WEBVTT - Put a toe in the water

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is for the folks who are big on

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<v Speaker 1>organizing things. When you are considering starting something new, put

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<v Speaker 1>a toe in the water and see how it feels.

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<v Speaker 1>Trying out something in a small way can provide insight

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<v Speaker 1>into whether you'd like to pursue it in a bigger way.

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<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of people are building back their

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<v Speaker 1>routines these days after a long time of having our

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<v Speaker 1>old ways of life suspended. In this make up for

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<v Speaker 1>lost time frame of mind, we often get really ambitious.

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<v Speaker 1>It can be fun to imagine, let's say, forming a

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<v Speaker 1>supper club with three other couples, with a different couple

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<v Speaker 1>hosting everyone for dinner in their home each month, getting

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<v Speaker 1>to see friends every month, and hosting a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>dinner parties sounds great, so why not get it on

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<v Speaker 1>the books? And certainly it could be amazing. But if

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<v Speaker 1>you have never done a supper club before, and particularly

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<v Speaker 1>not with these folks, it might also prove to be

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<v Speaker 1>cumbersome to coordinate everyone's schedules. Do you need to cancel

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<v Speaker 1>your November and December gatherings for the holidays, and what

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<v Speaker 1>about the summer when people's schedules tend to be different,

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<v Speaker 1>what about dietary considerations? You may have just sign yourself

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<v Speaker 1>up for dealing with a lot of logistics, and when

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<v Speaker 1>things peter out because you didn't do it in the summer,

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<v Speaker 1>and then one of those couples seems to travel a

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<v Speaker 1>lot in September and can't be nailed down, you might

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you failed. So instead, why not just put

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<v Speaker 1>a toe in the water, invite those three couples to

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<v Speaker 1>dinner at your home this month and enjoy it. If

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<v Speaker 1>someone suggests that it would be fun to do it again,

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<v Speaker 1>encourage that idea. You could certainly float the supper club

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<v Speaker 1>concept or suggests putting two months on the calendar to

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<v Speaker 1>see how it goes, but you don't necessarily need to

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<v Speaker 1>formalize it forever at this point. Just see how it

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<v Speaker 1>feels and go from there. Or maybe you've been thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about how nice it would be to have a running

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<v Speaker 1>buddy before you invite a friend to run with you

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<v Speaker 1>every Tuesday at five am from now until the end

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<v Speaker 1>of time, why not invite her to run with you

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<v Speaker 1>this Tuesday and try it out. Do you enjoy the

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<v Speaker 1>time together, do you run at about the same pace.

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<v Speaker 1>Does the time work for you both and you have

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<v Speaker 1>similar attitudes about punctuality. Plan the run as a one

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<v Speaker 1>off event, enjoy it as such, and if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to do it again, do it the next week. After

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<v Speaker 1>a few Tuesday at five runs, you can decide to

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<v Speaker 1>always run together. Well, probably not always if Tuesday is

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas or one of you was in Australia, but a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of Tuesdays. However, if you realize that five fift

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<v Speaker 1>feels too early to run, or your friend is a

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<v Speaker 1>lot faster than you, you can just do the runs occasionally.

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<v Speaker 1>No need to commit to multi year plans in advance.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever the group a bridge club, a book club, a

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<v Speaker 1>play group, try planning a single gathering and seeing how

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<v Speaker 1>it goes now to be sure. I am a huge

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<v Speaker 1>fan of recurring gatherings. People who do either friends regularly

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<v Speaker 1>are absolutely the ones who have a standing date for

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<v Speaker 1>an early Tuesday run or who always get together for

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<v Speaker 1>supper on the first Friday of the month. Recurring gatherings

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<v Speaker 1>ensure that we get together with people we care about

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<v Speaker 1>more frequently and with a lot less tedious planning, but

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<v Speaker 1>you can't always predict the chemistry ahead of time, so

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<v Speaker 1>before you invest in creating a long term commitment, give

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<v Speaker 1>it a try a time or two first to see

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<v Speaker 1>whether it's actually something you want to do every week

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<v Speaker 1>or every month. By putting a toe in the water,

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<v Speaker 1>you can get a feel for whether the recurring activity

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<v Speaker 1>would live up to your hopes. If it will wonderful,

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<v Speaker 1>plan away, and if it may not, well, just enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>it occasionally and seek out other waters where you may

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<v Speaker 1>want to dip your toes in the meantime. This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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