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Speaker 2: got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject he was sleep on the back seat.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I got a call that my husband

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Speaker 1: was sleep in his car behind the bar that he

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Speaker 1: goes to on Friday nights after work. I pulled up

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Speaker 1: on him there and he was asleep in the back

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Speaker 1: seat with the windows cracked. His pants were unbuttoned and

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Speaker 1: his shoes were off. I tapped on the window and

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Speaker 1: he did not budge, so I hit the button to

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Speaker 1: unlock the car. Then he jumped up and screamed. I

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Speaker 1: refused to. He said that he did not know how

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Speaker 1: he got there, so I should leave because it was

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Speaker 1: not safe for me to be there. I told him

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Speaker 1: I wasn't going anywhere until he got out of the car.

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Speaker 1: He sat up and put his shoes on, but still

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Speaker 1: wouldn't get out. I closed the car door and went

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Speaker 1: and sat in my car. He started texting somebody, and

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Speaker 1: out of the corner of my eye, I saw a

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Speaker 1: white lady approaching his car and then suddenly turn around.

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Speaker 1: At that same time, yeah, uh huh. At that same time,

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend called me and said she was parked in

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Speaker 1: I needed her help. I was so clueless, so she

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Speaker 1: explained that she thinks my husband was about to get

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Speaker 1: it on with the white woman in his back seat.

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Speaker 1: I hung up, and I went inside and found the

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Speaker 1: white woman. She said she was going to have security

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Speaker 1: escort me out because I was dead wrong about her

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Speaker 1: wanting to be with my husband. When I got back

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Speaker 1: outside to my car, my husband was gone. He was

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Speaker 1: he left to avoid conflict. He told me that he

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Speaker 1: was very disappointed that I pull that's done, and he

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Speaker 1: was only trying to sleep off the liquor before he

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Speaker 1: drove home. Does my friend's story sound right to you

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Speaker 1: or does my husband's story sound right to you. This

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Speaker 1: all sounds crazy to me. From your husband in the

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Speaker 1: it's not safe for you to him, then leaving you

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Speaker 1: there and going home to, in his words, avoid conflict.

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Speaker 1: I thought it wasn't safe for him to leave you there.

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Speaker 1: Everyone in this letter is suspect except you, your husband.

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Speaker 1: This mysterious white woman who threatened to call security on you.

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Speaker 1: By the way, why was she walking to your husband's

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Speaker 1: car and turned around when she saw you? Your friend

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Speaker 1: called from out of the background somewhere and startled you.

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Speaker 1: And why was she there spying on your husband? Anyway?

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Speaker 1: What is going on here? I wouldn't trust any of

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Speaker 1: their stories, but your husband is the only one who

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Speaker 1: owes you an explanation because you're married to him, and

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Speaker 1: you know you won't get the truth out of him.

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Speaker 1: I mean, because if he was just there trying to

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Speaker 1: sleep off the liquor, why didn't he let you in

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Speaker 1: his car? And why was a white woman coming his

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Speaker 1: way until she saw you. No one can make any

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Speaker 1: of this make sense. And I can't believe he just

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Speaker 1: left you there. I mean, what kind of husband does this, Steve.

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Speaker 3: Make me proud though, that's so concerned about this entire letter.

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Speaker 3: I've never seen so much stuff go wrong that I

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Speaker 3: can't write. I don't. I just want to say to

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Speaker 3: with this letter right here, let it go thet it cold,

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Speaker 3: give up all hope.

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Speaker 2: O this right help him.

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Speaker 3: I can't help you. This is so wrong on so

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Speaker 3: many damn levels. I got a call that my husband

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Speaker 2: Now, let's step this letter right here.

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Speaker 3: She got a call from who now that must be

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Speaker 3: her friend, Her friend who called that.

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Speaker 2: That's kind of crazy right there.

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Speaker 3: I pulled up on him and he would sleep in

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Speaker 2: You mean his.

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Speaker 3: Pants was unbuttoned at the top and they was unzipped,

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Speaker 3: or he had on fly button front pants. That ain't

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Speaker 3: what you were when you're finsha do something in the

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Speaker 3: just tell you that right now.

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Speaker 2: It's too hard.

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Speaker 3: You can't even have to go to the bathroom real

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Speaker 3: fast because a lot of times. The button holes ain't

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Speaker 3: been worked a lot, and it's hard to get him off,

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Speaker 3: and you can peel on yourself.

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Speaker 1: I'm just thank you.

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Speaker 2: Just want to throw out now.

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Speaker 3: He was sleep in the back seat with the windows crack,

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Speaker 3: his pants was unbuttoned, and his shoes were off. I

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Speaker 3: tapped on the window. He didn't budge, so I hit

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Speaker 3: the button to unlock the car. Then he jumped up

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Speaker 3: and screamed. I told him get out the car, but

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Speaker 3: he refused to Wait. Wait a minute, dog, what you

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Speaker 3: tapped on the window?

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's what I wanted.

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Speaker 3: What scream? It's several scripts? Uh that one? That one

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Speaker 3: don't work? Oh, that one. So he had to let

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Speaker 3: out a blood curtain JiTT you know, Freddy Krueger type

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Speaker 2: He jumped up and screamed.

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Speaker 3: I told him to get out the car, but he

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Speaker 3: Now it's starting to shape pretty good from the right hill.

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Speaker 3: I like that angle right here. I don't know how

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Speaker 3: I got here. But he didn't finish the lie. See

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Speaker 3: that was the only time he had out. I don't

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Speaker 3: know how I got here. I'm drunk. He should have

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Speaker 3: stayed right there, but he did too much non drunk stuff.

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Speaker 3: I can't really help this man, and when we come back,

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Speaker 3: I'm just gonna dig the whole deeper for him. I try,

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Speaker 3: but there's a white woman involved, so I really can't

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Speaker 3: be able. I can't help your stuff, white lady, This

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Speaker 3: white lady that missed it up for you, PILP.

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Speaker 2: I can't.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll have part two of your response coming up.

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Speaker 1: Steve at twenty three minutes after today's subject of this

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter was he was sleep on the back seat.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. Bubble bath, Bourbon and bury.

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Speaker 3: We haven't got to the bubble bath, berries and bourbon

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Speaker 3: part Yetberries, Strawberry.

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Speaker 2: We've now discovered that this woman don't know this man.

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Speaker 3: She didnet married at all, and through research and social media,

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Speaker 3: after two years of marriage, she's discovering some things about

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Speaker 3: this man.

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Speaker 2: Well, the man gets arrested.

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Speaker 3: While he's arrested, she goes down to bail him out

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Speaker 3: on their second anniversary. He said he was arrested for

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Speaker 3: not paying a fine for a ticket. She gets down

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Speaker 3: She get all his belongings, watch cell phone.

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Speaker 2: Go back to the house. She had been suspicious.

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Speaker 3: About this woman who was his ex, but she's always

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Speaker 3: had his past code never checked her.

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Speaker 2: She decides to check call log and messages. Everything is deleted,

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Speaker 2: but she finds a video tuntuant.

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Speaker 3: She finds a video boy while we keep videos man anyway,

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Speaker 3: goes to the phone, finds a video. He's in a

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Speaker 3: sunken tub with a glass of brown liquor some blueberries,

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Speaker 3: is next to the tub, and she's standing over him,

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Speaker 3: and she don't want to say what he's doing to her.

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Speaker 3: I wish she had her No, I wanted you to

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Speaker 3: don't have to assume what we all know what's going on.

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Speaker 2: I like to be told. See, I don't like you know,

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Speaker 2: figure it out, you know.

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Speaker 3: Because when you assume, what does assuming do? Makes an

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Speaker 3: ask out of you and me. Now, since we're talking

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Speaker 3: about that part, were assuming that's what happened. Anyway, that's

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Speaker 3: not the story. I was so overdone with this nasty

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Speaker 3: man that I want to move out while he's in jail.

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Speaker 3: I found his ex white phone number, told her to

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Speaker 3: go bail him out because I'm done with him. What

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Speaker 3: do I do now? Shirley said it right. You move

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Speaker 3: out while he's in jail. You're done with the nasty man.

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 2: How old is the video?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she didn't say.

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Speaker 3: See you didn't say that. If it's from when they

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Speaker 3: was married, it's just a video. Now you call him

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Speaker 3: a nasty man because he ain't never did that to you,

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Speaker 3: you know, And if he do it, I'm assuming he

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Speaker 3: didn't think it was nasty.

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Speaker 2: But you know we've all seen Jadded Jackson.

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Speaker 3: Miss Jackson, If you're nasty, now, I'm saying, that's fine

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Speaker 3: with me. Sometimes nasty ain't nothing. Ain't nothing wrong with

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Speaker 3: nasty if you you know, if that's what you want

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Speaker 3: to eat, Yeah, to be a beat.

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Speaker 2: Give me a beef a Lately Rhythm Nation star. You know. So,

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Speaker 2: I don't know your definition.

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Speaker 3: Of nasty and his definition nasty is two different things.

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Speaker 3: I'm going around in a circle with this because you

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Speaker 3: already know what to do. You don't know the man,

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Speaker 3: You don't trust him now, and now he can lie

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Speaker 3: about this. You want to move out while he's in jail,

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Speaker 3: Go ahead and move out. It's really nothing I can

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Speaker 3: give you. What are you gonna wait on the rest

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Speaker 3: of it to come out? Because it's some more. Oh,

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Speaker 3: it's some more. This is just what you found out.

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Speaker 2: Listen to me.

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Speaker 3: Whenever you find out something, it's some more. It's always

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Speaker 3: more layers. But to be honest, you cannot have relationship

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Speaker 3: see some history show up.

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Speaker 2: That's life. We all have history.

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Speaker 3: And so now if you're waiting to find somebody that

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Speaker 3: year olds and lady, that ain't gonna work out for.

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Speaker 2: You, right, No, you'll be in jail.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we already know who in jail now for.

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Speaker 1: This right as he should be.

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Speaker 3: In the words of little Duval, if you really believe

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Speaker 3: you can fly.

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Speaker 2: Now would be good.

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Speaker 3: So that's the response. I don't have nothing for this

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Speaker 3: young lady. She knows what the deal is. It's clear,

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Speaker 3: and you can stick around and wait and hear what

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Speaker 3: he say when he get out.

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Speaker 2: But it's gonna be more the same. And so now

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Speaker 2: there you have it. I don't know what else to say?

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Speaker 1: Surely, okay, I mean that was good. Sometimes that's all

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Speaker 1: you can say.

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Speaker 2: You know, you can't help everybody.

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Speaker 1: I think you helped her. Just fine. I'm glad it

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Speaker 1: was blueberries, like I said. And he is paying her rent. Right.

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Speaker 1: He wrote the bad check to the apartment building.

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Speaker 2: What was that? A bad chick.

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Speaker 1: That's why he's in jail.

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Speaker 2: Hot checks, Yeah, hot check. You're right, because that money

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Speaker 2: is immediate.

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Speaker 1: They don't chase checks no more.

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Speaker 3: No, no, it ain't no yeah, all right, all right,

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Speaker 3: thanks Steve.

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