1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: Starwberry. Let this right here. Subject. My prince Charming turned 2 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:11,160 Speaker 1: out to be a devil with horns. That is the 3 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 1: subject again, My Prince Charming turned out to be a 4 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:19,959 Speaker 1: devil with horns. I'm a thirty nine year old single 5 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: mother of two girls, nine and fourteen. I'm educated, beautiful, 6 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 1: and successful and have a good job. I met my 7 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 1: prince Charming online. Went on a few dates. In my life. 8 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: I've had missteps mishaps when it comes to men. This 9 00:00:35,159 --> 00:00:39,920 Speaker 1: guy was handsome, well educated, and he is every woman's dream. 10 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: I was, Oh, this, this, Oh. I was so excited 11 00:00:44,920 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: to finally meet somebody like him, after meeting a couple 12 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 1: of you know, after meeting a couple of freeloaders. He 13 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 1: was my dream come true. My excitement about my Prince 14 00:00:55,240 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: Charming ended when I landed in his bed of hell. 15 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:06,320 Speaker 1: My first concern was his unwillingness to use protection, and 16 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:09,679 Speaker 1: I insisted that since we don't know each other that long, 17 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: since we didn't know each other that long, that was 18 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:15,399 Speaker 1: the safest thing to do. I asked him about his status, 19 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:18,320 Speaker 1: and he said he was clean, he had no diseases, 20 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:21,320 Speaker 1: and he was going to show me his status. I 21 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 1: was concerned when I realized that he had secretly removed 22 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 1: the protection during the encounter, and he told me that 23 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 1: he does not like using them. After this day, I 24 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:34,080 Speaker 1: called and told him that I needed to see his 25 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: HIV status and he said, yeah, I will send it 26 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:41,959 Speaker 1: to you. As I was waiting impatiently, I noticed that 27 00:01:42,040 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 1: he was a bit different. I called him and told 28 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: him strongly but politely, that I needed to know his status. 29 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: That was the last day I ever heard from him. 30 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: He stopped calling me. He has He never answered my 31 00:01:56,960 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 1: calls nor returned them. I called him at work and 32 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: he told me not to bother him anymore. I must 33 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 1: leave him alone. Six months later, I tested positive for 34 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: h I V. What do I do? Do I sue him? 35 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:17,360 Speaker 1: Do I let him do this to other women? Should 36 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 1: I sit and accept it as my fate? I am devastated. 37 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 1: I look at my girls and cry because I have 38 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 1: betrayed them. I put myself in a compromising situation. What 39 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: do I tell them? Steve? I know I failed to 40 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:34,640 Speaker 1: follow your rule of thumb, but I still need your advice. Thanks. 41 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: Devastated and betrayed, will be back. Hey, make sure you 42 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: join me for Strawberry Letter Live the after show on Facebook. 43 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: It'll be live this Thursday at one pm, one thirty pm. 44 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:48,359 Speaker 1: We'll talk about that day's letter. But come on, Steve, 45 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: let's hear part two of your response to today's letter. 46 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: I know we don't want to deal with this because 47 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: it's so deep, but we got to get back to this. 48 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:05,800 Speaker 1: This is a heavy Okay, here's again. I'm my Prince 49 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 1: Charming turned out to be a devil with horns. I'm 50 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 1: thirty nine year old single mother two girls nine and fourteen. 51 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:14,239 Speaker 1: I'm educated, beautiful, and successful to have a good job. 52 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: I met my Prince Charming online. Went on a few dates. 53 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: In my life. I've had mishaps when it comes to me, 54 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:21,959 Speaker 1: and this guy was handsome, well educated, and he's every 55 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 1: woman's dream. I was so excited to finally meet somebody 56 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: like him after meeting a couple of freeloaders. He was 57 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: my dream come true. My excitement about my Prince Charming 58 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 1: ended when I landed in his bed of hell. My 59 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: first concern was his unwillingness to use protection, and I 60 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:40,839 Speaker 1: insisted that since we don't know each other that long, 61 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: that that was that was the safest thing to do. 62 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: I asked him about his status, and he said he 63 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: was clean, he has no diseases, and he was going 64 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 1: to show me his status. I was concerned when I 65 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 1: realized that he had secretly removed the protection during the encounter, 66 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: and he told me that he does not like using 67 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: them after this day, I called him and told him 68 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: I needed to see his HIV status and he said, yeah, 69 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: I'll send it to you is. I was waiting impatiently. 70 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: I noticed that he was a bit different. I called 71 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 1: him and told him strongly but politely, that I needed 72 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: to know his status. That was the last day ever 73 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: heard from him. He stopped calling me. He never answered 74 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: my calls nor return them. I called him at work 75 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: and he told me not to bother him anymore. I 76 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: must leave him alone. Six months later, I tested positive 77 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 1: for HIV. What do I do? Do I sue him? 78 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:26,239 Speaker 1: Do I let him do this to other women? Should 79 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: I sit and accept it as my fate? I am devastated. 80 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: I look at my girls and cry because I have 81 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: betrayed them. I put myself in a compromising situation. What 82 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 1: do I tell them? Steve? I know I failed to 83 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:42,360 Speaker 1: follow your rule of thumb, but still I need your advice. Thanks. 84 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 1: Devastated and betrayed. I'm devastated too. I really am for her, 85 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: you know, I mean all I'm gonna do because she 86 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 1: knows all the answers, I'm just gonna give her some 87 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:58,159 Speaker 1: stuff that could possibly help her in terms of websites 88 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 1: that she can go to and you know, get some 89 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: help and some more education. UM. Go to AIDS dot gov. Um. 90 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 1: You know they can give you access to US government 91 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: HIV and AIDS information about prevention. You know you can 92 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 1: pass that along to your girl, to your children, AIDS education, testing, 93 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: treatment and care. A lot of people are living with 94 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: AIDS and living with HIV. And there's also AIDS health 95 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: dot org. Uh, it's an AIDS healthcare foundation, AIDS Health 96 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:30,240 Speaker 1: dot Org, AIDS dot gov. This is so sad and 97 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 1: about suing. You know, it depends on what states you're in. Well, 98 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: here is what I want to say to the ladies. 99 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: HIV and AIDS is no longer the death centers that 100 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: it used to be. They have treatment for you, They 101 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:49,599 Speaker 1: have medicines for you. There are people who are living 102 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: long lives who are HIV. And you know that there's 103 00:05:55,720 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: a gratefulness in that you tested positive HIV. If you 104 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 1: take care of yourself. From this point on, you can 105 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 1: live a long life. I know people personally friends of 106 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 1: mine who are HIV who are living very productive lives, 107 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:20,600 Speaker 1: and I mean very productive lives. One of them is 108 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 1: very famous and he played basketball. I'll rest my case. 109 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:31,360 Speaker 1: So at least you found out early. That's the good part. 110 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:35,720 Speaker 1: You have two beautiful daughters. You have to do your 111 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: part now to stay here for them. So let's get 112 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:42,799 Speaker 1: about the business now of what you have to do. 113 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 1: There is a fight involved. But because you are educated, intelligent, bright, 114 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:55,279 Speaker 1: you have fight in you go go get in this fight, 115 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: don't give up. So yeah, that answers the question that 116 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:02,560 Speaker 1: she asked. Should I sit and accept it as my No, no, no, 117 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: it's listen, it's not your fate. It's a challenge. Now 118 00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:09,480 Speaker 1: you can accept this as a challenge or you can 119 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:12,880 Speaker 1: accept it as your fate. It's not your fate. Faith 120 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 1: sounds so final. So no, no, no, no, no, you 121 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: are HIV positive. Okay, all right, let's get bitter, let's 122 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 1: get busy, let's get with it. Let's do what the 123 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 1: others have done who have fought this and is surviving 124 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 1: and living. There is no cure for AIDS, but that 125 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: is treatment now that enables you to to And I 126 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: hope I'm saying this wrong, and I please, please, I don't. 127 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: I don't mean any offense to anybody because I don't. 128 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:44,400 Speaker 1: I don't want to say this wrong. I think that 129 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 1: if you're just HIV and it's not turned into age yet, 130 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 1: that there is a lot of treatment for that that 131 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 1: you can stave off the HIV from turning into age. 132 00:07:57,280 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 1: Once again, I hope I did not say anything to 133 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: offend anybody. I'm just trying to recall in memory what 134 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: I've heard my friends say, so I hope that's I 135 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: hope I'm not offending anybody because I noticed a delicate 136 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: subject and in our community it's devastating. You are smart enough, 137 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 1: ma'am who you went and got tested, You were concerned enough, 138 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 1: you got you gotta move put on you with old 139 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: boy up in there. Uh. And the online thing, yeah, 140 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:32,439 Speaker 1: well online, I ain't really. You don't understand you can 141 00:08:32,480 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 1: meet somebody online, but even when you meet a person online, 142 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:38,600 Speaker 1: you still got to go through them the one two 143 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: threes of how to get to know a person, whether 144 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:43,719 Speaker 1: you meet him online or you meet him at Church's 145 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: supposed to turn him in. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, 146 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 1: you gotta turn him in. And you gotta protect other women. Yeah, 147 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:51,120 Speaker 1: you have to do that. You gotta put him straight 148 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:53,120 Speaker 1: on notice and blast. You can't let it because if 149 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 1: this is the game he playing, that's ugly, all right, Steve, 150 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:58,160 Speaker 1: You know we gotta go email us or instagram us 151 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 1: your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at my Girl. Surely