1 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: Hey Hurdlers, Emily, ABOUTI here bringing you another installment of 2 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: Five Minute Friday. It's kind of crazy that we are 3 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:33,880 Speaker 1: approaching the end of a year, to say the least. 4 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:40,560 Speaker 1: I hear that went entirely like none of us had envisioned, 5 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 1: but certainly had I think it's fair share of positives. 6 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: In addition to God, everything that's just been been going on. 7 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:53,520 Speaker 1: I do want to take a moment to say that 8 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 1: I really am wishing just health and good things to 9 00:00:58,000 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: all of you that are listening to this. I know 10 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: that right now now we're all kind of going through it. 11 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:05,680 Speaker 1: Having been in New York for the majority of this 12 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 1: pandemic here in this apartment by myself, I know that 13 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:15,480 Speaker 1: it's scary. I saw and lived through, like many of you, 14 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:18,759 Speaker 1: some really intense times here back in March and April. 15 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 1: And I know that a lot of the rest of 16 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: the country outside of my bubble is going through some 17 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: of that in their own way right now. So my 18 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: thoughts and my prayers to all of you as you 19 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: listen to this, I want to send you always just 20 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:36,040 Speaker 1: best my best vibes. Anyway, this episode Five Minute Friday. 21 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening this week. I want to tell you 22 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:41,960 Speaker 1: a story about my early days living in New York. 23 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:45,680 Speaker 1: And this was prompted by a bike ride that I 24 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: was on. I've mentioned on the show before that every 25 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 1: Tuesday I usually go and run at a track in 26 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: Manhattan and then bike on over to one of my 27 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: favorite coffee shops. And this week in particular, I kind 28 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:01,680 Speaker 1: of mixed up my bike route only because of the 29 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: traffic pattern at the time, and ended up biking down 30 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 1: a street that I used to go to a lot 31 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: when I was a newer New Yorker. And this street 32 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: just happens to be Essex Street, and on Essex Street 33 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: is a restaurant called Beauty in Essex. And okay, I'll 34 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 1: tell you why Beauty in Essex has some meaning to me. 35 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 2: So it's interesting. 36 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: You know, when you moved to New York, you learn 37 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: about the culture, right You learn about bodegas and the 38 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:34,360 Speaker 1: cats and the bodegas, and you learn about what it 39 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: means when a subway car is empty at rush hour. 40 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,639 Speaker 1: You learn about where to get the best pizza, and 41 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 1: that some museums have suggested admission. 42 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 2: What showtime mes I mean. 43 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: I can go into so many things, but for the 44 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: sake of time, here I'm not gonna, you know, prove 45 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: my New Yorker news to you. But I learned quickly 46 00:02:56,560 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 1: in my first few months of living in New York 47 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: that New Yorkers go out during the week, like on 48 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: a Monday or Tuesday night. And this was just bizarre 49 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:09,360 Speaker 1: to me because I moved to New York. I'm an 50 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 1: editorial assistant at a company called Cafe Mom, and my 51 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 1: days aren't that different at first than when I was 52 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 1: like commuting in from Connecticut. Keep in mind, like working 53 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: on an editorial assistant salary, like I didn't have all 54 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:27,080 Speaker 1: the money to go out and really like dive headfirst 55 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: into all of the things that New York has to offer. 56 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:32,880 Speaker 2: I digress. So it was. 57 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 1: It was a friend of mine's birthday, and this is 58 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,560 Speaker 1: like back in twenty thirteen in the spring, and he 59 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: asks me if I want to go out for dinner, 60 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 1: and it's like already six o'clock. I'm like, where are 61 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 1: we going to go to dinner? It's already kind of late. 62 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: And he says to me, We're going to dinner at 63 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: nine thirty at Beauty in Essex, and my friend is 64 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: paying and he has the whole bill. Just come and 65 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, who in the world goes to dinner at 66 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 1: nine thirty? Like, I just couldn't believe that this was 67 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: something that people people do, Like what I I just 68 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: couldn't believe it. But he said Beauty in Essex. And 69 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 1: I also, fun fact, moved to New York with a 70 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 1: to do list that was like one hundred and fifteen 71 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: different things, and going to Beauty in Essex was on 72 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:23,280 Speaker 1: the top of it. And that's because, like beauty is 73 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 1: one of those like quintessential New York experiences. Like the 74 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 1: restaurant itself is set back behind a pawn shop. There's 75 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:34,920 Speaker 1: like big bouncers standing at the front. You walk in, 76 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:38,279 Speaker 1: there's this huge spiral staircase. They're known for the fact 77 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 1: that they serve complimentary champagne in the bathroom. You know, 78 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: people throw lavish parties there. There used to be models 79 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: and like a listers and like all this stuff. It's 80 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 1: it's definitely a little bougie. And so when he said 81 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 1: Beauty in Essex, I wasn't enthusiastic about the idea of 82 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:56,840 Speaker 1: going at nine thirty, but I was like, fit, I'm 83 00:04:56,880 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: gonna go. So I got dressed in an outfit that 84 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 1: I remember was super lame looking back on it, not 85 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 1: knowing that like people dressed to the nines to go there, 86 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: and I took the M one to five bus downtown 87 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 1: in my heels, and basically the rest of the night 88 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 1: becomes a little bit of a blur. It's like as 89 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:20,840 Speaker 1: soon as I show up there and it's like stunning 90 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:22,719 Speaker 1: and better than any of the photos I had seen 91 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: before going. As soon as I meet everyone and we 92 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: sit down at this banquette in like this dimly lit 93 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:35,919 Speaker 1: upstairs area, within fifteen twenty minutes, the entire menus on 94 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: the table. There are women walking around in like little dresses, 95 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: and they're bringing us bottles of champagne that are on 96 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 1: like fire with sparklers, and like just I completely start 97 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: to lose track of time, and before I know it, 98 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 1: me and like all of these new friends are bouncing 99 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 1: between like PhD rooftop at the Dream Hotel and Labane 100 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 1: at Standard and we're out until two am and it 101 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: is now Wednesday at two am, and my friend is 102 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:09,720 Speaker 1: asking if we should get a hotel room, and I'm like, 103 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: why do we need a hotel room? 104 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 2: We live here. 105 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:17,280 Speaker 1: I'm like covering my eyes, like reinhabiting this whole scenario. 106 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: And yeah, and it ends with me going home and 107 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: going to bed and waking up to go to work 108 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: the next day at like seven thirty or eight am. 109 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:26,479 Speaker 2: And that was it. 110 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 1: And that night at Beauty and Essex had changed everything 111 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 1: for me because I met a lot of awesome people 112 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: who would become some of my first friends in the city, 113 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:41,280 Speaker 1: all of them working in hospitality. So this began a 114 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 1: time period in my life where I would go to 115 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:45,039 Speaker 1: my nine to five, I would come home from my 116 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:47,280 Speaker 1: nine to five, I would take a nap, I would 117 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: get up, I would go downtown, and we would go 118 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 1: out on Monday and Tuesday nights because that was the 119 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 1: best night to go out in New York City. Oh, 120 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:58,039 Speaker 1: my parents are probably listening to this and they're like, wow, 121 00:06:58,080 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: we are so happy. We didn't know that you did that. 122 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: It's crazy. It's crazy to think about. It's crazy to 123 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: think about right now because New York is in such 124 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:08,320 Speaker 1: a different place. It's crazy to think about right now 125 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 1: because I'm in such a different place. For the last 126 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:14,239 Speaker 1: few years, like, I haven't been a big goer outer, 127 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: so to speak, but I reflect on that time specifically 128 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 1: this week, after riding my bike across Essex Street and 129 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: literally like just pulling over again and thinking about those times, Like, man, 130 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: I am such a different person now than I was then. 131 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 1: Like then I was a girl, and now like I 132 00:07:36,240 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: am a woman, and I have perspective, and I have 133 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: so much appreciation for those times and for that chapter 134 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 1: and for all that New York is, even right now 135 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 1: when it feels like it's just not the same in 136 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 1: some ways anyway, I would kill to have a glass 137 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 1: of champagne in that bathroom right now. But to be honest, 138 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: these days, I'm still and pretty grateful for this roof 139 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: over my head, for my health, and that every day 140 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: still I get to wake up and walk out onto 141 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 1: the street and be here in New York, in this 142 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 1: place that I call home. So my prompt for you, 143 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: what is one thing that you were doing, let's say, 144 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 1: five or six years ago that contributed to who you 145 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: are today. And I know, I know everything that we 146 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:32,960 Speaker 1: do contributes to who we are in the future, but 147 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: I'm talking like a specific memory that like kind of 148 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:39,239 Speaker 1: makes you do that goofy smile that you think about 149 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 1: that contributed to the person that you are listening to 150 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: this right now. Highlights of the week. Links to all 151 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:49,920 Speaker 1: of this stuff is in the show notes. First up, 152 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 1: watch Barack Obama and Steph Curry on Instagram Live. I 153 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:56,960 Speaker 1: love this conversation and I love like Barack Obama feels 154 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 1: like I'm listening to a conversation with my dad. Definitely 155 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: worth watch. I loved this quote that Barack had. The 156 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,360 Speaker 1: most important thing a leader does is set the tone. 157 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: In terms of culture. You set values around which you 158 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 1: are organizing yourself. You have to ask yourself, how do 159 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 1: you help the people around you succeed? 160 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 2: Watch my dad sent me this morning a match Made 161 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 2: in Hell. It's a commercial for Match. 162 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 1: Basically, Satan goes on match and matches with twenty twenty. 163 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: And I know you can probably assume like how this works, 164 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: and it's just it's hilarious. 165 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 2: You are welcome. 166 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: Read sixty five productive things to do when you're bored 167 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 1: at work. I got this pick from hurdler Nicole's newsletter. 168 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 1: I'll link to that in the show notes. Thanks the 169 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: call for the shout out to me this week. And 170 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: if if you're like me, you're probably feeling burnt out lately, 171 00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 1: and so it is time to figure out how to 172 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 1: make the most out of feeling burnt out at times, 173 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,400 Speaker 1: not all the time, but sometimes so. These tips they're 174 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:02,320 Speaker 1: from Career Contessa. They're a good place to start. Also 175 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: another watch. If you haven't done this yet, maybe you're 176 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: living under a rock I don't know. You've got to 177 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:10,680 Speaker 1: check out The Undoing on HBO. I first heard about 178 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:13,640 Speaker 1: it on Thanksgiving my mom and one of my best friends. 179 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: They couldn't stop talking about it. I then proceeded to 180 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:20,959 Speaker 1: watch all five episodes of the series before the sixth episode, 181 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:25,719 Speaker 1: the finale on Sunday, and I was hooked. Quick synopsis 182 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:28,840 Speaker 1: on this Nicole Kidman and Hugh Grant are a married couple. 183 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:31,079 Speaker 1: They live with their son on the Upper West Side, 184 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 1: and there's a murder, and the whole series is basically 185 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:36,959 Speaker 1: figuring out like who did the murder? 186 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:40,200 Speaker 2: It's a great binge. Can't recommend it enough. 187 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:46,800 Speaker 1: Listen Trained, the Nike podcast Harnessing the Power of Your Mind. 188 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 1: I nerd out, completely nerd out at the opportunity to 189 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 1: have a better understanding of how our minds work. And 190 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:56,440 Speaker 1: this episode from Trained, it's a really solid listen. I 191 00:10:56,520 --> 00:11:00,559 Speaker 1: always love how Ryan Flaherty, he's their senior director of Performance. 192 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 2: He's also a past hurdler. 193 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: I love how Ryan asks questions and really nerds out 194 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 1: with his guests. 195 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 2: He's a science geek like me. You'll really like this one. 196 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: It really sheds some insight as to how our mind works, 197 00:11:15,240 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: how we follow people, why we choose to follow along 198 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 1: with certain people or listen to certain people. 199 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 2: Ten out of ten would recommend, and. 200 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,600 Speaker 1: Last, but not least, this week on five Minute Friday, 201 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:31,120 Speaker 1: I want to chat to you about setting some goals. 202 00:11:31,120 --> 00:11:33,959 Speaker 1: I've got two more end of year goal setting workshops 203 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 1: in the next couple of weeks, and I would love 204 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:38,520 Speaker 1: to see you there. I know this year has been frustrating, 205 00:11:38,559 --> 00:11:41,320 Speaker 1: but we owe it to ourselves to take back some 206 00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:44,079 Speaker 1: of that control and do the best we can with 207 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:47,079 Speaker 1: what we have. I promise, I promise, I promise you 208 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 1: will walk away from these workshops feeling excited instead of tired. 209 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 1: I got you use the Code podcast at checkout to 210 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:57,840 Speaker 1: get five dollars off. Links to both of these goal 211 00:11:57,880 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: setting workshops are in the show notes. Okay, I know 212 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 1: I said last thing, but I do want to throw 213 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,440 Speaker 1: this into the mix. If you are a hurdler listening 214 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 1: to this who works at a company that can help 215 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: me with merch. The merch requests are coming in and 216 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: I want to make it happen. Specifically, I really want 217 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 1: to make Crew Next sweatshirts and mugs. So anyone that 218 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:20,800 Speaker 1: has insight on how we can make this happen, I'm 219 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 1: all yours. As always at Emily a Body and at 220 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast, Another Hurdle Conquered. 221 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:29,600 Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time