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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject fooling around in first class. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I'm in my early thirties and newly single.

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Speaker 1: I dated a man for six years before I realized

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Speaker 1: he didn't love me and he was never going to

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Speaker 1: marry me. After my long dead in relationship ended, I

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Speaker 1: started drinking a lot more and I decided to treat

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Speaker 1: men like dirt. That didn't go so well for me,

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Speaker 1: and now I've lost my job and I've been charged

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Speaker 1: with indecent exposure. I worked for a major airline and

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Speaker 1: my girls and I were headed to Jamaica for a

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Speaker 1: Gallantine's Day get away. I was in first class, sitting

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Speaker 1: next to a chocolate man with a ball head and

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Speaker 1: pearly white teeth. We drank a lot of brown liquor

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Speaker 1: and laughed and talked. I slid past him to get

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Speaker 1: to the bathroom, and I made sure he saw my

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Speaker 1: ass sets. When I got back, I noticed he was

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Speaker 1: watching an erotic movie on his phone and there was

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Speaker 1: could see it better. Without communicating, he slid his hand

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Speaker 1: under my blanket. The lights had been lowered so no

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Speaker 1: one could see what was going on. He knew what

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Speaker 1: to do with his hands, and when he finished, I

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Speaker 1: and covered myself with my blanket. He didn't say a word,

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Speaker 1: and I was quiet as I could possibly be. Then

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Speaker 1: he pushed me. He pushed me up frantically as a

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Speaker 1: flight attendant passed by. He told me that he's married,

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Speaker 1: and he seemed very irritated. I guess my lip service

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Speaker 1: sobered him up real quick. We did not look at

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Speaker 1: the flight. After I got to Jamaica, I got an

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Speaker 1: email from my job saying that I lost my flight

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Speaker 1: privileges and I was suspended. I got fired three days later,

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Speaker 1: all because the flight attendant snitched. I blamed this all

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Speaker 1: on my ex? How do I move past the hurt? Okay? Really? Really?

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Speaker 1: I mean you blame this on your ex? You're asking?

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Speaker 1: What are you asking? You did this to yourself? Your

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Speaker 1: ex wasn't servicing a complete stranger in first class you were?

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Speaker 1: I mean? And how many cocktails did you guys? Have

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Speaker 1: all this brown liquor? You says, because clearly your judgment

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Speaker 1: This happened not because the flight attendant snitched or because

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Speaker 1: you and your ex broke up and you're hurt. You

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Speaker 1: have to own what you did. You work for a

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Speaker 1: major airline. You know you can't be doing stuff like

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Speaker 1: that where you work. That's nasty. You didn't even know

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Speaker 1: herself would do. You were an hr case just waiting

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Speaker 1: to happen. Yes, the flight attendant snitched, but you left

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Speaker 1: her no choice the way you were carrying on. She

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Speaker 1: I just tell you, please get yourself together. Sis. You're

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Speaker 1: better than this. Start looking for another job immediately so

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Speaker 1: your past. You know, you got to learn what you

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Speaker 1: can from that relationship. It is over, so you don't

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Speaker 1: go down that road anymore. And please change how you

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Speaker 1: you can get what you want. You want marriage, you

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Speaker 1: want to relationship, you want a man who loves you.

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Speaker 1: You want all these things. That's not how you get

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Speaker 1: it doing these types of things. Okay, with a perfect

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Speaker 1: stranger on an airplane, you, Steve, let me just fix

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Speaker 1: the subject of this letter. The letters called fooling around

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Speaker 1: in first class. We're gonna take off the I N

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Speaker 1: and we just read this letter of fool in first

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Speaker 1: class because that's all we're talking about here. Yeah, see

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Speaker 1: you in your early thirties, didn't you know better? You're

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Speaker 1: in your early twenties. You should know this wasn't a

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Speaker 1: six years before you realize that he ain't love you,

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Speaker 1: he wasn't gonna marry you. So after your dad in relationship,

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Speaker 1: here we go. I started drinking a lot more, and

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Speaker 1: I decided to treat men like dirt. Well, I didn't

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Speaker 1: you want to tell you something, let me explain something

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Speaker 1: to you, ladies, so you can get this out the way,

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Speaker 1: because I understand this a hundred times on this show.

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Speaker 1: You said, I decided I'm gonna treat me and like dirt.

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Speaker 1: But that ain't go well for me. Here's your problem.

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Speaker 1: When women try to test drive, they always end up

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Speaker 1: getting drone because it's not in your makeup. That's not

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Speaker 1: your DNA to behave like this. It's not in the

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Speaker 1: female DNA. Man, not ladies. That all women who are

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Speaker 1: doing it, But I'm talking about ladies, women who care

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Speaker 1: can't BacT like this. Now you lost your job and

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Speaker 1: you've been charged with indecent exposure. You were working for

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Speaker 1: a major allie and you and your girls going to

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Speaker 1: Jamaica for a Gallantine's Day getaway. You was in first class,

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Speaker 1: acting like you needed to be in the luggage compartment. See,

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Speaker 1: you can't put trash in first class because everybody gonna

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Speaker 1: find out it's up there, real quick conversation at first

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Speaker 1: class to be a little bit dealer. Oh but you

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Speaker 1: got yourself in first class seat, but you should have

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Speaker 1: been down in the luggage cargo with all the bags

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Speaker 1: and stuff. When we come back, I'm gonna just go

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Speaker 1: through this real quickly. You already know what you did wrong.

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Speaker 1: Waste of time, all right, Steve, Coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour, we'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: your response to the Strawberry letter. The subject is you

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Speaker 1: change the to what now? I change it to a

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Speaker 1: fool in first class. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve, Come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry. The subject is fooling around in

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Speaker 1: first class, but you changed it to what a fool

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Speaker 1: in first class? This ignorant woman in her thirties, newly single,

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Speaker 1: she'd been dating a man for six years, found out

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Speaker 1: it was going nowhere. Once she stopped, she started drinking

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Speaker 1: a lot, and she made a conscious decision to start

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Speaker 1: treating me in like dirt. Right after she said that,

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Speaker 1: now I've lost my job and been charged. Within decent exploding.

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Speaker 1: I've told women this one hundred times. I'm gonna repeat

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Speaker 1: it one more time. Women, when you take me in

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Speaker 1: drone because it's not in your makeup. Man, it's not

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Speaker 1: in your DNA to behave unladylike. That's just not in

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Speaker 1: your girls went on this trip to Jamaica to Gallant Times.

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Speaker 1: They do a Gallant Time, and you sitting in the

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Speaker 1: movie on his phone. Let me tell you something. He

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Speaker 1: pulled that up as soon as you went to the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: This was in the plan because when y'all was laughing

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Speaker 1: at talking, he wasn't watching it. But then when you

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Speaker 1: put your button, wiped his chapstick off. Then then he said,

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Speaker 1: of his hand everything. He said, okay, so when you

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Speaker 1: came back, he watching the Eurotic movie. That was a

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Speaker 1: wild sex scene going on. You over that making noises.

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Speaker 1: I know you was, and you go, you was doing

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Speaker 1: my lip service sobered him up right quickly. Well, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: wasn't paying attention. Now we're gonna jump up frantically if

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Speaker 1: you if you you're not, how can I put this

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Speaker 1: for the radio. Delicately. Okay, let's just say she wasn't delicately.

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Speaker 1: Let's just say that, well, let's say that aggressive. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you was too much. You weren't ginger enough. Yeah, let's

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Speaker 1: just say. Let's use another term that's not sexual. Paper cuts.

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Speaker 1: Paper cuts are irritated. Nah, that's what happened. He jumped

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Speaker 1: up fronting, sobered up real quickly. We didn't look at

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Speaker 1: She snitched? Are you stupid? This isn't snitching when it's

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Speaker 1: filled out on a report at show jaw Dad ain't

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Speaker 1: snitching listen, you and the other flight attended wasn't robbing

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Speaker 1: That's all right, that's what the snitching needs. That's when

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Speaker 1: criminals have a cold of snitching, and that's what Snitchy

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Speaker 1: So now it's not because to flight the tendis snitch.

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Speaker 1: I blame this all on my ex. So now this

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Speaker 1: is your ex's fault. Now you even got two places

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Speaker 1: you need to go get to help. You need to

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Speaker 1: get this mental issue fixed, and you don't get this

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Speaker 1: an AA meeting send out talking to somebody, all right,

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Speaker 1: and then you got to learn how to perform your

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Speaker 1: acts better because you you're hurting people. And leave us

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