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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with our radio. Hey everyone, can you see me? Can

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Speaker 1: you hear me? Hey? Everyone? Ashley and it is Ben

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Speaker 1: and just our couple of the hour right now. This

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Speaker 1: is supposed to be an engagement party, but for some

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Speaker 1: hot messive engagement party. And Ben, do you want to

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Speaker 1: explain why? Then? Yeah? I would love to. Uh. This

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Speaker 1: was so a little backstory here. Jessica had this incredible

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Speaker 1: through your engagement party in Napa and uh we were

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Speaker 1: all super excited about it, like incredibly incredibly excited about it.

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Speaker 1: A couple nights ago, we get a text from my

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Speaker 1: Well was that twenty four hours ago when we got

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Speaker 1: texted it was canceled. We find out today that some

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Speaker 1: people still went to NAPA. But but Ashley, Jared, jess

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Speaker 1: do a virtual engagement party not in Napa. But I

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Speaker 1: some point very soon because she deserves it. So that's

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Speaker 1: we had a lot of confusion, a lot of things happening.

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Speaker 1: But we're still in Denver hanging out. It'll happen soon.

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Speaker 1: And Jared is having a problem. If you see him

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Speaker 1: So he'll be back in a second, Jesse looks so pretty.

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Speaker 1: Thank you pretty? Um. Yeah, so it seems like Nick

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Speaker 1: up going to NAPA. So we'll see how it is

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Speaker 1: from there. It'll be funny. Um. But jess you'll make

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Speaker 1: I said, it will be the perfect time and worth

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Speaker 1: as as we're getting prepped for tonight, Jessica through on

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Speaker 1: this incredible denom dress that her friend, my friend Tasia

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Speaker 1: a great time. We always love these live shows as

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Speaker 1: you're not feeling great still, like things aren't like ideal

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Speaker 1: it's it's still kind of like a daily struggle grind

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Speaker 1: hopefully soon. Uh. Jared, if you see, he's in our

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Speaker 1: Like just now after you guys have been together for

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Speaker 1: we both understand about each other and maybe we can

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00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 1: push each other to say, hey, what is actually like

427
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 1: affecting you? Like, what is actually going on? At least

428
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 1: I can recognize that she's hurting it I'm hurting or

429
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 1: that I'm in my own head, but I'm not great

430
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 1: at it. Uh and uh, and it's still something we're

431
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 1: working on and that's the exciting part because we can

432
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 1: still work through stuff. We still love each other deeply

433
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 1: even though um and conflict doesn't happen that often with us,

434
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 1: So it's it's kind of rare. Um. I yeah, so

435
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,120
Speaker 1: it's it's been interesting. Uh and it's exciting and it's fun.

436
00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:38,120
Speaker 1: Um And hey, I think this would be cool. Ash.

437
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 1: I don't know how you feel about this, but for

438
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: those that are watching, if they can, if they can

439
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:45,960
Speaker 1: submit the ways that they deal with conflict in their relationship,

440
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 1: I think that would be really fun to see and

441
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: pull back from later. Okay, we have to hurry up here,

442
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:52,840
Speaker 1: so ask this question Dean and Caitlin. You answer it,

443
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:55,160
Speaker 1: and we're gonna bounce to our next guest. Okay, this

444
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 1: is a fun question. What is one thing that your

445
00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:01,159
Speaker 1: significant other does that they think they're good at but

446
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 1: they aren't really they are you asking? That'sk that question?

447
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 1: Oh well, I'll answer because Kalin doesn't have an answer,

448
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:19,200
Speaker 1: because I've creative everything. No, I don't know. I thought

449
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:21,880
Speaker 1: you had something. I just just trying to tell time

450
00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 1: to be honest. Um, something that she thinks she's great at,

451
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:33,240
Speaker 1: but in reality she's not. Besides driving, that's driver. That's fine,

452
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:38,800
Speaker 1: that's a good answer answer. Do you think you're okay driver? Kalin?

453
00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:40,720
Speaker 1: She claims to be the best driver. And it's not

454
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 1: only it's not only when she's driving, but also like

455
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 1: when I'm driving the car, she'll that coach me as

456
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 1: if I haven't been driving for the past fifteen years.

457
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:51,720
Speaker 1: She'll be like, oh, it turns up here, or I'll

458
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 1: watch out for that pull over there. And I'm in

459
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 1: my head, I'm like, obviously all of these things in

460
00:24:57,560 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 1: my head, I don't I appreciate what you're doing, but

461
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 1: like it's not necessary. In my defense, we've gotten into

462
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:06,400
Speaker 1: two car accidents together, so I just have anxiety. Yeah,

463
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:09,639
Speaker 1: I was driving, all right, Hey, we gotta hurry up.

464
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 1: We're on a time crunch. All right. I see what's

465
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 1: going on to the question, cause I'm actually curious about it.

466
00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 1: I don't think I know something that you think you're

467
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:24,800
Speaker 1: good at. Um. Oh gosh, organization. He actually just complimented

468
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 1: my organization skills the other day, So I did I said,

469
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 1: he's a great organized traveler. Traveler. Yeah, this is every

470
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:41,480
Speaker 1: fight I talking like once we were in the hotel. Well,

471
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 1: this is coming far right that has the closet space

472
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 1: and it's all a mess, and of the bathroom space

473
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,359
Speaker 1: also all a mess. And yet I'm the one blame

474
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:56,920
Speaker 1: for the mess all the time. This is what we need. Yeah, hey,

475
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:02,639
Speaker 1: have a great time. I'm enjoy NAPA, celebrate for us,

476
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:06,439
Speaker 1: send us some pictures. Thank you for joining us. But

477
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 1: we've got to go because we have the one and

478
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: only Nick file come up next, see you guys. So

479
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:18,439
Speaker 1: Jared has also jumped off because he's he's got to

480
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,680
Speaker 1: get back to work, so we're gonna leave. Ashley, Ashley, UM,

481
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: I appreciate you being here because I know this is

482
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: not easy for you right now. I know you're not

483
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:28,880
Speaker 1: feeling but you still want to come here and help

484
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,439
Speaker 1: out with this. So thank you. Oh of course, no

485
00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 1: need to thank me. Oh there's nig is Natalie in

486
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:40,360
Speaker 1: here too, she's getting ready for the evening. Okay, so

487
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:43,120
Speaker 1: we don't even have a significant other. That means that

488
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:46,160
Speaker 1: you can talk about Natalie to us. So we're talking

489
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:50,640
Speaker 1: about couples things here today and yeah, well, I mean,

490
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 1: I mean they wanted me to put headphones on. I mean,

491
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 1: she could probably jump on if you want her to.

492
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: I don't know if she's proper. She was like revealing

493
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,480
Speaker 1: and like real emotional on Charlene's podcast the other day.

494
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:07,640
Speaker 1: That was so cute. Something went wrong with um, oh

495
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 1: she's the best? Yeah? Thanks? Yeah? We uh we We

496
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 1: chatted a little bit about how the arduous process of

497
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 1: becoming a couple a very unromantic love story, but one

498
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: that turned into the greatest level the time. What now, Nick,

499
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 1: I don't even know if we've got to talk about this,

500
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: but you wait a bit to kind of announce your relationship,

501
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 1: and I'm sure that's because of a few factors that

502
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 1: it would be only I mean, we announced a big

503
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,720
Speaker 1: of paparazzi inside to camp outside my house and post

504
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,120
Speaker 1: pictures of us, and then I was like, okay, well,

505
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 1: I guess it's out, like has the fact that it's public.

506
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:05,199
Speaker 1: Nouch did it all? Uh No, But like you know, whenever,

507
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,720
Speaker 1: like before I was in a relationship, you know, regardless,

508
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,439
Speaker 1: it was always I was always going to take my

509
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:16,919
Speaker 1: time trying to you know, build a relationship before I

510
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 1: you know, made it a public thing. Um. You know,

511
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:22,439
Speaker 1: I'm a firm believer and I've always said that I

512
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 1: don't think having a quote unquote public relationship has ever

513
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 1: helped a relationship. You know, like it. I think you

514
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:32,600
Speaker 1: can be strong enough of a couple to have it

515
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 1: not hurt a relationship, but I don't know if it

516
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: really does anything for the relationship itself. So I think

517
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 1: for me that was really the biggest reason to you know,

518
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 1: make sure that you know the priorities were important, and

519
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 1: because it just it creates added stress and you know, um,

520
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 1: you know, other other opinions and just your your reacting

521
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 1: to things that really don't have anything to do with

522
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 1: the actual relationship. So that was just something I was

523
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: this mindful of. Now asked me. We have a couple

524
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 1: of questions, and since Stanley's go around, I would love

525
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 1: you to ask Nick some of these questions that were

526
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 1: submitted us before we begin tonight. Okay, fun Um, Nick,

527
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 1: I kind of want to ask the same thing that

528
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 1: I just asked Dean and Kaylin, because it's like a

529
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 1: great question, what do um, what does Natalie do that

530
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: she thinks she's good at but she's really not that

531
00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 1: good at? Uh? She's a pretty self aware individual. Um,

532
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,959
Speaker 1: she once claimed to be really good at parallel parking,

533
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:45,560
Speaker 1: And the truth is, she's good at parallel parking, in

534
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 1: parallel parking, but she wasn't like I still have you

535
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 1: know there she had this tendency of parking uh like

536
00:29:55,360 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: six inches six inches like to but she she's still

537
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 1: a pretty good parallel parker, but she would brag about it.

538
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 1: And then I was like, well, you're you know, you're

539
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 1: you're pretty good. But it was it wasn't It wasn't good.

540
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 1: What do you think it is about I have fantastic stereo?

541
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 1: What do you think it is about the female brain

542
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 1: that we're just like we can't the parallel parking just

543
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 1: not in our in our DNA. Well again, she's a

544
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 1: very good parallel parker, but she just was like, you know,

545
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: six inches into the street. You know what I'm saying.

546
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 1: I don't play into any gender stereotypes, especially when it

547
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 1: comes to driving. I'm not a particularly great driver. I

548
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 1: am a good, uh parallel parker, but I I wouldn't

549
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: I wouldn't give me any like my right. My driving

550
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:53,800
Speaker 1: skills are not great at all. Gertally, Yeah, actually, parallel

551
00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:56,239
Speaker 1: parking is the one thing that I'm I can do

552
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 1: pretty well driving because but it's because when I ran

553
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 1: across country all the parking at the parks of parallel parking.

554
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 1: So since I was sixteen, I always had to like

555
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 1: every day of the week. So I just got good

556
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 1: at it good. But that's the only thing I can

557
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: do well. She loses focus sometimes we have to snapper

558
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 1: out of like just having a really good time and

559
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 1: driving looking down the road. Nick, before I let you

560
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 1: go here, I hope you have an incredible trip. I

561
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 1: hope you guys have a great time and a great evening.

562
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 1: What are you gonna be doing tonight? And then do

563
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 1: you have any advice for Jess and I Because you

564
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 1: are a relationship expert. You have the Vial Files, which

565
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 1: is an incredible podcast, and your TikTok talks about relationships

566
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 1: often and so you do have a lot of insights,

567
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: So advice and then also what's your plans tonight, Natalie.

568
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 1: I believe we're going to dinner with Dean in uh

569
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 1: Kalen and an Tanya. Um, it's like the Early Bird Special,

570
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 1: Like when I get off the phone, we're gonna go.

571
00:31:55,880 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like style. I know, Um,

572
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 1: so I think we'll be doing that. Um, and thank

573
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 1: you for saying I. I don't call myself an expert,

574
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: just a guy with a handful of opinions. But what

575
00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 1: is my advice to you guys? I don't I don't know. Um,

576
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: I mean, once you get married, just enjoy well. Well,

577
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know enough about your relationship

578
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 1: to give you like general advice, you know, I don't know.

579
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 1: Do you have a specific question I don't like, you know,

580
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 1: be happy and love each other? I don't know. Yeah,

581
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: so okay, Um, the specific question is going to be

582
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 1: one that probably resonates to the whole evening here. How

583
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: do you best believe to enter into conflict? I think

584
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 1: it's one thing right now. We just did uh some

585
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: counseling this morning. We asked Dean and Kaylin, we asked

586
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 1: Ashley and and Jared, like, when you enter into conflict,

587
00:32:55,840 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: how do you believe it's best done in a relationship? Um,

588
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 1: to keep an open channel communications? Well, I think one

589
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 1: thing that Nellly and I do well at and something

590
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 1: I've had to get better at and I've worked at.

591
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 1: She's apparently just always been good at it. Ah, is that.

592
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 1: I think there was really good at acknowledging each other's feelings.

593
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: I don't think either of us have ever made the

594
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 1: other person feel like our feelings were wrong. I think

595
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 1: a lot of couples have a tendency of doing that.

596
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 1: You know, they get defensive when someone says, well, I

597
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 1: feel a certain way, and then when they hear the

598
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:40,360
Speaker 1: other person, you know, communicate their feelings, it's easy to

599
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 1: quick to quickly get defensive and make it about them

600
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 1: and project those things as opposed to just listening to

601
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 1: how they feel. Uh. And then we just never make

602
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 1: the other person wrong for having those feelings, and we

603
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 1: try not to make it about our ourselves, and then

604
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: we just try to address those feelings. That's something that

605
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:00,120
Speaker 1: seems to work for us. And then in terms of

606
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 1: like conflict, I think, you know, this is something I

607
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 1: learned from my therapist. It seems to be really helpful. Uh.

608
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 1: If you're fighting for more than ten minutes, Uh, we

609
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: all tend to I think all of us tend to

610
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: turn into children. And if you're fighting for more than

611
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: ten minutes and you can't see eye to eye, then

612
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 1: it's best to just pause. Um. I think men have

613
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: a harder time with that, um in general, because we

614
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:30,840
Speaker 1: we try to be problem solvers and conflict resolution. But

615
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 1: I think sometimes it's okay to just put a pause

616
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,240
Speaker 1: in the fight because I think at that point you're

617
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,480
Speaker 1: not really dealing with the actual matter, but you start

618
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: bringing in other aspects into the fight, and that's when

619
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,800
Speaker 1: those ten and its fights turned into three hour fights.

620
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:47,319
Speaker 1: But and usually those three our fights, you just need

621
00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:49,280
Speaker 1: to take a pause either and then you come back

622
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,239
Speaker 1: and then you you know, relax, and then you kind

623
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 1: of address the actual problem so that you know, try that,

624
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 1: see if it helps. Awesome. Well, hey, we're gonna let

625
00:34:57,440 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: actually take a little break here. First, they can go

626
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 1: get glass of water. We promised her this moment at

627
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: the beginning of the podcast net a little moment before

628
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,760
Speaker 1: he send you off here. How is Jeff? Oh my god, Jeff.

629
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 1: Jeff is great. I love Jeff. I miss him. Um,

630
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: he's really he's the best. I'm truly obsessed with him,

631
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 1: and uh, I really enjoy taking care of him like

632
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 1: I bayed them and feel like I really I didn't

633
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 1: think I'd love him that much, but I do. He's

634
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: so cute, Like he's the best. He's an Australian copper

635
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 1: dog's part of like the doodle family, but it's a

636
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 1: very specific breed. Apparently I don't even know this, but

637
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 1: they're bred to be therapy dogs. But maybe that he

638
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 1: just he likes to cut off. We're just cuddled buddies.

639
00:35:56,280 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 1: How big is he gonna get? He's great. I think

640
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:03,280
Speaker 1: like thirty pounds. His dad's thirty pounds and his mom's

641
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 1: around the same. So I don't know a nice kind

642
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: of medium, says house Dog. It might have been our

643
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:14,879
Speaker 1: you explained to Nick, our history with the dog so far,

644
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 1: with how these conversations have gone, So I really want

645
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 1: a dog. And beIN still hasn't gotten over his childhood

646
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 1: dog passing away. And so when never being up a dog,

647
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 1: Bin says, but one day it's gonna die. And it's

648
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:34,760
Speaker 1: a pretty negative outlook. It's not exactly how I say it. Well,

649
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 1: I say, I don't appreciate the realism. Yeah, he has

650
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 1: a sweeter way. I appreciate the realism. I'm I'm a

651
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 1: bit of a skeptic myself, so I appreciate that. And

652
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 1: I will say that I've already started to mourn the

653
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 1: loss of Jeff, because like I've already thought about, like

654
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,320
Speaker 1: I don't know, like I've had obviously a lot of

655
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 1: friends and family who have had dogs, and I've always

656
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 1: empathized with them when they lost their their dog, but

657
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 1: I never related to how some like how tragic um

658
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 1: it was for some of them. And now I can

659
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:21,879
Speaker 1: relate just because I'm already like worried about um if

660
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 1: that day ever comes, which obviously, um, you know, in

661
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 1: reality hopefully you know, like I hope for a while.

662
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:34,799
Speaker 1: But it makes me sad. Yeah, it's you know, I

663
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,759
Speaker 1: was an only child, and so my dog growing up

664
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 1: was like my my closest sibling. It was like this,

665
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,759
Speaker 1: she was my girl. And so it's just like I'm

666
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 1: still not over it, and so it's but people always

667
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 1: tell me, I'm sure the comments are flowing in right now.

668
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:50,439
Speaker 1: Uh you know, it's worth it while you while they're here,

669
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,399
Speaker 1: And I get that, and so at some point we will.

670
00:37:53,200 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 1: I mean, just just the only person who's ever loved

671
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:05,920
Speaker 1: me unconditionally, and he likes he likes everything about me,

672
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 1: and there's so much not to like, and I really

673
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: I really like that he turned looks the other way

674
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: when it comes to my flaws and just wants to cuddle.

675
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:18,839
Speaker 1: So that's what that's what I like about Jeff. Well, Nick,

676
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 1: have a great time. Tell Natalie hello, thank you for

677
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 1: joining us, Thank you for celebrating. I wish you would

678
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: have I wish you guys would have came. Yeah, yeah,

679
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 1: it was a we were telling the Dean and Caitlin.

680
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 1: It was a very uh wild evening last night with

681
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 1: a lot of fluctuation. But um, we're gonna still going

682
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 1: to date to celebrate and we wish you could be

683
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 1: a napp with all of you. Well, I can't wait

684
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: to see you again. But yes, I can't see you guys.

685
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:59,719
Speaker 1: So uh. Next we're gonna bring on Tanya and a

686
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 1: little secret human hopefully that Tanya's bringing with her. But

687
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 1: before I do, I do want to take another break

688
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:08,880
Speaker 1: here and uh and just highlight a few of our

689
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693
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Speaker 1: all natural gym stones and gold filled jewelry that won't

694
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Speaker 1: target with that I know, And I here and I

695
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:34,799
Speaker 1: see uh that the wonderful Uh Tana rat is here

696
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:38,400
Speaker 1: with us. Tanya, you get a really special moment Hello

697
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:41,439
Speaker 1: and welcome. I hope NAPA is a blast for you.

698
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 1: We're gonna have Jessica open up her gift bag, uh

699
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,240
Speaker 1: that all of you put together along with my Heart Radio.

700
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:50,919
Speaker 1: So you get to watch your open up the gift bag,

701
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:52,879
Speaker 1: which I think will be very special for I love

702
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:56,399
Speaker 1: watching jess open to get back. Hi, guys, Hi can

703
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 1: miss you? I know I'm so bummed you guys aren't here.

704
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 1: Let's see so you've got It's howel for you. Very cute.

705
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:16,760
Speaker 1: We have baloss I use those best weekend They're very fun.

706
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 1: It's a scrubbing in towel. I just heard it's like

707
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:28,319
Speaker 1: the circus Circus Circle one. Yes, I'll be in on

708
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:32,440
Speaker 1: my bachelor party. What are you going on that? Um?

709
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:38,879
Speaker 1: Next month August augustly to a lake in Nashville. Um,

710
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 1: my matron of honor has like a huge lake house.

711
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,879
Speaker 1: So all of my best friends are gonna just pole

712
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: in and while the big sleepover to me so fun fun.

713
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 1: Do you know what the like itinerary is going to be?

714
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 1: I have no idea. I actually found out yesterday. Everyone's

715
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,440
Speaker 1: a packing list except for me, So I'm trying to

716
00:40:55,480 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 1: get that so I know what to bring. Oh, jut

717
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 1: the Bachelotte party almost famous T shirt? Wow together? Where that?

718
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 1: All the time? I wanted to put that in there? Sneaky?

719
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: Those are fun? Um okay, love that. Thank you Dean

720
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 1: and Jared um army, I get it, I get it.

721
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 1: There you that's incredible. Who's that from? Where's that? Who's

722
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:42,240
Speaker 1: that made by? This is nice? It is nice? That's nice?

723
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 1: That is it? Well? Get back? Yeah? Well, uh, Tanya,

724
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:50,240
Speaker 1: we do appreciate you celebrating with us tonight, and uh

725
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 1: we we love you dearly. You're an incredible human. Now

726
00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 1: we before we get you going to ask us questions,

727
00:41:57,760 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 1: I do want to ask you, how is your relation

728
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:06,280
Speaker 1: chip going? And are you feeling happy? Um? Feeling very happy?

729
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 1: Actually I was just when we were flying out here,

730
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 1: I was talking about like how the last time that

731
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: all of us were to get well, not that wasn't

732
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 1: the last time we were all together, but like the

733
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:17,799
Speaker 1: last time that we were all together like a really

734
00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 1: fun environment was that Ashley and Jared's wedding, And like

735
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 1: how we kind of have this it's almost like we're

736
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 1: this like weird dysfunctional family dynamic where I'm like, I

737
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:29,839
Speaker 1: haven't seen you guys in so long, but like every

738
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:31,960
Speaker 1: time we get together, it's just like fun and we

739
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:34,120
Speaker 1: just laugh and we'd drank and we just have the

740
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 1: best time. And so I was like, we were flying

741
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 1: over here, and I was like, I'm bummed that you

742
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: don't get to experience that with everybody. Um, because I've

743
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 1: been talking about you guys for so long. You know,

744
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 1: it's like we're the pandemic kind of like obviously isolated

745
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 1: all of us, but like we haven't been able to

746
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:53,799
Speaker 1: have that that experience. But aside from that, so I

747
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:57,479
Speaker 1: missed you guys. But my relationship is really really great

748
00:42:57,520 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 1: and he's wonderful. He's here. Do wanna say hi? Nice

749
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:09,759
Speaker 1: to didn't you. I know, we're really found that we

750
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 1: couldn't get to hang out this weekend. We were so

751
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 1: forward to it for so long. But the way, look,

752
00:43:14,280 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 1: how cute as shoes are. Can you lift your feet up,

753
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 1: let's see them. That's impressive. Those are some tight wha

754
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:28,439
Speaker 1: They're like they're they're there. I think they're nude. They're new,

755
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:32,279
Speaker 1: so cute. So both of you are here because I

756
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:35,359
Speaker 1: love talking. How how did you two meet? How did

757
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,839
Speaker 1: this whole thing get started? We met on a dating app.

758
00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: We met on Hinge. I love that, like and you guys,

759
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 1: you know more than anyone how hard Like I was

760
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: like dating, I was open to it. I was out there.

761
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 1: I wasn't really like on the apps, but I was

762
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 1: on the apps that I wasn't like actually on the apps.

763
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: And then my girlfriend you you actually know her, she

764
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:02,919
Speaker 1: works on the morning show with me. Sierra saw him

765
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 1: my Hinge profile and she was like, he seems good, Like,

766
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: let's actually go out with him. So technically I actually

767
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:14,880
Speaker 1: met her friend on him, started with her friend. It

768
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:17,239
Speaker 1: wasn't even with her, and then it Yeah, the conversation

769
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 1: pretty much started with Sierra. When I messaged Jessica for

770
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:24,719
Speaker 1: the first time, she didn't know how to respond to me,

771
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:31,839
Speaker 1: so her brother was responding to me on her Instagram. Yes,

772
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 1: but it is what it is, because I think initially

773
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 1: you don't really know you have like you're just kind

774
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 1: of like, what is this? This is a total stranger danger.

775
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:44,440
Speaker 1: And then I went out with him kind of just

776
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 1: like I'm just trying to like, you know, get myself

777
00:44:47,120 --> 00:44:48,840
Speaker 1: back out there and met him at by thirty and

778
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: I was like, finding New York next day, so it'll

779
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: be quick whatever. She thought she was gonna be like

780
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 1: in and out in twenty minutes, half an hour, hal

781
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 1: to drink and leave. Yeah, go home, pack, be done.

782
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 1: I'm not even kidding you. I sat down at this bar.

783
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 1: It was like instant chemistry. We talked straight for like

784
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 1: five hours. I looked at it was like ten thirty.

785
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, I need still need

786
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:11,560
Speaker 1: a pack and go to bed. Uh and like, I, actually,

787
00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 1: what's so crazy is I was going to New York

788
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: the next day and I had a date in New

789
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 1: York with someone else. I kept thinking him the whole time.

790
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 1: I just wanted to hang out with him, want to

791
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 1: be with him, and yeah, well. The the interesting side

792
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:26,840
Speaker 1: of this is that I don't know if you knew this,

793
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:31,920
Speaker 1: but Tanya, I honestly believe this still to this day,

794
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 1: is probably the most quoted person that I quote in

795
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: my life. I was able to interview Tanya for my book, uh,

796
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 1: you know, One on Plain Sight, and I did a

797
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,799
Speaker 1: whole I was thinking about somebody at the time that

798
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 1: was single. They didn't want to be single, Uh, that

799
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 1: was looking for a relationship that was going to be

800
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 1: an incredible partner to somebody, um and just hadn't found

801
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:56,919
Speaker 1: that right person. And I was like, Tanya fits all

802
00:45:56,920 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: of those for me, like all of this. So she

803
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 1: was nice enough to give us some time and allow

804
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: us to interview for it. And she has one thing

805
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:06,719
Speaker 1: that she says that continues to come up in my

806
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 1: life because people ask me, hey, how did you meet jess?

807
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 1: If you if I'm single, like what do I do

808
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 1: about it? And Tanya said this simple thing says, just

809
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:17,799
Speaker 1: don't stop dating, like liveing adventure, have good dates, have

810
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:21,359
Speaker 1: bad dates, like put yourself out there until you find

811
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 1: that person that slows life down. And it's cool to

812
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 1: see you guys together. Now, no pressure that, but it's

813
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 1: just cool to see that, like that date that you know,

814
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:33,279
Speaker 1: like when Tanya's first out there ends up with you

815
00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:35,879
Speaker 1: guys on this ship show with us. It's pretty cool. Yeah,

816
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 1: it's really crazy. It's like very that's very It's one

817
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:43,879
Speaker 1: of those things where like, yeah, I didn't stop putting

818
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:46,360
Speaker 1: myself out there, but you kind of just like sometimes

819
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:48,359
Speaker 1: you just go through the motions and then it's like

820
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:50,520
Speaker 1: you just kind of stopped me at my tracks, and

821
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:57,239
Speaker 1: I was like, what the hell, this is an unfortunate

822
00:46:57,280 --> 00:47:01,319
Speaker 1: time to meet me. Well yeah, but also so like

823
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 1: upset that, like we're all gonn't get together out here.

824
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:05,879
Speaker 1: It was like looking forward to it for so long.

825
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 1: But well, yeah, before you know, and I'll be in

826
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 1: a better state. Hopefully not so great, so great. But

827
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 1: we have a couple of questions that we're asking like

828
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 1: all the couples, and I thought that because we have

829
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:25,839
Speaker 1: like a pop culture expert here, we would ask you

830
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:30,400
Speaker 1: guys this. Yeah, I'm like, maybe not Robbie, okay, everybody

831
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 1: that I mentioned. He's like, who is that? Okay, Well,

832
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,239
Speaker 1: let's do two celebrity questions. One anybody would be able

833
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:40,840
Speaker 1: to answer, and that is who's your celebrity hall pass?

834
00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 1: This is for you guys and for Bed and Jess.

835
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 1: And we don't like call passes here, but like talked

836
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 1: about hall passes. Who can you make out with? Yeah?

837
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 1: I can answer. I'll break the ice here. Um and

838
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 1: she knows this. There's lead two in my life that

839
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 1: I've always had a thing for. One is Emma Watson.

840
00:48:04,719 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 1: Um just kind of looks like has that look? Oh

841
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 1: thank you prettier, and then um, Jennifer Aniston has just

842
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:19,239
Speaker 1: always like, I don't know what it is. I'm just like, yeah,

843
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:22,840
Speaker 1: so those two, those two really have always been in

844
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:24,920
Speaker 1: my life. And I had a Jennifer Aniston I think

845
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 1: poster growing up, and so that just sticks in my head.

846
00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 1: And if he gets a shot with either of them,

847
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be mad about it. That mean, Um, Harry Styles, Yeah,

848
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: he's my biggest crush. Yeah, Harry Styles and Zac Outland

849
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 1: kind of been Higgins, but yeah, Harry Styles. Yeah, I

850
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't you know, I'm gonna say because

851
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 1: I always say that, I say, you resemble him, but

852
00:48:54,440 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 1: it's not about me, okay here, probably scared for sure

853
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:04,399
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, I mean I don't know. I don't

854
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 1: really have a suffer crush. I mean back in the day, no,

855
00:49:08,719 --> 00:49:13,359
Speaker 1: I probably. Yeah. Well so like back in the day,

856
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 1: growing up city Crawford is like my thing, okay, uh

857
00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:27,560
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, all of you uh and probably today, I

858
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:35,880
Speaker 1: don't know. Uh, Margot Roby, Yeah, yeah, you get what

859
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:38,399
Speaker 1: you're saying. Hey, before I let you guys go, because

860
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: I know you gotta be Hey, I think that's endearing

861
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:46,919
Speaker 1: and I appreciate that. To Tanya, you kind of look

862
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:50,040
Speaker 1: like her. So y'all are only sh then Tanga has

863
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 1: that look, so that makes sense. Yeah, you know, before

864
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:56,319
Speaker 1: we let you guys go, I do want to know

865
00:49:56,400 --> 00:49:59,200
Speaker 1: has it been difficult at all? Tanya? You obviously have

866
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 1: a very large platform was scrapping in and your radio

867
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 1: show to be dating with people kind of watching it

868
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 1: from a microscope or watching it from a distance, because

869
00:50:09,200 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 1: people were very invested into your love life for a

870
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:15,320
Speaker 1: long time. I mean, it was not only a segment

871
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 1: on what if not? It might be the most popular

872
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:20,719
Speaker 1: morning show in the country probably or at least up there.

873
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:24,640
Speaker 1: It was a segment so like, has it been hard

874
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:29,120
Speaker 1: for you? Guys? Are weird or awkward? I'll let him

875
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 1: answer that, but but i'll let you answer it. Well,

876
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:35,480
Speaker 1: there's two very different sides to this answer. No, you

877
00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 1: can add well, okay, So for me, you guys know me,

878
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:41,799
Speaker 1: I'm like an open book, like I will say I'll

879
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 1: do whatever, And so I think what I realized, especially

880
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:49,040
Speaker 1: like with dating him, I've had a set boundaries in

881
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 1: that world. But I think for me, it's such a

882
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:54,680
Speaker 1: beautiful relationship that I have with all of my listeners

883
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 1: like describe sisters and the morning show listeners like they're

884
00:50:57,080 --> 00:51:02,440
Speaker 1: so it's such a beautiful relationship. I don't really get negativity.

885
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 1: It's all like encouragement and love. And so for me,

886
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:07,799
Speaker 1: it's like I just want to keep people hopeful because

887
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:10,360
Speaker 1: I was dating for seven years and dating like loser

888
00:51:10,400 --> 00:51:12,800
Speaker 1: after a loser and like getting my heart ripped open,

889
00:51:12,880 --> 00:51:15,719
Speaker 1: and like I like people to keep hopeful, do you

890
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 1: know what I mean? And it's like I like to

891
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 1: share that story. And so for me, it's a little

892
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:22,239
Speaker 1: bit different. For him, he's not used to it, and

893
00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 1: so I think initially it was like very intimidating or

894
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 1: scary and ask your question though, But doesn't it also

895
00:51:28,040 --> 00:51:30,880
Speaker 1: create some pressure for you? The publicity even though everyone

896
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:34,120
Speaker 1: is so positive, even though everyone is so supportive of you,

897
00:51:34,280 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 1: doesn't like because I'm obsessed with you, okay, So I'm

898
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 1: very private person and not public at all. Uh. And

899
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 1: so that was like a very big issue in our

900
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: relationship at the beginning. How does that work and what

901
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 1: does that look like? And how comfortable bou So, yeah,

902
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:52,080
Speaker 1: I was very uncomfortable with for for a long time.

903
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: I'm still like not fully comfortable with it. But we've

904
00:51:56,040 --> 00:52:00,319
Speaker 1: talked about it a lot, and um and her time,

905
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:02,399
Speaker 1: I've gotten a little bit more, a little bit more

906
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:08,080
Speaker 1: comfortable her USA, her fans, her community, like the people

907
00:52:08,120 --> 00:52:13,840
Speaker 1: who watched the morning show that the podcast listeners listen

908
00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:17,239
Speaker 1: to the morning show, the podcast listeners, they're like the

909
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 1: most supportive community out there. So it's like actually like

910
00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 1: a very positive Like we were swimming in Hawaii, were

911
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:27,320
Speaker 1: like in the ocean right like in Hawaii on vacation,

912
00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:29,320
Speaker 1: and these two girls come swimming up to us and

913
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:32,960
Speaker 1: they're like, Tanya, were scrubbers, we love the podcast. Oh

914
00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:35,839
Speaker 1: my gosh, it's Red Star. We love you. Like they

915
00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:39,400
Speaker 1: were so home and like so sweet and like just

916
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 1: I don't know, like and that's the interact. And so

917
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 1: it's like it's nice because that's what I'm used to,

918
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 1: Like you know, I mean, like that's the interaction that

919
00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:46,960
Speaker 1: I'm used to. So I think for some people, I

920
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 1: think it's kind of like you see all the like

921
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 1: negativity on the internet and you get like like breaked

922
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 1: out by it, but it's like really the opposite. Yeah, well,

923
00:52:57,360 --> 00:52:59,719
Speaker 1: we appreciate the both of you. Thank you for coming on.

924
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:02,600
Speaker 1: Have a anytime in Napa celebrate from a distance for us.

925
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 1: We told everybody's pleasing this pictures from dinner. Definitely a

926
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:14,799
Speaker 1: bottle of line tonight, love you, love you bye. So

927
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:17,839
Speaker 1: as you a trooper here now? Yeah, I'm not being

928
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 1: like totally unprofessional about eating macarny and she's during this.

929
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:22,759
Speaker 1: It's just if I don't eat every two hours, I

930
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:26,480
Speaker 1: get really sick. Well, hey, we get it, and doing

931
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:29,120
Speaker 1: you kid? Uh So, before we bring on our final

932
00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:31,200
Speaker 1: guest of the evening, which is somebody very special and

933
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:32,319
Speaker 1: we don't want to do it yet, we are going

934
00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:34,840
Speaker 1: to mention two more sponsors and then I know and

935
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:37,280
Speaker 1: I would love if we could. I mean, we booked

936
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 1: this thing out with guests, which can be good and bad.

937
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:41,719
Speaker 1: They're all going over. I'd love to give Jessica just

938
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:43,880
Speaker 1: an opportunity to talk about her excitement for the wedding

939
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:47,319
Speaker 1: and some of the details that she's com from. It

940
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:49,360
Speaker 1: would be I think it would be a great uh

941
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 1: just time for her. So let's talk about our last

942
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:54,400
Speaker 1: two sponsors. Give Jessica her her moment here because I

943
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:56,160
Speaker 1: want her to do that. I'm excited to hear that.

944
00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 1: As we showed your earlier Chaser clothing supported this podcast

945
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:04,279
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946
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Speaker 1: you have the shirt right here? You're gonna hold it

947
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Speaker 1: up um with the softest designs, made in Los Angeles

948
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Speaker 1: and inspired by icons. Chaser is consistently looking forward to

949
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Speaker 1: the future, and that's something incredible there. And then lawn

950
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Speaker 1: Dress founded by two female textile experts with backgrounds and fashion.

951
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Speaker 1: The lawn Dress helps you take exceptional care of your

952
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 1: clothes with their expert detergents. We have them. When I

953
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:30,439
Speaker 1: opened it up, Jessica goes, well, those are so nice

954
00:54:30,640 --> 00:54:33,520
Speaker 1: and fabric care. Go to the lawn Dress dot com

955
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 1: to buy some. It's worth it. It's gonna help them

956
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:38,680
Speaker 1: keep your clothes nice. And I think they have specific

957
00:54:38,680 --> 00:54:40,800
Speaker 1: ones for yoga pants to keep the stretch of color.

958
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 1: So all right, So Wells is now here, but we're

959
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:47,200
Speaker 1: gonna still give Jessica her moment. Wells, if you don't mind,

960
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 1: I would love for us to talk a little bit

961
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 1: about our wedding details. You share whatever you want about yours,

962
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:56,440
Speaker 1: then in a second, Wells, thanks for coming on, um,

963
00:54:56,440 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 1: but jess gonna take it away. Um. Well, our wedding

964
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:04,439
Speaker 1: is in November, pandemic permitting we'll have all of our

965
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:06,840
Speaker 1: friends and family there, if not also get married on

966
00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:10,400
Speaker 1: that day. Um. But right now, the wedding itself is

967
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:14,680
Speaker 1: gonna be basically just a big party. Um. The ceremony

968
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:17,359
Speaker 1: is under a tip, which is like my only thing

969
00:55:17,440 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 1: was I wanted some part of the wedding under a tip.

970
00:55:19,840 --> 00:55:24,520
Speaker 1: I don't know why. And twinkle lights. There's twinkle lights everywhere,

971
00:55:24,840 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 1: like it looks like a fairy garden at their reception

972
00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:31,200
Speaker 1: hopefully that's the dream. Um. But yeah, it's gonna be.

973
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 1: The ceremony will be really sweet and kind of just

974
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:39,880
Speaker 1: I don't know, that'll be more um reverend I guess.

975
00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:42,879
Speaker 1: And then they're Exception is just gonna be the best

976
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:50,480
Speaker 1: band ever, NonStop dancing, partying. Great theme because I was

977
00:55:50,520 --> 00:55:55,560
Speaker 1: asking Ben the theme and he wasn't like, yeah, it's

978
00:55:55,600 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 1: not really like a theme. It's more just like I

979
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:03,279
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't want to say like carnival. It's

980
00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:05,880
Speaker 1: not a carnival at all, but it is like very fun,

981
00:56:06,000 --> 00:56:08,040
Speaker 1: like it's very light. How it did. Yeah, keeping it

982
00:56:08,200 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 1: casual will be the best thing for us. We've been

983
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:12,160
Speaker 1: to a lot of weddings and we've kind of pick

984
00:56:12,200 --> 00:56:14,799
Speaker 1: and chosen what represents us best and for us, it

985
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:16,759
Speaker 1: was like, hey, we want this to be a fun

986
00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 1: atmosphere for all involved, so anybody that comes can leave

987
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:21,520
Speaker 1: going him really glad it came to this. We are

988
00:56:21,840 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 1: One unique thing that we haven't talked about yet that

989
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,279
Speaker 1: I think would be cool to share is we're having

990
00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 1: um three different pastors stand with us at the wedding

991
00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:32,040
Speaker 1: because I have my childhood pastor, she has hers, and

992
00:56:32,040 --> 00:56:35,040
Speaker 1: then we have a pastor uh that kind of have

993
00:56:35,280 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 1: been around us as we've dated and grew grown our relationship,

994
00:56:39,680 --> 00:56:41,120
Speaker 1: and so we thought it was important to have them

995
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 1: all involved, which I think is really cool. And I'm

996
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 1: really excited for that um and our our wedding hashtag

997
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 1: because that is something we promised to share. And then

998
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:52,479
Speaker 1: we're gonna get to wells is Benny and the Jets

999
00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:57,759
Speaker 1: be in the Jets? Yes? We love Benny in the Jets.

1000
00:56:57,840 --> 00:56:59,520
Speaker 1: We also love get Higgy with it, so we will

1001
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 1: be mad with either of them. Yeah, so we're gonna

1002
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 1: choose between those two. Uh, if you have a vote,

1003
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:07,319
Speaker 1: please uh right in right now to the comments about

1004
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:09,520
Speaker 1: what you vote for. All right, Hey, thank you for

1005
00:57:09,520 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 1: giving us that moment. It was important to do that.

1006
00:57:11,760 --> 00:57:15,839
Speaker 1: Wells Adams, the star of the Bachelor franchise right now,

1007
00:57:16,480 --> 00:57:19,400
Speaker 1: one of the kings of the world, amazing and good looking,

1008
00:57:19,600 --> 00:57:24,000
Speaker 1: incredibly talented, very very good golfer. In fact, in my

1009
00:57:24,040 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 1: bachelor party, Wells and I bet on our round and

1010
00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:29,200
Speaker 1: he kind of smoked me. I think it was a

1011
00:57:29,280 --> 00:57:32,760
Speaker 1: three stroke lead going into eighteen. Um, Wells, in fact, no,

1012
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:34,720
Speaker 1: you know here, there's a two stroke league going into

1013
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:37,840
Speaker 1: the eighteen. Nobody really cares about that much on this podcast.

1014
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:40,920
Speaker 1: I'd love for you to tell the audience how the

1015
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:49,240
Speaker 1: last tool ended. And then uh yeah, well, um, I

1016
00:57:49,240 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 1: I was overserved that day. Um cart girl. The cart

1017
00:57:56,200 --> 00:58:00,320
Speaker 1: girl gave me too many fireball um shots, So I

1018
00:58:00,360 --> 00:58:05,480
Speaker 1: blame I blame her, um and I I think I

1019
00:58:05,480 --> 00:58:07,600
Speaker 1: I suck. I think I suck like a thirty foot

1020
00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:10,720
Speaker 1: put for Birdie to win. And then I proceeded to

1021
00:58:10,800 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 1: take my shirt off and run around the green yelling

1022
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:18,440
Speaker 1: uh like in your face in that effect. So what

1023
00:58:18,560 --> 00:58:20,440
Speaker 1: he's missing out on, and I know this isn't that exciting.

1024
00:58:20,440 --> 00:58:23,280
Speaker 1: What he's missing out on is he was one stroke

1025
00:58:23,880 --> 00:58:25,800
Speaker 1: on me going into the eighteen. I was wrong. I

1026
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 1: made a Birdie uh from like so Wells hits his

1027
00:58:30,200 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 1: thirty footer for Birdie and at that point it clinches

1028
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:35,960
Speaker 1: the match. I have like a tin foot that I

1029
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:38,320
Speaker 1: still have for Birdie. I make my and as he

1030
00:58:38,400 --> 00:58:40,560
Speaker 1: runs around with the shirt off, it's my bachelor party,

1031
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:46,640
Speaker 1: don't forget. I'm like yes, like incredible, round, awesome. Nobody

1032
00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 1: high fires me. Wells is taking the attention away for me.

1033
00:58:49,600 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 1: It's absolutely insane, not fun at all. But hey, the

1034
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:55,760
Speaker 1: bachelor party was great. Wells, Um, what's going on with

1035
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:58,640
Speaker 1: your wedding? Uh? In your life? You have so much

1036
00:58:58,640 --> 00:59:01,440
Speaker 1: happening right now, just a we want to catch up

1037
00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:04,040
Speaker 1: with you. First of all, I'm so sorry I did that,

1038
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:07,520
Speaker 1: but I had a great time. I just want you

1039
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:11,200
Speaker 1: to know that. And I fully expect during my bachelor

1040
00:59:11,280 --> 00:59:13,760
Speaker 1: party for you to beat me on the golf course

1041
00:59:13,800 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 1: and run around and uh do all that stuff. Take

1042
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:20,640
Speaker 1: your shirt off, let everyone see what you got working.

1043
00:59:21,080 --> 00:59:24,080
Speaker 1: Um In terms of my h in terms of my wedding,

1044
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 1: I don't know. We were supposed to have it. I

1045
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:29,200
Speaker 1: can now tell kind of everyone what was really supposed

1046
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:32,840
Speaker 1: to happen. We were supposed to be married on um

1047
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:39,160
Speaker 1: on and like Sarah was like super pumped about this. State.

1048
00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:41,560
Speaker 1: Here's the thing that I didn't realize until I got engaged,

1049
00:59:41,760 --> 00:59:45,640
Speaker 1: Like dates really really matter, um. And so she was

1050
00:59:45,680 --> 00:59:49,440
Speaker 1: like super pumped about that and like and like Jupiter

1051
00:59:49,640 --> 00:59:54,640
Speaker 1: was in the right spot her fury and things were

1052
00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:58,480
Speaker 1: astro retro glading. I don't know what was happening. Um.

1053
00:59:58,600 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 1: And then that got pushed fortunately, and then we were

1054
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 1: supposed to get married tomorrow. Actually, oh my gosh, and yeah,

1055
01:00:08,600 --> 01:00:11,040
Speaker 1: it's weird looking at the counter. Tomorrow is supposed to

1056
01:00:11,040 --> 01:00:14,760
Speaker 1: be the rescheduled date, and the venue was like, we're

1057
01:00:14,800 --> 01:00:18,560
Speaker 1: only going to allow like a handful of people because

1058
01:00:18,600 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 1: of COVID restrictions, and we are like, we have more

1059
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:24,400
Speaker 1: friends than that, and so we had to push it again.

1060
01:00:25,280 --> 01:00:27,960
Speaker 1: And so it's looking like it's either going to be

1061
01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 1: a Vega situation, um, or it's going to be we're

1062
01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:35,120
Speaker 1: going to just do it up next year. And I'm

1063
01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:37,600
Speaker 1: thinking next year is probably what we're gonna do. I'm

1064
01:00:37,640 --> 01:00:44,120
Speaker 1: sorry that sucks. UM. As the resident bartender, what member

1065
01:00:44,120 --> 01:00:46,120
Speaker 1: of Bachelor Nation do you think is going to be

1066
01:00:46,160 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 1: the most drunk at Ben and Jess's wedding? A good question, me,

1067
01:00:55,120 --> 01:01:01,680
Speaker 1: that's a decent answer, and Sarah. Sarah'll be right there

1068
01:01:01,720 --> 01:01:06,160
Speaker 1: doing the chicken dance with me. I apologize in advance.

1069
01:01:06,640 --> 01:01:11,720
Speaker 1: Uh friends and family guys, No, my family will be

1070
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 1: right there with you. All. I can promise you that

1071
01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:20,560
Speaker 1: they'll be. Here's uh, here's something I want to want

1072
01:01:20,560 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 1: to ask you. Well, because one of the questions I

1073
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:25,280
Speaker 1: was sent in is what your celebrity hall passes? And

1074
01:01:25,320 --> 01:01:28,480
Speaker 1: well I think you were Sarah's and I think no,

1075
01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:32,560
Speaker 1: And I want to answer this question. It's a good question. Okay,

1076
01:01:32,600 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 1: what is it? Well, so it's funny, so right now then,

1077
01:01:35,840 --> 01:01:38,040
Speaker 1: just announced today so I can say, so, Sarah's in

1078
01:01:38,480 --> 01:01:40,720
Speaker 1: Um this isn't my whole past, but this is a

1079
01:01:40,720 --> 01:01:44,880
Speaker 1: funny story. Um. So, Sarah's in Toronto filming a movie

1080
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:50,160
Speaker 1: with Dylan Sprouse, who um is uh in a relationship

1081
01:01:50,200 --> 01:01:55,600
Speaker 1: with Barbara Palvin, who's a very attractive like Victoria's secret model,

1082
01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:57,800
Speaker 1: And so she was telling me that she was like

1083
01:01:57,880 --> 01:02:00,400
Speaker 1: having she was going to have like romantic Sea Means

1084
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:06,280
Speaker 1: with Dylan, and the director wanted um her and him

1085
01:02:06,320 --> 01:02:11,240
Speaker 1: to get together and like basically like practice chemistry, like

1086
01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 1: a chemistry read together to make sure that like it

1087
01:02:14,960 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 1: was gonna look it on screen. Or whatever, and so

1088
01:02:17,080 --> 01:02:19,560
Speaker 1: she's telling me all of this and so that I

1089
01:02:19,600 --> 01:02:23,040
Speaker 1: was like, so, I think that what needs to happen

1090
01:02:23,320 --> 01:02:26,560
Speaker 1: is that I, Barbara and I need to talk and

1091
01:02:26,560 --> 01:02:33,120
Speaker 1: we have good chemistry. How it works, and I think

1092
01:02:33,760 --> 01:02:42,200
Speaker 1: how it should work. That's amazing. You know. My my

1093
01:02:42,360 --> 01:02:47,120
Speaker 1: one story of Dylan and he said, what's her first name, Barbara,

1094
01:02:48,000 --> 01:02:50,360
Speaker 1: is I was watching an interview with him last year

1095
01:02:50,400 --> 01:02:52,280
Speaker 1: and she was prepping for the Victoria's Secret Show and

1096
01:02:52,280 --> 01:02:54,439
Speaker 1: they're like, we've been trying to get really healthy, both

1097
01:02:54,440 --> 01:02:56,200
Speaker 1: of them. They're both getting prepped for the show, and

1098
01:02:56,360 --> 01:02:58,560
Speaker 1: they're like, all we've been eating is like salads and

1099
01:02:58,600 --> 01:03:02,000
Speaker 1: cauliflower and Luckley and I remember her going so the

1100
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:05,000
Speaker 1: whole house just smells like nasty farts, and I remember

1101
01:03:05,040 --> 01:03:08,040
Speaker 1: being like, WHOA, Like this will never get on my head,

1102
01:03:08,120 --> 01:03:10,600
Speaker 1: Like it was like one of the first times that

1103
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:12,760
Speaker 1: I thought, well, this really attractive person is just walking

1104
01:03:12,760 --> 01:03:14,600
Speaker 1: around the house, the two of them, both of them

1105
01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:18,240
Speaker 1: very attractive, just letting it loose. Um, that's just my

1106
01:03:18,320 --> 01:03:21,600
Speaker 1: only story from them. Okay, Wells, what relationship do you

1107
01:03:21,600 --> 01:03:23,880
Speaker 1: have have? Advice do you have for Jess and I

1108
01:03:23,960 --> 01:03:33,440
Speaker 1: that you've learned in your relationship with Sarah. Um, I

1109
01:03:33,480 --> 01:03:39,160
Speaker 1: don't know. Uh. I think it's important to like continually

1110
01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:43,360
Speaker 1: be creating, like fun and exciting like dates. I think

1111
01:03:43,360 --> 01:03:46,800
Speaker 1: that's the one thing that I And also during the pandemic,

1112
01:03:46,840 --> 01:03:50,040
Speaker 1: it was hard to like get out, um, but like

1113
01:03:50,120 --> 01:03:54,240
Speaker 1: I wanted to always like um curate like fun little

1114
01:03:54,280 --> 01:03:59,920
Speaker 1: weird dates that like we're uh memory savers like men

1115
01:04:00,080 --> 01:04:02,400
Speaker 1: read keepers and stuff. UM. So I think that's always

1116
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:06,680
Speaker 1: It's it's so easy like fall into that like routine

1117
01:04:07,160 --> 01:04:09,600
Speaker 1: and everything's the same and it starts to get a

1118
01:04:09,640 --> 01:04:12,920
Speaker 1: little boring. Um. And so that's one and the other

1119
01:04:12,960 --> 01:04:14,920
Speaker 1: one that Sarah and I do. And here look actually,

1120
01:04:15,760 --> 01:04:18,000
Speaker 1: uh you can see these are a couple of them

1121
01:04:18,000 --> 01:04:21,960
Speaker 1: every time we because we aren't around each other a

1122
01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 1: lot because she work flies away for work and sometimes

1123
01:04:24,680 --> 01:04:27,440
Speaker 1: I do as well. And we are really good about

1124
01:04:27,440 --> 01:04:32,040
Speaker 1: we hide notes for one another like very obscure places,

1125
01:04:32,600 --> 01:04:37,880
Speaker 1: and um, I think that's fun because you know it

1126
01:04:37,880 --> 01:04:40,200
Speaker 1: it's sad to leave, but it's also like fun exciting

1127
01:04:40,240 --> 01:04:43,040
Speaker 1: to like find the card and read what they wrote.

1128
01:04:43,080 --> 01:04:45,880
Speaker 1: But we're starting to like really morph into the same person.

1129
01:04:46,440 --> 01:04:49,760
Speaker 1: And I had found a card we say, uh, like

1130
01:04:49,800 --> 01:04:51,400
Speaker 1: I love you to Pluto and back a lot to

1131
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:53,840
Speaker 1: each other. So I found a card that says I

1132
01:04:53,920 --> 01:04:55,440
Speaker 1: love you to the moon and back, and I was like,

1133
01:04:55,560 --> 01:04:58,280
Speaker 1: this is perfect, Oh my god, and so I gave

1134
01:04:58,320 --> 01:05:02,440
Speaker 1: it to her and she found hers before I found

1135
01:05:02,480 --> 01:05:05,240
Speaker 1: mine for this most recent trip, and she's gonna be like,

1136
01:05:05,640 --> 01:05:08,880
Speaker 1: you're never gonna believe my card. You're gonna be You're

1137
01:05:08,880 --> 01:05:11,960
Speaker 1: gonna roll your eyes. And so I found the card

1138
01:05:12,000 --> 01:05:14,680
Speaker 1: in the sock draw and it wasn't the same card,

1139
01:05:14,880 --> 01:05:16,800
Speaker 1: but it said I love you to the moving back,

1140
01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:19,920
Speaker 1: and I was, this is insane. And then we wrote

1141
01:05:20,000 --> 01:05:23,160
Speaker 1: the exact same thing, like almost to a t, because

1142
01:05:23,160 --> 01:05:25,439
Speaker 1: we're like going on vacation after this. So it was like,

1143
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:28,280
Speaker 1: I know, like, uh, I'm gonna hug and kiss the

1144
01:05:28,320 --> 01:05:30,160
Speaker 1: dogs for you and they're gonna miss you, but don't worry.

1145
01:05:30,160 --> 01:05:31,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take good care of him. And hers was

1146
01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:33,640
Speaker 1: like make sure you get the dogs all the love

1147
01:05:33,800 --> 01:05:36,800
Speaker 1: and so much, and then mine was like, but don't

1148
01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:38,520
Speaker 1: worry when you come back, gonna we're gonna go on

1149
01:05:38,560 --> 01:05:41,160
Speaker 1: a vacation together. It'll be so amazing. It's be so romantic.

1150
01:05:41,160 --> 01:05:42,520
Speaker 1: And then it was like, I can't wait to come

1151
01:05:42,520 --> 01:05:45,000
Speaker 1: back because then we're going to this vacation. I was like, Ship,

1152
01:05:45,120 --> 01:05:52,200
Speaker 1: we're the same person. Now, Well I'll tell you this. Uh,

1153
01:05:52,600 --> 01:05:54,960
Speaker 1: and and Jessicin I both agree. You know, when people

1154
01:05:55,080 --> 01:05:58,480
Speaker 1: ask about our time on this my time on the show, UM,

1155
01:05:58,600 --> 01:06:00,880
Speaker 1: we always and most will do, but we always talk

1156
01:06:00,920 --> 01:06:02,320
Speaker 1: about some of the people that came from the show

1157
01:06:02,360 --> 01:06:04,480
Speaker 1: that we've met that have have enhanced our lives. You're

1158
01:06:04,520 --> 01:06:06,040
Speaker 1: one of those. Actually is one of those, Jared and

1159
01:06:06,040 --> 01:06:07,320
Speaker 1: all the people that have came on the night one

1160
01:06:07,360 --> 01:06:09,360
Speaker 1: of those. But you're in a crimble, dude. I get

1161
01:06:09,360 --> 01:06:12,520
Speaker 1: to see you very soon, I think. Um, and I'm

1162
01:06:12,600 --> 01:06:16,800
Speaker 1: very excited about that, very excited about that. But we

1163
01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:19,320
Speaker 1: just appreciate you. Okay before we go. Everybody's gonna just

1164
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:22,760
Speaker 1: absolutely destroy us if we don't ask you for a

1165
01:06:22,880 --> 01:06:25,760
Speaker 1: one sentence, uh snippet of what we can expect from

1166
01:06:25,760 --> 01:06:30,120
Speaker 1: Bachelor in Paradise. Well, I think I teased it. I

1167
01:06:30,160 --> 01:06:32,160
Speaker 1: don't know if my tea has done. No. I haven't

1168
01:06:32,200 --> 01:06:36,560
Speaker 1: been on on your Guys podcast since I got back. Um,

1169
01:06:36,600 --> 01:06:40,760
Speaker 1: so every year in Paradise, the same kind of things happened. Um.

1170
01:06:40,880 --> 01:06:43,240
Speaker 1: Some people are like dating before the show and like

1171
01:06:43,320 --> 01:06:46,920
Speaker 1: that's an issue, and we get there and people aren't

1172
01:06:46,920 --> 01:06:49,160
Speaker 1: there for the right reasons and that's an issue. Or

1173
01:06:49,200 --> 01:06:51,400
Speaker 1: some people are like kind of using people just to

1174
01:06:51,400 --> 01:06:53,640
Speaker 1: get roses because they're waiting for someone else to come in,

1175
01:06:53,680 --> 01:06:57,040
Speaker 1: and that's a problem. Um. And all that to be said,

1176
01:06:57,040 --> 01:06:59,520
Speaker 1: like yes, that's all that stuff happens, but something happens

1177
01:06:59,560 --> 01:07:05,040
Speaker 1: this seas him that has that has never happened before. UM,

1178
01:07:05,320 --> 01:07:08,240
Speaker 1: And I think that our bagination is going to be

1179
01:07:08,280 --> 01:07:11,400
Speaker 1: like completely shocked. UM. And when it happened, I was.

1180
01:07:11,800 --> 01:07:14,640
Speaker 1: I was blown away by it and it was something

1181
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:18,000
Speaker 1: I had to deal with. UM. Being the master of

1182
01:07:18,080 --> 01:07:22,880
Speaker 1: ceremonies now that that was tough. And so I think

1183
01:07:22,960 --> 01:07:24,960
Speaker 1: that everyone is going to be And I know that

1184
01:07:25,000 --> 01:07:28,320
Speaker 1: like we fall into the same, like you know, bachelor

1185
01:07:28,400 --> 01:07:30,880
Speaker 1: cliches of what it's going to be the most dramatic

1186
01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:32,320
Speaker 1: And I won't say it's gonna be the most dramatic,

1187
01:07:32,400 --> 01:07:35,760
Speaker 1: but something happens that literally has just never happened before,

1188
01:07:35,800 --> 01:07:37,720
Speaker 1: and people are just gonna be like jaws in the

1189
01:07:37,760 --> 01:07:42,200
Speaker 1: floor shocked. Wow. That's a great teaser. It's a great teaser.

1190
01:07:42,200 --> 01:07:45,600
Speaker 1: You're the man. Well, well thanks for joining us. Appreciate

1191
01:07:45,640 --> 01:07:49,160
Speaker 1: you see you very soon. Thanks buddy, Yeah, buddy, I

1192
01:07:49,200 --> 01:07:53,280
Speaker 1: love you guys. That issue so much. Um. All right,

1193
01:07:53,960 --> 01:07:56,360
Speaker 1: first off, I have we're gonna close out here. Thank

1194
01:07:56,400 --> 01:07:58,880
Speaker 1: you to all those who watched. Thank you to those

1195
01:07:58,880 --> 01:08:01,240
Speaker 1: who supported me an open I did. I am so

1196
01:08:01,320 --> 01:08:07,360
Speaker 1: excited to marry you. Guys are so cute. She's just

1197
01:08:07,440 --> 01:08:09,640
Speaker 1: the best. She's the best partner in the world. It's

1198
01:08:09,680 --> 01:08:13,640
Speaker 1: so fun to celebrate. It is so exciting. Um, Ashley,

1199
01:08:13,880 --> 01:08:16,960
Speaker 1: we're thinking for you because I know you sat through this.

1200
01:08:17,040 --> 01:08:19,640
Speaker 1: You have a lot going on in your life, you know.

1201
01:08:21,800 --> 01:08:24,439
Speaker 1: But I'm so pumped to marry this girl. And when

1202
01:08:24,439 --> 01:08:29,479
Speaker 1: anybody asked me, it just feels very peaceful, very joy filled. Um.

1203
01:08:29,600 --> 01:08:32,840
Speaker 1: She's my best friend. She's super incredible to me. Nobody

1204
01:08:32,880 --> 01:08:36,160
Speaker 1: gets to see behind the scenes. Um, but she's she's

1205
01:08:36,200 --> 01:08:41,560
Speaker 1: the best partner and she makes me a better man. Um, Ashley. UM,

1206
01:08:41,640 --> 01:08:43,000
Speaker 1: we have a couple of questions. I know we have

1207
01:08:43,000 --> 01:08:45,200
Speaker 1: about a minute left. If you want to, like, maybe

1208
01:08:45,240 --> 01:08:47,400
Speaker 1: ask two of them, um that have been sent in.

1209
01:08:47,640 --> 01:08:52,800
Speaker 1: That would be an awesome way to end this, Okay, Um,

1210
01:08:53,120 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 1: she's so sweet. UM. Oh yeah, you guys gonna go

1211
01:08:59,320 --> 01:09:04,639
Speaker 1: away for a honey man. Yes we are, and yeah,

1212
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:06,000
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't think we need to keep

1213
01:09:06,000 --> 01:09:10,040
Speaker 1: it a secret, right, Yeah, we're gonna go to St. Bart's. Um.

1214
01:09:10,080 --> 01:09:14,000
Speaker 1: We wanted to go someplace reasonably close to the US

1215
01:09:14,120 --> 01:09:16,840
Speaker 1: because we imagine ourselves being very tired and we're gonna

1216
01:09:16,840 --> 01:09:20,360
Speaker 1: do a big trip to Israel in March of next year,

1217
01:09:20,800 --> 01:09:24,559
Speaker 1: and so we're just we're just gonna go to St.

1218
01:09:24,560 --> 01:09:26,559
Speaker 1: Bart's and be there for a week to an incredible

1219
01:09:26,600 --> 01:09:30,160
Speaker 1: resort that will announce, um pretty soon. But we're super

1220
01:09:30,160 --> 01:09:33,600
Speaker 1: excited for that. Yeah, so excited. That's awesome. Yes, and

1221
01:09:33,680 --> 01:09:36,680
Speaker 1: you're gonna go right away. We were taking a day

1222
01:09:36,840 --> 01:09:40,600
Speaker 1: rest because with the am that's light out and I

1223
01:09:40,640 --> 01:09:42,320
Speaker 1: was like, I am not getting up to six like

1224
01:09:42,360 --> 01:09:46,920
Speaker 1: four am after writing. So no, a day in between

1225
01:09:47,040 --> 01:09:51,320
Speaker 1: is perfect. Um. And then what what is your faith

1226
01:09:51,360 --> 01:09:53,040
Speaker 1: like going to look like as a married couple. Is

1227
01:09:53,040 --> 01:09:57,960
Speaker 1: it going to be any different our faith life? It's

1228
01:09:57,960 --> 01:10:02,000
Speaker 1: something that trask Um, you don't ask that. I think

1229
01:10:02,040 --> 01:10:05,320
Speaker 1: it's gonna be stronger. Um. I think that will come

1230
01:10:05,360 --> 01:10:07,360
Speaker 1: together and will be better as a team. I feel

1231
01:10:07,360 --> 01:10:09,519
Speaker 1: like that's the goal of marriage, is to make a

1232
01:10:09,600 --> 01:10:12,519
Speaker 1: larger impact together. So yeah, and that's something that I

1233
01:10:12,560 --> 01:10:14,640
Speaker 1: think we both need and it's not never been a

1234
01:10:14,680 --> 01:10:17,200
Speaker 1: secret that Jesus is at the center of our relationship,

1235
01:10:17,280 --> 01:10:19,519
Speaker 1: but we always and when we pray it a a night

1236
01:10:19,600 --> 01:10:22,200
Speaker 1: together with dinner, it's our prayer because there's a lot

1237
01:10:22,200 --> 01:10:25,280
Speaker 1: of complexity. I know right now within the church, our

1238
01:10:25,320 --> 01:10:27,679
Speaker 1: only prayers that we love people well and that we

1239
01:10:27,880 --> 01:10:30,880
Speaker 1: represent God well. And together, I think we can hold

1240
01:10:30,880 --> 01:10:34,120
Speaker 1: ourselves accountable to that, support each other in that. And

1241
01:10:34,200 --> 01:10:36,840
Speaker 1: if that's at the end of our time in life,

1242
01:10:36,960 --> 01:10:38,479
Speaker 1: and if that's what we're known for, is that we

1243
01:10:38,560 --> 01:10:41,840
Speaker 1: loved others well, Uh, then I think it's a couple.

1244
01:10:42,080 --> 01:10:44,120
Speaker 1: It's gonna be worth it. Hey. Actually, there is one

1245
01:10:44,200 --> 01:10:46,559
Speaker 1: last question that Danielle sent in here that we can

1246
01:10:46,600 --> 01:10:51,000
Speaker 1: close with. Yeah. I I appreciate that question. It's incredibly

1247
01:10:51,760 --> 01:10:54,120
Speaker 1: Um it's something we talk about a lot, and I'm

1248
01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:56,000
Speaker 1: really excited to have a teammate and all of it

1249
01:10:56,080 --> 01:10:59,439
Speaker 1: and start creating some good stories around that. Um. Okay.

1250
01:10:59,520 --> 01:11:01,920
Speaker 1: Last question from Danielle is what's been your favorite part

1251
01:11:02,080 --> 01:11:04,599
Speaker 1: of being engaged and what are you looking most forward

1252
01:11:04,600 --> 01:11:10,520
Speaker 1: to about being married? Um. I love calling them my fiance.

1253
01:11:11,680 --> 01:11:14,280
Speaker 1: I just think it's so fun. It's like the shortest

1254
01:11:14,640 --> 01:11:18,400
Speaker 1: I love my ring. That's been a really fun part

1255
01:11:18,400 --> 01:11:22,720
Speaker 1: of being engaged. Um, And honestly, for engagement, I think

1256
01:11:22,720 --> 01:11:25,759
Speaker 1: it's there's so many excuses to see all the people

1257
01:11:25,800 --> 01:11:28,880
Speaker 1: that you love. They're like showers like this, like being

1258
01:11:28,880 --> 01:11:30,519
Speaker 1: able to even though we're not with you, but to

1259
01:11:30,560 --> 01:11:32,240
Speaker 1: be able to see your face like this wouldn't happen

1260
01:11:32,240 --> 01:11:36,040
Speaker 1: if we're engaged. So um, his bachelor party, having all

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Speaker 1: so stressful when it's over. You're like, I'm already sad

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Speaker 1: enjoy life together, grow together. Yeah. Well, I think I

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Speaker 1: Like I'm really excited for marriage because I just I'm

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Speaker 1: excited to get to know jest better and it's odd.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you felt this way or if

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Speaker 1: other engaged couples feel this way. But the more I've

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Speaker 1: been around one human who I've tried and my best

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Speaker 1: to let in, the more I've learned about myself. And

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Speaker 1: so I'm kind of just excited to continue to learn

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Speaker 1: about me and also learn about her um and uh

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Speaker 1: and and just do this life together. So well, UM,

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Speaker 1: thank you again. I know what you said it before.

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Speaker 1: What a cool way to do this. I wish we

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Speaker 1: could all be together. We are going to get together. Um.

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Speaker 1: This was an odd deal. I can't tell you enough

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Speaker 1: to all who was watching how hectic last night was

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Speaker 1: for us and how confused it was. But this worked

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Speaker 1: out awesome and I hope everybody and napos having a

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Speaker 1: great time at all the places that supported the trip.

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Speaker 1: UM you'll see probably a ton of Instagram pictures posted.

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Speaker 1: Ashley even had to take a break from this podcast

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Speaker 1: to to go get some food and to go relieve

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Speaker 1: the stomach pains that she was in. Uh and she

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Speaker 1: which is just the pro that she is. So hey. UM,

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Speaker 1: that's it though. Thanks for celebrating Jess and I and uh,

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Speaker 1: Ashley and Jared wherever he's at in the world. Congratulations

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Speaker 1: once again. Well it's gonna be a fun year. The

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Speaker 1: engagement to you, guys. Enjoy the time that you have left.

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Speaker 1: And we have plenty of wedding advice to give you

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Speaker 1: at some point too, because a lot about that day.

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Speaker 1: We need her to suck it up the best as

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Speaker 1: to your ability. Perfect All right, bad guys, see all

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Speaker 1: see everybody watching. Follow the Benn and Ashley I Almost

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Speaker 1: Famous podcast on iHeart Radio or subscribe wherever you listen

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