1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,280 Speaker 1: Your partner wants to break you up and thanks you 2 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: freaking ugly. Really maybe, but we're going to find out today. 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:08,880 Speaker 2: We're going to prove that your partner secretly hates you 4 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:09,560 Speaker 2: or not. 5 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 1: You decide the comments with three stories. 6 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 2: About vindictive partners that only get worse. 7 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: Let's go my husband. It says I need to go 8 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: on a diet. I refused. Ah uh oh uh oh. 9 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 1: My partner forty one male and I forty three female, 10 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:26,840 Speaker 1: mostly a stay at home mom, have been struggling in 11 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: the last while. Really, I'd say my kids four male 12 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: and eleven month old baby female, and the pandemic have 13 00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: stressed our relationship plus two big moves. It's all just 14 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: been so hard to make time for each other and 15 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: we are just. 16 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 3: In survival mode because you don't have enough protein. 17 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 1: Get more protein. 18 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:45,239 Speaker 2: I feel like I need to have more protein now 19 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:46,199 Speaker 2: that I'm a climber. 20 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:49,279 Speaker 1: See maybe Riley can yep, there we go, There we go. 21 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 1: Nice God. I've been trying to break out of our 22 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: roommates set up by bringing our baby girl into our 23 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: bed when she wakes up for the first time, as 24 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: I've fallen into co sleeping with her in her room 25 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 1: because she wakes up a lot more. If not, I'm 26 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: trying to break out of our roommates, trying to break out. 27 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:07,840 Speaker 2: Of our roommates set up, because like they have your 28 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 2: baby girl into our bed, like the kid is like. 29 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:12,399 Speaker 1: A roommate, or she has a little roommate. 30 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:15,040 Speaker 2: Probably the roommate set up is like the kid. 31 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 1: Is like a roommate right where the kids. 32 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 2: She's like, I just want to have the baby in 33 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 2: the bed. 34 00:01:19,319 --> 00:01:21,400 Speaker 1: We will see. But this comes from Sweaty Turn Up 35 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: twenty eight fifteen on the ar slash. Okay, start time 36 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 1: suppered it. So last night we watched the show and 37 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: we were chatting, and I brought out a bowl and 38 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: two forks for the piece of pie that I had 39 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: warmed up Delicious Pie season pist Season. I also bought 40 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: a small pie a few days before as a special 41 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:38,679 Speaker 1: treat for a little playdate for my son and his friend. 42 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: A little section was left, and I thought that it 43 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,240 Speaker 1: should get eaten before it went bad. Now it was 44 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: later in the day, around nine thirty or ten PM. 45 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: A few nights before, he brought us each a bowl 46 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: of ice cream while hanging out, and I thought it 47 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: was such a cute gesture. Well, last night it was not. 48 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 1: My partner said it was too late for that much 49 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 1: sugar and grew quiet. And while I tried chatting with him, 50 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 1: he was pretty shut down and just said that he 51 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 1: was going to go to bed. What I was pushing 52 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: at trying to figure out what was wrong and why 53 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,640 Speaker 1: he was upset, And that's when we got into it. 54 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: He started saying, this conversation never ends well for us. 55 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: But I was very much like, hey, we should be 56 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,959 Speaker 1: able to talk about things. So for context, we've absolutely 57 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 1: fought about food before. My husband is a healthy guy 58 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 1: who will eat almonds at night for snacks, freak closers 59 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 1: and has trained and did an iron man before we 60 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: before we met freak close it is naturally tall and slim, 61 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: and does active outdoor activities at least a couple of 62 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:39,680 Speaker 1: times a week if conditions are right. Free, I'm the 63 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: female couch potato version of him. 64 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 4: Huh. 65 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 1: I'm short, naturally carry more weight in the hips, stomach, 66 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: and thighs, and carry extra weight since having our daughter. 67 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 1: I probably weigh around thirty pounds more now than when 68 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: we met. 69 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 2: Ah, So you had a baby, just had a baby. 70 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 1: You just had a baby. 71 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:58,919 Speaker 2: You're gonna have a little bit more. Wait, your body 72 00:02:59,040 --> 00:02:59,959 Speaker 2: carries way differently. 73 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:03,799 Speaker 1: It's how it works. You just pushed a baby out 74 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:07,679 Speaker 1: the way, boy, you push out the baby, things change 75 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:09,960 Speaker 1: and change. Get yostitch. 76 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 2: That's to your husband. 77 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 1: We love you exactly. I think it's important to work out, 78 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: but I also love to bake, which I did not 79 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 1: have much time for over the last few years. And 80 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: I like sweets. I'll even admit here it is my 81 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:24,679 Speaker 1: low key. That's a good nah, not the worst. I 82 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: don't drink very often. I don't want to. But if 83 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: someone handed me a hot chocolate every night, I'd be thrilled. 84 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 1: Oh it's just what I like. 85 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 2: If I could get that hot chocolate from the Simpsons 86 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 2: episode you know where Ned makes like a really fancy 87 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 2: hot chocolates. Anyone know what I'm talking about. 88 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 1: Yes, we do, and I love that Yeah episode, I 89 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: feel like i've seen it, but I remember it started 90 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 1: with him saying he's concerned with my health and he 91 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 1: thinks it's important for us to be in good shape, 92 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 1: to avoid disease and to be around our kids. True 93 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 1: and true. 94 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 4: Uh. 95 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: He then talked about me and sugar. He said it's 96 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: the equivalent of someone having three beers a night and 97 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: having a beer belly, or at least that was the 98 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: analogy he was working with. When I stopped it, that's crazy, dude, 99 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, so I have a beer belly. 100 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: This is not the same. You don't understand the hormones, 101 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: the breastfeeding, everything I've gone through to have these kids. Yeah, hey, 102 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I've been carrying your child. 103 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:18,480 Speaker 2: You know if she freaking carried my child and then 104 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 2: was like I want a pie. I mean, like, yes, 105 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 2: I have a pie. 106 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:25,039 Speaker 1: Hey, Sophia, did you know? Okay, so when you have 107 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 1: a baby, right, you're carrying the weight of the baby 108 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: is there? Like you know, all these things happen right right, 109 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: it's kind of crazy. So you gain this weight, it's 110 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: like you ate two full cakes today. Yeah, that's what 111 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: it's like. 112 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 2: That's what it's like. It's like if you were actually. 113 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:41,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, that'd actually even better. It's like you drank two 114 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: cakes tonight. Come on, two kegs. So it's not like 115 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 1: I have independently have extra fat. That's not the same. 116 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:52,240 Speaker 1: It's related to the kids. As we were saying, also, FYI, 117 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 1: I had lost some weight post the first kid, but 118 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 1: not all and very slowly, so I have more of 119 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:00,680 Speaker 1: a give it some time a approach with him, and 120 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:03,360 Speaker 1: he finally just said, it's not attractive. 121 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 2: Your attitude isn't attractive. 122 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:12,280 Speaker 1: Basically saying that he's not attracted to me now, which 123 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: felt like a full blow to my self esteem and 124 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: the good feelings I was starting to have about my 125 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 1: body and working out again lately. She's already on the path. 126 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:25,480 Speaker 2: That is ridiculous to say to someone I don't think 127 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 2: you're being healthy when they're actively working. 128 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 1: Out, Yeah, when they're like working out yeah, Because it's 129 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: like if once someone is like especially like they're early 130 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:37,359 Speaker 1: on the path, it's a positive reforment. It's so demoralized 131 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 1: that I'm just gonna stop. Yeah, you're freaking Yeah. I 132 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: told him what he was saying is really hurting me. 133 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 1: And the very thing that he talks about, which is 134 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 1: that he liked more intimacy. I'm like, I need to 135 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:49,920 Speaker 1: feel confident and beautiful to want to have that intimacy, 136 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,480 Speaker 1: and you've just heard that. If I know you aren't 137 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: attracted to me, why would I want to be naked 138 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: in front of you? 139 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:59,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're making her insecure and she's probably freaking hot. 140 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:02,720 Speaker 1: Exactly, and he's, uh not. She's like, listen, if you 141 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: want to help yourself, buddy, yeah, and get me back 142 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: in this sack breaking my back literally, let me cook. 143 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: He also said that the way I was being defensive 144 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: is just like his dad to his mom, who have 145 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 1: spent years fighting about his dad's low key drinking problems. 146 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 4: And wait, this is insane that he is comparing her 147 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 4: baby weight to. 148 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 2: She's having a. 149 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:27,599 Speaker 1: Mini pie, sir. 150 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:33,600 Speaker 2: A night. No, No, like she's having a mini pie. 151 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 2: This is what he's getting upset about. She's having a 152 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 2: mini pie. She's having desserts and some people have ice 153 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:41,040 Speaker 2: cream every night. That's like, what the frig is your problem? Man? 154 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: You should be eating chyrogenically frozen fiber stalks. 155 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:45,040 Speaker 3: Yeah. 156 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 2: He's like, you can lick. 157 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:48,480 Speaker 1: Vitamin like one of those sugar gummies. 158 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's it. 159 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: Then, or you know what, we just lick vitamins. You 160 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 1: can't even eat them. That's too much. 161 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 2: No, it's too much sugar. 162 00:06:57,480 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 1: Oh my god. And he thinks that I deflect and 163 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:03,279 Speaker 1: deny instead of owning my issues, like he very much 164 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: foresees me being like, yes, you're right, I'll cut back 165 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:07,840 Speaker 1: on my sugar, I eat too much, And I had 166 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:09,960 Speaker 1: to say, like, you're not the food police. Yeah, I 167 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 1: don't want this to be an issue, But because of 168 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: his vibe with you, I find myself feeling very weird 169 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: around food. Yeah, Like, I don't want you to know 170 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 1: what I'm eating one hundred percent. You get shamed every 171 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 1: time you do it. Of course you're gonna have that. 172 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 2: Real you give this poor woman like an ed if 173 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 2: he keeps policing the food, that. 174 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: Would happen to anyone. Yeah, and I don't like that. 175 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 1: I want to be able to eat what I want 176 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 1: to eat without feeling shame or like you're judging me. 177 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: To be clear, I make healthy dinners for our family 178 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: nearly every night, in healthy breakfast to most snacks are 179 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: healthy ish with fruits and nuts, et cetera, et cetera. 180 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 1: But I'm totally fine with getting a doughnut as a 181 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: treat or eating chocolate at night after our kids are asleep. 182 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 1: It's not every night, but it's often. It is my wine. 183 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 2: I agree. 184 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 4: I love a little piece of chocolate at night. It's yummy. 185 00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 4: I want a little sweet treat. I deserve it, Sweet. 186 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: Tree, sweet trae. He also had a tangent about yoga 187 00:07:57,480 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 1: not being difficult because I told him about a y 188 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,679 Speaker 1: in yoga class I went to early on while trying 189 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 1: different studios, basically saying, Hey, you're not really working out, why. 190 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 2: Don't you go to a freaking work yoga class and 191 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 2: let me know. 192 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: How about you go into an iron man and ride 193 00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 1: your bike ride into the water, because I think that's 194 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: something they do. Maybe I just did a strength class 195 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: with weights and bands, and that's the day that I 196 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: came home and was like, hey, I found my endorphins again, 197 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 1: feeling better. Opie says, it was great. So what are 198 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 1: you even talking about? Like, I'm actively trying here and 199 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: what you're saying is the complete opposite of such land Literally, 200 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 1: I also love how Opie's speaking in such a natural 201 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:41,320 Speaker 1: language that I'm trying to like ye saying how she's saying. Anyways, 202 00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:43,839 Speaker 1: I was sitting there feeling miserable about my husband, thinking 203 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: I'm unattractive, but also pissed. What's even the point? This 204 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 1: feels incompatible and cruel? How do I get him to 205 00:08:50,040 --> 00:08:52,120 Speaker 1: see how hurtful it is that he tells me he's 206 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:54,839 Speaker 1: inattracted to me, and to understand what I've gone through 207 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: to have kids. And while I think he has a 208 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 1: point about hoping for us to be healthy, this feels 209 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 1: so much more destructive and unkind than that. Or am 210 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 1: I wrong? And am I denying the problem? How bad 211 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 1: is it to enjoy chocolate and treats but otherwise have 212 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:09,839 Speaker 1: healthyish food and work out and just not stress over it? 213 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:13,439 Speaker 1: Is he unreasonable? Or am I we have an update 214 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 1: where there's a possible redemption. That's all I'm gonna say. 215 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 2: It is completely unreasonable. There is a huge difference between 216 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 2: you know, only eating like super sugary processed foods all 217 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 2: the time and giving your kids that food and never 218 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 2: working out, yes, you know, doing nothing like that, or 219 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 2: versus her having a sweet treat, you know, for desire 220 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 2: of a pasture. 221 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:40,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, a part of a pie, a mini pie, and 222 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 4: also doing yoga and doing all of this other exercise 223 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 4: and stuff. 224 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,959 Speaker 2: As she gets back after having a baby. 225 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:48,840 Speaker 1: You should be making her pie every night she she 226 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: listen up, listen up. You know what she had in 227 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: her oven? Your bun, your freaking's right one. And it 228 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 1: was bacon in her oven for nine if you were 229 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 1: like my mom. Fourteen months, fourteen months, the baby was 230 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: in there. Okay, that's a long time. That's a long 231 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: time to carry a bait. My head was so far 232 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: developed things happened stick. But that's besides the point that. 233 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:12,319 Speaker 2: Actually, I mean probably not. But the longer that a 234 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 2: like create like a species baby is you know, cooking 235 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 2: you sorry, I don't know what this is going. 236 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 1: The large branium would be yeah, yeah, so it all 237 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: makes sense. Smarter I was. It wasn't sure if I 238 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: was right, so I like stopped. I was in the 239 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: womb for fourteen months. My head couldn't fit out. But 240 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:33,319 Speaker 1: that's beside the point. The point is that, oh no, 241 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: it spread the point. 242 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. The point is that this is 243 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 2: I think what I was trying to say is that 244 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:45,680 Speaker 2: when you come out like humans, babies come out kind 245 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 2: of useless because they can be smarter. But I can't 246 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 2: remember the exact. 247 00:10:49,960 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: I think to the point that I was thinking, which 248 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 1: I think maybe was in line with what you were thinking, 249 00:10:54,400 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 1: is that because she has to carry the baby, he 250 00:10:57,760 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: should be waiting on her hand and foot because she 251 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 1: has to go the experience that he. 252 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 2: It isn't the point I was making right now, but 253 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 2: that is the original point. 254 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:07,719 Speaker 1: It's a decent one. Yeah, it's a decent one. 255 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 2: It's a related point. 256 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: But guys, we also have something very related and updates 257 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 1: with a possible redemption. My husband and I clearly both 258 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:20,320 Speaker 1: felt like crap about this conversation, and he texted me 259 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: a really nice apology today, which is something. But I'm 260 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: still really hurt by the way he communicated all of this, 261 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 1: And yes, the judgment, I'm going to push for a 262 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:31,199 Speaker 1: couples counseling like some of you suggested. It's absolutely true 263 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:33,280 Speaker 1: that it's not about my way. It's the way that 264 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 1: the conversation went. I was thinking during the conversation that 265 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: if a friend talked to me that way, we wouldn't 266 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 1: be friends anymore. Wow, that's that's actually a good way 267 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 1: to frame it and think about it. So wild what 268 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:44,960 Speaker 1: people expect from their so called loved ones to absorb 269 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 1: by the way, you can absorb us every single weekday 270 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:54,520 Speaker 1: at three PMPSD just tap to join the live asorm absorb. So. 271 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:57,559 Speaker 1: I also really appreciate the kind words and advice, especially 272 00:11:57,640 --> 00:11:59,719 Speaker 1: from men and women who have kids. It's helpful to 273 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 1: see this through their perspectives as well. No, he doesn't 274 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,560 Speaker 1: get up with the baby. Yes, I am still breastfeeding 275 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: and waking up three to four times depending. I went 276 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 1: to my doctor for exhaustion a few months ago and 277 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: my blood work came back as quote unquote normal. So 278 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 1: I'm not sure what else is going on there. It 279 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 1: could be just being older and not sleeping. Well, I 280 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 1: don't know. I'm like because the woman, like ideally in 281 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:23,920 Speaker 1: a relationship, everything at the end of the day levels 282 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 1: out to like roughly equal. And the fact that you know, 283 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 1: in this case, it's like the wife is carrying the 284 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:32,720 Speaker 1: baby or she Opie's carrying the baby. Husband can't literally. 285 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 2: Can't do it, literally can't do we can't do it. 286 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:36,520 Speaker 1: So you gotta he's doing the exact opposite of what 287 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 1: he should be, figuring out how we can help and 288 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:40,680 Speaker 1: support her and like make her feel better, versus just 289 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:42,560 Speaker 1: like attacking her for a piece of pie, A slice of. 290 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:44,520 Speaker 2: Pie, A slice of that guy pie. 291 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 1: Come on, I'm gonna give you a slice of my 292 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 1: pie by but pie gotcha. Yeah, that's a pert reaction. 293 00:12:56,679 --> 00:13:00,280 Speaker 1: Terror tracking tearror in the hearts of Opie's h's been 294 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 1: everywhere in hindsight reading this, I really laid on the 295 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:06,360 Speaker 1: I have a sweet tooth, and even calling myself a 296 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:09,560 Speaker 1: couch potato is only a comparison to his lifestyle. 297 00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 2: His lifestyle is crazy. 298 00:13:11,240 --> 00:13:12,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's normal. 299 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 2: People aren't doing freaking iron. 300 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: Man way outlier, way out liing because I thought we 301 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:19,560 Speaker 1: could read through the responses together, which might help. I 302 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:22,200 Speaker 1: work out three times a week, which is hard since 303 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 1: it depends on him getting home and coordinating classes, et cetera. 304 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 4: Three Okay, I'm pretty sure that you're just supposed to 305 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 4: have a three three times a week, do a thirty minute, 306 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 4: thirty minute exercise three times a week. 307 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 1: What is it? 308 00:13:33,080 --> 00:13:35,160 Speaker 3: R thirty minute exercise three times a week. 309 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: I just said that is how it goes, but I 310 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:40,240 Speaker 1: had to verify. 311 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:43,440 Speaker 2: Every woman says it. John doesn't believe me. 312 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 1: Exactly how they're getting to the real part of it. 313 00:13:47,640 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 1: Working out around my two demanding kids, it would be laughable. 314 00:13:50,640 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: There's no way. So I'm actually not a couch potato. 315 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:56,280 Speaker 1: Also with these two kids, just not driven my whole 316 00:13:56,400 --> 00:13:58,440 Speaker 1: life around fitness the way he has. 317 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:00,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, and also why is the taking care of your kids? 318 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 2: Why is it he helping? 319 00:14:01,840 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 1: He's more of a father to those bar bells than 320 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 1: needs to those babies. Okay, freaking true. Get him out 321 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 1: of the gym and in the crib, stat Paranto. He's 322 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:14,600 Speaker 1: also naturally really slim. He's one of those people who 323 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:17,360 Speaker 1: gets skinnier when he doesn't work out. His exercise is 324 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:20,040 Speaker 1: more about just building muscle. There's just so little fat 325 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 1: on him and his mom. It makes a half Gernman 326 00:14:22,800 --> 00:14:25,640 Speaker 1: like me incredibly jealous. I didn't know that was an 327 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:29,880 Speaker 1: ailment that Germans dealt with, but there you go. Okay, 328 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:33,840 Speaker 1: So in conclusion, what do we do here europ Oh boy? 329 00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:39,160 Speaker 4: I don't know necessarily if this is divorce, yeah, but 330 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 4: I do think it's having a conversation with him and 331 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 4: saying like you are entitled to the lifestyle that you 332 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 4: want where you know you go on this these iron 333 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 4: man's and. 334 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 2: Blah blah blah. But I am living a medically advised 335 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:56,440 Speaker 2: healthy lifestyle and I am taking care of the kids 336 00:14:56,440 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 2: and I just had a baby, and you guilty me 337 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:01,520 Speaker 2: for having a pie for dessert is not helping. 338 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 1: It's and it's like it's so completely the opposite of 339 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 1: his goal. Yeah, I think there's this was a tip 340 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: of the iceberg, and it's nice that he did an 341 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:11,240 Speaker 1: initial apology, but what actually has to happen. Is the 342 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 1: behavior it needs to change. Yeah, it needs to change. 343 00:15:14,680 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 2: This apology should mean I will not say those things 344 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:18,240 Speaker 2: ever again. 345 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 1: Exactly exactly. I agree, agreed, I agree, But Sophia, I 346 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:27,760 Speaker 1: might tragically abandon you for one story and then rejoin you. 347 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:29,880 Speaker 1: Are you Are you ready to take the mantle? I'm 348 00:15:29,920 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: ready if I could just use the bathroom? 349 00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 3: No, oh, we can wait for you for then, unless 350 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:35,120 Speaker 3: you have to go do other things. 351 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:36,520 Speaker 1: What's with the air quotes? 352 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:39,560 Speaker 3: I don't know. You say you're going to the bathroom, 353 00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 3: but you might be doing other things, like taking a 354 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 3: meeting or a call. 355 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:44,880 Speaker 2: And taking a meeting. 356 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 1: You see what you've done, right, or a call? 357 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 3: No, you've done this before. You're like, I'm gonna use 358 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 3: the bathroom. You never come back, and. 359 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 2: You never come back. 360 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: That's why I was like, you can go do one 361 00:15:56,320 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 1: so that way. 362 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:57,880 Speaker 2: Do one store. 363 00:15:58,280 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 3: Wait on you, but. 364 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:01,000 Speaker 1: If a time and I'll be back and we'll read 365 00:16:01,040 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 1: donuts and comments and yes. 366 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:06,840 Speaker 2: And all right, ready and go ah the donation, Kelsey, 367 00:16:06,920 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 2: we read that one. 368 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:08,000 Speaker 3: We already did. 369 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:10,080 Speaker 1: Let's refresh it refresh. 370 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 2: Are there any in the other thing? 371 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:11,480 Speaker 4: No? 372 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:13,920 Speaker 3: Oh, but I found something really funny. 373 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:15,120 Speaker 2: What did you find? 374 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 3: I don't know if it's supposed to say it on stream, 375 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 3: but I found my old YouTube videos and I'm crying. 376 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:21,640 Speaker 2: Oh that's cute. 377 00:16:21,720 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, I was having a really good time looking at them. 378 00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:28,200 Speaker 2: Okay, while we're waiting for drawn. Basically, I went to 379 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 2: the rock climbing gym last week and I am obsessed. 380 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 4: Now. 381 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 2: I went on Sunday, and I also went yesterday, and 382 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:42,440 Speaker 2: I've now progressed to V threes, got to a V four. 383 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 3: Explain these tears? 384 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, So basically, anybody who does not rock climb, 385 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:51,080 Speaker 2: there's like tears of hardness. So we got V zero 386 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:52,840 Speaker 2: and then it goes up to like V ten V eleven, 387 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:55,920 Speaker 2: I think, and so V zero is the easiest one, 388 00:16:56,480 --> 00:16:59,080 Speaker 2: and then it gets like progressively harder. And so the 389 00:16:59,080 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 2: first time I went, I could only do V zeros 390 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 2: and V ones, and then the next time I went, 391 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 2: I was able to get some a bunch of V threes, 392 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:08,199 Speaker 2: and I'm pretty proud of myself. And I bought a 393 00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 2: membership at this gym that I go to because I 394 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 2: love it and I'm obsessed, and I got one hundred 395 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 2: dollars off because the lady. 396 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:15,199 Speaker 3: Was just really coo. 397 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:17,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, she was just really sweet. 398 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:17,400 Speaker 1: John. 399 00:17:17,440 --> 00:17:20,200 Speaker 3: That took you three minutes. Yeah, take your roma with you. 400 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:21,879 Speaker 3: Go let her read one you can eat? 401 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:22,640 Speaker 2: Oh I can read? 402 00:17:23,080 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 3: Would did someone hear you? No more eating and reading? 403 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 3: I think Sophia did this faster. 404 00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:29,960 Speaker 1: I lied. I knew you did. I one. I checked 405 00:17:30,160 --> 00:17:32,240 Speaker 1: my Instagram story or Instagram posts. 406 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:35,359 Speaker 2: Oh, so you weren't doing other things. 407 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:37,879 Speaker 1: And then I was like, I actually was thinking in 408 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:39,679 Speaker 1: my mind, oh ill, I'll eat a little bit. But 409 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 1: then I did just now, yeah, there you go, beautiful there, 410 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 1: All right, let's get into it. I broke up with 411 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:47,640 Speaker 1: my fiance because we're incompatible. But now he's saying I'm 412 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 1: being selfish. 413 00:17:48,640 --> 00:17:48,920 Speaker 2: Hmmm. 414 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:52,760 Speaker 1: Takes two to make a decision. So I I twenty 415 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:55,600 Speaker 1: nine female, recently broke up with my fiance forty two male, 416 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 1: as we had a lot of compatibility issues that I 417 00:17:58,119 --> 00:18:00,920 Speaker 1: could not see us working through. We had moved in together, 418 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 1: which is what maybe notice a lot of these issues 419 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:05,600 Speaker 1: as it was our first time living together. Aside from 420 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:09,680 Speaker 1: spicy sleep incompatibility. I just recently discovered that I am 421 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: after many conversations about it in therapy. We just don't 422 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:14,439 Speaker 1: see eye to eye on a lot of major things 423 00:18:14,720 --> 00:18:17,440 Speaker 1: like finances, cleaning around the house. He isn't a bad guy, 424 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:19,919 Speaker 1: but I've just been depressed since we moved in together 425 00:18:20,119 --> 00:18:23,520 Speaker 1: as I am taking the main financial and housekeeping burden. 426 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:27,159 Speaker 1: Even after bringing it up to him, not much has changed, 427 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:31,919 Speaker 1: despite him saying that they would. Yeah, so basically they 428 00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:32,200 Speaker 1: just are. 429 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:33,720 Speaker 2: They sound incompatible. 430 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:37,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, that makes total sense. I broke up with him 431 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 1: because they're a terrible partner. 432 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:40,919 Speaker 2: And not good But they're not a good partner. 433 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:43,880 Speaker 1: Shocking news and not a good partner. But this also 434 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:46,480 Speaker 1: comes from fragile fauna on the artsch Okay story times 435 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:49,120 Speaker 1: up for it. So I have found myself getting extremely depressed, 436 00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:51,800 Speaker 1: and after my friends brought up the drastic change, I 437 00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:54,280 Speaker 1: decided to sit down and speak with him to have 438 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:58,440 Speaker 1: the breakup. Seeing when they say, hey, we need to talk. 439 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 1: As Riley has told us, it's not for good things 440 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 1: unless it's work. Unless it's at work yea, and then 441 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:07,280 Speaker 1: it's for great things. I could tell that he did 442 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:09,920 Speaker 1: not want to break up, but after many conversations over 443 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:12,280 Speaker 1: the span of a week, we did mutually agree that 444 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:15,200 Speaker 1: breaking up was the best option. We ended things fairly 445 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:19,440 Speaker 1: cordially and agreed to remain friends. Okay, what could go wrong? 446 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:22,480 Speaker 2: Everything seemed perfect, Everything's. 447 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:24,480 Speaker 1: Gonna be fine. After the breakup, the topic of living 448 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 1: situations came up, mainly because the house we are renting 449 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:29,960 Speaker 1: belongs to my mom. I told him that I would 450 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 1: give him all the time he needed to find a 451 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,360 Speaker 1: place and did not expect him to rush to move out, 452 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:37,240 Speaker 1: but that I eventually figured he would move out so 453 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 1: that way we could both try to move forward. You know, like, 454 00:19:40,359 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 1: I think we're just gonna like break up, but let's 455 00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:44,280 Speaker 1: just like live together for the rest of our lives. 456 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 2: You know, I think we could. I think we could 457 00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 2: work it out as like roommates. 458 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:49,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, we could like just both get have our separate family, 459 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 1: get married, raise our kids just like all in the 460 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: same place. 461 00:19:52,760 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. Maybe we can get like one of those eighty 462 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 2: us in the backyard. 463 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 1: Just pop into the backyard. It's not gonna be me 464 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:00,920 Speaker 1: staying there, but you know, can stay there. You know what, 465 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 1: We can get one of those like little sheds, you know, 466 00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:05,400 Speaker 1: the blows or whatever, and it's gonna be great. 467 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 2: You'll love so much space. 468 00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 1: Your whole family's gonna love it. It's the average size 469 00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:13,960 Speaker 1: of an LA apartment after all exactly, he said, the 470 00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:16,920 Speaker 1: idea of moving out never occurred to him. Ho de 471 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 1: thunk it, and he didn't understand why he would need to. 472 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:21,440 Speaker 1: He wanted to stay a part of my family and 473 00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: even mentioned that it would be cool for my mom 474 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:27,320 Speaker 1: to adopt him. I think he's joking, or at least 475 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:28,639 Speaker 1: I'm hoping that he is. 476 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:31,520 Speaker 2: That's crazy. He was like, I know that I can't 477 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:35,000 Speaker 2: be your fiance anymore, but what would you say to 478 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:38,640 Speaker 2: me being your brother? Did we explore that, Oh, we've 479 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:43,720 Speaker 2: tried Beyonce friend siblings, maybe one of these will work, 480 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:46,399 Speaker 2: and then if that doesn't work, I adopt you. 481 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:50,760 Speaker 1: There we go, and now we put a pause on 482 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 1: the conversation for a while, as I felt like we 483 00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 1: were talking in circles at that point. But a month later, 484 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:57,440 Speaker 1: he came to both me and my mom stating that 485 00:20:57,520 --> 00:20:59,200 Speaker 1: he planned to be out by the end of next 486 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 1: month and he could not pay his rent this time 487 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:04,800 Speaker 1: to use the money to move okay, my mom agreed. 488 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:06,920 Speaker 1: In a couple days later, she wrote up a document 489 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 1: stating that he planned to move out with him thirty 490 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 1: days and that the rent would not be due for 491 00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:13,359 Speaker 1: that month. It also said that if he did not 492 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:15,680 Speaker 1: move out, then the rent would be due as normal. 493 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:18,159 Speaker 1: She's a very paperwork driven person, so this is not 494 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,560 Speaker 1: uncommon for her to want some sort of documentation of 495 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 1: the agreement. I mean, on her absolutely, because what if 496 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 1: he's just like, I'm just gonna stay for the rest 497 00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 1: of my life. 498 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,920 Speaker 2: I'm your brother now, like I actually do live here. 499 00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:32,879 Speaker 1: Sorry, hey, come on, mom, sounds balled over here. I 500 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:36,760 Speaker 1: just want to stay here. My mom, shut up. That's 501 00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 1: not your mama. 502 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 2: It's not your freaking mom. 503 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:43,320 Speaker 1: Not your freaking mom. He acted completely blindsided once she 504 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 1: brought him the paper. This is infuriating, bro says one thing, 505 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:50,040 Speaker 1: and yeah, have you ever seen him do it this way? 506 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:51,840 Speaker 1: Have you ever seen the episode? I know you didn't 507 00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,320 Speaker 1: watch much SpongeBob, but did you ever see the SpongeBob 508 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,200 Speaker 1: clip where it's like mister Crabs will tell SpongeBob not 509 00:21:57,280 --> 00:21:59,200 Speaker 1: to buy anything from this as puff and the He's like, 510 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,399 Speaker 1: SpongeBob boy, go buy your a bone and all the roses. 511 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:02,600 Speaker 4: In the world. 512 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,520 Speaker 2: I don't recall, but that was a good impression. 513 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 1: Thank you. I appreciate it. It's like that infuriating, he 514 00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,320 Speaker 1: said that now he feels rushed and like we wanted 515 00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,080 Speaker 1: him out of the house. My mom told him that 516 00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:13,920 Speaker 1: it had nothing to do with me, and that she 517 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 1: was only trying to put protections in place for her 518 00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:19,280 Speaker 1: and that she wrote it based upon the timeline he 519 00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:20,359 Speaker 1: gave her. 520 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,680 Speaker 2: What She's like, dude, I'm just trying to, you know, 521 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:25,480 Speaker 2: figure this out, and you're making it hard. 522 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:27,520 Speaker 1: I'm just trying to follow your plan. 523 00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:28,120 Speaker 4: Yeah. 524 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:30,639 Speaker 1: He went to his room after signing the paper, but 525 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 1: texted me about an hour later a list of all 526 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,639 Speaker 1: the things I was taking away from him, and telling 527 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:37,800 Speaker 1: me that I destroyed his dreams. 528 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,240 Speaker 2: My dreams of being your son. 529 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:43,640 Speaker 1: Why can't I just be your son? 530 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:44,080 Speaker 4: Father? 531 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:44,720 Speaker 1: Husband? 532 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:45,280 Speaker 4: All? 533 00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:50,679 Speaker 2: I wanted? Okay o, come on, what are we doing. 534 00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:53,479 Speaker 1: I told him that I never meant to hurt him 535 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,119 Speaker 1: and that it was just too hard for me to 536 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 1: be your mom exact. Oh my god. He then I 537 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:04,960 Speaker 1: if we could talk. He's like, listen, we could try 538 00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:09,879 Speaker 1: being you know, fyances, we could try being friends. I cannot. 539 00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 1: I couldnot be try being your mom. It's too much, 540 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 1: too much, it's too much. We sat down to speak, 541 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:19,119 Speaker 1: but he just kept asking me why we had to 542 00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 1: break up and telling me that I blindsided him with everything. 543 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:26,119 Speaker 2: It's the classic lovers to friends, to siblings. 544 00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:30,840 Speaker 1: To parents. He stated that I acted like I didn't 545 00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:33,920 Speaker 1: even want to try, and I wouldn't attempt to compromise 546 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 1: with him on things, especially when it came to spicy sleep. 547 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,359 Speaker 1: This is a hole, We're just this is a whole 548 00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 1: other wild like. 549 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 2: Oh, He's like, Hey, I'm not interested in spicy sleep 550 00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:47,120 Speaker 2: because I'm a sexual. And he's like, why can't we compromise. 551 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 1: Oh, He's like, I'm your dad, Now make love to me. 552 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 1: He then stated that if months down the line, I 553 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,640 Speaker 1: was ever willing to actually compromise, he would always love 554 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:01,240 Speaker 1: me and be willing to rekindle the relationship. Esperate dude, 555 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:05,720 Speaker 1: honestly zoomp soup. He has never been a bad guy, 556 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,359 Speaker 1: but since the breakup, he has had multiple comments that 557 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 1: make it seem like it's not hard for me and 558 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,200 Speaker 1: that he's the only one hurting through this. I'm truly 559 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,320 Speaker 1: starting to feel as though I'm just being a selfish 560 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 1: person for ending the relationship. This is only my second 561 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:21,880 Speaker 1: serious relationship, and I'm wondering if I'm not being accommodating 562 00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:25,399 Speaker 1: enough to the relationship. We have an edit, there is 563 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:28,560 Speaker 1: more to the story and possibly a change in the 564 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 1: relationship or adoption. 565 00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,600 Speaker 2: I want one day this is not really related, but 566 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:37,919 Speaker 2: I want one day for us to find a story 567 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:43,280 Speaker 2: that has like cheating into uh, they get adopted, there's 568 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:46,200 Speaker 2: a DNA test, they realize that they're actually related. 569 00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:50,720 Speaker 1: An okay storytime bingo story? Yes, can we get all five? 570 00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:52,640 Speaker 2: That was actually really fun? 571 00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,679 Speaker 1: That would be and we like have a little thing 572 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 1: that's like the first one? 573 00:24:57,280 --> 00:25:00,280 Speaker 2: Gee, Like yeah, but you know what, I think would 574 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,320 Speaker 2: be even better if you guys like don't know. So 575 00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,879 Speaker 2: I find the stories. So Sam and John and Riley 576 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,800 Speaker 2: don't know what is going to be on the stories, 577 00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,080 Speaker 2: but they make their own little bingo cards, like they 578 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,200 Speaker 2: put down what they think will happen, and then you know, 579 00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:14,879 Speaker 2: you do bingo based off that new idea. 580 00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 1: In Discord, someone has made an okay storytime bingo. 581 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:18,760 Speaker 2: There we go. 582 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:20,920 Speaker 1: We could use it. It's it's maybe a little bit back, 583 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:21,640 Speaker 1: but it's in there. 584 00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:23,119 Speaker 2: But I like to check out this update. 585 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,680 Speaker 1: I'd like very quickly like sorry, what do we do? 586 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,200 Speaker 1: Really didn't die run off? Oh? 587 00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 2: I got this? This is my bingo idea. 588 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:33,399 Speaker 1: Priorities priorities. 589 00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 2: What do we do here? Yeah, I think you just 590 00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:37,880 Speaker 2: got this guy out of your life. 591 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,560 Speaker 1: He's living there currently, that's true, Well. 592 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,840 Speaker 2: You have him for a month. I think after the month, 593 00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:45,439 Speaker 2: technically speaking, if he pays, he can stay there. 594 00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:50,160 Speaker 1: The paper was either you're gone in thirty days or yeah, 595 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,639 Speaker 1: or if you pay then you can stay, which is weird. 596 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:56,359 Speaker 1: I would see this is tough now because like he 597 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: probably I'm guessing you wouldn't sign this at this point. 598 00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:00,399 Speaker 1: But if you go back and you're like only I 599 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,800 Speaker 1: think you look into what the eviction process would be, yeah, 600 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:05,840 Speaker 1: and tell him like, hey, like I'm still one hundred 601 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:07,800 Speaker 1: percent down with the plan you originally said, Like, if 602 00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:10,320 Speaker 1: you want to move out in thirty days, absolutely no charge. 603 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,520 Speaker 1: If you want to stay for a bit longer, you 604 00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:14,080 Speaker 1: know you can, you can pay for that month, that's 605 00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:17,200 Speaker 1: totally fine. But if you do stay like past this 606 00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:20,640 Speaker 1: month into like a second third, are going to honestly 607 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:23,440 Speaker 1: at this point, that's not what we want to do. Yes, 608 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:25,520 Speaker 1: and I just want to come to a place where 609 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,800 Speaker 1: we can like help you, you know, get out as 610 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:30,120 Speaker 1: best and or like move out as best and effectively, 611 00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:31,520 Speaker 1: like we want to support you in that and maybe 612 00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:33,680 Speaker 1: we can help you move like whatever. But like if 613 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,560 Speaker 1: it gets to that point, then we would probably get 614 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:38,960 Speaker 1: it'll get real serious and we would we're going to like, 615 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:41,400 Speaker 1: you know, go through that process. Yeah. 616 00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:44,800 Speaker 2: I don't know if you like looking to the future, 617 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:47,040 Speaker 2: because I think that's a good plan for now, but 618 00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 2: in the future. I don't think you necessarily need to 619 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,280 Speaker 2: continue to be friends with but I don't think you 620 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:52,679 Speaker 2: always need to be friends with your exes. 621 00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:55,920 Speaker 1: No, no, I think I think this guy is crazy. Yeah, 622 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,960 Speaker 1: literally multiple times he says the thing sets it up 623 00:26:59,000 --> 00:26:59,480 Speaker 1: and then he's like. 624 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:03,399 Speaker 2: But what I like, I don't know you were going 625 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:04,200 Speaker 2: to really do that. 626 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 1: I thought I was gonna be like your forever husband's 627 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:13,040 Speaker 1: son husband, so like brother, brother, please, brother, sister, mom, lady, 628 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:13,960 Speaker 1: fiance friend. 629 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,400 Speaker 2: I'm also gonna talk to your grandma and maybe your 630 00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 2: be your grandpa. 631 00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:21,240 Speaker 1: Maybe I'll throw a step in there too, you know, 632 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:26,159 Speaker 1: just to like just spice things. And yeah, it's infuriating, 633 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,119 Speaker 1: please make up your mind. Sure, I know it's like 634 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,320 Speaker 1: in cell manipulation or what is it, it's pick pick 635 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:33,040 Speaker 1: me manipulation. 636 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,679 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I used to like, if you want to compromise, I'll. 637 00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:39,399 Speaker 1: Be here actually compromise, and it's like, actually, we're just 638 00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:44,240 Speaker 1: following the plan you created that compromise. I just was 639 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:45,639 Speaker 1: fully on board with your idea. 640 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 2: We already compromised once. 641 00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:52,199 Speaker 1: Compromise once. Shame on you compromised twice, shame on us, 642 00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:56,880 Speaker 1: compromise three times. I will never be your huster, husband's sister, daughter, 643 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:01,240 Speaker 1: foster dad, step granddaddy, uncle, husband, and never never. Let's 644 00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,440 Speaker 1: get into this update first, with the edit. I've never 645 00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,720 Speaker 1: expected so many comments, and I really appreciate everyone being honest, 646 00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,280 Speaker 1: no matter which way the comments way. It's really helpful 647 00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 1: in clearing my mind and thinking straight through all of this. 648 00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:13,359 Speaker 1: I know I'm not perfect, and I never claim to be. 649 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:15,720 Speaker 1: I have my own flaw I know, I know that's 650 00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,960 Speaker 1: what that's I have my own flaws that I know 651 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:20,800 Speaker 1: I need to work on. I never wrote this post 652 00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 1: as an attempt to make him out to be the villain. 653 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,040 Speaker 1: He has every right to be mad and upset and 654 00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:26,960 Speaker 1: everything else. I don't know. I don't even know about that. 655 00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:29,080 Speaker 1: It's more the way that I don't trust my own 656 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,760 Speaker 1: judgment enough at the moment to look at this objectively. 657 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:33,960 Speaker 1: I really started to doubt myself because part of me 658 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,680 Speaker 1: does still love him. As of right now, nothing else 659 00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 1: major has happened. I'll try to update everyone come the 660 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,960 Speaker 1: end of the month or if anything else pops up 661 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,040 Speaker 1: in the meantime. We don't have to wait because it's 662 00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:46,360 Speaker 1: right here. First of all, I want to thank everyone's 663 00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 1: for the support and advice on the original post. It 664 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: really helped me see things clearly and not feel ashamed 665 00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,520 Speaker 1: of the situation I found myself in. Okay, So it's 666 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 1: been a very awkward month, to say the least. 667 00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:55,640 Speaker 2: I can imagine. 668 00:28:55,800 --> 00:29:02,960 Speaker 1: I can imagine living with your ex brother, father, uncle, husband, uncle, 669 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 1: step foster dad. Yeah, it's tough. There were so many 670 00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 1: jokes made about him about how we could no longer 671 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:11,720 Speaker 1: have me, as well as hints that he might that 672 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,160 Speaker 1: he was hoping that I would still change my mind. 673 00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 1: I spent a lot of time in my room with 674 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 1: my dogs to pass the time. Once he realized that 675 00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:20,680 Speaker 1: I wasn't going to change my mind, he quick cleaning 676 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,960 Speaker 1: up after himself, leading to two or more moldy food 677 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:27,080 Speaker 1: incidents the day before the moving day arrived. 678 00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:28,360 Speaker 2: That's really frustrating. 679 00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:31,120 Speaker 1: Really quick poll he's moving or not? Is he going 680 00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:31,600 Speaker 1: to move out? 681 00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:32,719 Speaker 2: Is he actually going to move. 682 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:33,560 Speaker 1: He actually going to move. 683 00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,240 Speaker 2: I sure, hope. So I'm sure. 684 00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:37,920 Speaker 1: Do you think do you think that's what's gonna happen? 685 00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:39,120 Speaker 2: I think he is. I think he is. 686 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:40,480 Speaker 1: I think he's not. I think not. 687 00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 2: Conspiracy theory, conspiracy. 688 00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:45,960 Speaker 1: When the moving weekend came, he brought two guys that 689 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:47,920 Speaker 1: he met at a gas station the day before to 690 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:49,600 Speaker 1: come and move things. Great. 691 00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 2: He he's going to make friends. 692 00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:53,360 Speaker 1: He could use them. 693 00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:55,880 Speaker 2: That's back, come bouts back, he can meet people. 694 00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:59,760 Speaker 1: Yes, bounds back. I was nervous about this, but really 695 00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:01,880 Speaker 1: just wanted it all to be over at this point. 696 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 1: As of now, I'm sitting in my clean house that 697 00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:07,120 Speaker 1: I spent all day cleaning, and it feels easy. We 698 00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:09,760 Speaker 1: love that my kitchen is mold free, and I finally 699 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:11,800 Speaker 1: have room to unpack some of my stuff that's been 700 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:14,480 Speaker 1: in boxes since June. He does still have some stuff 701 00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,000 Speaker 1: to come by and pick up, but I have my 702 00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,160 Speaker 1: keys back, and my mom is planning on changing the 703 00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:21,400 Speaker 1: walks soon. Good just in case. So Hey, Sophia was right. 704 00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:22,640 Speaker 2: I was freaking right. 705 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 1: She was freaking right. Uh, but I'm also right, and 706 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,239 Speaker 1: that you can come here every single weeked at three 707 00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:29,520 Speaker 1: PMPSD to join the lives. 708 00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:31,040 Speaker 2: Just tap her profile, just tapp it. 709 00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,520 Speaker 1: It could be you chat with us live. I also 710 00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:36,120 Speaker 1: got my testing results back and have taken a lot 711 00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:38,440 Speaker 1: of your advice and not told him anything about it, 712 00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:42,320 Speaker 1: even though he's asked multiple times. Turns out I am autistic, 713 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 1: which honestly puts so much into a perspective for me. 714 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 1: So I wanted to thank you guys again for the support. 715 00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,720 Speaker 1: I'm actually excited to see what my future holds. 716 00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:51,080 Speaker 4: Gee. 717 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 1: What a positive ending, he shockingly worked out. 718 00:30:55,080 --> 00:31:00,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, everyone's happy. The mom's documents, legal documents worked We've 719 00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 2: rid ourselves of this, this kind of annoying man. So 720 00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,320 Speaker 2: the barnacle of a man who can rape off. 721 00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 1: Really a barnacle. Yeah, I hate this guy, and I 722 00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:11,680 Speaker 1: hate guys like this. I don't like him, these guys. 723 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,760 Speaker 2: I'm gonna be honest with Johnna. I don't like him. 724 00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:14,200 Speaker 2: You know what. 725 00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:16,080 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest back. 726 00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:18,800 Speaker 2: I don't like him either. I don't like him. 727 00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:20,360 Speaker 1: And we have another story. 728 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,080 Speaker 2: Are you doing like an Obama pressure? 729 00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,760 Speaker 1: I don't know if I was, if I was doing 730 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,000 Speaker 1: an Obama person no, no, wait, wait, I gotta look. 731 00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:27,920 Speaker 2: It's pretty good. 732 00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:30,840 Speaker 1: Wait, no, no, Barack Obama. This is for the people. 733 00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:34,040 Speaker 2: He's doing a pretty good Obama impression. I can probably 734 00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 2: do one better. I could probably do a really good 735 00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:39,680 Speaker 2: Obama impression. But I'm I could read the best story. 736 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:41,040 Speaker 2: I could. I find the best stories. 737 00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 1: Oh, I can read good stories. 738 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:43,560 Speaker 4: There. 739 00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:46,160 Speaker 2: You've never found a story quite like mine. That's the best. 740 00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:48,720 Speaker 1: Second, well, it's there. The stories that I read is 741 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,360 Speaker 1: for the American people. I love them with all my heart. 742 00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:52,040 Speaker 1: I don't know, I think you do. 743 00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 2: To be honest, I'm like vaguely impressed. 744 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:56,520 Speaker 1: And you know what, it's honestly, that's one of my 745 00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:59,440 Speaker 1: I can do ten to twenty percent better. Yeah, yeah, 746 00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:00,200 Speaker 1: I wasn't waling. 747 00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:01,600 Speaker 2: No, I wasn't walking in mind either. 748 00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:02,320 Speaker 1: It was just great. 749 00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:03,840 Speaker 2: I thank you. I think we can do ten to 750 00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:04,400 Speaker 2: twenty percent. 751 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:06,960 Speaker 1: Let's both work on it, and come, let's work shop it. 752 00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:09,320 Speaker 1: And we're gonna circle back, okay, and we're gonna go 753 00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:10,760 Speaker 1: back to this next story. 754 00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:11,440 Speaker 2: Let's do it.