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Speaker 3: That's a lot of money. I said, if someone lost.

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Speaker 2: Once had a friend tell me. He said, this is

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Speaker 2: when did he pay you? Never? Really, bitch, should we

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Speaker 3: I mean I could have told you that. I think

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Speaker 1: Was about to put like all my money in it too,

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Speaker 1: cum Rockets going to the Moon, That is a Quinn

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Speaker 2: Well, there's only one way to find out what happens

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Speaker 1: Still that day and this comes from the unpolitical They say,

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Speaker 1: I am part of a specialized friend group where we

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Speaker 2: I'm part of a very specialized friend group, a special

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Speaker 3: Is it D and D?

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Speaker 2: It might be saving hostages? What's not? Neil?

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Speaker 3: Specialized black ops group?

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Speaker 2: Don't watch movies. I just know the people in it.

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Speaker 1: Now, this is not really a hobby, but I don't

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Speaker 2: Come on, it was actually D and D. That just

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Speaker 2: must be even more special? Is too big? They all wait? Okay,

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Speaker 1: Riley sent me a video of that I think was

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Speaker 2: That sounds I send that to me in the script

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Speaker 1: I was really excited to join this group, as I've

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Speaker 2: Great is Mike? I think we're about to find passed

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Speaker 1: You'll know where British coin knitting may make knits of

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Speaker 1: Throughout the years, Mike has had an infamous birthday party

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Speaker 2: On you John a movie We start, what's a movie

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Speaker 1: But let's get back to Mike and maybe the secret

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Speaker 2: The problem was. The guy runs hot and cold.

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Speaker 2: Box is like a mic box, the mic and box Mike.

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Speaker 1: Finally I asked the group about him and their thoughts

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Speaker 2: Damn? Opie is trying to out Mike a siege.

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Speaker 2: Well, I feel like destroying. Yeah, I never liked either.

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Speaker 2: Let's get Mike out of here.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's why Mike didn't want OP because like realize

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Speaker 2: Well, but there's like that one thing where it's like

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Speaker 3: Every friend group is a mic.

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Speaker 2: Every friend group. That's true? Are you the mic?

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Speaker 1: Are you the mic? Next episode tonight at seven now

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Speaker 1: for our meeting. Just before his birthday, I got Mike

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Speaker 2: Universally as the worst birthday gift.

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Speaker 1: And I were talking about this episode way tickets are

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but also I like that op simultaneously trying to

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Speaker 1: Get them out of the make up your mind op.

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Speaker 1: Siege or not to siege, but choose.

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Speaker 3: A path siege or not to seech? That is the question.

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Speaker 2: I said. She is going to do monologues on this

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Speaker 2: See what you did there?

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: So I brought this gift with me and he didn't show.

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Speaker 3: How why why does Mike need to be there.

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Speaker 3: Like sometimes Mike's just antisocial.

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Speaker 2: Mike has those like everyone has those days. Everyone has.

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Speaker 2: Don't know what. No who sings that Britney I think.

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Speaker 3: So nobody's perfect a little bit. Look oh wait no anyway.

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Speaker 1: So also Mike wasn't there for a third time in

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Speaker 2: It is kind of like dd It is like DDT.

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Speaker 3: Why that would well if someone doesn't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So, out of my frustration, I decided to scratch

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Speaker 1: the scratch offs my self. To my surprise, every single

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Speaker 1: this is the fourth year and he celebrated his birthday

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Speaker 1: month in August. Didn't invite me again. But at this

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Speaker 1: I don't want to go.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, sure, sounds like you're not offended. I hope you're

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Speaker 2: not obsessed. I'm just writing an entire Reddit post about it.

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Speaker 2: I didn't want to go to the birthday. It's almost sure.

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Speaker 2: It sounds like you don't want to go, and I'm

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Speaker 1: It's almost mid September and he's endlessly complaining on social

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Speaker 1: totaling one thousand dollars, and he's basically crying for anyone

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Speaker 1: to donate him some money.

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Speaker 3: No Mike, No, he didn't come to the D and

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Speaker 2: Yeah. He also didn't invite Op to four birthday. Why

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Speaker 3: Like, no, no, no, I wouldn't know.

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Speaker 2: But can you take back the gift?

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Speaker 3: Mike wasn't there. Mike didn't invite Op to the birthday.

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Speaker 2: Mike wasn't there, so a bit. Does Mike know that

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Speaker 2: Op gave a gift? Not yet? Yeah, we just want

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Speaker 2: some more scratch tickets him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, ten more dollars the scratch tickets, give back to

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Speaker 1: Well, I kept laughing at his posts because had he

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Speaker 2: I like the jingle ideas.

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Speaker 6: Juicy updates, beautiful bob b b ba B Juicy updates.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So Opie says he wrote in our private group

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Speaker 2: We have a juicy updates. You do not need to

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Speaker 3: No, don't tell him now.

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Speaker 1: We've we figured out that we don't want to tell him, right, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Do you hear that Mike was poor? Oh god, we

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Speaker 3: P It's like it's just like a little like whispers.

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Speaker 3: I would say, hey, Mike, sorry, if you don't come

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Speaker 2: You out ultimatum. Yeah. Basically, yeah, I'm I'm for Mike coup.

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Speaker 2: Well, we have a juicy update. Let's see if it happens.

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Speaker 2: Please that joke John.

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Speaker 1: So not sure if anyone remembers or cares about my

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Speaker 2: Back, but I now have an update. We care, we care,

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Speaker 5: So so he still does not have a car, but

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Speaker 1: But I know it's not his own car that's still

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Speaker 2: Wouldn't you know it?

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Speaker 1: I got him and he got me gifting again, he

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, winning can like a casino at the end.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll take all of us please.

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Speaker 1: I was super excited, and everyone blasted it on social media.

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Speaker 1: He contacted me this morning saying that he couldn't make

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Speaker 2: He really needed it. I wonder what his present was.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, I would say, what's your present for me?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Exactly did you get me? It has to be

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Speaker 1: that we are connected on social media question Mark. Last

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Speaker 2: Wouldn't be able to celebrate it last night.

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Speaker 1: He shows up, gives me a big hug, chit chats

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Speaker 1: exchange me? Oh, don't worry about the gift exchange. I'm fine,

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, fuller move, don't worry about the gifts change.

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Speaker 2: Fine, tuck to the hand. That's all I said.

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Speaker 1: It didn't even make complete sense to me when I

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Speaker 1: He's down bad with no collaboration. They all said basically

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Speaker 1: rarely talk to Ope when she is here, and now

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Speaker 1: She had nothing to open and was left out. She

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Speaker 1: owes you nothing.

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Speaker 2: There we go finally sense Yes.

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Speaker 1: I have a feeling that this will not be the

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Speaker 1: last I will hear of it, but I will stand

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Speaker 1: with some relevant comments.

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Speaker 2: But hit us, let's get into it. No way hit

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Speaker 1: Bah all right, bizinga. Benn says the gall of someone

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Speaker 1: seventy five dollars as well, No shame at all, Opie says, Lol,

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Speaker 1: That's how I felt. We've had somewhere around nine meetings

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Speaker 1: the one where we all picked the secret Santa names.

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Speaker 1: Convenient for him to not show up was not surprising

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Speaker 1: because he's insanely infrequent, but it did suck that everyone

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Speaker 1: and I still had a really great time that night.

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Speaker 1: Hunstrom says, I wonder what kind of reaction you'd get

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Speaker 1: if he knew about the thousand dollars OPI. I had

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Speaker 1: I had a bill that I was trying to pay

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Speaker 1: everyone's support if I won everything. I thought the most

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Speaker 1: seventy five dollars wasn't bad at all. That's gas or

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Speaker 1: And finally, brew Uo wife says, can you buy some

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Speaker 2: Me to scratch off? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Loo, I need your lot of luck, Opie says, Actually,

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Speaker 1: I keep buying them at the same time Walmart by

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Speaker 1: with some type of winnings, but I don't consistently play

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Speaker 1: all the time. I've always loved giving some lottery tickets

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Speaker 1: Plus it gives them the hope to win something big.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I think lottery tickets are a bad present.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: We've gotten lottery takes as president and we won nothing.

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Speaker 3: Nothing.

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Speaker 1: It's a fun like stalking stuff for a type of gift,

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Speaker 3: And not only is it not fun to not win,

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Speaker 3: but also you have to go to the gas station.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to go, like going to the gas station.

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Speaker 3: Like going to the gas station is not like that.

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Speaker 3: It's just like you have to do work.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Why do you make me do work for

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Speaker 3: And then you don't?

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Speaker 1: Damn?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like it.

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Speaker 1: So quick question, how would you go about kicking Mike

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Speaker 2: What would you say? What would you do? I would say,

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Speaker 2: Mike your trash. You've always been trash. No one likes you,

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Speaker 2: No one ever liked you. Leave.

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Speaker 3: No, see what I do.

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Speaker 2: It's okay, talk to me.

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Speaker 3: We've already established them playing D and D. Yes, whoever

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Speaker 1: Mike off for good. Wow, that's a true coup.

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Speaker 2: But Mike wouldn't even know because he never shows up.

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Speaker 1: He is true, that is true. But you know what,

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Speaker 1: I know what that Sophia has a story for us.

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Speaker 1: Boy do I let's hit it.

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Speaker 3: I didn't share all the inheritance with my husband, and

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Speaker 3: I don't care. Am I the A whole?

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Speaker 2: I mean usually when you have a husband. I feel

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Speaker 2: like we actually no, I'm pretty sure that we learned

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Speaker 2: in another story that inheritance goes straight to the person

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Speaker 2: who is inheriting right and not necessarily to both parties.

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Speaker 1: And it's kind of up to that because it's like, hey,

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Speaker 1: you know, my wish is from my grandson to receive.

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Speaker 2: This or what I'm not my grandson?

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Speaker 1: And yeah, so man, it really depends on the context.

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Speaker 1: But if I am blindly guessing, I'm gonna say, op,

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Speaker 1: not the A hole.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to say the A whole.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to say contest a little contradiction here. There's

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Speaker 3: only one way to find out, though, So bgnmm bgnmnn BGNMNM.

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Speaker 2: Just just rip through it.

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Speaker 3: Says gen one for eight Z seven V zero says I,

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Speaker 3: forty female have been married to my husband thirty nine

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Speaker 3: male for six years before we got married. I was

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Speaker 2: The baby to experience that Nope, we don't want a

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Speaker 3: And two, we moved closer to fam when our son

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Speaker 3: available for my skill set, so I put my career

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Speaker 3: on pause to stay home with our son for a while.

448
00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:51,480
Speaker 3: Transitioning from financial independence to depending on my husband's income

449
00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:54,320
Speaker 3: for everything was difficult for me. I worked overbuilding my

450
00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:56,840
Speaker 3: career for the past three years and am now making

451
00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:58,720
Speaker 3: some money again, but not as much as I was

452
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,360
Speaker 3: making before. He earned three times more than I do.

453
00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:03,679
Speaker 3: All our accounts are shared, and he manages all the

454
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Speaker 3: money we're saving to buy a house, and part of

455
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Speaker 3: that effort includes limiting our recreational spending clothes, hobbies, et cetera.

456
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,959
Speaker 3: I often go over my monthly personal spending budget and

457
00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:15,680
Speaker 3: it stresses both of us out him because he sees

458
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Speaker 3: all of that overage as lost money that could have

459
00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:20,359
Speaker 3: gone towards a down payment, and me because I'm not

460
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Speaker 3: used to someone else having a say in how I

461
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:23,040
Speaker 3: spend money.

462
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Speaker 2: What is she spending it on them?

463
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Speaker 3: I'm curious recreational activities like clothes, hobbies, et cetera.

464
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:34,600
Speaker 1: I know something else that's recreational sports, cheating a secret

465
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Speaker 1: husband gotcha.

466
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Speaker 3: Last year, my dad was killed in a terrible highway

467
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:41,760
Speaker 3: accident by an impaired driver. Oh cheese, Oh, I'm very sorry.

468
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,439
Speaker 3: Open As a result, I am receiving a settlement payment

469
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Speaker 3: and an insurance payment. The settlement is a larger amount

470
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Speaker 3: of money than the insurance payment, about twice as much.

471
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Speaker 3: I told my husband I want to put the settlement

472
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Speaker 3: money into our savings for a house, and the insurance

473
00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,120
Speaker 3: money into a separate account for myself. This surprised him

474
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Speaker 3: and made him uncomfortable. He gave two reasons. One, we

475
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Speaker 3: pulled all our resources since getting married to me. Having

476
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Speaker 3: a separate account made him worry that I am planning

477
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Speaker 3: to flee the relationship. He also pointed out that I

478
00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:11,679
Speaker 3: have habitually overspent my personal spending budget and suggested that

479
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Speaker 3: I consider paying that money back into our house savings

480
00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 3: instead of keeping it for myself. Here's the thing, well, actually,

481
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Speaker 3: before we go on, what are your thoughts on that?

482
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Speaker 2: Oh?

483
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Speaker 1: Okay, on a flag on who I think the husband,

484
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Speaker 1: because I think so. I think the issue here is

485
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Speaker 1: I'm guessing and it sounds like they didn't have separate

486
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Speaker 1: finance accounts going into the marriage, so now it feels

487
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Speaker 1: like it.

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Speaker 2: But if they had started off that way, it wouldn't

489
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Speaker 2: have been a deal or an issue.

490
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Speaker 3: Yeah, right, I agree.

491
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Speaker 2: But she was fine having joint finances when she wasn't

492
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Speaker 2: like didn't have any income.

493
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Speaker 3: But she did have an income. She just had less

494
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Speaker 3: an income than him.

495
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Speaker 2: So she was fine. She contributed, she was fine having

496
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Speaker 2: like it feels like she was fine even when she

497
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Speaker 2: if she had less income, she was fine sharing it

498
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Speaker 2: when she had less. But now that she has more,

499
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Speaker 2: she's not fine sharing.

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Speaker 3: What doesn't seem like she is more. She just got

501
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Speaker 3: insurance money.

502
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Speaker 2: And I feel like, well, now she has more money. Yeah,

503
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Speaker 2: I'm with John.

504
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 3: I think if it's already been a problem for the

505
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 3: husband with like this, like overspending budget stuff, then this

506
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 3: can just be the insurance money can just be for

507
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Speaker 3: that right for her personal Yeah whatever, So it's not

508
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Speaker 3: in a problem.

509
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean Sam, Sam is making a decent argument.

510
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Speaker 1: So it's like, yeah, I don't know.

511
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Speaker 3: I think you just have to go into a relationship

512
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Speaker 3: with those separate accounts then one joint account.

513
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Speaker 2: I don't think you have to do anything. I think

514
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Speaker 2: it's your relationship and you can do what you want.

515
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Speaker 3: That is just what relationship. And also business people say

516
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 3: is what they say. Yes, they say two separate accounts

517
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Speaker 3: and then a joint account.

518
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Speaker 2: I feel like an I've heard that advice. Well, I

519
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Speaker 2: don't know, she'll love that. She loves our calls. Hey Mom,

520
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Speaker 2: I have a question. Do you and dad have personal

521
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 2: like accounts? What do you mean do you share all

522
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 2: of your accounts or do you have like like do

523
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Speaker 2: you have like like a mom account and a dad

524
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Speaker 2: account and then a joint and a joint account or

525
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Speaker 2: do you have no, we have it all together all together.

526
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Speaker 2: Why did you decide on that versus having like separate Well,

527
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 2: we we.

528
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Speaker 7: Had separate when we were first when we were first together,

529
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Speaker 7: before we got married or yeah, before we before we

530
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Speaker 7: had you. We had that because we didn't have a house.

531
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Speaker 7: But once we had a house and all of that stuff.

532
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Speaker 7: You have to combine it all because you know, and

533
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Speaker 7: you have kids. You combine it all because you're working

534
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,480
Speaker 7: together as a team. Doesn't make sense to have Okay,

535
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,199
Speaker 7: this is my account and I'm using money on this.

536
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Speaker 2: You have to kind of like be on the same

537
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Speaker 2: page for you know, doing If you were dad inherited money,

538
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:50,360
Speaker 2: it would just go into that joint account.

539
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Speaker 7: Right, we might have it, keep it separately, just so

540
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Speaker 7: that it's you know, I mean technically it is technically

541
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Speaker 7: I guess that is dead. But you know, I mean

542
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 7: when you're together, you would look to doing things that

543
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Speaker 7: benefit the family unit.

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Speaker 2: Right, Thanks, Mom, you're on OKOP, what you didn't show

545
00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 2: me that? I love you?

546
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Speaker 3: I love you Mom. That was a really good answer.

547
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Speaker 2: That's a great answer. So it seems like I feel

548
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Speaker 2: like I've heard of those the separate Okay, I think

549
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Speaker 2: that change. Does that change your answer at all?

550
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Speaker 5: No?

551
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Speaker 3: I feel like Mom kind of agreed like about the

552
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Speaker 3: inheritance stuff with OP.

553
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Speaker 2: Well, she said that yes, it would technically be dads,

554
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Speaker 2: but as a family unit, you should keep it together.

555
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,679
Speaker 2: It seems like, yeah, she was in favor of all together.

556
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Speaker 1: I would love to know what the audience thinks. Put

557
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Speaker 1: your answers in the comments below. John and I both

558
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Speaker 1: raise red flags for either party. Maybe both of them

559
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Speaker 1: are red flags, maybe just one. Maybe you think Sam,

560
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:55,439
Speaker 1: you're dumb as cotton headed any and Muggins and you

561
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Speaker 1: deserve to die.

562
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Speaker 2: Let us know in the comments below.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I don't say that, guys.

564
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Speaker 2: Guys, come on, don't do it.

565
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Speaker 3: But here's the thing. The settlement money I planned to

566
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 3: put into our house savings amounts to more than eighteen

567
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 3: times the amount of money I owe from going over

568
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 3: my personal spending budget. When I pointed that out, he

569
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 3: shifted to talking about other accounts we have that would

570
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:16,959
Speaker 3: be healthier if we put the insurance money there instead

571
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Speaker 3: of into a private account. For me, I try to

572
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Speaker 3: explain my reasoning to my husband. My dad and I

573
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 3: were close and his death was traumatic for me. This

574
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 3: money can't ease the pain of losing him, but it

575
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:27,919
Speaker 3: could ease some of the pain I've experienced from losing

576
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 3: my financial independence. It would give me a little piece

577
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,399
Speaker 3: at a time when I feel lost in grief. Lastly,

578
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 3: if the tables were turned, I wouldn't question his wishes

579
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Speaker 3: concerning money that came to him through the death of

580
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Speaker 3: a loved one.

581
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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole that does he have his

582
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Speaker 2: own personal account? It doesn't seem like right. It seems

583
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Speaker 2: like it's altogether sounds like it. He doesn't have a

584
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Speaker 2: personiple accounts, but he didn't have a personal account together.

585
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Speaker 3: However, I will say, bringing up the point of he,

586
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Speaker 3: I think he had said when she got pregnant, like,

587
00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:58,840
Speaker 3: you should quit your.

588
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:02,200
Speaker 2: Job only because the baby. She was working with toxic

589
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 2: chemicals and the baby would be exposed to that.

590
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 3: But and so, you know, like having to quit your

591
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 3: job like to become a mother is still you.

592
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Speaker 2: Know, completely agree. But how I'm imagining it is they

593
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 2: have joint accounts. If they were to ever divorce, she

594
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 2: gets half of everything they get that they have unless

595
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 2: they have a prenup, which it doesn't sound based on

596
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 2: the relationship dynamic they do, doesn't sound like it. So

597
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:27,160
Speaker 2: I feel like that is enough of a safety barrier

598
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 2: for her. I don't know, what do you think, John.

599
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'm definitely still pro like in a

600
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 1: relationship people having like their own separate accounts just so

601
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Speaker 1: they can do things without having to constantly check yeah

602
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 1: with each other.

603
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Speaker 3: It seems like he's always being like, well, you're spending

604
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 3: too much, You're spending too much.

605
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, So it's like all just I think they agreed

606
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 2: on a budget.

607
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 1: That is the only thing is that they agreed to

608
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Speaker 1: not do that. So in this case, you know, I'm

609
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 1: thinking a little bit, little bit, everyone's the a whole

610
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,439
Speaker 1: because they agreed upon it. So I feel like the

611
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Speaker 1: wife should be more acknowledging of that. Yeah, and the husband,

612
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Speaker 1: I feel like, I don't know that it's really the

613
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 1: end of the world that he doesn't get access to

614
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 1: this money.

615
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:09,719
Speaker 2: It definitely isn't. But I think what's happening is the

616
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 2: contract of the relationship has changed only once the tables

617
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 2: have flipped, which I don't think is fair, right, you.

618
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Speaker 3: Know, I think I'm on your side, John, because I

619
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 3: think again, she just had a baby, and she had

620
00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 3: her financial freedom taken away from her when she was

621
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Speaker 3: making because before she was making a lot of money.

622
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Speaker 2: But she has doesn't have her financial freedom taken away

623
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Speaker 2: from her, well she does. They're just agreeing on a

624
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 2: budget together as.

625
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Speaker 3: Absolutely I think also again I think that you agree

626
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:35,439
Speaker 3: on a budget, you don't have to stick to that.

627
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 3: But also I understand the side.

628
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 2: Of using that budget.

629
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Speaker 1: It's the whole the whole philosophy of like all of

630
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 1: our money is in it together, which that is going

631
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 1: against it. So I would say I'm giving a little

632
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: a hole to both sides.

633
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I would.

634
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 2: I'm yeah, why do you think the husband is the ahole?

635
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 1: I think the husband is the a hole because I

636
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: don't know how critical it is that money needs to

637
00:28:59,360 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 1: be there.

638
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 2: And I feel like if I.

639
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 1: Was in that position, with this whole circumstance, I don't

640
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 1: know if I would really care or be bothered per se.

641
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 2: I think it would probably be bothered if we had

642
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 2: a joint like if we had shared everything and decided like, hey,

643
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:16,600
Speaker 2: this is the relationship style that we have is we

644
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:19,680
Speaker 2: share everything. Anything I make is yours, anything you make

645
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 2: is ours, you know, like like just like all together,

646
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 2: and then suddenly she wins the lottery, it's like, actually,

647
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 2: this is mine, you know, Like that would feel like

648
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 2: it like it would go against the context of the

649
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 2: relationship that we started. Yeah.

650
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Speaker 3: Oh, also it's not the lottery, it's from her.

651
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,360
Speaker 2: Dad, Okay, but even.

652
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 3: So specifically it's like parents who just you know, dramatically

653
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 3: was taken from her. Sure, so it's a little bit

654
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,320
Speaker 3: more closely, you know, there's a little bit more stake

655
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:44,480
Speaker 3: in that.

656
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, and obviously like she can do whatever she wants.

657
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 2: I think the effect though, of her doing this is

658
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 2: she's undermining the context that they originally set out with

659
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 2: the relationship. It's not a bad thing to do. If

660
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 2: they already had separate finances, that's like, that's fine. I

661
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 2: think what's happening there, she's now setting a different precedent.

662
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 3: I think they just need to have a more longer conversation.

663
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 3: I think they need to talk it out.

664
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Speaker 2: Yes, I would love to know from y'all what you think, Like,

665
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 2: who's the a hole in this situation? Is there one?

666
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 2: Are they both? And also for anyone who's married, like

667
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 2: how do you split finances or do you split finances

668
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Speaker 2: or is it all together? Like what worked for you?

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Speaker 2: Would love to know how different relationships handle this kind

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Speaker 2: of suff.

671
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Speaker 3: And also, I'm really sorry for your lost op.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true, that's true. We love you, But you

673
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Speaker 2: know what, we're never sorry for what you having to

674
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Speaker 2: listen to another story here we go.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this next story actually comes from the OKOP Call

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Speaker 1: lie if you want to call us to leave a

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Speaker 1: story called four four zero, five zero eight six five

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Speaker 1: sixty seven.

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Speaker 2: But let's hear the title of the story.

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Speaker 3: Hi, my name is Luck.

681
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 4: I am calling to see if my mom is the

682
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 4: asshole for leaving my dad after she's found out he

683
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Speaker 4: is only staying with her to try and get my

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Speaker 4: grandchurents Oo.

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00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 2: Dad's really bad. It's really bad. Okay, okay, gut check.

686
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Speaker 2: What do we feel? Is Opie's mom the a hole? Yes?

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00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 3: Right, leaving her dad after cinding out the.

688
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 2: Mom found out Opie's dad was only there for the money.

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00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, so the mom's not the a hole?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yes, yeah, it sounds like she's not being able.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's hear the rest of her story. I'm going

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Speaker 2: to read this transcription. So, my mom and I have

693
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Speaker 2: been mistreated by my dad my whole life, and my

694
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 2: younger brothers were treated a little better, but they still

695
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 2: weren't treated great. Now, my mom is religious and decided

696
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Speaker 2: that she didn't want to divorce. But it's getting to

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Speaker 2: the point where when he gets angry, like throwing scissors

698
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Speaker 2: at her, hits some doors so hard the whole house

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Speaker 2: shakes and paintings fall off the walls. Throwing things. She's

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Speaker 2: considering divorce, but she's always stayed. My dad has now

701
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Speaker 2: admitted to my uncle that he's only staying with my

702
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Speaker 2: mom so as to wait for her elderly parents to

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Speaker 2: pass because they are in poor health, so that he

704
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Speaker 2: can get their estate from them, because they have a

705
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Speaker 2: lot of money. My mom is unsure if she should

706
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Speaker 2: leave first or she should wait for him to do

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Speaker 2: it to like, in order, I don't know, to be

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Speaker 2: a better person. So would she be the asshole if

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Speaker 2: she left him? I don't know if I was coherent entirely,

710
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Speaker 2: but I hope it makes sense.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So to break it down, the mom has now

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Speaker 1: had a revelation. Well, actually, before we break it down,

714
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Speaker 1: and maybe while we're doing so, maybe we just give

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Speaker 1: a call right this second, and then we can break

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Speaker 1: it down with op. Okay, Hello, hey, look, this is

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Speaker 1: Sam from OKOP and John. Oh my god, hello.

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Speaker 2: Hello, how are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 2: How are you very good? We wanted to ask you

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Speaker 2: about your story. Oh great.

722
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Speaker 4: I didn't think you guys would up hearing it.

723
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Speaker 2: I love it so much, so watching first question, is

724
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Speaker 2: your mom still with your dad right now?

725
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Speaker 3: She is?

726
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Speaker 4: She is? I couldn't tell you, man, I let.

727
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Speaker 2: Maybe let's start with what are your dad's good qualities?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Well, he's nice.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes, he's nice sometimes.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I want to make sure I got the situation correct.

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Speaker 1: So basically, obviously it sounds like ideal for your mom

733
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Speaker 1: to leave the relationship, right, Yeah, And but and you

734
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Speaker 1: found out that your dad is basically only staying right now.

735
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Speaker 1: He doesn't want to leave relationship because he's trying to

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Speaker 1: get money after your mother's parents pass away.

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Speaker 2: Is that right?

738
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's right. So basically, like he ended up telling

739
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Speaker 4: my uncle, and my uncle told the rest of us.

740
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Speaker 4: It was like, what the hell?

741
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Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, is this your your dad's brother's brother.

742
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Speaker 4: Wh Wow, Like he said al to my mom brother

743
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 4: with a smile on his face. It was like, yeah,

744
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 4: this is what my dad is a little bit like

745
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,560
Speaker 4: we think he's a little bit off his rocker, but

746
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Speaker 4: he's always been a little bit off his rocker, and

747
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Speaker 4: he's like major office rocker.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh my good. I can't imagine being like silly

749
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Speaker 2: enough to Yeah, if you're gonna be a villain, be

750
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Speaker 2: a good villain at least.

751
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Speaker 1: Also, he's telling, he's telling like lux uncle who is

752
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Speaker 1: the brother of lux.

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Speaker 2: Mom like, yeah, when your parents die, I'm just gonna

754
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Speaker 2: wait for the way the dad.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking the dad would probably get less inheritance

756
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Speaker 1: if you know, well maybe not, but it.

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Speaker 2: Would be split. It would be split. Yeah, yeah, would

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Speaker 2: be split. So d uncles may be unaffected. But would

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Speaker 2: the money go straight to your mom or do they

760
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Speaker 2: like do your parents finances?

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Speaker 4: It would go straight to my mom, But my mom

762
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Speaker 4: doesn't have her own bank account, so we would go

763
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Speaker 4: into my parents join bank account when they divorced. He

764
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Speaker 4: would have access to it. But there's been an update

765
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Speaker 4: since I since I called you, there is a juicy update.

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Speaker 4: So my mom ended up meeting with an attorney and

767
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Speaker 4: she's not convinced she should divorce. She's like the rest

768
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Speaker 4: of my family is like, you need to divorce this man.

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Speaker 4: We will pay with the best of voice, layer, et cetera.

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Speaker 2: Good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So she met with the lawyer and she's like, hey,

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Speaker 4: I'll just hear you. And the lawyer is like, hey,

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Speaker 4: you can protect the money. And my dad found out

775
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Speaker 4: about this. My dad found out who that she has

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Speaker 4: a way to protect the money, and so he goes

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Speaker 4: and he tells the rest of like my mom and

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Speaker 4: then my extended family and says like yeah, no, if fine,

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Speaker 4: you know what, if I can't take the money in

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Speaker 4: the divorce, then I'll just sue you guys. I'll see

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Speaker 4: all of you for the money that I that I

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Speaker 4: quote unquote deserve, And if you choose a Christian lawyer,

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Speaker 4: I won't take it as much as you as you

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Speaker 4: want because he's like cult like Christian kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: Wait, so I mean does he have any legal right

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Speaker 1: to Yeah, that's the question.

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Speaker 4: I don't think so, I don't. I don't think does.

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Speaker 4: The thing is my parents, my grandparents owns the plot

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Speaker 4: of land. I've owned a plot of land and had

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Speaker 4: a small cabin on it. They ended up building a

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Speaker 4: bigger cabin on it, okay, And my dad ended up

792
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Speaker 4: was the one that like directed the build like helps

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Speaker 4: them do everything because he he does construction on the side.

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Speaker 2: So she may have some claim because he like cut

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Speaker 2: like blood, sweat and tears into the cabin.

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Speaker 1: But give me, give me ten percent for my sweat

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Speaker 1: equity or something along those lines.

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Speaker 4: So he ended up directing the whole day. And this

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Speaker 4: isn't like a small cabin either. It's like a million

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Speaker 4: dollar cabin and he's like, yeah, no, I want to

801
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Speaker 4: see you for at least half of it. But if

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Speaker 4: you if you choose a Christian lawyer, I'll go for less.

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Speaker 2: Well. I mean, is your current lawyer a Christian?

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Speaker 4: Not that I overwear?

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Speaker 2: Oh man, we're not sure you get God.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it's not a usual question to ask.

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Speaker 2: Your lawyer I know you Christian or not tell you

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Speaker 2: it's not.

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Speaker 4: If you open a question, yeah, to help me with

810
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 4: my divorce? What are you Christian?

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Speaker 2: So here's my question.

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00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:02,800
Speaker 1: Is the game plan maybe to go back to the

813
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Speaker 1: lawyer and be like, hey, realistically speaking, how much do

814
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 1: we think he could get if he if he sues us?

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Speaker 1: And if it's like a nominal amount most likely, do

816
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:13,480
Speaker 1: we just go ahead with the divorce and you know,

817
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:16,840
Speaker 1: get everything routed to your mom initially.

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Speaker 2: Or do you try to settle beforehand with all these

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Speaker 2: lawyer fees? Right?

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I think my grandparents are thinking of

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Speaker 4: settling with him because, like they're the reason they're already

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Speaker 4: looking at inheritance is because they don't want this happening

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Speaker 4: after their past and they're smart doing great, so they're

824
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Speaker 4: not doing great. My uncle or my grandfather has has cancer.

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Speaker 2: My grandmother's in.

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Speaker 4: The best of hell. Yeah, it's sad, but they're like

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Speaker 4: in their nineties, so.

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Speaker 2: It's yeah, okay, yeah, a long life, but dang, it's

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Speaker 2: such sad. Dad is trying to take advantage of this

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Speaker 2: terrible situation to like get money out of it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, they what they wanted to do is set

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Speaker 4: up this cabin for like their kids, yeah, siblings and

833
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Speaker 4: I my cousins, et cetera, and so that we could

834
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Speaker 4: go there for like years and years. Yeah you know

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Speaker 4: that said. No.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well you asked us at the beginning of the call,

837
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Speaker 2: is my mom the a hole for wanting to leave

838
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Speaker 2: your dad who is just in it for the money,

839
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Speaker 2: And I feel like we have a resounding no.

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Speaker 4: Thank you. I would hope not. I saw you know,

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Speaker 4: I thought I checked for my mom's sake. She's still unsure.

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Speaker 2: This episode there go and she deserves happiness and a

843
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 2: husband that isn't after the cabin.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll tell her. I'll tell her, you think.

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Speaker 2: So okay, Well, lot, thank you so much for calling you.

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Speaker 2: We really appreciate you. Best of luck.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you, it was nice talking to you, guys.

848
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Speaker 4: I'm glad to meet you. I love your show.

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Speaker 3: There was well, no problem.

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Speaker 2: Bye wow man. Well that's a lot though, that's a lot.

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Speaker 2: That's a lot. Really, you know what I feel like

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Speaker 2: lux Mom deserves happiness.

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00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:10,879
Speaker 1: Absolutely seems be a path for a good outcome. There

854
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Speaker 1: seems to be the path.

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Speaker 2: But you know what always gives us of a good outcome?

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Speaker 2: What when you subscribe? Because if you love us, make

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Speaker 2: sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time

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Speaker 1: for okop rework.

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Speaker 2: Today. I call him my best friend cute ooh spicy

861
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Speaker 2: best friend or best friend with benefits? Huh. A few

862
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 2: weeks ago, my sister twenty two and I twenty mail

863
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:44,320
Speaker 2: were discussing my best friend twenty mail behind his back.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I don't remember how the topic came up,

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Speaker 2: but my sister was addressing the fact that my best friend,

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Speaker 2: at some point in time, said I looked cute. I

867
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 2: didn't think anything of it, but my sister was of

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Speaker 2: the opinion that most straight guys don't call others straight

869
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:03,719
Speaker 2: guys cute. Hey, Hey, speak for yourself, look cute as hey,

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Speaker 2: Q as you as a button on a jack. I

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Speaker 2: love how you both had the same exact You're right,

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Speaker 2: the man with the beard and hair, all right, the

873
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 2: man with the abs, and the man with the booty,

874
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 2: delicious booty. This conversation was happening in front of my

875
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 2: sister's friends, and all the other friends agreed. I argued

876
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 2: that my best friend was street fuck so straight, and

877
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Speaker 2: pointed out that a couple of my sister's friends actually

878
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Speaker 2: knew that firsthead Hey, oh high five, no headero, I argue, Uh,

879
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Speaker 2: that's so funny. I closed my argument by calling him

880
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Speaker 2: Q two, which raised a few eyebrows, But no one

881
00:40:54,320 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 2: questioned my sexuality, at least in my face. Man chill

882
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 2: sexuality too. He is the most secure out of this

883
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 2: whole group. That's true, That's true. All of that changed

884
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:13,319
Speaker 2: yesterday when my best friend posted photos on ig of

885
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:17,720
Speaker 2: him kissing his male roommate with the caption the cat

886
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 2: is out of the closet. Oh no, we got the

887
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:24,240
Speaker 2: switch to room. Yeah. Albeit shocking, I was really happy

888
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:27,399
Speaker 2: for him, freaking awesome, but I instantly remembered the cute

889
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 2: conversation with my sister, and I hope she and her

890
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 2: friends would have forgotten about it. But they didn't show

891
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 2: my sister and her friends ambushed me as soon as

892
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,360
Speaker 2: I came home yesterday and couldn't wait to show me

893
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 2: photos on their phones of good looking guys and asking

894
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,840
Speaker 2: me to rate their cuteness. And they made sure to

895
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 2: put the following in air quotes from a straight guy's perspective.

896
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 2: Thanks thanks to my sister's big mouth, my parents also

897
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 2: got in fault. Oh no, my mom's talking about taking

898
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,880
Speaker 2: me shopping for pants that will make both of her

899
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 2: asses look great. Even my dad is joking about having

900
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 2: another sex talk since the first talk was the heterosexual version.

901
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:12,320
Speaker 2: Guys need to stop. These guys need to stop. Lesson learned.

902
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: Shut the f up, bro, I all right to be

903
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:19,360
Speaker 1: too like like on the bright side, it seems like

904
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 1: everyone's pretty like aversing which way he's uh uh.

905
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,359
Speaker 2: But you're right. These these these these these people are

906
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 2: these people are too much. These people. I'd be like, Hey,

907
00:42:30,120 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 2: I'm cute, how about y'all? Yeah? Yeah, And I can

908
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 2: say myself is cute. Why can't I say anyone else

909
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:40,400
Speaker 2: is cute? Bam bam bam,