Speaker 1: And he walked me to my door and then he
Speaker 1: like hugged for like fifteen seconds, and then he walked away,
Speaker 1: and I was like all giddy, like a fucking teenager,
Speaker 1: like like making weird sounds like okay, Like I was like,
Speaker 1: what the fuck is wrong with you? You're fucking not
Speaker 1: smooth at all, bitch, shut up. And I watched him
Speaker 1: walk away and he like has his hands behind his back,
Speaker 1: like you know, like like pensive, like walking like.
Speaker 2: You know, like all like to the car. Yeah, like
Speaker 2: he's thinking deeply about what just happened. And I'm looking
Speaker 2: at him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, fifty second time He's walking all slow like fucking Buddha.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh my god. And then I closed
Speaker 1: the door and I'm like, oh my god, Wow, that
Speaker 1: was so great. And then I realized my panties are
Speaker 1: fucking soaked and my pussy is pulsating, and I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, did I just nut my pants? Like we don't
Speaker 2: even do shit.
Speaker 1: M Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica
Speaker 1: and I'm Mila.
Speaker 3: Happy December, Happy December, Lovely, how are you?
Speaker 2: I'm great?
Speaker 1: I am black, beautiful and juicy.
Speaker 2: Hallelujah.
Speaker 1: Black beautiful and juicy.
Speaker 2: So I'm great. How are you?
Speaker 3: I'm great, I'm black, beautiful and juicy, and I'm happy.
Speaker 2: I love that for you. Thank you. I love that
Speaker 2: for you. You know what?
Speaker 1: What was I watching?
Speaker 2: Oh? You know what?
Speaker 1: I was watching Scottie Beams podcast and she had this
Speaker 1: like clip that I loved actually.
Speaker 2: And it was like, you know what.
Speaker 1: You know, there was like three things that really or
Speaker 1: her that people do, and one of them is when
Speaker 1: people say I love that for you, because she's like,
Speaker 1: it's fucking disrespectful.
Speaker 2: It's rude. I never really was a fan of that.
Speaker 1: I mean, it can be rude though, because I remember
Speaker 1: the first time I heard it, one of our homegirls
Speaker 1: said it to me and I was like, are you
Speaker 1: shading me?
Speaker 2: I think I know who it is? You think exactly
Speaker 2: who it is. She's a fellow Scorpio yep hm, because
Speaker 2: she started that ship.
Speaker 1: Because that was where I first said it.
Speaker 2: It's like, I guess that's good. I'm like, are you
Speaker 2: be bitch? I know what? I don't think? She mean?
Speaker 1: She also so she hates when niggas come out the
Speaker 1: shower and their towels are around like underneath her armpits.
Speaker 1: Like if a nigga comes out the shower with his
Speaker 1: towel wrapped around his chest. The visual that I'm getting
Speaker 1: right now, he is the fucking towel twisted on his head,
Speaker 1: just complete the look.
Speaker 2: Well, I don't know what.
Speaker 1: That clip was. Great, that's the great a editing. It's
Speaker 1: a Scottie Beam. Well, what's the third one?
Speaker 2: Ship?
Speaker 1: The third one was?
Speaker 2: Oh god, what was it? It was one? Luck? It
Speaker 2: was another good one to find the clip.
Speaker 1: That was, okay, sorry, we're I was shuffling cards and
Speaker 1: they just fell out. We got the death and we
Speaker 1: got what the ten of Pinnacles?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think one was. One was Ba's reverse. I
Speaker 2: don't know. You picked both of them up like this whatever.
Speaker 2: Speaking of okay, what are some things that irk you?
Speaker 3: Um?
Speaker 2: Things that irk me?
Speaker 1: And a man who name drops, Oh my god, irritates
Speaker 1: my soul?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I need too. That's so you know
Speaker 2: what I think.
Speaker 3: I thought, I'm just programmed that way because we were
Speaker 3: in Hollywood and niggas do that all the fucking time.
Speaker 1: Well, I know what it was. I know what the
Speaker 1: third one was. Was it a nigga who mumbles because
Speaker 1: I can't stand a nigga who mumble because I'm fucking deaf?
Speaker 1: So how dare you mumble?
Speaker 2: Bitch?
Speaker 1: Because I it's like you want me to fail.
Speaker 2: No, no, it's just not confident. You want me to.
Speaker 1: Admit my deafness. And also like, why are you whispering?
Speaker 1: Like you know, it's not sexy, it's not sexy.
Speaker 2: Speak up.
Speaker 1: So that's the third one, and that's actually one of
Speaker 1: mine as well.
Speaker 3: I don't I hate niggas who have long nails and
Speaker 3: dirty nails. That really disgusted me, Like what the fuck
Speaker 3: do you have all those nails for it? And like
Speaker 3: you just doesn't look groomed. You're not groomed. Nobody us
Speaker 3: you know what.
Speaker 1: I've also realized it irks me. And you're not gonna
Speaker 1: believe this because I was actually a proponent for not
Speaker 1: letting this trend die and I still think that women
Speaker 1: can pull this off. So I recently wanted on a
Speaker 1: hinge date and the guy rolled up, he did, I did, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been having a whole double life.
Speaker 2: Do not tell me.
Speaker 3: I'm like really like think racking my brain right now,
Speaker 3: like hinge date, hinge date.
Speaker 2: What the hell bitch going on? Tom? Are you even
Speaker 2: my friend. Yeah, how many hinge dates have you been
Speaker 2: on behind my back? Two? Are you cheating on me?
Speaker 2: I'm one in Mexico City? And one okay I remember, okay,
Speaker 2: I remember Mesco City. Oh, then one here. I made
Speaker 2: him drive all the way to Calabasas.
Speaker 3: You did not tell me about the one here, which
Speaker 3: is appalling.
Speaker 1: In LA and we've been talking. He was a nice guy,
Speaker 1: he really was. He just wasn't my guy. I learned
Speaker 1: later that his like, actually I don't want to expose him,
Speaker 1: but his family's like really high up in like some
Speaker 1: sort of church group.
Speaker 2: First of all, too late, his dad is like the head.
Speaker 1: Of like the Seventh day Adventists, like some shiit like
Speaker 1: globally internationally. And I was like, this is very off
Speaker 1: brand for you, sir, And he's like, I'm not a
Speaker 1: Seventh day Adventist, but my family they grew up very religious.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I don't even want to unpack
Speaker 1: all this means in a relationship with you.
Speaker 2: But more importantly, I'm upset.
Speaker 1: That you're wearing skinny jeans anymore, said that you've chosen
Speaker 1: to wear these skinny jeans and these Gucci sneakers, that
Speaker 1: all niggas bought at one point in their life, like
Speaker 1: the preppy niggas that are not too stylish but just
Speaker 1: enough style and they want to dress designer and then
Speaker 1: buy those specific Yes, you know he wore that, and
Speaker 1: he wore some skinny jean.
Speaker 2: What color were the jeans?
Speaker 1: No socks on?
Speaker 2: What kind of shirt? Like a color like a dark gray?
Speaker 2: And then the shirt.
Speaker 1: He's it's just you know that I'm a slut for
Speaker 1: fashion niggas, Like if a.
Speaker 2: Man can dress I I'm a slut for fashion. All
Speaker 2: my manners. You will style.
Speaker 1: Fashion to above average stylish and the like I had
Speaker 1: a few in there that weren't okay. I'm honest, like
Speaker 1: like poetry slash scammer Bay he was not stolen teeth Bae,
Speaker 1: stolen teeth bay. He He tried, he tried his best.
Speaker 1: But I remember there's this one time he wore this
Speaker 1: like long white tunic.
Speaker 2: I remember this, vagabe, do you remember? And I was like, whoa, well,
Speaker 2: what's happening?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 2: I actually like that tunic? I just he it would
Speaker 2: think it was him him.
Speaker 1: It was like it just looked weird, like he was
Speaker 1: going to church, like he was gonna go like lead
Speaker 1: a sermon or something. I don't know, but anyway, this
Speaker 1: this nice hinged date wore those skinny jeans and I
Speaker 1: was like, wow, I really don't like that.
Speaker 2: Really you're a distractive I really don't like that.
Speaker 1: And and then he proceeded to talk about his kid
Speaker 1: the whole day, which you know, I've been thinking like
Speaker 1: maybe I need to date more dads, Like maybe that's
Speaker 1: some of the disconnects sometimes for me, is like I
Speaker 1: need to date someone that understands, you know, my schedule,
Speaker 1: understands responsible a certain responsibility, maybe has more patience with
Speaker 1: kids so that they're patient with my kid. And then
Speaker 1: I sat down with his dad and all he did
Speaker 1: was talk about his fucking son the whole motherfuck.
Speaker 2: How old is the sun? Ten?
Speaker 1: What is there?
Speaker 2: How much is here to talk about your ten year old?
Speaker 2: Like what like food? What his eating habits?
Speaker 1: It was like literally like I was on a date
Speaker 1: with my like my homegirl, like my new mommy friend,
Speaker 1: with my new mommy friend.
Speaker 3: Not even mommy friends do that she was telling me.
Speaker 3: He was telling me was food and these are things
Speaker 3: we'd already discussed. So I was like, why are we
Speaker 3: talking about this again?
Speaker 2: I've never heard of this.
Speaker 3: This is an interesting I heard women do this, but
Speaker 3: I've never heard of a man coming on a date.
Speaker 3: Maybe he thinks this is going to get him like
Speaker 3: in the like this is going to get him in
Speaker 3: because he seems like caring.
Speaker 1: I don't know what it was, but it wasn't for me,
Speaker 1: and it was kind. I got a free dinner. That
Speaker 1: was great. I would have happily paid also, but.
Speaker 2: I'm glad that I didn't have to where'd you guys go?
Speaker 2: We went to Crossroads? Oh? Oh, I did?
Speaker 3: There's one out there? Hmm okay, and that's a pretty
Speaker 3: expensive vegan restaurant.
Speaker 2: Yeah. It was good.
Speaker 1: I really didn't have to do much. I just drove
Speaker 1: down the street and talked and talked and then left
Speaker 1: and then decided no thanks.
Speaker 2: No thanks. I don't like seven.
Speaker 3: I don't like seventy seven genes or overly religious family
Speaker 3: you think. Do you assume that men who come from
Speaker 3: religious family backgrounds have a lot to impact?
Speaker 2: Yes? I do. I was gonna say I believe that
Speaker 2: it's not the case.
Speaker 1: I believe there's always room for, you know, like something
Speaker 1: different to be laid out. But I do believe the
Speaker 1: chances are higher, and especially specifically in that practice, they're
Speaker 1: pretty extreme. So I was just like, this is not
Speaker 1: gonna work, like have you seen clips of my show?
Speaker 1: And then I'm glad he didn't even know. I didn't
Speaker 1: even really talk about other podcasts. So hopefully he'll never
Speaker 1: listen to this and I won't have to apologize to
Speaker 1: someone else because someone actually also told me that I
Speaker 1: ran into recently on The Hinge, a former Hinger, which
Speaker 1: if you're listening, hey.
Speaker 2: Said that I shared one.
Speaker 1: Of his dating experiences and that he felt that I
Speaker 1: went on a date with him for content. No, you
Speaker 1: know the amount of content I got this first of all,
Speaker 1: look at me.
Speaker 2: I am talking about you right now, however, and I
Speaker 2: do just look like you need to go on a
Speaker 2: date for content.
Speaker 1: I respected his view. I respected his view, and I apologize.
Speaker 1: That's not my intention.
Speaker 2: What did you say? What did you say about the date?
Speaker 1: It wasn't about it was even about our date. It
Speaker 1: was about he shared a scary dating experience he had,
Speaker 1: and then I shared it on the show, and then
Speaker 1: he must have listened to it and felt like I
Speaker 1: went on a date with him for content to share
Speaker 1: his own content.
Speaker 2: I don't know whatever.
Speaker 1: And the point of the story is is you can't
Speaker 1: tell everybody. I have a podcast on Hin's going crazy
Speaker 1: on Hind right now, things are going crazy on Hind and.
Speaker 3: Then you go over there just to see what's going on.
Speaker 3: He used to be so entertaining. It's like a game boy.
Speaker 1: I'm really bad though, because I only check it every
Speaker 1: like nine days. And then somebody messaging me. This one guy,
Speaker 1: we finally like, I finally gave him my number, and
Speaker 1: then he called me and I could just tell. I
Speaker 1: was that this conversation is kind of boring, and then
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, my mom's calling, let me call
Speaker 1: you back, and then he hung up. And then I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm never going to answer again. And then
Speaker 1: he called and I never. I was like, no, you
Speaker 1: fucked up. You hung up on me for your mom.
Speaker 3: So not nuts at all. Don't you know who comes first?
Speaker 3: Bit she met on a Hinge, I've already.
Speaker 2: Established this isn't going to work. Now, already have mommy issues.
Speaker 2: She can call back. It's not an emergency.
Speaker 1: She only called on Hinge Chronicles loading Erica is single
Speaker 1: again and now we're back onto the dating field, and
Speaker 1: the stories will unload. Unfortunately, Jamila is very much in love. However,
Speaker 1: thankfully her and her partner are just as wild as
Speaker 1: almost being single. So not it's almost being single, so
Speaker 1: you'll still get the stories. I yeah, you know, there
Speaker 1: was a whole heavy season of us just posting exposing
Speaker 1: niggas from him.
Speaker 2: Exposed so many niggas on the Hinge and close friends.
Speaker 3: It was not kind, but also it was kind of funny.
Speaker 3: And also it's public. It's public like uh property now,
Speaker 3: it's just like on Instagram, it's after you post that shit.
Speaker 2: I could use it for anything.
Speaker 3: It's wild, but it's the wild, wild West. And so therefore,
Speaker 3: I now you're on the shopping block because it's how.
Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna we're gonna read.
Speaker 1: I'm relaunching my Hinge chronicles on close Friends, so if
Speaker 1: you're not part of our close Friends, you're gonna miss out.
Speaker 1: So I want to encourage you to join Patreon right now.
Speaker 1: A because the Hinge chronicles are lit. B because next
Speaker 1: year we're going into seasons and you're only gonna get
Speaker 1: our off season episodes exclusively on Patreon. B because there's
Speaker 1: tons of other shit and we talk to you guys,
Speaker 1: directly way more there. And number four because I cry
Speaker 1: a lot more publicly on Patreon than anywhere else on
Speaker 1: the internet, so if you want to see me cry.
Speaker 3: We're just tired telling all our business. The niggas are
Speaker 3: tired of us talk exposing them for content. We're tired
Speaker 3: telling our business.
Speaker 2: To everybody for free. You know it.
Speaker 3: Just at some point six years in you got to
Speaker 3: put your foot down. Finally we're mature and we're like
Speaker 3: you guys, you can't know all of our fucking business.
Speaker 2: You can for small prefer smaping.
Speaker 3: We might be worse than like the only fans that
Speaker 3: we're giving everything, all of our inner pourings.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm you know, I'm actually excited to.
Speaker 3: Relive your dating life through you, even though you're not
Speaker 3: even telling me when you go on fucking dates with
Speaker 3: the neigas the skinny jeans, which is wild, but that's
Speaker 3: we're gonna say that for later. A little sneaky bitch.
Speaker 3: You know, if you guys have any scorpio friends, are
Speaker 3: they like a little bit sneaky? Yeah, like twenty five
Speaker 3: percent sneaky.
Speaker 1: I actually feel like I'm like less of a sneaky
Speaker 1: scorpio than most scorpios.
Speaker 2: That's probably true.
Speaker 1: I think there's a lot more sneakiness happening in the
Speaker 1: scorpio department. I don't know how, because I'm very heavily scorpio.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's that like that one slither one sagittear, the
Speaker 1: sagt terrius in me. That's like, be free. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell everyone my business.
Speaker 2: Well the word.
Speaker 3: It's working for you, that one percent has worked for you,
Speaker 3: but thankfully it's worked for us.
Speaker 2: Thank god you agreed and said yes to the said
Speaker 2: yes to the dress.
Speaker 1: Shout out to the Sages. I know it's your season.
Speaker 1: I feel you. I've been starting to read my my
Speaker 1: sage horoscopes and I'm like starting to see like the
Speaker 1: other the parts, the other elements of me. And I
Speaker 1: just love sad I love sage women. They're so fiery,
Speaker 1: they're so fun, and they don't fuck with them.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, no, no, no, I can see that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Luna is going to be a little beast.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean I'm her mother, so I wouldn't really recommend
Speaker 3: that in general. Yeah, I don't think I give them
Speaker 3: and I don't really give off like I'm to be
Speaker 3: fucked with the vibes.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Quite. Frankly, I don't.
Speaker 3: I'm very friendly, but I don't think anyone's like, yeah,
Speaker 3: let me fuck with her and see what happened.
Speaker 2: I don't think I give that.
Speaker 1: Off ever since she climbed at me like a little
Speaker 1: fucking monkey Coachella. But she tried to beat my ass,
Speaker 1: and she the the speed in which she climbed up
Speaker 1: my body.
Speaker 2: I was not ready. Don't try to.
Speaker 1: I was like, she really might beat my ass here,
Speaker 1: don't you expose me?
Speaker 2: It was like, shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1: Next thing I knew, I was on the floor being straddled.
Speaker 3: You hear that.
Speaker 2: Person ninety eight pounds?
Speaker 3: You hope don't ever try to attack me in public.
Speaker 3: It's not a good it's not a good look. It
Speaker 3: won't happen for you.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: We we're supposed to talk about this episode the things
Speaker 3: that we've learned this year.
Speaker 1: This is a long episode.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, that's one thing you learned. Well, you guys.
Speaker 3: I've said I said this on the Holiday Gift Guide,
Speaker 3: but I haven't really officially said it.
Speaker 2: I've learned a lot of things. Do you know why?
Speaker 3: Because I am now certified government certified sexologist, and Tanter
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Speaker 2: She was glasses, this was lingerie, she was leather.
Speaker 1: She'd warned you, She did warn you, she said. The
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Speaker 3: Mela Map sexologists in. Hello, Hello, it's me. Do you
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Speaker 1: Do you have any you need to have, any sexual roadblocks,
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Speaker 1: for you.
Speaker 3: No, But really, I really I learned a lot of things.
Speaker 3: I would like to say that I had learned not
Speaker 3: to procrastinate, but I have not conquered.
Speaker 2: That yet, still in progress.
Speaker 3: But I feel super I do feel like I've gained
Speaker 3: a lot of knowledge from my program, and I feel
Speaker 3: supercharged with sex smartness and advice and also just like
Speaker 3: a very clear understanding of I don't know, like my divinity.
Speaker 3: I feel very in tune with the you know, the
Speaker 3: divine source through Tantra and I don't know, I'm really
Speaker 3: excited for you to go on your tantra journey. And
Speaker 3: I kind of feel like I've been like I've been
Speaker 3: upgraded in my witchery, a tantra witch superpower activated activated.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I also learned that we can do whatever the fuck
Speaker 3: we want, and we could probably plan it better.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well it's possible, got it?
Speaker 3: Yea, and we should probably not even though we can,
Speaker 3: probably shouldn't. That's probably one of my biggest lessons. You know,
Speaker 3: you just slowly, stead steady pasting.
Speaker 2: What have I learned?
Speaker 1: God, I've learned how important the company I keep is
Speaker 1: to my how I show up in all of my relationships.
Speaker 1: I realized compartmentalizing is not my superpower and it probably
Speaker 1: will never be.
Speaker 2: And that's okay.
Speaker 1: And that whatever environment, that whatever person or people I
Speaker 1: choose to keep in my space really have to be
Speaker 1: in alignment with where I'm at, doesn't We don't necessarily
Speaker 1: have to be on the same path, but that there
Speaker 1: is an specifically in my love space, it is so
Speaker 1: crucial that I am in alignment with my partner spiritually,
Speaker 1: that we have dedicated ourselves to some sort of practice.
Speaker 1: I'm already dedicated to my practices, and I'm obviously always
Speaker 1: still like trying to make sure that I'm staying on
Speaker 1: the path of that, and you know, it goes in
Speaker 1: ebbs and flows. But I realized if a person that
Speaker 1: I'm with hasn't even really begun to do to be
Speaker 1: in that space and to understand the importance of spiritual
Speaker 1: growth and healing, that I can't have you in me
Speaker 1: or on me. And I think I always knew that,
Speaker 1: but I like felt like I could bring people on
Speaker 1: the journey with me. And I've learned that like I
Speaker 1: don't really that's not where I'm at at this point
Speaker 1: in my life. That I would much more actually prefer
Speaker 1: someone to be farther along in their journey even than
Speaker 1: I am.
Speaker 2: That I want to be led in that way.
Speaker 1: And so I've realized that I realized that I have
Speaker 1: a very huge capacity for I realized like I have
Speaker 1: so much love to give, and I think that I
Speaker 1: didn't always feel that way. That I realized like I
Speaker 1: have a lot of empathy in the ways that I
Speaker 1: didn't think that I did or do. And that also
Speaker 1: that my boundaries, I'm not I need to never question.
Speaker 2: My boundaries again. No, no, I that.
Speaker 3: My boundaries are they're legit, they're good. Well, they need
Speaker 3: they need to be like cement. They can't be really
Speaker 3: malleable because then I can fuck their whole shit up.
Speaker 2: Well, I think you know.
Speaker 1: And I even had this conversation with you. I remember,
Speaker 1: like when I was crying at our friends was it
Speaker 1: Halloween party? Am like where was I at? Or I
Speaker 1: was just like a spice girls, Oh it was her
Speaker 1: birthday party at the party, and I was saying, how
Speaker 1: I feel like I've been really hard on people, and
Speaker 1: so I feel like I've needed to explore letting my
Speaker 1: boundaries come down more so that I can feel more
Speaker 1: empathetic towards people. And you were like, no, You're like,
Speaker 1: that's actually, don't do that.
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna do it.
Speaker 1: And I realized, yeah, you're right, and that generally, I
Speaker 1: think there's like a balance between being kind but also
Speaker 1: still having hard boundaries and saying, you know what, I
Speaker 1: don't relate to that, but I want what's best. I
Speaker 1: hope the best for you, and I'm going to gently
Speaker 1: stand over here, Whereas this year I really stood in
Speaker 1: it and I said I'm gonna go I'm gonna stand
Speaker 1: in it. Fuck it, you know, and I needed that
Speaker 1: I needed to kind of just retract on all my
Speaker 1: retract on all of the work that I've done a
Speaker 1: bit to kind of like double check it almost Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I think this year and I'm still processing this
Speaker 1: year honestly, Like it's not the end of the year yet,
Speaker 1: and a lot has happened for me, good, bad, great, medium,
Speaker 1: and I feel like I'm still in processing of all
Speaker 1: of it. But ultimately I'm grateful for all of the
Speaker 1: things that I went through this year, all the memories,
Speaker 1: all the experiences, the love that I experienced, the heartbreak
Speaker 1: that I experienced, Like I really am grateful for being
Speaker 1: able to kind of be raw because I think at
Speaker 1: the beginning of this year, what I said was like
Speaker 1: I want this year to be my rawest year, Like
Speaker 1: I want to really feel like I'm like the most honest,
Speaker 1: And I really went for it. I really explored all
Speaker 1: the parts that I like might have judged other people
Speaker 1: for and I just said, fuck it, and I realized
Speaker 1: it doesn't suit me, and it doesn't suit me because
Speaker 1: I don't know how to compartmentalize those things. Like I've realized,
Speaker 1: like I really have to be in a good frequency
Speaker 1: and energy or else it fucks up everything.
Speaker 3: Well it doesn't. It doesn't suit you, but it really
Speaker 3: suits to no one. Like environmental pollution is real.
Speaker 1: But some people and you shouldn't do this anyway, but
Speaker 1: some people are better at being able to, like be
Speaker 1: in toxic spaces and still having a positive output for
Speaker 1: other people. I can't do that. I can't be in
Speaker 1: a toxic situation and then be positive in other spaces.
Speaker 1: I becod. I start toxifying all of my spaces that way,
Speaker 1: I think, because so much of my love, so much
Speaker 1: of who I am is rooted in like I don't
Speaker 1: even know what the word like where it is, like
Speaker 1: like I don't know my heart centered and like womb
Speaker 1: centered and like as women we are. But I feel
Speaker 1: like I just I know for me personally, like the
Speaker 1: moment I started entertaining any sort of bullshit, it's going
Speaker 1: to ultimately spread bullshit in all the other areas of
Speaker 1: my life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it definitely will. Unfortunately, the longer you
Speaker 3: stay in it too, like if you're unaware, it will
Speaker 3: numb you out, and so you start to think like
Speaker 3: this is normal, see, this is comfort, and then you
Speaker 3: just start to like vibrate there. And that's the thing
Speaker 3: is like being around tap people who are unwilling or
Speaker 3: you know, to look at themselves or heal or like
Speaker 3: even beginning to do that work, which is so fun.
Speaker 3: It's fucked up because a lot of men are not
Speaker 3: there yet. Most men are not having spiritual practices. I'm
Speaker 3: not saying you know all, but a lot of them
Speaker 3: are not. You know, a lot of them are not
Speaker 3: going to be you know, inklings in front of the
Speaker 3: women because like this is kind of our territory and
Speaker 3: we're kind of like reclaiming it. But the thing is,
Speaker 3: like so many women second guest guests, second guests themselves
Speaker 3: that they they become numb to to you know, how
Speaker 3: they do pollute spaces and how they do show up,
Speaker 3: and how their energy is low and like how their
Speaker 3: heart is hurting and like they're just functioning despite it
Speaker 3: and you know, pretending and it's just like that is
Speaker 3: really scary, and it's like it has been a tough year,
Speaker 3: but like thankful you are self aware enough to be like, huh,
Speaker 3: you know, something feels off. You know, like I'm like
Speaker 3: at least being like, okay, well I realized I've not
Speaker 3: been myself in you know, X amount of time, and
Speaker 3: I can you know, I can directly related back to
Speaker 3: this and just like you know, take responsibility for participating
Speaker 3: in it, and then you know, actually moving forward doing
Speaker 3: something differently and having the discernment to be like I
Speaker 3: was tripping, but fool me once, You're not gonna, you know,
Speaker 3: fill me four times. We've all been fooled multiple times.
Speaker 3: But just being having the commitment to yourself.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I think about as you're talking, I
Speaker 1: think about how men are on the internet, you see,
Speaker 1: and even women they're saying like I want a god
Speaker 1: fearing man, or like they must be God fearing or
Speaker 1: they must be Christian, And I kind of, yeah, I
Speaker 1: kind of relate to that, and not in the same way,
Speaker 1: like I want someone who's like spirit loving, someone.
Speaker 3: Who's like devout, devout self devout, Yes, like.
Speaker 1: Virtually have to have to believe in something.
Speaker 3: Committed to spiritual advancement, committed to committed to just discovering
Speaker 3: your own divinity.
Speaker 1: Discovering your own divinity but also knowing like that there's
Speaker 1: something bigger than us, and like committed to investigating what
Speaker 1: that is and how that impacts.
Speaker 3: You, Right, and how you show up in the world
Speaker 3: because of that source that is like obviously you know,
Speaker 3: transmitted through you.
Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely, and that's a non negotiable for me. So
Speaker 1: my dating pool is getting extremely much smaller now.
Speaker 2: But that's great, No, it is. But we don't have.
Speaker 1: No skinny jeans like medium to high on the fashions tall.
Speaker 2: Black, not medium to high on the fashion.
Speaker 1: Medium okay black or brown at least brownish. And you know,
Speaker 1: you don't even have to be tall, like just taller
Speaker 1: than me, like I can wear heels and you're my
Speaker 1: height at least to like strong five nine ten. So
Speaker 1: I feel like I might be more clear now, specifically
Speaker 1: because I'm not having sex and I don't have any
Speaker 1: intentions on having sex. I really don't think I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have sex until I'm in a relationship with somebody. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and which is kind of scary because I we probably
Speaker 1: need to have sex before we commit to the relationship
Speaker 1: because I don't want any funny business. However, I do
Speaker 1: think that like once you are in the like once
Speaker 1: you really tap in with someone, you know what they
Speaker 1: fuck like, you know, yeah, you know what they fuck?
Speaker 2: Like have been wrong? Might not? Bitches are not tapped in.
Speaker 2: They're they're confused.
Speaker 1: Now you know what they fuck like, but you don't
Speaker 1: know what that dick sizes, which check? Which will that
Speaker 1: will be checked? But I just don't have any interest.
Speaker 1: I can't even imagine a man inside of me. I
Speaker 1: have no like I'm very horn like I want.
Speaker 2: Oh, I know I want.
Speaker 1: I'm very horny. But I just can't imagine having sex
Speaker 1: with someone and then like looking at them and cuddling
Speaker 1: and like being excited like yeah, and like excite, like
Speaker 1: stupidly excited, like I don't know where this is going.
Speaker 1: That was like, no, I don't, I do care, and
Speaker 1: like I can't have casual ste and because I can't
Speaker 1: have casual sex, I can't lay with you and like
Speaker 1: be like that was.
Speaker 2: Fun, that was cute.
Speaker 1: Maybe hopefully you'll call me like no, I need to
Speaker 1: know you're gonna fucking call me like I don't want
Speaker 1: to do any of this in between grey area. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So it's very much it's very much better. It's very
Speaker 1: much better if like I'm dating with real clarity and
Speaker 1: intention and dating someone who's clearly on the same path,
Speaker 1: because if we're not on that same tip, then it's
Speaker 1: due it's doomed. It's gonna be doomed.
Speaker 2: So you're gonna hear dating.
Speaker 1: Stories on how much sex stories you're gonna hear, But
Speaker 1: maybe there's like other although I did tell you the
Speaker 1: other day that I've been like hanging out with this
Speaker 1: guy and like we haven't even like kissed, like barely touch,
Speaker 1: like there's clear sexual tension happening between us, but we've
Speaker 1: both kind of like well before this like silently acknowledged
Speaker 1: that this is like we're not going to like take
Speaker 1: it there. And then I like actually vocalized to him
Speaker 1: like this is where I'm at and I respect where
Speaker 1: you're at, and blah blah blah, and then he walked
Speaker 1: me to my door. And after this was like after
Speaker 1: we like had dinner and we went on like up
Speaker 1: the mountain and overlooked the mountain like overlooked LA and
Speaker 1: had like smoked up.
Speaker 2: There and it was really it was really cute.
Speaker 1: And he walked me to my door and then we
Speaker 1: like hugged for like fifteen seconds and then he walked away,
Speaker 1: and I was like all giddy, like a fucking teenager
Speaker 1: like like making weird sounds like okay, Like I was
Speaker 1: like what the fuck is wrong with you? You're fucking
Speaker 1: not smooth at all.
Speaker 2: Bitch, shut up.
Speaker 1: And I watched him walk away and he like has
Speaker 1: his hands behind his back like you know, like like pensive,
Speaker 1: like walking.
Speaker 2: Like you know, like all like to the car. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like he's thinking deeply about what just happened. And I'm
Speaker 2: looking at him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, fifty second time He's walking all slow like fucking Buddha,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god. And then I closed
Speaker 1: the door and I'm like, oh my god, Wow, that
Speaker 1: was so great. And then I realized my panties.
Speaker 2: Are fucking soaked and my pussy is pulsating, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: did I just nut my pants? Like we don't even
Speaker 2: do shit, We even.
Speaker 3: Touched fifteen second hugs, Like I'm like, is this my
Speaker 3: new foreplay?
Speaker 1: Is this the new shit for me? Like? Or is
Speaker 1: it because I haven't fucked in like two and a
Speaker 1: half months that like this is where I'm at. I
Speaker 1: was like, either I've just unlocked a new level of
Speaker 1: intimacy I didn't even know I could have, or a
Speaker 1: bitch is just so desperately horny that that's all it took.
Speaker 3: Well, I think it's a combination of both, and you're
Speaker 3: probably gonna I think it's like the longer it goes,
Speaker 3: the easier it'll be to like honor it, because like
Speaker 3: after a certain amount of time, you're like, I'm not
Speaker 3: gonna just waste it. I've wasted all like I've committed
Speaker 3: all this time. So yeah, when you you're gonna be
Speaker 3: very sensitive to someone entering your like actually touching you.
Speaker 2: So I think it's good.
Speaker 3: And you are probably very highly on the high end
Speaker 3: of horny right now, but I think he'll balance its
Speaker 3: way out.
Speaker 1: Oh I want to do They do this in tantra
Speaker 1: school where they do like the no touch orgasms, Well,
Speaker 1: well me learn about them. I feel like I'm open.
Speaker 1: I'm ready, like, put me in the session, baby out.
Speaker 1: I don't know if they discard everywhere no touch.
Speaker 2: That's what it felt like.
Speaker 1: I was like, that was like some weird that was
Speaker 1: like some tantric shit that just happened. Like he closed
Speaker 1: the door. I watched him walk away, and that turned
Speaker 1: me on, Like specifically the way he walked away turned
Speaker 1: me on.
Speaker 2: And then I closed it in the way he walks. Yes,
Speaker 2: I don't know what it was. It was like he
Speaker 2: was floated away he floated.
Speaker 1: Away, but I could tell he was in deep, like
Speaker 1: he was still super present in like what we had
Speaker 1: just experienced even as he was leaving me. You know,
Speaker 1: it wasn't like he was like okay and off my
Speaker 1: next blah blah blah, you know. And yeah, and then
Speaker 1: I just was like, oh my god, I think I
Speaker 1: met it in my pants and I didn't even.
Speaker 3: Well, there's also something super sexy about a man being
Speaker 3: able to exercise a certain amount of discipline not too
Speaker 3: That is like super sexy. And like you're not even
Speaker 3: trying me, and you're not even being overly like we're
Speaker 3: so used to like you know, so like so easily.
Speaker 3: So like when a man is exercising but still showing
Speaker 3: interest and intimacy and investing time, it's like, oh, like
Speaker 3: you're not just fucking everything and you're spending time with me.
Speaker 3: That is that is sexy, you know, so like I
Speaker 3: can see how that could be in like an aphrodisiac.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I'm just I'm excited to just keep exploring that
Speaker 1: space and yeah, do a little sex magic on myself. Yeah,
Speaker 1: harnessing my own personal sexual power.
Speaker 2: Absolutely.
Speaker 3: I invite you to just continue to take note of
Speaker 3: how your body feels in the interim and like when
Speaker 3: you're around this person, just around people, especially just during
Speaker 3: hinge dating too. I think like people like don't pay
Speaker 3: enough attention to like literally, how does my body feel?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: So, actually my friend did this thing on me and
Speaker 3: I was super interested. It was super It was a
Speaker 3: crazy thing. So I'm going to ask you two questions, okay,
Speaker 3: and I want you to say yes to both of them.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, is your name Erica? Yes? How does that
Speaker 2: feel in your body? That yes? I muso say yes again?
Speaker 2: Just this thing? This feel? It is your name Greg? Yes?
Speaker 2: How does that feel in your body? Caucasian?
Speaker 3: Do you feel the way your body reacts when you
Speaker 3: say yes to something that's not true and something yes
Speaker 3: that something is true?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I felt like, uh, like my chest got tight when
Speaker 3: you said yes to Greg. So these are just like
Speaker 3: super simple indications of how.
Speaker 1: To pay attention to your when you're saying yes to shit,
Speaker 1: you don't really.
Speaker 3: Yes yes one of the things you're saying, or if
Speaker 3: they align with your your body and like that's so
Speaker 3: fucking simple, but it's like wild, how if you really
Speaker 3: pay attention And like my friend asked me when we
Speaker 3: were leaving the airport in from graduation and something had
Speaker 3: come up. A lot of things have come up, that's
Speaker 3: a whole different thing. But she did this to me,
Speaker 3: and it was so interesting, Like I felt like a release,
Speaker 3: like a tingly feeling, and like the back of my
Speaker 3: like almost like the back like my right lung or something.
Speaker 3: When I said yes. But when she asked me the
Speaker 3: other question I said yes, I felt nothing like I
Speaker 3: almost like I I had checked out. But when my
Speaker 3: first response was to say, it felt normal to lie,
Speaker 3: to lie, So it was an indication to me that
Speaker 3: like I'm not, I wasn't aware that when I'm leaving
Speaker 3: my body to just like just okay, you know, like
Speaker 3: bypass my my inner my inner dialogue.
Speaker 2: And then that I literally when I said the yes, it's.
Speaker 3: Like a spark went off, Like it was. It was
Speaker 3: a strange observation and it's so simple. But like I think,
Speaker 3: as people, we're just so busy going through life, like
Speaker 3: this actual fucking body that we have that indicates this
Speaker 3: our intuition and tells us things we're so used to
Speaker 3: bypassing it that we forget to just like simply check in.
Speaker 3: It's true so as you get to go through this process,
Speaker 3: your your hinge and your rias and et cetera, you know,
Speaker 3: just be one being being attunement with.
Speaker 2: That, thank you, I shall, I shall?
Speaker 3: Do you have an affirmation? Move with mindfulness, Move with intention?
Speaker 3: What do we have today? What's in your spirit?
Speaker 1: If we aren't spiritually aligned, get off my line.
Speaker 3: If we aren't spiritually aligned, get off my line.
Speaker 2: You hear that.
Speaker 1: If we aren't spiritually aligned, get off my motherfucking line.
Speaker 1: Bye bye, Nigga bade ty ron, Go worship whatever the
Speaker 1: fuck you worship, video games, football.
Speaker 2: Go where you worship.
Speaker 3: Recently, when I came home from my graduation, my loveliest
Speaker 3: darling husband boyfriend made me an altar in the house,
Speaker 3: oh with like our book and some books and some
Speaker 3: money and some ancestor money and all these nice things
Speaker 3: candles and incense and I was and some food offerings
Speaker 3: and it was a success alter that he created for me.
Speaker 3: And I said, oh, my god, you're listening. You're paying
Speaker 3: attention in that is it? Really it warmed my heart.
Speaker 3: But mostly I was like, perfect, which ways are working?
Speaker 3: He understands that, he understands the goals, you know, But
Speaker 3: like I completely agree and align with you and someone
Speaker 3: who's at least willing to recognize that, like being in
Speaker 3: attunement with source is super important and like just like us,
Speaker 3: you know, like we locked in and then we really
Speaker 3: utilize that entity, you know, our powers and we kind
Speaker 3: of like see how it works and numbers. And so
Speaker 3: if you can like unlock that with sex and with
Speaker 3: your partner, like you can really create generational wealth and
Speaker 3: success and peace and happiness, like with your ancestors and
Speaker 3: with your your spirit guides in alignment with what you're doing.
Speaker 3: And I think, I think that's what makes me excited
Speaker 3: about this journey because I know that if I commit
Speaker 3: to it in the way that I want with somebody
Speaker 3: who's who is spiritually aligned, the type of sex that
Speaker 3: we will be able to do and the type of
Speaker 3: magic that we will be able to create. And I
Speaker 3: know that because of what I've been able to create
Speaker 3: with you, like that being able to do that in
Speaker 3: in that way will be life Like will.
Speaker 1: Save the world. We can't change the world.
Speaker 3: I mean, essentially, I really do attribute our relationship to
Speaker 3: my understanding of like not like sex magic, but like
Speaker 3: co creation and just co creation with commitment with love
Speaker 3: with like blind faith, you know, like I really I
Speaker 3: attribute understanding my power and our collaborative power so much
Speaker 3: in like how I've chosen just like in a relationship,
Speaker 3: because it's true, like if we can do this, it's
Speaker 3: just like you finding your tribe, you know, like if
Speaker 3: we can do this, we could do anything. And when
Speaker 3: you add sex to it, it can like really up
Speaker 3: the ante. And I do I do believe just like
Speaker 3: spiritually like man and woman yin and yang, like we
Speaker 3: are we we've obviously been put on this earth to
Speaker 3: co create, like we maintain humanity. So it's just like
Speaker 3: when we really align with people who respect and honor
Speaker 3: and hold space and love us and are and like
Speaker 3: committed to the spiritual evolution, it's some magical ass shit happened,
Speaker 3: Like it's some magical tribal which you shit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So.
Speaker 1: That's the kind of sex I want. So until I
Speaker 1: get that, or until I feel like I'm gonna get that,
Speaker 1: I'm cool. I'll just keep fucking myself because I fuck
Speaker 1: myself pretty good.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get a lot of that in tanger School,
Speaker 3: My love lots of tantric masturbation.
Speaker 2: You know what I've been doing too lately.
Speaker 1: The people that I'm attracted to, I take screenshots of
Speaker 1: them and I zoom into their eyes. I zoom into
Speaker 1: their eyes and I look at them when I'm coming,
Speaker 1: and it tells me if you're a fucking nigga or
Speaker 1: if you're safe. There's a few where I'm like, I
Speaker 1: should have known, because I've done it to a few
Speaker 1: people that I fucked, and I was like, I'm scared.
Speaker 3: I'm scared, and I you're scared.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's the kind of tip of one. I
Speaker 1: want to have sex with me now, Guys.
Speaker 3: I'm not your screenshotting and zooming into their eyes. I
Speaker 3: need to see how close I show you in my phone.
Speaker 3: My friend's not crazy at all. No, totally normal. Nothing
Speaker 3: to see here, guys. I'm supposed to roll a joint.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's roll it.
Speaker 2: I brought my sash box.
Speaker 1: Is so fucking cute.
Speaker 3: It's the mom lunchbox. It's the four to twenty mom lunchbox.
Speaker 2: I was in my car.
Speaker 1: She saw mine.
Speaker 2: She's like, is that a lunch box.
Speaker 1: I was like, no, well, it's Mom's lunchbox.
Speaker 2: You open it and.
Speaker 1: All of my weed things, my weed and things, all
Speaker 1: weed and things, and then this little this discovery right.
Speaker 2: Here that the tray is the game changer.
Speaker 1: Now we have our our cannabis. Lill this out if
Speaker 1: you look at it. If you check out our holiday guide,
Speaker 1: our holiday wellness episode where basically we were treated at
Speaker 1: a beautiful house overlooking the eight one eight, then you'll
Speaker 1: know all about the sash box and how we use it.
Speaker 3: But I have so many things, and there's gummies, like,
Speaker 3: there's many joints or should we just do this?
Speaker 2: This is right?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 2: I already get moready here more to hear. You're here.
Speaker 1: She got the weeds, she got the joints, she got
Speaker 1: the gummies. I'm gonna roll us something.
Speaker 2: It's like a little weed treasure box. That's why I
Speaker 2: love it.
Speaker 3: And it's smell proof, so you could, like you don't
Speaker 3: have to worry about your loud stinking up the whole
Speaker 3: fucking vehicle. I always worry about that before I go,
Speaker 3: like pick up Luna from like like a play date.
Speaker 3: She's been having like play dates with friends that I are,
Speaker 3: not my friends that I made her have, and so
Speaker 3: it's been I'm like, oh my god, I smell like weed?
Speaker 2: Am I that? Mom? I'm that mom.
Speaker 1: Speaking of moms, I'm really excited we are. We haven't
Speaker 1: told you.
Speaker 2: Guys yet, but special announcement.
Speaker 1: This is this big, special announcement to all the moms
Speaker 1: listening right now, right here, all the moms that have
Speaker 1: been wanting to come to one of our retreats. But
Speaker 1: you know, I get it. Going out of the country
Speaker 1: can feel overwhelming, it can feel you know, all the
Speaker 1: things you're leaving your kid. It's an investment. And so
Speaker 1: me and Mila have been talking for a while about
Speaker 1: how we can bring the good vibe retreat state side.
Speaker 1: And guess what we are bringing stateside. We are having
Speaker 1: a Mother's Day retreat in Atlanta.
Speaker 2: Hey, it's gonna super intimate.
Speaker 3: It's going to be for the mamas, it's for creatives,
Speaker 3: it's for wellness, it's just, you know, it's really just
Speaker 3: I don't know, it's like everything I wish we had
Speaker 3: in brainstorming group.
Speaker 2: It's a Brainstorming weekend.
Speaker 1: So it's May tenth through the twelfth in Atlanta. So
Speaker 1: if you are an entrepreneur, if you're creative, if you
Speaker 1: just need a space to kind of just say your
Speaker 1: ideas out loud, because let's be honest, sometimes it can
Speaker 1: feel intimidating to share your ideas. Sometimes even your your
Speaker 1: closest friends don't get it.
Speaker 2: They aren't your supporters.
Speaker 1: If me and Mila listen to some of our friends
Speaker 1: about starting good Mom's bad Choices, we would not be
Speaker 1: here right now. So sometimes you actually need strangers to
Speaker 1: validate your crazy delusions. So at this retreat, we are
Speaker 1: going to be validating your crazy delusions. We're gonna have
Speaker 1: wellness sessions similar to what we do with the Goodbybe
Speaker 1: Retreat to be able to get a little taste of
Speaker 1: what we do in Costa Rica right here in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: And we leave you, guys, We send you off back
Speaker 1: to being good moms on Mother's Day, so you'll have
Speaker 1: breakfast in the morning with us on Mother's Day, and
Speaker 1: then we release you to your children as good moms.
Speaker 1: So if you're local to Atlanta, you'll still be able
Speaker 1: to spend the day with your kid and you'll be
Speaker 1: a but a bitch, a much better mother because of it.
Speaker 2: Come that good moms filleth your cup.
Speaker 1: And there's very limited space at this retreat. We don't
Speaker 1: have a lot of We don't have a lot of space.
Speaker 1: This is not like our typical retreats where we have
Speaker 1: like you know, twenty five rooms. If you want to
Speaker 1: stay on property with us at our beautiful mansion in Atlanta,
Speaker 1: those spaces are super limited. And then we'll also open
Speaker 1: it up to just people that kind of want to
Speaker 1: come in for day passes. But I really want to
Speaker 1: encourage you to come fully integrate into the experience and
Speaker 1: come stay with us at the house so that we
Speaker 1: can just keep the energy going and keep the energy flowing.
Speaker 2: And it's going to be.
Speaker 1: It's going to be.
Speaker 3: I really can't wait to just.
Speaker 2: Brainstorm and create with a bunch of strangers.
Speaker 1: I know. If you're writing a book, this is the
Speaker 1: place to come. You're sitting with published office, if you
Speaker 1: want to start a.
Speaker 2: Podcast site, if you want to start a podcast.
Speaker 3: Honestly, any idea, anything that you want to create that
Speaker 3: you are feeling stuck or in between, or maybe you've
Speaker 3: already created it and you're still just trying to evolve
Speaker 3: the idea and just run it past other people and
Speaker 3: just have creative input and be in an artistic space
Speaker 3: to get inspired. This is the place. You don't need
Speaker 3: no passport. It's a very limited space. It's very intimate space,
Speaker 3: and I don't know what better way to bring in
Speaker 3: your mother's day than investing.
Speaker 1: In yourself, spoiling yourself with ideas and also wellness because
Speaker 1: I'm going to get a massage. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you're going to get a message, but I will be
Speaker 1: getting massage.
Speaker 2: I sure will. Massages make me more creative and.
Speaker 1: I'm really excited too. I'm going to be doing a
Speaker 1: sound bath for you guys, so I've been tapping into
Speaker 1: my sound my sand healer bag.
Speaker 3: We're gonna have some yoga, some morning yoga sessions, maybe
Speaker 3: do some tantric workshops. There's gonna be a lot of
Speaker 3: dope people in the building, so you really don't want
Speaker 3: to miss this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're definitely going to lean on in on our
Speaker 1: Atlanta community and former guests to come.
Speaker 2: Through with some knowledge.
Speaker 1: So we haven't released who's actually going to be coming
Speaker 1: in and hosting a workshop, but that information will be
Speaker 1: coming soon. So make sure you hit the link in
Speaker 1: this episode description and reserve your spot now because these
Speaker 1: are going to sell out. I told you there's only
Speaker 1: a few, and it's more affordable than our Costa Rica retreat,
Speaker 1: so you definitely want to come feel the vibes, and
Speaker 1: then we'll see you in the jungle, because once you
Speaker 1: come and tap in Atlanta, you're gonna be like, all right,
Speaker 1: I got to see these bitches in another country. So
Speaker 1: I'm really excited for that experience. Really putting a lot
Speaker 1: of TLC into that. I kind of like, put too
Speaker 1: much weed in here, But I mean, I don't know
Speaker 1: if you can put too much.
Speaker 2: There's no such thing.
Speaker 1: I love my friend Jared. He rolls the most beautiful joints.
Speaker 1: I'm always trying to like he knows how to do
Speaker 1: a cone without being like without a cone.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, papers are not my forte. I'm not gonna lie
Speaker 3: every time I try. It looks good, it burns terribly.
Speaker 3: Should I read the taros?
Speaker 2: True? I think they're both upright. I think I picked
Speaker 2: him up like this. But we got the death card. Eh,
Speaker 2: that doesn't mean anything bad, no, but we rarely get
Speaker 2: the death card.
Speaker 3: It's the most feared and misunderstood of all the cards
Speaker 3: in the tarot deck. Just mention the card's name and
Speaker 3: most people freak out word. They will suddenly keel over
Speaker 3: and die as soon as his card Appeals appears. Relax
Speaker 3: the death card can be one of the most positive
Speaker 3: cards in the deck after a period of pause and
Speaker 3: reflection with the hanged man. The death card symbolizes the
Speaker 3: end of a major phase or aspect of your life
Speaker 3: that you realize is no longer serving you, putting up
Speaker 3: the possibility of something far more valuable and essential. You
Speaker 3: must close one door to open another. You need to
Speaker 3: put the pass behind you and part ways, ready to
Speaker 3: embrace new opportunities and possibilities. It may be difficult to
Speaker 3: let go of the past, but you will soon see
Speaker 3: its importance and the promise of renewal and transformation. If
Speaker 3: you resist these necessary endings, you may experience pain, both
Speaker 3: emotionally and physically. But if you exercise your imagination and
Speaker 3: visualize a new possibility, you allow more constructive patterns to emerge. Similarly,
Speaker 3: death shows a time of significant transformation, change and transition.
Speaker 3: You need to transform yourself and clear away the old
Speaker 3: to bring in the new. Any change you should be
Speaker 3: welcomed as a positive, cleansing, transformational force in your life.
Speaker 3: It's the death and clearing away of the death and
Speaker 3: clearing away of limiting factors can open the door to
Speaker 3: a broader, more satisfying experience of life. Hm hmm, Well,
Speaker 3: I think that speaks to us our activation.
Speaker 2: This next realm.
Speaker 3: Super powerful letting go old ship cocooning to butterfly coconing coconing.
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: You also pulled this one too. It is this tend
Speaker 2: of pentacles.
Speaker 1: I definitely feel the transformation. I think I see that
Speaker 1: so much in a lot in so many of the
Speaker 1: people in my life right now that this year has
Speaker 1: been one of like there's been a lot of push,
Speaker 1: like a lot of forcing the hand, you know, personally
Speaker 1: and privately. I think about even in our own business,
Speaker 1: like just us realizing like we've had to we've had
Speaker 1: to make some big changes this year, you know that
Speaker 1: were uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: Yeah, realizations.
Speaker 1: Fear around change because I think even like thinking about
Speaker 1: not putting out an episode every single week like we've
Speaker 1: done for so many years. Yeah, felt really scary. Has
Speaker 1: felt really scary, Like are we doing is just a
Speaker 1: disservice to our community?
Speaker 2: Like what are they gonna lose our people? Are they
Speaker 2: gonna leave us?
Speaker 1: Like, and it's like, no, we deserve to rest, we
Speaker 1: deserve to integrate the information, and they.
Speaker 2: Deserve to have the best of us of us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so that that I feel like is gonna
Speaker 1: be a big transformation for us next year. And even
Speaker 1: in our own friendship, there's been like there, this was
Speaker 1: probably like the hardest year of our friendship ever, you know,
Speaker 1: and like I had, like me, like us having to
Speaker 1: have uncomfortable conversations and actually us have to work on it, thankfully.
Speaker 2: Like I think that we're so.
Speaker 1: Attuned to one another that it could have been really deep,
Speaker 1: heavy work, and I think we're still in it, but
Speaker 1: like it's been a lot easier than I thought it
Speaker 1: was going to be. When I was thinking about the
Speaker 1: work that we needed to do on our friendship, it
Speaker 1: wasn't like I don't know what I thought, but like
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 2: As hammering away.
Speaker 1: I think maybe I related it to what I've had
Speaker 1: to do with men, which actually healing a friendship with
Speaker 1: a woman has been considerably a lot more enjoyable than.
Speaker 2: It has with a man.
Speaker 3: Well, I think about both parties have to be like
Speaker 3: willing and.
Speaker 2: Just aware in order to do that.
Speaker 3: And I think because I think it was so scary
Speaker 3: for us because we have so much on the line,
Speaker 3: and it's everything is so important to us, but it's
Speaker 3: also why it's really easy because everything is so important
Speaker 3: to us, and we've worked really hard, and we're all
Speaker 3: sensitive as fun sensitive fucking water sign ass bitches, and
Speaker 3: emotional and also deeply empathetic. We can read each other's
Speaker 3: minds and feel each other even if nobody really wanted to.
Speaker 3: It's just we're so connected, you know. And there's been
Speaker 3: so many changes in our business and our love lives.
Speaker 3: And I think what we don't realize is like even
Speaker 3: in love, we're pulling up different versions of ourselves in relationships,
Speaker 3: and that affects our friendship because when we're both fucking
Speaker 3: running the streets wild, that brings out a certain aspect
Speaker 3: we're in the same place. And then we get relationships,
Speaker 3: and then someone moves in, and then so you know,
Speaker 3: doing a long distance relationship, and like there's so many
Speaker 3: we're so connected that like all of those factors have
Speaker 3: made us show up different. And I mean, I know,
Speaker 3: even for me, like it's been challenging just because I
Speaker 3: haven't been in a very serious relationship like this and
Speaker 3: like a very long time, and it's it's tested me,
Speaker 3: you know, and so and then and you know, I know,
Speaker 3: vice versa, and so it's just and then we published
Speaker 3: a fucking book. We published a book, which.
Speaker 1: By the way, I get for a holiday season. It's
Speaker 1: a great gift to making bad choices. It's probably on
Speaker 1: discount on Amazon right now. You can probably get it
Speaker 1: right now if you just pause the episode and click it,
Speaker 1: and it'll probably be at your doorstep tomorrow.
Speaker 2: It's a good little winter read. It's a good anytime read.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's a good coffee. Look at how cute
Speaker 1: it looks right here, just right here. We're so cute
Speaker 1: on it. People are going to say, what's that and
Speaker 1: you be like, oh, you haven't heard of that.
Speaker 3: And we really did pour like blood, sweat and tears
Speaker 3: into it. And yeah, it just so happens that this
Speaker 3: came out of the most difficult year of our friendship,
Speaker 3: when we had to do a lot of difficult things,
Speaker 3: and I feel like that contributed to it. You know too,
Speaker 3: It's just a lot of pressure to perform and to
Speaker 3: make it good and you know, prove ourselves as all
Speaker 3: setters in the world. But ultimately we're so guided and
Speaker 3: protected and what we're doing is just like for the
Speaker 3: greater good. And I genuinely believe that you know, someone
Speaker 3: just left us a nasty comment before we started recording.
Speaker 1: Saying that they'll be happy when we go to hell.
Speaker 1: It will be two lesson what do they call it, women,
Speaker 1: nigga women in the world, And you know that guy's crazy.
Speaker 3: But you know this is all for the collective, you know,
Speaker 3: for our friendship, for our daughters, for just the women
Speaker 3: who just you know, I was watching a documentary with Orlando,
Speaker 3: and sometimes because I'm so empathetic, there's certain like documentaries
Speaker 3: about you know, the black American black experience that I
Speaker 3: I'd be like, I can't right now, you know, I know,
Speaker 3: but we just caught this documentary and it was just
Speaker 3: talking about, you know, some of the slaves, the Africans
Speaker 3: that came to America and just how terribly we were
Speaker 3: treated as mothers. This woman hid in an attic for
Speaker 3: seven years so she wouldn't get raped. Can hear her
Speaker 3: children downstairs? They didn't know she was there, literally, and
Speaker 3: the only reason she got out because the white woman
Speaker 3: ended up buying her freedom.
Speaker 2: But then she wrote about it, and that was you know,
Speaker 2: her children were down there.
Speaker 3: She was being raped by this the master in the house,
Speaker 3: and because she was oh, she was like, this is
Speaker 3: the worst shit ever. So those children were the master's
Speaker 3: children with her, No, I think they were just her children.
Speaker 3: That wasn't clear. But she hid in an attict because
Speaker 3: she didn't run away. She just hid in the attic
Speaker 3: with like right rats and mice. They would give her
Speaker 3: plates at night. She could hear the children downstairs, but
Speaker 3: she just never came out because she never wanted to
Speaker 3: go back to the big house. And then when she
Speaker 3: was done, after she got her freedom, years later, she
Speaker 3: wrote about it.
Speaker 2: Seven years is wild.
Speaker 3: But to keep from being raped, I mean, yeah, but
Speaker 3: it's just But it's just the fact that she created
Speaker 3: art around this experience, and the fact that you know,
Speaker 3: there was a time there were so many voices that
Speaker 3: had these experiences that weren't able to record them, didn't
Speaker 3: have the tools, could never tell their story. It is
Speaker 3: such a fucking we have with such a blessing to
Speaker 3: be able to show up in this space and just
Speaker 3: speak honestly. There is not a single soul who could
Speaker 3: tell me anything. I don't give a shit about anybody's
Speaker 3: opinion because I get to tell my story in my voice,
Speaker 3: in my words. I get to create art, whether I
Speaker 3: say it, whether I write it down. It is my
Speaker 3: It is just such a rebellious act. And when you
Speaker 3: think of our history, that is not that far along
Speaker 3: that long ago that black women were literally able to
Speaker 3: create art, record their art, record their experiences, record their
Speaker 3: honest you know, just have control of their bodies, own
Speaker 3: their sexuality. Like these are things that were like ripped
Speaker 3: away from us. So I just feel so blessed and
Speaker 3: thankful to just be able to do this with you.
Speaker 3: And I really do feel protected in what we do.
Speaker 3: And I feel like it's not just for us, and
Speaker 3: we're not you know, maybe we're not for everybody, but
Speaker 3: there's you know, it's for a bigger picture. And to
Speaker 3: get to use our voices and our love for one
Speaker 3: another and our love just in general. For women to
Speaker 3: say I'm going to say whatever I want and you're
Speaker 3: going to listen. Goddamn is such a beautiful gift and
Speaker 3: the blessing. And I just know we're going to continue
Speaker 3: to thrive because our ancestors got our back and they
Speaker 3: struggled deeply, and you know, now it's our time.
Speaker 2: I receive all of that. Thank you for that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we kind sometimes you need a reminder, you know, I mean.
Speaker 1: I don't take this privilege lightly of being able to
Speaker 1: also be like the friend in your head, like the
Speaker 1: friend in whoever's listening's head, who's like, I wasn't a
Speaker 1: good mom's bad choices because I fuck with Erica or
Speaker 1: I fuck with Jamila, or I fuck with both of them, or.
Speaker 2: Whatever the fuck whatever brought you here.
Speaker 1: Like, I don't take that lightly. I take that like
Speaker 1: that's a bit to have a platform as a black woman,
Speaker 1: a brown woman, be able to sit here every day
Speaker 1: and just share openly.
Speaker 3: And occupy people's time and energy and openly. Yeah, without well,
Speaker 3: there's always there's still persecution in ways. There is, but
Speaker 3: it's not that it's it's vastly different, you know, because
Speaker 3: black women are persecuted for sharing their voice all the time.
Speaker 3: I mean even we are all the time.
Speaker 1: There's we're penalized constantly, whether that's from a brand that
Speaker 1: doesn't want to fuck with us because we said something
Speaker 1: that doesn't it's too much, not kosher enough, you know
Speaker 1: that white women have said a thousand times. You know,
Speaker 1: like there's still a there's still a shackling that happens
Speaker 1: even in this space, but we are vastly more, uh
Speaker 1: just We've been just given this opportunity and like what
Speaker 1: they always say, like you're living your ancestors' wildest dreams
Speaker 1: like we are, and even listening, we're whoever's listening to
Speaker 1: this right now, so are you. And it's like you
Speaker 1: have this, we have this duty. I feel like to
Speaker 1: keep that moving forward. I was talking to my friend
Speaker 1: the other day about just like how important how seriously
Speaker 1: I take my karma and like my karmic like the cleanliness,
Speaker 1: and like how I feel like I've been very blessed
Speaker 1: in this in this lifetime and protected in this lifetime
Speaker 1: because whoever was before me did that, Like I feel
Speaker 1: that like they took it seriously as well, like this
Speaker 1: responsibility to do the right thing and be a good
Speaker 1: person in this life for the next person.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think if more people thought that way, we
Speaker 1: would be probably.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And I think that different decisions, And I think
Speaker 2: that's why we evolve.
Speaker 3: It's because I think our commitment has always been just
Speaker 3: the commitment has always been like to liberate, you know,
Speaker 3: like I want you to think for yourself. I want
Speaker 3: you to step out of this box. This can you
Speaker 3: know this this rigid box of society and just like
Speaker 3: live I want you to experience, you know, bliss and
Speaker 3: peace and pleasure at the highest fucking potential. You know,
Speaker 3: And so many people are just you know, we are
Speaker 3: so enslaved by the systems that we create in our minds.
Speaker 3: How we show up in the world is so so policed,
Speaker 3: and it's like, I just I want to invite everyone
Speaker 3: all the time to just be like what's real and
Speaker 3: honest to you though, you know, yeah, that like it
Speaker 3: is such a blessing to be able to to do
Speaker 3: that and also.
Speaker 2: Remind people like life.
Speaker 3: Is short and love it's just love, Like, let's not
Speaker 3: judge each other. Let's not waste time talking shit on
Speaker 3: the internet and typing out whatever evil shit you wanted
Speaker 3: to type out, Like, let's just live in our own
Speaker 3: lanes at our highest radiance, being exactly who the fuck
Speaker 3: we're supposed to be.
Speaker 1: I believe that you need those people though too, a
Speaker 1: little bit.
Speaker 2: But people talk shit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you need them a little bit. You need because
Speaker 1: if everything was love, you wouldn't even know what it
Speaker 1: meant felt like anymore.
Speaker 2: You have to have the duality of it.
Speaker 1: And like, those people matter too, that it's not they
Speaker 1: they are love as well.
Speaker 2: They just are hurt. Yeah, you know, they haven't found
Speaker 2: ways to transmute it yet.
Speaker 1: They remind me of that I am love.
Speaker 2: Right right, that you've purified certain things.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the karmak thing is very we must have done
Speaker 3: really well or our last lifetime because yeah, this this
Speaker 3: karmas karma game really pretty well.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm trying to karmack the fuck out of my life. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 2: the comic life is so hard, but I feel that
Speaker 2: I'm like.
Speaker 1: Be so comically clean.
Speaker 2: Bitch. The other day, I was just like, I don't
Speaker 2: know what.
Speaker 3: I was stressed out, like getting to you, and I
Speaker 3: was like, bitch, you woke up at ten you like
Speaker 3: you woke up at nine am, and like you smoked
Speaker 3: a joint. Now you're leisurely making your way through the
Speaker 3: valley at ten am to fucking shoot by a pool.
Speaker 2: Like shut up.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I've been working for twelve hours and it
Speaker 3: is hard work, but I just I'd rather be working
Speaker 3: with my best friend. I'd rather be working like spreading
Speaker 3: the good word of self expression, creating, creating, Yeah, creating.
Speaker 1: I want to do it this way? Actually, can you
Speaker 1: do it this way? Let's do it that way.
Speaker 2: Actually listen to me, do it this.
Speaker 3: Way, you know, like and it did. It came out beautifully.
Speaker 3: That fucking holiday gift guide is beautiful. Go check out
Speaker 3: our holiday gift guide.
Speaker 2: We're podcasting in the wild.
Speaker 1: We're switching up our format. It's totally different. We're out
Speaker 1: of studio. We're getting the fuck out of the studio
Speaker 1: every now and then because we're good moms and because
Speaker 1: we're wild women, wild women, and we must be in
Speaker 1: the wild. That's where we really belong. You guys haven't
Speaker 1: even really tapped into like really our truest nature. You've
Speaker 1: just heard about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you just kind of heard about it.
Speaker 1: Now you can kind of come in and actually experience
Speaker 1: it with us, like when we are be part of
Speaker 1: the story that we're telling because you were there right right. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: Podcasting in the Wild twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2: Can't wait to see you there.
Speaker 3: Well, got to go pick up our kids from school,
Speaker 3: so yeah, got to go do that. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: I hope everyone has a beautiful holiday. I know this
Speaker 3: time can be you know, sometimes cold and just weird
Speaker 3: for people, But just remember all this shit is fake.
Speaker 3: It's all made up, So that can inflate prices. You know,
Speaker 3: just be warm and cuddling and find some love. Don't
Speaker 3: don't let all the bullshit on TV get to you.
Speaker 2: So specific. Don't let Chris Brown's Christmas holiday special. Don't
Speaker 2: let that.
Speaker 1: Instagram girl use follows of holiday photos fuck you up.
Speaker 1: I felt and follow everyone that triggers you during the holidays.
Speaker 2: I feel like, am I bad?
Speaker 3: I always like we have some friends that always send
Speaker 3: it like a holiday card, and like I just all
Speaker 3: nine years of parenting, I've never I've never got a
Speaker 3: holiday card together. I could barely extend fucking happy Birthday text.
Speaker 1: No, it's just not your style.
Speaker 3: Do we need to get a holiday card with the kids,
Speaker 3: like as lesbian life, Well, we've had, We've had, We've
Speaker 3: had holiday posts.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing, right, we did we had a
Speaker 1: holiday We've had like two holiday posts. We have Nisha
Speaker 1: that shout out to Nische for always making sure that
Speaker 1: the friends tribe it gets a holiday photo. So you
Speaker 1: have not in the you know, traditional hard copy way.
Speaker 1: You know, Okay, that's that's the thing of the past.
Speaker 1: I did that my first two years of parenting, and
Speaker 1: then third year I was like, who's paying for this.
Speaker 2: How is this gonna invest for this?
Speaker 1: And you guys are not even maybe twenty percent of
Speaker 1: your putting this on your fridge. The rest are throwing
Speaker 1: the shit away. Why am I doing this Instagram post?
Speaker 1: You're right, yeah, and that's what you just when you
Speaker 1: post it on Instagram and say this is my official
Speaker 1: fan of Car announcement.
Speaker 3: We're gonna do it right here, all right, it's perfect, beautiful.
Speaker 3: We don't put any Christmas jargon of this year.
Speaker 1: We should have put a tree.
Speaker 2: God, are we moms or not? We're delayed.
Speaker 1: I don't have a tree in my house though right now. Wow,
Speaker 1: I don't popped it up real quick. Last night.
Speaker 2: It took about twenty minutes. I was like, Wow, that's it, okay, perfect.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 3: I need to figure this out as I tell people
Speaker 3: not to participate in the holiday bullshit.
Speaker 2: I need to get a tree.
Speaker 1: I just I do like that. I got a fake tree,
Speaker 1: so it's fine. I don't feel like I'm doing anything
Speaker 1: to the environment. I've realized I've had this tree for
Speaker 1: nine years.
Speaker 3: Wow, and it's still good. So it's not good for
Speaker 3: the environment, right if I get a real one.
Speaker 2: No mine.
Speaker 1: Look, listen, I've done really well. I've I haven't cut
Speaker 1: down a tree in nine years because well that's not true.
Speaker 1: My mom did give me a tree one time, but
Speaker 1: that I didn't buy it, so it wasn't me. They
Speaker 1: were gonna steal it. It wasn't me at night like
Speaker 1: just break in and Christmas tree.
Speaker 2: Like at the thing. Yeah, I wond how many people
Speaker 2: do that. I mean, I feel like that, like I
Speaker 2: feel you could easily steal it. I mean, you gotta
Speaker 2: tie it up.
Speaker 1: Maybe not, don't en courage you able to go start
Speaker 1: stealing Christmas trees. Bitch, you gotta you gotta switch the tags.
Speaker 1: You got to take the tag from a little tree
Speaker 1: and put it on a big tree and be like.
Speaker 2: They're gonna know.
Speaker 3: I gotta honor it because I already brought it to
Speaker 3: the front. Girl gave me this tree for one fifty.
Speaker 3: I know it says three hundred.
Speaker 2: These trees are expensive. They're so expensive. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1: That's why I bought a tree, because it's an investment.
Speaker 1: It's a long term. This is a pagan holiday, It's true.
Speaker 1: But I do like the tree, the trees, but my
Speaker 1: house during that time not gonna lie. It has to
Speaker 1: be some kind of better search tree. Oh yeah, it
Speaker 1: is a mushroom tree. I'm having a mush a shrims.
Speaker 1: Miss yeah, Oh my god, when I haven't picked the
Speaker 1: date yet. Okay, it's gonna we have to do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so shrims.
Speaker 1: We have to bite leaf or we have two.
Speaker 2: We have one at my new house too.
Speaker 1: I need to have one on the deck. And we
Speaker 1: need to have a groovy outdoor part two of the
Speaker 1: other outdoor party we had that was the.
Speaker 3: Best fucking Christmas mushroom fucking random, fucking day of our lives.
Speaker 2: It was so fucking good.
Speaker 1: I just I'm just trying to.
Speaker 2: Like relive it. I know, I know, I'm chasing it.
Speaker 2: I'm chasing this like leaf. We have to do this again,
Speaker 2: father father, father Leaf. Remember remember shoes, bitch, take your
Speaker 2: shoes off. Relax, Remember slut over kangles no floodover sloodover.
Speaker 3: Well, we're just saying a bunch of random things and
Speaker 3: no one knows what we're talking about.
Speaker 2: Then, you know, Yeah, that's a long time ago. All right, y'all.
Speaker 1: Well, happy holidays. We love you, we do. I hope
Speaker 1: you rest, I hope you breathe and mm hmmmm you
Speaker 1: next week.
Speaker 2: Bye, m
Speaker 3: H m hmm.