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Speaker 2: You know, Hugh Hefner has some redeeming qualities. It's all

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Speaker 2: I'm sad he does. That's all that he does.

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Speaker 1: Okay, he didn't abandon any of his children. In fact,

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Speaker 1: I nineteen female, grew up with a single mom. Growing up.

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Speaker 1: I was always told my father abandoned me. It happened

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Speaker 1: when I was around ten and I asked my mom

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Speaker 1: a joke. Doesn't sound like a joke. As I grew older,

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Speaker 1: I hated him, even though I never met him. Who

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Speaker 1: does Sam despies? I dislike Donald Trump, and I've never

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Speaker 1: met him in person, never shook the man's hand, taking

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Speaker 1: I never met him. This guy is telling it like

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Speaker 1: it is. I dislike Hitler, never met du though. Hey,

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Speaker 1: I know I'm not saying I'm a saint, just saying,

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Speaker 1: it's okay, okay, you can dislike anyone you want to.

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Speaker 1: If you want to dislike someone, just do it. Do it.

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Speaker 1: Put sparkles in that. I thought about if he came back,

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Speaker 1: Last week, my mom and I were at her friend's

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Speaker 1: It's easy to keep a father out of a kid's life,

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Speaker 1: like what I did with Lina's me father after I

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Speaker 1: He's written out of the whole parental guidebook and fory.

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Speaker 2: You know that's the ultimate get back, Like, hey, you kid,

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Speaker 2: you abandoned him.

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Speaker 1: You gotta dough. She was also talking about how pathetic

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Speaker 1: what deep tail. Hey, what tiny little slip up, you know,

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Speaker 1: I fall and something falls in. I can't help it.

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Speaker 1: I mean I feel like Ope right now is just

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Speaker 1: He lives not far from our city, a two hour

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Speaker 2: Old move, Old move, I think if I left him

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Speaker 2: in I was like, yeah, these are good to read.

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Speaker 1: I remember correctly Okay, there is. It's an edit John,

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Speaker 1: But there is enough. First of all, thanks so much

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Speaker 1: My dad said that he thought it was just her

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Speaker 2: What beautiful motherly energy became a failure like your father?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. The mom is the real failure here, I think. Anyways,

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Speaker 1: She admitted it was like an effing achievement and there

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Speaker 1: Correct only is the mom ruining Op's relationship with her dad,

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Speaker 2: She literally can't have any relationship in her life.

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Speaker 1: No, no, except the mom relationship. But that sounds like

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Speaker 1: it's in the toilet too. Oh yeah, I'm done with her.

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Speaker 1: My grandpa told me he'll help me with the eviction

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Speaker 2: This is like, yeah, you know, I how to have

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Speaker 1: and really supportive, and then lean on like the grandparents'

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Speaker 1: relationship too. But the mom just sounds so destructive. Liked,

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Speaker 1: get get as far away as you can't. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: you know what, you should get close to? What? Sam

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Speaker 1: you should check out this other story where Facebook mom

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Speaker 3: How far you think you deserve a honeymoon? No falling

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Speaker 1: This is it's okop. I'm Samuel Honor and I'm John

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Speaker 1: Fry and we tell the funniest stories on the Internet.

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Speaker 1: And John, you know what isn't funny? What the fact

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Speaker 1: that Vladimir Putin is invading Ukraine right now? It's just

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Speaker 1: not hilarious. Yeah, Vladdy daddy, what are you doing? Blatty Daddy? Stop?

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Speaker 1: Come home, Laddy Daddy, Daddy Chell, this isn't like you, daddy.

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Speaker 1: Actually it's very much like that's true, that's true. But

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Speaker 1: you should stick to riding small horses that make you

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Speaker 1: look large. Yeah, show off those beefcakes you don't. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: just ride shirtless through the plains of Russia exactly. That's

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Speaker 1: what we know you for, Laddy, Daddy. That's by your daddy.

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Speaker 1: But you won't be daddy for long if you keep

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Speaker 1: the shit up. Unacceptable unacceptable Laddy Daddy. But anyway, if

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Speaker 1: hit him.

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Speaker 3: You think you deserve a honeymoon? No falling in love

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Speaker 3: under my watch? You work for me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I do. That's that's actually exceed How does your

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Speaker 1: love add to my bottom line? Sam? It doesn't. I

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Speaker 1: guess it doesn't. It doesn't. No love. Mostly that makes

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Speaker 1: me sad. Yes, I'm gonna cry. John doesn't value my love.

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Speaker 1: I had a manager who hated reading emails and would

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Speaker 1: suggested a text to speech to make it less unpleasant,

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Speaker 1: seed me. I was next in the totem pole, so

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Speaker 1: help out on projects my manager was supposed to work on.

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Speaker 1: So the manager's not doing jack shit.

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Speaker 2: Basically, he's just not doing his He's just not working,

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Speaker 1: He is playing golf. You know what. You know what's

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Speaker 2: So they took three weeks off when they could have

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Speaker 1: Keep in mind my request stated vacation request for honeymoon.

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Speaker 1: The manager already knew about this. Oh god, I replied,

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Speaker 2: I love how like everyone just like escalated so quickly

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Speaker 1: Ohp just leaving the company. I forward this to hr

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Speaker 2: I love how no one's pointing out, like, wait, you're

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Speaker 2: quitting because your boss didn't give you the time.

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Speaker 1: Off you ha, Yeah, what's the deal with that? Come on,

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Speaker 1: it's insane, dude. And she she has the time, she

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Speaker 1: has the receipts. Let it take it off. It's there, honeymoon,

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Speaker 1: planning on coming in this week. Why would I because

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Speaker 3: Stop promissing about gets your butt yours offish.

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Speaker 1: I told you my last day when you denied my

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Speaker 3: How about giving proper notice for transitions?

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Speaker 1: attend my exit interview. It's not my fault you don't

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Speaker 1: Boom boom.

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Speaker 2: Also, I'm envisioning the manager as like a bear on steroids.

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Speaker 2: Like the beefiest, strongest bear you can puzzle with, but

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Speaker 3: Woo click.

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Speaker 1: Now here is the fallout. Ooh, things went from bad

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Speaker 1: those client golf outings. He played golf, but not with

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Speaker 1: Once we're done with it, go off, enjoy live your life. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and that is how you keep happy employees and have

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