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Speaker 2: Joe Monty bro, I'm a breakfast cluk.

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Speaker 3: I'm feeding off maybe you guys.

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Speaker 4: People watch the breakfast cloud for who's really tuned in?

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Speaker 5: Your interviews are quite challenging.

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Speaker 6: Somebody gotta door.

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Speaker 3: It's like I watched y'all show in the morning, like

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Speaker 5: DJ NVY just hilarious, Charlemagne to God.

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Speaker 7: Everyone just kept telling me the preference.

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Speaker 2: Which crazy scared of spoky hilarious, crazy scared spoky hilarious?

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Speaker 8: Is your time to get it off your chest, whether

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Speaker 5: Or blessed, time to get up and get something.

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Speaker 9: Call up now eight hundred five eighty five one O

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Speaker 9: breakfast glove. Hello, who's this here?

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Speaker 3: You get it off your chest?

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Speaker 10: I should have said anonymous, but it's too late.

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Speaker 5: Now definitely, what's up?

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Speaker 7: You notice the radio? Can't nobody? You can call it

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Speaker 7: me and be like, my name is Sally.

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Speaker 10: I get it. But what I'm about to say everybody

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Speaker 5: Go ahead, just say it. Go for it. I do

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Speaker 10: And and arth may I know you probably don't remember,

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Speaker 10: I was like, nah, he on the other phone, so

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Speaker 3: Now, Damn, damn, before you wanted him.

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Speaker 5: Now it's.

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Speaker 3: You said what I said before you wanted him. Now

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Speaker 10: It's a rap, like leave it alone. What more dudes

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Speaker 7: He said Baltimore dudes, she sure did as for real?

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Speaker 10: Yeah, for real, for real.

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Speaker 7: You don't agree with her? Yeah, I agree with.

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Speaker 5: Damn.

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Speaker 10: So I need Joseph leave me alone. Don't textical, don't

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Speaker 11: Let it do.

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Speaker 10: It's over.

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Speaker 7: I would hope that y'all had this conversation before you

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Speaker 10: Oh well, I told him. I had to tell him yesterday.

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Speaker 2: Well, listen, you can't be having unprotected sex with a

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Speaker 10: Let's not trying to tell him he don't get it.

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Speaker 7: You it takes to do that man.

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Speaker 10: No, no, he is the one that's having multiple.

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Speaker 10: Oh well, we don't want to go there.

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Speaker 10: What you get?

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Speaker 6: I'm sorry, I ain't gonna go there.

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Speaker 7: Little chlamydia law. That ain't funny.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, mama.

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry for you too.

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Speaker 7: Good morning. Who's this Mark the waant Brectas Club.

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Speaker 6: This is Uber Mike.

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Speaker 7: What's up?

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Speaker 5: King?

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Speaker 6: What's going on?

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Speaker 14: Hey?

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Speaker 6: Charlamagne? You always are promoting your Black Effect podcast?

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Speaker 7: Yes, sir, Black Effect Podcast Network.

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Speaker 6: How can how can I because I have one just

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Speaker 6: with you talking about rodstering and how to navigate? Uh

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Speaker 2: Damn, you should have been to the Black Effect Podcast Festival.

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Speaker 2: You could have pitched your podcast at the Nissan activation.

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Speaker 7: Man, they had to pitch your podcast next year.

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Speaker 6: I promise, okay, next year for sure. Okay, but I

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Speaker 2: That's good information. Man, hit up Black Effects DM. We

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Speaker 7: Hit up that d okay, I'll do that all.

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Speaker 3: Right, brother, get it off your chest eight hundred five

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Speaker 5: It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning.

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Speaker 7: I'm telling what's doing on call of you.

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Speaker 8: This is your time to get it off your chest,

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Speaker 11: Who's this Hey? My name is Kelsey.

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Speaker 3: Hey Kelsey, good morning, get out, good morning.

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Speaker 7: Night morning.

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Speaker 11: I'm so excited you guys, my daughter sisters laying for

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Speaker 16: To get off my chest.

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Speaker 11: So I recently just kind of got blocked by this guy.

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Speaker 11: So I sign up on this app. Had been talking

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Speaker 11: I didn't do nothing but look him up. I guess

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Speaker 3: She probably looked at her story, looked at you. When

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Speaker 11: Right, So I'm different. He does me looking at his suck.

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Speaker 11: Yeah he's hiding and he's not trying to.

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Speaker 11: He's from Augusta, but still away.

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Speaker 3: It's DJ n V Jess, Hilarie Cholamine, the guy. We

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Speaker 3: Indeed, seems like you're trying to take our job doing

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Speaker 5: Guess you are.

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Speaker 9: I am just catering to my people. I'm making sure

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Speaker 7: rby Money podcast.

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Speaker 2: There's always so many hip hop podcasts, and you know,

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Speaker 7: R and B Money has created that space for the

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Speaker 9: And now the R and B Music Awards. You guys

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Speaker 9: gambit of R and B. R and B is so

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Speaker 9: many things, it's so vast. You can't cover it in

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Speaker 9: Just let us do what we do. Like even with

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Speaker 7: How does it Feel? With the third single, the butt

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Speaker 9: I did not know that.

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Speaker 7: How do we not get to that?

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Speaker 9: Gonna be greatest songs of all time?

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Speaker 9: I said, don't put it on the album, erase it,

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Speaker 9: back and forth, singing back and forth, her, you know,

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Speaker 9: singing her a mailing catalog and my debut on Tuesday.

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Speaker 9: And so now it's like, how tough it is real?

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Speaker 3: How tough is it to rehearsals? And do you have

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Speaker 3: to shut everything else off? And do you have time

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Speaker 3: for yourself now? Because it just seems like A does

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Speaker 3: a stop.

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Speaker 9: I'm a machine. So I'm a routine guy, you know

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Speaker 9: what I mean, so I'm gonna get up, help get

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Speaker 9: the kids to school, do cardio, eat, go to the gym,

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Speaker 9: do the second lift, go to the studio, either work

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Speaker 9: on music or do pod get back, eat dinner with

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Speaker 9: the family, get some lifetime in and the next day

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Speaker 9: do the same thing. I'm a machine. I'm built like that.

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Speaker 9: So Broadway schedule works perfect for who I am now.

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Speaker 9: Eight shows a week crazy. That's where it get different

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Speaker 9: because you know they call it. You know, you have

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Speaker 9: an A show, a B show, and a C show. In

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Speaker 9: terms of how you perform. I've never been able to

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Speaker 9: do a B show and feel good about it, like

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Speaker 9: because all of those people, whether it's a Wednesday or Saturday,

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Speaker 9: they spent their money to see something great. They spent

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Speaker 9: their money to see somebody go all out. So I'm

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Speaker 9: doing a shows from Tuesday this Sunday, and we got

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Speaker 9: one day off that's Monday, and right back to it.

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Speaker 4: What's your rest day? Like on a Monday? Like you vote,

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Speaker 4: you don't?

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Speaker 9: I just I just so I'm going to have my

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Speaker 9: first Monday next to the next Monday. Nothing, go to

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Speaker 9: the gym. You know what I'm saying. He eats, eat

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Speaker 9: some cool food, somewhere, you know, maybe keeping Charlotte Magne

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Speaker 9: and my heart and talk about this.

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Speaker 7: Let's do it awards. What about the family, like.

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Speaker 9: Because family was just here. They came for the for

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Speaker 9: the for the debut, My mom and then came up,

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Speaker 9: wife zoean zign came up, and it was really it

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Speaker 9: was really really cool.

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Speaker 5: Man.

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Speaker 2: The thirteen weeks is a long time to be away

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Speaker 2: from them, especially if you got a routine.

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Speaker 7: Like you said, it's it's.

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Speaker 9: Tougher for them than it is for me because for me,

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Speaker 9: I'm you know, I'm hyper focused. I'm in it, and

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Speaker 9: I have something to do every day, something to look

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Speaker 9: forward to, and so you know the wife is at

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Speaker 9: home doing the kid thing and all that. But that's why,

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Speaker 9: you know, that's what it is. It's a teams marriage.

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Speaker 9: She holds that down. I'm gonna hold this down. But this,

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Speaker 9: to me is like, what's the opportunity for people in

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Speaker 9: that space to understand that I'm serious about going here.

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Speaker 9: You know, Kevin was in town another day, so I

497
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Speaker 9: went it, you know, saw him and chopped it up

498
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Speaker 9: with him and he was like, I'm really really proud

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Speaker 9: of you for making this move. It says a lot

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Speaker 9: about the next level of where you can go and

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Speaker 9: who you can be and so that's what I'm looking

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Speaker 9: forward to.

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Speaker 7: Show the night.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh I get taken it and take a hell's

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Speaker 2: can you wait one more thing too? Saturday, April twenty

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Speaker 2: sixth is the third annual Black Effect Podcast Festival.

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Speaker 7: Make It Saturday, Taking Jay Valentine is gonna be that

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Speaker 7: he's got.

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Speaker 5: I'll be there one day off, right, Oh that's okay,

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Speaker 5: just making sure one day.

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Speaker 2: Have you have y'all thought about what that's gonna look

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Speaker 2: like live R and B Money Podcast on stage?

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Speaker 9: Nope, Nope, we're thinking about it though, because it's got

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Speaker 9: to be sexy. You know what I'm saying, you know,

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Speaker 9: be singing.

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Speaker 1: Got you don't have to podcast man the podcast, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: exact pod.

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Speaker 9: If the spirit moves them, if you know, if it

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Speaker 9: moves me, then I promise you. Yeah, you know, we

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Speaker 9: gotta we gotta, we gotta figure out what that's going

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Speaker 9: because this will be you know, this will be our

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Speaker 9: first time doing it.

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Speaker 7: Like we do it, the first time doing it live.

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Speaker 9: Well, we've done R and B Live, R and B

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Speaker 9: Money Live the event where it's been strictly catered, where

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Speaker 9: it's banned DJ you know, karaoke vibes like really really dope.

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Speaker 9: We've done that up up in Phoenix has stayed in

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Speaker 9: with one of my guys two spots, so we've done that.

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Speaker 2: But this is for people who like the podcast and

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Speaker 2: enjoy the conversation exactly.

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Speaker 9: So this is pod and conversation. So in terms of

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Speaker 9: trying to figure out what makes ours a little different,

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Speaker 9: you know what I mean, we're still formulating that well.

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Speaker 2: Saturday, April twenty six, third Annual Blaffe Podcast Festival, go

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Speaker 2: get your tickets Black Effect dot Com Slash Podcast Festival.

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Speaker 2: Make sure you check our tank in the Hell's Kitchen.

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Speaker 2: What a weasha keys on Broadway right now.

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Speaker 5: We appreciate you, brother.

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Speaker 9: I'm reporting on y'all. Man If y'all don't y'all don't

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Speaker 9: show up.

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Speaker 7: I don't know all the time.

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Speaker 9: That's one of my I enjoy broad with absolutely, okay,

543
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Speaker 9: And when I'm not here, you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 9: I still want to hear somebody say, if you've seen

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Speaker 9: Hell's Kitchen, did you go? Did you you know? Let

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Speaker 9: me tell Alicia in Swiss We'll meet.

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Speaker 2: You, yes, y'all and make sure you subscribe to the

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Speaker 2: R and B Money podcast on the Black Effect I

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Speaker 2: Heeart Radio Podcast Network.

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Speaker 3: That's right, it's tank, ladies and gentlemen. It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: Good morning.

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Speaker 7: Opinion to the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 9: Top Come on, I did five five five one.

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Speaker 3: Morning. Everybody is d J n V Jess hilarious, Charlamage

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Speaker 3: the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Low on the

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Speaker 3: Rosa filling in for Jess. Now if you're just joining us.

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Speaker 3: Were talking about Swiss beats. He did an interview with

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Speaker 3: US Weekly and he was talking about his relationship with

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Speaker 3: his They've been married fifteen years and he says it's

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Speaker 3: a healthy marriage. And he said, what keeps it so

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Speaker 3: healthy is They said, First, they don't yell at each other.

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Speaker 3: And they said, we've never had an argument.

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Speaker 5: So that is the question.

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Speaker 3: Eight hundred five eight five one oh five to one.

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Speaker 3: Have you never have an argument which your spouse? I

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Speaker 3: can't say that's true for me. Me and my wife

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Speaker 3: are argued. You know, we argue. I mean, it doesn't

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Speaker 3: get to the point where we are yelling and screaming

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Speaker 3: and kicking, but we do argue, you know, we disagree

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Speaker 3: and we have arguments.

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Speaker 7: It is impossible.

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Speaker 2: I meant, I don't sleuth the Swiss and Alicia respected

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Speaker 2: him if they don't argue.

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Speaker 7: But I think that you know, I can't. That is

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Speaker 7: not my household, you.

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Speaker 2: Know what I mean? Like you know, we have very

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Speaker 2: healthy debates. We have arguments. We got four kids, different

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Speaker 2: parenting styles, I guess right, but you know we try

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Speaker 2: to come on one accord to have one solid parenting style.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, there's gonna always be things that you you know,

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Speaker 2: argue about that don't make it unhealthy. That don't make

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Speaker 2: that you got that don't mean you've got a bad relationship.

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Speaker 2: It's just that you know, that means that you live

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Speaker 2: with a person.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, like I said, I've.

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Speaker 3: Been with my wife thirty one years, we've been read

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Speaker 3: twenty three. We argue like there's things like you said,

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Speaker 3: like I might, you know, discipline my children this way

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Speaker 3: or talk to my children this way. She does it

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Speaker 3: this way, and we go back and forth. But like

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Speaker 3: I said, they ain't to the point where were yelling

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Speaker 3: and screaming and she's sleeping in another room.

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Speaker 5: No, we have disagreements.

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Speaker 2: No, and sometimes you do have to tell the wife

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Speaker 2: that don't talk to me like I'm your child.

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Speaker 4: I know your wife begin with you all the time,

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Speaker 4: all the time.

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Speaker 2: But if I think sometimes you know, women, you know,

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Speaker 2: especially when they have a lot of kids, they're used

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Speaker 2: to talking a certain way, and men can be immature

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Speaker 2: at times, so we get spoken to in that way,

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Speaker 2: and sometimes you just have to remind them I am

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Speaker 2: not your.

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Speaker 4: Child, and you get spoken to. You have you have

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Speaker 4: to get at I.

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Speaker 5: Have to a couple of times. I'm not your child.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, yes, I mean, but I'm here with you every day.

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Speaker 1: I kind of feel for your wives.

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Speaker 7: No, you should feel for us.

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Speaker 2: But I mean, listen, once again, respect the swissld Alicia.

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Speaker 2: If they don't argue, God blessed. I don't know if

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Speaker 2: that's realistic. I really don't. Even even with the most

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Speaker 2: healthiest healed couples, I don't know if that's realistic for

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Speaker 2: you to never argue, never nothing like y'all agree on everything.

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Speaker 5: It's never a disagreement. Hello, who's this yo?

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Speaker 7: This Grand Michael the author?

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Speaker 5: Hey, what's up? Grand Michael's the author? Talk to us? Man,

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Speaker 5: what's happening?

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Speaker 2: Man?

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Speaker 14: Y'all can't be serious? Man Like me and my wife

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Speaker 14: been married for twelve years together, fifteen we've never had

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Speaker 14: an argument. I'm never saying we don't disagree, but we

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Speaker 14: have never had an argument like this. That's my home,

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Speaker 14: that's my place of peace, my sanctuary. Like why the

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Speaker 14: hell would I want to bring this cause the immaturity

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Speaker 14: into it.

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Speaker 2: Well, God bless for all of you, y'all, y'all way

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Speaker 2: more hill than me and my household.

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Speaker 7: Or maybe it's just me. Maybe I'm you know what

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Speaker 7: I'm saying.

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Speaker 6: We live in We live in Columbia, South Carolina.

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Speaker 14: Chief of Allendale, Charlamagne, you know about Allendale.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I was.

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Speaker 6: I ain't trying to get nothing. Oh that's the salt man.

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Speaker 6: I ain't trying to get cut. I ain't trying. So

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Speaker 6: that's how it started initially, I'm saying.

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Speaker 14: As we grew, it just became the norm, like like

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Speaker 14: that's a black man.

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Speaker 6: We got so much going on in the world, Like

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Speaker 6: why do I have to come home to further foolish.

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Speaker 5: You know me?

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Speaker 3: So you never had a heated argument of disagreement with

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Speaker 3: your wife all my life?

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Speaker 2: Never, God bless my brother. I need I need to

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Speaker 2: get the where you at?

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Speaker 1: They said, never, yell, I never had a heat of argument.

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Speaker 1: Their kids had never seen them cuts at each other.

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Speaker 7: I don't know. I don't believe that saluit.

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Speaker 2: Everybody in the metro to to eight or three hot

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Speaker 2: one three nine, that's the station on out there.

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Speaker 5: Hello, who's this you with?

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Speaker 6: Shaking? Making?

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Speaker 5: What's shaking?

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Speaker 7: No pork on my No, no pork.

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Speaker 18: So first, Envy, I want to say, what's up, Envy?

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Speaker 18: I met you before I was EP on stousands of twenty.

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Speaker 19: Two convent when we did the video down the slate

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Speaker 19: down in the city.

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Speaker 18: Okay, when you was there with H we did the

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Speaker 18: video there. And now to the topic.

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Speaker 6: I do believe that you can be in.

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Speaker 19: H in the marriage and not argue with a woman,

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Speaker 19: right because nowadays, when you say argument, the first time

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Speaker 19: people think about is somebody blowing a gasket. You know,

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Speaker 19: you start arguing, your screaming at each other. But as

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Speaker 19: a difference between argument and having a solid, strong discussions,

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Speaker 19: because I've been with my woman eight years and we

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Speaker 19: don't argue, we just have a real solid in that

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Speaker 19: conversation to kind of get our point across. I think

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Speaker 19: you're canna get your point across that way. I think

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Speaker 19: you don't need to argue with people. So I believe

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Speaker 19: that you can be in the you know, in the marriage,

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Speaker 19: especially while they look like to low keys, you know,

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Speaker 19: down to earth people that you can sit and speak to.

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Speaker 6: Why would it be so hard to believe that?

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Speaker 7: Let me look up what's the definition of argument?

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Speaker 9: Argument?

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Speaker 5: It says, that's what I just did. It says.

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Speaker 20: You got to go into it all the fact that

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Speaker 20: you got to google that to see what it is.

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Speaker 20: It's because when you think of argument, that's exactly what

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Speaker 20: comes up to your head. It's like an argument, like

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Speaker 20: you scream at your bondues that.

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Speaker 7: Out of ten. Well, no, it says.

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Speaker 2: An argument is an exchange of diverging our opposite views,

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Speaker 2: typically a heated or angry one.

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Speaker 1: What Swizzer is saying is that they disagree, but it

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Speaker 1: doesn't get heated, but they don't allow it to get heated.

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Speaker 5: But the argument is back and forth.

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Speaker 3: Like I had an argument with my dad the other day, right,

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Speaker 3: it wasn't We weren't yelling and screaming, but he had

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Speaker 3: a view about something. I had a view about something,

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Speaker 3: and it was heated, but after we laughed it off,

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Speaker 3: he kept the movie.

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Speaker 5: But it was an argument.

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Speaker 1: Well, he said, they do disagree, but their communication styles

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Speaker 1: doesn't allow for it to get to level ten.

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Speaker 7: What is level ten?

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Speaker 4: Well, he didn't actually say level ten. I said level ten,

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Speaker 4: But you do know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 7: But I mean, what is level ten?

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Speaker 3: I think it's all.

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Speaker 1: The screaming, the yelling, the cussing, Like he said that

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Speaker 1: their kids have never seen them yell at each other,

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Speaker 1: cuss at each other, those type of things.

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Speaker 2: Oh, no, that ain't that ain't God bless't tell you.

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Speaker 7: I'm not about to tell y'all. No, lie like that.

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Speaker 4: What's the last word you've been called?

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Speaker 7: Envy?

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Speaker 3: No, we don't call each other names now, but you

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Speaker 3: gotta think I think my wife's sixteen. We argue, we've yelled,

712
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Speaker 3: we screamed like we've been there, you know, I mean

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Speaker 3: it is what it is.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes my kids, sometimes my nine. You wanna tell us

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Speaker 2: to stop yelling at each other, and we both be like,

716
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Speaker 2: we both said, we're not yelling. We're we're not yelling

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Speaker 2: at each other because we don't be. But you know,

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Speaker 2: I guess, I don't know. I guess any back and

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Speaker 2: forth between parents looks like an argument to kids.

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Speaker 7: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Eight hundred five eight five one oh five one. We

722
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Speaker 3: were talking about Swiss Beats and his wife Alicia Key

723
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Speaker 3: shout to us Swis and Lisha. They said they have

724
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Speaker 3: never argued after fifteen years of marriage.

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Speaker 5: Let's discuss. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: Want to everybody is DJ envy Ess hilarious, Charlamagne the guy.

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Speaker 5: We are the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: Laura La Rosa is here as well, and we got

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Speaker 3: a special guest in the building. Ladies and gentlemen, Mel Robbins, Welcome, Hey.

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Speaker 21: It's good to see you.

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Speaker 7: Are you feeling morning?

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Speaker 21: I feel great? How are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Bles's Black and Holly favorite. This is your first time

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Speaker 2: in this studio. You were here in twenty twenty one

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Speaker 2: when you had a high five theory. Yes, yes, but

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Speaker 2: now millions of books later, number one podcast in the

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Speaker 2: world right now, six year old woman.

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Speaker 7: Man, it really feels like you've truly arrived. What do

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Speaker 7: you what do you? What do you think?

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Speaker 9: You know?

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Speaker 7: The success? What's made all this new?

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Speaker 21: Six Well, you know it's not new success. Like what

743
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 21: you're seeing is the result of fifteen years of just boring,

744
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 21: grueling daily reps. Like That's what nobody wants to understand,

745
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 21: is that you can be successful. You can achieve anything

746
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Speaker 21: you want. You just have to be patient. You have

747
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 21: to get up out of bed every single day and

748
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Speaker 21: put one foot in front of the other. You got

749
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Speaker 21: to be willing to do the things you don't feel

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Speaker 21: like doing in the dark when nobody's watching and when

751
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Speaker 21: you think that it's not going to happen for you.

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Speaker 21: That is what it's about. It's about just consistent, small moves,

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Speaker 21: being patient. I mean, there were so many times where

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Speaker 21: I was just like, am I ever going to get

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Speaker 21: out of it? Why is anyone ever gonna notice? Like,

756
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Speaker 21: am I ever gonna get invited to the breakfast club?

757
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 21: One of the like when is somebody gone to notice

758
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Speaker 21: your spot that you want it?

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Speaker 5: Well?

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Speaker 21: No, but seriously, like you kind of sit there because

761
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Speaker 21: I mean, every one of us have had those moments,

762
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Speaker 21: whether you're putting out music or you're starting a YouTube

763
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Speaker 21: channel or you started a business, and it's so easy

764
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Speaker 21: to look around at whatever everybody else is doing and

765
00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 21: think that you're losing some race in life. The real

766
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Speaker 21: game is with yourself. Can you keep going? Can you

767
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Speaker 21: say to yourself? And this is kind of how I

768
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Speaker 21: would keep myself going in those moments. I would say,

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Speaker 21: I refuse to believe that this is how the story ends.

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Speaker 21: I believe that at some point all of this work

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Speaker 21: is going to pay off. I don't have to know how.

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Speaker 21: I have to believe that it will. And if it

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Speaker 21: hasn't yet, it's not meant to yet. There's some lesson,

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Speaker 21: there's something I'm being held for that I don't know

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Speaker 21: what it is. But if I choose to believe in

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Speaker 21: this moment that things are going to get better, that

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Speaker 21: things are going to turn out for me, that all

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Speaker 21: this hard work is going to pay off, that trying

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Speaker 21: to be a better person is going to pay off,

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Speaker 21: at some point I will look back on my life

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Speaker 21: and say, oh, that's why it didn't happen. Then, Oh,

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Speaker 21: that's why it took longer. Oh that's why either you

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Speaker 21: weren't ready or God the universe was holding you for

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Speaker 21: a different moment. And so, you know, a lot of

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Speaker 21: people ask me what is this moment about. I think

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Speaker 21: it's about fifteen years of ridiculously hard work becoming a

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Speaker 21: better person. I think it's about fifteen years of just

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Speaker 21: chipping away at getting out of debt and doing better

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Speaker 21: in my marriage, and being a better mother and getting

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Speaker 21: control of my emotions and my mental health, chipping away

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Speaker 21: at building a business, and I truly believe that I

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Speaker 21: was being held for this moment like this one thousand

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Speaker 21: percent is my legacy.

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Speaker 5: Well, let me ask you a question.

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Speaker 3: Out you talk about the reps yep for you, it

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Speaker 3: worked out and successful and great. What about that person

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Speaker 3: that is just not good?

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Speaker 7: Right?

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Speaker 5: That rap of that is not good?

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Speaker 3: Like trying that podcast person that is doing the podcast

801
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Speaker 3: that is just not good and everybody just did good?

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Speaker 5: Good to anybody?

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Speaker 21: Well I don't I see, I don't believe that.

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Speaker 3: But when do you stop because you're a sixty year

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Speaker 3: old rapper like you know?

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Speaker 5: I mean?

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Speaker 21: Or maybe why can't there be a ninety one ninety

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Speaker 21: year old one? See? Maybe what the rapping is for

809
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Speaker 21: is maybe it's not about rapping. Maybe there is something

810
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Speaker 21: that you're doing when you are rapping being and nobody's coming,

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Speaker 21: that is teaching you a lesson about patience. Maybe what

812
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 21: it's doing is teaching you to believe in yourself when

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Speaker 21: nobody else does. And every time that you show up

814
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Speaker 21: and nobody's there, every time you post a video on

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Speaker 21: your YouTube channel that only your uncle and your son

816
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 21: are subscribed to every time you post, you're basically saying,

817
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 21: you know what, screw the world. I believe in myself.

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Speaker 21: I'm doing this for myself and so for me. When

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Speaker 21: you give the example of like the person who's a

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Speaker 21: rappers is terrible, just tell there's lots of people out

821
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Speaker 21: there doing stuff. They're just terrible. What I love is

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Speaker 21: that they felt called to do something. I don't care

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Speaker 21: if they felt called to do it because they wanted

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Speaker 21: to make more money. I mean how I was working

825
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Speaker 21: five six jobs back, you know, fifteen years ago when

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Speaker 21: we were eight hundred thousand dollars in debt because I

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Speaker 21: needed groceries on the table, I needed gas in the tank.

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Speaker 21: And so motivation to be safe and to make money

829
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Speaker 21: or because of your ambition, that's a beautiful thing. But

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Speaker 21: at some point you're going to go, I'm not that

831
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Speaker 21: good at this, but I believe, and this is what

832
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Speaker 21: I think is super cool about life. Absolutely every experience

833
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 21: that you have in life is leading you somewhere and

834
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Speaker 21: teaching you something. And I'm gonna one of the reasons

835
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Speaker 21: why I share so much about what I've learned and

836
00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 21: the mistakes that I've made. I'm like the villain and

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Speaker 21: every book is because I'm stubborn, Like it takes a

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Speaker 21: sledgehammer from the universe for me to wake the hell

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Speaker 21: up and stop doing something like I literally get so

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Speaker 21: into my groove, whether it's drinking too much or taking

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Speaker 21: my stress out on my kids or being a jealous,

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Speaker 21: insecure friend, that things have to backfire for me to

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Speaker 21: wake up and go, well, yes, I better try something different.

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Speaker 2: Well, I want to just set it up about the book, man,

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Speaker 2: there's some books that I believe are must reads in life.

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Speaker 2: Delecting Theory by mel Robbins has been added to that

847
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Speaker 2: must read less. My wife got it for me a

848
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Speaker 2: few weeks ago, and the book is just essentially about

849
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 2: how you have to stop wasting your life on things

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Speaker 2: that you can't control.

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Speaker 7: When did you get to that rebelruce?

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Speaker 21: Oh my god, fifty four? I am a slow learner,

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Speaker 21: you know. The funny thing is is I'm married to

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Speaker 21: the chillest dude on the plan. I mean, I'm married

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Speaker 21: to a man who is not only Buddhist, he is

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Speaker 21: a death dula. And like when you want to talk

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Speaker 21: about like a person yeah that can just sit in stillness.

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Speaker 21: I'm like a tornado of emotion and so I've always

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Speaker 21: wanted to let things go. I've always wanted to not

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Speaker 21: care what people think. I've never known how. And see,

861
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Speaker 21: when you're stressed, or you're easily offended like I used

862
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Speaker 21: to be, or you have a lot going on, it

863
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 21: is very hard to not get wrapped up and what

864
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Speaker 21: other people are thinking and doing. It's very hard to

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Speaker 21: not let what your kids are going through stress you out.

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Speaker 21: And so you know, I've been trying to do this forever.

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Speaker 21: I mean, this is not a new idea. The serenity

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Speaker 21: prayer is the let Them theory. In fact, you know,

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Speaker 21: I sat down with doctor Martin Luther King the third

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Speaker 21: and his wife and Andrea, and they both said, we

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Speaker 21: write about it in the let Them Theory. They both

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Speaker 21: reflect on the fact that this concept that you have

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Speaker 21: to give up control in order to gain control, that

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00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 21: your power is in your response. That this is part

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Speaker 21: of doctor Martin Luther King Junior's legacy, because your response

876
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 21: is what dictates who you are. It's not what's happening

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00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 21: out there, it's how you respond to it with your

878
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 21: thoughts and your actions and how you process your own emotions.

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Speaker 21: And so I did not know this until I was

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Speaker 21: fifty four years old. And you know for me personally

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Speaker 21: the power of these two words, because let them. We've

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Speaker 21: all said let them in our lives a bazillion times.

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Speaker 21: I mean, there's a sermon circulating that's twenty years old,

884
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Speaker 21: Dad Jakes doing this let them sermons. So this is

885
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:40,280
Speaker 21: a concept that has been around since the beginning of time,

886
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 21: and that's why this is resonated. I'm not teaching you

887
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 21: something new. I'm reminding you of what you already know

888
00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 21: to be true, and I'm handing you this tool so

889
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 21: you can snap out of this crap where we're constantly

890
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 21: worked up about what other people are doing to take

891
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 21: our power back.

892
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 3: We'll still kicking with mel Robbins.

893
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:55,280
Speaker 5: Lauren.

894
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 1: You talk about managing other people a lot, and I've

895
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 1: never heard the term like that, but you use it

896
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:04,399
Speaker 1: to basically talk about how we're so what you're talking

897
00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 1: about me now, we're worried about other people, but also too,

898
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:09,240
Speaker 1: I think it's expectations of other people that we're trying

899
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: to we're making decisions based around that a lot. When

900
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:15,359
Speaker 1: did you realize this whole scale of like managing other

901
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 1: people and learning when the clock out of that job

902
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 1: of trying to do that.

903
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 21: Well, So what's going to happen is this, So when

904
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 21: you start using the let them theory, and it's so

905
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 21: easy to use the next time you're stressed out or

906
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,319
Speaker 21: annoyed or frustrated, and it's always with other people, just

907
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 21: say let them. That's how you use it. Let them,

908
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:33,800
Speaker 21: and you're gonna immediately feel peaceful. Your mom's in a

909
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 21: bad mood, letter be in a bad mood. Some old

910
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 21: friend of yours is talking, let them talk trash. Why

911
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 21: you're not allowing it? When you say let them, you

912
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:45,960
Speaker 21: are reminding yourself there's one thing in life I can't control.

913
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 21: It's what other people say, do, believe, feel, and some

914
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 21: of my job to So when you start saying let them,

915
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 21: and you detach yourself from the responsibility of having to

916
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:59,799
Speaker 21: manage somebody else, something interesting happens. You realize, Oh my god,

917
00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 21: I've live my life in reserve reverse. I actually live

918
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 21: my life giving time and energy trying to manage what

919
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 21: other people think. I have kept myself in a major

920
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 21: or in a relationship, or in a situation because I'm

921
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 21: afraid to disappoint my parents or my friends. I mean,

922
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 21: how many people keep drinking or like keep going out

923
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 21: at night when what they really want to do is

924
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 21: launch a business, and so they don't take the weekends

925
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 21: to work on the things that they want to work

926
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:29,760
Speaker 21: on because they feel like they don't want to disappoint

927
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:31,839
Speaker 21: their friends or people going to talk about them. That's

928
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 21: you giving power to other people. Like another way that

929
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 21: we give power to other people is we, you know,

930
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:39,400
Speaker 21: get so focused on the headlines that we gaslight ourselves

931
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 21: into believing that you have no power. It's complete garbage.

932
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 21: Of course you have power. And so when you start

933
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 21: saying let them, it's sort of this revelation where you're like,

934
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:51,880
Speaker 21: oh my god, I spend so much time and energy

935
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:54,279
Speaker 21: worrying about other people. I spend so much time and

936
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:55,720
Speaker 21: energy letting them stress me out.

937
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:57,800
Speaker 1: But is there a level of like when that becomes

938
00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:00,080
Speaker 1: easier versus harder? Because when you were just talking, and

939
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 1: I thought about Michelle Obama in the podcast one of

940
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: the podcasts she did this week, she was talking about

941
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:06,839
Speaker 1: how she realized she was doing a lot for other

942
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:09,320
Speaker 1: people not thinking about herself, and she started making decisions

943
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 1: for herself. So she's going place she wants to go

944
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: and do things she like that they don't, and they

945
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 1: think she's the worst because of it. But it's like

946
00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 1: she's Michelle Obama, so it's hard for her to like

947
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 1: the noise is so it's it's a lot louder for

948
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 1: her well.

949
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 21: Of course. But whether or not you pay attention to

950
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 21: that is within your control. Whether or not you look

951
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 21: at your phone, and we're all guilty of it, whether

952
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:35,359
Speaker 21: you are Michelle Obama or you're just going into your

953
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,920
Speaker 21: middle school, whether or not you give attention to the gossip,

954
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 21: you look for, the gossip, you mainline it, that is

955
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 21: within your control. If you say, I can never ever

956
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:48,759
Speaker 21: ever stop somebody from lying about me, from making up

957
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:51,680
Speaker 21: stuff about me, from you know, saying whatever they're going

958
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 21: to say, So why on earth would I spend any

959
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 21: time and energy managing it? And then you go let

960
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,399
Speaker 21: me This is the second part of the theory. Whyn't

961
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 21: you say let them, let them think negative thoughts, let

962
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:03,759
Speaker 21: them make up all kinds of crap, Because if you

963
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:05,879
Speaker 21: know you're not getting divorced, what do you care about

964
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 21: these idiots saying let me remind myself that I know

965
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:12,319
Speaker 21: the truth. And when you know the truth about who

966
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 21: you are, you don't think about other people. When you

967
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:17,760
Speaker 21: live your life in a way that makes you proud,

968
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 21: you don't think about other people.

969
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,919
Speaker 1: I tell them all you tell me to read her book,

970
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: and I was, and I already had the book because

971
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:25,959
Speaker 1: I think Eddie had given it to us a minute

972
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:27,280
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, I got the book.

973
00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 21: And for the while you got it. It will change

974
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 21: your Damn. I'm telling you it will change your life

975
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:32,399
Speaker 21: because but.

976
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 5: You have to get to that stage.

977
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:35,960
Speaker 3: Yes, because it's it took me a while to get

978
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 3: to that stage.

979
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: It took a while that he think he was born

980
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 1: that way, and so I've never.

981
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 7: Truly cared, right.

982
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 2: But then even when I started to care, I realized

983
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 2: things like the Serenity prayer, a little simple things.

984
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 7: That you saw sitting in your grandmother's house.

985
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 2: You realize that is absolutely the truth of God, Grammy,

986
00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 2: the serenity A excepting things I cannot change, courage change

987
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 2: the things I can.

988
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 7: And withn't no difference.

989
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:58,440
Speaker 2: And the easiest way to let go of what you

990
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 2: can't control is just realize you've never had control to

991
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 2: begin with you.

992
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 21: And here's another thing that's really important. That's why you're

993
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 21: gonna love it, is that what will start to happen.

994
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:08,879
Speaker 21: When you say let them, is it's not that you're

995
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 21: allowing people to do bad things. They're already doing bad things.

996
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:15,839
Speaker 21: You're recognizing that it's not your job to manage other people,

997
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:18,320
Speaker 21: because this is a book that's about power and control

998
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:22,080
Speaker 21: and peace. Then you say, let me remind myself how

999
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 21: I respond to things. Actually is where my power is.

1000
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 21: So do I give this any time and energy or not?

1001
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 21: Do I double down on just living my life in

1002
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 21: a way that makes me proud of myself, which is

1003
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 21: where your power is. And the thing that also changed

1004
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 21: me dramatically is I couldn't believe how much stress I

1005
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 21: felt and how I was bracing all the time. And

1006
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 21: when you start to say let them, and you release

1007
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:55,880
Speaker 21: that kind of obligation to make other people happy or

1008
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 21: to make everybody know that you're not divorced, or that

1009
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:01,120
Speaker 21: everything's okay, or like, just let them think whatever they

1010
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:02,799
Speaker 21: want to think, and live your life in a way

1011
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 21: that makes you proud. You're going to get all this

1012
00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 21: time and energy back. And what I love about this

1013
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 21: is when you're less stressed and when you're not bracing

1014
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 21: all the time because you know your boss is narcissistic,

1015
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 21: so why on earth would you walk into work assuming

1016
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:20,279
Speaker 21: that today's going to be anything other than what it

1017
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 21: already has always been. Let them be who they are.

1018
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:25,800
Speaker 2: I love the Managing Stress chapter, and in that chapter

1019
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 2: you say you can't control how other adults behave and

1020
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 2: stressing about it diminishes your power. You'll never reach the

1021
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:34,920
Speaker 2: full potential of your life if you continue to allow

1022
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:37,319
Speaker 2: stupid things to rule, people to drain your life for.

1023
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 7: Can you yes?

1024
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 21: Yes, So the two most important resources that you have

1025
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 21: in life time energy, that's what you got. How you

1026
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:47,360
Speaker 21: spend your time, where you put your energy, it actually

1027
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:50,560
Speaker 21: determines your experience of life. And that's why I say,

1028
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 21: if you have this experience right now where you're exhausted

1029
00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 21: and overwhelmed and nervous, and you're not like feeling like

1030
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 21: you can ever have time for yourself or your goals

1031
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:02,319
Speaker 21: just aren't clicking, you're not the problem. The problem is

1032
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:05,240
Speaker 21: all this time and energy you spend dealing with other people.

1033
00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 21: And so let them is a boundary that you draw

1034
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:10,920
Speaker 21: where you start to recognize, Okay, I'm going to let

1035
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:14,400
Speaker 21: other people think and feel and do and have their opinions,

1036
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,600
Speaker 21: and I'm going to let them be disappointed. I'm going

1037
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 21: to let them misunderstand me, and I'm going to let

1038
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 21: me really take that time and energy back and pour

1039
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 21: it into working on myself and staying in my piece.

1040
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 21: And what I've found is that when I'm less stressed,

1041
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 21: which i am because I'm not allowing stupid stuff for

1042
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 21: other people to stress me out, I'm actually a better person.

1043
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 21: I make more money because I can use my brain

1044
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 21: instead of being in fight or flight. I don't like

1045
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 21: vomit on my kids. My emotions. Like I used to

1046
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 21: be the kind of person that would come in at

1047
00:45:49,200 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 21: you know, after work and be yelling at everybody. You're

1048
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 21: mad at the dog for crying out loud, and then

1049
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 21: I'd be like, I'm sorry, it's a bad day at work,

1050
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 21: stressful day at work with the dog.

1051
00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 7: Try bit, you know.

1052
00:45:58,320 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 21: They kind of do this and then they come back

1053
00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 21: and really nice because they literally dogs don't like punish

1054
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 21: you for that. And it's so sad that I used

1055
00:46:08,600 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 21: to leave the worst of me for the people I

1056
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 21: cared about the most and then blame it on the

1057
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 21: stress of the day. That By the way, when you

1058
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 21: use the let them theory, you have control over whether

1059
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:21,319
Speaker 21: or not this stuff gets to you.

1060
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:22,880
Speaker 9: Let me do it.

1061
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 5: I have a question.

1062
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:26,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, in chapter five you say let them think bad

1063
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 3: thoughts about you, right. The question with that is when

1064
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 3: a lot of people, sometimes especially on social media, right,

1065
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 3: nobody facts checks anymore, but that could affect your reputation.

1066
00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:38,919
Speaker 3: That can affect your business, That could affect the way

1067
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:42,160
Speaker 3: that your kids, teachers look at you, or business that

1068
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,239
Speaker 3: comes round. Of course, what are you doing well?

1069
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 21: So here this is a very tricky question because you're

1070
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 21: talking about the PR and the media swirl. PR is

1071
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,920
Speaker 21: a little bit different in personal like, I think it's

1072
00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:57,560
Speaker 21: really important to understand who you are, whether you're dealing

1073
00:46:57,560 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 21: with rumors at a middle school, or you're dealing with

1074
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 21: rumors in your community, or you've got somebody in your

1075
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:06,279
Speaker 21: family trash talking you. In order to repair your reputation,

1076
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 21: it is better to show than to tell. In my opinion,

1077
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,719
Speaker 21: you prove the truth based on how you show up

1078
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 21: in life, not based on the words that come out

1079
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 21: of your mouth. And if there is somebody spreading things

1080
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 21: about you, the best way to handle it is to

1081
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 21: go directly to that person and to ask them about it.

1082
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 21: Because those kind of people, the people that gossip about

1083
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 21: you ultimately end up crumbling anyway, because it always catches

1084
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 21: up with it.

1085
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 3: We still kicking it with Meil Robbins. A new book,

1086
00:47:34,040 --> 00:47:35,919
Speaker 3: the Let Them Theory, is out right now.

1087
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 2: Charlamagne, you know you were in the book you talk

1088
00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 2: about how you felt paralyzed by imposter syndrome, especially when

1089
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 2: you were teaching.

1090
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, the five second rule. I wonder what's changed since then?

1091
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 2: Like, well, gives you the confidence and authority now to

1092
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 2: feel like you can go out here and teach to

1093
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 2: let them do?

1094
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 21: That's a great, great question. So you know how well,

1095
00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 21: First of all, impostor syndrome is deeply misunderstood. So imposter

1096
00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 21: syndrome does not mean that you don't belong in the

1097
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:04,399
Speaker 21: room you're in. Imposter syndrome means you actually want to

1098
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:07,320
Speaker 21: be in the room you're in, and there's skills or

1099
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 21: there's experience that you need to gain in order to

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Speaker 21: dominate in that room. Imposter syndrome is actually not self doubt.

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00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:15,880
Speaker 21: It's ambition. And so let me explain that a.

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00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 4: Bit, because it's always been said the other way.

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00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,359
Speaker 21: Yeah, and so if you really think about it, if

1104
00:48:20,400 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 21: you walk into a room and you don't feel imposter syndrome.

1105
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:25,319
Speaker 21: It's because you don't want to be in that room.

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00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:28,280
Speaker 21: You don't care what people think about you in that room.

1107
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 21: If you walk into a room and you feel a

1108
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:34,799
Speaker 21: sense of imposter syndrome, it's because you care about what

1109
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 21: people think about you in that room. It means your

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00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:38,799
Speaker 21: ambition wants you to succeed in that room.

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00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:41,919
Speaker 4: Oh like a push to stay sharp because I'm trying

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00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 4: to okay.

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00:48:42,400 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 21: And also like, hey, I want to actually succeed around

1114
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 21: people like this, which means what are the skills I

1115
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 21: need and what I started to understand. And I think

1116
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:53,920
Speaker 21: it explains a lot about why I am who I

1117
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,760
Speaker 21: am is that we're all the same. Everybody is dealing

1118
00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:58,799
Speaker 21: with the same stuff. Yes, it's easier if you have

1119
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:00,920
Speaker 21: more money and more recent sources, but at the end

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Speaker 21: of the day, everybody's got a family member that they're

1121
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:06,400
Speaker 21: worried about. Everybody has ambition they're not tapping into. Everybody

1122
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:09,600
Speaker 21: has things that they want to pursue in their life,

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00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 21: and they're kind of letting themselves down a little bit.

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Speaker 21: Everybody struggles with a little bit of uncertainty and anxiety

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Speaker 21: at times. Everybody has hopes and dreams and feels a

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00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 21: little discouraged and overwhelmed. And when you started a baseline

1127
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 21: that people would love to thrive, and people thrive when

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Speaker 21: they can, and if they can't, I believe it's because

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00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 21: they're discouraged or there's some skill building or some experience

1130
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 21: or you know, some mentorship that's missing.

1131
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 4: That's it.

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00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 21: But that you're built to thrive. And so when you

1133
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:39,920
Speaker 21: really start at that baseline, like you know, I make

1134
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 21: it a practice. By the way, this is this is

1135
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 21: one thing that will change your life when you go

1136
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 21: into a public bathroom. Two things. I always leave the

1137
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:49,439
Speaker 21: space better than when I found it.

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Speaker 4: I always public bathrooms.

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00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 16: No no, no, literally like.

1140
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:58,840
Speaker 21: Literally, that's why I don't go into that stall. But okay, no,

1141
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 21: just I gotta because if somebody like destroy especially women,

1142
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 21: if somebody destroys the seat, peas all over it and

1143
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 21: then they leave, that is a human being that is

1144
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 21: so disconnected from the interconnection of the human experience. You

1145
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:18,800
Speaker 21: are leaving that for another person, and so making sure

1146
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 21: that you don't leave your mess for another person, making

1147
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:23,160
Speaker 21: sure that you just kind of wipe down the counter.

1148
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 21: And then here's the second thing. If there is a

1149
00:50:24,680 --> 00:50:27,320
Speaker 21: human being cleaning that bathroom, please look in the ai

1150
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 21: and say thank you all the time. You like that, right,

1151
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:36,040
Speaker 21: there is a simple thing that will make you start

1152
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 21: to shake out of that woe is me or that

1153
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:43,319
Speaker 21: stress or that overwhelm Let them know you appreciate and

1154
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:46,239
Speaker 21: see what they're doing because it changes who you are.

1155
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:49,560
Speaker 21: And then you start to see all day long that

1156
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 21: there are like you know, I can't let you, I'm

1157
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:58,279
Speaker 21: gonna cry, people are just walking around disconnected and the

1158
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:02,160
Speaker 21: power of starting to be the one that wakes people up.

1159
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 21: Hey you know, I always get to know or hey,

1160
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:07,799
Speaker 21: how is everybody doing? Like it's shocking how we have

1161
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:11,239
Speaker 21: gotten so far away from that sense of community. And

1162
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 21: there's actually research around this. They call it either weak ties.

1163
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 21: I call them warm connections. Those people that you see

1164
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:18,400
Speaker 21: in the building every day, that you say hello to,

1165
00:51:18,719 --> 00:51:21,760
Speaker 21: the person that's walking the dog that you you know,

1166
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 21: know the name of the dog in your neighborhood. These

1167
00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:27,040
Speaker 21: relationships matter because they make you feel.

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Speaker 1: Human again when you feel the impact from what you're

1169
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 1: doing with your book, and to let them theory like

1170
00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 1: you just got emotional, just not even just about your impact,

1171
00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 1: but just talking about just change in the world. How

1172
00:51:37,440 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 1: does it make you feel like, do you take a

1173
00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 1: moment just of gratitude and be like, because I saw

1174
00:51:41,360 --> 00:51:43,239
Speaker 1: all the tattoos in the book, and I was like,

1175
00:51:43,239 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 1: that's on fire. It's hard to make people like actually

1176
00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:48,080
Speaker 1: believe something that's not tangible.

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Speaker 21: One of the things that you know. For me, I

1178
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:56,160
Speaker 21: spent so many years like hating myself and feeling like

1179
00:51:56,280 --> 00:51:59,040
Speaker 21: I was a really bad person. And when you get

1180
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:01,799
Speaker 21: stuck in life, it's easy to think you're the only one.

1181
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:07,800
Speaker 21: And so I'm just literally on a mission to share

1182
00:52:07,840 --> 00:52:10,239
Speaker 21: whatever I could share and give people access just like

1183
00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:14,239
Speaker 21: you guys, give people access to incredible thinkers and experts

1184
00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:17,279
Speaker 21: and resources. You know, your work is reaching some way

1185
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 21: halfway around the world that doesn't even have a toilet

1186
00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 21: in their house, And how incredible is that? And if

1187
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:27,600
Speaker 21: I can save anybody the headaches and the heartaches that

1188
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 21: I cause myself for the people that I care about,

1189
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:31,719
Speaker 21: because I didn't know any better, I didn't know what

1190
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 21: the problem was. I didn't know how to change myself.

1191
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:36,360
Speaker 21: I didn't know how to push through the emotion that

1192
00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:37,440
Speaker 21: is a life well lived.

1193
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 4: Why did you hate yourself though? Because you can't do

1194
00:52:39,239 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 4: anything about what you don't know.

1195
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:42,400
Speaker 21: Oh my God, we don't have time. I literally like

1196
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:44,760
Speaker 21: from the amount of cheating I did when I was little,

1197
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 21: to the undiagnosed anxiety or the undiagnosed to SLEXI and ADHD,

1198
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:53,200
Speaker 21: and how that created tremendous anxiety, to the way that

1199
00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:56,520
Speaker 21: childhood trauma impacted me that I didn't even realize was

1200
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 21: impacting me, Like it's just chronic. I just did not

1201
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:01,440
Speaker 21: think think I was a bad person. And there's a

1202
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 21: lot of people walking around that have a hundred times

1203
00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 21: more negative thoughts than they do positive ones. And a

1204
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 21: lot of people develop a habit of being very self critical.

1205
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:14,719
Speaker 21: It's never enough, like you're never gonna make it, like

1206
00:53:14,760 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 21: you're always so stupid. Why did you do that? Either

1207
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 21: because that's how they were talked to when they were little,

1208
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 21: or because it's this like almost protective thing that if

1209
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:24,759
Speaker 21: you beat yourself up first, you're going to catch it

1210
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 21: before other people do. And I got to a point,

1211
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:30,799
Speaker 21: and this is an important thing. The only thing you

1212
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:33,239
Speaker 21: need to make your life better is one decision. How

1213
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:35,280
Speaker 21: I'm living my life right now and how it feels

1214
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,640
Speaker 21: no longer works for me. That's all you need to know.

1215
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 21: If you can have the courage to say that to yourself.

1216
00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 21: You now have tipped the first domino because you've made

1217
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 21: a decision that you want to change how your life feels.

1218
00:53:46,080 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 21: You made a decision that you want to change how

1219
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 21: it feels up here. And for me as a mom,

1220
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:54,240
Speaker 21: like your kids absorb the way that you treat yourself.

1221
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:58,040
Speaker 21: And so having two daughters that I started noticing, my god,

1222
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 21: why are these beautiful young women picking themself apart? Well

1223
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:02,080
Speaker 21: because I do. Why are they so hard on it?

1224
00:54:02,120 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 21: Because I was so hard on myself That's how they

1225
00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:07,120
Speaker 21: learn it, And so I don't want them to do

1226
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:09,160
Speaker 21: that to themselves. And you know, the thing I was

1227
00:54:09,200 --> 00:54:11,080
Speaker 21: going to share that's made a huge difference for me

1228
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 21: is that I keep the impact front and center. And

1229
00:54:14,640 --> 00:54:17,759
Speaker 21: so we send an email out five days a week.

1230
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:19,759
Speaker 21: There's a person on our team whose job is to

1231
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:23,279
Speaker 21: assemble all of the things that people are saying all

1232
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:26,279
Speaker 21: over the world about the books and the podcast, not

1233
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:30,200
Speaker 21: about mel but about what you learned. And I'll tell

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00:54:30,239 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 21: you every day there's twenty to thirty of them. And

1235
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:35,200
Speaker 21: just the other day there was a person who talked

1236
00:54:35,239 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 21: about how he was a stepdad and the relationship ended

1237
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 21: and those step kids were his life and he didn't

1238
00:54:42,640 --> 00:54:45,880
Speaker 21: want to be here anymore. And somebody started to share

1239
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 21: the podcast with him, and he would go and take

1240
00:54:49,480 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 21: a walk every morning and listen to the podcast, and

1241
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:53,480
Speaker 21: it started to give him a sense of hope. And

1242
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:55,400
Speaker 21: now he uses the let them theory. This is a

1243
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:59,960
Speaker 21: person that actually works in like a police operations control center.

1244
00:55:00,440 --> 00:55:02,000
Speaker 21: Never in a million years would I think this is

1245
00:55:02,040 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 21: somebody that's listening to the Mel Robins podcast or listening

1246
00:55:05,160 --> 00:55:07,880
Speaker 21: to this kind of conversation. But it goes to prove

1247
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:11,840
Speaker 21: that everybody wants to do well. Everybody wants to thrive,

1248
00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:14,640
Speaker 21: and you know when you're not doing well. You know

1249
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 21: when you're not thriving. The problem for most of us

1250
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:19,839
Speaker 21: is just kind of feeling like I don't think this

1251
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 21: could change, And the fact is, of course it can change.

1252
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:24,440
Speaker 21: If you've ever been happy in your life, you can

1253
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 21: be happy again. If you've ever been proud of yourself,

1254
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:29,040
Speaker 21: you can be proud of yourself again. If you've ever

1255
00:55:29,080 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 21: forgiven somebody else, you can learn to forgive yourself.

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Speaker 2: And you know, also God doesn't call to qualify it.

1257
00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:36,200
Speaker 2: He qualified the called, and you've been called Mail Robin.

1258
00:55:36,280 --> 00:55:38,600
Speaker 21: I feel that I love you man, I love you too.

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00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 7: Wow.

1260
00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 9: That's right.

1261
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Speaker 7: Well, we appreciate you for joining us.

1262
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Speaker 21: Thank you.

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00:55:42,640 --> 00:55:44,960
Speaker 5: All right. Well it's Mel Robbins. It's the Breakfast Club.

1264
00:55:44,960 --> 00:56:01,200
Speaker 5: Good morning, the Breakfast Club.

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00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 2: Yes, dog here today goes to a Medesto, California man

1266
00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:08,680
Speaker 2: named Kristin Alandro Slario Anguiano.

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Speaker 7: I don't think I pronounced any of that right, Okay.

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00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:12,799
Speaker 2: That is a name that ICE agents would have at

1269
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:14,759
Speaker 2: the top of their list, just in case they would

1270
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:17,360
Speaker 2: monitor a name like that, you know, And honestly, with

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00:56:17,440 --> 00:56:18,759
Speaker 2: a name like that, he might get sent to El

1272
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:22,680
Speaker 2: Salvador because he was arrested for sexual battery, burglary, stalking,

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00:56:22,719 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 2: and assault with the intent to commit a felony. All

1274
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:28,760
Speaker 2: those charges will get you deported in Trump's America, especially

1275
00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:29,520
Speaker 2: with a name like that.

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Speaker 7: And it don't even matter if you are an American citizen.

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00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 2: Okay, they gonna put you on that deportation flight to

1278
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:39,279
Speaker 2: El Salvador. Well, what exactly did Christian Alandro Solario Anguiano do.

1279
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:42,000
Speaker 7: Let's go to CBS News for report. Please got a

1280
00:56:42,000 --> 00:56:43,520
Speaker 7: strange one for you tonight.

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00:56:43,560 --> 00:56:46,880
Speaker 22: Adam Modesto, the Staslow Kenny Sheriff says they've arrested a

1282
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:49,720
Speaker 22: man last week after he allegedly broke into a woman's

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00:56:49,760 --> 00:56:52,440
Speaker 22: home at night, then bit and licked her.

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Speaker 5: Toes while she slept.

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Speaker 7: Let's give you some context.

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Speaker 22: The sheriff's officers the man arrested scene here, twenty seven

1287
00:56:58,719 --> 00:57:01,960
Speaker 22: year old Christian Aguiano, have been stalking the woman for months,

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00:57:01,960 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 22: following her home from work several times, despite a number

1289
00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 22: of people confronting him.

1290
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:06,920
Speaker 7: Deputy saying just.

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Speaker 22: Wouldn't stop, would even sleep in the car outside her home.

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00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:12,720
Speaker 16: Woman is okay on Guiana.

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Speaker 5: Those suspects being.

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Speaker 22: Held on a three hundred and twenty five thousand dollars bail.

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00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:18,439
Speaker 2: He broke into her house just so he could treat

1296
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:21,160
Speaker 2: her feet like a chero cinnamon swirl, full tongue action,

1297
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:24,920
Speaker 2: sweet sticky, slightly confusing, Okay, l toe lick of supremo,

1298
00:57:25,280 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 2: toe sucking king of the dance floor. How you breaking

1299
00:57:27,800 --> 00:57:31,440
Speaker 2: to someone's house which says on for their feet? This

1300
00:57:31,520 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 2: man is a telling Nobela villain. Okay, First of all,

1301
00:57:34,120 --> 00:57:36,200
Speaker 2: what's the point of stalking? At what point does a

1302
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:39,680
Speaker 2: man understand this woman don't want you? And what part

1303
00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:41,880
Speaker 2: of your brain makes you believe that breaking into this

1304
00:57:41,920 --> 00:57:45,120
Speaker 2: woman's house and sexually assaulting her toes was gonna make

1305
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:47,320
Speaker 2: her like you. Okay, I don't know why I got

1306
00:57:47,320 --> 00:57:49,640
Speaker 2: this far. If this man was following this woman home

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00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 2: after her shifts, sleeping in his car outside her residence,

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00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:55,480
Speaker 2: checking her doors to see if they are unlocked, the

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00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 2: gain entry. If he was doing all of that, he

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00:57:57,880 --> 00:58:01,120
Speaker 2: should have been on ICE's radar along long time ago. Okay,

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Speaker 2: somebody should have been put him in handcuffs. This man

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Speaker 2: was confronted by her co workers to leave her alone,

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Speaker 2: but none of that stopped him.

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Speaker 7: Okay.

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Speaker 2: The lesson to be learned here is that this incident

1316
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:14,480
Speaker 2: underscores the importance of taking stalking behaviors seriously, and we

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00:58:14,600 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 2: got to implement stronger protective measures for victims. And by

1318
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 2: stronger measures, we got to let people get they ass kicked. Okay,

1319
00:58:22,240 --> 00:58:24,680
Speaker 2: that's what I mean by stronger measures. There have to

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00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:27,600
Speaker 2: be some sort of community policing that can happen the

1321
00:58:27,640 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 2: same way it's citizens arrest. We have to make it

1322
00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:33,400
Speaker 2: okay in certain situations for citizens to put their foot

1323
00:58:33,520 --> 00:58:35,120
Speaker 2: up other citizens' assets.

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00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,800
Speaker 7: Okay. Co workers went to him and told him to

1325
00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:38,320
Speaker 7: cut it out.

1326
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 2: He was sleeping outside that woman's home he was checking

1327
00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:42,760
Speaker 2: for unlocked doors and her residence.

1328
00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:46,640
Speaker 7: All of that should equate to a community jumping. Okay,

1329
00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 7: now that's too extreme for folks. Then we got to

1330
00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 7: enhance legal protections, all right.

1331
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:52,880
Speaker 2: You gotta have strong laws against stalking and ensure swift

1332
00:58:52,920 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 2: actions when victims report their being stocked. You gotta use

1333
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 2: stories like this to increase public awareness. We have to

1334
00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 2: educate the public about the signs of stalking and the

1335
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:06,480
Speaker 2: importance of reporting suspicious activities. And most importantly, we got

1336
00:59:06,480 --> 00:59:10,800
Speaker 2: to support the victims. Okay, provide resources and support systems

1337
00:59:10,800 --> 00:59:14,240
Speaker 2: for people who feel threatened. You can't wait until somebody

1338
00:59:14,280 --> 00:59:17,640
Speaker 2: breaks into somebody's house and turns their toes into.

1339
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:18,160
Speaker 7: To Molly's to care.

1340
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 2: Okay, So please give Christian Anguiano the sweet sounds of

1341
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 2: the Hamiltons.

1342
00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:38,240
Speaker 15: You are, Oh the day, oh the day.

1343
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:44,920
Speaker 3: Ye all right, well, thank you for that Donkey of

1344
00:59:44,960 --> 00:59:45,480
Speaker 3: the day.

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00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:48,160
Speaker 5: Ye the Breakfast Club.

1346
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Speaker 11: Morning.

1347
00:59:50,680 --> 00:59:54,600
Speaker 3: Everybody is dj NV just Hilarie Charlamagne to God, we

1348
00:59:54,720 --> 00:59:57,080
Speaker 3: are the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in

1349
00:59:57,120 --> 00:59:59,480
Speaker 3: the building, the icon living Dawn Stanley.

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00:59:59,560 --> 01:00:02,080
Speaker 16: Welcome back, how you, thank you, thank you, thank y'all.

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01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:04,280
Speaker 13: Usually come back when we win the championship we lost

1352
01:00:04,280 --> 01:00:05,680
Speaker 13: this year, So thank y'all for you.

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01:00:07,920 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 5: You're always invited.

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01:00:10,960 --> 01:00:13,960
Speaker 3: Uncommon favorite is out right now. Basketball in North Philly,

1355
01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 3: My Mother and the Life Lessons I learned from all three.

1356
01:00:17,240 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 5: It's out right now. How are you feeling.

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01:00:19,080 --> 01:00:19,960
Speaker 16: I'm feeling great.

1358
01:00:20,240 --> 01:00:23,200
Speaker 13: I mean, my friends have received their books and they

1359
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 13: have nothing but like great things like my cup running over.

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01:00:28,120 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 5: Yeah it did.

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01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:30,800
Speaker 13: I gotta I gotta give you a shout out. And

1362
01:00:31,560 --> 01:00:34,120
Speaker 13: you sparked the conversation. So many people have asked me

1363
01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 13: to write a book, and I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

1364
01:00:36,360 --> 01:00:38,120
Speaker 13: like yeah right, but it.

1365
01:00:38,120 --> 01:00:39,600
Speaker 16: Came from so many different people.

1366
01:00:39,800 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 13: And then when I came on the show in twenty

1367
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:45,280
Speaker 13: twenty two, we we talked about it and you just

1368
01:00:45,480 --> 01:00:46,720
Speaker 13: you kept the conversation going.

1369
01:00:46,760 --> 01:00:47,960
Speaker 16: You're real persistent with it.

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01:00:48,440 --> 01:00:48,640
Speaker 9: You know.

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01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 13: That's That's what I'm attracted to most. It's like somebody that.

1372
01:00:52,240 --> 01:00:54,120
Speaker 7: Actually is it persistent yet.

1373
01:00:53,960 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 13: Persistent and know the process, like you knew the process.

1374
01:00:58,280 --> 01:01:00,280
Speaker 13: I don't know if you knew my story so so

1375
01:01:00,360 --> 01:01:03,240
Speaker 13: to speak, but you knew enough to know that you.

1376
01:01:03,160 --> 01:01:06,520
Speaker 16: Know this, this book will be received well. And I

1377
01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:07,560
Speaker 16: appreciate that well.

1378
01:01:07,560 --> 01:01:09,640
Speaker 7: People like you don't come around too often.

1379
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:12,640
Speaker 2: Don like you're a once in a generational just person,

1380
01:01:12,880 --> 01:01:14,560
Speaker 2: you know, and you really learned that when you read

1381
01:01:14,560 --> 01:01:16,520
Speaker 2: the book, not even just as a coach, but as

1382
01:01:16,560 --> 01:01:19,800
Speaker 2: a basketball player, but more so as a child of Philadelphia.

1383
01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:23,880
Speaker 13: Man, I mean I had fun, Like the process was fun.

1384
01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:27,640
Speaker 13: It's liberating. It is you know, you don't really know

1385
01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:30,520
Speaker 13: how you're going to be received, but every person like

1386
01:01:30,760 --> 01:01:34,600
Speaker 13: I'm actually waiting for a critic, like somebody saying what

1387
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 13: didn't go right in the book, and then we have

1388
01:01:36,800 --> 01:01:38,880
Speaker 13: yet to get to that point. And one of my

1389
01:01:38,960 --> 01:01:42,600
Speaker 13: friends was, you know, listening, had a long road trip,

1390
01:01:42,840 --> 01:01:46,160
Speaker 13: listened to the entire book yesterday and she was like,

1391
01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:46,920
Speaker 13: I'm in tears.

1392
01:01:47,040 --> 01:01:47,800
Speaker 16: I'm laughing.

1393
01:01:48,720 --> 01:01:50,920
Speaker 13: I get it, like the leadership part of it, Like

1394
01:01:51,200 --> 01:01:54,080
Speaker 13: I mean, the emotions that are in the book, and

1395
01:01:54,480 --> 01:01:55,200
Speaker 13: it's me.

1396
01:01:55,480 --> 01:01:57,280
Speaker 16: So some of it is emotional me.

1397
01:01:57,320 --> 01:01:59,680
Speaker 13: Some of it is just I'm able to just get

1398
01:01:59,680 --> 01:02:02,880
Speaker 13: it out because I remembered most of it and I

1399
01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:05,320
Speaker 13: had to call on my siblings and kind of fill

1400
01:02:05,360 --> 01:02:09,120
Speaker 13: in the gaps. But it's me, Like it's so me,

1401
01:02:09,360 --> 01:02:12,960
Speaker 13: it's so relatable, it's so it was an easy process.

1402
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:15,400
Speaker 16: So was the therapeutic at all to do it.

1403
01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:18,960
Speaker 13: No, it was just natural. It wasn't like it was natural.

1404
01:02:18,960 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 13: And I think sharing my story is just relatable to people.

1405
01:02:23,840 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 13: It's not like, you know, I don't think it's an

1406
01:02:26,320 --> 01:02:29,560
Speaker 13: overdo it with the accolades. It's like the accolades are

1407
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:35,560
Speaker 13: intertwined and everybody's accolades won't be like Olympian and actual champions,

1408
01:02:35,600 --> 01:02:38,200
Speaker 13: but on a certain level, like if you graduate high

1409
01:02:38,200 --> 01:02:41,520
Speaker 13: school it's relatable, if you graduate college, it's relatable. If

1410
01:02:41,560 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 13: you can pull yourself out of the projects of any city,

1411
01:02:45,200 --> 01:02:46,360
Speaker 13: it's relatable.

1412
01:02:47,080 --> 01:02:49,280
Speaker 16: And there's no wrong path, like.

1413
01:02:49,200 --> 01:02:52,360
Speaker 13: There's no like you can get off tilted, but then

1414
01:02:52,720 --> 01:02:56,840
Speaker 13: you got to come back by like habits, come back by.

1415
01:02:57,040 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 13: The lessons in the book are just just it really

1416
01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 13: relates to every single thing that you would want to

1417
01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 13: accomplish in life. And I'm not just saying that the

1418
01:03:04,040 --> 01:03:06,120
Speaker 13: pump the book, but it really is like I'm only

1419
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:09,919
Speaker 13: giving what other people are giving me, the feedback they're

1420
01:03:09,920 --> 01:03:13,720
Speaker 13: giving me, and it's cool to hear people just relate

1421
01:03:13,760 --> 01:03:14,160
Speaker 13: to the book.

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01:03:14,280 --> 01:03:16,640
Speaker 3: Yes, I love it because you know, people know you

1423
01:03:16,680 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 3: from different things, right, Some people know you as a player,

1424
01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:21,040
Speaker 3: some people know you as a coach. But with this book,

1425
01:03:21,120 --> 01:03:23,800
Speaker 3: it starts from where you came from, which is North Philly, right,

1426
01:03:23,840 --> 01:03:26,480
Speaker 3: And you talk abound and rosenhousing projects, and you talk

1427
01:03:26,520 --> 01:03:29,080
Speaker 3: about you know, you said growing up in the projects

1428
01:03:29,200 --> 01:03:31,800
Speaker 3: was the best decision your parents made. Explain that a

1429
01:03:31,800 --> 01:03:33,880
Speaker 3: little bit and how that formed to the woman that

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01:03:33,920 --> 01:03:34,560
Speaker 3: you are today.

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01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:37,560
Speaker 13: Just imagine the people that don't grow up in the projects.

1432
01:03:37,920 --> 01:03:39,840
Speaker 16: What you think happens in the projects.

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01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:43,400
Speaker 13: You think probably only one thing, crime like bad things

1434
01:03:43,480 --> 01:03:47,240
Speaker 13: like And for me, it was the foundation of giving

1435
01:03:47,280 --> 01:03:49,400
Speaker 13: me the scars I needed, the.

1436
01:03:49,440 --> 01:03:51,960
Speaker 16: Chinks and the armor I needed to succeed.

1437
01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:56,560
Speaker 13: Like there was unity in the projects, There was discipline

1438
01:03:56,960 --> 01:04:00,440
Speaker 13: in the projects. There was manicure lawns. It was my

1439
01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:02,880
Speaker 13: block I grew up, never had trash in it, like,

1440
01:04:03,360 --> 01:04:07,800
Speaker 13: it was captain in a way that would compete with

1441
01:04:07,960 --> 01:04:12,240
Speaker 13: any suburban lawn like on neighborhood. So it was all

1442
01:04:12,320 --> 01:04:16,400
Speaker 13: those things that helped build you up, like I'm unbothered

1443
01:04:16,440 --> 01:04:20,520
Speaker 13: and unafraid to tackle on the most challenging things in

1444
01:04:20,560 --> 01:04:24,520
Speaker 13: life because that's nothing compared to what that's nothing like.

1445
01:04:25,120 --> 01:04:28,080
Speaker 13: So I think it gave me the foundation I needed

1446
01:04:28,120 --> 01:04:31,200
Speaker 13: to just be able to coach every day like coach

1447
01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:36,000
Speaker 13: young people, like generations are changing. Coaching talent and individuals

1448
01:04:36,000 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 13: and young people nowadays, it's very, very challenging.

1449
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:41,160
Speaker 7: I love how you embrace your in a child. That's

1450
01:04:41,200 --> 01:04:42,680
Speaker 7: what I love this picture on the past.

1451
01:04:43,200 --> 01:04:45,400
Speaker 2: What's the moment from your childhood that still shapes how

1452
01:04:45,440 --> 01:04:47,040
Speaker 2: you like handle pressure to day.

1453
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:49,480
Speaker 13: You know, there's a story that I that I share

1454
01:04:49,520 --> 01:04:52,800
Speaker 13: in the book about my father, who I mean, I'm

1455
01:04:52,840 --> 01:04:56,400
Speaker 13: over fifty now, right, but when he I don't know

1456
01:04:56,440 --> 01:05:00,080
Speaker 13: if I was twelve fourteen, maybe I got invited to

1457
01:05:00,120 --> 01:05:03,600
Speaker 13: play on this team in this competition outside of Philly,

1458
01:05:03,760 --> 01:05:06,760
Speaker 13: Like it was a road trip, and my father was like, no,

1459
01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:07,880
Speaker 13: you can't go.

1460
01:05:08,280 --> 01:05:10,720
Speaker 16: Like that hurt me, Like it really hurt me.

1461
01:05:10,760 --> 01:05:14,160
Speaker 13: And I remembered it so vividly that for him to

1462
01:05:14,200 --> 01:05:16,120
Speaker 13: deny me that because it was one of the first times.

1463
01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:18,880
Speaker 13: But I'm thirteen, fourteen years old, whose parents are gonna

1464
01:05:18,960 --> 01:05:22,760
Speaker 13: let them somebody else take their child out of state?

1465
01:05:23,280 --> 01:05:25,360
Speaker 13: Like I wasn't thinking about that. I was solely thinking

1466
01:05:25,400 --> 01:05:28,640
Speaker 13: about basketball. But it was one of the one of

1467
01:05:28,400 --> 01:05:30,400
Speaker 13: the experiences that drove.

1468
01:05:30,200 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 16: Me like I didn't like my father for that, Like.

1469
01:05:33,680 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 13: I didn't like him for the decision, parental decision that

1470
01:05:37,320 --> 01:05:41,280
Speaker 13: he made. But as I'm older now and reflecting on

1471
01:05:41,360 --> 01:05:44,480
Speaker 13: and writing the book, it is I need conflict. I

1472
01:05:44,560 --> 01:05:47,480
Speaker 13: know that about myself that I need conflict, Like everything

1473
01:05:47,560 --> 01:05:50,640
Speaker 13: can't be comfortable. Like if I have you know, ten

1474
01:05:50,680 --> 01:05:53,680
Speaker 13: people supporting me, you know here, I need about ten

1475
01:05:53,720 --> 01:05:57,400
Speaker 13: to twelve people that hated like I need it. I

1476
01:05:57,400 --> 01:06:01,560
Speaker 13: mean it helps me. It drives me, like it drives me.

1477
01:06:01,640 --> 01:06:03,160
Speaker 16: While you said, I don't have a critic yet, I'm

1478
01:06:03,160 --> 01:06:04,720
Speaker 16: waiting for the book right.

1479
01:06:04,640 --> 01:06:09,640
Speaker 13: Now, right, So it's that is the ability. Like you know,

1480
01:06:09,720 --> 01:06:12,760
Speaker 13: we lost the Yukon this year, Like you know, the

1481
01:06:12,840 --> 01:06:14,920
Speaker 13: critics are saying I can't coach.

1482
01:06:17,720 --> 01:06:18,720
Speaker 16: That's what they say.

1483
01:06:18,760 --> 01:06:21,280
Speaker 13: But I'm like, okay, well but but but again, everything

1484
01:06:21,320 --> 01:06:24,360
Speaker 13: that I've needed in my life, you know, failure success

1485
01:06:24,840 --> 01:06:29,560
Speaker 13: happens to me. It's uncommon. Like, but I know are

1486
01:06:29,680 --> 01:06:31,479
Speaker 13: loss this year will somehow help us?

1487
01:06:32,120 --> 01:06:32,480
Speaker 16: It will.

1488
01:06:32,960 --> 01:06:36,840
Speaker 13: I'm not just relying on it helping us. I'm gonna

1489
01:06:36,920 --> 01:06:40,040
Speaker 13: put action to it, so it means something.

1490
01:06:40,240 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 7: I love them.

1491
01:06:40,720 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 2: You said that in a post game conference. You was like,

1492
01:06:42,680 --> 01:06:45,200
Speaker 2: I hope that they're crying. I hope that my players

1493
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:47,600
Speaker 2: are crying. I hope that it hurts, that'll make them

1494
01:06:47,600 --> 01:06:48,439
Speaker 2: be better next.

1495
01:06:48,800 --> 01:06:52,720
Speaker 13: Yeah, I mean the most growth takes place when you're uncomfortable,

1496
01:06:53,120 --> 01:06:54,400
Speaker 13: the most if you're.

1497
01:06:54,360 --> 01:06:55,400
Speaker 16: Comfortable all the time.

1498
01:06:55,560 --> 01:06:59,120
Speaker 13: And I've said this as well, like parents really don't

1499
01:06:59,120 --> 01:07:03,000
Speaker 13: want their kids to feel what they felt like pain,

1500
01:07:03,320 --> 01:07:05,400
Speaker 13: and I'm like, I want them to feel a little pain.

1501
01:07:05,480 --> 01:07:06,240
Speaker 16: I want them to hurt.

1502
01:07:06,240 --> 01:07:08,360
Speaker 13: I want them to be uncomfortable, and I love them

1503
01:07:08,480 --> 01:07:11,640
Speaker 13: enough to allow them to sit in that space because

1504
01:07:11,720 --> 01:07:14,680
Speaker 13: not for long, but they need to fight their way

1505
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:16,840
Speaker 13: out of it, because nothing's going to be given to me.

1506
01:07:16,880 --> 01:07:18,120
Speaker 16: I don't like that place.

1507
01:07:18,160 --> 01:07:20,960
Speaker 13: I don't like to feel that, so I fight like

1508
01:07:21,080 --> 01:07:24,240
Speaker 13: hell to try to not feel that, by reppering, by

1509
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:26,560
Speaker 13: doing everything I need to do to not feel that.

1510
01:07:26,800 --> 01:07:29,200
Speaker 13: It's almost like when you grow up in the projects

1511
01:07:29,200 --> 01:07:32,560
Speaker 13: and you grow up in poverty, you don't want that anymore,

1512
01:07:32,600 --> 01:07:34,919
Speaker 13: Like you don't want that. Once you've lived and you've

1513
01:07:35,320 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 13: you know you've earned a certain keep. You want to

1514
01:07:38,280 --> 01:07:42,600
Speaker 13: keep that because you want to change generations and your family,

1515
01:07:42,640 --> 01:07:44,280
Speaker 13: and I hope I'm able to do that.

1516
01:07:44,560 --> 01:07:46,560
Speaker 3: We're still kicking it with dog Stalley Charlaman.

1517
01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:50,840
Speaker 2: You seem like you've always been a natural born leader,

1518
01:07:51,040 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 2: like throughout your whole life, even when you were the child.

1519
01:07:53,240 --> 01:07:55,120
Speaker 2: So it made me wonder if if coaching never entered

1520
01:07:55,160 --> 01:07:57,280
Speaker 2: your life, where do you think your leadership would have

1521
01:07:57,280 --> 01:07:58,240
Speaker 2: shown up instead?

1522
01:07:58,400 --> 01:07:58,560
Speaker 9: Oh?

1523
01:07:58,600 --> 01:08:02,120
Speaker 13: Man, that's a hard question. Like I'm competitive. I probably

1524
01:08:02,360 --> 01:08:08,360
Speaker 13: would have been a losing gambler. I try, like trying,

1525
01:08:08,960 --> 01:08:10,360
Speaker 13: like I don't know.

1526
01:08:10,600 --> 01:08:11,640
Speaker 16: I mean, I do.

1527
01:08:11,720 --> 01:08:15,240
Speaker 13: I love kids, so my work would have been with kids.

1528
01:08:15,560 --> 01:08:18,960
Speaker 13: And I'm glad that coaching found me. Like I'm glad

1529
01:08:19,000 --> 01:08:22,439
Speaker 13: somebody saw something in me that I didn't see it myself.

1530
01:08:22,520 --> 01:08:25,320
Speaker 13: I didn't see coaching. I didn't want to coach at all.

1531
01:08:25,600 --> 01:08:27,479
Speaker 13: And I don't know why, because I had great coaches.

1532
01:08:27,520 --> 01:08:30,600
Speaker 13: I had great people in my life that challenged me,

1533
01:08:30,880 --> 01:08:33,519
Speaker 13: that were good at it. But when I when I

1534
01:08:33,560 --> 01:08:36,479
Speaker 13: had coaching friends, the only thing they talked about were

1535
01:08:36,520 --> 01:08:39,760
Speaker 13: their teams in basketball. And I'm like, you know, just

1536
01:08:39,880 --> 01:08:41,920
Speaker 13: what I do every day? I do this every day.

1537
01:08:41,920 --> 01:08:43,840
Speaker 13: Why would I want to talk about it every day?

1538
01:08:43,840 --> 01:08:46,640
Speaker 13: Why would I want my life consume with it? And

1539
01:08:47,080 --> 01:08:50,120
Speaker 13: here I am, twenty five years later, like loving it,

1540
01:08:50,240 --> 01:08:52,479
Speaker 13: like it's I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing.

1541
01:08:53,000 --> 01:08:55,080
Speaker 13: And when you when you're able to live out your passion.

1542
01:08:55,360 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 13: It's the most beautiful, liberating and incredible experience. Like I

1543
01:08:59,560 --> 01:09:03,600
Speaker 13: know my players really get something out of our relationship.

1544
01:09:03,640 --> 01:09:03,960
Speaker 16: They do.

1545
01:09:04,000 --> 01:09:08,080
Speaker 13: They get they build character, they navigate life. But for me,

1546
01:09:08,280 --> 01:09:12,080
Speaker 13: it's I'm overjoyed when they graduate. I'm overjoyed on draft night.

1547
01:09:12,280 --> 01:09:16,719
Speaker 13: I'm overjoyed when they're able to see their hard work

1548
01:09:17,040 --> 01:09:19,439
Speaker 13: produce what they wanted. Like even if they don't make

1549
01:09:19,479 --> 01:09:23,360
Speaker 13: it to the league, they're equipped with being successful with anything.

1550
01:09:23,920 --> 01:09:27,400
Speaker 13: Like seriously, that does something to my heart when young

1551
01:09:27,400 --> 01:09:29,000
Speaker 13: people were able to get what they're supposed to be.

1552
01:09:29,080 --> 01:09:30,640
Speaker 2: You know, you talked about your players, You got a

1553
01:09:30,640 --> 01:09:32,680
Speaker 2: lot of success stories from your time coaching at the

1554
01:09:32,720 --> 01:09:34,760
Speaker 2: University of South Carolina. But in the book, you make

1555
01:09:34,800 --> 01:09:36,839
Speaker 2: it no secret that Asia Wish is your favorite.

1556
01:09:37,000 --> 01:09:39,599
Speaker 13: Well, I mean, I mean, here's why, And I don't

1557
01:09:40,120 --> 01:09:42,920
Speaker 13: I've coached a lot of great players, Like Asia was

1558
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:46,920
Speaker 13: the very first player that was the number one play

1559
01:09:46,920 --> 01:09:49,800
Speaker 13: in the country to decide she wanted to come play

1560
01:09:49,840 --> 01:09:51,680
Speaker 13: for us, and I know it's in her backyard.

1561
01:09:52,120 --> 01:09:52,639
Speaker 16: And we didn't.

1562
01:09:52,840 --> 01:09:55,640
Speaker 13: We didn't look like a national championship team, Like we

1563
01:09:55,720 --> 01:09:58,120
Speaker 13: never won a national we had never been to the

1564
01:09:58,160 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 13: final four, so for her to trust us with that

1565
01:10:02,520 --> 01:10:05,680
Speaker 13: part of her career meant that she believed in us.

1566
01:10:05,720 --> 01:10:09,960
Speaker 13: She trusted us, she knew that we were gonna get

1567
01:10:09,960 --> 01:10:12,360
Speaker 13: her to where she needed to go as far as

1568
01:10:12,720 --> 01:10:16,200
Speaker 13: still being the number one draft pick like four years later,

1569
01:10:16,760 --> 01:10:19,640
Speaker 13: like when someone and it wasn't just her, it was

1570
01:10:19,680 --> 01:10:23,400
Speaker 13: her entire family believed in it. And it took some

1571
01:10:23,920 --> 01:10:28,240
Speaker 13: at times them thinking did we make the right decision?

1572
01:10:28,760 --> 01:10:29,479
Speaker 16: Because she did.

1573
01:10:29,640 --> 01:10:32,479
Speaker 13: She started her first game and then she was terrible,

1574
01:10:32,600 --> 01:10:34,439
Speaker 13: like scrub like.

1575
01:10:34,520 --> 01:10:36,680
Speaker 16: Right, scrub like scrub like.

1576
01:10:38,720 --> 01:10:40,800
Speaker 13: So I was like, I gotta gotta take you out

1577
01:10:40,800 --> 01:10:43,320
Speaker 13: of starting lineup. But I ain't even taught her that.

1578
01:10:43,600 --> 01:10:47,000
Speaker 13: I told her parents first, and her mom even was

1579
01:10:47,080 --> 01:10:50,760
Speaker 13: like you sure, like you're gonna have to trust me

1580
01:10:50,800 --> 01:10:52,680
Speaker 13: on this one, Like you're just gonna have to trust me,

1581
01:10:53,040 --> 01:10:55,080
Speaker 13: And she was like all right. But at the end

1582
01:10:55,160 --> 01:10:58,280
Speaker 13: of her freshman year, she was National Rookie of the Year,

1583
01:10:58,400 --> 01:11:02,320
Speaker 13: she was first team All SEC, she was Rookie of

1584
01:11:02,320 --> 01:11:03,960
Speaker 13: the Year in the SEC. Like she got all the

1585
01:11:03,960 --> 01:11:08,320
Speaker 13: accolades coming off the bench. And when someone as a

1586
01:11:08,400 --> 01:11:12,040
Speaker 13: coach and leader and mentored young people believe in you

1587
01:11:12,160 --> 01:11:16,080
Speaker 13: like they really do, when that's reciprocating because I believe

1588
01:11:16,080 --> 01:11:18,080
Speaker 13: that I knew that she was going to be the

1589
01:11:18,120 --> 01:11:20,519
Speaker 13: one that takes us to that next level when you're

1590
01:11:20,560 --> 01:11:22,479
Speaker 13: able to have the same synergy.

1591
01:11:22,720 --> 01:11:26,840
Speaker 16: You know, Asia was hell to deal with, right.

1592
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:29,880
Speaker 13: Because she's young, Like she with the private school for

1593
01:11:30,000 --> 01:11:31,080
Speaker 13: like twelve years.

1594
01:11:31,280 --> 01:11:34,000
Speaker 16: All of her schooling was a private school, so.

1595
01:11:34,280 --> 01:11:37,080
Speaker 13: She needed to be roughened up a little bit to

1596
01:11:37,120 --> 01:11:39,559
Speaker 13: get her ready for what she faced. Like she faces

1597
01:11:39,640 --> 01:11:42,559
Speaker 13: the critics right now, but I know she can handle

1598
01:11:42,600 --> 01:11:45,280
Speaker 13: them because we took her through all of that. Like

1599
01:11:45,960 --> 01:11:50,720
Speaker 13: she had dyslexia right throughout her college career, and I'm like, okay,

1600
01:11:50,920 --> 01:11:52,920
Speaker 13: you're going to read in front of the team every

1601
01:11:52,920 --> 01:11:54,760
Speaker 13: time we have a game because we have a like

1602
01:11:54,800 --> 01:11:59,400
Speaker 13: a scripture reading and an inspirational reading before every pregame

1603
01:11:59,439 --> 01:12:02,400
Speaker 13: meal and there's somebody that has to read it. So

1604
01:12:02,439 --> 01:12:05,040
Speaker 13: I was like, you're gonna read that. It took her

1605
01:12:05,080 --> 01:12:07,120
Speaker 13: her senior year. Couldn't do it the first second, the

1606
01:12:07,240 --> 01:12:10,559
Speaker 13: third her senior year, she read out loud, and she

1607
01:12:10,680 --> 01:12:12,280
Speaker 13: had fun with it. She said, y'all, this is along

1608
01:12:12,320 --> 01:12:14,559
Speaker 13: with y'all gonna have to bear with me, Like it

1609
01:12:14,720 --> 01:12:18,800
Speaker 13: was that kind of liberation. So when she gave her

1610
01:12:19,040 --> 01:12:21,880
Speaker 13: entire self to me, the good, the bad, the ugly

1611
01:12:22,640 --> 01:12:25,400
Speaker 13: entire You know, that's why I just have a really

1612
01:12:25,439 --> 01:12:29,599
Speaker 13: strong relationship with her, Like she could tell me anything,

1613
01:12:29,840 --> 01:12:33,320
Speaker 13: Like I'm non judgmental, Like young people won't want to

1614
01:12:33,360 --> 01:12:36,160
Speaker 13: tell you everything because they think you're gonna judge them.

1615
01:12:36,520 --> 01:12:39,080
Speaker 16: I don't judge. Like, there's nothing that any one of

1616
01:12:39,120 --> 01:12:40,680
Speaker 16: my current former.

1617
01:12:40,640 --> 01:12:43,280
Speaker 13: Future players can tell me that that's gonna rock me

1618
01:12:43,360 --> 01:12:46,080
Speaker 13: that I haven't seen, like everybody's been through. Like there's

1619
01:12:46,080 --> 01:12:49,880
Speaker 13: no new problems. It's the same old, recycled problems. So

1620
01:12:50,520 --> 01:12:52,559
Speaker 13: just give it here so you're not dealing with it

1621
01:12:52,600 --> 01:12:53,400
Speaker 13: longer than you need to.

1622
01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:55,639
Speaker 7: You know, it's interesting, Recular, I was watching you.

1623
01:12:55,640 --> 01:12:57,519
Speaker 2: You did Good Morning in America, if you Kobe all

1624
01:12:57,520 --> 01:12:59,160
Speaker 2: of that stuff like that, So you was working, but

1625
01:12:59,240 --> 01:13:01,479
Speaker 2: I still know he still the coach at the University

1626
01:13:01,560 --> 01:13:03,599
Speaker 2: of South Carolina. But I was like, oh, you know what,

1627
01:13:03,960 --> 01:13:06,240
Speaker 2: she'll be fine because she used to play ball and

1628
01:13:06,360 --> 01:13:08,479
Speaker 2: coach at the same time, which I found out about

1629
01:13:08,479 --> 01:13:08,880
Speaker 2: in the book.

1630
01:13:08,960 --> 01:13:09,679
Speaker 7: That was insane.

1631
01:13:10,520 --> 01:13:13,000
Speaker 16: Six years. That's crazy six years.

1632
01:13:13,200 --> 01:13:14,920
Speaker 13: I mean when I when I got into coaching, I

1633
01:13:15,040 --> 01:13:18,799
Speaker 13: was like in my prime, So you know, the ad

1634
01:13:19,160 --> 01:13:22,400
Speaker 13: at the time. He kept asking me like he was persistent,

1635
01:13:22,520 --> 01:13:25,040
Speaker 13: like I'm like, no, no, I'm not interested.

1636
01:13:25,360 --> 01:13:27,800
Speaker 16: I'm playing in the WNBA and this is and then

1637
01:13:27,800 --> 01:13:28,799
Speaker 16: he just kept asking.

1638
01:13:28,840 --> 01:13:31,559
Speaker 13: And then then I ended up having to go meet

1639
01:13:31,600 --> 01:13:33,479
Speaker 13: with him because the final four was in Philly.

1640
01:13:33,560 --> 01:13:35,280
Speaker 16: I'm from Philly. He knew I was going to be there.

1641
01:13:35,600 --> 01:13:38,240
Speaker 13: So I went and sat down with him and he

1642
01:13:38,280 --> 01:13:39,280
Speaker 13: asked me two questions.

1643
01:13:39,280 --> 01:13:42,519
Speaker 16: He was like, can you lead did you do your research?

1644
01:13:42,600 --> 01:13:44,960
Speaker 13: Like did you like and I was like, yeah, I

1645
01:13:45,000 --> 01:13:48,519
Speaker 13: basically was the captain on every team that I played on, right,

1646
01:13:48,800 --> 01:13:50,960
Speaker 13: And then he was like, can you turn Temple women's

1647
01:13:50,960 --> 01:13:53,880
Speaker 13: basketball program around? And I was like, oh, is that

1648
01:13:53,920 --> 01:13:57,120
Speaker 13: a challenge? Like is that really a challenge? Because I'm

1649
01:13:57,200 --> 01:13:59,720
Speaker 13: drawing the challenges And I never answered the question. I

1650
01:13:59,760 --> 01:14:01,800
Speaker 13: only I think I answered the question. He was like, hey,

1651
01:14:01,880 --> 01:14:04,920
Speaker 13: can you just come down the hall and meet some people?

1652
01:14:05,439 --> 01:14:06,599
Speaker 16: So I was like, okay, I'm here.

1653
01:14:06,840 --> 01:14:09,040
Speaker 13: He took me in this conference room, set me at

1654
01:14:09,080 --> 01:14:11,479
Speaker 13: the head of the table and they were like ten

1655
01:14:11,520 --> 01:14:14,360
Speaker 13: to twelve people sitting around this table and they're asking

1656
01:14:14,400 --> 01:14:16,639
Speaker 13: me questions like what do you see yourself in five years?

1657
01:14:16,680 --> 01:14:19,040
Speaker 13: I'm like playing in the WNBA and they were like,

1658
01:14:19,080 --> 01:14:20,839
Speaker 13: do you have to see yourself coaching?

1659
01:14:21,200 --> 01:14:24,040
Speaker 16: And I was like no, Like y'all they were interviewing me.

1660
01:14:24,240 --> 01:14:26,599
Speaker 13: I was on a job interview and I didn't know

1661
01:14:26,640 --> 01:14:30,720
Speaker 13: it because all my job interviews were tryouts like basketball

1662
01:14:30,840 --> 01:14:34,000
Speaker 13: like physical tryouts. Needless to say, I took the job

1663
01:14:34,280 --> 01:14:37,760
Speaker 13: two weeks later. They just agreed to allow me to

1664
01:14:37,800 --> 01:14:40,960
Speaker 13: continue to play and coach. So I was in like

1665
01:14:41,040 --> 01:14:45,840
Speaker 13: basketball utopia because I was coaching and I'm actually still

1666
01:14:45,880 --> 01:14:49,240
Speaker 13: able to express myself on the court because I wasn't

1667
01:14:49,360 --> 01:14:52,400
Speaker 13: ready to hang up my shoes. I was still very

1668
01:14:52,479 --> 01:14:56,559
Speaker 13: much a player, and I think that allowed me to

1669
01:14:56,560 --> 01:14:58,960
Speaker 13: play a little bit longer than I wanted to, and

1670
01:14:59,080 --> 01:15:02,439
Speaker 13: that allowed me to he staying fresh with what was

1671
01:15:02,560 --> 01:15:06,799
Speaker 13: up with teaching young people because they were more enthralled

1672
01:15:06,800 --> 01:15:09,599
Speaker 13: with me playing because that's what they wanted, like I

1673
01:15:09,720 --> 01:15:13,080
Speaker 13: was living their dream right before their very eyes. And

1674
01:15:14,080 --> 01:15:16,920
Speaker 13: I think it just helped me be a better coach,

1675
01:15:17,400 --> 01:15:21,479
Speaker 13: be a more understanding coach because I was a player

1676
01:15:21,560 --> 01:15:24,840
Speaker 13: receiving the information from a coach, and then I just

1677
01:15:25,120 --> 01:15:27,760
Speaker 13: helped the dynamics of what I was doing.

1678
01:15:27,840 --> 01:15:30,000
Speaker 3: We was still kicking it with Dawn Stalley. Her new book,

1679
01:15:30,160 --> 01:15:33,200
Speaker 3: Uncommon Favorite is out right now. Basketball in North Philly,

1680
01:15:33,240 --> 01:15:36,320
Speaker 3: My Mother, and the life Lessons I learned from all three. Now,

1681
01:15:36,320 --> 01:15:38,400
Speaker 3: I wanted to ask about your father, right. You mentioned

1682
01:15:38,400 --> 01:15:41,360
Speaker 3: your father earlier and you said your relationship wasn't that great?

1683
01:15:41,680 --> 01:15:43,560
Speaker 5: What you said it got better over the years.

1684
01:15:43,880 --> 01:15:45,679
Speaker 3: Do you understand some of the things that your father

1685
01:15:45,800 --> 01:15:47,679
Speaker 3: was trying to implementing you as a young girl, because

1686
01:15:47,680 --> 01:15:50,000
Speaker 3: they said that your father looked at women's basketball and

1687
01:15:50,000 --> 01:15:52,800
Speaker 3: felt that wasn't too many opportunities and didn't know if

1688
01:15:52,880 --> 01:15:55,800
Speaker 3: you could sustain at that time. And do you wish

1689
01:15:55,840 --> 01:15:58,960
Speaker 3: that you kind of put yourself in his mentality back

1690
01:15:58,960 --> 01:16:00,280
Speaker 3: then as a child, because even with the name of

1691
01:16:00,280 --> 01:16:02,960
Speaker 3: the book, it says Basketball North Philly, my Mother, but

1692
01:16:03,080 --> 01:16:03,719
Speaker 3: not father.

1693
01:16:06,360 --> 01:16:11,920
Speaker 13: No, no, no, you know, I think I think even

1694
01:16:12,160 --> 01:16:15,760
Speaker 13: the one like family members that are that are closest

1695
01:16:15,800 --> 01:16:19,080
Speaker 13: to you, Yes, I thought, I, Yes, I should have

1696
01:16:19,160 --> 01:16:24,760
Speaker 13: had a much more mature outlook on that relationship now

1697
01:16:24,800 --> 01:16:26,519
Speaker 13: that you can reflect on it, now that you can

1698
01:16:26,520 --> 01:16:29,360
Speaker 13: see because I held that and I you know if

1699
01:16:29,360 --> 01:16:32,400
Speaker 13: you can hear that, I still hold that instance. But

1700
01:16:32,680 --> 01:16:36,439
Speaker 13: when you when you're coaching, right, you come into a

1701
01:16:36,479 --> 01:16:38,599
Speaker 13: situation where you hurt a player like you heard that

1702
01:16:38,640 --> 01:16:42,000
Speaker 13: player that was like probably twelve years ago. I heard

1703
01:16:42,040 --> 01:16:45,000
Speaker 13: that player like it. It drives me to not hurt

1704
01:16:45,040 --> 01:16:48,479
Speaker 13: other players. And I wasn't mature enough or savvy enough

1705
01:16:48,680 --> 01:16:52,120
Speaker 13: to handle that at twelve or thirteen. So I do

1706
01:16:52,160 --> 01:16:55,280
Speaker 13: think it's it's helped me be a better coach. It

1707
01:16:55,360 --> 01:16:59,519
Speaker 13: helps me be a better person to really like again,

1708
01:16:59,720 --> 01:17:01,560
Speaker 13: I did and talk about things I held that for

1709
01:17:01,840 --> 01:17:06,160
Speaker 13: My father probably didn't, probably doesn't. He's been dead and

1710
01:17:06,240 --> 01:17:08,160
Speaker 13: gone since two thousand and one.

1711
01:17:08,760 --> 01:17:11,360
Speaker 16: Like I don't even think he really knew how much

1712
01:17:11,439 --> 01:17:12,000
Speaker 16: that hurt me.

1713
01:17:12,800 --> 01:17:17,599
Speaker 13: But also use that to navigate the nose like I

1714
01:17:17,680 --> 01:17:20,320
Speaker 13: handle those a lot better because of that.

1715
01:17:20,520 --> 01:17:23,400
Speaker 7: I love to respect the power of habits chapter.

1716
01:17:23,680 --> 01:17:27,280
Speaker 2: And in that chapter, you speak extremely highly of South

1717
01:17:27,320 --> 01:17:30,280
Speaker 2: Carolina's own Malaysia for a while, and you even refer

1718
01:17:30,320 --> 01:17:32,840
Speaker 2: to her as a younger, savvier version of you. You say,

1719
01:17:33,120 --> 01:17:34,880
Speaker 2: this is a quote I heard from so many adults

1720
01:17:34,920 --> 01:17:37,200
Speaker 2: who gave their own parents hell, only to see that

1721
01:17:37,280 --> 01:17:40,519
Speaker 2: teenagers return to favor. Now it's my turn in the battle.

1722
01:17:40,560 --> 01:17:42,479
Speaker 2: So when I see you had when I read that,

1723
01:17:42,560 --> 01:17:44,639
Speaker 2: and I was like, she had so much love for Malaysia.

1724
01:17:44,680 --> 01:17:47,519
Speaker 2: What was your initial reaction when she decided to enter

1725
01:17:47,560 --> 01:17:48,080
Speaker 2: the portal and.

1726
01:17:48,160 --> 01:17:49,000
Speaker 7: Was it surprising to you?

1727
01:17:50,439 --> 01:17:51,040
Speaker 16: Surprising?

1728
01:17:51,320 --> 01:17:54,040
Speaker 13: No, I think you know, being in this space, you

1729
01:17:54,160 --> 01:17:58,719
Speaker 13: become to expect the unexpected, right. I still have much

1730
01:17:58,760 --> 01:18:01,320
Speaker 13: love for Malaysia, much love, like I want her happy.

1731
01:18:01,320 --> 01:18:03,920
Speaker 13: She and a mom came in. She said, I think

1732
01:18:03,960 --> 01:18:06,280
Speaker 13: I'm want to get into the transfer portal. So I'm like, okay,

1733
01:18:06,320 --> 01:18:09,040
Speaker 13: well you think or you know? And she said I know,

1734
01:18:09,479 --> 01:18:12,000
Speaker 13: And I said, well, only want you happy, like I

1735
01:18:12,040 --> 01:18:14,680
Speaker 13: really do. Only want our players happy, whether that's with

1736
01:18:14,880 --> 01:18:16,519
Speaker 13: us or somewhere else.

1737
01:18:17,000 --> 01:18:19,320
Speaker 16: Just be happy. I told her, don't look back.

1738
01:18:19,400 --> 01:18:22,120
Speaker 13: I know it's probably gonna be hard to not look

1739
01:18:22,160 --> 01:18:25,200
Speaker 13: back to see you know, you leaving your hometown and

1740
01:18:25,240 --> 01:18:27,559
Speaker 13: all that. I said, don't look back like you made

1741
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Speaker 13: this decision. Just go forward with it and don't look back.

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01:18:32,439 --> 01:18:34,599
Speaker 13: You're always gonna be a game cock, You're always gonna

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01:18:34,600 --> 01:18:37,280
Speaker 13: be welcomed here. I wish her the best. And when

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01:18:37,280 --> 01:18:40,240
Speaker 13: I say that, people probably think, oh, but I do,

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01:18:40,479 --> 01:18:43,960
Speaker 13: like I really do, like, cause I am what's for

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01:18:44,040 --> 01:18:48,120
Speaker 13: us is for us, not it was not. Let's keep moving.

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01:18:48,160 --> 01:18:50,760
Speaker 13: I don't stay in despair. I don't stay in those

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01:18:50,800 --> 01:18:54,000
Speaker 13: spaces for very long. I'm like, Okay, we got to

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01:18:54,000 --> 01:18:56,560
Speaker 13: get recruiting. We gotta get back into this portal to

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01:18:56,600 --> 01:18:58,840
Speaker 13: see who we can get to help us. I think

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01:18:58,840 --> 01:19:01,920
Speaker 13: she's gonna have a promising career. I do think she's

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01:19:01,960 --> 01:19:05,320
Speaker 13: a generational talent that will never leave. Like, she does

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01:19:05,360 --> 01:19:07,960
Speaker 13: things on the basketball court that I've never seen a

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Speaker 13: woman do, and she's She'll continue to do that and

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01:19:11,560 --> 01:19:15,400
Speaker 13: will continue to be happy for her except the one

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01:19:15,479 --> 01:19:17,240
Speaker 13: or two times that we have to play them like

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01:19:17,280 --> 01:19:18,680
Speaker 13: it's on, like it's this.

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Speaker 16: She's gonna be super competitive against us.

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Speaker 13: We're gonna we're gonna want to win, and it's gonna

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01:19:23,560 --> 01:19:27,120
Speaker 13: be a pride thing that comes with just being a competitor.

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Speaker 16: And we got much love for her and the family.

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Speaker 3: Now this this has nothing to do with the boat,

1763
01:19:31,320 --> 01:19:33,000
Speaker 3: but I wanted to ask us were talking about players.

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01:19:33,160 --> 01:19:35,800
Speaker 3: You know, the w NBA has has taken a huge

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01:19:35,880 --> 01:19:37,439
Speaker 3: jump in the last couple of years, and I love it.

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01:19:37,479 --> 01:19:39,600
Speaker 3: My daughters love it, my sons love it. What do

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01:19:39,600 --> 01:19:41,439
Speaker 3: you think what's going on in the WNBA with it?

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01:19:41,439 --> 01:19:44,599
Speaker 3: It seems like they're pitting, you know, Caitlin Clark against

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01:19:44,600 --> 01:19:47,080
Speaker 3: Angel reaes right, kind of what they did in the

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01:19:47,160 --> 01:19:49,280
Speaker 3: NBA back in the day. But it was more teams, right,

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01:19:49,320 --> 01:19:51,320
Speaker 3: I guess not maybe not teams. It was Magic Bird.

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01:19:51,400 --> 01:19:53,040
Speaker 3: This one is that one, but this one it just

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01:19:53,040 --> 01:19:55,840
Speaker 3: seems like it seems very personal. So what are your thoughts,

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01:19:55,840 --> 01:19:57,400
Speaker 3: like even the other day with that foul, and they

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01:19:57,400 --> 01:20:00,400
Speaker 3: called it a flagrant foul. I don't necessarily we agree,

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01:20:00,439 --> 01:20:01,000
Speaker 3: but what are your.

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Speaker 9: Thoughts on it?

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01:20:01,600 --> 01:20:01,720
Speaker 17: Well?

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01:20:02,040 --> 01:20:04,559
Speaker 16: I think the officiating has a hard job.

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Speaker 13: That's one the decipher whether or not that's a flavored

1781
01:20:07,680 --> 01:20:10,080
Speaker 13: one or not. Hard job, and I do think they

1782
01:20:10,439 --> 01:20:13,879
Speaker 13: understand the dynamics of Angel and Caitlyn.

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Speaker 16: I do.

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01:20:14,920 --> 01:20:16,880
Speaker 13: I think it's great for our game because it's like

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01:20:16,920 --> 01:20:18,840
Speaker 13: but yeah, like it's a sport.

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01:20:18,920 --> 01:20:19,920
Speaker 16: Treat us like a sport.

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01:20:20,360 --> 01:20:23,760
Speaker 13: Don't treat us anything other than being a sport. It

1788
01:20:23,800 --> 01:20:27,880
Speaker 13: happens in every sport, Soccer, basketball, football, it happens in

1789
01:20:27,920 --> 01:20:28,479
Speaker 13: every sport.

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01:20:28,840 --> 01:20:29,400
Speaker 16: So let it be.

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01:20:29,960 --> 01:20:33,320
Speaker 13: I'm gonna I'm gonna take the lead of Angel and Caitlin,

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01:20:33,520 --> 01:20:36,200
Speaker 13: and that lead is they said it was a it

1793
01:20:36,240 --> 01:20:39,280
Speaker 13: was a file. The officials got it right. We're moving on,

1794
01:20:39,520 --> 01:20:41,679
Speaker 13: That's what I'm saying. I'm gonna take their lead. Okay,

1795
01:20:42,080 --> 01:20:45,280
Speaker 13: I think it's it pulls people in. I do think

1796
01:20:45,320 --> 01:20:49,040
Speaker 13: there are new fans that haven't watched our game and

1797
01:20:49,439 --> 01:20:52,679
Speaker 13: they really don't know, so they only they're only singlely

1798
01:20:52,720 --> 01:20:55,960
Speaker 13: focused on Kate one, right, right, So when you're that

1799
01:20:56,080 --> 01:21:00,680
Speaker 13: and that's that's their idol, that's who attracts them. But

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Speaker 13: I just hope that they'll open their eyes to the

1801
01:21:04,880 --> 01:21:07,959
Speaker 13: rest of the talent that is there. Like the product.

1802
01:21:08,400 --> 01:21:12,600
Speaker 13: The product is incredible and it's in high demand. We

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01:21:13,000 --> 01:21:17,080
Speaker 13: played Caitlin in the National Championship last year, right, twenty

1804
01:21:17,200 --> 01:21:20,160
Speaker 13: million a topped off at whatever it topped off at

1805
01:21:20,439 --> 01:21:23,080
Speaker 13: the most. I know they saw us, like, I know

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01:21:23,160 --> 01:21:25,479
Speaker 13: they saw us. I know they saw us have an

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01:21:25,520 --> 01:21:29,320
Speaker 13: undefeated season. I know they saw Camilla Cardozo. I know

1808
01:21:29,360 --> 01:21:32,280
Speaker 13: they saw Ashlon Watause. I know they saw Tessa Johnson

1809
01:21:32,320 --> 01:21:35,920
Speaker 13: have an incredible care career or day. I know they

1810
01:21:35,920 --> 01:21:39,080
Speaker 13: saw my Lasier do some incredible things like so, so

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01:21:39,240 --> 01:21:42,880
Speaker 13: open your eyes up to seeing outside of Caitlin, well

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01:21:42,960 --> 01:21:45,880
Speaker 13: not even outside included, because she's a part of a

1813
01:21:45,960 --> 01:21:46,680
Speaker 13: part of it all.

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Speaker 16: So you know, I'm.

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01:21:48,800 --> 01:21:50,880
Speaker 13: Looking forward to the next time they play too. I'm

1816
01:21:50,880 --> 01:21:52,880
Speaker 13: gonna be glueden just like everybody else.

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01:21:52,920 --> 01:21:55,240
Speaker 2: Yes, I want to go back to that that chapter

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01:21:55,320 --> 01:21:57,160
Speaker 2: of respect the power of habits.

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01:21:57,240 --> 01:21:59,599
Speaker 7: Right when you talk about Malaysia, it is with such reference.

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01:21:59,640 --> 01:22:02,519
Speaker 2: How do you disappointment as a coach with support for

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01:22:02,600 --> 01:22:04,960
Speaker 2: somebody like her who just wanted to make a decision

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01:22:04,960 --> 01:22:05,400
Speaker 2: for herself.

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01:22:05,800 --> 01:22:09,080
Speaker 13: If a young person is going to speak on what

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01:22:09,080 --> 01:22:11,479
Speaker 13: what what they deem it is good for them, that's

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01:22:11,520 --> 01:22:14,320
Speaker 13: half the battle, Like half the battle is to be

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01:22:14,400 --> 01:22:16,280
Speaker 13: able to speak up. And you know how hard it

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01:22:16,400 --> 01:22:19,599
Speaker 13: was for her to do that, like really hard, really hard.

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01:22:19,640 --> 01:22:23,559
Speaker 13: So I understand that dynamics of her decision making.

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01:22:23,760 --> 01:22:25,840
Speaker 16: And then it's like, okay, well what do you do

1830
01:22:25,880 --> 01:22:26,160
Speaker 16: with it?

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01:22:26,240 --> 01:22:28,920
Speaker 13: Like if she was my player and there was a

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01:22:29,080 --> 01:22:32,120
Speaker 13: chance for her to want to come back, or if

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01:22:32,160 --> 01:22:34,280
Speaker 13: she decided that this is that that's not what she

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01:22:34,320 --> 01:22:36,439
Speaker 13: wanted to do. I was going to talk to her

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Speaker 13: about why why did it? Why did it come to that?

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01:22:39,520 --> 01:22:42,640
Speaker 13: What makes you think this isn't a place for whatever?

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01:22:42,720 --> 01:22:45,320
Speaker 13: She said we would we would go from there. I

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01:22:45,360 --> 01:22:49,200
Speaker 13: thought Malaysia. Malaysia was getting better, like I really I

1839
01:22:49,200 --> 01:22:51,519
Speaker 13: saw a whole lot of growth on and off the

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01:22:51,560 --> 01:22:55,160
Speaker 13: court to where unless she was gonna get the best

1841
01:22:55,160 --> 01:22:57,120
Speaker 13: of her now like we went through the you know,

1842
01:22:57,200 --> 01:22:59,760
Speaker 13: we went through the hard part of just kind of

1843
01:23:00,240 --> 01:23:03,599
Speaker 13: than some rough edges and getting her to create good

1844
01:23:03,640 --> 01:23:07,200
Speaker 13: habits like like I do think habits are the thing

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01:23:07,280 --> 01:23:11,280
Speaker 13: that allows you to elevate, right, I do so.

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01:23:11,360 --> 01:23:11,679
Speaker 16: I think.

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01:23:11,760 --> 01:23:14,719
Speaker 13: I think what we've given her and what she's given

1848
01:23:14,800 --> 01:23:18,920
Speaker 13: us will allow her to have much better days, much

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01:23:18,960 --> 01:23:21,960
Speaker 13: more consistent days than she had with us at our

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01:23:22,000 --> 01:23:23,200
Speaker 13: next stop, Well, thank.

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Speaker 7: You, Don.

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Speaker 2: We appreciate your presence on this earth. We thank God

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Speaker 2: for you.

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Speaker 16: Thank you, and listen.

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Speaker 16: Again, Thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 5: It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: Good morning, warning everybody, it's deja envy, just hilarious. Charlamagne

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Speaker 3: la Guy. We are the Breakfast Club. It's time for positive.

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Speaker 7: Note what we got and the positive note is simply this.

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Speaker 2: Nothing that's for you will require you to act out

1874
01:24:14,880 --> 01:24:15,840
Speaker 2: of character to get it.

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Speaker 7: Always remember that absolutely nothing. Have a great day, Breakfast

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Speaker 7: Club bitches.

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Speaker 2: Y'all finish for y'all.

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Speaker 7: Done,