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Thanks for listening to 34 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 3: our podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. If you 35 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 3: enjoy today's message, why don't you be a blessing and 36 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 3: share it with a friend. We appreciate you and pray 37 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 3: put God's very best in your life. Well, God bless you. 38 00:01:57,400 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 3: It is always a joy to come into your home, 39 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 3: and we come with good news. I know that God 40 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 3: is on your side. He rewards people that seek after Him, 41 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 3: and you wouldn't be watching today if you weren't doing 42 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 3: just that. So we know God has great things in store. 43 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:13,839 Speaker 3: I've been saying since the first of this year two 44 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:15,639 Speaker 3: thousand and six is going to be your best year 45 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 3: so far. So you be believing that as well. If 46 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 3: you're ever in our area, come out and see us. 47 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:22,960 Speaker 3: We give you a personal invitation. We'd love to have 48 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:25,960 Speaker 3: you the Thanks for tuning in today. And I like 49 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 3: to get started each week with something funny. I heard 50 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:30,640 Speaker 3: about this man that was very stingy with his money. 51 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 3: Just before he died, he made his wife promise that 52 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 3: she would have him buried with the twenty thousand dollars 53 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 3: he had saved. She reluctantly agreed, and eventually he died, 54 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 3: and at the funeral, just before they closed the casket, 55 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 3: she slipped in this envelope. Her friends stood there in disbelief. 56 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 3: She said, surely you didn't just put the money in there. 57 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 3: The lady said, of course I did. I'm a Christian. 58 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 3: I promised him I would do that. I can't lie. 59 00:02:55,280 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 3: She said, you mean you just buried twenty thousand dollars. 60 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 3: The lady said, I sure did. Wrote a check. All right, 61 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 3: hold off your Bible. Say it like you mean it. 62 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:10,239 Speaker 3: This is my Bible. I am what it says I am, 63 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 3: I have what it says I have. I can do 64 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 3: what it says I can do today. I will be 65 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 3: taught the word of God. I boldly confess my mind 66 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 3: is alert, my heart is receptive. I will never be 67 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 3: the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want 68 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 3: to talk to you today about taking a stand for 69 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 3: your family. I believe one of the greatest attacks that 70 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 3: we're facing in this twenty first century is not a 71 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 3: terrorist attack or a financial attack, but it's an attack 72 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 3: on our homes. There's nothing the enemy would love to 73 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 3: ruin anymore than your relationship with your husband or wife, 74 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 3: or your relationship with your children, your sons and daughters. 75 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 3: And I see too many homes being destroyed through strife, 76 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 3: through lack a commitment, through wrong priorities, through bad attitudes. 77 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 3: But if we're going to have strong, healthy families, we've 78 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 3: got to dig our heels in and fight for our families. 79 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 3: And in the Old Testament, here Niemiah was rebuilding the 80 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 3: walls of his city. They were down, and now the 81 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 3: enemy was coming against them, against their homes, their wives, 82 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 3: their children. And his men had a hammer in one 83 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 3: hand working on the walls, and a sword in the 84 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:32,159 Speaker 3: other hand. And he said to them in Niamiah four 85 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:37,279 Speaker 3: verse fourteen, men fight for your sons, fight for your daughters, 86 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 3: fight for your wives, fight for your families. He went 87 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:44,159 Speaker 3: on to say, if you will fight, then God will fight. 88 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 3: And I believe God saying the same thing to each 89 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 3: one of us today. If we will do our part 90 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 3: and take a strong stand for our families, then God 91 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:56,240 Speaker 3: will do his part and help us to have great 92 00:04:56,320 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 3: marriages and great relationships with our children and in our marriages. 93 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:03,960 Speaker 3: There are two things we need to settle first and foremost. 94 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 3: Number one, we as a couple are committed to God. 95 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 3: We're gonna live a life that honors him. We're gonna 96 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 3: come to church, We're gonna read our Bible. We're gonna 97 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:17,840 Speaker 3: be people of excellence and integrity. The second thing is, 98 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 3: we as a couple are committed to each other. We 99 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 3: may disagree, we may say things we shouldn't, we may 100 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 3: pou we may throw some fits, but when it's all 101 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 3: said and done, we're gonna get over it. We're gonna 102 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:34,719 Speaker 3: forgive and move on. In other words, leaving is not 103 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:37,719 Speaker 3: an option. We're committed through the good times and the 104 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:41,920 Speaker 3: tough times. We're committed through thick and thin. See if 105 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 3: bailing out of that relationship is an alternative, then you 106 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:50,359 Speaker 3: will always find some reason to justify it. Joel, we 107 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:52,719 Speaker 3: just can't hit a long man. We're not compatible. We 108 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 3: tried and tried. No, the truth is no two people 109 00:05:56,680 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 3: are really compatible. We have to learn to become one. 110 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 3: That means we have to make sacrifices, we have to 111 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 3: overlook things, we have to be willing to compromise. Most 112 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:11,240 Speaker 3: of the time, when somebody tells you that they're not compatible, 113 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 3: what they're really saying is I'm just too selfish. I'm 114 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:17,279 Speaker 3: not willing to change, and I see too many people 115 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 3: today getting married with the attitude I'm gonna try this 116 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:23,839 Speaker 3: out and see if it works. We'll go a couple 117 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:25,920 Speaker 3: of years and if not, no big deal, I'll find 118 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:29,599 Speaker 3: somebody else. No, you'd be much better off to stick 119 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:32,279 Speaker 3: with that person and make that marriage work then to 120 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:35,279 Speaker 3: go try to make another marriage work, and it'll always 121 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:37,920 Speaker 3: look like the grass is greener on the other side. 122 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 3: But don't ever forget. It still has to be mode. 123 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 3: You have to put something into that relationship. There is 124 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 3: no such thing, no such thing as the perfect spouse. 125 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:52,920 Speaker 3: I know Victoria's been up here before and said, oh, Joe, 126 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 3: he's the perfect husband. Don't believe that for a minute. 127 00:06:55,800 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 3: She is calling that by faith. I know I'm good looking, 128 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 3: but I'm not perfect. Stick with that man, Stick with 129 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 3: that woman, Stay committed. I heard somebody ask Billy Graham's 130 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 3: wife if she ever contemplated divorce. She said, divorce no, 131 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 3: but murder yes. One lady said, my husband and I 132 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 3: got married for better or for worse. He couldn't do 133 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 3: any better, and I sure couldn't do any worse. But 134 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 3: sometimes we let the smallest, most insignificant things build up 135 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:32,120 Speaker 3: and cause us to grow apart. We've got to learn 136 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 3: to let these things go. Don't keep a running record 137 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 3: of all of your mate's faults, everything they've done wrong. 138 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 3: You get into a disagreement, well, I remember back in 139 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 3: nineteen forty three, you did the same thing. Get rid 140 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 3: of your list. Quit going back to the past. You 141 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 3: will never have a healthy relationship as long as you 142 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 3: keep bringing up a bunch of negative history. Let it 143 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 3: go and start each day afresh and anew. And when 144 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 3: you do have disagreements, learn to disagree from the neck up. 145 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 3: Don't let it get down in here. Victoria and I 146 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 3: don't always see eye to eye, but we've learned how 147 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 3: to agree to disagree when you present your case, don't 148 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 3: try to make that other person change their mind. Give 149 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:18,880 Speaker 3: them the right to have their own opinion. If you're 150 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:20,880 Speaker 3: not going to be happy unless they agree with you, 151 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 3: then really what you're doing is trying to manipulate them. 152 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:27,480 Speaker 3: You're trying to force your opinion down their throat. Now, 153 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 3: a better approach is to present your case, share your heart, 154 00:08:31,200 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 3: and then step back and allow God to work on 155 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 3: that person. But as long as we're argumentative and we're 156 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 3: trying to force our opinions, there's going to be strife. 157 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 3: And wherever their strife, there's confusion. There's nothing worse than 158 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 3: living in a home that's tense. Everybody's on edge. You 159 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 3: feel like in any moment something could explode. Oh you 160 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 3: don't have to live that way. Do your best to 161 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:58,160 Speaker 3: create an atmosphere of peace and unity in your home. 162 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 3: And when you're tempted to say things that you know 163 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:05,199 Speaker 3: you shouldn't, maybe you're tempted to pop off and say hurtful, 164 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 3: critical things. The next time you have that opportunity, do 165 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 3: yourself a favor. Take a deep breath, pause about ten seconds, 166 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:16,840 Speaker 3: and think about what you're gonna say. Do you know 167 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 3: those words can cut like a knife. It may only 168 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:23,800 Speaker 3: take you fifteen seconds to say them, but three months 169 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 3: later the person will still be feeling the steam. It's 170 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:29,800 Speaker 3: like a burn. If dealer touch the stove, men, you 171 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 3: pull your hand off immediately, but weeks and weeks later, 172 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 3: it's still bothering you. That's what hurtful, critical words can do. 173 00:09:37,760 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 3: And we should never threaten our spouse with divorce. It's 174 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 3: very unhealthy. I've heard people say, if you ever do 175 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 3: that again, I'm out of here. If you don't do this, 176 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:50,199 Speaker 3: I'm leaving. No, don't even let those words out into 177 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:54,400 Speaker 3: the atmosphere. Your words have created power. When you speak 178 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:57,199 Speaker 3: something like that out, you're just giving the enemy a 179 00:09:57,280 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 3: right to bring it to pass. And the Bible tells 180 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:04,680 Speaker 3: us to be angry and sin not. The truth is, 181 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 3: at times we're all going to get angry. Anger is 182 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 3: an emotion God has given us. But we don't have 183 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 3: to blow up and say these hurtful things that are 184 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 3: going to damage our relationships. Let's learn to take a 185 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 3: step back, collect our thoughts and think about what we're 186 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 3: going to say. I love what my mother did. One 187 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 3: time she and my father had gotten into a disagreement, 188 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:27,680 Speaker 3: and my dad was kind of put out, and he 189 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 3: decided he was going to give my mother the silent treatment. 190 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 3: Mother had come through the house and ask him something, 191 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:37,280 Speaker 3: and Daddy would answer back in the shortest, most unfriendly 192 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 3: way he possibly could. I mean, he was giving her 193 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 3: the cold shouldered deluxe. And this went on for an 194 00:10:43,360 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 3: hour or two, and he was doing his best ignored 195 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:48,560 Speaker 3: my mother. Well, my mother finally got tired of it. 196 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:51,079 Speaker 3: She's kind of feisty, and she decided to do something 197 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:54,560 Speaker 3: about it. So she went and hid behind a door 198 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 3: and she stayed there as still and quiet as she 199 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 3: could be. Well, my father got to look at for 200 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:03,920 Speaker 3: her everywhere, couldn't find her anywhere. The more he looked, 201 00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 3: the more frustrated he got. He said, it's terrible to 202 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 3: try to ignore somebody and you can't even find them. 203 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 3: This went on for ten or fifteen minutes, and finally 204 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 3: Daddy started getting kind of worried. He thought, man, maybe 205 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 3: the rapture came and I got left behind. About that time, 206 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 3: he walked past the door where my mother was, and 207 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 3: my mother jumped out on my father's back, wrapped her 208 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:28,080 Speaker 3: arms and legs around him, and said, John I'm not 209 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 3: getting off until you cheer up. They laughed so much 210 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:34,600 Speaker 3: that my father forgot what he was mad about. Man, 211 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:38,000 Speaker 3: what's my point? Ladies? You need to start jumping on 212 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 3: your husband's back now. Seriously. What I'm saying is to 213 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:49,360 Speaker 3: create a fun, loving atmosphere in your home. These are 214 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 3: stressful times. We all get up tight, we all have disagreements, 215 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 3: but we should not allow that to linger too often. 216 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 3: We get complacent. Well, I know I shouldn't say this, 217 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 3: but I'm mad. I'm gonna say it anyway. I know 218 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:04,560 Speaker 3: I need to forgive, but I don't feel like it. 219 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 3: I'm gonna go around poutin for a couple of weeks. 220 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 3: Little by little, the relationship gets worse and worse. But 221 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 3: if we're gonna have strong, happy marriages, we have to 222 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 3: fight for that marriage. 223 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:14,960 Speaker 2: Now. 224 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:17,200 Speaker 3: I want to sound the alarm while there's still time 225 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 3: to do something about it. Don't allow strife in your home. 226 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:23,599 Speaker 3: Don't play these petty games, don't go around with bad attitudes. 227 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:26,959 Speaker 3: Do whatever it takes to keep the peace. Victoria and 228 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 3: I have been married going on twenty years now, and 229 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:32,320 Speaker 3: we don't agree on every single thing. But one thing 230 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:35,320 Speaker 3: I can tell you is we are committed to each other. 231 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 3: We're committed to our family, we're committed to our children, 232 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:42,840 Speaker 3: and any difference is we're gonna work through them. I've 233 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 3: known people they're committed while they're dating. They're committed the 234 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:49,720 Speaker 3: first couple of years of marriage. They're committed while everything's rosy. 235 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:53,559 Speaker 3: But how about when the sizzle wears off, so to speak, 236 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:56,600 Speaker 3: and you're not in never never land so in love? 237 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 3: Now instead of that man romancing you, you're having to 238 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 3: pick up his dirty socks, You're having to wash his 239 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 3: smelly workout clothes. That takes commitment. For some of you, 240 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:09,840 Speaker 3: it takes real commitment. Are men? How about when you 241 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 3: were dating she always looked perfect, dressed to a tea 242 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 3: you never saw or without her makeup. Now you wake 243 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:18,040 Speaker 3: up in the morning you think, who is that woman 244 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:22,520 Speaker 3: over there? But marriage is a commitment, not a feeling. 245 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:25,800 Speaker 3: I heard a true story about a president of a 246 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 3: very prestigious university. He was an older gentleman, very well 247 00:13:30,200 --> 00:13:35,080 Speaker 3: respected leader. Later in his life, his wife developed Alzheimer's, 248 00:13:35,320 --> 00:13:38,400 Speaker 3: and unfortunately, month after month it continued to get worse. 249 00:13:38,880 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 3: Several years down the road, it got so bad that 250 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:45,679 Speaker 3: she could not even recognize her husband anymore. This man 251 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:48,360 Speaker 3: was well to do, had plenty of people taking care 252 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 3: of her. But one day he went in and announced 253 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:53,400 Speaker 3: to the board of the university that he was going 254 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:56,880 Speaker 3: to resign so he could spend his full time taking 255 00:13:56,920 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 3: care of his wife. And man, they just couldn't understand it. 256 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:02,079 Speaker 3: They tried to talk him out of it. They told 257 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:05,120 Speaker 3: him how needed he was. One board member spoke up 258 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:07,400 Speaker 3: and said, why would you even want to do this. 259 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:10,600 Speaker 3: She doesn't even know who you are. He looked at 260 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 3: him and said, listen, I made a commitment to this 261 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:16,000 Speaker 3: woman over fifty years ago, and she may not know 262 00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:18,679 Speaker 3: who I am, but I know who she is. And 263 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 3: that's the kind of commitment that we need to have. 264 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 3: And men, God is going to hold us responsible to 265 00:14:27,280 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 3: keep our families together. The word husband comes from a 266 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 3: Latin word which means house band. Think of a rubber 267 00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:37,800 Speaker 3: band that keeps something together. That's what the husband is 268 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 3: supposed to do. And Solomon is a great example for us. Men. 269 00:14:42,960 --> 00:14:45,720 Speaker 3: He was the wisest man that ever lived. And you 270 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:48,000 Speaker 3: know what he did when he got up every morning, 271 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:51,440 Speaker 3: he blessed his wife. He looked her in the eyes 272 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:54,720 Speaker 3: and said, there are many beautiful women in the world, 273 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 3: but you excel them all. He started his day off 274 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 3: by praising and encouraging his wife. Men, you can imagine 275 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 3: how our relationships would improve if we'd start complimenting our 276 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 3: wives like that. I know some ladies they hadn't had 277 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:12,680 Speaker 3: a compliment in ten years. All they hear about is 278 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:15,080 Speaker 3: what they're doing wrong, How the dinner wasn't any good, 279 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 3: The kids are being too loud. Now that's out of balance. 280 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:22,240 Speaker 3: Take inventory of what you're saying to your spouse. Are 281 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 3: you complaining all the time, telling them what they're not 282 00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 3: doing right? Or are you doing like Solomon blessing, encouraging, 283 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 3: uplifting that man, that woman. I heard somebody say that 284 00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:37,600 Speaker 3: compliments are like the glue that hold a relationship together. 285 00:15:38,520 --> 00:15:41,480 Speaker 3: We all go through difficult times, but if our spouse 286 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 3: knows how much we appreciate them and love them, then 287 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:46,880 Speaker 3: it's going to make it a lot easier to get 288 00:15:46,880 --> 00:15:50,360 Speaker 3: through those difficulties. And Solomon wrote a book in the Bible. 289 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 3: It's called The Song of Solomon. It's a love story 290 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 3: eight chapters long, and in those eight chapters, he praised 291 00:15:57,320 --> 00:16:01,560 Speaker 3: his wife forty different times. He was constantly talking about 292 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 3: her strength, her beauty, her intelligence. Well, you say, Joel, 293 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:08,880 Speaker 3: you don't know my wife. She's the problem. She's argumented 294 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:10,920 Speaker 3: and she's hard to get along with. Now, let me 295 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 3: tell you, men, if you start praising your wife, if 296 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 3: you start telling her how beautiful she is and how 297 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:19,480 Speaker 3: glad you are to have her in your life. When 298 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 3: you talk about the good, you'll draw out the good. 299 00:16:22,280 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 3: You talk about the negative, you'll draw out the negative. 300 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:26,840 Speaker 3: It's up to each one of us. Every day we 301 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 3: should be saying, I appreciate you being so kind, and 302 00:16:29,960 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 3: you know what, you're a great mother to our children. 303 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 3: I'm so glad I can always count on you. Men, 304 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:38,280 Speaker 3: speak the blessing over your wife and you'll see that 305 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 3: lady rise to a new level. Most people, all they 306 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 3: need is a little encouragement, a little praise. And I've 307 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:48,560 Speaker 3: found if you'll treat your wife like a queen, then 308 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 3: she'll make you the king. And men, we have to 309 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 3: understand our wife needs our blessing, she needs our approval. Well, Joel, 310 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:59,040 Speaker 3: I'm just not a real romantic kind of guy. I 311 00:16:59,080 --> 00:17:01,480 Speaker 3: just don't get into all those gooey things. Now, this 312 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:04,479 Speaker 3: is not an option, it's a necessity. If you're going 313 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:07,640 Speaker 3: to have a healthy marriage. Just like Solomon, we got 314 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,080 Speaker 3: to get in a habit in the morning looking at 315 00:17:10,119 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 3: your wife and say, man, you are beautiful. I'm glad 316 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 3: you're in my life. There's a lot of pretty girls, 317 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 3: but you excel them all, just like you brush your 318 00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:19,680 Speaker 3: teeth in the morning. You need to speak the blessing 319 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 3: over your wife. Too. Many women today are beaten down, depressed, lonely, insecure, 320 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 3: and low self esteem, all because the husband is not 321 00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:34,359 Speaker 3: giving her what God requires of him. The Bible says 322 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:38,840 Speaker 3: the wife is a reflection of the man's glory. If 323 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:42,159 Speaker 3: Victoria got up here all beaten down and depressed, hair's 324 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:45,600 Speaker 3: missed up clothes on iron, will me, as the husband, 325 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 3: I have the problem. She's reflecting my glory. I need 326 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 3: to examine my life. I should ask myself, Hey, am 327 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:55,760 Speaker 3: I treating her right? Am I making her secure? Does 328 00:17:55,800 --> 00:17:57,640 Speaker 3: she know I'm proud of her that I think she's 329 00:17:57,680 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 3: the best. Men On a regular basis, we need to 330 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 3: look at our wives and see if they're reflecting our glory. 331 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:10,360 Speaker 3: Your wife should be strong, confident, secure, beautiful, radiant, healthy. 332 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:12,600 Speaker 3: You should see it in her smile. You should see 333 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:15,600 Speaker 3: it in the way she carries herself. I remember I 334 00:18:15,720 --> 00:18:17,960 Speaker 3: used to play basketball with this guy, and every time 335 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 3: after the game was over, he said, well, Joel, I 336 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:23,400 Speaker 3: gotta go home and see my old lady talking about 337 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 3: his wife. And I used to think, if you talk 338 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:28,479 Speaker 3: about your wife like that, you must not think too 339 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:31,160 Speaker 3: much of yourself, because she's reflecting you a glory. I'd 340 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:32,879 Speaker 3: always smile and say, well, I'm gonna go home and 341 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 3: see Queen Victoria. She's the queen of our house. And 342 00:18:38,520 --> 00:18:40,760 Speaker 3: guess what, Since I've made her the queen, that makes 343 00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:44,199 Speaker 3: me the king. And I kind of like that. The 344 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:50,040 Speaker 3: scripture says because Solomon praised his wife, his children rose 345 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:53,880 Speaker 3: up and blessed her as well. In other words, when 346 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:57,960 Speaker 3: the husband praises and blesses the wife, the children are 347 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:02,240 Speaker 3: gonna follow. Men were saying, an example, how we treat 348 00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:05,760 Speaker 3: our wives is going to have a great impact on 349 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 3: how our children respect and honor their mother. Your voice, tones, 350 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:15,359 Speaker 3: your body language, all those things are being subconsciously taken 351 00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 3: in by your children. Here's the thing, Dad's your daughter 352 00:19:19,720 --> 00:19:22,479 Speaker 3: is going to marry somebody just like you. That's what 353 00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:24,879 Speaker 3: all the studies tell us. We tend to marry people 354 00:19:24,960 --> 00:19:28,879 Speaker 3: like our parents. If you're hard and disrespectful, you go 355 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:33,439 Speaker 3: around saying rude, hurtful things to your spouse, don't be 356 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:36,679 Speaker 3: surprised if your daughter gravitates towards somebody just like that. 357 00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:39,760 Speaker 3: What this tells me is I need to treat my 358 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:43,520 Speaker 3: wife the way I want somebody to treat my daughter. Ladies, 359 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:45,680 Speaker 3: you need to treat your husbands the way you want 360 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:49,080 Speaker 3: somebody to treat your sons. Men open the car door 361 00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:52,000 Speaker 3: for your wife, take a coffee in the morning, go 362 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 3: out of your way to show respect. I heard somebody 363 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:58,040 Speaker 3: say if a man ever opens the car door for 364 00:19:58,119 --> 00:20:01,159 Speaker 3: his wife, he's either got a new car or a 365 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:04,679 Speaker 3: new wife. But we need to get back to the 366 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:08,320 Speaker 3: good old days of respect in an honory. You say, Joel, 367 00:20:08,359 --> 00:20:10,600 Speaker 3: if I do that, my friends may look at me 368 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:12,560 Speaker 3: as being kind of weak. They may give me a 369 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,880 Speaker 3: hard time. Let me tell you you need to get 370 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:17,680 Speaker 3: some new friends, because those are weak friends. A real 371 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:22,119 Speaker 3: man can open the car door for his wife. And 372 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:26,680 Speaker 3: here's the thing. Being male doesn't necessarily make your man. 373 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,000 Speaker 3: Taking care of your family makes you a man. Watching 374 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:34,160 Speaker 3: over your children makes you a man. Speaking the blessing 375 00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 3: over your wife that makes you a real man. You 376 00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:39,720 Speaker 3: may not have been raised in this kind of environment, 377 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:42,480 Speaker 3: but you can set a new standard. You can raise 378 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:45,480 Speaker 3: the bar. Men. We're only gonna go as high as 379 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 3: how we treat our wives. And if we're treating them 380 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:50,600 Speaker 3: a second class, that's gonna keep us from being everything 381 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:54,400 Speaker 3: God's created us to be. And it's interesting in reproduction, 382 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:58,480 Speaker 3: the father is the one that gives the child identity. 383 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:02,760 Speaker 3: The female has two chromosomes. The male has an EX. 384 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:03,080 Speaker 5: And a Y. 385 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:05,760 Speaker 3: If the father gives the female an EX, it'll be 386 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:08,320 Speaker 3: a baby girl. He gives a why, it'll be a boy. 387 00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:12,399 Speaker 3: But the female has no power to determine the sex 388 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:16,240 Speaker 3: of the baby. The child's identity comes solely through the father. 389 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 3: What am I saying, Father's We need to make especially 390 00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:24,640 Speaker 3: sure that we affirm our children. We have incredible influence 391 00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 3: over them, and every day, just like we bless our wife, 392 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:30,280 Speaker 3: we need to be blessing our children. Look at that 393 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 3: child and say, you know what, I'm proud of you. 394 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,160 Speaker 3: I think you're great. There's nothing that you can't do. 395 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:39,480 Speaker 3: Your children need your approval. You're helping them to form 396 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:43,160 Speaker 3: their identity. And if we're too busy as fathers, we're 397 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,439 Speaker 3: never there, or maybe we're just always correct in our 398 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:50,040 Speaker 3: children without ever showing them this other side. Then our 399 00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:53,280 Speaker 3: children are not going to be as confident and secure 400 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 3: as they should be. And I know there are times 401 00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:59,119 Speaker 3: when the father can't be there. There are other responsibilities, 402 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 3: but father, So I'm asking us to do our best 403 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,800 Speaker 3: to keep our priorities in order. No amount of success 404 00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:09,240 Speaker 3: in our career is going to make up for failure 405 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:12,920 Speaker 3: at home. Now I've seen some men. They do great 406 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 3: things in the corporate world. They're great business leaders and listen, 407 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,639 Speaker 3: I'm all for that, but they've done it at the 408 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,960 Speaker 3: expense of their children. Their children grew up without a 409 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:27,080 Speaker 3: father figure. Now, fathers, be involved in your child's life. 410 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:31,200 Speaker 3: Bring them to church, be at their ballgames. Know who 411 00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:33,919 Speaker 3: their friends are, Listen to what they're listening to on 412 00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:38,159 Speaker 3: their iPods. Children are looking for direction and guidance. That 413 00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:40,439 Speaker 3: young man comes over to take your daughter out on 414 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:42,639 Speaker 3: a date, you should be the first one at the door. 415 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,400 Speaker 3: Let him know there's a man in the house that's 416 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 3: watching after that young lady. Parents, we have to fight 417 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:52,080 Speaker 3: for our children. If we will fight, then God will fight. 418 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:57,440 Speaker 3: A friend of mine growing up, this friend growing up, 419 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:00,040 Speaker 3: he told me as a teenager that he had a 420 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:03,119 Speaker 3: drug problem. I thought that was strange. He seemed like 421 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:04,800 Speaker 3: a good kid. I knew him very well. It didn't 422 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:06,879 Speaker 3: look like he was on drugs. He said, yeah, Joel, 423 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:11,919 Speaker 3: Every Sunday, my parents drugged me to church. They drugged 424 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 3: me to Sunday school, they drugged me to Bible study. 425 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:17,400 Speaker 3: And he said, you know what, those drugs are still 426 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,639 Speaker 3: in my veins. They affect everything that I say and do. 427 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,639 Speaker 3: He went on to say, this world would be a 428 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:28,399 Speaker 3: better place if everybody had those kinds of drugs. What 429 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:30,879 Speaker 3: he was saying was, my parents took time from me, 430 00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 3: they poured into my life. Years ago, at the largest 431 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:39,080 Speaker 3: game reserve in South Africa, they discovered that the elephants 432 00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 3: were overpopulated. There wasn't enough room for them all, and 433 00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:45,520 Speaker 3: so they decided to take three hundred of the youngest 434 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:49,840 Speaker 3: male elephants and separate them from their parents, from the 435 00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:52,680 Speaker 3: other adults, and they sent them a couple hundred miles 436 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 3: away to another national park. And the dominant animal at 437 00:23:56,760 --> 00:24:00,959 Speaker 3: this national park was the white rhinoceros. Gnoceros has no 438 00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:04,920 Speaker 3: natural enemies. Nothing stocks it. Not a lion, a tiger, 439 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,719 Speaker 3: a bear, it's too powerful, and so they thought there 440 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,679 Speaker 3: would be no problem mixing the elephants in there. But 441 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,880 Speaker 3: over time they begin to find these dead rhinos out 442 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:17,080 Speaker 3: in the brush. They couldn't understand what was happening, so 443 00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 3: they set up some surveillance cameras, and much to their surprise, 444 00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 3: they found that those young male elephants, the ones that 445 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:29,200 Speaker 3: no longer had a father figure a mother figure, they 446 00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:32,199 Speaker 3: had formed gangs and they had gone in there and 447 00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:35,640 Speaker 3: started killing the rhinoceros, which is not even in the 448 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:39,160 Speaker 3: elephant's nature. It's not even in the elephant's god given 449 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,680 Speaker 3: instincts to act that way. Now, I believe that's the 450 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 3: same thing that happens to our children many times. The 451 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 3: reason our children get off course and teenagers do things 452 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:53,160 Speaker 3: that they shouldn't is because they don't have any positive 453 00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:56,560 Speaker 3: role models in their life giving them any kind of guidance. 454 00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,760 Speaker 3: They don't have anybody speaking the blessing, they don't have 455 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:03,000 Speaker 3: a father figure. And it doesn't mean that they're bad children. 456 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:06,480 Speaker 3: It's just when they're left without this guidance, any of 457 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:09,560 Speaker 3: us can do things that are not even in our nature. 458 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,480 Speaker 3: And I don't know if you realize today, but half 459 00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:16,800 Speaker 3: of the children being raised are in fatherless homes. Fifty 460 00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:20,040 Speaker 3: percent do not have a father figure in their life. 461 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,080 Speaker 3: And if you're a single parent mom in here, I 462 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 3: know that God's going to give you the grace and 463 00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 3: the strength to do what you need to do. But 464 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:31,879 Speaker 3: I'm asking the fathers today to rise up and become 465 00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:36,240 Speaker 3: the man that God's created you to be. Where are 466 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:39,680 Speaker 3: the fathers that will make a difference. Where are the 467 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:43,400 Speaker 3: fathers that will take time and make sacrifices to pour 468 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 3: into that child's life. Don't take the easy way out, 469 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,080 Speaker 3: man and just be a career man and make your 470 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:52,439 Speaker 3: wife do all the parenting your child needs you. You 471 00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:55,480 Speaker 3: have something to give that only the father can give 472 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 3: that child. And really, all of us who are healthy fathers, 473 00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:03,720 Speaker 3: we have a responsibility to reach out to other children 474 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:06,720 Speaker 3: that don't have a father figure. We should all be 475 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:10,679 Speaker 3: mentoring a young man, mentoring a young woman. If you 476 00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:13,960 Speaker 3: really want to be blessed, don't just fight for your family, 477 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:17,280 Speaker 3: fight for somebody else's family. Stand in the gap for 478 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:21,000 Speaker 3: that single parent mom. When you take your son out 479 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,880 Speaker 3: to hit baseballs, swing by and pick up that young 480 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:26,479 Speaker 3: man that doesn't have a father figure, Or when you 481 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:29,479 Speaker 3: go camping with your family. Ask that single mom if 482 00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:32,800 Speaker 3: she and her children want to go along. Dads reach 483 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 3: out to some other child, help them discover their identity. 484 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,480 Speaker 3: I have a good friend that grew up in a 485 00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:42,520 Speaker 3: very dysfunctional home. Her father was never around, and her 486 00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:45,199 Speaker 3: mother had plenty of problems on her own. And this 487 00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 3: young lady, as a teenager, was basically raising her younger brother, 488 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 3: and on the inside, she was crying out for help. 489 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:55,240 Speaker 3: One day, a friend of hers at school mentioned that 490 00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 3: her father owned a fast food restaurant and maybe he 491 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,919 Speaker 3: would give her a job. She went up there, and 492 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,480 Speaker 3: that gentleman not only gave her a job, but he 493 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:08,320 Speaker 3: took her under his wing. He began to watch after her. 494 00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,879 Speaker 3: He made sure she changed the oil in her car, 495 00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:13,439 Speaker 3: made sure she was doing okay in school, on and on. 496 00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:16,879 Speaker 3: He didn't even realize it, but he became the father 497 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:21,120 Speaker 3: figure that she had so longed for. Years later, when 498 00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:24,080 Speaker 3: this young lady went to get married, father still not 499 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,960 Speaker 3: around at the wedding. You know who gave her away. 500 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,600 Speaker 3: The men from the fast food restaurant. See, he took 501 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,680 Speaker 3: time to care. He fought not only for his family, 502 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:37,439 Speaker 3: he fought for somebody else's child. That's what I'm asking 503 00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 3: you to do today. Don't be past it, don't be 504 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:45,679 Speaker 3: too busy, don't be indifferent. Get involved in somebody else's life. Friends. 505 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:49,440 Speaker 3: Our homes are under attack today. Where are the fathers 506 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,080 Speaker 3: that will stand up? Where are the mothers that will 507 00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:54,920 Speaker 3: be a great example? Where are the couples that will 508 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:58,920 Speaker 3: stick together? Let me challenge you. Fight for your marriage, 509 00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,840 Speaker 3: fight for your son, fight for your daughters, keep the 510 00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:05,119 Speaker 3: strife out of your home, and stick with that person 511 00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 3: that God has given you. If you will stay committed 512 00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:11,160 Speaker 3: to each other and committed to God, there is nothing 513 00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:15,000 Speaker 3: that you cannot overcome as a couple. Learn to be 514 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,760 Speaker 3: free with your compliments. Speak the blessing over your wife, 515 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:21,879 Speaker 3: over your husband, over your children, and then take it 516 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:25,639 Speaker 3: one step further, so acede and mentor a young man 517 00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,119 Speaker 3: mentor a young lady. If you do this, I know 518 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,960 Speaker 3: you'll not only have a great marriage, but your children 519 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:35,720 Speaker 3: will go further. Your family will grow stronger, and I 520 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,640 Speaker 3: believe you'll live the life of victory God has in store. 521 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:41,880 Speaker 3: Do you receive it today? 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