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Speaker 1: But people on TikTok share clips of other people, so

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Speaker 1: Bad parent because moments like that would be hard to

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Speaker 1: Oh god, let's talk about doing business with friends. Don't

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Speaker 2: So one of the things was people were.

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Speaker 1: I created the term food noise.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, I did. I wrote about it in a book.

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Speaker 1: There's proof the Toast Kwadia Ashri. Everyone was criticizing, saying, no,

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Speaker 1: So you are so very fucking welcome. I did invent

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Speaker 1: You're allowed to feel good. You're allowed to be happy.

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Speaker 1: And you know what, you should say it too. Look

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Speaker 1: well it is. Look how I wrap this gift? Look

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