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Speaker 1: My racist mother won't let me have kids with my boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: But what she asked next was even worse.

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Speaker 2: It always happens. How does it get worse? How does

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Speaker 2: it get worse? Sam?

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Speaker 3: How does it always get worse? Can you can you

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Speaker 3: answer me this life question?

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Speaker 1: I think it may maybe because bigotry within the US

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Speaker 1: was slowly dying, and then it was rekindled with the

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Speaker 1: Karens Karen Kens, with certain areas of Twitter and maybe

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Speaker 1: certain areas of Reddit.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Many, many, many areas I think are are at

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Speaker 3: work right now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And so John and I are starting a campaign called

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Speaker 1: Euthanize the Racist.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 1: And so if you'm on board us, if you have

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Speaker 1: a friend that you think is racist, please let let

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Speaker 1: us know, let us know. We'll get it to give

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Speaker 1: it the job address, Give us the address. You don't

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Speaker 1: need to know how it gets done. We just we

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Speaker 1: just get it done. You don't see the garbage man.

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Speaker 1: We just take out the garbage, take out the track.

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Speaker 1: But this mother seems like trash man. We'll see, we'll see.

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Speaker 1: I female, twenty two, have been dating my boyfriend Luca,

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Speaker 1: male twenty three since my senior year of high school.

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Speaker 2: Luca is a great name. I like lucas a good name. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The movie, Yeah, yeah, I just like Pixar movies. That's

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Speaker 1: the real reason I like it. For a little context,

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Speaker 1: Luca is.

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Speaker 4: Infernal day Luca, I'm not shooting bullets anymore.

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Speaker 2: His gonads said stop.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, stop, got to Luca bar got the come on,

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Speaker 4: get the jaculate and his swimmers. My spaghetti will let

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Speaker 4: us spaghetti noodles with no sauce. You know, it never

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Speaker 4: it never gets hard, you know, I can't even It's

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Speaker 4: not I'm not.

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Speaker 2: It's not that he's infernile. He just is. His noodle

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Speaker 2: is just always noodling. Can't name.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't get it any You might as well

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Speaker 1: be for infertile. The frame and the chances of us

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Speaker 1: having our kids are extremely low. I'm well aware of this,

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Speaker 1: and it truly doesn't bother me. Good for you, Good

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Speaker 1: for you. Besides the context that we need that he's

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Speaker 1: extremely infertile. Yeah, I have also never really wanted kids,

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Speaker 1: especially at a young age, because they're like twenty two

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Speaker 1: and twenty three. Luke and I are on the same

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Speaker 1: page and we want to deliver our twenties free the responsibilities

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Speaker 1: kids bring. So we've been raw dyeing it every day,

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Speaker 1: no bag, no problem. My family, on the other hand,

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Speaker 1: does not agree with our way of thinking. I am

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Speaker 1: the only child and the only one left to continue

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Speaker 1: the blood lad In my dad's words, whenever I hear

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Speaker 1: continue the blood ryde and I imagine like a deep South.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you know, yeah, exactly, our pure man Jesus.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 1: We were having dinner and the conversation over dinner was

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Speaker 1: going well until my mom and grandma bought the conversation

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Speaker 1: of marriage and children. They asked when we plan to

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Speaker 1: get married, and we said, it's not really our priority,

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Speaker 1: mind you, we had just begun our careers and are

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Speaker 1: in no financial state to even consider a wedding.

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Speaker 2: Excuse me, have it over a cardboard box.

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Speaker 3: Yes, okay, I have a homeless man officiate your wedding.

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Speaker 2: Hey, they're a hot dog, and that will be cheap.

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Speaker 1: My friends, Hey, come on, budget, spend the money on

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Speaker 1: the honeymoon.

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Speaker 2: There we go.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, on some like fancy priests. That's gonna be like,

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Speaker 1: now pronounce you man and wife and anyone can do that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, come on, just give him a hot dog and

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Speaker 3: be like, hey, I'll buy you a hot dog if

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Speaker 3: you marry us.

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Speaker 1: Right, hot dogs for the homeless. My mom's rebuttal to

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Speaker 1: my state but was that she would cover any expenses,

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Speaker 1: which also meant she would control everything, which maybe is

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Speaker 1: not what you want for your big wedding, you know. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I said firmly, Oh no thanks, we'll wait. They also

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Speaker 1: because my fertility clock is a ticken.

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Speaker 2: Love it and twenty three.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, twenty three, damn how early you want to have them?

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Speaker 1: Bro Luca told them that it was okay because actually

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Speaker 1: he was infertile beer bomb drop, So how does he know?

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Speaker 3: Because he was shooting his shot in some shorties? Is that, like,

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Speaker 3: I mean, is that something you get tested that early?

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Speaker 2: Did they say he had a condition that I don't know?

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Speaker 2: I don't think so.

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Speaker 1: I've never gotten anyone pregnant and I know of that

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Speaker 1: I know of, And I'm like, damn, maybe I'm infertile.

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Speaker 2: That's right, you know.

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Speaker 3: Okopo admits to infertility after a thousand infertility stories.

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Speaker 2: The truth is a field.

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Speaker 1: I'm a little I would be lying. But if I

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Speaker 1: said I wasn't a little worried, I would be.

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Speaker 3: I was just you know, you know what take take that,

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Speaker 3: it's that, it's it's helpful now, you know helpful?

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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so see thee one of the designer babies. If

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Speaker 2: I end up uh being infertile, you know, design a baby,

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Speaker 2: yeah exactly. Uh. My mom goes, so.

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Speaker 1: You won't be giving me propa grandchildren.

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Speaker 2: She then goes and I quote.

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Speaker 1: I already accepted that my grandchild won't be pure with

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Speaker 1: your jeans.

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Speaker 2: And now you say you can't have me at all.

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Speaker 1: I blew up and asked what she meant by pure?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you mean, mama? What do you mean

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Speaker 2: by pure?

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Speaker 3: Huh?

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Speaker 2: And that she was being completely disrespectful to us. Damn

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Speaker 2: straight for real.

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Speaker 1: Luca is Cuban and has a darker complexion, which my

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Speaker 1: family seems to find issue with. Damn racist family. I've

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Speaker 1: come to find out that they have been bad mouthing

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Speaker 1: us behind our backs. She said that we have never

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Speaker 1: had a mixed child in the family. Oh, bro, you

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Speaker 1: all mixed up in the head.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Luca then asked if we were to have a kid,

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Speaker 1: would they not love it because it wouldn't be white.

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Speaker 1: They called him rude for insinuating such a thing.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, he's the rude one.

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Speaker 1: She's picking up what you're putting down straight racism, you know.

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Speaker 1: I backed him up and said, if we have kids

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Speaker 1: or not is up to us, and told them that

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Speaker 1: they were out of line. She also added that if

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Speaker 1: be legit. Yo, you're gonna ruin your family tree when

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Speaker 1: your daughter decides to never talk to you again. Literally,

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Speaker 1: I stood up and left with Luca, ending the conversation

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Speaker 1: with you, because you're a bunch of fed up assholes.

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Speaker 2: I ain't going to take a stand. There we go.

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Speaker 1: That night, I received a text from my mom. She

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Speaker 1: started by saying I was ungrateful and I am a

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Speaker 2: Oh's a disgrace.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Uh. I think there's this little thing called a mirror lady.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, look at its mania face.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I love how Luca just opened up a whole can

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Speaker 1: of worms by saying he was infertile. Man man like, like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I would go to a dinner

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Speaker 2: Bro. He laid his empty balls on the table, dude. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: he was like, hey, my shooters, don't shoot. I'm okay

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Speaker 2: don't care. Yeah, at least I'll pack in something. Though.

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Speaker 1: She's saying I should be ashamed of how I spoke

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Speaker 1: to her and that she deserves an apology. Oh crazy,

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Speaker 1: She called me after I left her on Red and said,

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Speaker 1: I'm being brainwashed by Luca. She says she can arrange

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Speaker 1: an artificial insemination with one of her friend's white sons.

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Speaker 2: How dumb evil can you be that I should.

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Speaker 1: raise them. I called her a lunatic and said she

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Speaker 1: I'm frankly ashamed to call my mother, she cried. I

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Speaker 1: hung up, and I received a text from Dad saying

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Speaker 1: I took it too far.

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Speaker 2: Oh Pete took it too far. Why please buy a mirror?

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Speaker 2: Oh Pete took it too far.

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Speaker 1: Mom's saying, hey, like, why don't I call one of

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Speaker 1: my white friend's children to artificially inseminate you like.

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Speaker 2: The person you're in love with. No, no, never, never,

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Speaker 2: my god, I'm not allowed back in their home.

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Speaker 1: If I don't plead for their forgiveness and obliged by

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Speaker 1: their standards, I replied, f you and block them both. Yes,

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Speaker 1: so so so so John and the Okay fam, what

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Speaker 1: do you think is op the ale? There's also an update?

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Speaker 1: There's also an update, So please, tippy top, what do

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Speaker 1: you think is OPD? A whole want to know your

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Speaker 1: opinions on this, But John, what do you think?

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Speaker 3: Look, you could debate all day long, like oh, like

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Speaker 3: maybe she was she was too harsh or like whatever,

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Speaker 3: or she she was right whatever, blah blah blah. At

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Speaker 3: the end of the day, if if your parents are

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Speaker 3: children because they're racist, how are any of those interactions

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Speaker 3: until they actually like sit down and like admit their

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Speaker 3: from it. Hey, all right, give them give them a

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Speaker 3: chance to grow. Sure, but like at the end of

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Speaker 3: the day, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But they're still asking for an apology for the them,

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Speaker 1: So they don't even realize they aft up be like

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Speaker 1: so they're so far gone, like they don't even realize.

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Speaker 2: But there is an update. Okay, let's go first.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for the support of advice and sweet words.

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Speaker 1: I showed Luca the post and he sat there reading

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Speaker 1: and tying at some of the responses. He has never

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Speaker 1: liked my family to be fair, but put up with

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Speaker 2: Like yeah, that again red flags?

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Speaker 1: Like was there no, there had to be some Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know, I think there were definite but dang, ope,

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Speaker 1: you must be slinging some sweet punani for that man

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Speaker 1: that sweet with your family, you should I choose him

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Speaker 1: over them any day of the week. We also informed

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Speaker 1: his mom, whose English isn't the best. We had to

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Speaker 1: translate it, and she said that I have a family

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Speaker 1: with her and to forget about mine. That's actually really sweet.

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Speaker 2: It is sweet. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: She is the true definition of a good mother and

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Speaker 1: has shown me more unconditional love than my mother has

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Speaker 1: in twenty two years of my life.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: She's also been teaching Spanish and how to cook Cuban food.

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Speaker 1: It was kind of giving a light in this whole situation.

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Speaker 1: I've gone completely no contact with my family as of today.

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Speaker 1: This incident occurred about a week ago. Luke and I

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Speaker 1: have been looking for a place together and my family

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Speaker 1: will not be knowing where that is, so it seems

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Speaker 2: There we go.

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Speaker 1: Heck yeah, an update on the situation. My cousin mom's side,

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Speaker 1: who's a bitch put nicely, seem to have found out

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Speaker 3: There are just some people in these stories that, like

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Speaker 2: Now, I say, overall like improvement for society as a whole.

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Speaker 2: you the next one. Love you.

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Speaker 1: I thought my girlfriend was a nice Christian girl, but

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Speaker 2: Creem eyes ding ding ding dove and is done. Motherfucker.

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Speaker 1: Okay, to start, I'm very conservative, I always have been,

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Speaker 2: Ah. All right, mister op. I met my girlfriend at church.

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Speaker 2: your morals and all this stuff? Like, Yeah, I thought

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Speaker 1: After three years, I think maybe this girl is the

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Speaker 1: So they've been dating for three years, he's in a

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Speaker 2: Come on?

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Speaker 2: Later on, i'm alone with this guy and I bring

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Speaker 1: At this point, I was thinking, maybe she did something

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Speaker 2: Now that's what I call extra credit. Oh, plus, turn

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I love how that's like the first

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Speaker 2: Man? I feel like I'm dying. There's no there's no

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Speaker 1: Bro?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I dude, I I mean this one, No, this

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Speaker 3: I feel for her because that's like such a hard

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Speaker 2: I feel like he was trying to sabotage the relationship.

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Speaker 3: Honestly. Maybe maybe he didn't get his piece back in

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Speaker 2: That sucks. Rough situation