52.720 Just said, I said, I've been reading this book. Hang 0:06:52.800 --> 0:06:55.960 time for a second. Don't just say no, no, no, no, no, like, 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:57.080 let's just hear her out. 0:06:57.640 --> 0:07:01.040 I don't give a I they should say thank you. 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:03.320 But I practiced some of the book which it actually 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:05.320 worked where I was like, oh, so okay, I understand 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:08.040 you want to be a dragon. It's really interesting that 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:09.920 you do, I say, but sebba, you know when you 0:07:09.960 --> 0:07:12.440 start pick up at tennis, you know animals are allowed 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:13.760 to work. You know you want to cap beer dragon. 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:15.080 There's a lot of time and you have to put 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.080 in a lot of work with those animals. We can 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:18.560 have a conversation, Mom and I will talk about it. 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:22.320 Will will continue to discuss the responsibility of taking on 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:24.720 a pet. But you know, as you go back to tennis, 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:27.520 because she's been hurt, her back's been hurt, where you're 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:28.840 gonna find the time to take care of it. And 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:30.880 she's like, oh, you know you're right, you know you're right. 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:32.880 I am going to be super busy, and she kind 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:34.520 of shifted gears and didn't bring it back up. It 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:36.640 just kind of went away without a fight. 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:37.640 I have to try. 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:42.840 That makes interesting. It happened again with the ear piercing. 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:46.160 She said, you promised that she could pierce a second anything, 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:50.880 having which you might want to let her have that win. 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:52.400 I don't think it's that big of a deal to 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:55.120 get a second piercing. You don't know at all. It's 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:57.040 just why I had three. 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:59.200 I know, because I only have one and I never 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:00.920 it's I don't one thing is something that my mom 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:05.360 would have let me do. So I don't know WoT. 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:06.800 It Three holes in my ears and I did two 0:08:06.840 --> 0:08:11.280 of them on my own, but listen they I closed. 0:08:11.520 --> 0:08:13.160 That was a phase I went through. Right, just we're 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:15.720 having earrings that was the nineties, and. 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:17.680 She really wants it and her best friend Lulu has 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:18.760 it and she looks beautiful. 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:20.520 I just have a it's not a big deal at all. 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:23.200 I think it's it's to me, it is, but it's 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:25.040 one of those things where you pick your battle, because 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:27.280 the more you say you can't express yourself, but you 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.080 can't be you, they will find other ways. 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:30.520 I just don't want these girls thinking that she can 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:34.400 do whatever it takes. She's goody, she's not at twelve 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:34.800 years old. 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:36.960 She's asking for something that's really minor. 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:43.680 It's not you're mutilating your ear ring. She has nobody 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:45.800 happened when she was born. She doesn't remember, didn't. 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:47.439 Her Okay, first of all, you're the only parent out 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:49.079 there that literally the kid was popped out, and you're like, 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:50.680 I want to punch holes in the sails right now. 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:52.400 You'll never remember. 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:54.640 But most a lot of parents are like, wait for 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:57.160 six months, a year, whatever, you needed earrings in those 0:08:57.160 --> 0:09:01.200 ears instantly immediately. Okay, But so you're adding one more hole. 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:01.719 I don't know. 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:03.080 I don't know what a big of a deal. And 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:04.520 you're like, where hoop, She's well, if I get a 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:08.800 second hole, I'm just saying we need to try to 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:09.400 talk now. 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:11.960 Is upset because it's like you go zero to sixty 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:13.839 so fast and you have to change your ways. Is 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:15.719 like you call the stupid as it. I have never 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:19.360 said you're stupid. I can say the situation is stupid. 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:26.720 But I have never said you. 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:26.720 Don't be so stupid like we say like you don't 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:28.079 mean it in a bad way. Sometimes it's just the 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:30.040 way you talk like you say those things sometimes like 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:32.280 in general, that's so stupid, don't be so stupid, Like 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:35.240 you don't think of it as about saying she is 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:38.880 stupid is a way of In this book, it's constantly 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:43.680 talking about kids just mirror everything you do. And it's 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:45.079 like as simple as this, like this is when I 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:46.560 heard today, I was, I was at the on the 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:49.360 bike at the gym, and it's aid, you know, in 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:51.359 our house, And I say this to all the time, Sabella. 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:54.640 If you ever lie, Dylan, the same thing, you tell 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:57.080 the truth. You'll be in far less trouble even if 0:09:57.120 --> 0:09:59.000 you did something wrong if you just tell the truth. 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:00.480 But if I catch you in a lit you'll be 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:02.640 in double the amount of trouble. It'll be way worse. 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:05.160 So just come clean. It's much easier, right. Lying can 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.640 never be on the table. And in this book it says, 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:10.760 but as a parent, you have to also hold yourself 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:13.200 to that standard in front of the kids, because if 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:17.080 they see you lie, they copy the behavior. So, for example, 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:18.840 if you don't want to go to a dinner plans 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:21.520 or dinner date, and the person's calling to confirm and 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:23.079 you want to get out of it, and you're on 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:25.080 speaker and the kids hear you and they say, okay, 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:26.680 so you have dinner tonight and you're like, oh, I 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:28.600 just can't. I don't feel well, and you're lying to 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:31.400 get out of it. You've just given them the green 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:34.160 light for a little light, little little small lies, got it? 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:36.920 So they're mirroring your behavior. My mom is saying, don't 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:39.040 lie at all, But I just watched you lie, got it? 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:41.679 Our dad is doing the same thing, right, So it's 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:46.160 fascinating stuff. It's hard, it's really hard, like very hard 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:48.960 to follow this book because instinctually it takes a lot 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:52.040 of patience to try to navigate this. But it's a 0:10:52.080 --> 0:10:54.920 way of trying to evolve as parents a little bit 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:57.360 or try listen. I'm the first one to say you 0:10:57.440 --> 0:11:00.160 should be sah, I get your room and yeah, And 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:03.479 I've yelled many times, but we often feel bad afterwards, 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:07.679 like worse. Yeah, so I don't know. And again, it's 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:09.760 not about making the kid be your best friend. It's 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:12.000 not about I need to be best friends with my child. No, No, 0:11:12.040 --> 0:11:13.640 the kid just has to learn to respect you and 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:16.800 learn to communicate with you and have zero tolerance for sarcasm, 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:20.520 eye rolls, no eye contact, things that she does as 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:24.800 a preteen. So it's working that in anyway, food for thought. 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:27.880 We have some work to do. That's what I let 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:28.280 to say. 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:30.800 So when you're done reading it, I'll not reading it. 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:33.920 Listen to it. Listen to all your podcasts. You listen 0:11:33.960 --> 0:11:35.360 to it. It's a good thing to listen to it. 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:38.719 I'm upsessed with podcasts. I do my makeup, I take 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:42.200 showers podcasts. I'm all the long listening to two people. 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:45.840 And some of them are rubbish and just funny and irrelevant, 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:49.800 but some of it is. It's very insightful. I'm learning 0:11:49.800 --> 0:11:50.480 a lot of stuff. 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:58.240 Let me ask you this, Why can't we go on 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:01.280 any more dinner dates with friends? You put the kebage 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:04.640 on socializing. How come what are you talking about? You said, 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:07.120 I'm tired of so many dinners and going out with people. 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:08.559 I need to stop going out. 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:12.720 It has nothing to do with socializing or spending time 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:14.800 with our friends. I love them and I will love 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:17.600 for them. I just went to lunch with my friend yesterday. 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:20.959 It's not about that. It's about as you know, the 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:24.439 more I eat out, the more my stomach causes a problem. 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:26.520 And we're about to go on vacation and I want 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:27.839 to lose some weight and I want to fee. I 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:29.600 don't want to be inflamed and I want to be 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:33.760 healthy when we go to Cabo and just be full 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:36.600 inflamed for a whole week, right because of what we're 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:39.840 going to be eating. So I'm making a conscious decision, 0:12:39.920 --> 0:12:42.839 like any dinners anything that I know we're going to 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:46.080 be eating bad, right, I want to do it after 0:12:46.120 --> 0:12:50.040 I give my body a reset of at least three weeks. 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:53.400 It has nothing to do with not spending time with 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:54.560 my friends, our friends. 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.800 She's like booking dinners out a month out. 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:58.720 I'm like, yes, I want to do it when we 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:00.839 come back from Cabo. Has nothing to do with them. 0:13:00.920 --> 0:13:01.719 Erica has to do with. 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:07.600 My stomach, you know, I think was the last thing. 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:08.680 I am the life of the party. 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:11.199 My problem is I don't want to party. I don't 0:13:11.200 --> 0:13:14.560 want to which party, the bad party? Yeah all that, 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:17.719 not even the bad party, which party, the city in 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:20.160 the backyard, party on the grass. 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:21.840 Anyways, I am the life of the party. The problem 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:25.679 is guys amazing. We go to amazing dinners and then 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:27.360 I don't want to be the girl like can I 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:29.920 just have a salad and please no carlic? And what's 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:32.360 it like? No, I want to enjoy myself, so allow 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:34.920 my body to be a little bit less, a little 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:35.720 bit less inflame. 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:39.199 Contradictory of the life of the party comment. 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:41.800 But okay, I am the life of the party. 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:44.080 I was at the party. Just you. It's my party, 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:45.800 just you, your life of your own. 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:49.280 I want to be like like Richard Williams when Serena 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:50.720 or Venus won the. 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:51.920 One of the big. 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.320 Tournaments and he takes a big cent that goes. We 0:13:56.400 --> 0:13:57.800 have a party and no one is invited. 0:13:58.200 --> 0:13:59.920 That's your That's a good shirt for you. Actually, I 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:01.800 have a party and no one's divided. That should be 0:14:01.800 --> 0:14:04.800 your shirt. I have a party and no one's divided. 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:07.960 That your party, by the way, that was perfect by yourself. 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:09.880 You know what. In the living room, and I've done 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:11.760 this before. When I buy myself living room, I put 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:14.800 music and I'm dancing and singing by myself. 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:16.560 It is I've never seen this. 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:18.679 I've done that many times. I used to all the 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:20.120 time but before I met you, we just do it 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:20.480 all the time. 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:23.320 I clearly took that out of her. She didn't do 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:26.320 that anymore. I've never seen her dancing. I've never seen 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:26.960 her happy dancing. 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:29.680 I said that I do it by myself. I do 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:31.480 when I work out by myself in the patio. I 0:14:31.520 --> 0:14:33.720 have music and sometimes I just put some sauce and 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:35.600 I'm working out and I'm dancing. I'm going, this is life. 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:37.880 And then she's like, ah, I've partied today, I'm good 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:39.360 now I want to see no one. 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:44.240 Let's talk about making why you're making this sound. Let's 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:47.360 talk about like I am just the most boring, terrible. 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:49.560 That you just literally put the cabage on every dinner 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:50.720 that we want to like. I'm like, we have this 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:52.840 dinner to go to this dinner, and you're like, no, no, no, 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:54.920 I like the book. There should be the book. 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:57.880 About we're going to do it or we're going to 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:09.760 do all of them? Way, come back, all right. 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.520 Let's talk about this documentary that we're watching, the Ashley 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.040 Madison doc. How crazy is that? 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:17.160 And you never like it? 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:20.480 I am it's a little long. I feel like an 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:22.320 hour and a half, like a one off movie. 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:24.680 It's like, because guys, this is what's happening. This isn't 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:28.160 an app for cheating, so basically you're married. 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:29.920 I don't think people if you know what Actley Madison, 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:31.640 I didn't know what it was. I know what it was. 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:34.160 Ashley Madison was like just the height of the dating apps, 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:36.920 but it was about having an affair. It was about 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:39.320 you can be partnered up with people who want around 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:41.840 the world. Essentially. It was expanded into a lot of 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:45.600 countries for people that are seeking affairs and that want 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:49.120 to have affairs essentially, so they're pairing people up and. 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:55.880 Confidential. The security measures were like outstanding, so no married 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:59.840 person would think that will add there will ever be 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:02.400 at or is going to be leacked, because the way 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:06.560 they sell you this adventure is like they are so protected, 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:08.120 don't worry about it, nobody will ever know. 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:12.960 But they had what thirty million million subscribers, and they 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:17.320 got hacked and the entire list was exposed. And I 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:20.200 want to watch further because I remember there were quite 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:22.560 a few celebrities that were actually exposed to if I'm 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.320 not mistaken, But it was funny. There's this one couple 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:28.160 who this guy is like a nurse, very Christian, married 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:33.120 to this this this woman who's housewife, literally dedicated her 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:37.400 life to him and the family, and he just and 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:39.400 she was sexually pleasing to him, like all these things 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:43.640 still together, right, they were. She was fully he was 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:47.600 fully pleased. At home, he was not happy, which was weird, 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:50.520 Like he was saying, I wasn't not so sex sexually fulfilled. 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:54.400 I was fulfilled. I was just not happy. And he 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:57.920 was a great dad. Anyways, signs up, uses all his 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:02.920 real information, has a bu bunch of different affairs, and 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:08.560 then later gets totally lucky and becomes a youtubecause them 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:11.760 because they were singing frozen Love is an open door, right, 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:13.760 I think it was what it was called in the car. 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:17.080 It went viral. They started a YouTube channel. Then he 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:21.159 sprung her pregnancy surprise on her because he took a 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:22.960 sample of yourine and told her she was pregnant, and 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:25.760 that went viral. They're making a bunch of money with 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:28.719 their YouTube page. So now he's just, you know, a 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:33.400 semi celebrity. And people saw his face on the release 0:17:33.600 --> 0:17:35.399 of names, and he was it was all for Twitter, 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:37.879 and somebody somebody tweeted and said, oh my god, this 0:17:37.960 --> 0:17:39.160 is not now. 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:40.480 We have to keep watching because now we don't know 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.240 what's going to happen after that. But let me ask you, 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:44.200 this is the thing that the problem that I have 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:47.199 with the documentary. I think it's fascinating and disgusting at 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:50.119 the same time. It's actually it's actually disgusting like that, 0:17:50.240 --> 0:17:52.399 by the way, like that business model, this life is 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:53.800 too short? Why don't you. 0:17:53.760 --> 0:17:58.720 Cheat have an affair? It's disgusting in ways for sure, 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:01.320 but you gotta admit it's pretty genius if you look 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:03.159