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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter. What are you doing all right? Hit?

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Speaker 1: But thank you nephew. Subject why can't we both have

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Speaker 1: a side piece? Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I.

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Speaker 1: I know. My husband and I have been married for

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Speaker 1: three years. Our marriage was good. It was going good

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Speaker 1: until a year ago when he told me he was

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Speaker 1: having an affair. Shortly after we met, he told me

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Speaker 1: about a female friend of his that lives out of

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Speaker 1: town and she's like a little sister to him. I

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Speaker 1: met her five days ago when she came to town

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Speaker 1: for homecoming. We got along great, but I don't trust

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Speaker 1: any females around my man. He and this woman texted

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Speaker 1: and called each other often, and when I asked what's

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Speaker 1: would say it was just small talk. Last June, she

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Speaker 1: moved to our city and my husband was so excited.

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Speaker 1: Last July, I found a ten pack of condoms in

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Speaker 1: his car, and there were really and there were only

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Speaker 1: two left in the pack. My female intuitions mmmmmmm, my

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Speaker 1: female intimition. Intuition told me that he was messing with

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Speaker 1: this woman that he called his little sister. I asked

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Speaker 1: him about the condoms, and he admitted that he was

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Speaker 1: having sex with her. He told me to say have

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Speaker 1: a history and he can't get her out of his system.

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Speaker 1: I told him that he needed to stop the affair

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Speaker 1: and we could go to counseling to fix our marriage.

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Speaker 1: He said there was no need for counseling because he

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Speaker 1: wants us both. I haven't had sex with him in

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Speaker 1: over a year, but we still keep up appearances in

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Speaker 1: public like we're a happy couple. His affair is still

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Speaker 1: I love seeing him stressed out trying to keep two

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Speaker 1: dating a new guy and my husband is being overly

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Speaker 1: possessive and tried to fight him if he can have

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Speaker 1: a side piece shouldn't I be allowed to please advise? Well,

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Speaker 1: wouldn't that just be perfect if we lived in a

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Speaker 1: perfect world, you know, where we could do whatever we

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Speaker 1: like that. And you know that you already know there's

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Speaker 1: a double standard in the world, and that they're just

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Speaker 1: things that men do that are acceptable in the world.

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Speaker 1: But if a woman were to do the same thing,

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Speaker 1: this is one of those things. This is one of

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Speaker 1: those times. Okay, the double standard. That's why he tried

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Speaker 1: to fight your so called side piece. Okay, because he

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Speaker 1: can do it, but he doesn't want you doing it.

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Speaker 1: You know, I do give him credit, I guess for

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Speaker 1: coming clean finally, you know, I mean after he got

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Speaker 1: busted out with the tim pack of condoms and only

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Speaker 1: two in there. But I mean, your husband's way out

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Speaker 1: of line here. You know that he has no plans

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Speaker 1: of giving her up after only three years of marriage.

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Speaker 1: He's already lying and cheating and won't stop. But to you,

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Speaker 1: I just say, this is not a joke. I mean,

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Speaker 1: love seeing him stressed out. I mean, I suppose you

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Speaker 1: can get some sort of satisfaction and seeing that since

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Speaker 1: it would be better if you just left him and

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Speaker 1: went on with your man that you have now and

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Speaker 1: a happier life? I don't get this. Why while you're

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Speaker 1: to do her and to be miserable. That's my response,

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Speaker 1: Steve Well, surely great response. The problem. The woman asked

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Speaker 1: the question of why can't we both have a side piece? Well,

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Speaker 1: three years? Subject, why can't we both have a side piece? Answer?

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Speaker 1: Because you and your damn husband have been married for

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Speaker 1: three years? Yeah, our marriage was going good till a

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Speaker 1: year ago. Oh no, no it wasn't. You thought it

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Speaker 1: that's that's interesting. Why would he do that? And I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you why. Shortly, shortly after we met, he

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Speaker 1: Most regular people ain't sleeping with their little sister. I

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Speaker 1: this whole letter reeks of false information. Why can't we

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Speaker 1: both have a side piece, Because we've been mad three years.

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Speaker 1: Madge was going good till a year ago. He told

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Speaker 1: I don't trust any females around my mad Here and

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Speaker 1: this woman text and called each other often, and when

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Speaker 1: I asked what's up with her? What they talked about,

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Speaker 1: he would just saying small talk. Okay. Last June she

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Speaker 1: moved out city and my husband was so excited. Last

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Speaker 1: July she only been here month. Right, you found a

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Speaker 1: ten packer condoms in this car, Tommy said, out loud.

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Speaker 1: Condom coming to twelve pack and it's two left in

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Speaker 1: ten damn times. Whoa, I'm just work this out. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: down ten bam. All right, hang on, hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: this How long I've been on this show? That's right

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Speaker 1: at twenty three minutes after the hour? Subject today? Why

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: Why can't we both have a side piece? Well, the

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Speaker 1: reason you can't have a side piece first of all,

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Speaker 1: because y'all been married three years. Side pieces don't ever

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Speaker 1: work out. I'm just sharing something with you. The marriage

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Speaker 1: you thought was good till a year ago when he

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Speaker 1: Shortly after we met, he told me about a female

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Speaker 1: and what they talked about, he would say, small talk.

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Speaker 1: What you want? You know what I want? That's small talk.

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Speaker 1: You got it, you want it, that's small talk. Last

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Speaker 1: Tommy pointed out that condoms coming too, twelve pack. I

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Speaker 1: which means ten times in thirty days. That's every three days.

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Speaker 1: He over there with his little sistem, small talking, small talking, chatting. Huh,

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Speaker 1: My female intuition told me he was messing with this

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Speaker 1: your female intuition, you know what told me he was

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Speaker 1: messing with. And I don't have female intuition. That twelve

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Speaker 1: You ain't got to have intuition and know that all

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Speaker 1: you gotta do is be able to count. Yeah, now,

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Speaker 1: You picked him up for your boy, or your boy

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Speaker 1: see him again. That's a conversation you can have. But

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Speaker 1: Stupid as you? Dumb? Let me explain this part to you.

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Speaker 1: That's really gonna throw you into something. Come on, my

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Speaker 1: When she came from homecoming, she was in the system.

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Speaker 1: This where you got in trouble. You know what he

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Speaker 1: Now hear where you started me, I haven't had sexual

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Speaker 1: you think he didn't went through in a year? Let's

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Speaker 1: just go eight in a month time, twelve seventy two times?

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Speaker 1: Whoa do that? Mask? Seven did two damn time. You're

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Speaker 1: And my husband is being overly possessive and tried to

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Speaker 1: he's being possessive and tried to fight him. If he

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Speaker 1: please advise? Of course you can. If he got a

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