WEBVTT - Second Date Update Classic: Shank to the Heart

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<v Speaker 1>Second date of date.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like to call people out, but I am

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<v Speaker 2>disappointed in each and every one of us.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like we go through this on a daily basis. Jeff,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if you say you don't like to

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<v Speaker 3>call it out.

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<v Speaker 4>More disappointed in us than usual today?

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<v Speaker 3>Becaukay, that's the difference.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like we're not doing a good job of

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<v Speaker 2>getting to know our listeners. Okay, we're just rushing right

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<v Speaker 2>into the details of the date.

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<v Speaker 3>Isn't that kind of what the segment? We just want

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<v Speaker 3>to know what's wrong with them?

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<v Speaker 5>Really?

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<v Speaker 2>But we need to be like getting to know them more,

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<v Speaker 2>not just going like, okay, we get it. You're a person.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell us where you went. Did you make out with

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<v Speaker 2>one lip or two? That's selfish of us, How do

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<v Speaker 2>you do with one?

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<v Speaker 6>All?

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<v Speaker 3>Right, let's go, what do you want to know?

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<v Speaker 2>I want to like, get a chance to really get

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<v Speaker 2>to know them so that we can really be on

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<v Speaker 2>their side, really be pulling for them and understand where

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<v Speaker 2>they're coming from.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, let's go, Yeah, we like that.

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<v Speaker 4>So let's try that out with Lance today.

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<v Speaker 2>Lance, in three seconds or less, give us a snapshot

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<v Speaker 2>of your life.

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<v Speaker 4>Going, give us wait, a minute.

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<v Speaker 5>I've divorced, I got no kids and I Okay, Lance.

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<v Speaker 4>We don't need to hear every single detail about your

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<v Speaker 4>entire existence. I think you wanted a snapshot.

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<v Speaker 3>I think he said, teacher. Have you interrupted him?

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<v Speaker 4>Jeff, I was on and I divorced?

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, that's all you call? That's not all that defines you.

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<v Speaker 5>Lance, No, I mean there's there's more than that.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just messing around with you, dude, So tell us more.

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<v Speaker 5>All right? Cool? So you did get the right thing.

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<v Speaker 5>I am divorced, all right.

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<v Speaker 6>Are you new to the dating scene then, or have

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<v Speaker 6>you been out there for a minute?

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<v Speaker 5>Have been out there for a minute, but you know,

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<v Speaker 5>it's been interesting, a lot of trial and error.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, I'm hearing mostly error from your voice.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I've been trying really hard not to get shanked.

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<v Speaker 5>Like online dating?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that a concern of me?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, you're meeting strangers online? I mean exactly, So where'd

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<v Speaker 4>you meet her?

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<v Speaker 5>I actually met her off of Instagram and her name

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<v Speaker 5>is Jessica.

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<v Speaker 6>Is she like a friend of a friend? Like, how

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<v Speaker 6>did you come across your profile?

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<v Speaker 5>I just kind of started looking and stuff in my area.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm an it guy. You know, I'm not gonna reveal

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<v Speaker 5>my secrets. Everybody would do it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So you're just trolling Instagram to find a hot.

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<v Speaker 5>Got in a creepy way.

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<v Speaker 2>That sounds very So my friends see people in dating

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<v Speaker 2>apps and just DM them instead of messaging them on

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<v Speaker 2>It's not any different than going to a bar like

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<v Speaker 2>with the intent of meeting someone, trolling the bar like trying.

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<v Speaker 4>To find someone.

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<v Speaker 5>Doing it in a nicer way.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you're just doing it online.

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<v Speaker 6>And if you don't want if you don't want people

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<v Speaker 6>to see, you'd select private on your account.

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<v Speaker 3>So Jessica's probably.

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<v Speaker 5>Open to this, right it seemed like she was. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>at least she didn't block me after I first messenger

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<v Speaker 5>big win.

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<v Speaker 3>What was that first message?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, it was like, hi, cutie buye. I love your energy.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm kind of new to the dating single.

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<v Speaker 4>W a ming golf is the cuti pie real cutie

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<v Speaker 4>pie thing.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well, I mean I don't want to come across

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<v Speaker 5>as like threatening, you know, like, hey, random guy out

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<v Speaker 5>of the blue. How you do it?

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<v Speaker 6>She responded, She liked it? Yeah, okay, how'd you turn

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<v Speaker 6>it into a date?

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<v Speaker 8>Well, I I just kind of told her that I

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<v Speaker 8>was looking for a little bit of fun and I

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<v Speaker 8>asked her if she'd like to go and get a

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<v Speaker 8>steak a steak.

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<v Speaker 3>Did she agree to that?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, she did, and we had a really good time.

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<v Speaker 5>We did a lot of talking. I got to know her.

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<v Speaker 5>She's into some pretty interesting stuff. She likes ice fishing.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I personally hate the cold, but you know,

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<v Speaker 5>each their own, okay, oh yeah, But I kind of

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<v Speaker 5>felt like halfway through it just you know when you're

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<v Speaker 5>talking to somebody and they just kind of start nodding

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<v Speaker 5>and trailing off a little bit.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Rick does that to me all the time in

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<v Speaker 4>the middle of the second.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I've lived through four years of that. That's

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<v Speaker 5>why i got divorced.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh you didn't say that, right.

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<v Speaker 5>But I kind of started getting the same feeling again.

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<v Speaker 5>Like halfley through, it just kind of turned into that.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, that's interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>Then, if that's how she treated you and you felt

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<v Speaker 2>like she lost interest, why are you still wanting to go.

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<v Speaker 4>Out with her?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I mean part of it is just the insecurity

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<v Speaker 5>of being divorced and getting back into the dating.

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<v Speaker 1>Scene, and initially over Instagram, it seemed like we had

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<v Speaker 1>a lot in common and we really connected, and even

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<v Speaker 1>at the start of the dat it was great. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and by the end, like I look, I was hoping

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<v Speaker 1>to get maybe a good bye kiss, but it just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of turned into one of those really awkward distant tugs.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah yeah, yeah, where your like upper body doesn't touch

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<v Speaker 6>but only your arms do.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah. She wasn't feeling it, and I just got that

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<v Speaker 5>huge sense of disconnect, and I'd kind of like to

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<v Speaker 5>know why.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I don't blame you, because if this keeps happening

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<v Speaker 6>with different women in your life, there're maybe one common

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<v Speaker 6>denominator here to find out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, were you calling her cutie patuity to her face

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<v Speaker 2>during the date?

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<v Speaker 7>No?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I mean.

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<v Speaker 5>That's like a third date thing, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, you don't move put out until.

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<v Speaker 4>Later, Yeah exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well, you know I think that that's good.

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<v Speaker 6>That's like good growth for you to figure out what's

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<v Speaker 6>going on and if if you did something wrong, and

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<v Speaker 6>if you didn't, then maybe you get another shot.

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<v Speaker 5>Maybe.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I just kind of kind of like to find out why.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, that's what our job is. Yeah, you guys ready

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<v Speaker 4>to work here.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like I know him so well.

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<v Speaker 6>Lance, my new best friend, let's help him out, but

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<v Speaker 6>that three seconds really changed my life.

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<v Speaker 4>The sarcasm.

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<v Speaker 3>I've tried to be enthusiastic.

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<v Speaker 4>No, we got it right.

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<v Speaker 2>So what we're gonna do is we're gonna come back.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll call Jessica from Instagram for you, and we'll try

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<v Speaker 2>and get you your second date update right after this.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, Lance, beautiful?

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you? All right? Man?

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<v Speaker 4>Hold on second date update.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like at this point we're closer to our listener,

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<v Speaker 2>Lance than we are to our own family relase.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, yeah, because in the.

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<v Speaker 2>Last break we learned he was divorced, he's on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 2>he likes Steak. Don't know what else there is to

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<v Speaker 2>find out about him?

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<v Speaker 4>Lance?

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<v Speaker 2>Is there anything else about you that we don't already know?

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<v Speaker 2>What more could we possibly learn? Isn't that all of

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<v Speaker 2>us in this room we like and have an Instagram.

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<v Speaker 3>Nobody's been divorced, but Lance yet?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, yeah, I do you can get her stuff?

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<v Speaker 5>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>Told us that I already knew you were in it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I guess we already do know every single thing

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<v Speaker 2>there is to know about you.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, well, no, wonder the date got boring real quick.

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<v Speaker 4>And then she soul.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but you did meet a woman named Jessica online,

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<v Speaker 2>took her out for dinner and noticed her energy change

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<v Speaker 2>during the date, where she seemed to lose interest as

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<v Speaker 2>the night went on.

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<v Speaker 4>And that doesn't feel good no matter who you are.

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<v Speaker 3>Totally and it reminded him of his ex wife, even.

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<v Speaker 4>Which we are not gonna take.

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<v Speaker 2>But he does want to know what happened, see if

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<v Speaker 2>he did any thing wrong, and hopefully get another date here.

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<v Speaker 4>So let's give her a call. What do you think, Lance, Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>let's do it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, we think you're very interesting, so let's go.

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<v Speaker 5>Thanks. And I would appreciate it if you guys didn't

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<v Speaker 5>mention the whole ex wife thing too.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, yes, we weren't going to do it, but

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<v Speaker 2>now you owe us for not doing it.

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<v Speaker 3>I kind of like it.

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<v Speaker 4>Stick with it, jeff we're holding one over on you.

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<v Speaker 4>But here we go. We're gonna call Jessica.

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<v Speaker 7>Let's hello, Hey, we're looking for Jessica.

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<v Speaker 9>This is Jessica.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey Jessica. Okay, sound a little nervous.

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<v Speaker 9>Who is this?

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<v Speaker 4>Good question? This is Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, and and that means.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we know it means.

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<v Speaker 6>We are the number one rated morning show for the moment.

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, you're on the radio right now.

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<v Speaker 9>Okay, and why you have.

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<v Speaker 2>All the good questions, Jessica, I appreciate that. But we're

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<v Speaker 2>doing a segment called a second Date Update. That's where

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<v Speaker 2>we try and help out our listeners. We're having a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of trouble setting up a second date, okay.

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<v Speaker 6>And I mean one of our listeners is basically our

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<v Speaker 6>friend that you went out with.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, he's like a bestie.

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<v Speaker 9>What can you tell me who we're talking about?

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<v Speaker 4>Are you sure? You just don't want to guess a

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<v Speaker 4>bunch of names until we tell you?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, she's laughing, Jessica, We're yeah, no.

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<v Speaker 4>I guess we'll just tell you. His name is Lance.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh it's funny.

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<v Speaker 4>You guys went to like a steak dinner.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah yeah, did you not?

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<v Speaker 6>Well?

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<v Speaker 9>I mean yeah, sure, I mean so yeah, yeah that happened.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>What did you think of him? He said that he

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<v Speaker 3>hit you up on DM on Instagram?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, you know, and that's I mean, it's hard not

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<v Speaker 9>to be flattered, especially when it's not a catfish situation

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<v Speaker 9>right like he was. He was a real person, and

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<v Speaker 9>I did a little you know, research homework exactly. Homework

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<v Speaker 9>is the right way to think of it, right, And

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<v Speaker 9>so I really thought it was kind of a neat

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<v Speaker 9>risk that he took to kind of slide into my

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<v Speaker 9>DMS and so and so he's expecting a bad boy

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<v Speaker 9>and you know, like a rich taker. Well, because that's

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<v Speaker 9>a bold thing to do, right, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Guess what you've got?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 9>No, he I mean he genuinely misrepresented himself, Like, oh really.

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<v Speaker 6>He told us that his opening line was cutie patuti

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<v Speaker 6>or cutie pile cutie?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that what it was?

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<v Speaker 9>It was all very I don't know, like fun until

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<v Speaker 9>we're hanging out at whatever steak dinner we're at and

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<v Speaker 9>he's like, well, it turns out that he's not married,

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<v Speaker 9>and I was bummed.

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<v Speaker 4>What what, Oh you got a divorce? I think she

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<v Speaker 4>just said that wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, so he mentioned to us that he was

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<v Speaker 2>divorced a couple of years ago.

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<v Speaker 4>Been trying to get back out to the dating, but

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<v Speaker 4>she's not involved at all.

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<v Speaker 9>Like, no, but I actually genuinely prefer to date married men.

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<v Speaker 3>What are you're joking?

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<v Speaker 5>What?

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<v Speaker 9>Don't actually shocked? I cannot be the person who's ever

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<v Speaker 9>said that to you.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, not a lot of listeners have come on

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<v Speaker 2>the show and said that.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, you say it was like pride almost.

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<v Speaker 9>Oh, absolutely, you refer to date married men. I'm not

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<v Speaker 9>looking for anything serious, and there is no better way

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<v Speaker 9>to guarantee that we are not going to get serious

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<v Speaker 9>if he's already married.

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<v Speaker 3>So there is plenty of people that will hook up

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<v Speaker 3>with you that aren't married.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, hold on a second, because I don't understand he

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<v Speaker 2>was divorced, he said, two years ago. How did you

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<v Speaker 2>not realize he was divorced?

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<v Speaker 4>Why do you think he was married?

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<v Speaker 9>Because when I was doing my homework, his Facebook relationship

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<v Speaker 9>status says that he's married.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh okay, my husband's relationship status on Facebook still says engaged.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh I don't think people update those No, I mean,

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<v Speaker 6>it's not a thing that is messed up every day.

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<v Speaker 9>You're right, it is messed up that he lied to

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<v Speaker 9>me about this, like.

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<v Speaker 2>Glances jumping on the phone because he's been listening on

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<v Speaker 2>the line right now.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, why are you saying that I lied? And what

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<v Speaker 5>did I lie to you about.

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<v Speaker 9>Your Facebook relationships? Is you're married? And I was looking forward.

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<v Speaker 5>To Oh my god, like five years like I don't

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<v Speaker 5>update it like at all.

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<v Speaker 9>Well, you should update it because otherwise you're going out

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<v Speaker 9>into the world lying you're being just honest.

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<v Speaker 4>You could probably get more dates changing a single.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you not mad? You're not mad that she just

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<v Speaker 3>said she only goes after married men.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I'm not mad. Like everybody's got one life to live,

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm just basing everything off of our interaction together.

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<v Speaker 9>It was fun.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's amazing.

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<v Speaker 4>Able to be in a room, read her energy and vibe,

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<v Speaker 4>so you would know more.

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<v Speaker 3>Than I mean, I feel like you have a catch

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<v Speaker 3>right now, Jessica.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean he's saying that he's into you, regardless of red.

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<v Speaker 6>Flags controversial likes.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I do think it's a little bit weird,

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<v Speaker 5>but I work in it, so I'm a little weird.

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<v Speaker 6>Too, Okay, ID men and I work in it very similar.

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<v Speaker 4>Look at that, Jessica.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, he's brushing aside a lot of stuff just because

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<v Speaker 2>he says he likes you.

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<v Speaker 4>And he thinks that you're cool. Chemistry. That's got to

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<v Speaker 4>stand for something.

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<v Speaker 3>If he still has his ring, he could just wear

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<v Speaker 3>it for funies.

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<v Speaker 4>Would that work, Jessica? Would that do it for you?

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<v Speaker 1>You know?

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<v Speaker 9>I like the way you think. But I'm just not

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<v Speaker 9>into lands.

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<v Speaker 3>He's he's too available, too faithful.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, he's both available and faithful. That's way too easy.

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<v Speaker 5>It's not okay. I could go out of town and

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<v Speaker 5>turn off my phone.

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<v Speaker 4>That makes them unavailable.

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<v Speaker 6>I think she's saying, call me when you get into

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<v Speaker 6>a relationship.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, that's not exactly what I'm saying at all. I'm

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<v Speaker 9>not looking for a cheater. I'm looking for someone who's

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<v Speaker 9>in a stale mid relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>In a stale already.

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<v Speaker 6>So she doesn't want you to be in a happy

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<v Speaker 6>relationship because that would be bad if she broke that up.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, well I could be bad. Oh bad. I've

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<v Speaker 5>done a lot of bad things, Lance.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if she's into that stuff. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that ship has sailed. I think it really just comes

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<v Speaker 2>down to your relationship status. That's the number one thing

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<v Speaker 2>for her.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, you're better off, Lance, I mean, am I

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<v Speaker 5>really better off? Though I've already said I'm trying not

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<v Speaker 5>to get shanked on dates next time, I think I

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<v Speaker 5>took a shank to the heart.

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<v Speaker 3>Guys, that seems a little over dramatic.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah to this call isn't going like we thought it

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<v Speaker 2>would go at all, But is there anything else you

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<v Speaker 2>would like to say to Lance before we end this.

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<v Speaker 9>I couldn't believe he could be any lamer than what

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<v Speaker 9>he was on the day.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, right, she just twisted. She twisted it.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, look, I don't know about you guys, but

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<v Speaker 5>I'm kind of turned on and fire it up right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, my god, it's rookie Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, we rarely do this.

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<v Speaker 2>But after we recorded that segment, I got back on

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<v Speaker 2>the phone and talked with Jessica a little bit about

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<v Speaker 2>why she thinks the way that she.

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<v Speaker 6>Thinks, you're going to act like her therapist.

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<v Speaker 2>For I'm not going to try and tell her what

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<v Speaker 2>to do. It's just because we've never had anyone ever

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<v Speaker 2>say that on our show before and be so unashamed

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<v Speaker 2>about it. But she had two main points, and the're

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<v Speaker 2>kind of interesting. One she said, she's not looking for

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<v Speaker 2>a long term, serious thing, and that's exactly what married

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<v Speaker 2>men are going.

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<v Speaker 4>For when they're going for Jeffrey.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's actually less complicated to date a married guy

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<v Speaker 2>than it is to date a single dude trying to

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<v Speaker 2>lock you down.

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<v Speaker 6>I will tell you right now, you come up and

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<v Speaker 6>try to date my husband, it is going to be

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<v Speaker 6>very complicated for you, okay.

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<v Speaker 4>But your husband, it's going to be a great time.

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<v Speaker 2>Plus point number two, She says, married guys are more

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<v Speaker 2>fun when they go out because married men never get

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<v Speaker 2>to have fun at all. So it is around stereotype.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, I'm monitor my husband at all time.

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<v Speaker 7>Say that.

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<v Speaker 3>I did not say that marriage is fun. It really is.

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<v Speaker 3>And like this lady sucks. This lady sucks. I hate her.

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<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of people are with you. Broke

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<v Speaker 2>no seriously, and no one, no one in this room

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<v Speaker 2>is on her side.

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<v Speaker 4>But it is interesting to hear.

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<v Speaker 3>It's crazy logic, right, there's no logic.

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<v Speaker 4>Hashtag single girl logic.

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<v Speaker 3>How about that?

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, We can't say we're always going to agree with

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<v Speaker 2>you or be on your side, but we will give

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<v Speaker 2>it a chance and reach out to that person who

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<v Speaker 2>isn't calling you back, just to see what they have

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<v Speaker 2>to say.

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<v Speaker 3>Jeff will listen. I'm not very good at that.

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<v Speaker 4>It's broken. Jeffrey in the morning,