1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:02,640 Speaker 1: Um, I'm going through our show sheet for today. This 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 1: is all the different ideas that people have pitched, and UM, 3 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:07,280 Speaker 1: I want to I want to dive into this for 4 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 1: a little bit. We may have we may have to. 5 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 1: This may be a multi part topic. But Paulina, UM, 6 00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: this is what you wrote. Is it weird that I'm 7 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: planning on having a baby in two years? Tell me 8 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:23,319 Speaker 1: I'm wrong for planning? Okay, so can we can we 9 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:25,240 Speaker 1: sort of dive into this idea a little bit? So 10 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 1: you Yeah, Okay, there's a lot of unpack here. I 11 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: really don't even know where to begin, so Paulina, a 12 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 1: whole lot of second. Let me just and by the way, 13 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 1: I in in my night will other cold medicine, you know, haze. 14 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:48,560 Speaker 1: Over the weekend, I was taunted by this song. Dude. Yeah, 15 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: I couldn't get out of my head, like here I 16 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:52,600 Speaker 1: am in like this fog. I think I'm dying. I 17 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:59,639 Speaker 1: think the rona is taking me slowly. I could hear 18 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: VI Condor Spirit makes administration. Yeah, yeah, you're rocking with 19 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: some Condor Spirits. It's all I could. That's all I like. 20 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: When's the music video dropping? When Martha is securi of 21 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: the condors. I'm surprised you guys them in a full 22 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: photo shoot. Yeah, so in two years, you're is this 23 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: Jesus is he two years like exactly? Or in two 24 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 1: years you're going to start one way or another? Like 25 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: what's the thinking? Okay, So I had to explain this 26 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: to my mom and my sister the other day because yeah, 27 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: you got explaining. I really do. But you know what, 28 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,120 Speaker 1: I was shocked at everybody's response. But my thing is, 29 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: I'm um, I really thought a couple of things in 30 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 1: my head. I was like, you know, um, I'm I 31 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 1: have friends that are starting to have babies, right, and 32 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: they're in serious relationships. I am knocked in either of those. 33 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: But when I you're not having a baby, right, and 34 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: I'm not starting to have a baby, and you're not 35 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: in a serious relationship. Okay, but there's a couple of 36 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:06,400 Speaker 1: things that I was thinking about. You know, I want 37 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:09,799 Speaker 1: to have a baby before I'm like thirty one ish, 38 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 1: because I want to be I would say, maybe a 39 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 1: younger parent. Nothing wrong with whatever age of a baby 40 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: at but I would want to, you know, like experience 41 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: that in my thirties as opposed to being like maybe 42 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:20,639 Speaker 1: thirty eight with a baby. You know what I'm saying, 43 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: I think those years couldn't matter as far as like 44 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 1: the experience. And there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not 45 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 1: saying that. I'm just saying for me personally, No, no, no, 46 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: don't come at me, because knowing me, I probably will 47 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: have a baby later in life and that's totally okay. 48 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 1: But what I'm trying to say is, too, is I 49 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: want my kids to grow up with my friends kids too. 50 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 1: I want that relationship. So there's a couple of factors. 51 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: And then you know, I feel like, you know, my 52 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 1: time is up, like it's time to settle down and 53 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: your time is up. My time is that life is over. 54 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: It's all down the ill from here. I just feel 55 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:51,959 Speaker 1: like I kind of almost want that too in a way, 56 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: like it sounds weird. I know I thought about this, 57 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 1: but I kind of thought, you know, like why not 58 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:58,920 Speaker 1: experience that at this point in my life? So, so, now, 59 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: what's the plans in two years. Either you're with somebody 60 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:05,680 Speaker 1: and you're you have a kid with that person, or 61 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:07,560 Speaker 1: you're gonna do it on your own. I'm not gonna 62 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: do it on my own. I would rather it be 63 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: with someone that I'm with Okay, so you're gonna force 64 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 1: a relationship you got going right in the next two years. Okay, 65 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:18,119 Speaker 1: I don't want to say force, but I have thought 66 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:20,079 Speaker 1: about this too. This is a little wild, but when 67 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 1: am I not? You're gonna pull the goalie? And I 68 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:25,399 Speaker 1: thought of that too well. I think for me attention 69 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: attentions here she plans to pull the goalie and not 70 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: necessarily share that with you. Bad idea. I know. That's 71 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: why I'm saying. I'd rather have that conversation with someone 72 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: that maybe I'm seeing or whatever, and if it doesn't happen, 73 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: it doesn't happen. But I'm open to is what I'm 74 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: trying to say. But the card is waiting before the 75 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 1: horse here, like you're you're thinking baby, and yet and 76 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: you will. It will be one thing if you were 77 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 1: thinking baby and you're cool to do it on your own, 78 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: because there are many ways to do that, and I 79 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 1: respect that. I respect the hell out of that people 80 00:03:57,320 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: who want to do that and they're like, you know what, 81 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 1: I can't find the right partner and I'm not gonna 82 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not gonna have it be on somebody 83 00:04:03,880 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 1: else's timeline. So I'm gonna take this on myself. I 84 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: respect the hell out of that as opposed to I 85 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: don't know many other options, but you're not willing to 86 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 1: do that. So that means you're putting this deadline out 87 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: there and you got to fill in the pieces now. 88 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 1: And are you really going to be that mindful about 89 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: who you're choosing if the goal is ahead of the 90 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: you know, sort of objectives, if that makes sense. Ah, yeah, 91 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 1: see that's the thing too, Like you gotta be careful 92 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 1: who you're choosing is your baby daddy, because that's for life, 93 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And I never had that 94 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 1: experience with like a good dad, so I never want 95 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 1: to give that to my child. I don't my child 96 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:40,160 Speaker 1: have a great dad in their life and be close 97 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:42,840 Speaker 1: to their father figure. The only thing is, like I 98 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 1: don't want to say it's a deadline. I'm just saying 99 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:47,160 Speaker 1: I'm open to it in two years, like if if 100 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 1: I meet someone great, I'm open to it. Because you know, 101 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 1: this is like like a vision board, you know, thinking 102 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:53,720 Speaker 1: maybe you should put pictures of babies up all over 103 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: your mirror at home and stuff like that, and then 104 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: you know, and then maybe pictures of man and babies 105 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:00,920 Speaker 1: on the thing and then yeah, and then they'll come 106 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:03,160 Speaker 1: to you. They'll come to you. You know, every day 107 00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: you'll look at it and you'll be focused on and 108 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: they'll come. I want to find five or five nine, one, 109 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:10,839 Speaker 1: one h three five, as anyone else sort of put 110 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: this goal out there, anyone else say this is a 111 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,040 Speaker 1: good idea, because first of all, have you tried this 112 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: and did it work? Did you say, Okay, in two years, 113 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 1: I'm having a baby one way or another. But my 114 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: concern with this idea is that you're you're saying in 115 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: two years, I'm gonna have a baby, And if you're 116 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:28,159 Speaker 1: serious about this, then you might get the decisions that 117 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: you make might become a little hasty, a little rushed 118 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: as you get closer to that goal. No, you're completely right, 119 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: and that's why I'm not trying to rush anything, even 120 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 1: though it sounds like I am saying two years, Yes, 121 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: it's putting a deadline on something. Is rushing Or I say, 122 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:43,840 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, you know, I'm very open to it 123 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:45,840 Speaker 1: in two years, Like, hey, if you see me up 124 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:47,360 Speaker 1: here with a bill of belly one day, don't ask 125 00:05:47,360 --> 00:05:48,600 Speaker 1: no questions. Well, but are you open to it in 126 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: two years or would you be open to it now 127 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:53,479 Speaker 1: if if you met the right person. No, two years, 128 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: for sure. I definitely want to be at least thirty 129 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: at least to start the process, not like thirty, let's 130 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:01,320 Speaker 1: have a baby right now, start the process at thirty. 131 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: Like I said, I want to be like you know, 132 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 1: I want my kids up with my friend's kids. But 133 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: if you, if you think of it that way, my 134 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: concern for you is that you said, Okay, now I'm thirty. 135 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,559 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm not with somebody right now. Um, 136 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: and then you sort of start making snap judgments like well, 137 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:18,720 Speaker 1: he'll do where he'll do, or he'll do I don't, 138 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 1: I don't know. Let me see here, Blair, Hi, Blair, 139 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 1: how are you? I am good? How are you? Blair? 140 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:26,360 Speaker 1: Did you? Did you try this? You put a timeline 141 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 1: on the on the baby thing? I did? I did? I? Actually? Uh? 142 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 1: I made it timeline when I was twenty two, saying 143 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: if I didn't have somebody that I was with by 144 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: twenty nine o two by myself and uh. And then 145 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:43,520 Speaker 1: when I was twenty five, I gave myself six months 146 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: really my boy that I was with my boyfriend for 147 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: three years at this time, and I told him, I 148 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 1: was like, I want to have a baby in six months, 149 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:52,279 Speaker 1: and he's like, okay, and so, uh we had a 150 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: baby together after six months? WHOA Well, now I used 151 00:06:56,680 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: to with him. Uh No, But I would say, and 152 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: I think that do you think there hasn't anything to 153 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:04,560 Speaker 1: do with it? Do you? I mean, because three years 154 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 1: is a fair amount of time. I would say to say, Okay, 155 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 1: where are we going with this? Like, here are my goals? 156 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: What are your goals? Are goals aligned? I would hope 157 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: after three years you can figure that out. But do 158 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: you think that that you saying, Okay, in six months, 159 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: we're getting pregnant. Do you think that had something to 160 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 1: do with the demise of the relationship. No, absolutely not. 161 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 1: He and I were actually together for six years and 162 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 1: he developed the personal issues okay, okay the least and 163 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: and so for the benefit of my son and myself, 164 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 1: he and I escaped. Oh so you don't regret the deadline? 165 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 1: Then no, absolutely not. The only thing in my life 166 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: that I don't regret about my ex is the fact 167 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 1: that he's the father of my child. I hear that 168 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 1: about a lot of relationships where kids came out it's 169 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 1: the only thing that they don't regret of the kids. 170 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 1: But um, all right, Blair, thank you, have a great day, 171 00:07:55,840 --> 00:08:00,679 Speaker 1: Thanks too, Thanks listening. Sharifa. Hello, good morning, Hi, good morning. 172 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:04,960 Speaker 1: Paulina apparently is having a baby at thirty m We 173 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: haven't figured out what the steps are yet towards that, 174 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: but that's what's happening. So what do you think. I mean, 175 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 1: I think I myself also put like a deadline on 176 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: my own life. I didn't say, hey, everybody I meet, 177 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 1: I want to have a baby, but I did tell 178 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 1: everyone I meet it at time in my life that 179 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 1: this is what I want, this is my goals, and 180 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:26,880 Speaker 1: if you're not down with that, move along. So eventually, 181 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 1: after meeting my husband, I you know, we started getting if, 182 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:34,079 Speaker 1: we got serious, and eventually two years later we had 183 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: a baby. So I mean, I didn't tell him, yeah, 184 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: I need babies, babies, you know, eventually his game. But 185 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 1: I did tell him this is free. I'm trying to 186 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: be serious. I'm not trying to date. And that's how 187 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:48,160 Speaker 1: it worked out that I became, you know, a mom 188 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: at the right age that I wanted to be a mom. 189 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: I didn't want to be older mom because I had 190 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 1: older parents, So yeah, well worked out for you. I 191 00:08:57,160 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: get that. I just I think, like, and I understand 192 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 1: there's a pressure women and there's a biological issue and 193 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,840 Speaker 1: all of that. There's some women facebook or there all 194 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:06,960 Speaker 1: women face. Really, but if I meet a woman and 195 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 1: the first thing she says to me in the first 196 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 1: date is I want a baby, so you know, we 197 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: get what's your deal? I mean it really like, it's 198 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:16,959 Speaker 1: possible that I could fall in love with you and 199 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: my answer would be different a month, two months, three 200 00:09:19,520 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 1: months later. I mean, fun to mass say, I'm not 201 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:24,480 Speaker 1: opposed to having a baby. I just want to feel 202 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: a certain kind of way about somebody before I say 203 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: I want to have a baby, because for me, pardon me, 204 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: for me, it's not about having the kid. It's about 205 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: having the connection and then having the kid. So if 206 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:36,040 Speaker 1: a woman says to me off the bat, well, what's 207 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 1: your plan, more than likely we're never going to see 208 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:40,839 Speaker 1: that plan out because I'm gonna I don't know, because 209 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: my mind will get jumbled. So I mean, it took 210 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:48,520 Speaker 1: us two years. My husband also had two kids before women, 211 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 1: so he kind of knew, Okay, hey, she's gonna want 212 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:54,800 Speaker 1: kids eventually, So he had to be okay with that. 213 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: I think that's an understanding before we actually got married. 214 00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:02,320 Speaker 1: It worked tough for you, though, So I'm happy, right, good, good, Well, 215 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 1: thanks for calling. Have a good day. Yes, I think 216 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:07,120 Speaker 1: it's okay that you do talk about that. I'm like 217 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: a first or second date, because if you have it 218 00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: in your head friend that you don't want kids at all, 219 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:12,319 Speaker 1: maybe you already have like three kids at home and 220 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 1: you're like, I'm done. It's all good for her to 221 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:16,600 Speaker 1: know that, you know what I'm saying. So I would 222 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 1: agree if I'm fun to if I'm saying no kids ever. Right, 223 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: that's important, But my my opinion of having kids could 224 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: very easily change if my feelings increase for a particular person. 225 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:29,760 Speaker 1: That's very true. And so for a person to say, well, 226 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: what's the deal kids or no kids, and like, you know, 227 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 1: what's the pace at which is moving? I understand the urgency, 228 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 1: but I also think it for some people it might 229 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 1: be sort of like WHOA too much pressure and then 230 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 1: nothing ever developed. It's not too much pressure though for 231 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: a woman to be like, you know, yeah, I want 232 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:47,680 Speaker 1: a family one day. I'd like to have it one day, Okay, 233 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 1: but but for you, if I met you two years 234 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: from now, I better have I mean, I'm gonna be 235 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:59,439 Speaker 1: like yo, doing the math. I'm like that means that like, 236 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: oh god, it's just like an estimate for me. Two 237 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:04,080 Speaker 1: years would be a good good time to start before that. 238 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: You won't see me with no babies. What I'm trying 239 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: to say, Okay, I won't see you with no baby? Kelly, Hi, 240 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 1: Hi Kelly. What do you think about this baby deadline? 241 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 1: I commend her proactive nature. Actually, I think that what 242 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:20,120 Speaker 1: she's doing is um proactive. And I think that before 243 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 1: you even think about having a baby, you see if 244 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 1: you can have a baby. At least that's what happened 245 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: with me. I put a deadline on myself. Then I 246 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:29,959 Speaker 1: went to a reproductive under chronologist and I couldn't have kids. 247 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:35,319 Speaker 1: Oh I see, okay, so then what do you do? Then? 248 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:37,319 Speaker 1: You know, so do you you start to adjust the 249 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:40,439 Speaker 1: plan to say I'm going to adopt or or surrogate 250 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 1: or like what happens for you? Then? Yeah? For sure? 251 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:44,920 Speaker 1: I mean, and I was I mean, I was married 252 00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 1: and I had a deadline on myself, so I had, 253 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 1: you know, I had the firm bake I needed to 254 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 1: get to get pregnant. But I'm saying, at least she 255 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 1: could find out if she can't get prognant before she 256 00:11:55,200 --> 00:11:57,839 Speaker 1: even puts the deadline on herself. See here's the big difference, Kelly, 257 00:11:57,880 --> 00:12:00,679 Speaker 1: and I respect that, but you you had found your partner, right, 258 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:02,480 Speaker 1: so then you have a partner, and now you're putting 259 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:04,560 Speaker 1: a deadline on having a kid. She doesn't even have 260 00:12:04,640 --> 00:12:07,559 Speaker 1: the partner, which makes me concerned that she won't choose 261 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 1: why her partner wisely because she's got this baby deadline. Okay, 262 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:14,600 Speaker 1: but let's say she Let's say she doesn't find a partner. 263 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 1: That's fine, that's great. Uh, you know, however she wants 264 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 1: to have a Baby's up to her. But wouldn't you 265 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 1: want to know if she could even have a baby? 266 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:25,080 Speaker 1: I thought, yeah, no, that's it makes sense. I've actually 267 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:28,080 Speaker 1: thought of that. That makes sense, right. So I think, 268 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 1: you know, just even getting yourself checked out and knowing 269 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:33,720 Speaker 1: your your ovariant eggcounts is something that you know, all 270 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 1: women need to do, and I think what you're doing 271 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 1: is great even thinking about it. Yeah, I'm sorry, I 272 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:43,200 Speaker 1: come up a mom do and you know, I don't 273 00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: want to have a Jerry atwerd pregnancy. Yet I don't 274 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 1: want to have proclaim. Well, Jerry is what like thirty 275 00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 1: three and my sister at forty one, and my mom 276 00:12:51,320 --> 00:12:53,680 Speaker 1: is my sister's thirty two, and I think it started 277 00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 1: flirting in that area and it's like thirty two, Jerry. 278 00:12:56,880 --> 00:12:59,439 Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong about being an older parents, nothing at all, 279 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:04,560 Speaker 1: trust me, nothing wrong with that. I'm gonna be like hefner. Um, 280 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:07,160 Speaker 1: it's not even about that. It's about your health risks. 281 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:10,079 Speaker 1: You put yourself at risk when you get old, um 282 00:13:10,520 --> 00:13:13,200 Speaker 1: and and the other complications to thank you, Kelly, have 283 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:14,959 Speaker 1: a good day. Yeah, I don't want to speak on 284 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:16,360 Speaker 1: all that. I don't I don't know anything about that. 285 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:18,319 Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm talking about. UM. So, hey, 286 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 1: do we know anybody who can figure out like how 287 00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 1: many eggs you have and stuff like that? Maybe my 288 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:24,719 Speaker 1: ob g y N. It's expensive, isn't it, Like a 289 00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 1: fertility person. I've thought of doing all that too, but 290 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 1: it's yeah, it is. I'd have to look into it. 291 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 1: She's not wrong, though, I've thought about that because I 292 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:31,800 Speaker 1: don't want to be like Charlotte on Sex in the 293 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: City where she gets married. She's in love and next thing, 294 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:35,320 Speaker 1: you know, she can't carry her own kid, or she 295 00:13:35,320 --> 00:13:37,440 Speaker 1: can't get pregnant. I mean, and I remember that scene 296 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:40,079 Speaker 1: so vividly, and I'm like, we should as women kind 297 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:42,720 Speaker 1: of understand that too. We gotta like grow our own health. 298 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:45,400 Speaker 1: I wish all that stuff was free, honestly, because it 299 00:13:45,440 --> 00:13:49,319 Speaker 1: should be. Yeah, that's another discussion. Um, Look, I just 300 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes people have this vision in their 301 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 1: mind of what they want their life to look like 302 00:13:55,559 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: and and and that vision is more important than maybe 303 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:02,439 Speaker 1: some of the piece is involved in creating that vision, right, 304 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:04,640 Speaker 1: Like so, like I don't know, you meet people and 305 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:07,000 Speaker 1: they're in their twenties and they're saying, well, I want stability, 306 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 1: and I want a house, and I want to picke 307 00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 1: at fence and I want two babies and a minivan 308 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:14,319 Speaker 1: and whatever. And then they do what they have to 309 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 1: do to get to that point and they realize this 310 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:18,520 Speaker 1: isn't the person I wanted to do that with. Like 311 00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:21,880 Speaker 1: I got so focused on all the items that I wanted, 312 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 1: like this picture, and maybe they weren't as focused on 313 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 1: the person. And that's what I don't want to happen 314 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: to you, because I want you to focus on your 315 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:33,480 Speaker 1: partnership at first, and being happy and safe and secure 316 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 1: in the partnership, and then I want you to think 317 00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:37,760 Speaker 1: about having a baby with this person. I totally agree. 318 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:39,760 Speaker 1: But I also thought at eighteen that I would have 319 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:42,480 Speaker 1: everything that you just named at twenty five. So again, 320 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:45,200 Speaker 1: things change, goals change. But also when you turn thirty, 321 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: it's some of the best years of your life. You 322 00:14:47,800 --> 00:14:50,160 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, It could change in two years again, 323 00:14:50,240 --> 00:14:53,120 Speaker 1: but I like, I'm not saying what you're doing is wrong, 324 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 1: Like I'm here for your goals. But at the same time, 325 00:14:57,120 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: you got to make the right decision, even when it 326 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 1: comes to the guy you're with. You know, like, it's 327 00:15:01,440 --> 00:15:03,560 Speaker 1: not it's not a crunch time, Like no, yeah, you know, 328 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:05,920 Speaker 1: you're not up against a wall here, you know, so 329 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:08,840 Speaker 1: you have some time. So maybe first step is let 330 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:11,600 Speaker 1: me find somebody who's like good to me. The second 331 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: step is what's that Even if you find that person 332 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 1: that's good to you, that could change your whole thing too. 333 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: Maybe you want to get married first, or travel together, 334 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:23,520 Speaker 1: or buy a house together, then you want to set 335 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 1: it down and have kids. Everything could change. Yeah, I'm 336 00:15:25,920 --> 00:15:27,480 Speaker 1: open to all of that. It's just a lot of 337 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 1: pressure that you don't I don't think you need yet. 338 00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 1: It's not pressure. It's just me being like, okay, like 339 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:34,120 Speaker 1: at thirty, like I am open to getting this show 340 00:15:34,160 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 1: on the road. Okay, well we'll all look forward to 341 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:40,880 Speaker 1: that shows coming town. Things could change, careers change everything. 342 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:43,400 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, it's true. Yeah yeah. So sometimes you 343 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:45,320 Speaker 1: put those goals out there and then they get in 344 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:47,480 Speaker 1: the way of what's happening organically in your life that 345 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:52,680 Speaker 1: could be better. One three five Kiss FM, Chicago's number 346 00:15:52,680 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 1: one hit music stage. Good morning, it's the Fred's Show. Um, 347 00:15:56,120 --> 00:16:01,160 Speaker 1: I want to know that reading this this morning. The 348 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,720 Speaker 1: the trend that if you call this, a fashion trend 349 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 1: known as the whale tale from the early two thousands. Um, 350 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:16,400 Speaker 1: the exposed thong oh yea Uilera, Paris Hilton, Halley Berry Whitney, Yeah, 351 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 1: rocking this in the early two thousands. Apparently the whale 352 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 1: tale is back. Um. Duelipo was spotted with an intentionally 353 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 1: exposed thong in New York Bella hadid. She also wore 354 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 1: this so on the catwalk in Milan. Um for Versace 355 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 1: is spring Summer twenty twenty thing. Um. They've also been 356 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:41,520 Speaker 1: rumbling to the past few months that fashion to nineties 357 00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 1: obsession is going to follow the calendar and turn into 358 00:16:43,760 --> 00:16:47,120 Speaker 1: an early two thousands fixation. It kind of already has. 359 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:50,400 Speaker 1: So did you did you do that? You're probably too 360 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 1: young for that if you had an exposed thong in 361 00:16:53,880 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: this because like your under rus weren't there's something. I mean, 362 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 1: I was in middle school, but I hope you didn't know. No, 363 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:06,280 Speaker 1: I didn't, Pauline, don't. You're younger than me, so don't. 364 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:07,920 Speaker 1: I don't want to know. That's why I'm not mad 365 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:10,240 Speaker 1: that it's coming back, because we never got to experience. 366 00:17:10,320 --> 00:17:13,520 Speaker 1: I think it's kind of cool. How does it? And 367 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:16,440 Speaker 1: this is an honest question, how does thongs work? Like? 368 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:20,560 Speaker 1: What does thos work with girls? Like? As far as 369 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:24,240 Speaker 1: I realized that some people sexualize them, like in this case, 370 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:26,080 Speaker 1: I suppose if your underwears hanging out like that, But 371 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 1: in other ways it's just sort of like a like 372 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:29,520 Speaker 1: a fashion thing, like you don't want to see the 373 00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:31,680 Speaker 1: lines or whatever. So how do you Is there a 374 00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:34,280 Speaker 1: certain age at which you're allowed to wear them and 375 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:36,359 Speaker 1: you're not? Because I remember I don't think my sister 376 00:17:36,480 --> 00:17:39,640 Speaker 1: was allowed. I don't. I don't know. Definitely like a mile. 377 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:42,040 Speaker 1: So you either you sneak by them, like when you're 378 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:44,000 Speaker 1: at the mall with your friends, which Paulina is nodding, 379 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:46,159 Speaker 1: so real because you didn't have a sister. But this 380 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 1: was a thing in the house, like there was after 381 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:51,920 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be concerned about when she's wearing like the 382 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:55,000 Speaker 1: last dry and then you know, next thing, you know, 383 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:58,520 Speaker 1: I'm not concerned about it. I'm wondering if I ever 384 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:02,280 Speaker 1: have a daughter. You know, point do you say like, okay, 385 00:18:02,320 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 1: now you can wear thongs, and now you can't because 386 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 1: because because then here I am sexualizing for these other 387 00:18:09,359 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 1: little boys, when if I had nothing to do with that. Yeah, 388 00:18:11,800 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 1: it's definitely a thing. So I was a dancer, so 389 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:15,720 Speaker 1: luckily I was able to get them, like for a 390 00:18:15,760 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 1: reason other than that, you know, other than just like 391 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:21,120 Speaker 1: having a thong, because we were either required to wear 392 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,680 Speaker 1: no underwear or thongs. So my mom was like, oh 393 00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 1: I get more thongs. Um. But it is a thing, 394 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 1: like you talk about it with your friends. You either 395 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:31,960 Speaker 1: sneak by them or ask your parents. Um. And it's 396 00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:34,520 Speaker 1: it's a milestone, the thong. And then the girls who 397 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:36,960 Speaker 1: like don't wear thongs and they're yoga pants, and it's 398 00:18:36,960 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 1: like all the guys know who wears them, who doesn't. 399 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:41,919 Speaker 1: It's in our middle school seeing these are things that 400 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 1: we didn't have. You in the nineties there were in 401 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:47,800 Speaker 1: yoga pants. It was it was it was baggy sweat paste. Yeah, right, 402 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: like your TLC. And then for Jim like you'd like 403 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 1: change and like you'd be like, oh, god, she's a 404 00:18:52,840 --> 00:18:58,359 Speaker 1: thong on, like you know, oh she's really you know, 405 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:01,640 Speaker 1: did you sneak by them? I did sneak by them, 406 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:03,640 Speaker 1: so like I never had that conversation with my mom 407 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:05,479 Speaker 1: or anything. But I also didn't learn how to use 408 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:08,119 Speaker 1: the washer and dryer. Toll was like maybe fifteen, so 409 00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:09,880 Speaker 1: I used to wash them by hand because I don't 410 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:11,359 Speaker 1: want my mom to see them. She still did my 411 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 1: laundry's commitment. I was like wearing these because everybody else was. 412 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 1: The girls did. Yeah, it's a thing. No Sea, I 413 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: knew that it was a thing. I just didn't know, Like, 414 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 1: how do you decide? Okay, now you can. It's a 415 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:26,960 Speaker 1: huge I think you decide when you're allowed to go 416 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:28,879 Speaker 1: to the mall by yourself, because then you're not with 417 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:30,879 Speaker 1: your parents. You could buy your songs and get the 418 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 1: out Victoria's secret. I think now kids have it easy. 419 00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:37,280 Speaker 1: Now they just get online. Or I'm gonna go through 420 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:38,600 Speaker 1: every if I ever have a kid, I'm going through 421 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 1: every box comes to that I don't know, and then 422 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:47,200 Speaker 1: having involved is weird. How is this your six child? 423 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:51,760 Speaker 1: Please her mom handle that, because you're gonna make her 424 00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:54,119 Speaker 1: feel like that shaving of the lags, like let the 425 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:57,199 Speaker 1: mom because oh, the mom's hand the mom whoever that 426 00:19:57,240 --> 00:20:00,080 Speaker 1: mom is? The mom's handling all of this because no, 427 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 1: weirder than your dad. No, I don't. I don't want 428 00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:04,200 Speaker 1: to be that way. But you know, I'm just gonna 429 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,040 Speaker 1: be sitting idly on the side going I don't know 430 00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:08,080 Speaker 1: what's going on, Like I just I don't know. I 431 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:10,359 Speaker 1: don't know. I don't say like, just pretend you don't know. 432 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:12,879 Speaker 1: That's the best part. These things stress me out. I 433 00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 1: don't even have a wife. I don't even have a girlfriend. No. 434 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:20,040 Speaker 1: The more you you constrain you can uh you don't 435 00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:21,879 Speaker 1: let your child do anything, the more they're gonna want it. 436 00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:26,719 Speaker 1: I know, I know, I know, I'm I'm being facetious. 437 00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 1: Someone I had that done to me. No, No, we didn't. 438 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:36,680 Speaker 1: The only two rooms in our in our house growing 439 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 1: up that didn't have locks on them were mine and 440 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:43,840 Speaker 1: my sisters. No locks really do um, I just say that, 441 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:46,879 Speaker 1: you know, at least in the previously, when you went 442 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:48,880 Speaker 1: to the mall, you can sort of buy ask most 443 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 1: as you can kind of see what your kids were buying. 444 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:52,679 Speaker 1: But now with the Internet, they don't have to have 445 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 1: the they don't have to go to the mall and 446 00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 1: buy it anymore. Now that just shows up to the house. 447 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,480 Speaker 1: Well yeah, but that's hard because they're they're gonna see 448 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:00,399 Speaker 1: your package. Like my mom would open my stuff if 449 00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 1: I sent it to the house. Here you go, you 450 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: got a sneak at the mall. See you go to 451 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,720 Speaker 1: see see rufio. Her mom would open her stuff and 452 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:18,560 Speaker 1: look how she turned out wonderfully, wonderfully. Yeah, yeah, you 453 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:30,240 Speaker 1: were a little early on the phone. What happened? Yeah? 454 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:33,080 Speaker 1: They talk better than they tie. These are the radio 455 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:36,399 Speaker 1: blogs on the Fred Show Audio Journel six fifty and 456 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:39,760 Speaker 1: eight fifty. Kaylin, are you doing one today? Sure? Why not? Okay, 457 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:42,480 Speaker 1: So dear blog, Um, I got permission to talk about 458 00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:45,439 Speaker 1: this first of all, but um, we all know my 459 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:50,920 Speaker 1: friend jockey Juice Jack um and and the story being 460 00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:53,080 Speaker 1: if you're just learning, is that he's Asian, so his 461 00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:56,240 Speaker 1: name couldn't be Jake. He's Chinese. Yes, his name is Jake, 462 00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:59,800 Speaker 1: and a woman like was like, okay reading his name Jockey, 463 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:06,919 Speaker 1: which is awful like French, not even Chinese. Yeah, um, 464 00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:09,640 Speaker 1: but so we call him jack. But yeah. So he 465 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:14,159 Speaker 1: surprised me a bit ago and asked me if I 466 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:21,120 Speaker 1: would be his beneficiary for like freething, Yeah, okay, which 467 00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 1: I mean he obviously his parents would have to not 468 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,359 Speaker 1: be around. But other than that, like he's not giving 469 00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,640 Speaker 1: it to his brother, his cousins like any other family. Interesting. Um, 470 00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:31,600 Speaker 1: And he works and then he has another business and 471 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 1: so I don't know. I was like, well I gotta 472 00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:35,480 Speaker 1: figure out. Like I was like, I don't want to 473 00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:37,240 Speaker 1: make decisions. I don't want to clean your house. I 474 00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:40,440 Speaker 1: don't want to, you know, pull the plug. So essentially, 475 00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:41,920 Speaker 1: like I don't know. When you get a new job 476 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 1: and if there's some kind of insurance or something, then 477 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,640 Speaker 1: you they ask you for the who's going to get 478 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,480 Speaker 1: the life insurance with the money or whatever it is 479 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:50,600 Speaker 1: your checks or whatever it is if you die. And 480 00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:52,720 Speaker 1: I usually put my mother down because I don't have 481 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,119 Speaker 1: a wife that I'm aware of. But he's doing like 482 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:59,040 Speaker 1: a whole will and everything and like, OK, which I 483 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 1: mean I was. I was honored. Love you jockey if 484 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,679 Speaker 1: you're listening. But I was just surprised because he has 485 00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:06,560 Speaker 1: other family members that he's close with um and he's like, no, 486 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:08,080 Speaker 1: I just want you to get at all. And I 487 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:09,800 Speaker 1: was like, oh, my goodness, is there a lot of 488 00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:11,960 Speaker 1: money do you think? Do you think he's a wealthy man. Well, 489 00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:14,760 Speaker 1: he's he's doing pretty well. He has a really good job, 490 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:16,960 Speaker 1: and then he started his own business on the side. 491 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,880 Speaker 1: I mean, obviously I would I want him to be here. 492 00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 1: I don't. I mean, I don't considering any kind of 493 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:25,280 Speaker 1: luing him down the stairs or anything anti freeze and 494 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 1: lemonade or something that comes. And this is a dateline move, 495 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,359 Speaker 1: but I don't know. It was like really shocking. I 496 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,480 Speaker 1: don't know. I guess I've never slow death. You hardly 497 00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 1: even know you're dying. Yeah, so I've heard. Huh that's terrifying. No, 498 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:39,480 Speaker 1: I want to keep him around, but I don't know. 499 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:41,679 Speaker 1: I mean, we're just best friend. So I just I 500 00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:44,280 Speaker 1: was very shocked. Unless he gets a wife, of course, 501 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:47,600 Speaker 1: which I mean we're hoping he does. Yeah, so can I. 502 00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:49,959 Speaker 1: I'm gonna make a terrible confession on the radio right now. 503 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,159 Speaker 1: And I hope my sister doesn't listen to this, so 504 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. She listens to another morning show in 505 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 1: a different city, doesn't even support her own brother. Thus 506 00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:59,639 Speaker 1: she is not the beneficiary of my I had to 507 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: do to say and thing like my attorney friend was like, 508 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 1: do you have a will, trust or whatever? I'm like, 509 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:07,639 Speaker 1: I don't have that. Say, dude, you got enough crap, 510 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 1: Like you need to go get a will and a trust. 511 00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:10,600 Speaker 1: So we did this last year I think I talked 512 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,960 Speaker 1: about it or two years ago, and um, and you yeah, 513 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 1: so you decide in the will who gets everything, and 514 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:17,280 Speaker 1: you can divide it up however you want right Like, 515 00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,359 Speaker 1: I don't know. You could say this person gets this 516 00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:21,600 Speaker 1: and that I gave it all to my mother. And 517 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:23,840 Speaker 1: the reason that I did that was because I don't 518 00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:25,760 Speaker 1: want my sister to have to split my crap with 519 00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:30,480 Speaker 1: her husband if he divorces hers. Now it's terrible because 520 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: I'm in my mind at the time that I did this, 521 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:35,119 Speaker 1: I was less a fan of his, but more importantly, 522 00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:37,199 Speaker 1: I was just trying to protect her from having to 523 00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:39,600 Speaker 1: you know, I don't know, get the tens of dollars 524 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:41,240 Speaker 1: that I have in the bank. And then and then 525 00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:44,640 Speaker 1: he gets half of it out. And then I was like, ahead, 526 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,400 Speaker 1: you make one of those videos where like they play 527 00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:48,640 Speaker 1: it went after You're dead. Yeah, if you're watching this, 528 00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:54,080 Speaker 1: I'm damn dead. Yeah. And you you joker artists formerly 529 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 1: noticed death mail. You thought you were going to get rich. 530 00:24:56,920 --> 00:25:00,640 Speaker 1: You ain't getting nice, not a damn thing. But then 531 00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 1: I asked my parents recently, um, you know, because again 532 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 1: I don't have anybody like my parents and my sister 533 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:07,320 Speaker 1: and I have you guys. Yeah, it's try. I could 534 00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 1: leave you guys. Yeah, I mean you guys will get 535 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:13,880 Speaker 1: a show and hopefully you can all fight over this chair. Yeah, 536 00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 1: I'm leaving the show to you guys, my children. You 537 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,280 Speaker 1: guys all get it. And I don't want any infighting 538 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:21,480 Speaker 1: from any of you, Okay, I don't want any infighting. 539 00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 1: What if you what if you were to find out 540 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,040 Speaker 1: that in my will I named who should who should 541 00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:27,960 Speaker 1: get the lead role among all of you, you would 542 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 1: be okay with that. So if in my will I said, 543 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,560 Speaker 1: if something happens to me, this person gets to sit 544 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:36,040 Speaker 1: in this chair. Nobody would be offended by that. No, 545 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:37,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm dead, so I don't care. But yeah, 546 00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,200 Speaker 1: I'm not doing this. We have to respect that. I'm 547 00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:42,480 Speaker 1: not doing that though. Oh no, they'll throw me, dude, 548 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,400 Speaker 1: They'll drag my body out of here so fast. Put 549 00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:47,520 Speaker 1: somebody else on. Oh, there'd be I think some people 550 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:51,719 Speaker 1: would celebrate, would celebrate the occasion. It's when you say that, 551 00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:54,640 Speaker 1: Oh well, it's true, it's not nobody would celebrate. Yeah, 552 00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:56,960 Speaker 1: no one guy would, um but anyway, it doesn't matter. 553 00:25:58,080 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 1: Will be several years before he gets to celebrate again. 554 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:03,399 Speaker 1: Patty batty over there. So anyway, So now I have 555 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:06,440 Speaker 1: this niece coming, and I was asking my parents, and 556 00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,199 Speaker 1: maybe you've dealt with this before, if you have a 557 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:10,879 Speaker 1: will or children, or or maybe you're like me and 558 00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 1: you have other family members who have kids and you don't. 559 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:17,440 Speaker 1: What if I circumvent my sister and her husband entirely 560 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:22,639 Speaker 1: and change the beneficiary to Polly this soon niece and 561 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,080 Speaker 1: they don't get a damn thing? Would that piss them off? 562 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:28,320 Speaker 1: If I if I skipped them completely and then just 563 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 1: say this is for the kid, and you don't get 564 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,159 Speaker 1: anything A parent would love for their child to be 565 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:36,200 Speaker 1: set up in any kind of way. Yeah, yeah, I would. 566 00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:37,880 Speaker 1: I would hope so. But at the same time, maybe 567 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:40,439 Speaker 1: they're like, well, why don't you give it to us? 568 00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:42,200 Speaker 1: And then I think your mom would be man that 569 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:47,919 Speaker 1: you didn't get anything. Um my mom, listen, carrot, my 570 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:53,800 Speaker 1: mom's my mom's doing Okay, labor noodles will be just fine, 571 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 1: It'll be it's gonna be okay. No, no, But I 572 00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:58,199 Speaker 1: so I asked them, I'm like, is a man going 573 00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,359 Speaker 1: to be upset if I completely skipped her in the 574 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:02,560 Speaker 1: deal and she gets nothing? Because I guess I could 575 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 1: argue that well, I mean if if if God forbids, 576 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:08,679 Speaker 1: something happened to her and I get money, then I 577 00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 1: would want to be able to figure out I would 578 00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:11,719 Speaker 1: it would go to my kids if I had them, 579 00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:13,320 Speaker 1: But I'd want to I'd want to figure that out. 580 00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:15,600 Speaker 1: Or I might be offended that I was skipped because 581 00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 1: it's like, oh, what you think I'm gonna blow it? 582 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:19,720 Speaker 1: You know, I'm anna overthinker. I sit around and think 583 00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:21,919 Speaker 1: about this kind of stuff. But if somebody skipped me 584 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,160 Speaker 1: in their will and went right to somebody else, I'd 585 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,399 Speaker 1: be like, oh, so you you thought I was going 586 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:33,160 Speaker 1: to screw this up. Then I'll care with it, you know. Yeah, 587 00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 1: that's really and you're gonna be close with that little girl. 588 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:38,720 Speaker 1: So it's true. I feel bad. I already feel bad 589 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:40,520 Speaker 1: with that low girl because my sister had it bad enough. 590 00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:43,680 Speaker 1: No one's getting near that little girl, no one, no one. 591 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it's because of coronavirus, but it's really 592 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:52,439 Speaker 1: because no one. Oh no, m no mmmmmmmm, because I 593 00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:55,000 Speaker 1: was I was a little boy once and I know 594 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:56,879 Speaker 1: what it's like. And I won't let anyone near that 595 00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,800 Speaker 1: little kid. She'll never date ever. Oh, we're already talking 596 00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:03,840 Speaker 1: about her dating. Yeah. Yeah, Uncle friend's coming to town, 597 00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,240 Speaker 1: you know, in his wheelchair, sixty years old or whatever. 598 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:08,800 Speaker 1: I'll be chasing at the little boys in my in 599 00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:18,040 Speaker 1: my hover round whatever those things. I'm gonna catch it. 600 00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 1: Let's go, Yeah, money, I'm created the va. Let's come 601 00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:26,480 Speaker 1: back with you waiting by the phone. It's new night 602 00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:30,239 Speaker 1: show Little three to five Kiss FM, Chicago's number one 603 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,960 Speaker 1: hit music station. Good morning, It's The Fred's Show. Good morning. 604 00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:37,680 Speaker 1: Hi Lisa, how are you? Hey? How are you? Lisa? 605 00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 1: Let's talk about let's talk about what's going on with you. 606 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:44,600 Speaker 1: We call this stay or go um little rusty on stair, 607 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,000 Speaker 1: go here. But let's let's try it. You have been 608 00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:49,120 Speaker 1: seeing Matt for a year and a half, and that's 609 00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 1: where we begin, So fill us in. Okay, So I've 610 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,880 Speaker 1: been seeing this incredible guy for a year and a half. 611 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:58,520 Speaker 1: I love this guy. I mean, I never knew how 612 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:01,240 Speaker 1: good a relationship could be till I met Matt. How's 613 00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,320 Speaker 1: that like that? Like to never know how good it 614 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,320 Speaker 1: could be until it happens. What's that like? I wish 615 00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:11,400 Speaker 1: Matt would clone himself so everybody could have all everybody 616 00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:13,520 Speaker 1: could have a Matt. You know, Kayle could have a Matt. 617 00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:17,520 Speaker 1: Paulina could have a Matt. Jason could even have a 618 00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:21,239 Speaker 1: shot Well you know. Okay, so he's that good. So 619 00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:25,160 Speaker 1: so okay, why are we here? Okay? Listen. The other 620 00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,560 Speaker 1: day I was Marie condoing the heck out of my 621 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:32,959 Speaker 1: whole apartment. Bringing yourself joy is bringing suck joy, it's right. Yeah. 622 00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: And I found something that didn't spark joy. I found 623 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: an engagement ring and he had it in a box 624 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:43,160 Speaker 1: hidden in the bottom of his closet. And anybody else 625 00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 1: would be ecstatic about this, but you guys, I had 626 00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:51,840 Speaker 1: the worst first marriage, Like it ended really really badly, lying, cheating, 627 00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,640 Speaker 1: he stole money for me. It was a disaster, and 628 00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 1: it took me years of therapy to like be able 629 00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:02,440 Speaker 1: to trust again and and even want a new relationship. Now. 630 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,240 Speaker 1: I've been completely honest with Matt about this, that I 631 00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:07,920 Speaker 1: never wanted to get married again, and he always said 632 00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:10,160 Speaker 1: he was okay with it. Like we used to joke 633 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:13,000 Speaker 1: we were Goldie haunting her Russell. You know, Okay, so 634 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,080 Speaker 1: you and for those who don't get the reference, you 635 00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:17,800 Speaker 1: would just be together forever, be partnered, life partners, but 636 00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:20,840 Speaker 1: never get married and everything works great. Yeah, like it, 637 00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,720 Speaker 1: it's so good. And now it looks like he's going 638 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,480 Speaker 1: to propose, and I'm terrified because I don't want to 639 00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,600 Speaker 1: hurt him. But if I say no, I could lose 640 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:32,680 Speaker 1: the best guy in the world. What should I do? 641 00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:34,920 Speaker 1: If he's that good, then I guess what's the harm 642 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 1: in saying yes? I have a lot of thoughts here. 643 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:39,320 Speaker 1: I'm not sure which one I'm going with, but my 644 00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:42,160 Speaker 1: first thought is if if he's this amazing, then he's 645 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:45,720 Speaker 1: nothing like the old guy, So why punish him if 646 00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:47,760 Speaker 1: he feels that way about you? And it sounds like 647 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:50,320 Speaker 1: you kind of fundamentally feel that way about him, Then 648 00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:53,840 Speaker 1: what's the harm? You know, I just feel like things 649 00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 1: are so good. I don't want to rock the boat. 650 00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,960 Speaker 1: Like I just feel like, why can't we You know, 651 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,280 Speaker 1: we're committed. We're committed as any other married couple than 652 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,960 Speaker 1: I know, even more so, like I think we have 653 00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:08,080 Speaker 1: a better relationship than a lot of our married friends. 654 00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,680 Speaker 1: So I don't know why he feels the need to 655 00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:14,240 Speaker 1: do that when he knows that I had such a 656 00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:17,680 Speaker 1: bad experience. You know. Yeah, I also don't love that, 657 00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 1: Like he heard you out and you're like, this is 658 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:22,600 Speaker 1: not something I want, and then he just decided for 659 00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:24,560 Speaker 1: you that you didn't really mean that, you know, I 660 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,560 Speaker 1: mean you shared that with him and he said he 661 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,640 Speaker 1: was on board, and then he just went and bought 662 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:32,160 Speaker 1: a ring. I feel like that's minimizing, you know, he 663 00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,320 Speaker 1: didn't take you seriously. That's not great in a relationship. 664 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,240 Speaker 1: And to your point, Lisa, I do you see this 665 00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:40,080 Speaker 1: happen all the time. We've talked about it before where 666 00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:41,959 Speaker 1: and I think about it too as an unmarried guy, 667 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 1: never been married at this point in my life. You 668 00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:47,800 Speaker 1: see these people who they have this great relationship. They 669 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 1: then move in together, that seems to be going well, 670 00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:53,680 Speaker 1: that goes on for a while, they get engaged, they 671 00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,440 Speaker 1: get married, and then a couple of years later they're divorced, 672 00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 1: and you're like, wait a minute, everything seemed fine and 673 00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:03,800 Speaker 1: the balance of your relationship was mostly good before marriage. 674 00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:07,240 Speaker 1: Then you get married, nothing changed, and then it falls apart. 675 00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:09,640 Speaker 1: So there's there is some kind of a mental shift 676 00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,040 Speaker 1: that must happen with married people. That doesn't always work out, 677 00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:16,240 Speaker 1: you know, And sometimes it's blissful for people, and I'm 678 00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:20,880 Speaker 1: happy for them. But for me, my ex husband changed 679 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:24,239 Speaker 1: and I don't know why. I don't know, you know, 680 00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:27,600 Speaker 1: I still question it because prior to us getting married, 681 00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:32,200 Speaker 1: we seem so great too. So I'm just really scared 682 00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,160 Speaker 1: about it. And I wish he would have talked to 683 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,080 Speaker 1: me and not just bought the ring. I hear that, Lisa. 684 00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:41,280 Speaker 1: If he proposes to you and you say no, can 685 00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:43,240 Speaker 1: you recover from that? Do you think do you think 686 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,800 Speaker 1: that you can stay with him knowing that he didn't 687 00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 1: really listen to you, that he proposed to you anyway 688 00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:50,840 Speaker 1: you now have said no, Do you think that he 689 00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,640 Speaker 1: could be like, Okay, well, it was worth a shot, 690 00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,160 Speaker 1: and then we carry on into the sunset like everything's okay. 691 00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:58,360 Speaker 1: You know, I can stay. I have no problem with it. 692 00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 1: What I'm afraid about is if I were him and 693 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:05,760 Speaker 1: I can understand this, He's probably thinking everything. You know, 694 00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,120 Speaker 1: he didn't have a bad first Marye. She's probably thinking 695 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:12,160 Speaker 1: everything so great, why not? Why not do this? Like 696 00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:16,640 Speaker 1: to him, he's doing everything right. So it's a real disconnect, 697 00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:19,920 Speaker 1: and I'm really scared of losing him. Ruthie, how do 698 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,400 Speaker 1: you know that the ring is for you? Like it 699 00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:25,840 Speaker 1: wasn't an old ring like a second maybe he bought 700 00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 1: Maybe he bought the ring for an ex and then 701 00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,840 Speaker 1: it never happened. I'm bringing in another Lisa. I'm bringing 702 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,640 Speaker 1: it in. Lisa. You have the same point we got. 703 00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:37,080 Speaker 1: We got two Lisa's on the phone. What if the 704 00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:42,560 Speaker 1: ring is like left over? Yeah, well yeah girlfriend left over? 705 00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:51,320 Speaker 1: Yeah right, Lisa, I have merely on that. Wow. I 706 00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:54,640 Speaker 1: mean it could be I didn't say anything to him, 707 00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 1: so there could be an explanation. That was Lisa number one, 708 00:33:58,040 --> 00:33:59,600 Speaker 1: Lisa number two, so you think it might be a 709 00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:03,280 Speaker 1: less over ring. But then then then Lisa number two, 710 00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,640 Speaker 1: don't we have to ask the question why don't we 711 00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:10,120 Speaker 1: know about that? Like what I mean, I'm went through 712 00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,319 Speaker 1: THEO and I shuddered to even say that, but I'm 713 00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:22,879 Speaker 1: sometimes appreciate it the feeling. Yeah, I know, mad. I mean, 714 00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,280 Speaker 1: what was she doing? I don't understand that they lived together? 715 00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:27,480 Speaker 1: What was she doing going through the closet, Like, I 716 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:32,600 Speaker 1: don't why are you going through the closet? It's COVID. 717 00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:36,919 Speaker 1: I was marine condoing, like get rid of stuff? Lisa 718 00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:40,160 Speaker 1: number two, she was organizing. I mean, do they live together, 719 00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:46,880 Speaker 1: Lisa number one? You live together, right, Lisa number two? Yes? Okay, 720 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,080 Speaker 1: I mean like that part was kind of left out. 721 00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:51,080 Speaker 1: I don't know if he has time to carry on 722 00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:54,400 Speaker 1: with someone else that the rings a possibly before or 723 00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,440 Speaker 1: could this be like the Bobby Brady episode. They're not 724 00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:00,840 Speaker 1: my cigarettes? Like he's holding the ring. Oh for some 725 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:10,560 Speaker 1: interesting reference. Yeah, okay, all right, thank you, Lisa. Yeah yeah, 726 00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:13,200 Speaker 1: at least at number one back to you. Um So, 727 00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:15,400 Speaker 1: then I would have to ask the question, either, I 728 00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:17,600 Speaker 1: don't get the impression that it's a ring for another 729 00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:21,719 Speaker 1: woman now, but has would you be upset to find 730 00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,239 Speaker 1: out that he had wanted to propose to another woman 731 00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:26,920 Speaker 1: before you and you never knew that. You know what, 732 00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:31,120 Speaker 1: everybody's got a pass, you know what I mean at 733 00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:34,040 Speaker 1: this point in our lives, we've all had a lot 734 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,839 Speaker 1: of loves and I had a pass, So I would 735 00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:40,200 Speaker 1: rather The weird thing is, why would he be hanging 736 00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 1: on to it? This is confusing? Yeah, would you be upset, say, 737 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:45,960 Speaker 1: say the ring is for you? Would you be upset 738 00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:47,560 Speaker 1: if he just wants to put a ring on it 739 00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:50,759 Speaker 1: but there's no marriage or there's no official you know, 740 00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,600 Speaker 1: wedding or anything like that. That's a good point. Yeah, 741 00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,319 Speaker 1: I didn't think about that. That's a good point. Um. 742 00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:59,200 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I guess I have to just 743 00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,400 Speaker 1: bite the book and bring it up and say, I 744 00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 1: think you gotta get out ahead of it. I think 745 00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:04,480 Speaker 1: you gotta get out ahead of it. I think you 746 00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:06,400 Speaker 1: got to tell them you found it, that you didn't 747 00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:08,680 Speaker 1: mean to find it, but you found it, and get 748 00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:11,719 Speaker 1: an explanation. Because if that dude plans in a proposal 749 00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:14,560 Speaker 1: and gets on one knee and then you either say 750 00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:17,080 Speaker 1: yes then no later or you shut him down, that's 751 00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:20,440 Speaker 1: that's gonna be hard to recover from. And you especially, 752 00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:23,520 Speaker 1: and how are you gonna go on every day knowing 753 00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:27,400 Speaker 1: that there's this ring that you don't want? I know, yeah, okay, 754 00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,560 Speaker 1: this is this is tricky. Let's see what people think. 755 00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:31,120 Speaker 1: Have your radio one? A bunch of people want to 756 00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:32,719 Speaker 1: talk about it. So thank you, Lisa, good luck, have 757 00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,880 Speaker 1: a good day. Hey eight five five nine one one 758 00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:38,879 Speaker 1: three five. Generally a stay or go? You know? Does 759 00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:40,680 Speaker 1: she stay or go? Or what does? What does Lisa 760 00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,040 Speaker 1: do here? Because she's with this guy that she raves about, 761 00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:45,400 Speaker 1: but she doesn't want the ring she found? Is the 762 00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:48,680 Speaker 1: ring even for her? What do you do with this information? 763 00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:51,480 Speaker 1: Eight five, five five nine one one o three five 764 00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:55,359 Speaker 1: back in a second kiss trend show one h three 765 00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:58,839 Speaker 1: five kiss found. Good morning everybody, Hello, Amber, how are you? 766 00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,000 Speaker 1: How are you? Ambro? I want to recap great, thanks 767 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,279 Speaker 1: for asking. I want to recap here. Lisa goes on 768 00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:05,920 Speaker 1: and on about how great this guy is that she's 769 00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:07,960 Speaker 1: been dating for a year and a half, claims she 770 00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:11,480 Speaker 1: was organizing the house found a ring, but they had 771 00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:14,200 Speaker 1: discussed never getting married because of a bad first marriage 772 00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:15,400 Speaker 1: that she had, so they were just going to be 773 00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:18,920 Speaker 1: together forever and be happy. She finds this ring, doesn't 774 00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:22,000 Speaker 1: know what to do. What do you do? Amber? I 775 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:24,160 Speaker 1: see if he proposed to take the ring. What's the 776 00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:26,959 Speaker 1: worst thing that could happen? You just stay engaged forever. 777 00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:30,000 Speaker 1: You don't have to get married. What I'm saying, I 778 00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,359 Speaker 1: mean that's a good point. I mean, right, you never 779 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:33,960 Speaker 1: have to get married. She gets a ring out of 780 00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,920 Speaker 1: the deal he made me feels like he locked it 781 00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:39,839 Speaker 1: up in some way, or like made a commitment, or 782 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:42,359 Speaker 1: maybe he wants other people to know that she's off 783 00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:44,359 Speaker 1: the market. I don't. I don't know which is all 784 00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:47,000 Speaker 1: on him and it's not being sent to what she 785 00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:50,279 Speaker 1: asked for. I do think the PA sometimes when you're 786 00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:52,560 Speaker 1: in a relationship that mom the paper dog room thing. 787 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,880 Speaker 1: So just keep the ring. Yeah, you don't have to 788 00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:59,800 Speaker 1: follow through, all right, Amber, thank you, have a good day. 789 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,839 Speaker 1: It's better than saying no, like yeah, it's not on 790 00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:05,560 Speaker 1: one niece. She goes, no, she's got to get out 791 00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:07,200 Speaker 1: ahead of this man. She's got to ask you to 792 00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:10,080 Speaker 1: tell him. She has a cop to it. I found this. 793 00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:13,959 Speaker 1: What are we doing here? Angela High? Hey, good morning, guys, 794 00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,240 Speaker 1: how are you good morning? Glad you called? Thanks for listening. 795 00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:19,600 Speaker 1: What do you think? Sorry? I think she should stay honestly, 796 00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:21,839 Speaker 1: and I think that she should bring it up to him. 797 00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,880 Speaker 1: I think he just bought it because over time his 798 00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:28,080 Speaker 1: feelings grew so much. Because it sounds like it's going 799 00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:30,560 Speaker 1: so great that he just wants to put a stamp 800 00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:32,920 Speaker 1: on it. He just wants to put his mark on 801 00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:35,760 Speaker 1: it and tell everybody, I love this woman so much, 802 00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:38,640 Speaker 1: that her and I are so committed. You know, I 803 00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:40,840 Speaker 1: bought this piece of jewelry that means so much. But 804 00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:44,399 Speaker 1: there's no wedding. He took her feelings into consideration. He's 805 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:47,479 Speaker 1: not gonna make her have a wedding, but just put 806 00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,759 Speaker 1: a lock on it and say we're together forever. And 807 00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,880 Speaker 1: then just funny, I want to show it. Hearing you 808 00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:56,000 Speaker 1: describe this, Angela, it goes from being like sounding bad, 809 00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:58,399 Speaker 1: it's sounding good. You're like, he just wants to put 810 00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:00,720 Speaker 1: a mark on it because he loves he so much 811 00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:04,920 Speaker 1: and he wants everyone to know he wants to stamp it. 812 00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:12,239 Speaker 1: It's like bad good, that's ownership. Good again, Thank you, 813 00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:15,880 Speaker 1: Angela having a good day. You just hear people screaming. 814 00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:18,799 Speaker 1: He does know when you're oh that's sweet. Yeah again, No, 815 00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,760 Speaker 1: thank Kelly, Yes, hi, Kelly. What do you think sterego? 816 00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:27,320 Speaker 1: Good morning, Good morning, guys. I think she should stay. 817 00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:30,560 Speaker 1: I mean, don't punish him for something that you went through. 818 00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:32,359 Speaker 1: And he had a mirrorge before you, so I'm sure 819 00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:34,560 Speaker 1: he knows how to be a good man. Like, do 820 00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:36,879 Speaker 1: not punish this man for something that he did not 821 00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:40,200 Speaker 1: do to you. Yeah. But to Kaylin's point, she doesn't 822 00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:41,839 Speaker 1: want to get married, and why is there a ring? 823 00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:45,120 Speaker 1: Like shouldn't he be listening? I don't want to get married. 824 00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:47,719 Speaker 1: I'm sure when she said she didn't want to ring 825 00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:49,480 Speaker 1: that with the beginning. But this man is in love 826 00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:52,640 Speaker 1: with her now it is different. Why do you have 827 00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:56,279 Speaker 1: might be married to be in love? You absolutely don't 828 00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:58,160 Speaker 1: ask me married to be in love. But maybe he 829 00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:00,279 Speaker 1: wants to marry her and show her they he can't 830 00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:02,680 Speaker 1: be a good husband and she can have everything she's 831 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,120 Speaker 1: ever wanted. Oh, I've been down that road before where 832 00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:06,760 Speaker 1: you want to do all the stuff that the person 833 00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:08,640 Speaker 1: told you that they didn't like because they didn't have 834 00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:10,920 Speaker 1: it before, you know, And you're like, oh, but if 835 00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:14,919 Speaker 1: I do it right, they'll love it. I think he should. 836 00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:17,080 Speaker 1: I think she should say. I think he's a great guy. 837 00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:19,200 Speaker 1: Don't give him to somebody else, girl, thank that ring 838 00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:23,560 Speaker 1: and marry that man. Damn Kelly here Kelly Kelly. All right, Kelly, 839 00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,040 Speaker 1: have a good day. Thank you. Kelly. Got it all 840 00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:29,879 Speaker 1: figured out. Tank, what's up? Your name is, Big Tank? 841 00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:35,000 Speaker 1: How you doing? Oh? You know what? This is? Truch 842 00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:41,440 Speaker 1: tver Brad you know, yeah, yeah, let's hear truch ever 843 00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:44,439 Speaker 1: Brad spent a minute. Go ahead, truch everybody. First of all, 844 00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:50,680 Speaker 1: what the hell wom I Anniott? I've been going for 845 00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:53,600 Speaker 1: a little town. But I'll let me get some point here. Yeah, 846 00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,960 Speaker 1: there's plenty of here. Went through my mash stuff. Come on, 847 00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:05,440 Speaker 1: my dad Ring was in a safe true Listen to 848 00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:07,880 Speaker 1: the clue she gave y'all, Oh you should have you 849 00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:13,000 Speaker 1: should have Freddy Linn before the one woman is not 850 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,719 Speaker 1: gonna want a big work on a finger? Think about that. 851 00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:23,480 Speaker 1: What woman doesn't want to big? What a dream? And 852 00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:26,000 Speaker 1: I found out she found my ring. I'm like, hey, 853 00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:32,480 Speaker 1: you know that song about rid you? Thank you, thank you, 854 00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:35,720 Speaker 1: Big Tank, Big tank ak a truck driver, brat. Haven't 855 00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:37,759 Speaker 1: heard from him in a minute. Yeah it's been a while. 856 00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:40,800 Speaker 1: He hits you up to Phil Angie's split pace. You know. 857 00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:42,880 Speaker 1: It's it's interesting. We have not received a resume from 858 00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:50,279 Speaker 1: any for any um hike good morning. Hey, can you 859 00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:53,600 Speaker 1: follow that up with some sex place? Appreciate that what 860 00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,080 Speaker 1: I was gonna say, she should talk to him. The 861 00:41:56,239 --> 00:42:00,560 Speaker 1: most important thing in any relationship is communication. And I've 862 00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:02,720 Speaker 1: been with my husband twenty five years. It's not always 863 00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:05,680 Speaker 1: easy to have a stressful conversation, but that's what makes 864 00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:08,960 Speaker 1: your relationship become strong. And so you go so over 865 00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,560 Speaker 1: to you, Heather, you go to this dude and you go, hey, 866 00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:13,799 Speaker 1: look I found this ring. I didn't mean to find 867 00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,759 Speaker 1: this ring. What is what is this about? Because I 868 00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:18,640 Speaker 1: thought we talked about this, and you know, I just 869 00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:20,200 Speaker 1: I don't want to take this step. And then he 870 00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:23,800 Speaker 1: can explain absolutely, Yeah, no that, Like I said, the 871 00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:26,600 Speaker 1: most important thing is going to be you have to 872 00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:28,440 Speaker 1: get that off your chest. You have to say I 873 00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:30,040 Speaker 1: want to know what's up. I want to make sure 874 00:42:30,120 --> 00:42:34,239 Speaker 1: we're clearer together, because that's how a relationship will work. Yeah, 875 00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:41,400 Speaker 1: that's what I hear. But thank you, Hey, Brittany, Yeah, Britney, 876 00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:44,000 Speaker 1: what do you think stare go? So? I mean, I 877 00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:47,400 Speaker 1: think obviously she should have a conversation about it, and 878 00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,360 Speaker 1: I'm not really towards saying that she should go, but 879 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,120 Speaker 1: I do have one idea that it could possibly be 880 00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:56,600 Speaker 1: a fairly heirloom he's holding. I know, my boyfriend has 881 00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,719 Speaker 1: an heirloom too, that's true. That's a good point. It 882 00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,719 Speaker 1: could grandma's. He's just keeping it from memories. Yeah, yeah, 883 00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,640 Speaker 1: it's it's yeah, or even when he does suppose in 884 00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:08,399 Speaker 1: the future like a path down ring and very well 885 00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,239 Speaker 1: could be. So probably worth the conversation because you know, 886 00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:13,040 Speaker 1: that's weighing on her. It's weighing on her enough to 887 00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:16,480 Speaker 1: call a radio show, So this is going to affect 888 00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:19,080 Speaker 1: her day to day thinking why are you laughing. It's 889 00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:20,920 Speaker 1: just so funny to me that, like this woman is like, 890 00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:22,600 Speaker 1: I don't want to get married on it's like, oh, 891 00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:25,480 Speaker 1: stop it, yes you do. You know, like nobody's like, okay, 892 00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:27,719 Speaker 1: you know, it's just like everyone's trying to convince her 893 00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:29,520 Speaker 1: should get married. It's kind of funny that a lot 894 00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:33,480 Speaker 1: of people are saying that, Brittany, But Brittany's not saying that. 895 00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:35,520 Speaker 1: But no, I'm just saying in general, it's just like, 896 00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:38,320 Speaker 1: what about what she wants? I don't know. Thank you, Brittany, 897 00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:40,480 Speaker 1: have a good day. Yeah, I mean it is. It 898 00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,680 Speaker 1: is interesting. It's silly, like stop it, and it's funny, 899 00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:46,400 Speaker 1: like not one woman has called up here, well one 900 00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:48,560 Speaker 1: woman called him, said to communicate, right, but the rest 901 00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,279 Speaker 1: are like, no, take it, you're doing it. You're just 902 00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:53,279 Speaker 1: being silly that you could just put a ring on 903 00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:54,920 Speaker 1: it but not get mad. That's true. Like, what if 904 00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:56,520 Speaker 1: she doesn't want any of that? I don't I don't 905 00:43:56,520 --> 00:43:58,440 Speaker 1: know if she's saying she doesn't. I don't understand why 906 00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:02,040 Speaker 1: everyone doesn't quite why she get a choice? Um, hey, Marissa, 907 00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:06,040 Speaker 1: okay there Marissa, what do you think? Good morning? Good morning? 908 00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:08,719 Speaker 1: Well my first thought is is anyone thinking it maybe 909 00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:10,760 Speaker 1: a promise ring? Because I know I have a diamond 910 00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:13,120 Speaker 1: promise ring that my boyfriend gave me and we're not 911 00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:15,279 Speaker 1: engaged or not. Mary, it's just kind of a sign 912 00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,640 Speaker 1: of commitment, which it sounds like the two of them 913 00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,040 Speaker 1: wants together, and I know promise rings there's something that's 914 00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:22,359 Speaker 1: more popular these days. So maybe it's not even an 915 00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:24,920 Speaker 1: engagement ring at all. Maybe it's just a diamond promise ring. 916 00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:28,600 Speaker 1: Oh it could be, but again it's a Kaylin's point. 917 00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,360 Speaker 1: What if she doesn't want to ring at all? I 918 00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:35,720 Speaker 1: meant a diamond ring. Well, it's so wild. Who doesn't 919 00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:37,759 Speaker 1: want a diamond ring. You're a good point. You go, Okay, 920 00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:39,360 Speaker 1: what if what if she wears it on a on 921 00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,919 Speaker 1: a middle finger like a NFL players wear they're super 922 00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:43,759 Speaker 1: Bowl ring, but she wants to watch I don't know 923 00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:46,960 Speaker 1: wat Yeah, what if she would like a Rolex and 924 00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:49,880 Speaker 1: my diamonds? I mean, come on, good point, Marissa, Thank you, 925 00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,360 Speaker 1: have a great day. Thank you. Okay, finally we have 926 00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:57,399 Speaker 1: a dissenting opinion. Um Kenny, yes, Jenny, your thoughts. Let 927 00:44:57,400 --> 00:44:58,960 Speaker 1: me just recap quickly here. Then we got to go. 928 00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:02,320 Speaker 1: But um, lisaid, this woman who called us some sterego 929 00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:03,880 Speaker 1: is wrote this guy for a year an abage. She 930 00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,520 Speaker 1: thinks he's great, but they have this deal where she 931 00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:08,239 Speaker 1: had a bad first marriage and she just wants to 932 00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:11,360 Speaker 1: be with him forever, but no marriage, no rings or 933 00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:15,319 Speaker 1: proposals or whatever. And then she finds a ring going 934 00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:18,359 Speaker 1: through his stuff organizing whatever she was doing, and now's 935 00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,640 Speaker 1: just know what to do. Let me tell you, this 936 00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:24,200 Speaker 1: is going to ruin the entire relationship that happened to me. 937 00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:26,920 Speaker 1: And I was I just think that same thing. I 938 00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:28,839 Speaker 1: told the man I didn't want to get married ever. 939 00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:33,439 Speaker 1: He proposed anyways, and I accept it, but he said 940 00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:35,440 Speaker 1: it's kind of like a promised ring, but it was 941 00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:37,840 Speaker 1: definitely like a two carrot engagement ring. And then that 942 00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:40,960 Speaker 1: turned in two years later, would you accept the ring? 943 00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:43,160 Speaker 1: And I'm kind of a joke. Now my friend Deskol 944 00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:46,280 Speaker 1: was getting married, so it turned into a huge problem. 945 00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:49,440 Speaker 1: So he always had the intention of trying to convince 946 00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:51,880 Speaker 1: you to get married, even though he said when he 947 00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:54,040 Speaker 1: gave you the ring that it wasn't about that. He 948 00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:58,040 Speaker 1: tricked me. I was tonoletely tricked into taking this drink, 949 00:45:58,080 --> 00:45:59,759 Speaker 1: that it was some kind of more like a promise ring. 950 00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:01,960 Speaker 1: And then what did you do? Did you? Did you? 951 00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:03,799 Speaker 1: Did you keep the ring and dump him and hawk 952 00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,719 Speaker 1: it and go on a Hawaiian vacation or what what happens? No, 953 00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:09,800 Speaker 1: we're still engaged fifteen years later, and he brings it 954 00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:12,640 Speaker 1: up to me all the time. Oh my goodness, you're 955 00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:18,239 Speaker 1: still with this guy, yes, Oho said, it ruined the relationship. 956 00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:21,279 Speaker 1: That is not good though. It is like every time 957 00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:25,080 Speaker 1: come down to TV for fifteen years, I'm like Jane Days, 958 00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:27,719 Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is not the way I saw 959 00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:33,759 Speaker 1: this story ending. Half ones. If you need help, don't 960 00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:37,120 Speaker 1: take the ring under any kind of following. This is 961 00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:42,080 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, our our premise rings for middle schoolers too, Like, 962 00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:46,480 Speaker 1: why are we prising that was tricked? I was tricked. 963 00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:49,680 Speaker 1: You're in a relationship for fifteen years for the guy, 964 00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:51,760 Speaker 1: and now you're talking on the radio about how you're tricked. 965 00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:55,600 Speaker 1: Why don't you just bail because he's such a good guy. Yeah, 966 00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:59,600 Speaker 1: oh he put that stamp on it. Oh my god, 967 00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,920 Speaker 1: ye go drinking, j There's a lot that we'd like 968 00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:05,000 Speaker 1: to hear more. I need more. I have a good day, Jenny. 969 00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:09,720 Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you go. Thank you. He's a doctor. 970 00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:17,680 Speaker 1: He tricked me. That a great guy. I know you. 971 00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:21,320 Speaker 1: Three five Kiss FM, Chicago's number one in music station. 972 00:47:21,360 --> 00:47:23,200 Speaker 1: I want to know what everybody's watching right now eight 973 00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:25,799 Speaker 1: five five five nine one one three five. The reason 974 00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:28,440 Speaker 1: being because I watched American Murder over the weekend. What 975 00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:31,160 Speaker 1: is it called American Murder? Some one of our listeners 976 00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:37,040 Speaker 1: tweeted about it. It's on Netflix. Uh, I mean American 977 00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:44,440 Speaker 1: Murder the Family next Door? I am oh, yeah, yeah, yes, 978 00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:47,520 Speaker 1: I was sick and this this disgusting story. I don't 979 00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:49,759 Speaker 1: understand this. You know, I watch a lot of uh 980 00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:51,799 Speaker 1: huh true crime. You guys know that I love day 981 00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:54,919 Speaker 1: line or whatever. I've actually spoken to the date line 982 00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,600 Speaker 1: people about this, Like I actually had a conversation at 983 00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:01,040 Speaker 1: Crime Con last year with Josh Makowitz Keith Morrison where 984 00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:05,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, why do people in like like, okay, 985 00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:08,359 Speaker 1: this dude. The premise here of this show. The guy 986 00:48:09,040 --> 00:48:12,879 Speaker 1: is married, they have two kids. He meets another woman 987 00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:15,600 Speaker 1: at work, younger, hotter or whatever, and not even who 988 00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:18,760 Speaker 1: knows she's hotter, and um the girl his wife's pregnant 989 00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:22,120 Speaker 1: with a third kid. He decides to murder his entire 990 00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:26,200 Speaker 1: family and then pretend they're missing. Yeah, and then so 991 00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:27,759 Speaker 1: all of this so that he can be with this 992 00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:30,600 Speaker 1: new girl. Oh my god, it's like, what, get a divorce? 993 00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:37,200 Speaker 1: I know, I think that's the only way. It's like, 994 00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:40,440 Speaker 1: get a divorce. Like you you think that if you 995 00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:43,400 Speaker 1: murder everybody, that somehow that they're all gonna be I 996 00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:45,839 Speaker 1: get the I get what you're thinking. They're all gonna 997 00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:49,439 Speaker 1: be gone. Maybe you get some Wow, if you're a cyclepath, yeah, 998 00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:51,560 Speaker 1: they're all they're all gonna be gone. Maybe you get 999 00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:54,239 Speaker 1: some insurance money and then off you go with no obligation. 1000 00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:56,759 Speaker 1: You're some sort of victim. And then you know you 1001 00:48:56,840 --> 00:48:59,200 Speaker 1: go off into the sunset with this other lady. But 1002 00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:01,600 Speaker 1: in the meantime he in lying to her too, so 1003 00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:04,200 Speaker 1: and she's the one who kind of outed him because 1004 00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:06,120 Speaker 1: you know, here they're gone and they don't know where 1005 00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:08,080 Speaker 1: the family is. And he's like, I don't know. And 1006 00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:11,200 Speaker 1: he busted like a ring camera, like a doorbell surveillance 1007 00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:14,320 Speaker 1: or something like that. Um, yeah, well he backs his 1008 00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:16,960 Speaker 1: truck up to his garage and his neighbors. That's the 1009 00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:19,279 Speaker 1: other thing you got to think about all this stuff. Now, 1010 00:49:19,400 --> 00:49:22,560 Speaker 1: this isn't like the nineties. Man, everybody's got a camera 1011 00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:26,480 Speaker 1: in their house, on their house. So you think you're 1012 00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:28,680 Speaker 1: getting away with something because your cameras are turned off. No, no, 1013 00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:31,320 Speaker 1: your neighbor watched you back your pickup truck up to 1014 00:49:31,400 --> 00:49:32,960 Speaker 1: the back of the thing and then throw something the 1015 00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:36,040 Speaker 1: back of the truck. But I don't know. He might 1016 00:49:36,120 --> 00:49:39,040 Speaker 1: have gotten away with it if this woman hadn't come forward, 1017 00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:40,600 Speaker 1: because they were like, are you having in a fairy? 1018 00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:43,239 Speaker 1: Says no. Then this woman comes forward, was like, oh, yeah, 1019 00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:45,160 Speaker 1: he's having an affair with me, And then the whole 1020 00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:48,560 Speaker 1: thing unravels because then there's motive, you know. Then it's 1021 00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:51,440 Speaker 1: like whoa well, you did this because because you're you 1022 00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:53,480 Speaker 1: want this other woman or whatever. Well, the other woman's 1023 00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:55,480 Speaker 1: not gonna watch you after your family gets I just 1024 00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,080 Speaker 1: don't understand. I don't get it. But it's it's an 1025 00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:01,160 Speaker 1: hour and a half that you u. It's pretty captivating 1026 00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:03,719 Speaker 1: and it's pretty sickening too. But you know this guy 1027 00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:07,080 Speaker 1: probably gets letters in prison from women trying to date him. 1028 00:50:07,320 --> 00:50:10,279 Speaker 1: You know all these guys do, Scott Peterson does, all 1029 00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:13,040 Speaker 1: these murderers, these terrible people, so bad. There's a whole 1030 00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:15,200 Speaker 1: show about that too, like women who write to men 1031 00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:16,920 Speaker 1: in jail or something. I'm trying to find the name 1032 00:50:16,920 --> 00:50:18,560 Speaker 1: of it. My nail girl told me about it. Well, 1033 00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:20,640 Speaker 1: then there's the show on we or whatever, other people 1034 00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:24,000 Speaker 1: who marry those peoples after lock up or whatever. It 1035 00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:25,359 Speaker 1: is a lot of those people they don't know each 1036 00:50:25,400 --> 00:50:29,759 Speaker 1: other ahead of time. They meet that way. It's got 1037 00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:32,719 Speaker 1: to be like a fetish or just something that you're into, right, oh, 1038 00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:36,399 Speaker 1: in jail. I don't know, bad real bad boy, I guess, 1039 00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:39,719 Speaker 1: but there's I won't give the story away. But it's 1040 00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:42,279 Speaker 1: even worse when you'll get even more angry when you 1041 00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:46,000 Speaker 1: watch it because how this guy tries to deflect. It's 1042 00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:49,080 Speaker 1: messed up. I'm very dark. Yeah, well I don't know. 1043 00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:56,880 Speaker 1: I know. Yeah, well started, Yeah I did well. I 1044 00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:58,520 Speaker 1: started a long time ago and then I kind of 1045 00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:00,360 Speaker 1: fell off. And so where are you in it? I 1046 00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:02,760 Speaker 1: think I'm on like the seventh episode the first season. 1047 00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:05,520 Speaker 1: It's good. I'm gonna started this week. Okay, but you 1048 00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:07,880 Speaker 1: gotta keep going because it gets in my opinion, it 1049 00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:11,000 Speaker 1: gets really good. Like season three on Well, I feel 1050 00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:13,919 Speaker 1: like I have to won every single emmy. Season six 1051 00:51:14,239 --> 00:51:16,600 Speaker 1: just dropped on Netflix. Yeah, watch the whole thing so 1052 00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:18,000 Speaker 1: you won't do what I do, which is watch the 1053 00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:20,319 Speaker 1: end of season five thinking that was the last episode. God, 1054 00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:24,200 Speaker 1: like what that other thing ends? Um? Also, I gotta 1055 00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:26,479 Speaker 1: watch an episode came out last night on HBO Max 1056 00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:31,799 Speaker 1: of of that Nexium. Yeah, that's week by week. Yeah, 1057 00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:33,759 Speaker 1: I know. I hate when they do that. Put the 1058 00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:37,440 Speaker 1: whole thing out so I can ruin a weekend. Um, 1059 00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:40,480 Speaker 1: what are you guys watching? I just finished watching Kingdom. 1060 00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:43,240 Speaker 1: I told you about this. It was on It's on Netflix. 1061 00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:47,120 Speaker 1: It was on Audience TV. It got canceled. It's on Netflix. 1062 00:51:47,200 --> 00:51:51,600 Speaker 1: It's like Mma meets Sopranos meets like Sons of anarchy. 1063 00:51:51,640 --> 00:51:53,799 Speaker 1: It's like sex, drugs and MMA. It's it's a really 1064 00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:55,719 Speaker 1: good show. It's the show that Nick Jonas was on. 1065 00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:58,680 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, it's only three seasons. It's great. Frank 1066 00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:01,839 Speaker 1: Grillo's on there. Um, yeah, it's it's a really good show, 1067 00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:05,879 Speaker 1: really good drama. Yeah. The problem is, like, now I'm 1068 00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:07,719 Speaker 1: really looking for stuff because usually when I'm in the 1069 00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:10,560 Speaker 1: middle of something, then people start recommending other stuff and 1070 00:52:10,600 --> 00:52:12,560 Speaker 1: I forget about it. I don't watch it. And then 1071 00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:16,920 Speaker 1: of course there's a what is that best show I've 1072 00:52:16,960 --> 00:52:20,160 Speaker 1: seen it? Maybe ever? It's with Sendaya. It's it's about 1073 00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:22,719 Speaker 1: like messed up high school kids. But it's so good, 1074 00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:26,640 Speaker 1: it's so unique. The soundtrack is amazing, very different. You'll 1075 00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:29,360 Speaker 1: blow through it. It's just one season. Okay, you have 1076 00:52:29,560 --> 00:52:33,040 Speaker 1: to What do you mean what you just asked? No, 1077 00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:37,520 Speaker 1: I know, I was watching Cobra Kai. I'm not that's 1078 00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:41,359 Speaker 1: really funny. Laugh. Yeah, I'm not gonna watch that. I'm 1079 00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:45,560 Speaker 1: not doing it. No, I'm either that's the thing that 1080 00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:48,360 Speaker 1: happened that Cobra Kai. What do you mean? You know watching? 1081 00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:52,600 Speaker 1: What do you mean? But everybody, Well, if you like 1082 00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:55,480 Speaker 1: the crime stuff, then you'll be It's hard to say 1083 00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:58,440 Speaker 1: you'll like this because it's a tragedy. But um, but 1084 00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:02,239 Speaker 1: it's one episode. It's just as it's one No, it's 1085 00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:03,759 Speaker 1: one thing. I don't know if the I don't have 1086 00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:06,800 Speaker 1: American Murder itself is a series, I don't I don't know. 1087 00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:10,279 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Um. That being said, if you don't want 1088 00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:12,080 Speaker 1: to watch anything, and you don't want to do anything 1089 00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:13,719 Speaker 1: in your life, you just want to sit and do nothing, 1090 00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:16,320 Speaker 1: that actually is a is a thing that apparently is 1091 00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:20,560 Speaker 1: of great value. Um. There's a Dutch magazine that featured 1092 00:53:20,600 --> 00:53:22,279 Speaker 1: the art of I'm sure I'm not saying it right, 1093 00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:27,120 Speaker 1: Nixon and KCN or doing nothing. The art of doing 1094 00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:31,719 Speaker 1: nothing is called Nixon. Um, so the concept of doing 1095 00:53:31,840 --> 00:53:35,640 Speaker 1: nothing seems hugely appealing. This is a person's person's first 1096 00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:39,800 Speaker 1: person sort of an account of doing this. Um, whenever 1097 00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,279 Speaker 1: I allowed myself to sit down, my house started talking 1098 00:53:42,320 --> 00:53:45,000 Speaker 1: to me, do this, do that. The laundry would whisper 1099 00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:48,000 Speaker 1: in an unsexy way. She says, scrub the kitchen, YadA, YadA, YadA. 1100 00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:50,839 Speaker 1: Because it's true, especially if you have a family. I'm 1101 00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:53,759 Speaker 1: sure you sit and you mean the idea of doing 1102 00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:56,680 Speaker 1: nothing probably makes you feel guilty and that's what she's saying. 1103 00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:59,920 Speaker 1: Between my children, our home husband, long hours of work, 1104 00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:04,720 Speaker 1: YadA YadA. So she read this article about the idea 1105 00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:12,160 Speaker 1: of doing nothing. So yeah, there's the actual thing, as 1106 00:54:12,239 --> 00:54:15,200 Speaker 1: regular as clockwork. The Netherlands takes top spot on the 1107 00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:19,440 Speaker 1: World's Happiness Index, and they believe in the idea of 1108 00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:24,799 Speaker 1: practicing doing nothing. The Dutch nix means In Dutch, nix 1109 00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:28,759 Speaker 1: means nothing. It's just a small step from an ik s, 1110 00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:30,840 Speaker 1: which is a noun, to nix in, which is a 1111 00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:35,880 Speaker 1: verb which means nothing. In precise definitions vary even from 1112 00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:38,560 Speaker 1: the Dutch, but doing something without a purpose, such as 1113 00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,719 Speaker 1: staring out a window, sums it up. One expert that 1114 00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:44,359 Speaker 1: she spoke to for the book said a Sunday morning 1115 00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:46,239 Speaker 1: kind of feeling. Another said that it was being with 1116 00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:49,680 Speaker 1: one's own thoughts without judgment, or simply sitting and soaking 1117 00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:53,120 Speaker 1: up the sunlight. In practice, it's lying on the sofa daydreaming, 1118 00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:57,160 Speaker 1: or idly ambling back and forth from the shops, letting 1119 00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:59,880 Speaker 1: your mind wander in a supermarket queue, or sitting with 1120 00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:02,360 Speaker 1: a cat on your lap, gazing as you sit on 1121 00:55:02,440 --> 00:55:05,480 Speaker 1: the bus. Whatever, it's doing nothing. Do you think you 1122 00:55:05,520 --> 00:55:07,759 Speaker 1: could do it. My problem with doing nothing is that 1123 00:55:07,880 --> 00:55:11,440 Speaker 1: my brain starts to work. Ye spin, and even if 1124 00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:12,960 Speaker 1: I don't have anything to do, like I don't have 1125 00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:15,640 Speaker 1: to feed a child or something, I still feel like 1126 00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:19,680 Speaker 1: I'm thinking about It's the reason I can't meditate because 1127 00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:22,279 Speaker 1: I just sit there and then Okay, I'm going to 1128 00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:24,520 Speaker 1: focus on whatever this person saying, on whatever app and 1129 00:55:24,600 --> 00:55:26,799 Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, I started thinking about, Oh 1130 00:55:26,880 --> 00:55:30,239 Speaker 1: my god, I've gratulate that Bill or I gotta do 1131 00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:32,440 Speaker 1: this thing for the show or whatever. I can't do it. 1132 00:55:32,840 --> 00:55:34,560 Speaker 1: So I feel like it's it wanted to be more 1133 00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:37,799 Speaker 1: work to focus on nothing than just to do the thing. 1134 00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:39,960 Speaker 1: It is work to meditate, that's for sure. And then 1135 00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:41,440 Speaker 1: you start thinking about like what you did in like 1136 00:55:41,760 --> 00:55:43,719 Speaker 1: October of two thousand and eleven or something, and that's 1137 00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:46,520 Speaker 1: when it really gets crazy. That's why I can't sleep sometimes. 1138 00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:50,280 Speaker 1: I'm always thinking about October two thousand eleven. Can you meditate? 1139 00:55:50,480 --> 00:55:52,239 Speaker 1: Because you and I know, Shelley, you and I have 1140 00:55:52,360 --> 00:55:57,880 Speaker 1: like similar sensability of neuroticism. Yeah, I actually I can meditate. 1141 00:55:57,920 --> 00:56:01,560 Speaker 1: I've gotten better. I've still gotten better doing nothing. I 1142 00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:04,720 Speaker 1: would say I've tried to really just like yeah, Nixon 1143 00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:08,200 Speaker 1: during this quarantine, because social media, I feel like makes 1144 00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:09,800 Speaker 1: it really hard because when you're just sort of in 1145 00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:11,279 Speaker 1: that place of doing nothing, like, oh, let me check 1146 00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:14,680 Speaker 1: the Instagram, you know, can I watch TV and Nixon 1147 00:56:14,840 --> 00:56:17,920 Speaker 1: or I think that's doing something? Oh I think Nixon 1148 00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:21,279 Speaker 1: has to be just light there no stimulus. Yeah, that's 1149 00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,560 Speaker 1: taking a lot of walks. And just like in my thoughts, 1150 00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:26,080 Speaker 1: is that nothing? That's nothing? I think that's the same. 1151 00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:28,120 Speaker 1: That's the thing. Yeah, it's nothing. Yeah, No, it's the thing. 1152 00:56:28,200 --> 00:56:29,719 Speaker 1: Could you do it? I mean you can do it 1153 00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:32,960 Speaker 1: because you're home and you got Ashland and he's not 1154 00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:35,160 Speaker 1: gonna let you do nothing. Yeah. Can't you tell the 1155 00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:38,440 Speaker 1: kid I'm doing mimicon by now? Do you do? Nixon? 1156 00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:49,080 Speaker 1: Would let's go? Especially when you're yelling at like it's 1157 00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:54,439 Speaker 1: not gonna work. You never three five three five Kiss 1158 00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:56,799 Speaker 1: from Chicago's number one hit music station, The Fred Shows. 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Whether it's 1167 00:57:16,240 --> 00:57:18,160 Speaker 1: you or you want to nominate someone else who could 1168 00:57:18,240 --> 00:57:20,640 Speaker 1: use a little extra help for the holidays, then hit 1169 00:57:20,720 --> 00:57:23,240 Speaker 1: us up and we start granting wishes on December seventh, 1170 00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:28,360 Speaker 1: one three five KISSFM dot com Always good f The 1171 00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:36,320 Speaker 1: Fred Show is one kiss it feels good find um. 1172 00:57:36,600 --> 00:57:39,400 Speaker 1: A Pennsylvania mother has her five year old son and 1173 00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:43,120 Speaker 1: Amazon's Alexati thing for saving her life. Just one week before, 1174 00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:47,240 Speaker 1: Natalie Neil received a call from her grandson Tyrian, notifying 1175 00:57:47,360 --> 00:57:50,040 Speaker 1: her of a medical emergency. The grandmother said she decided 1176 00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:53,120 Speaker 1: to program Alexa so that Tyrian could call her whenever 1177 00:57:53,240 --> 00:57:55,200 Speaker 1: he wanted. Cut to a week and a half later, 1178 00:57:55,640 --> 00:57:57,680 Speaker 1: he was home alone with his mother, Jasmine, when she 1179 00:57:57,800 --> 00:58:01,439 Speaker 1: suffered one of the worst leptic seizures I can talk 1180 00:58:01,680 --> 00:58:04,640 Speaker 1: she's ever had once she realized. Once he realized that 1181 00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:08,240 Speaker 1: his mom was unconscious, he jumped into action and called 1182 00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:11,320 Speaker 1: his grandma. Neil explained that she's always dreaded those types 1183 00:58:11,320 --> 00:58:15,280 Speaker 1: of calls because her daughter has suffered with epilepsy. Her 1184 00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:19,080 Speaker 1: entire life. Though she was worried and nowhere near Jasmine, 1185 00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:21,920 Speaker 1: she had to remain calm to get holp. Tyrian, who 1186 00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:25,760 Speaker 1: admitted he was also scared, managed to remain calm opened 1187 00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:28,640 Speaker 1: the door for first responders. Neil says her daughter is 1188 00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:31,440 Speaker 1: now doing well and commended her grandson for saving his 1189 00:58:31,560 --> 00:58:35,080 Speaker 1: mother's life. The incident also inspired Tyrian to become either 1190 00:58:35,160 --> 00:58:37,320 Speaker 1: a police officer or a firefighter when he grows up, 1191 00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:41,520 Speaker 1: because he wants to see that's an amazing story. Yeah, 1192 00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:44,439 Speaker 1: so a guy named a Carlos. He and his wife 1193 00:58:44,480 --> 00:58:47,360 Speaker 1: loved pineapple on their pizza, which that doesn't feel good. 1194 00:58:47,400 --> 00:58:49,760 Speaker 1: I don't know what that's about. But the couple standing 1195 00:58:49,960 --> 00:58:53,640 Speaker 1: order from Papa John's and roy Utah is a pizza 1196 00:58:54,320 --> 00:58:56,800 Speaker 1: with pineapple on it, but it has to be delivered 1197 00:58:57,240 --> 00:59:01,000 Speaker 1: by their favorite delivery men whose name is Gerlin KNEWI 1198 00:59:02,320 --> 00:59:06,200 Speaker 1: eighty nine years old. I don't know how long he's 1199 00:59:06,240 --> 00:59:10,680 Speaker 1: been delivering pizzas. But this guy is incredible and people 1200 00:59:10,760 --> 00:59:13,560 Speaker 1: love him apparently. But as much as people love his charisma, 1201 00:59:14,680 --> 00:59:17,080 Speaker 1: people were concerned that an elderly man was still spending 1202 00:59:17,120 --> 00:59:18,959 Speaker 1: so many hours on the job. I guess they post 1203 00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:21,920 Speaker 1: videos of him on their TikTok seed. So with that 1204 00:59:22,000 --> 00:59:24,240 Speaker 1: in mind, they decided to reach out to the fans 1205 00:59:24,360 --> 00:59:26,560 Speaker 1: of the TikTok in hope of raising a little bit 1206 00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:29,640 Speaker 1: of money for this guy. Well collectively, as a community, 1207 00:59:29,680 --> 00:59:32,000 Speaker 1: they came together and were able to raise twelve thousand 1208 00:59:32,080 --> 00:59:36,920 Speaker 1: dollars for the guy. And he came over and they 1209 00:59:37,800 --> 00:59:41,439 Speaker 1: showed him that a TikTok video and he learned about 1210 00:59:41,480 --> 00:59:43,120 Speaker 1: TikTok for the first time. Here I have some audio 1211 00:59:43,200 --> 00:59:45,720 Speaker 1: from this gentleman eighty nine years old, the delivery man. 1212 00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:47,720 Speaker 1: He gets his twelve thousand dollars. Check here. Listen. We 1213 00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:51,800 Speaker 1: didn't even know what TikTok was. You communicate with each other, yes, 1214 00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:56,320 Speaker 1: through the telephone, but he knew twelve thousand dollars was. 1215 00:59:56,920 --> 01:00:04,240 Speaker 1: We couldn't believe. Thank you. He just cries alone and 1216 01:00:04,400 --> 01:00:08,000 Speaker 1: started delivering pizzas because he couldn't afford his bills on 1217 01:00:08,200 --> 01:00:14,880 Speaker 1: Social Security alone. So he got twelve thousand dollars thirty 1218 01:00:14,920 --> 01:00:18,479 Speaker 1: hours a week. Now, with this money from strangers, maybe 1219 01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:20,919 Speaker 1: he won't have to work so hard. Like I don't 1220 01:00:20,960 --> 01:00:24,200 Speaker 1: know what to say, but except thank you, it's a 1221 01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:28,840 Speaker 1: delivering he never expected better. I love I love old table. 1222 01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,040 Speaker 1: I love old table. I love this guy. I love 1223 01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:32,800 Speaker 1: everybody who gave you the money, and you gotta figure 1224 01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:35,440 Speaker 1: now hopefully probably even more donations of coming for the 1225 01:00:35,520 --> 01:00:38,720 Speaker 1: guy because he's so cute. But yes, eighty nine years 1226 01:00:38,720 --> 01:00:42,280 Speaker 1: old pizza delivery man for Papa John's roy Utah Durlan 1227 01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:46,480 Speaker 1: Nui is his name, and now he's famous on the TikTok. 1228 01:00:46,560 --> 01:00:49,360 Speaker 1: He didn't know what it was you communicate those a telephone. 1229 01:00:49,920 --> 01:00:57,160 Speaker 1: He didn't even know what Fred show the money fly 1230 01:00:57,280 --> 01:01:00,120 Speaker 1: where you left waiting by the phone, like, Gwen, how 1231 01:01:00,160 --> 01:01:03,160 Speaker 1: are you good? Morning? Good? How are you Gwen? Doing great? 1232 01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:05,680 Speaker 1: Waiting by the phone? Um, let's hear what happened with 1233 01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:09,200 Speaker 1: this dude, Ryan? What's what's the deal? Oh? I mean, 1234 01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:14,000 Speaker 1: I don't know, that's the thing. Um. We met while 1235 01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:17,680 Speaker 1: I was I was I'm a server at a restaurant downtown. 1236 01:01:18,840 --> 01:01:21,760 Speaker 1: We met when I was serving him. We were like 1237 01:01:21,920 --> 01:01:25,000 Speaker 1: laughing the whole time. We hit it off, and then 1238 01:01:25,080 --> 01:01:28,440 Speaker 1: he asked me out. Oh. I was like, yeah, okay, 1239 01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:31,240 Speaker 1: that this is awesome, especially like you know, it's hard 1240 01:01:31,280 --> 01:01:33,640 Speaker 1: to meet people that you connect with these days, you know, 1241 01:01:33,960 --> 01:01:37,960 Speaker 1: right right? Oh, we went out for a drink and 1242 01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:42,000 Speaker 1: like it was also really fun, like we were laughing 1243 01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:45,560 Speaker 1: and everything was cool. And now I haven't heard from him. 1244 01:01:45,560 --> 01:01:48,040 Speaker 1: He's ghosting you. Yeah, okay, so he's at your table 1245 01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:50,520 Speaker 1: and you know, he sees you and he's like, hey, 1246 01:01:50,760 --> 01:01:52,520 Speaker 1: and does it did he leave his number on the 1247 01:01:52,560 --> 01:01:54,520 Speaker 1: receipt or did he just float out and ask you out? 1248 01:01:54,640 --> 01:01:57,120 Speaker 1: Or it's like actually straight like he straight up asked 1249 01:01:57,120 --> 01:02:00,360 Speaker 1: me out because we were just like getting along. So well, okay, 1250 01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:02,320 Speaker 1: all right, and how did you feel about the date? 1251 01:02:02,400 --> 01:02:04,200 Speaker 1: I mean, did you did you continue to get along? Well? 1252 01:02:04,240 --> 01:02:06,640 Speaker 1: Did you feel the same connection on the date? Yeah? Yeah, 1253 01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:11,360 Speaker 1: we were having fun, laughing, I think everything. I was 1254 01:02:11,440 --> 01:02:14,560 Speaker 1: excited about it. Okay, all right, Um, so let's call 1255 01:02:14,640 --> 01:02:16,640 Speaker 1: this guy. You'll be on the phone. We'll ask some questions. 1256 01:02:16,680 --> 01:02:18,640 Speaker 1: Don't say anything right at first, but hopefully we can 1257 01:02:18,680 --> 01:02:20,880 Speaker 1: straighten this out, figure out what's going on, and set 1258 01:02:20,920 --> 01:02:24,080 Speaker 1: you guys up on another date and pay for it. Okay, okay, 1259 01:02:24,760 --> 01:02:26,400 Speaker 1: can I have you hang on for a second. Sure 1260 01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:28,400 Speaker 1: you have got to hear what happens next? Part two 1261 01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:31,320 Speaker 1: of waiting by the phone. After this song Fred Show 1262 01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:36,200 Speaker 1: one three five one three five Kiss FM, Chicago's number 1263 01:02:36,240 --> 01:02:39,320 Speaker 1: one hit music station. Good morning against the Fred Show. Hey, Gwen, 1264 01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:42,240 Speaker 1: welcome back. Let's call this guy Ryan, Um. Just to 1265 01:02:42,360 --> 01:02:44,840 Speaker 1: recap here. You are a server at a restaurant. You 1266 01:02:44,960 --> 01:02:47,640 Speaker 1: met him, He asked you out at the table, and 1267 01:02:47,960 --> 01:02:49,400 Speaker 1: you were into that. You thought that was because I know, 1268 01:02:49,440 --> 01:02:51,080 Speaker 1: that's kind of annoying for some service, but you were 1269 01:02:51,160 --> 01:02:53,160 Speaker 1: into it. You you liked him, You went on a date. 1270 01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:56,280 Speaker 1: You thought the chemistry was good. Except he has not 1271 01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:59,240 Speaker 1: called you sence the date. You want to know why? Yeah, okay, 1272 01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:06,800 Speaker 1: all right, let's call him right now? Good luck? Oh 1273 01:03:07,560 --> 01:03:10,560 Speaker 1: hey is this Ryan? Yeah? Really? And good morning Fred 1274 01:03:10,760 --> 01:03:13,400 Speaker 1: from the morning radio show on Kiss FM and Chicago. 1275 01:03:13,640 --> 01:03:16,840 Speaker 1: Kalen's here too. How are you all right? How about you? Great? 1276 01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:18,600 Speaker 1: I have to tell you we are on the radio 1277 01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:20,320 Speaker 1: right now. I need your permission to continue with the call. 1278 01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:22,640 Speaker 1: Can we talk for a couple of minutes? That all right? Yeah, 1279 01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:25,240 Speaker 1: of course, perfect. I'll get ready to it. I don't 1280 01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:26,600 Speaker 1: want to waste too much of your time. We're calling 1281 01:03:26,640 --> 01:03:28,840 Speaker 1: on behalf of a woman named Gwen who says that 1282 01:03:28,920 --> 01:03:31,120 Speaker 1: you asked her out. She was a server and you 1283 01:03:31,200 --> 01:03:32,680 Speaker 1: asked her out. You guys went on a date. Do 1284 01:03:32,680 --> 01:03:35,720 Speaker 1: you remember this woman. Yeah, I do. It's always it's 1285 01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:38,600 Speaker 1: always like the inflection changes one way or another, like 1286 01:03:38,880 --> 01:03:42,040 Speaker 1: where this is added. So what happened? Because she describes 1287 01:03:42,080 --> 01:03:44,080 Speaker 1: to us, you know that you had a good interaction 1288 01:03:44,120 --> 01:03:45,760 Speaker 1: when you asked her out. She thought there was good 1289 01:03:45,840 --> 01:03:48,760 Speaker 1: chemistry on the date, and she's wondering why you're ghosting her, says, 1290 01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:51,560 Speaker 1: you haven't reached that at all since the date. Yeah. 1291 01:03:52,760 --> 01:03:56,000 Speaker 1: Also is gonna sound terrible, but I mean, I feel 1292 01:03:56,080 --> 01:03:59,240 Speaker 1: really bad because when I first saw her, I thought 1293 01:03:59,280 --> 01:04:02,280 Speaker 1: she was really cute when she had her mask on. 1294 01:04:02,920 --> 01:04:05,800 Speaker 1: Um and then you know, I saw her without the mask. 1295 01:04:06,320 --> 01:04:11,400 Speaker 1: Oh no you know? Oh no, so wait so she okay, 1296 01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:13,480 Speaker 1: so she's wearing a mask to serve you. You ask 1297 01:04:13,520 --> 01:04:15,160 Speaker 1: her out, you go on a date, you sit at 1298 01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:17,160 Speaker 1: the table. Now you're both at the table, and she 1299 01:04:17,240 --> 01:04:19,480 Speaker 1: takes her mask off, and she didn't look like you 1300 01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:24,400 Speaker 1: thought she was gonna look. Yeah, it was that drastically different. Yeah, 1301 01:04:25,480 --> 01:04:27,680 Speaker 1: it was really Let me, I forgot to mention that 1302 01:04:27,720 --> 01:04:29,680 Speaker 1: Gwenn is here. Let me bring Gwenn and Gwen um 1303 01:04:31,560 --> 01:04:35,520 Speaker 1: a very judgmental, a very mean what would you say? Yeah, wow, 1304 01:04:35,720 --> 01:04:37,640 Speaker 1: what do you think he recognized? What did he notice, 1305 01:04:37,680 --> 01:04:39,520 Speaker 1: I mean, is it I'm sure you're fine. What is 1306 01:04:39,560 --> 01:04:43,680 Speaker 1: it you look that different with a mask on? I mean, like, 1307 01:04:43,840 --> 01:04:46,880 Speaker 1: I'm just kind of like, lord right now, Like, first 1308 01:04:46,880 --> 01:04:51,520 Speaker 1: of all, how shallow are you because we you asked 1309 01:04:51,600 --> 01:04:54,040 Speaker 1: me out, because we had a genuine connection. So if 1310 01:04:54,080 --> 01:04:57,280 Speaker 1: it takes I don't even know. I honestly couldn't tell you. 1311 01:04:57,640 --> 01:05:00,600 Speaker 1: That's just like, that's so gross to this happening with 1312 01:05:00,720 --> 01:05:03,000 Speaker 1: guys that were hats. I've heard the guys who were 1313 01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:05,680 Speaker 1: hats and then they take the hat off for the aviators, 1314 01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:07,960 Speaker 1: Like you look really hot with those on sometimes. Oh 1315 01:05:08,040 --> 01:05:09,480 Speaker 1: and then they come off and then you like they 1316 01:05:09,520 --> 01:05:12,360 Speaker 1: got googly eyes or something like that. Yeah. Yeah, I 1317 01:05:12,440 --> 01:05:15,600 Speaker 1: mean that's not really my style. I actually care about 1318 01:05:15,680 --> 01:05:19,360 Speaker 1: somebody's personality and our connection. Yeah, it doesn't sound like 1319 01:05:19,440 --> 01:05:21,640 Speaker 1: he was as into the connection part of it, because 1320 01:05:21,680 --> 01:05:23,320 Speaker 1: if he were that, I think he wouldn't be talking 1321 01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:25,960 Speaker 1: about this. I mean, Ryan, it really doesn't. It's not 1322 01:05:26,440 --> 01:05:27,880 Speaker 1: and I know that you were being honest and you 1323 01:05:27,920 --> 01:05:30,640 Speaker 1: were answering our question, but it doesn't sound good, you know, 1324 01:05:31,160 --> 01:05:33,120 Speaker 1: to say that you you won't go out with someone 1325 01:05:33,120 --> 01:05:35,560 Speaker 1: again because it looks so much different with the mask. Yeah, 1326 01:05:35,800 --> 01:05:37,680 Speaker 1: I know it doesn't and I wouldn't have said it 1327 01:05:37,760 --> 01:05:41,400 Speaker 1: had I known that she was here. Well, okay, I 1328 01:05:41,480 --> 01:05:44,320 Speaker 1: mean there is that. Um okay, look, so I think 1329 01:05:44,600 --> 01:05:46,200 Speaker 1: I don't even thin get matters. I mean, even if 1330 01:05:46,240 --> 01:05:48,240 Speaker 1: you felt bad and you were like, maybe I misjudged 1331 01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:50,120 Speaker 1: and I'm I'm a jackass, I want to go out 1332 01:05:50,120 --> 01:05:51,720 Speaker 1: with her again, it doesn't sound like she was right. 1333 01:05:51,880 --> 01:05:55,200 Speaker 1: Yeah right, Oh oh my god, no, beautiful girl. Yeah, 1334 01:05:55,240 --> 01:05:58,040 Speaker 1: we haven't seen you, but we're Yeah, I am too, 1335 01:05:58,360 --> 01:06:00,960 Speaker 1: I am too, damn it. Yeah. Oh I'm not worried 1336 01:06:01,000 --> 01:06:05,720 Speaker 1: about that. Thank you. Yes, you shouldn't be, Um, Ryan, 1337 01:06:05,840 --> 01:06:07,440 Speaker 1: best of luck to you. I hope you know. I 1338 01:06:07,440 --> 01:06:09,360 Speaker 1: don't know, maybe some kind of see through mask comes 1339 01:06:09,400 --> 01:06:11,480 Speaker 1: out soon or something and then you can you know, 1340 01:06:11,600 --> 01:06:15,280 Speaker 1: never run into this, uh, this superficial judgmental problem again. Yeah. 1341 01:06:19,480 --> 01:06:22,960 Speaker 1: So one h three five is how you get a 1342 01:06:23,000 --> 01:06:24,800 Speaker 1: hold of us at the friend show? Have any of 1343 01:06:24,880 --> 01:06:29,320 Speaker 1: you guys Shelley's here, kle and Rufio Paulina. Jason Brown's 1344 01:06:29,320 --> 01:06:31,280 Speaker 1: on a conference call in the other room because he's 1345 01:06:31,320 --> 01:06:34,480 Speaker 1: the owner of Kiss FM and that requires many different duties. 1346 01:06:35,160 --> 01:06:39,360 Speaker 1: Have any of you ever voluntarily given a password, like 1347 01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:42,200 Speaker 1: email password or something. I'm not talking about Netflix, like 1348 01:06:42,680 --> 01:06:45,479 Speaker 1: some of you a secret or private thing to someone 1349 01:06:45,520 --> 01:06:49,960 Speaker 1: you're dating. Uh yeah, Shelley, you have you gave your 1350 01:06:50,000 --> 01:06:52,680 Speaker 1: email password to someone you're dating? Not my email? I 1351 01:06:52,800 --> 01:06:56,000 Speaker 1: think what was it? Uh? Like my phone password, I 1352 01:06:56,040 --> 01:06:58,200 Speaker 1: think is what it was? Does that count? Well? That's 1353 01:06:58,600 --> 01:07:00,800 Speaker 1: that's probably more revealing than just email, because you get 1354 01:07:00,880 --> 01:07:03,720 Speaker 1: so depending on what you have linked up today, you 1355 01:07:03,760 --> 01:07:06,760 Speaker 1: could get to anything. Yeah, okay, you Yeah, My X 1356 01:07:06,840 --> 01:07:08,920 Speaker 1: and I had each other's phone passwords just because like 1357 01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:10,720 Speaker 1: if his phone was closer and I needed to like 1358 01:07:10,840 --> 01:07:13,920 Speaker 1: google something. But honestly, I never abused it, and I 1359 01:07:14,000 --> 01:07:16,320 Speaker 1: don't think he ever did. There's I mean, there's nothing 1360 01:07:16,920 --> 01:07:19,480 Speaker 1: really defined, but I didn't. I didn't mind that. I 1361 01:07:19,520 --> 01:07:23,000 Speaker 1: didn't feel like he was going through it. You guys, Yeah, no, 1362 01:07:23,240 --> 01:07:25,120 Speaker 1: I mean just knows my phone password. Yeah. And you 1363 01:07:25,240 --> 01:07:28,520 Speaker 1: ever gone snooping on what on your wife's phone? You 1364 01:07:28,600 --> 01:07:30,360 Speaker 1: ever been like, you know what, let's see what Lee, 1365 01:07:30,480 --> 01:07:33,160 Speaker 1: let's see let me see pictures of myself in here? Right? Yeah, 1366 01:07:34,080 --> 01:07:36,000 Speaker 1: and my child, let's take it. Look. Do you guys 1367 01:07:36,040 --> 01:07:38,160 Speaker 1: ever you ever had it the other way around and 1368 01:07:38,240 --> 01:07:41,000 Speaker 1: found something that you didn't intend to find Yep, yeah, 1369 01:07:41,240 --> 01:07:43,240 Speaker 1: what happened, Pauline. That's why I'm not allowed to go 1370 01:07:43,320 --> 01:07:46,920 Speaker 1: to people's phones anymore. People's in generals, I mean like 1371 01:07:47,680 --> 01:07:49,960 Speaker 1: XS and guys that I have been like very serious with. 1372 01:07:50,240 --> 01:07:52,240 Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm not allowed to go through phones anymore. 1373 01:07:52,240 --> 01:07:54,640 Speaker 1: I hurt my own feelings doing that once I did. 1374 01:07:54,960 --> 01:07:56,760 Speaker 1: How did you would you found something that would didn't 1375 01:07:56,760 --> 01:07:58,640 Speaker 1: mean anything but you took it as something or yeah, 1376 01:07:58,720 --> 01:08:02,240 Speaker 1: like him texting girls just casually like it was nothing 1377 01:08:02,400 --> 01:08:04,720 Speaker 1: there that I should be alerted by. But at the 1378 01:08:04,800 --> 01:08:08,680 Speaker 1: same time, why I'm texting Ali about, you know, something 1379 01:08:08,720 --> 01:08:10,600 Speaker 1: about some party? Like why wasn't I invited? You know? 1380 01:08:10,720 --> 01:08:12,040 Speaker 1: So it's just like little things I make up in 1381 01:08:12,080 --> 01:08:15,200 Speaker 1: my head too. But I heard my own feelings before, yes, 1382 01:08:15,480 --> 01:08:17,559 Speaker 1: because I feel like I don't know that I would 1383 01:08:17,600 --> 01:08:19,160 Speaker 1: maybe a wife, but I don't know that. I'm never 1384 01:08:19,240 --> 01:08:22,719 Speaker 1: giving out my passwords because why like if we're married 1385 01:08:22,760 --> 01:08:24,360 Speaker 1: and we live together and we're doing all of that, 1386 01:08:24,479 --> 01:08:26,880 Speaker 1: Like why do you need that? Like if you married me, 1387 01:08:27,560 --> 01:08:30,000 Speaker 1: then you should trust and I should try. I don't, 1388 01:08:30,000 --> 01:08:32,240 Speaker 1: but I'm not asking for yours either, Like it's not 1389 01:08:32,320 --> 01:08:33,920 Speaker 1: like it's you know, one Way Street here, like it 1390 01:08:34,040 --> 01:08:36,879 Speaker 1: goes both ways. I think it matters how the exchange happens. 1391 01:08:36,960 --> 01:08:38,920 Speaker 1: Like I think if somebody's like, okay, now we need 1392 01:08:38,960 --> 01:08:41,800 Speaker 1: to both know each other's password, like that's weird. But 1393 01:08:41,960 --> 01:08:44,600 Speaker 1: if you're grabbing someone's phone, you know, your boyfriend or 1394 01:08:44,680 --> 01:08:47,120 Speaker 1: husband's phone, and saying hey can I like Google is 1395 01:08:47,160 --> 01:08:50,120 Speaker 1: really fast, then you put it, you know, you put 1396 01:08:50,160 --> 01:08:52,040 Speaker 1: the code in, And I feel like if it's casual 1397 01:08:52,160 --> 01:08:54,719 Speaker 1: like that, why does it matter. There's so many instances 1398 01:08:54,760 --> 01:08:56,400 Speaker 1: where like, you only have one phone and you need 1399 01:08:56,439 --> 01:08:59,720 Speaker 1: the pass code. Yeah, you know that won't give up 1400 01:09:00,200 --> 01:09:03,840 Speaker 1: not even your phone password to someone you're like to 1401 01:09:03,960 --> 01:09:06,439 Speaker 1: we're talking about was Shelley the phone password? Now you've 1402 01:09:06,479 --> 01:09:10,880 Speaker 1: got my email, probably all my social media and my well, 1403 01:09:10,880 --> 01:09:12,760 Speaker 1: I guess my bank is attached to like my face 1404 01:09:12,880 --> 01:09:14,600 Speaker 1: or whatever. She couldn't do that. But I trust that 1405 01:09:14,680 --> 01:09:16,080 Speaker 1: they won't go here your phone, Like, if they're a 1406 01:09:16,080 --> 01:09:17,920 Speaker 1: stable person, they don't need to go through your phone. 1407 01:09:18,080 --> 01:09:20,360 Speaker 1: I agree. I think you can argue both sides though, right, 1408 01:09:20,439 --> 01:09:23,160 Speaker 1: you could argue if you trust that they won't go 1409 01:09:23,280 --> 01:09:27,200 Speaker 1: through it versus and then slash, there's no reason to 1410 01:09:27,280 --> 01:09:28,760 Speaker 1: go through it, So why do you need it? There 1411 01:09:28,960 --> 01:09:32,960 Speaker 1: is usually reasons though, So even if you were married 1412 01:09:33,000 --> 01:09:35,519 Speaker 1: to somebody, if I were married, I would, oh, but 1413 01:09:35,800 --> 01:09:39,360 Speaker 1: like a good relate. But but there might still be 1414 01:09:39,520 --> 01:09:41,599 Speaker 1: an email somewhere that I don't give the password too. 1415 01:09:41,800 --> 01:09:44,160 Speaker 1: I don't think you need everything. No, I mean I 1416 01:09:44,240 --> 01:09:47,120 Speaker 1: think we have a right as humans to have, like 1417 01:09:47,360 --> 01:09:49,360 Speaker 1: to have privacy. And I would argue, and I've argued 1418 01:09:49,400 --> 01:09:51,640 Speaker 1: this before, if you think you have all the passwords, 1419 01:09:51,640 --> 01:09:54,160 Speaker 1: you don't. There's one you don't have because people have 1420 01:09:54,240 --> 01:09:56,479 Speaker 1: a need to keep something to themselves. But you can 1421 01:09:56,520 --> 01:09:59,240 Speaker 1: still have privacy if your partner has your phone password, 1422 01:09:59,280 --> 01:10:00,599 Speaker 1: if you trust that they're not going to go through 1423 01:10:00,680 --> 01:10:05,360 Speaker 1: your phone. Yeah, yeah, that's what trust is. I bring 1424 01:10:05,439 --> 01:10:07,120 Speaker 1: this up because and you sent me this. This is 1425 01:10:07,160 --> 01:10:10,439 Speaker 1: from express VPN, a virtual private network service. We all 1426 01:10:10,479 --> 01:10:12,320 Speaker 1: know the sharing s important in a relationship, but you 1427 01:10:12,400 --> 01:10:14,920 Speaker 1: may want to hold back on one area passwords. According 1428 01:10:14,960 --> 01:10:17,880 Speaker 1: to new research, forty percent of people regret sharing their 1429 01:10:17,880 --> 01:10:21,320 Speaker 1: passwords with their partner in their last relationship. Two thirds 1430 01:10:21,439 --> 01:10:28,880 Speaker 1: of those people change their passwords immediately after the relationship. Okay, 1431 01:10:28,920 --> 01:10:30,679 Speaker 1: I thought you mean, like once they looked at your email. 1432 01:10:34,280 --> 01:10:36,160 Speaker 1: Because I can argue both sides, right, like if it's 1433 01:10:36,160 --> 01:10:37,760 Speaker 1: if it's, well, I trust that you won't go through 1434 01:10:37,840 --> 01:10:40,840 Speaker 1: my stuff, then what do you need it for? If 1435 01:10:41,280 --> 01:10:43,280 Speaker 1: you know, then use your own stuff. And I don't 1436 01:10:43,320 --> 01:10:46,559 Speaker 1: need your stuff either, So we're even Vanessa, Hey, good morning, 1437 01:10:47,080 --> 01:10:48,960 Speaker 1: good morning. Love you guys. Hey, I love you too. 1438 01:10:49,040 --> 01:10:51,400 Speaker 1: So what's the deal you do? You have you given? 1439 01:10:51,479 --> 01:10:54,360 Speaker 1: Would you give your passwords to people? I actually have 1440 01:10:54,479 --> 01:10:57,839 Speaker 1: a story. My best friend shared her password with her boyfriend, 1441 01:10:58,280 --> 01:11:00,640 Speaker 1: and I had a sunst they were fit to have 1442 01:11:00,720 --> 01:11:02,800 Speaker 1: the time. I sent her an article, oh if you 1443 01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:05,960 Speaker 1: should break up with your boyfriend, and he found it 1444 01:11:06,200 --> 01:11:08,760 Speaker 1: and then she called me, dawling at me. Why would 1445 01:11:08,760 --> 01:11:10,400 Speaker 1: you send me something like that? And I was like, 1446 01:11:10,520 --> 01:11:13,280 Speaker 1: why would you share your password with your boyfriend? Yeah? Right? 1447 01:11:13,320 --> 01:11:15,800 Speaker 1: Because that's the other thing is if you're having conversations 1448 01:11:15,840 --> 01:11:18,120 Speaker 1: with people that I don't know the full context of 1449 01:11:18,800 --> 01:11:20,720 Speaker 1: and then I read part parts of it, then I'm 1450 01:11:20,720 --> 01:11:24,080 Speaker 1: gonna have it. Yeah, like that person, because there's no 1451 01:11:24,200 --> 01:11:26,560 Speaker 1: reason if you trust that person, there's no reason for 1452 01:11:26,640 --> 01:11:28,680 Speaker 1: that other person to go through your phone, right the 1453 01:11:28,760 --> 01:11:33,280 Speaker 1: text conversations? Yeah, friends, Come on, everyone knows who's just 1454 01:11:33,360 --> 01:11:35,680 Speaker 1: sitting next to them and you look over you know, 1455 01:11:35,880 --> 01:11:41,400 Speaker 1: you look while you're watching TV. Right, come on, now. 1456 01:11:41,560 --> 01:11:45,160 Speaker 1: I think the other thing is if somebody, if someone 1457 01:11:45,439 --> 01:11:48,160 Speaker 1: demanded that of me, then I wouldn't do it. That's 1458 01:11:48,240 --> 01:11:51,120 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But if I, if I volunteer it 1459 01:11:51,200 --> 01:11:54,000 Speaker 1: to you, that's different. But but if I don't give 1460 01:11:54,040 --> 01:11:55,639 Speaker 1: it to you, it doesn't mean I have something to hide. 1461 01:11:55,680 --> 01:11:58,000 Speaker 1: It means maybe I like to have my some some 1462 01:11:58,280 --> 01:12:03,120 Speaker 1: sumblance of privacy in my life. You should still have it, Vanessa, 1463 01:12:03,160 --> 01:12:05,760 Speaker 1: thank you, have a great day. Thank you, thanks for listening. 1464 01:12:05,800 --> 01:12:10,439 Speaker 1: Hey Loupe, Hey Loupe, good morning. Are you down to 1465 01:12:10,479 --> 01:12:13,479 Speaker 1: give your password out to people you're dating? I'll before 1466 01:12:13,479 --> 01:12:16,439 Speaker 1: I answer that question, I wanted to comment that you guys, 1467 01:12:16,560 --> 01:12:18,400 Speaker 1: I do this. Thank you. Don't get me wrong, but 1468 01:12:18,640 --> 01:12:24,840 Speaker 1: you rue. You guys have a nice fight an thank you. 1469 01:12:25,000 --> 01:12:27,320 Speaker 1: I know you guys. We're gonna talk about trying to 1470 01:12:27,360 --> 01:12:30,320 Speaker 1: get somebody else. No, even the way it is, thanky, 1471 01:12:31,000 --> 01:12:33,920 Speaker 1: it works, it works. Okay, good well, thank you. No, yeah, 1472 01:12:34,280 --> 01:12:37,760 Speaker 1: we uh, we're pleasantly surprised that we've been able to say, 1473 01:12:38,040 --> 01:12:41,000 Speaker 1: get the lights on it. No, it's really exciting. But Loupe, 1474 01:12:41,080 --> 01:12:43,680 Speaker 1: thank you, know. It feels good. It feels good to 1475 01:12:43,760 --> 01:12:45,880 Speaker 1: hear that um from people who've been listening for hiles. 1476 01:12:45,880 --> 01:12:47,880 Speaker 1: So thank you so much. Okay, so let's talking about 1477 01:12:47,920 --> 01:12:52,599 Speaker 1: your password. No, hell no, hell no, you're not giving 1478 01:12:52,600 --> 01:12:57,000 Speaker 1: it out. Why I'm fifty three years old. I lived 1479 01:12:57,040 --> 01:13:04,680 Speaker 1: a very shady light and no, no, no, none of 1480 01:13:04,720 --> 01:13:09,040 Speaker 1: your business. Don't want to no no, okay, So I 1481 01:13:09,120 --> 01:13:12,439 Speaker 1: would never ever, ever, ever, Are you still leading in 1482 01:13:12,479 --> 01:13:14,519 Speaker 1: shady life or is it just that you No, no, 1483 01:13:15,200 --> 01:13:19,040 Speaker 1: no no. I grew up, you know, so I'm responsible, 1484 01:13:19,160 --> 01:13:22,000 Speaker 1: don't But back in my twenties and thirties, I was 1485 01:13:22,080 --> 01:13:26,200 Speaker 1: a very bad boy and I went, hell, I would 1486 01:13:26,240 --> 01:13:31,840 Speaker 1: not let my wife my bachelor. Okay, okay, the memory 1487 01:13:32,439 --> 01:13:34,559 Speaker 1: I don't want to share with you. Just a general rule. 1488 01:13:34,720 --> 01:13:36,760 Speaker 1: Just you're not doing it. Is there still evidence of 1489 01:13:36,840 --> 01:13:42,439 Speaker 1: that though? Like, that's why I have a private laptop 1490 01:13:42,560 --> 01:13:50,560 Speaker 1: and it's it's ailetic. I did something I used to 1491 01:13:50,600 --> 01:13:54,120 Speaker 1: be a teach, the strip plup and before the digitally, 1492 01:13:55,320 --> 01:13:57,479 Speaker 1: I took some strippers to make stone. We had a 1493 01:13:57,560 --> 01:14:05,720 Speaker 1: great guy. He's like, I'm not gonna tell you I 1494 01:14:05,800 --> 01:14:08,040 Speaker 1: took some services in Mexico. Yeah, I don't want my 1495 01:14:08,120 --> 01:14:09,960 Speaker 1: wife to have my password because what she's gonna see 1496 01:14:12,560 --> 01:14:18,560 Speaker 1: Mexico trippers in Mexico. Howbody took the motoroid picture of me? 1497 01:14:18,760 --> 01:14:23,679 Speaker 1: And and uh what the h And then we're both 1498 01:14:23,800 --> 01:14:31,280 Speaker 1: making on on this donkey. Where do you go? Thank 1499 01:14:31,360 --> 01:14:38,000 Speaker 1: god this happened befo Additionally, but I'll find myself. Were 1500 01:14:38,040 --> 01:14:40,880 Speaker 1: you riding a donkey or like, how did the donkey 1501 01:14:40,960 --> 01:14:43,120 Speaker 1: get I don't know, I don't know what the donkey 1502 01:14:43,280 --> 01:14:47,840 Speaker 1: was doing. We were didn't hurt that poor donkey. We're 1503 01:14:47,840 --> 01:14:51,600 Speaker 1: in the Mexican rip and add a donkey there and 1504 01:14:51,840 --> 01:14:53,920 Speaker 1: he told me, I, dare you took the picture with me? 1505 01:14:54,160 --> 01:14:59,000 Speaker 1: I'm dunky. Yeah, sure, we gonna do it, make it okay? Okay? 1506 01:14:59,280 --> 01:15:02,360 Speaker 1: So yeah, so we finished up a bottle of so 1507 01:15:02,520 --> 01:15:04,960 Speaker 1: yeah I was. I was a freaky thing. So yeah, 1508 01:15:05,120 --> 01:15:08,120 Speaker 1: yeahs before you met your wife. You're good? Now, Yeah, 1509 01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:13,200 Speaker 1: that's true. That's no, no too. I mean, come on, 1510 01:15:13,520 --> 01:15:15,160 Speaker 1: I mean that's a great story. I'd be telling that 1511 01:15:15,479 --> 01:15:22,519 Speaker 1: every bo. I would you feel this a significant other? 1512 01:15:22,600 --> 01:15:27,760 Speaker 1: FRIDI password something If I'm married to a woman and 1513 01:15:27,840 --> 01:15:29,920 Speaker 1: I find a picture of her naked on a donkey 1514 01:15:30,000 --> 01:15:32,240 Speaker 1: and a strip club in Mexico. I will have some questions. 1515 01:15:32,520 --> 01:15:35,280 Speaker 1: There's no question about it. That's like first date material. 1516 01:15:35,360 --> 01:15:36,840 Speaker 1: That's all I want to talk about that on the 1517 01:15:36,880 --> 01:15:39,200 Speaker 1: first date. But Yo, you ever ride a donkey naked 1518 01:15:39,240 --> 01:15:44,080 Speaker 1: in Mexico? I did? You are a bad boy, Loupe. 1519 01:15:44,080 --> 01:15:46,000 Speaker 1: If that's what you're willing to talk about on the radio, that, 1520 01:15:46,080 --> 01:15:48,400 Speaker 1: I can't imagine what else is on that private laptop 1521 01:15:48,439 --> 01:15:51,160 Speaker 1: of yours. I am obsessed with you? Have you Have 1522 01:15:51,280 --> 01:15:55,000 Speaker 1: you ever heard an old woman queen? I have of 1523 01:15:55,160 --> 01:16:01,000 Speaker 1: what an old woman queen? Oh my god, I haven't. 1524 01:16:01,840 --> 01:16:04,960 Speaker 1: I gotta I gotta go. I don't know what. I'm 1525 01:16:04,960 --> 01:16:08,280 Speaker 1: not sure. We gotta go. Thank you, have a good day, Loupe. 1526 01:16:09,280 --> 01:16:11,640 Speaker 1: All right, you're yeah, okay? About WHOA? He's one of 1527 01:16:11,720 --> 01:16:14,920 Speaker 1: those guys. I think his wife wasn't listening. Yes, my wife, 1528 01:16:14,960 --> 01:16:17,080 Speaker 1: I don't want her to know. And then he tells us. 1529 01:16:17,120 --> 01:16:24,760 Speaker 1: It's like, okay, Jesus, I love that guy. God, his 1530 01:16:24,840 --> 01:16:28,240 Speaker 1: past was probably like naked donkey or something. I'm not 1531 01:16:28,280 --> 01:16:33,479 Speaker 1: going to talk about that. You know, I was naked 1532 01:16:33,520 --> 01:16:39,760 Speaker 1: on a donkey whatever? Okay, you know, I mean if 1533 01:16:39,760 --> 01:16:41,800 Speaker 1: it happened before he met the person he's married. To 1534 01:16:41,960 --> 01:16:44,000 Speaker 1: then it's not even bad like I thought it was 1535 01:16:44,080 --> 01:16:47,200 Speaker 1: like some kind of criminal. I oh, somebody tells me 1536 01:16:47,320 --> 01:16:50,160 Speaker 1: that's not where it is. But a night like that 1537 01:16:50,280 --> 01:16:54,040 Speaker 1: doesn't usually just end with the naked. Everybody knows that hangovers. 1538 01:16:54,600 --> 01:16:57,040 Speaker 1: The story of the Hangover right there the pictures at 1539 01:16:57,080 --> 01:17:03,599 Speaker 1: the end of the movie to Nish. Yeah, good lord, 1540 01:17:04,160 --> 01:17:06,879 Speaker 1: that's not why Sun going. He started with a critique 1541 01:17:06,920 --> 01:17:09,120 Speaker 1: on our program and then it yeah, which I will 1542 01:17:09,240 --> 01:17:12,840 Speaker 1: never tell my wife. Then I went to Mexico strippers. 1543 01:17:16,600 --> 01:17:19,599 Speaker 1: I got a lot of questions. There would be very 1544 01:17:19,680 --> 01:17:24,880 Speaker 1: uncomfortable for the girl. Yeah, uncomfortable. And that poor donkey 1545 01:17:25,000 --> 01:17:27,439 Speaker 1: by the way, in the old lady I don't want. Yeah, 1546 01:17:27,840 --> 01:17:30,880 Speaker 1: I don't know where that I had to hit the aboard. 1547 01:17:30,880 --> 01:17:34,360 Speaker 1: But I'm like, alright now, I'm not gonna let you 1548 01:17:34,439 --> 01:17:39,040 Speaker 1: talk anymore. Three five Kiss FM, Chicago's number one hit 1549 01:17:39,200 --> 01:17:41,760 Speaker 1: music station. It's the Fred's Show. Have you guys become 1550 01:17:41,840 --> 01:17:45,479 Speaker 1: experts at anything that you weren't experts at before? During 1551 01:17:45,520 --> 01:17:47,320 Speaker 1: the coronavirus. We may have to get back to this. 1552 01:17:47,560 --> 01:17:49,559 Speaker 1: We have more time, But a bunch of people are 1553 01:17:49,600 --> 01:17:55,160 Speaker 1: saying that they have become expert coffeemakers during the pandemic. 1554 01:17:55,720 --> 01:17:58,439 Speaker 1: They talked to two thousand people, and half said that 1555 01:17:58,520 --> 01:18:06,400 Speaker 1: they become a quarista quarantine barista at home barista. Two 1556 01:18:06,479 --> 01:18:08,640 Speaker 1: thirds of those at home coffee experts say they'll be 1557 01:18:08,720 --> 01:18:12,320 Speaker 1: brewing their own coffee once COVID restrictions end. A quarter 1558 01:18:12,439 --> 01:18:14,160 Speaker 1: people say they've used their tab at home to learn 1559 01:18:14,200 --> 01:18:17,320 Speaker 1: how to use an espresso machine. UM. One in five 1560 01:18:17,320 --> 01:18:20,479 Speaker 1: Americans are learning to make cold brew coffee, and other 1561 01:18:20,560 --> 01:18:23,599 Speaker 1: people are saying that they are trying out a traditional 1562 01:18:23,720 --> 01:18:27,000 Speaker 1: drip coffee machine. I guess that's because you know, people 1563 01:18:27,040 --> 01:18:29,320 Speaker 1: aren't obviously aren't willing to go out and get coffee, 1564 01:18:29,360 --> 01:18:30,840 Speaker 1: or they're not going to work and stopping on the 1565 01:18:30,880 --> 01:18:32,519 Speaker 1: way end or whatever, so they're learning how to make 1566 01:18:32,520 --> 01:18:34,040 Speaker 1: it themselves. Is there anything that you've learned to do 1567 01:18:34,160 --> 01:18:37,000 Speaker 1: that you didn't know how to do before reviewing? Nothing? No, 1568 01:18:37,600 --> 01:18:39,040 Speaker 1: I mean we're still coming to work. It's not like 1569 01:18:39,080 --> 01:18:42,679 Speaker 1: I'm at home. Yeah, I mean I've been cooking more. 1570 01:18:42,960 --> 01:18:47,040 Speaker 1: I guess, you know, on the grill, yeah, yeah, stuff 1571 01:18:47,040 --> 01:18:50,920 Speaker 1: in that chicken. Yeah, it's always tuna. You're cooking grilling 1572 01:18:50,960 --> 01:18:54,519 Speaker 1: to know you can make chicken, he grills corn. I 1573 01:18:54,640 --> 01:18:56,760 Speaker 1: like the tuna I really do like the healthy too. 1574 01:18:56,800 --> 01:19:00,519 Speaker 1: It's prett Yeah. Yeah, I don't want to rag, but 1575 01:19:00,720 --> 01:19:04,960 Speaker 1: I can really tip them back. These days, I'm into quarantine. 1576 01:19:05,040 --> 01:19:07,320 Speaker 1: I could like only medium drink. Yeah, but now you 1577 01:19:07,360 --> 01:19:09,800 Speaker 1: would say I start early and I could go all day, 1578 01:19:10,040 --> 01:19:12,639 Speaker 1: senior senior drinker. Would you would say like it? Yeah? 1579 01:19:12,720 --> 01:19:14,559 Speaker 1: So you were like at junior varsity and now you're 1580 01:19:14,560 --> 01:19:17,200 Speaker 1: at the varsity level. I would still get really bad hangovers, 1581 01:19:17,240 --> 01:19:19,080 Speaker 1: but now I you know, right after the coffee, I 1582 01:19:19,160 --> 01:19:21,320 Speaker 1: can start, and you know, I still get stuff done 1583 01:19:21,320 --> 01:19:25,000 Speaker 1: around the house. But so what's an average day of drinking? Klin? 1584 01:19:25,080 --> 01:19:28,439 Speaker 1: Then so you okay, you leave here, I don't know, 1585 01:19:28,800 --> 01:19:31,920 Speaker 1: levin noon and noon and walk whatever it is you leave, 1586 01:19:32,240 --> 01:19:36,679 Speaker 1: go home, Yes, then immediately walk in, put your stuff down, pop, 1587 01:19:37,040 --> 01:19:39,320 Speaker 1: you know something. I mean, I'm better about it now. 1588 01:19:39,400 --> 01:19:41,120 Speaker 1: But for a while, when we were going through that 1589 01:19:41,240 --> 01:19:44,960 Speaker 1: rough patch lockdown, yeah, oh yeah, I was drinking all 1590 01:19:45,040 --> 01:19:47,080 Speaker 1: the live long day and it would be wine. Would 1591 01:19:47,120 --> 01:19:48,400 Speaker 1: that be your go too? Would you go for the 1592 01:19:49,120 --> 01:19:51,559 Speaker 1: whiskey on a Wednesday? You know, I'm a whiskey drinker, 1593 01:19:51,600 --> 01:19:53,960 Speaker 1: but I just don't feel like it's right to start 1594 01:19:54,040 --> 01:19:56,160 Speaker 1: so early with the whiskey. So I had a beer phase, 1595 01:19:56,240 --> 01:19:59,120 Speaker 1: which was wild. I didn't think I could drink beer 1596 01:19:59,240 --> 01:20:01,360 Speaker 1: like that. And and I I was in a rose 1597 01:20:01,400 --> 01:20:04,200 Speaker 1: a phase. That's sure. Yea, Um, but yeah, I mean, 1598 01:20:04,240 --> 01:20:05,720 Speaker 1: I don't want to brag, but I'm pretty good at it. 1599 01:20:05,720 --> 01:20:07,559 Speaker 1: I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you. You've been 1600 01:20:07,600 --> 01:20:09,880 Speaker 1: aspiring for it for a while and you know, yeah, 1601 01:20:10,320 --> 01:20:13,519 Speaker 1: it really took you stepping up your effort. And um, yeah, well, 1602 01:20:13,520 --> 01:20:15,000 Speaker 1: how come they want to take any shots when we 1603 01:20:15,040 --> 01:20:17,639 Speaker 1: went out to party, They like two weeks ago? How 1604 01:20:17,920 --> 01:20:20,160 Speaker 1: m I gotta pace myself. You're supposed to be a 1605 01:20:20,200 --> 01:20:22,840 Speaker 1: pro now, that's that's a very good point, Rufio. Remember 1606 01:20:22,960 --> 01:20:24,880 Speaker 1: like on Monday, when none of you guys could remember 1607 01:20:24,960 --> 01:20:28,280 Speaker 1: anything that happened. Remember, and I remembered everything. No you didn't. 1608 01:20:28,320 --> 01:20:35,000 Speaker 1: You're like, oh I don't remember. Okay, Well but he's 1609 01:20:35,000 --> 01:20:40,599 Speaker 1: a professional, so we we. I'm not an idiot. Crapy 1610 01:20:40,640 --> 01:20:42,960 Speaker 1: next day, I drink one thing all night long. I 1611 01:20:43,479 --> 01:20:46,720 Speaker 1: am an idiot. Ye, yes, No, you were the one. 1612 01:20:46,800 --> 01:20:51,479 Speaker 1: You were like tequila for. I go to tequila for. 1613 01:20:51,600 --> 01:20:55,680 Speaker 1: Everyone's like, oh, I can't be doing that. Yeah, and 1614 01:20:55,760 --> 01:20:57,800 Speaker 1: you you didn't need to call me out like nobody 1615 01:20:57,840 --> 01:21:01,080 Speaker 1: else noticed, and he can because you're shoving another shot 1616 01:21:01,160 --> 01:21:02,880 Speaker 1: in my face and I'm of course I'm going to 1617 01:21:03,000 --> 01:21:05,120 Speaker 1: take it. It's either I pour it on the ground 1618 01:21:05,240 --> 01:21:07,080 Speaker 1: or give it to someone else. What would you rather mean, 1619 01:21:07,120 --> 01:21:09,920 Speaker 1: do I see, I see drink it? I'd rather you 1620 01:21:10,040 --> 01:21:13,840 Speaker 1: drink it like crap the next day. Yeah. So apparently 1621 01:21:15,640 --> 01:21:17,800 Speaker 1: when you're a like when you're a marathon runner like 1622 01:21:17,920 --> 01:21:21,080 Speaker 1: klin Is, when you're an alcohol marathon runner, then you 1623 01:21:21,160 --> 01:21:22,880 Speaker 1: pick up on these sorts of things. I mean, if 1624 01:21:22,880 --> 01:21:25,479 Speaker 1: you're gonna go to the dry, if you're going for endurance, 1625 01:21:25,680 --> 01:21:28,439 Speaker 1: I was, then you got to be strategic about it. Yeah, 1626 01:21:28,680 --> 01:21:30,719 Speaker 1: I was trying to you know. Oh, I didn't realize 1627 01:21:30,760 --> 01:21:33,000 Speaker 1: that was the plan. Well, I mean it's always the plan, 1628 01:21:33,160 --> 01:21:35,920 Speaker 1: isn't it. Yeah? Well, are you always trying to get some? Yeah? 1629 01:21:36,360 --> 01:21:41,040 Speaker 1: Who's trying to get some? Does it always happen? Noddy