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Speaker 2: My sister stole my fiance while I was pregnant.

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Speaker 3: Did you have a receipt?

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Speaker 2: I have reached the edge of what I can bear.

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Speaker 2: I am twenty eight and I've been with my fiance

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Speaker 2: for just over three years. We lived together with my

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Speaker 2: four year old daughter from a previous relationship. Three weeks ago,

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Speaker 2: I found out I am pregnant again. At first I

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Speaker 2: was overjoyed, naive enough to think we were finally creating

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Speaker 2: the stable family I have always wanted. By the way,

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime suppurn it. I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon,

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Speaker 2: and we're here to give good advice. Goofy, but we

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Speaker 2: don't have any answers. We only know what we'd do,

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Speaker 2: So let us know what you would do in the comments,

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Speaker 2: and Op says, he grew distant. The very next next day,

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Speaker 2: he ignored my excitement started coming home late, and kept

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Speaker 2: noticing strange calls and those discreet social media notifications that

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Speaker 2: vanished too quickly. My gut told me to investigate.

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Speaker 3: My gut, my leaky gut.

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Speaker 2: I almost wish I had not. He has been secretly

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Speaker 2: hooking up with my older sister behind my back.

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Speaker 3: Whoa, whoa. Okay, okay, now, I mean that's not okay,

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Speaker 3: but all right. And he started doing that right after

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Speaker 3: you said that you would having a baby.

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Speaker 2: She was the one I always tolerated, even though she

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Speaker 2: drags drama wherever she goes. She would hug me when

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Speaker 2: relatives were around, pretend to be the support of older sibling,

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Speaker 2: then turn around and bad mouth me to her friends.

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Speaker 2: I never imagine she would crawl into my life this deeply.

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Speaker 2: It felt like a slap in the face to read

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Speaker 2: their messages calling me clueless for not noticing you told

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Speaker 2: her about the pregnancy before. He was honest with me

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Speaker 2: about his doubts, and they joked about how stressed I

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Speaker 2: would be raising another child. What do you think you're doing, Bud?

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Speaker 2: Do you think you're just gonna get off easy?

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Speaker 3: I think he I think that's exactly what he thinks.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna take you for child support for everything you're worth.

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Speaker 2: My sister bragged that our entire family thinks she's the

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Speaker 2: more interesting and popular sibling. Meanwhile, I'm just the quiet

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Speaker 2: one who apparently deserves this. I do not know if

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Speaker 2: they're still meeting in secret or if they just get

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Speaker 2: a punt out of hurting me. My fiance denies everything

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Speaker 2: whenever I confront him, says I'm hormonal and that my

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Speaker 2: imagination is running wild. My sister keeps messaging me, telling

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Speaker 2: me I should keep my mouth shut and stop being dramatic.

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Speaker 2: I am done. Hyd Notice how.

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Speaker 3: She's not even denying. Yeah, She's like, you're just being dramatic.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I took your partner.

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Speaker 3: Yeah to that?

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Speaker 2: Wow, what's it to you? My mother wants me to

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Speaker 2: talk it out calmly, But how do I fix something?

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Speaker 2: Things so broken I can barely breathe. My fiance things.

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Speaker 2: I'll just accept this. He's counting on me being too

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Speaker 2: shy or too pregnant to do anything. Tomorrow, I plan

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Speaker 2: to blow this up in front of our entire family.

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Speaker 2: We are supposed to have a casual get together at

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Speaker 2: our parents' house. Ironically, to celebrate my pregnancy announcement, I

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Speaker 2: will gather my phone, lugs, the screenshots, and all those

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Speaker 2: humiliating texts they scent each other. Once all the relatives

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Speaker 2: have settled in, I will put everything on display, no

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Speaker 2: more secrets. I might burn everything in the process, I

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Speaker 2: might lose any chance of a pleasant co parenting scenario,

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Speaker 2: but I feel like I have no other way to

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Speaker 2: proclaim my dignity. I've been crying NonStop for days. My

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Speaker 2: nerves are shot, and all I get from my fiance

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Speaker 2: is either silent treatment or insults. My sister taunts me

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Speaker 2: and acts like I am worthless. I see no reason

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Speaker 2: Maybe they'll run off together, maybe they'll lie or twist

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Speaker 2: not contributed much financially, so I worry about affording my

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Speaker 2: I cannot pretend everything is normal. I have to protect

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Speaker 2: the other part is numb. Regardless, I'm done letting them

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Speaker 2: should have kept their betrayal better hidden. Let everyone see

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Speaker 2: exactly who they are. That's all I have left.

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Speaker 3: That's actually it's insane that they're like, yeah, no, keep

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Speaker 3: you're hormonal. Okay. The only reason this matters to you

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Speaker 2: Like they're actively cheating on you and then expect you

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: No, your sister too, is like just what the Yeah?

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Speaker 2: What crazy? But uh, definitely drop them and then Sueme

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Speaker 2: for child support.

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Speaker 2: But we got an update update. I'm still reeling from

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Speaker 2: what happened. After writing my last post, I spent hours

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Speaker 2: debating with myself about whether I should really go through

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Speaker 2: with exposing them at our family gathering. A part of

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Speaker 2: me was scared I would turn my whole life upside

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Speaker 2: breaking up with them and to prepare her. When I

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Speaker 2: arrived at my parents' house, everyone was already there, including

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Speaker 2: my ex fiance and my sister. My mother tried to

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Speaker 2: pull me aside, whispering that we should talk first. I

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Speaker 2: My sister immediately rolled her eyes, and my fiance mumbled something,

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Speaker 2: probably hoping I would stay silent. I started reading the

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Speaker 3: It's here, this fricking drama queen about to tell people

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Speaker 3: how we're just blatantly cheating on her, and that's crazy.

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Speaker 3: She's a fool. Who are these people? Where they build

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Speaker 3: these people? The cheater factory, the cheatercake factory.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's funny. I started reading the most shocking parts

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Speaker 2: of the messages I found Between the two of them,

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Speaker 2: they mocked me, joked about me not noticing anything, and

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Speaker 4: Who are these people?

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Speaker 2: I had time stands proving he was sneaking around with

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Speaker 2: my own sister while I was at home with my daughter.

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Speaker 2: My sister stood up and accused me of lying, her

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Speaker 2: voice defensive and low pitched, but I just kept reading. Oh,

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Speaker 2: he's doing a dramatic reading of this in front of everyone.

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Speaker 4: She goes, you're lying, You're lying, lying.

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Speaker 2: You are lying like Will in the season two of

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Speaker 2: Stranger Things, you lie like Papa, or that the messages

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Speaker 2: spoke for themselves. I revealed how he told her about

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Speaker 2: dramatic liar who blow everything out of proportion. Now the

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Speaker 2: fallout begins. My fiance, or rather my ex fiance, has

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Speaker 2: been texting me non stop. One moment he says he's sorry,

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Speaker 2: the next he blames me for humiliating him. He shows

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Speaker 2: zero genuine remorse, He's just mad that I exposed him.

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Speaker 2: My sister calls me horrendous name, says I ruined our image,

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Speaker 2: four K. There's not much that'll peek, can dow.

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Speaker 3: It's just like just own it. At this point, yeah,

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Speaker 2: He can't look into a mirror and say I don't

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Speaker 2: like what I see. He's just you.

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean, you can do that, but you can't

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Speaker 3: do that and then go and it's you awful someone else.

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Speaker 2: It's true. Honestly, I do not even know if they

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Speaker 2: are still seeing each other or blaming each other for

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Speaker 2: being caught. Either way, their secret is out, and that's

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Speaker 2: all I wanted. I'm now talking to a lawyer because

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Speaker 2: this man barely contributed financially before. I have to protect

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Speaker 2: Only the thought of raising two kids alone is terrifying.

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Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story, folks, No, it's not.

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Speaker 2: There's more. I lied to you. There's a little bit.

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Speaker 5: More to the like papa, But do you.

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Speaker 2: Have any final thoughts before we get into the last part.

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Speaker 3: Of the story. I hope every other member of your

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Speaker 3: and it feels bad.

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Speaker 2: I'm not, you know, counting on that though. If they

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Speaker 2: were already like, don't bring up drama.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, don't bring up the drama of your sister cheating

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Speaker 3: on your cheating with your husband.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what my cat's name is? Karen says they won't

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Speaker 2: stay together. It was only fun when they were cheating

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Speaker 2: on Ope.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, of course, but.

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Speaker 2: There's a little bit left to the story. I feel

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Speaker 2: strange sense of relief. At least everyone knows the truth now.

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Speaker 2: I exposed everything that day in the living room, But

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Speaker 2: at least I'm no longer being trampled on in silence.

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Speaker 2: My sister and ex fiance can no longer laugh behind

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Speaker 2: my back. Yes, things will probably get messy. They might

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Speaker 2: lie to other relatives, people we mutually know, or twist

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Speaker 2: the story. How are they going to twist the story though? Like, truly,

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Speaker 2: how would they twist it so much that people listening

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Speaker 2: to that story aren't just like, Wow, that's a blatant

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Speaker 2: lie because you were dating Opie and OPI as a

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Speaker 3: I mean, they could just be like, oh, it's all

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Speaker 3: fake texts, just faked a bunch of texts.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, just saying like we didn't cheat at all.

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Speaker 3: Imagine they just try to be like, well, we did

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Speaker 3: do that, but like she shouldn't care.

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Speaker 2: She shouldn't care.

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Speaker 6: Uh.

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Speaker 2: Yes, things will probably get messy. They might lie to

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Speaker 2: other relatives, people we mutually know, or twist the story.

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Speaker 2: But I'm glad I refuse to keep quiet. All I

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Speaker 2: can do now is focus on the positive, talk to

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Speaker 2: my lawyer, and move forward. It will be painful, but

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Speaker 2: I'll do everything my power to build a new future

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Speaker 2: on my own terms are away from these people, and

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Speaker 2: that's the end of the story.

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Speaker 3: Good. I think that is the right path to take,

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Speaker 3: moving forward, rid of them. I believe that is correct.

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Speaker 3: Good job, Op, agreed, and I'm sorry that sucks.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, good buck on raising kids. I hope that you

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Speaker 2: find a new support system that actually is there for you.

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Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story, and we've got

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Speaker 2: another one coming.

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Speaker 6: We do.

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Speaker 3: My father had a very obvious affair with mine nanny,

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Speaker 3: at least do it in secret. So basically this mainly

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Speaker 3: took place between the ages of like fourth to eighth

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Speaker 3: grade for me, but it's still going on in a way.

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Speaker 3: I twenty female, had a nanny growing up twenty one

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Speaker 3: female when this happened. She's around thirty five. Now, let's

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Speaker 3: She was the big sister I've never had. We were

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Speaker 3: Well, Louis are here to give you good advice, googly,

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Speaker 3: In fact, she got so close with my parents. My mother,

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Speaker 5: So you didn't understand that.

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Speaker 3: Covered yourself. You were like, I actually get that, but

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Speaker 3: I started noticing Jecks and my father acting very strange,

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Speaker 2: I mean, the levels of this is insane. Not only

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Speaker 5: There's a freak back there.

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Speaker 3: Thank God my brother was asleep and didn't have to

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Speaker 2: That is traumatic, Yeah, literally trauma.

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Speaker 5: That is traumatic trauma.

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Speaker 3: It felt like ours. I ended up peeling the bed

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Speaker 3: Ay, then I heard banging on the door. They didn't

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Speaker 3: My mom called the phone in the hotel room over

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Speaker 3: I never told anyone this until I was fourteen. By now,

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Speaker 2: I am shocked that she didn't fire her before. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like ale move not great on either of these.

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Speaker 2: I mean, obviously her dad is like a monster, but

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Speaker 3: By now, my mom had fired the babysitter. My dad

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Speaker 2: You just started. Dang man, you did. I wonder why.

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Speaker 3: My mom at this point freely talked about it with

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Speaker 3: how ignorant you have to be. This was humiliating for me.

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Speaker 3: She would post on social media places. I just knew

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Speaker 2: Your dad's a nightmare monster from the Black Lagoon.

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Speaker 6: Nightmare, nightmare, nightmare.

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Speaker 3: Truly, if anyone was from the Black Lagoon and happened

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Not to bring it back to that one really traumatic point,

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Speaker 2: Was banging on bing on the door, saying.

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Speaker 5: Let me in.

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Speaker 2: Problem they didn't get up until.

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Speaker 6: Not even a single budget and then use a oh

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Speaker 5: That like?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think the layers of this is kind

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Speaker 2: Jack's is pretty bad too, but also just kind of

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Speaker 2: looking again at she's twenty one, he's probably you know,

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Speaker 2: just really bad there too. This person I feel like

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Speaker 2: and then your mom is just not protecting you because

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Speaker 6: Why not Maybe well, it was probably not to protect

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Speaker 6: maybe assume the kids didn't know.

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Speaker 2: I think so. I think she assumed that they didn't

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Speaker 6: Yeah, especially when the kids will see a huge different

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Speaker 5: Yeah, mom and dad, it's no longer talking. Yeah, kids

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Speaker 2: Yeah, kids are smart, but.

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Speaker 6: Kids sometimes don't want to get in trouble, like I

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Speaker 2: Things so traumatized. I'm going to tell you internalize that later.

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Speaker 2: And you're like, well, why didn't I say anything? It's

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I was gonna say, I just hope OPI doesn't

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Speaker 2: Seven years olds keep better.

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Speaker 6: You didn't know any better, but you knew, you knew

439
00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:31,760
Speaker 6: it was wrong, but you didn't know how to handle

440
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Speaker 6: that situation. Nobody knows handle that situation your child.

441
00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:36,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, damn, that's so.

442
00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:38,080
Speaker 5: And then you had to pee the bed.

443
00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:39,360
Speaker 2: So traumatized.

444
00:20:39,400 --> 00:20:40,680
Speaker 5: Oh so traumatizing.

445
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:44,440
Speaker 3: Well, let's finish the story. I finally told my mom

446
00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 3: when I was fourteen about how I knew for years

447
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,280
Speaker 3: and what I witnessed, and it seemed like her heart shattered.

448
00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 3: She felt like she failed protecting me and like she

449
00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:55,080
Speaker 3: should have known. They are still together to this day

450
00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:57,840
Speaker 3: and my mom is finally getting a divorce. Her and

451
00:20:57,840 --> 00:20:59,720
Speaker 3: my dad are just trying to work out the finances

452
00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:02,440
Speaker 3: in the house, et cetera. I don't even know why

453
00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:05,320
Speaker 3: I'm sharing this because it's honestly not that bad compared

454
00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:07,160
Speaker 3: to other trauma children have gone through.

455
00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 2: What about literal baby?

456
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 3: That is really rough though.

457
00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:20,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, your father who is again your father, and then

458
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 2: your babysitter who you looked up to, just completely blew

459
00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:25,920
Speaker 2: up your life. That's pretty traumatizing.

460
00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:29,359
Speaker 3: Yeah. I'm blessed to live such a privileged life, and

461
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:32,359
Speaker 3: it kind of seems silly complaining about something so irrelevant.

462
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,520
Speaker 3: But I don't think I've fully processed it, and I

463
00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:36,600
Speaker 3: don't think you have either. Given know what you just said.

464
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,000
Speaker 3: Maybe I should see a therapist. I don't know, but

465
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 3: it feels really embarrassing to have to tell someone face

466
00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:43,560
Speaker 3: to face you should see a therapist. That is the

467
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:46,520
Speaker 3: end of that story. You definitely need to fully work

468
00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 3: through that because there are a lot of moving parts,

469
00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:56,000
Speaker 3: and uh, yeah, that's highly traumatic, I would assume. Yeah, yeah,

470
00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:58,440
Speaker 3: but you can get there. You're gonna be okay, You're

471
00:21:58,440 --> 00:21:59,200
Speaker 3: gonna be okay.

472
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:03,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh man, Yeah, this dad is just a horrible person,

473
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 2: just such a bad person. Also, I just want to

474
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:10,600
Speaker 2: I'm not trying to negate that the babysitter has done

475
00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 2: like blown up a family unit, and you know did

476
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:16,640
Speaker 2: was a willing participate, but it is like an element

477
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,440
Speaker 2: that the dad is a much older boss. It's kind

478
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 2: of the same thing with like the the whole me

479
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 2: too movement of having women consenting to a relationship, but

480
00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 2: obviously there was a really really ichy power dynamic there

481
00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 2: which you know was not okay. So it's like, I

482
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:36,200
Speaker 2: still think it's an element that makes the dad even worse.

483
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, she's still is helping, but he's.

484
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 3: Well it sounds like there what I mean, they have

485
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,640
Speaker 3: a lot of money and resources and yeah, you know,

486
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:45,679
Speaker 3: she's been on a lot of trips and had this,

487
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,640
Speaker 3: so it's like, of course she's going to be attracted

488
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:51,040
Speaker 3: to that to some extent, but she's still a.

489
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Speaker 2: Twenty one year old in this.

490
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 3: I just think that makes the dad twenty one year

491
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Speaker 3: olds can go to war and all that. I think

492
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Speaker 3: I think twenty one is old enough to I agree,

493
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,800
Speaker 3: you're you're making an informed decision on like am I

494
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 3: going to sleep with this man who's older than me

495
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:06,080
Speaker 3: or not.

496
00:23:06,359 --> 00:23:07,399
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I agree.

497
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:08,679
Speaker 3: I attracted to this guy or not.

498
00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 2: But I would still say a twenty one year old

499
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 2: if I like, if I'm looking at a twenty one

500
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 2: year old getting with thirty six year old thirty six

501
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:16,520
Speaker 2: or like.

502
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Speaker 3: You know, I'm assuming the thirty six year old should

503
00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:21,880
Speaker 3: be like, I'm not exactly really why would I do this?

504
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 2: That's my point.

505
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:25,640
Speaker 3: Other than just being like, yeah, I'm using this person.

506
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 2: I think there is an element of he is using

507
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 2: her and it makes him even worse. Not that it

508
00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:31,440
Speaker 2: doesn't make her bad. That's my point.

509
00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 5: Did hope he say there's still together?

510
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Speaker 3: I just can't imagine being like in your forties, like yeah,

511
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:37,440
Speaker 3: until it's just.

512
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:38,639
Speaker 2: Like exactly, that's my point.

513
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 3: Maybe I understand when I'm in my forties, but I

514
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 3: can't understand now because it's like.

515
00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:46,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think it just makes him like look

516
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,359
Speaker 2: just just he's like a monster at that point because

517
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 2: of all the layers are there.

518
00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, but that's the end of that story. Yeah,

519
00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:56,399
Speaker 3: And we have another one.

520
00:23:56,720 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 2: Where my wife had an affair with my cousin. Trigger

521
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Speaker 2: warning emotional abuse, trigger warning for mentions of self harm.

522
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,280
Speaker 2: I have a cousin who was also my closest friend.

523
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 2: As my closest friend, he was often at my house

524
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Speaker 2: when I lived with my parents, and he continued to

525
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:15,359
Speaker 2: visit me frequently after I got married. I have been

526
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Speaker 2: married for three years. By the way, this comes from

527
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Speaker 2: Plastic Year twenty three oh six. And if you have

528
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Speaker 2: smit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

529
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Speaker 2: storytime subured it. I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, and

530
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Speaker 2: we're here to give good advice. Goofy, but we don't

531
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Speaker 2: have all the answers. We only know what we'd do,

532
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 2: So let us know what you would do in the comments.

533
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 2: During these visits, my wife, who is normally shy and

534
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:38,160
Speaker 2: reserved around my friends, began to hang out with us

535
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 2: from time to time because he became very familiar with

536
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 2: his constant visits and she saw him as a cousin

537
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Speaker 2: of hers as well. It's also important to note that

538
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Speaker 2: my wife has some undiagnosed mental illnesses such as BPD,

539
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 2: seasonal depression, and unresolved abandonment issues from her childhood. Eventually,

540
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 2: my wife began to join my cousin and me when

541
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Speaker 2: we would hang out together outside of the home as well,

542
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:03,639
Speaker 2: and we regularly started hanging out altogether. I now know

543
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 2: that I was essentially setting myself up for failure by

544
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 2: helping them create a bond. After weeks of my wife

545
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 2: constantly crying and feeling depressed beyond anything I'd ever seen,

546
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 2: she confessed to me that the reason she had been

547
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 2: feeling this way was because of an overwhelming guilt about

548
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:22,280
Speaker 2: having developed an emotional attachment to.

549
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 3: Another man, not another man.

550
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 2: At this point, she was completely distraught and could barely

551
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,440
Speaker 2: get her words out, so I simply comforted her while

552
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 2: trying to hold in my shock and anger at what

553
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:38,360
Speaker 2: I had just heard. She eventually confessed that it had

554
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 2: been going on for some time, twelve months since her

555
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:44,679
Speaker 2: first feelings that she's suppressed, nine months since they started

556
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:47,199
Speaker 2: talking on and off, three to four months since they

557
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 2: started talking every day, and two months since they confessed

558
00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:54,359
Speaker 2: that they had these feelings. My cousin eventually ended things

559
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 2: officially around four weeks ago.

560
00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:59,879
Speaker 3: Eh, yeah, but it doesn't really end.

561
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 2: I spoke to my cousin and he confessed without knowing

562
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 2: that my wife had already told me, and their stories

563
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 2: matched up. I need some advice. Is there any way

564
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 2: that this marriage is repairable, or should I just move on.

565
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 2: I definitely cannot trust her right now, and I'm not

566
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:18,640
Speaker 2: sure if I ever will again. I've spoken to two shakes,

567
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 2: and they both advised me not to rush into my decisions.

568
00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,119
Speaker 2: But one told me to wait two to three weeks

569
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,479
Speaker 2: and one told me to wait four to six months

570
00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 2: for what?

571
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 3: What are we waiting for a sign?

572
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 2: The one who told me to wait four to six

573
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,160
Speaker 2: months later told me that I might have to end

574
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 2: things sooner if my wife's mental condition doesn't improve, because

575
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 2: the marriage seems unsustainable. My wife and I are both

576
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,160
Speaker 2: twenty five, and I have no kids. She is self

577
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,919
Speaker 2: harming at times and often says she doesn't want to

578
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 2: live anymore because of what she's done. She's filled with guilt.

579
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 2: But she also admitted to me that she's still grieving

580
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 2: the loss of the friendship she had with my cousin.

581
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 2: What which makes my blood boil? Is it cheek or shake?

582
00:26:58,600 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 5: Thank you? So?

583
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 3: Just chocolate vanilla the chic?

584
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:02,960
Speaker 2: I just want to make sure I'm pronouncing that right.

585
00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 3: I don't just say chic. However you say it in

586
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 3: your heart is the right way.

587
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 2: I don't think that's true.

588
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 3: That is true. However you hear it in your heart

589
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:10,919
Speaker 3: is the right way to say it.

590
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:13,160
Speaker 2: I don't know about that, Yeah, missus Jaberd says, trying

591
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 2: your best therapy. Yeah, she needs therapy badly, and hope

592
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 2: he needs to leave this relationship no matter I think,

593
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,119
Speaker 2: there's always that guilt of being like my partner is

594
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 2: going to hurt themselves or not be well if I

595
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:29,360
Speaker 2: leave them, even though they've hurt me. Yeah, but yeah,

596
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:29,600
Speaker 2: it's not.

597
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 5: It's a shake shake, thank you.

598
00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 2: The Sheikh said this is normal, but to monitor if

599
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 2: she still feels this way in the next few months.

600
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,679
Speaker 2: This has been the biggest betrayal imaginable, and it has

601
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 2: also made me dread upcoming family gatherings where my cousin

602
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 2: will be and I'll be expected to bring my wife

603
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,120
Speaker 2: because of course, no one in our family knows about this.

604
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 2: My wife is very clear that she only wants to

605
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 2: be with me, and she wants to make this marriage

606
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 2: work more than anything I've known her my entire adult life,

607
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,640
Speaker 2: and even though our marriage is not perfect, we've been

608
00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 2: pretty compatible so far and I simply can't imagine life

609
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 2: without her, even though she's hurt me in the most

610
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 2: unimaginable way, and there is an update. I mean, I

611
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:10,920
Speaker 2: understand that she's got like a mental health you know,

612
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 2: disorder here, but that doesn't excuse the fact that she

613
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 2: cheated on you. Yeah, maybe she can find help to

614
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 2: you know, improve in future relationships. But I think I

615
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:21,879
Speaker 2: don't know if you can get back that trust. And

616
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 2: also it very much doesn't excuse your cousin because he

617
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 2: has no reason for doing any of this other than

618
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:28,640
Speaker 2: he just cheated with your wife.

619
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Speaker 3: So yeah, truly nothing to be really yeah salvaged. I think, Yeah,

620
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,199
Speaker 3: I think that you can. Yeah, I not want her,

621
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 3: You cannot want her to be you want the best

622
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 3: for her of distress. But yeah, like I don't know, doesn't.

623
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 2: Mean you have to be with her. Two months later,

624
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 2: I'm trying to stay distracted by playing football, going to

625
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 2: the gym, and spending time with the mosque. The relationship

626
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 2: is volatile. Some days she is loving and some days

627
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 2: she's arguing with me. Well, also, we know she's BBB,

628
00:28:56,760 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 2: so we see a marriage counselor we got Nika religious marriage.

629
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 2: And when I was twenty one and moved in together.

630
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 2: When I was twenty two, my wife still holds resentment

631
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 2: and says it openly. The reasons she cited were that

632
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 2: I played football three to four days a week for

633
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 2: a few hours, and she said this abandonment was a

634
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 2: contributing factor that subsequently led to her affair. While I

635
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 2: have tried to cut off contact with my cousin, it

636
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 2: is difficult given the family circles.

637
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 3: There's no way she just blamed you like having a

638
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 3: hobby as the reason why she was justified and cheating

639
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 3: on you with your cousin.

640
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, well she's trying to get any reasoning that isn't

641
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 2: I cheated on you because I cheated on you.

642
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, got to own it.

643
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to own it, especially because she is

644
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 2: not willing to own it completely. There is no path

645
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 2: to redemption here. But yeah, it's tough. There is another

646
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 2: update though, three months later. This week, my wife and

647
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 2: I divorced after being married for three and a half years.

648
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 2: It was very sad, so got extremely emotional and I

649
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 2: also shed some tears, but I believe it had to

650
00:29:59,600 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 2: be done as I couldn't look past the affair. My

651
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 2: wife is in the process of moving back into the

652
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:05,920
Speaker 2: home we shared, and I'm going to live with my

653
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 2: parents for the remainder of her ida. A three month

654
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 2: period of separation after divorce or loss intended to restore

655
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:15,760
Speaker 2: one's emotional and mental health and remove any confusion in

656
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,479
Speaker 2: case of pregnancy. She came to the house today and

657
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 2: in the evening she asked me if we could talk

658
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 2: because she was not happy that I was in a

659
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 2: bad mood towards her.

660
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 3: She's like, hey, thought that with me, she'd have thought

661
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 3: about that before you slept with my cousin. Maybe my

662
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:30,240
Speaker 3: mood would be improved.

663
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 2: Maybe she knows. The reason was because I'm having aunties

664
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 2: call me and even coming over to try to get

665
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:41,239
Speaker 2: me to give my wife a second chance. No, and

666
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 2: I find this very triggering because they don't know what

667
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 2: I've gone through. I've hidden from them the fact that

668
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 2: she had an affair to protect her dignity and reputation

669
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:51,720
Speaker 2: and to not reveal that the affair partner is their

670
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 2: nephew and my cousin. Honestly, if you don't want to

671
00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 2: reveal that, maybe go to her and say, hey, you

672
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 2: need to get them off my back, or I'm going

673
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 2: to tell them why.

674
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 5: One hundred percent. Yeah, No, that's crazy.

675
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:03,960
Speaker 2: Put it to her. They shouldn't be bothering you.

676
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 6: If everyone's give her a good chance, you're the people

677
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 6: start If your family members starts saying you're the bad guy,

678
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 6: oh boy.

679
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be like, hey, you need to get them

680
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 2: off my back, or I'm telling.

681
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 1: Them the truth is John og Host. We don't get

682
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 1: back to the stories but a quick freemanute break of

683
00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: ads from our sponsors.

684
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 2: They all see her as a kind girl who's very sweet,

685
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 2: which she is at times, but they don't know what

686
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 2: I've gone through with the affair and with all the

687
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 2: verbal abuse and temper issues throughout the marriage. I always

688
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 2: shielded my family from seeing this side of her. She's

689
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 2: also really good at being the best version of herself

690
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 2: around others, particularly family. There are a lot of good

691
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 2: things about her personality and character that I would look

692
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 2: for in another wife, so that should be made clear.

693
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 2: I told her that I didn't want to talk about

694
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: things right now, but she insisted and kept talking about

695
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 2: it anyway, saying that we wouldn't have any other time

696
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 2: to talk. She began asking why I've forgotten all the

697
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 2: good things she did because you cheated on him, Because

698
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 2: you're cheater. Kind of outweighs all the puppies you saved,

699
00:31:57,320 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 2: and this actually saved puppies.

700
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 3: We have to factor puppy.

701
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 2: Saving factor in the puppy saving and the sacrifices she

702
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 2: made in our marriage. What sacrifices you sacrificed the marriage,

703
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 2: That's what you sacrificed. And that I'm just labeling her

704
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 2: for one thing she did.

705
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, it's so crazy.

706
00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 2: You're literally labeling me for the worst thing I did.

707
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 2: What about all the other good things I did?

708
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 5: Honey? I did like, I took up the.

709
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 6: Trash, I did the chores, I slept with your cousin.

710
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 3: Why can't you just why can't you just cast the

711
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:26,959
Speaker 3: worst thing I did?

712
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 5: She would have banded over it.

713
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 2: It's a little booboo shadow of I think it was

714
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 2: borderline personality sort I think that was, Uh can you

715
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 2: look at s at the beginning of the story. Yeah,

716
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure it was borderline.

717
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 3: Yeah.

718
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 2: I insisted it wasn't just one thing, and I said

719
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 2: that I haven't forgotten about all the good because if

720
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 2: I had, I wouldn't be treating her with kindness. I'd

721
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 2: be cold to her like I am to my cousin.

722
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 5: It is borderline personality and seasonal depression.

723
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 3: Yes.

724
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 2: I was then alerted to news that one of my

725
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 2: ex colleagues and a friend was being rushed to the

726
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 2: hospital after serious car accident, and she became even more

727
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 2: upset that I was diverting my focus from our conversation,

728
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 2: saying that this was symptomatic of our problems in the marriage,

729
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 2: where she always had to fight for my attention and

730
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 2: that's what caused this problem between us. She's literally blaming you.

731
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:17,000
Speaker 2: She's blaming you for cheating on you.

732
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 3: It's all your fault. It's all your fault. If you

733
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 3: had given me more attention, Lady wouldn't have cheated.

734
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 2: She's stinky.

735
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 3: I'm sure that that is all that was really missing.

736
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 3: If you wouldn't have played football for two hours during

737
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 3: the week each day, I think.

738
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 2: I probably wouldn't have had time to cheat on you.

739
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 4: Fine.

740
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 2: She also said that for the record, after some time,

741
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,360
Speaker 2: she would have forgiven me for cheating if I had

742
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 2: done what she had. What is.

743
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 3: Easy to say that, seeing guys, I haven't cheated on you,

744
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 3: so you can say that all.

745
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 2: She's like, well, if you had done it, I wouldn't

746
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 2: have been upset.

747
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 5: She's trying every manipulation tactic in the book rely and

748
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 5: it's just not.

749
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 2: She's a very sensitive person and can't even handle the

750
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 2: perceived threat of being abandoned. So if she found out

751
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 2: that I had an emotional relationship with another woman, let

752
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 2: alone a relative of hers, she would have lost her mind.

753
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 2: She even fell down to her knees crying. Why I

754
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 2: thought in my head, I'm pretty sure that's my line.

755
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 2: So the reason why I'm asking all this is do

756
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 2: I owe it to her to have these final discussions

757
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 2: about where things went wrong in our marriage so she

758
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 2: can get some closure, or do we just stop talking

759
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:28,959
Speaker 2: about the issue entirely and move on separately. I'm trying

760
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 2: to do everything by the book gron and Sunna and

761
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 2: not take away any of her writes from her regardless

762
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 2: of how the marriage ended. I want both of us

763
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 2: to be able to heal from this marriage ending. I've

764
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 2: always tried to carry myself with respect and honor, even

765
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:44,439
Speaker 2: in the face of this most heinous betrayal. And there

766
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:45,280
Speaker 2: is a third update.

767
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 6: Op, you're being too night she dis I was gonna say, Op,

768
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 6: you're being a wa way too good of a person,

769
00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 6: And that's good, You're being an honorable person. But you

770
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 6: don't owe her these things, you know, anything, especially the

771
00:34:56,760 --> 00:35:00,080
Speaker 6: way she's trying to manipulate and be tactical about it.

772
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 6: It's gross behavior. The fact that she can't own up

773
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:05,319
Speaker 6: to it and she's like, you don't have to be like, oh,

774
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:06,839
Speaker 6: where did our marriage go wrong?

775
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, she cheated. Cheated, That's where it went wrong. She

776
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 2: cheated on you for.

777
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 5: Months with your cousin.

778
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 2: You guys have been together for three years total, and

779
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:19,440
Speaker 2: she's cheated on you for a year of that.

780
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:23,240
Speaker 6: It's one third baby, Yeah, Like, there is no excuse.

781
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 2: And I hate when cheaters try to excuse their relationship

782
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 2: of their affairs by saying, oh, well, it was your

783
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 2: fault because there were problems in the relationship that I

784
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 2: never told you about.

785
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:33,840
Speaker 5: Her fault and your fault.

786
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:37,320
Speaker 6: Supposedly from her reasoning was you have a hobby.

787
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 2: You you play football, so.

788
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 5: I have to play with balls.

789
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,200
Speaker 2: It's only fair. Update one year later, I reflect and

790
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 2: believe that ironically being cheated on was the key to

791
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 2: some of the biggest bussings in my life. Glass half

792
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 2: full kind of guy. I have met some incredible people,

793
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:56,240
Speaker 2: travel too many countries, begun seeking Islamic knowledge, and developed

794
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 2: incredible friendships with brothers. Some of my family members have

795
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 2: figured it out or had suspicions and have gone cold

796
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 2: with the cousin. Good and there is another update two

797
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 2: years later.

798
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 6: It's also shows it shows that Opie is not trying

799
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 6: to be dramatic.

800
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:11,720
Speaker 5: Ye, not trying to have drama.

801
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 6: Honestly, I would bring it up to her and like,

802
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:16,200
Speaker 6: you should be so lucky that I'm not telling anybody

803
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:19,319
Speaker 6: about this, and you're still bringing it up, and you're

804
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 6: still trying to not be accountable.

805
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 5: Just stop it.

806
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, it's just it's exhausting.

807
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 2: At this point, I'm trying to search up out a prince.

808
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 3: It's been exhausting the whole time. Really, one second.

809
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 2: I want to start by saying, Aham duli la, thank

810
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 2: God for everything, whether things go in a way that

811
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 2: we think is good or not. Two years ago, my

812
00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:39,839
Speaker 2: ex wife had an emotional affair with my cousin, and

813
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 2: that was a time that felt like I was in

814
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:44,279
Speaker 2: a black hole with no sight of the top. Two

815
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 2: years later, I've experienced highs in my Dean walk of faith,

816
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 2: business and now personal life that seemed unimaginable at the time.

817
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 2: But there is a little bit left to this story.

818
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 2: Any final thoughts.

819
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 3: I hope your next wife super hot, yeah, super cool, yeah,

820
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 3: super hot, super cool, and.

821
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:02,839
Speaker 6: She enjoys your hobbies and maybe you guys can do

822
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 6: hobbies together.

823
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 3: Maybe she plays football too, and she only cheats on

824
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 3: you with you like in.

825
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 2: Pinac Lada song. Anyway, I found out about my ex

826
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,720
Speaker 2: wife's affair a week before Ramadan in twenty twenty three.

827
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 2: Then in the final week of Ramadan in twenty twenty five,

828
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 2: I met the kindest, most patient, most beautiful woman I've

829
00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:23,560
Speaker 2: met my life. She too had been married before, and

830
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,440
Speaker 2: in her first marriage she endured her own tough trials

831
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 2: that shaped the person she is today, a woman of

832
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 2: immense strength that she does not claim or boast about. Finally, enough,

833
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,839
Speaker 2: we met on this very separate in marriage ISO where

834
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 2: she saw my profile and reached out, and that simple

835
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: message led to what we have today. Alamdu la la.

836
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:43,960
Speaker 2: We are now married and enjoying our honeymoon, and I

837
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 2: wouldn't change anything that brought us to where we are today.

838
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,320
Speaker 2: And that's the end of that story, folks.

839
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 6: I just want to know if the cousin and the

840
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:52,720
Speaker 6: ex wife are now together.

841
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 2: Oh Lord, prop maybe I don't know. I don't think

842
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:57,760
Speaker 2: that would last though, especially.

843
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:01,800
Speaker 5: A lot of time at all, not at all. Malort, malort?

844
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 5: Do you want malort malort.

845
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:05,560
Speaker 2: That's the end of that story. And we got another

846
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:07,320
Speaker 2: one coming up, folks.

847
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 5: We do.

848
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 4: I caught my girlfriend cheating and it ruined her life.

849
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 2: How that happened?

850
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 4: And this is directly from the r slash okay story

851
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 4: time subreddit. This is one of our own here. This

852
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:21,879
Speaker 4: happened over fifteen years ago. We were both thirty eight now.

853
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 4: She was an old high school crush. We reconnected in

854
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:27,319
Speaker 4: our early twenties despite running in different circles. I was

855
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:30,359
Speaker 4: into festivals, she was into clubs. We dated for about

856
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,399
Speaker 4: a year and I got really close with her little brother.

857
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:35,319
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from BJH six h two

858
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:37,279
Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

859
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:40,320
Speaker 4: to the r slash okay storytime subreddits. And I'm Angie,

860
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here to give good

861
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,359
Speaker 4: advice goofully. But we don't have all the answers. We

862
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 4: just know what we would do in the situation. But

863
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 4: let us know what you would do in the comments.

864
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:51,279
Speaker 4: So Opie says, one night, I went to meet her

865
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:53,280
Speaker 4: at a club where she was already hanging out with friends.

866
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 4: I linked up with her brother and we headed in,

867
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:58,240
Speaker 4: only to see her sitting on her coworker's lap, chatting

868
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 4: casually with everyone like it was nothing. Her brother looked shocked.

869
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 4: We walked up and she went pale, and I just

870
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 4: casually asked how everyone was doing, pretending I didn't notice.

871
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 4: She brushed it off as normal. I think she had

872
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:13,720
Speaker 4: been flirting with this coworker let's call him Dean, because

873
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 4: he's a total wiener at work. But I don't know

874
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 4: how Dean goes into that, like just another D word.

875
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 2: The only thing, yeah, the only thing I can think

876
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:26,840
Speaker 2: of is like Gilmour girls, because Dean, Okay, okay, I

877
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 2: don't know your shirt right now is making quite.

878
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 4: A good Yeah, yeah, that's that's probably why. Yeah, but

879
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 4: that night was the first time that she actually crossed

880
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 4: the line and did something physical. When I left the club,

881
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,239
Speaker 4: I casually walked out like nothing was wrong, but deep

882
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 4: down I knew it was over right then and there.

883
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 4: I told him that I was heading to a house

884
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 4: party elsewhere, and her brother came with me, apologizing for

885
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 4: her the whole way. The party turned out to be

886
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,719
Speaker 4: at this girl's place, who is female thirty five now,

887
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 4: she was eighteen back then, someone I had flirted with

888
00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 4: and run into at festivals over the past year or so.

889
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 4: We hit it off while her brother hung out and

890
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 4: had fun. About an hour later, my girlfriend showed up

891
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 4: out of nowhere. I still don't know how she tracked

892
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 4: us down. She apologized, acted normal, and tried to get

893
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 4: me to go back to my place with her.

894
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 3: I declined.

895
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 4: She even asked to crash in the host's bed to

896
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 4: lure me in, but I said no. I told her

897
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 4: brother to drive her home and let him know that

898
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 4: I was done. I didn't trust her anymore, and we

899
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:25,839
Speaker 4: were over on her way out, I stayed polite while

900
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:28,760
Speaker 4: he told her that she had messed up big time.

901
00:40:29,239 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 4: That night, I hooked up with the host Okay, in

902
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:35,320
Speaker 4: her bedroom. Wow, the exact same one that my girlfriend

903
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:37,800
Speaker 4: had been trying to drag me in two just minutes earlier.

904
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 2: Wait, with the.

905
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 4: Door open and people all around the house while the

906
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 4: party raged on, I'm.

907
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:44,760
Speaker 2: Sorry, what just happened?

908
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:45,280
Speaker 4: What?

909
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 3: Wait?

910
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,600
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, can you like cash me?

911
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 6: Like?

912
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 3: Yeah?

913
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:51,840
Speaker 2: I literally am so confused, so much just happened.

914
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 4: So, okay, they're at a girl's birthday party. This is

915
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 4: after he saw her at the club with her on

916
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:01,400
Speaker 4: boss's lap. Okay, so right now, all.

917
00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:03,919
Speaker 2: He knows is that she sat on someone's lap.

918
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:06,280
Speaker 4: I guess so. But he still was like, that's over,

919
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 4: and so she, I think, was like apologizing and then

920
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 4: trying to seduce him into the party girl's bedroom to hook.

921
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:16,400
Speaker 3: Up at this party.

922
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:19,080
Speaker 4: And then he was like, no, brother, take her home.

923
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:22,760
Speaker 4: I'm done, and then he went back to the party,

924
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:25,480
Speaker 4: hooked up with party with the birthday girl in that

925
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:29,799
Speaker 4: bedroom doors open party, going on, oh, pe crazy that.

926
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 2: You're one of our own. Yeah, not a great move.

927
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 2: Pretty bad move if you're still calling her your girlfriend

928
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:41,320
Speaker 2: at the time.

929
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're done, Yeah, but.

930
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:48,279
Speaker 2: He's still called he didn't say my ex girlfriend. Yeah,

931
00:41:48,520 --> 00:41:52,919
Speaker 2: y'all aren't actually done. It's I mean, also, just it's

932
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,880
Speaker 2: not even okay. If you are done and you have

933
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 2: broken up, do not a classy.

934
00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 4: Move you Oh for sure, for sure.

935
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 2: I I gotta give it to you straight op.

936
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's just I'm just like, there's a lot of

937
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 4: layers there, but the one that I'm stuck on is

938
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 4: that you left the door and hooked up with the

939
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:16,399
Speaker 4: door open. Yeah, people all around. Yeah, that's wild, that's

940
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:16,960
Speaker 4: so wild.

941
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:17,800
Speaker 2: Speed Yeah.

942
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 4: But even her brother came back after dropping her off

943
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 4: and joined in the vibe. What I'm guessing vibe cannot

944
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 4: what yikes. I didn't talk to my ex for about

945
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:32,840
Speaker 4: five years. After that, I started dating the host and

946
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:35,879
Speaker 4: that lasted about nine months. She ended up with Dean

947
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 4: a few months later. From when I heard Dean was

948
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 4: a heavy drinker who treated her like garbage.

949
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 3: Yikes.

950
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 4: He basically moved himself into her house and had this

951
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:46,280
Speaker 4: gross habit of geeing in the corner of her bedroom

952
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 4: when he was two wasted to make it to the bathroom.

953
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:51,359
Speaker 2: Why do you know this? How do you know this?

954
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:54,240
Speaker 2: That would anyone ever share this import I mean.

955
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 4: That's like the kind of rumor that would I think

956
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 4: go around. But yes, like, can you believe this happened?

957
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 2: But she who is she telling? Unless you're breaking out

958
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 2: with the guy, I would never tell anyone. Yeah, I

959
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 2: would keep that to myself unless I broke up, and

960
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:09,799
Speaker 2: then I'd be like, oh my god, you will not believe.

961
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 3: This crazy thing.

962
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 4: Dude, that's wild.

963
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:11,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

964
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:14,760
Speaker 2: So okay, So she seems like she cheated, he breaks

965
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:17,160
Speaker 2: up with her, yep, I guess that was a little

966
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 2: unclear to me. Yeah, and then he immediately hooks up

967
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 2: with someone else yep, dates her for nine months, and

968
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:26,720
Speaker 2: then I guess she got with the boss man. Oh, pep.

969
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 2: It seems like you are reeling in this moment.

970
00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, hey's Sean here. We're gonna get back to

971
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 1: this episode. But a quick three minute break with Azer

972
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:34,840
Speaker 1: more sponsors.

973
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 4: They stay together long enough to have two kids.

974
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 2: What this is a wild story.

975
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:42,840
Speaker 4: He barely lifted a finger for them and didn't provide

976
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 4: any financial support. She finally left him and had to

977
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:48,080
Speaker 4: sell her house to get away. Now she's been a

978
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 4: great new partner who's stepped up as a dad to

979
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 4: her other two kids in every way, and they've had

980
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 4: two more together. Now, deean totally irresponsible man. He has

981
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 4: zero to do with her or the kids. And there

982
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 4: is a little bit more to this story. But Wowie Zouie.

983
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 2: I don't even know what advice to give you. Yeah,

984
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:09,280
Speaker 2: because it seems like it's been five years you've.

985
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 4: Been more than that.

986
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:13,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess it seems like you didn't cheat on her,

987
00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 2: because it seems like you did break up. That was

988
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 2: a little unclear to me. So you're in the clear there.

989
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 2: I would just say, like, in the future, if we

990
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 2: ever have messy breakups like this, you know, don't maybe

991
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 2: don't don't immediately hook up with someone else at a party.

992
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:28,240
Speaker 2: It's just not healthy, you know, it's not a healthy

993
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 2: way to process. But like feels like you probably know

994
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 2: that now.

995
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:33,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, all of the people in this story are just

996
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:37,399
Speaker 4: like wacky Doodle, the wacky Doodle, Like, all the love

997
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:39,879
Speaker 4: to you, especially since you're one of our own.

998
00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 2: That makes you special. It makes you special.

999
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 4: But but and also I just a wild story. I hope.

1000
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:48,399
Speaker 2: I hope five years pat later, I hope we are

1001
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:50,479
Speaker 2: in more like stable part of our life.

1002
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 3: Yes, I hope.

1003
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, there this was like yeah, years, years,

1004
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:54,759
Speaker 4: years ago.

1005
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you probably yeah, you're probably doing way better now.

1006
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, hopefully there's a little bit more to the story. Recently,

1007
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 4: her brother told me that she only got with Dean

1008
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,080
Speaker 4: and stuck it out because I moved on the same night.

1009
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:08,399
Speaker 4: She wanted to quote prove that it was worth it

1010
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 4: and show that she had it better than meat.

1011
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 2: Well she sucks.

1012
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do feel bad about how it ended. There

1013
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 4: was no direct to communication for me, just ghosting through

1014
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:21,520
Speaker 4: her brother for years. There was no drama or fighting,

1015
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:23,399
Speaker 4: and if we run into each other now we chat

1016
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 4: like old friends. But knowing she went through all that

1017
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 4: heck with Dean partly because how I handled it, it

1018
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 4: eats at me. Was my lack of closure of the spark.

1019
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 4: I just needed to vent this and there is no

1020
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 4: more to that story. But I don't know. I don't

1021
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:38,399
Speaker 4: think you have to feel guilty about it.

1022
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 2: No, I don't think you need to feel guilty about

1023
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 2: anything that happened with your ex girlfriend because she cheated

1024
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 2: on you. Yeah, However, I think it just like just

1025
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,479
Speaker 2: going forward knowing that that was not a healthy way

1026
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 2: to handle that situation is going to benefit you.

1027
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's so. Yeah, I think your actions

1028
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 4: just mostly affected you. I think, you know, because she

1029
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 4: saw that and made those choices because of that is

1030
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:05,720
Speaker 4: that's all her choice. She did not have to react

1031
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 4: that way.

1032
00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 3: And also, I.

1033
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 4: Don't think that you have to feel bad about that

1034
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 4: at all. It's more of just like we want you

1035
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 4: to change for your own sakes exactly. But I'm sure

1036
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 4: you have though, yeah, I mean five years yeah, yeah,

1037
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 4: like yeah, that was that was that was that was that.

1038
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 4: I do wonder because this was like this was this

1039
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,240
Speaker 4: happened over fifteen years ago, So I hope that.

1040
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 2: Wait, it's happened fifteen years ago.

1041
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:33,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, five, no, because it started out when OPI was

1042
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:36,799
Speaker 4: like twenty one. Oh and now Op's thirty eight, and

1043
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 4: so there we got like five years in this story.

1044
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 2: But you've got to play it now. Yeah.

1045
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, you've got to be gotta be good. If you've

1046
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:49,000
Speaker 4: got an update for that, let us know, because I'm

1047
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,879
Speaker 4: I hope that you're you're doing well. If it's still

1048
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 4: eating at you, I'm sorry, I don't think it needs to.

1049
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 2: I agree. Yeah, I don't think. I don't think it.

1050
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I don't think so.

1051
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:00,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think. I think when you're young, you often

1052
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 2: handle things like this poorly. Yeah, it's just something to

1053
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 2: learn from, Yeah, which I think you have, I'm sure.

1054
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:11,160
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story.

1055
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:12,160
Speaker 4: Yes it is.

1056
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 2: And that's the end of the episode. So if you

1057
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:17,400
Speaker 2: love us, make sure to subscribe. We love you and

1058
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:18,480
Speaker 2: see you all.