1 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 1: Mmmmm. 2 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 2: And to check out the uncensored version of this episode, 3 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 2: make sure you go check us out on Patreon. That's 4 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 2: patreon dot com. Backslash of Good Mom's Bad Choices. Welcome 5 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:36,480 Speaker 2: back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and I'm 6 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 2: Mela and. 7 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:43,720 Speaker 3: It's Wednesday, and it's scorpio season. Bitchees, what's up scorpios? 8 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 4: You see my beautiful scorpio candle I have here, I do. 9 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 4: It's a beauty it's from I Love has a wide 10 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 4: selection of astrology candles. 11 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:53,200 Speaker 3: Did you get me one? 12 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 5: No? 13 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 4: Because it's not cancer season. Oh okay, well I'm gonna 14 00:00:57,120 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 4: go get myself one. You should. 15 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 3: Well. How are you doing today, my love? I'm doing good. 16 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 3: I'm doing good. 17 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 2: I'm excited for the rest of my day. I'm excited 18 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 2: for our guests we have here today. 19 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 3: Same. I know we have a kind of pop in day, right. Yeah. 20 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 4: You know, when you're in a woman of a certain age, 21 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 4: when you have more than like three plans in a week, 22 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:22,560 Speaker 4: it's crazy. You're like my week Like, I was like, damn, 23 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 4: I have three things to do already, Like my whole 24 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:24,839 Speaker 4: week's done. 25 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 3: I was like, I'm tired already. Just thinking about it. Yeah, 26 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 3: we got a lot of things. We're getting a lot 27 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,960 Speaker 3: of things to get to today today we gotta what 28 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:37,759 Speaker 3: break it down? 29 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 4: Beatboxing lately, so little loves the beatboxing freestyle and make well. 30 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 3: They need they need to get it together then because 31 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:47,040 Speaker 3: iris be getting real good over there. They need to 32 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 3: be salt and pepper. 33 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 4: Anyway, how are you? 34 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 3: I'm good? Yeah, I'm good, really good? Great? Have you 35 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 3: done this before? 36 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 6: No? 37 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 3: Never are you? I No, I'm not neither. Okay, just awkward. 38 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 3: Maybe that's what the problem is. I think that is. 39 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 3: So Yeah, we haven't smoked today, guys, I know rare 40 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:13,079 Speaker 3: rare sighting, prair sighting us sober. 41 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 2: It's gonna be rough anyway, guys, we're just gonna get 42 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 2: straight to our guests because on YouTube everyone gets mad 43 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 2: at us that we don't introduce our guests immediately. We 44 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 2: like talk for like five minutes and then they like 45 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 2: curse us out in YouTube and say we're really rude. 46 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:30,520 Speaker 4: So do we have on our YouTube and it says 47 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 4: it's like good Mom's Bad Choices podcast? 48 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:33,919 Speaker 3: Or does it just a Good Mom's Bad Choices. I 49 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 3: think they think it's a YouTube show. Yeah, they're confused. 50 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 2: Okay, well YouTubers, this is for you guys. Anyway, I 51 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 2: want to welcome our guests. I'm really excited the theme 52 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 2: of this month is cuffing Season November, and I was thinking, like, 53 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 2: what are who are some like bomb ass married people 54 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 2: that I know? 55 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 4: And I was like, oh my god, my girl, she 56 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 4: just got married, Like we don't. You got married last year? 57 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 3: I think twenty she got married. 58 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, and we have her on We had 59 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 2: her on our show a while ago, and I was like, 60 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 2: it's time to redo. Let's run this back. So I 61 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:09,239 Speaker 2: would like to welcome to the show Grammy Award winner 62 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:13,680 Speaker 2: mom ass mom actress, fine, just overall fine woman, and 63 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 2: our friends and our friend Melanie Fiona. 64 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 3: So nice to be here again. And guess what guy 65 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 3: she brought her partner, Cherry. 66 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: H. 67 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 3: Do you say partner, you say husband? 68 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 4: I say both, yeah, but it's mostly husband, husband, husband. 69 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 3: This is my husband. It's my husband. When I get 70 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:40,520 Speaker 3: a husband, I would say like that my husband. That's 71 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 3: just my baby daddy. 72 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: He was. 73 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 4: Just my baby daddy for a long time. Yeah. 74 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 3: I saw. 75 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 4: I remember seeing you guys get married during the pandemic 76 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 4: and you had the cutest little video and like the 77 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 4: cutest little like chapel wedding. Let's be clear, it wasn't 78 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 4: even a chapel. It was it's technically considered like a 79 00:04:02,480 --> 00:04:03,680 Speaker 4: store storefront. 80 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, where was it? No, it's in Sherman Oaks. 81 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 7: It's called Same Day Marriage dot com. 82 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 3: Is that by my house? It's not. Is it on 83 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 3: Laurel Canyons? 84 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:13,520 Speaker 5: Yes? 85 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 4: Oh yeah that before. Yes, it's on a busy street. Yes, 86 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 4: it's moor Park or something. And then and now Riverside. 87 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 7: We literally would drive by there all the time and 88 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 7: be like, ayo, if it doesn't work out with the wedding, 89 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 7: we could always go there ha ha ha lo and behold, 90 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 7: ended up there on our wedding day. Absolutely, it was perfect. 91 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 3: It was clutched. 92 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 7: They had the data available that we wanted and we 93 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 7: literally walked right next door from the liquor store, bought champagne, 94 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:38,600 Speaker 7: popped it on the corner. 95 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 3: It was perfect. 96 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:42,160 Speaker 8: It was crazy because it was like the exact opposite 97 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 8: of what we were initially setting out to do. 98 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:46,600 Speaker 5: You know. First, you know, we were like, yeah, we're 99 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 5: going to go to Italy. 100 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 4: We had we had a wedding, It was all the 101 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 4: all the bouginess at a lot of money. It seems 102 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 4: like one hundred and fifty thousand dollars probably more. 103 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:03,000 Speaker 7: Facts with to be honest, even even our Italy plans 104 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 7: were still going to be small. They were small, but 105 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:08,760 Speaker 7: like just the overall thing of it, just like the 106 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 7: way that we got it done in the end absolutely 107 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 7: was perfect for us. 108 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 3: But I do still want a wedding. Let's be clear, 109 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 3: Oh you do. I do. I have a dress in 110 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 3: the closet, sitting and everything. Okay, you know, women, they've 111 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:19,600 Speaker 3: been faiting us that dream since birth. But you know 112 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 3: what the thing is for me? 113 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 7: It's like I think, prior to the pandemic, it was 114 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 7: the dream I guess of whatever. 115 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 3: But now it's more about the celebration party. Now it's more. 116 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:32,480 Speaker 7: About cherishing the guests, chernishing the memories having my parents there, 117 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 7: having his parents there, like those things that we lost 118 00:05:35,839 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 7: for two years, you know. So that's that's what the 119 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 7: wedding signifies to me. So now, but now we have 120 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:42,280 Speaker 7: a ring bearer and a flower girl because now we 121 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 7: got two whole children. 122 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, what made you guys? What prompted you're during the 123 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 4: pandemic to be like fuck it? Let's just go to 124 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:50,239 Speaker 4: the same day wedding. 125 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:56,239 Speaker 2: You thought the world that parts. 126 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 8: Yeah, at one point we were just like, it's not 127 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:01,840 Speaker 8: about all that all that fanfare. At the end of 128 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 8: the day, it's about us uniting, you know, with each other, 129 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 8: making that commitment, and to be honest, like signing the 130 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 8: paper was just. 131 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:12,920 Speaker 5: A ceremonial to me anyway. 132 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 8: Then then going through all that, I was like, oh shit, 133 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:18,120 Speaker 8: this is a this is a commitment. 134 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 3: Now we know what that is. 135 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 8: This is what we do all day, right, So signing 136 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 8: a contract was like, oh wow, no, this is this 137 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:31,359 Speaker 8: is more than just cuffing season. This is even even 138 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 8: the next level. 139 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 7: But there were a few things that happened and like 140 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:36,840 Speaker 7: we saw that time was just going and we're like 141 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 7: all right, like are we really going to wait forever 142 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 7: for this because we had already been engaged for three years, 143 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:43,480 Speaker 7: so we were like we need to get this done. 144 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:45,479 Speaker 7: So there was three things, two things that happened and 145 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 7: we were like we should do this as the third 146 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 7: The first was we bought a house. The second was 147 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:53,160 Speaker 7: I was in like these like professional situations I was 148 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 7: working to get out of. I got out of those, 149 00:06:55,120 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 7: and then we were like you know, what is the 150 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 7: end of the year. We should just get married, Like 151 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 7: we should just cap it off at three, let's go 152 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 7: out big. And so we did. And so that that 153 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:04,720 Speaker 7: was the third thing. We call our parents were like, hey, 154 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,039 Speaker 7: do we have your blessing to just do this without you? Guys, 155 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 7: we love you, but we were just going to do 156 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:10,760 Speaker 7: this with us, and we went. We didn't even take 157 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 7: cam our son, We just went the two of us. 158 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 3: It's very intimate. 159 00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 7: Yeah, it is beautiful. Yeah, it's one of my favorite memories. 160 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 8: Honestly, I wouldn't I wouldn't have it any other way 161 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 8: at this point. I mean, yeah, we'll do a wedding 162 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 8: and celebration or whatever eventually. But the way it worked 163 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 8: out was perfect for us and like indicative of who 164 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 8: we are, you know what I mean. Like it always 165 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 8: came back to us at the end of the day. 166 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 7: And that's that's what I think marriage is about, to 167 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 7: be honest, you get yeah, you get lost in the 168 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 7: fanfare of what everybody else wants. I've seen so many 169 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:42,560 Speaker 7: people lose friendships, family relationships over weddings and money. 170 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 3: It's awful. 171 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 7: And so I just love that we just removed all 172 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 7: of that and at the end of the day, when 173 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 7: we think about that day, it's really just about us 174 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:50,880 Speaker 7: and that's who it's about every day. 175 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, when we go. 176 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 2: Through this thing, and Larry saved like one hundred and 177 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 2: fifty times, by the way, and that night this is 178 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 2: my home right left the house. 179 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 3: We went to Santa Barbara for the night. Nice. Yeah, 180 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 3: we had a little staycation, honeymoon, two of us. We went. 181 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 3: We had a great time. It was great. That's beautiful, 182 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 3: a very. 183 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 5: Expensive bottle of wine. 184 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 3: Good. 185 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 7: I got to break out some lingerie. Okay, we got 186 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 7: to order. We were just it was just all the 187 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 7: libations all night. We woke up, we walked the beach. 188 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 3: The next day. It was great. 189 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 4: And we hadn't had those moments, especially for all year 190 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 4: because we were locked in the house. So to be 191 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 4: able to have those that moment to just the two 192 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 4: of us, you know, our son was taken care of. 193 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:33,959 Speaker 4: We were really allowed to celebrate ourselves that night. So 194 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 4: how long have you guys been together? 195 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 3: Nine years? Wait, ten years next year, so nine years? 196 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:43,559 Speaker 3: So tell us how you met. 197 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 4: I think you told us a little bit the last 198 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:46,320 Speaker 4: time you were here, but like, tell us how you 199 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 4: met and all that jazz because I'm curious. 200 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 7: So we met on an island. Well, no, we actually 201 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 7: technically we first met in a studio. So when I 202 00:08:54,520 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 7: was working on my second album in the NF Life, 203 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 7: he was actually working in his studio which is right 204 00:08:59,040 --> 00:08:59,520 Speaker 7: next door. 205 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 3: Had never ever seen each other. 206 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:05,000 Speaker 7: Then one day my management manager at the time was like, Hey, 207 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 7: let's go next door. Jared Cotter and his partner Dan 208 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:10,079 Speaker 7: are back there. They want to play you a song. 209 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 7: And I'm in the middle of recording and I'm like, 210 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:14,920 Speaker 7: I don't have time for this, so i walk in, right, 211 00:09:14,960 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 7: But but they're cool, right, So but we never like 212 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:20,960 Speaker 7: met met, so we walk in. I see him, He's cute, 213 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 7: but I'm also in a relationship at the time, so 214 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 7: I don't see him like that. 215 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:26,240 Speaker 3: Cut to three years later. 216 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 7: About three years later, we end up on an island 217 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 7: on a writing trip where yes, like, I'm like, he's 218 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 7: there as a songwriter and there as an artist, and 219 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:38,560 Speaker 7: we're basically creating with different people to create music to 220 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:40,280 Speaker 7: possibly get placed or if you're an artist, put it 221 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:40,839 Speaker 7: on your album. 222 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:41,200 Speaker 3: Whatever. 223 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:43,440 Speaker 7: Long story short, we met on the island and it 224 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 7: was just we took the same flight out there and 225 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:49,319 Speaker 7: it was like instant connection and not instant connection like 226 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:51,920 Speaker 7: damn you fine, Like it was like, damn, you're cool. 227 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,679 Speaker 3: As hell and you cute right like for both of us, 228 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 3: I think, gend me a song, feout me how you 229 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 3: feel about these? So yeah, it was just great. 230 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 7: And then getting that time to be together on that island, 231 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 7: it was just really cute. Like it wasn't It wasn't 232 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 7: this immediate, like, oh, it was just like seeing him around, 233 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:15,200 Speaker 7: like hanging out, eating lunch together. So I'm very easily 234 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 7: turned off, very easily, because I'm very particular about what 235 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 7: I'm attracted to, what I like. A man could be 236 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:24,440 Speaker 7: fine and say one stupid, ass ignorant thing and I'm like, 237 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:26,080 Speaker 7: oh no, I'm off of you. 238 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 3: You're gonna have to win back my affections. He never 239 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 3: did that the whole trip, so I was like, wow, yeah, 240 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 3: you didn't even know. He didn't even know. 241 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 7: And the craziest part is that before I went on 242 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 7: that trip, I was, you know, I was single for 243 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 7: like a year almost and a half at that point, 244 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 7: and I was doing the dating thing and I was like, oh, 245 00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 7: this is exhausting. My energy and my body is just 246 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 7: worth more than this like, I can't be out here 247 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 7: in these streets. So I literally said to my best 248 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,080 Speaker 7: friend at the time, I was like, I want to 249 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:55,080 Speaker 7: meet someone. I'm like, I'm I feel like I'm in 250 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 7: this space where I want to meet someone that I 251 00:10:56,520 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 7: really like again, like I want to be around I 252 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 7: like their energy and want to be there. And then 253 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:02,440 Speaker 7: I went on the island and I met him and 254 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:03,920 Speaker 7: I was like, oh, oh, it's you. 255 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:05,199 Speaker 3: You spoken were you flirting? 256 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:07,319 Speaker 4: Like on the island at that point you knew what 257 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 4: was that? What about you, Jared when you met her 258 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:10,440 Speaker 4: in the studio where You're like, oh, you said you 259 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:13,079 Speaker 4: were also in a relationship, right, I was also. 260 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 5: In a relationship at the studio, But wasn't the girl there? 261 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 3: No, why trying to make it messy. 262 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 4: There, No, I was just I was just thinking of 263 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:27,600 Speaker 4: a story that Melanie had told me about when she 264 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 4: met her husband, and she was like, I didn't think 265 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:30,479 Speaker 4: I was like his type. 266 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 7: Yeah, because she was like because he was. I always 267 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:36,800 Speaker 7: say this is because he was pretty and he was 268 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:38,080 Speaker 7: doing things, That's what I said. 269 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:40,840 Speaker 3: And I just always thought, I don't know. 270 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:44,439 Speaker 7: I mean, okay, if I'm gonna be really honest too, yeah, 271 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:45,719 Speaker 7: I know, but if I'm gonna be really honest, I 272 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:46,560 Speaker 7: just thought he like white girls. 273 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:48,199 Speaker 3: I'm not. That's what I was trying to say. I'm 274 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 3: not saying it because I did. You must have been 275 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:52,360 Speaker 3: dating a white woman. I said he wasn't, and he doesn't. 276 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 3: Oh that was my surprise. He proved me wrong. 277 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 4: Melanie is me because I'd be like, he really, category 278 00:11:59,840 --> 00:12:01,720 Speaker 4: is kind of rise man, it's not fair. 279 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 7: I really I don't technically do that, but for him, 280 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 7: I just didn't. I did not think that I was 281 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:12,079 Speaker 7: his time at all. But I yeah, fortunately for us. 282 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 3: Goodness. 283 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 5: I don't know where we were going with that. 284 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 3: How we met. 285 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 8: You were in a relationship at the time, I was, 286 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 8: but it was it was definitely at the end of 287 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 8: the relationship and I was, oh sorry, I was looking 288 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:30,520 Speaker 8: for the the catalyst to leave, you know. And it 289 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:32,880 Speaker 8: was a great relationship, but it just ran its course. 290 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 8: And when I met Melanie, I was like, oh, this 291 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 8: is how it's supposed to feel, this is where I'm 292 00:12:37,920 --> 00:12:41,960 Speaker 8: supposed to be at you know. So, you know, just 293 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:46,319 Speaker 8: got past that because when we landed after the island, 294 00:12:46,440 --> 00:12:48,040 Speaker 8: she literally looked me in my face and it was 295 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:49,760 Speaker 8: like so that was fun. 296 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 5: Don't call me what? 297 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:56,079 Speaker 3: Yeah, why did you do it? Crazy? Because you know 298 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:56,560 Speaker 3: what it was? 299 00:12:56,640 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 7: It is because I saw the potential of like what 300 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:02,640 Speaker 7: we what we were to each other in that short time, 301 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 7: and it was organic and it was cool, it was beautiful. 302 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:09,480 Speaker 7: And I was like, you have some cleaning up to do, 303 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 7: like you're at you're getting out of this relationship. You 304 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 7: you're fresh, like you don't you've been in a relationship 305 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 7: for a long time. Like I don't want to be 306 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 7: a rebound situation. I don't want this to confuse what 307 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:22,679 Speaker 7: it is you feel like you need to do for yourself. 308 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:26,160 Speaker 7: And so we landed at JFK and literally went separate ways, 309 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:27,600 Speaker 7: and I was like, do not call me, and I 310 00:13:27,679 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 7: was like, don't call me. 311 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,199 Speaker 5: Like, for to be honest, I. 312 00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 8: Really respected it, you know what I mean. Like as 313 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 8: a man, you're like whatever, man, you know, you try 314 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,480 Speaker 8: to have this ego. But I really respected that she 315 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,439 Speaker 8: had the respect for herself to be like, you know, 316 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 8: you're you're actually not ready for what I want for me, 317 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 8: you know. And so from that point on, you know, 318 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:52,600 Speaker 8: it had it made me do some reflecting and realized 319 00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:55,040 Speaker 8: that you know, no, she she is what I want, 320 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 8: so I need to take the steps to make that happen. 321 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:01,079 Speaker 2: I think that, like you know, I feel like if 322 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:04,720 Speaker 2: women and even men, but mostly women, if we followed 323 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 2: this this I guess this guide or had more guts 324 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 2: in just understanding our value and like doing that, then 325 00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:13,440 Speaker 2: we would get what we want more. 326 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:14,959 Speaker 3: Well you know that, I. 327 00:14:14,960 --> 00:14:17,320 Speaker 7: Agree, because the thing about it is too Even with him, 328 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:19,880 Speaker 7: like after we started dating, like soon into after we 329 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 7: started dating, I said I loved you first, Like I 330 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 7: was like, I love you. I'm not telling you because 331 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 7: I need you to tell me back. I'm not telling 332 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 7: you because I need you to be in love with me. 333 00:14:27,280 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 7: I'm telling you because I'm in a space of not 334 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 7: holding back on my truth and I love you and 335 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 7: I'm not going to ever say like oh, I was 336 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:35,040 Speaker 7: playing it safe for like no, I'm gonna let you 337 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:37,680 Speaker 7: know how I feel from jump, which also included hey, 338 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 7: I'm also not going to be the girl that you 339 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 7: just dating for a year. I told him, like I 340 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 7: was like, I've done the work, I know what I want, 341 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:46,840 Speaker 7: I love what we're having it and it was early 342 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:49,160 Speaker 7: and he was like oh this and I was like listened. 343 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 7: I was like, this is not I'm not giving you 344 00:14:50,800 --> 00:14:51,479 Speaker 7: an ultimatum. 345 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:53,520 Speaker 4: I'm just letting you know that a year from now, 346 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 4: I don't want to be in this position because I 347 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 4: want I want a person. And then you know, we 348 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:03,240 Speaker 4: had to we broke up along the way because there 349 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 4: was there was some some. 350 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:08,640 Speaker 7: There wasn't synergy all the time. Even though I know 351 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:10,880 Speaker 7: he loved me too, and I knew that he also 352 00:15:10,920 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 7: wanted to be with me, I also knew there were 353 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:14,840 Speaker 7: things he needed to do for himself, and so it 354 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 7: couldn't be at the expense of my feelings. And when 355 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:19,200 Speaker 7: we did decide to part before we got back together, 356 00:15:19,280 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 7: and which what led us to hear we both were 357 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:24,480 Speaker 7: on the same page, like we know what it is like, 358 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 7: we've tried and there's just certain things that aren't aligning 359 00:15:28,680 --> 00:15:29,080 Speaker 7: right now. 360 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 8: It was at the expense of my feelings though, because 361 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 8: she broke up with me on Valentine's Day. 362 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:35,400 Speaker 3: That was the first one. Why was that dramatic? 363 00:15:35,520 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 4: You don't pay it back, don't don't call me, I 364 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 4: love you, don't call me. 365 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:46,880 Speaker 3: It's Valentine's Day. We're done. 366 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:50,080 Speaker 7: I mean no, let's be clear. There was there was 367 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:51,800 Speaker 7: a slight offense the day before. 368 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:55,560 Speaker 3: You'd be lying. 369 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:59,760 Speaker 4: I don't like lying. No one likes lying. No, some 370 00:15:59,760 --> 00:16:01,920 Speaker 4: people don't mind it. It's really like a thing for me. 371 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:02,760 Speaker 4: I don't like it. 372 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:04,200 Speaker 7: It's just like, just tell me the truth. Like if 373 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 7: I give you, no, don't I don't. I don't believe 374 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 7: I'm giving ever anyone a reason to lie to me. 375 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:10,320 Speaker 7: So it's like, how did I lie to you? 376 00:16:12,280 --> 00:16:13,440 Speaker 3: Lied to me? And it was funny. 377 00:16:13,480 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 8: We don't have to rehash, we don't have to read 378 00:16:15,160 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 8: ten years ago. 379 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:17,200 Speaker 3: It was there was ten years ago. 380 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:21,680 Speaker 4: But the game, don't forget she don't finish Sebruary certain Yes, 381 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:24,000 Speaker 4: twenty five team. 382 00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 3: You said to me we were. 383 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 5: In the PM. 384 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:28,120 Speaker 3: That's true. 385 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, anyway, uh huh uh huh. 386 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:33,480 Speaker 7: She's like, don't be here now. I'll tell you we're 387 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:35,880 Speaker 7: here now though. But no, but that, but that that 388 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 7: was the first time. That was the first time we 389 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:39,000 Speaker 7: broke up on VALENTINE'SDA and then we got back together 390 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:41,600 Speaker 7: shortly after. But with the time that we really broke 391 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:43,920 Speaker 7: up was it was almost a year later, and it 392 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:46,400 Speaker 7: was actually right before his birthday, which was also. 393 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:50,040 Speaker 8: He goes off. 394 00:16:51,200 --> 00:16:55,440 Speaker 9: If you would get the feelings would have been right. 395 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,520 Speaker 9: So pretty much what happened was is that he was 396 00:16:57,560 --> 00:16:59,920 Speaker 9: going to come home to Toronto and we were gonna 397 00:17:00,040 --> 00:17:02,120 Speaker 9: celebrate his birthday in Toronto. 398 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 5: I'm from New York, Okay. 399 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:05,439 Speaker 4: So we were going to have this trip home to Toronto. 400 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 4: But like, he's not gonna come home to Toronto and 401 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:09,480 Speaker 4: not meet my family and be everybody. It's been a 402 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:13,240 Speaker 4: year almost since we've been dating, right, So what we 403 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:16,000 Speaker 4: had gotten to this place where this feeling of like 404 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:18,959 Speaker 4: hot and cold was coming in and it's like it 405 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:21,000 Speaker 4: was never it was always hot between us, but I 406 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:24,600 Speaker 4: always felt this like hesitation from him, and I recognized 407 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:26,440 Speaker 4: what it was. It was because he had never had 408 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 4: that time to be by himself. It's because he didn't 409 00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:32,440 Speaker 4: know what to do with the idea of actually meeting 410 00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 4: the person that he could be like, Yo, this is 411 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:38,159 Speaker 4: this is what I actually really want. And so that 412 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:39,840 Speaker 4: day that we looked at each other and we're like, hey, 413 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:40,879 Speaker 4: look we really tried. 414 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 7: We really tried, but I think it's best that we 415 00:17:43,880 --> 00:17:45,000 Speaker 7: just kind of create some space. 416 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 3: At the moment. 417 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:50,639 Speaker 7: I sent to balloons, I said to a gifts I 418 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:52,760 Speaker 7: did it was in love and that was the thing 419 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 7: that I think that that breakup for me was the 420 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 7: first time I had ever parted with someone in love 421 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 7: and not out of like Spie or even though I 422 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:01,600 Speaker 7: was hurt. 423 00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:02,359 Speaker 3: We were both hurt. 424 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 7: We were both hurt at the fact that we couldn't 425 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:07,639 Speaker 7: figure out how to make it work the way we 426 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 7: both wanted to. And so I think that there was 427 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 7: just mutual respect there for sure, but we knew that 428 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:14,359 Speaker 7: there was space. And then also with me with being 429 00:18:14,359 --> 00:18:17,280 Speaker 7: a boundary, I'm also like, again, don't call me because 430 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:19,840 Speaker 7: I don't want to do this. I just know, like, 431 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 7: call me when we have something to really talk about, 432 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:24,159 Speaker 7: when you have something to say, and we don't need 433 00:18:24,200 --> 00:18:26,880 Speaker 7: to talk friendly casually about the weather, none of that ship. 434 00:18:26,920 --> 00:18:28,000 Speaker 3: We're breaking up. We're breaking up. 435 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:30,280 Speaker 7: But if you if you want it and if you 436 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:32,359 Speaker 7: really know what it is, then like find me. 437 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:35,639 Speaker 8: So she was out in them streets for like six months. 438 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:41,240 Speaker 3: Do you agree with this take on how this went down? 439 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:44,640 Speaker 2: I'm always curious because you know, people have different respectives, 440 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:45,760 Speaker 2: even in love. 441 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:51,600 Speaker 8: I agree that everyone should do what they feel is 442 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:54,560 Speaker 8: best for them, right, So yeah, I think that was 443 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:57,719 Speaker 8: best for her, and ultimately it turned out obviously to 444 00:18:57,720 --> 00:19:00,480 Speaker 8: be best for us. I think I did have some 445 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:03,360 Speaker 8: growing to do. You know, there was a little bit 446 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 8: of an emotional catch up for me to get to, 447 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,200 Speaker 8: you know, to be where she was at at the time. 448 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:13,399 Speaker 8: You know, it's not that I was still out in 449 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:16,359 Speaker 8: them streets at all, but I was. I was still 450 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 8: very much about me as opposed to about us and 451 00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 8: once and it took me six months to get there. 452 00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 5: You know. 453 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:28,399 Speaker 8: I was like, wait a second, I'm not going to 454 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 8: miss out on what we could be because I'm worried 455 00:19:31,760 --> 00:19:32,159 Speaker 8: about me. 456 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:34,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like what happened in those six months? Were you 457 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:36,639 Speaker 2: just like like what was the thing that kind of 458 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 2: brought you guys back together? 459 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 5: Like I just stopped. 460 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 8: I couldn't stop thinking about her, you know, and like 461 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:46,520 Speaker 8: what if what if I had like really made my 462 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:49,480 Speaker 8: focus the two of us, what would happen? 463 00:19:49,680 --> 00:19:49,879 Speaker 5: You know? 464 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:53,639 Speaker 8: And I realized after that time, I was like I 465 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:56,159 Speaker 8: don't want to wait six years and. 466 00:19:57,880 --> 00:19:59,679 Speaker 5: Still be thinking about that, you know. 467 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,679 Speaker 8: And so I was like, let me make the commitment 468 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,920 Speaker 8: to at least try, you know, let's try to give 469 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:10,480 Speaker 8: each other what we both need and uh and see 470 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:11,199 Speaker 8: where we end up. 471 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:21,720 Speaker 3: Cry. It is a really beautiful story. I do love 472 00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 3: our story. 473 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:22,920 Speaker 5: It's nice. 474 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:25,720 Speaker 7: I do love our story because it really it's honest, 475 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:28,640 Speaker 7: and I think it's a real it's a real testament 476 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 7: to compassion and growth and patience and self awareness. 477 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 3: You know. It was it was a lot. 478 00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:37,119 Speaker 8: It was. 479 00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 3: It was a lot for us to go through in 480 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:39,200 Speaker 3: a short amount of time. 481 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:41,840 Speaker 8: And I think a lot of men need to hear 482 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:45,399 Speaker 8: that type of story too, to be honest, because a 483 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,159 Speaker 8: lot of guys have missed that, and a lot of 484 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:49,880 Speaker 8: women have missed out on good good men and women 485 00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 8: have missed out on uh and men have missed out 486 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,200 Speaker 8: with women sorry because of. 487 00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:59,480 Speaker 5: Well, forget it. You know, I'm moving on. She moving on. 488 00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:01,119 Speaker 5: I'm moving you know what I mean as opposed to 489 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:01,720 Speaker 5: like way to say. 490 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 3: And then six years later, it's too late. 491 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,960 Speaker 8: It's too late at that point, you know, And I 492 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:08,800 Speaker 8: didn't I didn't want to look back and be like, dang, 493 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:09,360 Speaker 8: it's too late. 494 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:12,240 Speaker 5: She's married with kids, write an. 495 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 3: R and B song, singing in the rain. We've seen them, 496 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:16,119 Speaker 3: we've seen them. 497 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 8: Yeah, And I think, you know, just that's what marriage is, 498 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:24,040 Speaker 8: too right, you know. We of course, you go through problems, 499 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:28,000 Speaker 8: you go through arguments, and you know a lot of times, 500 00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:30,159 Speaker 8: especially in this generation, they'd be like. 501 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:33,040 Speaker 5: All right, well, I guess that's done, but. 502 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 8: Don't have to be that, Like, let's talk, let's go 503 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:41,040 Speaker 8: to therapy, let's uh, let's figure this out, and then 504 00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:42,960 Speaker 8: if we do everything that we can and it's still 505 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:45,000 Speaker 8: in a place, then we could talk about something. But 506 00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 8: let's let's at least try to be who we need 507 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:50,400 Speaker 8: to be for each other. 508 00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:54,879 Speaker 7: And I think to the Testament to like not taking 509 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 7: things personally. That was the first time I think in 510 00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:00,639 Speaker 7: our separate when we were separated, before we back together, 511 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:04,600 Speaker 7: that I still had like love for someone, I didn't 512 00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:06,439 Speaker 7: take it personally, like, oh, you're not choosing me. 513 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:07,680 Speaker 3: You don't see how bomb I am. 514 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:10,160 Speaker 7: Yeah, Like I was like, oh no, Like what he's 515 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,320 Speaker 7: going through is nothing, has nothing to do with me. 516 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:15,240 Speaker 3: It's his own thing. And I feel like that's still 517 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:18,680 Speaker 3: applicable in marriage. It's like, Okay, whatever you're going through, 518 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 3: I'm and try not to take that personally. Cancer can 519 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:26,119 Speaker 3: take some we can take it personally. It's really supposed 520 00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:26,680 Speaker 3: to be friendship. 521 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:30,399 Speaker 2: I think this situation reminds me of a relationship that 522 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:31,680 Speaker 2: I had with a guy that. 523 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 3: I'm you know, we're not going to be together. I don't. 524 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:34,440 Speaker 3: I don't see that happening. 525 00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 2: But when we ended our relationship was the first time 526 00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:40,199 Speaker 2: I've ever ended a relationship, and we were like laughing, 527 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 2: like we were if you saw us in public, you 528 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:44,280 Speaker 2: would have thought we were having a date, but we 529 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 2: were kind of just like calling it truth, like this 530 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:50,000 Speaker 2: isn't gonna work. I love you, But like I was sad, 531 00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,920 Speaker 2: but I was like, I'm so happy that we did this. Yeah, 532 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,760 Speaker 2: like we really tried, and that person still my friend 533 00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:00,320 Speaker 2: to this day. But like, I think people always wait 534 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:01,960 Speaker 2: for shit, And I always tell my friends that are 535 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:04,800 Speaker 2: like love to like have these blow up like relationships, 536 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:05,280 Speaker 2: and like why. 537 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 3: Do you wait to hate them? Yes, like why do 538 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:09,200 Speaker 3: you have to hate them to leave? 539 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:12,680 Speaker 2: Like you could save even potentially you could even potentially 540 00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:14,240 Speaker 2: save the relationships easier. 541 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 3: It's easier to be angry than sad. So give me 542 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:18,320 Speaker 3: a reason to be angry. I mean, I can. 543 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 7: I definitely believe that I've operated like that in previous relationships, 544 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:24,520 Speaker 7: and even like even to now, I'm still guilty. It's 545 00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:28,160 Speaker 7: like I would if I'm upset, like being mad, rather 546 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,040 Speaker 7: than just be like you hurt my feelings, being like 547 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,000 Speaker 7: I'm not fucking with you right now? You know, like 548 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,720 Speaker 7: it's a thing, Like it is a thing, it's what 549 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 7: people do. But it doesn't have to be that, and 550 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,920 Speaker 7: I agree with you, like it should it can. There 551 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,720 Speaker 7: is a pot especially when there's mutual respect, like nobody's 552 00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:47,119 Speaker 7: out here making a fool of somebody lying, being deceitful, disrespecting, 553 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:49,439 Speaker 7: like whatever all that is, because that's when you feel 554 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:51,920 Speaker 7: that's when it's easy to take it real, like get angry. 555 00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:55,080 Speaker 7: But when you just see that it's just not working 556 00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,040 Speaker 7: or for whatever reason, it's just like yo, it's all good. 557 00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,840 Speaker 4: Like I mean, it definitely hurts because like why God, 558 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:02,640 Speaker 4: like why you know, like. 559 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:04,320 Speaker 3: Why can't you be this person for me? 560 00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:08,280 Speaker 2: But like ultimately I feel like you have a higher 561 00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:11,239 Speaker 2: potential of possibly figuring it out in the future if 562 00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:12,280 Speaker 2: you guys kind of. 563 00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 3: Just case in point, you know, Yeah, I do think. 564 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:19,919 Speaker 4: I do think that women like just are this like 565 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:23,919 Speaker 4: how we're conditions in society, our worthiness and our value. 566 00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:26,840 Speaker 4: A lot of times we've been taught that it has 567 00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,879 Speaker 4: to do with like our relationship status, and so I 568 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,040 Speaker 4: think for a lot of women, when a guy is 569 00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,359 Speaker 4: not giving you someone you you fuck with and you 570 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,119 Speaker 4: want it to work and he's not giving that to 571 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,160 Speaker 4: you instead of being like, you know what, I see 572 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,479 Speaker 4: that you have too much going on, and I value 573 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:42,919 Speaker 4: what the growth that I've done so much that I'm 574 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 4: going to step away a lot of times it's about winning. 575 00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,520 Speaker 4: I'm going to convince you that I'm worthy because our 576 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 4: self worth is so often tied into our relationship status 577 00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:57,080 Speaker 4: and being chosen, because that's like the fairy tale that 578 00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:02,120 Speaker 4: we're spoon fed. But in reality, like if we have 579 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,879 Speaker 4: like the value and the self worth without the relationship, 580 00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:08,560 Speaker 4: and we have the like wherewithal to walk away from 581 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:11,360 Speaker 4: something that's not aligning with our spirit, then if it's 582 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 4: for you, it will be for you. And I think 583 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:15,399 Speaker 4: even I am guilty of this too, Like I'm going 584 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:16,640 Speaker 4: to convince you, oh, you know, like. 585 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 3: Free woman, what about now? 586 00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:20,439 Speaker 4: Like but I'm a good woman, but I'm smart, but 587 00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,359 Speaker 4: I'm doing something, you know, like trying to let like 588 00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:27,000 Speaker 4: plead almost in this way because you want someone to 589 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:29,359 Speaker 4: see you like yes, like in a certain look you're like, 590 00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 4: I'm mom, I'm miss But it's really the self worth 591 00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 4: comes in like I'm out, yeah, you know, And I 592 00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:38,320 Speaker 4: think too, where when Jared and I met, I had 593 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:40,560 Speaker 4: come off of year of a lot of self work, 594 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,800 Speaker 4: and so I think that that's what allowed me to 595 00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,200 Speaker 4: be that version of myself for him. 596 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:50,040 Speaker 3: And in this situation, it's absolutely that. 597 00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:52,959 Speaker 4: It's absolutely just the self worth part of it, not 598 00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,320 Speaker 4: being like, hey, I'm not taking it personally. 599 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:57,800 Speaker 3: You don't need to choose me. You need to know 600 00:25:57,880 --> 00:25:59,840 Speaker 3: it's me for you period. 601 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:00,360 Speaker 6: Right. 602 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, And like women are always like caught up and 603 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:03,440 Speaker 4: like who's. 604 00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:04,240 Speaker 3: Gonna say I love you first? 605 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:04,359 Speaker 1: Oh? 606 00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:05,119 Speaker 3: He said, you know what I mean. 607 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,960 Speaker 4: It's like, no, I love you, Yeah, I don't care 608 00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:10,080 Speaker 4: love Okay, yeah, you don't have to say it back. 609 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:11,639 Speaker 3: But listen, I know how I feel. I know what 610 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:12,200 Speaker 3: I feel. 611 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:15,320 Speaker 7: Yeah, And that's not contingent on any It's obviously already 612 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:17,159 Speaker 7: been contingent on whatever it is that you're doing or 613 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:17,600 Speaker 7: not doing. 614 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:19,480 Speaker 3: So this is how I feel. I'm just gonna say that. 615 00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,239 Speaker 7: And if that scares you, this is the thing about that, 616 00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:23,200 Speaker 7: Like if you being at I feel like at this 617 00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:25,760 Speaker 7: grown age too in our thirties, Like if you are 618 00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,720 Speaker 7: not thinking shit, I just turned forty, If you are not, 619 00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,439 Speaker 7: like if you're afraid to just speak your truth to 620 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:33,520 Speaker 7: somebody as an adult and feel like that's going to 621 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:34,680 Speaker 7: scare them off. 622 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:38,639 Speaker 3: That's not the person for you anyways. Period. Like, I 623 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:39,320 Speaker 3: have a friend like that. 624 00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:43,120 Speaker 4: She's like, I'm like constantly like should I'm like, bitch, you. 625 00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 3: Were grown as hell. 626 00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 7: He gives a fun I was like, tell me like him, Yeah, 627 00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,119 Speaker 7: tell him, Like, you know this hurts your feelings somehow, 628 00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 7: it makes you feel I'm like, this is I'm like, 629 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:53,639 Speaker 7: you're never going to get what you want being afraid 630 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:54,160 Speaker 7: to say. 631 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 4: How you feel because you're afraid of your own feelings 632 00:26:57,920 --> 00:26:59,800 Speaker 4: and you're afraid of how someone is going to react 633 00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:01,199 Speaker 4: to that. I'm like, how do you expect to have 634 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:04,920 Speaker 4: a relationship and you are not even aligned with yourself? 635 00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 4: If it bothers you to say it out loud to 636 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:09,920 Speaker 4: someone else, you have some work to do on yourself. 637 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:12,280 Speaker 4: I would just like to know if there's any sort 638 00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:15,040 Speaker 4: of audio that can be added that sounds like sprinkling gems. 639 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:19,320 Speaker 4: Because Mila is on her podium today, Okay, the baby 640 00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:22,600 Speaker 4: she is speaking these words put the fairy dust on 641 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,680 Speaker 4: my Name's my name, that's on my motherfucking name. 642 00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:27,679 Speaker 6: I love it. 643 00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:29,920 Speaker 3: I'm over here like, yes, it's true, though. 644 00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:32,560 Speaker 8: That goes for any relationship, you know what I mean? 645 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 8: Even business, right, like, you have to you have to 646 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:37,200 Speaker 8: shoot your shot. You got to let them know where 647 00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,919 Speaker 8: you're at. And if it doesn't come back to you 648 00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 8: the way you want it, now you know right now, 649 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:44,840 Speaker 8: you know now you can move accordingly. 650 00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:46,880 Speaker 5: So yeah, what she what she. 651 00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:52,160 Speaker 8: Did was was protect her her her own self and 652 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:55,320 Speaker 8: allowed me to grow throughout it, throughout that process. 653 00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:57,520 Speaker 3: So she the ball to your court. 654 00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 5: Yeah. 655 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 8: No, I'm thankful for bro I'm real thankful for it 656 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:04,879 Speaker 8: because it set me up to shoot my shot the 657 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:06,680 Speaker 8: correct way six months later. 658 00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,240 Speaker 4: Well you you you don't have a meek woman. I 659 00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 4: will never forget me and Melanie we went hiking and 660 00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:15,280 Speaker 4: I don't know what. 661 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:16,600 Speaker 3: I can't remember what happened. 662 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:20,040 Speaker 2: Someone said some disrespectful ship or like honk like flicked 663 00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:20,440 Speaker 2: her off. 664 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 3: How are you fighting at the yo? She I had 665 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,480 Speaker 3: never seen. She was red tee. 666 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:25,800 Speaker 5: Yeah, we're working on that. 667 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 3: I was like, Yo, Melanie, chill, just I don't like it. 668 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:31,320 Speaker 3: I don't like rude as motherfuckers. I don't. 669 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:35,120 Speaker 2: I will confront the issues and try to. I will 670 00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:35,960 Speaker 2: confront the issues. 671 00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,080 Speaker 3: I don't you know what it is. I just don't like. 672 00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 7: I just don't get why people feel it's cool to 673 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,040 Speaker 7: disrespect other people. Like I was just like if that's 674 00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 7: I also have moments where I laugh, like I've had 675 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:45,800 Speaker 7: grown men flip me off on the road. 676 00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:47,360 Speaker 3: By the way, I'm an excellent driver, so this is 677 00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,920 Speaker 3: not it's just people being rude. But like for me, 678 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:52,040 Speaker 3: if a man gives. 679 00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,680 Speaker 7: Me the finger, I literally am just like, oh you, 680 00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,280 Speaker 7: poor broken little boy, Like how bad of you that 681 00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:57,280 Speaker 7: you feel like that's your way? 682 00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,640 Speaker 4: You need to express yourself to me in passing. That's 683 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 4: the best you could do. Oh I'm sorry. But yeah, 684 00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,240 Speaker 4: like I'm not. I'm not into I'm not. 685 00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:12,120 Speaker 2: I'm not because because because Melanie is, she's not afraid 686 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,200 Speaker 2: to say how she feels. Has that I guess as 687 00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:16,160 Speaker 2: as a husband or as a man in general, Like 688 00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,320 Speaker 2: I feel like men not all men, but like you know, 689 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:22,600 Speaker 2: sharing feelings can be uncomfortable and just just having to 690 00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 2: really have to confront them, especially with the woman who's 691 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 2: gonna make you confront them. 692 00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,840 Speaker 5: How I don't like to share my feelings at all. 693 00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:34,880 Speaker 4: That why I'm torn as a human being, Like, oh 694 00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,640 Speaker 4: my god, this is me too. I'm like, you feel 695 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:39,120 Speaker 4: all the feelings, but you don't share all the things. 696 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:42,080 Speaker 8: Oh my god, She's definitely been able to say the 697 00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:44,360 Speaker 8: right things to pull that out of me, for sure. 698 00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,720 Speaker 8: But I had to I had to learn how to 699 00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,600 Speaker 8: do that and and understand that if this is the 700 00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:51,280 Speaker 8: person who I'm going to be with or want to 701 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,239 Speaker 8: be with, then I need to open up more, you know. 702 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 8: And and yeah, I had to, Well what do. 703 00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 3: You normally do with all those feelings? You just like 704 00:29:59,120 --> 00:29:59,800 Speaker 3: internalize them? 705 00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:01,840 Speaker 2: Like always curious like that, what is the what is 706 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:03,800 Speaker 2: in the brain of a man, especially a Gemini man, 707 00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:05,320 Speaker 2: Because I have a lot of questions because. 708 00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,640 Speaker 7: Let me tell you, I mean I can tell you 709 00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:12,160 Speaker 7: as a partner to a Gemini man, all the things 710 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 7: are in the brain of a Gemini man. 711 00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:17,320 Speaker 3: They're thinking all the time. True, And what are. 712 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,480 Speaker 2: You just like having a lot of self talks inside 713 00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:22,560 Speaker 2: like reasoning things inside, like what's going on in there? 714 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 3: Acquiring? 715 00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:29,920 Speaker 8: Yeah, no, we think about everything, you know. I'll speak 716 00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:32,760 Speaker 8: for myself. I know everything is always going on, for sure, 717 00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:36,920 Speaker 8: But I pick and choose my battles and if it's 718 00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 8: something that I feel like will either work itself out, 719 00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:43,520 Speaker 8: I say nothing, or if I feel like, hey, that's 720 00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 8: just who she is and that's who they are it 721 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,120 Speaker 8: is what it is, and I act accordingly, you know, 722 00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,880 Speaker 8: so I don't. I don't feel the need to always 723 00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 8: express how I'm thinking because I feel like the universal 724 00:30:55,720 --> 00:31:01,240 Speaker 8: will work its way out. Melanie will say this is 725 00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,840 Speaker 8: what I'm thinking right now, and I. 726 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,800 Speaker 7: Feel like I've gotten better. I feel like I've gotten better. 727 00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:11,720 Speaker 7: I think in our relationship. I definitely was oh no, no, no, like, 728 00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:13,160 Speaker 7: if I feel this, we're going to talk about it 729 00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,520 Speaker 7: right now, because this is how things compound. But I 730 00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 7: recognize it's not that's not his way. So I recognize 731 00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,480 Speaker 7: that I need to find the time when it's right 732 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:25,120 Speaker 7: to approach him with certain things. Now, obviously sometimes it happens, 733 00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:27,000 Speaker 7: and it just you got to deal with it head on. 734 00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:29,440 Speaker 3: I'm going to confront the issue. 735 00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:33,240 Speaker 7: But but for the most part, like I think, I've 736 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:37,600 Speaker 7: had to learn how to respect how he processes well. 737 00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:43,920 Speaker 8: Also, because not everything is worth a conversation, in my opinion, she. 738 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:47,200 Speaker 3: Made I agree. 739 00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:49,880 Speaker 7: I agree, But I also think that we also have 740 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 7: a difference of opinion on what is worth talking about, 741 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:55,280 Speaker 7: and that's that's that's I think that's where we differ 742 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:58,040 Speaker 7: as people just like him saying like, oh, that's going 743 00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:00,360 Speaker 7: to work itself out. I'm on the other hand, being like, 744 00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:02,560 Speaker 7: ship just don't work itself out. You got to do 745 00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:03,080 Speaker 7: the work to work. 746 00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:07,240 Speaker 5: It's not true. It's not true. Ship does work itself out. 747 00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:08,000 Speaker 3: In certain regards. 748 00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:10,600 Speaker 7: Yes, I agree, you know, but I'm just saying in 749 00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:12,360 Speaker 7: the context of our relationships. 750 00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:14,760 Speaker 8: The conversation, and not just in our relationship, in any relationships, 751 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,880 Speaker 8: sometimes having that conversation is opening up a can of worms. 752 00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:20,360 Speaker 8: It didn't need to be opened at all, and you 753 00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:23,320 Speaker 8: could have been just fine, you know what I'm saying. 754 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 4: And yeah, so some some something bigger, bigger than it. 755 00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:31,600 Speaker 5: It didn't need to get there. It didn't need to 756 00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:32,840 Speaker 5: get all the way there. You know. 757 00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,800 Speaker 3: I'm so both of you. It's very like, you're right, 758 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:41,000 Speaker 3: you're right. Relationship, this is our relationship. We literally I 759 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:41,560 Speaker 3: would love. 760 00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:43,560 Speaker 2: To be a good point In therapy, the therapy is 761 00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:44,840 Speaker 2: probably therapist is confused. 762 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:45,760 Speaker 3: I don't know. 763 00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:49,600 Speaker 8: No, no, the therapist is definitely on Melandie's side. 764 00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,320 Speaker 3: It's not at all times. 765 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,040 Speaker 5: This is what they tell me. I'm like, Okay, yeah. 766 00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:59,680 Speaker 2: I have a black eye over Melani Founder your friend. 767 00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:01,120 Speaker 3: Black Woman's just wonderful. 768 00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:06,560 Speaker 7: No, we we it's really it's really interesting that the 769 00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:09,320 Speaker 7: thing that I really appreciate about Jared, and I think 770 00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,040 Speaker 7: that this is this would be the thing I think 771 00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:14,960 Speaker 7: in our communication is that I don't like when he 772 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:16,760 Speaker 7: acts like he doesn't know what's going on, because I 773 00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 7: know he always knows what's going on. He's highly intelligent, 774 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:22,200 Speaker 7: he's very observant, he's in tune with me, he knows 775 00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:25,000 Speaker 7: me extremely well. So when he puts on the I 776 00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:29,280 Speaker 7: just didn't even Yes you did, Yes, you did realize. 777 00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:31,720 Speaker 3: Of worms. 778 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:33,040 Speaker 7: So that's why I was like, oh, it's interesting to 779 00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:35,360 Speaker 7: hear you say like that. I'm very much a person 780 00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:36,520 Speaker 7: like you know. 781 00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:39,080 Speaker 3: I don't want all the words. I don't want it. 782 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:42,560 Speaker 3: I don't want I don't want the I think my thing. 783 00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:43,920 Speaker 4: About it is is that, like I always use the 784 00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:46,480 Speaker 4: like sweeping ship under the rug analogy, because it's just 785 00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:48,360 Speaker 4: like you could sweepsh it under the rug for a 786 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:49,920 Speaker 4: long time, but then when you lift that shit up, 787 00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:51,680 Speaker 4: it's a palo dirt and now you got a longer 788 00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:52,320 Speaker 4: day of cleaning that. 789 00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,280 Speaker 3: So I just feel in maintenance over repair, it's. 790 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:57,800 Speaker 8: Not about sweeping anything under the rug. But maybe the 791 00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:59,520 Speaker 8: cleaning lady gets that one. 792 00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:07,360 Speaker 3: There's no anyway there's no, because that's the thing. I 793 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:16,920 Speaker 3: came and made it better. Guyspity boop, clean. 794 00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,800 Speaker 8: The robot back in the robots, no argument needed. 795 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:25,480 Speaker 3: Hilarious. Oh my gosh. 796 00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:27,880 Speaker 2: Well, you know on our show we usually ask us 797 00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:30,799 Speaker 2: to share an affirmation. I wanted to see if either 798 00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:32,600 Speaker 2: one of you or both of you have an affirmation 799 00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 2: that you. 800 00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:33,800 Speaker 3: Like to share. 801 00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:36,480 Speaker 5: An affirmation. 802 00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:37,399 Speaker 6: Uh. 803 00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:43,640 Speaker 8: Yes, Melanie and I have noticed that whenever we are 804 00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:50,920 Speaker 8: aligned on things, whether that be buying a house, having kids, dinner, 805 00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:58,080 Speaker 8: we uh, it all matches up and the universe actually 806 00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:01,640 Speaker 8: puts it in front of for sure. It's like manifestation 807 00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:03,880 Speaker 8: in a way. You know, once we're aligned on something, 808 00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:10,360 Speaker 8: it's very powerful. So, uh, same page, next stage is 809 00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,560 Speaker 8: our is our affirmation. So once we're once we're on 810 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 8: the same page and we really mean it, like, oh, yeah, no, 811 00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:17,399 Speaker 8: I want to buy a house. 812 00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,359 Speaker 5: You ready to buy a house? Yeah, me too. We're 813 00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:23,080 Speaker 5: ready to buy a house. The house presented itself. You 814 00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:23,640 Speaker 5: know what. 815 00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 8: I really want to have kids, Yeah me too. 816 00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:28,560 Speaker 5: I really want to have kids with you. 817 00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:33,399 Speaker 3: One day too pregnant. The next day I'm. 818 00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:34,080 Speaker 8: Shooting up the club. 819 00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:35,800 Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying. 820 00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:39,160 Speaker 8: So like it's just for whatever reason, that's always been 821 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:41,520 Speaker 8: the theme throughout our relationship. 822 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,879 Speaker 5: So same page, next phase. 823 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:49,120 Speaker 7: Same page, next phase, or stage, phase stage, same page. 824 00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:49,640 Speaker 3: Next stage. 825 00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:52,759 Speaker 7: And I think that it's just like it just it 826 00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:55,880 Speaker 7: just kind of like identifies teamwork, and that's really what 827 00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:57,319 Speaker 7: it is. It is like to be a team you 828 00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:59,000 Speaker 7: have to be an advocate for your teammate. You have 829 00:35:59,040 --> 00:35:59,759 Speaker 7: to be an advocate for. 830 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:00,399 Speaker 3: The team too. 831 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:03,279 Speaker 4: So what what is what you want and what you 832 00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:05,200 Speaker 4: want for your partners should be best for both of you. 833 00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,759 Speaker 4: And I think that we've seen that every time, like 834 00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:11,239 Speaker 4: anytime there's just been some sort of like non alike. 835 00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:13,000 Speaker 4: It could be the smallest thing, but as soon as 836 00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:14,920 Speaker 4: we become a lined then just the universe is like, 837 00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:16,640 Speaker 4: oh ready, let's go. 838 00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:17,520 Speaker 3: Yeah. 839 00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:21,520 Speaker 4: So so that's been working for us. That's beautiful. It's 840 00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,160 Speaker 4: like me and my wife exactly. 841 00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:25,320 Speaker 6: Same page, next phase. 842 00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:27,440 Speaker 3: That's true. 843 00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,600 Speaker 4: We manifest really quickly there, like when you do this 844 00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:32,600 Speaker 4: to the point where I'm like, ka, the other day, 845 00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:33,960 Speaker 4: she was like, I have an idea, but I don't 846 00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:35,799 Speaker 4: want to say it out loud yet because we. 847 00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 3: Don't have a good time. 848 00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:39,839 Speaker 4: I was like, I have great ideas, but I'll tell 849 00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:43,800 Speaker 4: you next year January, remind me to tell you our ideas. 850 00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:47,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's that's powerful. That's power. That's the power 851 00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:47,719 Speaker 3: of partnership. 852 00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:52,480 Speaker 4: Like that aligned partnership. You notice, like people listening. If 853 00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:54,760 Speaker 4: you're trying to make some shit work, put a circle 854 00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,560 Speaker 4: on a square and she's just not working. Everything else 855 00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:00,479 Speaker 4: and everything your life is getting sucked up. It's because 856 00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:03,560 Speaker 4: you're trying for the wrong ship. When you're trying for 857 00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,279 Speaker 4: the right ship, everything else falls into place. 858 00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:07,879 Speaker 5: Use that watch. 859 00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:12,680 Speaker 4: The alignment works is a universal in all in all 860 00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:15,960 Speaker 4: things partnerships dinner, Like you said, like, if it's supposed 861 00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:19,760 Speaker 4: to be, the universe will conspire for it to happen. 862 00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:21,880 Speaker 4: But if you are fighting against that ship. 863 00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:26,040 Speaker 3: Yeah you know it, bitch, put it on the ship, 864 00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:28,319 Speaker 3: you know a bitch. I'm not playing. 865 00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:31,799 Speaker 7: I would just like to say that I wore the 866 00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:35,640 Speaker 7: Honorary Good Mom's About Choices Uniforms Day in support. 867 00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:39,280 Speaker 3: Thank you for all the black, hot, fine ass mamas. 868 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:42,840 Speaker 3: Thank you. We're designers. So yeah, if you're. 869 00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:45,680 Speaker 2: Watching on YouTube, go check out we always we sometimes 870 00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:50,440 Speaker 2: we do our fashion reveals of our clothing. Today Mila 871 00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:53,840 Speaker 2: is wearing vintage Souls with a I don't know, like 872 00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:58,400 Speaker 2: a boyfriend jean, crop top and platform tennis. 873 00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:02,680 Speaker 4: Our group chat told us that skinny jeans are going 874 00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:04,440 Speaker 4: out of styles, so I was like, I gotta wear 875 00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:05,319 Speaker 4: a boyfriend cut. 876 00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:07,920 Speaker 3: But I did say that yesterday, and I refuse to believe. 877 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:09,440 Speaker 4: I kind of refuse to you know, I'm the kind 878 00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:11,400 Speaker 4: of person that stays in my styles. You need the 879 00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:14,680 Speaker 4: skitty jeans with boots, yeah, and they just look good like. 880 00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,520 Speaker 3: With like bigger shirts. I'm like a thicker woman. I can't. 881 00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:20,919 Speaker 4: We're all like, I can't have all things just out 882 00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:21,480 Speaker 4: and flared. 883 00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:23,520 Speaker 3: I see some some straightness. 884 00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:23,920 Speaker 6: Yeah. 885 00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,640 Speaker 4: I still like platform shoes like the Spice girls in 886 00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:27,680 Speaker 4: the early two thousands. 887 00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:32,520 Speaker 3: I'm never letting them go to it. He's from my mom. Mom. 888 00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:34,799 Speaker 3: They coordinate with your sparkle sleeves quite well. That's how 889 00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:36,439 Speaker 3: I was like, this is gonna this is gonna work. 890 00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:45,200 Speaker 3: I'm fancy, but I'm chilling. Eric is wearing her October whichy. 891 00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:49,960 Speaker 3: This is skims. Oh that's skims. The skim sits very 892 00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:54,200 Speaker 3: soft skims. This is a coast cloak costa Rican witchy 893 00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:56,800 Speaker 3: cloak for October. Oh no wait, it's November. 894 00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:00,200 Speaker 2: My jewels are vintage souls. I'm not vnuge souls. Sure 895 00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:02,640 Speaker 2: about the nature of the label, black owned jewelry designer. 896 00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:08,160 Speaker 3: Check them out. That blue one that's New York eesang. 897 00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,319 Speaker 4: And Jared here is wearing Essentials Fear of God because 898 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:12,840 Speaker 4: he's cool. 899 00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:16,360 Speaker 3: He'sdy. 900 00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:21,839 Speaker 4: Okay, So before we started the episode, we asked our 901 00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:23,360 Speaker 4: guests to take a test. 902 00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:25,200 Speaker 3: Oh God, No, We just asked. 903 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:28,319 Speaker 4: Them to answer some questions about themselves, and then we 904 00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,359 Speaker 4: thought it would be a good idea to ask them 905 00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:32,279 Speaker 4: to see how much they know about each other. 906 00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:33,920 Speaker 3: So we're now we're going to touch you. 907 00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:38,320 Speaker 4: Okay, no pressure, you've only known each other for nine years. 908 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:41,280 Speaker 5: Pressure, I'm going to feel this desperate. 909 00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:44,319 Speaker 4: It's okay, Jared, your first first. 910 00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:47,040 Speaker 3: What's Melanie's favorite color? 911 00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:48,200 Speaker 5: Purple? 912 00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:51,000 Speaker 3: What's her overall pet peeve? 913 00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:52,760 Speaker 5: Wait? Did I get that right? Yeah? 914 00:39:55,160 --> 00:40:03,560 Speaker 8: Correct her overall overall pet peeve, cleanliness. 915 00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:06,640 Speaker 3: She said this, she said this today. He got it wrong. 916 00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:10,239 Speaker 4: Okay, well, don't give him, don't put him cheat, Sorry, 917 00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:11,520 Speaker 4: got it wrong, shut a cheat? 918 00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:12,279 Speaker 3: What was it? 919 00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:18,880 Speaker 4: It's liaring, lying, liars, lyaring, liaring all the lives and 920 00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:20,279 Speaker 4: what is your pet peep? 921 00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:21,600 Speaker 3: When it comes? What does her pet pee when it 922 00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:22,160 Speaker 3: comes to you. 923 00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:25,640 Speaker 4: You're her partner. What does she hate when you do? 924 00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:27,080 Speaker 5: She hates what I do? 925 00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:30,160 Speaker 4: Like, what's something that she doesn't like when you do? 926 00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:32,760 Speaker 4: It's her pet peep that you do specifically. 927 00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:35,600 Speaker 5: I don't know. 928 00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:40,320 Speaker 4: Last minute communication, don't change up when we are you 929 00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:40,840 Speaker 4: made planned? 930 00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,600 Speaker 5: She hates that very much. A last minute planner. 931 00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:45,239 Speaker 7: He is a last minute planner. And so the thing 932 00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,279 Speaker 7: about it is he's working things out in his head. 933 00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:48,960 Speaker 5: But by the way, we're going to Atlanta tomorrow. 934 00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:50,799 Speaker 3: Yeah, by the way, thanks for letting me know right 935 00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:52,240 Speaker 3: now Atlanta tomorrow. 936 00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:58,360 Speaker 7: Apparently you really are going And this was a last 937 00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:02,080 Speaker 7: minute decision that was made. So it's like, oh, and 938 00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:03,959 Speaker 7: you know, we got kids. So like when he's making 939 00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,720 Speaker 7: these decisions also for himself or for our it's like, okay, 940 00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:10,359 Speaker 7: you got to let me know. Like I'm you guys 941 00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:14,160 Speaker 7: have done this. Uh attached the book attached? 942 00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:16,759 Speaker 3: Have you heard of this? Attachment? The attachment style? So 943 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,279 Speaker 3: we're secure in our attachment styles, but on the. 944 00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:23,560 Speaker 7: Quad of avoidant versus anxious, I ver are more anxious, 945 00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:25,839 Speaker 7: he ver is more avoidant. So this is where our 946 00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:28,600 Speaker 7: breakdown comes from. So yeah, that that's my pet. Peeve 947 00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:30,360 Speaker 7: is like, don't don't give me these details of the 948 00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:31,880 Speaker 7: last second. My anxiety can't handle it. 949 00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:34,440 Speaker 5: Okay, you answered these questions? 950 00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:41,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, were going to Atlanta? Great? What was her childhood 951 00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:42,040 Speaker 3: pet's name? 952 00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:44,840 Speaker 5: May? 953 00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:52,200 Speaker 4: Oh that was the second one, Ozzi, Wow these questions, Eric, 954 00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,440 Speaker 4: I didn't know they heard this deep What would you say? 955 00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:58,680 Speaker 3: What would what would she say is her best quality? 956 00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:05,839 Speaker 8: Her best quality is her ability to. 957 00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:13,359 Speaker 5: Be empathetic, caring? Yes, is doing pretty good. 958 00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:17,279 Speaker 4: So wow, nine years is showing what is your what 959 00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,640 Speaker 4: is What would she say is her worst quality? 960 00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:22,720 Speaker 5: Her worst quality? 961 00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:25,560 Speaker 3: I don't even remember what I wrote. This is hilarious 962 00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:30,960 Speaker 3: that she's a little messy. She procrastinates. 963 00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,680 Speaker 5: Oh okay, yeah that is That's a good. 964 00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:39,360 Speaker 3: One, which end result leaves me tornado. Yeah? Is that 965 00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:41,160 Speaker 3: a cancer thing? It is? I don't know. 966 00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:43,920 Speaker 4: It's because we're emotional and everything really is emotionally driven. 967 00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,520 Speaker 2: And it's just Mila like literally just like walks and 968 00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:47,960 Speaker 2: things fall off her body. 969 00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:50,600 Speaker 3: I'm like, what the fuck? Why is your shoe here? 970 00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:52,960 Speaker 3: What is why is this over here? I can pick 971 00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:54,319 Speaker 3: it up quickly, though I can't. 972 00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,400 Speaker 4: It's like we're leaving like I could like check out 973 00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,040 Speaker 4: of a hotel in like five minutes, and like this 974 00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,400 Speaker 4: ship looks crazy and I'm give the minutes. 975 00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:03,680 Speaker 8: I call Melanie a spreader because she just her stuff 976 00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:04,480 Speaker 8: is everyone. 977 00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:08,960 Speaker 3: You got nothing on me COVID. 978 00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:16,319 Speaker 4: What is something she is most sensitive about matters of 979 00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:17,800 Speaker 4: the heart, her feelings? 980 00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:24,319 Speaker 3: Oh, it's okay, what have you? 981 00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:27,000 Speaker 4: What has she accomplished that she is most proud of 982 00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:28,080 Speaker 4: her children? 983 00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:34,320 Speaker 3: True? Her family? What is her biggest insecurity? 984 00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:38,839 Speaker 5: M hm, I don't know. 985 00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:42,120 Speaker 3: That's a that's a politically correct answer because like. 986 00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:43,000 Speaker 6: Matter like. 987 00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:47,320 Speaker 9: Avoided avoid. 988 00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:55,760 Speaker 3: Nothing. She's perfect right smart answer her art. She's sensitive 989 00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:58,400 Speaker 3: about her ship. It was with him, for sure. Really 990 00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:00,760 Speaker 3: like how he critiques you. Yeah, because he's musical. 991 00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:05,480 Speaker 4: Yes, he's like I don't really like Okay, Sorry, I 992 00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:06,360 Speaker 4: didn't think you'd like that. 993 00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:07,880 Speaker 5: I'm sorry, it's okay. 994 00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:09,440 Speaker 3: To many beats on that one. 995 00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:13,800 Speaker 7: You could have phrased this as a songwriter, as a successful, 996 00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:17,160 Speaker 7: accomplished songwriter that he is. It's uh, he's dissecting at 997 00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:17,600 Speaker 7: all times. 998 00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:20,000 Speaker 4: Do you this is not on the list, But do 999 00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:21,560 Speaker 4: you guys think it works in your favor that you 1000 00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:23,640 Speaker 4: guys are in the same industry or is it challenging. 1001 00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:25,839 Speaker 5: I think it works. It works for sure. 1002 00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:29,000 Speaker 8: We're able to speak on a level like if she 1003 00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:32,360 Speaker 8: was an accountant, we probably couldn't have the conversations that 1004 00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:32,719 Speaker 8: we have. 1005 00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:33,879 Speaker 3: It makes sense. 1006 00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:36,920 Speaker 7: I almost was an accountant, really, I really, I mean 1007 00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:38,840 Speaker 7: I really wasn't. But I did study accounting and finance 1008 00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,040 Speaker 7: in college. Did you finish college? 1009 00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:41,399 Speaker 3: I did? 1010 00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:44,640 Speaker 4: Oh? Wow, you're smart smart free, You're smart, You're smart 1011 00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:45,480 Speaker 4: smart artist. 1012 00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:49,359 Speaker 3: What would be a deal breaker in her relationship? 1013 00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:53,000 Speaker 5: Cheating? 1014 00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:58,600 Speaker 3: No, No, unwillingness to grow stagnant. 1015 00:44:58,719 --> 00:45:03,120 Speaker 5: See, I obviously have that a willingness to grow. 1016 00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:07,840 Speaker 3: He does? Where does she like to go? Grocery shopping? 1017 00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:09,799 Speaker 5: Trader Joe's. 1018 00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:14,600 Speaker 3: Who's her favorite musical artist of all time? 1019 00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:22,200 Speaker 5: I'm torn, but it is Stevie Wonder. I would have said. 1020 00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:25,879 Speaker 3: Houston a good one too, She's my favorite singer, but. 1021 00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:30,279 Speaker 5: Artist artist Stevie Kanye might be up there too, uh 1022 00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:32,120 Speaker 5: as artist. 1023 00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:35,080 Speaker 3: Now we will refrain from diving into that. 1024 00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:41,080 Speaker 4: He's past right now, pastor any it from all categories? 1025 00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:51,640 Speaker 3: What is her guilty? Pleasure? Sultan, vinegar chips, love is blind, 1026 00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:55,800 Speaker 3: trashy TV? You watch Zeus? What's it called? Zeus? 1027 00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,640 Speaker 4: The Like Ultimate trashy TV of all. You know, Wow, 1028 00:45:59,120 --> 00:45:59,960 Speaker 4: it might be too trashy. 1029 00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:01,320 Speaker 3: It's real ratchet. 1030 00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:04,399 Speaker 7: I don't know anything about this, oh Zeus network. Ye yes, oh, 1031 00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,120 Speaker 7: I do know that there is quite interesting programming on there. 1032 00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:09,000 Speaker 7: Haven't gotten into it, you'll get sucked in. 1033 00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:15,640 Speaker 4: Oh god, how old was she when she lost her virginity? 1034 00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:19,279 Speaker 5: Seventeen? 1035 00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:19,960 Speaker 4: Ding? 1036 00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:20,200 Speaker 8: Ding? 1037 00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:22,960 Speaker 3: Things? 1038 00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:23,560 Speaker 6: These are? 1039 00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:27,359 Speaker 3: That was a guest. What moment did she know she 1040 00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:27,879 Speaker 3: loved you? 1041 00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:30,600 Speaker 7: I don't agree with this answer that I wrote down, 1042 00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:32,799 Speaker 7: to be honest. What Yeah, he's not going. 1043 00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:37,239 Speaker 8: To know this, Okay, the moment she fell in love 1044 00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:37,480 Speaker 8: with me? 1045 00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:42,120 Speaker 4: Now I fell in love the moment I loved you? 1046 00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:43,800 Speaker 5: No, I don't remember. 1047 00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:46,719 Speaker 4: No, this is a tough I literally wrote this thing down, 1048 00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:49,319 Speaker 4: but it's just such a vivid memory in my mind 1049 00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:50,560 Speaker 4: of him because. 1050 00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:53,040 Speaker 3: You're on the island helping the locals. 1051 00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:58,520 Speaker 7: Yeah, it's when I saw him break who I thought 1052 00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:02,520 Speaker 7: that he was. He was kind, he was caring, he 1053 00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:05,600 Speaker 7: was attentive, he was willing to work, he was willing 1054 00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:06,000 Speaker 7: to help. 1055 00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:10,160 Speaker 3: He wasn't lazy and like, yeah, like is that lazy? 1056 00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:10,400 Speaker 8: No? 1057 00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:12,080 Speaker 3: You know what it is, just like you just don't know. 1058 00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:14,400 Speaker 7: Like there's certain people that just watch things happen and 1059 00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:15,640 Speaker 7: they just sit by and they're like, oh, it's not 1060 00:47:15,640 --> 00:47:17,680 Speaker 7: my business, I stay out of it. But there was 1061 00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:19,360 Speaker 7: these guys on the beach and they were trying to 1062 00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:21,799 Speaker 7: move this like big canoe, and like Jared just went 1063 00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:23,759 Speaker 7: over to help them. He left the group to go 1064 00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:25,799 Speaker 7: help them, and I just saw that. I was like, Oh, 1065 00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:28,000 Speaker 7: that's a beautiful quality and someone to me, it's just 1066 00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:31,879 Speaker 7: a willingness to show up to help without expecting anything 1067 00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:33,520 Speaker 7: in return. And it spoke a lot of his character 1068 00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:34,720 Speaker 7: and he is that way. 1069 00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:39,319 Speaker 4: It's interesting how sometimes we can create people in our 1070 00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:41,919 Speaker 4: minds before we have the opportunity to know them. I've 1071 00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:43,360 Speaker 4: done a lot of times, like you think you know 1072 00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:45,799 Speaker 4: someone and then they and then if you're open enough 1073 00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,319 Speaker 4: to allow them to really show you, then you can 1074 00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:50,560 Speaker 4: You're open to shift it. But I think a lot 1075 00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:52,160 Speaker 4: of times people are not open to shifting it. You 1076 00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:53,920 Speaker 4: make up your mind what you think someone is and 1077 00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:56,160 Speaker 4: then you roll with that. Yeah, And it's crazy like 1078 00:47:56,200 --> 00:48:00,560 Speaker 4: our past experiences kind of shape how we perceive people immediately, 1079 00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:05,759 Speaker 4: Like I thought, you date white women and lazy, it's 1080 00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:06,400 Speaker 4: not my type? 1081 00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:07,399 Speaker 3: You know my type? 1082 00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:10,720 Speaker 7: Over No, I mean listen for all the right reasons, 1083 00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:11,680 Speaker 7: prove me wrong every time. 1084 00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:15,520 Speaker 3: I love it? Yeah, right right? What is her biggest fear. 1085 00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:18,400 Speaker 5: Losing me? 1086 00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:25,480 Speaker 3: No, spoken like a Gemini bees. Keep it light, bro, 1087 00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:31,759 Speaker 3: keep it light, simple, be come up with here. I'm out. 1088 00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:34,279 Speaker 8: You can have the whole building about me. 1089 00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:37,719 Speaker 3: So you know that in that safe space. Okay. What 1090 00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:39,200 Speaker 3: is her favorite sex position? 1091 00:48:40,080 --> 00:48:45,440 Speaker 5: Mm hmmm uh doggie from the bag. 1092 00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,440 Speaker 3: Yeah? 1093 00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:46,480 Speaker 9: Yeah. 1094 00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:51,920 Speaker 4: Would she prefer to save or spend money? 1095 00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:53,080 Speaker 6: Uh? 1096 00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:55,239 Speaker 5: This season, I would say save. 1097 00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:57,440 Speaker 3: She said she preferred to make it. 1098 00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:03,800 Speaker 4: I agree, choice. 1099 00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:05,200 Speaker 5: I like that. 1100 00:49:05,320 --> 00:49:08,719 Speaker 3: Who is her celeb crush Michael B. 1101 00:49:08,840 --> 00:49:09,160 Speaker 5: Jordan? 1102 00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:11,479 Speaker 3: No, No, I mean. 1103 00:49:11,480 --> 00:49:15,680 Speaker 5: Isn't he every girl's crush? Right? No? 1104 00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:25,279 Speaker 3: More? Tom Hardy He's fine. He's white. That sounds white. 1105 00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:27,480 Speaker 3: He's rugged. I love it. Like what is his name? 1106 00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:31,920 Speaker 3: Is an actor? He was? He was venom. He always 1107 00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:37,759 Speaker 3: plays like very character. Yeah, it doesn't look so good that, 1108 00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:41,040 Speaker 3: but actually they's rugged. Yeah, I like it. I like 1109 00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:46,120 Speaker 3: the dark Whites. They didn't have a dark rooting soul. 1110 00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:51,759 Speaker 4: Yeah, you know like Killer Whites, Seria killer? 1111 00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:54,680 Speaker 3: Are you darkness? Will you kill someone from me? Now? Okay? 1112 00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:57,120 Speaker 3: Well I would love that. Will you murder for me? 1113 00:49:57,360 --> 00:49:59,319 Speaker 4: Will I don't want you to murder me, but you'll 1114 00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:01,440 Speaker 4: murder others. 1115 00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:05,160 Speaker 3: This just went all the way left. You know, we're 1116 00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:06,080 Speaker 3: over here. 1117 00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:08,120 Speaker 4: Guy did tell me he would kill for me once 1118 00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:09,440 Speaker 4: and it kind of made my pussy wet, And I 1119 00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:10,720 Speaker 4: was like, am I a serial killer? 1120 00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:12,919 Speaker 3: I a serial killer? 1121 00:50:13,000 --> 00:50:13,040 Speaker 6: No? 1122 00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:19,960 Speaker 3: I'm a listener. How does she feel about non monogamy? 1123 00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:22,480 Speaker 5: Oh she doesn't, she doesn't like that. 1124 00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:28,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, she wrote, she wrote do you? But I don't 1125 00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:29,920 Speaker 3: think she meant that for you. No, no, no, no, it's 1126 00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:31,200 Speaker 3: not she meant not for you. 1127 00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:31,520 Speaker 6: Guys. 1128 00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:35,839 Speaker 3: I was like, do you see what happened? We'll see 1129 00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:38,600 Speaker 3: who the cereal kill is. Melanie is a serial killer? 1130 00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:41,759 Speaker 5: We've had that conversation. 1131 00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:45,600 Speaker 3: No, we have not. Did you bring that conversation up? 1132 00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:50,279 Speaker 3: No talking about you? 1133 00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:52,000 Speaker 5: No? 1134 00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:54,759 Speaker 8: No, I didn't know forget how it came up. But 1135 00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:56,759 Speaker 8: we were just talking about we were. 1136 00:50:56,719 --> 00:50:59,680 Speaker 3: Just watching the movie. Hypothetically. 1137 00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:02,239 Speaker 4: I feel like it's a common conversation to come up 1138 00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:05,400 Speaker 4: because the time we live in, like any relationships that 1139 00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:06,839 Speaker 4: exists to like ninety percent open. 1140 00:51:07,040 --> 00:51:11,080 Speaker 7: Well, you know, it's really interesting because there's like recently 1141 00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:13,080 Speaker 7: the conversation of like cheating, Like we know a few 1142 00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:15,120 Speaker 7: people who are going through some hard times, like the 1143 00:51:15,160 --> 00:51:17,799 Speaker 7: conversation of cheating. My homegirl Shan did a podcast on 1144 00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:20,400 Speaker 7: cheating and this conversation it came up, and it's interesting 1145 00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:23,960 Speaker 7: to think about how people define what that is and 1146 00:51:24,560 --> 00:51:25,320 Speaker 7: open relate. 1147 00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:27,200 Speaker 4: Like if you are both on the same page of 1148 00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:30,440 Speaker 4: having an open relationship, it's different. If one person is 1149 00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:32,320 Speaker 4: on the page of having an open relationship, you're cheating. 1150 00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:35,360 Speaker 4: So it's very I think it's all about the communication. 1151 00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:37,160 Speaker 4: So I always tell them, I'm like, don't be doing 1152 00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:38,960 Speaker 4: no shit to me. That makes me feel like I'm 1153 00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:39,680 Speaker 4: left in the dark. 1154 00:51:39,800 --> 00:51:42,359 Speaker 7: Right, Let's not ever get to a place where you 1155 00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:44,640 Speaker 7: want something different or I want something different. We haven't 1156 00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:49,400 Speaker 7: communicated our desire, our interests, our curiosity, whatever it is. 1157 00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:51,600 Speaker 3: I just feel like, don't have your partner out here. 1158 00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:52,080 Speaker 3: Look it crazy. 1159 00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:54,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, And that's not They like, don't if i'm your friend, 1160 00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:56,880 Speaker 4: don't let me be the last person to know. If 1161 00:51:56,960 --> 00:51:58,960 Speaker 4: you fuck with me, then you're gonna at least like, 1162 00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:00,160 Speaker 4: don't let me be in a room full of well 1163 00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:01,560 Speaker 4: and I'm the only bit who doesn't know what's up, 1164 00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:02,920 Speaker 4: then I'll fucking fuck you. 1165 00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:04,399 Speaker 3: Yes, then I'll become a serial killer. 1166 00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:07,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, like then you did like that darkness. 1167 00:52:07,800 --> 00:52:10,520 Speaker 3: He's like help, help and help, blink three times if 1168 00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:14,680 Speaker 3: you need help? Do you do you abuse your sometimes? 1169 00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:19,560 Speaker 4: Just like but I like it, okay, a little freaky. 1170 00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,319 Speaker 4: What's your what's her favorite memory of your relationship? 1171 00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:28,799 Speaker 5: There's just so many. I don't know. 1172 00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:35,239 Speaker 8: I think early on we were at Great Adventure was 1173 00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:36,480 Speaker 8: Great Adventures. 1174 00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:38,719 Speaker 3: This is a good story in Jersey what I wrote, 1175 00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:39,440 Speaker 3: but it's a good story. 1176 00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:44,359 Speaker 8: And I just I hit two basket to basketball, two 1177 00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:48,480 Speaker 8: shots to win, like this big bear or monkey, right, 1178 00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:53,080 Speaker 8: and we named him monkey, and I just remember her 1179 00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:53,920 Speaker 8: being damn. 1180 00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:56,240 Speaker 3: It was a really good moment. 1181 00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:57,480 Speaker 5: We had a good time. 1182 00:52:57,480 --> 00:52:58,960 Speaker 7: It might have been actually the moment I think I 1183 00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:02,040 Speaker 7: loved you because because I remember it was the swag 1184 00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:04,239 Speaker 7: in which he did like I had no expectations because 1185 00:53:04,239 --> 00:53:07,520 Speaker 7: those games are rare, so I had no expectations. He 1186 00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:10,240 Speaker 7: sunk those buckets and one of the biggest stuff animals. 1187 00:53:10,280 --> 00:53:12,960 Speaker 7: I was like, oh ship, I'm like, you hit that, 1188 00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:13,920 Speaker 7: You're gonna hit that. 1189 00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:16,560 Speaker 6: You got games. 1190 00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:17,640 Speaker 3: So it was cute. 1191 00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:19,359 Speaker 4: And then and then that stuffed animals stayed in our 1192 00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:20,600 Speaker 4: lives up until recently. 1193 00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:23,080 Speaker 3: Finally had we had because you know cancer is not 1194 00:53:23,200 --> 00:53:24,839 Speaker 3: like it like, no, we don't our son. 1195 00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:26,560 Speaker 4: Our son used to like jump on it was a 1196 00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:28,719 Speaker 4: huge monkey. And then the stuffing started coming out. We're like, oh, 1197 00:53:28,719 --> 00:53:29,320 Speaker 4: this is dangerous. 1198 00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:32,800 Speaker 3: Shout out to Fitzroy our first child. 1199 00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:33,680 Speaker 6: Uh. 1200 00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:37,480 Speaker 4: She said her we are your guys' wedding. But clearly 1201 00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:41,440 Speaker 4: she forgot about greater than I did. Here's the last question. 1202 00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:45,879 Speaker 4: What what does she wish her partner saw more more 1203 00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:46,520 Speaker 4: of himself? 1204 00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:48,640 Speaker 3: Like? How what does she wish you saw more on yourself? 1205 00:53:49,239 --> 00:53:50,919 Speaker 5: Mmmm? I don't. 1206 00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:53,279 Speaker 8: I don't know the answer to that. I'm curious what 1207 00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:53,680 Speaker 8: she wrote. 1208 00:53:54,440 --> 00:53:58,000 Speaker 3: You're grounding grounded. 1209 00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:02,480 Speaker 7: He's a sign, so he's he can float, he can 1210 00:54:02,520 --> 00:54:05,760 Speaker 7: be all over the place. He can also second guess himself, 1211 00:54:05,800 --> 00:54:07,880 Speaker 7: and so I think the grounding allows him to stand 1212 00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:11,799 Speaker 7: firm in his greatness too, because he's great great. 1213 00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:12,879 Speaker 3: Okay, I'm about to fail. 1214 00:54:12,920 --> 00:54:15,480 Speaker 5: All my answers are not as good as your. 1215 00:54:15,800 --> 00:54:17,919 Speaker 3: So I'm gonna try to think like you didn't get 1216 00:54:17,920 --> 00:54:18,480 Speaker 3: in the mind. 1217 00:54:18,280 --> 00:54:21,080 Speaker 5: Of Jared if you can read my handwriting. 1218 00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:24,760 Speaker 2: Sorry, Okay, what's his favorite color? 1219 00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:36,319 Speaker 3: Black? Correct? Overall? Pet peeve? Overall pet peeve? Police one 1220 00:54:36,560 --> 00:54:39,640 Speaker 3: don't with the cops. Black amman in America. I don't 1221 00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:41,280 Speaker 3: think black people fuck with the cops. 1222 00:54:41,640 --> 00:54:43,160 Speaker 7: No, but he But the thing about it is is 1223 00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:46,320 Speaker 7: that Jared is super rational and calm in every situation, 1224 00:54:46,440 --> 00:54:49,520 Speaker 7: like I'm the firecracker. But something about the police just 1225 00:54:49,719 --> 00:54:51,240 Speaker 7: sent he becomes someone else. 1226 00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:53,719 Speaker 2: My daughter was that party city the other day and 1227 00:54:53,719 --> 00:54:55,840 Speaker 2: she's like, Mom, I want to be a police officer 1228 00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:59,880 Speaker 2: for Halloween. I was like, no, we don't funk with 1229 00:54:59,880 --> 00:55:04,160 Speaker 2: the no. No, sorry, I can't get behind this. Shout 1230 00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:05,680 Speaker 2: out to the cops that are good. 1231 00:55:05,960 --> 00:55:11,719 Speaker 3: Yes, your sp what is this, Pepe? Your space is 1232 00:55:11,760 --> 00:55:12,240 Speaker 3: your space. 1233 00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:20,800 Speaker 4: My space is my space, basically, super spreader, give me space. 1234 00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:25,840 Speaker 5: It's funny because we have a big house. 1235 00:55:26,120 --> 00:55:30,759 Speaker 8: I'm not I'm not saying that's a drag, right, And 1236 00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:32,240 Speaker 8: I have my little things? 1237 00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:34,000 Speaker 3: Can I have my one little mother? 1238 00:55:34,080 --> 00:55:34,200 Speaker 8: Can? 1239 00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:35,359 Speaker 4: I like? 1240 00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:38,600 Speaker 8: You know, I'll find a freaking hair tie on my 1241 00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:40,680 Speaker 8: night stand. I'm like, you have your own night stand. 1242 00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:43,920 Speaker 3: My nightstand is full of my altar and stuff. 1243 00:55:44,239 --> 00:55:47,439 Speaker 5: Yeah, well you can make a room on your knight stand. 1244 00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:48,240 Speaker 3: I'm sorry. 1245 00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:53,479 Speaker 2: Cancers are infectious, yeah, which which leads me to pet 1246 00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:57,200 Speaker 2: pee when it comes to your partner, pet Oh, he 1247 00:55:57,239 --> 00:56:04,240 Speaker 2: says a messy Yeah, what is Jared's childhood pet's name checkers? 1248 00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:05,680 Speaker 3: Yep? Wow? 1249 00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:09,239 Speaker 4: What would you say is? What would say? 1250 00:56:09,400 --> 00:56:11,800 Speaker 3: What? Whoa? I didn't I didn't write this right? What was? 1251 00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:21,040 Speaker 3: What is his best quality? Jared's best quality? He's Jared's 1252 00:56:21,040 --> 00:56:23,760 Speaker 3: best qualities. He's adaptable. That's exactly what he wrote. 1253 00:56:24,760 --> 00:56:29,800 Speaker 4: Wow, you can switch up quick, wow, or any situation. 1254 00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:37,319 Speaker 3: What about his worst quality? His worst quality is I 1255 00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:40,359 Speaker 3: mean he's he's impulsive. 1256 00:56:40,760 --> 00:56:44,400 Speaker 2: Him thinking he doesn't have a worst quality. 1257 00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:52,040 Speaker 3: That is absolutely true, jar Jarney Jared, but I'm perfect. 1258 00:56:52,640 --> 00:56:54,400 Speaker 3: What is something he's most sensitive about? 1259 00:56:57,760 --> 00:57:01,800 Speaker 4: Something that he's most sensitive about? He's not really sensitive, 1260 00:57:01,840 --> 00:57:04,640 Speaker 4: So this is hard. I don't know his three point shot. 1261 00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:06,200 Speaker 3: I don't know getting older? 1262 00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:09,759 Speaker 4: Oh yes, Peter pan over here, you would to be 1263 00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:10,320 Speaker 4: young forever? 1264 00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:16,200 Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, you're scared of grays and things. 1265 00:57:16,520 --> 00:57:17,440 Speaker 5: Not scared of grays. 1266 00:57:17,440 --> 00:57:20,120 Speaker 8: Like I don't mind like looking older or like. 1267 00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:20,960 Speaker 5: You know, more mature. 1268 00:57:22,240 --> 00:57:26,840 Speaker 8: Oh sorry, see I'm not on my artist ship. I'm 1269 00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:29,400 Speaker 8: not you know, looking older. That that doesn't bother me. 1270 00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:33,680 Speaker 8: It's it's the finality of like, it's it's going to 1271 00:57:33,840 --> 00:57:35,000 Speaker 8: end for everyone. 1272 00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:36,360 Speaker 3: I think you know what kids. Does that? 1273 00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:39,960 Speaker 2: I never really feared death until I had kids and 1274 00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:42,440 Speaker 2: the thought of leaving them here in this wretched. 1275 00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:46,480 Speaker 3: World without me? Who's going to help you? Which shit 1276 00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:47,160 Speaker 3: goes wrong? 1277 00:57:48,120 --> 00:57:48,560 Speaker 5: I feel it? 1278 00:57:48,640 --> 00:57:48,960 Speaker 3: Get that? 1279 00:57:49,400 --> 00:57:53,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, No, Jared just he's he's young. He's always youthful 1280 00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:54,120 Speaker 4: in his spirits. 1281 00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:58,760 Speaker 2: So I think, what has Jared accomplished that he's most 1282 00:57:58,760 --> 00:58:06,400 Speaker 2: proud of? I'd say his family? No, sorry, his number 1283 00:58:06,440 --> 00:58:06,880 Speaker 2: one record? 1284 00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:08,040 Speaker 6: What is it? 1285 00:58:08,840 --> 00:58:11,040 Speaker 3: He's proud of where he's at, but more proud of 1286 00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:11,720 Speaker 3: where he's going. 1287 00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:15,240 Speaker 7: Oh, you got very deep on these answers. 1288 00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:18,160 Speaker 3: There's no way I can answer that. Wait the next. 1289 00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:21,200 Speaker 8: One, I thought, See, I didn't realize that you were 1290 00:58:21,200 --> 00:58:21,800 Speaker 8: going to answer these. 1291 00:58:21,840 --> 00:58:25,200 Speaker 2: I thought this was like for us, what is Jared's 1292 00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:28,520 Speaker 2: biggest insecurity being broke? 1293 00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:34,080 Speaker 3: He has no answer, he has no insecurities. He just 1294 00:58:34,120 --> 00:58:37,440 Speaker 3: left it blank and there of the Gemini. It's perfect. 1295 00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:40,760 Speaker 3: I'm perfect, it's perfect, and he has no insecurity. It's perfect. 1296 00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:46,480 Speaker 2: What would be a deal breaker in your relationship for Jared? 1297 00:58:50,480 --> 00:58:51,520 Speaker 2: I think if I was. 1298 00:58:52,960 --> 00:58:55,560 Speaker 4: I don't know, if I was trying to control him, 1299 00:58:55,800 --> 00:58:59,000 Speaker 4: I don't know. This could be sort of that continuous disrespect. 1300 00:58:59,160 --> 00:59:01,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, like I feel like if I just wasn't giving 1301 00:59:01,160 --> 00:59:01,680 Speaker 3: him the space to. 1302 00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:05,919 Speaker 4: Be him continuous. You can do a little disrespect, little 1303 00:59:05,960 --> 00:59:08,600 Speaker 4: bit continue you continuously do it. 1304 00:59:08,280 --> 00:59:08,360 Speaker 1: But. 1305 00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:14,720 Speaker 2: Spring a lot of little disrespect every now and then. 1306 00:59:14,040 --> 00:59:19,560 Speaker 3: To where does he like to grocery shop? He doesn't 1307 00:59:19,560 --> 00:59:21,160 Speaker 3: grocery shop? Apparently he does. 1308 00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:30,160 Speaker 2: YEA favorite musical artists of all time Stevie Wonder. Yeah, 1309 00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:32,400 Speaker 2: what is his guilty pleasure? 1310 00:59:37,400 --> 00:59:40,560 Speaker 4: Shake shack, milk shakes, cookies and cream shakes. 1311 00:59:42,840 --> 00:59:44,640 Speaker 3: He would literally have one of those every single day, 1312 00:59:45,160 --> 00:59:50,160 Speaker 3: cookies and creamy. Id's so bombed. I don't even I 1313 00:59:50,480 --> 00:59:52,240 Speaker 3: just taste his because if I can't go down that 1314 00:59:52,440 --> 00:59:55,280 Speaker 3: is there a shakeshack in the valley? Yeah? Where is it? 1315 00:59:56,480 --> 01:00:00,160 Speaker 3: And Westlake? What is your favorite porn? What does his 1316 01:00:00,160 --> 01:00:01,360 Speaker 3: favorite porn category? 1317 01:00:02,440 --> 01:00:05,240 Speaker 5: I mean, I already said I used it for. 1318 01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:09,280 Speaker 3: Did you know? I have no idea watching it in 1319 01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:09,640 Speaker 3: the basket. 1320 01:00:10,400 --> 01:00:13,840 Speaker 8: I'm joking. It's not my favorite. It was just a 1321 01:00:13,840 --> 01:00:16,360 Speaker 8: little funny anything. I don't I don't actually watch. 1322 01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:19,120 Speaker 3: A lot of know what you did? 1323 01:00:21,320 --> 01:00:21,640 Speaker 5: I don't. 1324 01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:25,240 Speaker 8: I don't know, like porn is porn to me? Like 1325 01:00:25,280 --> 01:00:26,800 Speaker 8: it's just two people having six. 1326 01:00:27,600 --> 01:00:30,080 Speaker 3: Or multiporgy threesome. 1327 01:00:31,040 --> 01:00:33,000 Speaker 8: If I were to watch it, if it's if it's hot, 1328 01:00:33,080 --> 01:00:33,800 Speaker 8: it's good. 1329 01:00:33,720 --> 01:00:36,720 Speaker 3: You know, hot porn, happy happy. 1330 01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:40,360 Speaker 5: Yeah, people having porn gotta be real good. 1331 01:00:40,560 --> 01:00:43,280 Speaker 3: That's pretty hard to find. It's really hard. It's nice, 1332 01:00:43,880 --> 01:00:49,400 Speaker 3: really some ship unless you're on Twitter. Twitter has better tweeter. 1333 01:00:49,480 --> 01:00:49,680 Speaker 8: Yeah. 1334 01:00:49,720 --> 01:00:53,000 Speaker 3: Twitter is the porn, Twitter's new porn. Yeah what oh? 1335 01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:56,560 Speaker 3: I was shocked. Also, I'm where are we Twitter? 1336 01:00:56,880 --> 01:00:58,920 Speaker 4: I thought it was just one hundred and forty characters 1337 01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:01,360 Speaker 4: already are They had videos and they had that it 1338 01:01:01,400 --> 01:01:03,960 Speaker 4: was dark Twitter. There's no sensory they don't have. Nothing's 1339 01:01:03,960 --> 01:01:05,880 Speaker 4: bleeped out. I can put my boobs on there. No 1340 01:01:05,880 --> 01:01:08,120 Speaker 4: one still cares, no flags. 1341 01:01:08,280 --> 01:01:10,160 Speaker 5: What I know what I'm doing with the rest of 1342 01:01:10,160 --> 01:01:11,040 Speaker 5: the afternoon. 1343 01:01:12,480 --> 01:01:12,840 Speaker 3: Orlando. 1344 01:01:13,320 --> 01:01:17,240 Speaker 4: Orlando can show you the way he knows all the 1345 01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:18,000 Speaker 4: great people to follow. 1346 01:01:18,080 --> 01:01:18,520 Speaker 3: Apparently. 1347 01:01:20,160 --> 01:01:22,920 Speaker 4: How old was Jared when he lost his virginity? 1348 01:01:24,520 --> 01:01:28,320 Speaker 3: Fast ass? Twelve? How old are you? Damn? 1349 01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:32,400 Speaker 7: He was always talking about how so and so? When 1350 01:01:32,440 --> 01:01:34,440 Speaker 7: I was like, you were doing what at what age? 1351 01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:36,400 Speaker 3: I was like, I was playing sports. I didn't have time. 1352 01:01:36,480 --> 01:01:38,360 Speaker 8: I mean, I was definitely getting blow jobs at twelve. 1353 01:01:38,920 --> 01:01:42,760 Speaker 7: What mother is going to listen to this. You know 1354 01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:44,240 Speaker 7: your mother listens to everything that we do. 1355 01:01:44,560 --> 01:01:45,360 Speaker 5: Mom. 1356 01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:46,360 Speaker 3: Sorry, Mom, Well. 1357 01:01:46,400 --> 01:01:49,440 Speaker 4: Boys have like an earlier boys allowed to do that 1358 01:01:49,560 --> 01:01:52,400 Speaker 4: because it's the society and which we live. We sexualiz 1359 01:01:52,760 --> 01:01:56,479 Speaker 4: We like positively enforced men for being second true and 1360 01:01:56,520 --> 01:01:57,960 Speaker 4: for women we shame shame them. 1361 01:01:58,000 --> 01:01:58,960 Speaker 5: Yes, this is true. 1362 01:01:59,240 --> 01:02:01,120 Speaker 3: So it's like a guy, get dick. It's like, good 1363 01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:04,840 Speaker 3: balle you did right? Oh god, I know, not an accent. 1364 01:02:06,440 --> 01:02:10,120 Speaker 3: You did it, boy, you did it. That's how that's 1365 01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:13,640 Speaker 3: how that's talked to that. Sons go oh ahead, boy, hilarious. 1366 01:02:14,080 --> 01:02:15,320 Speaker 3: Is this accurate? Is that? 1367 01:02:16,200 --> 01:02:18,880 Speaker 5: No? Actually, my dad kind of sounds like that. 1368 01:02:18,960 --> 01:02:20,080 Speaker 3: Do you sound like that's a Cameron? 1369 01:02:20,520 --> 01:02:24,360 Speaker 8: Maybe I will, good job boy? 1370 01:02:24,960 --> 01:02:26,800 Speaker 3: What's what is the age? Sixteen? 1371 01:02:26,880 --> 01:02:27,040 Speaker 6: Oh? 1372 01:02:27,120 --> 01:02:31,080 Speaker 3: Sixteen? Okay, he went penetrative at sixteen. He waited for 1373 01:02:31,280 --> 01:02:33,840 Speaker 3: he waited four years. What moment did you? 1374 01:02:34,480 --> 01:02:34,960 Speaker 8: Uh? 1375 01:02:35,360 --> 01:02:39,120 Speaker 3: Did did wait with this question? Where did she wrote 1376 01:02:39,120 --> 01:02:44,040 Speaker 3: this ship? What? Imagine me? What moment did he know 1377 01:02:44,280 --> 01:02:50,320 Speaker 3: he loved you? The moment you knew you loved me? 1378 01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:55,600 Speaker 3: It was when you thought I realized that you were perfect. 1379 01:02:57,320 --> 01:03:00,600 Speaker 4: I'm trying to answer like him, No, I am the 1380 01:03:00,640 --> 01:03:02,560 Speaker 4: moment you knew you loved me? 1381 01:03:04,280 --> 01:03:05,280 Speaker 3: I don't know when you lost me? 1382 01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:08,600 Speaker 5: What did I write? 1383 01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:09,680 Speaker 3: When she met my family? 1384 01:03:10,200 --> 01:03:11,240 Speaker 6: Oh? 1385 01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:12,840 Speaker 3: Oh, that's cute. 1386 01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:16,000 Speaker 2: It was like it was like the family just all blended, 1387 01:03:16,040 --> 01:03:17,880 Speaker 2: all just meshed together work. 1388 01:03:17,920 --> 01:03:20,160 Speaker 8: My family is very important to me. Were all very 1389 01:03:20,280 --> 01:03:22,640 Speaker 8: very close, you know. So when I when I when 1390 01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:26,120 Speaker 8: she came into the fold and I saw how you know, 1391 01:03:26,200 --> 01:03:28,479 Speaker 8: she was with my mother, my father, and my aunts 1392 01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:30,720 Speaker 8: and uncles. It was like, Okay, it. 1393 01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:34,480 Speaker 2: Works, we can do this. It's a good feeling that happens. Yes, 1394 01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:36,720 Speaker 2: When it doesn't happen, it is the worst feeling. 1395 01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:38,640 Speaker 8: It's like, okay, this is not gonna work. 1396 01:03:38,720 --> 01:03:43,120 Speaker 2: Okay, Well that was fun. What is Jared's biggest fear 1397 01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:46,800 Speaker 2: being broke? Going backwards? So maybe that's being broke? 1398 01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:47,480 Speaker 5: Sure? 1399 01:03:48,040 --> 01:03:49,560 Speaker 3: Although were you have you ever been broke? 1400 01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:51,880 Speaker 5: Not in a very long time. 1401 01:03:52,800 --> 01:03:55,200 Speaker 3: That's good news. You've been rich for a long time. 1402 01:03:56,040 --> 01:04:03,040 Speaker 3: Rich for rich for uh? What's his favorite sex position? 1403 01:04:06,880 --> 01:04:10,440 Speaker 3: From the back? Everybody? Universal? 1404 01:04:11,360 --> 01:04:11,920 Speaker 5: Universal? 1405 01:04:16,120 --> 01:04:19,280 Speaker 3: Would he prefer to save or spend money? Spend yep? 1406 01:04:19,520 --> 01:04:20,440 Speaker 3: Not even hesitation? 1407 01:04:20,640 --> 01:04:20,840 Speaker 4: Yep. 1408 01:04:22,480 --> 01:04:24,600 Speaker 3: Who is his celebrity crush? 1409 01:04:25,360 --> 01:04:26,880 Speaker 5: Okay, it's an old one. 1410 01:04:26,920 --> 01:04:29,920 Speaker 8: I didn't know what to write an old one. 1411 01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:34,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, that could run down a list. Go ahead, 1412 01:04:34,760 --> 01:04:43,000 Speaker 3: sex list Beyonce, Joan Small? Who is John Small? Supermodel? 1413 01:04:43,360 --> 01:04:47,800 Speaker 3: Is it? I should have gone first? Jam h. 1414 01:04:48,840 --> 01:04:51,640 Speaker 4: How does Jared feel about non monogamy? 1415 01:04:53,120 --> 01:04:56,040 Speaker 3: I think he's fine with it. He says he doesn't judge. Yeah, 1416 01:04:56,040 --> 01:05:02,720 Speaker 3: he doesn't judge. Favorite memory of your relationship, favor memory 1417 01:05:02,880 --> 01:05:09,280 Speaker 3: of yours? Our Yes, we have the same answer. Look 1418 01:05:09,280 --> 01:05:10,760 Speaker 3: at that. We should give me a rid again. 1419 01:05:12,560 --> 01:05:15,080 Speaker 2: Okay, last question, what do you wish your partner saw 1420 01:05:15,160 --> 01:05:15,840 Speaker 2: more of? 1421 01:05:16,360 --> 01:05:17,959 Speaker 3: What the fuck am I writing. 1422 01:05:19,840 --> 01:05:19,880 Speaker 1: It? 1423 01:05:20,760 --> 01:05:22,320 Speaker 3: I didn't have time to spell check. I don't even 1424 01:05:22,360 --> 01:05:22,520 Speaker 3: know you. 1425 01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:25,840 Speaker 2: Okay, what do you What do you wish your partner 1426 01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:28,960 Speaker 2: saw more of in hisself? 1427 01:05:28,960 --> 01:05:33,840 Speaker 3: Herself? Herself? What more? What do I think? What do you? 1428 01:05:33,920 --> 01:05:37,479 Speaker 3: What does he? What do you think? This a trick question? 1429 01:05:38,080 --> 01:05:39,960 Speaker 3: What do you think? This is a double? You saw 1430 01:05:40,000 --> 01:05:41,720 Speaker 3: more of of yourself? Myself? 1431 01:05:47,800 --> 01:05:47,960 Speaker 6: Oh? 1432 01:05:49,360 --> 01:05:50,040 Speaker 3: I don't know. 1433 01:05:53,120 --> 01:05:54,080 Speaker 5: It has to do with me. 1434 01:05:54,800 --> 01:05:57,640 Speaker 3: Of course it does. Shocker how much you love me? 1435 01:05:58,840 --> 01:06:00,640 Speaker 1: Yeah? 1436 01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:11,080 Speaker 3: When she Melanie knows all the answer perfect. 1437 01:06:12,360 --> 01:06:13,640 Speaker 2: I was gonna send it to you on the way 1438 01:06:13,680 --> 01:06:15,240 Speaker 2: and I was like, first of all, they're driving, Second 1439 01:06:15,240 --> 01:06:16,120 Speaker 2: of all, they're gonna cheat. 1440 01:06:17,960 --> 01:06:18,560 Speaker 3: I love it. 1441 01:06:18,680 --> 01:06:22,080 Speaker 5: That's pretty good. Yeah, oh that was fun. 1442 01:06:23,080 --> 01:06:25,200 Speaker 3: Still getting it on in the car sometimes sometimes you 1443 01:06:25,240 --> 01:06:26,880 Speaker 3: gotta listen. I'm gonna just say this. 1444 01:06:27,320 --> 01:06:32,280 Speaker 7: These kids, between them waking up at night coming one 1445 01:06:32,280 --> 01:06:34,439 Speaker 7: of them can walk into the room now, like it's 1446 01:06:34,480 --> 01:06:36,560 Speaker 7: like a it's a really really interesting thing. 1447 01:06:36,600 --> 01:06:38,840 Speaker 3: Ironically, we were with. 1448 01:06:39,040 --> 01:06:42,880 Speaker 7: My girl Shan and she had just had her daughter, 1449 01:06:43,400 --> 01:06:45,560 Speaker 7: and she was like, so, yo, like what sex like 1450 01:06:45,760 --> 01:06:48,080 Speaker 7: like married, And I was like, you know, I'm like, 1451 01:06:48,160 --> 01:06:50,720 Speaker 7: it's great, like it hasn't changed for us as far 1452 01:06:50,760 --> 01:06:52,439 Speaker 7: as the fact that but just like our son wants 1453 01:06:52,440 --> 01:06:55,000 Speaker 7: to come in our bed every single night, that night 1454 01:06:55,120 --> 01:06:57,680 Speaker 7: he didn't come into our room that night. We had 1455 01:06:57,720 --> 01:07:00,959 Speaker 7: amazing sex that night we conceived our Oh my god, 1456 01:07:00,960 --> 01:07:01,520 Speaker 7: oh my god. 1457 01:07:01,560 --> 01:07:02,600 Speaker 3: It was just the time. 1458 01:07:02,720 --> 01:07:05,240 Speaker 7: I was like, we just don't have babies coming into 1459 01:07:05,240 --> 01:07:09,040 Speaker 7: our room for the next little while. Okay, great, but 1460 01:07:09,040 --> 01:07:10,480 Speaker 7: but yeah, it's it's. 1461 01:07:10,360 --> 01:07:12,840 Speaker 3: Uh, it's it's really crazy. How that, how that, how. 1462 01:07:12,800 --> 01:07:14,640 Speaker 5: That happened, And that's why I have a vasectomy. 1463 01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:19,400 Speaker 3: Now you do? Are you publicly? I'm sharing a publicly 1464 01:07:19,800 --> 01:07:23,040 Speaker 3: congratulations you know the club. I mean, I think as 1465 01:07:23,040 --> 01:07:24,680 Speaker 3: you could reverse it at any time, but you can. 1466 01:07:24,800 --> 01:07:28,120 Speaker 5: But I honestly forgot about it. But my balls hurt 1467 01:07:28,200 --> 01:07:28,560 Speaker 5: so like. 1468 01:07:31,160 --> 01:07:35,880 Speaker 3: Recently three days ago. Oh is it not invasive? Like 1469 01:07:35,920 --> 01:07:37,440 Speaker 3: it's like I don't. They always make it seem like 1470 01:07:37,480 --> 01:07:38,520 Speaker 3: it's like a walk in the park. 1471 01:07:38,680 --> 01:07:39,360 Speaker 5: It's surgery. 1472 01:07:39,880 --> 01:07:44,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, so you have to under no, no, but it is. 1473 01:07:44,760 --> 01:07:48,400 Speaker 3: They just numb it them. Oh my god, were you there? 1474 01:07:48,680 --> 01:07:50,400 Speaker 3: I was in the waiting room. Oh my god, you 1475 01:07:50,440 --> 01:07:51,960 Speaker 3: know I really there was a cute nurse in the 1476 01:07:51,960 --> 01:07:55,080 Speaker 3: way that he was the name I can mention. You know, 1477 01:07:55,440 --> 01:07:56,280 Speaker 3: she's been through enough. 1478 01:07:56,880 --> 01:07:57,400 Speaker 5: I agree. 1479 01:07:57,720 --> 01:07:59,800 Speaker 8: I think all women have been through enough. If you're 1480 01:08:00,000 --> 01:08:02,040 Speaker 8: making that decision as a man, you know what I'm saying, 1481 01:08:02,120 --> 01:08:06,680 Speaker 8: or as as a partner, and it's a lot more 1482 01:08:06,680 --> 01:08:09,040 Speaker 8: invasive for y'all to take care of that, you know 1483 01:08:09,080 --> 01:08:12,200 Speaker 8: what I mean. So I almost looked at it as like, Okay, 1484 01:08:12,520 --> 01:08:15,000 Speaker 8: this is my partner for life. We don't want any 1485 01:08:15,000 --> 01:08:17,920 Speaker 8: more kids. It's not on her now. She did what 1486 01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:20,679 Speaker 8: she needed to do, you know what I mean. After 1487 01:08:21,320 --> 01:08:26,800 Speaker 8: this uncomfortability for a couple of days, it's done, no 1488 01:08:26,840 --> 01:08:28,960 Speaker 8: matter what is what I'm saying, and nothing changes. 1489 01:08:29,520 --> 01:08:31,240 Speaker 7: Have the best xt of my life, the worry free 1490 01:08:31,280 --> 01:08:33,960 Speaker 7: wor free you don't have no kids. 1491 01:08:33,520 --> 01:08:35,920 Speaker 3: And no more kids coming into the bed. Yeah, you 1492 01:08:35,920 --> 01:08:37,120 Speaker 3: don't have to be on birth control. 1493 01:08:38,479 --> 01:08:40,120 Speaker 5: And I think a lot of men look at Oh 1494 01:08:40,560 --> 01:08:44,080 Speaker 5: you took my ball, so you castrated me. That's not 1495 01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:46,160 Speaker 5: that's not that's not what this is. That's not what 1496 01:08:46,160 --> 01:08:47,120 Speaker 5: this is. You know what I mean. 1497 01:08:47,120 --> 01:08:50,720 Speaker 8: You can still ejaculate, you can still do all the 1498 01:08:50,720 --> 01:08:52,760 Speaker 8: things that you do right now, except you won't have 1499 01:08:52,760 --> 01:08:53,439 Speaker 8: any babies. 1500 01:08:53,880 --> 01:08:55,680 Speaker 5: And you know, like I said, I. 1501 01:08:55,680 --> 01:08:58,360 Speaker 3: Don't want anymore stress to eliminate. 1502 01:08:58,439 --> 01:09:02,200 Speaker 4: Congratulations, graduation, Thank you very much, Happy anniversary. 1503 01:09:02,240 --> 01:09:02,439 Speaker 5: Jest. 1504 01:09:02,960 --> 01:09:05,280 Speaker 8: I mean it's a little it's uncomfortable. I'm sitting here 1505 01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:10,280 Speaker 8: a little uncomfortable. Yeah, but I didn't take them today 1506 01:09:10,280 --> 01:09:12,760 Speaker 8: because I just don't like taking medication like that. 1507 01:09:13,200 --> 01:09:14,679 Speaker 5: But feel the pain. 1508 01:09:14,880 --> 01:09:15,519 Speaker 3: Feel the pain. 1509 01:09:16,280 --> 01:09:17,960 Speaker 5: It's even pain. It's like a. 1510 01:09:19,520 --> 01:09:22,280 Speaker 8: I don't know, it's like a little pressure, yeah, a 1511 01:09:22,280 --> 01:09:25,880 Speaker 8: little pressure and like some tightness or like you know, 1512 01:09:26,040 --> 01:09:28,400 Speaker 8: every once in a while it feels like you'd understand. 1513 01:09:28,400 --> 01:09:31,080 Speaker 5: It's like when someone when somebody like just like. 1514 01:09:33,160 --> 01:09:40,040 Speaker 3: The bottom, feel like you're good price to pay. 1515 01:09:40,240 --> 01:09:42,000 Speaker 5: Small agreed. 1516 01:09:42,640 --> 01:09:49,800 Speaker 3: Future is bright. Well, cheers to unprotected sex with no babies. Yes, 1517 01:09:49,840 --> 01:09:51,720 Speaker 3: I love that for you guys. 1518 01:09:52,120 --> 01:09:53,880 Speaker 4: So at the beginning of the show, you guys pulled 1519 01:09:53,880 --> 01:09:56,840 Speaker 4: a card. Oh yeah, I think we should read what 1520 01:09:56,880 --> 01:10:00,000 Speaker 4: the cards were pulled. What they were, Melanie, I believe 1521 01:10:00,160 --> 01:10:01,000 Speaker 4: you pulled. 1522 01:10:00,800 --> 01:10:14,240 Speaker 3: The eight of Pentacles and eight of pinnacles upright. 1523 01:10:16,520 --> 01:10:23,120 Speaker 2: So the eight of Pentacles represents apprenticeship, repetitive tasks, mastery, 1524 01:10:23,880 --> 01:10:29,120 Speaker 2: skill development. The eight of Pinnacles is a card of apprentice, apprenticeship, 1525 01:10:29,200 --> 01:10:31,599 Speaker 2: and mastery. When this card appears in a tear reading, 1526 01:10:31,600 --> 01:10:33,799 Speaker 2: you are working hard to improve your skills and becoming 1527 01:10:33,840 --> 01:10:36,240 Speaker 2: a master of what you do. You may have recently 1528 01:10:36,320 --> 01:10:39,720 Speaker 2: changed your work, education, or financial circumstances, and now you 1529 01:10:39,720 --> 01:10:43,160 Speaker 2: are applying your sheer determination and concentration to master the 1530 01:10:43,200 --> 01:10:45,559 Speaker 2: new skill that you are learning. You are diligent and 1531 01:10:45,600 --> 01:10:48,280 Speaker 2: hard working, and you are applying yourself fully to whatever 1532 01:10:48,640 --> 01:10:51,760 Speaker 2: is at the center of your attention. The eight of 1533 01:10:51,760 --> 01:10:54,840 Speaker 2: Pinnacles may indicate further education or study in order to 1534 01:10:54,840 --> 01:10:57,680 Speaker 2: hone your skills. You may already be proficient in a 1535 01:10:57,720 --> 01:11:00,920 Speaker 2: particular skill set, but you are now seeking to those skills. 1536 01:11:02,200 --> 01:11:04,479 Speaker 2: You know that it will require a lot of focus 1537 01:11:04,520 --> 01:11:06,519 Speaker 2: and dedication in your studies, but you are willing to 1538 01:11:06,560 --> 01:11:09,280 Speaker 2: work hard and pay attention to the details. You know 1539 01:11:09,320 --> 01:11:11,680 Speaker 2: that you will not learn these advanced skills overnight, but 1540 01:11:11,720 --> 01:11:13,960 Speaker 2: you are prepared for the journey towards becoming a master 1541 01:11:14,160 --> 01:11:16,160 Speaker 2: at your chosen expertise. 1542 01:11:16,720 --> 01:11:17,840 Speaker 3: More broadly, the. 1543 01:11:17,760 --> 01:11:20,320 Speaker 2: Aid of Pinnacles suggests that you are working away at 1544 01:11:20,360 --> 01:11:23,360 Speaker 2: the finer details of the various aspects of your life 1545 01:11:23,560 --> 01:11:26,960 Speaker 2: in an effort to continuously improve your situation. You may 1546 01:11:27,000 --> 01:11:29,160 Speaker 2: be unhappy with your current state and know you need 1547 01:11:29,200 --> 01:11:31,559 Speaker 2: to make some important changes in your life to increase 1548 01:11:31,560 --> 01:11:35,640 Speaker 2: your overall satisfaction. The pentacle the aid of pinnacles is 1549 01:11:36,080 --> 01:11:38,639 Speaker 2: encouragement to keep doing what you're doing, as it will 1550 01:11:38,640 --> 01:11:40,280 Speaker 2: eventually lead to success. 1551 01:11:40,920 --> 01:11:44,280 Speaker 7: A Shayhay I received that listen, I had a reading 1552 01:11:44,880 --> 01:11:47,120 Speaker 7: like a numerology reading recently, wonderful. 1553 01:11:47,120 --> 01:11:48,160 Speaker 3: I'll connect you guys with herself. 1554 01:11:48,240 --> 01:11:51,120 Speaker 4: It's amazing and this is exactly the chapter of my 1555 01:11:51,160 --> 01:11:52,639 Speaker 4: life that I'm in according to my. 1556 01:11:52,600 --> 01:11:56,920 Speaker 3: Life to chart. Wow, it's like really affirmative. Thank you 1557 01:11:57,280 --> 01:12:02,680 Speaker 3: for that. But you got Jerry Brooms which is the 1558 01:12:02,800 --> 01:12:11,439 Speaker 3: Night of Wands traditionally, except with this deck, Alicia, please 1559 01:12:11,439 --> 01:12:12,719 Speaker 3: send us another text. 1560 01:12:13,840 --> 01:12:16,320 Speaker 4: While the page of Wands marks the initial spark of 1561 01:12:16,360 --> 01:12:19,200 Speaker 4: a new idea. The Night of Wands shows the actual 1562 01:12:19,240 --> 01:12:21,920 Speaker 4: pursuit of that idea. When this card appears in a 1563 01:12:21,960 --> 01:12:25,280 Speaker 4: tarot reading, you are charged up with energy, passion, motivation, 1564 01:12:25,400 --> 01:12:28,160 Speaker 4: and enthusiasm, and you channel that energy through. 1565 01:12:28,080 --> 01:12:29,200 Speaker 3: Your inspired action. 1566 01:12:29,840 --> 01:12:31,920 Speaker 4: You have a clear vision about what you want to create, 1567 01:12:32,000 --> 01:12:34,479 Speaker 4: and fueled by your passion and inspiration, you are now 1568 01:12:34,520 --> 01:12:37,559 Speaker 4: moving forward with leaps and bounds to turn your vision 1569 01:12:37,600 --> 01:12:40,640 Speaker 4: into reality. This card is your sign to go for it. 1570 01:12:41,800 --> 01:12:42,360 Speaker 3: I love it. 1571 01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:45,639 Speaker 4: You're bold and courageous and willing to venture into unknown 1572 01:12:45,720 --> 01:12:48,720 Speaker 4: territories to further your mission and your dreams. You don't 1573 01:12:48,760 --> 01:12:51,679 Speaker 4: really care if danger lies ahead. In fact, if it does, 1574 01:12:51,800 --> 01:12:54,360 Speaker 4: then it becomes all the more exciting and thrilling for you. 1575 01:12:54,920 --> 01:12:58,080 Speaker 4: Adventures like this light you up because you know growth 1576 01:12:58,120 --> 01:13:01,000 Speaker 4: and expansion are waiting on the other side. Be a 1577 01:13:01,040 --> 01:13:05,280 Speaker 4: pioneer and take calculated risks to reach new heights. In 1578 01:13:05,320 --> 01:13:07,360 Speaker 4: this light, The Night of Wanes gives you the feeling 1579 01:13:07,439 --> 01:13:09,600 Speaker 4: that you can take on the world. You are so 1580 01:13:09,720 --> 01:13:11,680 Speaker 4: committed to what your vision and purpose are that you 1581 01:13:11,720 --> 01:13:14,160 Speaker 4: will stop at nothing to bring it to life. As 1582 01:13:14,160 --> 01:13:17,480 Speaker 4: you pursue your goals, your confidence skyrockets and you realize 1583 01:13:17,520 --> 01:13:19,120 Speaker 4: that your potential is limitless. 1584 01:13:19,479 --> 01:13:24,320 Speaker 3: You can do anything. Let's go, let's go, let's go season. 1585 01:13:24,439 --> 01:13:27,080 Speaker 4: Okay, a couple of about to master and conquered, right, 1586 01:13:27,240 --> 01:13:29,240 Speaker 4: do it? 1587 01:13:29,800 --> 01:13:30,560 Speaker 6: Yes? 1588 01:13:31,160 --> 01:13:34,040 Speaker 4: Well, thank you guys so much for coming on. I 1589 01:13:34,080 --> 01:13:39,960 Speaker 4: want to ask them if they have a horry oh 1590 01:13:40,520 --> 01:13:42,280 Speaker 4: oh stories. 1591 01:13:42,760 --> 01:13:44,840 Speaker 3: I'll share one of my favorite. This is just it's 1592 01:13:44,880 --> 01:13:47,640 Speaker 3: not really a horror. 1593 01:13:46,600 --> 01:13:50,200 Speaker 7: It's funny. This is one of my favorite just nights 1594 01:13:50,200 --> 01:13:52,160 Speaker 7: in general. So we went to one of my favorite 1595 01:13:52,200 --> 01:13:54,040 Speaker 7: restaurants in New York called Golli, which is like this 1596 01:13:54,120 --> 01:13:55,880 Speaker 7: like Italian restaurant. Love to go there. 1597 01:13:55,960 --> 01:13:58,719 Speaker 4: They had these clams and it comes in this amazing sauce. 1598 01:13:58,760 --> 01:14:00,479 Speaker 4: So the chef knew that I love sauce, and he 1599 01:14:00,520 --> 01:14:02,759 Speaker 4: sent me home with a huge, like extra little container. 1600 01:14:03,439 --> 01:14:05,040 Speaker 4: And we went home that night and we had I 1601 01:14:05,080 --> 01:14:06,280 Speaker 4: just remember back to my apartment. 1602 01:14:06,280 --> 01:14:07,080 Speaker 3: We'd eating the best. 1603 01:14:06,960 --> 01:14:08,400 Speaker 7: Meal because that's what we just love to do, just 1604 01:14:08,439 --> 01:14:10,479 Speaker 7: like eat, have sex, do all it, go back to 1605 01:14:10,520 --> 01:14:11,280 Speaker 7: the house, have sex. 1606 01:14:11,320 --> 01:14:11,960 Speaker 3: It was amazing. 1607 01:14:12,200 --> 01:14:15,040 Speaker 7: And then after we had the most amazing sex that night, 1608 01:14:15,680 --> 01:14:16,280 Speaker 7: I looked. 1609 01:14:16,040 --> 01:14:18,240 Speaker 3: Over into the kitchen and I was like, I got 1610 01:14:18,280 --> 01:14:18,839 Speaker 3: that sauce. 1611 01:14:19,520 --> 01:14:21,320 Speaker 7: And so we went over to the stove heat that 1612 01:14:21,320 --> 01:14:24,400 Speaker 7: ship up, butt naked, standing in front of the stove, 1613 01:14:24,479 --> 01:14:26,800 Speaker 7: eating out of the pan, feeding each other bread and 1614 01:14:26,840 --> 01:14:27,479 Speaker 7: clam sauce. 1615 01:14:27,640 --> 01:14:29,920 Speaker 4: And it was I thought you were going to put 1616 01:14:29,920 --> 01:14:30,920 Speaker 4: the sauce on him and look at it. 1617 01:14:33,160 --> 01:14:35,479 Speaker 3: Well, that's a different story about the sex. 1618 01:14:35,760 --> 01:14:37,680 Speaker 7: But but that got to me. 1619 01:14:37,800 --> 01:14:39,559 Speaker 3: Whatever combination of that sauce. 1620 01:14:39,640 --> 01:14:43,280 Speaker 7: And because it's the food. For me, the food is 1621 01:14:43,320 --> 01:14:45,599 Speaker 7: a love language. And this is sure, it's all pleasure. 1622 01:14:45,720 --> 01:14:47,960 Speaker 7: This is how we fell in love. Is eating food, 1623 01:14:48,040 --> 01:14:51,479 Speaker 7: like trying all these different restaurants, traveling, just making love 1624 01:14:51,560 --> 01:14:52,240 Speaker 7: all over the world. 1625 01:14:52,280 --> 01:14:55,080 Speaker 3: It was wonderful. This is my ideal love story. Sex 1626 01:14:55,120 --> 01:14:55,759 Speaker 3: and food. 1627 01:14:56,320 --> 01:14:56,640 Speaker 6: She's it. 1628 01:14:56,680 --> 01:14:58,320 Speaker 3: This is all we want to do. Make me full 1629 01:14:58,400 --> 01:15:01,240 Speaker 3: and happy. It's happy me. Feed me, like me, feed me. 1630 01:15:01,600 --> 01:15:04,160 Speaker 3: I'm into it. One more thing before we end. 1631 01:15:04,280 --> 01:15:08,400 Speaker 4: If you were giving couples one word of advice, what 1632 01:15:08,479 --> 01:15:11,719 Speaker 4: would it be, as you guys have had one word, 1633 01:15:11,880 --> 01:15:13,880 Speaker 4: not one word, just some advice. What is your one 1634 01:15:14,000 --> 01:15:19,360 Speaker 4: piece of advice for couples young thinking about marriage long term? 1635 01:15:19,400 --> 01:15:20,600 Speaker 3: What is your advice. 1636 01:15:21,800 --> 01:15:22,839 Speaker 5: Thinking about marriage? 1637 01:15:23,840 --> 01:15:28,479 Speaker 8: Yeah, therapy, it really helped me, you know, I was 1638 01:15:28,600 --> 01:15:32,000 Speaker 8: I was definitely adverse to it. At first, and no 1639 01:15:32,080 --> 01:15:34,479 Speaker 8: one is like, no, we really should, really should, and 1640 01:15:34,520 --> 01:15:36,720 Speaker 8: it's it's helped me a lot, and it's helped I 1641 01:15:36,760 --> 01:15:40,640 Speaker 8: think both of us understand each other even better. So 1642 01:15:40,680 --> 01:15:42,759 Speaker 8: I would say I don't don't be don't be scared 1643 01:15:42,800 --> 01:15:44,200 Speaker 8: of that at all, you know. 1644 01:15:45,680 --> 01:15:50,400 Speaker 7: Yeah, it therapy is amazing. It's gonna sound cliche, but 1645 01:15:50,439 --> 01:15:54,720 Speaker 7: it's really communication. It's just it is just everything I think. 1646 01:15:54,800 --> 01:15:59,759 Speaker 7: I think it's a skill that requires maintenance and attention, 1647 01:16:00,080 --> 01:16:02,000 Speaker 7: and you have to be you have to have self awareness. 1648 01:16:02,080 --> 01:16:04,599 Speaker 7: But communication is really everything. 1649 01:16:04,720 --> 01:16:06,840 Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of shit gets lost and 1650 01:16:06,920 --> 01:16:08,480 Speaker 3: damaged because of a lack of communication. 1651 01:16:08,600 --> 01:16:10,800 Speaker 7: Some people don't want to they're afraid. Some people don't 1652 01:16:10,840 --> 01:16:13,280 Speaker 7: know how. So whatever that is, work on it. 1653 01:16:13,400 --> 01:16:15,759 Speaker 4: Just work on finding how you communicate with your partner, 1654 01:16:15,920 --> 01:16:17,759 Speaker 4: speak their language to them. 1655 01:16:18,160 --> 01:16:20,000 Speaker 8: Yeah, because if you know you have a good woman 1656 01:16:20,120 --> 01:16:23,200 Speaker 8: or a good man, like, there are going to be 1657 01:16:23,240 --> 01:16:25,960 Speaker 8: bumps in the road period, you know, so you need 1658 01:16:26,000 --> 01:16:29,360 Speaker 8: to be able to break through those barriers to get 1659 01:16:29,400 --> 01:16:30,120 Speaker 8: to the other side. 1660 01:16:30,360 --> 01:16:32,320 Speaker 7: Also, I'm gonna go back on off of these, both 1661 01:16:32,320 --> 01:16:34,920 Speaker 7: of these both cliche answers, and I'm just gonna go team. 1662 01:16:35,360 --> 01:16:39,240 Speaker 7: Like my word is team, like the team made aspect 1663 01:16:39,320 --> 01:16:40,759 Speaker 7: of a relationship is everything. 1664 01:16:40,800 --> 01:16:41,160 Speaker 3: I think. 1665 01:16:41,479 --> 01:16:43,679 Speaker 7: It's like when you look at that person as your teammate, 1666 01:16:43,960 --> 01:16:46,919 Speaker 7: you're not trying to be right, you're not trying to control, 1667 01:16:47,120 --> 01:16:50,040 Speaker 7: you're not trying to make them do what you want 1668 01:16:50,040 --> 01:16:51,960 Speaker 7: them to do. It's about what's best for the team. 1669 01:16:51,960 --> 01:16:54,280 Speaker 7: How do we win together? And that's really what it is. 1670 01:16:54,320 --> 01:16:57,040 Speaker 7: It's two people individually coming together. 1671 01:16:56,800 --> 01:16:59,640 Speaker 3: For a common goal. And that to me is just 1672 01:16:59,680 --> 01:17:01,200 Speaker 3: like it's just team personally. 1673 01:17:01,400 --> 01:17:04,880 Speaker 8: And I think like within the team, you know, the 1674 01:17:04,920 --> 01:17:08,719 Speaker 8: man sometimes always feels like he's gotta be Kobe or Jordan, 1675 01:17:08,960 --> 01:17:11,920 Speaker 8: the lead leading the time, and you don't need to 1676 01:17:11,960 --> 01:17:12,960 Speaker 8: be that all the time. 1677 01:17:13,280 --> 01:17:13,479 Speaker 5: You know. 1678 01:17:13,560 --> 01:17:16,560 Speaker 8: Sometimes you're Draymond Green. Sometimes you're the role player to 1679 01:17:16,640 --> 01:17:19,720 Speaker 8: keep things moving, you know. Sometimes you are Jordan, you know. 1680 01:17:20,200 --> 01:17:22,840 Speaker 8: And I think you need to allow each other that 1681 01:17:22,840 --> 01:17:28,280 Speaker 8: that lateral movement to move together as the team. 1682 01:17:28,520 --> 01:17:29,000 Speaker 3: I love that. 1683 01:17:29,040 --> 01:17:30,760 Speaker 2: I love that especially for men, because I feel like 1684 01:17:30,840 --> 01:17:32,680 Speaker 2: I think even men sometimes don't even want to take 1685 01:17:32,720 --> 01:17:34,080 Speaker 2: on that role, but they feel like they have to, 1686 01:17:34,160 --> 01:17:37,000 Speaker 2: like they're supposed to take on this role of like 1687 01:17:37,000 --> 01:17:39,040 Speaker 2: like if you aren't an alpha male, if you aren't 1688 01:17:39,080 --> 01:17:42,240 Speaker 2: a leader, then you're not really a man in so 1689 01:17:42,280 --> 01:17:42,879 Speaker 2: many ways. 1690 01:17:42,920 --> 01:17:43,320 Speaker 5: Bullshit. 1691 01:17:43,439 --> 01:17:47,120 Speaker 8: Yeah, it's bullshit, it really is, you know, like it 1692 01:17:47,800 --> 01:17:50,280 Speaker 8: we are a team. She truly is my partner and 1693 01:17:50,320 --> 01:17:54,280 Speaker 8: I'm hers right, so we're in it together. Period. 1694 01:17:55,040 --> 01:17:56,000 Speaker 5: That's that's really it. 1695 01:17:56,600 --> 01:18:00,040 Speaker 3: Sometimes someone's gonna have to take the lead and take it's. 1696 01:17:59,880 --> 01:18:04,240 Speaker 7: Not always Yea and as somebody who definitely is a 1697 01:18:04,280 --> 01:18:07,000 Speaker 7: take charge type person, very like we'll go get it done. 1698 01:18:07,240 --> 01:18:08,920 Speaker 7: I don't want to be in the driver's seat all 1699 01:18:08,960 --> 01:18:12,680 Speaker 7: the time. I really don't. And it's I'm sure like 1700 01:18:12,800 --> 01:18:14,760 Speaker 7: he's learned that over the years, Like I mean, there's 1701 01:18:14,760 --> 01:18:16,600 Speaker 7: certain times where could be like I didn't know you 1702 01:18:16,640 --> 01:18:19,160 Speaker 7: were that true. I'm like, please, I don't want to 1703 01:18:19,200 --> 01:18:21,200 Speaker 7: be steering this ship all the time. I want somebody 1704 01:18:21,240 --> 01:18:22,760 Speaker 7: that I can be like, I'm gonna go take a nap. 1705 01:18:22,760 --> 01:18:24,519 Speaker 7: You're going to lead us to the next place, like 1706 01:18:25,360 --> 01:18:28,960 Speaker 7: it's really really important. And then sometimes he too turns 1707 01:18:28,960 --> 01:18:31,200 Speaker 7: to me and is like all right, like I'll let 1708 01:18:31,240 --> 01:18:31,800 Speaker 7: you be the guide. 1709 01:18:31,800 --> 01:18:34,160 Speaker 3: And I think that that's what works works for us. 1710 01:18:35,600 --> 01:18:39,200 Speaker 3: Thank you guys so much, shame. I really appreciate you guys. Friends. 1711 01:18:39,320 --> 01:18:42,519 Speaker 4: I think people underestimate like single people. If you're listening, 1712 01:18:42,560 --> 01:18:45,160 Speaker 4: I think sometimes there's like this weird thing about like. 1713 01:18:45,200 --> 01:18:47,920 Speaker 3: Single people hanging out with married people. I'm like, oh, oh, 1714 01:18:47,920 --> 01:18:49,400 Speaker 3: you don'tt to bring your single bitch friend. 1715 01:18:49,400 --> 01:18:51,960 Speaker 4: And it's like, I really think there's a huge benefit 1716 01:18:52,360 --> 01:18:56,719 Speaker 4: in hanging out with and spending time with healthy loving couples. 1717 01:18:57,320 --> 01:18:58,720 Speaker 4: It's like if you are in a place in your 1718 01:18:58,720 --> 01:19:01,479 Speaker 4: life where you want that in real life, and you know, 1719 01:19:01,600 --> 01:19:04,519 Speaker 4: like attracting that is spending time with your healthy couple 1720 01:19:04,479 --> 01:19:06,880 Speaker 4: of friends and seeing the examples and seeing all the 1721 01:19:06,880 --> 01:19:08,720 Speaker 4: ways that you can do it and how other people 1722 01:19:08,800 --> 01:19:11,519 Speaker 4: do it and how it works, and like actually seeing 1723 01:19:11,560 --> 01:19:13,240 Speaker 4: examples of it. I think one of the things I've 1724 01:19:13,280 --> 01:19:16,280 Speaker 4: realized too, like just being in a relationship that's serious, 1725 01:19:16,400 --> 01:19:20,760 Speaker 4: is that like I haven't had that many example of 1726 01:19:20,880 --> 01:19:23,880 Speaker 4: healthy love, and so when I'm in it, it feels foreign. 1727 01:19:23,920 --> 01:19:26,320 Speaker 4: It's because I've never seen it. I've never witnessed it. 1728 01:19:26,520 --> 01:19:28,360 Speaker 4: So it's like if you have friends that are in 1729 01:19:28,400 --> 01:19:30,439 Speaker 4: healthy loving relationships, like those eat. 1730 01:19:30,280 --> 01:19:35,799 Speaker 3: Dinner over there, come on over here. Yeah, it's so important. 1731 01:19:35,880 --> 01:19:38,040 Speaker 4: So I appreciate you guys so much for being honest 1732 01:19:38,120 --> 01:19:39,320 Speaker 4: and coming and hanging out with us. 1733 01:19:39,320 --> 01:19:39,920 Speaker 3: Thank you, hear it? 1734 01:19:40,280 --> 01:19:42,600 Speaker 4: Coming hanging out with us and letting us get all 1735 01:19:42,640 --> 01:19:46,800 Speaker 4: on your business and shit's what you do. Can you 1736 01:19:46,800 --> 01:19:50,760 Speaker 4: tell the people where they can find y'all? Yeah, at 1737 01:19:50,800 --> 01:19:54,400 Speaker 4: Melanie Fiona on Instagram and Twitter apparently where you can 1738 01:19:54,439 --> 01:19:57,560 Speaker 4: watch porn and Jared. 1739 01:19:57,600 --> 01:19:59,120 Speaker 5: Oh, you can find me on Melanie's page. 1740 01:20:01,960 --> 01:20:03,479 Speaker 4: Eric's like, I don't think I've ever mete Jared. I 1741 01:20:03,479 --> 01:20:05,000 Speaker 4: was like me there, but I know him from Instagram, No, 1742 01:20:05,080 --> 01:20:06,840 Speaker 4: I said, I I was. I was like, I did 1743 01:20:06,880 --> 01:20:07,760 Speaker 4: him on Instagram. 1744 01:20:08,360 --> 01:20:10,080 Speaker 2: I don't know if I've heard him speak because I've 1745 01:20:10,080 --> 01:20:12,240 Speaker 2: never spoken to him. I saw him at Melanie's party, 1746 01:20:12,240 --> 01:20:14,519 Speaker 2: but Stevie Wonder was there, so I couldn't focus on 1747 01:20:14,600 --> 01:20:17,040 Speaker 2: anything but Stevie Wonder singing fucking happy bird. 1748 01:20:17,040 --> 01:20:18,160 Speaker 3: Wait, guys, can you do a duet? 1749 01:20:18,439 --> 01:20:21,200 Speaker 4: Should take us away? You know Jery can sing too. 1750 01:20:21,880 --> 01:20:23,400 Speaker 4: They're like an R and B singing couples. 1751 01:20:23,400 --> 01:20:25,920 Speaker 3: Can you guys, just like Jared? What you can sing? 1752 01:20:25,960 --> 01:20:27,160 Speaker 3: Do we have any song requests? 1753 01:20:27,280 --> 01:20:27,519 Speaker 6: Erica? 1754 01:20:27,640 --> 01:20:28,320 Speaker 3: Oh, you have a call? 1755 01:20:28,400 --> 01:20:28,840 Speaker 5: I have a call? 1756 01:20:29,000 --> 01:20:31,000 Speaker 3: Okay, sorry, never mind, damn next time. 1757 01:20:31,080 --> 01:20:36,439 Speaker 2: Next week, I have a conference culture okayock, all right, ladies, 1758 01:20:36,479 --> 01:20:39,000 Speaker 2: Well then gentlemen listening. You know where to find us 1759 01:20:39,040 --> 01:20:41,479 Speaker 2: at Good Mom's Underscore, Bad Choices. Make sure you go 1760 01:20:42,240 --> 01:20:44,719 Speaker 2: rate us on Apple Podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel. 1761 01:20:44,760 --> 01:20:47,000 Speaker 2: We're going to Costa Rica, so check that out the 1762 01:20:47,000 --> 01:20:50,080 Speaker 2: episode description. Come to our retreat in February twenty twenty three. 1763 01:20:50,120 --> 01:20:53,040 Speaker 2: You have time to make those payments, make yourself a priority, 1764 01:20:53,880 --> 01:20:55,360 Speaker 2: and anything else. 1765 01:20:55,840 --> 01:20:57,960 Speaker 3: I want to say something, sure, I just want to 1766 01:20:58,000 --> 01:20:59,960 Speaker 3: say that I am so proud of both of you guys. 1767 01:21:00,720 --> 01:21:05,680 Speaker 7: I have seen what you guys have built, grown, evolved, manifested. 1768 01:21:06,800 --> 01:21:09,680 Speaker 7: You guys have just really evolved so beautifully, and you 1769 01:21:09,680 --> 01:21:12,360 Speaker 7: guys deserve all the flowers. And we're so happy to 1770 01:21:12,360 --> 01:21:14,040 Speaker 7: be here. But I'm just so happy you guys. See 1771 01:21:14,080 --> 01:21:17,200 Speaker 7: you guys shining in such a bright way, and as 1772 01:21:17,240 --> 01:21:18,599 Speaker 7: your friends and as moms. 1773 01:21:19,000 --> 01:21:21,080 Speaker 3: This is the ship, This is the ship. It is needed. 1774 01:21:21,439 --> 01:21:24,200 Speaker 7: And I hope you guys feeling proud of yourselves. So 1775 01:21:24,320 --> 01:21:27,360 Speaker 7: you guys are killing it. So everyone who's listening, y'all 1776 01:21:27,360 --> 01:21:30,439 Speaker 7: are doing the right thing, supporting, listening, finding your community 1777 01:21:30,439 --> 01:21:31,400 Speaker 7: through these amazing women. 1778 01:21:31,800 --> 01:21:33,519 Speaker 3: And I'm just so happy for you guys. 1779 01:21:33,680 --> 01:21:34,000 Speaker 6: Thank you. 1780 01:21:34,080 --> 01:21:36,599 Speaker 3: I love you. Yeah, I love you, guys, thank you 1781 01:21:37,680 --> 01:21:39,280 Speaker 3: all right, well we out y'all. 1782 01:21:39,360 --> 01:22:01,400 Speaker 6: Bye bye. 1783 01:22:00,040 --> 01:22:01,240 Speaker 1: O s ispio 1784 01:22:01,840 --> 01:22:06,600 Speaker 4: Elaa j solo bala recorder La loos and lay the 1785 01:22:06,720 --> 01:22:07,400 Speaker 4: lassid ys