Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is that there doesn't need to be attention between
Speaker 1: celebrating with others and celebrating the way you might want to.
Speaker 1: You can always just spread the celebrating out. Today's tip
Speaker 1: was inspired by a very wise suggestion that I heard
Speaker 1: from a blog reader a few years ago. She mentioned
Speaker 1: that Mother's Day, which we celebrated in the US over
Speaker 1: a recent weekend, could be complicated for her. She had
Speaker 1: young kids, and what she craved was some relaxed time
Speaker 1: spent on her own. But what Mother's Day often involved
Speaker 1: was some sort of family activity, you know, like brunch
Speaker 1: when you're still chasing a toddler around the restaurant, or
Speaker 1: perhaps even extended family activities honoring family mentriarchs and so forth.
Speaker 1: This could be a source of frustration and disappointment. But
Speaker 1: instead she took a lesson from the post office. When
Speaker 1: a federal holiday happens on a Sunday, sometimes the post
Speaker 1: office will close on a day around that saying it
Speaker 1: is for the holiday observed. So she chose to treat
Speaker 1: a week day around Mother's Day as Mother's Day, observed,
Speaker 1: she would put in for PTO and spend Monday doing
Speaker 1: exactly what she wanted. For instance, someone could take herself
Speaker 1: out to lunch with no one jumping up and down.
Speaker 1: You could go get a massage. You can just relax.
Speaker 1: I love this idea, and I think it's wise for
Speaker 1: many celebrations. For instance, maybe you have certain things you'd
Speaker 1: like to do for your birthday, but your family has
Speaker 1: their own ideas. It's great that they want to celebrate you,
Speaker 1: so you can do what they want on a day
Speaker 1: near your birthday, or perhaps on your actual birthday, and
Speaker 1: you can do what you want on another day you
Speaker 1: get to do both. Or perhaps you need to celebrate
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving with your extended family in a certain way. This
Speaker 1: isn't your first choice of how you would celebrate, but
Speaker 1: it has been going on for a long time, so
Speaker 1: guess what. You can always have an additional party the
Speaker 1: weekend before or after for friends and celebrate in a
Speaker 1: different way. These things don't have to be at odds. Similarly,
Speaker 1: if you are expected to do Christmas in a certain
Speaker 1: way with your extended family or your partner's extended family,
Speaker 1: you can decide that December twenty third is your immediate
Speaker 1: family celebration and celebrate Christmas then in a way that
Speaker 1: works best for you. You can think both rather than
Speaker 1: getting frustrated that you don't get to celebrate how you
Speaker 1: would prefer in life. I think it's generally better to
Speaker 1: think and rather than but there is. It's nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with a little extra celebrating or spreading festivities out over
Speaker 1: a longer period of time. So celebrate as others want
Speaker 1: and how you want. If you broaden the timeframe, often
Speaker 1: there will be no real conflict between the two. In
Speaker 1: the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's
Speaker 1: to making the most of our time. Thanks for listening
Speaker 1: to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback,
Speaker 1: you can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.
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