1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning. 2 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: tip is that there doesn't need to be attention between 4 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: celebrating with others and celebrating the way you might want to. 5 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: You can always just spread the celebrating out. Today's tip 6 00:00:31,160 --> 00:00:34,160 Speaker 1: was inspired by a very wise suggestion that I heard 7 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: from a blog reader a few years ago. She mentioned 8 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: that Mother's Day, which we celebrated in the US over 9 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:44,239 Speaker 1: a recent weekend, could be complicated for her. She had 10 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:46,840 Speaker 1: young kids, and what she craved was some relaxed time 11 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: spent on her own. But what Mother's Day often involved 12 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: was some sort of family activity, you know, like brunch 13 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: when you're still chasing a toddler around the restaurant, or 14 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: perhaps even extended family activities honoring family mentriarchs and so forth. 15 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:05,959 Speaker 1: This could be a source of frustration and disappointment. But 16 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:09,759 Speaker 1: instead she took a lesson from the post office. When 17 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:13,399 Speaker 1: a federal holiday happens on a Sunday, sometimes the post 18 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:16,560 Speaker 1: office will close on a day around that saying it 19 00:01:16,600 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: is for the holiday observed. So she chose to treat 20 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:24,839 Speaker 1: a week day around Mother's Day as Mother's Day, observed, 21 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:28,119 Speaker 1: she would put in for PTO and spend Monday doing 22 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 1: exactly what she wanted. For instance, someone could take herself 23 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 1: out to lunch with no one jumping up and down. 24 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: You could go get a massage. You can just relax. 25 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:41,039 Speaker 1: I love this idea, and I think it's wise for 26 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: many celebrations. For instance, maybe you have certain things you'd 27 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: like to do for your birthday, but your family has 28 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: their own ideas. It's great that they want to celebrate you, 29 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 1: so you can do what they want on a day 30 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: near your birthday, or perhaps on your actual birthday, and 31 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: you can do what you want on another day you 32 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: get to do both. Or perhaps you need to celebrate 33 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:09,680 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving with your extended family in a certain way. This 34 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: isn't your first choice of how you would celebrate, but 35 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: it has been going on for a long time, so 36 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 1: guess what. You can always have an additional party the 37 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: weekend before or after for friends and celebrate in a 38 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: different way. These things don't have to be at odds. Similarly, 39 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 1: if you are expected to do Christmas in a certain 40 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: way with your extended family or your partner's extended family, 41 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: you can decide that December twenty third is your immediate 42 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 1: family celebration and celebrate Christmas then in a way that 43 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 1: works best for you. You can think both rather than 44 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: getting frustrated that you don't get to celebrate how you 45 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 1: would prefer in life. I think it's generally better to 46 00:02:55,360 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 1: think and rather than but there is. It's nothing wrong 47 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: with a little extra celebrating or spreading festivities out over 48 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 1: a longer period of time. So celebrate as others want 49 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: and how you want. If you broaden the timeframe, often 50 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 1: there will be no real conflict between the two. In 51 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:26,640 Speaker 1: the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's 52 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: to making the most of our time. Thanks for listening 53 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: to Before Breakfast. 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