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Speaker 1: My wife said she wishes I was bigger. I want

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Speaker 1: a divorce. Oh not that little guy.

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Speaker 2: My wife, thirty four female, and I thirty four male,

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Speaker 2: have been married for eight years and we have a

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Speaker 2: The main argument that we've been having is that I

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Speaker 2: want to take our family out on a vacation to

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Speaker 2: our different states, but my wife wants to save up

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Speaker 2: so we can travel abroad next year. By the way,

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Speaker 2: what do you laugh at rally? How does this relate?

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Speaker 2: Let's talk about vacations, make account Maybe is only as

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Speaker 2: big as other things.

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Speaker 3: I think she wants him to save up for a

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Speaker 3: certain procedure. Maybe can you have a small bank account

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Speaker 3: and small uh?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but I do know this comes from

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Speaker 2: level bits on the art slash okay, start time, separate it.

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Speaker 2: So last month, my wife and I were having an

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Speaker 2: argument about this again, and I was telling her a

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Speaker 2: We talked back and forth, and I could get a

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Speaker 2: sense that my wife was getting exasperated, but I stood

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Speaker 2: my ground. I told her that we could take a

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Speaker 2: And my wife just lost her cool and said the

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Speaker 2: finances made that impractical. And she said, I also wish

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Speaker 2: I had a bigger waiter.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, we don't always get what we want. Damn.

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Speaker 3: That was a stray, Right, So he's talking about, let's

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Speaker 3: have the best of both worlds, babe, we could do this,

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Speaker 3: we could do both.

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Speaker 2: That was absolutely an uncalled for a statement, although I

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Speaker 2: will say and well reserve judgment till till the next update.

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Speaker 2: But it seemed like he was kind of like, I

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Speaker 2: don't know, it seems like he was kind of neither

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Speaker 2: without relenting. She think she was just trying to like

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Speaker 2: change the change the subject. Well, if you're going to

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Speaker 2: stay on this vacation thing, I'm just gonna call out

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Speaker 2: your small wiener.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Like he's kind of poking the bear a little bit,

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Speaker 2: but they're both poking the bear.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he can't poke her bear. I don't know. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna keep to right, folks.

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Speaker 2: So that stung me. I'm aware I have an average

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Speaker 2: sized wiener. But I've never had any complaints from anyone

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Speaker 2: on it until now to hear it from my wife.

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Speaker 1: It just numbed me.

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Speaker 2: That really is just the like all women have that lever. Well,

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Speaker 2: you just you just got a small waier.

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Speaker 3: I'd be like, well, you know, maybe you got a

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Speaker 3: big hen house. Come on, you can hit back. Though

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Speaker 3: you can hit back, it's never appropriate to hit back.

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Speaker 1: That's not the same. Come on, it's not the same.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I have a comment I can say, but I

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's right, that's right. Well I checked out.

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Speaker 2: Well, I checked out of the conversation, and my wife

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Speaker 2: instantly apologized after she said that. I told her it

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Speaker 2: I also started eating out pause as I did not

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Speaker 1: Her to get off me.

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Speaker 2: Oh, my My birthday was a few days ago, and

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Speaker 2: a handwritten letter, I told her to return it. WHOA,

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Speaker 2: I don't want your box, right, nice, good one, Riley.

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Speaker 2: I have no idea what the gift was or what

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Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, no, wait wait, this is good. It's

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Speaker 1: too much, too much.

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Speaker 2: But I also wanted to get an opinion from people

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Speaker 2: and it should be very easy for me to get

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Speaker 2: someone who's much more beautiful than my wife, both on the.

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Speaker 1: Exterior and interior.

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for checking out of my

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Speaker 2: relationship and considering a divorce? Guys, we have an update

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Speaker 2: happen or not.

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Speaker 1: That's what it's looking like. Bro, that's sister. That sister

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Speaker 1: did not hold back. This is crazy.

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Speaker 3: I think she clearly was like, all right, I made

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Speaker 3: a mistake. I shouldn't have said that. I don't mean it.

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Speaker 3: Let's have a little spicy time. And you're like, no,

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Speaker 3: it's you know what, it's not good enough for you.

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Speaker 3: I see that now. Yeah, I guess we'll be abstinate.

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Speaker 2: It's giving like so okay, so I think both of

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Speaker 2: I think Opie made the first defense of just like

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Speaker 2: and see what kind of what.

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Speaker 1: Kind of compromise can we work out here?

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Speaker 3: Meager offense when you're like I would like two vacations,

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Speaker 2: But it's like I think, to me, the core is

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Speaker 2: is like pausing to be like mm hmm, let's see

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Speaker 2: then she drops the bomb of you got the small wiener.

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Speaker 1: I don't even think she was saying that.

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Speaker 1: Can't have everything that we want in the world. That

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Speaker 2: It's not like it's like it's like, hey, I got

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Speaker 3: No one's gonna say no to the large. No one's

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Speaker 3: and then Opie, I think took takes the cake though

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Speaker 3: with like I mean, first, just like the level of pettiness,

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Speaker 3: which it so clearly does, you have to communicate that

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Speaker 3: like happy birthday, and he ignored her. That's that is

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Speaker 3: That was him full on, Like you were clearly scarred

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Speaker 3: by this comment. Yeah, like there's something lurking inside of

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Speaker 3: you that is like I don't think has anything to

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Speaker 1: No, maybe your past.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I have said something similar and it just reawoken

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Speaker 2: So before we get into the update and find out

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Speaker 2: jah comment, what advice would you.

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Speaker 3: Give Opie, Like, relax you just like you got to

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Speaker 1: Understand that, like like you said, it's yours bridge, it's average,

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Speaker 1: that's nothing wrong with it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we can work with it. You can work with

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Speaker 2: See carrying it around hit pain pain. Never never talk

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Speaker 4: Gonna be walking and then like something's gonna be dragging

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Speaker 4: behind you your whole life exactly. It is hard, it

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Speaker 4: is tough. It's a tough life. I would wish this

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Speaker 2: Neither would I neither Ride write it in your autobiography Riley,

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Speaker 2: but I would wish this.

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Speaker 1: Next updates to be read, which I'll do right now.

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Speaker 2: So having read a few comments, I will proceed with

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Speaker 2: marriage counseling, thank God. Like my brother recommended before jumping

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Speaker 2: straight to divorce, I will try and save our marriage

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Speaker 2: for my son and see if marriage counseling can fix

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Speaker 1: Bro's talking about saving this marriage over one coming over?

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 2: Come on, dude, they have a little more backbone. Okay, well,

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Speaker 2: I told her what she said made me feel worthless

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Speaker 1: Dude, not a good way to say that.

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Speaker 2: I told her I feel trapped in this marriage and

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Speaker 2: And when I see her, I feel nothing, no love,

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Speaker 2: no hate, just indifference and wanting to be left alone.

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Speaker 4: Oh oh, this is the straw in the Campbell's back.

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Speaker 4: That comment, That's what it was.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is the small straw at that. It didn't

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Speaker 2: it needed to do is be average. Yeah, Opie's wife

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Speaker 2: I probably didn't mean a lot of the things I said.

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Speaker 2: I was like, you know, I probably didn't mean. It's

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Speaker 2: my wife apologized and said she was hoping marriage counseling

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Speaker 2: could fix our marriage too. But then she started crying

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Speaker 2: but I told her, of course, I need more space,

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Speaker 2: and I continued to console her as she was very emotional. Okay,

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Speaker 2: we do have some more relevant comments here, but before

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Speaker 1: That you're funneling the bag with your own wife.

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Speaker 3: Oh dude, okay, you gotta take look cognitive reframing, right,

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Speaker 1: Like check out, Like let me lay down some moves

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Speaker 2: That is it better to just just call it here,

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Speaker 2: Like like I'm almost like it's a more stable environment

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Speaker 2: To apologize, and he has to go through personal Like

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Speaker 2: Garden forty seventeen says, uh, yeah, this whole how dare

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Speaker 2: obviously doesn't want the conversation about him being irresponsible financially

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Speaker 2: to continue. That's a point I wasn't even thinking about, honestly,

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Speaker 2: So he decided to twist the story into his wife

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Speaker 1: Who is the primary breadwinner? The great point he kind

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Speaker 1: of did do, like we kind of completely forgotten so

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Speaker 1: many things have happened.

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Speaker 2: Is Opie secretly aware of something that she isn't, which

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Speaker 2: this Wiener weed Forsaken Guard forty seventeen also says, I

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Speaker 2: do believe she said something about Wiener size, but it

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Speaker 2: of proportion and change the story. I agreed, it's no

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Speaker 2: longer about irresponsible husband abusing their finances, but a wife

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Speaker 2: verbally body shaming him. My ex wife used to do

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Speaker 1: When I've confronted her Bert.

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Speaker 2: When I confronted her about some crap that she would

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Speaker 2: used by crappy, abusive people. I'm surprised by how many

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Speaker 2: commenters that aren't able to see what OPI is clearly doing.

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Speaker 2: But you can clearly see us every weekday at three

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Speaker 2: pm PSD. Just tap the profile and join the lot.

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Speaker 1: What are you doing? Then? Finally throwaway sunglasses.

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Speaker 2: Says I also noticed that she used his vulnerabilities in

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Speaker 2: securities against him. Nowhere did op say that his wife

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Speaker 2: of course still a cruel thing for the wife to say,

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Speaker 2: me to think that he may say similarly cruel things

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Speaker 2: and this is just how they talk when they're fighting. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that sounds he's just a manchild.

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Speaker 3: Super accurate. Honestly, that sounds right on the money. And

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Speaker 3: I think it'd be way different if after the conversation

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Speaker 3: the wife was also like distant and being like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: a little Wiener boy, I don't want anything to do

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Speaker 1: Hot dog brands, hot dog brands? What are they? Oscar Meyer, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're a little Oscar Meyer. What are the mini ones? Beanie?

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Speaker 3: Your little hutch puffy beanie? Yeah, you're a little pigan

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Speaker 3: or blank blanket. I can't I can't think of the

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Speaker 3: funniest one, though. I agree he's he's a complete man child.

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Speaker 2: He he needs so much growing up there and nine

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Speaker 2: percent are saying for the wife to leave.

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Speaker 3: But there is a kid in the context, there is

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Speaker 3: a kid there. I've broken home over small wiener joke.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that is the right move.

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Speaker 2: He he should not leave them, like he should be

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Speaker 2: a grown adult. But the fact that he is such

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Speaker 2: I'm like, LOOKI like, will they be better off?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. They need to do the work they need.

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Speaker 1: It's the marriage counsel.

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Speaker 3: They need counseling, and he needs to do his own

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Speaker 3: personal therapy to awakening, being at peace with one self.

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Speaker 1: Comparison is the theft of joy. This is true. You know,

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Speaker 1: all we have is what we have, and that's totally fine.

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Speaker 2: Unless it's not. I'm just kidding and less I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. But guys, this stream is not smaller

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Speaker 2: short at all.

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Speaker 1: No, it's not. Because we got another story.

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Speaker 3: Dakota, take it away, my friend, take it away, and

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Speaker 3: I will say, I think it was Jacqueline, a Swede

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Speaker 3: who noticed my hat had tape on it. Your mission

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Speaker 3: is to tweet bomb let them know that they need

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Speaker 1: They are missing out on a opportunity.

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Speaker 3: Of a lifetime. That's what you need to tell them,

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Speaker 3: every day, on the hour, every hour.

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Speaker 1: He understood the assignment.

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Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen, claps in the chat for Dakota claps

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Speaker 2: in the chat.

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Speaker 3: There we go, oh clapping. He was clapping those reverse hands.

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Speaker 3: He was clapping those big proteins.

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Speaker 1: Let's go.

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Speaker 3: Okay, guys, my guy friends said horrible things about me,

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Speaker 3: so I'm cutting them off.

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Speaker 1: Bye, goodbye. So I had three guy friends. They're not

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Speaker 3: But we were pretty close and I've had spicy sleep

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Speaker 3: with all of them, including some group spice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this stop some years ago.

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Speaker 3: In fact, two of them are in long term relationships

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Speaker 3: with two of my best friend. Wow, that's not messy

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Speaker 3: So now, my boyfriend and I have been together for

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Speaker 3: The thing is, my boyfriend is a bit insecure because

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Speaker 1: Oh. He's also aware of my history with my friends.

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Speaker 3: I've assured him though that this is the past and

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Speaker 3: I have no sexual attraction to them at all now

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Speaker 3: and that he is all I need, you know.

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Speaker 1: Have The big question is what's the size? Is it

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Speaker 1: We're okay, moving on, h I.

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Speaker 3: I actually asked my friends to never talk about this ever.

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Speaker 1: That's probably a smart mood.

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Speaker 3: However, the other night we were all hanging out and

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Speaker 3: When we got back, my boyfriend's mood is much different.

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Speaker 2: And how he got the left over the sloppy seconds

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Speaker 3: Them about how good he must be if he can

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Speaker 1: Okay, low key, that kind of is the there we

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's a wah, take the w I was furious

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Speaker 3: and confronted my friends. They kept saying they were trying

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Speaker 1: Not gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend kept trying to save face, saying things that

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Speaker 3: because not only did they disrespect my boyfriend, but also

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Speaker 3: me by calling me leftovers. Yeah a hundred yeah, I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I the people I grew up around, they were

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Speaker 2: call a sloppy second, it's Matt phrase got thrown around,

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Speaker 2: like and it is.

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Speaker 1: Never respectful.

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Speaker 3: To be respected while being referred to as leftover.

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Speaker 1: That's unless it's delicious. Oh you know what, Yeah, like

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Speaker 1: a Thanksgiving dinner left.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, listen, what if what if you got called

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Speaker 2: that Thanksgiving leftovers better than next day that soup leftovers?

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Speaker 1: this way a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So she's cutting off her friends because of all that,

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Speaker 3: and now my two best friends keep saying that it's

443
00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:52,040
Speaker 3: not a big deal and that me and my boyfriend

444
00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:55,119
Speaker 3: are overreacting. How can I make this up to my boyfriend?

445
00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:57,199
Speaker 3: I tried to show him how much I want him

446
00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:01,320
Speaker 3: by initiating zispicy sleep, but he has not been in

447
00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:03,879
Speaker 3: the mood and we do have an update right after this.

448
00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:08,199
Speaker 3: So I mean, what I think cutting off all of

449
00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,840
Speaker 3: your friends is kind of like that. That says a

450
00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:12,560
Speaker 3: lot in and of itself in terms of making it

451
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:13,440
Speaker 3: up to your boyfriend.

452
00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:17,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, so basically she was like, all right, I'm not

453
00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:20,280
Speaker 2: going to talk. Yeah, she's she cut them all off.

454
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,200
Speaker 2: She's like these people are trash. They called me leftovers.

455
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:25,959
Speaker 2: They were trying to make you what, man up and

456
00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 2: be like, yeah, I can't.

457
00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:31,640
Speaker 3: Believe that you're with the sloppy seconds, old sloppy seconds,

458
00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:35,400
Speaker 3: old sloppy Joe. I can't believe you managed to tame

459
00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:37,160
Speaker 3: the Thanksgiving dinner over there.

460
00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:41,359
Speaker 1: We were eating it for months.

461
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:39,359
Speaker 3: We.

462
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:46,320
Speaker 1: Still kept eating it. Yeah, no, I mean she is.

463
00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 2: It seems that she's a like pretty pretty mature and evolved,

464
00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,240
Speaker 2: and it's like, hey, look, I've had my past, but

465
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:57,879
Speaker 2: like I want to make you, my partner, feel comfortable

466
00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:01,160
Speaker 2: and supported and like and here, let me prove that

467
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,520
Speaker 2: that is the past. Yeah, let's cut them off because

468
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:05,360
Speaker 2: also they disrespected me too.

469
00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 1: This is this is like ride or die behavior.

470
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:10,360
Speaker 3: In my opinion, I'm cutting off friends that you've had

471
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:14,919
Speaker 3: for eight years and clearly have quite a colorful history with.

472
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 3: Oh yeah right, that's a lot. That's a bond that

473
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:22,159
Speaker 3: lasts folks. I don't know if you know that, but

474
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:25,560
Speaker 3: I think, uh kind of kind of on them though.

475
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,080
Speaker 3: For I think there was the boundary kind of had

476
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:29,639
Speaker 3: already been said of like, all right, that is in

477
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:32,679
Speaker 3: the past, let's leave that there. That can be something

478
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 3: that we all know about. Right, let's not just open

479
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,240
Speaker 3: that up for all the people in our life for

480
00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 3: all time now, right.

481
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:44,200
Speaker 1: Do you think they stay together? Yes? Or no? I

482
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,360
Speaker 1: would hope, So I'm saying no, I would hope.

483
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:49,800
Speaker 3: So I think I think it's deserved stay together cutting

484
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 3: off all of the uh the bros, I would, I

485
00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:56,000
Speaker 3: would say, Oh but okay, well let's get into it. See,

486
00:22:56,080 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 3: let's get into it. Okay, Hello everyone, It's been a

487
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:02,919
Speaker 3: long couple of days, and my boyfriend has finally opened up.

488
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,359
Speaker 3: He said he's glad I cut off my friends and

489
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 3: that he wasn't going to ask me to do it.

490
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 1: But if I hadn't, he would have left.

491
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 3: Oh ya, that's good instinct, so p He said he

492
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 3: doesn't want to. He said he does not want to

493
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 3: break up. He said he does not want to break

494
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:21,120
Speaker 3: up over this, as it wasn't something.

495
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 1: Wrong that I did.

496
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 3: He gets that most people have a past and that

497
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 3: I didn't even know him back then, which is true. Fair,

498
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 3: we have to let people have their pasts, right, he'd said,

499
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 3: it's just become too real When my ex opened my

500
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 3: ex friends opened their mouth. He's also mad at me

501
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:41,439
Speaker 3: because I told him his insecurities, something that I know

502
00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 3: was a horrible mistake. I apologize profusely and promised it

503
00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:49,120
Speaker 3: was never gonna happen again, which off, Yeah, that's true.

504
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:53,040
Speaker 3: He also says he feels inadequate and inferior. He said,

505
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:55,440
Speaker 3: how the hell am I supposed to compare? I'm just

506
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 3: one guy. What do we say, folks? Comparison is the

507
00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:58,360
Speaker 3: thief of joy.

508
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 2: But if you if you can't, I can't replicate a

509
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 2: whole group. That's gonna It's not comparison. It's pure numbers game.

510
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 3: We're gonna have to take a take a trip to

511
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 3: the grocery store that some more buy some zucchini.

512
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:12,640
Speaker 1: Okay. Uh.

513
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:15,399
Speaker 3: I assured him that he's way better than them and

514
00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 3: that he's all I want from now on. Also, I'm sorry, Josephine,

515
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 3: I did not mean to call you Jacqueline. Uh, thank

516
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 3: you for the clarification. I appreciate it. Mistakes were made,

517
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:28,640
Speaker 3: and I will not.

518
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 1: Make them in the future. Yes, just like.

519
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,000
Speaker 3: So, I assured him that he's way better than them

520
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 3: and that he's all I want from now on.

521
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:39,040
Speaker 1: We kept talking for a while. Eventually we hugged it out.

522
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:41,640
Speaker 3: He says he doesn't feel ready to have the spicy

523
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 3: sleep right now again and ask me to respect that,

524
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 3: which I agree to.

525
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,440
Speaker 1: That's which is that's good. He also says he doesn't

526
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 1: want to hang out with any other former partner. Uh.

527
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 3: He says he won't freak out or anything if we

528
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,399
Speaker 3: run into one at like a party or something, but

529
00:24:56,680 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 3: he won't hang out with them, which is more than

530
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 3: fair after what hap But I think he's talking about

531
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:02,640
Speaker 3: her former party.

532
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, like if she like, uh, any of her exes.

533
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 2: He's like, Hey, look, I just don't want to like

534
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 2: hang out with your or like either X or like

535
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,680
Speaker 2: somebody used to have like some casual whatever kind of relationship.

536
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:15,640
Speaker 3: Hey, guys, that's a fair boundary to second, I think

537
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 3: after everything that's gone down right here.

538
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 1: Yeah.

539
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 2: Uh.

540
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 3: One of my best friends reached out and apologized for

541
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:23,719
Speaker 3: what she said. She thought my former friends just mentioned

542
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 3: our history and my boyfriend got all insecure but didn't realize.

543
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 1: Just how horrible they were. She said.

544
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 3: She broke up with him already. I haven't heard from

545
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:35,879
Speaker 3: the other friends. As for me, I feel absolutely disgusting

546
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 3: knowing I let those guys touch me, and I know

547
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 3: I messed up when I told them about my boyfriend's insecurity. Yes, good,

548
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 3: Still that doesn't excuse just how horrible some of your

549
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 3: comments were. I take responsibility for disclosing my boyfriends in securities,

550
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 3: but most of you just wanted to shame me for

551
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:58,120
Speaker 3: having Zispasa sleep in the first place. I didn't hurt

552
00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 3: anyone just for having gurup Aspasi.

553
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 1: Oh she did the opposite of her. Yeah, it was.

554
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,959
Speaker 3: Hey, we can't judge people based on the Okay, people,

555
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 3: they're free, they.

556
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: Have free will.

557
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,600
Speaker 3: That's right, right, But I did mess up by calling

558
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,680
Speaker 3: the wrong people my friends, which I think is true.

559
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 1: Uh. To those of you who were more understanding.

560
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 3: But still rightfully called me out for my carelessness with

561
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:25,119
Speaker 3: my boyfriend's feelings, thank you, and we have another update.

562
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,399
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, let's get right into it. Let's do it.

563
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,879
Speaker 3: Hello everyone, it has been a few weeks since the

564
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:33,919
Speaker 3: whole incident happened. This fiasco, well, a lot of you

565
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:36,240
Speaker 3: were horrible in the comments. I appreciate the few of

566
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:38,680
Speaker 3: you who were more supportive. My boyfriend and I seem

567
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 3: to be back on track now. He's back to his

568
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,880
Speaker 3: old self and has been very loving and sweet. I've

569
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 3: been as affectionate as possible without being ASPASSEI I've been

570
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,159
Speaker 3: making him, making him meals, got him a couple of

571
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 3: gifts and complimented.

572
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 1: Him very nice.

573
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 3: Well, it's okay, so been taking a positive turn. This

574
00:26:56,240 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 3: has clearly really affected OPI's boyfriend has been been weeks. Yeah,

575
00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 3: still effect I mean, and that's you know, it's gonna

576
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,639
Speaker 3: affect everyone differently, but it's kind of surprising. So we

577
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 3: had a deep talk about boundaries and we talked out

578
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 3: what happened. He forgave me for talking about his insecurities

579
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,679
Speaker 3: to my quote unquote friends, and I promised him that

580
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 3: I would never do anything like that again. We also

581
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,159
Speaker 3: talked about his insecurities. By the way, he's fully aware

582
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:23,879
Speaker 3: of my previous posts and says it's fine because no

583
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 3: one knows who we are. Well after I assured him

584
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:30,919
Speaker 3: he's the best I've ever had, Yuda Yuda bezz, the

585
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 3: best I ever had, the best, uh, and that I

586
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 3: don't want anyone else but him, Well, he got his

587
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 3: confidence back. Oh, and he was not shy to show me.

588
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 3: I'm so things are good with us now. I've learned

589
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 3: my mistake and answer my former friends. I've belocked him

590
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 3: on everything, and I have no desire to ever see

591
00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 3: them again.

592
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 2: Uh.

593
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 3: I think this is gonna be my last update, which

594
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 3: is spoiler alert it is not. Oh and while I

595
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 3: don't expect my relationship to never have problems again, I

596
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 3: think we've moved on from this Now what could possibly

597
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 3: come next?

598
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:11,360
Speaker 2: You know, I will admit usually Riley knows this. I

599
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,440
Speaker 2: always spell doom and gloom in most of my conspiracy theories.

600
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 2: But uh, it's it's I'm impressed. I'm impressed, it's looking good. Continue,

601
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:26,400
Speaker 2: are we looking at marriage? I you know, it could

602
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 2: happen in the future. I don't think I'm ready to

603
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 2: say marriage for them yet, but I will say in

604
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 2: this in this next update, I think I've changed my

605
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 2: prediction to they are are going to just further solidify

606
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 2: their relationship.

607
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, the ride or Die.

608
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 3: Let's get into it, folks, Let's go. Update number three.

609
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 3: Hello everyone, I had a talk with my friend. Just

610
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 3: so you all know, my boyfriend is fully aware of

611
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:53,880
Speaker 3: my history with my friend. Oh, so this is one

612
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 3: of the spicy friends.

613
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 1: Oh.

614
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 3: I told her I didn't like what she as asked

615
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 3: my boyfriend specifically because she didn't say anything to me.

616
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 3: She was confused and uh, maybe I am too a

617
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 3: little bit and just thought i'd be into it. I

618
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 3: told her that I don't want to share my boyfriend

619
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 3: at all.

620
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 1: Oh yep.

621
00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:19,520
Speaker 2: So so that her friend came up to op OPI's boyfriend.

622
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 2: I was like, hey, uh, she said, she hear the

623
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: best she's ever had.

624
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 1: So can I get a piece? Yeah, Drake, let me

625
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 1: get a piece. Not the not the Gzzy. Drizzy's got

626
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 1: the Glizzy. Anyway, I've seen the video. I'm afraid to

627
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: admit it.

628
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 3: Righty, don't shake your head at us, don't shake you

629
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 3: to with your I'll bring up the milk.

630
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: Don't make me bring up the milk. No, John's mahammie

631
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 1: on this one. What milk breastfeeding? Mayo? What about mail milk?

632
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:52,719
Speaker 4: Oh?

633
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm here for it.

634
00:29:53,840 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, outnumbered and we are moving forward.

635
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 1: And uh, before we.

636
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 3: Move forward, I want to tell you you can join

637
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 3: us live on YouTube every weekday at three pm Pacific

638
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 3: Standard time.

639
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 1: You just tap that profile. Okay.

640
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:13,720
Speaker 3: She told me, Wow, you really love this guy, don't you.

641
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 3: She then apologized and promised not to do anything like

642
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 3: that again. She did mention that if me and my

643
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:24,200
Speaker 3: boyfriend ever change our minds to let her know. I

644
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 3: also had to talk with my boyfriend. I asked him

645
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 3: if he would ever regret saying no to my friend.

646
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 3: He was sweet and said that as long as he

647
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 3: has me, he.

648
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 1: Doesn't want another woman nerd No, just kid. That's that's sweet,

649
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 1: that's sweet.

650
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 3: I did tell him that I also don't want to

651
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 3: share him with anyone.

652
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 1: He took it as a compliment and we had a

653
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 1: nice night. And that is the last update. That's it.

654
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 3: Like I said, there's there's They're completely content with one another.

655
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 1: I'm happy.

656
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 2: I I This does not happen super often on the show,

657
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 2: does not that a lot of a lot of flames

658
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 2: and explosive disasters usually comment at the end of these stories,

659
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 2: But this one was was great.

660
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 3: This was and it was hard to navigate that. Honestly,

661
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 3: op really clutched up when she cut off all the friends.

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00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:10,719
Speaker 3: I think, yeah, she clutched it. She took it.

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Speaker 2: She she proved how serious she felt about him and

664
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 2: their relationship through her.

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Speaker 3: Actions, which is she ain't no one gonna treat my

666
00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 3: my boyfeet like that, and nobody gonna tell me that

667
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 3: I'm left over turkey for

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Speaker 1: That's right.