1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 1: Wine Down with Jane Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast. Okay, 2 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:11,880 Speaker 1: welcome to this week's episode of Wine Down Friend. We've 3 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: really been together a lot, we really have. I needed it. 4 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:19,040 Speaker 1: I did too. We went we had wine Down Podcast 5 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: in Los Angeles, San Diego. We really were speed dating 6 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 1: the West coast, or like, this is my favorite restaurant 7 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: in l A. Let's go here. We can get to 8 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 1: the beach in thirty minutes. In San Diego, let's go 9 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 1: do it where the last in Michigan we could be 10 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:35,680 Speaker 1: in that moment. It was great. And then I loved 11 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: our experience on the beach too, just like taking that 12 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 1: minute to just really soak it in and everything. Um, 13 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: but I have I have cheese grapes, and I wish 14 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: can I describe what's in front of you? Okay, so 15 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:57,319 Speaker 1: on the sweetest little cocktail, big tea play. I need 16 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: to really frame it. It is a big It isn't Dixie, 17 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:04,399 Speaker 1: there is I'll start with this, I think what I 18 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 1: believe to be a wheat, then a few of those 19 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 1: some red grapes, and my favorite part, it just really 20 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:12,680 Speaker 1: feels like you care about me. It is some sort 21 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: of cheese cube. Several we're not going to get crazy. 22 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: We each could have two and a half cheese cubes 23 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:23,959 Speaker 1: and they each have a toothpick. Is not to cross contaminate. 24 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: And it all just matters a lot to me. I 25 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: have no idea what this means. But I was like, well, 26 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: what you doing up here? We're having a little Sam's 27 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: Club sampler on a Saturday. What's going on trying my cheese? 28 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 1: It's great? Uh No, I just got back from therapy 29 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: and I walked into this platter of and let me 30 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 1: just set the stage too. Is this gonna happen for 31 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 1: me tomorrow? I don't know. If it does, I'm gonna 32 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: be like that was for me. Um. But I it's 33 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: been like a crazy you know, with Thanksgiving and the 34 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: birthdays and um and filming the Chicago fire stuff. It's 35 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: just been a lot of UM. I've just been like 36 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: on the go so much. And I told Amy, you 37 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 1: know a few things our therapist and just was like, oh, girl, 38 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 1: like there's just so much going on. And and so 39 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:19,440 Speaker 1: I walk in and mind you, right before I go 40 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: to therapy, I had I worked out, but I didn't 41 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: have time to eat right, So I just through a 42 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: prute protein shake in the car because I was just 43 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:31,919 Speaker 1: rushing from one thing to the next, right, and I'm 44 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 1: just like, God, I'm starving, Like I should have grabbed 45 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: a protein bar or something. I love that the other 46 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:39,399 Speaker 1: option is to chew the protein and so of drink 47 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 1: the protein. If anyone's wondering what a Janet Cramer action 48 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:46,520 Speaker 1: figure looks like. The protein bar is not sold separate, Well, 49 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 1: I'm getting off of those, not like I'm trying to eat, 50 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: you know, just like the real foods, really cold cold drinking. 51 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 1: And so I was just thinking, like I'm starving, and 52 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: I walk in and Amy has this like beautiful plate 53 00:02:58,240 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: of I ate all the strawberries, which is why this 54 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: robberies aren't on there just like here it takes them 55 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 1: to go. And I was like, what is this? And 56 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: she goes, when you sent me that email that it's 57 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: just it's been a really crazy season and some of 58 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 1: the things that we discussed over the phone over Thanksgiving 59 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: because I just had a few you know, when you 60 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 1: just have those sessions like I need to talk to 61 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: you like right now, ya um, like processing a few things. Yeah, 62 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 1: And you know, She's like, I just think that you 63 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:32,360 Speaker 1: forget to sit and nourish and also celebrate you too. 64 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:34,640 Speaker 1: And she's like, so this we're having a little party 65 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: and I want you to sit here and like eat, 66 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: you know, share what we have to share and work there. 67 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: But I was just like, I was like, you have 68 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: no idea, Like I started crying. I was just like 69 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: I'm so hungry and like, hey, I'm with this beautiful 70 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 1: spread and she's so it was really sweet and then yeah, 71 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: we threw a party because something that I had told 72 00:03:54,440 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: her about, um you know, uh you know, my birthday 73 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: and um the holidays, and she was just like you're who. 74 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 1: She's like, We've had seventy sessions since I've known you, 75 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: and she's like this is the this is the like 76 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: the most proud I've ever been, Like, this is the 77 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:19,160 Speaker 1: you're like you've come to you know. And it was 78 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: just like really, I was like, but I feel that, 79 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: Like I even texted you something after wind down because 80 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm just really proud of you, I know, 81 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 1: and we're not good at like accepting that it's like 82 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: weird for our type or something. But I just thought back. 83 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: I was like I sat back and I was like 84 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:38,840 Speaker 1: thinking about it. I'm like, not only did you well 85 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 1: first of all, you flew home in a whirlwind, like 86 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: after wind down. I think you had like literally sixty 87 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: three minutes in your house to like king back, yeah, 88 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:49,160 Speaker 1: and get right back to the airport with the kids, 89 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 1: to drop the kids off in Michigan so then you 90 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:52,479 Speaker 1: could fly to Chicago because you wanted them to be 91 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:55,159 Speaker 1: cozy and tucked in. I mean, that's just like it's 92 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,679 Speaker 1: so much and you're doing it alone. I think people 93 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 1: assume sometimes you have like full time nanny or Katherine's 94 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:02,839 Speaker 1: with you all the time. But Catherine has three kids 95 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 1: and a husband, a husband she's choosing to keep, so 96 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 1: like now she's busy having sex in her vest life. 97 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: So anyways, I just had that moment when I was like, 98 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:13,360 Speaker 1: you know what, it was the night your movie came out. 99 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: I was flying home with two kids, all right, RSB, 100 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: who's living the best life? And I kept thinking, Um, 101 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: I didn't spread it on the plane for those of 102 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: you haters, um, but I just kept thinking, I was like, 103 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: here you are, like you just don't want to get 104 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 1: a breath, to chew anything more than a protein bar, 105 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 1: but also to even celebrate the winds and the hard work. Thanks. 106 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:38,359 Speaker 1: I appreciate it. What it's crazy. I was talking to 107 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: her too, and I said, um uh, I was saying, 108 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 1: last year, I kept a toxic relationship around because I 109 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 1: didn't want to be alone for the holidays. In this year, like, 110 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: I'm so excited to be alone for the holidays and 111 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: not have someone. So today my girlfriend was like, do 112 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:08,040 Speaker 1: you want to come to Jamaica and January? And I 113 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: was like, no, I want to go to a beach 114 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 1: by myself. Like not envious of the single part I have. 115 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:15,800 Speaker 1: I have a cute little family. I just I just 116 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: missed the quiet. Yeah, and I think that's like what 117 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 1: we were explaining. What I was kind of telling her today. 118 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:24,279 Speaker 1: I was like, I know, I'm I know one day 119 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:27,159 Speaker 1: I'm going to find my one and I'm going to 120 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 1: host all the in laws. Yeah, and I can't wait 121 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:33,119 Speaker 1: for that day. But but I don't need to rush 122 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: to get there. And like I'm actually like from kind 123 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: of the nothing last year. Last year's served its purpose 124 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,359 Speaker 1: and and I needed that. Maybe you know, I didn't 125 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 1: want to be alone, but like this year, it's like 126 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 1: I I look forward to really getting to know myself 127 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:51,279 Speaker 1: in those moments and spending time alone and yeah, embracing 128 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 1: it and just not being sad about the fact that 129 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 1: I'm not like in love in the holidays or I 130 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 1: have a boyfriend, like I'm enjoying just like really truly 131 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: just being in love with yourself. Yeah. Yeah, speaking of 132 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: being in love though, UM, we are going to take 133 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:08,680 Speaker 1: a break and we're going to get on these three 134 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: beautiful women who are starring in a TV show. Um 135 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: it is called, uh well, it's called Back in the 136 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:19,040 Speaker 1: Groove and it's kind of like a plan still out 137 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 1: a groove back Um. It premiers um on Hulu. So 138 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 1: we're gonna get Sparkle, Brook and stuff on in a second. Everybody, Hi, ladies. 139 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:48,760 Speaker 1: Three out of three we have Brooke, Sparkle and stuff 140 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: um who are on the Hulu show Back in the Groove, 141 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 1: and I, um, I have we have. Me and Christen 142 00:07:58,040 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 1: have a lot of questions, um, because when I was 143 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 1: reading the breakdown, I was like, oh, these women are 144 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: They're beautiful, but and then I saw dating I'm gonna 145 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: go date half their age, and I was just like, oh, 146 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 1: I have so many questions because I remember I have 147 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 1: a few younger stories of dating younger. One was great 148 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 1: and one was tragic. So I'm just curious, like, have 149 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 1: you guys dated someone younger than you prior to doing 150 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 1: the show? I have. I have a couple, maybe like 151 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 1: three relationships that were younger and someone was good. We 152 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 1: were together for about four years. I just didn't end 153 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:42,720 Speaker 1: up you know, going into marriage or whatnot. Um, there 154 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 1: was a bit of a you know, emotional immaturity there. 155 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:49,320 Speaker 1: We weren't on the same page after you know, three 156 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: or four years. So that was that. And then the 157 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 1: other one, UM was very tragic. It was very dysfunctional, 158 00:08:56,160 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: very toxic. Um. So yeah, you know, I've never I 159 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 1: wasn't always into younger guys or you know, when I 160 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:08,320 Speaker 1: was in my twenties thirties, I always dated my age, 161 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: but as I got older, younger men kind of were 162 00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:14,840 Speaker 1: always approaching me. So I was just like, okay, why not. 163 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: But um, yeah, I mean they bring like a you 164 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:24,239 Speaker 1: know vibe, you know, a vibrant energy and their fun um. 165 00:09:24,280 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: But they typically bring abs as well, which is nice. Yes, 166 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 1: I'm a personal trainer, so it's you know important for 167 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:35,680 Speaker 1: me to have like to be with a guy who's 168 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 1: taking care of himself and whatnot, and you know, it's 169 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 1: never hurts, so but yes, it depends on the man. 170 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 1: It depends on their life experience. But yeah, I've had 171 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 1: a little bit of both. So here's a question, and 172 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:52,600 Speaker 1: I don't know. If you all don't feel like sharing it, 173 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:54,920 Speaker 1: that's fine. But you look so young to me that, like, 174 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: to me, half your age would be about twelve. So 175 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:01,320 Speaker 1: I'm confused what are we we're dealing with here because 176 00:10:01,360 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: you all look so young and beautiful? Well thank you? 177 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 1: Um yeah, not half my age, definitely not. You guys 178 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 1: are in your forties, right, I'm forty three now, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 179 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:15,440 Speaker 1: that's because when I was reading, I was like, all right, like, 180 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: you know, forties, and I'm like, have you been married? 181 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 1: Have you guys all been married before? Or or no? 182 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: I have Okay, how long were you married? For? Staff? 183 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 1: For like two weeks? Amazing? Same kind one of those. 184 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: We were in a situation we were really really young. 185 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:36,319 Speaker 1: I married my son's dad, and you know, I just 186 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: it was just kind of one of those things where 187 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,440 Speaker 1: it was just like, all right, well, we're young, we 188 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:42,360 Speaker 1: don't really want to do this, but my mom was like, no, 189 00:10:42,520 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 1: you have to. You know, you have kids now, and 190 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 1: this is you know what it is. So we got 191 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 1: married and after we got married, we just realized that 192 00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: we weren't getting along. So, you know, it was just 193 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 1: one of those things where we didn't want to, um, 194 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:57,760 Speaker 1: you know, raise children in a household where they didn't 195 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 1: see their parents, um, loving on each other and showing 196 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:04,000 Speaker 1: each other love and you know, growing up in a 197 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:06,920 Speaker 1: really happy home, you know, versus you know, raising kids 198 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: in an environment where you're constantly arguing and you're fighting 199 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:13,200 Speaker 1: and there's always something going on. So I was mainteened. 200 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: So it was just one of those things where I 201 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 1: should have been reading books as a most playing house, 202 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 1: you know. But you know we did that. We you know, 203 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 1: as far as with dating younger, I've only done three years. 204 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: So this has been a whole brand new experience for 205 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 1: me totally. So we're trying nineteen over again. That was happening. 206 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:34,959 Speaker 1: It was just I don't know, things just about it buzzing. 207 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 1: I was like, okay, let's just try something new, you know, 208 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:41,760 Speaker 1: why not. I think there's something to where um, you know, 209 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 1: now that I'm single and you know, divorced now at 210 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:47,439 Speaker 1: almost a year and a half or more than that, 211 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:50,679 Speaker 1: but the younger guys, there is something to be said 212 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 1: that they definitely again, I'm I'm gonna be forty next year. 213 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:58,440 Speaker 1: They they really do make you feel like a queen. 214 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 1: Mm hmm um. I I just don't think I would be. 215 00:12:05,160 --> 00:12:06,720 Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm just thinking about now. I'm like, 216 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: I think there's that piece of um. It's I've rarely 217 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:17,000 Speaker 1: found someone under, you know, Like I've kind of sat 218 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:19,080 Speaker 1: like I don't want to go below thirty five because 219 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:23,800 Speaker 1: when when it ducks into that like thirty, I mean, 220 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: there's just so much. It's like I'm a mom and 221 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:31,440 Speaker 1: it's like are they you know, are they secure, confident? 222 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 1: Um mature? It's like you'd have to find I would 223 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: have to find a very old young for it for 224 00:12:39,480 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 1: me personally, because I'm like, I don't have I don't 225 00:12:41,640 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 1: want just an f buddy, right, So it's like do 226 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:46,319 Speaker 1: you do when you guys wanted to this, Like did 227 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:48,320 Speaker 1: you Are you looking at it from like I'm trying 228 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:50,439 Speaker 1: to find my one or is like I'm just gonna 229 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: be fun because I think I think there's a season 230 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:54,079 Speaker 1: for both right where it's like, yeah, I'm gonna go. 231 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:56,199 Speaker 1: Like my girlfriend just slept with like a really young 232 00:12:56,360 --> 00:12:58,360 Speaker 1: dude whatever, and she's like whatever, this is a fun 233 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:01,400 Speaker 1: piece time in my life and like who cares? But like, 234 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:03,720 Speaker 1: or are you actually going on thinking? Like okay, like 235 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:06,400 Speaker 1: I could actually find my one among these younger guys. 236 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:10,320 Speaker 1: I went out there just to have a good time. Yeah, 237 00:13:10,559 --> 00:13:12,840 Speaker 1: you know, it was just I didn't. I was just 238 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: really open to like the possibility of you know, maybe 239 00:13:16,559 --> 00:13:19,640 Speaker 1: meeting someone who is so amazing that changes my mind 240 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 1: and makes me think, you know what, maybe I can 241 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 1: give this a shot. But you know, I had like 242 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:25,319 Speaker 1: a really rough year, you know, with the cancer and 243 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:28,280 Speaker 1: then my surgery and stuff. So I wasn't really like, Okay, 244 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 1: I just I just wanted to have fun and whatever 245 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:34,840 Speaker 1: fun meant, whatever fund meant, or whoever fun with meant, 246 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:37,679 Speaker 1: you know whatever, That's what I wanted to do. And 247 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:42,720 Speaker 1: I didn't. Yeah, I sparkle, what about what about you? Ben? Well? 248 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: I also went to I'm gonna type of person. I'll 249 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:51,120 Speaker 1: try anything once. And I David someone a few years younger, 250 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 1: not significantly younger. UM. I have always, um wonder what 251 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:57,720 Speaker 1: it would like, wonder what it'd be like to date, 252 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:00,400 Speaker 1: you know, with an age gap. I have even really 253 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:02,719 Speaker 1: dating me abouty much older, except one time that was 254 00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:05,560 Speaker 1: a horror story. So I was anxious, you know, to 255 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 1: meet somebody younger and just to see because I don't, 256 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:10,960 Speaker 1: you know, I feel like age is just a number. 257 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:13,800 Speaker 1: I want to have fun as well. I've been married. 258 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 1: I got married at a high school when I had 259 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: a baby two years after that, and then I was 260 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:20,640 Speaker 1: running my business for twenty years, so I was kind 261 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 1: of ready to let go of being so serious. I'm 262 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: just to see what else was out there. So I 263 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:31,400 Speaker 1: also went to have fun. So I married. My first 264 00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 1: husband was five years younger than me, and it was 265 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:37,440 Speaker 1: really great for the first few years, I think, just 266 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:40,080 Speaker 1: like the passion and the craziness, and then there was 267 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: this I feel like a period of time where I 268 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 1: super sped up and he kind of stayed the same, 269 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,400 Speaker 1: and I became kind of mother like is that a 270 00:14:48,440 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 1: fear that you have or something you've experienced before, Like, 271 00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: because it is a tendency in just women in general 272 00:14:53,280 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 1: to be so nurturing that we can kind of take 273 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:58,440 Speaker 1: this like a weird rule over and become mother like 274 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: to these younger guys. I think that's why my relationships 275 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: didn't work out, because there was this stagnicity of growth 276 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: um and I was became resentful and I wasn't. I 277 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 1: lost some respect for him, and so yeah, there's definitely that, UM, 278 00:15:15,480 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 1: but I think that can happen and with any relationship 279 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:23,520 Speaker 1: really matter how old the guy is, um. There you 280 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:25,480 Speaker 1: have to really be on the same page with someone. 281 00:15:25,520 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 1: And you know, a relationship lasts only if you guys 282 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:33,080 Speaker 1: are on that same path and continuously growing. So UM, 283 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: trust me, I've had I know, a lot of marriages, 284 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:41,800 Speaker 1: you know, friends that you know, relationships have stopped, um 285 00:15:41,880 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 1: and ended because of those same issues and they're the 286 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 1: same age or you know, they're older than my problems. 287 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 1: But I think it's just, you know, it really depends 288 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:53,880 Speaker 1: on the person and their willingness to work and do 289 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 1: the work and be committed to the relationship and love 290 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: each other. And but yeah, there's a lot of that. 291 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: I am taking a step back, Like I came into 292 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:08,480 Speaker 1: this experience and went on the island and had this 293 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 1: you know, wanted to have this amazing experience. But you know, 294 00:16:13,120 --> 00:16:15,720 Speaker 1: of course with the younger men, but I've always wanted 295 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 1: to find my person. I've never been married. I've been 296 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 1: engaged in my twenties and have gone through you know, 297 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 1: long term relationships and I just have never found the 298 00:16:26,120 --> 00:16:30,520 Speaker 1: one that you know as my life partner. So regardless 299 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 1: of they were, if I was going on the island 300 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:35,600 Speaker 1: to meet younger guys or my age or whatever, I'm 301 00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 1: still looking for my person even to this day. So, um, 302 00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: you know, I'm still looking for my person no matter what. 303 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 1: So spoiler alert, you don't end up with the person, 304 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:49,480 Speaker 1: then on the show, you'll have to see you. I'm 305 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:51,520 Speaker 1: so excited. But I think, like the staff, it goes 306 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:54,760 Speaker 1: back to like what you said to and it's especially 307 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:58,520 Speaker 1: like the closer I am to forty, I'm I'm kind 308 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 1: of like I look at things in seasons, right, So 309 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 1: it's like after my divorce or this past summer, I 310 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: was like I had h hockerel summer and it was 311 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 1: so fun and because I didn't want to be in 312 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 1: a relationship and I just wanted to have fun. And 313 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: I think it's okay to like have these different seasons, 314 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:13,480 Speaker 1: and um, you know, at first, when I was reading 315 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:15,640 Speaker 1: the breakdown, I was like, oh, like, you know, these 316 00:17:15,960 --> 00:17:18,040 Speaker 1: these girls are beautiful, and like I really want them 317 00:17:18,040 --> 00:17:19,680 Speaker 1: to find their one and I wish that they would 318 00:17:19,720 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 1: also maybe thrown in you know guys. But I also 319 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:23,719 Speaker 1: know it's a TV show and that's a different twist 320 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:26,719 Speaker 1: to to it. And again that like fun opportunity, So 321 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:30,400 Speaker 1: that's that's awesome. Um So yeah, I can definitely see 322 00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:31,679 Speaker 1: like how you would look at it that way and go, 323 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:33,720 Speaker 1: you just went for you know, a good time and 324 00:17:34,440 --> 00:17:36,959 Speaker 1: um and who knows. And I think age is truly 325 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:39,439 Speaker 1: just a number. But I think it's just when I 326 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:42,880 Speaker 1: draw from personal experience, I'm just like, like, what would 327 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:44,600 Speaker 1: I you know, what would fit best with like me 328 00:17:44,680 --> 00:17:46,520 Speaker 1: and the kids. And at the end the day, it's 329 00:17:46,560 --> 00:17:49,280 Speaker 1: like it is it's not the guy who knows how old, 330 00:17:49,359 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 1: but it just has to be the right fit. Um 331 00:17:52,119 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: So Ta Digs as the host of this and I 332 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:56,520 Speaker 1: want to talk about if anybody found Ta Digs to 333 00:17:56,520 --> 00:17:59,359 Speaker 1: be there one because he used to be everything to 334 00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 1: me a feet I would say like, what when was 335 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:07,680 Speaker 1: he a big deal to us? He is? He canceled 336 00:18:07,800 --> 00:18:10,199 Speaker 1: that question in the world of guys that are in 337 00:18:10,280 --> 00:18:13,880 Speaker 1: relationships and they act singles. So I don't think any 338 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:15,359 Speaker 1: of us were looking at you that way. We just 339 00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:16,720 Speaker 1: kind of saw me. It was just really cool and 340 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: he was, you know, he was really funny and stuff. 341 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 1: So I'm focused on the guys there, and that's fair. 342 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:25,760 Speaker 1: I just got excited when I saw Tay I. I 343 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 1: didn't know he was in a relationship be there, but 344 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:31,640 Speaker 1: they know and that's important exactly. That's good. That's good. 345 00:18:31,800 --> 00:18:34,480 Speaker 1: So did you girls have to because obviously we haven't 346 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: seen the show yet, but have you guys? Did you 347 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:40,040 Speaker 1: have to like like fight to like pick a guy, 348 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:41,560 Speaker 1: like what if one of you guys like the same 349 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:43,720 Speaker 1: guy or how or is it like you guys both 350 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:48,560 Speaker 1: just got your own little bundle of boys setting over us. Yeah, 351 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:53,240 Speaker 1: there was no time. Yeah, it was never and never 352 00:18:53,280 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 1: a time that any guy that we could have potentially 353 00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:01,120 Speaker 1: you know, been into. It never overlaps. So that all 354 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:04,240 Speaker 1: that worked out and we were into some pretty cute guys. 355 00:19:04,320 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 1: You know, we all had our fete favorites and it 356 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:10,520 Speaker 1: just never it just never overlapped. So that was really good. 357 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:12,080 Speaker 1: I love that Chris and i Ey gets mad at 358 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:14,359 Speaker 1: me whenever I'm like, oh, this is actually pretty funny. 359 00:19:14,359 --> 00:19:18,720 Speaker 1: One of my girlfriends boy this check. I guess my 360 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:20,959 Speaker 1: ex husband didn't know that we were friends, and he 361 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:24,879 Speaker 1: liked her profile on a dating app and she was like, 362 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,040 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm dad look who liked my profile, 363 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 1: And so then I sent it to my AX and 364 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:30,280 Speaker 1: I said, hey, do you wanna do women to hook 365 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:32,359 Speaker 1: it up? Because she's like a girlfriend of mine. Because 366 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:34,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, I just want people to find their ones, 367 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:37,320 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I'm not like ed 368 00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:39,399 Speaker 1: straight up make out with somebody and be like not 369 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:42,479 Speaker 1: for me, but you know who would love this? And 370 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, what is happening? That is just not how 371 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:47,280 Speaker 1: I operate. I just want people to find their one. 372 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:49,440 Speaker 1: Something might not work for me but work for someone else. 373 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:52,080 Speaker 1: And I don't know, does any okay kind of have 374 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:54,600 Speaker 1: a scenario We did kind of have a scenario where 375 00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:57,120 Speaker 1: two of us had a couple of us had maybe 376 00:19:57,119 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 1: a common interest kind of and then the other ones, 377 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,359 Speaker 1: the other ones like go for it, yeah, and we 378 00:20:02,359 --> 00:20:04,800 Speaker 1: were like, are you sure? I think that's our age 379 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:06,280 Speaker 1: again too, though I think it's the girls in their 380 00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:08,679 Speaker 1: forties who are just kind of like, you know, we 381 00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: want people to what would you say stuff? Oh yeah yeah, 382 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 1: but we're just thinking when we're at our age now, 383 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:18,280 Speaker 1: it's just like we you know, we're not going to settle, 384 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:21,120 Speaker 1: right because I mean, especially like Brookly you were saying, 385 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:22,919 Speaker 1: I mean, you've you know, you're you're you're not going 386 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 1: to settle, You've you've waited. It's like, so you're gonna 387 00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:26,640 Speaker 1: you're gonna wait for your one. So it's like if 388 00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:29,000 Speaker 1: someone doesn't work out for you, there's no hard feelings 389 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,439 Speaker 1: to go, Hey, this might work out for Jessica. I 390 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 1: don't know, and don't you also agree? Like at our age, 391 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:36,120 Speaker 1: So I just I'll be forty one in a couple 392 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:39,640 Speaker 1: of months, and I feel like our intuition is so 393 00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:42,880 Speaker 1: like it's getting super clear now, so it's like if 394 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,840 Speaker 1: it's not, you just know kind of quickly do you 395 00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:52,240 Speaker 1: agree with? Yeah? I know totally. Yeah. About it too 396 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 1: was that we all were we all liked what we liked, 397 00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:59,879 Speaker 1: so we really like overstepped like what Brook like. Spark 398 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:01,639 Speaker 1: and I really didn't like like it. I mean, it 399 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:02,919 Speaker 1: wasn't that we didn't like it, but it was just 400 00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:04,640 Speaker 1: like that's just not our vibe, you know what I mean? 401 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,879 Speaker 1: And then were Sparkle and I we were just so 402 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 1: in tune with what you know, with each other and 403 00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:12,159 Speaker 1: what we like. I think everybody was just like you 404 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:13,760 Speaker 1: like him or you want to look at you said, 405 00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 1: you know, everybody, damn wait, can we like, since I'm 406 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,240 Speaker 1: like single too, can we all go on like a 407 00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,680 Speaker 1: girl's like Miami trip please and just like Miami, but 408 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,560 Speaker 1: you guys can come, Oh my god done. I'm like, 409 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,120 Speaker 1: I got our week off in December, so like how 410 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 1: fun would that be just to go I'm like and 411 00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: be like, all right, you got that one. I got 412 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:42,440 Speaker 1: that one. And then we're just like each other's We 413 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:45,400 Speaker 1: were each other's wing man. We each other's wing man. 414 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,520 Speaker 1: We did a little bit of gossip in had to 415 00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: kind of change data. So this really had his benefits. 416 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,639 Speaker 1: So when we go on his girl trip, we'll be 417 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: able to you know, we've been put it together intulate 418 00:21:57,480 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 1: because I think it's like again like we have and 419 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:03,359 Speaker 1: I think Kristen always says it too like the older 420 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:05,359 Speaker 1: and we get we're like you said, we listen to 421 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:08,600 Speaker 1: ourselves more were And my therapist was just saying to it, 422 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:11,560 Speaker 1: she's just like your your body is letting you know 423 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:14,719 Speaker 1: when something isn't safe for when it's um triggering you 424 00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,600 Speaker 1: so like and you're listening to that more and so 425 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:20,720 Speaker 1: I think that's such a good a good thing to 426 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:23,239 Speaker 1: have and you know, um, I don't know. I'm just 427 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:26,640 Speaker 1: like it's all it's all good, like I'm excited. Okay, wait, 428 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:29,120 Speaker 1: so there's three of you on this island, Tay Digs, 429 00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:31,119 Speaker 1: I just want to mention one more time. And then also, 430 00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:34,720 Speaker 1: how many how many of this like young man collection 431 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:40,080 Speaker 1: have we brought to the island? What started with twenty 432 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 1: four men? Yeah? What's their ages? Roughly? Uh one to 433 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:59,480 Speaker 1: what they're getting three? Okay? Right? Yeah, yeah, very and yeah. 434 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:07,359 Speaker 1: I to have fun. I came here and I'm still 435 00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:12,680 Speaker 1: let's just say I'm still having fun. Oh, I got spark. 436 00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:18,760 Speaker 1: I can you guys? I really am interested to Brooke 437 00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:21,000 Speaker 1: has this look on her face like she just has 438 00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:23,040 Speaker 1: some information that she's not allowed to share, and I'm 439 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:26,840 Speaker 1: just really excited to watch her. I can just tell 440 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 1: there's something. There's so much we can't share. I know 441 00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:33,679 Speaker 1: you can't. And I'll give you an I'll give you 442 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:38,480 Speaker 1: a hand. What is gonna give us? I'll say, I 443 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:42,160 Speaker 1: give you a hand, Brook, I give you a hand. 444 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:48,960 Speaker 1: Brook has another nickname. It's all dress Brook. Watch out 445 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:55,679 Speaker 1: Wait what is it called dress red Dress Brook? That 446 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 1: that's that's the author ego that we never knew existed. 447 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 1: And one of those young strapping men with abs just 448 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:09,560 Speaker 1: came in unlocked red dress Brooks One Lady, Was it 449 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:18,080 Speaker 1: one or was it a few? Ess? Flavorful sparks. I've 450 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: had a variety of flavors on the island, so it 451 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:25,320 Speaker 1: was a lot of fun. I cannot this is I 452 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:27,720 Speaker 1: cannot wait to watch. It's something just so up my 453 00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 1: alley because I'm so like, there's nothing against the bachelorettes 454 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,359 Speaker 1: that have been on, but there's something about women that 455 00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:40,320 Speaker 1: are the same age and just like watching experience life, 456 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:42,919 Speaker 1: knowing the things that we've all been through. And so 457 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:45,199 Speaker 1: it's I'm excited to watch that because I'm like I 458 00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:49,320 Speaker 1: can relate to y'all versus watching a twenty five year 459 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:53,960 Speaker 1: old girl. Yeah, I just I can't being done. And 460 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:57,639 Speaker 1: it's about time that, you know, we see women in 461 00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:01,840 Speaker 1: their forties, late thirties, forty isn't just full of life, 462 00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 1: still just wanting to find love or just have some fun. 463 00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:08,840 Speaker 1: And you know, life's not over, Life's just beginning. You know. 464 00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:12,040 Speaker 1: It's I think done that too, especially like when you 465 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 1: get to your forties or your thirties, days just automatically 466 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,720 Speaker 1: assume like, okay, well you guys are getting older now. 467 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:21,080 Speaker 1: So it's it's done for you where we feel like, 468 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,879 Speaker 1: you know, you know, you're getting into your forties, just 469 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 1: turned forty two, so it's like I feel like I'm 470 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 1: just getting started. Like I feel like, you know what 471 00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 1: I mean, Like I'm alive. Like certain things, you know, 472 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:35,520 Speaker 1: my sentences are heightened. Everything just looks different. I'm a 473 00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:38,840 Speaker 1: tractor to different things now. You know, when we were younger, 474 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 1: it was like you weren't really looking too deep into things, 475 00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:43,199 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Everything was like kind of 476 00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:46,159 Speaker 1: surface level kind of way. You know. Now it's like, 477 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,959 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's a lot hotter now, it's it's sexier, 478 00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:52,240 Speaker 1: it's spicier, it's a you know, the chemistry is different 479 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:56,480 Speaker 1: than yourself having this type of a show like this 480 00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 1: because you know, so we you never see that on TV. 481 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,639 Speaker 1: You see all the younger girls, but what happens after 482 00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:04,399 Speaker 1: because we all, you know, we all grow past thirty, 483 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:07,240 Speaker 1: you know, and you know, so it's like, you know, 484 00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:10,919 Speaker 1: when you get to forty, it's not over. So I 485 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,280 Speaker 1: really I really appreciate this type of show and then 486 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 1: making something like this to show the rest of the 487 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:18,080 Speaker 1: ladies that you could still be forty. Yeah, And that's 488 00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 1: and that's why I'm like I genuinely was like, oh 489 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:22,840 Speaker 1: my god, these ones are my girls, Like they're like 490 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:25,479 Speaker 1: they're my age. Like this, I'm gonna watch this because 491 00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:28,439 Speaker 1: like that's the kind of stuff that like I can 492 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,119 Speaker 1: relate to. And yeah, maybe not relating to the twenty 493 00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,600 Speaker 1: two year old guy, but like the season of like 494 00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:35,920 Speaker 1: the fun again and remembering I can remember how Girls 495 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,800 Speaker 1: summer and like, you know, it's like it's just cool, 496 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:39,880 Speaker 1: like to relate to like what you guys have all 497 00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:41,720 Speaker 1: gone through and then again our ages. It's like, I 498 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:43,680 Speaker 1: just I love that so much more and I'm glad 499 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:46,320 Speaker 1: that who was doing that. Like we like know ourselves 500 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 1: at this point in our lives. We're not ways time 501 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,720 Speaker 1: and we own what stage or what season we're in. 502 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 1: If you want to have a heart Gil Summer, like 503 00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 1: we do it, girl, and we own it and we're 504 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:00,800 Speaker 1: not ashamed of it. And we're living the lives we 505 00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:04,160 Speaker 1: want to live. So it's like empowering. It's it's not 506 00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:07,120 Speaker 1: we're not living for someone else anymore. You know, we've 507 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:11,159 Speaker 1: gone through so much in our lives. Um, you know 508 00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:15,280 Speaker 1: basically shoot me, you know, shoot me up and spit 509 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:18,240 Speaker 1: me out, and um when I went on the show, 510 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:22,000 Speaker 1: it was like I was finally needing that escape and 511 00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:25,800 Speaker 1: it was exactly what I needed, just to find myself again, 512 00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 1: um and have some fun. So I hope it's inspiring 513 00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:32,320 Speaker 1: to the younger girls too. You know, there's a lot 514 00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,160 Speaker 1: of twenties some things out there that feel like they've 515 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:35,480 Speaker 1: kind of grown up. And I don't know if you'll 516 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:37,399 Speaker 1: ever felt like this, but I came from a pretty 517 00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,720 Speaker 1: tiny town where it was like prom engagement babies, so 518 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 1: if you weren't married right away, it was whatever. And 519 00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:46,760 Speaker 1: I just have spoken this word over our younger generation 520 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:49,359 Speaker 1: so often, like you just find you and the rest 521 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:52,119 Speaker 1: will figure itself out. And I hope that these younger 522 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,480 Speaker 1: girls get to see three stunning in their forty year 523 00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:58,479 Speaker 1: old women just living their best life and knowing exactly 524 00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:01,440 Speaker 1: who they are, listening to their intuition and not settling 525 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:03,719 Speaker 1: for anything less. That's like the key to It's like 526 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 1: because you guys know you're not going to be alone forever, 527 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,119 Speaker 1: Like it's you might not find them for a while. 528 00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 1: But again, it's like that's kind of where I was 529 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:14,239 Speaker 1: telling person before the show, Well, I was at the 530 00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,800 Speaker 1: therapist today. She was like, we were kind of talking 531 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,119 Speaker 1: about like how I was, you know, actually looking like 532 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:22,119 Speaker 1: I stayed last year in a relationship that was toxic 533 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 1: because I didn't want to be alone for the holidays, 534 00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:25,800 Speaker 1: and now this year, I'm like, I'm looking forward to 535 00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:27,399 Speaker 1: being alone for the holidays. And she was saying that 536 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,919 Speaker 1: there was like this like um sacred window where she's like, 537 00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,280 Speaker 1: there's a chair, and she's like, if you keep it 538 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,520 Speaker 1: occupied with the wrong thing, the person, there's gonna be 539 00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,080 Speaker 1: someone that can't sit down that's meant to be next 540 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:39,800 Speaker 1: to you. And so she's like, you know, she's like, yes, 541 00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:41,680 Speaker 1: it will be people that come and sit down from 542 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:43,480 Speaker 1: time to time. She's like, but you don't want to 543 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,680 Speaker 1: keep that wrong person sitting there because then you're going 544 00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:47,440 Speaker 1: to miss out. And she's like, and there will be 545 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:50,200 Speaker 1: someone that occupies that chair in that space. She's like, 546 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,240 Speaker 1: it just might not be you know, in six months 547 00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:54,800 Speaker 1: or a year, whenever it is. She's like, but you 548 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,600 Speaker 1: don't want to you don't want to hold onto something 549 00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,520 Speaker 1: that's not who should who should not be sitting there. 550 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,560 Speaker 1: Let's and we know who should not be sitting there, 551 00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:04,560 Speaker 1: and we do, we know in our bodies, Like and 552 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,880 Speaker 1: now that we're again, we're more aware, and that's like 553 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:08,760 Speaker 1: I think again, coming to the age stuff is like 554 00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,680 Speaker 1: your body tells you, you know, and like now we 555 00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:13,640 Speaker 1: have the voice to be like no, I'm good, Like 556 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:15,160 Speaker 1: I know, I'm not gonna deal one forever. I'm just 557 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,680 Speaker 1: gonna take some more space alone next to the chair. 558 00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:25,760 Speaker 1: I really have an empty chair. I don't want to popularly. 559 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 1: I know a lot of maybe simber romances that have lasted, 560 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:34,000 Speaker 1: and they're like full of fire, and I want to say, 561 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: does these days these younger guys, especially some of the 562 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,640 Speaker 1: guys that came to the island were pretty like well 563 00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:45,720 Speaker 1: established and were pretty ambitious and had ambitious goals or 564 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:49,640 Speaker 1: already had ambitious careers. And you know, it's not just 565 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,600 Speaker 1: the thing where the woman, the older woman has to 566 00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:54,720 Speaker 1: be the cool of his sugar mama or the guy 567 00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:58,600 Speaker 1: has to be the boy toy. These guys were wise, 568 00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,800 Speaker 1: they had things to offer. I love them were but 569 00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,360 Speaker 1: quite a few of them had things to say, you know, 570 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:10,000 Speaker 1: and we're just definitely mature. So it just kind of 571 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:13,440 Speaker 1: like put things in perspectives. Okay, age is really just 572 00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:17,280 Speaker 1: a number. Seriously, I could definitely open myself up to 573 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:21,280 Speaker 1: you know, seeing what seriously something could be with the 574 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:23,720 Speaker 1: younger guy because I've never experienced young guy before. But 575 00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: going on the show, I was able to see that, Okay, 576 00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 1: this is not just this dynamic where it's like some 577 00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,320 Speaker 1: dud and then you know an older mature woman, he's actor, 578 00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:35,479 Speaker 1: you know what she has. This was really, um an 579 00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:38,160 Speaker 1: enlightenment experiencing that. I mean, I found the guys to 580 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:42,160 Speaker 1: be attractive. I was shocked. I was shocked. What's what's 581 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:44,440 Speaker 1: one thing that you guys all like to wrap it up? 582 00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:48,320 Speaker 1: Like the one thing where, um, something that you took 583 00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:51,360 Speaker 1: away about yourself, like what you learned about yourself through 584 00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:55,840 Speaker 1: going through the show. In the process, I had a 585 00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,880 Speaker 1: bunch of breakdowns and breakthroughs on this show. So I 586 00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,680 Speaker 1: feel like I learned. I feel like it's almost like 587 00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,440 Speaker 1: a rebirth. It's like, it's my sound so corny, but 588 00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:07,800 Speaker 1: I feel like, um, I went to the show one 589 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:12,880 Speaker 1: way and I left another way. It was it was 590 00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:17,480 Speaker 1: really like life changing for me. I think eating eating 591 00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 1: my group sisters. It was just like, I don't know, 592 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:21,640 Speaker 1: it was met in a way. You know, it was 593 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:25,880 Speaker 1: like wow, it was a really great experience. You know, 594 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 1: you'll see you'll find out in the episodes, UM, a 595 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,200 Speaker 1: little bit more about each and every one of us. 596 00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:35,800 Speaker 1: But you know, I I stuffered pretty significant loss in 597 00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:39,480 Speaker 1: my life leading up to the show. I was grieving, UM, 598 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 1: and so the show allowed me to escape my my 599 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:49,440 Speaker 1: life for a little bit. Sorry, I'm getting a little emotional. UM. Wow, 600 00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:51,680 Speaker 1: you'll never put alone on the show. I promise you. 601 00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:57,479 Speaker 1: Don't you dare to start, I can't. UM allowed me 602 00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,880 Speaker 1: to escape my life for a little it and kind 603 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:05,480 Speaker 1: of really tap into like who I was again. Um, 604 00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 1: and like stuff said, I felt like I was really 605 00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,960 Speaker 1: born and I don't you know they say all reality 606 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:15,080 Speaker 1: TV whatever whatever, but it was. It was the best 607 00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:19,600 Speaker 1: thing that I ever did for myself to reinvent myself, 608 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:24,000 Speaker 1: to find myself again, to heal. There was some instance 609 00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:28,840 Speaker 1: where we were we we I mean the sisterhood that 610 00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:32,480 Speaker 1: we formed. I am so grateful to this day for 611 00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,880 Speaker 1: because without them, I could not I'm not the person 612 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:40,520 Speaker 1: I am today. And I came back home and I 613 00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:43,880 Speaker 1: knew who I was again. I'm like, yes, this, I 614 00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:47,760 Speaker 1: am Brooke, like Brooke is back and I am so 615 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:53,160 Speaker 1: confident in myself. The world is my oyster like I am. 616 00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,520 Speaker 1: I am just so excited for this new chapter in 617 00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:59,280 Speaker 1: my life. And I couldn't have done it without the girls. 618 00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:03,120 Speaker 1: And I just feel like the Sisterhood Reformed was was everything, 619 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:06,240 Speaker 1: And we were on this journey together every single day 620 00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:08,640 Speaker 1: from you know, when we woke up to when we 621 00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:11,719 Speaker 1: went to bed. Um, we were together in this and 622 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:16,520 Speaker 1: I'm just so grateful for it. Um back a new 623 00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,760 Speaker 1: woman and I'm I'm I'm on fire. I feel like 624 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:23,920 Speaker 1: I'm I'm just you know, yeah, read she's she's there, spark. 625 00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:27,200 Speaker 1: What about you? That's that's that's amazing. You know this, 626 00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,719 Speaker 1: I would say the same thing. Um, I've rediscovered a 627 00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 1: lot about myself. UM. One of them one of the 628 00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:35,400 Speaker 1: things for strength, you know, and you think, oh, why 629 00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:37,280 Speaker 1: would you think strength? You know? One of them to 630 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:40,320 Speaker 1: me guys. But you know, it's just a new experience 631 00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:42,320 Speaker 1: for me. Um. I think I'm going through a season 632 00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 1: of so many changes. So I was a little bit scared, 633 00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:48,440 Speaker 1: you know. Um again, I just closed my business for 634 00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:51,040 Speaker 1: twenty years. I don't know anything else. It's all I know. 635 00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:54,520 Speaker 1: My son he just empty and I'm just empty nest 636 00:33:54,560 --> 00:34:00,160 Speaker 1: and you know, my son just left. And now I'm 637 00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:03,080 Speaker 1: embarked on this new journey with these girls, and that 638 00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,400 Speaker 1: was probably the most pivotal part, was to be able 639 00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:09,560 Speaker 1: to create these relationships with them. Um, the guys was great, 640 00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:13,360 Speaker 1: but I had a permanent sisterhood. Uh. This relationship that 641 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:18,280 Speaker 1: we force, it's just amazing. We still talk every day everybody. 642 00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:21,440 Speaker 1: We're not talking about anything at all. We are always 643 00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,879 Speaker 1: connected to one another, and that is priceless. I'm gonna 644 00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,719 Speaker 1: carry that with me for the rest of my life. 645 00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:31,879 Speaker 1: This experience was the experience of my time. Unnot wait 646 00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:34,680 Speaker 1: to watch you now. Girl. It's entially rarity to have 647 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:37,359 Speaker 1: people come out of reality TV and all three feel 648 00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,839 Speaker 1: the way you guys feel. The ladies feel the way 649 00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:45,359 Speaker 1: you feel. Really special, that's great. You should be part 650 00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:48,399 Speaker 1: of our little group chats and all the stuff. I mean, 651 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:51,680 Speaker 1: would love and I want you girls way more fun 652 00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:54,400 Speaker 1: and group. Yeah, I'm just married with a couple of babies. 653 00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:59,359 Speaker 1: But I'm here for the commentary. Oh well girls, I'm 654 00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:01,719 Speaker 1: so excited to show. We'll do a girls trip. Um. 655 00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:03,480 Speaker 1: But in the meantime, I'm going to watch Back in 656 00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:05,759 Speaker 1: the Groove and I want everyone to on Hulu. You 657 00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,440 Speaker 1: girls are so beautiful and I just yeah, this is 658 00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:10,960 Speaker 1: this is not the end, it's just the beginning. So 659 00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:15,759 Speaker 1: catch us in Miami. Happy birthday, Thank you, thank you 660 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 1: so much. All right, guys, appreciate chelsee soon by girls. 661 00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,840 Speaker 1: These are like fun girlfriends. We need them, yeah, especially 662 00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:42,640 Speaker 1: well it's hard sometimes, like I love my queendom obviously, 663 00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:47,040 Speaker 1: but yeah, but it's you know, you guys are all married. 664 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:49,360 Speaker 1: I'm the only single one. I know. You had a 665 00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:52,799 Speaker 1: half a chance with Katherine. Go damn real, he was 666 00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,560 Speaker 1: like pulling for that one. I'm kidding, I would never. 667 00:35:56,640 --> 00:36:00,000 Speaker 1: I always like, I was so happy, happy, and even 668 00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:03,080 Speaker 1: like when she was like we barely actually start after you, 669 00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:05,680 Speaker 1: You're not the same human. No, like if if I 670 00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:09,520 Speaker 1: would call for you, but I love pressing too much 671 00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:13,960 Speaker 1: to ever acting, but that would be but do you 672 00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,640 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like, yeah, you know because Katherine 673 00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:19,920 Speaker 1: and I speak different love languages, like she she touched 674 00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:24,239 Speaker 1: for instance, yes, that and like she would want to 675 00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:27,040 Speaker 1: be alone, whereas I'm like, let's go to Miami, you know, 676 00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:28,560 Speaker 1: and she was like, or we could just head to 677 00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,160 Speaker 1: a craft fair. Like for example, when we were in California, 678 00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,520 Speaker 1: me and Kristen were like, we want to go feel 679 00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,720 Speaker 1: the sand under our toes and be real, berthed, salted 680 00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:42,240 Speaker 1: air and like and wash aware. Insecurities were like words 681 00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:44,120 Speaker 1: on the beach and the waves and the tide took 682 00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:45,800 Speaker 1: them back to my mother Earth. And we really we 683 00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:49,680 Speaker 1: were like holding hands and just crying and like you know, 684 00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:52,120 Speaker 1: just like praying, and and then we're like, can't you 685 00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:54,399 Speaker 1: want to come? And there's like it's so much fun. 686 00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:55,840 Speaker 1: She's like, I'm just gonna stay here and work in 687 00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:58,280 Speaker 1: the hotel. She's got her laptop and her little tiny 688 00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:01,319 Speaker 1: bag of chocolate crackers and she was like I'm good here, 689 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,200 Speaker 1: like okay. And then when we were there there, I 690 00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:06,759 Speaker 1: was like, oh, this makes so much sense. This is 691 00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:08,799 Speaker 1: not Catherine, Like she'd be rolling her eyes that are 692 00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:12,760 Speaker 1: like write something in the sand to let the way 693 00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:15,680 Speaker 1: do you want to be let's baptize you get She's like, 694 00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:19,120 Speaker 1: I'm good actually, per my last email click click click 695 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,960 Speaker 1: click click click, that's more cats stage. But when we 696 00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:23,839 Speaker 1: came back though, she was so like, oh, this is 697 00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:27,920 Speaker 1: the time I needed to be alone and it was 698 00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:30,760 Speaker 1: so good for us. Yeah, and we were like we'reborn. 699 00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:33,640 Speaker 1: We came back so happy. She was really dealing with 700 00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,880 Speaker 1: a lot before we left, oh man. But yeah, so 701 00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,920 Speaker 1: sometimes again, I would never want any of mine. That's 702 00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:43,840 Speaker 1: why I'm finding new friendships. Yeah, you have to like Krista, 703 00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:47,360 Speaker 1: like she's you know, she's obviously um someone that it 704 00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:51,359 Speaker 1: was single, and that that's to to have that like 705 00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,960 Speaker 1: to go out with or to hang with, or to understand, 706 00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:57,359 Speaker 1: like you know, with the Christmas stuff. I was telling her, 707 00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:59,839 Speaker 1: like we both stayed in like those relationships. Now we're like, oh, 708 00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:03,360 Speaker 1: are so proud of to see each growth and like 709 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:05,920 Speaker 1: help each other, and so I like to have those 710 00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:08,000 Speaker 1: relationships too. And then the fun one, so like you know, 711 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:09,680 Speaker 1: like those worlds would be like my like fun when 712 00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,040 Speaker 1: I want to, like they are so cute and they're 713 00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:15,279 Speaker 1: actually just so sweet and kind. Yeah, it's interesting because 714 00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:17,440 Speaker 1: I had this relationship with a friend a couple of 715 00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:20,480 Speaker 1: years ago who was married but in a real toxic marriage, 716 00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:24,520 Speaker 1: and I really stayed the course for a long time 717 00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:26,200 Speaker 1: thinking that I don't know, maybe I could just be 718 00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:27,920 Speaker 1: like a sense of light or a sense of like 719 00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,680 Speaker 1: reason or whatever, and I didn't quite see it at 720 00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:34,080 Speaker 1: the time of the toxicity kind of took over my 721 00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:38,719 Speaker 1: marriage too, little by little, like so now it's like 722 00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:40,520 Speaker 1: what you're saying, but even in marriage I need to 723 00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:43,120 Speaker 1: find married friends that are like praying for my marriage 724 00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:46,719 Speaker 1: and assuming the best of my husband, or you know, 725 00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:49,319 Speaker 1: like you can vent a little, but really it just 726 00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:52,640 Speaker 1: comes back to like being supportive and trying to help 727 00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:54,319 Speaker 1: each other and navigate it or leave it on a 728 00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:56,680 Speaker 1: good note. And I was in this. I didn't really 729 00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:58,960 Speaker 1: realize how toxic it was at one point, but it 730 00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:04,680 Speaker 1: was so nasty. That's such a um a true thing 731 00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:06,600 Speaker 1: that you just said to because I'm sure, like you know, 732 00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:08,200 Speaker 1: you've come to me obviously and told me things. And 733 00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:10,440 Speaker 1: if I was like, Preston, that's son of a whatever, 734 00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:14,320 Speaker 1: all that bleeds into your then thoughts and yeah, but 735 00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:16,200 Speaker 1: you're always roll around it because you love him. Well no, 736 00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,200 Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. But if I wasn't like and like, 737 00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:20,040 Speaker 1: if you're around people like that, they're just like, oh, 738 00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:22,760 Speaker 1: like he sucks or how could he like that? Again 739 00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:24,879 Speaker 1: bleeds in so then you're gonna start thinking like, yeah, 740 00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:27,000 Speaker 1: he does suck, and then that's going to affect your marriage. 741 00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:29,840 Speaker 1: Whereas you know, if you have people that go, I 742 00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,839 Speaker 1: don't like what he did, but like, so how is 743 00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:36,040 Speaker 1: you know, So what's what's y'all's plan? And then, but 744 00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:37,759 Speaker 1: but I love you guys regardless. I know you guys 745 00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,040 Speaker 1: are gonna like fight through it. Yeah, it just takes. 746 00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:43,480 Speaker 1: It's it's really finding those friends special are better to 747 00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:46,280 Speaker 1: find people that will pray for you, pray for your relationship, 748 00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:50,200 Speaker 1: pray for your marriage, whatever the season is for anybody. Like, 749 00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:53,279 Speaker 1: remember I liked your ex, I would say I like 750 00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:56,160 Speaker 1: him as long as you like him. Oh yeah, yeah, 751 00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:59,600 Speaker 1: but the minute you stopped liking him, be out right 752 00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:03,520 Speaker 1: because it matters, Like, I'm not gonna you know, you 753 00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:05,880 Speaker 1: just don't. You don't need The world is negative. We 754 00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:08,120 Speaker 1: all have our own insecurities, our own traumas, our own 755 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:10,080 Speaker 1: pastwork and against us anyway. So the last thing we 756 00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,640 Speaker 1: need is some voice that's standing in a friend gap, 757 00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:17,239 Speaker 1: posing as a friend and a supportive person saying you 758 00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,320 Speaker 1: know this, this, this and this. It's just not helpful. 759 00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:22,279 Speaker 1: It's like you also are brillly brilliant person, so you 760 00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:24,680 Speaker 1: don't need me to tell you much. Well. I also 761 00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:26,759 Speaker 1: want to say too, though, when you say mentioned that 762 00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:31,600 Speaker 1: about Max. Yes, y'all aren't friends. But for example, if 763 00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:33,880 Speaker 1: you would have came to Jason's party like you would, 764 00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:37,040 Speaker 1: you know you're still you'd still cordial, still nice. It's like, 765 00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:40,160 Speaker 1: that's interesting because I had a moment with that. I 766 00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:47,120 Speaker 1: haven't seen him since the second day, since he came here. 767 00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:51,040 Speaker 1: It was still it was still officially his home, and 768 00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:54,520 Speaker 1: I saw him. I saw him on the stories at 769 00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:58,480 Speaker 1: your party, and I thought I had this Charlotte moment 770 00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:02,080 Speaker 1: from the Sex and as Andy I cursed the day 771 00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:04,000 Speaker 1: you were born. I was like, what would I say 772 00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:07,279 Speaker 1: to him, because my default is to see him just 773 00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:11,640 Speaker 1: as the is a human, you know, not I don't know. 774 00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:13,640 Speaker 1: And I had to have a minute where I was like, Okay, 775 00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:15,920 Speaker 1: I would have to you know, Detroit, Kristen would have 776 00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:17,480 Speaker 1: to go in the back seat, and I would just 777 00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:19,279 Speaker 1: have to be really I would never be mean to 778 00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:21,239 Speaker 1: him anyways, but it was I did have a moment 779 00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:22,680 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie with I thought, what would I 780 00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:25,120 Speaker 1: even say to him because I haven't I don't we 781 00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:26,839 Speaker 1: don't have kids in the same soccer group or all 782 00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:28,360 Speaker 1: the things. And I know a lot of the queendom 783 00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:31,640 Speaker 1: has run into him in other situations, so they're like, oh, yeah, 784 00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:33,120 Speaker 1: I saw him, no big deal. And I'm like, I 785 00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:35,799 Speaker 1: haven't seen him in a year and a half, and 786 00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:39,239 Speaker 1: it's okay to have those. I think even like my 787 00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:42,719 Speaker 1: friend um Josh who's the husband of s she was there, 788 00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:47,160 Speaker 1: um uh you know he was just like this was 789 00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:52,560 Speaker 1: really big of you. And he's like, um, he's like 790 00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:56,920 Speaker 1: I see, I know, well yes, but like he's like 791 00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:00,640 Speaker 1: he's like, um, it doesn't take a way any of it. 792 00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:01,840 Speaker 1: He's like, I just want you to know that, like 793 00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:04,239 Speaker 1: it doesn't take away. And I was just like, thank 794 00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:07,640 Speaker 1: you because it's it's not, um I was, you don't 795 00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:09,520 Speaker 1: have The thing is that you don't have to say anything. 796 00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:12,920 Speaker 1: That's the thing because it's just like hi, like because 797 00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:17,200 Speaker 1: there's no point in having like the because you can 798 00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:19,840 Speaker 1: still have your feelings and still be cordial. And I 799 00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:21,920 Speaker 1: think that's like the place that I've gotten to now. 800 00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:26,040 Speaker 1: It's like, well that doesn't take away X Y and Z. 801 00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:29,440 Speaker 1: I would always rather be the group of friends that 802 00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:33,399 Speaker 1: he's like really miss them. You know, of course he would. 803 00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,520 Speaker 1: You guys were awesome, But I would rather be that 804 00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,360 Speaker 1: person to him always than and not like I'm braiding 805 00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,759 Speaker 1: his hair or something if he had any But I'm 806 00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,760 Speaker 1: just saying, like just to always be like best foot 807 00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:47,040 Speaker 1: forward and like be you know that the higher road yeah, 808 00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:50,000 Speaker 1: and because again it's just I've really just gotten to 809 00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:53,960 Speaker 1: a place where life is just so short and I 810 00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:57,600 Speaker 1: don't know, and I'm like, I just I don't want 811 00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:03,279 Speaker 1: to hold onto any thing negative or just the things. 812 00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:05,480 Speaker 1: I just I don't want to hold it. It's like 813 00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,600 Speaker 1: it doesn't take away from things, but I can still, 814 00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:12,799 Speaker 1: you know, in that time, I was like, Okay, I 815 00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:14,960 Speaker 1: can still in this moment, like do this for my 816 00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:20,160 Speaker 1: children and and just be like to disassociate. Yeah, it's like, 817 00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:22,840 Speaker 1: I don't know, but there's something fun for you in 818 00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:26,640 Speaker 1: your birthday week that I did. Um starting at thirty 819 00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:30,120 Speaker 1: nine up into my fort eve, I started making a 820 00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,160 Speaker 1: list of things I would not carry into the year 821 00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:36,520 Speaker 1: into my fourth decade. And I think anybody could do 822 00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:39,480 Speaker 1: it at any age, but I think it's really significant 823 00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:44,520 Speaker 1: between thirty nine and forty to just really decide. And 824 00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,080 Speaker 1: the decided heart for a forty year old is so different. 825 00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:51,680 Speaker 1: It's just so life changing. Wow. I love that because like, 826 00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,040 Speaker 1: for the next year, I'm going to weed out and 827 00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:56,840 Speaker 1: you just down so I can then at forty because forty, 828 00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:58,920 Speaker 1: it's like, that's why I was kind of thinking, like 829 00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:00,480 Speaker 1: when I was from my thirty nine and just like 830 00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:02,920 Speaker 1: I'm okay being alone. I'm a thirty nine and like 831 00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:05,239 Speaker 1: folding laundry and doing a bubble bath and having a 832 00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:09,799 Speaker 1: quiet house. And then because I know, forty, like the 833 00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:12,120 Speaker 1: year like you said, like the year from I'm gonna 834 00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:15,160 Speaker 1: get rid of all like and just really just like 835 00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:19,440 Speaker 1: share my truths and shed things. And and then forty, 836 00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:23,960 Speaker 1: I want the biggest blowout birthday. I gotta I am 837 00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:26,279 Speaker 1: busy so like and by the way, when need to 838 00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:28,759 Speaker 1: start planning like in January. But I just wanted to 839 00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,839 Speaker 1: be this huge bash and just like the celebration of 840 00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:40,960 Speaker 1: like life, the new and the life. Yeah, yeah, okay, um, 841 00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:45,120 Speaker 1: this is good. What a fort empowering episode we've had here, Like, 842 00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:48,640 Speaker 1: it's very empowering today. It is, I like when we 843 00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:53,240 Speaker 1: feel old but still young, right. I love I'm coming 844 00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:57,399 Speaker 1: into this new forty is my freaking favorite. Like I'm like, 845 00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:01,360 Speaker 1: like I get excited. There's something really cool about getting older. 846 00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:05,160 Speaker 1: It's very set apart. It's a difference for sure. Well, 847 00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,400 Speaker 1: in the meantime, we're going to eat from the Dixie 848 00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:14,680 Speaker 1: Dixie play cheese cubes on a toothpick if anyone needs um. 849 00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:16,920 Speaker 1: I don't know when this hairs but I love you guys. 850 00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:20,759 Speaker 1: And Happy Birthday by thanks by, I love you.