1 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:22,119 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily a body here bringing you another installment 2 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: of five Minute Friday. This week, I am talking about 3 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: owning your worth. 4 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:29,040 Speaker 2: I won't lie. 5 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:32,240 Speaker 1: Things have been really hectic for me lately, and in 6 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: the blur of what seems to be my day to day, 7 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 1: I seem to find myself having the same conversation over 8 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:46,600 Speaker 1: and over with my friends, and that conversation is surrounding 9 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 1: value and worth. So let me give a couple of 10 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: examples of how this has come up in regular conversation. 11 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 1: The other day, I was talking with a girlfriend who 12 00:00:55,800 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: is changing jobs, and when she was in the contract 13 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 1: negotiations phase of this job shift, she knew exactly how 14 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 1: much money she wanted to ask for, but she also 15 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 1: knew the amount of money that she quote unquote should 16 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: ask for the salary that would be expected for someone 17 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:21,480 Speaker 1: in this role. What ended up happening was that she 18 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: approached the company with the amount of money that she 19 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:29,679 Speaker 1: wanted beyond what she quote unquote should be making, and 20 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: she was pleasantly surprised when they met her the entire 21 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: way and gave her that higher salary. Another example, I 22 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:42,199 Speaker 1: was talking to another girlfriend who was seeing this guy 23 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 1: that she thought was great but she constantly articulated that 24 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 1: they had different love languages, and because of their different 25 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:54,720 Speaker 1: love languages, she felt like asking for the things that 26 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: were important to her was an inconvenience to her partner. 27 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: Long pause on purpose. Basically the conversation went like this 28 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:08,080 Speaker 1: with me and her. I said to her, so, is 29 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: your partner making you feel like you have less value 30 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: or you're not entitled to the things that make you 31 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: happy in a relationship. She started to try to defend him, 32 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:18,800 Speaker 1: and I said, listen, I get that you care about 33 00:02:18,840 --> 00:02:23,399 Speaker 1: this person, but the right person won't make you feel 34 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:26,959 Speaker 1: like you're asking for too much when things matter to you. 35 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 1: That means that you are asking the wrong person. See 36 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:32,799 Speaker 1: where I'm going with all of this. I mean, hey, 37 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 1: I get it. It is so scary to put yourself 38 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 1: out there. But maybe if you can relate to this, 39 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: it's about time that you stop waiting around for someone 40 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 1: or something to give you permission to own your worth. 41 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 1: You have to be your own advocate, right. You have 42 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: to appreciate that you are worthy of good things. And 43 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: when you do, trust me on this one, you may 44 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:01,920 Speaker 1: be pleasantly surprised nex time you're going after what you 45 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:04,920 Speaker 1: want my prompt for you this week. When was the 46 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 1: last time you sold yourself short? And why do you 47 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: think you did that? What can you change to better 48 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:14,440 Speaker 1: handle a similar situation the next time? Again, when was 49 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:17,360 Speaker 1: the last time you sold yourself short? Why do you 50 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,919 Speaker 1: think you did that? What can you change to better 51 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 1: handle a similar situation the next time? Highlights of the week. 52 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:27,359 Speaker 1: Links to all of this goodness are in the show notes. 53 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: First up, another podcast for you to listen to called 54 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: Real Pod. I interviewed Emily Didonado last week. She is 55 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: a model. She's also like my personal style icon spoiler, 56 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: She'll be on the show soon. I was looking to 57 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: find other shows that she had been on before that 58 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 1: interview to learn a little bit more about her, and 59 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: that is where I found Real Pod. Real Pod is 60 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: hosted by a woman named Victoria Garrick. She is a 61 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 1: former Division one volleyball player and I really love that 62 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: perspective that she brings to her conversations of being an athlete. 63 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: If you want an episode to start on, I would 64 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: highly highly recommend a recent one she did with Sports 65 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: Illustrated model Tonay White. Watch Operation Varsity Blues, The College 66 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 1: Admission Scandal on Netflix. You know, I feel like in 67 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 1: recent years we've seen like a surge of documentaries that 68 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:24,960 Speaker 1: involve reenactments, and usually they're not my thing, but I 69 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: actually really found this whole thing just so fascinating, mostly 70 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: because it just blows my mind that so many of 71 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 1: these well off people, like the Lori Laughlin's of the world, 72 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 1: like they just felt as though they could make their 73 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 1: own rules to get their kids to go wherever they 74 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: wanted to go for school. The documentaries made by a 75 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 1: director named Chris Smith. He also made one of the 76 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:51,719 Speaker 1: popular Fire Festival documentaries, and like I said, it involves 77 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:55,840 Speaker 1: staged recreations of what happened, but it's all with real 78 00:04:55,920 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 1: transcripts and then intermixed in there are interviews with people 79 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: that were really involved in the scandal and experts and 80 00:05:03,839 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 1: all that stuff. So definitely give it a watch. Check 81 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 1: out if you're in New York. It's no secret fitness 82 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: is back in New York City. Group fitness is back. 83 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 1: I haven't personally hopped back into a group fitness studio 84 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:20,280 Speaker 1: just yet, but I'm just so excited for all of 85 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 1: these trainers and founders and studio owners that have just 86 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,039 Speaker 1: been waiting and waiting and waiting for this moment. I'm 87 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 1: so excited to support you, and if you feel comfortable 88 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 1: going into the studio, they're maxing out a thirty three 89 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: percent capacity right now. I highly encourage you to go 90 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:40,919 Speaker 1: in and support now. This week's a listener question. 91 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 2: Hi Emily, this is Sarah, a big fan of Hurdle. 92 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:48,880 Speaker 2: A question I have is your morning routine is very 93 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 2: disciplined and has really seemed to set you up for success. 94 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:55,719 Speaker 2: How do you get into that mindset every morning to 95 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:59,120 Speaker 2: wake up, show up for yourself and really go through 96 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 2: those motions inspired way? Thanks so much, Sarah, such a 97 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 2: good question. 98 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:09,039 Speaker 1: I actually recently recorded in an episode all about my 99 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 1: morning routine and how I get moving day after day. 100 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:16,440 Speaker 1: But one of the biggest takeaways from that episode that 101 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:18,359 Speaker 1: I will link to in the show notes and share 102 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:22,479 Speaker 1: with you here is think about the after right. Think 103 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 1: about how giving yourself that time first thing in the 104 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,600 Speaker 1: morning is going to set you up in such a 105 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: great way for the rest of your day. I know 106 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: it can be tempting to press the snooze button, but 107 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,440 Speaker 1: when you keep your eye on the prize and think 108 00:06:38,480 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: about that post workout and doorphin rush, that you're going 109 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:46,200 Speaker 1: to have. How proud you're going to feel of yourself 110 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:48,919 Speaker 1: for getting up, for getting out and giving yourself a 111 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: little bit of extra love first thing of the day. 112 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 1: Trust me, that is a great motivator to get you 113 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 1: up and out. That is it for this week. 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