1
00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:09,320
Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

2
00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:16,239
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

3
00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:20,120
Speaker 1: tip is to come up with some better option bes.

4
00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:25,200
Speaker 1: When your fallback option is good enough, you become a

5
00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:30,800
Speaker 1: lot less attached to option A. This tranquility can prevent

6
00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:36,680
Speaker 1: a lot of anxiety and unhappiness. So over the past

7
00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:38,880
Speaker 1: few weeks, a lot of high school seniors have heard

8
00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:42,960
Speaker 1: back from colleges on whether they have been accepted or rejected.

9
00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:48,280
Speaker 1: When young people apply to very selective schools, counselors usually

10
00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:52,120
Speaker 1: advise them to apply to a safety school. This is

11
00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:55,680
Speaker 1: a school that you know you will get into. If

12
00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:59,440
Speaker 1: you choose this option be well. Knowing you will get

13
00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:03,320
Speaker 1: a good edge regardless of any other acceptances or rejections,

14
00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:09,040
Speaker 1: can make the whole application process less stressful. I will add,

15
00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:12,120
Speaker 1: having been through this now with my family, that having

16
00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:15,559
Speaker 1: an option be that you know about early is even better.

17
00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,560
Speaker 1: One of our flagship state schools here in Pennsylvania does

18
00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:23,959
Speaker 1: rolling admissions, So my son sent in his application in

19
00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:26,520
Speaker 1: September of his senior year, and we knew in early

20
00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:29,000
Speaker 1: October that he had a very good option for the

21
00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:34,760
Speaker 1: next year. Regardless of how everything else turned out. Now,

22
00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:38,600
Speaker 1: as adults, we aren't necessarily thinking about safety schools, but

23
00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:42,240
Speaker 1: the same concept is helpful when we face situations that

24
00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:46,080
Speaker 1: may or may not go as intended. A few years

25
00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,600
Speaker 1: ago I was planning to take my older two boys

26
00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:51,520
Speaker 1: to Scotland for a long weekend, and due to a

27
00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:54,480
Speaker 1: string of terrible airline issues, we never wound up leaving

28
00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:58,680
Speaker 1: Newark Airport. That was frustrating, for sure, but we had

29
00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,720
Speaker 1: ideas of back up adventures for the weekend and wound

30
00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:04,480
Speaker 1: up having a really good time seeing the Bronx Zoo,

31
00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:08,800
Speaker 1: going out for a nice stick dinner, and even having

32
00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:12,240
Speaker 1: a British tea experience at a local tea place. It

33
00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:15,960
Speaker 1: wasn't in Edinburgh, but option B wasn't exactly bad either.

34
00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:22,399
Speaker 1: Scoons are great anywhere. I always say that anyone can

35
00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:27,160
Speaker 1: create a perfect schedule. True time management masters make resilient

36
00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:31,440
Speaker 1: schedules where life keeps moving forward even when life doesn't

37
00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:35,360
Speaker 1: go as intended. A key part of that is having

38
00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:40,200
Speaker 1: better option bs. You certainly hope that Option A will happen,

39
00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:46,000
Speaker 1: but if it doesn't, what is your Option B. If

40
00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:48,520
Speaker 1: Option B is good enough, you won't fret so much

41
00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:52,600
Speaker 1: about the possibility of option A not happening, and this

42
00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,920
Speaker 1: can play out in all sorts of scenarios. You plan

43
00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:58,440
Speaker 1: to go to the beach, but you know the weekend

44
00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:01,920
Speaker 1: weather looks iffy, so you've already decided that if it

45
00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:04,600
Speaker 1: winds up braining, your family will go to the science

46
00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:09,160
Speaker 1: museum instead. You all love the science museum, so you

47
00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:13,760
Speaker 1: will have fun regardless. Or maybe you are planning on

48
00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:16,800
Speaker 1: applying for a new job. You really hope you'll get it,

49
00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:20,080
Speaker 1: but you've already figured out that you want a change,

50
00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,120
Speaker 1: so you are having a discussion with your manager about

51
00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:26,600
Speaker 1: moving to a different set of projects. You are excited

52
00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:29,560
Speaker 1: about that move, so even if you don't get the

53
00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,960
Speaker 1: new job, your work life is going to be a

54
00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:37,320
Speaker 1: lot more interesting. A few months ago, I was trying

55
00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:41,320
Speaker 1: to get home when my flight was canceled. That was inconvenient,

56
00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:44,400
Speaker 1: but my option B was staying with a friend who

57
00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:48,240
Speaker 1: lived in town, and that was fun to get more

58
00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:52,960
Speaker 1: time together and to catch up. In any scenario where

59
00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:57,480
Speaker 1: things might not go as planned, brainstorm a few really

60
00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:02,920
Speaker 1: good option bes. What would still make you happy? What

61
00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:07,120
Speaker 1: would you still be looking forward to? Knowing you have

62
00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:11,680
Speaker 1: good option bees? Will make you more resilient even if

63
00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:18,200
Speaker 1: Option A happens. Just fine. In the meantime, this is Laura.

64
00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:23,719
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

65
00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:33,440
Speaker 1: our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

66
00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:37,640
Speaker 1: got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

67
00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:46,720
Speaker 1: Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a

68
00:04:46,760 --> 00:04:51,520
Speaker 1: production of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, please visit

69
00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:55,359
Speaker 1: the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to

70
00:04:55,400 --> 00:05:05,400
Speaker 1: your favorite shows.