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Speaker 1: You are looking for momentum, not motivation. People think the

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Speaker 1: motivation comes first, but actually motivation comes after you start.

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Speaker 1: I'm rathery Wukiah and on my podcast A Really Good Cry,

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Speaker 1: we embrace the messy.

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Speaker 2: And the beautiful, providing a space for.

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Speaker 1: Raw, unfielded conversations that celebrate vulnerability and allow you to

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Speaker 1: tune in to learn, connect and find comfort together. Hello,

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Speaker 1: sweet little dumplings. So I hope you're all having such

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Speaker 1: a wonderful, wonderful day. Welcome back to A Really Good Cry.

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Speaker 1: Today we are going to talk about something that I

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Speaker 1: have personally struggled with four years, and somebody recently asked

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Speaker 1: Do is, let's talk about how you can go from

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Speaker 1: What kind of actions do I need to take in

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Speaker 1: So today I'm going to break down why starting is hard,

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Speaker 1: Never let two days pass without touching your goal. Even

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Speaker 1: if you have five minutes. It doesn't have to be

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Speaker 1: thirty minutes, it doesn't have to be an hour. You

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Speaker 1: just need to write one sentence, read one page, do

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Speaker 1: to keep the momentum going. So I hope this podcast

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Speaker 1: made you realize that you are absolutely capable of becoming

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Speaker 1: someone who starts and someone who finishes something, not through pressure,

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Speaker 1: but through awareness and intention and all these tiny repeated

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Speaker 1: actions that feel really really boring sometimes, but what's necessary

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Speaker 1: that feels boring and monotonous. I know that that boredom

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Speaker 1: And knowing all of this should help you to realize

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Speaker 1: that it is a process in a cycle that everybody

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Speaker 1: me know if you have any tips for everybody in

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Speaker 1: this community. When I share this podcast, you know, send

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Speaker 1: me a DM, share it in the comments of any

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Speaker 1: of the posts that we do about it, And it's

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Speaker 1: so nice to learn from each other.

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Speaker 2: So these are just some of.

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Speaker 1: The tips that I have learned and that have helped me.

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Speaker 1: But I'm sure you all have so many great ideas

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Speaker 1: for this too. Sending on so much love, and I'm

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Speaker 1: so excited to hear about all the projects that you

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Speaker 1: finished after you listened to this episode.

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