1 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,080 Speaker 1: Hi everybody. I'm Kelsey Nixon and this is Kitchen Prescription, 2 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: the podcast you listen to when you don't know what 3 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: to make for dinner. This is episode sixty how to 4 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: be a guest at Thanksgiving Beyoncore episode Now. Look, if 5 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:25,640 Speaker 1: I'm being honest, like really honest, I found myself resisting 6 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 1: the holidays a bit this year, kind of like hang tight, 7 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: I'm not ready yet, calendar, And I think it's because 8 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 1: it's a small business owner, which I haven't always been. 9 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 1: I'm realizing I'm just starting to click for me that 10 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: the end of the year will always be the craziest 11 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: for work, and on top of it being the craziest 12 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: time for work, it's the craziest time for my family 13 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: as well. So that realization has me wanting to kick 14 00:00:56,520 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: the holidays down the road a bit. But there is 15 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,520 Speaker 1: not time for that, because Thanksgiving is in one week 16 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: and it is time to start thinking about how we're 17 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: all going to pull off Turkey Day. So I started 18 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: my official prep at the beginning of this week. And 19 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:16,479 Speaker 1: the only reason I'm able to do this is because 20 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: I'm following my Thanksgiving timeline, which makes everything feel infinitely 21 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 1: more manageable and so really, to give myself a small 22 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 1: pat on the back, I want your guys to know 23 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 1: these are the things I've already done thanks to that timeline. 24 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:31,839 Speaker 1: I determined what my menu would be, and I wrote 25 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: it down. I printed all of the recipes and put 26 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 1: them in my recipe bhinder. Some of them were already printed, 27 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 1: but I just pulled them all together. I reviewed my 28 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: serving dishes to make sure I had a dish for 29 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: everything that was on my menu. I determined what I 30 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 1: can keep warm in my slow cooker to free up 31 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 1: some oven space. I bought my turkey, and I scheduled 32 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: a reminder in my phone when I need to begin 33 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: thawing it. I determined the items I'm going to make ahead, 34 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 1: and then these two were huge. I first shopped my 35 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: fridge in pantry so that I didn't double buy anything, 36 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:09,959 Speaker 1: meaning if I already had two bags of cranberries in 37 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: the fridge, I don't need to buy more cranberries, or 38 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:15,800 Speaker 1: if I already had a bag of stuffing mix, which 39 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: guess what I did, which is so random, but it's 40 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: because I shot some Thanksgiving recipes a few weeks ago. 41 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:23,839 Speaker 1: I don't need to buy that again. So I went 42 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:26,399 Speaker 1: through everything. And then after I'd kind of gone through 43 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: everything and determined what I did not need to rebuy, 44 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: I did a quick wipe down of the fridge in freezer. 45 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: I just did a fresh clean out, because if there's 46 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: any time that you need extra fridge freezer space, it's now. 47 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:41,920 Speaker 1: It's now, so this is the time to do it. 48 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: I know you're probably impressed, right, No, just kidding, you 49 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:47,680 Speaker 1: should not be that impressed, because guess what, it actually 50 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 1: wasn't hard to do all of those things. But that's 51 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,200 Speaker 1: only because I was following this timeline that told me 52 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: exactly what to do. And I swear that the hardest 53 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: part of running a household, whether that's you being a 54 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 1: mom or you running a smaller household, is sometimes just 55 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: the decisions. Like the thinking. The doing is not hard. 56 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: I don't mind the cooking, it's just the deciding what 57 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:15,080 Speaker 1: to make. And so anytime I can find a resource 58 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: or a tool that already does the thinking for me 59 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: and I just have to execute, I am here for that, 60 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:23,800 Speaker 1: especially during this chapter of life. So that's exactly what 61 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: this Thanksgiving timeline has been doing for me. It's been 62 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: doing all the thinking, and I am feeling like I 63 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: am kind of set up to enjoy the holiday more 64 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:35,200 Speaker 1: as a result, because I've got some stuff done. It's 65 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 1: only a week away, and life already feels a lot 66 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: more manageable because I've gotten a good jump on things. 67 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 1: But before we get to Thanksgiving, we still have to 68 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 1: feed our families like five times, six times. It's crazy. 69 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 1: So let's talk about some really easy recipe ideas you 70 00:03:53,080 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: can throw on your meal plan for the week. The 71 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 1: first thing I'm making is what I'm calling a grown 72 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 1: up grilled cheese. So we're in a grilled cheese kick here. 73 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: In fact, we had tomato soup last week where we 74 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 1: did just traditional grilled cheese with it. But ever since 75 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 1: I started cooking grilled cheese on a sheep pan this 76 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: method where I take the slices of bread, I butter 77 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: the outside, I jawl it up. However, I'm gonna do 78 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,919 Speaker 1: it on the inside, whether that's just shredded cheddar or 79 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:22,359 Speaker 1: mustard and apples and bacon, I put them all in 80 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 1: the oven at the same time. I'm like so in 81 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:28,280 Speaker 1: the grilled cheese because I can make like six sandwiches 82 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: at once and they are perfectly crisp on each side. 83 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: I'm just I'm on a kick. So we're gonna do 84 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,760 Speaker 1: grown up grilled cheese with fig and pear. Now I'll 85 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: just do regular grilled cheese for my kids. But this 86 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:44,240 Speaker 1: is such an easy recipe. But it's also kind of festive. 87 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:46,280 Speaker 1: So my sister's gonna be in town because they're coming 88 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: for the holiday, and I figure I can do this 89 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,479 Speaker 1: and it'll feel a bit more special. So I just 90 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:52,479 Speaker 1: picked up some fig spread. It's like a fig jam. 91 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do pear. I'm gonna do a little proshuoto, 92 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 1: a little arugola on there and call it good so good. 93 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 1: Cannot wait. I had ex stretch tomato basil soup from 94 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: last week because they doubled it and froze some, so 95 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 1: we'll have that. It'll be so easy a couple of 96 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 1: days before Thanksgiving. The second recipe, because my sister's coming 97 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 1: into town and this is one of her kid's favorites, 98 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 1: We're gonna do the creamy chicken tortellini soup at the 99 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:17,919 Speaker 1: request of my five year old niece Molly, and I 100 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 1: can't wait. And then after Thanksgiving, we're gonna do the 101 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,239 Speaker 1: honey baked ham and Swiss sliders, but instead of doing ham, 102 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:27,160 Speaker 1: I am going to do leftover turkey. And those are 103 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 1: the three simple recipes that are on my meal plan 104 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: for the week. You can find and print all of 105 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:34,800 Speaker 1: them in Recipe Club individually or in our weekly meal 106 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: plan with an easy to follow shopping list broken down 107 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:40,720 Speaker 1: by recipes. Remember, with Recipe Club, in addition to our 108 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: library of two hundred recipes that you get instant access to, 109 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,159 Speaker 1: you get five new recipes every month. It's like a living, 110 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:51,600 Speaker 1: breathing cookbook that's always being updated. Plus my entire Thanksgiving 111 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:55,719 Speaker 1: menu in timeline. So that is what is most valuable 112 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,840 Speaker 1: right now is we're staring down the barrel of Thanksgiving. 113 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 1: So the recipe you're going to get in there for 114 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving or my Herb butter roasted turkey, my Parker House rolls, 115 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 1: my family's famous cranberry salad which is the best thing 116 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:11,359 Speaker 1: we make every year, roasted vegetables with a side of vinaigrette, skillet, 117 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: sweet potatoes, green bean casserole, baked apple pear stuffing, smashed 118 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: potatoes and turkey gravy, homemade cranberry sauce, almond apple pie. 119 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:24,480 Speaker 1: And in that timeline you're going to get day by 120 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: day instructions so that you can be prepared. There's a 121 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:30,039 Speaker 1: whole section on tips that save me every year, and 122 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:32,280 Speaker 1: one of my favorite parts of the guide is a 123 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 1: whole section dedicated to really simple Thanksgiving traditions you can 124 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: either implement for the first time or carry out each year. 125 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: And it's something I've really enjoyed doing. I've been using 126 00:06:42,960 --> 00:06:45,480 Speaker 1: this timeline for the past three years and it really 127 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: has helped me so much because there's so many things 128 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 1: to think about this time of year. The fact that 129 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: the thought has already been done and I can just 130 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:56,440 Speaker 1: follow the directions is exactly what I need in my life. 131 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:58,919 Speaker 1: All right, reminder, you can use the code binder to 132 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:01,279 Speaker 1: get your first month free. So even if you just 133 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: want the Thanksgiving content and you don't want to stay 134 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 1: in the recipe club beyond that, no problem. Get in there, 135 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: take a look at the recipes, print off anything that 136 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 1: looks great to you, and you can go ahead and 137 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: move on. But my guess is you're gonna want to stay. 138 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: All right, let's jump into the back half of the 139 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: podcast and discuss how to be a guest at Thanksgiving 140 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:24,559 Speaker 1: the encore episode. So last episode we talked all about 141 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: asking yourself four questions before you begin making your Thanksgiving plans. 142 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: I want to run through those just one more time, 143 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: So as you are looking at Thanksgiving, you're going to 144 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 1: start by asking yourself these questions. Are you hosting, will 145 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: you be hosting? Are you a guest? Finalize your role 146 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 1: and firm up your plans now. Now we're about a 147 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 1: week out from Thanksgiving, So my guess is you probably 148 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: know where you're going. If you don't, today is the 149 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: day figure it out what matters most now? This is 150 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 1: really important to ask, even if you are a guest, 151 00:07:57,000 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: because is there a specific recipe or tradition that is 152 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: so important to you that it just doesn't feel like 153 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 1: the holiday without it? If you answer yes to that, 154 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: maybe it's snapping the wishbone, or maybe it's a certain 155 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:14,480 Speaker 1: recipe that your mother used to make, or maybe it's 156 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 1: watching the Charlie Brown Thanksgiving Special, whatever it may be, 157 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 1: make sure you know what that is what matters most 158 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 1: to you. What's your plan? Everyone needs a plan. No 159 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: one successfully wings it, even if you're a guest. No 160 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:32,080 Speaker 1: one should be winging it as a guest on Thanksgiving. 161 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 1: And finally, who will help take any help offered? If 162 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:40,000 Speaker 1: you're hosting and others want to help, let them help, 163 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 1: or dramall, please offer to help, which is the perfect 164 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:50,080 Speaker 1: segue into us chatting about how to be a guest 165 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 1: at Thanksgiving, and not only a guest, but a great guest. 166 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:58,079 Speaker 1: Being a guest at Thanksgiving goes beyond showing up with 167 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 1: your assigned dish. I want to offer to contribute in 168 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 1: some way, and we're going to talk about a few 169 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 1: principles for you know, really taking on this title being 170 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: the world's greatest guest at Thanksgiving. So let's start with that. 171 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 1: Just this notion that you should offer to contribute in 172 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 1: some way. That should be step one. If you know 173 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 1: you're not cooking the actual meal, or you're not hosting 174 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 1: people in your home, you absolutely should reach out to 175 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 1: the host and say, I'd love to help in some way. 176 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: Is there something specific I can help with or what 177 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 1: if I did this? And maybe you're someone who hates 178 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving food or you don't like to cook, which would 179 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: be ironic that you're listening to this podcast, but you 180 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 1: never know. There are other ways to contribute that don't 181 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 1: involve making a recipe. It could be bringing a bag 182 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 1: of ice, it could be bringing napkins. It could be 183 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:57,200 Speaker 1: being in charge of a little activity after the meal 184 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 1: where you put on that Charlie Brown film or something, 185 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:02,960 Speaker 1: you know, something like that. There are different ways to 186 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 1: contribute to the meal if you don't want it to 187 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 1: be food. But chances are if you're offering to help 188 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 1: with Thanksgiving, you're gonna end up bringing a dish. And 189 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: this brings me to my next point, which is maybe 190 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: the most important. And I feel like not enough people 191 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 1: say this, so I am going to say it, bring 192 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:27,959 Speaker 1: food ready to eat, show up with your assigned dishes 193 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 1: or ready to go. That means that you are not 194 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: relying on an oven or burner to get your dish 195 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 1: to the table. Now, your host is gonna say, oh, 196 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: it's fine, I'm sure it'll be fine. But you showing 197 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:48,040 Speaker 1: up with your stuffing or mashed potatoes and be like, hey, 198 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 1: can I just pop these in the oven? If the 199 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 1: gravy has separated and the turkey has burnt you, she 200 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 1: is stressed and she cannot be worried about your mashed 201 00:10:59,240 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 1: potatoes right now. So my suggestion for being a great 202 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 1: guest is to just show up with that dish already warm. 203 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: How are we going to do that well. A cooler 204 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:14,680 Speaker 1: can also keep warm things warm. So if you had 205 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:18,240 Speaker 1: your nine x thirteen of stuffing, I would take some 206 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 1: foil wrap it and some foil foil as your friend 207 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: when it comes to keeping things warm, and I put 208 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: it in the cooler. That's one way to do it. 209 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 1: Another great option for keeping food warm is utilizing a 210 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 1: slow cooker on the warm setting. So you could take 211 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:37,680 Speaker 1: those mashed potatoes, you could take that stuffing, or you 212 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 1: could take those green beans, transfer them to a slow 213 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 1: cooker and just keep it on the warm setting. That's 214 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:48,680 Speaker 1: a great great way to do it. Beyond keeping food warm, 215 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: I also want you to think about what your dish 216 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 1: is going to be served with. I'm going to take 217 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: a wild guess and say that most people out there 218 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 1: do not have enough serving spoons, tongues, spatulas, pie servers, 219 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:08,240 Speaker 1: whatever to outfit a Thanksgiving meal on a regular basis. 220 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: So if you show up with a serving spoon for 221 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 1: your mashed potatoes, that is one lessing the host has 222 00:12:15,800 --> 00:12:19,720 Speaker 1: to worry about. So if you can bring the tongues, 223 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:24,680 Speaker 1: bring this spatula, whatever it is, bring everything you need 224 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:27,680 Speaker 1: to successfully serve your dish so that you don't have 225 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 1: to ask the host for anything. Next, find a way 226 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 1: to help. And this seems a little obvious, but I 227 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 1: want to get into this a bit. Don't ask if 228 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 1: you can avoid it, just do Now. You should probably 229 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:47,600 Speaker 1: ask to a certain extent, right, like we don't want 230 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 1: to cross a boundary or anything like that. But I 231 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: find that a proactive guest is the best kind of guest. 232 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 1: So find a way to be helpful that does not 233 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:03,439 Speaker 1: require you coming in ten minutes before we're supposed to 234 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:06,440 Speaker 1: eat saying what can I do to help? I know 235 00:13:06,559 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: that's what we all think we're supposed to do, but 236 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:11,440 Speaker 1: as someone who's spent a fair amount of time hosting 237 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:17,040 Speaker 1: lots of times, that question stresses me out because I 238 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: want to be someone who accepts help and I want 239 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:23,280 Speaker 1: to involve you in the meal. But if you're asking 240 00:13:23,320 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: me to find you a job at the last minute, 241 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I'm stressed about finding you a job. 242 00:13:29,640 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 1: So this might be a great thing to ask before 243 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 1: you get to the meal. Like, for example, you could say, Hey, 244 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:38,200 Speaker 1: we're so excited to come to Thanksgiving. I'm gonna bring 245 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:41,559 Speaker 1: the ice and I'm you know, bring in a pie 246 00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:44,360 Speaker 1: as well. But what if on Thanksgiving, I'm just totally 247 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:46,480 Speaker 1: in charge of drinks so you don't even have to 248 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:48,200 Speaker 1: worry about it. I will fill the cups with ice, 249 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:49,760 Speaker 1: I will get all the drinks on the table. I 250 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 1: will make sure the kids have their drinks. I'm gonna 251 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:57,560 Speaker 1: be like drink master for Thanksgiving. Amazing, right, How nice 252 00:13:57,600 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 1: would that be? Or let's say let's say this. Let's 253 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:05,160 Speaker 1: say you have got, you know, three kids under five. 254 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 1: You're like in toddler City, and you know that when 255 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:10,600 Speaker 1: you show up to Thanksgiving it's gonna be hard for 256 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:13,480 Speaker 1: you to help because your kids are crazy. I know 257 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: this from personal experience. And so you reach out to 258 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 1: your friend or your sister in law or whoever is hosting, 259 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 1: and you say, it's gonna be crazy when we get 260 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: there tomorrow. And I'm probably gonna be runing late because 261 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:26,760 Speaker 1: I always run late. So what if I came over 262 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: tonight and I helped you set the table, Because I'm 263 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 1: convinced that's one of the greatest Thanksgiving tips ever is 264 00:14:33,760 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 1: to set the table the night before. It's the best, 265 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:42,920 Speaker 1: it's the best. Help is always appreciated, It's always appreciated, 266 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 1: And I think you'd be hard pressed to find a 267 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:48,520 Speaker 1: host out there. That's like, I just don't wish. I 268 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:51,600 Speaker 1: wish no one would ever help me. People want help, 269 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:55,320 Speaker 1: they need help, and most times we want to give 270 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 1: the help, but we get lost in the asking of 271 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 1: help and the receiving of help, and it creates a 272 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 1: stressful situation. So try and figure out how you're going 273 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 1: to help before you even get to Thanksgiving dinner. That 274 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:12,560 Speaker 1: is what a great guess would do, all right, expressing gratitude, 275 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 1: which makes total sense because it's Thanksgiving. But some people 276 00:15:17,280 --> 00:15:20,080 Speaker 1: might like to show their gratitude by bringing a hostess gift, 277 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:23,200 Speaker 1: and that's great. But if you are going to bring 278 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: a hostess gift, what I recommend is making it easy 279 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 1: to receive. What does that mean. That means if you're 280 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:33,760 Speaker 1: going to bring flowers, either bring a vase or bring 281 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 1: them in a vase so that when you show up, 282 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:40,040 Speaker 1: the host is not scrambling to find a vase while 283 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:42,640 Speaker 1: she's also trying to keep the lumps out of the 284 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:46,680 Speaker 1: gravy and roll the pie crust out. If you're bringing 285 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:50,560 Speaker 1: some sort of corked drink, whether it's wine or side 286 00:15:50,680 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 1: or whatever, bring a quarkscrew because she's going to want 287 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:57,960 Speaker 1: to open that drink and share it with everybody. And 288 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 1: maybe maybe she can't find the quorkscrew, so bring a quarkscrew. 289 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 1: But I also want to remind you that if it 290 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:09,800 Speaker 1: just does not make sense for you to bring a 291 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 1: hostess gift, maybe you're keeping things tight as you get 292 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 1: closer to the holidays. Maybe it's just not you like 293 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 1: it's not something that you're used to doing. A heartfelt 294 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:24,560 Speaker 1: note goes a long way. And whether you write that 295 00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:27,120 Speaker 1: note before you arrive at Thanksgiving or after you've had 296 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:31,200 Speaker 1: your Thanksgiving meal, I think that's fantastic. So at the 297 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 1: very least, thank your host or hostess for having you 298 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:42,800 Speaker 1: for a wonderful tradition. And if that can't even happen, 299 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: by all means, send a text, just do something to 300 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 1: express that gratitude. Now, for my people who do like 301 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: bringing a hostess gift, here are a couple of ideas 302 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 1: beyond like the classics, which would be like a bottle 303 00:16:55,760 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 1: of wine or flowers. A candle, a favorite holiday candle 304 00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:05,199 Speaker 1: is always great. I'm a big fan of leaves the 305 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 1: candle at Bathroom Bodyworks have been for years vanilla bean 306 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:12,440 Speaker 1: paste for all of their holiday baking. That is such 307 00:17:12,480 --> 00:17:15,560 Speaker 1: a good hostess. Gift an ornament that they can put 308 00:17:15,600 --> 00:17:21,600 Speaker 1: on tree. Maybe favorite holiday scented dish, soap, hand lotion. 309 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:25,640 Speaker 1: Oh you know what would be good? I love this idea. 310 00:17:25,680 --> 00:17:30,880 Speaker 1: A fresh set of oven mints. How great would that be? 311 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:35,239 Speaker 1: Because who has oven mints that don't look disgusting? No 312 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:38,840 Speaker 1: one replaces their oven mits enough. And if someone showed 313 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:41,639 Speaker 1: up and said, thank you for hosting us for Thanksgiving. 314 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:43,879 Speaker 1: I know you've been cooking all day and I thought 315 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:45,920 Speaker 1: it might be time to switch out your oven mits. 316 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:49,680 Speaker 1: These are my favorites that would be great. Or maybe 317 00:17:49,720 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 1: you're gonna bring like a kitchen tea towel. My favorite 318 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 1: are the geometry house towels. I live and die by them. 319 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:58,960 Speaker 1: They're the only towels in my kitchen. Now, how fun 320 00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:02,240 Speaker 1: to bring a geometry hostels. Oh my gosh, that'd be 321 00:18:02,280 --> 00:18:06,359 Speaker 1: so great. I'm totally going to do that. So keep 322 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 1: that in mind. You should express gratitude in some way. 323 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:13,000 Speaker 1: It can be as simple as a heartfelt text, or 324 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:17,240 Speaker 1: like what if you did this? Maybe you took some 325 00:18:17,359 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 1: pictures and or you grab some pictures of their kids 326 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:23,360 Speaker 1: or the food or at the table or something. If 327 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:25,439 Speaker 1: you followed up and said, thank you so much for 328 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 1: having us. It was such a beautiful night. I grabbed 329 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:29,880 Speaker 1: some pictures because I know that when you're hosting it 330 00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:32,360 Speaker 1: it's hard to capture the memory. Here's a few pictures 331 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:37,880 Speaker 1: I grabbed. How thoughtful? How thoughtful? Is that? All right? 332 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:42,480 Speaker 1: So let's let's sum this up here. How to be 333 00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 1: a great guest at Thanksgiving? First, you are going to 334 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:50,880 Speaker 1: offer to contribute in some way, In some way. If 335 00:18:50,880 --> 00:18:53,080 Speaker 1: that way happens to be food, you are going to 336 00:18:53,119 --> 00:18:56,399 Speaker 1: commit to bring food ready to eat. It's going to 337 00:18:56,480 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 1: be warm, and it's going to have a serving utensil. 338 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 1: You're gonna find a way to help, and you might 339 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:05,600 Speaker 1: find that way to help before you even get to 340 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 1: the actual event. You might ask your host, what if 341 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:12,000 Speaker 1: I just took care of this whole thing? Or you 342 00:19:12,040 --> 00:19:14,880 Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonna be the garbage girl on Thanksgiving. 343 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:17,679 Speaker 1: I'm gonna take care of all the garbages, whatever it is, 344 00:19:17,800 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: find a way to help and be proactive in your approach, 345 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:25,560 Speaker 1: and finally express gratitude. It can be fancy, it can 346 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 1: be simple. It just needs to be heartfelt, and it's 347 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:31,280 Speaker 1: important to say thank you for someone hosting you for 348 00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 1: such a big, big event. All Right, there you go, 349 00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:36,479 Speaker 1: how to be a great guest at Thanksgiving. I'm so 350 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:38,920 Speaker 1: excited I am hosting this year, but I've had many 351 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:41,720 Speaker 1: years where I was a guest, and I can't wait 352 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,080 Speaker 1: counting down the days. All Right, you guys, thanks for 353 00:19:44,119 --> 00:19:46,440 Speaker 1: being here, and until next time, I'm Kelsey. See you 354 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:46,920 Speaker 1: next week.