1 00:00:15,436 --> 00:00:24,156 Speaker 1: Pushkin. People will do just about anything to avoid pain, 2 00:00:24,476 --> 00:00:27,676 Speaker 1: including cause pain. When it comes to the yucky emotions 3 00:00:27,676 --> 00:00:30,316 Speaker 1: in life, most of us would prefer to suppress them, 4 00:00:30,556 --> 00:00:33,036 Speaker 1: run away from them, or pretend they're just not there. 5 00:00:33,276 --> 00:00:37,956 Speaker 1: It's a huge part of the mythology around emotion that 6 00:00:37,996 --> 00:00:41,436 Speaker 1: if we look at in the eye, it gives it power, 7 00:00:41,676 --> 00:00:43,436 Speaker 1: when the reality is if we look at in the 8 00:00:43,476 --> 00:00:46,036 Speaker 1: eye and name it, it gives us power. I'm doctor 9 00:00:46,116 --> 00:00:48,796 Speaker 1: Laurie Santos, and in the new season of the Happiness Lab, 10 00:00:48,956 --> 00:00:50,996 Speaker 1: I want to suggest that we might be able to 11 00:00:51,036 --> 00:00:53,716 Speaker 1: reset our relationship with our emotions in the new year. 12 00:00:54,236 --> 00:00:57,556 Speaker 1: We all experience stuff like sadness, anxiety, and guilt, but 13 00:00:57,676 --> 00:00:59,676 Speaker 1: in twenty twenty two, I want to help you look 14 00:00:59,716 --> 00:01:02,316 Speaker 1: at negative emotions in a new light by heating the 15 00:01:02,356 --> 00:01:05,036 Speaker 1: advice of experts like Brene Brown. The bad news is 16 00:01:05,036 --> 00:01:06,956 Speaker 1: the less we talk about it, the more we experience it. 17 00:01:06,996 --> 00:01:09,236 Speaker 1: But we need to learn how to recognize emotions and 18 00:01:09,316 --> 00:01:11,676 Speaker 1: self and others. We'll look at some of the most 19 00:01:11,676 --> 00:01:16,236 Speaker 1: powerful and potentially destructive emotions fresh eyes. I was always 20 00:01:16,236 --> 00:01:19,396 Speaker 1: that person that was mad about injustice and mad about 21 00:01:19,396 --> 00:01:22,076 Speaker 1: how other people treated and wanted to punch the sun 22 00:01:22,436 --> 00:01:25,316 Speaker 1: at a very young age, and we'll see that even 23 00:01:25,436 --> 00:01:28,836 Speaker 1: nasty feelings like anger are important signals to pay attention to. 24 00:01:29,116 --> 00:01:33,236 Speaker 1: It's the nervous system getting wound up enough to do something. 25 00:01:33,436 --> 00:01:37,196 Speaker 1: Anger is your body directing you to create change. In 26 00:01:37,196 --> 00:01:40,116 Speaker 1: addition to the white hot emotions like rage, we'll also 27 00:01:40,156 --> 00:01:43,836 Speaker 1: deal with those upsetting, listless feelings, lake burnout. There's a 28 00:01:43,836 --> 00:01:46,196 Speaker 1: whole spectrum of well being, and Adam Grant will help 29 00:01:46,276 --> 00:01:48,956 Speaker 1: us explore an overlooked emotion that many of us feel 30 00:01:49,036 --> 00:01:52,156 Speaker 1: right now. On one extreme, you have depression or anxiety. 31 00:01:52,196 --> 00:01:54,756 Speaker 1: On the other extreme, you have flourishing or thriving. And 32 00:01:54,836 --> 00:01:57,956 Speaker 1: we don't really talk about the neglected middle child, which 33 00:01:57,956 --> 00:02:00,356 Speaker 1: is languishing. And in a special two part show, we'll 34 00:02:00,356 --> 00:02:02,676 Speaker 1: take a deep dive into an emotion that many of 35 00:02:02,756 --> 00:02:05,916 Speaker 1: us struggle with, an even dread, perhaps the most negative 36 00:02:05,956 --> 00:02:10,036 Speaker 1: of negative emotions. I pause, you negative? Why are they negative? 37 00:02:10,196 --> 00:02:13,796 Speaker 1: What makes them bad? I'll talk to psychotherapist Julius Samuel 38 00:02:13,956 --> 00:02:16,756 Speaker 1: about how we can reimagine our relationship with loss. No 39 00:02:16,796 --> 00:02:18,596 Speaker 1: one wants to burst in tears in front of lots 40 00:02:18,596 --> 00:02:20,996 Speaker 1: of strangers in the supermarket, and how we can even 41 00:02:21,116 --> 00:02:25,916 Speaker 1: grieve better as you express it, something shifts. She'll draw 42 00:02:25,996 --> 00:02:28,596 Speaker 1: both on her years of practice and the deeply personal 43 00:02:28,636 --> 00:02:31,996 Speaker 1: experience she had losing her close friend, Princess Diana. One 44 00:02:32,036 --> 00:02:36,916 Speaker 1: of the things I love most about Diana was her laugh. 45 00:02:37,356 --> 00:02:42,236 Speaker 1: She had this incredibly raucous laugh that was really quite loud, 46 00:02:42,436 --> 00:02:44,396 Speaker 1: and she often put her hand to her mouth and 47 00:02:44,476 --> 00:02:47,316 Speaker 1: it was incredibly infectious. The new year is a great 48 00:02:47,316 --> 00:02:50,316 Speaker 1: time to reset your relationship with your emotions, so join 49 00:02:50,396 --> 00:02:52,796 Speaker 1: me for the next season of the Happiness Lab from 50 00:02:52,836 --> 00:02:55,836 Speaker 1: January third, wherever you get your podcasts, and as a 51 00:02:55,836 --> 00:02:59,836 Speaker 1: special added bonus, I'll also be creating six meditations based 52 00:02:59,876 --> 00:03:03,236 Speaker 1: on the ideas in these episodes. They'll be available exclusively 53 00:03:03,276 --> 00:03:06,716 Speaker 1: for Pushkin Plus subscribers. Pushkin Plus is available on the 54 00:03:06,716 --> 00:03:09,916 Speaker 1: show page and Apple Podcasts, or at pushkin dot fm 55 00:03:09,996 --> 00:03:13,036 Speaker 1: slash Plus. Sign up now and you'll have access to ads, 56 00:03:13,036 --> 00:03:16,716 Speaker 1: free listening and exclusive content across many Pushkin industry shows. 57 00:03:17,156 --> 00:03:19,436 Speaker 1: I hope to see you back soon for our emotional 58 00:03:19,476 --> 00:03:22,356 Speaker 1: reset in the new year. Until then, stay safe and 59 00:03:22,436 --> 00:03:23,716 Speaker 1: stay happy.