WEBVTT - Why is Influencer, "Celly Cell", Getting Ghosted?

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<v Speaker 1>First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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<v Speaker 1>Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com. Celeste is on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone today for a first date follow up, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>getting ghosted by a dude named Shane. So in a

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<v Speaker 1>few minutes we'll call him and see if you'll tell

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<v Speaker 1>us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.

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<v Speaker 1>But first, So, Leste, how long has it been since

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<v Speaker 1>you heard from Shane?

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<v Speaker 2>It feels like like two weeks, but it's honestly probably been.

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<v Speaker 3>Like two days.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, I swear like you know when you're like waiting

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<v Speaker 2>and you're just like, okay, I see like you left

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<v Speaker 2>me on read like I know you read it like

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<v Speaker 2>I already know you know. So he's just like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, like making some kind of like major life

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<v Speaker 2>decision to call me back. But it's like it's very confusing.

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<v Speaker 2>I have no idea what happened, because like, in my

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<v Speaker 2>mind we had an amazing time to kill her. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>like it was just a date that went really really well,

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<v Speaker 2>like definitely stood out in my mind. We went to

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<v Speaker 2>top Is first. It was cute, viby, just like small bites,

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<v Speaker 2>little cocktails, even like mocktails like you can pick and choose,

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<v Speaker 2>like to during.

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<v Speaker 3>Adventure super fun.

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<v Speaker 4>He was like.

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<v Speaker 3>Super chill, not like cocky, you know, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Like lokey hot, like just like a very inner confidence,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like he didn't have to broadcast it, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like he just had it, you know. And yeah, and

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<v Speaker 2>like so he said he loved to dance, so I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, okay, like let's do this, you know. And

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<v Speaker 2>I got us into nightclub No Wine, and I happened

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<v Speaker 2>to know the DJ, and Shane said he'd always wanted.

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<v Speaker 3>To go, so I made it happen.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was like we were just really vibing, like

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<v Speaker 2>we were dancing. The energy was fire. I thought, like

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<v Speaker 2>I thought we were vibing hard, you know. And I

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<v Speaker 2>mean we were like flirting, hands on heads, like got

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<v Speaker 2>a little funny uh good clubby bloody, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>And he smells really good and.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just like it was perfect honestly, And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't understand why he would just like vanish, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>Like he was sweet. He wasn't trying too hard, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>but he was like clearly into me. I mean, he

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<v Speaker 2>was giving me a lot of like positive body language.

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<v Speaker 2>But like then he would let me take the lead,

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<v Speaker 2>which is kind of rare. You know, most guys like

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<v Speaker 2>need to be in charge.

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<v Speaker 3>But I don't know. Shean like just let me shine,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, and that's hot. So I mean, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>He like looked at me while we were.

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<v Speaker 2>Dancing, and it was more than just checking me out,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. It was like he like saw me, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like there was it was like a real connection. So

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<v Speaker 2>I just I'm probably overthinking this, but like I told you,

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<v Speaker 2>I've had time to think about this, like full two days,

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<v Speaker 2>like full twenty four hour rotations, so I have been

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<v Speaker 2>thinking about this a lot, and I'm like, Okay, what

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<v Speaker 2>could have gone wrong? And like maybe I spent a

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<v Speaker 2>little too long in the DJ booth, you know, but

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it was mostly for the content, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think it was that long. But like when

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<v Speaker 2>I think back, I'm like, Okay, maybe I.

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<v Speaker 3>Was in there for like an hour.

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<v Speaker 2>So you were in the DJ booth, he was on

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<v Speaker 2>the dance floor, like I saw him and I made

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<v Speaker 2>eye contact and I even like did a shout out,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and I yeah, like I totally called him out.

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<v Speaker 2>I even tagged him in the TikTok I made from

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<v Speaker 2>the club and there was like no reaction. So I

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<v Speaker 2>texted him actually yeah, and I was like, hey, I

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<v Speaker 2>tagged you, and that was what he left on.

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<v Speaker 3>Rad So I just like, I don't get it. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>looking baffled.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, well we'll try to figure it out

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<v Speaker 1>for you. We'll play a song thank you come back,

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<v Speaker 1>and then call him and see hotels why he's ghosting

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<v Speaker 1>you and maybe get you a second date. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, we'll make your first day follow up right

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<v Speaker 1>after this. Right in the middle of your first date

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<v Speaker 1>follow up, And if you're just joining us, a celestis

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone and she's getting ghosted by Shane. So

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<v Speaker 1>in a second we're gonna call him and see if

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<v Speaker 1>you'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get

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<v Speaker 1>her a second date. But before we do that, refresh

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<v Speaker 1>our memory about your day with Shane.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no problem. I had an awesome time with this guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, we went to a super fine club, We danced,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I head up the DJ booth because I

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<v Speaker 2>like knew the DJ and I think somewhere between us

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<v Speaker 2>like vibing her on the dance floor and me getting

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<v Speaker 2>up in the DJ booth, there was some kind of

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<v Speaker 2>disconnect because like, I'm not sure what happened. I tagged

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<v Speaker 2>him in the TikTok asked him like.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you have a good time? Like did you see

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<v Speaker 3>the TikTok? And he's like like he's just left me

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<v Speaker 3>on red.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's not awesome. All right, Well we'll see if

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<v Speaker 1>we can figure it out for you. Are you ready

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<v Speaker 1>for us to call him?

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<v Speaker 3>I think so?

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<v Speaker 1>All right? Hello, Hi, man, speak to Shane please. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>right here, Hey Shane, how are you? This is a

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<v Speaker 1>radio show. It's called The Jubil Show.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi, Shane, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Jubel. How are you.

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<v Speaker 5>That's not why I thought what happened? When I think

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<v Speaker 5>of the song, I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>It's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>We're calling you today because we do a segment on

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<v Speaker 1>the show that's called the First Aid follow Up. That's

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<v Speaker 1>where if you go out on a date with somebody

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<v Speaker 1>and then you ghost them, they can email us to

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<v Speaker 1>get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them.

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<v Speaker 1>So we got an email about you, Shane.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, your ghosts in Shane, I know exactly what I mean.

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<v Speaker 5>I've only been on one day, so it's celest.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Yes, it is, so Celeste is wondering why you're

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<v Speaker 1>ghosting or she thought you guys had a really good

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<v Speaker 1>time and she liked you a lot. Do you mind

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<v Speaker 1>telling me?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I probably shouldn't have like done that, like handled

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<v Speaker 5>it a different a little differently, but yeah, I totally

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<v Speaker 5>ghosted her. And honestly it was like way more than

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<v Speaker 5>I can handle, just just a lot.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what does that mean?

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<v Speaker 5>All right? Well, that it started out like fine, like

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<v Speaker 5>dinner was great. It was fun and chill conversation, like

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<v Speaker 5>good energy. She's you know, I goes like, oh, this

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<v Speaker 5>girl seems fun. Then after that she like completely turned

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<v Speaker 5>into like a different person, like a whole different huven being.

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<v Speaker 5>And so we leave the little restaurant and then like boom,

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<v Speaker 5>this like light comes out. She like has her own

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<v Speaker 5>like ring light that like is attached to her phone

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<v Speaker 5>and she's filming like a review. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 5>oh no, but up, fine, you know, like you do

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<v Speaker 5>that stuff. And I guess people make money being like

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<v Speaker 5>influencer types or whatever. And but then we get to

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<v Speaker 5>the club and she like turns into my characters with

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<v Speaker 5>this like alter ego that she refers to as selly

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<v Speaker 5>cell like from celest or something, and like, oh, that

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<v Speaker 5>that's a lot for me to chew on. And then

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<v Speaker 5>she she it's cute to hear about maybe, but when

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<v Speaker 5>you're there, it's a little different. And she like gets

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<v Speaker 5>on the mic, like the DJ mic. She like hops

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<v Speaker 5>in the boost. She's been here before, but it's my

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<v Speaker 5>first time at the club. She like got me in

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<v Speaker 5>or whatever. And she called out my name and told

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<v Speaker 5>like all the girls that like that's my man, and

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<v Speaker 5>I was hers and all this, and she pointed at

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<v Speaker 5>some girls dancing like in my vicinity like kinda and

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<v Speaker 5>yelled at them like told them to back really like

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<v Speaker 5>super aggressive.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah on the microphone. Yeah, yeah, I've heard.

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<v Speaker 2>The whole you know.

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<v Speaker 5>And I'm just like this dude in there, I don't

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<v Speaker 5>even I don't even know what to do with my hands,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, like I'm like drinking too much, just trying to.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just awful.

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<v Speaker 5>And so I just bailed. I like totally left.

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<v Speaker 4>You just left. You didn't say her anything.

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<v Speaker 5>I just scooted the hell out of there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Shane, are you sure there's no chance of another?

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<v Speaker 5>I'm real positive about that. Like I'm sure she would

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<v Speaker 5>have been like she's always like a good person to

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<v Speaker 5>run into if like you weren't dating or on that. Like,

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<v Speaker 5>I think there's probably something very fun about her, but

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<v Speaker 5>like I cannot handle that level of filming everything and

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<v Speaker 5>like the sort of social media persona interspecting with maybe

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<v Speaker 5>who she really is, and then her not knowing who

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<v Speaker 5>that person really is at the same there's no I

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<v Speaker 5>have no, I'm not a psychologist. I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>She's on the phone Shane and wants to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Hi, Hi, I'm here, Like, oh my god, I can't.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't believe you left, Like you just abandoned me.

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<v Speaker 5>You really wait, I'm sorry you didn't know I left.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I saw you and I like waved and I

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<v Speaker 2>did a little winky face and I like called you

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<v Speaker 2>out on the dance floor and I was like I

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<v Speaker 2>was clean, Like I was trying to make you feel special.

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<v Speaker 5>That didn't translate. Really, there's kind of a difference between

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<v Speaker 5>making someone feel special in making them feel like that

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<v Speaker 5>they're on like an episode.

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<v Speaker 3>Of Bad Girls Club or something.

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<v Speaker 5>It felt like I was I can't, guys, I swear

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<v Speaker 5>to god, I was like looking around for cameras because

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't think some I thought, Wow, someone was putting

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<v Speaker 5>me up to summer.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you leave before or after we made out?

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<v Speaker 5>We didn't make out that was someone else?

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<v Speaker 3>Why a better.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, no, are you kidding me? I mean

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<v Speaker 3>it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Super dark and there were like strobe lights, But like,

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<v Speaker 2>what the last how.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you do this to me? Maybe make out with

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<v Speaker 3>someone else? Like no, I was thrown into that situation. Really,

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<v Speaker 3>I had no choice.

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<v Speaker 4>Why would you do that to me?

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<v Speaker 5>If you get anything out of our time together, you

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<v Speaker 5>have to know you've got to tap on the brakes

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<v Speaker 5>a little bit. I think there's a little my god,

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<v Speaker 5>there's little too much cons Oh wait, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 5>I must see who Mark is.

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<v Speaker 3>You guys are like texting me NonStop and like who

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<v Speaker 3>is that?

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't even care because I was like wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to you, but by Bobby Booi like dam.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you guys have to try. Ud you

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<v Speaker 1>like to go out with the less one more time?

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<v Speaker 4>We'll pay for it, Shane.

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<v Speaker 5>I think we should get to the bottom of why

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<v Speaker 5>Mark feels ghosted and just you should just go that

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<v Speaker 5>route with this storyline here and then I will I

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<v Speaker 5>will just make my departure the answer is new.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah it I thought Mark was you, like, I want

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<v Speaker 3>him to make up with you.

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<v Speaker 5>I have no respond I don't even know. Are you sure, Shane,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm super sure. I just have never been more sure

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<v Speaker 5>about anything in my life. Given me, I mean, what

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<v Speaker 5>do you want me to send me my good you

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<v Speaker 5>should play.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a little hurt. I'm gonna be honest, I'm a

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<v Speaker 3>little drunk.

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<v Speaker 5>I think it's still or you've been drinking since noon

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<v Speaker 5>or something in morning.

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<v Speaker 3>No, No, this is just me so less.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. It doesn't sound like he wants to go

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<v Speaker 1>out again, but.

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<v Speaker 4>Thankfully you have Mark still on the back burners.

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<v Speaker 3>So rude.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, I guess we'll find out if Mark's

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<v Speaker 2>really cute. I mean, I don't remember. I thought it

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<v Speaker 2>was shame.

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<v Speaker 3>Juble's first date follow up