WEBVTT - Come up with Better Option Bs

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to come up with some better option bes.

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<v Speaker 1>When your fallback option is good enough, you become a

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<v Speaker 1>lot less attached to option A. This tranquility can prevent

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of anxiety and unhappiness. So over the past

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<v Speaker 1>few weeks, a lot of high school seniors have heard

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<v Speaker 1>back from colleges on whether they have been accepted or rejected.

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<v Speaker 1>When young people apply to very selective schools, counselors usually

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<v Speaker 1>advise them to apply to a safety school. This is

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<v Speaker 1>a school that you know you will get into. If

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<v Speaker 1>you choose this option be well. Knowing you will get

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<v Speaker 1>a good edge regardless of any other acceptances or rejections,

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<v Speaker 1>can make the whole application process less stressful. I will add,

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<v Speaker 1>having been through this now with my family, that having

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<v Speaker 1>an option be that you know about early is even better.

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<v Speaker 1>One of our flagship state schools here in Pennsylvania does

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<v Speaker 1>rolling admissions, So my son sent in his application in

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<v Speaker 1>September of his senior year, and we knew in early

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<v Speaker 1>October that he had a very good option for the

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<v Speaker 1>next year. Regardless of how everything else turned out. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>as adults, we aren't necessarily thinking about safety schools, but

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<v Speaker 1>the same concept is helpful when we face situations that

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<v Speaker 1>may or may not go as intended. A few years

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<v Speaker 1>ago I was planning to take my older two boys

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<v Speaker 1>to Scotland for a long weekend, and due to a

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<v Speaker 1>string of terrible airline issues, we never wound up leaving

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<v Speaker 1>Newark Airport. That was frustrating, for sure, but we had

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<v Speaker 1>ideas of back up adventures for the weekend and wound

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<v Speaker 1>up having a really good time seeing the Bronx Zoo,

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<v Speaker 1>going out for a nice stick dinner, and even having

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<v Speaker 1>a British tea experience at a local tea place. It

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't in Edinburgh, but option B wasn't exactly bad either.

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<v Speaker 1>Scoons are great anywhere. I always say that anyone can

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<v Speaker 1>create a perfect schedule. True time management masters make resilient

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<v Speaker 1>schedules where life keeps moving forward even when life doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>go as intended. A key part of that is having

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<v Speaker 1>better option bs. You certainly hope that Option A will happen,

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<v Speaker 1>but if it doesn't, what is your Option B. If

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<v Speaker 1>Option B is good enough, you won't fret so much

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<v Speaker 1>about the possibility of option A not happening, and this

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<v Speaker 1>can play out in all sorts of scenarios. You plan

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<v Speaker 1>to go to the beach, but you know the weekend

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<v Speaker 1>weather looks iffy, so you've already decided that if it

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<v Speaker 1>winds up braining, your family will go to the science

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<v Speaker 1>museum instead. You all love the science museum, so you

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<v Speaker 1>will have fun regardless. Or maybe you are planning on

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<v Speaker 1>applying for a new job. You really hope you'll get it,

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<v Speaker 1>but you've already figured out that you want a change,

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<v Speaker 1>so you are having a discussion with your manager about

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<v Speaker 1>moving to a different set of projects. You are excited

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<v Speaker 1>about that move, so even if you don't get the

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<v Speaker 1>new job, your work life is going to be a

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<v Speaker 1>lot more interesting. A few months ago, I was trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get home when my flight was canceled. That was inconvenient,

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<v Speaker 1>but my option B was staying with a friend who

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<v Speaker 1>lived in town, and that was fun to get more

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<v Speaker 1>time together and to catch up. In any scenario where

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<v Speaker 1>things might not go as planned, brainstorm a few really

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<v Speaker 1>good option bes. What would still make you happy? What

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<v Speaker 1>would you still be looking forward to? Knowing you have

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<v Speaker 1>good option bees? Will make you more resilient even if

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<v Speaker 1>Option A happens. Just fine. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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<v Speaker 1>Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a

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