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Speaker 1: This is the most traumatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 1: So we're here, Yeah, we're here at the hotel in Carmel,

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Speaker 1: and everybody's we've taken over this. It's very cute, very

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Speaker 1: cute seaside hotel. And there's like, I don't know, like

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Speaker 1: thirty rooms or something, and we have all of.

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Speaker 2: Them because there's it has that nice feeling of kind

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Speaker 2: of like what you guys do with your wedding.

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Speaker 3: You took over the property and everybody's together.

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Speaker 1: So Dean and Kayler are here with us, and Lauren

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Speaker 1: and I have it's a lovely room, love this hotel.

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Speaker 1: But our room is when I say it's above the lobby,

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Speaker 1: you walk up some stairs behind the desk and that's

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Speaker 1: our room.

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Speaker 3: Dean, did you have a mustache yesterday?

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Speaker 4: Were you talking about No, I've always had an exposed

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Speaker 4: upper lap last night?

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Speaker 1: Did you save your must that's so random? Did you

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Speaker 1: shave last night or this morning?

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Speaker 5: I don't know what you guys are talking about. I've

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Speaker 5: always looked like this.

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Speaker 1: When you look child, you look so young.

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Speaker 4: I feel like you guys are making like a weird

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Speaker 4: joke that I'm not in on right now.

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Speaker 3: I know for sure, you.

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Speaker 1: Rode in a golf car with him for seven hours yesterday.

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Speaker 1: So now I'm like, I feel like a real jerk,

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Speaker 1: and I don't.

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Speaker 2: The reason that I know is because he was telling

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Speaker 2: me step by step how when he pulls on his

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Speaker 2: mustache hairs it helps him sneeze.

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Speaker 6: And.

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Speaker 5: I really get in there for the nose.

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Speaker 1: Why do you need the sneeze?

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Speaker 5: Why would you want to make I love sneezing. It's

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Speaker 5: one of my favorite things to do. I'm serious.

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Speaker 4: Sneezing is it's it's it's a fun experience.

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Speaker 3: You're sneezing on purpose.

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Speaker 4: So you'll just grab a nose hair and pull its

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Speaker 4: just and sometimes I'll do this because you're born. If

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Speaker 4: you get it just right, you can make yourself sneez

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Speaker 4: Whenever you try to.

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Speaker 1: Do it right now, you're honestly you just want to sneeze.

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Speaker 5: No, we're not going to get there too long.

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Speaker 2: Don't belive that sneezes are like one tenth of mon orgas.

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Speaker 5: Kind of them rapidly, real quick. You're on cloud nine.

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Speaker 1: So last night we went to Sadies to see the

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Speaker 1: uh the picture, the infamous now picture hanging over the toilet,

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Speaker 1: and we left I don't around midnight or something like that,

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Speaker 1: and all of a sudden we can hear everything going

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Speaker 1: on in the little lobby, and it's a it's kind

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Speaker 1: of an old house, and so we can hear everything.

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Speaker 1: If someone like clears their throat, we can hear it down.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to clarify, I'm being honest. We could

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Speaker 2: not understand anything.

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Speaker 3: Anyone was saying. It's just you sneezed. We probably would

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Speaker 3: have distinguished.

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Speaker 1: I can specifically hear people. So I immediately heard Sarah Hyland,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, Sarah, and wells are downstairs. I

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Speaker 1: didn't know who else, but I could hear there was

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Speaker 1: in the lobby, and I'm like, and the last words

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Speaker 1: I heard when you guys, and now I know it

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Speaker 1: was you guys came in Sarah saying whatever you have

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Speaker 3: We heard there say if any type of wine.

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Speaker 1: We were like, and then so how long did you

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Speaker 4: Well, not me, I went back by myself from the book.

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Speaker 4: I left Sadies by myself, thinking they were going to

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Speaker 4: actually really funny. I'll like Kaylen answered that question a second.

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Speaker 4: But she goes to bed at eight thirty pm every

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Speaker 4: single night at home, She's always in bed before nine,

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Speaker 4: and then whenever she gets together with Sarah, she's staying

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Speaker 1: That's like Ben and Jess. Ben and Jester like that.

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Speaker 1: Ben's like, yeah, we go to bed at like, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: so you're normally like an eight thirty person.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, Me and Jester are the same that way. But

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Speaker 7: when I'm with Sarah it's the only I don't really

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Speaker 7: like to drink a lot, and let like, yeah, unless

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Speaker 1: A partner, what is it about Sarah that brings it

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Speaker 7: In same with Jess, Me and Jess were like, the

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Speaker 7: only time we ever get drunk is when we were

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Speaker 7: with Sarah, and I think I might still be a

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Speaker 1: She's your muse.

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Speaker 2: Well, I was just doing the math on if you

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Speaker 2: went to bed after three, it's it's nine am.

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Speaker 3: Now you're not okaying.

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Speaker 4: Great, and then you guys feeling great to what you

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Speaker 4: guys were saying earlier too. We're on the bottom floor,

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Speaker 4: so whoever is in the room above us was stomping

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Speaker 5: Yes, it was a rough.

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Speaker 3: That was Sarah Wells just getting home.

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Speaker 1: This has been fun because again, you know, you can

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Speaker 1: stay in a big hotel and that's lovely, but we're

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Speaker 1: staying at the La Petite Palis and really this really

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Speaker 1: is like an old house that wraps around a courtyard,

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Speaker 1: in the small little lobby, if you hear whatever, you're

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Speaker 1: like you're bumping into each other. And anytime we step

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Speaker 1: we are a big fit at this family getaway, which

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Speaker 1: is kind of cool because we sat this morning and

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Speaker 1: we did not intend to do this, but all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden we had breakfast with Tarctic and Bob Guiney

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Speaker 1: with his computer, and then.

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Speaker 2: Dean shaved his mustache in front of everybody, which I'm

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Speaker 2: glad we were all this.

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Speaker 4: I still don't know if that if you're making a

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Speaker 4: with that?

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Speaker 7: But go you keep talking because photo where they're like,

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Speaker 7: does he have a mustache? Does?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Okay, so Caylen, you stayed up till three am? Do

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Speaker 2: you do what happens when my girlfriends and I have

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Speaker 2: a group trip together.

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Speaker 1: It's such a bushy mustache?

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Speaker 5: You guys got me.

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Speaker 3: Why did you shave it?

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Speaker 4: I just felt like, uh like looking fresh, you know,

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Speaker 4: changing it up a little bit.

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Speaker 7: It does this all the time.

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Speaker 1: By the way, it's just like I said, I'll speak

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Speaker 1: for Kailin.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you preferred on mustache.

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Speaker 1: You have a handsome face, handsome.

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Speaker 5: Wow, you guys are too nice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I like no mustache.

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Speaker 4: I was actually just going through random old pictures from

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Speaker 4: when I was like in my twenties and stuff, and

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Speaker 4: it's I was. We were talking about this the other

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Speaker 4: day too. Definitely gotten less attractive, and it's annoying looking

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Speaker 4: at you because you've gotten way. I don't want to

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Speaker 4: say more handsome, because you've always been handsome, but you,

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Speaker 4: like I said the other day, you look twenty years younger.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: That's so nice. I think he was leaving the show.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, stress a lot of way. Yeah, what about like,

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Speaker 1: can you do scruff?

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Speaker 5: Nope?

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Speaker 4: Okay, So that's why I do the mustache because I

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Speaker 1: I could see you a scruff. I bet you'd look good.

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Speaker 4: I wish well, you remember I don't know if you

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Speaker 4: remember my father. He has a full beard down like

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Speaker 4: a button. Yeah, and my brothers can go crow full.

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Speaker 5: Beards, but not me.

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Speaker 7: Meems like a patchy guy.

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Speaker 5: I'm a patchy guy.

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Speaker 2: I think your dad will probably go down as the

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Speaker 4: Sure, yeah, yeah, well good for good for him, good

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Speaker 4: for that. That's probably last time I talked to him.

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Speaker 4: Actually was on the show really right right around then. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: but now we live.

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Speaker 7: In the same town as it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so do you talk to him or Sammer?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 4: I I was at my friend's dad's sixtieth birthday party

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Speaker 4: their day and hit one of my friend's moms was like,

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Speaker 4: you should go in and like try to mend the

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Speaker 4: bridge with your father, and I was like, I really

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Speaker 4: So one of these days I'm going to stop in

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Speaker 3: Well, you can do it for I mean, I gotta

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Speaker 2: I'm okay with a family estrangement. I really don't like

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Speaker 2: when people are like, you have to you have to

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Speaker 2: do it. You only have one dad. It's like, cool,

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Speaker 2: I'm his kid. Like it's always he being to me

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Speaker 2: and like I'm his only Well you have brothers.

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Speaker 3: But you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I have a friend who doesn't speak to

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Speaker 2: that's always people's response. And it's like, but that's the parents.

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Speaker 2: Shouldn't they mend this fence with me? So I don't

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Speaker 2: like when people.

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Speaker 1: Say always brings up a good point, and because she

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Speaker 1: always puts things in perspective for me, being my wise

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Speaker 1: little buddha, and she's like, well, think about your kids.

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Speaker 1: Would you do this to your kids? And I'm like,

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Speaker 1: oh no, it's not no way. There's no way I

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Speaker 1: I just there's no way. Even if they try, we'll

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Speaker 1: let them. I will find you. So you're right, it's

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Speaker 1: not on you, and I would just say what I

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Speaker 1: was going to say is not you owe it to

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Speaker 1: yourself or whatever. It's like, if you want to, if

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Speaker 1: it's something that you think would give you closure, make

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Speaker 1: you happy, give you whatever in your soul, great do it.

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Speaker 1: If not, you don't owe it to anybody.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well it's tough.

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Speaker 4: Well because Kaylen's biological dad is kind of the same way,

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Speaker 4: Like we don't really talk to either of them.

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Speaker 5: But it's tough.

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Speaker 4: I like when he's dead in twenty years or whatever

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Speaker 4: it is, you know, I like, well, I regret not

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Speaker 4: having a relationship with him maybe a little bit.

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Speaker 1: So that's the point, right, It's that's the thing. It's

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Speaker 1: it's only on you. How do you think you will

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Speaker 1: feel what will be? You know, if you feel like

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Speaker 1: that's going to leave a big hole and now I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna have great regret, then do it.

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Speaker 2: It's I think it's whatever is going to give you peace.

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Speaker 2: I am an advocate for that, like your personal piece.

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Speaker 2: So if you feel like there's something unsaid that you

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Speaker 2: need to say, I have another friend who stopped talking

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Speaker 5: Eight years ago seven.

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Speaker 5: And I tried to get to you jump out of

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Speaker 4: Will you please get me like flight for flight for

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Speaker 7: so much being married to him or being with him

443
00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:11,480
Speaker 7: for five years. Like I was so high strung and

444
00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:14,399
Speaker 7: such a pageant girl and still am a little high stuck.

445
00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:15,600
Speaker 7: But but I'm working on it.

446
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Speaker 3: Yeah you got a pageant girl getting insurance?

447
00:17:18,040 --> 00:17:18,200
Speaker 1: Man?

448
00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:20,440
Speaker 3: You really one big yeah?

449
00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:23,960
Speaker 2: Yeah right, okay, I'm doing like the math on your

450
00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:26,000
Speaker 2: like I we would have kids. I want to have

451
00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,960
Speaker 2: all girls. I'm hiking in Pakistan. Have you guys talked

452
00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:31,960
Speaker 2: about like, will you reel it in it all? If

453
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Speaker 2: for when you have kids, are you going to continue

454
00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:34,280
Speaker 2: the adventures?

455
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Speaker 4: We're already kind of relling it in now because we

456
00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:37,080
Speaker 4: just bought this house in Colorado.

457
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Speaker 1: Set down roots, Yeah, set down some congratulations, by the way,

458
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. It's great.

459
00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:43,359
Speaker 4: It was a little out of my budget personally, so

460
00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,160
Speaker 4: now we're like tapering it back a little bit.

461
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Speaker 1: It always will be. Yeah, you know, that's my advice to anybody.

462
00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:50,320
Speaker 1: It's like, just know that your house, whatever you're buying,

463
00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:52,359
Speaker 1: it's going to be whatever the number you had in mind.

464
00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:55,440
Speaker 1: It's more, but it's okay, Like it is like, you'll

465
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Speaker 1: make it work. It's like, and I'm not saying live

466
00:17:57,480 --> 00:17:59,880
Speaker 1: beyond your means, but it always is. Yeah, Like, yeah,

467
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Speaker 1: even if you said I want the million dollar house,

468
00:18:02,280 --> 00:18:03,080
Speaker 1: it's one point five.

469
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Speaker 3: Well, Ran was just saying he wash. She had spent

470
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Speaker 3: one hundred dollars on life insure, so I don't know,

471
00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:12,000
Speaker 3: it's low.

472
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Speaker 4: It's don't like spending money on these Yeah, Pakistan, I guess.

473
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Speaker 3: We can have the kids in this van. Come on.

474
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Speaker 1: Okay, Well I'm interested if your economics will chicks it.

475
00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:24,600
Speaker 1: You know, again, you and I have that conversation. Yeah,

476
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Speaker 1: I don't know if I ever told you. You know,

477
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Speaker 1: Dean and I discussed this the other night is when

478
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Speaker 1: we were on the beach at Paradise. It was like

479
00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:32,240
Speaker 1: three or four in the morning during right before a

480
00:18:32,280 --> 00:18:34,800
Speaker 1: rose ceremony and men Dean looked at me, and you know,

481
00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:36,879
Speaker 1: I'm standing there in my suit, just dead tired, and

482
00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:39,679
Speaker 1: you know, like you said, it was monsoon season. The

483
00:18:39,720 --> 00:18:43,280
Speaker 1: crabs are crawling all over us. And he's like, essentially,

484
00:18:43,280 --> 00:18:44,760
Speaker 1: why are you here, like if you like you have

485
00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:47,400
Speaker 1: enough money to retire, right, And I was like yeah, technically,

486
00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:50,040
Speaker 1: and he's like what are you doing here? Like why

487
00:18:50,119 --> 00:18:52,560
Speaker 1: why wouldn't you just walk away? And he's like, I

488
00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:54,639
Speaker 1: would be gone. And so it was just funny, and

489
00:18:54,680 --> 00:18:56,840
Speaker 1: it's like it's a question that's stuck with me and

490
00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:58,920
Speaker 1: it's lived with me. And we talked in depth about that.

491
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Speaker 3: Wow, the effect.

492
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Speaker 1: But what I'm curious of soubertin effect is if if

493
00:19:04,320 --> 00:19:08,600
Speaker 1: your thoughts have changed about living life on the edge

494
00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:11,800
Speaker 1: of like, Okay, I'll make this much money as an influencer,

495
00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:13,399
Speaker 1: and i have enough money to kind of live for

496
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Speaker 1: a year. I'll go to Pakistan. Now I'll kind of

497
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Speaker 1: shut it down. Have you thought more about, Okay, if

498
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Speaker 1: I want to bring another bring a child into this

499
00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:22,920
Speaker 1: world and build this family, if like, okay, now I

500
00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:24,400
Speaker 1: need to kind of build a nest egg, I need

501
00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:24,800
Speaker 1: to for.

502
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Speaker 4: Sure, Well, I always think that the influencing thing is temporary,

503
00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:29,879
Speaker 4: and I think it'd be crazy to assume otherwise, you know,

504
00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:31,840
Speaker 4: So now we you see, to figure out what we're

505
00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:33,639
Speaker 4: going to do once that well runs dry. I'm just

506
00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:35,399
Speaker 4: saying yes to every deal right now and trying to

507
00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:37,480
Speaker 4: like collect enough money to at least let us skirt

508
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Speaker 4: by for a while. But it's so it's the root

509
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Speaker 4: of one hundred percent of my stress.

510
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Speaker 7: Finances, and like, going back to insurance, my stress is

511
00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:48,120
Speaker 7: coming from like because we have to buy our own

512
00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:50,479
Speaker 7: insurance and pay for it, and our deductible is seventeen

513
00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:53,320
Speaker 7: thousand dollars and monthly is so expensive. So I'm like,

514
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Speaker 7: when I have to go to all these doctors appointments,

515
00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:56,159
Speaker 7: what the heck are we going to do?

516
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Speaker 3: That's my stress right now.

517
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Speaker 1: Yeah, finances are always it is. It's it's a huge burden.

518
00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:01,920
Speaker 1: You know.

519
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Speaker 3: You said something the other day and not an argument

520
00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:08,840
Speaker 3: we were having. I don't know what the right word.

521
00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:09,960
Speaker 5: Is, but.

522
00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:14,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, well you said something like.

523
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Speaker 2: You don't understand the like you you were like, I've

524
00:20:20,280 --> 00:20:22,800
Speaker 2: always like been the caretaker, Like he was like, I've

525
00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:25,919
Speaker 2: always had the stress of the caretaking. And when I

526
00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:28,240
Speaker 2: really stopped and thought about it, I was like yeah,

527
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Speaker 2: I have to own that he totally has like in

528
00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:34,000
Speaker 2: your first marriage, in our relationship, now you have your kids,

529
00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 2: you help take care of your parents like other people.

530
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Speaker 2: And I've really tried to take that in and not

531
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Speaker 2: to like stereotype.

532
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Speaker 3: But I do think still in a lot of relationships.

533
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Speaker 2: I mean I've talked to my friends about it, Like

534
00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:48,800
Speaker 2: I think men feel that a lot, or whoever the

535
00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:49,560
Speaker 2: breadwinner is.

536
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Speaker 3: And I don't know if like.

537
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Speaker 2: Do you guys feel like you share that, like you

538
00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:55,480
Speaker 2: just said, it's the source of all your stress?

539
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Speaker 3: Is this this is big right now for you? Yeah?

540
00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:02,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean if our relationship, like I would be

541
00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:04,800
Speaker 4: the you and your relationship, you know, like she's the

542
00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:07,280
Speaker 4: red winner. She does all of the she does all

543
00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:10,240
Speaker 4: the planning and the logistics, and she takes care of everything.

544
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Speaker 5: And I'm just kind of like, yeah, sure, why not.

545
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,440
Speaker 8: So I don't know if that necessarily Well, there's one, Yeah,

546
00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 8: there's one who's like Chris is totally the person who's

547
00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:20,120
Speaker 8: looking at the bills and looking at the insurance and

548
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Speaker 8: what we told you guys this the other day as

549
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:23,879
Speaker 8: we're waiting for our uber, I thought the other day

550
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Speaker 8: I thought he told me that he got a life

551
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Speaker 8: insurance policy on me.

552
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Speaker 1: Lauren just learned. She thought I had been going at

553
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Speaker 1: Great Links to get in before we got married, to

554
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Speaker 1: get insurance policy on her. And then we're standing at

555
00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 1: the airport with Dean and Kaylin and she's talking about this,

556
00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:42,119
Speaker 1: and I said, Babe, you realize that insurance policy I

557
00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:45,399
Speaker 1: just got is on me. It's if something happens to me,

558
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Speaker 1: if I die.

559
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Speaker 5: Yeah.

560
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, you.

561
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Speaker 5: What sparked that for you to get that?

562
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Speaker 1: Well, because because my kids are taken care of, you know, again,

563
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Speaker 1: it's as Lauren said, I've since you know, I college,

564
00:21:57,720 --> 00:21:59,679
Speaker 1: I've I've lived alone. I was on my own and

565
00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:02,520
Speaker 1: I've paid for everything. So whether it was rent turns

566
00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 1: into mortgage and insurance and credit, you name it, it's

567
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:08,359
Speaker 1: always just been on my plate. And so you know,

568
00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 1: it's always been I wouldn't say a burden, it's just life, right.

569
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Speaker 1: And so once I had kids, you know, I established

570
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Speaker 1: accounts for them and insurance and stuff, and especially once

571
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Speaker 1: I got divorced, once I became a single dad, it

572
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 1: was very important because I was still taking care of

573
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Speaker 1: my ex and taking care of my kids and trying

574
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Speaker 1: to take care of myself and my you know, other

575
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Speaker 1: parts of my family, and so I had to kind

576
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Speaker 1: of move things around and make sure that no matter

577
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Speaker 1: what happens to my ex and I, my kids are

578
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Speaker 1: always taking care of because they were still young. I mean,

579
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Speaker 1: you know, I'm back when we got divorced. There nine

580
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Speaker 1: and eleven years.

581
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Speaker 3: Old, nonhing, do you know them?

582
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Speaker 5: Then? I met him when.

583
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Speaker 1: I'm pretty young, It's seven eight years ago?

584
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Speaker 3: Long have you been doing so?

585
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:47,480
Speaker 2: When?

586
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:48,040
Speaker 4: Wow?

587
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Speaker 5: I know. When Kelen said eight years ago, I was like,

588
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Speaker 5: are you.

589
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Speaker 3: Sure, Dean and I are over here? Like what year

590
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Speaker 3: is that? You guys are like, so the insurance okay,

591
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,399
Speaker 3: but yeah, and so you know there have to be

592
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:00,880
Speaker 3: better Dean.

593
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Speaker 1: We precipitated this to answer your question, Dean, was when I,

594
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Speaker 1: you know, added Lauren to my family and was to

595
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 1: my life. That part of that to me is the

596
00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:15,480
Speaker 1: fiscal responsibility of taking care of her. And I know

597
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 1: that she doesn't need to be taken care of, like

598
00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 1: you know, she she's fine on her own. But at

599
00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:23,160
Speaker 1: the same time, like, that's part of my responsibility, I feel,

600
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Speaker 1: And so if something happens to me, you know, I've

601
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Speaker 1: brought her into my life and I want her to

602
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Speaker 1: be able to keep that life.

603
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and Sadeine, I have this idea that if you

604
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 2: want to take Chris hiking, yes in Pakistan.

605
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 3: I think like super fun, super safe.

606
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 1: Yeah. It was weird because she's like, do you want

607
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Speaker 1: to go to Korea? And she's like, no, North Korea?

608
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:44,440
Speaker 5: What Yah?

609
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like, just go hiking. It's fine, it's beautiful,

610
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:48,280
Speaker 1: untouched resources.

611
00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:50,879
Speaker 2: The really idiotic thing is that when I've now realized

612
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Speaker 2: when you said I got a life insurance policy on

613
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Speaker 2: like for you, I thought it was on me, but

614
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Speaker 2: that also it would benefit us, Like I don't you

615
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,160
Speaker 2: know what, I didn't understand what I've been.

616
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 1: Going to all these doctors appointments. I had to get

617
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:05,760
Speaker 1: blood tests. You know, you have to do all the

618
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:07,639
Speaker 1: stuff so you can get preferred or super preferred and

619
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,360
Speaker 1: all that, and so yeah, I got a clean bill

620
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Speaker 1: of health. And I've literally been talking to her while

621
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Speaker 1: I've been going to these appointments, like she was on

622
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:15,920
Speaker 1: the road and she's like, what are you doing. I said,

623
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Speaker 1: I'm getting my blood taken. I'm doing all this stuff

624
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,520
Speaker 1: for the policy, and I'm like, why would that have

625
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 1: Why would I have given blood for you? But anyway,

626
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:27,520
Speaker 1: long story short anyway. So yeah, but that's part of

627
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:29,880
Speaker 1: the that's part of the responsibility, and it is it's

628
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 1: something that is it's not joyful, it's not fun. But

629
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Speaker 1: like Laura and I sat down, it's like I wanted

630
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Speaker 1: her to see the picture of this is our life

631
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Speaker 1: like and it's important to have those conversations, especially when

632
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Speaker 1: you guys I don't know if y'all did ever had

633
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Speaker 1: that discussion of babe, are you in debt? Like how

634
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Speaker 1: much debt are you caring? What are you bringing to

635
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: the table, and you know, like here's my accounts. Like

636
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Speaker 1: I sat with Lauren, i walked her through all my

637
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 1: bank accounts. I'm like, here's the money, here's what we have,

638
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: here's what and so we.

639
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Speaker 4: Have a pretty good and we even when we first

640
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 4: to dating, we opened like a joint checking account together

641
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:04,959
Speaker 4: within like a few months yea. And then we were

642
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 4: always kind of pretty open and transparent about our money.

643
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Speaker 7: And the main thing was just getting Deane's credit up. Yeah,

644
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 7: but we built that pretty good.

645
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 6: Yeah.

646
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 5: Yeah, your credit score.

647
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Speaker 4: I think when I went on Bachelor at my credit

648
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:16,960
Speaker 4: score was like five twenty.

649
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,440
Speaker 1: It was like five. Yeah, that's really low.

650
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 5: It was almost as low as it possibly could have been.

651
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,159
Speaker 7: And then the past five years we've been working on that.

652
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, well I would ye fifty, which is pretty good.

653
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 3: Wow, she just knows it work.

654
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, she knows it and hers is like eight

655
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 4: hundred something. We've always been pretty transparent with that and

656
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 4: it's nice. Like I always wonder too if if times

657
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 4: have weren't good, Like, you know, we haven't had to

658
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:41,880
Speaker 4: stress about money very much, you know, like I said,

659
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Speaker 4: it is the root of a lot of my stress.

660
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Speaker 4: But it is still like we are very fortunate with

661
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Speaker 4: what we have and I can't imagine eventually when things

662
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 4: might go south if they do, hopefully they don't, but

663
00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,880
Speaker 4: like it's just it's just another layer wrinkle to add

664
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:57,119
Speaker 4: into it, to to get upset with each other about Well,

665
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 4: now it's been good. Actually, she wanted to buy the

666
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 4: new iPhone lately, and I just keep telling her, like,

667
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 4: we don't need you don't need the new iPhone phone.

668
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:07,919
Speaker 4: So yeah, we still have some like small arguments about that.

669
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 4: She doesn't like that I had my golf membership in

670
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:12,719
Speaker 4: l A still, so we need to iron some stuff out.

671
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:13,000
Speaker 5: Well.

672
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 7: When we got married, we're like we're fully like finances

673
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:18,240
Speaker 7: are completely blended now, and so it's like we need

674
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 7: to be super honest about what we're spending.

675
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I'm just now remembering your entire trajectory

676
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:36,679
Speaker 2: on the show, and I just remember that you were

677
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 2: the f boy on Paradise. I'm not exaggerating. I fully

678
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 2: forgot it until like just a few minutes ago.

679
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, that was looking at you.

680
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:47,120
Speaker 4: Now, I was the F boy. I think I made

681
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 4: F boys like trendy.

682
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 5: Yeah.

683
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, Elon Gale, is you for that show?

684
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 1: Yeah?

685
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, but no, I also didn't know that story about

686
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 2: Dean being your financial advisor on the beach.

687
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,320
Speaker 5: He was no more like the life advisor. I would

688
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:04,120
Speaker 5: say it was very literal.

689
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, speaking of rude people, Ben Higgins just walked in.

690
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 1: We was talking about how you stole the toast last

691
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 1: night and just buried me.

692
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 2: And upset Chris so much that he had to go

693
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 2: procure a dessert and come forth from the kitchen singing.

694
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, that was nice.

695
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 2: His ego was smashed so hard that he was like,

696
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 2: I need to perform a musical number now.

697
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: No, but yeah, And actually I was a little bummed

698
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: to hear that Paradise has allegedly been postponed, I think

699
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: is the official way they're saying it is they're postponing

700
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:37,880
Speaker 1: it for a year or canceling it.

701
00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:40,080
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I did hear some whispers.

702
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 1: Obviously, either way, that's not It's never good in TV.

703
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,679
Speaker 1: We all know this business well enough that when you know,

704
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 1: they don't postpone shows that are doing great. But but

705
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 1: I was bummed to hear that.

706
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 4: As a fan of that show. Not so much the

707
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 4: main show. It's just because I don't really watch reality

708
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 4: television a lot. It has seemed to have gotten worse

709
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 4: over the years.

710
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,719
Speaker 7: Yeah, I've discussed this a lot, just because people are

711
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 7: so hyper aware and so worried about social media and

712
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 7: like coming across poorly that it's not good television.

713
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:07,720
Speaker 1: You know what I noticed, And I said this when

714
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 1: we were here last year and I met some or

715
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 1: maybe some other iHeart thing. And I always meet some

716
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 1: of the kind of the newer people that I didn't

717
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 1: watch and I don't know them, Like so Justin and

718
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:18,719
Speaker 1: Susie are here. They're new and I think they were

719
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:23,199
Speaker 1: on kind of recent seasons. And what I've noticed is

720
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 1: there's no joy. No one's talking about it, even the

721
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 1: ladies from the Golden Bachelor. No one's talking about it

722
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 1: glowingly about what an amazing experience it was. And look,

723
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: I know that everyone you know, even back in my day,

724
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 1: it was like there was good at its, bad at its,

725
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 1: and you know, and Higgins is sitting here. You're all

726
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 1: sitting here, and so we all had our ups and dow.

727
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 3: Higgins really bad at it.

728
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, we made him look like the golden Boy. I said, Ben,

729
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 1: I said, you've been getting away far too long from

730
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 1: being known as the nice guy from the Midwest. I said,

731
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: your run has come to an end. I'm gonna out

732
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 1: him as for the guy he really is. But I

733
00:28:57,880 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 1: saw him push an old lady down on the street

734
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: and Carmel, it was horrible, horrible man, And.

735
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 3: That was you.

736
00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 1: I was the old man.

737
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 3: We're in California.

738
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 1: He said, screw you, old man, and he pushed me

739
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 1: down on the golf course. And but it is That's

740
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 1: one thing I've noticed, and it's unfortunate that no one

741
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 1: comes away with Joy and it's almost like this experience

742
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: they've survived, which is a really and and I don't

743
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: know if you guys think back on your time with Joy.

744
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 4: Even though there were a lot of like darker moments

745
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 4: like the f Boy series that I was kind of

746
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 4: in the thick of uhhase. Yeah, yeah, the hometown experience

747
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 4: wasn't too good for me. Winter Games as a whole

748
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 4: was just a mess of a show. Still fun, I guess,

749
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 4: but yeah, I still look back on those fondly, Like

750
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 4: even though there were bad moments, I still look at

751
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 4: it as a net positive.

752
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 7: And yeah, it was like a fun time with friends

753
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 7: and and you Yeah, you've got your things that you

754
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 7: go through publicly.

755
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 3: But I had a blast.

756
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 1: And y'all noticed that when you run into people on

757
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 1: the French just that joy.

758
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 7: It's like, who if that was brutal? I'm like, you

759
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 7: didn't have fun. Yeah, you didn't have a blast.

760
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 1: And I'm like, like, why'd you just like you just

761
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 1: signed up for prison camp? What was going on?

762
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 7: They took your phone, didn't communicate with anyone.

763
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 5: No, that's true. I guess I never thought about that.

764
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 4: But you're right, And I don't really talk to a

765
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 4: lot of like the newer contestants, so maybe I don't

766
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 4: just get that experience firsthand. But yeah, when we talked

767
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 4: to like Ben and and Wells and everyone else that

768
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 4: we know from like the same kind of era, for

769
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 4: lack of a better word, that we're from. It's always positive.

770
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 4: But the newer contestants maybe you just don't have the

771
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 4: same experience.

772
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: I always forget about Winter Games. It was so fun.

773
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm glad you had fun.

774
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 1: Remember when Ben fell in love with Yuki?

775
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, I do. We were just talking about that the

776
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 5: other day.

777
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 4: He was like pulling her around the front yard on

778
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:52,959
Speaker 4: the sledge and he's like screaming for it.

779
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 3: I don't remember you on that show.

780
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 5: That's good, that's let's keep it that way.

781
00:30:56,600 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 1: Let me there's an indelible like thing burned in my brain.

782
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 1: I can never get it out. It's this image, and

783
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 1: that is Ben Higgins and Dean in a speed racing

784
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 1: skin tight We had a speed racing event and we

785
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 1: thought this would be funny. We're gonna put them in

786
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: the you know, the true speedo thing, and it was interesting.

787
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, and those guys, those Canadian guys are all such

788
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 4: great skaters.

789
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 5: And then here we go.

790
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 4: I've like been on ice skates twice in my life

791
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 4: and it was just and then yeah, we were wearing

792
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 4: skin tight suits. You fall in that ice, you're busting

793
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 4: your hip wide open. Even at twenty seven, I was

794
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 4: scared to fall and hurt myself.

795
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: We had, you know, putting people on skis.

796
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 6: We had ski races and when there were people who

797
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 6: had never seen snow, and we were like, we're gonna

798
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 6: fire you down a mountain, We're like, here, we're gonna

799
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 6: let you practice for three minutes and now now it's

800
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 6: time to go. Speaking of insurance, no, I mean we

801
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 6: had this net upright, and people were flying into the net.

802
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: It was a horrible idea. And the snow was really icy.

803
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 1: It wasn't even good snow. Do you know how I.

804
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 2: Knew as a reporter, and this is before we're dating

805
00:31:57,840 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 2: that you kind of didn't give a shit about this

806
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 2: that show, like you were just having fun. I show

807
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 2: up for the interview and for the first time I've

808
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 2: been interviewing him for years, and he had facial hair

809
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 2: be remember that actually he is doing He's just he's

810
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 2: just enjoying this.

811
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 1: I guess it was kind of two things, honestly, that show.

812
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: So we were really burned out, Like they we kept

813
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 1: creating shows and you know, we were you know, kept

814
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 1: we were having massive success and we were kind of

815
00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 1: victims of our own success because ABC's like, give us more,

816
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:29,280
Speaker 1: give us more, give us more. We're doing twenty six

817
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: hours of Paradise, and so we were going from show

818
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 1: to show to show, and when they added Winter Games,

819
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: we had finally just what would happen was we we

820
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 1: would wrap Bachelor and that wraps like right around Thanksgiving,

821
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 1: and you'd finally you'd go home. You'd like, Okay, I

822
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 1: can see my family, spend time with the kids and

823
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 1: like reinvest and plug back in. And it was like, no, no, Like,

824
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: you're gonna go home celebrate Thanksgiving and you're going to

825
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: right back out to Vermont and you're going to be

826
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 1: there until basically Christmas. And it was just like such

827
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: a gut punch because I'm like I just on a

828
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 1: personal level spent so much time alone. And as Laura knows,

829
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: because we had her first flirty conversation in that hotel

830
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 1: room when she interviewed me. Because I was very I

831
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 1: didn't know that I was very well. I guess the

832
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 1: first flirty thing was in Paradise. And then then she

833
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:12,480
Speaker 1: came and asked.

834
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 2: Me, you know you got we were married for three

835
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 2: months and forgets everything.

836
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 1: There was episode she interviewed.

837
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 3: Down the mountain Dean.

838
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 1: She interviewed me for Winter Games and she came in

839
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: and she's like, by the way, are you single? And

840
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: this is in the interview. I was like, oh, she's

841
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 1: hitting on me. I want to know, and so what

842
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 1: was but what the truth? So this is how I

843
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 1: see the world? Right? The truth was?

844
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 3: He was like on camera, this professional woman is hitting

845
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 3: on me.

846
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: No, the truth.

847
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 3: The truth was, what's some respects on my name?

848
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 1: Some some a producer had heard I was dating somebody

849
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 1: and they just said, hey, Lauren, you need to ask

850
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 1: that idiot host if he's dating somebody to try and

851
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 1: get a scoop. Yes, of course in my mind, yeah,

852
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 1: I think she's hitting on me. Right, I like my

853
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 1: version and what's the real version?

854
00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 5: Though?

855
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 1: That was it?

856
00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 3: No, he really did tell the truth. The truth. Well,

857
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 3: that's how it was. At ET.

858
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 2: It was like like if you were going into an

859
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 2: interview and they're mandating questions, you have to ask, you

860
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 2: have to ask that. And they were like, we have

861
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 2: this tip that Chris Harrison is dating someone, so go

862
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 2: ask him if he's dating someone.

863
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 3: So I had to like and I had.

864
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 1: This, I've been dating someone, but we had been broken up.

865
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 1: So I was like, why yeah, and so we had

866
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 1: a very flirt and then he was like.

867
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 3: But there's this guy Dean who's here.

868
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's circumcised, because.

869
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 4: That's so funny that he's reading off your cards and Chris.

870
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 4: And then meanwhile I was just thinking like, Wow, this

871
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 4: girls really.

872
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 6: A lot.

873
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:33,960
Speaker 1: Because I help people find love does not mean I

874
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 1: was good at it myself. Those that can't do teach guys.

875
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:40,799
Speaker 1: It is so damn good to have you. It's good

876
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 1: to see you, and in all seriousness, it was great

877
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 1: to like spend some really quality time with you at

878
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: Wells and Sarah's wedding and then obviously this weekend and you, man,

879
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 1: I was like, I really, I said to Laura lest night,

880
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 1: I was like, I got to spend a lot of

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Speaker 1: time with Dean this week, and I was like, I've

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Speaker 1: really enjoyed getting to know you better and I feel

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Speaker 1: like you're in a great place in life for both

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Speaker 1: of you, and I just I love it. It's been

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Speaker 1: great really gotten close. I appreciate what a good guy

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Speaker 1: you are.

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Speaker 4: I want to take this opportunity to apologize to you

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Speaker 4: for losing our team play yesterday. I mean, I miss

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Speaker 4: some big puts out there. Let Ben and Walls take

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Speaker 4: about seventy bucks off of was that quote that.

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Speaker 3: You told me last night? I was like, how'd you

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Speaker 3: guys play?

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Speaker 2: And he said, you know what they say about golf,

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Speaker 2: it's just about having fun out there. I was like, Diana,

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Speaker 2: I don't know golf, but no one says that.

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Speaker 4: I always say the best golfer is the one having

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Speaker 4: the most fun.

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Speaker 5: So I was the best golfer.

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Speaker 1: Dean and I rode together. We had a blast, and

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Speaker 1: then we played Wells and Ben in a team event.

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Speaker 1: And again Higgins is right here. He did nothing Berger

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Speaker 1: all day, he wrote, and.

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Speaker 3: Why did you come into this room?

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Speaker 6: He wrote?

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Speaker 1: He's doing a podcast next because so almost famous podcasts.

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Speaker 1: Who's going to be on the almost famous podcast? Coming up?

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Speaker 1: Justin and Susie new love It Just yeah. I talked

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Speaker 1: to them last night about their relationship. Really interesting how

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Speaker 1: they You know, they were on separate shows, but that's

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Speaker 1: not how they really got together.

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Speaker 3: Well, look at Dean and Campon.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know they're coming in hot. There's Justin and

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Speaker 1: Susan you right there, so we will clear out. But Dean, Kaylin,

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Speaker 1: thanks for having us. Good to see you guys. I

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Speaker 1: love you guys. It's been fun. I think I speak

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Speaker 1: for everybody. Let's keep the mustache off. Yeah, well, and anestly,

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Speaker 1: did you shave this morning or last night?

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Speaker 5: It was this morning morning here? Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Oh so you did this for the show. I did

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Speaker 1: it for you, handsome.

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Speaker 5: He's back.

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Speaker 1: This is step one of Dean coming Back.

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Speaker 5: Thank you guys, thanks for listening.

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Speaker 1: Follow us on Instagram at the most dramatic pod ever,

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Speaker 1: us five stars. I'll talk to you next time.