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Speaker 1: First Date to follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Ben is on the phone today for your first Date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Riley.

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Speaker 2: So in a second we're going to call her and

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and

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Speaker 2: maybe gi him another date. But first, Ben, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you talked to Riley?

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Speaker 3: It's like a a week and a half now.

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Speaker 4: We've been trying to reach out to her.

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm sure not to be crazy, but you know,

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Speaker 3: two messages.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I mean, you know, you just want to know

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Speaker 4: how blatantly ghosted you are.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I feel very ghost It's so long.

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Speaker 4: I know that sucks. I'm sorry. Okay, let's talk about

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Speaker 4: your date. How did you meet her?

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 4: How did you leave it?

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Speaker 3: Personally? I think the date, you know, there was a

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Speaker 3: little bit of awkwardness, but it was like a good date.

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Speaker 3: We're in the same field, so we've known each other forever,

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Speaker 3: like or not forever, but are professional lives. We've known

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Speaker 3: each other, okay, okay, we've been talking just like like

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Speaker 3: friends or co work or co whatever. And then one day,

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Speaker 3: like there was just like a thing where we I

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Speaker 3: noticed then I just was like, what's trying to do

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Speaker 3: with date? And so this was the first one of those.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well that's kind of an ideal situation.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't be calling it. I thought this was like

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Speaker 3: a bad date. I thought the date was great.

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Speaker 4: What did y'all do?

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Speaker 3: She met up at my place, but then we walked

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Speaker 3: in the there's a really great restaurant near my near

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Speaker 3: at me and then so we walked there at dinner.

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Speaker 3: Dinner was great, came back movie.

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Speaker 4: Was there any part of this that started to get

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Speaker 4: a little awkward or off?

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Speaker 3: The one thing that was awkward was on the TV

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Speaker 3: with some dirty video content.

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Speaker 4: When TV, that's the last thing you were watching.

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Speaker 3: In my difference, it was the night before. It wasn't

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Speaker 3: like that's what I was doing right before the date

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Speaker 3: got I brushed my teeth, I took a shower, I

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Speaker 3: went it was.

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Speaker 4: Were you away? Okay?

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Speaker 2: You turned on the TV and she saw what you

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Speaker 2: had been watching that you probably don't want people saying

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Speaker 2: what you were watching.

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Speaker 3: It definitely not off first day. The thing is, though,

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Speaker 3: we laughed off, so.

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Speaker 4: She noticed, are you sure? She noticed. Oh yeah, I

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Speaker 4: didn't know how it was.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you can't see what you saw.

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Speaker 4: She laughed it off. But did it seem like it

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Speaker 4: bothered her?

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Speaker 3: No, that's not That's what I was saying. It was

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Speaker 3: like a hiccup, but I didn't feel like a hiccup. Okay,

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Speaker 3: like it didn't like she was that's how cool she is,

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Speaker 3: Like she didn't make it a thig.

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Speaker 5: Well she's maybe being polite because also it kind of

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Speaker 5: feels like are you trying to drop her hands? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Like is this what it looks? Fun?

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Speaker 5: Huh?

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Speaker 3: I just know that it's weird that we haven't talked

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Speaker 3: in so many days.

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Speaker 4: Well, how did you leave it?

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Speaker 3: That is the the second hang up that ice feel.

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Speaker 3: I just didn't feel that week like the let's go

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Speaker 3: in for the kiss moment, and so I just we

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Speaker 3: didn't do that, and so it just was like, let's

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Speaker 3: leave it, but like not leave it as a not

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Speaker 3: a date.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, but and she has been ignoring all of

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Speaker 2: your phone calls and text and stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, two messages, but you know, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we'll try to figure out we'll plays on comeback

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Speaker 2: and then call her and see if this else why

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Speaker 2: she's ghosting you, and maybe get to another day to right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: all right, we'll plas on comeback, get your first day

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Speaker 2: follow up next.

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Speaker 4: Right in the middle of.

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Speaker 2: Today's first day follow up if you're just joining us,

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Speaker 2: Ben is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Riley.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But first, Ben, why don't you recap your

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Speaker 2: situation for us.

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Speaker 3: We've been friends for a long time. We finally made

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Speaker 3: a decision to go on a date. We went on

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Speaker 3: a pretty good date. There. There were a couple hiccups,

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Speaker 3: no kiss at the end. There was some studeo playing

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Speaker 3: when when we when she got back to my place.

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Speaker 3: Yeah accidentally, Uh it was it was something playing the

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Speaker 3: night before, but it could have been the thing. I

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Speaker 3: don't think it is.

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Speaker 2: All right, well, we'll give her a call and see

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Speaker 2: if we can figure it out for were you ready?

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Speaker 3: Yep? Yep?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Hello, Hi.

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Speaker 2: Maschek to Riley please, Yeah, this is she? Hey, right,

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Speaker 2: how are you? My name is Jebel. I'm calling from

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Speaker 2: a radio show. It's called the Jewbel Show. Yeah, the

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Speaker 2: show's here, Riley, I'm Mina.

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Speaker 4: Hi, I'm Victoria. How are you?

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Speaker 2: Hi?

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Speaker 6: Hi, I'm a little Kurfuse why are you guys calling me?

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Speaker 4: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 6: I mean it's been a while, but I don't know

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Speaker 6: why you guys are calling me.

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Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment on the show called the

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Speaker 2: First Date follow Up. That's where if you go on

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Speaker 2: a date with somebody and then end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: we call you and ask why. And we got an

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Speaker 2: email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 3: Oh really, are.

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Speaker 5: You gusting somebody just a little bit?

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Speaker 4: Is his name Ben?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: A little bit?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, been emailed us and told us a little bit

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Speaker 2: about your date. He also said he likes you a

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Speaker 2: lot and he's confused why he's getting ghosted.

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Speaker 4: Would you mind telling us?

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Speaker 6: I don't know, very should It's okay, you can tell Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 6: Well I am pretty sure.

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Speaker 3: He was high lowing that up?

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Speaker 4: Why do you think so?

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Speaker 6: So we stopped by at his apartment and it really

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Speaker 6: stink of weed, It really did.

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Speaker 3: Okay, and he just looked so just couldn't connected.

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Speaker 6: It was just like he was out and outer space

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Speaker 6: and like couldn't talk to him. Like the whole entire date.

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Speaker 6: It was just like couldn't get like full sentences from him.

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Speaker 6: And you know, since we've known you to it for

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Speaker 6: a long time, it's wholly opposite of who I really know.

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Speaker 4: I mean, maybe he was kind of nervous.

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Speaker 5: You know, some people like to take a shot before

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Speaker 5: they go on a date and then maybe like that's

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Speaker 5: not his jam, but like you just you know, like

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Speaker 5: smoked a little bowl real quick.

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Speaker 6: I really, but I just don't know Ben was a loser.

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Speaker 2: Oh so you don't like that if he was stoned.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, when it comes to Ben, like he just he's

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Speaker 6: just not the same person. You know, he usually has

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Speaker 6: like belongs and sage on our gate. It was just

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Speaker 6: like yeah, yeah, uh, it's all right.

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Speaker 4: You felt like you were talking to a wall, Yes,

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Speaker 4: a big stone wall.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, well, thank you for telling us. Appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: And now I'll let you know that Ben is actually

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Speaker 2: on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Oh you have a weed? You don't you have a

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Speaker 3: problem with weed?

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Speaker 4: How was your takeaway?

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Speaker 3: I I do Oh yeah, I'm uh yeah, I'm baffled.

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Speaker 3: But like what we're dope, It's like people.

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Speaker 6: Don't weed, so you're high.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm high right now, I'm high afterward. Yeah, Like what, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'm an adult. This is just what I do through

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Speaker 3: to day. It's not everyone new I'm higher. It's not

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Speaker 3: a problem, but I am high most of the time.

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Speaker 6: You totally different from work and on our day.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, that's because there's work weed and then there's

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Speaker 3: after work weed, and I it's so weird. I don't

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Speaker 3: even think I didn't even do much anymore. Like no one,

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Speaker 3: like no one ever. This is the first person I

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Speaker 3: ever checked me on like, oh, yeah, you're high.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I don't know. I'm trying to follow you

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Speaker 4: right now.

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Speaker 3: Ben, I'm I only have a little bit flustered. This

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Speaker 3: is not I cannot believe this is the problem. I

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Speaker 3: thought this was like not just when we were in

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Speaker 3: it to each other.

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Speaker 6: You're just at the person I thought she walled. Well,

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Speaker 6: we'll talk into a wall on our date.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, that's that's okay, that's that's chilling me.

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Speaker 3: I guess you know. I don't want this to be weird.

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Speaker 3: Can we like still be friends? Like a are you

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Speaker 3: like done? Well?

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Speaker 2: Let me ask Riley, would you like to go on

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Speaker 2: another date with Ben. We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I definitely don't want to go on a

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Speaker 6: second date with Ben, but I'm cool with us being friends.

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Speaker 3: Okay, We're gonna be friends. Like you want to come

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Speaker 3: over and smoke lead and play some video games. This

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Speaker 3: is what I do with all my other friends. No,

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Speaker 3: I owned you that, but we can still be friends.

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 4: Well, Ben, I'm sorry. No second date and no video games.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, Well this embarrassing. I'm gonna have to

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Speaker 3: go smoke some disapployment weed.

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Speaker 4: Okay. Jubile's first date follow up