WEBVTT - Baby Brady 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.960 Hell I Suck at Dating with Dengler Dared Haven and 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:11.080 I heard radio podcast What's Up? Everyone, Welcome to a 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:15.360 very special bonus episode of Help I Suck At Dating? 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:17.439 And now you might be asking yourself, why is this 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:20.560 a bonus episode? What's so bonus about it? Well, I'll 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:24.120 tell you what's so bonus about it. It's a big day, 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:28.319 big day for the Haven household because today is the 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:32.239 day that Tom Brady retired. So so, Jared, how do 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:34.640 you feel about the Tom I'm just kidding. We don't 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:37.640 care about Tom Brady retiring. What we really care about 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:41.280 Jared Phillis in on the New Life update. Come on, well, 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:43.839 of course Ashley just gave birth, but also Tom retired, 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:45.879 which is very sad, unbelievable. Hold on, I do have 0:00:45.920 --> 0:00:50.080 to say he he retires literally the day after my 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:52.360 son is born, which is why we added the name 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:56.560 Brady because his name was initially Dawson Dmitri Haven And 0:00:56.600 --> 0:00:58.640 everybody's like, oh, you're not gonna name him Tom or 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:00.320 Brady and we're like, no, I might be too much, 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:02.480 too on the nose. Blatah blahdah blah. Then the news 0:01:02.480 --> 0:01:05.399 came out Saturday that Tom was going to retire, and 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:07.319 even though it wasn't official, it felt like it was 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:09.319 only days away before he finally announced it, and I 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:12.520 was like, Damn, Ashley and I both were like, maybe 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:14.640 we should have Brady in there, Like we love this 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.880 guy so much, you know, it's so us to name, 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:20.680 like have Brady in there. We were thinking, like, we 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:22.759 still like Dawson Dmitri, so we don't want to take 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:24.800 that away. Is it weird to have him Dawson Dmitri 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:27.039 Brady have been because he's still gonna go by Dawson 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:29.960 Dmitri more than anything. And then we were looking it 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:31.959 up and it's much more common than you think to 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:34.000 have four names. So we were like, screw it, like 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:36.959 we're going to regret it. We love Tom Brady, so 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:39.119 screw it. So we put the name Brady in there. 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:41.839 I like to think that it was like Tom Brady 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:44.200 almost knew that Dawson was just born. He's like, you 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:47.360 know what, it's my time. My time has come. The 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:50.120 throne will be passed once this young man grows to 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:52.760 be of age and I can finally say my piece 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:55.320 and get out of here. A thousand percent of somebody 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:59.320 texted me and said, I think. Uh. Like he was like, 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:01.360 I think God just wanted to give you the joy 0:02:01.400 --> 0:02:03.680 of having a son before giving you the trauma that 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:07.080 is Tom Brady retiring, right right, Because it's Tom Brady retired, 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:09.040 you'd be so upset, but you can't be upset because 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:10.960 you just had a brand new baby boy. Um no, 0:02:11.160 --> 0:02:15.560 and it's it's awesome. So yeah, Ashley wooked me up 0:02:16.480 --> 0:02:20.600 Monday morning yesterday at like a little after one, and 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:24.320 she's like, I think I'm having contractions, and I was like, 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:25.760 all right. She's like, I'm gonna give it a couple 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:28.079 of minutes because they feel like period cramps, but they're 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:30.960 pretty intense, and she's like, I have this, and so 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:32.560 she's like, I'm just gonna give it another minute or so, 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:35.000 because they've been happening every what feels like ten minutes. 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:37.640 And so another ten minutes goes by and she's like, 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:40.440 it's happening again, and so we're like, let's just go 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:42.079 to the hospital, because of course we want to get there. 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:44.639 So we called everybody then we needed a call, went 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:47.760 to the hospital, and thank god we did, because you know, 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:49.640 of course they found out that she was an active 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:52.799 labor and and the contraction started getting a lot worse, 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:55.919 but we were able to get there in time. She 0:02:56.000 --> 0:03:00.480 got the upper dural, thank god, because she was progressing 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:04.320 so fast that the doctor said, had she been there 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:06.400 an hour later, she probably wouldn't have had time for 0:03:06.400 --> 0:03:09.600 an eper. Darl and Ashley would have flipped or lid. 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:12.640 So yeah, you know when we got to the hospital. 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:14.799 It's so weird though, because every time you watch a movie, 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:17.920 it's like the woman is rushing into the hospital in 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:20.760 the wheelchair and they're like, you know, even me, I 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:22.639 walked in the hospital, I was like, hey, my wife's 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:25.680 in labor, like almost expecting them to hit like a 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:31.200 red button and did like alert alert like um. But 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:33.120 there he was like, yeah, okay, go checking out the 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:35.960 front desk and I was like okay, and I was like, 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:39.440 did I mention my wife's in labor and um, so 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:41.320 of course, I mean they worked as fast as they can, 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:43.040 but we're still at the front desk for like ten 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:46.040 fifteen minutes, like going over health insurance. And meanwhile, like 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:48.160 I could tell Ashley like every few minutes is getting 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:51.040 a contraction because she's wincing, and I'm like, this is 0:03:51.040 --> 0:03:52.680 not how I thought it was gonna play out. We 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:54.760 finally got in the doctor's room and they checked her 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:57.720 and she was about five centiments dilated. Sorry, my dogs 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:01.720 are freaking out, um, but she was five centimeters dilated 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:04.800 and she was having contractions every four or five minutes, 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:10.320 which is fast, especially for a first baby. She began 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:14.160 to be an active labor labor probably a little before 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:16.159 two am, and we get you know, she gave birth 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:19.120 at ten one am to Dawson, so she was only 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:21.320 in labor for about eight hours, which is fast because 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:23.360 usually they say you you should plan on for like 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:25.600 eighteen to twenty four hours for your first kid. I 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:28.320 was gonna say I didn't based off a very limited information, 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:30.320 but just judging by your Instagram story and then like 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:32.880 the follow up stories and posted all that kind of stuff, 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:35.880 I was like that, it seemed like gonna happen pretty quickly. Yeah, 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:39.200 and uh, it was insane because you know, after she 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:40.960 got the emperdul, they were like, Okay, we'll check up 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:42.680 on you in a couple of hours or in an 0:04:42.680 --> 0:04:46.000 hour or so and make sure that you're okay and comfortable. 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:48.040 If you need anything, bring this blah blah blah blah blah, 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:50.400 and so she's laying there and like fifteen minutes goes 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:54.960 by and she's like, I feel like I need to poop. 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:57.560 And that's the first sign that you're ready to push. 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:00.400 It's so weird, but as a woman, a sign to 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:02.800 know that, like, hey, you're ready to start pushing is 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:06.160 you have this feeling like you have to go poop constantly. 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:08.840 And so she was like, maybe it's passing. I'll let 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:11.359 it go, and it was consistent for about ten fifteen minutes. 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:13.479 She's like, no, that feeling hasn't gone away. So the 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:15.320 doctor came back in. They were like yeah, So they 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:17.880 tried pushing for a couple minutes um, but then the 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:21.040 baby wasn't in the right position, so they needed for 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:23.200 like forty five minutes. She needed to do some maneuvers 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:25.640 on the bed, like she was doing some yoga poses 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:28.000 to make sure that you know, Dawson's head was as 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:32.520 close to the southern border as possible and um, and 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:34.680 then we started pushing again and she pushed for about 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:37.520 an hour and a half before Dawson entered this world. 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:41.039 And Okay, so when you said five centimeters dilated or 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:43.279 millimeters however money it was, does that not mean that 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:45.719 his head is five meters millimeters poking out of the 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:49.680 So you so a woman needs to be that's awesome. 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.360 Trust me, I didn't know these answers either. I figured 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:54.600 five five millimeters dial it and meant that he was 0:05:54.640 --> 0:05:57.480 like crowning at five millimeters or I don't know. No, 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:02.120 So her well, I mean that's her vagina needs to 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:04.599 be able to open a certain amount of centimeters in 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:08.680 order the baby come out safely, and that number apparently 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:12.720 is ten centimeters. So she, uh, they needed to wait 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:15.840 until she was dilated till tense centimeters before they could 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.320 start pushing, and it wasn't that bad. She you know, 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:19.680 like we said, we got to the hospital a little 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.720 bit before two am, and she was dilated tense centimeters 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:25.119 about seven am, so that's when we started pushing. Pretty 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:26.800 nice to be able to drive to the hospital at 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:28.960 that time because the road is probably clear, you're just 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:31.239 confined down the road. We got there in like twenty 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:35.320 five minutes, smooth sailing, and uh, as you know, as 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:38.039 the guy, it's just more I'm I'm just you know. 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:39.919 I was right there though when she started pushing, I 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:42.920 had a foot and so I was holding her foot 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:46.600 and pushing her leg back, and it's it's it's so 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:50.159 much more um, you know, knock on Wood went so smoothly. 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:52.000 It's so much more calm than you'd think, because it's 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.560 just you know, you're just there and she's pushing and 0:06:54.600 --> 0:06:56.600 I'm holding a foot, and the you know, the doctors 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:59.039 at the end, you know, just doing whatever that she 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:02.640 needs to do down there, and and you know they're 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:04.560 not really hiding much. You know, they always say like, 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:07.080 don't look underneath the curtain. There is really no curtain. 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:11.000 It's just like all out there. Um. And so I 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:13.480 ended up, you know, as we've talked about on this 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:17.800 podcast before, my stories about passing out in movies, I 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:19.800 was thinking, oh god, am I gonna faint right now? 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:23.400 But I looked and I was fine. It wasn't. I 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:25.640 didn't find a gross at all. Um. The only time 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:27.720 I found a gross was when T M I. But 0:07:28.000 --> 0:07:30.360 you know, I could see the doctor's hands, which of 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:34.239 course they were scrubbed up and glubbed up, covered in blood. 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:39.400 And that's when you're like, like, that's crazy. It just 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:42.720 looked like, you know, they stabbed someone. And um, I 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:47.880 will say it was pretty crazy when you know, they're 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:49.960 telling you that the heads popping out, and I can see, 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:53.120 like I'm looking at Ashley while she's pushing, and like, 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:55.960 out of my peripheral I can see like the head 0:07:56.400 --> 0:07:59.960 just sliding out. I'm like, holy sh that's the head 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:05.040 of my son. Um and uh and then he came 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:08.800 out and it was just like, now there's a baby. 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:11.720 There's a baby in this world. And uh, it was 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:15.440 weird because full disclosure, you know, so many times as 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:17.120 we talked about this podcast, especially as a guy, I 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:20.000 have been so detached that I was almost waiting for 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:24.320 this overwhelming moment of just unconditional love to just weigh 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:27.480 over me. And that didn't happen. You know, of course 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:29.360 I got emotional and it was my son, and like, 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:32.080 there's this baby here, and actually just pushed him out, 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:34.720 and you know, I started getting choked up from being 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:37.800 overwhelmed in the moment, but I didn't feel this overwhelming 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:41.080 sense of like, that's my son, I'm his father, and 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:43.560 it concerned me. I was thinking, oh, no, do I 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:47.199 have no soul? Am I a bad human being? And 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:51.160 then uh, you know, of course I start spending more 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.080 time with HIMIM holding him in my arms, and I 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:57.280 start feeding him, and he's looking at me. And when 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:59.520 he's looking at me and I'm feeding him the bottle 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:02.600 and he's kind of crying or making those little noises 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:04.680 and like I actually and I were talking about because 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:07.080 we just got back to the house and how like 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:12.320 my love for him has already grown exponentially. Um, and 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:14.040 I can only imagine what it's going to be like, 0:09:14.160 --> 0:09:17.679 you know, tomorrow or the next day. And uh, it's 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:32.400 pretty cool. It's uh, it's cool. Did you gonna cut 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:34.920 the U bilical cord and stuff? I did cut the cord. 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:36.560 I didn't think I was gonna do it, but the 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:37.880 doctor was like, you want to cut it? And I 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:39.920 was like, yeah, sure, why not, We're right here. So 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:41.439 they clipped them up and I got to cut the 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:45.440 chord and and um, you know, I've I've changed his 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:49.520 diaper twice already, and uh, it's it's it's been good. 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:51.920 It's uh, you know, he's just this little thing. He 0:09:51.960 --> 0:09:54.040 was born eight pounds four ounces, so he was pretty 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:57.320 good sized. And he was ten days early. So if 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:00.320 Ashley gave birth on her due day, he would have 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:03.840 been a monster. Um. So he was born officially what 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:08.360 January thirty one, January thirty one, at ten one am. 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:13.080 A little weird story to her. Ashley's mom's birth birthday 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:17.000 is was yesterday, January thirty one, so Dawson was born 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:20.839 on his grandmother's birthday on his mom's side, and then 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:25.080 he was born at ten twenty one am. Coincidentally, my 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:31.360 mom's birthday is October one, so kind of incorporated both grandmas, 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:34.679 which was really cool. Isn't his middle name based uh 0:10:34.840 --> 0:10:38.440 off of one of your grandparents names as well? No, 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:42.520 so his Ashley's dad's name is Dominic and I we 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:45.640 both loved that name Dominic, but Lauren wants to name 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:48.000 her child, so that name was out. And then we 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:50.720 were thinking about D names for some reason, and Dmitri 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:52.679 came up and that's how we were like, man, we 0:10:52.840 --> 0:10:56.079 really like Dmitri. Dmitri because Ashley has always loved the 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:59.080 name Demitrius, and she was like, Dawson Demitria. I like 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:00.679 the sound of that. And that's where de met you 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:02.640 came from. I mean, hey, there's nothing wrong with the 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:04.320 D name. I think once you name a baby with 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:08.920 the first letter D, destined for greatness obviously, Um, well, congrats, man, 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:10.839 we're so excited for you. I can't believe that the 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:12.839 day is finally here. And if I'm excited, I can 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.839 only imagine how excited you are. Um, how bunch of 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:18.120 rest did you guys get when you got home? It 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:20.640 wasn't bad last night, So knock on one again. I 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:23.600 don't want to jinx anything, but he's been so chill, 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:27.000 he's been sleeping a lot. He only had really one 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:33.280 fuss um and it lasted like three minutes. Uh. And 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.319 he got his first bath this morning. The nurse gave 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:39.760 him a bath and she was like, oh, he's he's 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:41.760 gonna cry after this, like he's gonna get a little 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.360 fuss say that I don't like their first bath. He 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:46.920 was fine, didn't cry at all, went back immediate and 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:48.679 the crab and fell asleep. And she goes, I've been 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:50.800 working there for fourteen years. That's probably the second or 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:52.760 third baby I've ever given a bath too that has 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:55.160 not cried. That's a good sign. It's a great sign. 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:58.480 So I hope it continues because he's nothing like his 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:00.600 mom and dad. Because we're paying in the asses and 0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:03.800 overly emotional. So you guys just got back from the 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:08.200 hospital like right now, literally five minutes ago. Yeah, okay, Yeah, 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:09.679 I guess I kind of assumed you guys were like 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:12.079 running errands or something, but yeah, that makes sense. That typical. 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:13.520 I feel like you spend two to three days in 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:16.160 the hospital. Yeah, so we were going to spend two nights, 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:19.760 but uh, Ashley gave birth so quickly, like we said, 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:21.319 it was about eight hours. So he was born ten 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:24.480 thirty yesterday morning, and you know, he had visits with 0:12:24.520 --> 0:12:27.520 the pediatrician and he uh you know, had the dur 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:30.680 durses hunt, the doctors and the nurses do all their 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:34.280 testing and everything looked good and and so Ashley looked 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:36.600 good because obviously they didn't make sure that she's okay 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:40.120 and kept an eye on her and and uh, everything 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:43.079 went smoothly. And so yesterday they said it's up to you. 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:44.480 You know, you guys are more than welcome to stay 0:12:44.480 --> 0:12:47.000 two nights if you'd like. But you know, if everything 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:49.120 checks out, you'll probably be able to leave, you know, 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:51.480 tomorrow evening at some point. Why wouldn't you want to 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:53.079 get home? All right? Well, I know it's only been 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:56.360 not even thirty six hours since the birth of your firstborn, 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:59.400 But does this encourage you or discourage you? Guys? To 0:12:59.440 --> 0:13:05.400 have maybe more kids. Uh, it's so weird. I don't 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:09.880 know it's really going to If if I had to 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:13.679 lean towards one way, I would say, of course more kids. Um, 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:16.920 but um, I guess we'll see. How you know, the 0:13:16.920 --> 0:13:19.480 first six months ago, first year a gooes. You know, 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:23.040 how traumatizing it is or how wonderful it is. It's 0:13:23.080 --> 0:13:26.480 just it's interesting to see how low maintenance the baby 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:29.280 has been so far, considering how high maintenance he was 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:33.640 when he was in Ashley's stomach. I know, so weird. Um. 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:38.160 He loves food, loves food, Bro's what do you mean? 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:40.760 He just probably drinks formula or milk or something right 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:43.400 like well, because the nurses are like, oh he may 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:46.400 you know, not want to eat. At first, he's been 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:50.080 chugging formula. He cries, We give him a bottle, immediately 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:53.600 falls asleep. He's fine, and he's they want ten million 0:13:53.679 --> 0:13:55.760 leaders the first So the first couple of times he feeds, 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:57.480 they really say, okay, you're gonna feed him every three 0:13:57.480 --> 0:14:00.120 hours pretty much, and he should only have about ten 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:03.760 million leaders each feeding. And he sucks it down I'm 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:05.920 not joking, probably eight or nine seconds, and I'm like 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:09.280 I feel so bad because they always say, oh, if 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:11.720 if he's sucking his lips or like looking for a 0:14:11.800 --> 0:14:14.080 bottle or sucking his fingers, he might be still hungry. 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:16.840 And I'm like, this kid is doing so I've been 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:18.880 giving a little bit more food, a little bit more food, 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:23.480 and um, he's happy. Nice. Um. And you guys have 0:14:23.520 --> 0:14:25.080 like the baby room and everything. I already prep for 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:28.400 him pretty much. So we're in Virginia obviously, but we 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:30.240 have a little the guest room we've kind of turned 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:33.160 into a nursery, so we have the crib ready to go, 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:36.200 which we'll sleep downstairs in the guest bedroom and he'll 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.040 sleep with us, not in the bed, but in the crib. 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:39.800 And then how long did you guys get back up 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:43.360 to Rhode Island. Uh? So, I'm going to stay here, 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:45.600 probably at least another week and a half. I think 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:47.600 the tentative plan is I'll be here for about another 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:50.360 week and a half, head back home for a few days, 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:52.920 be at the shop, you know, make sure everything's good, 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:56.040 catch up on things, drive down here, get the car, 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:59.600 drive down here, spend like another couple of nights here 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:01.680 and then and we'll pack the car together and then 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.080 drive up together. Well, so it's gonna be like a 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:06.240 good ten hours right now, it's about six and a half. 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:09.000 About traffic, it's really not bad. Okay, it's not bad. No, 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:11.480 dang well, I mean a lot on the on the 0:15:11.560 --> 0:15:14.080 horizon for you guys. That's pretty exciting. It's good. It's good, 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:15.680 guys to be able to get back and like, obviously 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:17.200 have you guys back in the same household. I know 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:18.960 you guys have been doing like a kind of like 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:20.880 a long distance thing for a couple of weeks at least, 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:22.320 so it's gonna be good to have everyone in the 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:24.720 same root for a while. Yeah, it's crazy, and I'm 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:28.520 excited for my parents to meet him. And um, like 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:30.520 Lauren is coming over right now to meet him. She 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:33.000 couldn't because you know, with COVID protocols they want along 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:37.200 anybody in the hospital. So um, it was it was 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:39.480 cool man. Yeah, it's just like so weird. Like now 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:43.960 we have a baby and he's here and uh um 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:46.480 it's fun though, It's it's been fun thus far, and 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:48.120 I think the fun is only gonna get better. I 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:50.720 mean there's gonna be trying times obviously, but even snuggling 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:54.280 with him and like having him just so I having 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:57.680 something even it's only been twenty four hours, so dependent 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:02.720 on you, um, you know, just it makes you love 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:06.040 him so much. So I'm excited for the Netflix documentary 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:07.760 that's gonna come out in about five years from now 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:11.080 about your nationally story. And it's gonna start with Bachelor 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:14.200 in Paradise Season one or two whatever. The first one 0:16:14.400 --> 0:16:17.400 was Bachelor Paradise Season two. It's gonna show your guys 0:16:17.280 --> 0:16:18.880 as highs and your lows, and it's gonna move out 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:21.320 of this season three Highs and Lows, and then it's 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:23.320 gonna move on to Bachelor Winner Games. It's gonna show 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:26.640 Bachelor in Paradise Australia, and then it's gonna show some 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:28.760 of your guys videos and then all of a sudden, 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:30.360 it's going to be this video right here about you 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:33.680 talking about your brand new little baby boy. Unbelievable. Man. Yeah, 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:36.240 it's been a wild ride to say the least, and 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:39.520 there's we've talked about it again on the podcast numbers times, 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:44.480 but there's definitely uh um, excitement and trepredation when like 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:47.120 talking to Dawson about like, hey, this is how your 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:50.320 mom and dad met. It's not always perfect um, but 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:52.360 now there's life or love. So but I think it's 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:53.800 kind of a cool thing, Like he's gonna be able 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:56.400 to look back and like have some visual like representation 0:16:56.480 --> 0:16:59.040 of how his parents like kind of got along at first. 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:00.680 And sure, I think a lot of the stuff will 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:02.600 be led out, left out, for sure, but like it's 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:03.880 still gonna be fun for him to be able to 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:06.159 look back and see that, you know, I I hope so. 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:09.120 I think so too, so, especially because it ended so positively, 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:10.920 Like I mean, you know, when he's old enough, I 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:13.520 would imagine, like, you know, mid teenager, like he'll have 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:15.479 a good perspective on kind of what was going on. 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:17.800 And it's like, I mean, you know, at that point too, 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:19.800 it's like, oh, both my parents are still happily married, 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:21.240 Like why wouldn't I want to go back and see 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.240 them fall in love and all that kind of stuff. 0:17:23.280 --> 0:17:24.639 I just think that's really cool, and I think it's 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:27.640 a very unique situation for a kid to be able 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:30.240 to be in. But it's definitely unique and I'm excited 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:32.840 for like his first as well. Obviously that's such a 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.040 generic answer and everybody says that, But even when we 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:38.919 were walking to the car, and we stepped outside and 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:41.320 I was like, this is the first time Dawson has 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:46.200 ever been outside. Yeah, this is the first time. Yeah, 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:48.280 son has ever been on his face. This is the 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:51.239 first time ever. And it was like it was just, 0:17:51.680 --> 0:17:55.600 you know, so wacky to think about, like took it 0:17:55.600 --> 0:17:58.720 in from walking around. Yeah, first steps, Yeah, I have 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:01.680 those happened. When do those happen first? Yeah? He said 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:06.639 his first words. It was Tom Brady, Um. But yeah, 0:18:06.720 --> 0:18:09.679 it's cool, man. So like his first car ride, you know, 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:11.919 even putting the car seat in, it was like, you know, 0:18:12.359 --> 0:18:14.399 so many times you hear about it when you're becoming 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:16.520 a dad, and it's like the car seat right, You 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:18.919 gotta get the car seat right. So as I was 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:21.560 doing it and buckling it in, I'm like, holy, this 0:18:21.640 --> 0:18:23.680 is that moment for me right now where like you 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:25.639 always think about the first time you see it on 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:28.000 TV and movies like the dad can't put it in right, 0:18:28.240 --> 0:18:30.600 And of course I was struggling with it, and I'm like, 0:18:30.640 --> 0:18:33.760 oh my god, this is crazy. What is my life 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:38.360 right now? Pretty amazing? Man? Uh has Like I mean, 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:40.520 obviously like everything's changed for you in that regard, but 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:42.760 like as most of it said, in yet, like you 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:45.320 have a freaking kid, like or is it still pretty? 0:18:45.960 --> 0:18:49.360 It's still it definitely hasn't said in yet because it's 0:18:49.440 --> 0:18:52.479 just weird to think that we have a kid ashually 0:18:52.520 --> 0:18:56.840 and I have to have a son, you know. Um, 0:18:56.920 --> 0:18:58.800 you know, I think about my own parents and now, 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:01.920 like the the way I view them, he's going to 0:19:02.080 --> 0:19:04.560 view us, and that is something I can't wrap my 0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:07.440 head around yet and I'm sure at some point it will, 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:11.800 but uh, definitely not yet. Yeah. Well, hey, we're super 0:19:11.840 --> 0:19:14.520