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Speaker 3: My husband chose his parents over me and our baby.

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Speaker 4: Seems like he's got some priorities here.

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Speaker 3: Trigger warning for abusive relationships. I am a twenty seven

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Speaker 3: year old woman and my husband, who will call Eric,

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Speaker 3: is twenty five. We met at university, got married and

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Speaker 3: recently had a baby.

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Speaker 1: Yay.

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Speaker 3: My husband has the habit of living with his parents

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Speaker 3: no being an only child, he wants to be with

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Speaker 3: them all the time. Since we moved in with them,

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Speaker 3: life has become heck for me. By the way, this

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Speaker 3: comes from Cappuccino one to four, And if you want

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Speaker 3: to spend your own stories, go to the r slash

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Speaker 3: Okay Storytime suppared it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and I'm Keon,

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Speaker 3: and we're here to give good advice. Goofy, But we

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Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do,

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Speaker 3: so let us know what you would do. In the

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Speaker 3: comments and op says they don't know the meaning of

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Speaker 3: privacy and come into our room whenever they want. On

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Speaker 3: many occasions, I've had to change my clothes, even putting

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Speaker 3: them on backwards. I have communicated this discomfort to him,

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Speaker 3: but he simply does nothing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because he likes the approval of his parents, he

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Speaker 4: gets off on it.

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Speaker 3: I'm I'm really concerned about this situation here. On one occasion,

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Speaker 3: his father even came in when I was practically without

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Speaker 3: clothes on. I had to quickly cover myself and he

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Speaker 3: left the room anyway. The dogs they have at home

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Speaker 3: are very dirty, and the doctor prohibited us from having

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Speaker 3: animals near our baby, but my husband got angrier and

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Speaker 3: preferred to ignore the doctor. You need to leave. My

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Speaker 3: baby has sensitive skin and is allergic to dogcare. The

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Speaker 3: dogs also do their business inside the house, especially in

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Speaker 3: the kitchen, since they make them sleep there due to

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Speaker 3: the cold weird. Last Sunday, our baby ran out of

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Speaker 3: milk because I don't have enough so she is mixed breastfeeding.

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Speaker 3: That morning, I became desperate because of her crying. Days ago.

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Speaker 3: I had told Eric that there wasn't much left in

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Speaker 3: the bottle, but he got upset and decided to ignore me,

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Speaker 3: I don't work because I couldn't finish my degree. I

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Speaker 3: sat on the bed crying helplessly as I couldn't buy

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Speaker 3: him to give me the money or buy it himself.

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Speaker 3: You're being made to rely on someone now. Financially, you're

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Speaker 3: not able to leave because again finances, you're in an

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Speaker 3: unsafe living condition, and also your baby's in an unsafe

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Speaker 3: living condition. If you have any family members or anyone

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Speaker 3: that you can reach out to, please do.

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Speaker 4: And your boyfriend's not his own man husband, oh sorry,

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Speaker 4: husband even worse, ha ha ha.

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Speaker 3: My mother in law entered the room without knocking and

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Speaker 3: reminded that breakfast had been served. I had no appetite

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Speaker 3: to eat. When I get depressed, my body doesn't accept anything.

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Speaker 3: I told her that I wouldn't eat, that I would

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Speaker 3: go get the milk. I told her in a low voice,

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Speaker 3: and then came back in and started yelling at me,

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Speaker 3: telling me that I'm inconsiderate, that I always behave like this,

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Speaker 3: upon seeing his mother's reaction. Simply threw a suitcase at

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, he.

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Speaker 3: Insisted and told me that it was all my fault,

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Speaker 3: that this was the last time I insulted his family,

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Speaker 1: Youww.

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Speaker 3: I simply packed everything I could and put it in

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Speaker 3: crying while he left to return his father's car. That afternoon.

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Speaker 3: I cried until I was tired. When he arrived, he

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Speaker 3: live in another state. It's been three days, and today

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Speaker 3: I tried again, but it was worse. He told me

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Speaker 3: He still has his thesis to finish, and his parents

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Speaker 3: and said, go with your parents and take the baby.

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Speaker 3: I'm looking for a woman who wants to live in

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Speaker 3: my parents and grandparents' house. You're not wife material. Go

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Speaker 3: I'll send you money for the baby's expenses.

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Speaker 1: And that's it.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, what how did this happen?

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna be honest with you, Op. It probably doesn't

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Speaker 3: seem like it right now, because this is really awful

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Speaker 3: and he's treating you terribly, But this is probably the

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Speaker 3: best thing that could happen.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because right now you're.

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Speaker 3: In a really terrible situation. You have no privacy, you

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Speaker 3: have no support for your child, and right now he's

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Speaker 3: offering to financially support you while you get to go

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Speaker 3: live with your parents with your baby. That is so

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Speaker 3: much better, so much better, which is wild.

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Speaker 4: This is insane.

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Speaker 3: And also, where's he gonna find this magical woman that

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Speaker 3: wants to stay with his parents?

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Speaker 4: I was so was stare with me and my parents

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Speaker 2: It's his mommy, It was my mommy. Mommy's the only

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Speaker 4: Dude, what the heck?

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Speaker 3: I couldn't believe it. I was reduced to begging for

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Speaker 3: four days, even though the mistake was his parents and

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Speaker 3: I was still being blamed for it. I already bought

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Speaker 3: my plane ticket for me and my baby. Today he

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Speaker 3: and there any advice, and there is an update. But

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Speaker 3: my advice is leave, ye leave, absolutely leave, Do not

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Speaker 3: stay here, don't beg to stay here, leave, get out,

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Speaker 3: take your baby and go.

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Speaker 4: Not worth it at all.

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Speaker 3: But there is an update. Today he came in his parents'

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Speaker 3: But he took advantage of the fact that I was

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Speaker 3: his clothes or things hurt me. When he came to

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Speaker 3: and see that. I just wanted to keep our family together,

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Speaker 3: but he just left me there crying, standing at the door,

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Speaker 3: I sent him messages and the only thing he told

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Speaker 3: me is that he has already made his decision and

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Speaker 3: he will not go back. At the moment, I am devastated,

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Speaker 3: and I spoke to my mother to have moral support.

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Speaker 3: I would appreciate your input, and there is a second update.

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Speaker 3: Again my input is leave.

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Speaker 4: Yes, stay with your parents.

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Speaker 3: This man is terrible.

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Speaker 4: See if you can rebuild yourself. Yeah, not a great

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Speaker 4: place to be, Bopy.

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Speaker 3: Last week I took a flight to get to my parents' house.

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Speaker 3: He signed the travel authorization and here I am at

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Speaker 3: mother and she advised me to let things go and

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Speaker 3: that one day he will regret it and come back.

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Speaker 3: But a week is past. Why would you want him

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Speaker 3: to come back. I'm sorry. If I were your mother,

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Speaker 3: I would not be saying don't worry, he'll come back

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Speaker 4: Go girl.

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Speaker 3: He has not returned, and he barely talks to me

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Speaker 3: to find out how our baby is doing. I'm desperate.

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Speaker 3: It is painful for me to see that from one

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Speaker 3: day to the next, my marriage my family was destroyed

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Speaker 3: by my in laws. It for sure was not destroyed

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Speaker 3: by your in laws. This was destroyed by your husband.

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Speaker 3: From the start, I know that I must move forward,

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Speaker 3: but it is difficult. It still hurts me to know

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Speaker 3: to remain stuck in depression. Another update, you need to

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Speaker 3: leave this man behind and take care of your baby.

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Speaker 4: Yep, you gotta take care of you and your own now,

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Speaker 4: because he doesn't consider you no your own and I

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Speaker 4: mean the force process. Start filing for crowd custody if

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Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely file for custody. Definitely file for divorce, get alimony,

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Speaker 3: get child support. That update three, I decided to make

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Speaker 3: He just continued with his life. As a friend told me,

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Speaker 3: to open a cafeteria with a very good friend. My

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Speaker 3: I don't know if he will repent one day, but

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Speaker 3: I don't want to fall again and forgive him. I

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Speaker 3: won't deny that. I felt tempted to call him and

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Speaker 3: ask him to reconsider, but there is no point in

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Speaker 3: friend's daughter, and that felt like a betrayal. It's not easy,

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Speaker 3: baby's health has improved significantly since we left that house

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Speaker 3: at least now I can protect her properly. My parents

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Speaker 3: without making me feel ashamed. My mother listens to my

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Speaker 3: concerns without yelling at me. This is what family should

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Speaker 3: be like. God ugh ugh, I mean yeah, this guy,

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Speaker 3: terrible husband, terrible father. Good riddance.

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Speaker 4: I'm still confused. I hope he didn't see this coming,

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Speaker 4: or he signs of it.

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Speaker 3: Well. I think she absolutely did see the science. I

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Speaker 3: think she was just so stuck got it. The cafeteria

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Speaker 1: I'm Riley, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're here to give.

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Speaker 3: You pay a guy to flirt with your wife.

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Speaker 4: Okay, that's playing Z.

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Speaker 3: To improve her mood, Plan A and confident.

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Speaker 4: Well I always got that for key on in my

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Speaker 3: I think there's just different types of looks. Yeah, and

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we grade. Once was a guy she had seen

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Speaker 3: No no, because if she ever finds out that you

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Speaker 4: Have you not seen any TV shows?

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Speaker 4: Have you done that?

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Speaker 4: At the end, there's this one scene.

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Speaker 3: Where she's naked and she fights people on the beach.

440
00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:53,359
Speaker 4: I wasn't gonna talk about that one.

441
00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:54,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's what you're thinking.

442
00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:56,080
Speaker 4: No, I was thinking about the one where she was

443
00:19:56,119 --> 00:19:58,840
Speaker 4: on like those skate rolling things and she's trying to

444
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Speaker 4: go up the stairs.

445
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Speaker 2: Just skate only things, you mean roller skates.

446
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not with it to day you got Oh my,

447
00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:09,679
Speaker 4: I can't even speak. I can't speak, guys. I'm so sorry.

448
00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,560
Speaker 4: I can already see the comments from a month from now.

449
00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,159
Speaker 4: I'm just gonna get through this. Sorry, off his shoppy.

450
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Speaker 3: It's okay with editors.

451
00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 4: Just please, editors, please don't make it choppy. They get choppier,

452
00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 4: my sister said. The poor girl already thinks she looks

453
00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:26,600
Speaker 4: like a sad boiled egg. If you did this, she

454
00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:30,160
Speaker 4: found out, you feel worse because wow, the only time

455
00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:33,000
Speaker 4: someone might think I'm attractive is when my husband pays them.

456
00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:35,720
Speaker 4: And since you're at a bar, the chances of drunken

457
00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:40,000
Speaker 4: yodels keeping their mouths shut about the truth is near impossible.

458
00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:43,200
Speaker 4: Someone's gonna slip, and all you can accomplish is losing

459
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,560
Speaker 4: money and hurting your wife. But I don't know what

460
00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:47,600
Speaker 4: else to do to help my wife. Would it be

461
00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:49,119
Speaker 4: the a hole if I were to pay someone to

462
00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:51,359
Speaker 4: flirt with my wife to help her boost her ego?

463
00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:52,639
Speaker 4: We have an update.

464
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Speaker 3: I advise strongly against this. For your own sake, I

465
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Speaker 3: advise against this. Do not do this. So don't do this.

466
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Speaker 4: They'll do it. You are a very sweet guy. I

467
00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:08,080
Speaker 4: see where you're coming from. Wrong approach.

468
00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:12,439
Speaker 3: Pay for therapy instead the boost to confidence.

469
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Speaker 4: Or I don't know, go do something shopping spree, shopping spree.

470
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Speaker 3: New outfits, let's get her a.

471
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Speaker 4: Haircut, maybe working out with her, because I feel like

472
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:24,239
Speaker 4: sure I could be that. Sometimes, like whenever you work

473
00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:27,000
Speaker 4: out with someone and you both are like doing something hard,

474
00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:28,800
Speaker 4: your endorphins go crazy and then you kind of have

475
00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,520
Speaker 4: a bonding thing, like you went through war together. I

476
00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:32,560
Speaker 4: did that once with Keon.

477
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Speaker 3: All great options let's do that and not this idea.

478
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Speaker 4: Update. Before I respond to some things, just let me

479
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:43,640
Speaker 4: say that I appreciate the offer, but there is no

480
00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:45,919
Speaker 4: need to send a message offering to hit on my wife.

481
00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:49,880
Speaker 4: I realized my mistake and will not be taking up offers.

482
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Speaker 2: Good.

483
00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:54,000
Speaker 4: There's these random men on instagram sending me pictures of

484
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Speaker 4: their whatnots. Oh, now just happened?

485
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Speaker 3: Hope not.

486
00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:01,920
Speaker 4: I'm not going to do it. Instead, I'll look into

487
00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:04,440
Speaker 4: a lot of your suggestions and try that out. I'd

488
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:06,919
Speaker 4: only thought of this because one of her points was

489
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Speaker 4: to why she didn't think she was attractive was that

490
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:12,399
Speaker 4: she never gets hit on. So I thought, if the

491
00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:16,280
Speaker 4: lack of flirting is the problem, then wouldn't more flirting

492
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 4: be the solution. As you pointed out, that's a bad idea.

493
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Speaker 4: My wife has recently started therapy, but it's slow work.

494
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,600
Speaker 4: She was hesitant for the longest time because she came

495
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 4: from a family that believed if you can't fix your

496
00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:32,480
Speaker 4: own problems, you're not really trying hard enough, and mental

497
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:35,919
Speaker 4: illness isn't real. Just get over it. It's all in

498
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Speaker 4: your head.

499
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Speaker 3: I will say a lot of I mean for her,

500
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Speaker 3: I think therapy is going to be really helpful, because

501
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Speaker 3: I think a lot of what people are attracted to

502
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Speaker 3: is confidence. I don't think you have to be conventionally

503
00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 3: attractive do have that, So I think if you project confidence,

504
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Speaker 3: you'll find that more people are attracted.

505
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Speaker 4: I agree her friends aren't the best, but they're the

506
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Speaker 4: only ones she has. It's very much a sunk cost

507
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 4: fallacy type of deal because they've been friends since they

508
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,680
Speaker 4: were babies. I'll work on trying to get her out

509
00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 4: more by new friends, but I know he already has

510
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 4: started to distance herself from them a bit, since their

511
00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 4: lifestyles and views don't align with hers anymore. Yes, I'm

512
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 4: using my sister's account. Yes, my wife has read it. Yes,

513
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,600
Speaker 4: not the greatest idea, But I don't think she'll come

514
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 4: across this post because she doesn't follow these types of forms.

515
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 4: And I chose to use my sister's account instead of

516
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 4: making a throwaway because if I had a throwaway, it'd

517
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:32,679
Speaker 4: still be on my phone, and my wife uses my

518
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 4: phone all the time for random stuff. I thought if

519
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:38,359
Speaker 4: she found a Reddit notification and read the post, it

520
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 4: blowed the idea. So I asked my sister to use

521
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Speaker 4: her since I see her every day, and I could

522
00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 4: keep up with things without risking my wife coming across

523
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 4: a notification. It's still online, man. Yeah, iding those three

524
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:57,680
Speaker 4: instances of your wife being hit on, I think someone

525
00:23:57,720 --> 00:23:59,639
Speaker 4: can kind of zero in and figure out it was

526
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 4: about this. Yeah, yes, I rated her on a number SCO.

527
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:08,199
Speaker 4: I know a lot of you instantly condemned me for

528
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 4: that and for not saying she's a tent all the time.

529
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 4: Here's the thing. She likes to rate things herself. Her food, chows,

530
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 4: everything feels. It's an easy way to put it into perspective,

531
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 4: but how she feels about something where words might not

532
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 4: fully accomplish her feelings. And yes, I did say she

533
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Speaker 4: was a ten all the time, but that's because when

534
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 4: I have said that in the past, she says, now

535
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 4: I know you're lying. No one's a perfect ten twenty

536
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 4: four to seven. Heck, my sister has to spend so

537
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 4: much time making herself look like a ten. So I've

538
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:40,400
Speaker 4: learned that she won't take it seriously if I say

539
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Speaker 4: she's always a ten. She said she was a five,

540
00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 4: and in her gauge, five is an average person. That's

541
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Speaker 4: why I said seven at worst, because it's true as

542
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 4: far as she believes even when she's at her worst,

543
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:56,399
Speaker 4: she's still better than your average person. Could I have

544
00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 4: told her in the moment that she's always a ten? Yes,

545
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 4: but I know her enough to know that you roll

546
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,239
Speaker 4: her eyes and tell me to stop exaggerating. So I

547
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:08,679
Speaker 4: say a number to her that is more realistic. I

548
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 4: wasn't worried that my wife would cheat on me in

549
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:14,479
Speaker 4: the scenario, as she's not one to cheat. We've been

550
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 4: friends for years before we started dating. Before we dated,

551
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,919
Speaker 4: we had a boyfriend she started dating in high school.

552
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,640
Speaker 4: He was inniputative and would cheat on her and then

553
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,439
Speaker 4: turned it around like it was her fault that he cheated.

554
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 4: Because of that, she has a disdain towards cheating. There

555
00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 4: was even a girl she was friends with who used

556
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 4: to be the one to gass her up the most.

557
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 4: This friend cheated with her boyfriend one time when blackout wasted,

558
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,159
Speaker 4: and my wife put all contact with her because she

559
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:43,639
Speaker 4: has zero tolerance for cheating. So no, I wasn't worried

560
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:45,360
Speaker 4: about that. So what do we think.

561
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Speaker 3: I think that your wife it seems like she has

562
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 3: a lot of really beautiful friends. Yeah, and I have

563
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:55,159
Speaker 3: a lot of very beautiful friends and I've I've also experienced,

564
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 3: you know, like times when they are hit on, yeah,

565
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 3: a lot more than me when I'm out with them,

566
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 3: And I think it's like she's probably experiencing that kind

567
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 3: of thing of being like, no one ever hits on me.

568
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 3: But it's because when you're out with really beautiful people,

569
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 3: they tend you know, it just happens. But that doesn't

570
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 3: mean that you're any less beautiful.

571
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 2: Yes, hyping you up is one thing, but people flirting

572
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 2: with you doesn't mean you're not.

573
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 3: No.

574
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 2: Back to my point, it's because maybe you have a

575
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:24,160
Speaker 2: ring on and people are respectful of that. One Also too,

576
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:25,919
Speaker 2: it could be how you want to be approached. You

577
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:28,480
Speaker 2: can be perceived like, oh, she doesn't want to be

578
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 2: approached that's okay, And that could make sense because you're

579
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 2: a married woman, you're out with your friends and you

580
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 2: don't want to talk to people. You don't want to

581
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 2: go out there and flirt.

582
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean yeah. Also, presumably you're not like talking

583
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 3: to people in a flirting manner because a lot of

584
00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:41,360
Speaker 3: the people that like have flirted with me, I've been

585
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 3: flirting with It's like a two way street.

586
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, men get scared to talk to women. Nowadays. Yeah, also,

587
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:49,479
Speaker 4: you have one really hot friend? What did you have

588
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 4: one really hot friend? I think all my friends are hot,

589
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:53,120
Speaker 4: but we have one that's super hot.

590
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Speaker 3: What I really, are you just talking about your girlfriend? Yeah?

591
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Speaker 4: No, won't post a pic of her boo and I won't.

592
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 4: I'll ask her to post the pic either. It's not

593
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,239
Speaker 4: because I secretly don't think she's attractive or whatever, but

594
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,919
Speaker 4: because I think it'd be extremely counterproductive, simply because I

595
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 4: know there are way too many people on Reddit that

596
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 4: take joy and tearing down attractive women for one reason

597
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:17,879
Speaker 4: or another. But I don't want to expose my wife

598
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 4: to that, especially since I've seen the comments and messages

599
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:25,239
Speaker 4: some people have sent her sister, calling her fat and

600
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:28,120
Speaker 4: ugly and all sorts of rude and untrue things. Her

601
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 4: sister ignores the remarks and just blocks those people, but

602
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:34,760
Speaker 4: I know my wife would take every insult personally, which

603
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 4: she doesn't need to. So yeah, thanks again. I'll be

604
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 4: looking into spas and photographers in my area, and I'll

605
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 4: talk to my sister and her sister to see if

606
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 4: they will take her out for a girl's self care day.

607
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 4: Thank you all so much.

608
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 3: I also think like a boudoir photo shoot. It sounds

609
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 3: like silly, but like making a woman feel like sexy,

610
00:27:58,040 --> 00:27:59,680
Speaker 3: it probably would boost her confidence.

611
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I like your pure of heart, Opie.

612
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:05,479
Speaker 3: You love your wife, you think she's hot.

613
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:09,159
Speaker 4: You double checked and cross referenced your idea before.

614
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,399
Speaker 3: You yeah, before you did it. Don't don't do that.

615
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 2: God.

616
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,920
Speaker 4: The update was so I hard. This guy named Bob

617
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:14,440
Speaker 4: from the bar.

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00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's gonna stirt with my wife and he run

619
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 3: away together.

620
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,879
Speaker 4: He vomited all over her, and then I proceeded to

621
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,479
Speaker 4: tell her what I hate, how much I p hate him.

622
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,199
Speaker 3: Oh, that would be terrible. But uh, that's the end

623
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,399
Speaker 3: of that story. And we got another one coming right up.

624
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 4: And I'm going to retire to go work on super

625
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 4: secret stuff.

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Speaker 1: Buck.

627
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 3: Guys, my partner and his family deceived me for years.

628
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: Lies deception.

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Speaker 3: I thirty female, have been with my partner, Bill, thirty

630
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Speaker 3: four male, for four years. I have an eight year

631
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 3: old son from a prior relationship that Bill is basically adopted.

632
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 3: We just had our daughter in June. He comes from

633
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 3: a very Catholic family and I am Baptist. By the way,

634
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Speaker 3: this comes from Dubsy Pup And if you want to

635
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Speaker 3: submit your own stories. Go to the r slash Okay

636
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Speaker 3: storytime suppered it.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, and I'm Keon, and we're here.

638
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 3: To give good advice goofly, but we don't have all

639
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 3: the answers. We only know what we'd do, So let

640
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 3: us know what you do in the comments. As Op says,

641
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 3: when we first began dating, I didn't meet his family

642
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 3: until a year in. When I questioned why, he said

643
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 3: his mom is really difficult to deal with and he

644
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 3: didn't want to hurt my feelings. When I finally did

645
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 3: meet her, I was interrogated about my past, my faith,

646
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 3: old I needed to convert or it was a red

647
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 3: flag that I wasn't who she pictured Bill with, et cetera. Dang,

648
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 3: the first time you met.

649
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 1: Her pretty intense, Hicks.

650
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 3: I left crying because I had never been criticized in

651
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 3: that manner by someone I'd never met before. We rarely

652
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 3: went to see his family because every time we did,

653
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 3: I left crying and feeling bad about who I am.

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's not great, is he liken you? Then his

655
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 3: sisters would start some drama. They're all about my age,

656
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 3: since Bill is the oldest child long story short, his

657
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 3: sister's fiance was found on Tinder, and they came up

658
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 3: with a theory that I made the profile to frame him.

659
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: What that's so far of a reach.

660
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 3: That's insane. Imagine being like, oh my god, my fiance's

661
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 3: on Tinder. It must be my siblings.

662
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 1: Ye girlfriend, that's just cope, that's just pure copium.

663
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 3: The whole family exiled me, and I was no longer

664
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 3: welcome or acknowledged in any way anyone else here. That's

665
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 3: saying if they believe lies about you without confronting you first,

666
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 3: they were always looking for a way to be against you.

667
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 3: That is how this feels. This happened in summer of

668
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 3: twenty twenty three. In summer of twenty twenty four, Why

669
00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:41,719
Speaker 3: is that water murky?

670
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 1: You don't drink gray water?

671
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 3: Why is it murky?

672
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 2: It's not water.

673
00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 1: You don't drink gray water water. This is my doctor water. Now,

674
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. This is I had an energy drinking

675
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 1: here earlier, and it's mixed with water.

676
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 3: In summer twenty twenty four, Bill told me he had

677
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 3: been trying to get his family to meet up with

678
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 3: us so we could make amends, but his mom kept

679
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 3: cancer The visits because she couldn't stand to be around me.

680
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 3: This hurt me because it's not in my character to

681
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 3: ever do anything like I was being accused of. I

682
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 3: wrote his mom a very nice letter about how I

683
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 3: would like to make amends and how I didn't want

684
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 3: them to think I'm a bad person, but there was

685
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 3: no reply. Bill later told me that his mom thought

686
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 3: it was a sweet letter and that she wasn't mad

687
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 3: at me. In October twenty twenty four, we found out

688
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 3: that we were expecting. It was a complete surprise, but

689
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 3: we were happy and ready to move forward with our

690
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:31,960
Speaker 3: lives together. Bill also proposed, and I was happy to

691
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:34,800
Speaker 3: be engaged to him. In December twenty twenty four, Bill

692
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 3: told me that he had notified his parents of our

693
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 3: news and they were shocked. I asked him if we

694
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 3: could meet up with them, but he told me they

695
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 3: didn't want to. In February twenty twenty five, his mom

696
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 3: found my Amazon registry and threw a complete fit about

697
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 3: the baby's name, what was on my registry, and the

698
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 3: fact that I had the audacity to have a baby

699
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 3: shower because it was my second child and it's not

700
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 3: in etiquette. I had to delete my registry and start

701
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 3: a private one to share only with my family and

702
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 3: friends so his mom and sisters couldn't creep on it anymore.

703
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 3: They were monitoring everything anyone bought for me and would

704
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 3: text Bill saying I didn't actually need those things.

705
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 1: Where's Bill? Bill, Bill saying, shut up, Mom, Josh, hush, hush, hush,

706
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: shut up to me, stop talking to me.

707
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 3: In March twenty twenty five, Bill told me that his sister,

708
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 3: the one who married the tender guy, had a baby,

709
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 3: and that's why his parents didn't want to meet up

710
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 3: or be involved with anything.

711
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 1: Stop lying, Bill, I a why this conveniences Bill.

712
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 3: Your parents just don't like a pee and also ope,

713
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 3: get the hint that these people don't like you. They

714
00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 3: felt like his sister should off the spotlight and it

715
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 3: didn't need to be advertised that Bill and I were

716
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 3: expecting because we weren't married and should be a shame.

717
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 1: Shame baby. You're having a shame baby.

718
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 3: Bill needs to create a lot of boundaries with his parents.

719
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 3: In June twenty twenty five, I gave birth to our daughter,

720
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 3: who is I gave up trying to get his parents

721
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 3: and sisters to come around when the baby was two

722
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 3: weeks old, Bill asked me to accompany him to his parents' house.

723
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 3: I was reluctant because of how they treated me during

724
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 3: my pregnancy, but I am the type to give a

725
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 3: second chance. We went and everything went okay, but his

726
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 3: mom said something that made my mind wonder. I got

727
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 3: your letter last year, but I didn't reply because I

728
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 3: didn't know you guys were still together. I asked Bill

729
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 3: about it, and he said he had no clue why

730
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 3: she'd said that. He also notified his parents with me

731
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 3: there that we were engaged. His mom said she was

732
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:34,880
Speaker 3: hurt that he didn't tell her. She has also been

733
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 3: texting him recently to make a public apology because his

734
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 3: sisters are upset they weren't notified from the beginning. Maybe

735
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 3: you weren't notified because you guys suck and have been

736
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 3: rude to Opie the whole time you've known her.

737
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe you don't know because you are not worthy

738
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 1: of knowing right now based on your behavior.

739
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 3: I'm not sure why they were upset since they don't

740
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,240
Speaker 3: like me. Why would we celebrate our good news with

741
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 3: people who accused me of bad thing At the same visit,

742
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 3: I asked for his mom's number so I could share

743
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 3: pictures of the baby. We later had a phone call

744
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:09,760
Speaker 3: and asked what she meant by not knowing we were together.

745
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 3: This is when the bomb dropped and my life changed.

746
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 1: He's janiog host here. We're gonna get back to the stories,

747
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 1: but he's a quick three minute break of ass from

748
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 1: our sponsors.

749
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 3: She told me that Bill told the family we broke

750
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 3: up after I was accused of making the Tinder profile

751
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 3: in twenty twenty three.

752
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 1: Oh and he never clarified. No.

753
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 3: Bill said that Bill lied to his family.

754
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: Why.

755
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 3: I asked when he told them we were together? She

756
00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 3: said they only found out we were still together after

757
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 3: Bill's sister's friends saw us at a theater production with

758
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:48,400
Speaker 3: my son in January twenty twenty five, took our picture

759
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:51,799
Speaker 3: weird and sent it to his sister. They confronted him,

760
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:53,840
Speaker 3: and this is when he told everyone I was pregnant

761
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 3: as well. Everyone flipped out. I asked his mom why

762
00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,440
Speaker 3: she didn't question him when she got my letter, He

763
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:01,960
Speaker 3: said Bill. I told the family that I was crazy

764
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 3: and kept trying to contact him, even though he wanted

765
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,720
Speaker 3: me to leave him alone, all while he was playing

766
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 3: with my son, sleeping in my bed, coming to my

767
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 3: family functions, etc. She did admit that I didn't need

768
00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 3: a baby shower because it was my second child and

769
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:18,879
Speaker 3: I didn't need to have attention on myself. I let

770
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,360
Speaker 3: her know that according to etiquette, it's appropriate to have

771
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 3: a second baby shower after five years my son is eight,

772
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 3: especially when it's a different gender, but we agreed to disagree.

773
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:31,400
Speaker 3: Bill also told me that he never talked to or

774
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:34,279
Speaker 3: saw his family. His mom notified me that he went

775
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 3: there almost every Sunday. The day as he went back

776
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 3: to his apartment after staying with me all weekend, supposedly

777
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 3: to catch up on work. I confronted Bill immediately. He

778
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 3: was remorseful, but has not made any effort to fix anything.

779
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 1: Huh, I am so confused now.

780
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:51,840
Speaker 3: Well, it seems like Bill is such a coward that

781
00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 3: when his family expressed that they really didn't like Opee,

782
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 3: and why is he with Opee? Instead of being like,

783
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 3: I'm going to defend my partner and the mother of

784
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 3: my child against this onslaught of hatred from my family,

785
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 3: I'll get a lie to them and tell them I'm

786
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 3: not with her.

787
00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 1: Oh, Billy boy.

788
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 3: I really tried to make amends after being accused of

789
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 3: bad things, and I extended the olive branch with the letter.

790
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 3: Bill even encouraged me that they would reply soon. All

791
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:20,320
Speaker 3: while he was telling them I was crazy and obsessive.

792
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 3: I gave him back the ring good and left the house.

793
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 3: We got together. His excuse was that his mom was

794
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 3: very unaccepting of me, and it put him in a

795
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 3: bad spot. Who who ooh who I'm sorry, Oh, mommy

796
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,080
Speaker 3: was upset, so you couldn't tell the truth.

797
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, my parents didn't like you, So I told

798
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 1: them you were obsessive and crazy and we broke up.

799
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sure that's gonna help. Sure, that's gonna help

800
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:45,399
Speaker 3: their relationship.

801
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 1: What was your plan long term there? Big dog Bill?

802
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 3: Bill?

803
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 1: Bill Bill, No No.

804
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 3: I told him that his loyalty stood with his mom

805
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 3: and sisters, but it should have been with me if

806
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 3: he truly loved me. I came back because I do

807
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:04,360
Speaker 3: want to fix things. No, but I don't even know

808
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:04,879
Speaker 3: where to begin.

809
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 1: Not here, begin with someone else, anyone else. This guy

810
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: fundamentally lied to your face for like a year. Would

811
00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 1: did suppose it? Breakup happened in twenty.

812
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:16,879
Speaker 3: Twenty three, did it? Yeah?

813
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 1: I remember that was a date that was said, So

814
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 1: he lied and maintained this lie about his family and

815
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 1: with James.

816
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:25,879
Speaker 3: Yeah tinerprovo on twenty twenty three January twenty twenty five.

817
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 1: At least like a year and a half, a year

818
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 1: in change, maybe two years. Oh, that guy has lost

819
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 1: his rights to be with you. Yep, yep, because he

820
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 1: is a scoundrel.

821
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 3: I am so humiliated. He let me believe that his

822
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:45,920
Speaker 3: family was being very hateful towards me and unaccepting, when

823
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 3: actually they had no clue I was even around. I

824
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 3: thought he was on my side about everything and that

825
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 3: he had cut off his family, but he was over

826
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 3: there all the time, pretending I didn't exist, even well

827
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 3: into my pregnancy. I do not believe that he would

828
00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 3: have come clean eventually if I hadn't gotten pregnant. I

829
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 3: am certain I would have still been his dirty little secret.

830
00:38:04,080 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 3: Then why are we trying to get back together with

831
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 3: this guy? If you fundamentally believe that he would never

832
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 3: have told you the truth? Why are we with him?

833
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 3: He would hold me while I cried about how his

834
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 3: family was being so hateful towards me. Now I know

835
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 3: they weren't being anything towards me, because they didn't even

836
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 3: know I was around. He randomly asked me last night

837
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 3: what he can do to fix things between us? Leave

838
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 3: op alone. I think he may have realized that my

839
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 3: behavior and demeanor towards him have significantly changed. I stopped

840
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:33,359
Speaker 3: cooking dinner and just fended for ourselves. I only spoke

841
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:35,799
Speaker 3: to him about the baby, stop responding when he told

842
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,280
Speaker 3: me he loved me. I started filling my own bucket

843
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: rather than putting in useless effort with him. I told

844
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:43,040
Speaker 3: him that I couldn't truly say I am in love

845
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 3: with him and want to spend my life with him.

846
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 3: I let go of those dreams back in July. We

847
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,279
Speaker 3: were supposed to get married this December, but along with

848
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 3: the lies, he refused to set a date or pick

849
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 3: a venue when we were engaged.

850
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:56,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably because he was trying to spin the gears

851
00:38:56,800 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 1: on like how do I out and fire? Yeah, bake

852
00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 1: family to be at the wedding. That also hates.

853
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 3: My wife, hmm. Tricky. He keeps asking me what he

854
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 3: can do to fix things, and I truly don't know

855
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 3: or care. I've accepted things for what they are and

856
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:14,799
Speaker 3: I'm just working with what I got until I've got

857
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 3: done with graduate school. He asked if he could take

858
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 3: me out this weekend, just me and him, and honestly,

859
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 3: I don't want to. It feels like he's trying to

860
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 3: love bomb me enough to buy more time, but I

861
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 3: don't want to be part of it. Then don't be.

862
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm content with how it is. I'm

863
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 3: able to read my books, work on school, spend time

864
00:39:32,239 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 3: with my kids, and do my own thing just with

865
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:36,840
Speaker 3: Bill in the next room. In the past two months,

866
00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:38,719
Speaker 3: since this all came out, I have tried to put

867
00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 3: an effort to fix things stop. I told them what

868
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 3: I needed, apology from him, conversation with his family about everything,

869
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:48,840
Speaker 3: full honesty from now. But I wasn't getting it. He

870
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 3: was still hiding from me, little stuff like him going

871
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,840
Speaker 3: to a basketball game with his family and telling me

872
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 3: it was with his friends. It's like he doesn't want

873
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 3: to mix his life with me and his life with

874
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 3: his family. I will say that is my put an

875
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 3: effort to include me. His sisters except the one with

876
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 3: the tender husband, have reached out and tried establishing a

877
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 3: relationship with me. His dad even includes me in conversations

878
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 3: and asks if I need anything. It seems like The

879
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:14,240
Speaker 3: only one that is opposed to us all moving past

880
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 3: things is Bill. Why are you moving past this?

881
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:19,280
Speaker 1: Stop moving past?

882
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 3: Stop it.

883
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:23,240
Speaker 1: This is not even a thank you, it's just next.

884
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 3: Yeah. I'm torn, I'm hurt, I'm numb. I want this

885
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 3: to work out, but I'm finding it difficult to forgive him. Then,

886
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 3: don't he made me look like a fool in every

887
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 3: way possible? I don't want to feel disgusted every time

888
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 3: I talk to him, but I do. Then why are

889
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 3: we here? I really wanted to get married in December

890
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 3: before all of this. Thinking of it now, I'm not

891
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 3: even sure he would hang out with me on our

892
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 3: wedding day. He still tells white lies all the time.

893
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:48,359
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do.

894
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:50,440
Speaker 1: I want to scream.

895
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:54,359
Speaker 3: Why aren't you to have a relationship with a man

896
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 3: you hate?

897
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 1: She says. I don't know what to do. I guess

898
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:00,279
Speaker 1: I'll get married to him as.

899
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:02,880
Speaker 3: An established relationship with my son. We have our daughter,

900
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 3: we have a house. I'm stuck. Oh you're not. You're

901
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:08,320
Speaker 3: not stuck. No, you're not, You're not stuck.

902
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 1: Not really.

903
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,799
Speaker 3: My mom told me I could come back home with

904
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:13,240
Speaker 3: the kids. Not stuck.

905
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 1: Literally, next sentence, not.

906
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:17,839
Speaker 3: Stuck, but she wants me to try to work it out.

907
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:22,120
Speaker 1: What why? What is wrong with all of you?

908
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:25,120
Speaker 3: I feel so defeated. I can feel myself being on

909
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 3: autopilot every day. I am normally a very bubbly person

910
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:31,320
Speaker 3: and I have a larger than life personality. I'm funny

911
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 3: and fun to be around. I like to sing and

912
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 3: dance at the kitchen and shower. I'm not that person

913
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 3: right now, and I don't know if I can get

914
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 3: her back. You not with him, you won't with this,

915
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 3: Not with him around, You will with when you're not

916
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 3: with him, you will when you've moved out.

917
00:41:45,120 --> 00:41:47,359
Speaker 1: You're basically just like, Yeah, I mean, life right now

918
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,160
Speaker 1: is fine. I go to work, I spend time with

919
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,840
Speaker 1: the kids. There's a tumor in the room next to me. Yeah,

920
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 1: that I hate? I mean, or maybe not. I don't

921
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 1: know what you feel about this guy. Why do you

922
00:41:57,040 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 1: want to work things out with him so much? He's

923
00:41:58,719 --> 00:41:59,760
Speaker 1: a pressure from your family?

924
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,399
Speaker 3: Is like religious values. I don't know what is it?

925
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:03,399
Speaker 2: She can fix him?

926
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 3: And not being this way to prove a point to

927
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 3: Bill or make him regret things. It was a slow

928
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 3: decline to this point, and I think that's what sparked him,

929
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 3: asking what he can do to make things okay. I

930
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 3: hope that whoever reads this can help me with kind,

931
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 3: apathetic words. I need to know if this can be

932
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 3: fixed it cannot, how to begin to fix it, don't?

933
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:22,280
Speaker 3: And how to forgive him? Don't?

934
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:25,760
Speaker 1: I love wrestling. Mama's comments like they already have the baby.

935
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 1: A marriage will fix everything. No, it will not.

936
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 3: It won't. Don't get married. I've offered couple counseling, but

937
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 3: we're both very busy with work, school and taking care

938
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 3: of two kids. I think we would be able to

939
00:42:38,520 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 3: go every once in a while if I knew it

940
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 3: would be worth my time. I know counseling's on the table,

941
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:44,440
Speaker 3: but I'd like more advice.

942
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 1: Please get it off the table.

943
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left to this story.

944
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:50,360
Speaker 1: The only way counseling should be on the table is

945
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:54,319
Speaker 1: if he's your next boyfriend. Yeah, and you're about to

946
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:58,440
Speaker 1: do the chick a bount Wow. Okay, uh what why

947
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: else would he be on the table? I see tables

948
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 1: are four dinner.

949
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:05,160
Speaker 3: You have a dinner with your new boyfriend. You can

950
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 3: do it.

951
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:07,840
Speaker 1: You're not stuck. You all these factors around you that

952
00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 1: make it harder, a little more complicated, or but you're

953
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 1: not stuck. Stuck, you're not even married.

954
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 3: You're not married, you don't have to go through divorce proceeding.

955
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:17,680
Speaker 1: Do you have a house together? Who owns the property?

956
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 1: Go back moving with your mom and go I tried,

957
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 1: it didn't work. Knit loop.

958
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sam, your og host here. Bring it back

959
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 2: to the stories.

960
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 3: But here's three minutes fads from our sponsored update. I

961
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:29,719
Speaker 3: texted him and gave him a recap of how he

962
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 3: hurt me and how he created this false narrative, then

963
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:35,439
Speaker 3: watched me cry or fake things. I guess my hopes

964
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:37,400
Speaker 3: of making this post was to get some insight on

965
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:40,239
Speaker 3: if things can be fixed and how it seems like

966
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:43,879
Speaker 3: everyone is in agreement that it's too far gone. Good job, Red,

967
00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 3: I sort of knew that as well, and just needed confirmation.

968
00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 3: I'll be planning my exit strategy and hopefully things will

969
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 3: start looking up for me. Good leave, get out of there,

970
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 3: plan that exit strategy.

971
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I guess this was just like maybe

972
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:00,839
Speaker 1: it was just like a last desperate ploy, just like

973
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 1: throwing this out on the internet. Oh, he's like, maybe

974
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: I'm insane, Yeah, maybe me thinking I need to leave

975
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 1: him is insane, and the internet will let me know

976
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:14,880
Speaker 1: that I'm actually totally overreacting and this is what everyone

977
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 1: goes through pre marriage. Jitters.

978
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:19,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, and everyone's like, that's crazy, leave him. And she

979
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 3: was like, oh, okay, we're good.

980
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 1: Dang all right, ah everyone eat you. I thinks I

981
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:27,320
Speaker 1: should leave him, darn Okay, all right, then, okay, I

982
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 1: guess I gotta do that.

983
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:32,319
Speaker 3: I gotta go. But uh, that's the end of that story, folks.

984
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 3: And we got another one.

985
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 1: My husband said, his mother will always come before me divorce.

986
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 1: Why don't you tell him to get married to his mom.

987
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 1: I thirty three female, got married to my husband forty

988
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 1: mail a month and a half ago. We dated for

989
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:49,360
Speaker 1: more than a year and a half, and while we

990
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:53,320
Speaker 1: had several ups and downs, we were really happy together. Clearly,

991
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:56,479
Speaker 1: you didn't know enough about him if you never heard

992
00:44:56,640 --> 00:44:57,839
Speaker 1: he was a mama's boy.

993
00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:02,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, yep, might are rushed into that a little bit

994
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 3: at bit a little bit.

995
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 1: His mother is a widow who lives in their apartment

996
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 1: raising his niece as his brother is a single father

997
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 1: with soul custody. My parents, his mother, and I all

998
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 1: live in the same city. My husband lived in his

999
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,799
Speaker 1: apartment forty five minutes from the city. By the way,

1000
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 1: this comes from user BS two one two off and

1001
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 1: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

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Speaker 1: the r slash Okay storytime suburn it. I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia,

1003
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 1: I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice. Be goofully,

1004
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 1: But we don't have all the answers, so we only

1005
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 1: know what we'd do. But if you would do something else,

1006
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:41,439
Speaker 1: let us know. In the comments, Opie says his mother

1007
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:44,280
Speaker 1: and niece used to spend weekends at his house, whether

1008
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:47,320
Speaker 1: he was there or not, since they have the keys.

1009
00:45:48,040 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: When we were dating, I always left his apartment during weekends,

1010
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:53,320
Speaker 1: knowing they would come. The first time he asked me

1011
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 1: to stay, I did, but we had to sleep in

1012
00:45:56,120 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: the living room, leaving the bedroom for his mother and niece. Okay, considerate, right,

1013
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:07,759
Speaker 1: kind of extra considerate, Yeah, offering the bed to at

1014
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 1: least there's no holes in them.

1015
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 3: Today's true.

1016
00:46:10,239 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 1: Keon's just close uping on my socks for all of

1017
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:14,360
Speaker 1: our beautiful.

1018
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 3: Listeners podcast listeners.

1019
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 1: The second time was the same. I was so uncomfortable

1020
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 1: that I declined staying After that, did you ask like

1021
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:26,680
Speaker 1: why though, you just were like, I just won't come anymore.

1022
00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 1: You weren't like, hey, why are we on the floor

1023
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 1: in the living room? I'm guessing I don't know, yeah.

1024
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 3: Especially if that's like some of the first times that

1025
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 3: I don't know you stay or was it just the

1026
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 3: first time that she stayed when that family.

1027
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:40,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it was when they were over, so

1028
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 1: that she doesn't stay there on the weekends anymore, because

1029
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:44,879
Speaker 1: that's what happens when the family comes over. So why

1030
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:45,720
Speaker 1: didn't you say anything?

1031
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,799
Speaker 3: I feel like if I had a partner and they

1032
00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 3: were like, you have to stay on the floor if

1033
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:51,440
Speaker 3: my family's over, I'd just be like, I don't need

1034
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 3: to stay over that night. I'll just come over when

1035
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 3: they're gone Sti'll meet them. Just don't need to sleep over.

1036
00:46:57,400 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 1: Why are they staying here if there's no room for them?

1037
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1038
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:03,719
Speaker 1: When we decided to get married, I bought a nice

1039
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 1: apartment near his so we could have our own place.

1040
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 1: He was really happy about it, and we both saw

1041
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 1: it as our place. It's crazy because only one of

1042
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:16,359
Speaker 1: you bought it. He works and travels a lot, about

1043
00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:19,360
Speaker 1: twice a week. Every time he's here. I want to

1044
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 1: spend time with him, but he always tries to split

1045
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 1: time between me and his mother and niece. We usually

1046
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:28,239
Speaker 1: go out all together, even though we still have some

1047
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:31,360
Speaker 1: outside dinners just the two of us. I was always

1048
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 1: worried about this closeness with his mother and niece and

1049
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:36,480
Speaker 1: felt he needed to put some boundaries in place and

1050
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 1: give us more time alone. Some things that bothered me.

1051
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: When we were looking for a new apartment, we visited

1052
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: several together. When we found this one, we both agreed

1053
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 1: not to tell anyone, not even our family. He went

1054
00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 1: ahead and told his mother and niece and even took

1055
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 1: them there to show them the place when you weren't there.

1056
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:58,120
Speaker 1: Why did he go back on his word? He said,

1057
00:47:58,160 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 1: He said, I give you my word, they give.

1058
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 3: You my but but my word means nothing.

1059
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: We'll have a secret, little place, secret place.

1060
00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 3: Stop showing mommy around. Get her out of here.

1061
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:12,239
Speaker 1: The new apartment has two bedrooms. He always refers to

1062
00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 1: the second one as his niece's room. And when I

1063
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:16,760
Speaker 1: say it's my office.

1064
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 3: Ah, that's funny. And if he said, oh, yeah, this

1065
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:22,520
Speaker 3: is my niece's room, I'd be like, no, this is

1066
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:25,480
Speaker 3: my apartment that I pay for. That I like you

1067
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 3: to stay at. But it's my apartment and that's my office,

1068
00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 3: so no, it's not your niece's room.

1069
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 1: Need to learn to be more like, hey, no, what

1070
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 1: did that mean, instead of just being like, oh, that

1071
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:36,839
Speaker 1: was that was weird.

1072
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 3: That's my office.

1073
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 1: That was weird. Move on and get married doom.

1074
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:43,160
Speaker 3: Not moving on from that.

1075
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:47,399
Speaker 1: Every weekend we have to spend it with them going oh,

1076
00:48:47,960 --> 00:48:50,879
Speaker 1: wait a minute on, let me double check. This is

1077
00:48:51,120 --> 00:48:52,960
Speaker 1: from the arch slash Showy story Time.

1078
00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 2: Just about to ask, oh, man, hey, why are we doing.

1079
00:48:57,840 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 1: We gotta wake up.

1080
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:00,800
Speaker 3: Don't't be with this man and he sucks.

1081
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 1: You gonna start asking the questions when they arise. Oh,

1082
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 1: it's so much easier to push them to the back

1083
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:10,360
Speaker 1: of your mind. But it's only easier in the moment

1084
00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 1: because you pay the debt down the line, going out

1085
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:17,520
Speaker 1: paying for everything and doing whatever his mom and niece want.

1086
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:20,480
Speaker 1: If he comes back and doesn't go directly to his

1087
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:23,640
Speaker 1: mom or at least call her, she calls him sad,

1088
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 1: saying he forgot about her and that she has no

1089
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 1: one in this world. Guilt tripper, guilt. Maybe your husband's

1090
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:34,520
Speaker 1: just been chronically guilt tripped. Probably his brother decided to

1091
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: leave the country to search for a job abroad. So

1092
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 1: every weekend, when my husband doesn't hear, I have to

1093
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 1: drive them to his apartment on Friday and pick them

1094
00:49:42,200 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 1: up on Sunday. I was okay with this for a

1095
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 1: few times, but now it's a rule, like I'm the

1096
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:51,799
Speaker 1: dedicated driver while there are other family members who can

1097
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:52,160
Speaker 1: do it.

1098
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:54,880
Speaker 3: And that's when you start saying, hey, sorry, can't do

1099
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 3: this all the time, I got plans, can't do it, Sorry,

1100
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:00,719
Speaker 3: got find other people? Why not?

1101
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 1: They will cry and you'll go because I can't do it.

1102
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:05,759
Speaker 3: I'm busy, but you totally can.

1103
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:10,800
Speaker 1: That's crazy because I'm telling you directly that I can't

1104
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:13,919
Speaker 1: miss that, so you'll have to figure something else out.

1105
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 3: It's in a movie that day. Sorry, easy peasy.

1106
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 1: My husband's aunt lives ten minutes from his apartment and

1107
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 1: works in our city, so she's always driving there and

1108
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:26,239
Speaker 1: could do it easily, but it always falls to me

1109
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 1: because you're not.

1110
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:30,120
Speaker 3: Saying no, yeah, you gotta say nope, no, thank you.

1111
00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 1: Every time I ask my husband to visit my parents,

1112
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:36,799
Speaker 1: I have to literally beg and he's always saying no.

1113
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:40,759
Speaker 1: He's only accepted twice since our wedding every time, he

1114
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 1: asks that we stay a short time because he doesn't

1115
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 1: want to spend a lot of time with them. Now

1116
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:48,840
Speaker 1: we're packing to move before the end of the month. Well,

1117
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:52,920
Speaker 1: it's me packing while he just enjoys the new apartment

1118
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:56,840
Speaker 1: and plans the barbecues he wants to have there. Last Friday,

1119
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: before he traveled, my husband told me he wanted us

1120
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:01,840
Speaker 1: to have have dinner with his mom and niece on

1121
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: Sunday after picking them up, and I said, sure, today

1122
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: is Sunday. He came back from his work travel this morning, slept,

1123
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 1: and then woke up. At two pm. His niece called him.

1124
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 1: I told him not to tell her we're coming now,

1125
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:19,399
Speaker 1: to tell her in two hours. He finished the call,

1126
00:51:19,960 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 1: turned to me saying, no, he wants to go now.

1127
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:26,719
Speaker 1: I said, please, no, let's go later since we'll have

1128
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 1: dinner with them. He was angry and told me no,

1129
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:31,719
Speaker 1: he wanted to go right away. I said I was

1130
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:33,799
Speaker 1: tired and didn't want to spend the whole afternoon with

1131
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 1: his mom and niece. That I was okay to go

1132
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:38,719
Speaker 1: pick them up and have dinner, but couldn't do the

1133
00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:41,439
Speaker 1: whole afternoon as I wasn't in the mood. He got

1134
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:43,879
Speaker 1: very angry and left the house, came back a few

1135
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 1: minutes later, cursed me and said I was being disrespectful

1136
00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:49,239
Speaker 1: and that it was like saying I didn't want to

1137
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 1: see his mother. Hey, doufish, that's exactly what she said.

1138
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:53,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, she does not want to see your mother.

1139
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 1: She didn't want to see him.

1140
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:58,239
Speaker 3: Not right then ailed it doesn't want to see your mama.

1141
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:01,839
Speaker 1: This leave this man, Leave him. He said they spent

1142
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 1: the whole weekend alone and needed him. He said that

1143
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 1: his mother will always come before me, that she's the

1144
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 1: only one he has in the world after losing his dad,

1145
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:13,239
Speaker 1: and that he wouldn't let anyone, including me, distance him

1146
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:16,360
Speaker 1: from her. I was shocked. I never tried to distance

1147
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 1: him from her. I just want him to give me

1148
00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 1: and our couple a real place in this life. I'm

1149
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:26,239
Speaker 1: tired of always having to spend time with him and

1150
00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:29,319
Speaker 1: his family other than at night. He always talks about

1151
00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 1: his family and him like a team, with me being

1152
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:35,880
Speaker 1: the outsider, and I hate that I feel alone in

1153
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,640
Speaker 1: our relationship. I feel like I always have to go

1154
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:41,640
Speaker 1: the extra mile to make this relationship work, and it's

1155
00:52:41,760 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 1: never just about him and me, even when we want

1156
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:46,600
Speaker 1: to travel or go somewhere. We need to make sure

1157
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:49,799
Speaker 1: his mother and niece aren't too sad. Stop it.

1158
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:53,279
Speaker 3: You gotta leave him. This relationship can't work out if

1159
00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 3: he always prioritizes his mama.

1160
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:58,800
Speaker 1: You either need to leave him or he needs serious counseling,

1161
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 1: comprehensive therapy to move beyond being this.

1162
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 3: Like he's attached to his mind. I don't know, it's

1163
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,520
Speaker 3: like he in a unhealthy way.

1164
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:10,640
Speaker 1: I don't know who is convinced him, but he believes

1165
00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 1: that without his presence these women will disintegrate into nothing,

1166
00:53:15,239 --> 00:53:19,920
Speaker 1: that they will just like just melt away without his presence.

1167
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:23,040
Speaker 1: And if they're telling him that they need to stop,

1168
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:24,600
Speaker 1: and he needs to be able to hear that from

1169
00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:28,840
Speaker 1: his wife, that it's a toxic dynamic. And if you can't.

1170
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:30,360
Speaker 3: Hear it, then you can't be his wife.

1171
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 1: There's the door because it's your apartment, right if your

1172
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 1: name's on the apartment, garam there. My husband gives them

1173
00:53:37,760 --> 00:53:40,799
Speaker 1: money and spends a lot of time with them beforehand

1174
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: so they don't resent him. Who's I don't know if

1175
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:52,760
Speaker 1: there's much left no in the tank for this unless

1176
00:53:52,800 --> 00:54:00,040
Speaker 1: he's gonna immediately agree to full blown therapy and reassessing

1177
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:03,280
Speaker 1: and reevaluating. But I can't see chain dynamic.

1178
00:54:03,560 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 2: Shout out to Mingming, is he Filipino?

1179
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 3: Hmm?

1180
00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:07,760
Speaker 2: Good was not supposed to mean.

1181
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 1: He could be anything. He could be anyone. He could

1182
00:54:11,120 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 1: be one of you.

1183
00:54:12,040 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 3: But hopefully he's not going to be your husband for much.

1184
00:54:14,160 --> 00:54:14,359
Speaker 4: Luck.

1185
00:54:14,400 --> 00:54:17,000
Speaker 2: Well, this story is one of ours, so good luck.

1186
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:20,840
Speaker 1: Our fight ended with him cursing me, God, bless you,

1187
00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:24,359
Speaker 1: thank you, demanding that I apologize for saying I don't

1188
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 1: want to spend time with his mother. I was crying

1189
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 1: and powerless. He went by himself, picked them up, spent

1190
00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 1: the afternoon with them, and had dinner with them. Now

1191
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 1: he's back sitting and working without talking to me or

1192
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:37,200
Speaker 1: even looking at me. I feel like this is how

1193
00:54:37,239 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 1: my whole life will be, him choosing his family over me,

1194
00:54:40,239 --> 00:54:42,880
Speaker 1: while I didn't even ask him to choose. All I

1195
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 1: said was that I wanted to go later and not

1196
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:48,239
Speaker 1: spend the whole afternoon with them. Am I wrong? What

1197
00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:50,960
Speaker 1: should I do? How can I make him understand that

1198
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 1: this is very tiring for me? Should I let go

1199
00:54:53,680 --> 00:54:54,320
Speaker 1: this marriage?

1200
00:54:54,560 --> 00:54:54,880
Speaker 3: Eh?

1201
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:58,359
Speaker 1: The truth, yes, shall set you free?

1202
00:54:58,440 --> 00:55:00,680
Speaker 3: Should let go all of the marriage? I got there?

1203
00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:02,759
Speaker 3: You got there?

1204
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:03,440
Speaker 2: Let go.

1205
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:08,280
Speaker 1: You let it go. You say, get out of my house,

1206
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:10,839
Speaker 1: Get out of my house, Go live with your mom,

1207
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 1: go live through love it. Oh my god, they're gonna

1208
00:55:14,640 --> 00:55:15,160
Speaker 1: love living.

1209
00:55:15,160 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 3: They're gonna be so happy. You can drive them so

1210
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:19,120
Speaker 3: all their things. It'll be great.

1211
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:22,040
Speaker 1: You have solommer parties every night. Yeah, it'll be great.

1212
00:55:22,080 --> 00:55:23,759
Speaker 3: You can sleep on the floor and they can sleep

1213
00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:27,880
Speaker 3: in your bed. Wooo woo woo, woo woo boo.

1214
00:55:28,440 --> 00:55:31,040
Speaker 1: On a real level, it sounds like there's a lot

1215
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:33,640
Speaker 1: of complicated factors going into the why he feels that

1216
00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 1: way with like the loss of his father.

1217
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:38,279
Speaker 3: Absolutely, it doesn't mean that you have to but you

1218
00:55:38,320 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 3: don't have to stay here.

1219
00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 1: If he is unwilling to change, you do not have

1220
00:55:43,160 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 1: to stay no matter how reasonable it is for him

1221
00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:48,240
Speaker 1: to feel the need.

1222
00:55:48,080 --> 00:55:48,400
Speaker 4: To do this.

1223
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:51,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, in his mind, but that is the end of

1224
00:55:51,880 --> 00:55:54,759
Speaker 3: that story and the end of this episode. I guess

1225
00:55:54,760 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 3: we're gonna read some comments. It sounds.

1226
00:56:02,400 --> 00:56:06,240
Speaker 1: This is from the video my mother in law Demn's

1227
00:56:06,239 --> 00:56:11,000
Speaker 1: a Family Honeymoon from September fifth, twenty twenty five. Opie's

1228
00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 1: pregnancy announcement using her nephew's shirt got stolen by her

1229
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:16,919
Speaker 1: sister in law who pretended to be pregnant, and when

1230
00:56:16,920 --> 00:56:19,320
Speaker 1: the truth came out to the family, the family blamed

1231
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:22,799
Speaker 1: op for being unclear. The sister in law then escalated

1232
00:56:23,080 --> 00:56:27,000
Speaker 1: by hacking Opee's Amazon account, stealing baby names, and forcing

1233
00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:30,040
Speaker 1: the whole family to use a different nickname for Op's

1234
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:34,080
Speaker 1: newborn daughter, until Opie finally cut them all off. In

1235
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:37,800
Speaker 1: a shocking twist, the sister in law had her own baby,

1236
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:43,200
Speaker 1: then immediately abandoned both the child and Opie's brother, and

1237
00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:46,200
Speaker 1: now the same toxic family wants op to care for

1238
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 1: the abandoned nick you baby.

1239
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 3: That was a crazy story.

1240
00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:51,800
Speaker 2: I remember, Oh my, I ah, don't think I was

1241
00:56:51,840 --> 00:56:52,200
Speaker 2: on that one.

1242
00:56:52,320 --> 00:56:53,720
Speaker 3: I remember that one. It was crazy.

1243
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:58,359
Speaker 2: Booker Maiden says second, Opie's family is toxic. One day,

1244
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:01,040
Speaker 2: when that child survives, she's to come back and demand

1245
00:57:01,040 --> 00:57:06,560
Speaker 2: to be his mother. BPD. Tis truly BPD. That's one

1246
00:57:06,560 --> 00:57:07,160
Speaker 2: of the comments.

1247
00:57:07,400 --> 00:57:09,319
Speaker 1: I hope they don't demand be the mother.

1248
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 2: Another comment from Danny x a x K. People like

1249
00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:19,959
Speaker 2: op who are such terrible pushovers really piss me off. Like, bro,

1250
00:57:20,280 --> 00:57:23,040
Speaker 2: stand up for yourself, If not only for yourself, then

1251
00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 2: stand up for the sake of your daughter.

1252
00:57:25,240 --> 00:57:25,479
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1253
00:57:25,480 --> 00:57:26,880
Speaker 1: It's one of the hardest things you can learn how

1254
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:27,960
Speaker 1: to do. If you don't know how to do it.

1255
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:30,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you haven't been time really yeah, just.

1256
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 1: And then it comes a moment and the damn breaks

1257
00:57:32,800 --> 00:57:34,720
Speaker 1: and then you're like, how could I ever have done that?

1258
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: I will never go back.

1259
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 2: And this final comment from Tina gillen Water five eight

1260
00:57:40,440 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 2: eight eight. F you're afraid of someone stealing a name,

1261
00:57:44,000 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 2: you can always give a fake name you hate in

1262
00:57:46,440 --> 00:57:49,200
Speaker 2: hopes they may name their kid the name you hate

1263
00:57:49,200 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 2: instead of what you want.

1264
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:53,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, you should be like, I'm gonna name my kid garbage.

1265
00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 2: We had one story, Oh it were you there for this,

1266
00:57:56,640 --> 00:57:58,880
Speaker 2: I'm gonna name my kid hun It was I think

1267
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:01,440
Speaker 2: it was Angie myself from Riley is one of the

1268
00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:04,840
Speaker 2: member's only streams. We had a story like this and

1269
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 2: she took the name Hittila Attila. Then no, Hittila, Pittilaia yes,

1270
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:14,240
Speaker 2: and she's like, oh, yeah, I'm combining my aunt's like

1271
00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 2: Matilda and something else and Hotilda something like that, but no, no,

1272
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 2: it's a h Hittila. And I think a lot of

1273
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 2: people remember in chat if you guys remember that story,

1274
00:58:25,280 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 2: that was a crazy one. We're so waiting for an update.

1275
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 2: But the sister in law took that name because you know,

1276
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 2: OPI was like, I'm gonna use that for my daughter. Supposedly,

1277
00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 2: when Opie released the name, it was like Rose or

1278
00:58:37,600 --> 00:58:40,800
Speaker 2: something very sweet, and she was like, why would you

1279
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:42,520
Speaker 2: use that name? Because you were going to use it.

1280
00:58:42,880 --> 00:58:48,600
Speaker 2: I combined the guy from Germany, Yeah, and Attila the Hunt, Well,

1281
00:58:48,640 --> 00:58:49,320
Speaker 2: why would you.

1282
00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 3: Even name your child Hittila.

1283
00:58:51,040 --> 00:58:55,200
Speaker 2: Tila because again that Opie's sister in law was like

1284
00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:56,160
Speaker 2: so obsessed with her.

1285
00:58:56,640 --> 00:58:57,760
Speaker 1: Signed off on that.

1286
00:58:57,920 --> 00:58:59,400
Speaker 3: The husband be like, yeah, it's like.

1287
00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:02,280
Speaker 1: Naming your k Like, I mean, clearly those are two

1288
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 1: horrific combos

1289
00:59:03,760 --> 00:59:05,600
Speaker 3: A dolphin, but it's like a dolphin