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Speaker 1: Being an entrepreneur is actually more about understanding marketing than

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Speaker 2: Mmmm. Dead ass.

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Speaker 3: That's a good one because a lot of times people

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Speaker 3: don't even know what they need until you tell them

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Speaker 3: dead ass. Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devoued and we're

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Speaker 3: the Ellis's.

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Speaker 4: You may know us from posting funny videos.

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Speaker 2: With our voys and reading each other publicly as a

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Speaker 2: form of therapy.

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Speaker 4: Wait, I make you need therapy most days. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Oh, and one more important thing to mention, we're married.

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Speaker 4: Yes, sir, we are.

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Speaker 5: We created this podcast to open dialogue about some of

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Speaker 5: Li's most taboo topics.

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Speaker 2: Things most folks don't want to talk about.

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Speaker 4: Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass

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Speaker 4: is a term that we say every day.

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Speaker 1: So when we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts

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Speaker 1: one hundred, the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but

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Speaker 4: Were about to take philos off to our whole new level.

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Speaker 2: Dead ass starts right now. So what you got for

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Speaker 2: story time?

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Speaker 1: For storytime, I'm gonna take y'all back to two thousand

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Speaker 4: As a matter of fact.

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Speaker 1: Nah, I'm gonna go back to twenty ten. Then go

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Speaker 1: to twenty fourteen. Okay, twenty ten, I was working at

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Speaker 4: So I said, let me start focusing on being a trainer.

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Speaker 1: I'll do it to you for chie, but you ain't

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Speaker 4: And like clockwork, it worked right.

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Speaker 1: At one point, I was charging I believe it was

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Speaker 1: From one month to four months, I went from having

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Speaker 1: So yeah, and more of the story is I learned

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Speaker 4: And we'll talk a little bit more about that when

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Speaker 2: All right, we're gonna dive into that.

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Speaker 4: What other song has a little bit of soul in it?

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Speaker 4: A little bit of R and B.

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Speaker 1: Let me see if you know this song. That's all

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Speaker 2: Funk? Where the hell did that come from?

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Speaker 2: No, but I'm like, where, w how did that just

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Speaker 4: and I was like, yo, I actually just loved that song.

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Speaker 1: He was saying that how he felt the High Tops

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Speaker 4: He was like, YoY nice, the High Tops is nice.

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Speaker 2: Right, yeah, we'll get back. Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: I didn't even realize that because we were doing a

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Speaker 4: Married to the Gym.

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Speaker 1: If I dedicate my time to their sons, then immediately

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Speaker 3: Shout out to your beautiful mind, because if I'll always

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Speaker 1: impetus to put you towards success. So just saying I

445
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Speaker 1: have to do something is not the answer. What you

446
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Speaker 1: have to say is what is important to me that

447
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Speaker 1: I can monetize because doing something means I'm going to

448
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Speaker 1: find something that everyone else is doing to make money.

449
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Speaker 1: If you don't love that, you can't keep up what

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Speaker 1: it takes to build that to be profitable.

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Speaker 2: Passion or the desire.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just saying I have to do something because I

453
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Speaker 1: feel like I'm not doing anything. It's not going to

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Speaker 1: push you in a direction to be great. In order

455
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Speaker 1: to build something to be profitable in any business, it

456
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Speaker 1: takes two to three years. That is so, if you're

457
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Speaker 1: just doing something that you don't love and you have

458
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Speaker 1: a passion for it, how are you going to commit

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Speaker 1: two or three years of just doing something because someone

460
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Speaker 1: else is doing it? You have to look within yourself

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Speaker 1: first and say what do I love to do? What

462
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Speaker 1: is important to me? Then saying can I monetize this?

463
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Speaker 1: Can I find a way to make this profitable?

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Speaker 4: Is this what I love?

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Speaker 1: Is there a need for it in the world that

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Speaker 1: I can find a marketplace to put my love on

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Speaker 1: the marketplace to make money.

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Speaker 4: And if you can do that, then you start working

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Speaker 4: towards that.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 4: But to just say I gotta do something, Nah.

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Speaker 2: That's literally me. I was like, man, I should be

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Speaker 2: doing something.

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Speaker 3: But then you were so right, and that you were like, King,

475
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Speaker 3: you have certain things in motion already, there's certain things

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Speaker 3: that you love to just do, so why not invest

477
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Speaker 3: more time in those things?

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Speaker 2: Yes, so you can reap the benefits of that.

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Speaker 3: See, but I was also thinking of the influence side

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Speaker 3: of things, and I'm just like, man, like, I'm over

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Speaker 3: here doing brand partnerships of course with products that I

482
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Speaker 3: enjoy and love, and those are the only things that

483
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Speaker 3: I only products that I tend to partner with. So

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Speaker 3: I'm like, shoot, if I'm making all these other companies business,

485
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Speaker 3: much like when I was working for Mac Cosmetics for example, right,

486
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Speaker 3: working for Mac Cosmetics for years. This is when the

487
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Speaker 3: recession hit and I was like, I got to do

488
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Speaker 3: something working for the company, and I'm over here, like

489
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Speaker 3: you know, one of the top producers.

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Speaker 2: Average unit sale is through the roof every single day. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you remember that. I used to stress over the aus.

492
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Speaker 3: But I used to bring in so much money just

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Speaker 3: off of the knack for a having relationships with people

494
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Speaker 3: and being able to communicate and having break into personal

495
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Speaker 3: communication skills and then pairing that with just makeup artistry skills.

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Speaker 2: I was doing really well. But I'm like, I'm making

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Speaker 2: all of this money.

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Speaker 3: For Frank and Frank and I feel like I'm just

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Speaker 3: getting paid, you know, pennies on the side for the

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Speaker 3: hard work that I'm investing. And that's when I said,

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Speaker 3: all right, the passion and the desire to then want

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Speaker 3: to have my own makeup business and do my own thing.

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Speaker 3: It made sense in that moment because it was a

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Speaker 3: way for me to do something on my own and

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Speaker 3: make more money.

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Speaker 1: So let me first answer that question, but also go

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Speaker 1: to the second point right faction and status Number two

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Speaker 1: was don't be afraid to emulate others. Okay, what new

509
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Speaker 1: products or services do your competitors have? Is this an

510
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Speaker 1: innovation you should adopt when startups appear? Why do they appear?

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Speaker 1: What void are they attempting to feel? And what are

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Speaker 1: they offering that others do not. I'm gonna tell you

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Speaker 1: how perfect this is. Remember when I worked at Paricis

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Speaker 1: Speed School, I took the DC Speed School model for

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Speaker 1: just training and applied it to football.

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Speaker 2: Oh so you just specialized it.

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Speaker 1: I specialized it because and also you see where it

518
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Speaker 1: says here what new products or services do your competitors have?

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Speaker 1: Paris was doing the class model first. Paris was doing

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Speaker 1: the class No one was doing a football class model.

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Speaker 1: All of the football training they were doing was one

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Speaker 1: on one training because that I have to focus on

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Speaker 1: this one child. But to me, that didn't make sense

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Speaker 1: because you play football as a team. There's no point

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Speaker 1: in football where it's one on one except if you're

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Speaker 1: outside playing a receiver or defensive back.

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Speaker 4: But even in that time, you need a quarterback to

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Speaker 4: throw the ball.

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Speaker 1: So I was like, the team aspect works for football

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Speaker 1: better than any other sport. It's easier to get people

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Speaker 1: to buy in to twenty people in the game because

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Speaker 1: on the field at one time you have twenty two people.

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Speaker 1: So emulating others and seeing what the industry is doing

534
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Speaker 1: is a way for you to stay ahead of the curve.

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Speaker 1: Because remember when I said, when you start something, the

536
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Speaker 1: person who does it second or third typically does it

537
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Speaker 1: better than you. If you see someone do something great

538
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Speaker 1: and you notice some things you can change, be the

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Speaker 1: second or third person. Emulate and do it better. Don't

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Speaker 1: just do it exactly the same. Find a way to

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Speaker 1: do it better, because when that fourth and fifth, the

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Speaker 1: sixth person come, it's going to be too late for them.

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Speaker 1: You've already made all of the changes. So emulating others

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Speaker 1: is not wrong. You know, we all find inspiration from people. Right,

545
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Speaker 1: Chris Brown is great? Why because he emulates Michael Jackson.

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Speaker 4: Right. Kobe Bryant is great? Why because he emulates Michael Jordan.

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: You know, and it goes down the line in every

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Speaker 1: every facet. And I forgot his name, but Bernie Mack

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Speaker 1: was great. But there was a comedian before Bernie Mac.

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Speaker 2: He had the wide eyes and everything.

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Speaker 1: No, he was a voice behind Baybay's Kids, the voice

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Speaker 1: behind the Baby's Kids Dead, Rob Harris. Rob Harris was

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Speaker 1: an amazing comedian. Bernie Max said so many times that

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Speaker 1: he emulated him like he had so much and he's

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Speaker 1: become great because of that. Me in particular, people think

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Speaker 1: I'm funny. Why I love Martin Lawrence. There's no shame

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Speaker 1: in my game. So sometimes you can see someone and

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Speaker 1: say that inspiration has you know, gotten me to this point?

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Speaker 1: What can I do to make it better? So don't

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Speaker 1: be afraid to emulate others, for sure.

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Speaker 3: And I think the great's nostalgic, right, So when you

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Speaker 3: see somebody who does a version of it and does

564
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Speaker 3: it well, you know, or makes it their own, then

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Speaker 3: that's just.

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Speaker 2: A moment in time where you're just like Dan. That

567
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Speaker 2: reminds me of a.

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Speaker 4: Really great point in time.

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Speaker 1: Beyonce love Tina Turn. She emulated her performance style being

570
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Speaker 1: all over the all over the stage dance and not

571
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Speaker 1: just being a ballad singer because Beyonce could sing, which

572
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Speaker 1: that I don't want to be a performer like that's people.

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Speaker 1: Emulation is important because that's where you get inspiration for

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Speaker 1: So it's important for you to look at your competitors,

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Speaker 1: look what's going on around the field and see like,

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Speaker 1: wait a minute, I see that, you know, give kudos

577
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Speaker 1: and always give shout outs. Emulation is not the same

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Speaker 1: as stealing because out here in this world, right, I've

579
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Speaker 1: seen it a lot of especially with influencers. Influencers will

580
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Speaker 1: see someone else do something, take it, say it's their own,

581
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Speaker 1: put a different name on it, and never give credit

582
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Speaker 1: to the person, the person who gave them the inspiration,

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Speaker 1: which is fucked up, if we be quite frank, it's

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Speaker 1: messed up.

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Speaker 2: It is wild, all right.

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Speaker 3: And Third, experiment with different avenues or ideas, invest in

587
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Speaker 3: research and development. Sixty six percent of small businesses in

588
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Speaker 3: the US are profitable. Forty one percent of entrepreneurs plan

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Speaker 3: to expand or remodel their business in twenty twenty two.

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Speaker 2: M All right, so.

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Speaker 1: Look here's the thing. It says, experiment with different avenues

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Speaker 1: or ideas.

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Speaker 4: That's what we do.

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Speaker 2: Now, Yeah, we sure as I'll do them don't.

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Speaker 4: The book was an experiment, It's sure as that was

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Speaker 4: for me. Patreon was an experiment.

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Speaker 1: The live shows started as an experiment, you know, like

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Speaker 1: these were all things that we said, we have to

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Speaker 1: invest in ourselves first. And if you're an entrepreneur, this

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Speaker 1: is not on here, but I will tell you this.

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Speaker 1: You have to put a slush fund away for experiments,

602
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 1: for new ideas. So twenty five percent of the money

603
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Speaker 1: I make in the business goes to a fund that

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Speaker 1: is automatically for reinvestment back into the business, which means

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Speaker 1: when money comes in, I always put money aside. Of course,

606
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 1: we do our wealth planning, we have our salaries, or

607
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 1: we have our money that's in the business just so

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Speaker 1: that our business can be solvent. R Solvency means that

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Speaker 1: your business can pay out. Say say for example, we're

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Speaker 1: on strike. Yeah we're on strike, right have you still

611
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,119
Speaker 1: have to be able to pay your employees, right, So

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Speaker 1: you have to have solvency in your business. But then

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Speaker 1: it also has to be an investment fund. So it's like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: the business has stalled here. Why what if you don't

615
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Speaker 1: have enough trainers, what if you don't have enough printers

616
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Speaker 1: to print t shirts. What if you don't have you know,

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Speaker 1: like there's things that come up.

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Speaker 3: I mean, stuff always happens, always his life essentially.

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Speaker 1: But if you have that fund where it's just like

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Speaker 1: you know what, I can hire an additional trainer, which

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Speaker 1: is what I did. Remember I started out with me,

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Speaker 1: do Loo and Brian. By the time we got to

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Speaker 1: twenty fifteen, it was me, Dolo, Brian, Kamal Rick Kai,

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Speaker 1: I think who else was Roger? I was training athletes

625
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Speaker 1: at one point. Maya was also training athletes.

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Speaker 2: At one point, Man Maya had me like.

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Speaker 4: Maya had you. Maya had you.

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Speaker 2: Right, It was running like a gazelle.

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Speaker 4: Ya damn.

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Speaker 3: I miss Those days were not really because I almost

631
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Speaker 3: died a couple times, but you know, hey, you never

632
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Speaker 3: almost died.

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Speaker 5: Bro.

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Speaker 2: Do you remember when she had me doing rabbit with

635
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Speaker 2: the high school girls.

636
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Speaker 1: You felt like you was going to die, but you

637
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Speaker 1: didn't almost die, could barely breathe out.

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Speaker 4: She was crying.

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00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:43,920
Speaker 3: Like the feeling, the feeling of like can't breathe, So

640
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 3: you're nervous because you can't breathe. You feel like you're

641
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Speaker 3: gonna die because you can't breathe, and then you're exhausted

642
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Speaker 3: from the run like.

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Speaker 2: I was at that point.

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Speaker 3: I was like twenty eight running with fifteen year old girls.

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Speaker 4: Okay, twenty eight, first of all, is not old.

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Speaker 2: But I mean compared to fifteen year old girls who

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Speaker 2: have trained and.

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Speaker 4: Tracked chat, ye, twenty eight is not old. It's not old.

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Speaker 4: And I think you hadn't trained like that ever in life.

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Speaker 1: But that feeling of breaking through the threshold of oh

651
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Speaker 1: my god, I can't breathe to oh my god, I'm

652
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Speaker 1: breathing while doing this hard workout is invigorating.

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Speaker 4: Like that's how you become an athlete, you know, That's why.

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Speaker 2: Most pretty badass at that point you.

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Speaker 1: Were, you were and you still are a badass. You

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Speaker 1: don't you don't push as much. You kind of like, listen,

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Speaker 1: I'm doing on my own.

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Speaker 2: Listen my own, but you didn't push on I'm not

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Speaker 2: the running, no living my next life. All right, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Hope that helped you today.

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Speaker 3: If you're on the fence about starting a business in

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Speaker 3: the thick of it, or you got a little you know,

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Speaker 3: idea brewing.

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Speaker 2: Hopefully that helped you out today. All right, y'all, back

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Speaker 2: to the money.

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Speaker 3: We're going to take a quick break get into some

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Speaker 3: ads and then we'll move into listener letters.

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Speaker 2: So stick around.

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Speaker 4: All right, we're back.

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Speaker 2: We're back listening a lot of time. You want to

671
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Speaker 2: go first, baby? Or should I go first?

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Speaker 4: Ladies first?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: Heyy K and D.

675
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Speaker 3: My husband and I are both twenty six years old.

676
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Speaker 3: We have three children. He works and I haven't had

677
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Speaker 3: a job since our middle child was born two years ago.

678
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Speaker 3: He makes good money for where we live in Alabama,

679
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 3: and he's also making plans and strides to get into

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00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 3: other fields and build other streams of income. The problem is,

681
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Speaker 3: I feel like he's making moves in his life and

682
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 3: I'm sort of on pause. I love being a mom

683
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Speaker 3: and being a homemaker, but I also have big dreams

684
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Speaker 3: for my business, Nurture by Nature shameless plug. I'm a

685
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 3: doula and I want to travel and help women have babies.

686
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Speaker 4: I love that.

687
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 2: That's so in the core of what I love.

688
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 3: Even tasks like operating my online sales have been slipping

689
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 3: because I'm just exhausted or busy with children. How do

690
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 3: I deal with the resentment of feeling like time is

691
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Speaker 3: slipping away from me to build and fully operate rate

692
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 3: my business while he gets to make moves and grow.

693
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Speaker 3: I know he's working to do this for his family,

694
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Speaker 3: but I just feel like I'm getting closer to thirty

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Speaker 3: and that I have nothing of my own to show

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Speaker 3: for my twenties. And I'm scared to be forty to

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Speaker 3: fifty plus and have nothing to show for it.

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Speaker 2: Girl, Calm down, Oh, I say, she's twenty six.

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Speaker 3: Calm down, she was talking about forties and fifty plus. Girl,

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Speaker 3: if you knew where we were at twenty six trying

701
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Speaker 3: to figure shit out. I mean, first of all, you

702
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Speaker 3: do have a lot to show for it at twenty six.

703
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 3: You have three beautiful children and a husband who loves

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Speaker 3: who's working hard for your family. That in itself is

705
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Speaker 3: an accomplishment I would think as a married couple and

706
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 3: as a family, so celebrate that. However, since I do

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Speaker 3: understand and I completely feel you when you feel like

708
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Speaker 3: you were just at home, not living to your full

709
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Speaker 3: potential and your full max. That was me for a

710
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Speaker 3: little bit when we were in Michigan after I graduated

711
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Speaker 3: grad school. I came out there with the intention of working,

712
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 3: didn't find anything in my field, felt like I was

713
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Speaker 3: a bump on a log. Also felt like I was

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Speaker 3: not a contributing member of the family, and that too

715
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Speaker 3: can also take a shot at that at your ego

716
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Speaker 3: and what you feel like you have to offer. So

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking what would work for sure is if you

718
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Speaker 3: try to find pockets of time that you can invest

719
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Speaker 3: in your business. Right. The beauty of being a stay

720
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Speaker 3: at home mom and having time is that sometimes you

721
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 3: feel like you have time, but you don't, however, structure right,

722
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 3: putting children down for naps, getting households, things done in

723
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Speaker 3: a certain way where there's a structure, and you're just

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Speaker 3: allotting time to devote to your business. I think it's

725
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Speaker 3: just a matter of organization. I know when I was

726
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 3: at home with the kids, a lot of times you

727
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 3: just feel like the day is a jumble because you're

728
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Speaker 3: just running after kids all day. But I think it

729
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Speaker 3: would be helpful if you found pockets of time to

730
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Speaker 3: devote to your business so that way you feel like

731
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Speaker 3: you're having a little bit of an outlet. I don't

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Speaker 3: know if you have any family help nearby where you

733
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Speaker 3: can maybe designate times that someone else is caring for

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Speaker 3: the children.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. The age is two of your other children,

736
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Speaker 2: so you can kind of go from there.

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Speaker 4: One thing. You didn't notice. She said that the middle

738
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Speaker 4: child was born two years ago, have two under two?

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Speaker 4: She has no time.

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Speaker 1: Oh the child, the middle child was born two years ago,

741
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,239
Speaker 1: which means they have two kids under two years old. Oh,

742
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 1: you don't have no time, there's no time. But here's

743
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Speaker 1: the thing though, Right, you're twenty six years old. If

744
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: that middle child was born two years ago, that means

745
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Speaker 1: that other child is probably around one or close to

746
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Speaker 1: being one. But all of those children will be in

747
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Speaker 1: school in three years, three years back, by four minimum,

748
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Speaker 1: all of them will be in school. And you know what,

749
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Speaker 1: you have from eight to three pm time, and you'll

750
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Speaker 1: be twenty nine years old.

751
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Speaker 4: You still won't even be thirty. So you'll have plenty of.

752
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Speaker 1: Time in your thirties to dedicate yourself because now your

753
00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 1: children will be in school, right, your husband will be

754
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Speaker 1: at work. You have all this time for yourself in

755
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 1: the middle of the day, so you can dedicate your

756
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 1: thirties to building whatever it is you want to build.

757
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:56,280
Speaker 1: Cay and I have talked about this, and I always

758
00:33:56,320 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 1: felt like I had to work to put as much

759
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: help around Kadeen so that she didn't spend her whole

760
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 1: life running after kids, and I was like, if your

761
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 1: mom gotta move here, if your dad got to move

762
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Speaker 1: in here, if I got to get more job to

763
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Speaker 1: get help, I'll get you help. But one thing we

764
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: did notice was that everything we thought we had to

765
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Speaker 1: do in our twenties fourth the count was bullshit.

766
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Speaker 2: Facts like a blur.

767
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 4: It's a blur.

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Speaker 1: We've built everything we have through our thirties. And then

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Speaker 1: Kadeen walked in her first New York Fashion Week show,

770
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Speaker 1: closing it.

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Speaker 4: On forty yeah, and felt great.

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Speaker 1: And I say all that to tell you, I know,

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Speaker 1: it feels like life is passing you by at twenty

774
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Speaker 1: six buteart, sweetheart, you have fourteen more years left before

775
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Speaker 1: you reach forty fourteen, which means you have plenty of time.

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Speaker 4: And the fact that they got the kids out the

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Speaker 4: way early true.

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Speaker 2: If you're done that, Yeah, that's a good thing too.

779
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,759
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm settling into myself and who I am at

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Speaker 3: forty Yeah, I've heard that from everybody. I don't know

781
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,719
Speaker 3: why I thought it was gonna be any different, but

782
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 3: most people say that, like, once you hit forty, your

783
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 3: finally like settle into who you are as a person.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, that's yeah, that's the part that I'm missed

785
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 2: in the beginning.

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Speaker 3: You don't have no time now, says, But you're invested

787
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:15,160
Speaker 3: in your family, and you're home with your children, and

788
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 3: you're raising your children. And that's what I would hope

789
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 3: most people want to do, is be there to raise

790
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 3: their children until they're in school.

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Speaker 4: I agree.

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Speaker 1: And then, but I feel like with the way her

793
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,800
Speaker 1: husband works with her and they work together, if she

794
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,880
Speaker 1: dedicates these next couple of years to making sure they

795
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:33,759
Speaker 1: get off to school and everybody is good, she can

796
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 1: have all the time in the world, right, you know,

797
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:38,839
Speaker 1: like all the time to build her business, because you'll

798
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: have all of that day and then, excuse me, I

799
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:44,320
Speaker 1: don't know how you guys are gonna, you know, figure

800
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:47,239
Speaker 1: out what the chores are. But at three o'clock, once

801
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:48,839
Speaker 1: you go pick up the kids, you dedicate your time

802
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 1: to your family.

803
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 2: That's a fact. I love that. But still, Sis, you

804
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 2: look like you have two under two here.

805
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 3: Still see if you can find a couple pockets of

806
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 3: time for yourself, girl, two one to two is rough.

807
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 3: That's rough there, Yeah, it is naughty. He can help,

808
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,320
Speaker 3: so hopefully yes them all right? Thanks for writing in

809
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 3: onto the next take it away, baby.

810
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Speaker 1: Okay, let me start by saying that I just love

811
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:10,760
Speaker 1: you guys so much and your story is really beautiful.

812
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,360
Speaker 1: But okay, let me go ahead and dive into the story.

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00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: My significant other of twenty years died almost two years ago.

814
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 1: Sorry to hear that, Mama, and I thank you for

815
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: the kudos. This October and everyone is telling me I

816
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 1: should get out and start dating again, but our children

817
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:28,040
Speaker 1: are seventeen and nine years old. I'm hesitant because our

818
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: children only ever seeing us together in the same household,

819
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:34,360
Speaker 1: and I'm afraid of what it would look like or

820
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 1: to even introduce them to another person of interest. And

821
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Speaker 1: may I add, I am a thirty eight year old

822
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 1: arees Hey welcome who loves hard and love sex. I

823
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 1: trust me, so I want to be careful who I

824
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,120
Speaker 1: invite in my world. Plus I'm not sure if I

825
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 1: even know how to date anymore. But your girl do

826
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 1: have needs and I'm tired of toys and I do

827
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 1: miss having someone to talk.

828
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 4: To, hold and comfort me with. What the heck?

829
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,479
Speaker 1: Please give me some kind of advice because your girl

830
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 1: is lost in these new dating streets. You know who

831
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 1: don't know how to date me and k I don't

832
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:09,879
Speaker 1: even know how to help you with God.

833
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 3: I don't know how to help you with that, but

834
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 3: I think you do deserve if you feel like you've

835
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 3: moved on, not moved on personality, We're ready to now,

836
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 3: you know, show interest in someone else that you deserve.

837
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Speaker 4: That I hate. I hate to be this type of process,

838
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 4: to hate what my dad said it to me. But

839
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 4: this is the fact.

840
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Speaker 1: What is what happens in life happens for you always,

841
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 1: and it always happens. I don't know if you believe

842
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:37,879
Speaker 1: in God or you believe in the universe, but things

843
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,719
Speaker 1: that happen in your life happened for you to be successful,

844
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:42,280
Speaker 1: even when pain happens.

845
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 4: Pain happens is a lesson. If you didn't die during

846
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 4: the pain, it was a lesson to make you stronger. Right. So,

847
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:50,399
Speaker 4: and I'm saying this with the heaviest of heart.

848
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 1: Right, but your person, your soul man who passed on,

849
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:55,600
Speaker 1: they passed on because God saw it fit for you

850
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 1: to see something else or be with something else.

851
00:37:58,719 --> 00:37:58,839
Speaker 3: Right.

852
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 4: That person is with God now. Right.

853
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 1: So you can't sit here and say, God, that was

854
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: my person. You made a mistake. No, God, you bless

855
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 1: me with that person for twenty years of life. I

856
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:11,480
Speaker 1: appreciate you, I appreciate that person, I appreciate my kids,

857
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:15,360
Speaker 1: But you still have a fiduciary responsibility to your children

858
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 1: and yourself to be happy. And if your happiness looks

859
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 1: like you being with someone else, you just shouldn't feel

860
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:23,759
Speaker 1: guilty about that, you know, like I don't think that

861
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 1: you should sit and sulk about the fact that you

862
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:30,280
Speaker 1: lost someone you know, honor that person, continue that person's memory,

863
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 1: you have children with that person, but still go out

864
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:34,400
Speaker 1: and live your life and be happy because that's what

865
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:36,879
Speaker 1: that person and that's what your.

866
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 4: Children would want.

867
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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 1: If I hate speaking on this, but if something were

869
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:44,719
Speaker 1: to happen to me, I would hope to God that

870
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Speaker 1: Kadeen doesn't sit in this house and just be lonely

871
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 1: and look at old pictures of me. I would hope

872
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 1: that she would do. But I would hope that you

873
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 1: would do what was gonna make you happy. If you

874
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: being happy means that you sit in the house and

875
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 1: you will remember me with that. But if you being happy,

876
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: it means that you need to be with someone else

877
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 1: and get some companionship you know, and have someone else.

878
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: Have my boys see someone else love you the way

879
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 1: someone is supposed to love you. I'd be all for

880
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 1: it because they need to see it and because you

881
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 1: need to feel it. Just because I'm gone doesn't mean

882
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: someone can't feel that. God creates people for a reason.

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Speaker 1: So yes, I use that because nothing's gonna happen to me,

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Speaker 1: nothing's gonna happen to you.

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Speaker 3: No, but I completely get it, right, But no, I

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Speaker 3: completely you know what I'm saying. You know, I think

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Speaker 3: that's no for sure. Absolutely, And she's only thirty eight.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, thirty eight.

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Speaker 2: We have a whole lot of life left to live.

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Speaker 3: And I think that there's always another chance, you know,

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Speaker 3: there's always another chance for love, and I think you

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Speaker 3: deserve that.

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Speaker 1: And remember we remember we used to train a lot

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Speaker 1: of kids. Twentiest episode. I had a lot of single

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Speaker 1: moms whose whose husbands were either gone or incarcerated or

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Speaker 1: chose not to be a part of the children life.

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Speaker 1: And so often the moms would say, you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: just here for my son, and the sons or daughters

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Speaker 1: with a trained would be like, my mom need to

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Speaker 1: find a boyfriend.

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Speaker 4: Mom, you know what I'm saying. Like they want, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: they wanted to see the moms happy.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's true.

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Speaker 1: You remember they used to be like yo, And then

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Speaker 1: now we see a couple of the moms dating and

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Speaker 1: the sons and the daughters are like YO, like this

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Speaker 1: is good to see somebody's loving my mom. So when

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Speaker 1: you feel like your children are not going to embrace

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Speaker 1: that person, it all depends on how you embrace that

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Speaker 1: person and how that in person braces embraces your own family.

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Speaker 4: So, of course, use discernment.

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Speaker 1: If you like me and you love sex, that means

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Speaker 1: that you're gonna love having sex with someone who honors

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Speaker 1: you and appreciates you. Because loving sex is not the

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Speaker 1: same as loving the right type of sex. I love

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Speaker 1: the right type of sex with the right type of person.

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Speaker 1: You know, all types of sex doesn't appeal to me,

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Speaker 1: you know. So if you're aries thirty like me, you're

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Speaker 1: probably the same way. So just use discernment. Protect yourself,

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Speaker 1: protect your peace, but enjoy your life.

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Speaker 2: Ma yeeah, live it up, Live it up sas all right, y'all.

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Speaker 3: If you want to be featured as a listener letter,

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Speaker 3: email us at dead ass Advice at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: And if you can't spell it, tell them.

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Speaker 4: Baby, that's d E A d A S S A

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Speaker 4: d V I c E at gmail dot dot com.

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Speaker 3: All right, moment of truth time. We're talking staying ahead

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Speaker 3: of the curve. We're talking entrepreneurship, how to be innovative. Yes,

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Speaker 3: what we got for them to round out this show today.

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Speaker 4: So this is this is really the big message. Right,

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Speaker 4: your job never ends on you an entrepreneur.

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Speaker 1: You never reach a point in the business where the

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Speaker 1: business is running on autopilot and everything's going to be

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Speaker 1: fine through perpetuity. That's not the way businesses work. Businesses

935
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Speaker 1: are all about being innovative.

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Speaker 4: Right. If anyone here watches Succession, go watch Succession.

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Speaker 1: This family was worth billions of dollars and all they

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Speaker 1: ever did was have meetings on how to recreate the

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Speaker 1: business and evolve at a business. This is a billion

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Speaker 1: dollar family. I'm all of the successful people that I

941
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Speaker 1: know who are worth billions, because we know a couple

942
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Speaker 1: now who worth billions. You know what they talk about,

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Speaker 1: how to pivot and change and create and stay ahead

944
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Speaker 1: of the curve.

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Speaker 4: And they all started from small places like most of us.

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Speaker 1: We started from small places, and we continue to pivot

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Speaker 1: and curve, pivot and curve, pivot and curse, just like

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Speaker 1: what I do with k right. I noticed that we

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Speaker 1: in the bed. Sometimes when I pivot it and I

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Speaker 1: throw the curve, that's when I see her go oh.

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Speaker 1: So then I just keep pivoting and curving, pivoting and curving,

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Speaker 1: pivoting and curving.

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Speaker 2: Dollar do.

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Speaker 1: Just stay just stay innovative, keep your mind sharp, read books,

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Speaker 1: look at the industry. Never feel like you've arrived, because

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Speaker 1: the minute you feel like you've arrived, that's when somebody

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Speaker 1: gonna pass you.

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Speaker 3: I think one thing that I pull that's a really

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Speaker 3: good one, Babe, thanks for that. I think what I

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Speaker 3: pulled from this too, is, you know, learning to foster

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Speaker 3: relationships that can read the landscape of your industry and

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Speaker 3: your business, because sometimes you may not be able to

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Speaker 3: even foresee that. I do think it takes a special

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Speaker 3: mind for someone in business to just even start a business.

965
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Speaker 3: But they're roadblocks, there's thumbs. Sometimes you hit a rut.

966
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Speaker 3: You don't know what's the next thing. As you get older,

967
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Speaker 3: you don't realize how you have to keep up with technology.

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Speaker 3: So learning how to join forces with people who may

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Speaker 3: know a little more than you about the industry that

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Speaker 3: can then tell you, you know what, I think this

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Speaker 3: is a good way for you to move or I

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Speaker 3: would advise you to do this, so you know, not

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Speaker 3: being afraid to look for advice because you know, this

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Speaker 3: is who I look to for advice when it comes

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Speaker 3: to anything business related, because.

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Speaker 2: Baby, I'm a worker. Bee, tell me what I gotta

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Speaker 2: do and I'm gonna do it.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna do it.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be the talent and all that.

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Speaker 3: Because when he talked about fifteen second videos and Instagram,

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Speaker 3: I was like, what and here we are. So some

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Speaker 3: people I think are just gifted with the n act

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Speaker 3: of innovation, creativity and business entrepreneurships and that's you.

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Speaker 2: So shout out to Mimy, shout out to Mimi.

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Speaker 4: I appreciate you, to Maimi.

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Speaker 2: And thank you to Maimia.

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