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Speaker 1: to oh, well you lock it this way with the

427
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,040
Speaker 1: key list this way. I am teaching her routine to

428
00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:00,919
Speaker 1: lock it manually on all locks. Are y'all following me?

429
00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:06,120
Speaker 1: I teach the concept of on all locks, then, no

430
00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 1: matter what lock she's standing in front of, she knows

431
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 1: she needs to lock it manually. When you are training

432
00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:16,680
Speaker 1: adults who have already been trained to do something one way,

433
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:20,880
Speaker 1: comener adults already they they big age, are very hard

434
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:26,040
Speaker 1: to train because r mindset is i'n't already been I

435
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,919
Speaker 1: don't already did this for forty years, that's right, I

436
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:31,119
Speaker 1: just coming from the K through twelve. This is their

437
00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 1: first time learning. So you're eventually learning with you every

438
00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 1: day is different. It is so their learning experience is

439
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:41,479
Speaker 1: different than me trying to get Marcel's to look at

440
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:45,400
Speaker 1: something different at this age. So as a trainer, now

441
00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 1: I gotta get you to know the why and the

442
00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 1: concept like we did with the meetings. You know why,

443
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,200
Speaker 1: but I got to drill it in every chance I get,

444
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:59,400
Speaker 1: so that now we can change our big age routine

445
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:03,359
Speaker 1: to now be open to the concept because if I

446
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:08,239
Speaker 1: get your concept, it will apply everywhere. And that's what

447
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:10,840
Speaker 1: the law is, guys, because the law may be one

448
00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:13,639
Speaker 1: thing in Florida and something totally different in Georgia. But

449
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:17,200
Speaker 1: if you don't understand the concept of battery, the concept

450
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:21,120
Speaker 1: of assault, the concept, then you don't do well as

451
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:23,439
Speaker 1: a lawyer. And that's what they call lawyering skills. A

452
00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 1: lot of people do really, really well. They know the laws,

453
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:27,520
Speaker 1: they did say that, but then when it comes down

454
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 1: the trial, they can't apply the concept. Well you know

455
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:32,159
Speaker 1: what I mean. They don't know how to plot. You

456
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,639
Speaker 1: can't you all over the place because you're not grasping

457
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 1: the concept. And that's why you hear me do a

458
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: lot of metaphors and analogies and what I say, let's

459
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,119
Speaker 1: make it a simpler metaphor because they lets you know,

460
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:45,120
Speaker 1: I got you to grasp the concept. Once you get

461
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 1: the concept, and usually people do when everybody use relationships,

462
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 1: yeah huh, I get it. And that's what I want

463
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 1: teaching adults, because we have enough concepts in life. You're

464
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 1: enough season that I can use enough, you know, to

465
00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,119
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, he didn't understand it that way, let

466
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:01,800
Speaker 1: me try it this way. Okay, you din't understand it

467
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 1: this way, let me try that way. You see what

468
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 1: I'm saying. If I tell him saying do not cheat,

469
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 1: well he should already know not to cheat. Our bow

470
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 1: said to me. Yea, no, I know, but I need

471
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 1: to say it every year. I gotta say it every

472
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 1: year because if I walk out, we want to make sure,

473
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 1: well I thought you did. I forgot. Don't know you

474
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:21,399
Speaker 1: didn't forget because I told you last year. I know

475
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 1: everybody said it that one, So this ain't nobody doing

476
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: that in no relationship? Well I told you in the beginning. No, no, no,

477
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,919
Speaker 1: we got to keep on re upping this continued education

478
00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 1: every year. Well, if I gotta keep doing gen education,

479
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:33,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to be in no relationship I guess

480
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 1: she ain't gonna be one because it's constantly continuing that

481
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,199
Speaker 1: do all the same phase and expectations of the relationship.

482
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 1: And that's the same thing with those means, well, why

483
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 1: I've been married twice seven years, he should already know

484
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:46,760
Speaker 1: to give flowers or automatically. No. No, we want to

485
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:49,159
Speaker 1: make sure everybody on the same page, so that if

486
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,360
Speaker 1: I got an attitude, you know why, if I want

487
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:55,119
Speaker 1: to relationship, you know why if I ain't happy, we

488
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 1: don't have to be confused because you haven't done the

489
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 1: things according to the continued education. I know you said

490
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 1: it twenty seven years ago, but we must have to

491
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 1: so that we clear about why I got an attitude right, well,

492
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:10,320
Speaker 1: the concept, that concept applies across the board. That's why

493
00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 1: I love concepts because adults, Yes, we can choose from

494
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:18,880
Speaker 1: so thank you man, yes, but that it's I think

495
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 1: I'm gone through all of my my points, my seven points.

496
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 1: Of course there probably will be more, but to me

497
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 1: those but we did. We unpacked a lot of uh

498
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:34,440
Speaker 1: of information for first year teachers. And that's another thing.

499
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 1: They get so overwhelmed, Lord, because I know I get

500
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: overwhelm every year. I'm like Okay, that's when I have

501
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 1: to stop. I have to write things down. Oh I'm

502
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 1: gonna writing things down. Oh yeah, you have to write

503
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 1: them down. People really do take offense to writing stuff down.

504
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 1: You know. That's another thing with adults. I don't need

505
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 1: to write it down. I don't need to write down,

506
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 1: especially if they're struggling internally, like with ADHD or some

507
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 1: trauma that made them feel stupid for writing stuff down. Yeah,

508
00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 1: that's the biggest tip I can say for anybody period.

509
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 1: I write down everything. Yeah, I mean when I mean right,

510
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 1: you know, put it on my calendar, like everything, every task.

511
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:10,639
Speaker 1: Ye take up the trash call this call that. I

512
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:13,919
Speaker 1: have a task on my calendar for everything your task

513
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:17,439
Speaker 1: should have. If you look at my count, I got

514
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 1: about six sevent different colors, you know. I got a

515
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 1: household calendar. What's going on with Jada? I got a business,

516
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 1: I got this, I got that. I write down everything, guys,

517
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: and as I've been studying, even in our pre law

518
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:32,760
Speaker 1: school course, even back, I'm back to old school writing too. Like,

519
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 1: don't take that for granted. Like old school writing. That's

520
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 1: the only way I write on a list. Oh you doing?

521
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,719
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, I write it down. I use your

522
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 1: memory too, that is, you know, you're absolutely right. I

523
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:48,639
Speaker 1: use my phone because my business is heavy digital, you know,

524
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,200
Speaker 1: so I have to. I'm on my phone all day,

525
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,680
Speaker 1: you know. So for me, my phone is an extension

526
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:58,399
Speaker 1: of me as far as my scheduley. It's interesting because

527
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 1: during the day, you know, I don't am my phone

528
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 1: at all, correct, because I'm with all those kids, So

529
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 1: I have to grab a piece of paper and write. Ye. Put.

530
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 1: That's a great point. So again, knowing your task and

531
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: what works for you. Another political just another political tip

532
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 1: for those of you that may work on candidates at all.

533
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 1: That was one of the things I had to work

534
00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:19,919
Speaker 1: with Michelle. If she has a candidate, she has a candidate,

535
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 1: a candidate she worked with before that insists on things

536
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,679
Speaker 1: being right down, but she has to use digital. And

537
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: I tell her when I'm setting up expectation with a client,

538
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 1: I insist on you doing it the way I'm doing it.

539
00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 1: You have to your job. You have to because my

540
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 1: job is keep you on point. So me trying to

541
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 1: adjust to you and I'm my job the point that

542
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:41,440
Speaker 1: don't make no sense, So we're gonna have to come

543
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,640
Speaker 1: in if I'm writing it you're gonna be using digital

544
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:45,920
Speaker 1: if I'm if I'm using digital, you're gonna be writing

545
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: it like we're gonna have to figure it out because

546
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 1: if I'm adjusting to you, I can't be successful for you.

547
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: And how I think how I learned and how I right? Right,

548
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:56,679
Speaker 1: and yet it is critical. But I will literally put

549
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 1: that in my contract. She's like, I never thought about that.

550
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 1: Oh yes, if you aren't refuse to check email, I

551
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,439
Speaker 1: will not work with you. I don't care what you charge, right,

552
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 1: because when you were saying check your email every day,

553
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:10,199
Speaker 1: and my word, like, who got to tell you to check? Like?

554
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: Do it right? Then? You know? So if you if

555
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:16,160
Speaker 1: you were to no, no, no, I no, I'm not surprised.

556
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 1: I'm very well aware. Except putting my contract. I was saying,

557
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 1: who says that? Who has to say that? Oh no,

558
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 1: I'm sorry there was a time you didn't check. You

559
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 1: didn't like emails. I don't know football, but I know

560
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: they got a check right. But no, Oh, who's surprised.

561
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm not working without people. I'm never surprised.

562
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 1: That's why I have to put it in the car.

563
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 1: If you are somebody that refuses to use technology, if

564
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:46,959
Speaker 1: you refuse use technology, we cannot work together. It's almost

565
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 1: to a point, and it might even be to a

566
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: point where, like Marcella's, I got to get him my

567
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: iPhone at some point, because it's not just about wanting

568
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: an iPhone or liking our phone. It's about because we're

569
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 1: I moved so fast and Dad is moving so fast.

570
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 1: I literally have to take time to send him a

571
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 1: link to his email. If he had an iPhone, I

572
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: could copy and paste it from my computer to my phone,

573
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 1: to vice versa. So when I'm sending him a link

574
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 1: to my show, I can't just send it to him

575
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: in his iPhone a text. I have to literally take

576
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 1: time and send it in an email. If he had

577
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 1: an iPhone to send him in his text and he

578
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 1: could cop and and open it up on his laptop.

579
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 1: Now to me, that may be well, what's the big deal. Well,

580
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 1: if we're doing fifty things at one time, and Marcello's

581
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 1: is helping me with my training, with this, with that, yeah,

582
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 1: you just see matters. So it's not just like an

583
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 1: iPhone is Now do we operate? If I want to

584
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 1: send Marcello's a big file, I can't send it to

585
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: him because he has an Android. No, I have an iPhone.

586
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 1: You got a eyeball. You don't have Why I used

587
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: to stand it what I said, an android? Oh my god,

588
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god. But she's my leisure friend. She wasn't

589
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 1: in business, so it didn't matter. You know whatever I'm

590
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 1: sending her. I guess it can wait. I guess it.

591
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 1: Didn't have no choice. But if we were in business,

592
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 1: Oh hell no, I'm not getting ready to have to

593
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 1: dumb no foul down. And I gotta send it in

594
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: a link, and I gotta upload it the YouTube so

595
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 1: she can open it up on the phone. Exchanged information

596
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 1: too much to appase for that, You know what I mean?

597
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 1: It would be hard. It will be literally impossible. Charlemagne

598
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 1: and I text one hundred and fifty times a day.

599
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 1: If he had an Android, it would, I mean literally

600
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 1: be impossible because of the data that we send. Wow,

601
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So it's not just oh no,

602
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 1: I like an iPhone because it's better. No, it's efficiency

603
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 1: for my problem. You got to iPhone myself, you don't have. Basically,

604
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 1: she got an upgrading. That was yeah no, she said,

605
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 1: yeah no. Because as we grow more in this business,

606
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 1: as I'm making it clear, I'm not. I'm not hiring

607
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 1: a bunch of fifty people to work with me. So

608
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 1: I need you to be as efficient as possible, you

609
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I need you to be able

610
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 1: to as soon as a budget is available. Yeah, we

611
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 1: need you on Mac because it does make a difference,

612
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 1: you know, with how I'm sending you information. That copy

613
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 1: and paste feature is amazing. Like for real, Like if

614
00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 1: I see a story on my phone that I need

615
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: to put on my Google doc on my laptop, and

616
00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 1: I see that story, all I gotta do is copy.

617
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 1: I go straight to my laptop paste all day. I

618
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 1: got my laptop in my hand and my phone in

619
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 1: my hand, you know what I mean. So I need

620
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 1: those things to be talking to each other. And that's

621
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: why a lot of people. By the way, so that

622
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: y'all know, if your man refused to get Max and

623
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 1: iPhones and all that, that's why they don't like Max

624
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 1: and iPhones because they talk. Well, I got an iPhone too, finally,

625
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 1: so hey, no, I'm excited about it because I can't

626
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 1: stand it. And then me and I actually was in

627
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:57,840
Speaker 1: business and I was depending on her to check reels

628
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 1: on Instagram. We can have z because I sent up

629
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 1: a million reels that used to drive you crazy. It

630
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: is crazy because she scrolled all the time. So I

631
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 1: even had to ask so and it's a good tip

632
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 1: of that. I'll let you go. I say, fo where

633
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 1: what do you check first? Even with Michelle? What is

634
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: your first? Your messages first? Or your Instagram first? Because

635
00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: when Michelle, we had to get an understanding because we

636
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:26,440
Speaker 1: were doing business together. Now I should it's leisure. You know,

637
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 1: I'm sending her dumb stuff so she can check it

638
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 1: whatever time, you know, no big jail. But with Michelle, no,

639
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: we'd had to tell me what's your your preference? Are

640
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: you text or so we literally had to set it up. Okay,

641
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 1: if I'm sending you something that's bullshit that I don't

642
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: need your attention, I'll send it to your DM because

643
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: that's just if I. If I need your attention on something, Michelle,

644
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 1: I'm texting you meaning I need a response it's urgent.

645
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 1: But Shelle's way of responding was her important things were email.

646
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: She was like, I work off. If it's something you

647
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: need a response on, send me an email. Okay, Beck,

648
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:00,200
Speaker 1: So now I know because I can do either one.

649
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:03,320
Speaker 1: I can do either one. It wasn't always urgent per

650
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 1: se for me, because again, remember me and shall we're

651
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 1: just working fast. It's not an urgency thing. It's an

652
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: efficient thing. Yeah. Where in your world with texting with

653
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 1: your family, you're like, oh, okay, if he's texting me,

654
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,600
Speaker 1: it's important. But when you live in a text world

655
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 1: with business colleagues, it may not be urgent. It's prioritizing,

656
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: if that makes sense, right. So if I send an email,

657
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: Michelle was like, okay, the things you need me to

658
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,160
Speaker 1: respond on, I need an email. She has ADHD and

659
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:35,239
Speaker 1: so she's like, I need an email because I need

660
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: to be able to set it to the side. Okay,

661
00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 1: let me do this, let me do this task, this, this.

662
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 1: That's how she worked effectively me. I can work all

663
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 1: over the place. I can answer emails and text men's

664
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 1: at the same time, and reels and this and that

665
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: and and don't prove my focus on because I'm gonna

666
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 1: do I'm gonna do it right there to move it

667
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 1: out the way right. That need a little bit more structure.

668
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: Email worked better, I said, Okay, that's all I need

669
00:33:58,120 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 1: is to know, so now I can know how to

670
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 1: communicate with you. I need an answer from Michelle on this,

671
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna send an email if I'm sending you something random,

672
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 1: don't feel the need the pressure to respond back. If

673
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:09,120
Speaker 1: I send it to your real that's just something being fun.

674
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 1: So communication style is critically important, really important. Did they

675
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 1: do one in the military?

676
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 2: You had the multiitask like say stuff and texts and

677
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 2: email at the same time.

678
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 1: Well, when I was in, that's gonna date myself. You

679
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 1: weren't getting information that way. But I can just tell

680
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:34,319
Speaker 1: you the code of conduct for the military is you're

681
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 1: gonna get it in and get it done by days in.

682
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:37,759
Speaker 1: And it don't matter how it's gonna come to you.

683
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:42,840
Speaker 1: That that's gonna be at Nobody perfect communication style, just

684
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 1: waiting to you to do it. You're gonna get it

685
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:49,439
Speaker 1: done right then that's that's the military whole period. Yeah,

686
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:51,839
Speaker 1: don't nobody care about it. If you can't multitask, don't

687
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 1: nobody care about That's why I'm focused on veterans. Don't

688
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 1: nobody care about will work best for you and what

689
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: you think? Well, you know, I like to do with this.

690
00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:03,799
Speaker 1: See that's the union talk that you that was going

691
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:14,319
Speaker 1: up through twin collaborate. What's learning style the military don't

692
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 1: work like that. The military is days in bottom most

693
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:21,879
Speaker 1: and that's it. And that's why I don't. That's why

694
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 1: I don't conform a lot in the civilian work, not

695
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:27,359
Speaker 1: only because I don't conform likes of anywhere. Just so

696
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: that you know, my mother was like that and she

697
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 1: was not a military person. So my so our first parents,

698
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 1: and they were like that, most of them. We got

699
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 1: some trash and our day let's say our parents. Let's

700
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 1: just say, oh, okay, well, our parents. We got to

701
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 1: be clear about it because they know most because that

702
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 1: show didn't I sting correcting, because my mama didn't care

703
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 1: how I got it. There, that's all that me and you.

704
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: That's your mama and my mama, which by the way,

705
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 1: Ash's mom was my grand my godmother. That was how

706
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:58,160
Speaker 1: we was raised. You put it on no era and

707
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 1: no generation. That is plenty of y'all clearly didn't get it.

708
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: And you know how we know because y'all kids ain't

709
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: got it, and y'all kids kids ain't got it, y'all,

710
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 1: So that that was definitely just a very small even

711
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 1: even the people we grew up with, respectfully, clearly they

712
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:19,839
Speaker 1: wasn't on the same page. We was all so no, right,

713
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 1: that was exclusive exclusive types. She's like, well, I'm getting

714
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:28,359
Speaker 1: to see. Well, technically, in my day, you just had

715
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 1: to do it, you know, all of a sudden it

716
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 1: was no question asked, right, Yeah, this is working with you,

717
00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:36,319
Speaker 1: this collaborative, what worked best and what time you think

718
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 1: you can get to it? And you know I'm empowering

719
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 1: you to this and that you was on the phone

720
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 1: when I did it the other day. I want you

721
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 1: respectful of you and your time and your personal space.

722
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 1: Girl won't know nothing about none of that when I

723
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 1: grew up here, and I'm glad you're getting all it

724
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 1: I didn't get because when I grew up it wasn't

725
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: no personal space and personal boundaries and no, the show

726
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:03,439
Speaker 1: wasn't none of that. This show wasn't no. Yeah, wasn't

727
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:11,879
Speaker 1: no unions except my said, hey, they didn't get no notice. Yeah,

728
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 1: you better have these dishes washed for get it in

729
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 1: this hound, and they better be They don't let no

730
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 1: pants soak either soaking, run, washed and dry or put away.

731
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 1: I bet no, I'm soap, no soaking. I'm trying to

732
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 1: let it sow. No, look, scrubs. I know this wouldn't

733
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 1: get it. I bet Marcella's used that soaking line plenty

734
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: of times off the truckle.

735
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 2: No, because we had we used the the dish wash.

736
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 1: Don't you dare say this was Are you getting ready

737
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:59,239
Speaker 1: to say dish washing? That's another thing. He got the

738
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 1: job though. We Yeah, nice one to wed When that

739
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:06,719
Speaker 1: missed didn't work. The dish washers, I was dead. They

740
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:10,800
Speaker 1: were washed the dishes, bottom line and bottom, having it

741
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 1: down and all of that too. Marcella's it's not just

742
00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: put loading up the dish washing and wiping up. Anna

743
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 1: sweep that floor. Listen them counters that be wiped down,

744
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:26,320
Speaker 1: all of that and on that stove.

745
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 2: I did that too, because of course I was the oldest,

746
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 2: so I had to do all the chores. And you know,

747
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 2: you know, I had to ask if I have no

748
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 2: choice when I got to do all the guess what?

749
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 2: My guess what? We're the only child, so guess what.

750
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 1: Don't body feel somethy only we did it all? We

751
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:52,359
Speaker 1: were hulling eachaill, y'all love, I was your love. I

752
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: was the oldest. Guess what you had to do it all?

753
00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:58,880
Speaker 1: I was the oldest and the youngest in the middle

754
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 1: it was, and let's in that myth right now, did

755
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:05,840
Speaker 1: y'all love saying now that y'all got away? No, not

756
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 1: in this house, we didn't. These only children on this

757
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 1: line right here had to push them. Oh for everybody

758
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:16,319
Speaker 1: pull long and in the middle wasn't no damn date.

759
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:20,880
Speaker 1: So when I'm old wild not to do it all,

760
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,279
Speaker 1: guess one, I said, I hadn't it all because it

761
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 1: wasn't no when it split, nothing nothing but the abody

762
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 1: feels sorry for you, dad, And I even got in

763
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: trouble for children that wasn't even in my own She

764
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:35,319
Speaker 1: showed me when novel didn't watch, I should we even

765
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 1: had what if we if we spent the night, we

766
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 1: y'all had a lot I should get in trouble for

767
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 1: even then they had not to do with us. She

768
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:43,799
Speaker 1: didn't even go Therebody didn't even. It wasn't even me.

769
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 1: Wasn't even I got in trouble because she said, the

770
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:48,839
Speaker 1: bottom line of it, you knew better and you should

771
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:54,479
Speaker 1: have kept read lot o. God, it feels sorry. Steve.

772
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 1: Marcella's all in there and do them dishes and it

773
00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:58,919
Speaker 1: better not be near soaking. And after that you better

774
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:05,040
Speaker 1: watch coke purple. That's it. Thought he said something. You

775
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:09,840
Speaker 1: don't really thought he said something. Question, I still you

776
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 1: know me? No, No, I don't understand why why my

777
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 1: brothers don't have no chores. Well guess what you ain't

778
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 1: got We're gonna be equal around here. Well, well, I'm

779
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 1: telling you you would have never made it to my

780
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 1: house because it wasn't no equal. No, I said it.

781
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,920
Speaker 1: I mean I you know, I had a bloody lip

782
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 1: after that, but I still said it. Though. No, that's

783
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 1: just it. I'm just letting you know, nobody feel sorry

784
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 1: for you. This is just a matter because all the

785
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 1: responsibility fail on me. You know, all of them felt

786
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 1: that there was nobody to push it on, to ask

787
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:49,919
Speaker 1: why not? And what about wasn't no, was he broke

788
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:52,399
Speaker 1: the lamp? It really wasn't me. If the lamp was broke,

789
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 1: it was me. Yeah, And and that and that's why

790
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: I operate the way I operate right now. That's why

791
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 1: I can operate solo. That's why I can operate without

792
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: saying what about them? That's why I can move forward

793
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 1: with this training without worrying about that party doing what

794
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 1: the Republican part are doing, what they doing, what they

795
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,319
Speaker 1: did what they did. That's why I can operate the

796
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 1: way I operate. That's why even they don't need I

797
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 1: know what to do. I don't know about them, but

798
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:20,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. She tried her own responsibility. And that comes.

799
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: That comes when you on the child raised. Right now,

800
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about all the children that get away

801
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 1: with stuff, but when you was raised, when we was raised,

802
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:29,319
Speaker 1: you gonna stand on it, and you're gonna stand one

803
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: thing about it. My character gonna stand. I'm responsible for that, right, Nobody,

804
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 1: Nobody changes how I move, not a mass. When he

805
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:40,520
Speaker 1: did it. I didn't have that when they did it.

806
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 1: How come I can't do it? I all know it's

807
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 1: what I told you to do this? What did I

808
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 1: tell you to do that? My child? Y'all? Man, that's

809
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 1: the favorite one. You my child, don't care what they did?

810
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: You mind, I don't care what they did. And again,

811
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: and I'll say this before we close. Concept. When you

812
00:41:57,520 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 1: understand that concept, if we even use that, it applies

813
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 1: to every single thing in my life. Obombing a relationship

814
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 1: and a man is cheating and acting a fool. Now,

815
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:10,480
Speaker 1: plenty of people do tip or tatty. He doing it.

816
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 1: I'm doing it. Oh, it's a problem when they do it.

817
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:14,320
Speaker 1: What's that song? Is cool? When they do it's probably

818
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:16,560
Speaker 1: when I do it and all that. And when it

819
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 1: comes to my character, you can't make me get out

820
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 1: of me because my character is my character and I

821
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:24,239
Speaker 1: ain't got no problem. Hey, for those of y'all who

822
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 1: do timple tat, I'm with it, do it sometime they

823
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 1: need to see it. But I'm talking about me though.

824
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 1: I don't operate based on what you do. The concept

825
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,800
Speaker 1: of knowing that I the buck stops with me. That's it,

826
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 1: buck stops with me. I'm responding everything I do, and

827
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:41,399
Speaker 1: they got nothing to do. Was sitting around where about

828
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 1: what everybody else didn't do. That's it. That's the difference,

829
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 1: and that's why I operate the way I operate. The

830
00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 1: concept I applied across the board. That'sten. So we had

831
00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 1: one final tip is you better understand concepts. We don't

832
00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 1: have to unpack some more. That's good. Yeah, that's good.

833
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,800
Speaker 1: Concepts are deep and that's why you can have because

834
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 1: it goes into your character. You and I can be

835
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:12,400
Speaker 1: different in many ways, but our fundamental foundational principles of values. Yeah,

836
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 1: oh yeah, no, we alive because then concepts got to

837
00:43:15,160 --> 00:43:17,840
Speaker 1: a lie and it I tell you what to do

838
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 1: in your life, and you tell me what to do

839
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 1: about No, it's nothing to do with that. It's just

840
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 1: no the cold, they say. I always say, man, you

841
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 1: gotta have a cold. What's your cold? And that's it.

842
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 1: You ain't got no cold. And when you don't have

843
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: the cold, you all over the place. And that's those

844
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 1: little tips that you're saying. Stratage, knowing the culture, knowing

845
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Speaker 1: the cold, knowing how to crash out, not the crash out,

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Speaker 1: how the boy, knowing routine, knowing that you basically tell

847
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Speaker 1: about this is how you set up your cold. This

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00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 1: is your cosit on how to survive. And anybody that

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Speaker 1: don't have a cold, you ain't gonna survive. You're not

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Speaker 1: gonna survive. You're not gonna survive marriage, relationship, friendship, The

851
00:43:57,040 --> 00:44:00,399
Speaker 1: gotta be a cold. I've been this woman's friend since

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00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:01,919
Speaker 1: I was ten years old, and we ain't never had

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Speaker 1: no thought out, no argument over nothing, nothing at all,

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00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:08,120
Speaker 1: not man, not this that whatever we have giff us

855
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Speaker 1: of opinion, but never a shout that never I can't believe,

856
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 1: never a question and doubt of trust or nothing. So baby.

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00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,080
Speaker 1: That means knowing how to live by a cold. And

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Speaker 1: I stand there and I'm proud of that. I'm proud

859
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 1: because everybody say that. Everybody can't they talking about Oh

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Speaker 1: you know you ain't got no friend that do that. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't listen exactly exactly. I don't know. I don't

862
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:35,879
Speaker 1: know what that means. I don't know what that means.

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00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:37,920
Speaker 1: I really, I literally don't know what it means. Come

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Speaker 1: out over the weekend. Well, you know, if you got

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00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:42,719
Speaker 1: a homegirl, that be then and that and this and that,

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Speaker 1: and you mean tell me your homegirl ain't never. No,

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Speaker 1: I not literally don't know what you're talking about, because,

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Speaker 1: for one thing, I don't call everybody my homegirl. So

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00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 1: that's where that is right right now. I got two messories.

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Speaker 1: That's it, y'all need to understand that, y'all. I don't

871
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:58,799
Speaker 1: want no bunch of boxes. I don't want no. I

872
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:02,319
Speaker 1: don't cause you're talking. If you if your home girl

873
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:05,359
Speaker 1: see you out and see me out when she say something?

874
00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:07,479
Speaker 1: If you with another woman, another man, and I would

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Speaker 1: I say something, not say something? But who says something?

876
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:12,720
Speaker 1: Hey man, I don't know what the hell you talking about?

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00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 1: Both of my pastors are there twenty five damn years.

878
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,280
Speaker 1: So I don't know talking about and I don't speak

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00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 1: on nothing in a relationship, not this dad whatever. I'm

880
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 1: a good ear, good friend, you know, we talk. But

881
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:28,360
Speaker 1: all of this you talking about, like this Hollywood, this

882
00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 1: a housewife type of whatever y'all are. Yeah, veryl I

883
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 1: don't know nothing about that. My homegirl, my best friend's

884
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:38,279
Speaker 1: husband is my brother in law. So I don't know

885
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 1: what y'all talking about, you know what, I like, sir,

886
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:43,400
Speaker 1: I don't know what y'all talking bus I don't know

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00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 1: how to relate to what y'all talking about. Yes, I

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00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 1: see my friend being hurt, and I see something that

889
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:52,080
Speaker 1: she should know, of course, but I'm not even in

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00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 1: those situations because I wouldn't even be in situations because

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00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 1: I don't operate. That ain't the code I operate in.

892
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:59,239
Speaker 1: So I wouldn't be proud to see nothing, to be

893
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Speaker 1: saying nothing, you know what I mean? Like, what are

894
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 1: you talking about? Yeah? Yeah, girl, I don't know nothing

895
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:06,799
Speaker 1: about him talking about I really don't. You ain't never

896
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: had no friend that said this to you or that

897
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:17,759
Speaker 1: to you know, I haven't. I'm sorry. Well, what about

898
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 1: if one friend say something a buy another friend. Ain't

899
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 1: nobody gonna never say nothing the ice you about me?

900
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 1: It ain't. Nobody would dare what dare because they know

901
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:28,960
Speaker 1: they know, and I don't want people know they can

902
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 1: talk to you like that. That's the main question is

903
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 1: why they know they can come to talk to you

904
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: about me? Right? Because he was asking me about what

905
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:39,880
Speaker 1: other people say. I don't give that about wouldn't know

906
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 1: what they talking about because they ain't none of my friends.

907
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:45,279
Speaker 1: You got too many friends telling you, like, what's up

908
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:47,120
Speaker 1: with me? Or what about this? She's doing this and

909
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: doing that. I don't have that kind of messy ass worlds. Yeah,

910
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 1: because first of all, everybody don't get access to me

911
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:57,400
Speaker 1: that way. They definitely don't. And for what, I shouldn't

912
00:46:57,480 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 1: know who I date for real, Marcellas don't know you

913
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:01,720
Speaker 1: know my boyfriend. You don't know nothing about my boyfriend

914
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:06,760
Speaker 1: and won't and it ain't I don't. I don't trust Marcella.

915
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:10,320
Speaker 1: I just don't. Ain't the told I operate by right,

916
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:13,440
Speaker 1: my most vulnerable spots they go to aisher. So but

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Speaker 1: it ain't like you out the water boarder to get

918
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 1: out of and that No, marcell you ain't got to

919
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 1: worry about looking up nothing. He did this on history,

920
00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 1: your child, Look at me. You ain't got to wear

921
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:27,359
Speaker 1: about nothing that old baby. Yeah, that's the truth. The

922
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:29,840
Speaker 1: cold is the cold. Y'all don't know nothing about Jada

923
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 1: that you done met Jada in person, Marcella. You know,

924
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:34,239
Speaker 1: but man, I don't put Jada's pictures out of here

925
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 1: and all that. I I just live by a certain cold.

926
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 1: You ain't got to worry about knowing on Instagram or

927
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:42,279
Speaker 1: none of that. Y'all looking to speak on something, y'all

928
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,560
Speaker 1: better go watch Real Housewives because y'all not gonna never

929
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 1: speak on mine in that way. And it ain't got

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00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:49,839
Speaker 1: nothing to do with uh hide. Nothing of my life

931
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: is quite boring, quite born. It's just I got a cold.

932
00:47:54,800 --> 00:48:00,239
Speaker 1: Concept applies across the board. When I tell y'all, day

933
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 1: they find me in my whole life. That's really the truth.

934
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 1: You do, you're literally with somebody who literally knows, like

935
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 1: literally the truth. It's really the truth. I ain't got

936
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,399
Speaker 1: the lot of y'all, But that don't mean you're gonna

937
00:48:09,440 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: get to know everything. It just don't work that way, guys.

938
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Speaker 1: It's called a cold understanding. The concept your unknowing, your

939
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 1: cold gonna get you through a whole lot in life. Yeah,

940
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:21,319
Speaker 1: don't get you through a whole lot of Like me

941
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:23,440
Speaker 1: and Marcella said that. We talked about that on the

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00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:28,239
Speaker 1: episode about birthdays, not like, yeah, I don't want no

943
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 1: whole UNCHI birthdays from everybody. I don't know's I shouldn't

944
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 1: tell me and tell me and my aunt and you know,

945
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 1: two of my cousins and a few others, and you

946
00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 1: know my man and all that, and I should and

947
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 1: my ace husband. That's that's enough. That's fine. Yeah, let's

948
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:45,120
Speaker 1: y'all keep it. But why is your birthday? Because for

949
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:49,720
Speaker 1: what y'all it's okay, And that ain't getting up. Birthday

950
00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:52,280
Speaker 1: is just for what the people that tell me have birthday.

951
00:48:52,280 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 1: I also want to be the same people that know

952
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 1: what everything else is going on in my life. They

953
00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:58,880
Speaker 1: know everything else is going on in my life, not

954
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 1: I haven't talked to you, to you or a complete stranger.

955
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 1: Oh man, I know you gonna like I don't know.

956
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:08,680
Speaker 1: I just I'm a big believer in significance and you

957
00:49:08,719 --> 00:49:10,799
Speaker 1: know things need to matter, you know what I mean?

958
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 1: I shouldn't know. Okay, they also know it's my birthday.

959
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 1: Also knows the last time I talked to my dad.

960
00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:17,319
Speaker 1: They also know it's dad. Got man. They know the

961
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 1: whole thing with the birthday, and they know it all.

962
00:49:19,520 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I don't I don't need no,

963
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:24,279
Speaker 1: I don't get nothing off no random person celebrating me

964
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 1: in that way. Now, what I do want you to

965
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 1: celebrate is these these uh, these receipts. Now, y'all can

966
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:34,960
Speaker 1: always celebrate. I'm all yes, say that they thank me

967
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 1: for my service. Yeah, thank me for my service. I'm

968
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 1: all about that. I'll talk about these wars. I'll talk

969
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:40,879
Speaker 1: because that's for the public. You know, those are things

970
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:46,799
Speaker 1: I built, Those are things. Yeah, that's for y'all. Celebrate that. Yeah, yeah,

971
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 1: you will high be glad about law school. For some

972
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: of y'all gonna need a retainer a well, get into that.

973
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: But as far as my personal life, I don't need y'all.

974
00:49:56,560 --> 00:49:58,879
Speaker 1: My personal life it ain't gonna make and your life

975
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:01,120
Speaker 1: ain't gonna make no deal on knowing what's going on

976
00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:03,400
Speaker 1: in my personal life. It ain't right. It don't mean

977
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:05,359
Speaker 1: I don't use examples or share. Hell, that's how y'all

978
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:06,960
Speaker 1: know about ice. So it's not that I don't talk

979
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:09,920
Speaker 1: about things. I'm just I'm just real clear about significance

980
00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:11,719
Speaker 1: and who matters and who don't matter, and what you

981
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 1: need access to. And that's the concept of understanding the cold.

982
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:17,400
Speaker 1: So you may need to do a show about cold

983
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 1: cold concepting because y'all clearly don't have one and it shows.

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Speaker 1: All right, guys, Well, thank you so much. Guys. This

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Speaker 1: was way longer than I expected. We're gonna divide this

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Speaker 1: up there. It was very good. If you've been listening

987
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Speaker 1: to the podcast, you know, our podcast, just like you're

988
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 1: just listening in on a conversation, all right, was I

989
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 1: get I go beer off and start talking at something

990
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 1: else and I'm just your homegirl listening. And the great

991
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Speaker 1: thing about it you can pause and stop it and

992
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Speaker 1: go back. I do appreciate your support. We're gonna continue

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Speaker 1: this how to. I'm gonna do better with keeping it down.

994
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Speaker 1: But I couldn't help it because there's so mu stuff

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Speaker 1: we could unpack. Yah found some good information how to

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Speaker 1: survive your first year of teaching K through twelve with Robinson.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Dee for joining us. Thank you

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Speaker 1: for having me. Absolutely if you like what you heard

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