WEBVTT - Reflecting on 2021 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:07.680 This show is back. Welcome to exactly a mother. This 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:10.520 is your girl, and you're listening to exact amout of 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:14.159 production of My Heart Radio. Miyamo. Thank you so much 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:17.240 for tuning in. Thank you for always being connected, for supporting, 0:00:17.239 --> 0:00:19.159 you for loving me, and if you don't love me, 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:21.840 thank you for listening at least. Hey, I appreciate the 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:25.160 haters some being. Life is good. Things keep getting only 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:28.720 but better. And let me tell you something. In the beginning, 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:30.960 I mean, if you're just tuning income, Okay, later on 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:33.159 in the beginning of the show, I started off the 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:36.120 show with the co host Stevie noonez or Steven Stevie 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:40.760 noniez and and the vibe was so good, the energy 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:46.080 was so good, Dominic Dominico, and it was just it 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:49.400 was just good, good vibes. I've missed him so much. 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:52.879 Um And because he started this journey with me, I 0:00:53.040 --> 0:01:01.000 told him me that Stevie and I'm gonna have to 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:04.360 see it in Peja like Pijama party, being really last, 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:07.959 being laid back even let's talk a little bit about 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:11.560 the things that we've been up to. Um. The lessons 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:16.280 learned just like a recap of one and how it 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:19.640 has been for him and obviously for myself. So Stevie, 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:23.200 thank you so much for coming back. Yes, I love you. 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:25.480 Oh my god, you look so good and we're so 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:31.000 laid back the jabs so we could get real today 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:33.680 and red room, Oh yes, I'm out there red. We're 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:37.200 feeling really red today. Um. The energies is good and 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:39.839 I don't know why, but today I woke up feeling 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:43.080 so positive. I feel good. I feel energized. It's not 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:45.280 because I handled Dick, because I haven't had none of that. 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:47.920 I can't drink, I can't smoke, I can't do nothing 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:50.480 better in my spirit. Maybe it's my baby is giving 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:53.680 me this positive energy. But I feel good inside. I 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:56.040 feel motivated. I feel like things are about to get 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:58.280 only but better. I feel like I want to I 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:01.200 don't know. I feel good. So with that being said, 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:06.360 let's get to it. Okay, can has been the best 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:08.880 thing that has happened to you this year? I decided 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:12.800 to make a move in faith and it was just 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:16.000 so amazing. I picked up my stuff, picked up my family, 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:20.240 got a beautiful house with a pool, um and moved 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:25.079 to Florida. And going to Florida during that process and 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:28.600 having no one, but I did have someone and her 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:33.280 name was Ada okay here, and that was such a 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:37.280 It was such an easier transition due to the fact 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:39.760 that you supported me. I mean I went out in 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:43.600 faith and you were like, oh my god, Stephen don 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:47.000 As in Florida, like let's connect and I got to 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:49.720 hang out with you and you guys really made me 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:53.520 feel like family. So the biggest highlight, Amta, was the 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:57.120 blessing that you worked in my life. I think just 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:00.680 you changed what you changed my if you gave me 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:04.239 a confidence like talk about a lot um the Latin 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:08.239 Next community supporting one another like you support. You gave 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:12.960 me little on me a chance to be on your podcast, 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:17.079 and my life has changed because You're following is so 0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:20.880 supportive and they're so loving. They sent me great messages 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:24.360 and just having you, Amata as like, I feel like 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:27.600 you're for real. We are pretty most, we are pretty most. 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:30.200 I'm super grateful to know that I was able to 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:32.760 be part of that special moment in your life this 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:36.840 year of growing, you know, because I know I know 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:39.760 what it feels to take that step in faith and 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:42.360 finally deciding to do something for the best of your career, 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:44.000 for the best of your family, for the best of you. 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:46.200 So I'm grateful to know that I was at least 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:49.840 able to that. I'll say that, but I mean the 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:55.280 best part, the best thing that has happened to me one. Obviously, UM, 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:58.920 I wasn't expecting it. I wasn't expecting it at all. 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:01.880 I would say as much. I am grateful for the 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:05.400 moments in which I was happy, all the moments in 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:08.200 which in my spirit of my soul I felt joy 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.800 this year. If I felt happiness, even if later on 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:13.960 things turned out to be trash or if things turned 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:17.440 you know, weren't as good, But for all the moments 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:20.159 that I was happy, I am grateful for that joy 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:22.000 that happened. Is that blessing that I had in my 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:26.559 spirit and my soul. And obviously, um, I am more 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:31.400 than happy and excited because this year at the beginning 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:34.799 of a new stage in my life, which is obviously 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:38.640 I am pregnant. I am pregnant up to I am 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:42.480 a girl mom. I wasn't expecting this at all, and 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:48.600 this has to be via and it's making me mature, 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.720 is making me grow, is making me see things differently, 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:54.440 is making me plan even more for the you know 0:04:54.520 --> 0:05:00.240 for and towards the future, so I see even about 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:03.359 in my life. So definitely I would say that my 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:06.920 pregnancy has been the best thing that has happened to me. 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:10.800 I know, I know, and you know what I'll say. 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:16.520 I'll say something else obviously me Nina, right, But there's 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:18.800 other things that I'm grateful for, and I'll say at 0:05:18.880 --> 0:05:21.719 least one more. I'm just gonna say one more. Um, 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:25.120 I'm also really grateful and I can say that, you know, 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:26.720 something else that happened to me this year, it was 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:31.400 really good being able to buy investment properties. Being able 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:34.080 to buy investment properties was another big step in my 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:36.880 life that I always had my mind on, but I 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.560 never had the balls to actually just do it. And 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:42.240 I feel proud of myself whether I did good or 0:05:42.320 --> 0:05:45.480 in some business adventures I failed. I feel proud of 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:47.359 the fact that I had the guts to do with 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:50.600 many wish to do and won't get up and do it. 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:53.120 There's people that have more money than me and still 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.560 won't do it because they're out of fear. I may 0:05:55.600 --> 0:06:01.040 not have dinga right the guts to go out there 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:03.960 and try it. So Stevie, here goes another one. What 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:08.640 is the most important lesson learned this year for you 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:15.119 to not take things personal. I you know, I learned 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:21.080 this year that you cannot let your emotions take over 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:26.240 your well being, right and and that sounds cliche, but 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:31.040 you can't react to everything. You know, everything in life 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:34.400 is lined up the way it's supposed to be. There's blessings, 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:37.919 Hallelujah that comes to you. And sometimes we get in 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:41.680 the way of that because of our emotions and what 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:45.440 we what we're creating in our head, you know, And 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:48.240 it's not that serious, like you just have to let 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:52.960 life be life. And that's that's what I learned this year. 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:56.719 And that's what I took from this year and also 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:00.440 being away and you know, removing myself from a big 0:07:00.440 --> 0:07:04.160 city like New York and Connecticut. I learned that I 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:07.960 learned me Who's Stevie Dounaz, you know, because I really 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:11.880 lived for everyone, for what I look like, who I 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:14.840 shouldn't press, how many furs I should buy, how much 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.600 photo shoots, how many photo shoots. And this year I 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:23.160 really learned like family is priority. And that's what I 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:27.440 learned this year. Family is priority. And I've been blessed 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:34.120 even more since I chose to prioritize my family. How 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:39.000 about you, I'll say that this year, um lessons that 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:44.440 I have learned definitely have been stay humble, right, but 0:07:44.520 --> 0:07:47.040 still know you're worth. I think that for a long 0:07:47.160 --> 0:07:51.520 time I was so humble um that I felt like 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:55.080 I felt like I needed to be loyal to certain 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:58.800 situations or to certain people or whatever, even even though 0:07:58.840 --> 0:08:03.240 I knew that they weren't appreciating um my worth. So 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:06.400 sometimes people feeling Okay, I you know who mean that 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:09.480 because she wants this, this, this, this and that. No 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:11.520 it's not that is that you'll see you mean it. 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:13.840 But I know what I'm worth. I know how hard 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:16.000 I've worked to be the woman that I am today. 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:19.880 I know that there's certain things that I shouldn't accept, 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:22.680 There's certain things I shouldn't tolerate, there's certain things that 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:24.840 it's not meant for me. Just because somebody else is 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:27.320 willing to put up with your ship or put up 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.520 with something doesn't mean that I should do it. So 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:34.840 definitely remain humble, but still know you're worth, Still know 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:38.400 you know who you are. And and then that goes 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:41.600 for everything that goes for business. Yes, I am humble, 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:45.000 and you're like oh I might not wants an example, 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:47.280 Oh I might have wants, you know, ten dollars for this. 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:49.000 You know, we can only give her to one of 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:51.120 That means you can't work with me. And that's just 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.079 what it is at this moment, because I have worked 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:55.559 so hard to build this person that I am today 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:57.920 that it doesn't mean that I'm less humble. It just 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:01.320 means that, you know, yes it is price is not 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:06.240 today's price. Yesterday's worth is not today's worth. So I'll 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:10.280 definitely say that, and then I'll also say that I 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:12.760 I am. You know, I've known this better. I think 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:17.160 the life you know, reminded me that m de sa 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:20.120 it okay, asking you know, God knows what he's doing, 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.480 and there's a purpose for everything, and a lot of 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:25.080 times you may not understand what God is trying to 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:26.920 do in your life. And this is for those that believe. 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:28.880 If we don't believe, that's fine, Maybe the universe, law 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:32.520 of attraction whatever works for you. But um, God has 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:34.800 a purpose for everything. Sometimes when things happen to you 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:36.600 and you think that it's for the worst of you, 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:39.960 for the ending of you, it's actually a lesson learned 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:42.839 and it's actually something that's supposed to make you better 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:45.880 and you know, help you grow, and that goes in 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:48.880 many aspects in my life. So you know, I think 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:50.680 that is that they'll say it. Okay, I asked him, 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:54.480 just have a little bit more more faith. You have 0:09:54.640 --> 0:09:57.680 done the work this year. You have done may babe, 0:09:57.800 --> 0:10:00.760 if you can not have been us maker and a 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:05.079 mover this year, you put yourself fast physician to like 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:08.800 another from like and you know, I know that this 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:10.600 is like the end of the year, like from that 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:15.520 interview with Gloria's Stefan and the Red Table talk like 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:19.440 that shaped up the foundations other And I don't want 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:21.920 to get so much into that because if you want 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:25.520 to go see that interview, it's on the I Heart app. 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:29.000 It is an incredible you. Oh my god, you did 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:31.840 what was supposed to be done. I mean, I mean 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:33.959 and I and I and I've been busy. I've been 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:38.080 working with els And that's another thing. No matter what happens, guys, 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.319 remember to keep moving forward. It doesn't matter what it is. 0:10:40.600 --> 0:10:42.800 Just move forward whatever you do. Don't just sit there 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:52.559 and let life go by. If they just move forward. 0:10:54.320 --> 0:10:57.000 And talking about moving forward, I'll ask you this, what 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:00.200 has been some of the challenges that you had to come. 0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:07.480 One of the challenges that I've had to overcome is 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:14.080 pretty much, you know, going to unknown territory again, you know, 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:20.760 moving to Florida, that big move was you know, scary. 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:24.920 It was a challenge leaving you know what I'm used 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:28.720 to behind. You know, I was used to waking up, 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.800 like I said, every day, interviewing, doing this, doing that. 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:35.960 And now it's like, how am I going to balance 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:41.960 being Stephen Nunas and being Stevie Nuna's you know, And 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:46.280 but I did it. I did it, Amata, and you 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:50.040 have been an incredible journey and I'm doing it, you know, 0:11:50.280 --> 0:11:55.200 So that that was a challenge, but get knowing, there's 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:57.920 no challenge that's gonna stop me, you know what I mean, 0:11:57.960 --> 0:12:01.160 because of the faith that I have and believe. How 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:03.800 about you, what was challenging for you? I'm me who 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:06.360 I'm still going through it right now. I'm going through 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:08.320 it and it's so hard. I have my days that 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.920 are you know, I'm stronger than others. And I'm gonna 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:12.640 open book with my life because I just feel like 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:14.120 a lot of people can relate and I don't want 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:16.480 to be over here sugarcoating or faking you know, faking 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:21.120 the funk. Um. But you know, just being you know, 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:23.440 being in a place where I studied off my year 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:28.160 in February, super in love, super you know, like, oh 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:31.080 my god, just you know, this is so fucking perfect. 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:36.239 And then now ending my year, um, you know, pregnant 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:43.360 and having to go through this process by myself. Um, 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:46.360 you know, it's really tough. I have my days where 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:50.200 I'm good, and I have my days where you know, 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:55.199 I get depressed. And depression is real. Um, depression is real. 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:58.880 I had seen it. I had seen you know, other 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:00.720 people talk about postpart him this and that, and I 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:04.320 know that happens after. But doing pregnancy, you know, especially 0:13:04.320 --> 0:13:06.400 now with social media, when you see people, you know, 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:09.800 couples or they're doing it together or you know, the 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:14.599 belly rubs and just the partnership. To see myself without 0:13:15.160 --> 0:13:18.680 it's very it's very tough. It's very hard. I'm gonna 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.720 be fine, I'm gonna be okay. There's been many women 0:13:21.720 --> 0:13:23.640 that have done it. But just because you do it 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:27.959 doesn't mean that it's easy. So being able to say, 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:35.120 you know what, Okay, God knows what he's doing this 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:39.320 was meant for you. You're gonna do it. Just being 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:42.000 able to do that alone, it's one of those challenges 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:44.200 that's not easy. Now I can relate to my mom 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:46.920 even more that she did it as well, and all 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:48.559 those single mothers out there, I want to give you 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.920 all the biggest shout outs and much love to y'all, 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:53.440 be cause it's not easy and I know that you 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:55.760 guys have been able to do it. So that's one 0:13:55.800 --> 0:14:01.280 of those challenges. Being able to separate myself from music wise, 0:14:01.440 --> 0:14:04.160 from a place where I want to get back into 0:14:04.200 --> 0:14:07.040 my music. I just am going through. I'm still going 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:09.760 through some legal issues that have made me not be 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:12.120 able to do as much as I wanted to, But 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:15.320 just being able to separate myself from something that I 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:18.719 had attached myself for so many years um and just 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:20.840 being able to say, you know what, it's not that 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:22.600 I hate you, it's not that I don't this is 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:24.360 not that it's just that I want to move on. 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:25.960 I want to move forward with my life. And it 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:30.280 has nothing to do with loyalty, because loyalty be trying 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:32.680 to sit you down for years ago. Oh you're not. 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:36.960 That's it. As a wrap, you have to be loyal 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:39.280 to yourself first either why you could be loyal to 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:41.800 everybody else. So if something is not good for you, 0:14:41.920 --> 0:14:44.400 as the home brainwashed, it can be loyal. You're not loyal. 0:14:45.920 --> 0:14:48.160 If somebody is drowning, they're gonna make sure to drown 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:50.480 you first so they can breathe. I seek it, No, 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:54.240 but being able to separate myself from certain situations is 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:56.800 something that I'm proud of being able to finally overcome 0:14:57.080 --> 0:14:59.320 and not feel guilty for it, because that's another thing. 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:01.440 Once do something that's good for you, a lot of 0:15:01.440 --> 0:15:03.640 times you end up feeling guilty like you did something wrong. No, 0:15:03.760 --> 0:15:05.080 you did it was best for you, and that's what 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:07.080 you're supposed to do in the first place. So tell 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:08.720 you about doing the things that you're supposed to do 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:10.840 in the first place. The first thing you have to 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:14.840 do is be proud of yourself. So it wasn't proudest thing, 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:21.680 your proudest moment of this year. My proudest moment, and 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:26.080 you're gonna love this is that for I have an 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:32.800 older daughter, she's eleven years old, and um, I wasn't 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:34.640 in her life as much. You know, I was too 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:38.960 busy doing conscerts. You know, announcing to me egos, announcing 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:41.800 cardis and stages, you know, for what I was doing 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:45.600 and all of this stuff. Um, but I wasn't there 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:49.440 for her, you know. But I've been a father as 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.360 guy in a second chance. I've been like a real 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:58.040 father to s J. To Stevie Jr. And that has 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:02.680 been like my proudest moment. He is so intelligent, he's 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:08.240 so smart. He's gonna be amazing because I'm taking the 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:13.000 time to help with his child development process. And that's 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:16.800 something that I wasn't able to be for my first daughter, 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:19.600 which is very I mean, I was there, but I 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:23.480 wasn't there. I mean, you could be a father and 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:25.840 live in the same household, but that doesn't mean that 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:28.360 you're emotionally there. That doesn't mean that you're at every 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:31.520 event and every concert. And I tried, you know, But 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:35.720 with my son, I've had a proud moment. And she's eleven, 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:38.400 so I've been able to be there for her preteen stage. 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:41.240 And let me tell you a Mada, your niece, texts 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:44.320 me she'd be like I dad in school, let me 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:47.120 tell you what happened like she tells me everything. She 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:50.720 includes me in her life. So one of my proud 0:16:50.840 --> 0:16:57.560 moments is really being a dad because he say, you're 0:16:57.600 --> 0:17:01.720 so you said I'm gonna fetch you. You're so bat 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:06.359 They have to see hole, I'm done now um emotionally 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:09.000 and I and I'm not. I'm not going to be 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:13.080 that that father anymore. You know, my kids are going 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:18.879 to have because that really affects you. That really affects 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:21.560 you when you don't have you know, because kids go 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:25.080 through stuff that we go through because the generational curses, 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:28.600 and if I got through them, why not be there 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:30.840 instead of saying, oh, no, I never been that dad. 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:32.560 Oh no I never did this. I don't no, I 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:35.480 never did that. I was perfect. Why not be there 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:38.520 and and tell my kids, oh, I've been exactly through that. 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:43.440 It's been amazing. So that has been my proudest moment 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:48.480 is being a proud father. That's such a beautiful message 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:50.760 is to know that you're there, You're present, and a 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:52.840 lot of men need to hear that. A lot of 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:55.920 guys right now that have kids. You know what he says, 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:57.600 such a bad point. It's not just about being a 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:00.240 father because you're a sperm donor, but it's not about 0:18:00.280 --> 0:18:03.480 being there emotionally, like be there for your kids. Emotionally, 0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:05.479 sit down, have a conversation with them, take them out 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:07.880 for ice cream, go to the park. You know, even 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:10.000 if you're at the house, do them a freaking I 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:12.080 don't know, a bologna sandwich and just sit down and 0:18:12.200 --> 0:18:14.040 let them feel that their loved and they're cared by. 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:15.880 Not just because you pay the bills in the house 0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:17.840 and because you have a roof over your head. That 0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:19.280 means that they gave you. Know, I love you and 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:22.000 I'm your father, but take some time to show that 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:25.359 to them. Create memories. This year, I definitely feel is 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:28.560 one of those years of creating memories, create moments, because 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:30.320 the day that you die, the only thing that you 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:32.320 take with you are the memories and the things that 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:34.280 you did. You don't take any of the material things. 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:39.440 So definitely being a supportive and emotionally their father is 0:18:39.520 --> 0:18:41.879 so important. I'm so grateful and I am proud of 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:45.639 you for doing that as well. Um my proudest moment. 0:18:45.720 --> 0:18:52.680 And you know, say I feel that, girl, I don't 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:55.880 really know. I I feel that amongst many, amongst many. 0:18:56.359 --> 0:19:00.480 I just feel proud that I continue to keep being 0:19:00.560 --> 0:19:05.120 the voice for you know, for my race or my community, 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:10.919 my my people, my Latin x latinos for Latinos, for blacks, 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:13.960 for women. I feel proud of the fact that I 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:16.719 continue to use my boys, my platform, and I've been 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:21.040 able to you know, make certain differences. Um, even even 0:19:21.160 --> 0:19:24.399 working on Latin networks where you never saw ever a 0:19:24.520 --> 0:19:28.400 person as dark as I am working on these platforms 0:19:28.880 --> 0:19:33.320 um giving hope, still giving hope and breaking barriers and 0:19:33.440 --> 0:19:35.960 opening doors for other women and other men like myself 0:19:36.000 --> 0:19:38.920 they want to have an opportunity. I am grateful for that. 0:19:39.119 --> 0:19:41.800 That really means a lot to me to know that 0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:45.159 I've been able to um to just you know, be 0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:49.480 that person and and fasted because in the beginning, all 0:19:49.480 --> 0:19:52.000 the bricks and stones are are thrown at me, all 0:19:52.040 --> 0:20:00.400 the judgments are thrown at me. Wos of my has 0:20:00.480 --> 0:20:05.359 been used to do good amongst many obviously you know, proud, 0:20:05.520 --> 0:20:07.560 proudful moments like you said, the Red Table talk was 0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:10.080 one of those moments. My real estate was one of 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:15.560 those moments. UM. Continuing to actually even accept and have 0:20:15.720 --> 0:20:18.200 my father and my household, knowing all the things that 0:20:18.240 --> 0:20:19.640 I know and all the things that I've been through 0:20:20.000 --> 0:20:21.720 is a proud moment for me as an adult, to 0:20:21.880 --> 0:20:24.880 be able to put you know, my feelings to aside 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:29.720 and be the bigger person, um, being able to try 0:20:29.920 --> 0:20:32.119 when I haven't done it yet. But I'm trying to 0:20:32.440 --> 0:20:36.840 learn how to deal with a lot of emotional situations, um, 0:20:36.920 --> 0:20:40.080 and be more mature and and and think before I act. 0:20:40.160 --> 0:20:48.200 I mean, there's many things that I'm proud of, proud 0:20:48.200 --> 0:20:51.119 of being proud of that is lessons learned. If you 0:20:51.240 --> 0:20:53.760 feel that you've learned any lessons this year, Stevie, what 0:20:53.880 --> 0:20:57.040 would you say that they have been the biggest lesson 0:20:57.600 --> 0:21:04.879 I learned this year? Don't who you're telling you who 0:21:05.040 --> 0:21:13.119 you tell you right about? Right? You know people in 0:21:13.240 --> 0:21:19.000 your face they're one way, but honestly, you know, behind 0:21:19.040 --> 0:21:21.680 your back it's a different story. And the thing is 0:21:21.840 --> 0:21:30.879 is that everyone talks about people, right, but honestly, don't. 0:21:31.160 --> 0:21:35.119 Don't let anyone use and abuse you ever. And you know, 0:21:35.520 --> 0:21:40.080 and in this industry sometimes or in life in general, 0:21:40.520 --> 0:21:42.920 you could be used. You know, you could be the 0:21:43.080 --> 0:21:45.800 one that carries your family. You know, you could be 0:21:45.920 --> 0:21:49.000 the one that everyone wants to use. Oh, please give 0:21:49.040 --> 0:21:51.480 me money, please give me money, the netto netto everywhere. 0:21:51.520 --> 0:21:56.119 But you're being the enabler, and no is a powerful word. 0:21:56.720 --> 0:21:59.760 If I can tell you one thing, no is a 0:22:00.040 --> 0:22:03.960 powerful word. And if I can't do it, honey, I 0:22:04.160 --> 0:22:07.119 can't help you. You know if I need to be 0:22:07.280 --> 0:22:10.480 there for my family first, I need to be there 0:22:10.520 --> 0:22:14.600 for my family, because that is one lesson that I 0:22:14.760 --> 0:22:17.760 learned that I was a yes man. Can you host this? Yes? 0:22:18.040 --> 0:22:20.640 Can you do? Can you host this concert? Yes? Can 0:22:20.720 --> 0:22:23.480 you do this? Yes? Can you go fly out to 0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:26.800 l A and do this? Yes? Everything was yes, you know, 0:22:27.280 --> 0:22:29.760 but then I get drained because some of the things 0:22:29.840 --> 0:22:32.919 that not everything is for you and helps your career. 0:22:33.480 --> 0:22:38.320 So it's gonna be a Destiny's child. No, no, no, 0:22:38.560 --> 0:22:43.280 no year for honey. Okay, period. I know I surely 0:22:43.320 --> 0:22:46.040 the house she had learned that before. But for me, 0:22:46.280 --> 0:22:49.720 I would say, is I always preach about it? But 0:22:50.520 --> 0:22:52.600 you know I didn't pay attention to would I be 0:22:52.680 --> 0:23:02.159 preaching lesson? Learn? Listen to your intuition. Listen to your intuition. 0:23:03.000 --> 0:23:05.600 God put that in your body for a reason. You 0:23:05.760 --> 0:23:07.880 don't have an intuition for nothing. When you go into 0:23:07.920 --> 0:23:11.119 a room and you feel scared, is there for a reason. 0:23:11.520 --> 0:23:14.200 When you are close to somebody and your intuition tells 0:23:14.280 --> 0:23:19.480 you change seats. It's you know, I think that a 0:23:19.600 --> 0:23:23.520 lot of times you see red flags and you ignore them. 0:23:23.920 --> 0:23:25.960 You're into it. And that goes for anything for business. 0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:28.880