Speaker 1: Met Gala again, just because now I'm seeing more clips
Speaker 1: Laala Anthony, Like good for her getting a gig doing
Speaker 1: the carpet corresponding, like I assume she went into the event,
Speaker 1: but that's a pretty big gig. And I didn't even
Speaker 1: know Lala had it like that. I thought she was
Speaker 1: an actress. I know she used to be married to
Speaker 1: Carmelo Anthony, the basketball player. I've met her. She's been
Speaker 1: very nice. I know she's friends with the Kardashians. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just like that, like she's a woman
Speaker 1: of a certain age and she's like got a new gig.
Speaker 1: Unless she did this every year and I never saw it,
Speaker 1: but like she was talking to the most major celebrities
Speaker 1: like go for yours, and of course she knows the Kardashians,
Speaker 1: so she's talking to them like she was talking to
Speaker 1: Blake Lively. She was talking to everybody. That's a great gig,
Speaker 1: Blake Lively. People are destroyed her, like what a fall
Speaker 1: from grace. Like this woman could do no wrong and
Speaker 1: her style was what everybody talked about. And the mech
Speaker 1: Gala was her gala, and she was the princess and
Speaker 1: the bell of the ball and like I didn't mention
Speaker 1: the other day that she did choose something to wear
Speaker 1: that like had five handlers, like putting it down the stairs,
Speaker 1: and I knew that wouldn't land. I did like her
Speaker 1: Judith Lieber clutched with her kid's art on it, but
Speaker 1: of course she can do no wrong. And she said
Speaker 1: she was shy, and people went fucking bananas like that
Speaker 1: was the thing that made them crazy, like, yes, I'm shy.
Speaker 1: I don't know if she's shy. I don't know if
Speaker 1: she's not shy. I know that she shouldn't have said it,
Speaker 1: mind you. I had a moment where there was like
Speaker 1: a kid. Okay, So somentdays you'll be outside a place
Speaker 1: and all these people will come and want your picture
Speaker 1: and your autograph, and then publicists say, don't because they
Speaker 1: sell them, which I can't imagine where your autograph in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty six could be worth. But they're like, don't
Speaker 1: because they sell them. And a lot of times people
Speaker 1: don't even know who you are, they just see you
Speaker 1: coming out of somewhere, and the publicists all say, like
Speaker 1: they don't even know who you are, or they might
Speaker 1: not know who you are. They just want to sell them.
Speaker 1: They're just like standing there. There's like a thing to it.
Speaker 1: So I was at an event this past weekend and
Speaker 1: someone came up to me and they were like, who
Speaker 1: are you talking to? Who am I with right now?
Speaker 1: And I literally didn't know what the person was talking about.
Speaker 1: I thought they meant like what designer? Or who am
Speaker 1: I with? I didn't understand, and I thought they meant
Speaker 1: like themselves, like who am I with? And I was thinking,
Speaker 1: I have no idea who you are, who you're with,
Speaker 1: And I said like, if you don't know, you better
Speaker 1: act somebody, because I thought, like how would I know
Speaker 1: who you're with? It just seemed like someone who had
Speaker 1: no idea, And then I realized did they mean me? Later?
Speaker 1: Like who am I with right now? Meaning who am
Speaker 1: I talking to? It was just a strange way to
Speaker 1: say it, and it made me realize either way, I
Speaker 1: don't think the kid knew who I was, and it
Speaker 1: was like a younger kid. And I said, if you
Speaker 1: don't know who you better act somebody. And I saw
Speaker 1: somebody posted it and it did like look like I
Speaker 1: was being rudbea. I literally didn't understand who the person was,
Speaker 1: and I also thought, I don't know, it's strange for
Speaker 1: someone to come up to you. I've had people say
Speaker 1: to me before, I don't know who you are, but
Speaker 1: my friend says you're famous. I don't like that. I'm
Speaker 1: not interested in that. Like I'm not inter just in
Speaker 1: signing something for someone to taking a picture of someone
Speaker 1: because like someone else said, I was some currency. I
Speaker 1: don't mean anything to them. So this kid like confused me,
Speaker 1: and I said something that I later was like, that
Speaker 1: was kind of a little harsh, but like in the moment,
Speaker 1: it felt annoying. If I'm being honest, that's the truth.
Speaker 1: But it also made me think about people who say
Speaker 1: one thing and like it can ruin their whole lives,
Speaker 1: and how not tolerant, how everyone just wants to like
Speaker 1: crush somebody. So like Blake Lively said, she's shy. I
Speaker 1: don't know, maybe she is shy, but she goes to
Speaker 1: these things. I don't know. It's hard to be shy
Speaker 1: and go on the mech galic carp but I could
Speaker 1: tell you that like Nick Jonas, who was like having
Speaker 1: a fucking panic attack, I'm gonna like choose to believe
Speaker 1: that he has difficulty with crowds and moments like that.
Speaker 1: But I don't know, Blake Lively can do no right.
Speaker 1: And people think she just like announced that that thing
Speaker 1: was settled and so she like went out to the
Speaker 1: car butt like a new woman out. We have no
Speaker 1: idea when she knew that, But I will say this,
Speaker 1: that was a fall from grace. And whatever the lawsuit was,
Speaker 1: it wasn't like a criminal lawsuit. It wasn't like he
Speaker 1: would go to jail what she wanted. I don't think
Speaker 1: it was criminals. So it was a fuck around to
Speaker 1: find out lawsuit. There's no way that she doesn't regret
Speaker 1: filing it because then they've just settled. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm not looking at going to cancel myself today on
Speaker 1: someone else's bullshit, but like, there's no way that she
Speaker 1: doesn't regret filowing that lawsuit. Okay, when you are jammed
Speaker 1: up in a deal and you can't get what you need,
Speaker 1: you call the power person directly. Lawyers and agents and
Speaker 1: managers and in between people will fuck something up. If
Speaker 1: you know where the rub is, you figure out how
Speaker 1: to talk to the hbiic calmly and nicely compliment them,
Speaker 1: say you want to do it. If two people want
Speaker 1: to do a deal, they can do it. And I
Speaker 1: have found that you got to go live and direct.
Speaker 1: I have had multimillion dollar deals that were going to
Speaker 1: blow up, tens of millions of dollar deals that were
Speaker 1: going to blow up until I just picked up the
Speaker 1: phone and rationally discussed what I liked, what I didn't like,
Speaker 1: what I would go for, what I wouldn't go for.
Speaker 1: I have a good reputation in negotiating. I don't play games.
Speaker 1: I don't pretend it's going to be five dollars and
Speaker 1: it's really ten. I am a very honest negotiator. I
Speaker 1: am straight up one hundred and I will go directly
Speaker 1: to the person. And it is a wonder the difference
Speaker 1: in the way you can negotiate for yourself talking to someone.
Speaker 1: And yes, we need lawyers, we need all these other
Speaker 1: people to paper things, to make sure you're protected, etc.
Speaker 1: But if you are jammed up and you want to
Speaker 1: do something and you're almost not going to do it
Speaker 1: because of the negotiating process, you better get on the
Speaker 1: damn phone. You better get on that damn phone. Interesting
Speaker 1: that on Instagram people are losing bought followers and bought followers,
Speaker 1: so many people created their big following on purchased followers,
Speaker 1: And the thing about it is it's great that they're
Speaker 1: being cleansed and that it becomes more authentic, like your
Speaker 1: engagement is more authentic. Meaning I never bought followers, and
Speaker 1: I know that it was frustrating knowing people who had
Speaker 1: a really disproportionate amount of engagement to their follower account
Speaker 1: because it means that a lot of those are just
Speaker 1: it's just a number. It's not actually engagement. They're not
Speaker 1: followers that convert, they're not actually watching, listening, buying, engaging,
Speaker 1: and that's what people really want now in twenty twenty six,
Speaker 1: people want engaged followings. Meaning someone could have fewer followers,
Speaker 1: but they could have more views on certain posts, or
Speaker 1: it's a quality versus quantity model. The thing of it is,
Speaker 1: though that is not totally fair, is that some people
Speaker 1: got deals and a greater fame and actually more followers
Speaker 1: because of the original fake followers. That makes any sense,
Speaker 1: Like if you are someone who has like the street
Speaker 1: cred of having millions of followers despite them being purchased,
Speaker 1: you know, success breed success, So you have so many followers,
Speaker 1: you're going to get more followers because you might get
Speaker 1: media because you had all these followers. So it's great
Speaker 1: that it's being corrected, but it sucks that it happened
Speaker 1: in the first place. But there are people that have
Speaker 1: lost millions and millions of followers. It also happens to
Speaker 1: be likely a small percentage of their overall follower base.
Speaker 1: But like I've had bad things happen, or have not
Speaker 1: known about things, or have said things and lost a
Speaker 1: lot of followers, Like, it does sort of suck. To
Speaker 1: be honest, it does suck. But there should be nobody
Speaker 1: with any bot followers bought followers like followers should be true.
Speaker 1: And by the way, it's better for the It's better
Speaker 1: for the creator or the influencer or the person. So
Speaker 1: I went roller skating this weekend. I kind of talked
Speaker 1: about my launch, and I forgot to mention roller skating
Speaker 1: that that's what I was doing. I have been seeing
Speaker 1: someone who seemingly like myself, is very youthful, like fun
Speaker 1: and alive and playful. And I've talked before about the
Speaker 1: pendulum theory. It's not really a theory, it's a fact.
Speaker 1: People get into relationships and whatever is wrong with those relationships,
Speaker 1: often the next relationship is a reaction to that. So
Speaker 1: you could have a man with a nagging wife who
Speaker 1: never listens, and then he gets separated, and then he's
Speaker 1: with the doting young woman who like hangs on his
Speaker 1: every word. But he could get sick of that because
Speaker 1: that's not the baseline. That's not the person who he
Speaker 1: would intrinsically be attracted to. He's just reacting to what
Speaker 1: his situation has been. So I've been in situations where
Speaker 1: I was in a very abusive dynamic and I was
Speaker 1: afraid and I was a wreck, and I was like
Speaker 1: beat down and just like not at my best, and
Speaker 1: I was attracted to safe situations, like someone just loves
Speaker 1: you so much it is he wants to take care
Speaker 1: of you. But I might not have been with a
Speaker 1: person who is intrinsically right for me. The pendulum has
Speaker 1: swung too far. You have over corrected. And I've heard
Speaker 1: this from other people that I've discussed this with. Maybe
Speaker 1: someone's with someone super controlling and jealous. Next they're going
Speaker 1: to be with a total free spirit, you know, type
Speaker 1: of person who wants to bring another person into the bedroom.
Speaker 1: I don't know, and I the reason I took a
Speaker 1: year off from dating is because I wanted to get
Speaker 1: to the baseline of what I really wanted versus just
Speaker 1: it being a reaction of the last thing I had.
Speaker 1: And many of these relationships train you for the real relationship.
Speaker 1: So anyway, I've been dating and in a way that's
Speaker 1: more true to myself, like from the baseline, meaning there's
Speaker 1: a youthfulness and a live A lot of people are
Speaker 1: noticing that I seem happier than I have. Some of
Speaker 1: that's Florida, some of that is because of who I'm
Speaker 1: spending time with. And I believe that I'm happier because like,
Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm more It's not that I've
Speaker 1: forced things, It's that I just think that I don't
Speaker 1: give myself enough credit for how sort of a live
Speaker 1: and youthful and adventurous I am. The younger me was
Speaker 1: always like taking dares and jumping off of like bridges
Speaker 1: into water and just like doing you know, fun, wild,
Speaker 1: crazy things. And I've never really lost that and I
Speaker 1: don't really get that much of an opportunity to explore that.
Speaker 1: And so I've been dating and in this era, which
Speaker 1: was my adventure era, or so I said it was,
Speaker 1: now it's really feeling like my adventure era because I'm
Speaker 1: seeing someone who will come up with like surprise me
Speaker 1: with horseback riding on the beach for the day or
Speaker 1: a concert, you know, because I love the Begi's and
Speaker 1: I was listening to the Begi's like an outdoor like
Speaker 1: symphony and cover band of the Begi's, like the most
Speaker 1: fun night, like more fun than most nights I've had
Speaker 1: in the last several years. I mean, I had the
Speaker 1: best time ever f one Carbone weekend and Snoop performed,
Speaker 1: which I missed that night because I was just tired
Speaker 1: and y cleff and fat shoe and ludicrous, like that's
Speaker 1: all amazing, but for me, like being at a cover
Speaker 1: band with the Beg's and a symphony outside like and
Speaker 1: this person I was with was just like, wait a second,
Speaker 1: I'm going to get your roller skates, like you need
Speaker 1: to be skating through this concert. Like I've never had
Speaker 1: someone just like be like that with me and also
Speaker 1: like to show me a pop up roller rink that
Speaker 1: has like a disco ball that we went to in
Speaker 1: the middle of the day. Just like being alive, being
Speaker 1: fun like that is something that I have been missing
Speaker 1: in my life. It didn't even realize it, Like you
Speaker 1: kind of don't realize it until a part of you
Speaker 1: is awakened. And it also makes me think about you know,
Speaker 1: I've been very very I've done very well in my life.
Speaker 1: I have everything I want. I don't need somebody for
Speaker 1: money or stuff. Now Listen, I don't know that I
Speaker 1: would be aligned with someone who didn't have a career
Speaker 1: and didn't make money, you know, and wasn't smart. I mean,
Speaker 1: that's something that I need. But I've thought to myself,
Speaker 1: I really need to be an entrepreneur. I really need
Speaker 1: to be with someone who has more money than I do.
Speaker 1: Like I have all these different things that I've thought
Speaker 1: in my life, you know, And I've been in different
Speaker 1: types of relationships. I've been mostly with younger men. I've realized,
Speaker 1: like a couple of years younger not crazy. Whenever I've
Speaker 1: gone out with older men, it hasn't really gelled. And
Speaker 1: it's sort of I don't know if it's hypocritical, but
Speaker 1: if I've been with a man like eight years older,
Speaker 1: I've really felt like they're just like old old, which
Speaker 1: obviously I'll be there in eight years. But I look
Speaker 1: at some people who are of a certain age and
Speaker 1: they just seem youthful, and other people just don't. It's
Speaker 1: luck of the draw, it's their essence, it's a number
Speaker 1: of things. But people around me do say that I
Speaker 1: have a young spirit and a young essence, and I
Speaker 1: think that I'm best aligned and matched with someone who
Speaker 1: has a young essence and a young spirit. I'm not
Speaker 1: really looking for a figure to take care of me.
Speaker 1: I've had that it's a little boring for me, and
Speaker 1: I've sort of just accepted that security meant boring. But
Speaker 1: I don't really need I definitely don't need financial security,
Speaker 1: although I do date people who are successful because I'm
Speaker 1: attracted to that and smart. But I also don't need
Speaker 1: only to be with someone who's like solid. I didn't
Speaker 1: know I thought you had to like give up most
Speaker 1: of what you wanted. I thought, like to be with
Speaker 1: someone solid, you might be a little bored. Like I
Speaker 1: really don't want to be bored. I really want to
Speaker 1: live and have fun. My daughter's going to be in
Speaker 1: college in two years, and like it's my time and listen.
Speaker 1: I guess it would have been better if I was
Speaker 1: forty five able to travel the world, But you know what,
Speaker 1: not really like being your fifties is great I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm in Sports Illustrated, I walk in the Loreal Paris
Speaker 1: fashion show. I'm more successful than I've ever been. I'm
Speaker 1: at the peak of my career when I'm doing exactly
Speaker 1: what I want. So anyway, I went roller skating this
Speaker 1: weekend and to a Beg's concert, and that was the
Speaker 1: part that I didn't tell you, and it was like
Speaker 1: so fun. It awakened my childhood. I spent my entire childhood,
Speaker 1: I'm not exaggerating, like from like sixth grade, maybe earlier,
Speaker 1: maybe it was at third grade, had to be. I
Speaker 1: spent every day at the roller rink, every every weekend.
Speaker 1: I spent every Saturday and Sunday at the roller rank
Speaker 1: all day long, nine in the morning till nine thirty
Speaker 1: at night. It was nine till eleven thirty, twelve to
Speaker 1: two thirty three to five thirty five to seven thirty.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if I was allowed to go
Speaker 1: nine to the one at night. I don't remember if
Speaker 1: it went later. I think it did. But I would
Speaker 1: have to like skate and win in these races to
Speaker 1: get to go to all the sessions because the sessions
Speaker 1: you had to pay again, or you'd like sneak in
Speaker 1: and try to stay hope they wouldn't notice because they'd
Speaker 1: clear the rink all that. So anyway, the point is
Speaker 1: I'm loving awakening my youthful spirit. That's how I'm spending
Speaker 1: my time. Okay, Hayden Panetier, who I haven't heard about
Speaker 1: for a while, and peripherally I had heard that she
Speaker 1: lost custody of her kids, she had substance abuse issues.
Speaker 1: I think she was on the show Nashville with Connie Britton,
Speaker 1: and like it was peripheral, and she's a child actress.
Speaker 1: I remember that, but like I didn't know much. You
Speaker 1: know when you hear these stories that are just headlines
Speaker 1: and you wonder what the other side of the story is.
Speaker 1: I remember the woman from gossip Girl, the blonde woman
Speaker 1: from gossip Girl losing custody of her kids, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: how in the hell does that happen? It's got to
Speaker 1: be more to the story. Anything can happen in a courtroom,
Speaker 1: anything can go sideways. Brittany lost custody of her kids. Like,
Speaker 1: stuff does happen. Doesn't mean that people have to be
Speaker 1: bad people. Well, Hayden Panetiers on Jay Shetty and she's
Speaker 1: just talking about some abusive relationship or several abusive relationships
Speaker 1: that she's been attracted to, presumably because of her generational
Speaker 1: trauma and the way she was raised. And again this
Speaker 1: is all just on social media, but I'm seeing that,
Speaker 1: like it's allegedly at eighteen, her someone in her life.
Speaker 1: She's very cagy, which I get, like, I've told stories
Speaker 1: about my terrible divorce and about being abused in situations,
Speaker 1: and I've told them in a way where you're not
Speaker 1: really mentioning the person's name, and you're trying to pick
Speaker 1: your spots and you're trying to like dance around landmines,
Speaker 1: which she's doing. And she's saying that a trusted caregiver
Speaker 1: told her to have sex with a man at eighteen,
Speaker 1: and basically she's been in this series of abusive relationships.
Speaker 1: It sounds like one which is worse than others. And
Speaker 1: she's reading a letter that she wrote the night before,
Speaker 1: which is articular her experience, and it's really chilling, Like
Speaker 1: the way she wrote it and the dry way in
Speaker 1: which she's discussing it reminds me of Charlie's Throne discussing
Speaker 1: the murder in her house, Like you're just like, wait,
Speaker 1: I'm really believing this because it's so subtle and so
Speaker 1: just matter of fact and so articulate and not performative
Speaker 1: that I just it's chilling listening to it. Hayden Panitiera
Speaker 1: is talking about and about her getting out of the
Speaker 1: abuse and about her feeling like people have forgiven her,
Speaker 1: so she had to forgive them. And I lived in
Speaker 1: an abusive household. I understand the cycle. There's also there
Speaker 1: are also different things for different people. Maybe you don't
Speaker 1: have anywhere else to go, you'll be homeless. It's financial,
Speaker 1: it's emotional. It's what you were used to as a kid.
Speaker 1: It's what you saw your parents do. It's breaking the chain.
Speaker 1: It's all these things. And just because you're a powerful,
Speaker 1: strong woman, which she was saying that she is, which
Speaker 1: I am, it's hard to believe you could be in
Speaker 1: an abusive situation, but someone can do a lot of damage.
Speaker 1: And when one person is more successful than the other,
Speaker 1: it's the female. The gender roles change and a man
Speaker 1: wants to exert a power struggle. Very often when the
Speaker 1: woman is the moneyed spouse, the breadwinner, the power person,
Speaker 1: the man has to exert power in other ways. It
Speaker 1: can be physical. It could be verbal. It could be
Speaker 1: digging in on things that don't matter. It could be resentment,
Speaker 1: it could be a number of things. But it's actually very,
Speaker 1: very common, and everybody thinks that in that situation. Many times,
Speaker 1: the guy's super charming and tries to carry everyone's favor,
Speaker 1: and people think the woman's like the power bitch. And
Speaker 1: in this case, she lost custody of her kids, and
Speaker 1: I just feel badly for her, and I'm glad you're
Speaker 1: speaking up, and I just that letter. Just listened to
Speaker 1: her talk about the letter that she not letter she wrote,
Speaker 1: I guess in a journal the night before. She wrote
Speaker 1: herself it wasn't a letter. It was like a passage.
Speaker 1: She wrote because she wanted to be able to articulate
Speaker 1: this on the show. And I really appreciated it as
Speaker 1: walk back to back to ans, walk back to the
Speaker 1: after