WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: Reverse Stealthing?

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<v Speaker 3>listener and it's quite interesting, if.

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<v Speaker 1>I may say so, in the least.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, the subject matter for this is quote unquote reverse

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<v Speaker 3>stealthing question mark.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, if you guys don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Stealth po oh, stealthing is something that is a criminal act.

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<v Speaker 3>And what's crazy about that is I share about my

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<v Speaker 3>stealthy experience in the book No Holds Barred under my

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<v Speaker 3>sexual assault chapter. So I'm really interesting to get into

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<v Speaker 3>let's see if this is actually reverse stelthing Wizie.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, it probably is.

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<v Speaker 3>Is it bad that I am quote unquote reverse stealthing

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<v Speaker 3>and sometimes faking it with my long term complicated boo?

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<v Speaker 3>She and I have been doing the grown up for

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<v Speaker 3>over five years with no commitment. However, a few years

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<v Speaker 3>ago she had my baby quote unquote, when a couple

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<v Speaker 3>of months later DNA proved that it was not mine.

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<v Speaker 1>No big deal, bitch, the tea, No big deal.

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<v Speaker 3>We get back to doing the grown up, I end

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<v Speaker 3>up having a baby on her I know, messy.

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<v Speaker 1>Now.

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<v Speaker 3>Though she is fervently adamant about my baby cream pies

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<v Speaker 3>and no condoms, I am not with this idea, however,

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm sneaking, slipping in on contraceptive films and during

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<v Speaker 3>backshots faking it thoughts. So I don't know how she

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't know she's not getting cream pied and I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know about contraceptive.

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<v Speaker 1>Film I thought she does know, and I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>just the turn on what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Like Okay, So for a while my partner and I

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<v Speaker 2>were going crazy with the baby kink, like it's also

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<v Speaker 2>known as a breeding kink, and it's basically just the

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<v Speaker 2>idea that somebody can get you pregnant, or talking about

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<v Speaker 2>the cream pies or talking about the type of sex

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<v Speaker 2>you're having. Sometimes it's not literal, like literally maybe once

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<v Speaker 2>a week, I'm like.

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<v Speaker 1>Ooh, get me pregnant. I don't want to.

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<v Speaker 3>So wait, you think she actually doesn't want to have

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<v Speaker 3>a baby by him at all, and she's just saying

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<v Speaker 3>it as a part of like dirty talk.

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<v Speaker 2>If if she is really like not noticing, I do

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<v Speaker 2>have a feeling she might know that they're just being dirty.

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<v Speaker 1>However, I don't like that there's no other backstory for

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<v Speaker 1>this baby that.

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<v Speaker 2>Wasn't yours, and why you used to a fucking Also,

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<v Speaker 2>when he said we're doing the grown up, I need

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<v Speaker 2>to know what this person looks like. Let's reverse engineer

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<v Speaker 2>the email. We're doing the grown up.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess you know. I never give a fuck about

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<v Speaker 1>what nobody looked like.

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<v Speaker 3>I believe good looking people and ugly people and everything

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<v Speaker 3>in between is fucking.

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<v Speaker 1>My thing was that I'm curious because.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder maybe this isn't a guy because I just

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<v Speaker 3>looked up that VCF is vaginal contraceptive, So I don't

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<v Speaker 3>understand how the baby wasn't hers or his because I

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<v Speaker 3>don't understand how you can use vaginal contraceptive film.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it's spermicide. How do you get a woman to

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<v Speaker 1>do that without her knowing?

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<v Speaker 3>Or maybe that's just a part of I'm only gonna

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<v Speaker 3>come in you if we do this. So essentially, even

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<v Speaker 3>though she wants a baby, he's adding these other elements

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<v Speaker 3>so that she doesn't get pregnant.

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<v Speaker 2>Because now I'm right right like in case okay, because

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<v Speaker 2>furmocide is the liquid jump.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, VCF film is a soft square film that dissolves

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<v Speaker 3>with your body's natural moisture to create a gel barrier

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<v Speaker 3>that coats the service cervix and kills sperm on contact

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<v Speaker 3>for up to three hours.

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<v Speaker 2>So so many questions, because how have we not taught

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<v Speaker 2>you niphing? How are we not teaching you nothing? First

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<v Speaker 2>of all, it is one hundred percent okay to tell

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<v Speaker 2>someone I don't want to have sex like this. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to have sex that are protected. This isn't

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<v Speaker 2>turning me on.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree.

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<v Speaker 3>I think the fact that oh oh oh wait, wait

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<v Speaker 3>wait wait.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, now you're sitting here putting Kimmel.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait a second, Wait a second, I'm rereading this, which

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if I like, So I am not

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<v Speaker 3>with this idea.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm sneaking.

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<v Speaker 3>He's slipping in and on contraceptive films during backshots.

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<v Speaker 1>So wait a second, he is sneaking.

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<v Speaker 3>Contraceptive which is why it's probably reverse celting. So again,

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<v Speaker 3>if you guys don't know reverse celthing, it is removing.

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<v Speaker 1>The condom ways removing healthing. That's what I meant.

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<v Speaker 3>Selthing is removing the condom without the other person knowing it,

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<v Speaker 3>and so essentially he is sneaking and slipping in and

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<v Speaker 3>on this contraceptive film, so the VCF is being slid

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<v Speaker 3>on and in her during backshots.

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<v Speaker 1>Bitch, I don't, I ain't gonna hold you to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I never thought of reverse selthing like that.

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<v Speaker 3>But the fact that he is on the opposite end

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<v Speaker 3>not technically wanting to get her pregnant, so not having

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<v Speaker 3>unprotected sex doesn't sit well with him because clearly he's

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<v Speaker 3>aware of the consequences. So he's sneaking contraceptive during the act.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's not even like he's sliding on a condom.

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<v Speaker 3>He's sliding on vaginal contraceptive.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm gonna be real with you.

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<v Speaker 2>This is just a testimony, and this is no shade

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<v Speaker 2>to the listener, but I guess it is.

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<v Speaker 1>For some reason.

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<v Speaker 2>We have a very difficult time advocating for ourselves when

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<v Speaker 2>we're uncomfortable, and we have very difficult times with hard conversations,

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<v Speaker 2>and this is why this is happening. For example, one

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<v Speaker 2>of my homegirls and her man, whenever they like get

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<v Speaker 2>kinky or whatever, she'll say come in me or do

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<v Speaker 2>this or no, He'll say, I want to come in you.

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<v Speaker 2>She doesn't want to ruin the moment, and then she

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<v Speaker 2>ends up taking Plan B. So oh hell no, that

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<v Speaker 2>Plan BE cannot be popped like skittles. She's like, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not like I'm telling him no, I've never had the

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<v Speaker 2>conversation about now. Sometimes I want to get it over with.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I just don't want to make it awkward because

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<v Speaker 2>it's very sexy, and then I end up being the

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<v Speaker 2>one that has to take this thing. I actually do

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<v Speaker 2>understand somebody feeling so uncomfortable too, like a.

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<v Speaker 1>Conversation being so hard.

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<v Speaker 2>But at the end of the day, what you're doing

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<v Speaker 2>is absolutely wrong and weird.

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<v Speaker 1>It is. It is weird, Yeah, and I would not

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<v Speaker 1>even know.

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<v Speaker 2>She's doing something that you don't want. That's the other

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<v Speaker 2>thing too, the whole conversation of I want you to

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<v Speaker 2>get me pregnant, blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 1>It could be sex talk, could be serious.

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<v Speaker 2>What you need to do is find out ye talking

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<v Speaker 2>about we're having doing grown stuff, nigga, go be grown

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<v Speaker 2>grown stuff is also having the conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean to me, if you're in a position where

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<v Speaker 3>this is clearly just a fuck friend. You guys were

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<v Speaker 3>fucking for over five years with no commitment, even after

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<v Speaker 3>she thought she was pregnant by you, and DNA proved

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<v Speaker 3>that it wasn't your baby. Y'all continued and went back

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<v Speaker 3>to clearly sleeping with each other unprotected, you were also

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<v Speaker 3>dealing with someone else. So I will say this if

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<v Speaker 3>anything else, the fact that you said you had a

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<v Speaker 3>baby quote unquote on her.

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<v Speaker 1>Brings me to believe and brings me.

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<v Speaker 3>To the conclusion that you're having sex with multiple partners

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<v Speaker 3>technically unprotected. You giving her the contraceptive film without her

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<v Speaker 3>knowing during backshots also lets me know that in other

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<v Speaker 3>positions during the act there is a possibility that there

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<v Speaker 3>is no contraceptive at all being used, and so to me,

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<v Speaker 3>the conversation has to be had and you need to

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<v Speaker 3>let her know. Hey, I do not because you put

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<v Speaker 3>not in all caps in this email. Sir, you do

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<v Speaker 3>not want a baby with her, and although you enjoy

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<v Speaker 3>sleeping with her, you do not want to procreate, which

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<v Speaker 3>then in that case, it needs to be a very

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<v Speaker 3>serious conversation about sleeping with each other with protection, her

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<v Speaker 3>getting on birth control, or you guys stopping the.

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<v Speaker 1>Grown up altogether.

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<v Speaker 2>Because if we're being real about it, this is so

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<v Speaker 2>ghetto for me to say. But It's just something I've

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<v Speaker 2>said for a long time. Getting pregnant you can pay.

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<v Speaker 1>To get rid of it. You over here, I have

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<v Speaker 1>a grown up time with a woman that.

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<v Speaker 2>Was clearly sleeping with someone else when you thought she

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<v Speaker 2>had your baby and you so have you heard of

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<v Speaker 2>in sexually transmitted disease.

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<v Speaker 1>And you were that part.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you got to get your shit together, bro.

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate the vulnerability and being honest about like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm thinking it, I'm doing this, I'm doing that. But

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<v Speaker 2>everyone listening, We've all been there. There's been something, whether

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<v Speaker 2>it be sexual, romantic anything. In this particular situation, you

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<v Speaker 2>gonna end up exactly where you don't want to be,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's either with something to burn.

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<v Speaker 1>Or with a baby to cry. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I also want to let you know and this is

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<v Speaker 3>I know this is a very stealthing, but you don't

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<v Speaker 3>want this to be ever used with you. Recently in

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<v Speaker 3>BBC so this is an article from two thy and

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<v Speaker 3>twenty four. So just last year a man had nineteen

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<v Speaker 3>convictions to what is believed to be first in Scotland

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<v Speaker 3>for stealthing. Of course, again where a condom is removed

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<v Speaker 3>or not used without a partner's knowledge, and at thirty

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<v Speaker 3>five years old, he has been jailed and charged with

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<v Speaker 3>the abuse of nine women.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, but this.

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<v Speaker 3>Is from a twelve year period where he subjected a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of his victims to physical, mental, yes, sexual abuse,

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<v Speaker 3>but they ended up actually convicting him for stealthing. So

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<v Speaker 3>you also don't want to be deemed And I want

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<v Speaker 3>to let you know what the police in Scotland coined

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<v Speaker 3>this guy to be a dangerous and manipulative sexual predator.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that's my thing with this. What you're doing.

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<v Speaker 3>On a psychological side of this thing is you're manipulating

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<v Speaker 3>her to believe something is happening during sex that isn't

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<v Speaker 3>really happening.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I guess it's not necessarily quote unquote reverse

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<v Speaker 2>in the most horrible way.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's not the most horrible I agree.

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<v Speaker 2>Helthing is considered a form of rape, right right, But

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<v Speaker 2>the states that ban sell thing, by the way, in

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<v Speaker 2>the United States are California, Maine, and Washington. But there

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<v Speaker 2>are no other laws covering this. And the interesting thing

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<v Speaker 2>about the raids nineteen to thirty two percent of women

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<v Speaker 2>have experienced heealthing before the age.

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<v Speaker 1>Of thirty five. Yes, and I am of this statistic

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<v Speaker 1>I have.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the first time I experienced it, it was

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<v Speaker 2>almost like a foreman.

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<v Speaker 1>I hate the word gaslighting. Good.

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<v Speaker 2>He was just like you ain't tell me you saw it,

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<v Speaker 2>like you saw me pull it out, you saw.

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<v Speaker 1>You both times. For me, I did not see it.

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<v Speaker 3>And of course men normally will try to make you

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<v Speaker 3>feel better by saying things like, oh my god, it

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<v Speaker 3>was just feeling so good.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to feel.

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<v Speaker 3>It all or oh my god, you're just so tight.

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<v Speaker 3>I just wanted to like they'll gaslights, So why they

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<v Speaker 3>did it? The reason, however, I do want to say,

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<v Speaker 3>you can still be considered, and not of course in

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<v Speaker 3>the grand scheme, but in terms of being.

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<v Speaker 1>Manipulative in the sense of sex.

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<v Speaker 3>Sex I say all the time is ninety percent psychological,

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<v Speaker 3>ten percent physical. And to me, we've been sitting here

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<v Speaker 3>debating for weeks about what happened with the Shannon sharp

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<v Speaker 3>Ord deal, and there's so many layers to that, but

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<v Speaker 3>one thing that I keep coming back to is the

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<v Speaker 3>fact that she explicitly said the things that she didn't

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<v Speaker 3>want and you did it anyways. So if this woman

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<v Speaker 3>is explicitly saying that she doesn't want protection and you're

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<v Speaker 3>doing it anyways, you're violating a verbal agreement, so to speak,

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<v Speaker 3>on what the two of you agreed upon. This sexual

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<v Speaker 3>experience would be in no way, shape or form, whether

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<v Speaker 3>you're putting protection on or technically making this experience quote

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<v Speaker 3>unquote safer and of less consequence. I don't think in

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<v Speaker 3>any act should you go into an agreement with someone

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<v Speaker 3>to say you're going to do something sexually and daring

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<v Speaker 3>the act change from doing the thing that you both

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<v Speaker 3>agreed upon.

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<v Speaker 2>The largest issue, too, is that there's no communication at all. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>one girl is I mean that one party is asking

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<v Speaker 2>for something and you're complying to that you actually.

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<v Speaker 1>Really don't want.

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<v Speaker 2>So the crazier thing about this message is that you're

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<v Speaker 2>the one who who is being that avoided.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like the email should be.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, like this guy is saying this to me and

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<v Speaker 2>I see this happening.

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually a pretty.

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<v Speaker 2>Weak It's the guy who wrote in I know I'm

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<v Speaker 2>saying involved normally, Yes, you're right, you're right, you're right.

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<v Speaker 2>You know the fact that someone thinks they're doing something

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<v Speaker 2>with you that's consensual and it's absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>Not like yeah, no, I feel like my feelings would

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<v Speaker 1>be hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>If someone was like, hey, I've been slipping on spermicide,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, damn.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you just say something you know? Well? Then advice? Then?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you think that this is a larger conversation? Does

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<v Speaker 3>he admit to what he's been doing or moving forward?

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<v Speaker 3>Should he just suggest, Hey, we're not committed. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>really want kids right now. I want to only fuck

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<v Speaker 3>with protection. How would you advise him?

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<v Speaker 2>He doesn't want to have sex protection, He just doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>want to. No, he doesn't want to have kids with her. No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>he's not using condoms on purpose. He's only doing the

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<v Speaker 2>spermicide because of this cream PI talk. So I think

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<v Speaker 2>in reality you need to cut all that out because how.

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<v Speaker 3>Does he approach the situation because okay, maybe it's not condoms,

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<v Speaker 3>but clearly he feels safe for using spermicide. He's using

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<v Speaker 3>it without her knowledge. So should he recommend this to her?

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<v Speaker 3>How would you suggest? What would your advice be to

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<v Speaker 3>him to actually communicating this to this partner?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I think you've got to make it really nice

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<v Speaker 2>and clean and be like, hey, after that whole thing

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<v Speaker 2>that happened last time with the baby, it makes me

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<v Speaker 2>real uncomfortable when we start talking about babies during sex.

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<v Speaker 2>So I want to just leave all that cream price

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<v Speaker 2>stuff out, like I want to pull out. That's my

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<v Speaker 2>safe form, which by the way, it don't stop.

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<v Speaker 1>Baby pull out. Yeah no, no, no, no. We two grown

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<v Speaker 1>we in our thirties.

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<v Speaker 3>A man saying I'll pull out to me is not

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<v Speaker 3>like enough knowing that you don't want a baby.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I'm taking to say that that talk doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>turn you on. Well, no, it's she.

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<v Speaker 3>But if he feels comfortable with the contraception being vaginal film,

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<v Speaker 3>then that is the contraception that you alert her and

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<v Speaker 3>that she agrees to using. It doesn't have to be condoms.

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<v Speaker 3>Clearly there's other ways of contraception. But he doesn't want

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<v Speaker 3>a baby, and pulling out is not a realistic form

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<v Speaker 3>of birth control.

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<v Speaker 1>We all know that as adults.

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<v Speaker 3>So to me, then my advice would be is to

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<v Speaker 3>bring this up to her and let it be known

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<v Speaker 3>that you do not want children with her, you're not

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<v Speaker 3>interested in having any other kids with her, or just

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<v Speaker 3>because you don't want them, and to suggest a form

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<v Speaker 3>of birth control. Maybe she doesn't want to use VCF,

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<v Speaker 3>so then you go to condoms. Maybe she's willing to

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<v Speaker 3>get on birth control. There's a lot of options for contraception.

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<v Speaker 3>But if you feel safer still engaging in sex with

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<v Speaker 3>her with the use of a contraception, that becomes a

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<v Speaker 3>conversation that you have with her.

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<v Speaker 1>It's that simple, Like, it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Not that you don't like using contraception, because you're using

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<v Speaker 3>it just without the knowledge of her. And I think

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<v Speaker 3>that maybe you find a way to still make it sexy.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, y'all know, I'm an.

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<v Speaker 3>Advocate on safe sex, protected sex, condom, dick, and so

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<v Speaker 3>I'm aware that you can still have all the fun.

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<v Speaker 3>My advice, too, would be is maybe not saying, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>in terms of dirty talk, not that you want to

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<v Speaker 3>put a baby inside of her, but that you want

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<v Speaker 3>to put all the babies on her, or you want

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<v Speaker 3>her to swallow your baby, or you want them on

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<v Speaker 3>her back.

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<v Speaker 1>You can place the baby somewhere at else.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>Nandy looked directly into the camera into my soul when

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<v Speaker 2>she said it, and I would like to go.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, there's other good advice though, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think there's a way to make protected sex sexy.

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<v Speaker 3>And I know that there's all these stigmas and things

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<v Speaker 3>said on these podcasts and social media about protected sex

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<v Speaker 3>not being sexy, I one hundred percent, one hundred thousand

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<v Speaker 3>percent disagree with. And there's a way to still have

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<v Speaker 3>protected sex and make it sexy. Trust me, I've done

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<v Speaker 3>it with plenty of partners that y'all have heard on

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<v Speaker 3>this podcast, and currently doing it with my partner now

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<v Speaker 3>and we are exclusive together. So the fact that you

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<v Speaker 3>could still have sexy protected sex with someone you're with

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<v Speaker 3>or not with definitely takes the conversation, especially in terms

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<v Speaker 3>of family planning.

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